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Yes , very needed , because lot of people are just confused with lot of inputs, they need to know both goods and bad to actually tell what is right and wrong
@@coolian00 get lost sucker ,!!!!!! Education system is not appropriate for today's required skills which we need .... Skiil matters not marks ....and education system always focus on marks 😒 So my dear ..... Go get some almonds ... Give some nutrition to your brain....then comment on such topics ... That will be good for you
Hiding your flaws will never result in a happy relationship. You have to be honest about yourself. U can hide your flaws at first but not through whole life. Hiding something in a relationship equals to distrust between the couple.
@Li'l Squeak Sincere boys marry after knowing and go for love marriage....its the cunning and dirty ones who like to know one and marry a fresh new person as arranged marriage and take a moral stand too of "maa baap ki marzi se". So kudos to boys who go for love marriages....!!
@Li'l Squeak yes dear thats what I meant....that attitude is the core of the problem...but many boys going in for arranged marriage have this very attitude and then disguise it as maa baap ki marzi and leave the girl who trusted them Thats why I feel at east in the present context, ppl who go in for love marriages are sincere.
To sum up 1. Don't conclude on beauty, money, big home it never last... 2. Do conversation with atleast 2 to 3 months.. And inquir about his/her past 3. Notice Red flag, deal breaker 4. Look at his/her adaptability to different situation and flexibility of attitude... 5. Don't expect the things which you don't follow
Hamare yaha arrange marriage me sirf ek hi mulakat hoti he 15-20 minutes ki aur woh bhi kahi bahar coffee shop, restaurant me nahi Ghar pe hi, jaha dono side k log present hote hai..... Matlab shaadi ek great gamble hi he......
12:23 .... yeah bro that's a good one.. Waiting for part-2... The quote... "Find a person that you enjoy being stuck with, you admire being stuck with and you would be intellectually stimulated with a person that you have chosen."🔥🔥🔥
Very important video, especially for those planning marriage. 10:00 is the most important part. Yes, spend as much time as possible conversing with your date about your marital future. Try to give a good six months to that. The more you talk to your date, the more you realise if they're ideal for you or not. If things don't get along well, you have that golden window to get out of that date. Don't get into a wrong marriage knowingly just for the sake of marriage. That'll be the biggest mistake of your life which you'll regret for ever. And lastly, don't go for looks only. While looks is the primary parameter, you must look out for other equally important factors, i.e., honesty, integrity, mentality and the compatibility between you two. In today's brutal society, these are the safety protocols you must follow to ensure a successful marriage. And for heaven's sake, don't fall prey to marriage brokers and horoscopes. That is a surefire way to doom your future perpetually.
I did open up.. I told the guy about my past and that guy told it to his whole family and brought them to my house to question me in front of my whole family. A big red flag for me. I early denied for the marriage. But now I am really afraid to open up. I don't want any random guy to bark my story to the world
Be prepared for rude awakenings if you dont disclose your past affairs to your spouse. Since you parents know now that you have had relationships, go for love marraige and date someone. Why would people those who have been in relationships go for arranged marriage is beyond me!!!!!! If you guys are bold enough to have affairs in a conservative country like India, why are you afraid to tell your parents that you cant go for arranged marriage? If you have had past relationships and hide them just for arranged marriages then be asssured that they will surface if the other guy has no experience because expectations always mismatch when past lives are different and then people enter dysfucntional marriages....Or find someone who has had past relationships...
@@xstacyk7387 what made you think that I have not told my parents.. They are fine for love marriage. If we a get a nice guy we would marry. Should we sit on road and say "hey waiting for love marriage come and show ur love"..😂😂😂 kuch b... And clear your brain, all Indian family is not conservative. I can't comment on ur family though
If you are having a past pls go for love marriage . People who have not dated anyone before marriage due to any reasons (mainly because of conservative families) go for arranged marriages . So mostly guys whom you would meet in an arranged marriage would not have a past and they want the same kind of women. So if u tell him about your past and if he happens to be immatute he will create a big drama just like you mentioned above or even a mature guy will simply reject you. If you don't tell him about your past then the consequences will be deadly. I mean really deadly and everyone including your own family will blame you only for whatever happens later. So go for love marriages or find guys with past in an arranged marriage which is quite rare. Thanku
gajab bhai...I m happy that unknowingly I applied almost 80% of these techniques while searching for my life partner and succeeded in it. Living a happy life
@@ayush4565 ladki ka baap dekhta hai, par zindagi nahi ! tumlog ke beechme agar coordination nahi hai to paisa kuch nahi ukhad lega. thoda research karke aaya kar !
Surviving 3years of Narcissistic abuse, I can completely relate to his points. The way he debunked the myths, kept me glued to the video till the end. Keep going Sir.
Who thinks on these lines? Parents only look at the boy's salary, his family and looks. Even if he is a non caring moron who is busy with his phone and doesn't even talk to his wife and kids. But then you are stuck for life.
When he said, if perticular person truly opens up with honesty then "wo bahot hi jabardast ladka ya lakdi h" I felt extremely proud😂🤣for myself... I am gonna here it on repeat.. lets bring some positivity for ourselves for who we are, n love ourselves more in this world full of lies, hatred n conspiracy.
Same with me, honestly batau toh I don't have any problem with girl having past but somewhere as a lagta h ki mera kuch relationship nhi rha toh mein chutiya hu maine woh phase miss kar diya, Iss kaaran se ek indecisiveness lagi rehti ki mujhe wait karke thoda explore karna chahiye ya shaadi kar lena chahiye
@@Prateekyzf abhishek ka matlab, "Girlfriend bana leni chahiye jiske saath physical relation ho par confused he ki kya shaadi karu abhi kisi or se ki kya?"
i have seen almost all videos of shwetabh and i never commented on any of his video... but this one stunned me , his understanding of things is really commendable. My mindset while watching this video might be biased because we all are in different circumstances. Indeed, shwetabh is influencing alot people ❤️
I can't agree to that, my neighbors marriage is love yet she is like threatened by her husband yet I can't say that arranged marriages are safe too given the generation
2 - 3 months baat karne k baad decide karna.. It's next to impossible in arrange marriage Yaha toh ek baar mila k bolte h ki jo puchna h puch lo or decide karlo.... Roka karke jitna baat karna h karte raho... 😞
Very true isiliye mene ghar me bol dia hai ab arrange marriage mat dekho mai khud dhundhungi jo mere liye compatable hoga use.ek hi bar dekhne wali baat hui or wo log mujhse decision puchne lage mene kaha mai itni jaldi kuch nahi keh sakti mujhe time dene ko hi tyar nahi the na mere rishtedar na ladke wale unki taraf se to ha thi shuru se hi but fir mene last me mana kar dia dahej ki baat par or mujhe sochne ka time na dene ki vajah se.mene keh dia un logo ko keh do kahi or dekh le mai 10 -15 minute ki baat me koi decision nahi le sakti or ladke wale hone ka ego bhi mai nahi sehan karungi.mujhe shuru se hi marriage ka concept girls k exploitation ka medium hi lagta hai khaskar arrange marriage.
Thanks alot sir for this video. Now I'm sure there is nothing wrong in thinking the way I do. I always ask people why you had a breakup?, because I want to know what are the things they expect from their relationship but people are so insecure about their past. I always want to open about my past because I want to let them know what I expect from my relationship. Thought of Arrange marriage are literally nightmare for someone like me. People want educated girl but they expect that girl should not speak in a arrange marriage meeting, if I want to speak for myself what is the harm? And to the people who are saying k parents nahi krne dete baat n all. Please guys it's high time you should take stand for yourself. Tum log apni family start krne ja rahe ho itna to tumhara haq banta hai. Make your parents understand that you need that time to get know a girl/boy. Because being single is better than being in a bad marriage.
Arranged Marriage Points 1) When two individuals stranger going to be share same bed to becoming a roomates there is convo must be star with truths about your past present and never hide your true identity. Tip: just put a valid Question why you seek arrange marriage. 2) The General Human simulation which are used to impress another one to being a cool never happened here, because here you have to perceive the intellectual of person front of you. 3) At some cases you should be a diplomatic Questions to ask for the truth. Just like. Detailed seeking Questions. 4) Allow other person to ask and tell about their perspective. 5) Accept that everyone has a past, No one is perfect including you, so Don't feel that person is judgmental after you opening up your flaws weakness worst side of yourself. You should tell about judgment. 6) Here we all now the truth is rarely opening up. But try your best. Duties and initiatives their habitual routines, seriousness,open mind , responsible, 7) Also there is less facts in whole convo but you just see the flags hints and you should capture it at your own mind. Compromise on certain thing that other person may be willing in once in a month. 8) You have to understand the Willingness to change and Ego of the person , adaptiveness of environment. 9) Average 2 to 5 months you have to take a decision for that it's a deal breaker.
Relationship don't come with guarantee. Expect them to fail at some point of time. Things may never be consistent in life. Shwetabh bhai has given really valid points to choose partner wisely or method of choosing one.
You're creating irrational filters like skin colour and looks and rational filters like practicality, etc., try to lean more towards the rational filters.
Ldki government officer thi. jis se meri engagement hui...she never respect me and my family....I cancle my marriage .ldki walon ne bda legal pressure diya. Wo log hamari family ko baaton baaton me bda humilate krte the. I choose my self respect!!! Maine shaadi mna kr diya. 🌟 "Self respect is everything" ✨️
So my husband and I are opposites. He is hardworking and I am lazy with daily chores- I do well when I do some practical and creative things like building a house or decorating a backyard etc. He is bookish and I am practical. We have been happily married for 30 years because I changed a little and he accepted the rest as a package. I bring excitement and creativity to his life. our kids are a good blend. We are happy together. If he had looked too much into it, we would have never been married.
Till now the only ppl having advantage with arrange marriage system were boys with good salary or money. They used to take home the prized girls or best looking girls. Now thankfully with girls working...yeh sab nahi chalega 😬 And I feel ppl going for love marriages are much more sincere. Jiske saath ghoome uske saath shadi ki...esp the boys....kudos to them 😊
@Capt Ranvijay Rana but every one doesn't want to be fuck boy like you . There are people like me who only want a good wife and companion for lifetime .
At 15:35 what big bro said, actually I have seen a girl of this type.She said that I m preparing for upsc but whenever I talked her, she was doing nothing or posting status on WhatsApp, or talking nonsense things.That is why I stopped talking to her & now it's almost 3 month, I m not in touch with her, she sent me some msg on WhatsApp but I didn't reply studiously even after doing seen on msg (to realise her that I m not interested in u). I m here to get practical knowledge of life from our big bro & replicate in real life.
"Arrange marriage mai ladake fas rahe hai aur love marriage mai ladakiya " Kuch b kaho but aajkal ladaki famous chapari ladako se Pat jati hai aur bad mai shadi krt vkt kisi mote kale paise wale k sath shadi kr k uska chutiya Kat Rahi hai. Ldke ko lgta hai uski simplicity swbhav dekh k ldki shadi kr rahi hai 😂
The first thought you have after hearing about something are heavily based on the things that you have seen and heard around you. That's why make sure you think before making a decision.
Honestly the only video I could actually understand . Lucid explaination, he has managed to put together the minutest of things . Absolutely wonderful!!
one thing that I learnt watching your videos is "Be Yourself". So what I generally do is be myself no matter what. Because I believe in expressing not impressing. There was a girl who was just lying as you said self preservation. And I was like this is the fuck who I am she left I don't feel bad about it. Because I think way more critical than she did. Thinking critically and taking time is very important while choosing the partner. At the end of the day you have spend your whole life and this isn't a foreign country where you could just marry 5 times in your life that's not going to happen.
I just came across your channel . Dude I am so glad I came across this channel. You know what all you said I can truly vouch my life for it. I recently had a divorce only because I wasn't prudent in the first go. It's imperative that we actually choose a person who actually compliments and support you be it mentally, spiritually, financially, physically. It's naive choosing a person basing his financial or family standing. The mental compatibility is foremost. Amazing work Shwetabh, more love and power to you.🔥🌈
So why did you get divorced? What was missing in your partner that you had to get divorced? And as a guy how can I avoid woman like you who choose men based upon how much money they make? So that I don't end up with a gold digger like you?
@@artisticminds4337 gold digger lol . I pity you and your prudence. I am not a gold digger. I am a CA and earn more than you can ever imagine. Have been earning more than ex husband. It’s hysterical how people like you comprehend the message. I meant it’s naive choosing a partner based his family standing , that means what the world or society thinks of such person or his family. Mental compatibility is foremost. But people like you will always keep comprehending it at such shallow level. God bless your mind and shallow thinking.
Hey there! This video on finding the right partner in an arranged marriage is a goldmine of smart advice. Loved how he emphasized using your smarts to uncover those hidden details. Paying attention to daily habits and activities is genius! Such a valuable guide for anyone navigating the arranged marriage scene. Kudos
In marriage compatibility is more important than looks and coolness. Finally you are going to spend your whole life with the same person and if there is lack of compatibility between the two then the whole life will be ' fucked'. So, think smartly.
There is no such right or wrong...mutual understanding is necessary...i have married to widowed girl...its more complicated than any other general arranged marriage with...unmarried girl...but still we r happily...enjoying our married life...
One thing Shwetabh has not told you that there are a lot of girls who have been sluts in their teenage and early 20's. They has been ridden the CC of many guys and want to settle down with some successful guy in their late 20's, looking for their prey. And most of them cannot pair bonds for love marriage so they choose to arrange marriage. Serious red flag brothers... You cannot turn a hoe to a housewife.
Very well said. And yes, it's nearly impossible to get the correct match at the first meeting itself. Looks aren't everything, a good personality and understanding is also required.
I have read your profile and I understand it's a perfect match for me, it will be a great idea to take things forward, hoping to see your response as soon as possible, am *Shash Ajeet by name, I am originally from pune Maharashtra but lives in Scotland and also work as a civil engineer building construction, my previous marriage ended sadly,
Thank you shwetabh sir for everything 😊...i have been watching your videos since 2018 and i can proudly say that I'm not the typical 18 years old boy. Your thinking process has made a great impact on my mind. Seriously, before i used to do nothing all day, blame others and always used to find excuses for nor doing any work. But you changed my life and my thinking process.
''Arranged Marriage" is the funniest thing I have known in this country - caste, color, community, cash balance and what not is being put on the checklist and you want two strangers to become soulmates for life. Ajeeb hai..
bhai generalize mat kar, mere yha arrange marriage=arranged dates by parents my brother married to a girl of other state and of course different caste, ek baar family mai koi aisi shaadi karleta h to family fir thodi liberal banne lagti h
@@peak_911 generalize tu kar raha he. Just because Teri family me hua doesn't mean it's a reality of the country. Check the ratio of arrange marriage and love marriage and you'll know what's happening
1. I am 27.5 yr old, good job with good pay and by next year I may be married. I won't mind a girl with a past, but i won't like if the person just want to settle with me, which could result in loveless affectionless marriage. A positive perception is fine, but reality or atleast a possibility can't be ignored. 2. If I had a past and the girl too had a past, that would be fine. But I never had a gf or a relationship. Sometimes the regret gets to the point that I don't feel to work or spoil my own work. 3. I guess the Reason why you and some people won't feel sex and relationship as not a big thing , is because it's easy for some guys to get girls. But what about guys who are really good and stable, but don't have traits to attract girls
Bro i can understand you. See if you didn't have any past then there is nothing wrong expecting a girl with out past. And as far as attractive traits just be confident and stylish and dress well and have some fun with your self. And lastly dont settle for less then what you deserve.
I have a small doubt? Even if I genuinely give the details of my past life without protecting anything, what’s the probability that the person will not misunderstand me. Because we have a habit of judging without being in the scenario
Pranay S if the other person is judging you or misunderstands u after knowing about your past.. then there is no need to move further in that relation.. it’s simple if a person can’t understand u or misjudges with you then how r u going to spend your whole life with such a person who don’t respects you or understand you.. Kindly think about it....
Still I have to learn more about relationships but I have understood it truly that Character and financial stability is the most important criteria to choose life partner; look is temporary, it should be last priority
What's the major problem is faced is before marriage people pretend soemthing , after marriage they change .Like you said that willingness to change .. they'll be like ya from today also I'll sleep at 10 instead of 1 as you are doing ( hypothise) they do before marriage post marriage they behave the way they did like kutte ki punch.. what to do in such a situation.. ab toh shadi kar k fs gye na ..
Yes... You are cool... But please don't admire gf bf relationship. It's causing so many crimes and too much friction in society. You are becoming only a Dairy Milk chocolate customer and getting noticed in their board meetings.
If you are joking that Mom says you don't have any other options, it means you were not able to impress a girl so that you get love marriage. So I'm saying if you do this type of joke it admire to get some gf bf relationship so that you become cool and wooo you have love marriage option and How lucky you are. So my concern as I'm a govt servant I'm seeing that teenager girls or boys running out of their homes to change their imagination of bollywood to reality.. So please don't joke as this as if it admire gf bf relationship and arranged marriage as helpless... 🙏
Bro some of your point I had already in my mind while searching my partner and also I found lots of more new things which I need to keep in mind so thank you so much now I have better mind set with clear thought to search a life partner in arranged marriage..... Because for me mental attraction is more important than physical. 👍👍👍👍🙏
I am from a village in Jharkhand and the girl and the boy choose each other with the 'only' meeting they have...and I feel this is stupid. I was astonished when this guy said to spend at least 2-3 months before choosing your partner. I wish this happened!
Bro if you reading this my message.. Thank you... for you this relationship, marriage series... it is really right to time video you are uploading... Advance congratulation for you 1 MILLION subscribers... your book is also good....... good work brother
There is also problem of lying in arrange marriage bcz of family/parents.. 1. They don't want you to expose yourself & share info honestly abt self & family 2. They give 2-3 chances of meetings & talk to decide whether you wanna spend the whole life with them or not. 3. They give more importance to kundali, family background, job etc than person's nature. ✌
Absolutely perfect timing... Such valuable insight ... Even professional think tanks can't provide this level of simplified guidance... Specially to ppl who have no option left other than arrange marriage.. !
Bhai ek trick jo me use karta hu vo ye h Ldki se kisi 3rd person k bare me pucho. What do u think about him? Phir uske answer ko observe karo vo kisi person ko kin bases pe judge krti h. Jin qualities k bare me vo pehle baat karegi Vohi uski priorities h. Usse bohot pta chalta h ki ladki ki thinking kaisi h. BTW great video. Plz isko aur detail me discuss karein 🙏
@@nishobit.1293 You're assuming its available and its pretty common for people to get proposals. Sooo "past of not finding anyone who thinks you worthy of love", sounds more realistic doesn't it
Saving yourself for marriage is not out of fashion. You girls are very much desired and in demand, both here and in west. Most of the guys will ditch their girls to find girls like you. Just find a guy who is not the best but the right one for you.
Me and my husband had an arranged marriage. It's good. You can avoid rhea type girl in arranged marriage Because you do proper background check and keep emotions aside while making decision here.
@@abhishekagarwal6661 try to collect information from neighbours classmates. My father sent some of our people in his area to be sure about his character. It's ok to do some spying before deciding. If Sushant was doing these he would be alive today.
15:54 this same apply to my sister. She's lazy, phony, irresponsible, unhygienic and super toxic. She's sleep probably 5am or 4am playing phone and wakes up at 12pm .I used to criticize her about her bad life style and she always reply stupidly because she didn't care or just to prove herself right. She annoyed me a lot by her lifestyle. And I just want to separate.
@@shubhammittal9764 Bhai shwetabh parents ko gf dhundne ko bol raha hai. Parents partner dhund ke denge and Shwetabh ne bola ki marriage se pahle long time conversation Karo taki person ko achhe se jaan sako toh ye toh dating hi hua but is case me parents gf dhundke de rahe hai
Came across your video! Currently going through the process of selecting the right partner. After talking to several prospects till now, I can tell that almost 90% of them backed out after I honestly told them about my past. Sometimes I doubt whether I am really in 21st century or still living in the pre-independence era.
has nothing to do with living in any century everybody has there own likes and dislikes living in 21st century doesn't mean anyone can/should blindly accept everything
Before even committing for Marriage you need to have a legal awareness on Matrimonial Laws as Indian Laws are Gynocentric in Nature. In simple terms matrimonial laws in India are against men. 1) Learn about Matrimonial and Criminal Laws in India. 2) Learn about common legal issues a husband faces in Indian Courts. 3) Learn about common ways to deal with it and how to take precautions.
I also thought this as roommate, and it scared me as I seriously like having my own space, so if I can tolerate anyone in my room happily, then he is the one
People get married or get into relationships after lying about their past actions and their partners don’t even ask about their past because we are currently living in this “NON JUDGEMENTAL” society where you are not allowed to judge. These people present themselves as some angels dropping from the sky which makes their partner love them. But is he/she really in love with you? No, they are in love with a facade you presented them about you. What’s more tragic is these people actually spend their lives together without even knowing who the other really is/was. Hence, do not do anything which you might be afraid of revealing to your future partner.
Awesome video and all the points are valid not just for arranged but even "love" marriage.. it doesn't matter how partners met, all marriages eventually last or end for the same damn reasons.. P.S. "love" is in quotes cos love marriage is a misnomer, even such matches are mostly "arranged" by friends or college or workplace.. pure serendipity happens only in movies..
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Binod
You are amazing sir
The book is great sir !!
Not completed yet but thanks for publishing it.
The rudest book ever is great shwetabh bhai ❤️
congrats in advance bro..to reach 1 million subs soon..
We need Part-II of this same topic.
Please sir
Part 2
Binod
Shi kaha bhai
Yes ! 2nd part aana chahiye
Yes , very needed , because lot of people are just confused with lot of inputs, they need to know both goods and bad to actually tell what is right and wrong
This man has taught me much more than my parents and 18 years of education..
+ RESPECT +
Me too.... education system sucks
@Rakshit Gholap that was sarcasm duh!.
@@AdityaKumar-dv9cp THERE IS NO PROBLEM WITH EDUCATION SYSTEM ....PROBLEM WITH U MENTALITY
@@coolian00 get lost sucker ,!!!!!!
Education system is not appropriate for today's required skills which we need .... Skiil matters not marks ....and education system always focus on marks 😒
So my dear ..... Go get some almonds ... Give some nutrition to your brain....then comment on such topics ...
That will be good for you
Same bhai
Arranged marriage is like giving job interview to each other where u have to prove u as the best candidate and have to hide ur past flaws...
Shadi hai hi chhutiyappa
What do u prefer arrange or love?
Hiding your flaws will never result in a happy relationship. You have to be honest about yourself. U can hide your flaws at first but not through whole life. Hiding something in a relationship equals to distrust between the couple.
@@suparnobhattacharya4644 100 % agee with you. Truth can never be hidden.
Waise...what's ur opinion?
Meanwhile
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Me a 15 y.o 🤭
18!😂✌️
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1 yr old watching for entertainment, 😂
its not how u take it , its about how u apply what u have learned otherwise everything will become preachy eventually.
Marrying someone you know is still considered wrong in our society. They prefer arrange marriage. Good work bro, very well said.
@Li'l Squeak I mean to say Love marriage
@Li'l Squeak Sincere boys marry after knowing and go for love marriage....its the cunning and dirty ones who like to know one and marry a fresh new person as arranged marriage and take a moral stand too of "maa baap ki marzi se".
So kudos to boys who go for love marriages....!!
@Li'l Squeak yes dear thats what I meant....that attitude is the core of the problem...but many boys going in for arranged marriage have this very attitude and then disguise it as maa baap ki marzi and leave the girl who trusted them Thats why I feel at east in the present context, ppl who go in for love marriages are sincere.
no, its not considered wrong unless u have same caste, same religion, same ethnicity :p
Tum love marriage karo kon mana kar raha hain bhai apko
Shwetabh's wife is the luckiest woman in the world
Or yours can be
Jealous are we?
Yes
@@huzaifkhatib8939 wow nice way of contradicting!
No bro..."doodh ka jala...chaanch v phoonk- phoonk kr pita h"😁😁😁😆😆😆
I focused on my Career and couldn't find a girl so far.
Now I am forced to go for an arrange marriage 🥴
@Wu Wei haan🤯😂😂
sad lyf
@@ayush4565 indeed
@@RounakKushwaha apne per annum income kitni hai
@@RounakKushwahamere sath bhi yhi hoga lagta hai😅
Waise bhi GF toh banti nahi shadi toh waise bhi arrange hi hongey. Chalo sun hi lete hai swetabh bhai ki.
@@IamXenorex beauty doesn't matters in long term after 30 every girl looks ugly without makeup
Koi Nahi bro.. apan apni life aur apne aapko better bana hi sakte hain.
@@ChinmayTiwariOfficial geiii
Mera same haal h breakup k be arranged marriage hi best option lgta h
@@selfimprovement7557 right bro. I would find a girl like my mother. I mean the nature my mother have.
One thing I've leant that 2 people should have similarities in their nature for a happy married life.
Who wants part 2 of this topic
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To sum up
1. Don't conclude on beauty, money, big home it never last...
2. Do conversation with atleast 2 to 3 months.. And inquir about his/her past
3. Notice Red flag, deal breaker
4. Look at his/her adaptability to different situation and flexibility of attitude...
5. Don't expect the things which you don't follow
5:55 Ask detail Question, to Know deeper nature. Why you are choosing this marriage?
No one is perfect including you.
Everyone has past.
@@drsranjanconsciousnesscoac6833 Bhai apna koi past nahi h, par maine note kia h ki ladkiya bahut jhoot bolti h past ke baare mein
This not apply to arrange marraige but many of the points can applied when someone is looking for relarionship (gf and bf)
Eventually a simp will thrive into an arrange marriage
@Capt Ranvijay Rana unfortunately some parents even do that as well
@@kunalsaiyan2126 lol
10:55 - "for example, let's say aap ek insaan ho"🤣
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@@hackerutkarsh no ...he is barun ...I am saurabh ...you are utkarsh ...
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Hamare yaha arrange marriage me sirf ek hi mulakat hoti he 15-20 minutes ki aur woh bhi kahi bahar coffee shop, restaurant me nahi Ghar pe hi, jaha dono side k log present hote hai.....
Matlab shaadi ek great gamble hi he......
So isme kaise decide krenge ki ye hmare liye right partner hoga?? 🤔
Harshida are you married now,??
12:23 .... yeah bro that's a good one..
Waiting for part-2... The quote... "Find a person that you enjoy being stuck with, you admire being stuck with and you would be intellectually stimulated with a person that you have chosen."🔥🔥🔥
Mene openess se kiya tha conversation now we are strangers😂
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Hehe same here
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My respect for this man has been increasing leaps and bounds.
Meanwhile
Savdhaan india me biwi ne bf ke sath milkar kiya husband ka murder...🙄🙄
Single rehne me bhalai he tab to😥
Aarush kumar lol
Aajkal to ye bhi bawal h saala.
Uska naam savdhan India se badlkr Alt Balaji show kr dena chahiye.. Wo sale crime show ke naam pr soft porn ka dhandha krte h..
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Very important video, especially for those planning marriage. 10:00 is the most important part. Yes, spend as much time as possible conversing with your date about your marital future. Try to give a good six months to that. The more you talk to your date, the more you realise if they're ideal for you or not. If things don't get along well, you have that golden window to get out of that date. Don't get into a wrong marriage knowingly just for the sake of marriage. That'll be the biggest mistake of your life which you'll regret for ever. And lastly, don't go for looks only. While looks is the primary parameter, you must look out for other equally important factors, i.e., honesty, integrity, mentality and the compatibility between you two. In today's brutal society, these are the safety protocols you must follow to ensure a successful marriage. And for heaven's sake, don't fall prey to marriage brokers and horoscopes. That is a surefire way to doom your future perpetually.
Hi what do u think we do for 6 months
I did open up.. I told the guy about my past and that guy told it to his whole family and brought them to my house to question me in front of my whole family.
A big red flag for me. I early denied for the marriage.
But now I am really afraid to open up. I don't want any random guy to bark my story to the world
Be prepared for rude awakenings if you dont disclose your past affairs to your spouse. Since you parents know now that you have had relationships, go for love marraige and date someone. Why would people those who have been in relationships go for arranged marriage is beyond me!!!!!! If you guys are bold enough to have affairs in a conservative country like India, why are you afraid to tell your parents that you cant go for arranged marriage? If you have had past relationships and hide them just for arranged marriages then be asssured that they will surface if the other guy has no experience because expectations always mismatch when past lives are different and then people enter dysfucntional marriages....Or find someone who has had past relationships...
@@xstacyk7387 what made you think that I have not told my parents.. They are fine for love marriage. If we a get a nice guy we would marry. Should we sit on road and say "hey waiting for love marriage come and show ur love"..😂😂😂 kuch b...
And clear your brain, all Indian family is not conservative. I can't comment on ur family though
If you are having a past pls go for love marriage . People who have not dated anyone before marriage due to any reasons (mainly because of conservative families) go for arranged marriages . So mostly guys whom you would meet in an arranged marriage would not have a past and they want the same kind of women. So if u tell him about your past and if he happens to be immatute he will create a big drama just like you mentioned above or even a mature guy will simply reject you. If you don't tell him about your past then the consequences will be deadly. I mean really deadly and everyone including your own family will blame you only for whatever happens later. So go for love marriages or find guys with past in an arranged marriage which is quite rare.
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@@abhitzaaa6041 bro yaha pe arrange marrige ko rakhash Process ghosit kar diya hai you tube commento me 😂
I love 💞 you.
Fact :- Your future wife is watching this video 😁😂
That will be great
@@morephenominalmen I know have you seen his wife ??
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Let me tell you an another fact : They will forget everything what swetabh said in this video by then.
We should apply same things for dating also .
saurabh ya i wish
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@@ideasynthesis9827 a lot of people were saying that the one who started binod himself died last week not sure if its just rumors
gajab bhai...I m happy that unknowingly I applied almost 80% of these techniques while searching for my life partner and succeeded in it. Living a happy life
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Shwetabh: Nehi chalthi
sab chlti ai arrange marriage mai.
ladki ka baap sabse pehle yhi dekhta hai.
pehle shaadi krlo phir zindagi bitane ke saone dekhna
Hahhhahh.. 🤣
@@ayush4565 True....
@@ayush4565 ladki ka baap dekhta hai, par zindagi nahi ! tumlog ke beechme agar coordination nahi hai to paisa kuch nahi ukhad lega. thoda research karke aaya kar !
Beautiful answer by shwetabh bhai to yo yo kaka
24 year watching for his future partner ❤
Surviving 3years of Narcissistic abuse, I can completely relate to his points. The way he debunked the myths, kept me glued to the video till the end.
Keep going Sir.
Can I get your insta account
apke husband ki kuch buri cheeze bolo jisse hm rectify kar sakhe
My wisdom has gone 10 years ahead. Please make a part-2 bro.
Who thinks on these lines? Parents only look at the boy's salary, his family and looks. Even if he is a non caring moron who is busy with his phone and doesn't even talk to his wife and kids. But then you are stuck for life.
Yes i agree
Same goes with girls
Parents think according to his own old beliefs
They are not wrong.
yes it is not correct !!! Person's quality matter's the most irrespective of everything !!
@you’re breathtaking Yes brother you are absolutely right!!
That's we need pure communication...without hesitation..unless..it will be exposed after some time.
When he said, if perticular person truly opens up with honesty then "wo bahot hi jabardast ladka ya lakdi h" I felt extremely proud😂🤣for myself... I am gonna here it on repeat.. lets bring some positivity for ourselves for who we are, n love ourselves more in this world full of lies, hatred n conspiracy.
same here 😂 I doubt myself sometimes for being too honest
Same with me, honestly batau toh I don't have any problem with girl having past but somewhere as a lagta h ki mera kuch relationship nhi rha toh mein chutiya hu maine woh phase miss kar diya,
Iss kaaran se ek indecisiveness lagi rehti ki mujhe wait karke thoda explore karna chahiye ya shaadi kar lena chahiye
@@abhishekpanwar1455 What do you mean by "Explore kar lena chaiye" ? What do you want to explore ?
@@Prateekyzf abhishek ka matlab, "Girlfriend bana leni chahiye jiske saath physical relation ho par confused he ki kya shaadi karu abhi kisi or se ki kya?"
i have seen almost all videos of shwetabh and i never commented on any of his video... but this one stunned me , his understanding of things is really commendable. My mindset while watching this video might be biased because we all are in different circumstances. Indeed, shwetabh is influencing alot people ❤️
marriage is for people who don't want their bad day to end at work.
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I can't agree to that, my neighbors marriage is love yet she is like threatened by her husband yet I can't say that arranged marriages are safe too given the generation
2 - 3 months baat karne k baad decide karna.. It's next to impossible in arrange marriage
Yaha toh ek baar mila k bolte h ki jo puchna h puch lo or decide karlo.... Roka karke jitna baat karna h karte raho... 😞
Stand strong for urself.. be the one u can be proud of
Be self dependent... marriage is a scam...outdated tradition...won't work in current time..
True...
But Agar us ldke ki niyat kharab ho to aap
Gharwalo se kuch bhi bolke roka tudwa do...
Aakhir zindagi ka sawaal hain
@@Agyani_21 I was just telling a situation.
Very true isiliye mene ghar me bol dia hai ab arrange marriage mat dekho mai khud dhundhungi jo mere liye compatable hoga use.ek hi bar dekhne wali baat hui or wo log mujhse decision puchne lage mene kaha mai itni jaldi kuch nahi keh sakti mujhe time dene ko hi tyar nahi the na mere rishtedar na ladke wale unki taraf se to ha thi shuru se hi but fir mene last me mana kar dia dahej ki baat par or mujhe sochne ka time na dene ki vajah se.mene keh dia un logo ko keh do kahi or dekh le mai 10 -15 minute ki baat me koi decision nahi le sakti or ladke wale hone ka ego bhi mai nahi sehan karungi.mujhe shuru se hi marriage ka concept girls k exploitation ka medium hi lagta hai khaskar arrange marriage.
Last few minutes,about wheather they are active or lazy is really worth hearing.
Thanks alot sir for this video.
Now I'm sure there is nothing wrong in thinking the way I do.
I always ask people why you had a breakup?, because I want to know what are the things they expect from their relationship but people are so insecure about their past.
I always want to open about my past because I want to let them know what I expect from my relationship.
Thought of Arrange marriage are literally nightmare for someone like me. People want educated girl but they expect that girl should not speak in a arrange marriage meeting, if I want to speak for myself what is the harm?
And to the people who are saying k parents nahi krne dete baat n all. Please guys it's high time you should take stand for yourself. Tum log apni family start krne ja rahe ho itna to tumhara haq banta hai.
Make your parents understand that you need that time to get know a girl/boy.
Because being single is better than being in a bad marriage.
Sahi faisla hai aapka
Bilkul sahi
Yes mera yaha bhi ladka ladki nhi milte sadi se pehle I hate arrange marriage
Hey aapki shadi ho gayi kya
if u have clear past then u can marry in arrange marriage
Arranged Marriage Points
1) When two individuals stranger going to be share same bed to becoming a roomates there is convo must be star with truths about your past present and never hide your true identity. Tip: just put a valid Question why you seek arrange marriage.
2) The General Human simulation which are used to impress another one to being a cool never happened here, because here you have to perceive the intellectual of person front of you.
3) At some cases you should be a diplomatic Questions to ask for the truth. Just like. Detailed seeking Questions.
4) Allow other person to ask and tell about their perspective.
5) Accept that everyone has a past, No one is perfect including you, so Don't feel that person is judgmental after you opening up your flaws weakness worst side of yourself. You should tell about judgment.
6) Here we all now the truth is rarely opening up. But try your best. Duties and initiatives their habitual routines, seriousness,open mind , responsible,
7) Also there is less facts in whole convo but you just see the flags hints and you should capture it at your own mind. Compromise on certain thing that other person may be willing in once in a month.
8) You have to understand the Willingness to change and Ego of the person , adaptiveness of environment.
9) Average 2 to 5 months you have to take a decision for that it's a deal breaker.
Everyone does not have past
@@cr-pz5ou I also don't have a past😊 ...
Relationship don't come with guarantee. Expect them to fail at some point of time. Things may never be consistent in life. Shwetabh bhai has given really valid points to choose partner wisely or method of choosing one.
Ashish Chaudhari well its better to stay single and get only friends with benefits
@@AshTheDuke bada sustainable solution hai bhai, salute !
@@shubhamlahoti9758 ha bhai lekin that is also difficult lol
@@AshTheDuke but it's difficult to live alone after 40+..
Sandeep Meena ya i know lets just wait and hope we will find our soulmate
The guy is on fire 🔥
He wants to hit 1 million subscribers soon now.
People who already done arrange marriage should leave this vedio because it is too late😂😜
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Since when i have seen u ....i like the boys who has dark skin nd tough look nd practical thoughts and strong state of mind...
Nice 👌
@Hanzo Hasashi yes
You're creating irrational filters like skin colour and looks and rational filters like practicality, etc., try to lean more towards the rational filters.
@Super nova assumptions, shed them.
Girls already choose dark skin boys but not dark skin boys are good.
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Single from childhood....... arrange marriage bhi nahi hogi😂
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Single since childhood...mujhe bhi apna yahi lagta hai😅
@@divyarawat5991 tum ladki ho kya?
Ldki government officer thi. jis se meri engagement hui...she never respect me and my family....I cancle my marriage .ldki walon ne bda legal pressure diya. Wo log hamari family ko baaton baaton me bda humilate krte the. I choose my self respect!!! Maine shaadi mna kr diya.
🌟 "Self respect is everything" ✨️
Where you met her Matrimony or Office Love ?
So my husband and I are opposites. He is hardworking and I am lazy with daily chores- I do well when I do some practical and creative things like building a house or decorating a backyard etc. He is bookish and I am practical. We have been happily married for 30 years because I changed a little and he accepted the rest as a package. I bring excitement and creativity to his life. our kids are a good blend. We are happy together. If he had looked too much into it, we would have never been married.
You da realise that yours is a exception
Till now the only ppl having advantage with arrange marriage system were boys with good salary or money. They used to take home the prized girls or best looking girls. Now thankfully with girls working...yeh sab nahi chalega 😬
And I feel ppl going for love marriages are much more sincere. Jiske saath ghoome uske saath shadi ki...esp the boys....kudos to them 😊
@Elon Musk Not everyone can get a ROLLS ROYCE so everyone should beg it from the billionaires.
@Capt Ranvijay Rana Bhaiya 35-40 mein retire karoge to pension nahi milega naahi sufficient savings hogi. Kaise aish karoge?
@Capt Ranvijay Rana but every one doesn't want to be fuck boy like you .
There are people like me who only want a good wife and companion for lifetime .
@Capt Ranvijay Rana yaar girls bhi pati aur bacchon ka bhoj uthane mein interested nhi hain bro
@Capt Ranvijay Rana yup waise bhi single hi best hai
Couldn't stop myself from agreeing to each points that you have mentioned here. It's so much relatable. Your videos have remarkable content buddy !
This guy knows how to choose trending topics 😂
I love u too.😁💛
@@SuperBrigesh salle tharki 😹
@@xavier-wi8gk whats the meaning of this emoji-🤟🏽. Search it..😊
@@SuperBrigesh LOL .
Exactly
At 15:35 what big bro said, actually I have seen a girl of this type.She said that I m preparing for upsc but whenever I talked her, she was doing nothing or posting status on WhatsApp, or talking nonsense things.That is why I stopped talking to her & now it's almost 3 month, I m not in touch with her, she sent me some msg on WhatsApp but I didn't reply studiously even after doing seen on msg (to realise her that I m not interested in u).
I m here to get practical knowledge of life from our big bro & replicate in real life.
Good
You should say this thing to her
Yeh video ladki dekhne jaane k pehle 2 3 baar revise kar lunga😂😂😂
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Notes le le ek baar hi 😂😂😂
"Arrange marriage mai ladake fas rahe hai aur love marriage mai ladakiya "
Kuch b kaho but aajkal ladaki famous chapari ladako se Pat jati hai aur bad mai shadi krt vkt kisi mote kale paise wale k sath shadi kr k uska chutiya Kat Rahi hai. Ldke ko lgta hai uski simplicity swbhav dekh k ldki shadi kr rahi hai 😂
Shubham Ingale yes agreed
Kharay bhava
I will never marry i rather stay single. Mey toh meri hee shaadi k din mey bhaag jaunga
Katehi jehar bol diya truth 💯
"I love his simplicity." Most used sentence by wives who generally don't like their "bhole bhale" hushbands.
The first thought you have after hearing about something are heavily based on the things that you have seen and heard around you.
That's why make sure you think before making a decision.
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Honestly the only video I could actually understand . Lucid explaination, he has managed to put together the minutest of things . Absolutely wonderful!!
one thing that I learnt watching your videos is "Be Yourself". So what I generally do is be myself no matter what. Because I believe in expressing not impressing. There was a girl who was just lying as you said self preservation. And I was like this is the fuck who I am she left I don't feel bad about it. Because I think way more critical than she did. Thinking critically and taking time is very important while choosing the partner. At the end of the day you have spend your whole life and this isn't a foreign country where you could just marry 5 times in your life that's not going to happen.
Absolutely true brother and very well said. 🙌🔥
Is it really that worth brother?
@@risinggamer3011 definitely
In long term it is
Things that actually makes sense are like trees
It takes time to get fruits
Are you in a happy marriage
The realest channel on RUclips. It blows my mind how well you cover certain topics
Life is beautiful with the practical relationships..❤
I'm 21 year old
I don't have any past relationship & I am proud of that 😎
Bhai tu heera hai
@@abhishar03 heera from Sooryavansham Movie??
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Bahut badhiye meethe
I just came across your channel .
Dude I am so glad I came across this channel. You know what all you said I can truly vouch my life for it. I recently had a divorce only because I wasn't prudent in the first go. It's imperative that we actually choose a person who actually compliments and support you be it mentally, spiritually, financially, physically. It's naive choosing a person basing his financial or family standing.
The mental compatibility is foremost.
Amazing work Shwetabh, more love and power to you.🔥🌈
whats the meaning of the words prudent, imperative, naive???
@@SarFirraEdits prudent - being wise, Imperative - necessary, naïve - one who is very simple in nature
Wat u said in ur comment same here. So oly nowadays I watching like these videos
So why did you get divorced? What was missing in your partner that you had to get divorced? And as a guy how can I avoid woman like you who choose men based upon how much money they make? So that I don't end up with a gold digger like you?
@@artisticminds4337 gold digger lol . I pity you and your prudence. I am not a gold digger. I am a CA and earn more than you can ever imagine. Have been earning more than ex husband. It’s hysterical how people like you comprehend the message. I meant it’s naive choosing a partner based his family standing , that means what the world or society thinks of such person or his family. Mental compatibility is foremost. But people like you will always keep comprehending it at such shallow level. God bless your mind and shallow thinking.
Hey there! This video on finding the right partner in an arranged marriage is a goldmine of smart advice. Loved how he emphasized using your smarts to uncover those hidden details. Paying attention to daily habits and activities is genius! Such a valuable guide for anyone navigating the arranged marriage scene. Kudos
Le* shwetabh's Wife : I've choosen a right human being😊😊😊😊😊
human beings are not right.. rather their relationship is.
@@tango2olo or right partner
@@tango2olo You're dull...
You didn't even understand what he said
Anyone would lucky to have him. This guy is one gem of a person :)
@@swapnilsharma2794 absolutely 😊
In marriage compatibility is more important than looks and coolness. Finally you are going to spend your whole life with the same person and if there is lack of compatibility between the two then the whole life will be ' fucked'. So, think smartly.
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Nikah hua yh nhi
There is no such right or wrong...mutual understanding is necessary...i have married to widowed girl...its more complicated than any other general arranged marriage with...unmarried girl...but still we r happily...enjoying our married life...
bro aapka naam toh binod se bhi accha hai
B's kro vinoooooodddddd😭😭😭😭
@@ayush4565 binod
उलटा उसको ज्यादा मॅचूरीटी होगी।
One thing Shwetabh has not told you that there are a lot of girls who have been sluts in their teenage and early 20's. They has been ridden the CC of many guys and want to settle down with some successful guy in their late 20's, looking for their prey. And most of them cannot pair bonds for love marriage so they choose to arrange marriage. Serious red flag brothers... You cannot turn a hoe to a housewife.
Very well said. And yes, it's nearly impossible to get the correct match at the first meeting itself. Looks aren't everything, a good personality and understanding is also required.
Really?
Age gap....10 yrs+
Vo govt job me h isliye family force kr rhi h.🥺
I have read your profile and I understand it's a perfect match for me, it will be a great idea to take things forward, hoping to see your response as soon as possible, am *Shash Ajeet by name, I am originally from pune Maharashtra but lives in Scotland and also work as a civil engineer building construction, my previous marriage ended sadly,
@@greatindia6468 You should have the right to decide for yourself. Hold your ground girl. Are you doing any job btw??
Make decisions based on your intellect
Not INSTINCT
AND IF YOU WANT TO KNOW HOW TO BE CONSISTENT
YOU CAN HAVE A VISIT!
I am a 20yr old college going man, but I will show this video to her before talking with her when's the time will come!!!😎😎😎
I was expecting BINOD after that pause🤦🏻♂️😂
@@thinnestprogram5667 sometimes you have to be selfish
Jo insan chutiya ho vo kya kare uska intellect to lode pe hai
Check all his information don't believe what he says
Everyone: appreciating shwetabh for this video.
Me: Thinking who is that thumbnail women? 🤔
Simp.
😂 correct bro
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It is from some Netflix show regd. Arrange marriage
@@xxtervilexxtupac6089 bhai/behen ye simp ka mtalab kya hai?? Maine kai baar padha hai ye word.🤔
How could he be so intellectual and practical to every problems
Salute to you 🙏
Really feeling greatful to be part of MENSUTRA community❣️
Thank you shwetabh sir for everything 😊...i have been watching your videos since 2018 and i can proudly say that I'm not the typical 18 years old boy. Your thinking process has made a great impact on my mind. Seriously, before i used to do nothing all day, blame others and always used to find excuses for nor doing any work. But you changed my life and my thinking process.
''Arranged Marriage" is the funniest thing I have known in this country - caste, color, community, cash balance and what not is being put on the checklist and you want two strangers to become soulmates for life. Ajeeb hai..
totally agree with u brother...
bhai generalize mat kar, mere yha arrange marriage=arranged dates by parents
my brother married to a girl of other state and of course different caste, ek baar family mai koi aisi shaadi karleta h to family fir thodi liberal banne lagti h
haan tujhe marriage bhi funny lagega saale.
@@peak_911 generalize tu kar raha he. Just because Teri family me hua doesn't mean it's a reality of the country. Check the ratio of arrange marriage and love marriage and you'll know what's happening
1. I am 27.5 yr old, good job with good pay and by next year I may be married. I won't mind a girl with a past, but i won't like if the person just want to settle with me, which could result in loveless affectionless marriage. A positive perception is fine, but reality or atleast a possibility can't be ignored.
2. If I had a past and the girl too had a past, that would be fine. But I never had a gf or a relationship. Sometimes the regret gets to the point that I don't feel to work or spoil my own work.
3. I guess the Reason why you and some people won't feel sex and relationship as not a big thing , is because it's easy for some guys to get girls. But what about guys who are really good and stable, but don't have traits to attract girls
Bro i can understand you. See if you didn't have any past then there is nothing wrong expecting a girl with out past.
And as far as attractive traits just be confident and stylish and dress well and have some fun with your self.
And lastly dont settle for less then what you deserve.
True man ✌
Good and stable couldn't attract girls not possible. You were eyeing aishwarya rai probably.
@@EloraSelah so? I shud start being jerk and toxic.... Also jst bcos u like dr*gs doesn't mean u hv to hav it to live...
I have a small doubt? Even if I genuinely give the details of my past life without protecting anything, what’s the probability that the person will not misunderstand me. Because we have a habit of judging without being in the scenario
You just read my mind.
Pranay S if the other person is judging you or misunderstands u after knowing about your past.. then there is no need to move further in that relation..
it’s simple if a person can’t understand u or misjudges with you then how r u going to spend your whole life with such a person who don’t respects you or understand you..
Kindly think about it....
if he judges, he is not the deserving one.. u hav to be confident n find a better one
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Sumana Konwar right
After seeing this video, Binod be like:
Mujhe shaadi nahi karni 🤣
I am that binod😛😛😛
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Still I have to learn more about relationships but I have understood it truly that Character and financial stability is the most important criteria to choose life partner; look is temporary, it should be last priority
What's the major problem is faced is before marriage people pretend soemthing , after marriage they change .Like you said that willingness to change .. they'll be like ya from today also I'll sleep at 10 instead of 1 as you are doing ( hypothise) they do before marriage post marriage they behave the way they did like kutte ki punch.. what to do in such a situation.. ab toh shadi kar k fs gye na ..
Me: mom main arrange marriage karuga
Mom: tere paas aur koi rasta hai
Haha
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Bro Bharatiya Maa Hai
Don't Try To Be Over Smart Infront Of Her
Yes... You are cool... But please don't admire gf bf relationship. It's causing so many crimes and too much friction in society. You are becoming only a Dairy Milk chocolate customer and getting noticed in their board meetings.
@@AbhishekKrSingh-nq1rm kehna kya chahte ho
If you are joking that Mom says you don't have any other options, it means you were not able to impress a girl so that you get love marriage. So I'm saying if you do this type of joke it admire to get some gf bf relationship so that you become cool and wooo you have love marriage option and How lucky you are. So my concern as I'm a govt servant I'm seeing that teenager girls or boys running out of their homes to change their imagination of bollywood to reality.. So please don't joke as this as if it admire gf bf relationship and arranged marriage as helpless... 🙏
No girl will marry me................all are going after binod
True indeed! every point worth to listen ..
That's why it's always said marry a human being not a machine who will give output as per your command.
Bro some of your point I had already in my mind while searching my partner and also I found lots of more new things which I need to keep in mind so thank you so much now I have better mind set with clear thought to search a life partner in arranged marriage..... Because for me mental attraction is more important than physical. 👍👍👍👍🙏
Shwetabh is on fire 🔥🔥 these days , back to back videos.
1 million karna hai jald se jald
@@rajeevghumkar212 August ke end tak ho jaenge
@@qwertyqwerty9349 are 3-4 din mein ho jayenge
@@qwertyqwerty9349 Easily
@@qwertyqwerty9349 bhai ek hafte me ho jaye ga or maybe usse phele
I am from a village in Jharkhand and the girl and the boy choose each other with the 'only' meeting they have...and I feel this is stupid. I was astonished when this guy said to spend at least 2-3 months before choosing your partner. I wish this happened!
I will spend atleast 6 months to a year.
Singles please like -
😂😂😂😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣
Mat Gand jala Bhai
24 still single
Never been in a relationship... 💪💪💪
@@shaurryaa 26 still single 😂
Binod
@@thesunshine6818 same here... Par 1 bargi sokh h date krna ka gf ke sath.. As if kab pura hota h
Bro if you reading this my message.. Thank you... for you this relationship, marriage series... it is really right to time video you are uploading... Advance congratulation for you 1 MILLION subscribers... your book is also good....... good work brother
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Deeply appreciate bro!!
plzz make sure to like share it with your friends if you like them.
@@ayush4565 ofcourse
There is also problem of lying in arrange marriage bcz of family/parents.. 1. They don't want you to expose yourself & share info honestly abt self & family 2. They give 2-3 chances of meetings & talk to decide whether you wanna spend the whole life with them or not. 3. They give more importance to kundali, family background, job etc than person's nature. ✌
Absolutely perfect timing... Such valuable insight ... Even professional think tanks can't provide this level of simplified guidance... Specially to ppl who have no option left other than arrange marriage.. !
Bro I m 18 but still watching this video 😂😂
I am 14
Mee tooo bro 😂
I m 101
I m 19😎😂
I am 14
Bhai ek trick jo me use karta hu vo ye h
Ldki se kisi 3rd person k bare me pucho. What do u think about him?
Phir uske answer ko observe karo vo kisi person ko kin bases pe judge krti h. Jin qualities k bare me vo pehle baat karegi Vohi uski priorities h. Usse bohot pta chalta h ki ladki ki thinking kaisi h.
BTW great video. Plz isko aur detail me discuss karein 🙏
Big brain Bhai!
Need video on Current Sushant Singh Rajput case.
( 'Cheating' aspect of the case )
sab blame game khel rhe hai, jab CBI investication poori kr le, sirf tabhi kuch keh sakte hai!
@@ayush4565 ....maafia govt ne cbi enquiry ko fir oppose kiyaa hai , vo nahi chahti ke investigation ho
@@englishwitharpitt9205 unko lagta hai, unki police ko badnaam kr rhe hain , issliye aisa kha. baaki kuch nhi kehsakte for sure
@@ayush4565 ......kehne kya hai baii... Police to khud govt ke ishare par kaam karti hai ,..govt hi nahi chahti to justice kaise milega
@@englishwitharpitt9205 huhhh, it has nithing to do with govt, everyone till now is inly playing bkame game and making money on people sympathy
You Are Running A Race
Not Knowing Whom Or What To Chase
You Will Never Know
But All You’ll Do Is Keep Walking
Until You Turn To Ashes
Swetabh keh raha he everybody has a past
But i don't have 🤔
and i don't want to have
Then you have a past of avoiding love and suppressing your physical needs.
@@nishobit.1293 You're assuming its available and its pretty common for people to get proposals. Sooo "past of not finding anyone who thinks you worthy of love", sounds more realistic doesn't it
Saving yourself for marriage is not out of fashion. You girls are very much desired and in demand, both here and in west. Most of the guys will ditch their girls to find girls like you.
Just find a guy who is not the best but the right one for you.
me too
U r good person.
I hope this goes correctly in my life when following this, warna aaj kal rhea jaise ladkiya ghoom rahi hai🤦🤣
Me and my husband had an arranged marriage. It's good. You can avoid rhea type girl in arranged marriage Because you do proper background check and keep emotions aside while making decision here.
@@zzzbbb2192 thanks a lot for the advice, but nowadays its difficult to know a person as everyone pretends.
I am not perfect but just saying.
@@abhishekagarwal6661 try to collect information from neighbours classmates. My father sent some of our people in his area to be sure about his character. It's ok to do some spying before deciding. If Sushant was doing these he would be alive today.
@@zzzbbb2192 True, well said.👏
MARRYING DOESN'T MEAN OVER INDULGING , OVER INTERFERING IN EACH OTHERS LIFE. A BALANCE CAN BE BROUGHT OUT
Ghanta
This man is a gem💓💯. He's giving all this valuable information and perspective to the country for free.
15:54 this same apply to my sister. She's lazy, phony, irresponsible, unhygienic and super toxic. She's sleep probably 5am or 4am playing phone and wakes up at 12pm .I used to criticize her about her bad life style and she always reply stupidly because she didn't care or just to prove herself right. She annoyed me a lot by her lifestyle. And I just want to separate.
Sed experience yarr, now you found swethwb point
Uske future groom ko sab bata dio. That will be your revenge 😎
@@ajaybisht6146 😂😂😂😂
Finally gf banane ko bola 😂😂😂😂
bhutnike pehle career banana phir gf banana ...
shaadi ke liye bola, chutiyapanti ke liye nahi
@@shubhammittal9764 Bhai shwetabh parents ko gf dhundne ko bol raha hai. Parents partner dhund ke denge and Shwetabh ne bola ki marriage se pahle long time conversation Karo taki person ko achhe se jaan sako toh ye toh dating hi hua but is case me parents gf dhundke de rahe hai
Came across your video! Currently going through the process of selecting the right partner. After talking to several prospects till now, I can tell that almost 90% of them backed out after I honestly told them about my past. Sometimes I doubt whether I am really in 21st century or still living in the pre-independence era.
has nothing to do with living in any century
everybody has there own likes and dislikes
living in 21st century doesn't mean anyone can/should blindly accept everything
They clearly are not compatible with u
accept their opinions too, you cannot change others
@@bhuwansharmaa exactly... 👍
But in India its like i need सुन्दर londiya first baki sab bad में 😂
Traditional Way🤣🤣🤣
India vaale binod hai
@@ayush4565 This is Savage 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Nowadays girls will be like shaddi करूंगी to binod wale se👭😂😂😂😂😂😂
True. Doesn't mean that it is correct hence the perspective and thinking has to change .
3:47 Law of diminishing marginal utilities 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Hahhahah.....🤣🤣🤣
Totally relatable
@@SK-mj5qf thanks 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Bhai humara economics student 😂😂😂
Before even committing for Marriage you need to have a legal awareness on Matrimonial Laws as Indian Laws are Gynocentric in Nature. In simple terms matrimonial laws in India are against men.
1) Learn about Matrimonial and Criminal Laws in India.
2) Learn about common legal issues a husband faces in Indian Courts.
3) Learn about common ways to deal with it and how to take precautions.
Seriously, specially in the case of seperation. There are no full proof prenuptial agreements either... Marriage? No thanks.
I also thought this as roommate, and it scared me as I seriously like having my own space, so if I can tolerate anyone in my room happily, then he is the one
Sharing life..and sacrifices...😌
Same I feel jayshree
You hit the nail on ground
Perfect to point , precisely drafted !
I got rejected for being transparent.. lol😂🤣
Atleast you are safe now from being trapped 👍🏻
People get married or get into relationships after lying about their past actions and their partners don’t even ask about their past because we are currently living in this “NON JUDGEMENTAL” society where you are not allowed to judge. These people present themselves as some angels dropping from the sky which makes their partner love them. But is he/she really in love with you? No, they are in love with a facade you presented them about you. What’s more tragic is these people actually spend their lives together without even knowing who the other really is/was.
Hence, do not do anything which you might be afraid of revealing to your future partner.
Awesome video and all the points are valid not just for arranged but even "love" marriage.. it doesn't matter how partners met, all marriages eventually last or end for the same damn reasons..
P.S. "love" is in quotes cos love marriage is a misnomer, even such matches are mostly "arranged" by friends or college or workplace.. pure serendipity happens only in movies..
But there's a thing called understanding/ transparency which is even rare or not existed in arrange marriage
I met someone in arrange marriage, nature wise he's very good as a person I liked him. But he's balding and average looking I'm confused now.
So what happened?did u marry him?
After hearing this.....I think James Bond will only find a perfect girl!
See my name 😂😂
@@JamesBond-lc8fi lol
@@JamesBond-lc8fi binod
Clearly you aren't a James Bond fan.
@@deepanshukaulphilip5676 ???