I'm sorry, NO it's not smartphones or trauma or whatever causing ADHD. Many of us grew up without smartphones, with limited internet access, we simply read books through most of the night, I still do at times... correlation, not causation.
As a kid on holiday I stayed up every night devouring the library of the host’s daughter. I was in my comfort zone but also driven as I had to read every book. Alcoholic drinker for 30 years, sober now for 20 but did just substitute with coffee/tobacco/weed. Undiagnosed and wasted my life .
I'm so glad you challenged on the trauma theory of ADHD, Alex. There's so much misunderstanding and misinformation out there that it's vital to stick to the evidence - well done👏🏻
The only ONE thing that got me off alcohol, is that it makes me more stressed out the next day. The increase of cortisol is not worth it for me. With my ADHD i COULD NOT stop.
Had a very problematic relationship with drinking until I got ADHD meds, I stopped feeling the need to drink to "wind down" after work. I was amazed how quickly after starting the mess the need disappeared. I still occasionally have a drink now but I rarely get that feeling of wanting to exceed one or two.
Incredible as always! I have learned so much about myself. Being self aware in the moment and learning to take a breath has helped unlike anything else has. Thank you so much Alex for this podcast it has honestly saved me. I am on a new path and learning about my ADHD and how it has actually prevented me from being able to continually heal from my past traumas. Time and time again I have gone to retreat centers where there is incredible structure and a set schedule but after leaving I start forgetting to continue my practices like meditation and yoga and being mindful. Thankfully your podcast has actually made me aware of a lot of what is going on in my life and why it has been such a struggle to stay on the healing path. Now I wake up every morning and meditate because I have started writing on my windows and glass doors reminders of what I need to do through out the day. I know it sounds silly but it works for me and I am so thankful for it because I rarely forget what to do these days. I've tried to do lists on paper or planners but they never work because the second I set it down it was so easy for me to not look at it. With it being on the windows and my doors its right there and there is no forgetting it. There is also the reward aspect of being able to check the things off my list and seeing what I have done through out the day. It also is great at encouraging me to do it because I am the type of person who wants to be proud of what I have done through out the day. Thank you Alex from the bottom of my heart for creating this Podcast!
I did "Dry Jan" again this year & carried on for six months. I felt brilliant. Started drinking twice a week but only in pubs through July. That escalated to a VERY boozy August with drinking at home. Time to face the truth that I can't drink alcohol with ADHD. I did a mental list of "Pros Vs Cons". I couldn't find one Pro. I'm writing this with a glass of wine in my other hand. I just need to get past the first three days and I'll be okay. 🤞
As someone who stopped drinking I have yet to find an individual who has the courage to say "I didn't felt that much better, I didn't lose the weight, all my problems didn't went away" That's when stopping drinking is really hard, when you don't notice a big difference. Staying absent would be way easier if it did.
I changed my relationship to alcohol and how I see it when I found out about my ADHD, then therapy combined with medication healed my binging and horrible habits in many ways. I never thought I´d say I don´t really feel like drinking, for months at the time, and when actually having a small drink to be getting tired of it and not even finish the first one. I never thought it was possible but now I have to find out ways to socialize without getting weird looks about not drinking. Peer-pressure and alcohol culture can be hard to avoid
Being ADHD I was always looking for a way to feel better so alcohol was a crutch but did 100% life change and stopped relying on drugs and alcohol. Lost 125 pounds, changing many bad habits. To this day I'm still changing in many other ways. No more wreckless lifestyle. I'm hyperactive. Proud of being weird 🙋🏼♀️
I gave up drinking almost completely in 2017 when I started my last crazy special interest of becoming a bodybuilding competitive fitness model age 49 .. I thought before I gave up that I was an extrovert , then once I gave up I thought I was an introvert.. now I realise that I have had adhd my whole life !
@Nobody-up5zm Bit his book came out before Alan Carrs book ,do the research its mentioned in the forward of Jason Vales book..Jason Vale worked as a thest at an Allen Carr clinic, hos book was written 2 years before Allen Carrs book The Easy Way To Control Alcohol'
@@baldersn4474 yes but Allan Carr's book the easy way to quit nicotine was written well before that. The same principals were then applied to easy way to lose weight, easy way quit alcohol etc. Allan Carr's easy way method was a decade before the author you mentioned.
I used to do that with my alcoholic ex husband when we'd go to the bar... have a glass of water in a short glass with no ice with a lime. People used to think I was drinking vodka straight. Alcohol destroyed my 20+ year marriage. Later I found out I have adhd, autism, dyslexia... after leaving him.
I am 40 and got diagnosed 2 weeks ago, although many life goals achieved there is were too many indicators to ignore anymore. Mine are procrastination expert, juggling too many projects, unfocused on "important work", long-term relationships at risk, emotional spiraling when triggered, also that alcohol thing, i can drink quite a lot, i think i get funny mostly, but get told too often it is more embarrassing to others than i think. Got ritalin meds, taking medium dosage ~50mg/day. First impressions are overwhelming, without zombie mode, I just pick from my memorized list what I want to do and it works quite a lot easier, more focused, take it to the end, don't get interrupted etc. I am hungry all the time, midday nap not needed without feeling too exhausted, sleeping no problem so far, but last pill 5pm max., works for 5-6hrs before you think about that it doesn't work anymore. Will see how it does turn out, so much on the lost which needs to be looked at, but I got more confidence that I could eventually do some of it. Never too late to talk someone who knows how recent ADHD science and research is. Good luck
It is living with it. Acceptance is the biggest thing l found after was diagnosed at 42. You can download an AQ50 & fill in & not self-diagnose but self awareness
I have ADHD, but the moment I touch my bed, I'm in dreamland. I think this is because my brain and body are so busy all day; I'm really tired by the end of the day.
Always interesting to hear how alcohol affect fellow ADHD's. What I noticed for myself was that; alcohol removed my ability to restrain myself from following up on the stupid adrenaline-chasing impulses whenever I drank too much. I am proud of myself today for finally reaching that stage in life and self-awareness that I no longer drink myself beyond slightly tipsy if I ever drink at all. Over and done with putting myself in that sort of danger + I have a lot more fun now when I actually remember the evening out and that is a bonus😅
He started losing me on the bits where he says alcohol is absolutely terrible for adhd then couldnt quite admit how terrible it was again as he drinks occasionally with his wife all because the question was about being an ‘alcoholic ‘ Booze was making his life hell with adhd so he had to really address the problem so that looks like some sort of alcoholism personally Great watch 👍🏻👍🏻👌🏼
Weirdly I'm a fantastic drunk - but I don't habitually drink, in fact I very rarely drink and only do so for social occasions. But I think the way ADHD manifests itself is very different in some people so my addictions are less for mind-altering substances and more problems with food or hobby fixations or being terminally online. When I get drunk I get a bit silly basically but tend to keep my head about me - there's friends I know with ADHD who should just flat out stay away from alcohol though. I did have a problem with weed when I was younger but realised it was making me paranoid and anxious so again, only ever touch the stuff briefly if at all on social occasions.
My advice FWIW; set boundaries; make him aware of how his behaviour is hurting you and other people - without being abusive. (Edit: just realised you said 'ex' so may be less relevant now.)
I find, a lot of our suffering, is lifestyle related to what we have been putting into our bodies, and the inflammation response. Stress, comes in all forms, and that is just one cog in the wheel. When i went plantbased, and cut out alcohol...everything changed. Prioritize your bodies wellbeing....
No, people like you make people feel bad. You workoutaholics wind me up. I hate sports, it makes me feel so bad, it makes people feel so guilty. Don't get me wrong, I like a good solitude hike in nature, playing guitar live. But all that advise of doing sports or go to the gym makes my adhd and anxiety soooo much worse.
I got diagnosed at 42. Ritalin helped but it's not a panacea. Granted stimulants will lift the scales off your eyes but it's only one tool and you will need more if you want to succeed in whatever you want to do.
Anyone who had a huge drinking/substance using, And got over it and diagnosed adhd or Add, and got the meds. Did the medication make the life more interesting? Iv been now 3 years without drinking and more bored i get..Soon to get adhd medication, Im kinda scared about the comedowns, cause i have used those pills with partying years ago..
I'm lucky. Coffee has absolutely no effect on me. Alcohol just makes me sleepy and uncoordinated. I definitely have a very addictive-prone personality though then it comes to dopamine inducing activities - so luckily managed to avoid trying all drugs. Have certainly had addictions to video games and sexual pleasure. Exercise is the best "cure".
I took 1 year off booze didn’t notice any difference. I am not a huge drinker there are more shots in a bottle on my counter then I’ll do all year. I probably drink a few sips a month.
The old three legged dog trap. My dog has three legs, therefore all dogs have three legs. Alcohol might make your ADHD worse. But that is not a hard and fast rule that we all get to take home with us. It doesn't do that to me.
Everyone's a fookin expert these days arn't they? People know themselves or if they don't they find out for themselves. All this advice is so general. Each person's ADHD is different just like each person's reaction to alcohol is different.
Yeah.. I have adhd and can’t find any trauma in my past. My husband also has it and his dad was pretty bad. Almost all of our kids have adhd. Whenever I hear the trauma theory I wonder if we have traumatized them. My 1st child, I knew had adhd even in infancy.
i have adhd........got drunk.........snapped on someone......bartender called the cops.......cops tasered me.......threw me in jail........just last weel.........toronto
Ah yeah and saying I’m a control freak, even when I’m drinking I’ve got complete control over my body, but admitting to getting uncontrollably drunk, having outrageous behavior like car-surfing, etc. and self-injuring is a big red flag.
I felt 'sale sales sales' from Rory (City Boy)..... IMO Alan Carr's book on drinking is really helpful. I think someone has read it out on YT so one can listen to it. Meditation Exercise Eat well Purpose Relationships Avoid stress All of which can be found, in depth, on Joe Rogan, or Hubermann's podcasts.
So no ADHDers have figured out not to drink coffee in the morning? They can't figure out this wound-up energy vs sleep by the age of 5?? Dur. Obv alcohol will ruin that intentionality but only in a few years.
I'm sorry, NO it's not smartphones or trauma or whatever causing ADHD. Many of us grew up without smartphones, with limited internet access, we simply read books through most of the night, I still do at times... correlation, not causation.
As a kid on holiday I stayed up every night devouring the library of the host’s daughter. I was in my comfort zone but also driven as I had to read every book. Alcoholic drinker for 30 years, sober now for 20 but did just substitute with coffee/tobacco/weed. Undiagnosed and wasted my life .
I'm so glad you challenged on the trauma theory of ADHD, Alex. There's so much misunderstanding and misinformation out there that it's vital to stick to the evidence - well done👏🏻
The only ONE thing that got me off alcohol, is that it makes me more stressed out the next day. The increase of cortisol is not worth it for me. With my ADHD i COULD NOT stop.
100 percent ! Plus casual recreational drugs..
Same here
My heart told me to stop, or it would. If it wasn't for my bodies deep desire to survive, I'd probably be dead. ✌️
Had a very problematic relationship with drinking until I got ADHD meds, I stopped feeling the need to drink to "wind down" after work. I was amazed how quickly after starting the mess the need disappeared. I still occasionally have a drink now but I rarely get that feeling of wanting to exceed one or two.
Incredible as always! I have learned so much about myself. Being self aware in the moment and learning to take a breath has helped unlike anything else has. Thank you so much Alex for this podcast it has honestly saved me. I am on a new path and learning about my ADHD and how it has actually prevented me from being able to continually heal from my past traumas. Time and time again I have gone to retreat centers where there is incredible structure and a set schedule but after leaving I start forgetting to continue my practices like meditation and yoga and being mindful. Thankfully your podcast has actually made me aware of a lot of what is going on in my life and why it has been such a struggle to stay on the healing path. Now I wake up every morning and meditate because I have started writing on my windows and glass doors reminders of what I need to do through out the day. I know it sounds silly but it works for me and I am so thankful for it because I rarely forget what to do these days. I've tried to do lists on paper or planners but they never work because the second I set it down it was so easy for me to not look at it. With it being on the windows and my doors its right there and there is no forgetting it. There is also the reward aspect of being able to check the things off my list and seeing what I have done through out the day. It also is great at encouraging me to do it because I am the type of person who wants to be proud of what I have done through out the day. Thank you Alex from the bottom of my heart for creating this Podcast!
Thank YOU for being here Sam. So pleased you like the podcast :)
Most of the things I regret most are things I did when I was drunk or hungover.
Just being devils advocate the best times you’ve ever had was when you were drunk as well I’d imagine. It’s tough
That explains my situation, I got c-ptsd enrooted to my drinking experiences
I just wish I could remember those best of times. No smiley emoji.
Not a surprise at all. This is very precisely what too much alcool do.
I did "Dry Jan" again this year & carried on for six months. I felt brilliant. Started drinking twice a week but only in pubs through July. That escalated to a VERY boozy August with drinking at home. Time to face the truth that I can't drink alcohol with ADHD. I did a mental list of "Pros Vs Cons". I couldn't find one Pro. I'm writing this with a glass of wine in my other hand. I just need to get past the first three days and I'll be okay. 🤞
As someone who stopped drinking I have yet to find an individual who has the courage to say "I didn't felt that much better, I didn't lose the weight, all my problems didn't went away" That's when stopping drinking is really hard, when you don't notice a big difference. Staying absent would be way easier if it did.
I changed my relationship to alcohol and how I see it when I found out about my ADHD, then therapy combined with medication healed my binging and horrible habits in many ways. I never thought I´d say I don´t really feel like drinking, for months at the time, and when actually having a small drink to be getting tired of it and not even finish the first one. I never thought it was possible but now I have to find out ways to socialize without getting weird looks about not drinking. Peer-pressure and alcohol culture can be hard to avoid
Being ADHD I was always looking for a way to feel better so alcohol was a crutch but did 100% life change and stopped relying on drugs and alcohol. Lost 125 pounds, changing many bad habits.
To this day I'm still changing in many other ways. No more wreckless lifestyle.
I'm hyperactive.
Proud of being weird 🙋🏼♀️
I gave up drinking almost completely in 2017 when I started my last crazy special interest of becoming a bodybuilding competitive fitness model age 49 .. I thought before I gave up that I was an extrovert , then once I gave up I thought I was an introvert.. now I realise that I have had adhd my whole life !
Spot on 😂 bro it's intense when you find out
Great interviewing Alex , and loved you challenging the trauma /adhd notion 🙌
People with ADHD might want to skip to 1.05
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Was looking for bookmarks hahahaha
I read Alan Carr’s Easy Way to Control Your Drinking and haven’t had a drink since, don’t even miss it. I highly recommend the book.
His book worked for me for smoking I've been quit for 12 years, but alcohol not so much as it does help to quiet my mind at least initially
That book was actually copied from a book called , ' Jason Vales' Quit The Drink Quickly'
@@baldersn4474 no it wasn't Allan Carr's easy way series came out 30 years before the book you mentioned. No idea what you are saying.
@Nobody-up5zm Bit his book came out before Alan Carrs book ,do the research its mentioned in the forward of Jason Vales book..Jason Vale worked as a thest at an Allen Carr clinic, hos book was written 2 years before Allen Carrs book The Easy Way To Control Alcohol'
@@baldersn4474 yes but Allan Carr's book the easy way to quit nicotine was written well before that. The same principals were then applied to easy way to lose weight, easy way quit alcohol etc. Allan Carr's easy way method was a decade before the author you mentioned.
I used to do that with my alcoholic ex husband when we'd go to the bar... have a glass of water in a short glass with no ice with a lime. People used to think I was drinking vodka straight. Alcohol destroyed my 20+ year marriage. Later I found out I have adhd, autism, dyslexia... after leaving him.
Great interview, smart questions thank you both from a mother of a child with adhd and an autoimmune illness, trying to prepare for the future
Thank you! :) Alex
I feel I've had adhd I'm 61 but no one has formally diagnosed me I'm so scared and stressed with not fully knowing but I do know 😤😤
I understand me too ,my DR.is not helping either. My boyfriend said "just ignore it!"😢😢
I am 40 and got diagnosed 2 weeks ago, although many life goals achieved there is were too many indicators to ignore anymore. Mine are procrastination expert, juggling too many projects, unfocused on "important work", long-term relationships at risk, emotional spiraling when triggered, also that alcohol thing, i can drink quite a lot, i think i get funny mostly, but get told too often it is more embarrassing to others than i think.
Got ritalin meds, taking medium dosage ~50mg/day. First impressions are overwhelming, without zombie mode, I just pick from my memorized list what I want to do and it works quite a lot easier, more focused, take it to the end, don't get interrupted etc.
I am hungry all the time, midday nap not needed without feeling too exhausted, sleeping no problem so far, but last pill 5pm max., works for 5-6hrs before you think about that it doesn't work anymore. Will see how it does turn out, so much on the lost which needs to be looked at, but I got more confidence that I could eventually do some of it.
Never too late to talk someone who knows how recent ADHD science and research is. Good luck
It is living with it. Acceptance is the biggest thing l found after was diagnosed at 42. You can download an AQ50 & fill in & not self-diagnose but self awareness
55 adhd
Same 55yr, best to know & all to play for.
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I have ADHD, but the moment I touch my bed, I'm in dreamland. I think this is because my brain and body are so busy all day; I'm really tired by the end of the day.
bin so neidisch
@@tatarose5628wat for me helps is to use the bedroom only for sleeping.
So no tv or other non bedroom relatet things.
I have autism and ADD combined.
Always interesting to hear how alcohol affect fellow ADHD's. What I noticed for myself was that; alcohol removed my ability to restrain myself from following up on the stupid adrenaline-chasing impulses whenever I drank too much. I am proud of myself today for finally reaching that stage in life and self-awareness that I no longer drink myself beyond slightly tipsy if I ever drink at all. Over and done with putting myself in that sort of danger + I have a lot more fun now when I actually remember the evening out and that is a bonus😅
He started losing me on the bits where he says alcohol is absolutely terrible for adhd then couldnt quite admit how terrible it was again as he drinks occasionally with his wife
all because the question was about being an ‘alcoholic ‘
Booze was making his life hell with adhd so he had to really address the problem so that looks like some sort of alcoholism personally
Great watch 👍🏻👍🏻👌🏼
Weirdly I'm a fantastic drunk - but I don't habitually drink, in fact I very rarely drink and only do so for social occasions. But I think the way ADHD manifests itself is very different in some people so my addictions are less for mind-altering substances and more problems with food or hobby fixations or being terminally online. When I get drunk I get a bit silly basically but tend to keep my head about me - there's friends I know with ADHD who should just flat out stay away from alcohol though.
I did have a problem with weed when I was younger but realised it was making me paranoid and anxious so again, only ever touch the stuff briefly if at all on social occasions.
My ex has ADHD and AUD. He won’t seek treatment for either. Wish I had understood the connection between the two years ago.
My advice FWIW; set boundaries; make him aware of how his behaviour is hurting you and other people - without being abusive. (Edit: just realised you said 'ex' so may be less relevant now.)
Alcohol becomes problematic when it touches your tongue 😂
This is a fabulous podcast! Well done and thanks for sharing
I find, a lot of our suffering, is lifestyle related to what we have been putting into our bodies, and the inflammation response. Stress, comes in all forms, and that is just one cog in the wheel.
When i went plantbased, and cut out alcohol...everything changed. Prioritize your bodies wellbeing....
lovely podcast!
Thank you!
Just so you know, Alex, I wasn't so drunk I couldn't pre-order your book, which I've just done. 👍
Dont pick up the drink at the end of the day , but pick up a dumbell or a pair of running shoes at the start of the day..
No, people like you make people feel bad. You workoutaholics wind me up. I hate sports, it makes me feel so bad, it makes people feel so guilty. Don't get me wrong, I like a good solitude hike in nature, playing guitar live. But all that advise of doing sports or go to the gym makes my adhd and anxiety soooo much worse.
Tell me about it..Relapsed after 10 weeks ,badly,out if control, list everything , still awaiting adhd diagnoses...im 52
I got diagnosed at 42. Ritalin helped but it's not a panacea. Granted stimulants will lift the scales off your eyes but it's only one tool and you will need more if you want to succeed in whatever you want to do.
Anyone who had a huge drinking/substance using, And got over it and diagnosed adhd or Add, and got the meds. Did the medication make the life more interesting? Iv been now 3 years without drinking and more bored i get..Soon to get adhd medication, Im kinda scared about the comedowns, cause i have used those pills with partying years ago..
Not a big fan of the clickbaity intro, but the quick summary is helpful. But I guess whatever drives the clicks
I like the ‘tease summary’ personally.
Im the same 😂😂 skip forward lol
Thanks for feedback! Trying different formats currently to see what works best ❤
I don't mind the intro. I understand the need for a bit of clickbait these days. Also, thank you for providing time stamps in the description box!
@@zerbirae4224 pleasure. I know how helpful these can be!
I'm lucky. Coffee has absolutely no effect on me. Alcohol just makes me sleepy and uncoordinated. I definitely have a very addictive-prone personality though then it comes to dopamine inducing activities - so luckily managed to avoid trying all drugs. Have certainly had addictions to video games and sexual pleasure. Exercise is the best "cure".
I took 1 year off booze didn’t notice any difference. I am not a huge drinker there are more shots in a bottle on my counter then I’ll do all year. I probably drink a few sips a month.
As I get older, the less interest I have in alcohol. Only need to have a couple and I'm ready for bed. Often makes me headachy and sick
I just found out I have this it describes everything I have had
The old three legged dog trap.
My dog has three legs, therefore all dogs have three legs.
Alcohol might make your ADHD worse. But that is not a hard and fast rule that we all get to take home with us. It doesn't do that to me.
Easy words😤😤
It’s the first one that does the damage.20years off the alcohol
Is a anyone this video is for able to sit and watch this whole video...
Cool, but would been better if you talked more about sober clubs/venue and building connections...
Try testorone shots and morning gym work outs for extreme dopamine stimulation!
Everyone's a fookin expert these days arn't they? People know themselves or if they don't they find out for themselves. All this advice is so general. Each person's ADHD is different just like each person's reaction to alcohol is different.
Interesting but this guy screams 'sales sales sales' ....
I think ADHD is based on both chidhood trauma, and genetics..
Yeah.. I have adhd and can’t find any trauma in my past. My husband also has it and his dad was pretty bad.
Almost all of our kids have adhd.
Whenever I hear the trauma theory I wonder if we have traumatized them. My 1st child, I knew had adhd even in infancy.
Alchcholism is not a disease and never was..
Sorry I have adhd
i have adhd........got drunk.........snapped on someone......bartender called the cops.......cops tasered me.......threw me in jail........just last weel.........toronto
That's not ADHD then. You're just a volatile person. ADHD is more likely to be the opposite.
Alcoholism
11:48 Anti-alcohol but also heavily pushing expensive psychedelic therapies, a grift I’m not surprised he wants to get into.
Ah yeah and saying I’m a control freak, even when I’m drinking I’ve got complete control over my body, but admitting to getting uncontrollably drunk, having outrageous behavior like car-surfing, etc. and self-injuring is a big red flag.
I felt 'sale sales sales' from Rory (City Boy)..... IMO Alan Carr's book on drinking is really helpful. I think someone has read it out on YT so one can listen to it.
Meditation
Exercise
Eat well
Purpose
Relationships
Avoid stress
All of which can be found, in depth, on Joe Rogan, or Hubermann's podcasts.
This was great until he got to the trauma causing ADHD theory 👀
So no ADHDers have figured out not to drink coffee in the morning? They can't figure out this wound-up energy vs sleep by the age of 5?? Dur.
Obv alcohol will ruin that intentionality but only in a few years.
bla bla bla
Please don't use the F WORD 😢