I am a harm reduction prevention specialist certified in peer support with my forensic endorsement, and I love this content. This is what I have been craving!
I agree that you don’t have to get sober for yourself. I was into all kinds of drugs from my teens into early adulthood. My dad is a recovering alcoholic, my older brothers are on and off recovering drug addicts so I’ve been surrounded by addiction since I was young. The only sibling of mine that hasn’t been an addict is my brother who is a year older than me, he has always been into sports/weight lifting so he never used alcohol/drugs as a crutch or trauma response. He has a partner that he has been with for nearly 10 years now (from teenagers) , we live together and a few years ago while I was still semi using he came to me crying (he NEVER cries) telling me he thinks their relationship might be coming to an end, and that he really needs me right now. His words were: “I’m not going to be okay with out you, you’re my little sister and you’re all I have left, I’m scared drugs are going to take you away and I want you to see that I can’t mentally deal with that. Please get sober I promise I’ll help you, we need each other” - (backstory) our mum died of cancer and we are the two youngest of 6 siblings and were both living at home with her so we moved out together and made a life together once she passed I wasn’t in full blown addiction at the time but it was getting bad again. That is the day I gave up drugs, I’ve been clean for four years- I did it for my brother, not for me. His love got me sober, but I keep me sober. I owe my life to him truthfully ❤
You have a beautiful story and I'm so happy your brother gave you the strength to get to where you're at now. I'm a child of divorce so when they split my mom and I moved from Maryland to Ohio and my brother stayed in MD with my dad/his parents. My brother and I both became addicts and when I was about 19/20 my mom got diagnosed with cancer so we moved back to MD so we could be close to my brother and nephew. My brother is 4 years older than me and at that time was on pills and I had been on heroin since I was 18 and pills since middle school. Once my brother tried heroin he spiraled worse losing his job and in and out of jail. Robbing our mom and just not there for her during the end of her life. I got pregnant the year before my mom passed so I was clean during that time but after having my son I began using again. Losing my mom was the hardest thing I ever went through. I was so mad at my brother for not being there. He went to prison the same month she died. I promised her when I said my last goodbyes that I would get clean and try to make sure my brother did too. It took a few years but I did get clean for 3 years then relapsed for 5 months, got pregnant with my second child and have been clean since then and just reached 5 years now. My brother continued his addiction and also got into meth and got raided last year and has been in prison since. I don't talk to him and it kills me. I would love to be there for him and have hope that when he gets out he will get clean but out of the handful of times we've spoke since he's been locked up his mind isn't on being clean when he gets out. I can relate in getting clean for my kids though, at first that was my only reason but now I truly want it and know I'll never go back. Now my grandmother (my closest relative) who raised my brother was just diagnosed with cancer. It feels like I'm living that same nightmare I had with my mom just minus the drugs use now. Sorry for trauma dumping in a RUclips comment section lol but your story touched me and made me think of my own. I pray my brother will someday reach my level of thinking about addiction and get clean so I can have my bro back just like you have.
22:03 “it’s a disease that starts with a choice, but when I was young and I made that choice I didn’t realise what beast I was releasing” 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 on point as always Rachel 🩷
I'm coming up to my 1 year sober on September 1st. My partner of 12 years is also an addict in recovery. He is 6 months sober. I went to treatment for 7 months so we were separated with very little contact for about 8 months. I know people say 2 addicts can't.really be in love and it will never work but I truly believe if the foundation before u started using is strong and you both want sobriety it can work. We were both so happy to be reunited and things have never been better between us❤
Separate recovery is important we both work our own program. We attend 1 meeting a week together and outside of that we work 2 different programs completely
listen, i had a detox romance with this dude and we went to separate treatments and were calling each other at treatment which was nearly impossible. he had us calling his sister to tell her when the phone was available to try to get ahold of each other. why did she tell me one day when i called that he left treatment, went back out, overdosed and DIED! 3 yrs later this dude hits me up on FB, i was thoroughly confused. his sister is a straight G, i think she saved us both. the day she told me he died, she told him that i decided i was gonna focus on my recovery and that i wished him luck. we are both still clean, we have the same clean date from the day we met at detox! may 25th 2020. its actually hilarious how much i needed her to tell me he died cuz i was tryna go find my dude after my 30 days was up😂 the INSANITY!!!
Dude that's wild 😂😂 glad ol boy is still alive though lol but his sister was legit for that. Trying to save you both for real! Now if y'all end up married and happily ever after you better come update this comment cause that would be adorable 😂
Don't they house male and female separate? For this exact reason 😅. It's bound to happen I suppose, especially when people are withdrawing and craving dopamine.
I am a harm reduction prevention specialist certified in peer support with my forensic endorsement, and I love this content. This is what I have been craving!
I agree that you don’t have to get sober for yourself. I was into all kinds of drugs from my teens into early adulthood. My dad is a recovering alcoholic, my older brothers are on and off recovering drug addicts so I’ve been surrounded by addiction since I was young.
The only sibling of mine that hasn’t been an addict is my brother who is a year older than me, he has always been into sports/weight lifting so he never used alcohol/drugs as a crutch or trauma response. He has a partner that he has been with for nearly 10 years now (from teenagers) , we live together and a few years ago while I was still semi using he came to me crying (he NEVER cries) telling me he thinks their relationship might be coming to an end, and that he really needs me right now. His words were: “I’m not going to be okay with out you, you’re my little sister and you’re all I have left, I’m scared drugs are going to take you away and I want you to see that I can’t mentally deal with that. Please get sober I promise I’ll help you, we need each other” - (backstory) our mum died of cancer and we are the two youngest of 6 siblings and were both living at home with her so we moved out together and made a life together once she passed I wasn’t in full blown addiction at the time but it was getting bad again.
That is the day I gave up drugs, I’ve been clean for four years- I did it for my brother, not for me. His love got me sober, but I keep me sober. I owe my life to him truthfully ❤
You have a beautiful story and I'm so happy your brother gave you the strength to get to where you're at now. I'm a child of divorce so when they split my mom and I moved from Maryland to Ohio and my brother stayed in MD with my dad/his parents. My brother and I both became addicts and when I was about 19/20 my mom got diagnosed with cancer so we moved back to MD so we could be close to my brother and nephew. My brother is 4 years older than me and at that time was on pills and I had been on heroin since I was 18 and pills since middle school. Once my brother tried heroin he spiraled worse losing his job and in and out of jail. Robbing our mom and just not there for her during the end of her life. I got pregnant the year before my mom passed so I was clean during that time but after having my son I began using again. Losing my mom was the hardest thing I ever went through. I was so mad at my brother for not being there. He went to prison the same month she died. I promised her when I said my last goodbyes that I would get clean and try to make sure my brother did too. It took a few years but I did get clean for 3 years then relapsed for 5 months, got pregnant with my second child and have been clean since then and just reached 5 years now. My brother continued his addiction and also got into meth and got raided last year and has been in prison since. I don't talk to him and it kills me. I would love to be there for him and have hope that when he gets out he will get clean but out of the handful of times we've spoke since he's been locked up his mind isn't on being clean when he gets out. I can relate in getting clean for my kids though, at first that was my only reason but now I truly want it and know I'll never go back. Now my grandmother (my closest relative) who raised my brother was just diagnosed with cancer. It feels like I'm living that same nightmare I had with my mom just minus the drugs use now. Sorry for trauma dumping in a RUclips comment section lol but your story touched me and made me think of my own. I pray my brother will someday reach my level of thinking about addiction and get clean so I can have my bro back just like you have.
22:03 “it’s a disease that starts with a choice, but when I was young and I made that choice I didn’t realise what beast I was releasing” 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 on point as always Rachel 🩷
Love this conversation! 💕
I love y’all
I'm coming up to my 1 year sober on September 1st. My partner of 12 years is also an addict in recovery. He is 6 months sober. I went to treatment for 7 months so we were separated with very little contact for about 8 months. I know people say 2 addicts can't.really be in love and it will never work but I truly believe if the foundation before u started using is strong and you both want sobriety it can work. We were both so happy to be reunited and things have never been better between us❤
Separate recovery is important we both work our own program. We attend 1 meeting a week together and outside of that we work 2 different programs completely
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listen, i had a detox romance with this dude and we went to separate treatments and were calling each other at treatment which was nearly impossible. he had us calling his sister to tell her when the phone was available to try to get ahold of each other. why did she tell me one day when i called that he left treatment, went back out, overdosed and DIED! 3 yrs later this dude hits me up on FB, i was thoroughly confused. his sister is a straight G, i think she saved us both.
the day she told me he died, she told him that i decided i was gonna focus on my recovery and that i wished him luck. we are both still clean, we have the same clean date from the day we met at detox! may 25th 2020. its actually hilarious how much i needed her to tell me he died cuz i was tryna go find my dude after my 30 days was up😂 the INSANITY!!!
Dude that's wild 😂😂 glad ol boy is still alive though lol but his sister was legit for that. Trying to save you both for real! Now if y'all end up married and happily ever after you better come update this comment cause that would be adorable 😂
I had a rehab romance 💘 lol
My kinda girlllll😂❤
Don't they house male and female separate? For this exact reason 😅. It's bound to happen I suppose, especially when people are withdrawing and craving dopamine.
Where has RJ's hair gone? Was he always bald?
I seen it work out for Candice on Facebook she just got married.