Those boomers who are still friends with all their exes

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  • Опубликовано: 6 дек 2024

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  • @birdlegscass
    @birdlegscass 10 дней назад +2244

    the slappability is migrating to the other side of the camera

    • @Thunderbender18830
      @Thunderbender18830 10 дней назад +209

      While the Dad isn’t slappable, I wouldn’t exactly say the Son is either. This IS a weird dynamic even if it is kinda wholesome.

    • @dsbg187
      @dsbg187 10 дней назад

      ​@@Thunderbender18830💯

    • @TimothyDonaghue
      @TimothyDonaghue 10 дней назад +131

      @@Thunderbender18830maybe it's weird for you and your Fortnight buddies but in the real world we celebrate

    • @Seronimo93
      @Seronimo93 10 дней назад +92

      @@Thunderbender18830 The son called his dad a f**king weirdo. That deserves a slap.

    • @DevMan2342
      @DevMan2342 10 дней назад +39

      @@Seronimo93and his son was all like “ohh why is Sharon and Barbara friends, and playing tennis, and having fun?”

  • @endlessmyth7040
    @endlessmyth7040 10 дней назад +2040

    Asked myself out loud "Are they swingers?"

    • @theslappablejerk
      @theslappablejerk  10 дней назад +645

      What would be weirder, if they were or if they weren’t?

    • @Daiyuki117
      @Daiyuki117 10 дней назад +177

      Swingers who just aren't that into each other. They've seen each other naked and it's no big deal, but they're not passionate youths anymore.

    • @LaciRae
      @LaciRae 10 дней назад +24

      @@Daiyuki117makes sense enough that it should be commonplace by now

    • @sumo-ninja
      @sumo-ninja 10 дней назад +10

      ​@@theslappablejerkthink I'm gonna have to call it even lol it's hard to pick

    • @skyethebard
      @skyethebard 10 дней назад +15

      ​@@theslappablejerkThey sound poly to me but they could be swingers. It would be weird for them to be vanilla and mono.

  • @probowler2000
    @probowler2000 10 дней назад +424

    It's true! As a child of a boomer, shes just always friends with everyone including ex husbands. Idk i think its sweet tbh i don't hate this guy at all

  • @Zero_Shift
    @Zero_Shift 10 дней назад +1682

    This started weird.. then got a bit reasonable.. then got weirdly wholesome. If this isn't some weird bedroom stuff, I'd say this is pretty wholesome even if it's not that normal.

    • @Hyperchicken
      @Hyperchicken 10 дней назад +131

      Honestly even if it is weird bedroom stuff - as long as it’s all consensual and everyone understands the situation then hey good for them

    • @Zero_Shift
      @Zero_Shift 10 дней назад +29

      @Hyperchicken Well, he's openly talking to his kid about it. And even having the call go off. So I'd assume it's not

    • @Elithrae
      @Elithrae 10 дней назад +30

      @@Zero_Shift Yeah, like, if there is a bedroom component they're either all hush hush abou tit, or they just genuinely are all friends, which frankly, I love.

    • @vicwaju
      @vicwaju 9 дней назад +2

      @@Hyperchicken yeah but that just makes it a lil less wholesome 😭

    • @hanajak
      @hanajak 9 дней назад +5

      ​@@Hyperchicken Nah the weird bedroom stuff makes it a problem 😂. The big open-marriage friend group who are all besties and cool with it, while keeping their relationships in tact only happens in fiction.

  • @Rynewulf
    @Rynewulf 6 дней назад +33

    This is probably the most wholesome and positive image of a Boomer on the entire internet.
    I love theyve still got that Boomer-ism of being completely baffled that their worldview and experience isnt universal and wont even entertain it, golden cherry on top for the video there

  • @misatobestgirl7230
    @misatobestgirl7230 10 дней назад +2851

    Honestly he seems way happier and more fulfilled than the son.

    • @theslappablejerk
      @theslappablejerk  10 дней назад +704

      Yeah the son honestly is kind of being a negative little beech

    • @DevMan2342
      @DevMan2342 10 дней назад +141

      @@theslappablejerk yeah just because you break up with someone doesn’t mean you aren’t still friends with them. I got really annoyed at the part where the son asked “why are they best friends”

    • @makskauzny3794
      @makskauzny3794 10 дней назад +72

      We were the slappable jerks all along 😳

    • @joevines3428
      @joevines3428 10 дней назад +3

      That's the joke

    • @EASTWYCK2
      @EASTWYCK2 10 дней назад

      Here comes yuki!
      I mean Jenny!
      ​@@makskauzny3794

  • @Mujtabaa_M
    @Mujtabaa_M 10 дней назад +535

    The somewhat mild expectations i had for this video differed WILDLY from what was actually presented to me. I never knew this archetype of person existed.

    • @Mujtabaa_M
      @Mujtabaa_M 10 дней назад +60

      Though honestly, i feel like this is just a closeted poly relationship going on lmao

    • @BeginningOfHorizon
      @BeginningOfHorizon 10 дней назад +3

      MONIKA DDLC FOLLOWIN ME AGAIN

    • @ferretyluv
      @ferretyluv 10 дней назад +30

      I guess they don’t see each other as threats because they’re all married now.

    • @sockpuppetqueen
      @sockpuppetqueen 10 дней назад +34

      Weirdly, it is. This is exactly how my parents are. I can't conclusively prove that they're not swingers, tbh, but either way it's surprisingly healthy

    • @GillfigGarstang
      @GillfigGarstang 10 дней назад +3

      ⁠@@sockpuppetqueenI think your parents might be swingers.

  • @ferretyluv
    @ferretyluv 10 дней назад +166

    My dad’s on speaking terms with his ex wife. They don’t see each other much but it’s never awkward. And my half brothers are close with both of them, my dad’s wife, and their mom’s husband. He’s always modeled healthy relationships for me. Hearing people talk about how their divorced parents are constantly taking each other to court baffled me. Still not taking my ex out to dinner.

  • @yawnclark
    @yawnclark 10 дней назад +1818

    I think.... I'm on the boomer's side here. It's just so wholesome.

    • @jacksonoutside
      @jacksonoutside 10 дней назад +183

      It seems really emotionally mature

    • @theslappablejerk
      @theslappablejerk  10 дней назад +596

      At that age, a lot boomers don’t give af about exes and all that drama and bullshit because by then everyone has them lol. I think it’s nice when they’re all friends

    • @ricardoalves9605
      @ricardoalves9605 10 дней назад +118

      The weirdest part is that they're celebrating their anniversary while not being a couple, otherwise them still being friends is honestly pretty mature.

    • @Seronimo93
      @Seronimo93 10 дней назад +52

      ​@@ricardoalves9605 I mean, maybe they just want to remember the happy moments they shared. If everyone's okay with it, then I guess that's fine.

    • @SubtotalStar850-uh8pg
      @SubtotalStar850-uh8pg 10 дней назад +10

      Honestly same, I feel like I have a good relationship with my ex's as well, it's actually funny the people I used to be friends with seem to have a worse opinion of me than my ex's do, and what's really funny is they have that opinion because they thought I treated my ex poorly despite the fact she's not friends with them either

  • @spockezri
    @spockezri 10 дней назад +1399

    honestly this is healthier than the way half my friends treat their exes 💀💀

    • @iGame3D
      @iGame3D 10 дней назад +6

      Because it's not real.

    • @Aelffwynn
      @Aelffwynn 10 дней назад +19

      ​@iGame3D no, i know people like this.

    • @kevingrisler4123
      @kevingrisler4123 10 дней назад +28

      Going on a date with an ex while married is not healthy haha. That's how people get cheated on and then they act surprised 😯

    • @Aelffwynn
      @Aelffwynn 10 дней назад +19

      @kevingrisler4123 everyone knows about it and someone else is literally invited lol. But keep on with your paranoia. I'm sure it makes you very attractive on Hinge.

    • @TwinkleToesX86
      @TwinkleToesX86 9 дней назад +26

      @@iGame3Dit is real. I’ve been divorced for almost 20 years, remarried for 15. My husband and I are very close friends with my ex and his wife, and my husband ex and her husband. I mean, it’s not like we hang out every weekend or anything, because we’re 50 years old and have lives lol. But whenever we do go out, it’s usually with one of them. They’re good people, and there are children involved. The kids have grown up much more emotionally mature and happy seeing everyone at peace and able to genuinely enjoy each other’s company.

  • @firstbradley3281
    @firstbradley3281 10 дней назад +148

    This sounds like the perfect arrangement if you want to go out to eat for no reason at a fancy restaurant

  • @Infinitysquaredorsomething
    @Infinitysquaredorsomething 8 дней назад +58

    Yeah this is actually awesome. They're just not made for romance together, but they shared huge parts of their lives together. That is somethig to treasure.

    • @birdie8006
      @birdie8006 2 дня назад +1

      This happened with my aunt and uncle. Separated but still went vacationing together…til my uncle remarried and his wife basically forbade my uncle from speaking to my aunt. :/ my new uncle that married my aunt is pretty cool though.

  • @UnregisteredUsername
    @UnregisteredUsername 10 дней назад +822

    honestly im on the same page w this guy , we should normalize leaving on good terms and stayin touch w the people we care/cared about 😭

    • @TESkyrimizer
      @TESkyrimizer 10 дней назад +42

      no way you goober
      going from saying "ily" every night to not talking for the next 60 years until one of you croaks is the much more mature and well adjusted option imo

    • @thebetteralex2978
      @thebetteralex2978 10 дней назад +23

      as long as they didnt cheat on your something

    • @thebetteralex2978
      @thebetteralex2978 10 дней назад +9

      @@TESkyrimizer i mean i guess it would kind of destroy me being just "friends" with someone who i'm probably not over it, but one day we could still be friends

    • @ouionverraplustard2567
      @ouionverraplustard2567 10 дней назад +31

      Yeah I think it really depends on your feelings about the relationship, people should feel free to stay friends with their exes or not if they want to and are mature about it
      Ofc if it makes your current lover suffer because you don't have clear boundaries it's a problem, or if the relationship was toxic probably not a good idea until things change a lot -- just go with the flow as long as you're not an ass / hurting anyone else

    • @iGame3D
      @iGame3D 10 дней назад +10

      Nope. one leave for a reason. You don't go hang out with your old bosses who fired you do you? Because I'm sure they'd call police to have you removed from teh premises.

  • @SikeyYT
    @SikeyYT 10 дней назад +288

    Honestly I think this makes more of a statement on how its not good that current american culture has made it so breakups must end dramatically and cannot be anything else ever

    • @tbkswagg
      @tbkswagg 10 дней назад +3

      Romcoms for you and feminism. Everything has their negatives, romcoms idk if they have any positives tho lmao

    • @shgds
      @shgds 10 дней назад

      ​@@tbkswagg "feminism" nigga how

    • @oscarhess1376
      @oscarhess1376 9 дней назад +29

      @@tbkswaggcrazy how the creator of the video would not agree with you on anything that you just said. The real problem is that dating culture has just gotten toxic and now dating lots of people is bad. Nobody says “hey this just isn’t working out anymore”. People drag along relationships that won’t work for far to long

    • @tbkswagg
      @tbkswagg 9 дней назад +4

      @@oscarhess1376 Why would I need the creator to agree with me lol? People drag relationships for too long? The average is like 2-3 years tops. So you'd choose the hyper mode that we should turbo swap relationships in 3-5 months? In that time you can't possibly know a person enough. People actually break up too easy nowadays. Relationships are commodified, we treat our significant other like some kind of product. Oh it expired lets throw it out. It happens what happens to our tools. We can no longer repair them because they are made that way and we need to buy a new one. We can no longer fix bad things in relationships and throw out the other to find a new one.
      I genuinely don't know what you meant by people dragging out stuff for too long... I mean people in toxic relationships tend to drag it out many times. But that's more of a personal problem with both. They are pathologic therefore codependent. It is not that much different in this case than in older days, so dating culture didn't fix this issue sadly.
      Statistically people who found love with their first partner and didn't broke up are the least likely to end up in divorce. Romcoms teach people that there is always "the one", so if something bad happens "oh I just haven't found the one".
      Does anyone stop and think about: "Am I the One?" Always it's the other huh... lol

    • @hanajak
      @hanajak 8 дней назад +4

      @@SikeyYT I think most people in most cultures would feel uncomfortable with this type of arrangement. They might be decent people, but I wouldn't want my husband's exes in my house, or him going on "dates" with them to celebrate their past marriage. That's weird, and reeks of "sister-wife" mentality.

  • @marioluigi911
    @marioluigi911 10 дней назад +92

    ive always tried to be friends or at least be on good terms with any ex. ive always believed that when you truly love someone even if you break up, a part of you will always care. After some time and healing i usually reach out even if its just to be just to be on good terms. There is a friendship within every healthy relationship and i feel like thats the hardest thing to lose sometimes.

    • @scarlb12
      @scarlb12 9 дней назад +7

      Some time apart is key. I feel like too many people try to go directly into friendship after breaking up, and that's just too hard usually.

    • @marioluigi911
      @marioluigi911 9 дней назад +4

      @@scarlb12 yes, both people must be ready.

  • @sockpuppetqueen
    @sockpuppetqueen 10 дней назад +305

    My stepdad had like 3 exes at his wedding to my mom. They literally met through one of those exes, who was a friend of my mom lol

    • @FoundSheep-AN
      @FoundSheep-AN 6 дней назад +2

      That’s weird

    • @resikin
      @resikin 5 дней назад

      That is aura

    • @vehk9377
      @vehk9377 5 дней назад

      How'd it go?

    • @sockpuppetqueen
      @sockpuppetqueen 5 дней назад +1

      @@vehk9377 The wedding was chill and now they've been happily married for uhhh, 21 years I want to say? Ideal, tbh.

  • @valentinax8266
    @valentinax8266 10 дней назад +28

    Ok but this seems like a genuinely wholesome guy who had suu a good handle on breakups and relationships they all stayed friends like if he’s still going to dinner with his exes and their all friends clearly theyre all on good terms. Also his response of “just because things didnt work out between us doesnt mean we cant celebrate :)” is such a genuinely wholesome one. They may not have been right for each other but they still valued the time they had together and still care about one another. I needed this today.

  • @FishareFriendsNotFood972
    @FishareFriendsNotFood972 10 дней назад +139

    When you get older, silly details like who used to date who back in the day becomes less important than staying close with those who knew you when you were young.

    • @livinlicious
      @livinlicious 6 дней назад +4

      Some people have been longer friends than exes now.
      Imagine leaving your 10 year relationship. Being friends for another 40.
      And then giving a fuck who was with who some half lifetime ago.
      People need to grow up.

    • @nsde5945
      @nsde5945 5 дней назад

      So true, i find im loving staying in touch with those who knew me, theyve become extra special to me

  • @Psilo-gn1sx
    @Psilo-gn1sx 10 дней назад +295

    I'm confused, everyone seems chill but the kid. Am I the slappable one?

    • @MaxMagnums
      @MaxMagnums 10 дней назад +18

      What did the five fingers say to the face

    • @Sunnysideanyway
      @Sunnysideanyway 10 дней назад +18

      ​@@MaxMagnums Nothing fingers cant talk

    • @Seronimo93
      @Seronimo93 10 дней назад

      I mean, the kid literally calls his dad a f**king weirdo. He deserves a slap.

    • @hdajq892ey7
      @hdajq892ey7 10 дней назад +2

      yes

    • @OnlyAchievingHere
      @OnlyAchievingHere 10 дней назад +4

      @@MaxMagnums I’m interested in knowing the answer to this question

  • @mystiquevening
    @mystiquevening 10 дней назад +91

    As long as everyone in the dynamic is happy, and consenting to a relationship adults, I think this is wholesome. We’re all going to die and that’s it, enjoy the people you enjoy while you can. Don’t tear apart other people’s relationships to do so, but if everyone’s good, random people’s opinion on it doesn’t matter. Good on you “Dan”!!

  • @michelleh4588
    @michelleh4588 10 дней назад +19

    This was oddly comforting. Like maybe everything and everyone just evens out as we age

  • @FringePrincess
    @FringePrincess 10 дней назад +100

    “Life isn’t all about the Fortnite.”
    Words to live by.

  • @JP-lu9ed
    @JP-lu9ed 10 дней назад +31

    Just got done visiting with my spouse’s ex. We went to church together. Always a fun coffee hour when it’s time for introductions. We all love the same grandkids so that makes it easy. Yes, some people think it’s puzzling and weird. But what it is -- it’s lucky. That’s what it is.

    • @Axqu7227
      @Axqu7227 8 дней назад +4

      That's super beautiful! I'm glad the kids have bonus grandparents to love them

  • @samuelbarber6177
    @samuelbarber6177 9 дней назад +26

    Aw, this is cute. And can we talk about how much his wife trusts him to suggest he take his ex to dinner? I think that’s sweet.

    • @hanajak
      @hanajak 9 дней назад +5

      In the context, she probably just wanted to spend some time with her own ex 😂

  • @StemValen-h5g
    @StemValen-h5g 9 дней назад +27

    You never know what they’ve been through together, illnesses, loss of family and childhood friends, tragedies and milestones. Sometimes familiar faces can be anchors in the stormy seas of life.

  • @Catalyst2812
    @Catalyst2812 10 дней назад +51

    The dad is right. I’ve broken up with a few people on good terms and remained in contact with them following that. They don’t suddenly stop being a person you care about, they aren’t ghosts that need to be exorcised; they are people, we just didn’t have romantic chemistry. Arbitrary insecurity driven dating rules aside, there is nothing wrong with becoming friends with an ex-partner, especially if they were a friend prior to you guys dating. Just make sure to obviously clarify intentions on both sides and then set boundaries if you are in a commited relationship while still being friends with your ex.

    • @miceatah9359
      @miceatah9359 5 дней назад +2

      To me this sounds more like u guys just cant say no

    • @Zin.Monoko
      @Zin.Monoko 2 дня назад +1

      I agree 👍🏾

    • @Zin.Monoko
      @Zin.Monoko 2 дня назад +1

      ​@miceatah9359 Not really. It's easy to understand

    • @wscratchensniff5872
      @wscratchensniff5872 День назад

      Let's suppose both parties have clarified their intentions and are good friends now. What would you suggest if their new partners are not okay with them being friends with an ex?

    • @vybinvincent
      @vybinvincent 13 часов назад

      Man whatever, that’s cool if it’s friends but people you’ve slept with are different. I don’t believe it’s a good idea to be hanging out with an ex as friends, even if you’re single. Seems more like you’re just trying to hang onto the past, or use them, rather than just let them be. Not everything lasts forever. Connecting with others is good but sometimes things need a definitive end.

  • @benoit8381
    @benoit8381 10 дней назад +69

    You are amazing man ;) Cheers from France

  • @xenon8927
    @xenon8927 10 дней назад +57

    Fun fact: The soundtrack of the Tom Cruise movie Cocktail referenced in the beginning of this video gave us both Don’t Worry, Be Happy AND Kokomo.

    • @hisime13
      @hisime13 3 дня назад

      I was assuming it had been made up for the bit. Every day, a new gem of knowledge!

  • @Mothermochi
    @Mothermochi 10 дней назад +114

    We are talking about the “free love” generation Lolol 😂

    • @Elithrae
      @Elithrae 10 дней назад +19

      Too bad a ton of them forgot about that and now treat people who are polyamorous or in other types of ethical open relationships like we're literal satan spawn. =/

    • @tbkswagg
      @tbkswagg 10 дней назад +8

      ​@@Elithrae Yeah, I mean it is kind of different from this example in the vid. Of course the hippies back then had things more wild than that lmao but I think that was the minority even back then. Also you are right some people just forget who they were when they were young. It comes from fear and love too. Sometimes people love you but are unable to show it in a healthy way. Parents or lovers, it happens everywhere.

    • @Mothermochi
      @Mothermochi 10 дней назад +1

      @@Elithrae it’s because many are hypocrites, lol
      They were first labeled as the “me” generation and it tracks.

    • @Arginne
      @Arginne 10 дней назад +8

      @@Elithraemost people don’t think about you as much as you think they do.

    • @Zilharr-eo3oh
      @Zilharr-eo3oh 10 дней назад

      ​@@Elithrae Nobody gives a fuck unless you give them a reason to give a fuck

  • @pronetogames7946
    @pronetogames7946 10 дней назад +244

    Thought this would be like the exs breaking up on good terms and staying friends but it seems like they never broke up

    • @everybodysfavoritenobody
      @everybodysfavoritenobody 10 дней назад

      What do you mean?

    • @randomt800kiddo2
      @randomt800kiddo2 10 дней назад +31

      @@everybodysfavoritenobodya couple breaks up, remains on good terms and hangs out regularly so it seems like they never broke up because the amount of time they spend together didnt really drop

    • @everybodysfavoritenobody
      @everybodysfavoritenobody 10 дней назад +11

      @@randomt800kiddo2 is that a bad thing? I mean I understand going out with each individual ex alone (especially without their spouses) but they were going as a group right? The husband was ok with it too.

    • @randomt800kiddo2
      @randomt800kiddo2 10 дней назад +29

      @@everybodysfavoritenobody honestly it's kind of a gray area for me personally. maybe if they were still young i'd see it as a bit of a red flag, but at the boomer's age, they're just happy to still be connected to people from their past ig

    • @everybodysfavoritenobody
      @everybodysfavoritenobody 10 дней назад

      @randomt800kiddo2 very confusing indeed

  • @Tarik360
    @Tarik360 9 дней назад +19

    1:12 The dismissive handwave is cherry on top

  • @jamplatform3429
    @jamplatform3429 10 дней назад +5

    Bro...that phone call is just too real. You got the tone down to a T, I swear I've overheard my dad and uncles talking like that

  • @shiv421kobra
    @shiv421kobra 10 дней назад +26

    Remember kids, put down the Fork-Knife and hang out with your exes more.

  • @taserrr
    @taserrr 10 дней назад +15

    I can understand this if you're from a smaller town where everybody kinda knows each other, and in that way this is pretty wholesome.

  • @TheLautik
    @TheLautik 9 дней назад +8

    Started weird, than became reasonable, than wholesome and ended even weirder than it started 😂perfect

  • @ianpgmusicfanfictionart
    @ianpgmusicfanfictionart 10 дней назад +35

    This video left me very confused but equally entertained.

  • @Axqu7227
    @Axqu7227 8 дней назад +3

    Boomer bro living his best life! I needed a wholesome one today. I'm glad he and Barbara (and he and his kid's mom!) realized they made better friends than lovers, that he and Sharon found happiness, that Barbara has a great partner in Rick, and that the whole friend group seems to have a great time together. Everything about this one feels warm and healthy.

  • @SilkieSqueaks
    @SilkieSqueaks 10 дней назад +37

    Oh i LIKED this one. I'm still close with both my exes and it feels good to be able to say that bc they're still both really good people.

  • @MrTehRave
    @MrTehRave 7 дней назад +2

    One of the best ones. Love this guy reminds me of my own parents. Boomers just had a different mental game man

  • @jonquilgemstone
    @jonquilgemstone 9 дней назад +11

    This is definitely some kind of polyamorous situation here, lol. There's getting along with your exes and then there's going out for one-on-one dinner dates on your old wedding anniversaries.

    • @raznaak
      @raznaak 8 дней назад +1

      Don't look for filth when there is none. Sometimes people can stay friends with exes without any ulterior motives, the relationship didn't work for some reason but they still keep being friends.

    • @AM-so3sc
      @AM-so3sc 7 дней назад +3

      ​@@raznaak people can stay friends with exes for sure, but polyamory isn't "filth"

    • @alleycat616
      @alleycat616 5 дней назад +1

      @@AM-so3scyes it is.

    • @BabyHell_Cheese
      @BabyHell_Cheese 5 дней назад +1

      Yes and? How is that bad? What’s wrong with it if everyone is an aware and consenting adult?

  • @JohnnyWolfblood
    @JohnnyWolfblood 10 дней назад +17

    I'm having Vietnam flashbacks of those videos I saw of boomer women talking about how much they're still in love with their ex from 50 years ago while their husband is right there looking like he's just being knifed in the fucking heart.

    • @mommalion7028
      @mommalion7028 9 дней назад +9

      thank you! you get it. a lot of the people in the comments have rose tinted shades on.

    • @skromnyasha
      @skromnyasha 9 дней назад +1

      ​@@mommalion7028yes! Like I cannot imagine loving someone and then just seeing them be happy with another. It just feels wrong and I never look back and seek them out. It hurts

    • @raznaak
      @raznaak 8 дней назад +2

      That's not the same.
      They just stayed friends instead of burning off all bridges, sometimes a relationship just doesn't work, but it doesn't mean you must hate them now.
      What you're talking about is people staying in the past, in the video they just kept going.

  • @glonx639
    @glonx639 10 дней назад +17

    Are... Are they swingers?

    • @dylancrosby2451
      @dylancrosby2451 10 дней назад +6

      Obviously

    • @fh9061
      @fh9061 8 дней назад +7

      YES finally someone else sees it. All the comments are talking about how "wholesome" it is I thought I was going insane.

    • @Jennymlnd
      @Jennymlnd 6 дней назад

      ​@@fh9061you can still have deep connections with people without banging them... Loves about a lot more than that.

  • @Siegmernes
    @Siegmernes 10 дней назад +17

    Straight up my parents. They still hang out with or without their spouses.
    When you break up while you still like each other, you can actually keep a relationship.

  • @elnegromatapacos162
    @elnegromatapacos162 10 дней назад +2

    I do my best to live up to this ideal and am still friends with most of my exes (and generally left on OK terms even with the ones I don't talk to anymore). They're people I liked spending time with and cared about, I don't see why that would suddenly stop after breaking up. The reality this man lives in is kind and caring and I wish everyone could have that.

  • @reeewhydoihavetochangethese
    @reeewhydoihavetochangethese 8 дней назад +1

    I always stay friends with my exes if they're cool with it. We shouldn't miss out on a solid friendship just because it didn't work out in a romantic way. This dad is a chill guy.
    Def swingers lmfao

  • @SmurfieDurfie
    @SmurfieDurfie 9 дней назад +1

    This seems so wholesome :) I'm working at a place when I don't have school and we are all like a big friend group to each other pretty much. Having sime community is amazing
    Thanks for making this video, it reminds me that there are a lot of good people and made my day better!

  • @lefish5277
    @lefish5277 9 дней назад +16

    I dated a guy waaaay older than me (I think he was like 50 or something & I was 25) and part of the reason I liked him was that he was still friends with all his exes. He didn’t have one bad thing to say about them. I lost contact but if I still lived nearby I would put money on it that we’d still be friends too. Some people are just really chill like that and just aren’t built to hate.

    • @FoundSheep-AN
      @FoundSheep-AN 6 дней назад

      He was probably having sex with all of his exes

    • @cynthiaholland13
      @cynthiaholland13 5 дней назад +1

      What made you date someone so much older? Were young guys less interested or did the older guy offer more in terms of fun and finances?

    • @sunshineandrei2569
      @sunshineandrei2569 5 дней назад

      ​@@cynthiaholland13 the older guy just had a personality they liked.

  • @domeatown
    @domeatown 10 дней назад +8

    I literally have never met anyone like this. But I feel happy knowing they are maybe out there if you are spoofing 'em.

    • @raznaak
      @raznaak 8 дней назад

      Two of my family's best friends are my father's exes from 45/50 years ago.

  • @andrewbyrnes6389
    @andrewbyrnes6389 7 дней назад +1

    I kind of love this character. He’s just living his life and his son who is too busy fortnighting just can’t get it 😢

  • @realcrybarr
    @realcrybarr 10 дней назад +24

    Yeahhh, this seems like a healthier example, ngl. My parents remaining friends after separating? Now, that was a little weird. Especially since my father makes a horrible friend. I don't know why my mother insists that he was and still is her best friend. He's just awful to her in general

  • @Beelzineff
    @Beelzineff 9 дней назад +1

    I've seen this with boomers who are still close with people from their hometown. They all grew up together so they can't imagine not being in each other's lives.

  • @BellaBarossa
    @BellaBarossa 2 дня назад +1

    My boomer parents have been divorced since 1987, and they still do Christmas and birthdays together - along with their spouses.
    I've always found it simultaneously hilarious and heart-warming, because it means that we kids got to experience great co-parenting without the stress of keeping our divorced parents and their spouses away from each other at family events. But it's also totally weird. 😂

  • @cecyliamaiden1973
    @cecyliamaiden1973 9 дней назад +3

    It honestly depends on the ex and reasons you broke up. One of my exes is my best friend, we work better as friends. Another one, no contact. You can still care about people but not want to be in a relationship with them. The key is knowing when it’s healthy and when it’s not

  • @Raphael0654
    @Raphael0654 5 дней назад +1

    I worked at an elderly care facility & met a couple who were 80 & 90, & they'd both tell me long jovial tales about the swinger escapades of their youth...like it was just the most natural thing in the world. 😮

  • @Nikkidafox
    @Nikkidafox 10 дней назад +7

    Honestly if they were born a generation or two later, they would all be a polycule, I'm calling it.

    • @jonquilgemstone
      @jonquilgemstone 9 дней назад +1

      They probably are but are disguising it, lol. The dad definitely knew his son would decline the invitation.

    • @cynthiaholland13
      @cynthiaholland13 5 дней назад

      They're not sexual just friends. Why does that have to have a weird name

  • @lovelylipbonesouwwwwwwwolv2198
    @lovelylipbonesouwwwwwwwolv2198 5 дней назад +1

    I agree to an extent. I just don't like how this generation has to treat their ex as if they murdered someone after they broke up 😆

  • @upsydaysy3042
    @upsydaysy3042 9 дней назад +1

    I am the female x gen version of that dad LOL My partner and I visit one of my exes every year in Italy and he is at every family function, while another one is a putative son to my parents after 20 years we broke up, but we never meet or talk because his wife would not like it, and I respect that (I live abroad, so the logistics are easy).
    There are people in my past I went no contact with, but when a relationship fails, there is not always a villain. After a period of distance, it's just natural that two people who liked each other enough to be partners find a different way to care for each other. It makes for a richer life, and it also helps to put life in perspective, to have in your present a successful friendship born from a sentimental failure in your past.

  • @copyrightdragon7244
    @copyrightdragon7244 8 дней назад +1

    As someone who’s mom invited her divorced husband (my dad) to a family vacation with his then-fiancée, I probably find this a lot less weird than most people. Honestly? A lot of it, imo, boils down to how difficult it can be to find and make such stable, long-lasting friendships. His statement about still being friends and hanging out just bc you couldn’t make it work, romantically, is accurate. Besides, it means the kid got to (hopefully) have healthy relationships with both of his parents.

  • @owenleal
    @owenleal 7 дней назад +1

    Thats honestly beautiful, I guess when you reach a certain age strong connections become more and more precious and you dont want to lose them. As long as things ended amicably, why waste a perfectly good potential friendship.

  • @snowwonder9814
    @snowwonder9814 3 дня назад +1

    lol never expected a video on these types. I think they just find comfort and happiness in staying with same group of people all their lives, at least that’s how I understand it. I don’t personally get it, built I can see the appeal of having a group of tight-knit people whom you trust even if relationship statuses change.

  • @EyeLean5280
    @EyeLean5280 4 дня назад +1

    Hahaha, yes. I'm a boomer and still good friends with my exes. In fact, I'll be bringing my family with me to visit one of my exes during the winter holidays. He's been like an uncle to our kid, giving archery lessons and all that. Can't say I remember any ex anniversaries though, let alone celebrate them.

  • @haroldp.sadwood1181
    @haroldp.sadwood1181 10 дней назад +8

    I love the videos where we turn out to have been the slappable jerk all along.

  • @antoniasinfield1762
    @antoniasinfield1762 8 дней назад +1

    My parents are 70, divorced for 35 years and good friends. They call to check in on eachother, my dad goes round to visit her every now and then. Other families I know whose parents are completely estranged seem unhappier.

  • @something8245
    @something8245 9 дней назад +1

    My grandfather was exactly like that, he used to throw dinner parties and invite all of his ex wives to hang out

  • @christianldove
    @christianldove 5 дней назад +2

    Part of this stems from the fact that many boomers (especially serial divorcees) divorced not due to misery or abuse or even irreconcilable differences-most of them were pretty generally content. They divorced because they were too busy, got bored with each other, and lost their spark. In an era where no-fault divorce, sexual revolution, and hollywood romances were being normalized, they just did what they were told to do. Not feeling it anymore? Get divorced.
    So in the cases where these divorces were rooted in mutual feelings of emotional boredom and unfulfillment, many of them left on generally friendly terms.

    • @brennanc4321
      @brennanc4321 5 дней назад

      Oh yeah when I worked for a maintenance company in a really rich area randomly some would give us ear fulls about their kids or grandkids, who were themselves adult or middle aged. It was always stuff about them separating because they want to live in Europe, or both never really saw each other and they always were always supposedly very amicable. Lol truthfully like in this video you gotta have a complete DGF attitude in marriage itself for it to be this casual during divorce.

  • @wesleyfung9418
    @wesleyfung9418 5 дней назад +1

    I was kinda weirder out as well at first but I couldn't help but smile towards the end when Barbara's husband made the joke 😂

  • @kacperz5683
    @kacperz5683 7 дней назад +1

    That's so wholesome. The dad had a rational answer for every question and the only argument the son could come up with was literally "because it's weird".
    Why would a feeling of sth being weird stand in the way of people's relationships and happiness?

  • @Rohtix
    @Rohtix 10 дней назад +9

    They're probably more than just friends if it's a "date"

  • @garyjaycat
    @garyjaycat 10 дней назад +5

    Okay but my mom (55) says she gets along with my dad (65) so much more now that they're divorced. Like yeah she never wants to get back with him, and if shes around him too long, shes painfully reminded why she filed for a divorce in the first place, but besides that she still does stuff like give him calls every so often to see hows hes doing and she gives him gifts on his birthday and on Christmas lol

  • @vari1535
    @vari1535 10 дней назад +1

    as long as the breakup was on good terms and not because one (or both) of them was literally toxic or abusive, this seems fine to me.

  • @avril.227
    @avril.227 2 дня назад +1

    No, no and Nope. They are the “Ex” for a very good reason. If we were so great together in each other’s company, we wouldn’t have split up. Yikes.

  • @krzysztofswierzy4226
    @krzysztofswierzy4226 10 дней назад +3

    The thing is this is only healthy social habit for mature adults. In the same time the babit of cutting off from exes works very well for teens and young adults, as they tend to trap themselves in the feelings while lying to themselves, that they are just keeping a healthy friendship.

  • @Owlbearwolf2
    @Owlbearwolf2 8 дней назад +1

    One of these guys has a healthier sense of community and lived under a higher union density in his 20’s, and it shows.

  • @thetiniestleaf
    @thetiniestleaf 10 дней назад +2

    This just put a big smile on my face it’s so nice, if very unconventional!
    …I fear that this is a palette cleanser for an incredibly Slappable Jerk in the future

  • @JoaoSantos-lv4rc
    @JoaoSantos-lv4rc 5 дней назад +1

    sometimes its impossible not to. but ive always felt it weird to write off, supposidely your best friend for a while, the way most people do. think it says something about how ppl approach relationships. or, how i want to at least.

  • @bluebird1914
    @bluebird1914 10 дней назад +2

    I mean the idea that he celebrates his wedding anniversary with his ex-wife and takes her out on a date is absolutely weird, but it's pretty wholesome how they're still on good terms with eachother.
    The only time I think it's weird to be friends with your ex, is if either of you still have feelings for eachother, or if the relationship ended on bad terms.

  • @ariannasv22
    @ariannasv22 9 дней назад +2

    I work with a guy in his 70s, he's been married 4 times and apparently two of them were with the same woman.

  • @actuallysatan236
    @actuallysatan236 10 дней назад +1

    This is so incredibly healthy. If the split was mutual, just a problem with lack of compatibility, there's literally nothing wrong with staying friends with your ex's. Hell, I'm still friends with several of my ex's because our relationships ended when we both realized we were better off as just friends than romantic partners. And OF COURSE your current wife would be friends with your ex wife. I mean, they married the same man, obviously they must have some things in common. Hope you have fun on your double date vacation, that sounds super fulfilling and wholesome.

  • @buyingmilk
    @buyingmilk 10 дней назад +9

    If everyone involved is happy, why not?

  • @w0rmg0rl
    @w0rmg0rl 10 дней назад +1

    honestly he's living the good life, no unnecessary drama, just friendship

  • @omnipresentsnowflake4698
    @omnipresentsnowflake4698 9 дней назад +1

    This is the way to do it, can't always if the reason for breakup goes too crazy but it's nice being friends with people you care about

  • @EB-sw4gb
    @EB-sw4gb 9 дней назад +1

    Honestly? With how casual and happy about this and how comfortable the wife seems, I sort of aspire towards this kind of life. I'm still friends with both of my exes and I hope that I have a peaceful enough life that I can be friends with all of my ex-lovers, however many times love finds me. With how I date, if we worked out well enough to be together in the first place, it means we have a basis of being good friends.

  • @sylvan429
    @sylvan429 10 дней назад +2

    my dad is kind of like this, it's always "X is coming over before we go to the theatre, you remember her, we dated thirty years ago"

  • @babygrill01
    @babygrill01 10 дней назад +31

    At 1:15, "you write people off too easy" maybe he has a point. Writing people off easily makes it easy to keep ourselves divided against our common enemy

    • @SuperAbi99
      @SuperAbi99 10 дней назад +2

      Capitalism?

    • @capnskullkid3849
      @capnskullkid3849 10 дней назад

      what's the common enemy, miss grill.

    • @whisperware
      @whisperware 9 дней назад +1

      ​@capnskullkid3849 you really have to ask?

    • @deliocache2528
      @deliocache2528 9 дней назад +1

      our common enemy? how delightfully ominous.

    • @babygrill01
      @babygrill01 9 дней назад +2

      @@capnskullkid3849 Common enemy is special interest money and politicians that accept it

  • @Arginne
    @Arginne 10 дней назад +2

    I mean they care about one another at one time. I don’t feel like that goes away. Just because something doesn’t work out romantically doesn’t mean people don’t still care about one another. My boomer dad is like this

  • @Makikakaoco
    @Makikakaoco 9 дней назад +2

    I wanna argue exes can make for better friends in a way in a situation like this
    Youve already screwed so any lust is mostly out of your system if everyone can get over that its just raw social mingling if that makes sense

  • @HeroFanNo.1
    @HeroFanNo.1 9 дней назад +5

    The only thing I have to say to all of this is while being friends with an ex is not exactly problematic, the dating aspect is… except towards the end of the video, where it was clearly mentioned about a double date… but still… even then, only if all parties involved agree to it…

    • @batmansmith7422
      @batmansmith7422 5 дней назад

      Could be a friend date! My ex and i have done that

  • @TealRubyy
    @TealRubyy 10 дней назад +5

    If you've been with someone for years, you care about them. A lot. I think it is entirely ok to want to stay in contact if you both left the relationship on good terms. This is such a sign of maturity as it means you harbor no resentment.
    Also, in the context of boomers, back then dating was mostly within friend groups I guess, so this is definitely a reason why they can stay together after. So many modern day exes just met on a dating app and have no overlap in social circles. I suppose it would make sense to cut it off then, would be easier emotionally to just bury them out of consciousness, at least for the short term.

  • @melaniedahl1572
    @melaniedahl1572 9 дней назад +2

    It's better that way barring severe abuse. It's ok to be friends with exes.

  • @Mary-jh2wd
    @Mary-jh2wd 7 дней назад

    this tracks in my community as well. we're really good friends with my wife's ex and their new spouse. emails, some holiday dinners, meeting up for long lunches, checking in on one another, etc... I look so forward to seeing them.

  • @QueenMizu
    @QueenMizu 6 дней назад +1

    I'm with the boomer here. I'm friends with 2 of my ex's and honestly I hate talking to one when my boyfriend is around 😂 he hogs the phone and conversation and the 2 of them go on rants (playfully) about me 😤 swear to God I wish they didn't like each other lol

  • @NoGoodNamesToday
    @NoGoodNamesToday 10 дней назад +2

    Why do I feel so happy for this character?

  • @mommalion7028
    @mommalion7028 9 дней назад +13

    everyone is siding with the dad. guys the son has seen dads nonsense with his never pruned social network of frenemies. it’s exhausting and demoralizing.

  • @lio2814
    @lio2814 9 дней назад +1

    I think there just is a point in peoples lives where your old and you just want to wind down and spend time with company you enjoy before life takes its toll. I understand that this is for some people and possibly not others.

  • @happykittenmeow
    @happykittenmeow 10 дней назад +2

    When you are with someone for a long time, even if things don't work out romantically, it doesn't always invalidate the bond you have with them as humans. Obviously things can go really badly but that's not always the case.

  • @johnfsenpai
    @johnfsenpai 10 дней назад +3

    It would be funny if this guy met the manipulative ex-husband. The manipulative ex would say something like "see it's ok to be friends with your ex" and the hooner who's friends with all his exes would be like "eww get away from me you weirdo"

  • @scalylayde8751
    @scalylayde8751 10 дней назад +1

    I think celebrating your wedding anniversary even once you’re divorced is really sweet. Like, if everyone is okay with it, I think that it makes sense to mark the occasion of an important thing in your life.

  • @meowmeowfuzzyface3698
    @meowmeowfuzzyface3698 9 дней назад +2

    I mean I'm still friends with one of my exes. We weren't married but broke up amicably and stayed friends. He's one of my current boyfriend's really good friends. 😂

  • @thanosdevito
    @thanosdevito 10 дней назад +7

    Immediately angry. Another excellent video.

    • @thegamersfaction6343
      @thegamersfaction6343 10 дней назад

      How can you be angry at that guy??

    • @jonquilgemstone
      @jonquilgemstone 9 дней назад

      ​@@thegamersfaction6343Because there's being friends with your ex bf/gf (which already some people don't like) and then there's literally dating your ex spouse, albeit with consent. It just definitely gives off "polyamorous or well-disguised cheating" vibes.

  • @gamemeister27
    @gamemeister27 7 дней назад +1

    I'll be real, my mom and her ex at least kept in touch despite their marriage being a disaster, including emotional abuse from him, but she couldn't bring herself to do anything besides write letters.
    Found out on Wednesday he's got an untreatable brain tumor, leaving behind some grandkids early. I never met the guy myself, but being at least amiable with your exes seems good.