Thing I love about hamza, is he gives examples, he doesn’t just say. He gives examples of his personal experience or knows someone who’s had this experience etc.
Some advice on how to get physical: Have the right mind set. You as man have the ability to *give* women tenderness, intimacy and sexual pleasure. She may accept these *gifts* which you offer to her, or she may reject them, that's her prerogative. If a particular women does not want your gifts, another one will. Having sex with a woman is way to get to know her on the deepest, *animalistic* level. This is a huge revelation you want her to make about herself to you. Respect how much it means for her and see it as an opportunity for both you and her to growing closer on the deepest level of being. Start touching as early as possible. Start at the *least intimate* body part: handshake. Escalate *very slowly* towards more intimate body parts. Every time when she rejects an escalation step: stop. Pause. Retreat a little. Do something else. Then try again. Maybe she will initiate the next escalation once she is ready for it.
Everyone who is afraid of being rejected MUST know this: unless you're a top male, rejection is FAR more common than reception. Nobody is watching, so go and get rejected; you'll soon learn to shake it off and laugh about it. And remember... more shots=more misses, but also more hits.
@@MM-uo8btTake the democraphic pill. The Demographic is broken beyond repairable. There are simple to many men and to less women who can breed children. When you have to overthink, why it's not going normal with you and women. You already are not a 20% high value men. Boomers only rarely failed with women because there have been more women in the boomers level.
some people struggle with cues, they havent levelled up their skills in this area. it IS more complicated for them, as they're finding their way. it wont always stay like that. you're unknowingly more advanced along the path, some people just need a little hand.
I just realized that when you are actually confident with yourself,even if you've never done it before ( the whole Netflix and chill or being touchy etc) it comes naturally. Even if it doesn't seem 100% natural,she won't mind as you seem confident in yourself and your abilities. It's weird but girls can sense your anxiety and awkwardness no matter how hard you try to hide it. So I'd say, becoming a confident man is more or less what you need to do in order to be physical with women you just met
@Louis Tea Enjoyer I can't completely agree with this.Looks are one thing but when an average looking but confident guy approaches a girl his chances of success are way higher than if he was being shy and anxious
@Louis Tea Enjoyer your confidence shouldn't be about what other people think about you,it should only be from yourself. Be confident because of the work you've put in yourself and the rest will come
Physical intimacy is just another step in getting into a romantic relationship. This is both inevitable and very very important. Because healthy, emotional and deep physical intimacy is what differentiates a relationship from a friendship. But people progress to this level at different rates. Some people will get frisky on the first date night but others, like myself, may take up to a week, a month or even several months to finally get there! So guys don't be a pushy horndog or a prude just go with the flow and remember you can always guide the current but never fully control it!
If she is in your bed there's a 99% chance she is waiting for you to make a move and wants you to. Give it a shot, if it fails meh, watch the movie and pass out.
@@AndrewWYT That's it, plenty of chances will arise. Desperation doesn't come of well, by playing it cool and being respectful if it doesn't work out you might not only gain her respect but may peak her interest and have another shot. But again if it doesn't work out don't sweat it. Chalk it up as an experience and move on.
Learning this the hard way is definitely more embarrassing than getting this advice, but man this helps people more than you might realize Hamza, you're a real trooper in the fight for positivity
At my college there is a Starbucks I frequent and I’ve approached quite a few girls, had some great and some average interactions but none I’d label as bad. I started pretty much fine tuning how to kill the anxiety or to learn to ignore it. I created a hype up notes sheet full of quotes and great past experiences I’ve had. Every time I get nervous I reference the sheet and then am guaranteed to actually approach. It helps. Physical escalation isn’t really and issue with me though, approach anxiety definitely is though.
The best way to get over fear of rejection is to become secure in yourself. If you're scared of rejection there are probably some things you are not happy with about yourself. Maybe you know you've been playing too many video game, or haven't been eating well. But, if you know you've been consistent with your good habits, and you're happy with the person you are and the direction your life is going, a rejection doesn't phase you.
What came across my mind is that while hugging a girl, it is very very helpful if you're muscular (and tall) because this is the somewhat still 'casual' experience with not much sexuality included but at the same time she feels your masculinity and your masculine body so it goes from her body to her subconscious that she likes you and the physicality intuitively.
To be honest listening to Hamza talk about his experiences and ideas and advice is just fascinating, learning from him has been a journey, keep those gains bois :)
You honestly remind me a lot about my idol named Zyzz. Just watching this strong advice you give us with no sugarcoating really makes my day to see because it helps me become more of a man. Zyzz would be proud to see you teaching adolescents the survival for the fittest.
Much needed, way too many men wait for a long period of time expecting that magically the touch barrier will be broken. If a woman is averse to touching, then it's a good sign that she is highly incompatible as a friend or anything more.
Seeing you guys be more physical with each other makes me realize even though I got super good at touching women and have had a lot of sex I’m still not insanely comfortable being physical with men I would consider my brothers
Can’t even talk to a girl alone, the social anxiety I get when I see my crush and I overthink how do i talk to her and what to talk about it’s just too much for me. I’ll probably never get a girlfriend in my life just because of that, I can’t even come up with pickup lines or anything my brain just can’t even print out good words for her
I'm a girl, and I've never seen a pick up line be successful. Just try to start a normal conversation like you would with anyone, and focus the conversation on helping her to open up about her feelings and interests and listen to her. Work on this skill in general. If you have issues talking to anyone new, it'll be that much harder to talk to your crush. And remember, having platonic female friends helps get you more comfortable with women in general.
I started doing this when meeting people at a bar last week and I noticed when I shook, fist bumped, high fives, hugged, or touched on shoulder people were more receptive than when I didn’t
“You need to build up a catalog of experiences”. That is a fire line. Get hands on experience and remember them. You’ll begin to notice smaller and smaller details that will enhance your ability to read people and understand them
Hamza speaking the truth, physical touch distinguishes you from a stranger, you'd be less connected if your interactions are based on dialogue all the time, dialogue mixed with physical touch be it whatever is going to give the other person the idea, the sense of (yeah this is a potential partner) and not just a stranger.
Bullshit. Yes, it may be easier to do gradual, but for more success you have to push further than your mind wants to. On my first meeting with one girl (on university courses for high school exams) after we've left the building I've decided to go straight for it and I've both hugged and kissed her. I didn't look muscular, but she has definitely felt masculinity radiating from my body (did a lot to uncover it in myself) and definitely enjoyed it. She now considers it normal to be kissed and hugged by me.
Goodbye everyone. It’s been a great journey on RUclips but I’ve decided to move on and leave unless I decide to make my own self improvement and gym channel. It was fun while it lasted, but I want to put my time towards other things. Keep pushing everyone.
@@TenzMuzik I was making some progress and going regularly up until I broke my leg after an accident on my bike, which took me out for a month and a bit. After that, I had summer holidays and really enjoyed them, although I spent pretty much all of the time in countries where I couldn’t work out due to no gym membership there/no time due to being with family or at the beach the whole time. After the holidays I returned and was lacking discipline until I met a new group of friends in October, who inspired me to join again. They have pulled me out of a bad place and I began working out again in late October/November, focusing on form and optimal performance to begin with. After a few weeks I began studying diet and have put on 6kg since October 28th, which was when I hit my bench pr with this new friend group. I’m nowhere near the physique of being able to give advice and start I channel but I hope to do so soon. I’m back on RUclips but not anywhere near as much as I was.
@@jtheman405 I’m gonna make it but it may just start off as hanging out with friends and slowly move to gym related content. I want to make two or three types of videos. Vlogs where the only editing is transitions, in these I’ll go to the gym, hang out with friends, try to get girls numbers, and just live my life and record it. The other videos will be gym advice and videos a bit like Sneako’s old videos and Steezy Kane’s mockumentary style vids once I get a better camera and improve my editing skills
yeah man! it's nice :) its just normal connection. i realise now that if you just go and do something and you know in your mind that its normal and fine, people will fall into the frame - if they dont't, like hamza said its just an apology and move on. if that isnt enough for someone, now THEY'RE the wierdo. physical contact is a skill which can be progressively levelled up. it's okay to feel a bit awkward, a bit stilted. give it a go, push yourself to do something that feels right to do even tho you're feeling anxious to do it, and you will learn from that interaction. honestly the whole catching a case thing gets super overblown. the majority of things i realise now are not caseworthy at all, not within a mile. you're just not gonna do something thats really mean or horrible, or get angry at a girl for not feeling comfortable, like Hamza said if you just proceed with compassion then nobody can ask anything else of you. if you proceed with compassion then thats all you can do. thats normal and healthy. its normal and healthy to touch people, and also for everyones barometer of comfortableness of touch and touching to be different - you're not a mind reader and so you just feel it out through the journey of your interactions with that person. and if you get it wrong, so what! youre not really hurting anyone, really, as long as your intentions are good then it's fine! you need experience points to calibrate this perfectly. be patient with yourself. keep trying. be kind, to others ofc, but also to yourself. it's okay to get it wrong. nuff love
The part where you talk about if you touch someone for the first time you meet is extremely true. This girl I hang out with for the past two months. We hand shaked for the first time we met and it’s just been uphill from there
A week ago I had to stop talking to this girl. We were getting along so well, and had been taking and hanging out for a while. But eventually she said “she’s just trying to have fun” it was pretty sad but I had to cut it off.
Hamza I am a 14 year old boy and I love what your doing. I am on a self improvment but I struggle with mental health and social anixity. Can you please make a video about mental health and how to stop social anixity for young guys. Much love brother ❤❤
Hello brother , i am not Hamza but i’m a 14 year old onto self improvement who can help. The best way to solve mental health issues is by meditating (watch Hamza’s vid on how to do it correctly). Show gratitude in your life to people you love. Gratitude journaling. Exercise. Find some hobby’s. Work on school / business. You’ll see massive changes in a few weeks of doing it consistent. To fix social anxiety , i always just think about the consequences in a few hours / days / weeks / months / or even years. If you say something weird in public with people you see everyday / or people you don’t know. Just think about if they will remember it in a few hours time. Or if it’s gonna negatively effect your life in the future. To get more confidence just act confident. And do the things confident people do , and you will become confident.
Gym and Sports help a lot. Not watching anime as well. And remember your 14. You’re una position that you’re completely aloud to fail in things. Just view failures as lessons.
Man I'm just loving all of his videos that just come out that really makes my self push harder then I currently set my goals to like I really aim for the sky just you wait hamza sooner or later imma be slowly catching up to you physically and mentally one day coming close to the top of the list I have faith that I will no more procrastinating💪💪💪 and surly much love bigbro 💜💜💜💜
this is the video that changes it all. just go for it and don't let the fear of being seen as a creep hold you back, especially the part of it being accused sexual assault. that is absolutely the thing i was worried about happening. after this video it doesn't feel like it's something to be worried about anymore
I'm very physical with my male friends, but not with female ones. It's kinda hard to do with female friends because I'm known for getting rough when handling friends. My friends describe me as being as hard as a brick wall when they become physical with me. This habit becomes hard to replicate with women. How soft is too soft? I don't want to accidentally hurt her.
i think it's best to start with relationships when your around 17 or older because when your much younger usually you need to focus on your other responsibilities or its just that your not allowed so i think it's best we first know how to treat a women and then get physical and get into a proper relationship
dude..... speaking to women isn't a time-consuming task. Literally you can spend 3-4 hours a week cold approaching women getting numbers and sleeping with them. Easy asf start as young as you can
@@aldra8507 as a girl, you preserve your value. Do not sleep with anyone until you're at least like 20. Just make yourself as attractive as possible and preserve your virginity for the best man. Most likely the best man for you will be a rich 30-40 year old man who's at his peak and can take care of you.
@@aldra8507 Why, YES of course. Learn to put yourself out there, regardless of gender, and make the other person enjoy your presence and make them comfortable. This is a cruel world we live in, and if you can make a guy smile or laugh then you’re one of the rarest. Women, not just men, also need to go down this path of self improvement, so that both genders can benefit from good health, morals, and mental state.
I really appreciate the focus you put on paying attention and being present. After I got off porn and fapping, I've finally been able to pay attention to girls and what they're saying. I'm not looking at their ass, I'm not thinking about trying to get to some point I want to make in the conversation, I'm listening, I'm paying attention. That's the most important thing. Social interaction isn't a damn video game. You can't look up the reactions to each thing you say, and choose accordingly. You have to live it.
Ever heard of the silver touch? That stuff from spider verse is honestly what I use every time. It's helped me build my confidence so much that now approaching someone not necessarily female just comes easy to me now. It's just to be confident when I use it, don't hold, and leave it there for about one second, just enough time to get their attention and from there the confidence stays there all through the interaction. It really is science lol
I'm just discovering your channel I hope my little brother watches more content like this that is helpful for young men. I'm afraid he'll fall into too many red pill videos and become an incel. But this is actually good advice
I struggle with this personally. But the way I see it is that the girl that you GENUINELY like or even love and are interested and curious about will make you naturally feel like you can do more than Just get to know personally. You will naturally want to be more physically engaged with. Its almost like both men and women are human beings and we desire similar things. You will know when you have found someone you actually love both physically and personally. Im not focusing on finding someone as I tried to both IRL and on dating apps but it doesn’t work. Just go with the flow and let your urge to talk to a women you find attractive for some reason come naturally. The harder you try to actively seek for a relationship the more it will back fire on you as that what our brains love to do to us.
I feel that the bigger point is not just if the women is receptive to you and your touch, but if YOU ACTUALLY LIKE HER.. I think a lot of uncertainty comes from that spectrum of how you are feeling. I mean of course you may find a certain woman physically attractive, but there are some women, after you start conversing with them, you will find a lot less attractive. And like it was mentioned, that's also how you gauge how receptive she is towards you. When you feel that she is more open to you and your touch, it 's a lot easier after that. And of course, it's easier said than done, because there are risks, but you just have to try.. There is also that element of intuition and intelligence/emotional intelligence which cannot be taught. The problem is when guys don't know because they've never had a woman who was receptive to them.. and they are overthinking things which prevents them from being completely present and noticing the signs. That's why you may only notice the signs AFTER in hindsight.
This is really good advice. I've only ever had one experience where a girl and I cuddled and made out. We slept together and then the next day she said she was super uncomfortable and didn't like it. But GENERALLY (if u don't pursue crazy girls) you'll be good with this advice Edit: found the best girl I've ever met she supports me in everything i do and I'm no longer a virgin 💀💀
Idk man i will be honest with myself and you guys, nowadays im so focused in myself in a point where i view women as consequence. I am in a point where i am not able to invest or get deep connections because my mindset doesn't allow me to consider as priority or worth of my time, its really complex and hard to understand but it is what it is. I am 17 year old and used to be bullied at my school, i went in this self development journey during 1 year and read books nearly everyday, got a pretty decent physique and opened up my own reselling business but the consequence of that is that i had to sacrifice what you guys call "love", im so focused in my objectives that i no longer see women or love as important. I can't focus in women otherwise this will compromise my mindset, i really don't know what to do, if you guys have any suggestions feel free to put here, appreciate it .
Chasing material sucess doesnt lead to fulfillment because you will always want more and more. I would suggest you to clarify your goals and maybe have goals in different sectors of life. But I'm 20 and Im also struggling with finding my real fulfilling passion. Still hope that helps.
I laughed when Hamza pointed out these "Can I..." questions but yeah it's the truth. Use your inuitio and social intelligence. Read body language and see if there's any chemistry between. You will know when you can touch her without even thinking. Sometimes tho you can't know for sure but why not going for it instead of regreting after? Great video once again! Neutral touches are alwaysa good. Touches which may be more "sexual" needs further chemistry.
Its so good and interesting how wise you treat these topics, its like you know what is best for us and not whats best for your wallet. Keep the work up!
7:35 Ngl, I do this 😂, where I walk past a girl then turn around to approach her. But hey, everyone has their own way of approaching. Don’t listen to online shit, and just do it. Shut off your brain and do it. It doesn’t matter who sees it, because at the end of the day, *nobody will remember you*. Even the girl who you approach. If she rejects you, she’ll forget you by tomorrow, and the people around will have forgotten (if they even looked at you two at all) in 5 mins. So just do it. Approach her. *”You Miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.”* -Joshen
i’m just gonna say this to try to get another perspective on things, i started to work out more and i’m feeling more confident by the day, but it’s just a matter of putting myself out there that burdens me from meeting women. once i actually talk to one things actually go well, but they come to me first. i want to be the one making the moves but my conscious and my own fear keeps me from doing it. what should i do?
I start by just talking to women in general. If your a work, school, out , just say something small like hello when you pass by them. Or initiate basic small talk when the opportunity presents itself. It doesn’t have to be someone you’re attracted to but anyone you see.
This was one of the things I've been struggling with the most. Thanks for providing genuine advice for this kind of topic you're actually a legend dude.
I know you guys will roll your eyes reading this. But nofap helped a ton with getting over the anxiety of getting physical. When you hold your nut for that long your brain eventually realizes that the only way you can release is with a woman. So when you have a women whose comfortable around you and your in a position where the touch barrier can be broken, you act on it without any second thoughts and you make the move because you just have more masculine hormone build up inside of you. I’d recommend nofap 100% for getting over this.
I'm from Latin America, and usually when guys introduce ourselves to girls we usually give 2 kisses on the cheeks like in Spain but once I started living in UK people dont really do that in here and then I became much more akward introducing myself to British girls with physical touch sadly to the point i felt not confident with physical touch. In the Spanish culture physical touch are very common.
yup thats me. Was always too afraid to do anything and asking girls sounds nice on twitter but in real life that makes it so awkward and they secretly hate it even tho they wont say that.
A little idea that has been helping me: When you run away from something, you mark that thing as "too scary for a person like me" in your brain. This explains why doing things that scare you can be so meaningful.
HAMZA AHMED! Can you record a video where you explain to us your face cleaning routine? What cosmetics you use, what is crucial in taking care of your face, etc. I would be greatful, because your face is a high tier presentation 😆
@@pazeros6424 your skin can be cleaned with just water dude. Spreading unfamiliar chemicals on it will just denature it. It's probably the reason your skin is dry in the first place
One tip to make getting the final concent non akward, non weak: Before you stick it in ask "are you ready (name)" They will be even more eager to go for it. Do it just in case. Each time ive dont that they always thank me for asking them after the deed or a while after because or some reason noone has done that with them.
Hmmm idk bro, If you do foreplay right the girl should be begging you to stick it in.Has happened to me quite a few times, if a girl is begging you to do it that's all the concent you need right?
The specific examples are just ones that are statistically proven as open body language and all. They associate with the kind of people who are open to being touched, but it is all psychology. If I can tell you one thing about psychology, it is that NOTHING is sure. There are always exceptions and it is very personal. The brain is SO complex. We can find generals, but not givens. So like... "if she has her feet like this" or "if she plays with her hair" those tips are useful to an extent. It gives away things about specific emotions or thought patterns and all, but it is never a guarantee. Not even if multiple signs are given. So what you say is true. It's a matter of getting a feeling for it. And honestly... I asked for permission too, mostly. But you did convince me to go try again (mostly because before, every time I tried I got called weird, no matter what, because I probably already had the rep of the weird kid). And honestly... The people who immediately freak out and get angry and won't even go "well that was awkward... Let's go on" are probably not the people you would want to be around anyway...
I feel like I kinda need this video. Because I am a person who really loves mostly with physical touch. But like... In general. So I hope this video also has some tips for public as well!
make a vedio about how to deal with men or women tests and how to differentiate between them and an insult. thanks for every thing you've tought us bro
Hello hamza, thank you for your advice and how much youve helped me in life, I was wondering if you could make a video on your parents expectations on your grades and social life, like them expecting you to go to partys and get good grades.
Tbh, I think there’s different methods of escalating in a sexual way. For me, I talk to women I’m attracted to in a way that makes them WANT me to get physical with them
This is an area where the PUAs actually have good advice: kino escalation. Gradually increase the intimacy of touch so it’s not 0 to 100 instantly. After each touch, see how they react, if it seems receptive, the next touch can be a bit more intimate. She doesn’t look receptive, back off a bit for now, but consider trying again a bit later. Start with touching the arm when making a point or something, maybe touch her on the back or hip later, etc.
Ofc there will be women who don't like muscles. Yeah I've heard some weird facts that supposedly 8 or 9 out of 10 women would prefer dad body rather than muscular physique because it makes them feel more comfortable not trying to be as good with their body all the time or some shit but I think you can't take advice from women because they don't know what they want themselves, that's why they need to be told what to do also they don't understand neither themselves nor each other
Hamza, for young people who will go to Uni soon: How would you advise us to structure our life? Go full try hard in uni or fuck around and have fun and obviously do self improvement?
I think he would probably say that focus on building yourself no matter what stage you are in! And for uni, anyone can go hard core studying if they want to go to that specific field requiring degree or do something on your own. The main aim here is to be financially independent!
I'm currently at a point in my life, where I don't want to get into any girls pants or heart. On the other hand, I'd also really like to find a significant other (I'm 30). Not really actively looking for someone currently (not going out etc.), though. Really weird state. Got kind of burned out by too many bad experiences in the past (i.e. all of the experiences I had had so far). Anyways, I'm sure this video will help, if I ever try to go for that. If nothing else, this video really, really helped to build me up. You always seem like an awesome guy. Thank you, mate.
Thing I love about hamza, is he gives examples, he doesn’t just say. He gives examples of his personal experience or knows someone who’s had this experience etc.
yea it’s rare cuz most these manosphere guys /rp guys do not live what they preach
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Some advice on how to get physical: Have the right mind set. You as man have the ability to *give* women tenderness, intimacy and sexual pleasure. She may accept these *gifts* which you offer to her, or she may reject them, that's her prerogative. If a particular women does not want your gifts, another one will. Having sex with a woman is way to get to know her on the deepest, *animalistic* level. This is a huge revelation you want her to make about herself to you. Respect how much it means for her and see it as an opportunity for both you and her to growing closer on the deepest level of being. Start touching as early as possible. Start at the *least intimate* body part: handshake. Escalate *very slowly* towards more intimate body parts. Every time when she rejects an escalation step: stop. Pause. Retreat a little. Do something else. Then try again. Maybe she will initiate the next escalation once she is ready for it.
Man of words ❤
This is where the PUA channels failed.
What helped me while approaching a random girl is the thought “if she rejects me, at least she’ll be happy that a guy approached her”. Boom. Easy
After asking 10 girls and getting rejected 10 time, me to my
self-confidence are u still Alive?
Iq level 200
Or maybe she just wanted attention
But will you be happy?
@@naf2litex237 You can be hella proud if yourself for approaching 10 girls you were interested in. That takes a lot of courage
You’re like the older brother I never had. I’m 30 and look up to you. 2023 will be my year because of you
he's 25 tho
@@kamxladi that's part of my point. He's younger but I still look up to him as an elder
@@mikeskinner0411 makes sense
Keep going King
Bro wtf are you doing at 30? You should have more experience than this dude
Everyone who is afraid of being rejected MUST know this: unless you're a top male, rejection is FAR more common than reception. Nobody is watching, so go and get rejected; you'll soon learn to shake it off and laugh about it. And remember... more shots=more misses, but also more hits.
"You miss 100% of the shots you don't take"
@@nathanw9770 exactly
@@nathanw9770 right on
kinda like ranked anxiety for gamin too!
I need some advice, I just don't know what to TALK about, touching is fine, but conversation? I don't know
When a women really likes you, you can escalate and she will make it very easy for you. It's not so complicated.
@@AndrewWYT yea when u start overthinking it is when it gets bad
@@MM-uo8btTake the democraphic pill. The Demographic is broken beyond repairable. There are simple to many men and to less women who can breed children. When you have to overthink, why it's not going normal with you and women. You already are not a 20% high value men. Boomers only rarely failed with women because there have been more women in the boomers level.
some people struggle with cues, they havent levelled up their skills in this area. it IS more complicated for them, as they're finding their way. it wont always stay like that. you're unknowingly more advanced along the path, some people just need a little hand.
I just realized that when you are actually confident with yourself,even if you've never done it before ( the whole Netflix and chill or being touchy etc) it comes naturally. Even if it doesn't seem 100% natural,she won't mind as you seem confident in yourself and your abilities. It's weird but girls can sense your anxiety and awkwardness no matter how hard you try to hide it. So I'd say, becoming a confident man is more or less what you need to do in order to be physical with women you just met
@Louis Tea Enjoyer I agree
Because if she's not attracted to you, your confidence is seen as arrogance
@Louis Tea Enjoyer I can't completely agree with this.Looks are one thing but when an average looking but confident guy approaches a girl his chances of success are way higher than if he was being shy and anxious
@Louis Tea Enjoyer your confidence shouldn't be about what other people think about you,it should only be from yourself. Be confident because of the work you've put in yourself and the rest will come
i found nofap works like magic for confidence. hit a 2 week streak, i was in flow state almost 24/7, easy flirting, eye contact, groundedness, etc.
@@davonheria739 good for you mate 👌
Physical intimacy is just another step in getting into a romantic relationship. This is both inevitable and
very very important. Because healthy, emotional and deep physical intimacy is what differentiates a relationship from a friendship. But people progress to this level at different rates. Some people will get frisky on the first date night but others, like myself, may take up to a week, a month or even several months to finally get there!
So guys don't be a pushy horndog or a prude just go with the flow and remember you can always guide the current but never fully control it!
Really needed this brother! Girls be approaching me but my virgin shield gets in the way
Virgin shield ahahahhahaha😂😂😂😂
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Well we gotta learn not to let our resistance get in the way
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Take the plunge.
"No Adonis!You gotta wait till we get married." - Anastasia
If she is in your bed there's a 99% chance she is waiting for you to make a move and wants you to. Give it a shot, if it fails meh, watch the movie and pass out.
Best part is you probably forget everything, or remember everything
@@AndrewWYT That's it, plenty of chances will arise.
Desperation doesn't come of well, by playing it cool and being respectful if it doesn't work out you might not only gain her respect but may peak her interest and have another shot.
But again if it doesn't work out don't sweat it. Chalk it up as an experience and move on.
Learning this the hard way is definitely more embarrassing than getting this advice, but man this helps people more than you might realize Hamza, you're a real trooper in the fight for positivity
hamza blessing us with all the uploads recently
At my college there is a Starbucks I frequent and I’ve approached quite a few girls, had some great and some average interactions but none I’d label as bad. I started pretty much fine tuning how to kill the anxiety or to learn to ignore it. I created a hype up notes sheet full of quotes and great past experiences I’ve had. Every time I get nervous I reference the sheet and then am guaranteed to actually approach. It helps. Physical escalation isn’t really and issue with me though, approach anxiety definitely is though.
Could you maybe tell me one of your quotes?
The ''hype-up sheet'' is a great idea that I will try, thanks for sharing bro
Gonna share some of that with the homies?
can i have the google doc🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓
Kinda creepy and desperate mate..
The best way to get over fear of rejection is to become secure in yourself. If you're scared of rejection there are probably some things you are not happy with about yourself. Maybe you know you've been playing too many video game, or haven't been eating well. But, if you know you've been consistent with your good habits, and you're happy with the person you are and the direction your life is going, a rejection doesn't phase you.
Men with attractive women will never say "its shallow to go for looks" its only the dudes who haven't achieved that.
What came across my mind is that while hugging a girl, it is very very helpful if you're muscular (and tall) because this is the somewhat still 'casual' experience with not much sexuality included but at the same time she feels your masculinity and your masculine body so it goes from her body to her subconscious that she likes you and the physicality intuitively.
More plates more dates isnt just a name. Its a way of life
That explains why she asked if I playing sports that one time
exquisite vernacular🍕🍕🍕🍕🍕
Either possibly get rejected or you can reject yourself. The choice is yours
To be honest listening to Hamza talk about his experiences and ideas and advice is just fascinating, learning from him has been a journey, keep those gains bois :)
You honestly remind me a lot about my idol named Zyzz. Just watching this strong advice you give us with no sugarcoating really makes my day to see because it helps me become more of a man. Zyzz would be proud to see you teaching adolescents the survival for the fittest.
Who tf is Zyzz Omega lul
@@askedybro5994 The original Adonis. Search him up.
Always mirin’ brah
@@smb7327 original adonis? Chill 💀
@@user-360johnn 💀💀💀💀💀
Much needed, way too many men wait for a long period of time expecting that magically the touch barrier will be broken. If a woman is averse to touching, then it's a good sign that she is highly incompatible as a friend or anything more.
Seeing you guys be more physical with each other makes me realize even though I got super good at touching women and have had a lot of sex I’m still not insanely comfortable being physical with men I would consider my brothers
some guys are more awkward being touched as well, it helps when your bros can do it more naturally
As always, another good advice. Thanks Hamza.
LIQUIDDDDDDDDD
Can’t even talk to a girl alone, the social anxiety I get when I see my crush and I overthink how do i talk to her and what to talk about it’s just too much for me. I’ll probably never get a girlfriend in my life just because of that, I can’t even come up with pickup lines or anything my brain just can’t even print out good words for her
I'm a girl, and I've never seen a pick up line be successful. Just try to start a normal conversation like you would with anyone, and focus the conversation on helping her to open up about her feelings and interests and listen to her. Work on this skill in general. If you have issues talking to anyone new, it'll be that much harder to talk to your crush. And remember, having platonic female friends helps get you more comfortable with women in general.
Just try to hit on her but don’t grope her I think I dont know when you start to grope her I guess when you are having sex?
I started doing this when meeting people at a bar last week and I noticed when I shook, fist bumped, high fives, hugged, or touched on shoulder people were more receptive than when I didn’t
“You need to build up a catalog of experiences”. That is a fire line. Get hands on experience and remember them. You’ll begin to notice smaller and smaller details that will enhance your ability to read people and understand them
Hamza speaking the truth, physical touch distinguishes you from a stranger, you'd be less connected if your interactions are based on dialogue all the time, dialogue mixed with physical touch be it whatever is going to give the other person the idea, the sense of (yeah this is a potential partner) and not just a stranger.
The main thing about physical escalation is that it must be gradual. Then adjust with feedback from her.
Bullshit.
Yes, it may be easier to do gradual, but for more success you have to push further than your mind wants to.
On my first meeting with one girl (on university courses for high school exams) after we've left the building I've decided to go straight for it and I've both hugged and kissed her.
I didn't look muscular, but she has definitely felt masculinity radiating from my body (did a lot to uncover it in myself) and definitely enjoyed it.
She now considers it normal to be kissed and hugged by me.
@@szariq7338 Wow. Youre really lucky that worked out
Goodbye everyone. It’s been a great journey on RUclips but I’ve decided to move on and leave unless I decide to make my own self improvement and gym channel. It was fun while it lasted, but I want to put my time towards other things. Keep pushing everyone.
hope u doing good !
Yo progress report? How’s things been so far fam
Make the channel fam
@@TenzMuzik I was making some progress and going regularly up until I broke my leg after an accident on my bike, which took me out for a month and a bit. After that, I had summer holidays and really enjoyed them, although I spent pretty much all of the time in countries where I couldn’t work out due to no gym membership there/no time due to being with family or at the beach the whole time. After the holidays I returned and was lacking discipline until I met a new group of friends in October, who inspired me to join again. They have pulled me out of a bad place and I began working out again in late October/November, focusing on form and optimal performance to begin with. After a few weeks I began studying diet and have put on 6kg since October 28th, which was when I hit my bench pr with this new friend group. I’m nowhere near the physique of being able to give advice and start I channel but I hope to do so soon. I’m back on RUclips but not anywhere near as much as I was.
@@jtheman405 I’m gonna make it but it may just start off as hanging out with friends and slowly move to gym related content. I want to make two or three types of videos. Vlogs where the only editing is transitions, in these I’ll go to the gym, hang out with friends, try to get girls numbers, and just live my life and record it. The other videos will be gym advice and videos a bit like Sneako’s old videos and Steezy Kane’s mockumentary style vids once I get a better camera and improve my editing skills
yeah man! it's nice :) its just normal connection. i realise now that if you just go and do something and you know in your mind that its normal and fine, people will fall into the frame - if they dont't, like hamza said its just an apology and move on. if that isnt enough for someone, now THEY'RE the wierdo.
physical contact is a skill which can be progressively levelled up. it's okay to feel a bit awkward, a bit stilted. give it a go, push yourself to do something that feels right to do even tho you're feeling anxious to do it, and you will learn from that interaction.
honestly the whole catching a case thing gets super overblown. the majority of things i realise now are not caseworthy at all, not within a mile. you're just not gonna do something thats really mean or horrible, or get angry at a girl for not feeling comfortable, like Hamza said if you just proceed with compassion then nobody can ask anything else of you. if you proceed with compassion then thats all you can do. thats normal and healthy.
its normal and healthy to touch people, and also for everyones barometer of comfortableness of touch and touching to be different - you're not a mind reader and so you just feel it out through the journey of your interactions with that person. and if you get it wrong, so what! youre not really hurting anyone, really, as long as your intentions are good then it's fine!
you need experience points to calibrate this perfectly. be patient with yourself. keep trying. be kind, to others ofc, but also to yourself. it's okay to get it wrong.
nuff love
The part where you talk about if you touch someone for the first time you meet is extremely true.
This girl I hang out with for the past two months. We hand shaked for the first time we met and it’s just been uphill from there
A week ago I had to stop talking to this girl. We were getting along so well, and had been taking and hanging out for a while. But eventually she said “she’s just trying to have fun” it was pretty sad but I had to cut it off.
Hamza I am a 14 year old boy and I love what your doing. I am on a self improvment but I struggle with mental health and social anixity. Can you please make a video about mental health and how to stop social anixity for young guys. Much love brother ❤❤
Social anxiety : ruclips.net/video/ToLwBpBRFPg/видео.html
Mental health: ruclips.net/video/jUBL9h_V6mc/видео.html
Meditation and hitting the gym are great ways to work on this! Hamza has talked about them too! Stay strong brother!
Hello brother , i am not Hamza but i’m a 14 year old onto self improvement who can help. The best way to solve mental health issues is by meditating (watch Hamza’s vid on how to do it correctly). Show gratitude in your life to people you love. Gratitude journaling. Exercise. Find some hobby’s. Work on school / business. You’ll see massive changes in a few weeks of doing it consistent.
To fix social anxiety , i always just think about the consequences in a few hours / days / weeks / months / or even years. If you say something weird in public with people you see everyday / or people you don’t know. Just think about if they will remember it in a few hours time. Or if it’s gonna negatively effect your life in the future.
To get more confidence just act confident. And do the things confident people do , and you will become confident.
Gym and Sports help a lot. Not watching anime as well. And remember your 14. You’re una position that you’re completely aloud to fail in things. Just view failures as lessons.
Man I'm just loving all of his videos that just come out that really makes my self push harder then I currently set my goals to like I really aim for the sky just you wait hamza sooner or later imma be slowly catching up to you physically and mentally one day coming close to the top of the list I have faith that I will no more procrastinating💪💪💪 and surly much love bigbro 💜💜💜💜
This was the first full length Hamza video I've seen and i loved it. Common sense,delivered in a straightforward way with humour.
We need more of these relationship advice Hamza ✊🏾
this is the video that changes it all. just go for it and don't let the fear of being seen as a creep hold you back, especially the part of it being accused sexual assault. that is absolutely the thing i was worried about happening. after this video it doesn't feel like it's something to be worried about anymore
I'm very physical with my male friends, but not with female ones. It's kinda hard to do with female friends because I'm known for getting rough when handling friends. My friends describe me as being as hard as a brick wall when they become physical with me. This habit becomes hard to replicate with women. How soft is too soft? I don't want to accidentally hurt her.
You gotta move in slow motion
Just go up and give her a left hook its always the best way to get the ladies in the van.
i think it's best to start with relationships when your around 17 or older because when your much younger usually you need to focus on your other responsibilities or its just that your not allowed so i think it's best we first know how to treat a women and then get physical and get into a proper relationship
True that. But what do you do as a girl. Do you learn to treat a guy ?
dude..... speaking to women isn't a time-consuming task. Literally you can spend 3-4 hours a week cold approaching women getting numbers and sleeping with them. Easy asf start as young as you can
@@aldra8507 as a girl, you preserve your value. Do not sleep with anyone until you're at least like 20. Just make yourself as attractive as possible and preserve your virginity for the best man. Most likely the best man for you will be a rich 30-40 year old man who's at his peak and can take care of you.
@@aldra8507 Why, YES of course. Learn to put yourself out there, regardless of gender, and make the other person enjoy your presence and make them comfortable. This is a cruel world we live in, and if you can make a guy smile or laugh then you’re one of the rarest. Women, not just men, also need to go down this path of self improvement, so that both genders can benefit from good health, morals, and mental state.
Steps unclear, 47 and still a virgin
I really appreciate the focus you put on paying attention and being present. After I got off porn and fapping, I've finally been able to pay attention to girls and what they're saying. I'm not looking at their ass, I'm not thinking about trying to get to some point I want to make in the conversation, I'm listening, I'm paying attention.
That's the most important thing. Social interaction isn't a damn video game. You can't look up the reactions to each thing you say, and choose accordingly. You have to live it.
Ever heard of the silver touch?
That stuff from spider verse is honestly what I use every time. It's helped me build my confidence so much that now approaching someone not necessarily female just comes easy to me now. It's just to be confident when I use it, don't hold, and leave it there for about one second, just enough time to get their attention and from there the confidence stays there all through the interaction. It really is science lol
Hebrews 13:4: Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.
I nearly realized how important and powerful the touch is to get women to fall in Laouve with you
Physicality is everything
I'm just discovering your channel I hope my little brother watches more content like this that is helpful for young men. I'm afraid he'll fall into too many red pill videos and become an incel. But this is actually good advice
Just recommend this to him
I struggle with this personally. But the way I see it is that the girl that you GENUINELY like or even love and are interested and curious about will make you naturally feel like you can do more than Just get to know personally. You will naturally want to be more physically engaged with. Its almost like both men and women are human beings and we desire similar things. You will know when you have found someone you actually love both physically and personally. Im not focusing on finding someone as I tried to both IRL and on dating apps but it doesn’t work. Just go with the flow and let your urge to talk to a women you find attractive for some reason come naturally. The harder you try to actively seek for a relationship the more it will back fire on you as that what our brains love to do to us.
I feel that the bigger point is not just if the women is receptive to you and your touch, but if YOU ACTUALLY LIKE HER.. I think a lot of uncertainty comes from that spectrum of how you are feeling. I mean of course you may find a certain woman physically attractive, but there are some women, after you start conversing with them, you will find a lot less attractive. And like it was mentioned, that's also how you gauge how receptive she is towards you. When you feel that she is more open to you and your touch, it 's a lot easier after that. And of course, it's easier said than done, because there are risks, but you just have to try.. There is also that element of intuition and intelligence/emotional intelligence which cannot be taught.
The problem is when guys don't know because they've never had a woman who was receptive to them.. and they are overthinking things which prevents them from being completely present and noticing the signs. That's why you may only notice the signs AFTER in hindsight.
Nicee
Since you stopped editing so much i think i will sub again.
As if he cares about your sub 🤡
Step 1: Be good looking
Step 2 : Smash
This is really good advice.
I've only ever had one experience where a girl and I cuddled and made out. We slept together and then the next day she said she was super uncomfortable and didn't like it. But GENERALLY (if u don't pursue crazy girls) you'll be good with this advice
Edit: found the best girl I've ever met she supports me in everything i do and I'm no longer a virgin 💀💀
Currently monk mode right now but watching for Hamza
im starting to realise hamza is giving advice to hamza himself as we are relatable it seems like he's making videos for us...
Isn't that the same for everyone giving advice?
One of the best videos from Hamza! There is so much value in only 20 minutes and it helped me a ton!
your thoughts create objective truth... this goes far, far deeper than any of this once explored....
Idk man i will be honest with myself and you guys, nowadays im so focused in myself in a point where i view women as consequence. I am in a point where i am not able to invest or get deep connections because my mindset doesn't allow me to consider as priority or worth of my time, its really complex and hard to understand but it is what it is.
I am 17 year old and used to be bullied at my school, i went in this self development journey during 1 year and read books nearly everyday, got a pretty decent physique and opened up my own reselling business but the consequence of that is that i had to sacrifice what you guys call "love", im so focused in my objectives that i no longer see women or love as important. I can't focus in women otherwise this will compromise my mindset, i really don't know what to do, if you guys have any suggestions feel free to put here, appreciate it .
Chasing material sucess doesnt lead to fulfillment because you will always want more and more. I would suggest you to clarify your goals and maybe have goals in different sectors of life. But I'm 20 and Im also struggling with finding my real fulfilling passion. Still hope that helps.
Did anyone really noticed that Hamza's iconic bath robe isn't there in his latest Vids as he is travelling!
I laughed when Hamza pointed out these "Can I..." questions but yeah it's the truth. Use your inuitio and social intelligence. Read body language and see if there's any chemistry between. You will know when you can touch her without even thinking. Sometimes tho you can't know for sure but why not going for it instead of regreting after? Great video once again! Neutral touches are alwaysa good. Touches which may be more "sexual" needs further chemistry.
Its so good and interesting how wise you treat these topics, its like you know what is best for us and not whats best for your wallet. Keep the work up!
Great advice Hamza you have said in this video. Thank you brother for this important message.
Feels good to come check back on hamza. Pretty much graduated from the normal content but always good wisdom.
literally worked
i wasn't even actively thinking of doing it, i just sorta did lol
thanks hamza, my Christmas eve was splendid because of you
7:35 Ngl, I do this 😂, where I walk past a girl then turn around to approach her.
But hey, everyone has their own way of approaching. Don’t listen to online shit, and just do it. Shut off your brain and do it.
It doesn’t matter who sees it, because at the end of the day, *nobody will remember you*. Even the girl who you approach. If she rejects you, she’ll forget you by tomorrow, and the people around will have forgotten (if they even looked at you two at all) in 5 mins.
So just do it. Approach her. *”You Miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.”*
-Joshen
i’m just gonna say this to try to get another perspective on things, i started to work out more and i’m feeling more confident by the day, but it’s just a matter of putting myself out there that burdens me from meeting women. once i actually talk to one things actually go well, but they come to me first. i want to be the one making the moves but my conscious and my own fear keeps me from doing it. what should i do?
I start by just talking to women in general. If your a work, school, out , just say something small like hello when you pass by them. Or initiate basic small talk when the opportunity presents itself. It doesn’t have to be someone you’re attracted to but anyone you see.
bro hamza u are making really life changing videos ur changing lifestyles
I think for first date, first time meeting: 1 arm hug is the best way start physical contact
Dating someone first time here. This video is what i needed Thank you God for blessing Hamza with this video idea
This was one of the things I've been struggling with the most.
Thanks for providing genuine advice for this kind of topic you're actually a legend dude.
I know you guys will roll your eyes reading this. But nofap helped a ton with getting over the anxiety of getting physical. When you hold your nut for that long your brain eventually realizes that the only way you can release is with a woman. So when you have a women whose comfortable around you and your in a position where the touch barrier can be broken, you act on it without any second thoughts and you make the move because you just have more masculine hormone build up inside of you. I’d recommend nofap 100% for getting over this.
I'm from Latin America, and usually when guys introduce ourselves to girls we usually give 2 kisses on the cheeks like in Spain but once I started living in UK people dont really do that in here and then I became much more akward introducing myself to British girls with physical touch sadly to the point i felt not confident with physical touch. In the Spanish culture physical touch are very common.
Hamzas answering questions I didn’t know I had
yup thats me. Was always too afraid to do anything and asking girls sounds nice on twitter but in real life that makes it so awkward and they secretly hate it even tho they wont say that.
Coming home then seeing Hamza posted >
The wimp example had me dying😂
the best mentor of this world
A little idea that has been helping me: When you run away from something, you mark that thing as "too scary for a person like me" in your brain. This explains why doing things that scare you can be so meaningful.
Those shoulders striations are popping
Be assertive and have standards boys. We connect by touching
HAMZA AHMED!
Can you record a video where you explain to us your face cleaning routine? What cosmetics you use, what is crucial in taking care of your face, etc. I would be greatful, because your face is a high tier presentation 😆
cold water mate. And if you have dry skin use a moisturiser. That's it. All these facial cleansers are stupid and useless just like shampoo.
@@paradise9151 You say so 🤨... interesting. Thank you.
@@pazeros6424 your skin can be cleaned with just water dude. Spreading unfamiliar chemicals on it will just denature it. It's probably the reason your skin is dry in the first place
Bro this bro is changing my life in a good way💪
One tip to make getting the final concent non akward, non weak: Before you stick it in ask "are you ready (name)" They will be even more eager to go for it. Do it just in case. Each time ive dont that they always thank me for asking them after the deed or a while after because or some reason noone has done that with them.
Hmmm idk bro, If you do foreplay right the girl should be begging you to stick it in.Has happened to me quite a few times, if a girl is begging you to do it that's all the concent you need right?
The specific examples are just ones that are statistically proven as open body language and all. They associate with the kind of people who are open to being touched, but it is all psychology. If I can tell you one thing about psychology, it is that NOTHING is sure. There are always exceptions and it is very personal. The brain is SO complex. We can find generals, but not givens. So like... "if she has her feet like this" or "if she plays with her hair" those tips are useful to an extent. It gives away things about specific emotions or thought patterns and all, but it is never a guarantee. Not even if multiple signs are given. So what you say is true. It's a matter of getting a feeling for it. And honestly... I asked for permission too, mostly. But you did convince me to go try again (mostly because before, every time I tried I got called weird, no matter what, because I probably already had the rep of the weird kid). And honestly... The people who immediately freak out and get angry and won't even go "well that was awkward... Let's go on" are probably not the people you would want to be around anyway...
Daamn how accurate hamza is sometimes😂 how he was describing the netflix arm thing🤣
On the topic of getting physical... Hamza Vs Logan Paul... Big payday awaits 😉🤑💸💰💲👀👀👀
What the dog doing
Hmmmm logan paul wrecks hamza..most probably.
@@morijin5568 Who’s Logan Paul
@@TheTrueAdonis American youtuber. Does boxing and has wrestling background.
@@morijin5568 ah
Nah Hamza definitely slams
Its all about non-verbal communication. Gotta trust your gut
Bro u know that some blackpillers might take the thumbnail wrong and report u 😭
13 Reasons why you need to listen to Hamza.
1- You have bad posture now.
2- You just corrected it.
3- You found it funny.
Just found your channel and wow your one of few people on yt that actually speaks clear fax
I feel like I kinda need this video. Because I am a person who really loves mostly with physical touch. But like... In general. So I hope this video also has some tips for public as well!
make a vedio about how to deal with men or women tests and how to differentiate between them and an insult.
thanks for every thing you've tought us bro
I enjoy how self aware and comfortable you are with yourself.
Hello hamza, thank you for your advice and how much youve helped me in life, I was wondering if you could make a video on your parents expectations on your grades and social life, like them expecting you to go to partys and get good grades.
Just hit 20 subs in my Self-improvement RUclips channel! Getting closer to seeing you at the top 💪💪💪
Tbh, I think there’s different methods of escalating in a sexual way. For me, I talk to women I’m attracted to in a way that makes them WANT me to get physical with them
Weirdo
@@keineahnung472 he's not weird, tykwondoe is a great example of this.
@@lillooseleaf9292 doesn't work for me
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This is an area where the PUAs actually have good advice: kino escalation. Gradually increase the intimacy of touch so it’s not 0 to 100 instantly. After each touch, see how they react, if it seems receptive, the next touch can be a bit more intimate. She doesn’t look receptive, back off a bit for now, but consider trying again a bit later. Start with touching the arm when making a point or something, maybe touch her on the back or hip later, etc.
Ofc there will be women who don't like muscles. Yeah I've heard some weird facts that supposedly 8 or 9 out of 10 women would prefer dad body rather than muscular physique because it makes them feel more comfortable not trying to be as good with their body all the time or some shit but I think you can't take advice from women because they don't know what they want themselves, that's why they need to be told what to do also they don't understand neither themselves nor each other
This video is gold, Hamza! the truth with the right words!
Hamza, for young people who will go to Uni soon:
How would you advise us to structure our life? Go full try hard in uni or fuck around and have fun and obviously do self improvement?
yeah please need help
just get shreddded af brah
Passing is passing. Definitely grind for your passing scores but also have fun. Find a middle ground that works.
I think he would probably say that focus on building yourself no matter what stage you are in!
And for uni, anyone can go hard core studying if they want to go to that specific field requiring degree or do something on your own. The main aim here is to be financially independent!
@@1Psalmaday that’s bad advice. The grade u get on your degree also matters especially if u want to do a postgraduate.
This shouldn't matter if you're in a real relationship with emotional connection
You are one of the few youtubers that I watch and really give me hope with your videos. Keep up the good work Hamza
Hamza shoulders are fucking huge bro 😎
I'm currently at a point in my life, where I don't want to get into any girls pants or heart. On the other hand, I'd also really like to find a significant other (I'm 30). Not really actively looking for someone currently (not going out etc.), though. Really weird state. Got kind of burned out by too many bad experiences in the past (i.e. all of the experiences I had had so far). Anyways, I'm sure this video will help, if I ever try to go for that. If nothing else, this video really, really helped to build me up. You always seem like an awesome guy. Thank you, mate.