Why you SHOULD be a Gentleman

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  • Опубликовано: 28 окт 2024

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  • @redditstorytellings1
    @redditstorytellings1 2 года назад +2249

    Hamza your always helping people like me who want to go from jeffery to adonis. Just know we appreciate you and love you

    • @Hamza97
      @Hamza97  2 года назад +615

      Just know I respect your efforts and I'm nothing but grateful

    • @ugorton7345
      @ugorton7345 2 года назад +31

      @@Hamza97 love you bro !

    • @apolloniusbeitsman5444
      @apolloniusbeitsman5444 2 года назад +14

      Not everyone can become adonis. It's 99% genetics. Face, bone structure, height,...

    • @alessandromangaXD
      @alessandromangaXD 2 года назад +68

      @@apolloniusbeitsman5444 If you say that then you've never payed attention to anything Hamza says in his video and your worldview is pretty fucked. Go back to the blackpill subreddit, you probably don't have it in you to change. Find comfort in your mediocrity.

    • @idyll1157
      @idyll1157 2 года назад +29

      @@apolloniusbeitsman5444 He means Adonis in terms of character and personal values

  • @unconquered898
    @unconquered898 2 года назад +582

    I think a lot of people had to hear this. Being a gentleman goes into other parts of life. Today in the gym I made 3 new friends just by telling people I thought they were working hard after their workout. Thank you Hamza, *mwah*

    • @spotsthecat7913
      @spotsthecat7913 2 года назад +4

      This. just by being a decent human being seems like "humanizing" the interactions and other person too. Honesty and respect will get you far

  • @kreps1702
    @kreps1702 2 года назад +625

    Chief Hamza educating the youth about masculinty while clowning on those hardcore redpill "men" who treat women like objects puts a smile on my face and hope in my heart.
    Thank you for everything you do for us, Hamza

    • @kreps1702
      @kreps1702 2 года назад +28

      @@remyajethish2244 there are tons of videos that can explain this really well but I shall give you a quick summary.
      Blue pill ideology - if a guy pursues a girl 24/7 (nonstop texting, calling), does everything she tells him to do then she will like him and eventually be his gf
      Red pill ideology - if a guy focuses on himself (goes to gym, takes care of his look in general, dates more women) then she will like him more (which is true unless you go into the hardcore mode, where you treat women like masturbation tools and treat them like crap in general)
      Black pill ideology - there is nothing you can do if you are born ugly. No matter how good your pay is, or how much muscle you have. If you lost the genetic lottery, then it's over for you (99% blackpilled people think like this. Hamza debated one of the most popular blackpill youtubers "wheatwaffles" while wheatwaffles has actually SOME good content, his viewers and the rest of the blackpill community is SO toxic and antagonistic against women and unsupportive of anyone who is trying to better himself/herself, that it demotivates anyone who consumes blackpill content.)
      I still recommend you to look more into this stuff, since I am not the greatest at explaining stuff.

    • @classical4872
      @classical4872 2 года назад +1

      @@kreps1702 out of curiosity, from your perspective, out of these 3 ideologies, which is the best?

    • @kreps1702
      @kreps1702 2 года назад +7

      @@classical4872 Redpill.
      DO NOT be a jerk (like many redpill/blackpill children who blame their lives on anyone but themselves and/or are assholes in general
      DO NOT be a door mat (blue pill boys)
      BE A GENTLEMAN (a healthy redpil. MEN who take responsibility for their actions and strive for the best while inspiring other people)
      I also recommend the RUclips channel Corey Wayne (he is on of the most knowledgable people one this planet and I am eternally grateful to him for changing my life.
      Edit: typo

    • @spets234
      @spets234 2 года назад +1

      @@kreps1702 Amazing way to put it. Well done.

    • @Jo-sx8yi
      @Jo-sx8yi 2 года назад +5

      Agreed. There are so many ,,sigma male growth" channels that are just incels working out, saying stuff like ,,female detected, opinion rejected" or ,,mmm tears of a feminist". I don"t care if they are trolling, as a self-improvement youtuber people are going to follow in your footsteps and copy this behaviour that is not only mysoginistic but also detrimental to oneself. Viewing basically half the population as inherently bad will never ever benefit you.

  • @gregd69
    @gregd69 2 года назад +858

    Absolutely loved this advice but the editing this time around was just class. More of this please

    • @benjastuff1347
      @benjastuff1347 2 года назад +9

      Yeah, i love the editing too

    • @Jonathan-tw4xm
      @Jonathan-tw4xm 2 года назад +12

      Sam is smiling at you

    • @axhraf7712
      @axhraf7712 2 года назад +9

      @@Jonathan-tw4xm Leon edited this one

    • @faasramaekers
      @faasramaekers 2 года назад +6

      I kept skipping back to see what the text says

    • @Jonathan-tw4xm
      @Jonathan-tw4xm 2 года назад +1

      @@axhraf7712 oh my bad Leon then

  • @zansomrak2206
    @zansomrak2206 2 года назад +764

    What you do is amazing. The fact that you talk about your past self's mistakes (not even that long ago) shows just how intelligent and growth-oriented you are. This is super rare. Please keep it up dude!

    • @urevya
      @urevya 2 года назад +1

      same story of a single mother

    • @Jorge-wq1se
      @Jorge-wq1se 2 года назад

      @@urevya don’t get it

    • @ebneb4506
      @ebneb4506 2 года назад

      Adonis Activity.

  • @captainslyfox4968
    @captainslyfox4968 2 года назад +573

    Keep in mind, if a woman hasn't had a good father figure it doesn't dimish her worth as a high quality woman. How she chooses to live her life and what she strives for will make her a high quality woman.

    • @SquierMarr
      @SquierMarr 2 года назад +92

      This is very true. If you are a good guy you could still attract a woman with a difficult childhood. But if she meets you where you're at, that just means she's put in the same amount of work to become stable and high value. And that can be even bonding because you're both on the same journey.

    • @baileyart3649
      @baileyart3649 2 года назад +15

      @@SquierMarr exactly bro

    • @111oty
      @111oty 2 года назад +12

      Exactly, i didnt chose my family

    • @ovis4021
      @ovis4021 2 года назад +3

      Not at all true, have you ever talked to a girl with daddy issues?

    • @geenkanaaljongen6157
      @geenkanaaljongen6157 2 года назад +1

      Define*

  • @duck8280
    @duck8280 2 года назад +129

    Don’t ignore red flags fellas. I learned the hard way. Trust your gut. Don’t think of what they could be, look at what’s in front of you.

    • @didelphidae5228
      @didelphidae5228 2 года назад +20

      This advice can save men a lot of hurt. Mark it down, brothers.

    • @operationearth6161
      @operationearth6161 2 года назад +2

      It's already too late for me bro.

    • @duck8280
      @duck8280 2 года назад +4

      @@operationearth6161 Never too late bro. :)

    • @sayedalazam4228
      @sayedalazam4228 2 года назад +3

      What are some red flags fellas im not sure about this girl..She sends me heart emojis but im not sure she likes me

    • @duck8280
      @duck8280 2 года назад +11

      @@sayedalazam4228 Red flags could be, family issues, weight issues, tattoos, drinking/smoking, psychological issues, uncanny behavior. Basically anything you find concerning, but might ignore it for the time being.
      Don’t put the red flags to the side either because she’s “nice”. That’s just creates a illusion.

  • @arpaddudas9292
    @arpaddudas9292 2 года назад +230

    I think I can speak in the place of every young man here, we would gladly watch a date with Adonis!

  • @c2h3cl82
    @c2h3cl82 2 года назад +321

    I have a love hate relationship with this whole redpill thing.
    Because on the positive, the red pill teaches you to be mindful of what could possibly go wrong in the dating world; you could be manipulated by a gold-digger, you could be with a cheater and there are observations you can make in order to find potential red flags in the future.
    Or it also teaches you to heighten your standards a bit, since that's what many girls do as well, many of them take into account parts of your personality (mental strengths like patience, humility, empathy, independence and stability), your status (if you are in a good place or, if not, you are trying to build your personal step stones that take you higher) and if they find you attractive as well. That is indeed very reasonable, so why shouldn't we do the same?
    On the other hand, we have the types of red pillers who are really contemptuous and tell you to ignore women and you should behave like james bond in order to get the girl you like. I think this is dumb because you don't have to ignore them instinctively, just treat them like normal human beings, have the courage to let your ego down and if you want to compliment a girl, then do it, but do it because you want, not to get something out of her. We shouldn't teach each other how to manipulate and play mind games, or pull off "psychological tricks to make her obsess over you". Idk if you guys know Courtney Ryan, but imma quote this: "play stupid games, win stupid prizes". Don't charm a girl into obsessing over you, and expect her to stick around forever. This is the main difference between love and lust. Lust is a volatile emotion, love is deep and selfless.

    • @sayedalazam4228
      @sayedalazam4228 2 года назад +19

      Exactly redpill's are great for degenerates looking for a one night stand. But I don't believe it creates real true love beetwen both partners

    • @MineCreed
      @MineCreed 2 года назад +10

      I like the way you think, i also think that you should take the positive and helpful ideas to improve in yourself (like knowing your worth and work on yourself etc) and ignore the "extreme" side/ideas (seeing women as objects or even worthless etc). Hamza has a very good middle ground when it comes to this which makes his videos even better and unique

    • @flea2play
      @flea2play 2 года назад

      Same

    • @dimitri1026
      @dimitri1026 2 года назад +6

      Facts I feel like you got to create a balance with it and use it to your best ability. Everyone is different but its important to know the game and be alert for every action that comes your way

    • @c2h3cl82
      @c2h3cl82 2 года назад

      @Ron Thank you bro

  • @aliabdaal
    @aliabdaal 2 года назад +28

    Adonisss

  • @abhishekpatawari6871
    @abhishekpatawari6871 2 года назад +68

    The man is teaching both from experience and failures, Respect!

  • @dylanculani
    @dylanculani 2 года назад +254

    Hamza really takes the time to point out all the bs in Jeffrey’s flaws and it’s definitely eye opening making connections to some Jeffrey qualities

    • @globalnationalismyoutube
      @globalnationalismyoutube 2 года назад +9

      I really feel bad for any guy named Jeffrey who watches Hamza.
      But yes his content is great

  • @King9tails
    @King9tails 2 года назад +99

    Another advice I have is have female friends. Having female friends helps you get use to talk to a woman and it can help your ego as well. Think of all the guys that girls…they have a lot of female friends. The red pill says it’s bad to have female friends but you should because it helps your game

    • @surshot56
      @surshot56 2 года назад +7

      Im all for being a gentleman but being friends is a punk position to be in and if you're trying to learn game the absolute worst thing you can do is learn it from a woman.

    • @King9tails
      @King9tails 2 года назад +40

      @@surshot56 not really. A lot of guys are intimidated by women and just being friends with few women you tend to understand them and certain social cues to follow. And that woman may make you more desirable to other women. Plus, she may have other friends that are single that you can hookup with. It’s not a punk position. A punk position is simping to her

    • @SquierMarr
      @SquierMarr 2 года назад +7

      I have said this constantly in Hamza's discord and so many idiots want to disagree. Literally it's as Hamza said, more experience with girls makes you better with girls. I have female friends who tell me about their problems, what they like in guys, and even who I can sorta play flirt with. It makes it so much easier to talk to girls. PLUS having a female friend brings more girls into your life cos she will 1. Have other female friends and constantly make more 2. Women will talk to her in public. As long as it's not just the two of you it can make you more approachable.

    • @King9tails
      @King9tails 2 года назад +9

      @@SquierMarr Exactly! It’s an advice that guy should hear that struggle with women. I used to be like that but time passed and I felt more lonely and just wanted to be friends in general with women and men. It helped my confidence cause it breaks that fear factor and I noticed I gotten better talking with women in general.

    • @surshot56
      @surshot56 2 года назад +1

      @@SquierMarr You can literally do all of that with your boys. Correction...the boys who get pussy you can learn these things from. Being friends with women you know you want to fuck is just putting yourself in a punk position. You don't need a female friend to walk up to a woman and just simply talk to her lol.

  • @simeonsam7823
    @simeonsam7823 2 года назад +59

    Thank You. Acting cold and such to people (or girls) feels completely weird to me. Like, it goes against who I am as a person. This video gives me more confidence to go in the right direction

  • @Melanieselenee
    @Melanieselenee 2 года назад +61

    Yess finally someone gets it lmao this is what I tell my girlfriends. High value girls who rlly in their feminine we aren’t attracted to super cold men, it becomes a turn off cuz there’s no balance or yin yang like u said.

  • @ThatGuy-te9wh
    @ThatGuy-te9wh 2 года назад +27

    WE NEED THE FULL DATE

  • @BladeKnight
    @BladeKnight 2 года назад +27

    "It's like the masturbation version of sex". What a powerful concept!

  • @7_k265
    @7_k265 2 года назад +34

    So happy I found you ,I never really liked the “red pill” ideology,I like your red pill but still being a person ideology/way to think,after watching this I realized I don’t need to be alpha in a toxic way,I just need to stay the way I am.Which is good to know as I actually was a gentleman,and I can improve on it,you helped a lot here

  • @joeystarr4746
    @joeystarr4746 2 года назад +65

    Hamza, you’ve hit the nail on the head with this one. Your self awareness and ability to communicate your thoughts is actually very impressive. Thanks for this one.

  • @db2ez
    @db2ez 2 года назад +60

    The problem with these red pill RUclipsrs is that they don’t understand that there is a fine line between focusing on yourself and being a douchebag lol. They think it’s one in the same

    • @144chosen
      @144chosen 2 года назад

      Hamza is a redpill RUclipsr right?

    • @j.ceasar
      @j.ceasar 2 года назад +4

      @@144chosen I guess, kind of, whatever you want to call him. But I think that op is talking about people like that fool Myron from fresh and fit.

  • @heavenlydemon8215
    @heavenlydemon8215 2 года назад +51

    It's always a good feeling when Hamza uploads a video 🙏

  • @samedwards678
    @samedwards678 2 года назад +44

    Hamza I was like this to a certain extent.
    There was a woman about a year younger than me that obviously liked me, I found her attractive and wanted to progress it further, I even got up the courage to speak to her, but I turned to "redpill" videos for help and I absorbed all their information, I thought if I played a cold and heartless jerk it would make her attracted to me, I was terrified that if i showed a hint of emotion or empathy she would think i was weak and a "simp".
    But she moved on and forgot about me, she seemed like a high quality women and saw through my low quality behaviours, I'm trying to work on my empathy and "gentleman skills" for others not just for dating but for general life and social interactions.

    • @samedwards678
      @samedwards678 2 года назад

      @Issac Newton I've given up on relationships now, I'm going on a reckless pursuit of self glory whatever the cost, you only live once

  • @Itzblu777
    @Itzblu777 2 года назад +23

    Needed this. Was starting to get into deep waters going down that alternative path to make up for how my childhood was and previous relationships were. Its just fine being a “Nice Guy” but there needs to be balance. You do need to work on your “Shadow” and put in your character at the same time so that you also dont get taken advantage of for being that nice guy.

  • @selfrelience9384
    @selfrelience9384 2 года назад +75

    Be strong. Always give your honest opinion even if it will offend her. Be kind. Hold doors. Pay for meals. Protect her. Have standards and have fun. Don’t lower yourself to make someone else happy or comfortable. Good luck boys.

    • @user78554
      @user78554 2 года назад +15

      Bro said hold doors and pay for meals thats how you get saved as "free food"

    • @nobodyknows6089
      @nobodyknows6089 2 года назад +5

      Idk about pay for meals, that’s dead. Make sure everything you posted is reciprocal. Don’t be a on over giver

  • @KimRope
    @KimRope 2 года назад +24

    THANK YOU for helping men become like Adonis!! 😍 the feminine craves it

    • @caralho5237
      @caralho5237 2 года назад +3

      Adonis *donis* *onis*

    • @mfundobuildsthings
      @mfundobuildsthings 2 года назад +3

      Adonisssssssssss

    • @KimRope
      @KimRope 2 года назад +3

      @@caralho5237 🤣 hahahahaaaaaa these replies

    • @Jo-sx8yi
      @Jo-sx8yi 2 года назад +4

      As a feminine, yes

  • @arturotheguy
    @arturotheguy 2 года назад +32

    Thank you for teaching us from your own mistakes. It is not an easy task to do.
    I really appreciate all your work that u put in these videos.
    I realize that you don’t have to be asshole to be an alpha and being yourself the way it goes.
    I feel so much comfortable with my own skin and my decisions in life that others would think I’m crazy.
    Like I am a virgin and had a choice to do it with a nice girl but low quality and it was not my cup of tea.
    Also read How to make friends and influence people which I would never would have read it, if it wasn’t for you.
    Just start watching u two months ago and change my life and character dramatically.
    Thank you and love ya

  • @LolArata
    @LolArata 2 года назад +25

    Its kind of crazy how hamza saying "Just think about what would Adonis do?" makes me instantly understand his point, its as if I know Adonis for years, like a well understood concept, I just get it. Adonis wouldnt act like that. Keep that Image of Adonis in your head boys, when in doubt, ask yourself. What would Adonis do?

  • @daejuanobrien1399
    @daejuanobrien1399 2 года назад +25

    I think when I came into the manosphere, I was bombarded with too many expectations to be like ADONISSSSSS, but now im just improving one step at a time.

  • @chrisamo5406
    @chrisamo5406 2 года назад +25

    I found this channel two months ago and i went from only working out to full self improvement. I love the editing from the editor too. Thanks hamza❤

  • @Lite727
    @Lite727 2 года назад +69

    Disrespecting women doesn’t count as ‘not simping’ and validating them for no reason is simping.

    • @Wrexx1278
      @Wrexx1278 2 года назад

      Respecting anyone ia a problem
      Filteration of words and behaviour is respect

    • @JimmyBoosterCrate
      @JimmyBoosterCrate 2 года назад

      Well it's not simping but it's just as wrong

  • @helpmelivebros737
    @helpmelivebros737 2 года назад +8

    Whoever edits these videos deserves a medal

  • @Adam-mw8vp
    @Adam-mw8vp 2 года назад +8

    I feel like Hamza and Zyzz are making history these days :D thanks so much for motivation and helping others like a true dad :)

  • @tssstudiosmain2273
    @tssstudiosmain2273 2 года назад +25

    Perfect timing for this video lol. Just got out of a one-sided relationship and decided that I'll never love again, and that I'll be a cold mf who just fucks and leaves, but this helped a little bit.

    • @hsl2208
      @hsl2208 2 года назад +1

      Please don’t do that, you will find love 🖤🖤 the right one will appear when you least expect it

    • @ratboi7676
      @ratboi7676 2 года назад

      Update?

  • @Sieg_
    @Sieg_ 2 года назад +13

    My day is automatically better, and now I'm wiser, Thanks Hamza! This shit is what I call high quality and consistent content. Oh, and plz upload the full date lmao

  • @Dan-Dan-Noodles
    @Dan-Dan-Noodles 2 года назад +14

    Nice video! It’s nice to see this being brought up. I think the best version of ourselves are inevitably going to have some gentlemen-like qualities.
    And, I think being a gentleman isn’t inherently a beta thing. Somebody can try to be a gentleman in a beta way, and come off as cringy. But, somebody can also work on themselves, manifest their inner Adonis, and then be a gentleman whilst still maintaining a dominant and attractive frame.
    For game it’s not what you say, it’s how you say it. For being a gentleman it’s like, it’s not simply what you do, it’s how you do it.

  • @certifiedhoodclassic7833
    @certifiedhoodclassic7833 2 года назад +7

    I'm 20 now, never been in a relationship because I've been working all this time on my goal, couldn't get it. Kinda feels like I've missed out on all the fun people had going out with friends and stuff.
    Fuck it I'll keep going

  • @sanguineripper1589
    @sanguineripper1589 2 года назад +5

    The edit has gotten to a Legendary point. Literally outstanding in my opinion. Keep up the great work Hamza!

  • @tiffany3864
    @tiffany3864 2 года назад +8

    I feel like your channel is what the red pill /Manosphere should have been about but somehow the space got morally corrupted.

  • @tbawws3975
    @tbawws3975 2 года назад +6

    Finally a video where someone doesn’t say that being a Gentleman automatically makes you a simp lol

  • @Ggspoop
    @Ggspoop 2 года назад +1

    Dont be a weak man. Be strong, and then be gentle.

  • @Siouxthenation
    @Siouxthenation 2 года назад +8

    Embody the man and best form of yourself that you know you want. The one you are deep down. You'll be astounded by the things you attract into your life. Blue,red and black pill is irrelevant.

  • @activecanvas
    @activecanvas 2 года назад +3

    I approve. Make the date cinematic experience.

  • @benjaminfranklin2709
    @benjaminfranklin2709 2 года назад +4

    I think the most common problem for us is that we think that every women were better than us in every aspect and we get disappointed if some women didn't think we are a worthy partner to them I don't know about you guys but in my case I had this mindset since my childhood I just realized just like our beta males and some dumb mindset males there's also females who are beta and have a cheap and poor mindset they just get attracted to what shit is in their head they may be a " DIME" but they dont deserve us men trust me improve your life raise your standards according to your mindset , you will get a wonderful high quality females for sure keep up the good work brothers

  • @twopliesman
    @twopliesman 2 года назад +3

    If there’s anything I learned, is being a gentleman is a lot more sociable than just being some sociopath.
    Sociability is key!
    Unless you got everything going for you, acting cold is just gonna be a disservice.
    When you make eye contact when you talk to multiple people, so they feel more inclined to respond.
    When saying hi as soon as you walk into a room and introducing yourself.
    It’s like doing a favor for others, that you yourself get reap the reward of.
    It doesn’t mean you have to be desperate, but a bit of human social edge does do you wonders.
    Specially if you’re already average looking or above.
    More people want to talk to you than you realize.
    Do them that favor and reap inn the blessings.

  • @s4n179
    @s4n179 2 года назад +4

    This is exactly what I did and I didn’t know why i was like this, feels shitty done now that i think about it

  • @erenmann7432
    @erenmann7432 2 года назад +5

    Wow i was so into redpill and all that stuff that i totally forgot all about that. you are so right.

  • @heyyall16
    @heyyall16 2 года назад +9

    I just want to say I love your videos man. I know you talk to guys about self improvement but a lot of your concepts helps and inspires me everyday do my best and practice dely gradification (i'm a girl btw lmaoao). Because of you I started mediating, journaling, and setting time to workout, practice the piano, volleyball yoga, etc. (basically everythig I want my adult self be good at) so thank you! You changed my mindset on many things in my life and your advise helps me a lot! Also, you're super entertianing and funny too!! 😁

  • @robmulder
    @robmulder 2 года назад +9

    This should be common sense, but somewhere along the way we started to forget that there is a difference between being nice/good and being desperate. The redpill community often makes the mistake of confusing these things. They see how being desperate brings negative results with women, and so then they assume that every form of niceness must then bring similar results. But really, if you are an attractive, confident man, girls love it if you are being nice or 'good' to them. Being nice never was the problem. Being desperate was. And ironically, acting like the way that some redpill people tell you to act is just another form of desperation.

  • @hamifaqihi
    @hamifaqihi 2 года назад +1

    Man you’re a great influence, fr mashallah

  • @GLITCHED1
    @GLITCHED1 2 года назад +31

    This is exactly why I don't feel like a MGTOW at heart. I think they have a lot of good points but I think they filter out that JUST LIKE WITH MEN there are good women out there (or how they like to say it: Wifey material)

  • @jackyeo5822
    @jackyeo5822 2 года назад

    U got no clue how much your helping people bro

  • @bensanderson2523
    @bensanderson2523 2 года назад +10

    Well now I've got a proper goal to get me over that final hurdle of sleaziness, thanks Hamza!

  • @prothymos
    @prothymos 2 года назад

    Yes. This Man's talking from Experience

  • @stevelasty4071
    @stevelasty4071 2 года назад +4

    Thankyou for this video. I am honestly so grateful for this. Ive been being a mannerless asshole and it worked but it repelled high value women. This honestly changed my perspective. Thank you 🙌

  • @X3n0n36
    @X3n0n36 2 года назад

    The best self-help channel out there, no "theory" bullshit, just spitting facts

  • @davidemazzanti8831
    @davidemazzanti8831 2 года назад +11

    I too acted badly with my ex-girlfriend, which always sincerely loved me (and she really is a quality person). And I feel so bad for how I treated her, I think I will never forget how it feels to let down a person that way. Thank you for inspiring me to be better than this, I think on my own it would have taken a longer, longer time, during which I would have been even more delusional to myself, acting with people like I acted with my girlfriend.

    • @Metacognitivista
      @Metacognitivista 2 года назад

      Sei italiano? Potresti descrivere in che modo ti comportavi con lei?

    • @davidemazzanti8831
      @davidemazzanti8831 2 года назад

      @@Metacognitivista è sempre mancata una base di sincerità. Sai, non ho mai fatto nulla come tradirla, ma tante volte non sono stato sincero con lei, su come mi sentissi a riguardo della relazione. E la sincerità dovrebbe essere alla base del rapporto tra due persone. Questo è andato avanti per molto tempo, finendo per ferirla: la nostra, purtroppo (avrei tanto voluto che non fosse così) era una relazione ormai disfunzionale, ma per molto tempo non le ho detto che lo pensavo, e lei si è ritenuta, secondo me, la causa del nostro malessere. Non entro nei particolari ma sono tante piccole cose; riassumendo non ero presente per lei. Cosa di cui mi sono reso conto successivamente essere orrenda.
      Se può servirti a qualcosa, in base alle mie esperienze passate il primo elemento per avere un rapporto sano è comunicare in modo sincero. La gente che ti dice che esistono le bugie a fin di bene non hanno capito niente; se c'è qualcosa di doloroso da dire bisogna dirlo, altrimenti ci si trascina a lungo dei problemi, peggiorandoli. Se poi la sincerità porta alla fine del rapporto, trust me, è meglio così, vuol dire che o non era il momento giusto o non era la persona giusta con la quale avere una relazione. Il raggiungimento del benessere è un viaggio puramente personale, è difficile farlo con un'altra persona accanto (lo dice pure Hamza in altri video)

  • @beactivelifestyle
    @beactivelifestyle 2 года назад +4

    Editors edits are hella funny

  • @thouxanbangum9498
    @thouxanbangum9498 2 года назад +2

    Youve helped me be myself more with women ive always felt like acting more like this to them instead of being a degenerate

  • @davidribera2766
    @davidribera2766 Год назад +1

    This is true bro, I was thinking to go on that party environment, but that lifestyle don’t go along with my goals and what I want for me and also my future wife, thanks hamza, you really really give a me a high value knowledge

  • @carpet163
    @carpet163 2 года назад +3

    Glad to see someone that thinks like me. I never fell into the incel or redpill crowd because I understand that I needed to act respectable before any other woman would respect me. There's nothing about being a simp there.

  • @FortniteSigma1984
    @FortniteSigma1984 2 года назад +1

    He’s done it. 200k holy shit bro. l remember watching u when u had 27k and it’s so nice to see that ur still Hamza and u haven’t become some shitty fake version of yourself. Kinda sad that ur not a hidden gem anymore but I knew it wouldn’t last that long anyway. If u somehow manage to see this comment just know that you have changed my life so much and I hope you find more success in the future. Merry Christmas Hamza 🙏🏼🎄

  • @juliotironi3134
    @juliotironi3134 2 года назад +5

    Goddamnit Hamza you're creating competition
    Jokes aside, I completely agree with this video, gentlemanly is the way to go, your future girl will thank you

  • @silentsonata7333
    @silentsonata7333 2 года назад

    bruh i loved this opening bit holy shit

  • @noahjp7090
    @noahjp7090 2 года назад +3

    Thanks Hamza, I appreciate your content for real man. You might not see this comment, but you are part of the reason my life has changed so much for the better, I think I needed this. In all honesty my girl does have daddy issues, but thankfully it hasn’t been a problem in the relationship and I will continue to be a gentleman. Sometimes I forget myself, but you’re right again here Hamza, being gentleman is a key to having an actual good relationship and let alone self respect. Thanks Hamza, keep up the good work!

  • @antoniogadea6433
    @antoniogadea6433 2 года назад +1

    BROOOO this editing is fire

  • @postu
    @postu 2 года назад +4

    This video is so great. I know this one guy who I used to be in love with a few years ago, (We’re on alrightish terms now) and the real downfall of our relationship was him trying to be I guess “sigma”. He wouldn’t respect me, and it was pretty obvious. I was really in love though, so I tried my best to ignore it. He wouldn’t respond to my text messages in days, then ask to see me but to be honest the only times he wanted to see me was when he was horny. Looking back, it was a really unhealthy relationship because he would constantly indulge himself, but he never treated me with kindness and respect. If you’re looking for a woman to love and start a family with, meet a woman who takes care of herself and like Hamza says, not some girl from a party scene. As a younger woman myself back then I was also a bit stuck up in a way because of other women in my life, teachers etc. who would preach feminism to an extreme amount, which made me a bit entitled as a woman. So basically both me and him were not high value partners. Happy to say I’ve grown, and I hope young men watching Hamza really do listen to what he has to say. It’s amazing how he makes his videos genuinely educational but at the same time very easy to consume, because they’re entertaining as well. Keep up the good work, Hamza! 👍

  • @joao_1986
    @joao_1986 2 года назад +1

    Ofc we need the full date!

  • @Tomanoppy
    @Tomanoppy 2 года назад +2

    The editing is amazing but sometimes I wish there was none so I can just listen to what you're saying. I don't watch your videos for entertainment but for the wisdom.

    • @IsThatWhatYouSaid
      @IsThatWhatYouSaid 2 года назад +2

      Check out the Hamza Unfiltered channel, and you'll find exactly what you want there

    • @Tomanoppy
      @Tomanoppy 2 года назад +1

      @@IsThatWhatYouSaid a goldmine! Thank you!

  • @HaloJumper7
    @HaloJumper7 2 года назад +1

    Make a full Adonis video, this entertainment reminds me of Internet Historian and I'm all for it!

  • @NB-yu4lj
    @NB-yu4lj 2 года назад +21

    So they kind women ARE going for gentlemen! I knew it🙌🏾 they aren’t going for bad boys!

    • @heh9719
      @heh9719 2 года назад

      Only girls wants bad boys because of thier fantasy to turning a bad boy to a good guy lol
      And its instinct gratification
      Find a high value kind and smart woman and make sure you are high value too

    • @King9tails
      @King9tails 2 года назад +5

      Also I feel the “bad boy” concept can sometimes just be guys that are more sociable, fun, and know how to communicate to women. We perceive them as bad boy cause of jealousy or other reasons.

    • @aidan9656
      @aidan9656 2 года назад +1

      @@King9tails This. Some ya'll love calling attractive, athletic men with outgoing personalities and good fashion sense "bad boys" because they intimidate you lmaooo

    • @aidan9656
      @aidan9656 2 года назад

      @@lightmorrison5404 You have an anime avatar 🧍🏿‍♂️

  • @samiermeyer4791
    @samiermeyer4791 2 года назад

    Real talk brother I believe that being kind and gentlemanly is not weak it’s true Adonis nice guys don’t finish last dat red pill lies

  • @designed2190
    @designed2190 2 года назад +3

    Amazing job on the editing and beautiful advice.

  • @Alpacazzdememer
    @Alpacazzdememer 2 года назад +1

    Editing is golden great job

  • @steveco1800
    @steveco1800 2 года назад +28

    I've been a gentleman with my girlfriend of 18 months, but I've been spending 4x as much and she expects me to put aside my interests all weekend to serve her and make all the changes in my life and job to move to her. I felt like a pet and no longer a man around her. So I agree with being a gent to a point but I expect a certain amount of respect back and I draw a line when I start being taken advantage of.

    • @steveco1800
      @steveco1800 2 года назад +1

      @@user-xz1wy4to4o That's kind of the point. I'd drive her around, do DIY, help with lifting stuff because she has a dodgy back and buy flowers. We hardly ever had a disagreement. I was being nice to her and I think a gentleman. But I was being taken advantage of and it shouldn't be confused that to be a gent you should allow yourself to be.

    • @steveco1800
      @steveco1800 2 года назад +2

      @wdym? Agree, I've learned that 👍. It's become extremely toxic breaking up with her, but the warning signs were there with how she keeps falling out with her family and shouts abusively at her daughter. As much as it's worth it trying to find someone, staying with the wrong person and allowing this is worse.

    • @Itsgoodtobethechazz
      @Itsgoodtobethechazz 2 года назад +4

      @Ron Look at the relationship like a team effort. If you do something for your girl, see if she reciprocates by doing something back? Obviously don’t always have the mindset of “if I do this, you do this back for me or Im not happy”. But do note it and analyse your relationship as a whole. Is it more balanced efforts between you two? Or more one sided? Are you both a team? Putting 101%/101% each?

    • @Itsgoodtobethechazz
      @Itsgoodtobethechazz 2 года назад

      Note: she doesn’t have to do exactly what you did for her. She can do something for you in something else.

    • @willi898
      @willi898 2 года назад +3

      @Ron
      A gentleman has self respect
      A simp doesn’t has self respect

  • @mckcheezy835
    @mckcheezy835 2 года назад +2

    I'm glad to hear this, to humble oneself is good. Tbh needed this.

  • @businessisboomin7252
    @businessisboomin7252 2 года назад +47

    Hamza, have you ever searched for what your name means? It has an Arabic origin and it was used to refer to the Arabian desert lion and it also carries a lot of adjectives with it which relate to the lion I mentioned above. It's a person who's brave, strong, steadfast, honest, loyal, with a lion's heart. Your family chose a really beautiful name for you and it resembles you very much haha.

    • @bettermanchannel770
      @bettermanchannel770 2 года назад +2

      Heart of a lion!!!

    • @DeezN1892
      @DeezN1892 2 года назад +3

      Did you hear that Hamza? It’s time to put your urban dictionary name meaning on your insta story now

    • @frank_calvert
      @frank_calvert 2 года назад

      It's also the name of ء

    • @businessisboomin7252
      @businessisboomin7252 2 года назад

      @@frank_calvert nah he pronounces it like what you wrote but the real pronunciation is different

    • @frank_calvert
      @frank_calvert 2 года назад

      @@businessisboomin7252 oh is it the h that looks like jiim?

  • @obsolete5
    @obsolete5 2 года назад +1

    This a banger right here💯🔥

  • @danielpogue7065
    @danielpogue7065 2 года назад +3

    When I look in the mirror I see more and more Adonis than Jeffrey every day. I'm grateful to be apart of this tribe.

  • @men8menace996
    @men8menace996 2 года назад +2

    Thanks for pumping out quality content brother hamza

  • @artphile8873
    @artphile8873 2 года назад +3

    am i the only one that wants the full adonis date cinematic experience??

  • @rinphod4442
    @rinphod4442 2 года назад

    This is one of Hamza’s best videos

  • @bengorohagrid859
    @bengorohagrid859 2 года назад +18

    Ask yourself, would you want your daughter to date average redpiller? No?, Then dont be like them

  • @S1N_8991
    @S1N_8991 2 года назад

    editing is chef's kiss

  • @naodh8855
    @naodh8855 2 года назад +3

    Wow Hamza! You are truly amazing! Your knowledge and wisdom is so enlightening and gives me so much hope. Much line big bro!💪🏾❤️

  • @jimvisactuallythegoat
    @jimvisactuallythegoat 2 года назад +1

    Editing 10/10

  • @TheDragontiger123
    @TheDragontiger123 2 года назад +16

    I think you should consider that most young males, 20s like us, aren't really looking to attract a wife right now. Which is something I think you're missing; we're young men who don't want to be tied down right now and casual sex fulfills our urges while we're focused on ourselves.

    • @TheDragontiger123
      @TheDragontiger123 2 года назад +3

      @wdym? Well it doesnt sound like it very much. He says we can't meet a wife through partying and dating apps, but most of us in his target audience aren't looking for wives right now. We aren't looking for "the one." This advice is better aimed at late 20's early 30s men who want to start settling down.

    • @anikaabida6019
      @anikaabida6019 2 года назад +14

      @@TheDragontiger123 but your perception of women will be distorted in the process of constant casual hookups and dates even if you think you are just doing it cuz you are young now. Although casual s*x for women is deteriorating, it also affects men considering they will only perceive women as ho*s, which is why you see many men already dreading the idea of marriage, especially those who consume a lot of redp*ll content. This is why Hamza puts emphasis on meaningful relationships.

    • @MrDanielvass
      @MrDanielvass 2 года назад +3

      I’d recommend you get married and have kids before 30. You want to have kids whilst you’ve got the energy to be around them.

    • @nicko1738
      @nicko1738 2 года назад

      @@MrDanielvass I know men who had kids in their 40s even 50s and they had plenty of energy.

  • @banginzaza
    @banginzaza Год назад +2

    It's true. Just look at most men and women like on the news. They're all married. They're also pretty intelligent and nice people. It's also where you find your potential mates. Go to good places and be around good people to increase your chances.

  • @liundeirkil8706
    @liundeirkil8706 2 года назад +4

    Your videos in the past like "How to manipulate women" etc shows that *redpill* side of you but atleast if you are emberassed that means you are improving. This is the most chad video you have done up to date.

  • @akagrim0
    @akagrim0 2 года назад +2

    CONGRATS ON 200K ! hamza is the big brother we never had; keep dropping gems 🤟🏽💯

  • @simifemi-kayode2991
    @simifemi-kayode2991 2 года назад +7

    gentlemans protip: if you're walking on a sidewalk with a woman, please be on the outside of it, and the woman, on the inside. I don't know why a lot of dudes don't know this yet.

    • @metil6636
      @metil6636 2 года назад +2

      Why

    • @GearZNet
      @GearZNet 2 года назад +3

      @@metil6636 So you can die if a car jumps the curb.

    • @signaturerush
      @signaturerush 2 года назад

      @@metil6636 if a car swerved or something like that there would be a higher chance of her surviving if she is on the inside. If she’s on the outside it makes you look cowardly. Same thing goes for children, keep them on the inside.

  • @chadgamer7130
    @chadgamer7130 2 года назад

    the thumbnail is just pure art

  • @markosps9261
    @markosps9261 2 года назад +6

    The fun fact about these videos is that my crush rejected me for a guy with the name Adonis😅

  • @alkis1808
    @alkis1808 2 года назад

    Hamza is like a father figure that coaches you online. 👍

  • @bobbob6743
    @bobbob6743 2 года назад +5

    Great vid, loved it!

  • @Lmaoeatrr
    @Lmaoeatrr 2 года назад +2

    Your editor is a god

  • @abdulg4360
    @abdulg4360 2 года назад +7

    Whenever my lizard brain wants to take the easy route. I ask myself, what would Adonis do?

  • @lexgo8013
    @lexgo8013 2 года назад

    Love the date cinematic universe

  • @gyrozeppeli7296
    @gyrozeppeli7296 2 года назад +6

    Hamza will be like "A good sleep schedule is great" and then upload right at my bedtime

    • @Jonathan-tw4xm
      @Jonathan-tw4xm 2 года назад

      Watch it the next morning

    • @Jonathan-tw4xm
      @Jonathan-tw4xm 2 года назад

      What's your profile picture of reminds me of jojo

    • @gyrozeppeli7296
      @gyrozeppeli7296 2 года назад

      @@Jonathan-tw4xm Screenshot from part 7 manga

  • @emreboz1
    @emreboz1 2 года назад +1

    God damn 200k congrats

  • @kolter00
    @kolter00 2 года назад +4

    It’s interesting, I think this is a dope video but I don’t necessarily agree with absolutes. Obviously you’ve done the research on attachment and how people will probably grow up based on their family relationships, but remember that everyone is unique and individual. Some women will love having men who act like their father, but some women will want a man who is the exact OPPOSITE of their father. Based on my experience, it depends on the values they grew up on, not so much the exact circumstances. The same circumstances can trigger different responses for different people, so don’t take everything as absolutes. Every situation is different, and I think in terms of mindfulness you can determine for yourself what type of person you’re dealing with at any given moment, not based on how they grew up but how they act and respond to different situations. Also remember that there’s always a healthy medium in everything, and I think right now you’re starting to come into understanding a healthy medium in the red pill. Most people in the red pill go to an extreme with it and take everything as fact, but the issue is that they’re learning from other people who are biased toward the ideas of the red pill. You are what you consume, not just food but content. I’ve been realizing this recently and really pulling back from all content and just thinking for myself, and I’m realizing a lot of the ideas I have aren’t even my own. For context I’ve been in a great relationship for just over 2 years and I got very lucky in that my girl was never on dating apps or in the clubs very much, but also didn’t have a great home life. There’s been challenges but her values are very similar to mine so we tend to find common ground. The thing I’m struggling with now is finding the discipline to really strive to grow and become who I want to be when I don’t have the motivation of doing it to be more attractive to other women. I started to get complacent after a while but now I’m finding a balance between focusing on myself, my goals, & my purpose while also keeping strong connection & polarity in the relationship. It’s tough but very rewarding. This is a long comment so if you took the time to read it I appreciate it, lmk what you think because this topic is really interesting to me