Just a preschool teacher here- but just had a similar conversation with one of my students families! In school, during nap time, we have “quiet activities” and the students who wake up early, or choose not to nap that day, can choose multiple “quiet activities” to do on their mat until nap time is over. This parent started doing it at home!! When their child wakes up in the morning, they can choose “quiet activities” to do in their bedroom until the timer/alarm beeps and the parents wake up and are ready to start the day!! Maybe something you could try? Wes plays on his own for a little until a set time in the morning, then he can come join you in bed? Just one idea:) lots of admiration and love for you guys!! Huge fan!!
My father did this with me. Id basically self soothe by reading a book or drawing. Worked a treat. Even if i woke up at 3am id do something then go back to bed a short while after.
My 6 year old has done this since she was about 3. She's a crazy early riser still, usually up waaay before my toddler, but just reads quietly in her room until the rest of the house wakes up at a more civilized hour.
This is genius!! When I was about 4 my mum would leave me Lego blocks and a picture of something to make! That would just keep me occupied for an hour and then she’d ask me to present it to her - makes for a fun game!
I did this for my sister as kids, she'd come into my room and wake me up for breakfast at 5 am so I would leave out fruit and cherrios and let her make her own food. Luckily she was into the whole independence thing
Use your "quarantine pod" for help. Ask Zack and Maggie to take over for one night a week so BOTH of you can get some good and much needed sleep (or a few hours in the day). That is if your comfortable with it. I'm sure they would love to help out.
I studied language development all this semester. When Ariel asks Ned "has Wes been talking more?" that's probably accurate. Children around Wes's age go through a "vocabulary" spurt where they learn new words in rapid succession. Plus he's starting to comprehend sentence structure and grammar.
Toddler/preschool teacher here! I’ve heard many parents had success using this special alarm clock light. When the light is red, it means stay in bed, or do a quiet activity in your bedroom. When it’s green, it’s time to get up. I’ve seen 2 year olds follow this, and it’s a huge relief on parents
Every baby and parent is different.. but a possible tip? When I needed more sleep with my kid I started letting him take a very short nap during the day (instead of 1-2 hours) and slowly took the whole nap away (unless we really need it, then we nap) and I started keeping him up until about 9-9:30 and put blackout curtains in the rooms that he would sleep in. It gets me sleep until about 7-9am..he used to wake up between 5-7am every morning. I’m not a morning person and stay up late so I just let him stay up for a little bit with me. We play hard for about 30min-1hour and then he winds down and colors or watches tv..or even helps me clean up the toys. I’ve been a babysitter/nanny for two kids for 9 years and when they were this age the same routine would work! Tire them out, get them relaxed, put them to bed at a time that’s late enough to promote later mornings but not so late that they start getting cranky or in an unhealthy routine. Oh! I’d also like to add that your can’t “spoil” a baby. He spent 9 months inside of you, and he needs the comfort from mommy right now. Every baby is different, as said before, but comforting your baby when he needs it will also encourage him to start soothing himself when he’s ready and to only call out to you when he really needs you! My son was in his own crib and bedroom by three months but the first month was spent in my bed with me (not safe, I didn’t really know that before) and about two months in we started getting him to lie down in his bassinet beside me with a little breast milk on his swaddle or on the little sheet for the mattress. He’s extremely independent now. Some babies do take longer, but if they are fussing for you, they need you. They aren’t spoiled or manipulative in any way :)
Unsolicited advice below haha, feel free to ignore! Start with putting him to sleep in his bed once a day (usually the first nap of the day is the easiest one to do it, though I do sometimes suggest the lunchtime nap when you’ve got a toddler who naps so you can focus on settling baby) and use hands on settling techniques to help him go to sleep, nice gentle way to help them gradually learn independent sleep! I’m a baby care specialist :)
I’m almost 20 but I can still remember my mom telling me little lies like the pajama one, and I gotta say keep notes of what you tell him because I thought some strange things until I was like 14-15 years old
It's a good thing that both of you are taking a break from the podcast. and thank you for telling us here. we can feel that you truly care about your listeners/viewers. see you again soon for S2 with West and Finn
You can try the little GroCompany clock, that changes color at a certain time. Its blue in the night and the child have to sleep. Then it’s yellow, which means that he can stand up but stay in the room. And later green when he can go to you. You set all the timers so he would not come and wake you till a certain time
As a mom with a newborn, I take the three am shift too. I feel Neds content. I was explaining David Bowie’s career to my baby. I wish I had recorded it.
YES MOMMA!!! My mom had me and my 3 siblings within a 7 year period and I don't know how she managed taking a breastfeeding newborn, 2 toddlers and 1st grader on weekend field trips so frequently. Moms are heroes!!!
I wish my husband would watch The Crown with me too! Ned’s idea of recording himself in the middle of the night might actually be a great way to allow your spouse to understand how you’re feeling and what you’re going through. It could open a lot of doors to communication- and provide a lot of laughs in the process.
Get Wes a little light alarm clock that lets him know what time it’s okay to get out of bed! Just give you a few more minutes in the morning he can just play in his room if he wants. You guys are awesome! Sending lots of love from Australia
So something that my husband and I did was we slept in shifts, I slept from 7pm to 3am, he slept from 3am to 10am, so we were both up for most of the day and both got 8 hours of sleep! Hopefully the sleep situation works out soon, the first few weeks are rough but I know you guys are doing a great job!
Totally you can also do a lamp on a timer and he can’t get out of bed until the lamp comes on. We also taught our daughter to “wait til eight” it’s still a rule and she’s almost 7
I am the middle child, I learned how the VCR worked when I was about 3 years old, a few weeks after my baby brother was born. When I woke up in the morning, I would sneak into the living room and watch Disney movies. I wasn't allowed to watch movies on a regular bases. I thought that the parents never noticed anything and it was my secret me-time in the morning, when everyone was asleep .. of course they knew! I mean, who taught me how the VCR works in the first place? My father recorded here and there my favourite shows like "Löwenzahn" or "Sendung mit der Maus" and told me that one could watch them someday.. they totally knew!! I still enjoyed doing that when I was a school kid on the weekend and even today sometimes! I am a morning person, quite the opposite to the rest of my family or my partner. I recently talked to my mother about it, she confirmed it, she said that at the beginning she felt pretty guilty and it was dad's idea.^^ If she had the feeling it would have harmed me, my grades, my sleep or something, she would have stopped it, but just like today, me and my energy was just hard to bear for the nightowls in the morning before the first coffee ^^ Greetings from Germany!
.Ahhh...the joys of the second child. All I can say, is with my 1st son I was convinced I was a naturally great parent. He was so well behaved and polite. My second son came a long and I realized, I’m John Snow...I know nothing. 😂
I hope you guys have a great time off, and that you can have a little bit more of sleep than you're having now. Please be safe and healthy and happy. We love you!
He's doing his best I'm sure. He can't exactly make breastmilk for finn 😂. It is really hard even if you're pumping because at first you have to keep a fairly strict pumping schedule in order to keep up your supply. It'll get better as Finn gets older the first few months are the hardest.
@@evelynmater8773 that's true, I hadn't thought of that! They did say they were thinking of changing the sleep routine so I presumed that there was something they could do.
There are probably some small changes they could make. It is rough since Wes seems to like getting up early too. They'll get a schedule down that works. Each kid is different too :) We had to figure it out with our baby too. She had a lengthy NICU stay and needed special care and a strict schedule to eat when she got to come home. Took us a few weeks to get a good routine down and even then it wasn't perfect.
Congratulations! When my boys were toddlers, I found that if you put them down earlier, they would sleep that much time later in the morning. We did it in half hour increments until our desired wake up time (7:30p-6a). My mom did her "magic" when they were babies. When they wake in the night, she would quietly and gently pat them (no looking or talking) until they comforted themselves and go back to sleep. She was able to extend baby's sleep time an hour between feedings so that I could get 5-6 hrs of sleep by around 5 weeks. I wish you and your family much love and rest. ❤
I'll definitely miss the pod (I don't even have kids yet I still love tuning in every week LOL) but I will happily wait a month if it means you guys get some extra time to rest and enjoy the time with your newest bundle of joy Ned & Ariel!
Feel like I have to say, guys - you can’t spoil a newborn baby, it’s widely regarded to be a myth. Responding to their needs quickly and consistently just helps make a secure child. That doesn’t mean them sleeping on you 24/7 if that isn’t what you want of course, but leaving newborns to cry doesn’t help them. I’m in the midst of it too with a 5w old, so I 100% sympathise on the lack on sleep. We just keep trying the bassinet when we can, otherwise we hold her. Hope cutting out dairy helps!
I breastfed plus baby only wanted me so I stayed awake all night which involved tube feeding, breastfeed, pump milk.. then my husband would take her in the morning so I could sleep for 1-2 hours. I did that for months. I was exhausted!! I didn't see the point in my husband getting no sleep either in our situation. She's a toddler now and still a terrible sleeper, waking every 2 or so hours. All day naps are in a carrier, always have been. Only fed to sleep. Oh the joys hahaha By the way, some babies are just more needy then others. My daughter from the get go wouldn't sleep in her bassinet, wanted to be held all the time. We tried all the things to help get her to sleep on her own, but it never worked. Refused a bottle aswell. It might of not been caused from MIL, it could be just how your little baby is. Keep up the good work guys, you got this!! EDIT; speaking of sleep deprivation my daughter has been refusing naps and night time sleep, I am exhausted. So hopefully my rambling made sense
I've heard of a night light which turns green at a set time and the kid is supposed to stay in bed till it turns green even if they are awake. Could help with wes waking up too early and disturbing your sleep.
Just wanna throw a quick CW FOR SUICIDE MENTION around the 24 min mark. (Also, just for future ref, we actually use "died by suicide" instead of "committed" now since that language is kind of a holdover from suicide being criminalized/viewed as sin.) And on the note of mental health, definitely cool you're taking some time off from the pod to rest. Have a wonderful holiday full of naps!
Thank you, I'd never considered how "committed" actually sounded and what it really implied. I live in Japan and would never have known about this update to English! So thanks for spreading awareness!
Had a 3 yr old and a new born. I was 38-9. We ended up sleeping in the same room, bed, and the baby slept in a rocking sleeper. That's the only way I got sleep. 3 yr olds can be crazy, but the second one is now 3 and is a level of chaos I can't explain. Both my kids had to be on liquid Alimentum formula because of milk protein allergies. Oh the vomit.
The best part of my time being my niece's nanny when she was a baby was chest naps! We did her first 2 naps in the pack and play, one nap on me on the couch after I ate my lunch (I usually fell asleep too) and one nap in her crib before her parents came home and then she napped either on them or in her baby basket
Yeah when our second was born, I was adamant to get him used to sleeping by himself. 9/10 times, once he fell asleep on us, he went straight to the PnP. The 10th time was baby cuddles. Now he won't sleep anywhere except his crip. One hand, it worked. Other hand, it worked too well. He struggles to sleep anywhere else (like if we're doing a road trip).
Omg I had a 2.5 year old when my new one was born and.... my lord... The highs and lows and.. oh, the struggle. I'm so happy y'all are finally parents of two and it makes my heart warm seeing your faces light up with excitement in all these stories. Please make sure you get rest though, because I would have much rather taken a nap than make a podcast, so just take care guys. Get sleep when you can.
First of all, congratulations! I'm so happy you have one another. I have a toddler and a newborn. I wish, I had a "shift change". Oh, and I work full time. Oh, that delirium is so REAL. Hang in there. Praying for you all. Thank you for bringing light to these matters.
Oh guys thank you so much for all the time and energy you put into this podcast. I always watch it on RUclips and enjoy seeing you guys as well. It was so educational!!! You’re the best. Take all the time you need and please sleep every chance you get. 💜🤗
I'll preface this by saying I don't have kids, but I am a teacher. I put on a video or something easy like audiobooks or yoga to get a break and keep the kids engaged.
My older brother had a dairy allergy. Was really hard according to my mom when he was a toddler especially. As siblings I would try to share my milk. Glad there are more milk alternatives now. Wish the same for cheese.
i would switch wes’ bedtime to 6:30-7:00pm, get a gro clock for him and don‘t allow him out of his room until the gro clock turns green. no noise, no turning on the lights, no getting out of the bed... i am pretty strict when it comes to my 6-year-old daughter’s sleep schedule and have been ever since we sleep trained her at 6 months-old. i just switched her bedtime to 8pm this september because she started 1st grade and has homework from school as well as her piano practice.
Omg this is why I am scared to have a second one that's so hard when one sleeps and you should sleep too but can't because the older one is running around 😭😭😭😭 shout out to all you parents of more than one 💪💪💪💪👍👍👍👍
early mornings for us always equaled cozy time. I would take baby and toddler, pour out toys on the floor, put on some tv show and bring my out my pillows and comforter. Then I would have baby on my chest, toddler playing or watching TV and nap in fits for at least an hour in the mornings. I know TV isn't the best when they're young, but honestly, you go mad with that much sleep deprivation. I was never able to find a way to change my kids, so me and my husband I had to alter our own patterns. Since I was breastfeeding and my husband was working full time I had charge of the nights, with diaper changes and all, and I would wake hubby up between 5 and 7. Then I could sleep in for an hour before he had to go to work. This meant I sometimes went to bed with the kids at 7.30 PM and I always napped with them in the middle of the day. There was no alternatives for me, I would have collapsed otherwise.
Ned lost weight, they both look exhausted, but why oh why Ariel still has this perky attitude and a happy glow about her :) Was smiling the whole time esp as Ned talks about being a new dad again. What a lovely couple :)
Here’s an idea for Wes: When I was little and my parents did not want us to wake them, they would tell us that we couldn’t wake them until the clock said 7:00AM. We could quietly crawl into bed and cuddle, but NO waking the parents in until it said 7:00. All the best guys! 😊👍✨
I have a 10 week old- our system used to be that I would have a quick 2 hour nap from 8-10pm then get up and stay up with baby until 5am then my husband would take over and I would sleep from 5-10am. I would have cups of tea and breakfast biscuits throughout the night and lots of water. I also have tv shows I watch on my phone that I’m only allowed to watch during the night so it’s an incentive to be awake with my baby. She (my daughter Jenny) is now 10 weeks old and will sleep from about 10.30- 5/6/7am most nights, I just wake up halfway through to pump. Have a good Xmas break and good luck with getting more sleep 😊
Bruh I want Ned and Ariel to do a podcast with Jessica Braun and Tyler Travels because theyre also parents of a toddler and are in their 30s and she used to be a teacher so it'd be interesting to see their experience with parenthood
Just wanted to share my sleep system with my hubby. We have a 3 year old and a newborn. Breastfeeding. Hubby sleeps in the guest room. I sleep in and off as baby needs to feed every few hours. Hubby gets up with toddler and off to school. I get to take as many naps as I need throughout the day. This works for us. Hubby is in charge of keeping house tidy. The baby is now almost 3 months old and sleeps 6-8 hours at night so we are more back to normal.
I know it sounds like my husband is spoiled, but it’s nice to have one fully functioning adult in the house. I feel I get more sleep because there’s no guilt when I nap during the day because he got a full nights rest. On weekends when the toddler is home all day- same system. Daddy’s in charge of everyone when I nap. And when I’m not napping I’m better rested to interact with everyone. 🤷♀️ Works for us. Good luck Ned and Ariel! PS Husband moved back into bed last night, immediately started snoring and I considered kicking him out again😆 Opted for just rolling him over.
Just wanted to say congratulations to you both, and encourage you that you've got this! I'm looking forward to listening again once you've got your schedule down and feel happy (rather than exhausted) to do this podcast. Warm wishes to the whole family
Me and my husband are planning on doing 6 hr shifts. 8a-2p I nap/take care of infant, he takes care of toddler. 2p-8p we switch. 8p-2a I sleep, he’s up with infant and only brings baby to me to breastfeed (1 or 2 times), and then 2a-8a we switch again. Not sure if it’ll work but thought I’d give y’all an idea to try lol.
You’re doing great Fulmers! I am definitely by no means an expert, but I HAVE A TIP‼️ *Long Post* But my daughter also was BIG on the cluster feeding and chest naps. Instead of feeding her every 3 hours I fed her every 2 instead and a set amount of ounces, which kept her full for longer. I had the sleeping troubles as well and I would put her in her crib with her noise machine on and rub her tummy in a circle and shush loudly. They will cry, so every 5 minutes I would pick her up and comfort her, then repeat the process so she falls asleep where she is going to stay asleep. I did this every nap and sleep for 1 1/2-2 weeks and IT WORKED WONDERS‼️ Good luck and get some rest, you deserve it ❤️
A rise to wake clock/light. When the light turns green Wes can leave his room and go wake you up. So if he wakes up before then he can have a few quiet activities in his room or wherever and you can buy yourself a little bit more sleep time.
when I was little on weekends i would almost always wake up before my parents, and I would go stand in their doorway and whisper "you can get up now" before going into the living room to watch tv xD
a twitch streamer that i watch has a 7 month-old and this is his routine: work until midnight or 1 am take over feeding at 3 am and 6 am go to sleep at 6 am, wake up at noon his wife goes to sleep at midnight and wakes up at 6am
The fact they are still doing podcasts with a toddler and a newborn at home 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Another baby to feed yo!
It helps that Ariel's parents are living with them.
Edit: Correction, they just mentioned that the parents left today
They are probably happy to get a break 😅
@@Margar02 thank you 😊
@@lauraska95 you have a good point 😊
No one would be mad if you take some time off to rest. We all want you healthy and well rested! ❤️
Just a preschool teacher here- but just had a similar conversation with one of my students families! In school, during nap time, we have “quiet activities” and the students who wake up early, or choose not to nap that day, can choose multiple “quiet activities” to do on their mat until nap time is over. This parent started doing it at home!! When their child wakes up in the morning, they can choose “quiet activities” to do in their bedroom until the timer/alarm beeps and the parents wake up and are ready to start the day!! Maybe something you could try? Wes plays on his own for a little until a set time in the morning, then he can come join you in bed? Just one idea:) lots of admiration and love for you guys!! Huge fan!!
My father did this with me. Id basically self soothe by reading a book or drawing. Worked a treat. Even if i woke up at 3am id do something then go back to bed a short while after.
My 6 year old has done this since she was about 3. She's a crazy early riser still, usually up waaay before my toddler, but just reads quietly in her room until the rest of the house wakes up at a more civilized hour.
This is genius!! When I was about 4 my mum would leave me Lego blocks and a picture of something to make! That would just keep me occupied for an hour and then she’d ask me to present it to her - makes for a fun game!
My mom set up "morning crafts" because Id wake up so early for her and I wasn't allowed to wake her up until my morning crafts were done
Same, I had a book to read and fruit for the early breakfast snack
How old were u when she was doing that?
@@movi3srock I think 3 or 4 when my brother was born.
I did this for my sister as kids, she'd come into my room and wake me up for breakfast at 5 am so I would leave out fruit and cherrios and let her make her own food. Luckily she was into the whole independence thing
That’s brilliant!
I love that they named Wesley and Finley after their dad Nedley.
Wait is name is Nedley? This had to be a joke
@@dishadharmraj6986 Like many Neds, he’s an Edward. It’s like a Jimothy/Bobert joke.
Love that Ariels shirt matches the mountain painting behind her 😂
Wow
I was looking for somebody else to notice
Damn hahaha didnt notice that until I read your comment and now I can’t UNSEE it I keep looking to the painting when camera pans to Ariel
Ariel when talking about not needing to go to the geriatric mother's ward: "maybe the next one"
Y'all are already talking about a third!?!
it's so cute how wes talks about himself in third person 😂☺️
They could be sleeping right now. But they’re doing a podcast- for us. What heroes. This year, the try fam are my friends I see on a regular basis.
Encourage morning snuggles with Wes, that way you can get a few extra minutes of sleep, plus sweet snuggles
I died around 18:50 when Finn made cute baby noises and then you just hear Ned’s voice like raspy “avqiBubwoBjAaah,” literally dying hahaha
Thanks for the time stamp!!
"Wesley have a cocktail?" 😂He really is their son 😂
Ned at 4am sounds like Keith towards the end of the eat the menu videos lol
Use your "quarantine pod" for help. Ask Zack and Maggie to take over for one night a week so BOTH of you can get some good and much needed sleep (or a few hours in the day). That is if your comfortable with it. I'm sure they would love to help out.
I know right ! And her parents were there why didn’t they help 🤷🏼♀️
@@11Apr19Apr pretty sure they meant taking over looking after the kids, not the podcast.
@@11Apr19Apr I think the person meant at their house, taking care of Finn and Wes. So that they’re able to get some sleep and have a day to rest up.
I studied language development all this semester. When Ariel asks Ned "has Wes been talking more?" that's probably accurate. Children around Wes's age go through a "vocabulary" spurt where they learn new words in rapid succession. Plus he's starting to comprehend sentence structure and grammar.
It’s Delirious December 🤗 love that. 😂🤦🏼♀️
Wes being a big brother to Finn is so cute
Anyone else notice that Ariel’s shirt matches the painting behind her like exactly?!
Holy!-
Toddler/preschool teacher here! I’ve heard many parents had success using this special alarm clock light. When the light is red, it means stay in bed, or do a quiet activity in your bedroom. When it’s green, it’s time to get up. I’ve seen 2 year olds follow this, and it’s a huge relief on parents
Every baby and parent is different.. but a possible tip? When I needed more sleep with my kid I started letting him take a very short nap during the day (instead of 1-2 hours) and slowly took the whole nap away (unless we really need it, then we nap) and I started keeping him up until about 9-9:30 and put blackout curtains in the rooms that he would sleep in. It gets me sleep until about 7-9am..he used to wake up between 5-7am every morning. I’m not a morning person and stay up late so I just let him stay up for a little bit with me. We play hard for about 30min-1hour and then he winds down and colors or watches tv..or even helps me clean up the toys. I’ve been a babysitter/nanny for two kids for 9 years and when they were this age the same routine would work! Tire them out, get them relaxed, put them to bed at a time that’s late enough to promote later mornings but not so late that they start getting cranky or in an unhealthy routine.
Oh! I’d also like to add that your can’t “spoil” a baby. He spent 9 months inside of you, and he needs the comfort from mommy right now. Every baby is different, as said before, but comforting your baby when he needs it will also encourage him to start soothing himself when he’s ready and to only call out to you when he really needs you! My son was in his own crib and bedroom by three months but the first month was spent in my bed with me (not safe, I didn’t really know that before) and about two months in we started getting him to lie down in his bassinet beside me with a little breast milk on his swaddle or on the little sheet for the mattress. He’s extremely independent now. Some babies do take longer, but if they are fussing for you, they need you. They aren’t spoiled or manipulative in any way :)
Unsolicited advice below haha, feel free to ignore!
Start with putting him to sleep in his bed once a day (usually the first nap of the day is the easiest one to do it, though I do sometimes suggest the lunchtime nap when you’ve got a toddler who naps so you can focus on settling baby) and use hands on settling techniques to help him go to sleep, nice gentle way to help them gradually learn independent sleep!
I’m a baby care specialist :)
Great advice! Thanks for sharing 🙌
You should be a guest ☺️
@@08ranaiu that’s definitely the kind of thing I’d love to do in the future if the opportunity ever came up!
System/video idea: Eugene moves in with the Fulmers for a week
Dont do it if thats too much I'm joking lol
I’m almost 20 but I can still remember my mom telling me little lies like the pajama one, and I gotta say keep notes of what you tell him because I thought some strange things until I was like 14-15 years old
It's a good thing that both of you are taking a break from the podcast. and thank you for telling us here. we can feel that you truly care about your listeners/viewers. see you again soon for S2 with West and Finn
“Maybe the next one.” Ariel dropping hints👀
You can try the little GroCompany clock, that changes color at a certain time. Its blue in the night and the child have to sleep. Then it’s yellow, which means that he can stand up but stay in the room. And later green when he can go to you. You set all the timers so he would not come and wake you till a certain time
As a mom with a newborn, I take the three am shift too. I feel Neds content. I was explaining David Bowie’s career to my baby. I wish I had recorded it.
I remember nursing a lethargic jaundiced baby while my 6, 4 , and 2 year old ran around like psychos!
You're an actual hero 😂👏 edit: and incredibly brave. GO MOM!
I would have curled into a ball and hid 😂 i only had an almost 3 yo when my girl was that baby and swore I needed a padded room and special jacket 😂🤣😂
Dayum, and I thought school was hard
@@kathysharfe7088 I sure did. They are all 22 years old and down now so they all are capable of making their own sandwiches! Lol.
YES MOMMA!!! My mom had me and my 3 siblings within a 7 year period and I don't know how she managed taking a breastfeeding newborn, 2 toddlers and 1st grader on weekend field trips so frequently. Moms are heroes!!!
I wish my husband would watch The Crown with me too! Ned’s idea of recording himself in the middle of the night might actually be a great way to allow your spouse to understand how you’re feeling and what you’re going through. It could open a lot of doors to communication- and provide a lot of laughs in the process.
Are we just gonna breeze past Ariel saying “maybe the NEXT ONE”😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍
Get Wes a little light alarm clock that lets him know what time it’s okay to get out of bed! Just give you a few more minutes in the morning he can just play in his room if he wants. You guys are awesome! Sending lots of love from Australia
Oh the light alarm clock thing is smart!
I was thinking the exact same thing!
So something that my husband and I did was we slept in shifts, I slept from 7pm to 3am, he slept from 3am to 10am, so we were both up for most of the day and both got 8 hours of sleep! Hopefully the sleep situation works out soon, the first few weeks are rough but I know you guys are doing a great job!
I love Ned’s 4am thoughts and Ariel’s shirts that matches the painting😂
Yes! I just noticed the shirt and scrolled down to see if anyone had commented about it!
I saw Ariels shirt and immediately thought, “ oh that’s the lesbian flag.” NO ITS NOT I CANT CONTROL THE GAY
Get a automatic light for wes and tell him to play in his room for an hour or so in the morning.
Yep. This 100%
Totally you can also do a lamp on a timer and he can’t get out of bed until the lamp comes on. We also taught our daughter to “wait til eight” it’s still a rule and she’s almost 7
I've heard of this before, but does this not backfire when the little one really needs to use the bathroom? (I say this as someone without kids)
Sleep deprived Ned 😂😂😂 it reminds me of when I would play my drunk friends voicemails from the night before for them so they could translate for me
Y'all putting out podcasts with a Bebe? Damnnnnn
I am the middle child, I learned how the VCR worked when I was about 3 years old, a few weeks after my baby brother was born. When I woke up in the morning, I would sneak into the living room and watch Disney movies. I wasn't allowed to watch movies on a regular bases. I thought that the parents never noticed anything and it was my secret me-time in the morning, when everyone was asleep .. of course they knew!
I mean, who taught me how the VCR works in the first place? My father recorded here and there my favourite shows like "Löwenzahn" or "Sendung mit der Maus" and told me that one could watch them someday.. they totally knew!!
I still enjoyed doing that when I was a school kid on the weekend and even today sometimes! I am a morning person, quite the opposite to the rest of my family or my partner.
I recently talked to my mother about it, she confirmed it, she said that at the beginning she felt pretty guilty and it was dad's idea.^^ If she had the feeling it would have harmed me, my grades, my sleep or something, she would have stopped it, but just like today, me and my energy was just hard to bear for the nightowls in the morning before the first coffee ^^
Greetings from Germany!
I love Rachel and Miles laughing in the back ❤️❤️
I love sleep I don’t think I can have kids. I’m so glad you all are making people aware that it’s worth it but it’s also hard.
.Ahhh...the joys of the second child. All I can say, is with my 1st son I was convinced I was a naturally great parent. He was so well behaved and polite. My second son came a long and I realized, I’m John Snow...I know nothing. 😂
I can’t wait to see Eugene babysit Wes and Finn
I hope you guys have a great time off, and that you can have a little bit more of sleep than you're having now. Please be safe and healthy and happy. We love you!
Ariel definitely has the short end of the sleep straw. Come on Ned, switch that up!
He's doing his best I'm sure. He can't exactly make breastmilk for finn 😂. It is really hard even if you're pumping because at first you have to keep a fairly strict pumping schedule in order to keep up your supply. It'll get better as Finn gets older the first few months are the hardest.
@@evelynmater8773 that's true, I hadn't thought of that! They did say they were thinking of changing the sleep routine so I presumed that there was something they could do.
There are probably some small changes they could make. It is rough since Wes seems to like getting up early too. They'll get a schedule down that works. Each kid is different too :) We had to figure it out with our baby too. She had a lengthy NICU stay and needed special care and a strict schedule to eat when she got to come home. Took us a few weeks to get a good routine down and even then it wasn't perfect.
Lol, I actually thought that Ariel got the better deal 😂, I'm the kind of person to stays up until 3 AM for no reason though...
Congratulations!
When my boys were toddlers, I found that if you put them down earlier, they would sleep that much time later in the morning. We did it in half hour increments until our desired wake up time (7:30p-6a).
My mom did her "magic" when they were babies. When they wake in the night, she would quietly and gently pat them (no looking or talking) until they comforted themselves and go back to sleep. She was able to extend baby's sleep time an hour between feedings so that I could get 5-6 hrs of sleep by around 5 weeks.
I wish you and your family much love and rest. ❤
I'll definitely miss the pod (I don't even have kids yet I still love tuning in every week LOL) but I will happily wait a month if it means you guys get some extra time to rest and enjoy the time with your newest bundle of joy Ned & Ariel!
Ariel doesn't age. She's beautiful :)
Well she’s only 35 lmao. That isn’t old.
Feel like I have to say, guys - you can’t spoil a newborn baby, it’s widely regarded to be a myth. Responding to their needs quickly and consistently just helps make a secure child. That doesn’t mean them sleeping on you 24/7 if that isn’t what you want of course, but leaving newborns to cry doesn’t help them.
I’m in the midst of it too with a 5w old, so I 100% sympathise on the lack on sleep. We just keep trying the bassinet when we can, otherwise we hold her. Hope cutting out dairy helps!
When you start to miss Ned’s mustache :( 😂
Bring back the stache
I breastfed plus baby only wanted me so I stayed awake all night which involved tube feeding, breastfeed, pump milk.. then my husband would take her in the morning so I could sleep for 1-2 hours. I did that for months. I was exhausted!! I didn't see the point in my husband getting no sleep either in our situation. She's a toddler now and still a terrible sleeper, waking every 2 or so hours. All day naps are in a carrier, always have been. Only fed to sleep. Oh the joys hahaha
By the way, some babies are just more needy then others. My daughter from the get go wouldn't sleep in her bassinet, wanted to be held all the time. We tried all the things to help get her to sleep on her own, but it never worked. Refused a bottle aswell. It might of not been caused from MIL, it could be just how your little baby is.
Keep up the good work guys, you got this!!
EDIT; speaking of sleep deprivation my daughter has been refusing naps and night time sleep, I am exhausted. So hopefully my rambling made sense
If nothing else I think you need to switch earlier than 4 am since Wes wakes up so early. Sounds like Ariel gets the lion share of the work
I've heard of a night light which turns green at a set time and the kid is supposed to stay in bed till it turns green even if they are awake.
Could help with wes waking up too early and disturbing your sleep.
Just wanna throw a quick CW FOR SUICIDE MENTION around the 24 min mark.
(Also, just for future ref, we actually use "died by suicide" instead of "committed" now since that language is kind of a holdover from suicide being criminalized/viewed as sin.) And on the note of mental health, definitely cool you're taking some time off from the pod to rest. Have a wonderful holiday full of naps!
Thank you for warning me!
Thank you for saying this.
Thank you, I'd never considered how "committed" actually sounded and what it really implied. I live in Japan and would never have known about this update to English! So thanks for spreading awareness!
My heart melted when we got to hear Fin's precious coo noises...
"maybe the next one" .. maybe catch up on some sleep first ;)
I was listening to this with my own newborn dozing off on my chest, and she pooped at the exact same time Finn did in Ned's recording. Amazing.
I can't wait to hear about Wesley going to school and asking his teacher for a "cocktail"
I’m laughing so hard at Wes yelling the second Ned starts peeing. The SECOND my butt touches down, there is some sort of damn emergency!!!
LMAO @ Ned's nighttime delirium! What a crazy thing for Finn to hear at 4am.
Had a 3 yr old and a new born. I was 38-9. We ended up sleeping in the same room, bed, and the baby slept in a rocking sleeper. That's the only way I got sleep. 3 yr olds can be crazy, but the second one is now 3 and is a level of chaos I can't explain.
Both my kids had to be on liquid Alimentum formula because of milk protein allergies. Oh the vomit.
The best part of my time being my niece's nanny when she was a baby was chest naps! We did her first 2 naps in the pack and play, one nap on me on the couch after I ate my lunch (I usually fell asleep too) and one nap in her crib before her parents came home and then she napped either on them or in her baby basket
Anybody else notice that Ariel's sweater literally matches the artwork in the background! Lol
Yeah when our second was born, I was adamant to get him used to sleeping by himself. 9/10 times, once he fell asleep on us, he went straight to the PnP. The 10th time was baby cuddles.
Now he won't sleep anywhere except his crip. One hand, it worked. Other hand, it worked too well. He struggles to sleep anywhere else (like if we're doing a road trip).
Omg I had a 2.5 year old when my new one was born and.... my lord... The highs and lows and.. oh, the struggle. I'm so happy y'all are finally parents of two and it makes my heart warm seeing your faces light up with excitement in all these stories. Please make sure you get rest though, because I would have much rather taken a nap than make a podcast, so just take care guys. Get sleep when you can.
First of all, congratulations!
I'm so happy you have one another. I have a toddler and a newborn. I wish, I had a "shift change". Oh, and I work full time. Oh, that delirium is so REAL. Hang in there. Praying for you all. Thank you for bringing light to these matters.
I feel like they taking this podcast now as a chance to talk to each other and update and that’s so cute
Love the delirium brings back memories. My son is 9 months old now
Oh guys thank you so much for all the time and energy you put into this podcast. I always watch it on RUclips and enjoy seeing you guys as well. It was so educational!!! You’re the best. Take all the time you need and please sleep every chance you get. 💜🤗
No Sleep November to Don’t Sleep December.
I'll preface this by saying I don't have kids, but I am a teacher. I put on a video or something easy like audiobooks or yoga to get a break and keep the kids engaged.
the ep is shorter than usual, but i get it, they just had a kid, they probably can't make this too long
Real question. When are we going to meet cute little Finn?
OMG LOVE U AND ARIEL So GLAD YALL MADE A FAMILY RELATED CHANNEL
My older brother had a dairy allergy. Was really hard according to my mom when he was a toddler especially. As siblings I would try to share my milk. Glad there are more milk alternatives now. Wish the same for cheese.
Can we appreciate how great Ariel looks post baby. Congrats to the whole family.
Can we appreciate the person in charge of the thumbnail? LOL
As much as I’ll miss you guys, I was so relieved to hear you’ll be taking a break. You two deserve it!!! All the best to you guys
That's cute that Finn gets to have his birthday so close to Ariel's. I loved having mine close to my dad's.
The sleeper rocker was recalled. My youngest would not sleep unless swaddled and slightly upright.
i would switch wes’ bedtime to 6:30-7:00pm, get a gro clock for him and don‘t allow him out of his room until the gro clock turns green. no noise, no turning on the lights, no getting out of the bed... i am pretty strict when it comes to my 6-year-old daughter’s sleep schedule and have been ever since we sleep trained her at 6 months-old. i just switched her bedtime to 8pm this september because she started 1st grade and has homework from school as well as her piano practice.
The 14mo woke up at 3:30 am and decided not to go back to sleep... I relate hard to the 4am rambling
Omg this is why I am scared to have a second one that's so hard when one sleeps and you should sleep too but can't because the older one is running around 😭😭😭😭 shout out to all you parents of more than one 💪💪💪💪👍👍👍👍
I'm 5 months pregnant with my 2nd one and my son is 4 will be 5 when his sister is born and I'm terrified of taking care of the both of them.
early mornings for us always equaled cozy time. I would take baby and toddler, pour out toys on the floor, put on some tv show and bring my out my pillows and comforter. Then I would have baby on my chest, toddler playing or watching TV and nap in fits for at least an hour in the mornings. I know TV isn't the best when they're young, but honestly, you go mad with that much sleep deprivation.
I was never able to find a way to change my kids, so me and my husband I had to alter our own patterns. Since I was breastfeeding and my husband was working full time I had charge of the nights, with diaper changes and all, and I would wake hubby up between 5 and 7. Then I could sleep in for an hour before he had to go to work. This meant I sometimes went to bed with the kids at 7.30 PM and I always napped with them in the middle of the day. There was no alternatives for me, I would have collapsed otherwise.
I love neds ramblings
My mom said I was a really nice newborn, I was super easy. Then... Came along my brother.
Ned lost weight, they both look exhausted, but why oh why Ariel still has this perky attitude and a happy glow about her :) Was smiling the whole time esp as Ned talks about being a new dad again. What a lovely couple :)
Here’s an idea for Wes: When I was little and my parents did not want us to wake them, they would tell us that we couldn’t wake them until the clock said 7:00AM. We could quietly crawl into bed and cuddle, but NO waking the parents in until it said 7:00. All the best guys! 😊👍✨
I have a 10 week old- our system used to be that I would have a quick 2 hour nap from 8-10pm then get up and stay up with baby until 5am then my husband would take over and I would sleep from 5-10am. I would have cups of tea and breakfast biscuits throughout the night and lots of water. I also have tv shows I watch on my phone that I’m only allowed to watch during the night so it’s an incentive to be awake with my baby. She (my daughter Jenny) is now 10 weeks old and will sleep from about 10.30- 5/6/7am most nights, I just wake up halfway through to pump. Have a good Xmas break and good luck with getting more sleep 😊
Bruh I want Ned and Ariel to do a podcast with Jessica Braun and Tyler Travels because theyre also parents of a toddler and are in their 30s and she used to be a teacher so it'd be interesting to see their experience with parenthood
Just wanted to share my sleep system with my hubby. We have a 3 year old and a newborn. Breastfeeding. Hubby sleeps in the guest room. I sleep in and off as baby needs to feed every few hours. Hubby gets up with toddler and off to school. I get to take as many naps as I need throughout the day. This works for us. Hubby is in charge of keeping house tidy. The baby is now almost 3 months old and sleeps 6-8 hours at night so we are more back to normal.
I know it sounds like my husband is spoiled, but it’s nice to have one fully functioning adult in the house. I feel I get more sleep because there’s no guilt when I nap during the day because he got a full nights rest. On weekends when the toddler is home all day- same system. Daddy’s in charge of everyone when I nap. And when I’m not napping I’m better rested to interact with everyone. 🤷♀️ Works for us. Good luck Ned and Ariel! PS Husband moved back into bed last night, immediately started snoring and I considered kicking him out again😆 Opted for just rolling him over.
Just wanted to say congratulations to you both, and encourage you that you've got this! I'm looking forward to listening again once you've got your schedule down and feel happy (rather than exhausted) to do this podcast. Warm wishes to the whole family
I’m a single 20 year old with no kids and I love this podcast. So informative and interesting!
Oooo they so cute even if they are so exhausted ♥️ and such cute baby names♥️♥️✨
Me and my husband are planning on doing 6 hr shifts. 8a-2p I nap/take care of infant, he takes care of toddler. 2p-8p we switch. 8p-2a I sleep, he’s up with infant and only brings baby to me to breastfeed (1 or 2 times), and then 2a-8a we switch again. Not sure if it’ll work but thought I’d give y’all an idea to try lol.
You’re doing great Fulmers! I am definitely by no means an expert, but I HAVE A TIP‼️ *Long Post* But my daughter also was BIG on the cluster feeding and chest naps. Instead of feeding her every 3 hours I fed her every 2 instead and a set amount of ounces, which kept her full for longer. I had the sleeping troubles as well and I would put her in her crib with her noise machine on and rub her tummy in a circle and shush loudly. They will cry, so every 5 minutes I would pick her up and comfort her, then repeat the process so she falls asleep where she is going to stay asleep. I did this every nap and sleep for 1 1/2-2 weeks and IT WORKED WONDERS‼️ Good luck and get some rest, you deserve it ❤️
A rise to wake clock/light. When the light turns green Wes can leave his room and go wake you up. So if he wakes up before then he can have a few quiet activities in his room or wherever and you can buy yourself a little bit more sleep time.
when I was little on weekends i would almost always wake up before my parents, and I would go stand in their doorway and whisper "you can get up now" before going into the living room to watch tv xD
I think Finn’s birthday is 11/11/2020
a twitch streamer that i watch has a 7 month-old and this is his routine:
work until midnight or 1 am
take over feeding at 3 am and 6 am
go to sleep at 6 am, wake up at noon
his wife goes to sleep at midnight and wakes up at 6am
No one:
Ariel: Fascinating