@@Lilith_is_better_thn_the_devil When they are consistently misogynistic, biphobic, and ableist, I'm not going to give them a pass just because they claim to be a 'women's rights movement'
@@orionnebula1136 I mean, they're not a 'Women's rights movement'. they ain't feminists. they don't even practice intersectionality, and actively push gender essentialist narratives that pose women as weak and victims (Not very feminist of them)
Exactly! Students are wrongly punished for defending themselves when a bully attacks them. When minorities on a social media platform have a spine, the bigots act like the f**king victims. Bigots are just overgrown middle school bullies.
That’s not what feminism means, where’d you get that from, it’s primarily focused on women. Feminists don’t owe other groups outside of women anything and I say that as a half black male. This is a common anti feminist talking point you’re using
@@Lilith_is_better_thn_the_devilno she is not. Black and trans women exist. If feminism don’t advocate against everything that hurts women then it’s is not feminism
@@CoolCjstar so would you say BLM or any other movement focused on one particular group should have to focus on another group? Why is this rule only applied to feminism. I feel like I’m talking to a wall
@@Lilith_is_better_thn_the_devil blm mainly focuses on black people because of the racism of the police and black people. They stand up for police brutality in general against any person of color. Feminism is for all women. Go read white tears, brown scars by Ruby Ahmad
@@Lilith_is_better_thn_the_devil I’m talking to a wall because you are just unhinged and just bigot bullying trans people and just mansplaining feminism.
Oh wow, not everyone gets offended over the same things? Guess what, the b word is a slur targeted against women. I don’t care, as a male myself, I’m a misandrist because of misogynistic trans women, gay men, etc.
@@Lilith_is_better_thn_the_devil you literally came into this comment section to be annoying. What do you mean WE should leave YOU alone?? Get your transphobic bullshit out of here. Don’t come into our spaces to harass us!?!
@@Lilith_is_better_thn_the_devil 'if you don't like radical feminsts, leave us the hell alone.' Seems like a skill issue. You literally chose that yourself so just lay in your grave you dug and don't complain when people RIGHTFULLY hate radfems. I am a feminist and y'all radfems are a fucking joke, what an L.
Realest thing ever. I’m a trans guy but I will in fact not stop doing my mascara and lip gloss because I look good with it. “You should try to look masculine if you wanna be perceived as male” you should try to stfu
This reminds me of when I got banned from Reddit for saying "Be gay, kill Nazis" (jokingly, I might add), while people can openly advocate for the eradication of Chinese/Russian people and get upvoted to the front page. I love hypocritical terms of service so much.
This is literally every social media platform though. Sometimes on Insta I would report bigots, and they wouldn’t do anything about it. But I said ‘bitch’ in a comment section once, without the intention to insult the poster, and Insta instantly gave me a warning 💀
@@ninyaninjabrifsanovichthes45 real if i make a slightly queer post and it gets a thousand downvotes but ppl will boast about the porn they've watched and call ppl slurs and ppl be like "YES GET THIS MAN SOME REDDIT GOLD!! ERM, SIR, YOU WON THE INTERNET.." shit's fuckin wack
Not only that, but they fused it with "moid," a word that was created because female incels saw male incels with the most unwashed asses in the world calling women femoids/foids and thought "Damn, these guys are onto something."
Exactly as a blk bisexual guy myself its ridiculous and blk bisexual trans women gave them personality and they don't know who to act and be respectful
Damn seeing a black love appreciation post and trying to join in as a fellow black couple only to be verbally mauled by mad weirdos would have my mental ankles snapped
They're really trying to make everything a slur, cause apparently cis is a slur too to some people. They dont even know what the words theyre using mean
@@AmberyTear You can use a word as an insult, but you can't "use a word as a slur." It's either a slur, or it isn't. In the case of "cis", it's literally just the latin prefix meaning "on the same side as," as opposed to "trans" meaning "on the opposite side as". Like the transatlantic accent, or Transylvania. Cis is not a slur, and neither is TERF. TLDR; if I wanted to insult you transphobic mfs, you'd know
As an aroace guy, I've also run into that same weird gatekeeping in the queer community where somehow the validity of your identity hinges on whether you've gotten hate crimed or not. It's so strange and invasive.
This is such a weird position to be at. Like you're not gay enough because you weren't mistreated enough to be with the other gays, but you're also the gay one of the straights. You don't belong anywhere, and it leaves you by yourself. I hate the gate keeping because it genuinely hurts more sometimes. When someone calls you a slur, you still have a community. When you don't belong anywhere, you're all by yourself.
It’s also really fucking weird because aroaces and other varieties of ace on the spectrum HAVE been hate crimed, so even by the bullshit metric they use we still count as “gay enough.”
Imo I think people just really love something convenient and conventional. Like, a bi man who has suckt dick AND eaten pussy has proven himself whereas someone with less experience is only bi in theory or I'm hypothetical situations, especially if they're in a relationship where on paper they're afab/amab but there's some queer or trans identity in the mix. Then you plug in some ego and anonymity??? Oh honey you better show the feral people chronically online the proof of your sexuality or they'll never believe ya lmao it's sad but simple from my perspective, a black bi dude who doesn't feel the need to defend why it's okay for me to not be attracted to cis fems
Honestly with how prejudice works, while it’s ROOTED in ignorance, it’s not an excuse because everyone can have controversial views by accident or just be plan ignorant towards non-controversial things. it’s ultimately a choice because they chose to stay ignorant even when presented with information to correct that. I guarantee you these people know the difference, but just don’t care. No amount of facts or statistics or definitions will change their mind when the problem lies with them in their own heads and hearts. The cruelty was always the point, talking to talk.
This hits so hard. My girlfriend is transfem but we live in an area where its unsafe and literally dangerous to even try transitioning in any way. I'm non-binary, and my girlfriend is transfem. We are a T4T couple, we are queer. But to everyone looking at us from the outside? They see an AFAB and an AMAB person; a straight couple. And its the farthest from the truth. So sick of people trying to gatekeep queer and move the goalposts repeatedly bc someone "isn't gay enough", when being queer is all about different experiences. Fuck Twitter that place sucks ass
First of all, love your username, second: Thank you for sharing your experience. As a bisexual man who generally prefers romantically associating with gay men, I sometimes find myself judging other types of relationships for "not being gay enough" or whatever, mostly as an extension of me being a former basement dweller who though not gatekeeping media would "let the normies win" or whatever schizo silliness. Your story helps me rethink my biases, and helps me empathize and be a better person. I wish you all the happiness and bliss you can have with your relationship, and am sure your GF is a very lucky woman to have you!
If it makes you feel any better: imagine that you and your partner are like spies in enemy territory, undermining their oppressive, cruel regime just by existing, AND THEY DON’T EVEN KNOW IT! (Cold comfort when we’d all just like to live without hiding, yes - but whenever I’m having a bad day, framing it like that makes me feel a little bit better)
Actually insane how mad people get over that. Like as a hate crime victim why the fuck would anyone wish that kind of horrifying dehumanization on someone?? Why would you need to "prove how oppressed you are". Oppression is not a good thing??? Twitter logic is so insane
they treat queerness as smthing that is only valid if you suffer 😭😭 do these ppl know that, despite us being a minority group and face discrimination for it, we can live out lives where we can be happy ???? 😭😭😭 i'm not cis, het and white, but i can still experience genuine happiness despite it all. that happiness doesn't make me any less queer or not white lmfao 🤧
they also forget in this case that hes black like !?? why would you wish that on someone who could get hate crimes as he said, by simply driving to another state without the need to even be queer
Transphobes will say “omg ur so ugly” and it’s the most jaw dropping, toe-curling, goddess-like, gift to humanity lookin transfem that god has got the privilege to claim as his creation
They also say "Why don't trans lesbians date each other? ThEy MuSt Be FaKiNg It" and literally every trans discord server becomes a polycule after like 5 minutes.
Yes, in fact I wish you misogynistic men and spineless liberal women wouldn’t be on this planet so I would hate it a little bit less. I’m a male and a misandrist as well as a TERF.
FR!! im a young lesbian living in canada and the only reason im not out at work is because i dont want to share that part of myself with people i barely know, but i KNOW i would be safe if i came out, i wouldn't get fired, i wouldn't get harrassed, i wouldn't get hate crimed or anything - my family is also very accepting (hell, my brother's queer too), and even tho i spent years questionning my sexuality and being unsure of myself, i NEVER felt like i would put myself in danger by coming out. Sometimes i think about the lesbians who fought for their rights daily and i think they'd be proud of the fact that young women like me can be who they are without the constant threat of violence. We've come SO FAR as a community, and i understand that the struggle is a very important part of our history, but it shouldn't be the thing that defines us! Sorry for the novel, i fully agree with you and wanted to share my thoughts
I'm a bisexual woman and the term "spicy straight" sends me into a hellish rage. Like, I straight up want to punch my wall and flip a chair or two. People, especially other LGBT people, need to stop expecting bi people to prove it. Bi people should not be expected to prove that they're really attracted to people of their gender to every asshole on the internet to be taken seriously and feel welcome in the LGBT community. If a bi person is in a relationship with someone of the opposite gender, they're still bi. If a bi person isn't in a relationship, they're still bi. If a bi person hasn't been with a person of the same gender, they're still bi. If a bi person is more attracted to people of the opposite gender, they're still bi. And the idea that bi people are lower in the hierarchy than gay people because they experience less oppression is...God, I can't put into words how gross I think that reasoning is. Also, bitch isn't a slur. Insult =/= Slur.
Exactly, i just dont get it man. Why are we always asked to prove we're really queer?? I don't run up to a gay guy and ask him to send pics of him sucking dick!? I just accept that he's gay because he said so. Just cause i'm in a "straight" relationship doesnt erase how i feel about women and enbies. I'm BI not gay, so no shit i also like men, i'm allowed to. If I was in a "gay" relationship i'd still like men, that's what Bisexual means
Especially the whole “pick a side” bullshit that people say, so many people assume that if a bi person is dating someone of the opposite sex all of a sudden they’re straight or if they’re dating someone of the same sex they’re gay and they finally “picked a side”?!? Like it doesn’t make any fucking sense atp, and it’s even more annoying considering that people think bisexuals can’t date those who are within the nonbinary spectrum. I’m not bisexual, I’m a black queer person and a lesbian at that but biphobia is such a huge problem within the queer community itself, wether it be internalized homophobia, transphobia, or some rando on the internet that has the balls to talk shit online but never to someone’s face.
@@LuXuri0u5. Tangentially related to what you said, a few years ago I watched this video where a lesbian woman was talking about her two trans girlfriends and a few people in the comments told her she was actually bi. So yeah, according to the flaws of biphobia and transphobia, you must date trans people to be bi.
@@Man-wolf-’m never gonna say it or wish that on someone. But with how much “kill yourself” has become a meme response, my brain just auto fills that as my response internally anytime I see shit like that unironically. Apart of me’s tempted to respond them with that but its cruel and just not worth it 💀
The whole “visibly queer” thing is so strange to me. Like now that I pass as cis, do I suddenly have cis privilege?? Have I transcended my transness and now just arrived back at cis? You can take off your cat ears and maid outfit anytime you want, being queer is being queer no matter your presentation. I’m banned off Twitter which is probably a blessing. Hope you and your partner are doing well! The Twitter radfems aren’t radical or feminist, just fascists hiding behind an anime profile picture.
Passing well offers some protection against street harassment, while still doing nothing for the horrendous state of transgender medical care. So in a sense, trans people who pass well are privileged, but only relative to ones who pass poorly. Of course, that's not what any of those people were thinking about.
@@acutechicken5798True, but the way it’s usually used against trans people is insane. All trans people, no matter how well they ‘pass’ are equally valid in their identity. I still do face a bit of harassment in the street, although I think that’s more me seeming odd than being trans. Plus, people who know me still say shit sometimes, which I’m lucky is just talk.
i think ppl in general confuse being privileged as being “better” or “not experiencing any sort of hatred from others”. you are cis-passing but your identity is still valid and you can still face harassment. as someone who grew up tri/biracial this sort of thing just made me feel weird bc it’s similar to being “white-passing”. when ppl stop acting like having more oppression or more “valid” forms of oppression makes you better than others, then we can be more accepting of intersectionality. like jbc im white passing or cis passing or straight passing doesn’t mean i still haven’t dealt with a lot of the same shit y’all have. and the same could be said for ableism. we just need to learn that everything can be true at the same time lol it’s not a one or the other.
@@AtomixTiger I definitely think there’s a line between making a character who hasn’t come to terms with or open about their gender/sexuality and just ‘I want to attract a gay audience but I don’t want to lose supporters’. I find that it’s usually best to just watch shows made by LGBT+ creators because at least there’s a higher chance it’ll be the former.
This reminded me of that one TikTok where some queer kids ran up to a "straight couple" on the streets and went "ew straight people" at them. They werent straight, one was trans and got dysphoric because of that comment from some random STRANGERS
god, I swear some of the people in our own goddamn community. why would you go up to anyone like that. just fucking treat everyone with respect it's that fucking simple
Okay not that I think this is an okay behavior :0 Harassing random strangers for no reason is never okay regardless of any details. But as a trans person not getting clocked and being confused as straight would be so validating and ewphoric lol.
@@crassiewassie8354 I don't know the tiktok mentioned but if it made them dysphoric they obviously weren't being perceived in a way that aligned with their gender like you're assuming. They didn't "not get clocked" they weren't even on these kid's radar as being anything other than a cishet. If a transman was in a gay mlm relationship (for example) and someone called them a straight couple that would mean the person calling them that viewed one of them as a woman which would affect the transman in that relationship negatively. Especially when this is a way cis gay people intentionally express transphobia towards non-cis gay couples. Not at all validating in this context and I think it's helpful to think through why someone would be hurt by something (ie they might be different from you) before applying it to your own experiences and loling about it.
Big same fam. I fit that identity I feel u. (I mean, I don't particularly like describing myself as masculine appearing but that is how I get read most often)
@@BlazinTre yo that sucks ass that's real. I'm pretty bulky and 6'5" so I feel u but obvi not on the same level as u bc I don't have to deal with the racialized stereotyping. Your joy is power and your joy is resistance
NOOOO I KNOW RIGHT!!!!!! i saw this whole thing go down on twitter and it was literally just "you look to masculine/feminine to be nonbinary" in a wafer thin disguise like radfems are soo annoying
Incredibly hateful people who put on a thin cloak of progressivism like an everything-proof shield. Like spraying Axe body spray on a corpse to hide the smell.
As a gay asian man this is exactly why I really value my privacy. People get really creepy one way or another about either asian or gay men so how your identities intersected in this reminded me of how mine works
As a Black Queer person, I have gotten shit around my white queer friends when I told them that "I am Black before I am a Queer person because while there is no way to look queer, I cant not look Black." So often, white queer people will side with cis white people before they side with a POC, espcially Black People. Femenist espcially, White AFAB folks will side with White men before they side with a Black woman on anything. And this has happened so often that when I bring up recipts that this happens then they wanna act like Im a Ghost.
As someone in the exact situation im praying for u fr I want to say try looking for better freinds but honestly it took me graduating hs to do the same stay strong
The truth will always hurt. No matter the opinion one has . Find people who can agree to disagree because like mindedness causes sheep mentality. Find people who will always be real and can empathize with others.
Trans people also face this unfortunately. If you only slightly don't pass - especially in today's climate - you're in potential danger. I am a mixed race trans person and my local community is mostly cis white queers. Which is fine, that's not an insult, but it DOES make me feel quite isolated because they don't understand some of the shit I have to go through & it makes them uncomfortable to acknowledge as much.
@DaftnPunk I'm really sorry this is happening to you. You're white queer friends are jerks. There's not a right or wrong way to being queer, transgender, gay (etc). You just are. This unfortunately is still in issue in our community. We need to uplift our black queer siblings, our Black transgender siblings, and our Black gay siblings voices. As well as Black people's voices in general. As a white trans man ftm and gay man I still have much to learn. Just know that I accept you and you are vaild.
Twitter users really can’t handle seeing people be happy and just living their lives. So sorry you and your partner had to deal with that- also on a lighter note welcome back!
@@mjangelvortextwitter and vine had a baby, but health issues led to vine’s death, leaving TikTok with an abusive parent that’s molded them into what they are now
Bro, as a trans masc dude who has been invalidated so many times in person and online, this is an incredible video. I don’t relate to a lot of it, but being educated on another side of the LGBTQIA+ community’s struggles is a blessing and I hope you and your partner are doing better. And, man, I love ur pants. Fabulous pants.
what I'll never understand is why people expect queer ppl too look a certain way, not only that its js very weird to tell someone what and what isnt their sexuality
yeah, even as an ally I used to question others on why they were policing queerness. like why would you do that? the community will and is judged no matter what so why try to fit into the boxes given by bigots. also the gays, the lesbians and the bisexuals that allign themselves with terfs forgot that before trans people, they were the target of bigotry. same sex marriage was illegal and its still illegal in other countries. bigots won't give you the rights if you allign yourself with them and I say this not just as an ally but as a disabled woman.
As a bi man, thanks for speaking up for people like me and others who feel excluded in the community because of that "gold star queer" nonsense. It really sucks that even in a community focused on love and acceptance, there will always be people who will bully and harass their brethren if we don't dare conform to their standards of queerness. Also, you are drowning in drip in those pants!
Ah, the classic, bi/pan/omnisexual and/or trans and/or ace experience: Getting hate from both queerphobes and queer people at the same time because you're queer but not visibly queer enough for the Twitter cisgays.
Nonbinary bisexual here, and preach. not trans enough for trans people but too trans to be cis. Not gay enough for gay people but not straight enough for the straight people. Folks need to just let us live lol
If you're bi, ppl in the queer community and otherwise will fetishize you if you a women or afab, if you're a man or masc presenting they will want you to prove your bisexuality, and if your an enby or andro they will be confused or dismiss the concept of you being bi in the first place. When I saw the pic of you and your partner I thought it was really cute. I love to see love, queer love and positive black people as we don't see that often in the mainstream. We, the black community, are always being demonized, fetishized and hated on far too often. I don't understand how these ppl on twitter could trash on ppls appearances and have 0 photos and act like they are gatekeeping the word attractive that shit is ridiculous.
"visibly queer" is the dumbest shit i've ever heard and im so sorry that you had fuckers raggin on you for days telling you how you're not oppressed whilst proceeding to make undeniably oppressive comments. all the love to you and ur gorgeous partner, stay strong
I hate the term “visibly queer”, like obviously some people may look more like the stereotypes you think of when it comes to one’s sexuality but a lot of the time there are zero visual indicators of one’s sexuality. I’m ace/biromantic but my sexuality barely comes up because no one looks at me and goes “YUP! That’s an ace!” Because HOW WOULD YOU KNOW?! People trying to guess sexualities based on whether they dress “straight” or “gay” are fucking annoying, just let people exist.
@abbers0737 nah fr, and honestly stereotyping queer ppl as looking a certain way only hurts folks more because ppl who fit the stereotype are targeted and those who don't are excluded from their own community. we just gotta stop the whole "visibly queer" thing.
@@abbers0737 and like, what about passing trans ppl, or trans/nb people who have not/do not transition? You're really gonna look them in the face and tell them they're not queer bc they don't look it???
Honestly the whole idea of being "visibly queer" just feels like another form of heteronormativity. Like if you are gay you have to look the part, just so that you can be differentiated from straight people, and that's all kinds of gross. Queerness isn't a way you look, it's a state of being outside heteronormativity, and thus there isn't any one way to be queer or any way to look queer. Being queer just means being yourself really, or at least that's what it should mean
@@abbers0737 you shouldn’t have to look queer to be a part of the community, but there is a big difference in how you’re treated by people in and out of the community if you do not pass
the amount of exclusionists in my own community is disgusting. even if its not direct hostility the amount of times i find people be stunlocked by me or treat me like a spectacle is weird. like im aroace and nonbinary and its just the amount of times i hear that im not REALLY gay and that im not REALLY trans is just. not okay. if im not gay or trans what am i because the cis straight people dont accept me either? like the same people preaching yall dont experience oppression are the same people throwing slurs, being racist and being homophobic and transphobic. its just weird to me and makes me so glad i dont interact with social media anymore. its beyond exhausting constantly seeing stuff thats just actively against me existing as a person, so i keep my communities extremely filtered. i hate people and i genuinely wish they would mind their own business because you and your partner dont owe them anything. no person owes transphobes or homophobes anything.
I am currently in a bi4bi relationship with my partner - I am nonbinary, he is cis. I haven't taken hormones yet because of being in a red state so I unfortunately do not "pass" (even though I don't think I should but w/e). I made the VERY wrong mistake of being out at a supposedly "LGBTQ+ friendly" job and I caught this same heat AT WORK!!! I am sorry this happened and it really is just the shittiest thing to feel your whole ass identity be questioned by people who are strangers! People really just need to mind their own business.
bro i ain't ever talking about my identity ive been questioned so much by both queers and cishets it's. 💀 im sorry that happened to you at work people need to get their heads out of their asses
@@ConnieTheo trans people are part of the lgbT community. I doesn't matter if they're in a (SUPPOSEDLY) "straight" relationship. Whatever happened to "don't assume stranger's identities"??
@@ember9361 I think you didn't understand my comment. I said IF they were both cis and bi, so not trans. I wasn't talking about the person in the video
This is validating af. I went onto twitter first time in ages and ended up arguing with some very angry boomer gays who hate trans people and think anyone who identifies as queer is a "fetishist and pervert" My partner and I openly identify as queer. Were both bi and gender is hard. Queer is a great word for us. But apparently we're in with the drag queens and trans people as "groomers" 🙄
Those old gay boomers remind me of the immigrants that support trump. Its hoping by proving your 'one of the good ones'the system wont hurt you so much
Bro not trying to sound like an idiot dude bro, but Twitter just reaches and searches for ways to feel oppressed because it makes them feel special, then they proceed to enact the same oppression on other people.
Everytime I look something up about a queer identity I didn't know about (not a microlabel, but this happens ESPECIALLY when they are) I'm always led to hateful reddit servers. Like truscums or something? Idk, but it's always very telling when I go to the main page and see them talking about how depressed and dysphoric they feel. Of course that's something I wouldn't wish on anyone, depression has ruined me, but for them to go ahead and bash another trans person for not being [blank] enough?? I don't get them. Those people make me more afraid of being visibly queer/ambiguous than most straight people. That reaction may not be the same for everyone, luckily I haven't experienced a hate crime at least directly, but...yeah. Makes me go from wondering how I'd present if I had various clothing to wondering if I am ""spicy straight"".
My biggest gripe with being 'visibly queer' is that it basically only applies to white people. It's dumb to think that all queer folk dress alike, but besides that, when I, as a Black fem get looked at, the first thing anyone sees is that I am Black. EVERYTHING else is secondary. The society we live in allows for white people to be the standard, and thus when you look at them, you can start to micro-examine and try to gleam whatever queerness you think might be apparent (which is ridiculous in itself, but I digress) People get so defensive when I say something as simple as the fact 'obviously I couldn't hide my Blackness no matter what I do', in contrast to queerness and passing, and then here comes 'oh, it's not the oppression olympics!' Bro what? I never said it was?? Atp I think they're only saying that because they know that if we were to dive deep and start comparing our struggles, they'd have to realize that they aren't 'winning' a game that no one should want to win.
@@Lilith_is_better_thn_the_devil Quite a few problems with this. 1st, im not a Black man, dont know where you got the idea that i was avoiding identifying that way. 2. it’s entirely arbitrary to set white people as the standard ‘because it is’. Regardless of your outside-looking-in-commentary on Black culture and its relation to masculinity, every individual Black person is still unique, and yet they are not judged that way. White people are. (in the US, specifically) AND THIS IS AN ISSUE (important) 3. ‘even the women’… this is how i know for sure this is outsider looking in commentary. because trying to apply your non-black standard of femininity to Black women is ridiculous, because the standard doesn’t matter, and is- again- arbitrary. I could go and say that actually Black women are a perfect example of balanced femininity and ‘such and such race’ women are actually too fragile, but it would be fruitless to do that. As well, you’ve already set in your mind to judge Black women as a whole and compare them (as if that whole were one person) to your ‘standard’ which you’ve implied was white (women). WHICH IS A PROBLEM BTW And you saying that while disregarding the rough history that shaped this upbringing, dismissing why there are these stereotypes about how Black women act that made you shape this narrative in your head about how our ‘culture is’…. You just shouldn’t speak on this so thoughtlessly. It’s not coming off very well. TL;DR (the most important part here) 4. to be specific you do not know what the majority of Black people have a culture of. it’s nice of you to support people breaking away from stereotypes, but doing that while putting those ‘stereotypical’ people down doesn’t help any cause. You just sound like an asshole. I think your heart was in the right place but this rubbed me all the wrong way, because you completely missed my point. White people are not a standard. if you think thats ‘just how it is’ then change your mindset.
@@LuizPrower what a fucking word salad. ‘white people are the standard because some Black people talk about them sometimes, also also, some Black ppl used to own slaves’ which had nothing to do with race, ‘and and I think Black ppl are scawy aww, and also cops should kill more Black ppl, but also also, hispanics better lol’ Literally said so much but didn’t make a single point, there’s no way you were expecting a response 😂😂 Go and walk your dog since you love whistling for it so much
@@Lilith_is_better_thn_the_devildear fuck at least this is better than the other reply. i can actually understand what you are saying 🙏🏿 thanks for that
literally the point of queerness is to accept different people, you can't call yourself queer if you shun people that don't look/act like you! thanks so much for sharing your relationship & putting up with assholes who can't even live by their own principles, it sets a good precedent for not letting voices go unheard
Leasson learned: Never post a photo of yourself in twitter, no matter how you look. Better than that, never post anything on twitter, it would be better to not even touch the app if possible. Live hapilly, it aint worth it
I legitimately wonder, why did we think Twitter was a good online space? Usually online spaces are good because they self-sort by having niche side stuff people naturally filter themselves into or someone manages the community well. Why did we think that an app designed to communicate to basically everybody about their life, perverting the idea of blogging, was ever going to end well? Because we all can curate what we see? If there is a hell on the Internet that people like to describe, it is Twitter, before and after Elon’s takeover. Elon’s takeover is just the formalization of what Twitter is about - people spewing everything, expecting everybody to take it or force them to exclude the bad people, and then consequentially spewing stuff.
You being out and proud about your sexuality and gender identity makes me feel better as someone who’s also a black bisexual non-binary person I really love your videos. We out here fr
@@TheProxy066 why does disability need a separate pride month from the lgbtq? why not join it together and fit it somewhere on the flag. I don't think it even makes sense to have 2 pride months back to back
@@nirvanaheights They added black and brown for people of colour randomly which has nothing to do with being gay, so they could easily add disabled people if they wanted to be more inclusive
I find the "yOu DoNt LoOk GaY" thing really funny cause what does a gay person look like??? Like my apologies allow me to dress in all of the bad corporate pride clothes
right n like i usually see them talk about like.. high quality makeup, dyed and always stylized hair, popping-out outfits like??? its just screaming classism, stereotyping etc
Remember someone saying how pride parades are being cooped by straight people for vertue signaling because something like "I looked around and we were like the only gay people there everyone in the area where college age straight people" like you just looked and somehow knew? Like you saw a random person standing there with a rainbow pin and just looked into their soul and knew they were only an ally? Or see a group of friends and can just tell all of them in the group are straight? Or is it that your just being judgemental and assuming shit?
The whole “looking gay”/visibly queer thing is so strange to me. I am queer because I am queer. I don’t need to dress or look a certain way. I can pass as cis and still be as trans as someone who doesn’t. I don’t need to split dye my hair, get a tattoo or wear ungodly amounts of jewellery and extremely expensive demonias. Me, passing as a cis guy in my hoodie and cargo shorts is the same as my friend who wears jewellery, dresses, has a nose piercing and dyes his hair pink. People really need to get it through their skull that queer people don’t need to be seen as “other” to be authentically themselves and nobody owes them any kind of presentation. People can look like anything regardless of their gender or attraction and it doesn’t change how valid they are in their identity.
As an aroace poc, I personally never met up with this gatekeeping because my local community is overwhelming poc and accepting. I hope everyone finds a place they are accepted.
i’m so glad you’re talking about how non-binary ppl don’t owe anyone androgyny bc i remember having gone through a lot of self doubt of my transgender identity as an AFAB person used to dress more feminine. i had a friend tell me that it was “extremely hard” for her to call me by my preferred pronouns and found it difficult to perceive me as non-binary bc i sometimes would wear fake lashes :/ i don’t rly dress as feminine anymore and it might be bc of cis ppl being transphobic as hell but i see my closet slowly growing with more masc and gender neutral clothing as a way of my gender presentation evolving (hopefully it’s bc of that lol). i’ve dealt with more flavors of transphobia as an enby person but the idea that someone trans has to look a certain way to be accepted by society is so full of shit
Honestly, I’m nb too, and I have to constantly fight my brain whenever I see a nb person that isn’t androgynous, because I’ve seen so many non-androgynous enbies get dragged on the Internet that I definitely managed to internalise that hate somehow
I’ve taken on more of a stereotypical queer look lately, partially because (in the city where I live where the risk of hate crimes is low so that isn’t part of the equation) I find it reduces the emotional labour I have to do to get people to remember my pronouns- BUT I was JUST as nonbinary back then when I had an auburn bob and used my birth name as I am now with a blue undercut using an abstract noun as a name, and it’s disgusting for these transphobes to gatekeep queerness behind presentation like that
Being attacked by people in (or supposed allies of) your group hits deep in the worst way possible. Seeing people tearing into their own like this is very fucking depressing (plus frustrating and brain cell killing). I'm sorry that you and your SO went through that, you two deserve so much better and I hope you get it.
Thank you for making this. I'm trans and I live in the US. Mt car has been keyed. I've had my things stolen, I've been yelled at by transphobes and publicly shamed for just existing. Thank you for using your platform to stand up for us. I don't understand why so many people want to hurt us while the media creates fear rhetoric while we are just trying to exist. We need to have this discussion. Not just about trans people but the intersectionallity of being trans and the value that POC and black people bring to our community. We deserve to have respect like any other people. I will stand for any POC and black people and be actively anti-racist because more than anything they know that your sense of community and education matters. Thank you for making this
The transphobia and homophobia be really bad lately. I'm so sorry you and you're partner went through this. You both are a cute couple. And you're handsome dude. :)
you're both gorgeous and valid in your identities but most of all you didn't deserve that insane wave of hate coming at you. hope you two are feeling alright
As an aro/ace person, this is one thing I absolutely hate about certain LGBT+ spaces. They treat the community like a special club they can gatekeep people out of if they aren't "gay enough", which means if they can't visibly tell you're queer at first glance, you have straight privilege and shouldn't be part of the community. Just this week, people were being blatantly aphobic and had Asexual treading on Twitter for day because an ace person had the gall to ask for equal rights. People claimed ace people aren't discriminated against and aren't lacking right as if the right to be properly represented and not erased by our own damn community doesn't count.
The acephobia has been wild this year, though Yasmin Benoit has been staying strong. I feel the issues aro/ace individuals have been experiencing goes hand in hand with a lot of the issues experienced by bi and trans individuals, and there needs to be more unity and acceptance in the community to combat these weird views of not being enough “this” or “that”.
bro i came out as lithromantic to a "lgbt safe chat" in a discord server and i just got "EVERYONE is like that though"... no?? u gonna tell me everyone in the world falls in love with someone but once its reciprocated it instantly goes away everytime no matter what??? 💀 people like to do that a LOT with any part of the aro/ace spec, like if u genuinely think "everyone is _" maybe thats a sign u should look into urself 😭
Trans rights are human rights!🏳️⚧️ Also, thank you for speaking up against the terfs (Transphobic people). Also, thank you for speaking up for Bi people as a Biromantic Asexual person myself! You and your partner didn't deserve all that bigoted hate! Anyways, love the video and the pants!❤
Bisexual mascs are always treated like the lowest of the low for some reason, so good on you, for not letting them talk to you like this, I would have for sure buckled lmao. Also banger Evangelion case.
I feel like the only way to safely use twitter is to never give any sort of info about yourself. No pics, no personal details, don't give anyone anything.
You don't deserve an ounce of hate. You're are literally one of the most wholesome and funny creators I know. Twitter is such garbage and I'm glad I left.
biphobia is insane on twitter, and the racism on there is even worse. i’m so glad you mentioned the fact that yt lgbt people love to act like they’re the founders and gatekeepers of our community when they literally. take. everything from us. i hate that you had to deal with this harassment, but you and your partner are no less valid and you’re both super cute !
Some of the racism that occurs in the queer community is absolutely insane, especially when considering BIPOC have been at the forefront of LGBT+ rights time and time again. And yet some people just… forget there are queer people that aren’t white? It makes no sense
I never get how some queer people end up bigots, like where do you go wrong in life? How do you go your life being discriminated against and then discriminate against others, like you should know it's not good.
It's kinda crazy people are gatekeeping for this, like anyone can be queer, people choose what labels to use for themselves, others opinions mean literally nothing.
Also Idk wtf "visibly queer" is, like there is no visibly queer, it's not an identifiable thing normally, if you put a queer person beside a straight person, it'd prolly be pretty damn hard to tell. There are some queer people who show it on their sleeves, which is fine, but that ain't everyone.
honestly fuck the haters, y'all are cute together 👍❤. Also can we talk about how problematic saying "visibly queer" is? It's often based on yt standards of queerness, & experiences w gender are different based on culture. "Visibly queer" looks different based on ethnicity & each person is an individual that doesn't necessarily fall into stereotypes. & yt queers are often sayin that their "visible queerness" is the metric for *all* queerness, as if the rest of us don't exist or some shit -_-. I can honestly see somethin like this happening to me & my partner someday. I'm a Latino pan trans guy & they're Black pan afab nb but v fem presenting sometimes, so people might see us as a "straight couple". Which is why nobody should gatekeep shit. You never know who's queer & nobody wants to be interrogated or told to "prove" their queerness. Plus closeted people are a thing, maybe they wanna be an "ally" rn & aren't ready to tell people about themselves. Or maybe they're unlabeled & just vibe in that area. It's not anyone's place to scrutinize someone else's life or play oppression olympics over who has it the worst, like how they treat ace people, like oh you don't get hate crimed or somethin so you shouldn't be here. But anyways, keep bein yourself & don't let these bitches (lol) get to your head
Thats not to mention that just like joe said you can easily hide the fact that your gay-you can change your clothing , makeup, hair etc to “””””look straight”””” poc dont get to hide away the fact their poc
After being out as bisexual you really start to see how messed up it is and how much erasure and casual biphobia happens in the queer community. It sucks when the hate is coming from what is supposed to be your own community
I find the best rout is to simply not say your bisexual as a guy. If you say it around straight people they start making inappropriate remarks and assumptions about your sex life, if you say it around queer people they either assume your just trying to get at bisexual chicks or, they start making inappropriate remarks and assumptions about your sex life. So for the preservation of my sanity i just dont mention it unless it becomes relevent
I fucking hate it when ppl disagree with someone and all of a sudden their "the most horrendous person they've ever seen in their lives" like what? Attractive people only become ugly when their personalities are ugly.
Im not even halfway through this and I can already say; I FEEL YOU Im a bisexual asian man, and i cant even count the number of times Ive been harassed for just... posting about my life Apparently no one is allowed to go 10 minutes without someone being butthurt about them having a W every now and again
i saw that black couples thread, you and your partner are so cute. people are really out here erasing bisexual/pansexual relationships with people of the opposite gender AND transhet relationships im so tired
You do make a good point of these people not showing their faces. I live in an area where these people are starting showing up at pride events, attempting to shut them down, and they’re all wearing masks.
I have dealt with very similar issues regarding my trans man boyfriend. Seeing this was very cathartic, and has made me more confident to stand for my queerness. Thank you.
As someone who’s still trying to understand they’re gender. And constantly struggles with pronoun useage and how to use it, plus autism. I gneiuely love your videos. I’ve been stressed out as of recent with my aunts view on my gender. I had come out to her and still ik disrespected and not given the same level of respect and understanding. She’s from another generation but it hurts. But your videos make me feel comfortable.
I am sorry that you and your partner went through this, Joey. This is unacceptable and I do not fuck with Twitter for that reason. It’s so unhinged, but I get why people, especially celebrities, creators/influencers, and politicians used the app😅…
This video singlehandedly completely changed my RUclips recommendations to videos analyzing conservative minds and culture. I've been watching nothing but videos about the failure of Concord for the past couple of days. How could you do this to me.
Honestly this issue of not being a visible stereotype of a minority has always been a trend I’ve noticed in minorities - and i’m talking ANY minority. As a somewhat bright half black half white biracial kid, I grew up with people telling me i’m not black and I’m not white from both sides because I didn’t - visually - fit into either race categories. One of my best friends who became deaf as a toddler was told they weren’t “truly” deaf because they have a cochlear implant. It’s so freaking stupid & I just feel like we don’t bring up the fact that discrimination and ignorance can come from both outside & inside a community.
The worst biphobia I've experienced has always come from terfs.
Wow, hateful people are hateful. Who knew?
@@Lilith_is_better_thn_the_devil 🤡🤡
@@Lilith_is_better_thn_the_devil When they are consistently misogynistic, biphobic, and ableist, I'm not going to give them a pass just because they claim to be a 'women's rights movement'
@@orionnebula1136 I mean, they're not a 'Women's rights movement'. they ain't feminists. they don't even practice intersectionality, and actively push gender essentialist narratives that pose women as weak and victims (Not very feminist of them)
I swear bruj😭🙏
The whole “free to post racism, banned for fighting racism” has big “bullies get no punishment, but their victims get detention/expulsion” energy.
Exactly! Students are wrongly punished for defending themselves when a bully attacks them. When minorities on a social media platform have a spine, the bigots act like the f**king victims. Bigots are just overgrown middle school bullies.
This
Absolutely.
Fr, and its always the mfs who post racist shit and NOT GET REPRIMANDED that are like but my free speech
That’s Tiktok, Twitter and Instagram
Radfem when you tell them true feminism means equal right for everyone including black and trans peoples: 😱
That’s not what feminism means, where’d you get that from, it’s primarily focused on women. Feminists don’t owe other groups outside of women anything and I say that as a half black male. This is a common anti feminist talking point you’re using
@@Lilith_is_better_thn_the_devilno she is not. Black and trans women exist. If feminism don’t advocate against everything that hurts women then it’s is not feminism
@@CoolCjstar so would you say BLM or any other movement focused on one particular group should have to focus on another group? Why is this rule only applied to feminism. I feel like I’m talking to a wall
@@Lilith_is_better_thn_the_devil blm mainly focuses on black people because of the racism of the police and black people. They stand up for police brutality in general against any person of color. Feminism is for all women. Go read white tears, brown scars by Ruby Ahmad
@@Lilith_is_better_thn_the_devil I’m talking to a wall because you are just unhinged and just bigot bullying trans people and just mansplaining feminism.
Terfs when someone says bitch: 🤬🤬🫵🚫‼️
Terfs calling ppl the n word: 😙🥰😜🤞♀️💃
REAL OMG
Oh wow, not everyone gets offended over the same things? Guess what, the b word is a slur targeted against women. I don’t care, as a male myself, I’m a misandrist because of misogynistic trans women, gay men, etc.
@@Lilith_is_better_thn_the_devil you literally came into this comment section to be annoying. What do you mean WE should leave YOU alone?? Get your transphobic bullshit out of here. Don’t come into our spaces to harass us!?!
@@Lilith_is_better_thn_the_devil 'if you don't like radical feminsts, leave us the hell alone.' Seems like a skill issue. You literally chose that yourself so just lay in your grave you dug and don't complain when people RIGHTFULLY hate radfems. I am a feminist and y'all radfems are a fucking joke, what an L.
@@Lilith_is_better_thn_the_devil Are you honestly saying that bitch is a slur but the n word isn't?
"we do not owe you androgyny"
LOUDER FOR THOSE IN THE BACK
shit my mom doesnt understand when I came out as nonbinary. why is she such a fucking boomer sometimes.
@@KossolaxtheForesworn Sammeee. My mum has gone “he doesn’t know what his gender is”, and it’s just like: I DO. YOU’RE JUST STUPID.
@@KossolaxtheForesworn cus she either is a boomer or raised by one lol
@@Foxtrox7616 who's mom is a boomer unless your older like 20 29 or 30 but seems like she was raised by one
Realest thing ever. I’m a trans guy but I will in fact not stop doing my mascara and lip gloss because I look good with it. “You should try to look masculine if you wanna be perceived as male” you should try to stfu
"How are you radically progressive but only radically progressive for cis women?" SHIT I HAD TO STAND UP BRUH
Why not?
@@MK_ULTRA420you're obviously not welcomed here why make your presence known?
@@MoMotaroDaisuke Sorry, can't hear you from my moral high ground, bye Felicia
@@MK_ULTRA420 bro you're so fuckin lame. Cut it off
because they're actually women and not men playing pretend bud
People being blatantly racist? Ok!
Black people saying they'll [redacted] those racists? Absolutely unacceptable!
people who fuck around need to find out
This reminds me of when I got banned from Reddit for saying "Be gay, kill Nazis" (jokingly, I might add), while people can openly advocate for the eradication of Chinese/Russian people and get upvoted to the front page. I love hypocritical terms of service so much.
This is literally every social media platform though. Sometimes on Insta I would report bigots, and they wouldn’t do anything about it. But I said ‘bitch’ in a comment section once, without the intention to insult the poster, and Insta instantly gave me a warning 💀
@@ninyaninjabrifsanovichthes45 real if i make a slightly queer post and it gets a thousand downvotes but ppl will boast about the porn they've watched and call ppl slurs and ppl be like "YES GET THIS MAN SOME REDDIT GOLD!! ERM, SIR, YOU WON THE INTERNET.." shit's fuckin wack
to be fair it's always been like dis but that don't make it ok ofc
radfem dropping the n word is the tweet of all time jesus christ
n the white hands emoji in the reply...girl be so serious right now if youre pulling out a slur for the sake of an argument you just lost
Not only that, but they fused it with "moid," a word that was created because female incels saw male incels with the most unwashed asses in the world calling women femoids/foids and thought "Damn, these guys are onto something."
Tactical n bombs are okay as long as you beg black women for forgiveness, thats how slurs work/s
@@creature6715not tactical n bombs💀💀
her name is fucking rhailee too no way
"oh i dont usually show my face im insecure" *shows 11/10 face*
ONG
bro is a baddie
fr
He's got that Miles G Morales aka The Prowler rizz
Something that I will not understand about the queer community is the way that they treat bisexual men they treat them so badly for no reason.
Exactly as a blk bisexual guy myself its ridiculous and blk bisexual trans women gave them personality and they don't know who to act and be respectful
I wouldnt word it like that
yup........and the r@c1st one.
@@brian_Austin27Honestly I feel this, why are we treated so bad in the community? We're just chilling dog. 😂😭
I would date and marry a bisexual man
Damn seeing a black love appreciation post and trying to join in as a fellow black couple only to be verbally mauled by mad weirdos would have my mental ankles snapped
For real. Twitter’s not the safest place online💯
Black queer love is so underrepresented which is GENUINELY disappointing.
by WHITE mad weirdos too like mf??
@@ameliasellers6396 I agree with you. Hopefully Black queer couples get postivliy represented more .
They got mauled because they were a straight couple calling themselves gay and being homophobic and not because they were black hope it helps!
They're really trying to make everything a slur, cause apparently cis is a slur too to some people. They dont even know what the words theyre using mean
The type of ppl who think 'cis' is a slur are the same type of people who pushed to have 'Karen' considered a slur.
If I see some people out there using cis as a slur, then it shows that it can be used by a slur and that's a bad thing. It's that simple.
And they use actual slurs and think they’re ok? Like wtf 😭
@@AmberyTear You can use a word as an insult, but you can't "use a word as a slur." It's either a slur, or it isn't.
In the case of "cis", it's literally just the latin prefix meaning "on the same side as," as opposed to "trans" meaning "on the opposite side as". Like the transatlantic accent, or Transylvania. Cis is not a slur, and neither is TERF.
TLDR; if I wanted to insult you transphobic mfs, you'd know
@@AmberyTear thats not what a slur is
As an aroace guy, I've also run into that same weird gatekeeping in the queer community where somehow the validity of your identity hinges on whether you've gotten hate crimed or not. It's so strange and invasive.
also requires for the world to keep hating us to make us valid which?? no thanks
You should l start your own community. With just blackjack, no hookers.
This is such a weird position to be at. Like you're not gay enough because you weren't mistreated enough to be with the other gays, but you're also the gay one of the straights. You don't belong anywhere, and it leaves you by yourself. I hate the gate keeping because it genuinely hurts more sometimes. When someone calls you a slur, you still have a community. When you don't belong anywhere, you're all by yourself.
It’s also really fucking weird because aroaces and other varieties of ace on the spectrum HAVE been hate crimed, so even by the bullshit metric they use we still count as “gay enough.”
Under the ace umbrella too and I hate seeing people erase the “A” in lgbtqia and say it’s for fucking ally’s? Like bro what 🗿
Why do people have such a hard time getting what "bi" means?
Because it's Twitter, a place where discourse notoriously breaks down into being as angry as possible in as few words as possible
No Nuance. Everything Needs To Be In Strict Black And White !!
Imo I think people just really love something convenient and conventional. Like, a bi man who has suckt dick AND eaten pussy has proven himself whereas someone with less experience is only bi in theory or I'm hypothetical situations, especially if they're in a relationship where on paper they're afab/amab but there's some queer or trans identity in the mix.
Then you plug in some ego and anonymity??? Oh honey you better show the feral people chronically online the proof of your sexuality or they'll never believe ya lmao it's sad but simple from my perspective, a black bi dude who doesn't feel the need to defend why it's okay for me to not be attracted to cis fems
Honestly with how prejudice works, while it’s ROOTED in ignorance, it’s not an excuse because everyone can have controversial views by accident or just be plan ignorant towards non-controversial things. it’s ultimately a choice because they chose to stay ignorant even when presented with information to correct that.
I guarantee you these people know the difference, but just don’t care. No amount of facts or statistics or definitions will change their mind when the problem lies with them in their own heads and hearts.
The cruelty was always the point, talking to talk.
That’s a question we’ll never know the answer too.
This hits so hard. My girlfriend is transfem but we live in an area where its unsafe and literally dangerous to even try transitioning in any way.
I'm non-binary, and my girlfriend is transfem. We are a T4T couple, we are queer.
But to everyone looking at us from the outside? They see an AFAB and an AMAB person; a straight couple. And its the farthest from the truth.
So sick of people trying to gatekeep queer and move the goalposts repeatedly bc someone "isn't gay enough", when being queer is all about different experiences.
Fuck Twitter that place sucks ass
RIP
Theyre so supportive of trans people until we dont fit their stereotype of what trans people should look like lmao
First of all, love your username, second: Thank you for sharing your experience. As a bisexual man who generally prefers romantically associating with gay men, I sometimes find myself judging other types of relationships for "not being gay enough" or whatever, mostly as an extension of me being a former basement dweller who though not gatekeeping media would "let the normies win" or whatever schizo silliness. Your story helps me rethink my biases, and helps me empathize and be a better person. I wish you all the happiness and bliss you can have with your relationship, and am sure your GF is a very lucky woman to have you!
I seriously thought we wouldn’t have to have the discussion of “we don’t owe people passing” but I guess others can’t even comprehend that
If it makes you feel any better: imagine that you and your partner are like spies in enemy territory, undermining their oppressive, cruel regime just by existing, AND THEY DON’T EVEN KNOW IT!
(Cold comfort when we’d all just like to live without hiding, yes - but whenever I’m having a bad day, framing it like that makes me feel a little bit better)
Actually insane how mad people get over that. Like as a hate crime victim why the fuck would anyone wish that kind of horrifying dehumanization on someone?? Why would you need to "prove how oppressed you are". Oppression is not a good thing??? Twitter logic is so insane
100% agree, really sorry you went through that :((
it's the oppression olympics, it's so annoying
they treat queerness as smthing that is only valid if you suffer 😭😭 do these ppl know that, despite us being a minority group and face discrimination for it, we can live out lives where we can be happy ???? 😭😭😭 i'm not cis, het and white, but i can still experience genuine happiness despite it all. that happiness doesn't make me any less queer or not white lmfao 🤧
none of them interact with other queer folks outside, tht much is obvious
they also forget in this case that hes black like !?? why would you wish that on someone who could get hate crimes as he said, by simply driving to another state without the need to even be queer
Transphobes will say “omg ur so ugly” and it’s the most jaw dropping, toe-curling, goddess-like, gift to humanity lookin transfem that god has got the privilege to claim as his creation
you put what i was thinking into words
So true 😂
They also say "Why don't trans lesbians date each other? ThEy MuSt Be FaKiNg It" and literally every trans discord server becomes a polycule after like 5 minutes.
Realest sentence of all time
poetry, chefs kiss
Why are they making being hate crimed a right of passage into the community?? Y'all want us to experience violence??
And then you ask them what the hate crime was and its getting called a dumb bitch on twitter
Yes, in fact I wish you misogynistic men and spineless liberal women wouldn’t be on this planet so I would hate it a little bit less. I’m a male and a misandrist as well as a TERF.
@@Lilith_is_better_thn_the_devilsee now you are just being misogynistic yourself
@@Lilith_is_better_thn_the_devil Goddamn it. I can't believe I fell for this.
FR!! im a young lesbian living in canada and the only reason im not out at work is because i dont want to share that part of myself with people i barely know, but i KNOW i would be safe if i came out, i wouldn't get fired, i wouldn't get harrassed, i wouldn't get hate crimed or anything - my family is also very accepting (hell, my brother's queer too), and even tho i spent years questionning my sexuality and being unsure of myself, i NEVER felt like i would put myself in danger by coming out.
Sometimes i think about the lesbians who fought for their rights daily and i think they'd be proud of the fact that young women like me can be who they are without the constant threat of violence.
We've come SO FAR as a community, and i understand that the struggle is a very important part of our history, but it shouldn't be the thing that defines us!
Sorry for the novel, i fully agree with you and wanted to share my thoughts
Not all losers are terfs, but all terfs are losers 💖
REAL
we don't claim terfs.
@@angrybronyfr
All rouge the bat fans have to be anti terf bc like all sonic characters are like trans
@@Nobody-hr4gt we can be gay too.
I'm a bisexual woman and the term "spicy straight" sends me into a hellish rage. Like, I straight up want to punch my wall and flip a chair or two. People, especially other LGBT people, need to stop expecting bi people to prove it. Bi people should not be expected to prove that they're really attracted to people of their gender to every asshole on the internet to be taken seriously and feel welcome in the LGBT community. If a bi person is in a relationship with someone of the opposite gender, they're still bi. If a bi person isn't in a relationship, they're still bi. If a bi person hasn't been with a person of the same gender, they're still bi. If a bi person is more attracted to people of the opposite gender, they're still bi. And the idea that bi people are lower in the hierarchy than gay people because they experience less oppression is...God, I can't put into words how gross I think that reasoning is.
Also, bitch isn't a slur. Insult =/= Slur.
Exactly, i just dont get it man. Why are we always asked to prove we're really queer?? I don't run up to a gay guy and ask him to send pics of him sucking dick!? I just accept that he's gay because he said so.
Just cause i'm in a "straight" relationship doesnt erase how i feel about women and enbies. I'm BI not gay, so no shit i also like men, i'm allowed to. If I was in a "gay" relationship i'd still like men, that's what Bisexual means
Especially the whole “pick a side” bullshit that people say, so many people assume that if a bi person is dating someone of the opposite sex all of a sudden they’re straight or if they’re dating someone of the same sex they’re gay and they finally “picked a side”?!? Like it doesn’t make any fucking sense atp, and it’s even more annoying considering that people think bisexuals can’t date those who are within the nonbinary spectrum. I’m not bisexual, I’m a black queer person and a lesbian at that but biphobia is such a huge problem within the queer community itself, wether it be internalized homophobia, transphobia, or some rando on the internet that has the balls to talk shit online but never to someone’s face.
@@LuXuri0u5. Tangentially related to what you said, a few years ago I watched this video where a lesbian woman was talking about her two trans girlfriends and a few people in the comments told her she was actually bi. So yeah, according to the flaws of biphobia and transphobia, you must date trans people to be bi.
OK spicy straight
@@JesseSchmidt-u9b I'm a spicy bi, asshole
Lol that radfem who wanted to drop the n-word and then "apologize" to her black rad fems was just like self parody.
I got an ad for an anti-trans movie (“Gender Transformation”) before this video). I hate RUclips
i got the same ad :(
IVE SEEN THAT SM
SAMEE
I've been getting "what is a woman" ads for 3 weeks and now I'm getting an ad blocker
@@airplanes_aren.t_realI’m praying on Matt Walsh’s downfall
Wow that person that called Joe a slur is so progressive for saying how they will never call their black fems that 😯.
Wow what an ally 😱
I just checked, their account got suspended lol 😂
@@galacticglamourgirl
Good lol 😂
“Dw my bestie blacks squad i would NEVER call you a slur i promise uwu🥺 your the good ones uwu uwu” is how they sounded
@@Man-wolf-’m never gonna say it or wish that on someone. But with how much “kill yourself” has become a meme response, my brain just auto fills that as my response internally anytime I see shit like that unironically.
Apart of me’s tempted to respond them with that but its cruel and just not worth it 💀
@@theradionicrevival8068 honestly people have gotten way too confortable saying shit like that.
The whole “visibly queer” thing is so strange to me. Like now that I pass as cis, do I suddenly have cis privilege?? Have I transcended my transness and now just arrived back at cis? You can take off your cat ears and maid outfit anytime you want, being queer is being queer no matter your presentation.
I’m banned off Twitter which is probably a blessing. Hope you and your partner are doing well! The Twitter radfems aren’t radical or feminist, just fascists hiding behind an anime profile picture.
Passing well offers some protection against street harassment, while still doing nothing for the horrendous state of transgender medical care. So in a sense, trans people who pass well are privileged, but only relative to ones who pass poorly.
Of course, that's not what any of those people were thinking about.
@@acutechicken5798True, but the way it’s usually used against trans people is insane. All trans people, no matter how well they ‘pass’ are equally valid in their identity. I still do face a bit of harassment in the street, although I think that’s more me seeming odd than being trans. Plus, people who know me still say shit sometimes, which I’m lucky is just talk.
i think ppl in general confuse being privileged as being “better” or “not experiencing any sort of hatred from others”. you are cis-passing but your identity is still valid and you can still face harassment. as someone who grew up tri/biracial this sort of thing just made me feel weird bc it’s similar to being “white-passing”. when ppl stop acting like having more oppression or more “valid” forms of oppression makes you better than others, then we can be more accepting of intersectionality. like jbc im white passing or cis passing or straight passing doesn’t mean i still haven’t dealt with a lot of the same shit y’all have. and the same could be said for ableism. we just need to learn that everything can be true at the same time lol it’s not a one or the other.
This is why I don't like queercoding. It creates often harmful stereotypes.
@@AtomixTiger I definitely think there’s a line between making a character who hasn’t come to terms with or open about their gender/sexuality and just ‘I want to attract a gay audience but I don’t want to lose supporters’. I find that it’s usually best to just watch shows made by LGBT+ creators because at least there’s a higher chance it’ll be the former.
This reminded me of that one TikTok where some queer kids ran up to a "straight couple" on the streets and went "ew straight people" at them. They werent straight, one was trans and got dysphoric because of that comment from some random STRANGERS
god, I swear some of the people in our own goddamn community. why would you go up to anyone like that. just fucking treat everyone with respect it's that fucking simple
Kids like that are so chronically online jfc
Okay not that I think this is an okay behavior :0 Harassing random strangers for no reason is never okay regardless of any details.
But as a trans person not getting clocked and being confused as straight would be so validating and ewphoric lol.
@@crassiewassie8354 I don't know the tiktok mentioned but if it made them dysphoric they obviously weren't being perceived in a way that aligned with their gender like you're assuming. They didn't "not get clocked" they weren't even on these kid's radar as being anything other than a cishet. If a transman was in a gay mlm relationship (for example) and someone called them a straight couple that would mean the person calling them that viewed one of them as a woman which would affect the transman in that relationship negatively. Especially when this is a way cis gay people intentionally express transphobia towards non-cis gay couples. Not at all validating in this context and I think it's helpful to think through why someone would be hurt by something (ie they might be different from you) before applying it to your own experiences and loling about it.
@@crassiewassie8354no i think they were a gay trans person and the kids misgendered them
Woo. As a non-binary masculine appearing bi person, this hit on SO MANY LEVELS.
Big same fam. I fit that identity I feel u. (I mean, I don't particularly like describing myself as masculine appearing but that is how I get read most often)
REAL ASF
@@saeedrazavi4428 Same especially since I'm black and the Mayo Masters created a society where I will always be "A big, black, scary man"
@@BlazinTre yo that sucks ass that's real. I'm pretty bulky and 6'5" so I feel u but obvi not on the same level as u bc I don't have to deal with the racialized stereotyping. Your joy is power and your joy is resistance
NOOOO I KNOW RIGHT!!!!!! i saw this whole thing go down on twitter and it was literally just "you look to masculine/feminine to be nonbinary" in a wafer thin disguise like radfems are soo annoying
My favourite genre of transphobes are the ones that tell queer people how to be queer.
i swear radfems are just closet fascist hiding behind a girlboss feminism aesthetic
this is too accurate
The F in TERF doesn't stand for feminist
Incredibly hateful people who put on a thin cloak of progressivism like an everything-proof shield.
Like spraying Axe body spray on a corpse to hide the smell.
barely even closet fash at this point they’re just openly collaborating with nazis lmao
"closet" they are the only ones who dont know
As a trans fan who's been around since near the beginning, thanks for always sticking up for the other marginalized groups in our communities
this comment took me way too long to understand
I thought you were a fan of transgender people from the start of people being transgender :D
@@nicreven hahaha sadly I was definitely a bigot when I was younger, glad I was willing to grow and accept myself
go trans peple
bro same here ive been watching him since he literally started
he's not cis
As a gay asian man this is exactly why I really value my privacy. People get really creepy one way or another about either asian or gay men so how your identities intersected in this reminded me of how mine works
God, I feel sorry for you fam. Theres alot of weirdo manga fans out there thatll get weird around you.
As a Black Queer person, I have gotten shit around my white queer friends when I told them that "I am Black before I am a Queer person because while there is no way to look queer, I cant not look Black."
So often, white queer people will side with cis white people before they side with a POC, espcially Black People. Femenist espcially, White AFAB folks will side with White men before they side with a Black woman on anything. And this has happened so often that when I bring up recipts that this happens then they wanna act like Im a Ghost.
As someone in the exact situation im praying for u fr
I want to say try looking for better freinds but honestly it took me graduating hs to do the same
stay strong
The truth will always hurt. No matter the opinion one has . Find people who can agree to disagree because like mindedness causes sheep mentality. Find people who will always be real and can empathize with others.
Trans people also face this unfortunately. If you only slightly don't pass - especially in today's climate - you're in potential danger. I am a mixed race trans person and my local community is mostly cis white queers. Which is fine, that's not an insult, but it DOES make me feel quite isolated because they don't understand some of the shit I have to go through & it makes them uncomfortable to acknowledge as much.
Please create a google doc with receipts i need it please 🙏🏿🙏🏿
@DaftnPunk I'm really sorry this is happening to you. You're white queer friends are jerks. There's not a right or wrong way to being queer, transgender, gay (etc). You just are. This unfortunately is still in issue in our community. We need to uplift our black queer siblings, our Black transgender siblings, and our Black gay siblings voices. As well as Black people's voices in general. As a white trans man ftm and gay man I still have much to learn. Just know that I accept you and you are vaild.
Twitter users really can’t handle seeing people be happy and just living their lives.
So sorry you and your partner had to deal with that- also on a lighter note welcome back!
Twitter MFS are WEEIRD
For real. TikTok is another app that is dangerous like Twitter in my opinion😭
@@JulianSteveTiktok is basically if Vine and Twitter had a baby.
@@mjangelvortextwitter and vine had a baby, but health issues led to vine’s death, leaving TikTok with an abusive parent that’s molded them into what they are now
Bro, as a trans masc dude who has been invalidated so many times in person and online, this is an incredible video. I don’t relate to a lot of it, but being educated on another side of the LGBTQIA+ community’s struggles is a blessing and I hope you and your partner are doing better. And, man, I love ur pants. Fabulous pants.
You’re valid! 🏳️⚧️
@@SodaCider641 thank you!! I got my first binder last week and I feel so good and gender!! I love ur profile pic as well!!
U suck at being a man then.
what I'll never understand is why people expect queer ppl too look a certain way, not only that its js very weird to tell someone what and what isnt their sexuality
and some users asking you to prove if you're gay is just mind-blowing
@@SyndersisI guess you have to have a certified gay card
Gives off big, "You're gay? But, You don't act gay....", vibes. Like if you don't fit the stereotype image to a T, you're lying or something.
yeah, even as an ally I used to question others on why they were policing queerness. like why would you do that? the community will and is judged no matter what so why try to fit into the boxes given by bigots.
also the gays, the lesbians and the bisexuals that allign themselves with terfs forgot that before trans people, they were the target of bigotry. same sex marriage was illegal and its still illegal in other countries.
bigots won't give you the rights if you allign yourself with them and I say this not just as an ally but as a disabled woman.
Yeah, people should stop constantly displaying it like it’s a gold metal, I agree.
"transphobic radical Twitter feminist" is the most painful collection of words I've read In a while.
Only surpassed by "transphobic radical Twitter feminist with an Uzaki chan pfp"
@@ninyaninjabrifsanovichthes45😭🖐️
@@ninyaninjabrifsanovichthes45 nah the uzaki part is based my guy
As a bi man, thanks for speaking up for people like me and others who feel excluded in the community because of that "gold star queer" nonsense. It really sucks that even in a community focused on love and acceptance, there will always be people who will bully and harass their brethren if we don't dare conform to their standards of queerness.
Also, you are drowning in drip in those pants!
Ah, the classic, bi/pan/omnisexual and/or trans and/or ace experience:
Getting hate from both queerphobes and queer people at the same time because you're queer but not visibly queer enough for the Twitter cisgays.
Can we make a lil club? Maybe we can at least have some bi/pan/trans/ace solidarity 🥲
@@abbers0737 YES PLEASE :(
Im so happy you mentioned omnisexuals❤!
Im sad beacuse you didnt mention polysexuals...
only on twitter and some insane place
Nonbinary bisexual here, and preach. not trans enough for trans people but too trans to be cis. Not gay enough for gay people but not straight enough for the straight people. Folks need to just let us live lol
If you're bi, ppl in the queer community and otherwise will fetishize you if you a women or afab, if you're a man or masc presenting they will want you to prove your bisexuality, and if your an enby or andro they will be confused or dismiss the concept of you being bi in the first place. When I saw the pic of you and your partner I thought it was really cute. I love to see love, queer love and positive black people as we don't see that often in the mainstream. We, the black community, are always being demonized, fetishized and hated on far too often. I don't understand how these ppl on twitter could trash on ppls appearances and have 0 photos and act like they are gatekeeping the word attractive that shit is ridiculous.
twitter users when not every queer person is white and cis with fluffy hair 🙀🙀
"visibly queer" is the dumbest shit i've ever heard and im so sorry that you had fuckers raggin on you for days telling you how you're not oppressed whilst proceeding to make undeniably oppressive comments. all the love to you and ur gorgeous partner, stay strong
I hate the term “visibly queer”, like obviously some people may look more like the stereotypes you think of when it comes to one’s sexuality but a lot of the time there are zero visual indicators of one’s sexuality. I’m ace/biromantic but my sexuality barely comes up because no one looks at me and goes “YUP! That’s an ace!” Because HOW WOULD YOU KNOW?! People trying to guess sexualities based on whether they dress “straight” or “gay” are fucking annoying, just let people exist.
@abbers0737 nah fr, and honestly stereotyping queer ppl as looking a certain way only hurts folks more because ppl who fit the stereotype are targeted and those who don't are excluded from their own community. we just gotta stop the whole "visibly queer" thing.
@@abbers0737 and like, what about passing trans ppl, or trans/nb people who have not/do not transition? You're really gonna look them in the face and tell them they're not queer bc they don't look it???
Honestly the whole idea of being "visibly queer" just feels like another form of heteronormativity. Like if you are gay you have to look the part, just so that you can be differentiated from straight people, and that's all kinds of gross. Queerness isn't a way you look, it's a state of being outside heteronormativity, and thus there isn't any one way to be queer or any way to look queer. Being queer just means being yourself really, or at least that's what it should mean
@@abbers0737 you shouldn’t have to look queer to be a part of the community, but there is a big difference in how you’re treated by people in and out of the community if you do not pass
Trans rights are human rights
Trans rights are based rights
@@brightsoullwhat
Yes
@@brightsoullI think just calling rights human rights is better haha, civil rights in general are pretty based 👍
I mean any rights for the LGBTQ community is a great thing
Hell yeah bisexual man talking about his life
finally content for me
historically accurate Frederik the great comment
Pride is also not for cops
What? Why? What did they do?
@@アオインク-k6vbe cops
@@アオインク-k6vstone wall
@@アオインク-k6vwhen you choose to be a cop your race and gender are cop.
@@Freyaundergrowth Ohhh they’re one of the people that thinks all cops are bad?
radfems don't be racist challenge
IMPOSSIBLE challenge
No one passed
the amount of exclusionists in my own community is disgusting. even if its not direct hostility the amount of times i find people be stunlocked by me or treat me like a spectacle is weird. like im aroace and nonbinary and its just the amount of times i hear that im not REALLY gay and that im not REALLY trans is just. not okay. if im not gay or trans what am i because the cis straight people dont accept me either? like the same people preaching yall dont experience oppression are the same people throwing slurs, being racist and being homophobic and transphobic. its just weird to me and makes me so glad i dont interact with social media anymore. its beyond exhausting constantly seeing stuff thats just actively against me existing as a person, so i keep my communities extremely filtered. i hate people and i genuinely wish they would mind their own business because you and your partner dont owe them anything. no person owes transphobes or homophobes anything.
I am currently in a bi4bi relationship with my partner - I am nonbinary, he is cis. I haven't taken hormones yet because of being in a red state so I unfortunately do not "pass" (even though I don't think I should but w/e). I made the VERY wrong mistake of being out at a supposedly "LGBTQ+ friendly" job and I caught this same heat AT WORK!!! I am sorry this happened and it really is just the shittiest thing to feel your whole ass identity be questioned by people who are strangers! People really just need to mind their own business.
Now I'm wondering. If you were cis, and your partner was the opposite gender from you, would you consider your relationship queer? /genq
bro i ain't ever talking about my identity ive been questioned so much by both queers and cishets it's. 💀 im sorry that happened to you at work people need to get their heads out of their asses
@@ConnieTheo trans people are part of the lgbT community. I doesn't matter if they're in a (SUPPOSEDLY) "straight" relationship. Whatever happened to "don't assume stranger's identities"??
@@ember9361 I think you didn't understand my comment. I said IF they were both cis and bi, so not trans. I wasn't talking about the person in the video
@@ConnieTheodepends on the person honestly I’m bi and I would say that any relationship Im in is a queer one due to this
As a panini dating a black nb I'm happy you found someone who makes you happy dog
what does panini mean in this context?
@@nicreven I think pan
@@flufflecake9232 ohhhh that did not slightly cross my mind
I thought it was some race/culture thing like twinkie or something
@@flufflecake9232that makes so much more sense than what i thought. I thought it mean some kind of "italian" or something
Ehhh panini is a mid sandwich imo. Italian is better
This is validating af. I went onto twitter first time in ages and ended up arguing with some very angry boomer gays who hate trans people and think anyone who identifies as queer is a "fetishist and pervert"
My partner and I openly identify as queer. Were both bi and gender is hard. Queer is a great word for us. But apparently we're in with the drag queens and trans people as "groomers" 🙄
Those old gay boomers remind me of the immigrants that support trump. Its hoping by proving your 'one of the good ones'the system wont hurt you so much
@@deezboyeed6764 last time it didn't end well for those people on Europe..... do they even learn history?
leave it to twitter users to turn the word bitch into a slur and then call you a racial slur over it
That legit gave me whiplash 😭
Bro not trying to sound like an idiot dude bro, but Twitter just reaches and searches for ways to feel oppressed because it makes them feel special, then they proceed to enact the same oppression on other people.
Terfs, racists, and exclus are a plague on humanity. I'm sorry that happened. You and your partner are super cute together.
Inclus and other queer extremists are the actual plague because they're misogynistic and homophobic rape enablers
im glad terfs put their purple green and white colours in their profiles so i know who to instantly block
@@MidnightEkakithis is so funny cause the commenter you replied to literally have purple green and white in their pfp 😭
@@MidnightEkakiwhich is sad in my opinion bc they are also the colours of the genderqueer flag :(
Everytime I look something up about a queer identity I didn't know about (not a microlabel, but this happens ESPECIALLY when they are) I'm always led to hateful reddit servers. Like truscums or something? Idk, but it's always very telling when I go to the main page and see them talking about how depressed and dysphoric they feel. Of course that's something I wouldn't wish on anyone, depression has ruined me, but for them to go ahead and bash another trans person for not being [blank] enough??
I don't get them. Those people make me more afraid of being visibly queer/ambiguous than most straight people. That reaction may not be the same for everyone, luckily I haven't experienced a hate crime at least directly, but...yeah. Makes me go from wondering how I'd present if I had various clothing to wondering if I am ""spicy straight"".
My biggest gripe with being 'visibly queer' is that it basically only applies to white people. It's dumb to think that all queer folk dress alike, but besides that, when I, as a Black fem get looked at, the first thing anyone sees is that I am Black. EVERYTHING else is secondary. The society we live in allows for white people to be the standard, and thus when you look at them, you can start to micro-examine and try to gleam whatever queerness you think might be apparent (which is ridiculous in itself, but I digress)
People get so defensive when I say something as simple as the fact 'obviously I couldn't hide my Blackness no matter what I do', in contrast to queerness and passing, and then here comes 'oh, it's not the oppression olympics!' Bro what? I never said it was?? Atp I think they're only saying that because they know that if we were to dive deep and start comparing our struggles, they'd have to realize that they aren't 'winning' a game that no one should want to win.
@@Lilith_is_better_thn_the_devil Quite a few problems with this. 1st, im not a Black man, dont know where you got the idea that i was avoiding identifying that way.
2. it’s entirely arbitrary to set white people as the standard ‘because it is’. Regardless of your outside-looking-in-commentary on Black culture and its relation to masculinity, every individual Black person is still unique, and yet they are not judged that way. White people are. (in the US, specifically) AND THIS IS AN ISSUE (important)
3. ‘even the women’… this is how i know for sure this is outsider looking in commentary. because trying to apply your non-black standard of femininity to Black women is ridiculous, because the standard doesn’t matter, and is- again- arbitrary. I could go and say that actually Black women are a perfect example of balanced femininity and ‘such and such race’ women are actually too fragile, but it would be fruitless to do that. As well, you’ve already set in your mind to judge Black women as a whole and compare them (as if that whole were one person) to your ‘standard’ which you’ve implied was white (women). WHICH IS A PROBLEM BTW
And you saying that while disregarding the rough history that shaped this upbringing, dismissing why there are these stereotypes about how Black women act that made you shape this narrative in your head about how our ‘culture is’…. You just shouldn’t speak on this so thoughtlessly. It’s not coming off very well.
TL;DR (the most important part here)
4. to be specific you do not know what the majority of Black people have a culture of. it’s nice of you to support people breaking away from stereotypes, but doing that while putting those ‘stereotypical’ people down doesn’t help any cause. You just sound like an asshole. I think your heart was in the right place but this rubbed me all the wrong way, because you completely missed my point. White people are not a standard. if you think thats ‘just how it is’ then change your mindset.
just checked and the other reply to my comment must be filtered from me or something, probably for being so idiotic 😭😭
@@LuizPrower what a fucking word salad. ‘white people are the standard because some Black people talk about them sometimes, also also, some Black ppl used to own slaves’ which had nothing to do with race, ‘and and I think Black ppl are scawy aww, and also cops should kill more Black ppl, but also also, hispanics better lol’
Literally said so much but didn’t make a single point, there’s no way you were expecting a response 😂😂 Go and walk your dog since you love whistling for it so much
@@Lilith_is_better_thn_the_devildear fuck at least this is better than the other reply. i can actually understand what you are saying 🙏🏿 thanks for that
@@Lilith_is_better_thn_the_devil I get it. Thanks for your insight! it still saddens me that people think like this, though
Dude, you’re so pretty. Literally sent a cosplay you did to a friend about how pretty you are. Transphobes are dumb.
I’m ace and even I can see Joey is at least conventionally attractive, the ugly allegations are for sure people with some deep deep insecurities
Either they were reaching to the highest ends, or they're racist. No in between
this. im aro and i genuinely dont understand how people can call this man ugly
I'd go more handsome but he looks good, screw people on twitter
When the world needs him most, Veridis Joe will answer the call. Welcome back! 🤗
literally the point of queerness is to accept different people, you can't call yourself queer if you shun people that don't look/act like you! thanks so much for sharing your relationship & putting up with assholes who can't even live by their own principles, it sets a good precedent for not letting voices go unheard
Leasson learned: Never post a photo of yourself in twitter, no matter how you look. Better than that, never post anything on twitter, it would be better to not even touch the app if possible. Live hapilly, it aint worth it
Fax
Where's the lie?
dont even look at screenshots of tweets tbh, nothing good has ever come from looking at the bs twitter posts
I always wonder, but ive never been on Twitter before, dont think i will either.
I legitimately wonder, why did we think Twitter was a good online space? Usually online spaces are good because they self-sort by having niche side stuff people naturally filter themselves into or someone manages the community well. Why did we think that an app designed to communicate to basically everybody about their life, perverting the idea of blogging, was ever going to end well? Because we all can curate what we see? If there is a hell on the Internet that people like to describe, it is Twitter, before and after Elon’s takeover. Elon’s takeover is just the formalization of what Twitter is about - people spewing everything, expecting everybody to take it or force them to exclude the bad people, and then consequentially spewing stuff.
I think the only good response to "why is bitch not a slur" is to ask them why nobody in the fucking world calls it the B word. Bitch is NOT a slur
anyone can be a bitch imo 💀, it’s about the behavior not they identity
'Bitch is anybody in my way it's not misogyny' Watsky
@@starsartbar i call more men bitch then weman
If you get called a bitch enough to make you think it's a slur, that really says a lot more about you than anything
I mean, these are the same types of people that unironically use the term "moid." None of the things they say have any merit lol.
this is why i left twitter fr.. the people on there r actually insane
You being out and proud about your sexuality and gender identity makes me feel better as someone who’s also a black bisexual non-binary person I really love your videos. We out here fr
July is Disability pride month. LET EVERYONE KNOW
why isn't with the lgbtq one?
@@2crisp63 What do you mean?
@@TheProxy066 why does disability need a separate pride month from the lgbtq? why not join it together and fit it somewhere on the flag. I don't think it even makes sense to have 2 pride months back to back
@@2crisp63 being gay has nothing to do with being disabled???? So obviously they wouldn't be in the same month...
@@nirvanaheights They added black and brown for people of colour randomly which has nothing to do with being gay, so they could easily add disabled people if they wanted to be more inclusive
Am gay and I'll never understand biphobia especially when it comes form gay people how about you worry about your sexuality instead if others
Yes. Tell it, brother. ✊🏾 Fellow gay New Orleans man
I find the "yOu DoNt LoOk GaY" thing really funny cause what does a gay person look like??? Like my apologies allow me to dress in all of the bad corporate pride clothes
right n like i usually see them talk about like.. high quality makeup, dyed and always stylized hair, popping-out outfits like??? its just screaming classism, stereotyping etc
Remember someone saying how pride parades are being cooped by straight people for vertue signaling because something like "I looked around and we were like the only gay people there everyone in the area where college age straight people" like you just looked and somehow knew? Like you saw a random person standing there with a rainbow pin and just looked into their soul and knew they were only an ally? Or see a group of friends and can just tell all of them in the group are straight? Or is it that your just being judgemental and assuming shit?
The whole “looking gay”/visibly queer thing is so strange to me. I am queer because I am queer. I don’t need to dress or look a certain way. I can pass as cis and still be as trans as someone who doesn’t. I don’t need to split dye my hair, get a tattoo or wear ungodly amounts of jewellery and extremely expensive demonias. Me, passing as a cis guy in my hoodie and cargo shorts is the same as my friend who wears jewellery, dresses, has a nose piercing and dyes his hair pink. People really need to get it through their skull that queer people don’t need to be seen as “other” to be authentically themselves and nobody owes them any kind of presentation. People can look like anything regardless of their gender or attraction and it doesn’t change how valid they are in their identity.
As an aroace poc, I personally never met up with this gatekeeping because my local community is overwhelming poc and accepting.
I hope everyone finds a place they are accepted.
i’m so glad you’re talking about how non-binary ppl don’t owe anyone androgyny bc i remember having gone through a lot of self doubt of my transgender identity as an AFAB person used to dress more feminine. i had a friend tell me that it was “extremely hard” for her to call me by my preferred pronouns and found it difficult to perceive me as non-binary bc i sometimes would wear fake lashes :/ i don’t rly dress as feminine anymore and it might be bc of cis ppl being transphobic as hell but i see my closet slowly growing with more masc and gender neutral clothing as a way of my gender presentation evolving (hopefully it’s bc of that lol). i’ve dealt with more flavors of transphobia as an enby person but the idea that someone trans has to look a certain way to be accepted by society is so full of shit
Honestly, I’m nb too, and I have to constantly fight my brain whenever I see a nb person that isn’t androgynous, because I’ve seen so many non-androgynous enbies get dragged on the Internet that I definitely managed to internalise that hate somehow
I’ve taken on more of a stereotypical queer look lately, partially because (in the city where I live where the risk of hate crimes is low so that isn’t part of the equation) I find it reduces the emotional labour I have to do to get people to remember my pronouns- BUT I was JUST as nonbinary back then when I had an auburn bob and used my birth name as I am now with a blue undercut using an abstract noun as a name, and it’s disgusting for these transphobes to gatekeep queerness behind presentation like that
Being attacked by people in (or supposed allies of) your group hits deep in the worst way possible. Seeing people tearing into their own like this is very fucking depressing (plus frustrating and brain cell killing). I'm sorry that you and your SO went through that, you two deserve so much better and I hope you get it.
7:17 "I don't like to be edged. I like to finish" - Joey "Homiesexual" Veridis
pants pants pants pants
Thank you for making this. I'm trans and I live in the US. Mt car has been keyed. I've had my things stolen, I've been yelled at by transphobes and publicly shamed for just existing. Thank you for using your platform to stand up for us. I don't understand why so many people want to hurt us while the media creates fear rhetoric while we are just trying to exist. We need to have this discussion. Not just about trans people but the intersectionallity of being trans and the value that POC and black people bring to our community. We deserve to have respect like any other people. I will stand for any POC and black people and be actively anti-racist because more than anything they know that your sense of community and education matters. Thank you for making this
The transphobia and homophobia be really bad lately. I'm so sorry you and you're partner went through this. You both are a cute couple. And you're handsome dude. :)
I’m a closeted transfem and openly bi. At this point I just say I’m gay so I don’t get questioned if I’m “gay ENOUGH”
you're both gorgeous and valid in your identities but most of all you didn't deserve that insane wave of hate coming at you. hope you two are feeling alright
You're all violent homophobes and spicy straights
As an aro/ace person, this is one thing I absolutely hate about certain LGBT+ spaces. They treat the community like a special club they can gatekeep people out of if they aren't "gay enough", which means if they can't visibly tell you're queer at first glance, you have straight privilege and shouldn't be part of the community.
Just this week, people were being blatantly aphobic and had Asexual treading on Twitter for day because an ace person had the gall to ask for equal rights. People claimed ace people aren't discriminated against and aren't lacking right as if the right to be properly represented and not erased by our own damn community doesn't count.
The acephobia has been wild this year, though Yasmin Benoit has been staying strong. I feel the issues aro/ace individuals have been experiencing goes hand in hand with a lot of the issues experienced by bi and trans individuals, and there needs to be more unity and acceptance in the community to combat these weird views of not being enough “this” or “that”.
bro i came out as lithromantic to a "lgbt safe chat" in a discord server and i just got "EVERYONE is like that though"... no?? u gonna tell me everyone in the world falls in love with someone but once its reciprocated it instantly goes away everytime no matter what??? 💀
people like to do that a LOT with any part of the aro/ace spec, like if u genuinely think "everyone is _" maybe thats a sign u should look into urself 😭
@@lemonmeati’m demi and people say that too “everyone is like that “ makes me so mad
"YOU AREN'T DISCRIMINATED AGAINST!!"
*proceeds to discriminate against them*
its actually the most rage inducing thing as an aroace person. doesnt help that im nonbinary either, the exclusion is actually insane
“I’m a hottie you’re a not-ie” lol truest thing I’ve heard all day
Terfs don’t be racist challenge (impossible!!!)
Trans rights are human rights!🏳️⚧️
Also, thank you for speaking up against the terfs (Transphobic people). Also, thank you for speaking up for Bi people as a Biromantic Asexual person myself! You and your partner didn't deserve all that bigoted hate! Anyways, love the video and the pants!❤
As a trans person i have never actually been hate crimed or been picked on for the reason of being trans, and i live in a rurual area of texas
Bisexual mascs are always treated like the lowest of the low for some reason, so good on you, for not letting them talk to you like this, I would have for sure buckled lmao.
Also banger Evangelion case.
Verilybitchie has a great diptych of videos about biphobia, one about why people hate bi women and one about why people hate bi men
I will always be proud of not downloading Twitter and I plan on staying that way
Same
I used it for a day just to see what it was all about and... yikes.
I feel like the only way to safely use twitter is to never give any sort of info about yourself. No pics, no personal details, don't give anyone anything.
You don't deserve an ounce of hate. You're are literally one of the most wholesome and funny creators I know. Twitter is such garbage and I'm glad I left.
biphobia is insane on twitter, and the racism on there is even worse. i’m so glad you mentioned the fact that yt lgbt people love to act like they’re the founders and gatekeepers of our community when they literally. take. everything from us. i hate that you had to deal with this harassment, but you and your partner are no less valid and you’re both super cute !
Some of the racism that occurs in the queer community is absolutely insane, especially when considering BIPOC have been at the forefront of LGBT+ rights time and time again. And yet some people just… forget there are queer people that aren’t white? It makes no sense
True racism is worse based
I never get how some queer people end up bigots, like where do you go wrong in life? How do you go your life being discriminated against and then discriminate against others, like you should know it's not good.
Especially those fucks who say "LGB Drop the T" shut the fuck up dear lord, and fuck TERFs, especially JK Rowling.
It's kinda crazy people are gatekeeping for this, like anyone can be queer, people choose what labels to use for themselves, others opinions mean literally nothing.
Also Idk wtf "visibly queer" is, like there is no visibly queer, it's not an identifiable thing normally, if you put a queer person beside a straight person, it'd prolly be pretty damn hard to tell. There are some queer people who show it on their sleeves, which is fine, but that ain't everyone.
they trying to be the good oen on homophobes sides but we know they wouldn't be treated well like those people on Europe....
honestly fuck the haters, y'all are cute together 👍❤. Also can we talk about how problematic saying "visibly queer" is? It's often based on yt standards of queerness, & experiences w gender are different based on culture. "Visibly queer" looks different based on ethnicity & each person is an individual that doesn't necessarily fall into stereotypes. & yt queers are often sayin that their "visible queerness" is the metric for *all* queerness, as if the rest of us don't exist or some shit -_-. I can honestly see somethin like this happening to me & my partner someday. I'm a Latino pan trans guy & they're Black pan afab nb but v fem presenting sometimes, so people might see us as a "straight couple". Which is why nobody should gatekeep shit. You never know who's queer & nobody wants to be interrogated or told to "prove" their queerness. Plus closeted people are a thing, maybe they wanna be an "ally" rn & aren't ready to tell people about themselves. Or maybe they're unlabeled & just vibe in that area. It's not anyone's place to scrutinize someone else's life or play oppression olympics over who has it the worst, like how they treat ace people, like oh you don't get hate crimed or somethin so you shouldn't be here. But anyways, keep bein yourself & don't let these bitches (lol) get to your head
Thats not to mention that just like joe said you can easily hide the fact that your gay-you can change your clothing , makeup, hair etc to “””””look straight”””” poc dont get to hide away the fact their poc
After being out as bisexual you really start to see how messed up it is and how much erasure and casual biphobia happens in the queer community. It sucks when the hate is coming from what is supposed to be your own community
I find the best rout is to simply not say your bisexual as a guy. If you say it around straight people they start making inappropriate remarks and assumptions about your sex life, if you say it around queer people they either assume your just trying to get at bisexual chicks or, they start making inappropriate remarks and assumptions about your sex life.
So for the preservation of my sanity i just dont mention it unless it becomes relevent
I fucking hate it when ppl disagree with someone and all of a sudden their "the most horrendous person they've ever seen in their lives" like what? Attractive people only become ugly when their personalities are ugly.
Im not even halfway through this and I can already say; I FEEL YOU
Im a bisexual asian man, and i cant even count the number of times Ive been harassed for just... posting about my life
Apparently no one is allowed to go 10 minutes without someone being butthurt about them having a W every now and again
saw that tweet but wasn’t aware it was you, twitter is a hellscape
Makes me glad I was banned
i saw that black couples thread, you and your partner are so cute. people are really out here erasing bisexual/pansexual relationships with people of the opposite gender AND transhet relationships im so tired
Yo what’s crazy about Twitter is they can call you every racial slur possible but if I say shut the fuck up I get suspended??? 🤨
You do make a good point of these people not showing their faces. I live in an area where these people are starting showing up at pride events, attempting to shut them down, and they’re all wearing masks.
I have dealt with very similar issues regarding my trans man boyfriend. Seeing this was very cathartic, and has made me more confident to stand for my queerness. Thank you.
As someone who’s still trying to understand they’re gender. And constantly struggles with pronoun useage and how to use it, plus autism. I gneiuely love your videos. I’ve been stressed out as of recent with my aunts view on my gender. I had come out to her and still ik disrespected and not given the same level of respect and understanding. She’s from another generation but it hurts. But your videos make me feel comfortable.
I am sorry that you and your partner went through this, Joey. This is unacceptable and I do not fuck with Twitter for that reason. It’s so unhinged, but I get why people, especially celebrities, creators/influencers, and politicians used the app😅…
When people try to dismiss biphobia because you're relationship is "straight presenting" like what if I hit you with my car? Ps you are a hottie👍
"Im straight presenting you to the ER"
When Twitter goes down where are you gonna get topics for your videos?
truth social
infinite content farm ngl
This is the exact kind of crap that makes me start debating to myself that maybe Twitter IS better off dead.
thank you for saying that about bitch it’s been making me mad like i don’t like being called it it’s offensive but it’s in NO WAY a slur
Rhailee Briggs makes me feel mentally sane 💀, I’m so sorry y’all had to go through that people on Twitter are unreal
damn, can't even be bisexual eat hot chip and lie
lmao!!!
Can't even twerk and be born after 1993 😢
This video singlehandedly completely changed my RUclips recommendations to videos analyzing conservative minds and culture. I've been watching nothing but videos about the failure of Concord for the past couple of days. How could you do this to me.
Honestly this issue of not being a visible stereotype of a minority has always been a trend I’ve noticed in minorities - and i’m talking ANY minority. As a somewhat bright half black half white biracial kid, I grew up with people telling me i’m not black and I’m not white from both sides because I didn’t - visually - fit into either race categories. One of my best friends who became deaf as a toddler was told they weren’t “truly” deaf because they have a cochlear implant. It’s so freaking stupid & I just feel like we don’t bring up the fact that discrimination and ignorance can come from both outside & inside a community.