Those boomers who are still friends with all their exes

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  • Опубликовано: 5 дек 2024

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  • @birdlegscass
    @birdlegscass 9 дней назад +2161

    the slappability is migrating to the other side of the camera

    • @Thunderbender18830
      @Thunderbender18830 9 дней назад +203

      While the Dad isn’t slappable, I wouldn’t exactly say the Son is either. This IS a weird dynamic even if it is kinda wholesome.

    • @dsbg187
      @dsbg187 9 дней назад

      ​@@Thunderbender18830💯

    • @TimothyDonaghue
      @TimothyDonaghue 9 дней назад +126

      @@Thunderbender18830maybe it's weird for you and your Fortnight buddies but in the real world we celebrate

    • @Seronimo93
      @Seronimo93 9 дней назад +90

      @@Thunderbender18830 The son called his dad a f**king weirdo. That deserves a slap.

    • @DevMan2342
      @DevMan2342 9 дней назад +36

      @@Seronimo93and his son was all like “ohh why is Sharon and Barbara friends, and playing tennis, and having fun?”

  • @probowler2000
    @probowler2000 9 дней назад +394

    It's true! As a child of a boomer, shes just always friends with everyone including ex husbands. Idk i think its sweet tbh i don't hate this guy at all

  • @endlessmyth7040
    @endlessmyth7040 9 дней назад +1958

    Asked myself out loud "Are they swingers?"

    • @theslappablejerk
      @theslappablejerk  9 дней назад +622

      What would be weirder, if they were or if they weren’t?

    • @Daiyuki117
      @Daiyuki117 9 дней назад +176

      Swingers who just aren't that into each other. They've seen each other naked and it's no big deal, but they're not passionate youths anymore.

    • @LaciRae
      @LaciRae 9 дней назад +22

      @@Daiyuki117makes sense enough that it should be commonplace by now

    • @sumo-ninja
      @sumo-ninja 9 дней назад +10

      ​@@theslappablejerkthink I'm gonna have to call it even lol it's hard to pick

    • @skyethebard
      @skyethebard 9 дней назад +14

      ​@@theslappablejerkThey sound poly to me but they could be swingers. It would be weird for them to be vanilla and mono.

  • @Zero_Shift
    @Zero_Shift 9 дней назад +1616

    This started weird.. then got a bit reasonable.. then got weirdly wholesome. If this isn't some weird bedroom stuff, I'd say this is pretty wholesome even if it's not that normal.

    • @Hyperchicken
      @Hyperchicken 9 дней назад +129

      Honestly even if it is weird bedroom stuff - as long as it’s all consensual and everyone understands the situation then hey good for them

    • @Zero_Shift
      @Zero_Shift 9 дней назад +27

      @Hyperchicken Well, he's openly talking to his kid about it. And even having the call go off. So I'd assume it's not

    • @Elithrae
      @Elithrae 9 дней назад +29

      @@Zero_Shift Yeah, like, if there is a bedroom component they're either all hush hush abou tit, or they just genuinely are all friends, which frankly, I love.

    • @vicwaju
      @vicwaju 8 дней назад +1

      @@Hyperchicken yeah but that just makes it a lil less wholesome 😭

    • @hanajak
      @hanajak 8 дней назад +4

      ​@@Hyperchicken Nah the weird bedroom stuff makes it a problem 😂. The big open-marriage friend group who are all besties and cool with it, while keeping their relationships in tact only happens in fiction.

  • @Rynewulf
    @Rynewulf 5 дней назад +18

    This is probably the most wholesome and positive image of a Boomer on the entire internet.
    I love theyve still got that Boomer-ism of being completely baffled that their worldview and experience isnt universal and wont even entertain it, golden cherry on top for the video there

  • @yawnclark
    @yawnclark 9 дней назад +1780

    I think.... I'm on the boomer's side here. It's just so wholesome.

    • @jacksonoutside
      @jacksonoutside 9 дней назад +179

      It seems really emotionally mature

    • @theslappablejerk
      @theslappablejerk  9 дней назад +582

      At that age, a lot boomers don’t give af about exes and all that drama and bullshit because by then everyone has them lol. I think it’s nice when they’re all friends

    • @ricardoalves9605
      @ricardoalves9605 9 дней назад +116

      The weirdest part is that they're celebrating their anniversary while not being a couple, otherwise them still being friends is honestly pretty mature.

    • @Seronimo93
      @Seronimo93 9 дней назад +51

      ​@@ricardoalves9605 I mean, maybe they just want to remember the happy moments they shared. If everyone's okay with it, then I guess that's fine.

    • @SubtotalStar850-uh8pg
      @SubtotalStar850-uh8pg 9 дней назад +9

      Honestly same, I feel like I have a good relationship with my ex's as well, it's actually funny the people I used to be friends with seem to have a worse opinion of me than my ex's do, and what's really funny is they have that opinion because they thought I treated my ex poorly despite the fact she's not friends with them either

  • @misatobestgirl7230
    @misatobestgirl7230 9 дней назад +2763

    Honestly he seems way happier and more fulfilled than the son.

    • @theslappablejerk
      @theslappablejerk  9 дней назад +682

      Yeah the son honestly is kind of being a negative little beech

    • @DevMan2342
      @DevMan2342 9 дней назад +134

      @@theslappablejerk yeah just because you break up with someone doesn’t mean you aren’t still friends with them. I got really annoyed at the part where the son asked “why are they best friends”

    • @makskauzny3794
      @makskauzny3794 9 дней назад +71

      We were the slappable jerks all along 😳

    • @joevines3428
      @joevines3428 9 дней назад +3

      That's the joke

    • @EASTWYCK2
      @EASTWYCK2 9 дней назад

      Here comes yuki!
      I mean Jenny!
      ​@@makskauzny3794

  • @Infinitysquaredorsomething
    @Infinitysquaredorsomething 7 дней назад +38

    Yeah this is actually awesome. They're just not made for romance together, but they shared huge parts of their lives together. That is somethig to treasure.

    • @birdie8006
      @birdie8006 День назад

      This happened with my aunt and uncle. Separated but still went vacationing together…til my uncle remarried and his wife basically forbade my uncle from speaking to my aunt. :/ my new uncle that married my aunt is pretty cool though.

  • @Mujtabaa_M
    @Mujtabaa_M 9 дней назад +516

    The somewhat mild expectations i had for this video differed WILDLY from what was actually presented to me. I never knew this archetype of person existed.

    • @Mujtabaa_M
      @Mujtabaa_M 9 дней назад +59

      Though honestly, i feel like this is just a closeted poly relationship going on lmao

    • @BeginningOfHorizon
      @BeginningOfHorizon 9 дней назад +3

      MONIKA DDLC FOLLOWIN ME AGAIN

    • @ferretyluv
      @ferretyluv 9 дней назад +30

      I guess they don’t see each other as threats because they’re all married now.

    • @sockpuppetqueen
      @sockpuppetqueen 9 дней назад +33

      Weirdly, it is. This is exactly how my parents are. I can't conclusively prove that they're not swingers, tbh, but either way it's surprisingly healthy

    • @GillfigGarstang
      @GillfigGarstang 9 дней назад +3

      ⁠@@sockpuppetqueenI think your parents might be swingers.

  • @spockezri
    @spockezri 9 дней назад +1362

    honestly this is healthier than the way half my friends treat their exes 💀💀

    • @iGame3D
      @iGame3D 9 дней назад +6

      Because it's not real.

    • @Aelffwynn
      @Aelffwynn 9 дней назад +18

      ​@iGame3D no, i know people like this.

    • @kevingrisler4123
      @kevingrisler4123 8 дней назад +28

      Going on a date with an ex while married is not healthy haha. That's how people get cheated on and then they act surprised 😯

    • @Aelffwynn
      @Aelffwynn 8 дней назад +18

      @kevingrisler4123 everyone knows about it and someone else is literally invited lol. But keep on with your paranoia. I'm sure it makes you very attractive on Hinge.

    • @TwinkleToesX86
      @TwinkleToesX86 8 дней назад +26

      @@iGame3Dit is real. I’ve been divorced for almost 20 years, remarried for 15. My husband and I are very close friends with my ex and his wife, and my husband ex and her husband. I mean, it’s not like we hang out every weekend or anything, because we’re 50 years old and have lives lol. But whenever we do go out, it’s usually with one of them. They’re good people, and there are children involved. The kids have grown up much more emotionally mature and happy seeing everyone at peace and able to genuinely enjoy each other’s company.

  • @ferretyluv
    @ferretyluv 9 дней назад +157

    My dad’s on speaking terms with his ex wife. They don’t see each other much but it’s never awkward. And my half brothers are close with both of them, my dad’s wife, and their mom’s husband. He’s always modeled healthy relationships for me. Hearing people talk about how their divorced parents are constantly taking each other to court baffled me. Still not taking my ex out to dinner.

  • @firstbradley3281
    @firstbradley3281 9 дней назад +146

    This sounds like the perfect arrangement if you want to go out to eat for no reason at a fancy restaurant

  • @SikeyYT
    @SikeyYT 9 дней назад +278

    Honestly I think this makes more of a statement on how its not good that current american culture has made it so breakups must end dramatically and cannot be anything else ever

    • @tbkswagg
      @tbkswagg 9 дней назад +3

      Romcoms for you and feminism. Everything has their negatives, romcoms idk if they have any positives tho lmao

    • @shgds
      @shgds 8 дней назад

      ​@@tbkswagg "feminism" nigga how

    • @oscarhess1376
      @oscarhess1376 8 дней назад +29

      @@tbkswaggcrazy how the creator of the video would not agree with you on anything that you just said. The real problem is that dating culture has just gotten toxic and now dating lots of people is bad. Nobody says “hey this just isn’t working out anymore”. People drag along relationships that won’t work for far to long

    • @tbkswagg
      @tbkswagg 8 дней назад +4

      @@oscarhess1376 Why would I need the creator to agree with me lol? People drag relationships for too long? The average is like 2-3 years tops. So you'd choose the hyper mode that we should turbo swap relationships in 3-5 months? In that time you can't possibly know a person enough. People actually break up too easy nowadays. Relationships are commodified, we treat our significant other like some kind of product. Oh it expired lets throw it out. It happens what happens to our tools. We can no longer repair them because they are made that way and we need to buy a new one. We can no longer fix bad things in relationships and throw out the other to find a new one.
      I genuinely don't know what you meant by people dragging out stuff for too long... I mean people in toxic relationships tend to drag it out many times. But that's more of a personal problem with both. They are pathologic therefore codependent. It is not that much different in this case than in older days, so dating culture didn't fix this issue sadly.
      Statistically people who found love with their first partner and didn't broke up are the least likely to end up in divorce. Romcoms teach people that there is always "the one", so if something bad happens "oh I just haven't found the one".
      Does anyone stop and think about: "Am I the One?" Always it's the other huh... lol

    • @hanajak
      @hanajak 7 дней назад +4

      @@SikeyYT I think most people in most cultures would feel uncomfortable with this type of arrangement. They might be decent people, but I wouldn't want my husband's exes in my house, or him going on "dates" with them to celebrate their past marriage. That's weird, and reeks of "sister-wife" mentality.

  • @UnregisteredUsername
    @UnregisteredUsername 9 дней назад +811

    honestly im on the same page w this guy , we should normalize leaving on good terms and stayin touch w the people we care/cared about 😭

    • @TESkyrimizer
      @TESkyrimizer 9 дней назад +42

      no way you goober
      going from saying "ily" every night to not talking for the next 60 years until one of you croaks is the much more mature and well adjusted option imo

    • @thebetteralex2978
      @thebetteralex2978 9 дней назад +22

      as long as they didnt cheat on your something

    • @thebetteralex2978
      @thebetteralex2978 9 дней назад +9

      @@TESkyrimizer i mean i guess it would kind of destroy me being just "friends" with someone who i'm probably not over it, but one day we could still be friends

    • @ouionverraplustard2567
      @ouionverraplustard2567 9 дней назад +31

      Yeah I think it really depends on your feelings about the relationship, people should feel free to stay friends with their exes or not if they want to and are mature about it
      Ofc if it makes your current lover suffer because you don't have clear boundaries it's a problem, or if the relationship was toxic probably not a good idea until things change a lot -- just go with the flow as long as you're not an ass / hurting anyone else

    • @iGame3D
      @iGame3D 9 дней назад +10

      Nope. one leave for a reason. You don't go hang out with your old bosses who fired you do you? Because I'm sure they'd call police to have you removed from teh premises.

  • @valentinax8266
    @valentinax8266 9 дней назад +26

    Ok but this seems like a genuinely wholesome guy who had suu a good handle on breakups and relationships they all stayed friends like if he’s still going to dinner with his exes and their all friends clearly theyre all on good terms. Also his response of “just because things didnt work out between us doesnt mean we cant celebrate :)” is such a genuinely wholesome one. They may not have been right for each other but they still valued the time they had together and still care about one another. I needed this today.

  • @mystiquevening
    @mystiquevening 9 дней назад +91

    As long as everyone in the dynamic is happy, and consenting to a relationship adults, I think this is wholesome. We’re all going to die and that’s it, enjoy the people you enjoy while you can. Don’t tear apart other people’s relationships to do so, but if everyone’s good, random people’s opinion on it doesn’t matter. Good on you “Dan”!!

  • @FishareFriendsNotFood972
    @FishareFriendsNotFood972 8 дней назад +130

    When you get older, silly details like who used to date who back in the day becomes less important than staying close with those who knew you when you were young.

    • @livinlicious
      @livinlicious 5 дней назад +3

      Some people have been longer friends than exes now.
      Imagine leaving your 10 year relationship. Being friends for another 40.
      And then giving a fuck who was with who some half lifetime ago.
      People need to grow up.

    • @nsde5945
      @nsde5945 3 дня назад

      So true, i find im loving staying in touch with those who knew me, theyve become extra special to me

  • @marioluigi911
    @marioluigi911 9 дней назад +88

    ive always tried to be friends or at least be on good terms with any ex. ive always believed that when you truly love someone even if you break up, a part of you will always care. After some time and healing i usually reach out even if its just to be just to be on good terms. There is a friendship within every healthy relationship and i feel like thats the hardest thing to lose sometimes.

    • @scarlb12
      @scarlb12 8 дней назад +7

      Some time apart is key. I feel like too many people try to go directly into friendship after breaking up, and that's just too hard usually.

    • @marioluigi911
      @marioluigi911 8 дней назад +4

      @@scarlb12 yes, both people must be ready.

  • @sockpuppetqueen
    @sockpuppetqueen 9 дней назад +300

    My stepdad had like 3 exes at his wedding to my mom. They literally met through one of those exes, who was a friend of my mom lol

    • @FoundSheep-AN
      @FoundSheep-AN 5 дней назад +1

      That’s weird

    • @resikin
      @resikin 4 дня назад

      That is aura

    • @vehk9377
      @vehk9377 4 дня назад

      How'd it go?

    • @sockpuppetqueen
      @sockpuppetqueen 4 дня назад +1

      @@vehk9377 The wedding was chill and now they've been happily married for uhhh, 21 years I want to say? Ideal, tbh.

  • @FringePrincess
    @FringePrincess 9 дней назад +96

    “Life isn’t all about the Fortnite.”
    Words to live by.

  • @Catalyst2812
    @Catalyst2812 9 дней назад +50

    The dad is right. I’ve broken up with a few people on good terms and remained in contact with them following that. They don’t suddenly stop being a person you care about, they aren’t ghosts that need to be exorcised; they are people, we just didn’t have romantic chemistry. Arbitrary insecurity driven dating rules aside, there is nothing wrong with becoming friends with an ex-partner, especially if they were a friend prior to you guys dating. Just make sure to obviously clarify intentions on both sides and then set boundaries if you are in a commited relationship while still being friends with your ex.

    • @miceatah9359
      @miceatah9359 4 дня назад +2

      To me this sounds more like u guys just cant say no

    • @Zin.Monoko
      @Zin.Monoko День назад +1

      I agree 👍🏾

    • @Zin.Monoko
      @Zin.Monoko День назад +1

      ​@miceatah9359 Not really. It's easy to understand

  • @michelleh4588
    @michelleh4588 9 дней назад +17

    This was oddly comforting. Like maybe everything and everyone just evens out as we age

  • @Mothermochi
    @Mothermochi 9 дней назад +109

    We are talking about the “free love” generation Lolol 😂

    • @Elithrae
      @Elithrae 9 дней назад +19

      Too bad a ton of them forgot about that and now treat people who are polyamorous or in other types of ethical open relationships like we're literal satan spawn. =/

    • @tbkswagg
      @tbkswagg 9 дней назад +8

      ​@@Elithrae Yeah, I mean it is kind of different from this example in the vid. Of course the hippies back then had things more wild than that lmao but I think that was the minority even back then. Also you are right some people just forget who they were when they were young. It comes from fear and love too. Sometimes people love you but are unable to show it in a healthy way. Parents or lovers, it happens everywhere.

    • @Mothermochi
      @Mothermochi 9 дней назад +1

      @@Elithrae it’s because many are hypocrites, lol
      They were first labeled as the “me” generation and it tracks.

    • @Arginne
      @Arginne 9 дней назад +7

      @@Elithraemost people don’t think about you as much as you think they do.

    • @Zilharr-eo3oh
      @Zilharr-eo3oh 9 дней назад

      ​@@Elithrae Nobody gives a fuck unless you give them a reason to give a fuck

  • @benoit8381
    @benoit8381 9 дней назад +69

    You are amazing man ;) Cheers from France

  • @Tarik360
    @Tarik360 8 дней назад +17

    1:12 The dismissive handwave is cherry on top

  • @samuelbarber6177
    @samuelbarber6177 8 дней назад +22

    Aw, this is cute. And can we talk about how much his wife trusts him to suggest he take his ex to dinner? I think that’s sweet.

    • @hanajak
      @hanajak 8 дней назад +4

      In the context, she probably just wanted to spend some time with her own ex 😂

  • @JP-lu9ed
    @JP-lu9ed 9 дней назад +29

    Just got done visiting with my spouse’s ex. We went to church together. Always a fun coffee hour when it’s time for introductions. We all love the same grandkids so that makes it easy. Yes, some people think it’s puzzling and weird. But what it is -- it’s lucky. That’s what it is.

    • @Axqu7227
      @Axqu7227 7 дней назад +3

      That's super beautiful! I'm glad the kids have bonus grandparents to love them

  • @StemValen-h5g
    @StemValen-h5g 8 дней назад +27

    You never know what they’ve been through together, illnesses, loss of family and childhood friends, tragedies and milestones. Sometimes familiar faces can be anchors in the stormy seas of life.

  • @Psilo-gn1sx
    @Psilo-gn1sx 9 дней назад +289

    I'm confused, everyone seems chill but the kid. Am I the slappable one?

    • @MaxMagnums
      @MaxMagnums 9 дней назад +18

      What did the five fingers say to the face

    • @Sunnysideanyway
      @Sunnysideanyway 9 дней назад +18

      ​@@MaxMagnums Nothing fingers cant talk

    • @Seronimo93
      @Seronimo93 9 дней назад

      I mean, the kid literally calls his dad a f**king weirdo. He deserves a slap.

    • @hdajq892ey7
      @hdajq892ey7 9 дней назад +2

      yes

    • @OnlyAchievingHere
      @OnlyAchievingHere 9 дней назад +4

      @@MaxMagnums I’m interested in knowing the answer to this question

  • @lefish5277
    @lefish5277 8 дней назад +16

    I dated a guy waaaay older than me (I think he was like 50 or something & I was 25) and part of the reason I liked him was that he was still friends with all his exes. He didn’t have one bad thing to say about them. I lost contact but if I still lived nearby I would put money on it that we’d still be friends too. Some people are just really chill like that and just aren’t built to hate.

    • @FoundSheep-AN
      @FoundSheep-AN 5 дней назад

      He was probably having sex with all of his exes

    • @cynthiaholland13
      @cynthiaholland13 4 дня назад +1

      What made you date someone so much older? Were young guys less interested or did the older guy offer more in terms of fun and finances?

    • @sunshineandrei2569
      @sunshineandrei2569 4 дня назад

      ​@@cynthiaholland13 the older guy just had a personality they liked.

  • @xenon8927
    @xenon8927 9 дней назад +57

    Fun fact: The soundtrack of the Tom Cruise movie Cocktail referenced in the beginning of this video gave us both Don’t Worry, Be Happy AND Kokomo.

    • @hisime13
      @hisime13 2 дня назад

      I was assuming it had been made up for the bit. Every day, a new gem of knowledge!

  • @pronetogames7946
    @pronetogames7946 9 дней назад +243

    Thought this would be like the exs breaking up on good terms and staying friends but it seems like they never broke up

    • @everybodysfavoritenobody
      @everybodysfavoritenobody 9 дней назад

      What do you mean?

    • @randomt800kiddo2
      @randomt800kiddo2 9 дней назад +30

      @@everybodysfavoritenobodya couple breaks up, remains on good terms and hangs out regularly so it seems like they never broke up because the amount of time they spend together didnt really drop

    • @everybodysfavoritenobody
      @everybodysfavoritenobody 9 дней назад +11

      @@randomt800kiddo2 is that a bad thing? I mean I understand going out with each individual ex alone (especially without their spouses) but they were going as a group right? The husband was ok with it too.

    • @randomt800kiddo2
      @randomt800kiddo2 9 дней назад +28

      @@everybodysfavoritenobody honestly it's kind of a gray area for me personally. maybe if they were still young i'd see it as a bit of a red flag, but at the boomer's age, they're just happy to still be connected to people from their past ig

    • @everybodysfavoritenobody
      @everybodysfavoritenobody 9 дней назад

      @randomt800kiddo2 very confusing indeed

  • @Axqu7227
    @Axqu7227 7 дней назад +3

    Boomer bro living his best life! I needed a wholesome one today. I'm glad he and Barbara (and he and his kid's mom!) realized they made better friends than lovers, that he and Sharon found happiness, that Barbara has a great partner in Rick, and that the whole friend group seems to have a great time together. Everything about this one feels warm and healthy.

  • @ianpgmusicfanfictionart
    @ianpgmusicfanfictionart 9 дней назад +35

    This video left me very confused but equally entertained.

  • @shiv421kobra
    @shiv421kobra 9 дней назад +26

    Remember kids, put down the Fork-Knife and hang out with your exes more.

  • @SilkieSqueaks
    @SilkieSqueaks 9 дней назад +37

    Oh i LIKED this one. I'm still close with both my exes and it feels good to be able to say that bc they're still both really good people.

  • @MrTehRave
    @MrTehRave 6 дней назад +2

    One of the best ones. Love this guy reminds me of my own parents. Boomers just had a different mental game man

  • @TheLautik
    @TheLautik 8 дней назад +7

    Started weird, than became reasonable, than wholesome and ended even weirder than it started 😂perfect

  • @jamplatform3429
    @jamplatform3429 9 дней назад +4

    Bro...that phone call is just too real. You got the tone down to a T, I swear I've overheard my dad and uncles talking like that

  • @taserrr
    @taserrr 9 дней назад +14

    I can understand this if you're from a smaller town where everybody kinda knows each other, and in that way this is pretty wholesome.

  • @jonquilgemstone
    @jonquilgemstone 8 дней назад +11

    This is definitely some kind of polyamorous situation here, lol. There's getting along with your exes and then there's going out for one-on-one dinner dates on your old wedding anniversaries.

    • @raznaak
      @raznaak 7 дней назад +1

      Don't look for filth when there is none. Sometimes people can stay friends with exes without any ulterior motives, the relationship didn't work for some reason but they still keep being friends.

    • @AM-so3sc
      @AM-so3sc 6 дней назад +3

      ​@@raznaak people can stay friends with exes for sure, but polyamory isn't "filth"

    • @alleycat616
      @alleycat616 4 дня назад +1

      @@AM-so3scyes it is.

    • @BabyHell_Cheese
      @BabyHell_Cheese 4 дня назад +1

      Yes and? How is that bad? What’s wrong with it if everyone is an aware and consenting adult?

  • @SmurfieDurfie
    @SmurfieDurfie 8 дней назад +1

    This seems so wholesome :) I'm working at a place when I don't have school and we are all like a big friend group to each other pretty much. Having sime community is amazing
    Thanks for making this video, it reminds me that there are a lot of good people and made my day better!

  • @wesleyfung9418
    @wesleyfung9418 4 дня назад +1

    I was kinda weirder out as well at first but I couldn't help but smile towards the end when Barbara's husband made the joke 😂

  • @JohnnyWolfblood
    @JohnnyWolfblood 9 дней назад +17

    I'm having Vietnam flashbacks of those videos I saw of boomer women talking about how much they're still in love with their ex from 50 years ago while their husband is right there looking like he's just being knifed in the fucking heart.

    • @mommalion7028
      @mommalion7028 8 дней назад +9

      thank you! you get it. a lot of the people in the comments have rose tinted shades on.

    • @skromnyasha
      @skromnyasha 8 дней назад +1

      ​@@mommalion7028yes! Like I cannot imagine loving someone and then just seeing them be happy with another. It just feels wrong and I never look back and seek them out. It hurts

    • @raznaak
      @raznaak 7 дней назад +2

      That's not the same.
      They just stayed friends instead of burning off all bridges, sometimes a relationship just doesn't work, but it doesn't mean you must hate them now.
      What you're talking about is people staying in the past, in the video they just kept going.

  • @glonx639
    @glonx639 9 дней назад +17

    Are... Are they swingers?

    • @dylancrosby2451
      @dylancrosby2451 9 дней назад +6

      Obviously

    • @fh9061
      @fh9061 7 дней назад +7

      YES finally someone else sees it. All the comments are talking about how "wholesome" it is I thought I was going insane.

    • @Jennymlnd
      @Jennymlnd 5 дней назад

      ​@@fh9061you can still have deep connections with people without banging them... Loves about a lot more than that.

  • @owenleal
    @owenleal 6 дней назад +1

    Thats honestly beautiful, I guess when you reach a certain age strong connections become more and more precious and you dont want to lose them. As long as things ended amicably, why waste a perfectly good potential friendship.

  • @Raphael0654
    @Raphael0654 4 дня назад +1

    I worked at an elderly care facility & met a couple who were 80 & 90, & they'd both tell me long jovial tales about the swinger escapades of their youth...like it was just the most natural thing in the world. 😮

  • @domeatown
    @domeatown 9 дней назад +8

    I literally have never met anyone like this. But I feel happy knowing they are maybe out there if you are spoofing 'em.

    • @raznaak
      @raznaak 7 дней назад

      Two of my family's best friends are my father's exes from 45/50 years ago.

  • @haroldp.sadwood1181
    @haroldp.sadwood1181 9 дней назад +8

    I love the videos where we turn out to have been the slappable jerk all along.

  • @Siegmernes
    @Siegmernes 9 дней назад +17

    Straight up my parents. They still hang out with or without their spouses.
    When you break up while you still like each other, you can actually keep a relationship.

  • @snowwonder9814
    @snowwonder9814 2 дня назад +1

    lol never expected a video on these types. I think they just find comfort and happiness in staying with same group of people all their lives, at least that’s how I understand it. I don’t personally get it, built I can see the appeal of having a group of tight-knit people whom you trust even if relationship statuses change.

  • @babygrill01
    @babygrill01 9 дней назад +31

    At 1:15, "you write people off too easy" maybe he has a point. Writing people off easily makes it easy to keep ourselves divided against our common enemy

    • @SuperAbi99
      @SuperAbi99 9 дней назад +2

      Capitalism?

    • @capnskullkid3849
      @capnskullkid3849 8 дней назад

      what's the common enemy, miss grill.

    • @whisperware
      @whisperware 8 дней назад +1

      ​@capnskullkid3849 you really have to ask?

    • @deliocache2528
      @deliocache2528 8 дней назад +1

      our common enemy? how delightfully ominous.

    • @babygrill01
      @babygrill01 8 дней назад +2

      @@capnskullkid3849 Common enemy is special interest money and politicians that accept it

  • @realcrybarr
    @realcrybarr 9 дней назад +24

    Yeahhh, this seems like a healthier example, ngl. My parents remaining friends after separating? Now, that was a little weird. Especially since my father makes a horrible friend. I don't know why my mother insists that he was and still is her best friend. He's just awful to her in general

  • @kacperz5683
    @kacperz5683 6 дней назад +1

    That's so wholesome. The dad had a rational answer for every question and the only argument the son could come up with was literally "because it's weird".
    Why would a feeling of sth being weird stand in the way of people's relationships and happiness?

  • @EyeLean5280
    @EyeLean5280 3 дня назад +1

    Hahaha, yes. I'm a boomer and still good friends with my exes. In fact, I'll be bringing my family with me to visit one of my exes during the winter holidays. He's been like an uncle to our kid, giving archery lessons and all that. Can't say I remember any ex anniversaries though, let alone celebrate them.

  • @elnegromatapacos162
    @elnegromatapacos162 9 дней назад +2

    I do my best to live up to this ideal and am still friends with most of my exes (and generally left on OK terms even with the ones I don't talk to anymore). They're people I liked spending time with and cared about, I don't see why that would suddenly stop after breaking up. The reality this man lives in is kind and caring and I wish everyone could have that.

  • @lovelylipbonesouwwwwwwwolv2198
    @lovelylipbonesouwwwwwwwolv2198 4 дня назад +1

    I agree to an extent. I just don't like how this generation has to treat their ex as if they murdered someone after they broke up 😆

  • @upsydaysy3042
    @upsydaysy3042 8 дней назад +1

    I am the female x gen version of that dad LOL My partner and I visit one of my exes every year in Italy and he is at every family function, while another one is a putative son to my parents after 20 years we broke up, but we never meet or talk because his wife would not like it, and I respect that (I live abroad, so the logistics are easy).
    There are people in my past I went no contact with, but when a relationship fails, there is not always a villain. After a period of distance, it's just natural that two people who liked each other enough to be partners find a different way to care for each other. It makes for a richer life, and it also helps to put life in perspective, to have in your present a successful friendship born from a sentimental failure in your past.

  • @cecyliamaiden1973
    @cecyliamaiden1973 8 дней назад +3

    It honestly depends on the ex and reasons you broke up. One of my exes is my best friend, we work better as friends. Another one, no contact. You can still care about people but not want to be in a relationship with them. The key is knowing when it’s healthy and when it’s not

  • @reeewhydoihavetochangethese
    @reeewhydoihavetochangethese 7 дней назад +1

    I always stay friends with my exes if they're cool with it. We shouldn't miss out on a solid friendship just because it didn't work out in a romantic way. This dad is a chill guy.
    Def swingers lmfao

  • @andrewbyrnes6389
    @andrewbyrnes6389 6 дней назад +1

    I kind of love this character. He’s just living his life and his son who is too busy fortnighting just can’t get it 😢

  • @thetiniestleaf
    @thetiniestleaf 9 дней назад +2

    This just put a big smile on my face it’s so nice, if very unconventional!
    …I fear that this is a palette cleanser for an incredibly Slappable Jerk in the future

  • @Nikkidafox
    @Nikkidafox 9 дней назад +7

    Honestly if they were born a generation or two later, they would all be a polycule, I'm calling it.

    • @jonquilgemstone
      @jonquilgemstone 8 дней назад +1

      They probably are but are disguising it, lol. The dad definitely knew his son would decline the invitation.

    • @cynthiaholland13
      @cynthiaholland13 4 дня назад

      They're not sexual just friends. Why does that have to have a weird name

  • @copyrightdragon7244
    @copyrightdragon7244 7 дней назад +1

    As someone who’s mom invited her divorced husband (my dad) to a family vacation with his then-fiancée, I probably find this a lot less weird than most people. Honestly? A lot of it, imo, boils down to how difficult it can be to find and make such stable, long-lasting friendships. His statement about still being friends and hanging out just bc you couldn’t make it work, romantically, is accurate. Besides, it means the kid got to (hopefully) have healthy relationships with both of his parents.

  • @avril.227
    @avril.227 День назад +1

    No, no and Nope. They are the “Ex” for a very good reason. If we were so great together in each other’s company, we wouldn’t have split up. Yikes.

  • @garyjaycat
    @garyjaycat 9 дней назад +5

    Okay but my mom (55) says she gets along with my dad (65) so much more now that they're divorced. Like yeah she never wants to get back with him, and if shes around him too long, shes painfully reminded why she filed for a divorce in the first place, but besides that she still does stuff like give him calls every so often to see hows hes doing and she gives him gifts on his birthday and on Christmas lol

  • @antoniasinfield1762
    @antoniasinfield1762 7 дней назад +1

    My parents are 70, divorced for 35 years and good friends. They call to check in on eachother, my dad goes round to visit her every now and then. Other families I know whose parents are completely estranged seem unhappier.

  • @Beelzineff
    @Beelzineff 8 дней назад +1

    I've seen this with boomers who are still close with people from their hometown. They all grew up together so they can't imagine not being in each other's lives.

  • @TealRubyy
    @TealRubyy 9 дней назад +5

    If you've been with someone for years, you care about them. A lot. I think it is entirely ok to want to stay in contact if you both left the relationship on good terms. This is such a sign of maturity as it means you harbor no resentment.
    Also, in the context of boomers, back then dating was mostly within friend groups I guess, so this is definitely a reason why they can stay together after. So many modern day exes just met on a dating app and have no overlap in social circles. I suppose it would make sense to cut it off then, would be easier emotionally to just bury them out of consciousness, at least for the short term.

  • @sylvan429
    @sylvan429 9 дней назад +2

    my dad is kind of like this, it's always "X is coming over before we go to the theatre, you remember her, we dated thirty years ago"

  • @melaniedahl1572
    @melaniedahl1572 8 дней назад +2

    It's better that way barring severe abuse. It's ok to be friends with exes.

  • @HeroFanNo.1
    @HeroFanNo.1 8 дней назад +5

    The only thing I have to say to all of this is while being friends with an ex is not exactly problematic, the dating aspect is… except towards the end of the video, where it was clearly mentioned about a double date… but still… even then, only if all parties involved agree to it…

    • @batmansmith7422
      @batmansmith7422 4 дня назад

      Could be a friend date! My ex and i have done that

  • @JoaoSantos-lv4rc
    @JoaoSantos-lv4rc 4 дня назад +1

    sometimes its impossible not to. but ive always felt it weird to write off, supposidely your best friend for a while, the way most people do. think it says something about how ppl approach relationships. or, how i want to at least.

  • @something8245
    @something8245 8 дней назад +1

    My grandfather was exactly like that, he used to throw dinner parties and invite all of his ex wives to hang out

  • @omnipresentsnowflake4698
    @omnipresentsnowflake4698 8 дней назад +1

    This is the way to do it, can't always if the reason for breakup goes too crazy but it's nice being friends with people you care about

  • @christianldove
    @christianldove 4 дня назад +2

    Part of this stems from the fact that many boomers (especially serial divorcees) divorced not due to misery or abuse or even irreconcilable differences-most of them were pretty generally content. They divorced because they were too busy, got bored with each other, and lost their spark. In an era where no-fault divorce, sexual revolution, and hollywood romances were being normalized, they just did what they were told to do. Not feeling it anymore? Get divorced.
    So in the cases where these divorces were rooted in mutual feelings of emotional boredom and unfulfillment, many of them left on generally friendly terms.

    • @brennanc4321
      @brennanc4321 4 дня назад

      Oh yeah when I worked for a maintenance company in a really rich area randomly some would give us ear fulls about their kids or grandkids, who were themselves adult or middle aged. It was always stuff about them separating because they want to live in Europe, or both never really saw each other and they always were always supposedly very amicable. Lol truthfully like in this video you gotta have a complete DGF attitude in marriage itself for it to be this casual during divorce.

  • @thanosdevito
    @thanosdevito 9 дней назад +7

    Immediately angry. Another excellent video.

    • @thegamersfaction6343
      @thegamersfaction6343 8 дней назад

      How can you be angry at that guy??

    • @jonquilgemstone
      @jonquilgemstone 8 дней назад

      ​@@thegamersfaction6343Because there's being friends with your ex bf/gf (which already some people don't like) and then there's literally dating your ex spouse, albeit with consent. It just definitely gives off "polyamorous or well-disguised cheating" vibes.

  • @deliocache2528
    @deliocache2528 8 дней назад

    i appreciate all the more complex situations that you're creating recently

  • @EB-sw4gb
    @EB-sw4gb 8 дней назад +1

    Honestly? With how casual and happy about this and how comfortable the wife seems, I sort of aspire towards this kind of life. I'm still friends with both of my exes and I hope that I have a peaceful enough life that I can be friends with all of my ex-lovers, however many times love finds me. With how I date, if we worked out well enough to be together in the first place, it means we have a basis of being good friends.

  • @Rohtix
    @Rohtix 9 дней назад +9

    They're probably more than just friends if it's a "date"

  • @w0rmg0rl
    @w0rmg0rl 9 дней назад +1

    honestly he's living the good life, no unnecessary drama, just friendship

  • @QueenMizu
    @QueenMizu 5 дней назад +1

    I'm with the boomer here. I'm friends with 2 of my ex's and honestly I hate talking to one when my boyfriend is around 😂 he hogs the phone and conversation and the 2 of them go on rants (playfully) about me 😤 swear to God I wish they didn't like each other lol

  • @actuallysatan236
    @actuallysatan236 9 дней назад +1

    This is so incredibly healthy. If the split was mutual, just a problem with lack of compatibility, there's literally nothing wrong with staying friends with your ex's. Hell, I'm still friends with several of my ex's because our relationships ended when we both realized we were better off as just friends than romantic partners. And OF COURSE your current wife would be friends with your ex wife. I mean, they married the same man, obviously they must have some things in common. Hope you have fun on your double date vacation, that sounds super fulfilling and wholesome.

  • @NoGoodNamesToday
    @NoGoodNamesToday 9 дней назад +2

    Why do I feel so happy for this character?

  • @Owlbearwolf2
    @Owlbearwolf2 7 дней назад +1

    One of these guys has a healthier sense of community and lived under a higher union density in his 20’s, and it shows.

  • @quonkylops
    @quonkylops 9 дней назад +5

    That small fade of the smile at the end as he realise whats up 😂

  • @krzysztofswierzy4226
    @krzysztofswierzy4226 9 дней назад +3

    The thing is this is only healthy social habit for mature adults. In the same time the babit of cutting off from exes works very well for teens and young adults, as they tend to trap themselves in the feelings while lying to themselves, that they are just keeping a healthy friendship.

  • @johnfsenpai
    @johnfsenpai 9 дней назад +3

    It would be funny if this guy met the manipulative ex-husband. The manipulative ex would say something like "see it's ok to be friends with your ex" and the hooner who's friends with all his exes would be like "eww get away from me you weirdo"

  • @Makikakaoco
    @Makikakaoco 7 дней назад +2

    I wanna argue exes can make for better friends in a way in a situation like this
    Youve already screwed so any lust is mostly out of your system if everyone can get over that its just raw social mingling if that makes sense

  • @Arginne
    @Arginne 9 дней назад +2

    I mean they care about one another at one time. I don’t feel like that goes away. Just because something doesn’t work out romantically doesn’t mean people don’t still care about one another. My boomer dad is like this

  • @vari1535
    @vari1535 9 дней назад +1

    as long as the breakup was on good terms and not because one (or both) of them was literally toxic or abusive, this seems fine to me.

  • @SmarkAngel
    @SmarkAngel 8 дней назад +2

    My ex Melissa is still my absolute best friend. We weren't a good couple, but she's an AMAZING friend and one of the coolest people I know. Normalize being friends with your exes if you can. you liked them once for a reason.

  • @buyingmilk
    @buyingmilk 9 дней назад +9

    If everyone involved is happy, why not?

  • @Sunsquall
    @Sunsquall 9 дней назад +12

    Swingers. These people are swingers. Don't let the Boomers gaslight you.

  • @scalylayde8751
    @scalylayde8751 9 дней назад +1

    I think celebrating your wedding anniversary even once you’re divorced is really sweet. Like, if everyone is okay with it, I think that it makes sense to mark the occasion of an important thing in your life.

  • @BudgetDiety
    @BudgetDiety День назад

    Tbh seems like a really emotionally mature nice guy with good friends lol, this dude would've been a great dad.

  • @randomgoats
    @randomgoats 2 дня назад

    This is actually a pretty wholesome attitude as long as everybody's on the same page haha

  • @lio2814
    @lio2814 8 дней назад +1

    I think there just is a point in peoples lives where your old and you just want to wind down and spend time with company you enjoy before life takes its toll. I understand that this is for some people and possibly not others.

  • @WGlass-ws5pe
    @WGlass-ws5pe День назад

    I like these characters that get weirder and weirder but aren't actually slappable

  • @AverageTargetShopper
    @AverageTargetShopper 9 дней назад +1

    Rick is the ultimate Chad. He’s playing the long game to get with Sharon. Respect.