Thank you all for supporting me and watching my videos, this channel gives me a purpose and I genuinely love making content ❤ For anyone wondering, we are on break
Hey man. It really sucks that this has happened, but we're here for you. We're all your biggest fans, you're supported 100% all the way till the end mate.
Hi leon, I'm sorry to hear about your BF situation. You said its long distance relationship, so I presume outside the UK unless I'm wrong. Do you have the means to go and visit him ?
People say "He shares too much." But i actually find comfort in this channel and i feel its bc of how "open" he is with his suscribers. I watch every video bc i feel less alone, hearing u talk about yk matters like this, as a teenager myself helps me feel like im not the only one yk?
Yeah, that's what my videos aim to achieve, knowing that I'm not alone makes me feel happy as well, and I share a lot so people can learn from my mistakes and hopefully take something away from it and evolve
The love at 16 is the most intense love of all. It hurts but we all go through this. You will find the perfect person for you. It takes time to come to know yourself and relationships. Sharing your feeling is the best way to get through stuff. You are doing good and you will get through it. You have purpose, just sharing your experiences are helping others. Thanks for that.
Don't let anyone tell you that you are too young to love someone sweetheart. I had my first boyfriend at 14. We were together for 4 years until him and his family relocated for work, and I lost him. He was my first love, and it broke my heart. I still think of him often and those are some of my fondest memories. Thanh you for sharing and good luck.
You asked whether you could be in love at sixteen. The answer is YES! Your love for him is evident - the pain in your voice made me almost cry. Hang in there, and take life one day at a time. This subscriber is rooting for you.
Communication is key. Don't suppress your feelings but be open. And continue to give each other respect. And from there, you'll know that you did your best. Take care ❤
I hate to relate to you. I'm also 16. I'm gay and it's so confusing, long distance really puts the relationship up to a challange. I hope things get eventually better but I'm very thankful that you made this video. I've just found your channel and I feel very seen watching your video. Your feelings are so valid. You seem like a lovely person, I think we could have really deep conversations, watching your videos is just like watching my friends pouring their heart out to me but I don't have any queer friends so (I'm tearing up as I write this) it's great to see someone struggling with the same problems that I have. Thanks for being vulnerable, I appriciate it. Have a wonderful day! :)
Saying that a 16 year old can't fall in love, just think of Romeo and Juliet. You actually fall in deeper love when you are young, because you don't have the experience to put on the brakes. Most older 20th somethings, are quite cautious about getting hurt... again.
Remember you have your real close friends and family who stands by you. You're not alone why don't you talk to your mom she'll give you the best solution. An idea why don't you call him and have a friends chat and try give him support he's possibly not getting anywhere else.
Loving someone who has trouble loving themselves and as such cannot be fully receptive to love is a really painful experience. I'm in the middle of something similar myself. Stay strong and I wish you the best of luck. You're a kind soul and deserve to be happy.
Congrats on 7k man that's awesome.. Be strong and hold on. We love and r praying 4 u. Don't give up on god he never gives u to much than u can handle. Love ya bro!
You are totally normal, and this is normal. 'Calm seas do not make good sailors.' I have my last cancer treatment tomorrow. I'm excited. Hurrah! And you will smile again soon. Obviously :-) Hang in there... You have understanding friends, even at a distance. Take heart. You have a big one!
Ultimately, it takes two to tango, and I hope you both can find a solution that works for everyone. If they don't want to continue the relationship, try to be grateful for the time you shared and move on. Personally, I wouldn't want to be "downgraded" to a friend. The past relationship would always be there, casting a shadow over the friendship - at least that's what I learned from my own experience. Remember, self-love is crucial. Don't sacrifice your own happiness for someone else. Your needs are just as valid and important. Wishing you all the best! You matter, don't forget that.
I noticed your eyes. They look like 2 different colors. I just love that. You keep doing what you're doing. Let it all out. Don't hold anything in. We are all here for you.
first of all a 16 year old can experience love, so trust your instincts. your concept or relationship to love may evolve with experience and age. one thing ive learned is that you need to respect your partner's boundaries. also PLEASE look up the notion of attachment styles - every human falls into 1 of 4 attachment styles - and that will reveal a lot about yourself, your partner and your dynamic together. sounds like he could be avoidant - who are very protective of their independence. you seem like your attachment style may be secure or anxious or somewhere in between. but what do I know. best to see for yourself. hang in there, keep loving yourself.
My advice is to be honest, open, and compassionate. Let him know that you don't agree, that's its not what you want, but you understand that is what he needs. You can't change his feelings, but you can acknowledge your own and accept that its not wrong to feel the way you do. Be kind to him and to yourself. There is no life where everything is good and exactly the way some one wants it. We're all in the same situation, which is why compassion is so important.
Life is a series of tests. When you set someone free time, tell a lot. If they come back, it's usually for a lifetime. If they stay gone, then it's for the best .
Leon your feelings are legit and you may feel this heartache for the rest of your life. I still recall my first love and the pain I felt when it wasn't to be. This is life! Freaking out is normal too, especially when stuff adds up. Life is weird that way bad shit often comes in threes. At 16 your brain is sometimes firing like a box of fireworks thrown onto a fire. Add all the dopamine rushes and over stimulation from youtube - it has it's own addictions - and you're bound to be overwhelmed. Chillax. What you are feeling is normal. Go run, ride, scream at the moon like a werewolf. And remember, the gravity of this moment will recede in time, to the point you might just look at it as a good life lesson.
Oooohhhh darling🥺. I almost cried, because this is sooo recognizable to me. Remember, even though your only 16 and alottttttt can and will still happen… It’s better to have loved once than to have never loved at all❤️❤️❤️.
You know exactly what love is, hun. I am so sorry to hear that you're going through this. I know it's hard but you both are valid in expressing your feelings. Hang in there! ♥
I love how vulnerable you're being on here. It takes a kind soul and a genuine heart to be so open. You seem like a really amazing person. ❤❤♥️ I subscribed yesterday after your touching story. I fear I'll never end up regretting it.
You can love someone so much, but you can never love people as much as you can miss them. I know today it hurts more than anything and it's okay to let it all out. It gets better.
So sorry for the pain you are experiencing bro, you are the only one that will work out what to do. Your channel is going to be really successful as their is nothing fake about you. Your pure and thats what people love. Stay strong, keep being raw. Wish you every possible success with everything you do. Good luck. 🙏 ❤
Long distance relationships are hard to maintain. Getting this off your chest is the best thing . Hopefully youre NOT TOO far apart. Ive been in a similar situations. The best thing you can do is to stay in touch with each other snd and keep communicating. Youll get through this. AND dont give up on GOD. I hope the best for you two .
If you allow yourself to stay on as their friend or having your relationship in a pause (in limbo) you will be in limbo aswell. As you are still in love with them you will yourself unaccessible to receive the love you want and deserve from someone else. Breaking up hurts. Healing from it takes time. But you do, eventually. Staying on as "something" will just make it hurt for longer. Like poking on an infected wound. And I promise you, when you have let them go and allowed yourself to heal, you will be ready for a new love. A love that matches you when and where you are at that time. Don't give up! Be kind and loving, kind and understanding towards yourself. If you love yourself you can receive love also. As within so without. Massive hug from Stockholm, Sweden! 🤗 Sixteen is a vulnerable and emotionally tumultous time in a persons life. But it gets easier. Trust me. I was sixteen myself when you were born (I'm 32 now) so I have had all of your lifetime so far to see that that statement actually is true. Something I didn't believe when I was your age. Life gets easier when you have lived it for a while. So stay in the game 🐒😊👍
I always struggle to understand that other people also have their minds and somehow think. It's caused because of my feeling that I have a totally different behavior than they have, especially with my non-talking about what I have on my mind and more talk about just my experiences. I found just a few people who I feel that have something similar, and yesterday I found you, who I also feel are a person like it. When I watched your videos I always had thoughts that I weirdly understand what you mean, becasue of my previous thoughts etc. To the point, I want to tell you that I really - weirdly - (feel like I) understand what you feel. Both of you have your own feelings and want to go through it differently, and I think you know it. On your place, I would try to clear my mind out of the break-up thoughts and let my partner love theirselves first. In this time I would try to understand all the reasons why they could feel this way and maybe try to be a part of their self-understanding. That's just my way, because I overthink things a lot in a way of thinking about every single possibility of something happening and people's thoughts, but in this case I think it would finally get a use? Just a guess tho. I think there might be a lot more people who feel about you in a similar way, and your partner might also be one of them. He probably also tries to understand your approach to all that. We're here with you :33 I put my hopes into your relationship. Try to give it some time. Also congrats of 7000 subs. Thats huge ^^ Edit: I wrote too much thoughts at once so I probably wrote it too complicated even for myself xd Edit 2: I forgot to tell that it's stupid that people say you can't fall in love in the young age. It's more about that you look for what you like and always change. I'm also before 18 but that's just my perspective. Love and a need to search for happiness are two different things. Anyway you can still love the person you don't think is your ideal. It's all your decisions
I tell people of all ages the same thing all the time: Relationships are hard. I think you realize that distance makes that even more difficult. Many times it can be good to talk out those issues - what seems like a no win possible situation is not always so. Hang in there - you have a lot of time still at your age. Give each other the space to grow as human being - tough as that can be
16 year old love is as real as any, and it hurts. Romeo was only 16 or so, and Juliet even younger, in the most famous love story ever. Am really feeling for you, Leon.
@@miguelcamacho105 No one is comparing themselves to Romeo and Juliet’s characters, only their youth in order to validate to Leon that young love is real. And a slight hitch in their relationship? Are you serious? Romeo believes that Juliet is dead !!!
Awwwww, I am sorry. I was dumped in a long distance relationship last year and then I saw photos when I contacted him months later to tell him my cat died. Yea, the photos were of him and his new bf whom he met and fell in love with shortly after dumping me. It was a bad day. You didn't do anything wrong. I am sorry. You will be okay and feel better. Be kind to yourself.
I'm so happy you acually ended up posting this video no matter how hurtful it must have been. Because at least you can show other people that they are not alone and possibly also find people who will support you in this situation as well. I mean I would say it's definitely horrible how only one of you is committed, but I think what they said was genuine and maybe giving it some time could work. Since maybe they will learn to love themselves first and get over their fears. I really hope it works out for you! Love your content 😋
Don’t worry he doesn’t truly love you or he would agree with you I love you so much to and you are extremely special and you deserve better then Someone who dose t want to be with you I know you love eatchother but time to move on just remember we love you to
Hello. I’m gay and catholic and go to church every Sunday. The 2 are definitely not contradictory, and it’s not because people don’t understand or because men edict stupid rules that your faith should suffer from it :) you’re amazing, just be yourself :). P.S.: feelings are feelings, love is love :) love is selfless gift of self, it’s a choice, it’s what you build with someone. It is built on feelings true but it is not feelings nor emotions. It’s what you decide to build :)
It’s hard when people are indecisive about a relationship, but I’ve always found that it’s better to back off in that case. Just assume for now that he is not available and be open to other opportunities. You can’t depend on someone who doesn’t know what they want: not that he’s a bad guy, buy it’s not fair to you. Perhaps he will be ready one day, and then you can start over, if you are still free. You can’t make someone ready and willing, they have to get there on their own.
I feel your pain Leon. They say all good things come to those that wait but that probably won’t ease your hurt. You clearly love this person (a 16 year olds love is every bit as real and valid as a 26 year olds) so any relationship you have together for now is infinitely better than none at all. As always, talk things through with them (not via text or IM) and be as honest as you can be about your feelings. I wish you all the luck and happiness in the world.
I’m not the best at this, I’m younger than you by a few months and I haven’t even been in a relationship yet, but I have experienced my fair share of times I felt lonely and basically broken… usually a friend would help me, or I would listen to music, specifically Tom Petty, something cheerful basically
That is big from somebody so young. I am alone as well, but older, in my sixties.. thing is communication is key to a relationship, to know the person and have a good time, but sometimes when people suffer for love , another part of you wake up and look to turn the negatives into positives. It's all in our minds. I wish you love , but in the meantime, enjoy, no matter what.
I know how u feel ,same thing happened with me,all was good with my BF then he said he needed time to think about what he wanted ,and he also said he found it hard to commit to a relationship, in the end we broke up, It might be a good idea to go somewhere quite and tell God everything, his the one person you can tell everything to,its ok to struggle with your religion,just know God will never leave u,and things have a way of sorting themselves out, I will pray for u,it will get better,just know u are not alone🙏
I feel your pain, you are going to be fine just think positive, I did go through something very similar and it takes time to get back on track, if is meant to be you will be together, just don't waste your time go out and enjoy life.
We all appreciate your absolute candor and putting your feelings out there. I gather this person is in the USA. I am glad you have this channel that gives you people to talk to about what is going on in your life.
Some people marry their "first" love , without experimenting (for lack of a better word) and others don't. Both are subjectively justified. Many if not most young individuals, especially with gay guys that just begin testing the waters go through an exploring phase. You seem different (marry their first love). It's difficult but at least now you know what to expect if you continue the relationship. Previously I commented that I was glad that your courage to let your 'crush' & friend know how you feel, worked out. I assumed a lot but feel that you would make better long distance friends... and friends don't #, because it ruins friendships. Like all injuries, wounds heal. Give yourself time and be brave with someone else later when you meet.
Day trips, visit each other, Long distance relationships are hard, Relationships are hard even when you live in the same town. Skype, stay in touch with him regularly. Long distance relationships can work.
Do not dwell on yesterday, for it has passed. Do not fear the future, it has yet to arrive. Live for the now, for that is where we all live. I wish you the best.
I feel for you. Long distance relationships are hard and I understand why they want to take a break. You really should meet in person to find out if you have chemistry before making a commitment. Besides, time heals heartbreak and you are a beautiful soul and a handsome man, so get back out there and find someone closer to home. Who knows, maybe it will end up working out with you and your long distance love in the future.
Love at 16 is real! It is just as strong, powerful and as real as it is at any age, possibly more! You are so kind and respectful to all. You deserve all your success in this space. It is heartbreaking to hear you share this event but I am so glad you feel this is a place you can get some support. You will grow from this....peace in your heart!
Shame to hear what's going on in your private life Leon and thank goodness you have this outlet to talk personally. Things seem hard right now but keep being oositive and talk to us here Leon. Take care. 🤗
1:12 seen many times before. He has eyes on someone else or a relationship forming elsewhere thats closer to him. It’s usually how ld relationships end. Best make it easier and break up rather than on a break, because that break is never gonna end. He will move on and u will be the one suffering in the end. Postpone is another way of saying i want something/ someone else without actually saying it.
I believe everything is gonna be okay in the end, but sometimes life feels unfair, but in most cases I find later that the things I was mad didnt work out were compensated by something as good or even better. It just can take several years to gain the retrospective. So stay strong!
Leon, you are lovely, thoughtful caring young guy. Love can hurt like hell. Hang on in there. You have lots of us who love you as a person and want to support you.
After a good night's sleep you'll feel much more refreshed, mentally, and if you start from there to focus the whole day on the positive aspects of life, you'll realize that you are more powerful than the emotions that drag you down. You might even realize that you deserve better and do not rely on uncertainties. Finding joy in solitude is mastering life. Of course that doesn't mean we must remain ignorant, but you might discover how much good you can influence around you. We have all been there, trust me, we have all suffered many many times losses, break ups and disappointments but that's what shapes our character.
I am so sorry you are experiencing this, Leon. I really don't know what to say, but damn-it, please know there's a ton of people here who admire you, love you, support you, and derive value from your videos. If I were still a teen and lived in your region, there are few other people I would choose to have as a buddy, rather than you. {{hugs}}
Great job to open up about this. Shows both courage and vulnerability. Heartbreak happens within and out of relationships. Physical distance in a relationship creates it's own issues. It gives both partners space to feel and express things that they would possibly subdue if you were face to face. On the other hand, physical closeness creates an electrical/emotional bond that can not be duplicated. You may get a great feeling when your partner calls and you see their name on the phone. Than doesn't even compare to seeing them walking up to you and your energies fold into each other. Even if your a shy type and just smile and bump shoulders, the exchange is as good as if you hugged. ALWAYS REMEMBER it is not the end of the world and this is only a minor bump to get over. Stay cool Leon. You're doing great!
First off, you've done nothing wrong. Through the videos I've seen of you, you seem like such a genuinely caring, loving, and kind person. Also, I personally do not believe you should feel shitty uploading about this. We are here for YOU. But anyways, I'm so sorry to hear this is happening to you. I hope both you and your other person are able to take care of yourselves in this moment. (PS, I also overthink and overstress every single action of mine. Literally just started my new job earlier this week and I'm already off training and having to work overnight alone for a few days so AHHGHGH.)
I’m so sincerely sorry to hear you’re going through so much difficulty at the moment. Trust me, I’ve had so much go wrong for me throughout my life too, so I know how it feels (especially when you’re a teen). I don’t really have any experience with relationships, sadly. But, for the mental health side of things, I will say that, no matter how hard it feels, try not to lose hope that things will get better. Things have such a remarkable way of turning around within the space of a day. I’ve been at absolute rock bottom before now and nearly ended things. But, I’m glad I didn’t because I’ve not only had some great experiences myself but I’ve been able to make a difference in other people’s lives too. As you yourself said, you’ve got this channel and you’re making a difference in other people’s lives. Take comfort and reassurance from that and from reaching so many subscribers. I mean it when I say I think you’re a really good guy who is probably going to do well in life. Whether your current relationship gets fixed or you find someone else, they’ll be very lucky to know you and have you in their lives. I sincerely wish you the best of luck with everything in your life. You’ve got my support anytime.🤝🙂
I’m so sorry that happened to you. I hope your partner learns to love themself. To be able to capture your love and attention? They deserve it. Based on your messages, they seem really remorseful for their emotions and feelings. I’m sure they love you just as much as you love them. Speaking of which, it’s incredible to just know that you’re truly in love at such an age. I have a feeling that they’re just as in love as you are. They probably just don’t know how to handle their feelings and emotions. They might just feel an emotion that’s overwhelming and assume that it’s… wrong or off. I’m sure once everything calms down for the both of you, your relationship will be stable again. I wish a lifetime of happiness for you both. Sending love and support from Indiana!
You are a very wise person but realise this, relationships are extremely emotionally intense when you’re a young man. Nobody can take these intense emotions away, it is normal. I think feeling isolated with nobody to talk to exacerbates these feelings. This won’t be the first or last time you will experience that love often hurts. Find someone you can talk to it often helps sharing problems. And finally keep communication open with them and support each other moving forward whatever they want at this time.
I hope today is a better day. Life and love will never be easy. Things happen for reasons we may not understand at the time. I do hope things get brighter for you. Congrats on 7K, ive been watching your vids but havent been subbed, but i am now. And, as you can see from the comments, you do have lots of people you can talk to so dont ever feel alone.
Sometimes the hardest thing to do is to let the one you love go. Long distance relationships can work, but special circumstances must be in place. You have to know for sure as well as the other person. At this stage in your life, you are still searching in yourself as well as finding what you want. Another key ingredient is patience and accepting the other person for who they are and that person for you. You may feel that this person is special, but if that other person does not truly feel that way, then this person may not be the one for you. You will come to terms with this situation and keep moving forward. Life has its ups and downs, but I believe in you and you can succeed. (I know it can work as I have been in a long distance relationship and it is still going strong. Like I said, very special circumstances.) Do not give up and be patient which is a very hard thing to do, but you can do it.
My goodness.. I feel this so much. Im typing this with teary eyes I just found out about your channel and its literally so relatable. I hope you're doing okay, but holy me are you my carbon copy? I dont have anything helpful to say.. The longer I watch the harder it is to think 😭 Just don't lose hope 🤍
Things will get better for you soon Leon, don't give up. I know how you feel, I'm currently in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend. He's in India and I'm in the US. It's really hard and takes a lot of work, we've had talks similar to what you had with your boyfriend. We actually broke up for months because the timing was wrong but we still loved each other dearly. We stayed really close friends and finally got back together in July. Anyway, i hope you and this person you love work things out. Sending you love, from a fellow teenager with anxiety who overthinks everything 😭
What you described, is literally almost exactly what I went thru with my ex except we weren't long distance. She had to "work on herself" and couldn't see herself being in a relationship, period. We wanted to "postpone" it like you said and just remain close friends. I had to try and convince myself why I thought that it would be better as just friends even tho I didn't want that at all. Plus we were each other's first at everything so that gave it another level of sadness (or a closer bond, depending on how you see it)...eventually some stuff came up between us and I was able to realize that her breaking up with me was actually a blessing in disguise because she turned out to be slightly crazy. I hope that doesn't happen to you but that's how mine ended. I'm in a much better place now than when I was in that relationship, I can tell you that. Also after finishing the video, the commitment issues, the "not loving themself" issue, and the mental health issues are WORD FOR WORD what I got told when my ex broke up with me. So I can tell you, sadly, I know how it feels.
♥️ I think you are right about a lot of things. Remember that love is founded on respect. As you say, though, this starts with the lover. So, you already have adorable under the belt. I would ask Venus for advice. Don't let the chaos drive you to distraction. Remember that your fans see your worth. God, too ...
taking a break can be tough I ended up taking a break from my long distance relationship due to similar issues with Jason being in NY it was tough but we remained talking friends and when he got his home life in order (mental health issues as well) he finally got the courage to take a drive down to meet me, wish they had a caring emjoi instead of just like because I truely was in your same situation but older than you so its tough but you both weil get thru it
I understand you're unhappy but remember you will always hit brick walls in your life but you will find a solution to get through the wall. Maybe try have some time alone with your favourite song and think about why you love him and what youd be feeling if you didn't know him. How would you feel and who is the best person in your life who you can talk to and discuss what your feelings are and how you actually feel about this. You have a great comfort group and they'll help you with ways to cope.
Hi Leon! Firstly, take a deep breath and pause for a moment! Love can smack you in the face, so to speak, at any age! Of course, you can be in love at 16 - the problem is, no one can really define what love really is or is not! You can only really go on what and how you as an individual think and feel. Long distance relationships can and do work, as you say, if you put the work in - that's the same with any relationship, even if the person is in the same location as you! Follow your head and heart in what's best for you and the other person, and try to find a solution through compromise - the key to all things in life is communication! Don't give ultimatums but offer suggestions. TLC = Talk; Listen; Confirm. And, no matter how things turn out, you'll get through it and will be stronger for it! In regards to college, contact them by phone or email and let them know your concerns and anxiety, especially as the college term has started already and don't wish to fall too far behind that you'll need to do a lot of catch up! And congrats 🎉on your increase in subscribers! Until next time, my YT friend, take care and all the best!
I agree with you that its a lose lose. As well as you being in love at 16. I was in love when I was a bit younger of 13. When you do get around responding back to your BF just tell them that you are sorry for taking long to respond and you just needed time to think. Its good that you are reaching out to talk about this stuff then keeping it all to yourself. What would work better even if its harder is talk to your closest friend(s) you can trust. As they can acually be there just to lission.
You are on the right track here for sure. You can't love somebody until you have love for yourself. Years of experience have taught me that and more importantly, It took me a long time to figure out that I can't change other people. They are either on your wave length or they aren't. Do you, find something you are passionate about and focus on that, the rest will fall in to place... Sorry to hear that college hasn't called, I know that's what you had in mind, but explore other opportunities as well, make a plan B, C and then D and keep pressing... Things WILL get better.
The great thing is your ability to connect to someone and fall in love. Im glad you focus on your faith to get through. That really is the answer. Yeah it hurts when it doesn’t work out. I don’t think It’s about you doing something wrong, it’s just either the wrong time or wrong person. There is someone out there looking for you but they just don’t know it yet.
Only the person who is feeling it can say if it is love or not. Just be careful. It is always possible to love and not be loved. Hoping it all works out.
Leon my heart goes out to you. Relationships can and do suck. Always remember to have faith in yourself. You are so worthy of being loved and this may not have been a healthy relationship for you. Hopefully college will work itself out soon.
I've had similar times to what you seem to be explaining. I've had times when it seemed nothing good was happing for me. I couldn't make money, Couldn't find love, no car, and my prayers were not be answered. But I just keep hoping because that's all I have.
This is good bro. You vent when it hurts and put it out there for your bf to see. This is the way you have told them how you feel. It hurts now and may hurt for a while but honestly as cliche as it sounds, it does get better. There may well be a myriad of reasons for why they feel the way they feel to be fair, mostly I feel it is the importance of physical presence which they may require, something which cannot be given at this time due to the nature of a long distance relationship. This is a hurdle you are either willing to jump over to get through or never get past it. Long distance is difficult even for those who have already been in a established relationship, which had originally started when being in close proximity prior. Having started as one from the get go, it is tough to even develop as you are in the same stasis as you were from the start. Realistically the seed of doubt has been sown and will always be there.
Thank you all for supporting me and watching my videos, this channel gives me a purpose and I genuinely love making content ❤
For anyone wondering, we are on break
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Are you postponing the relationship or just breaking up 'til you both don't care anymore?
@@Noe_ currently: post poned/on break
Hey man. It really sucks that this has happened, but we're here for you. We're all your biggest fans, you're supported 100% all the way till the end mate.
Hi leon, I'm sorry to hear about your BF situation. You said its long distance relationship, so I presume outside the UK unless I'm wrong. Do you have the means to go and visit him ?
People say "He shares too much." But i actually find comfort in this channel and i feel its bc of how "open" he is with his suscribers. I watch every video bc i feel less alone, hearing u talk about yk matters like this, as a teenager myself helps me feel like im not the only one yk?
Yeah, that's what my videos aim to achieve, knowing that I'm not alone makes me feel happy as well, and I share a lot so people can learn from my mistakes and hopefully take something away from it and evolve
The love at 16 is the most intense love of all. It hurts but we all go through this. You will find the perfect person for you. It takes time to come to know yourself and relationships. Sharing your feeling is the best way to get through stuff. You are doing good and you will get through it. You have purpose, just sharing your experiences are helping others. Thanks for that.
Leon, if I were there I would give you a huge hug! You need it! Know that you are loved by us all, bro!
Don't let anyone tell you that you are too young to love someone sweetheart. I had my first boyfriend at 14. We were together for 4 years until him and his family relocated for work, and I lost him. He was my first love, and it broke my heart. I still think of him often and those are some of my fondest memories. Thanh you for sharing and good luck.
You asked whether you could be in love at sixteen. The answer is YES! Your love for him is evident - the pain in your voice made me almost cry. Hang in there, and take life one day at a time. This subscriber is rooting for you.
Communication is key. Don't suppress your feelings but be open. And continue to give each other respect. And from there, you'll know that you did your best. Take care ❤
I hate to relate to you. I'm also 16. I'm gay and it's so confusing, long distance really puts the relationship up to a challange. I hope things get eventually better but I'm very thankful that you made this video. I've just found your channel and I feel very seen watching your video. Your feelings are so valid. You seem like a lovely person, I think we could have really deep conversations, watching your videos is just like watching my friends pouring their heart out to me but I don't have any queer friends so (I'm tearing up as I write this) it's great to see someone struggling with the same problems that I have. Thanks for being vulnerable, I appriciate it. Have a wonderful day! :)
Saying that a 16 year old can't fall in love, just think of Romeo and Juliet. You actually fall in deeper love when you are young, because you don't have the experience to put on the brakes. Most older 20th somethings, are quite cautious about getting hurt... again.
Remember you have your real close friends and family who stands by you. You're not alone why don't you talk to your mom she'll give you the best solution. An idea why don't you call him and have a friends chat and try give him support he's possibly not getting anywhere else.
Loving someone who has trouble loving themselves and as such cannot be fully receptive to love is a really painful experience. I'm in the middle of something similar myself. Stay strong and I wish you the best of luck. You're a kind soul and deserve to be happy.
Congrats on 7k man that's awesome.. Be strong and hold on. We love and r praying 4 u. Don't give up on god he never gives u to much than u can handle. Love ya bro!
You are totally normal, and this is normal. 'Calm seas do not make good sailors.' I have my last cancer treatment tomorrow. I'm excited. Hurrah! And you will smile again soon. Obviously :-) Hang in there... You have understanding friends, even at a distance. Take heart. You have a big one!
If it’s love, it will endure the test of time
Ultimately, it takes two to tango, and I hope you both can find a solution that works for everyone. If they don't want to continue the relationship, try to be grateful for the time you shared and move on. Personally, I wouldn't want to be "downgraded" to a friend. The past relationship would always be there, casting a shadow over the friendship - at least that's what I learned from my own experience. Remember, self-love is crucial. Don't sacrifice your own happiness for someone else. Your needs are just as valid and important.
Wishing you all the best! You matter, don't forget that.
Am feeling for you, Leon, and I pray for you!
I noticed your eyes. They look like 2 different colors. I just love that. You keep doing what you're doing. Let it all out. Don't hold anything in. We are all here for you.
first of all a 16 year old can experience love, so trust your instincts. your concept or relationship to love may evolve with experience and age. one thing ive learned is that you need to respect your partner's boundaries. also PLEASE look up the notion of attachment styles - every human falls into 1 of 4 attachment styles - and that will reveal a lot about yourself, your partner and your dynamic together. sounds like he could be avoidant - who are very protective of their independence. you seem like your attachment style may be secure or anxious or somewhere in between. but what do I know. best to see for yourself. hang in there, keep loving yourself.
My advice is to be honest, open, and compassionate. Let him know that you don't agree, that's its not what you want, but you understand that is what he needs. You can't change his feelings, but you can acknowledge your own and accept that its not wrong to feel the way you do. Be kind to him and to yourself. There is no life where everything is good and exactly the way some one wants it. We're all in the same situation, which is why compassion is so important.
Life is a series of tests. When you set someone free time, tell a lot. If they come back, it's usually for a lifetime. If they stay gone, then it's for the best .
If it's true love it will endure. You have to trust yourself. Don't make any rash decisions.
Damn that F'N Sucks, Luv You Leon Your Awesome , My Friend 😊❤🎉
it's wonderful to see you in all these emotions, i'm happy youre experiencing parts of life i wasn't able to at your age
Dont give up to be what you are.
Don't be too hard on yourself, Leon. Plenty of people overthink things, not for a few hours, but for their entire lives!
Leon your feelings are legit and you may feel this heartache for the rest of your life. I still recall my first love and the pain I felt when it wasn't to be. This is life! Freaking out is normal too, especially when stuff adds up. Life is weird that way bad shit often comes in threes. At 16 your brain is sometimes firing like a box of fireworks thrown onto a fire. Add all the dopamine rushes and over stimulation from youtube - it has it's own addictions - and you're bound to be overwhelmed. Chillax. What you are feeling is normal. Go run, ride, scream at the moon like a werewolf. And remember, the gravity of this moment will recede in time, to the point you might just look at it as a good life lesson.
Oooohhhh darling🥺.
I almost cried, because this is sooo recognizable to me.
Remember, even though your only 16 and alottttttt can and will still happen… It’s better to have loved once than to have never loved at all❤️❤️❤️.
You know exactly what love is, hun. I am so sorry to hear that you're going through this. I know it's hard but you both are valid in expressing your feelings. Hang in there! ♥
I love how vulnerable you're being on here. It takes a kind soul and a genuine heart to be so open. You seem like a really amazing person. ❤❤♥️ I subscribed yesterday after your touching story. I fear I'll never end up regretting it.
You can love someone so much, but you can never love people as much as you can miss them. I know today it hurts more than anything and it's okay to let it all out. It gets better.
So sorry for the pain you are experiencing bro, you are the only one that will work out what to do. Your channel is going to be really successful as their is nothing fake about you. Your pure and thats what people love. Stay strong, keep being raw. Wish you every possible success with everything you do. Good luck. 🙏 ❤
I would tell this person that you wish to remain friends. That way you will still be in his life as a friend. Good luck
Long distance relationships are hard to maintain. Getting this off your chest is the best thing . Hopefully youre NOT TOO far apart. Ive been in a similar situations. The best thing you can do is to stay in touch with each other snd and keep communicating. Youll get through this. AND dont give up on GOD. I hope the best for you two .
If you allow yourself to stay on as their friend or having your relationship in a pause (in limbo) you will be in limbo aswell. As you are still in love with them you will yourself unaccessible to receive the love you want and deserve from someone else.
Breaking up hurts. Healing from it takes time. But you do, eventually. Staying on as "something" will just make it hurt for longer. Like poking on an infected wound.
And I promise you, when you have let them go and allowed yourself to heal, you will be ready for a new love. A love that matches you when and where you are at that time.
Don't give up! Be kind and loving, kind and understanding towards yourself. If you love yourself you can receive love also. As within so without.
Massive hug from Stockholm, Sweden! 🤗 Sixteen is a vulnerable and emotionally tumultous time in a persons life. But it gets easier. Trust me. I was sixteen myself when you were born (I'm 32 now) so I have had all of your lifetime so far to see that that statement actually is true. Something I didn't believe when I was your age. Life gets easier when you have lived it for a while. So stay in the game 🐒😊👍
I always struggle to understand that other people also have their minds and somehow think. It's caused because of my feeling that I have a totally different behavior than they have, especially with my non-talking about what I have on my mind and more talk about just my experiences. I found just a few people who I feel that have something similar, and yesterday I found you, who I also feel are a person like it. When I watched your videos I always had thoughts that I weirdly understand what you mean, becasue of my previous thoughts etc.
To the point, I want to tell you that I really - weirdly - (feel like I) understand what you feel. Both of you have your own feelings and want to go through it differently, and I think you know it. On your place, I would try to clear my mind out of the break-up thoughts and let my partner love theirselves first. In this time I would try to understand all the reasons why they could feel this way and maybe try to be a part of their self-understanding. That's just my way, because I overthink things a lot in a way of thinking about every single possibility of something happening and people's thoughts, but in this case I think it would finally get a use? Just a guess tho.
I think there might be a lot more people who feel about you in a similar way, and your partner might also be one of them. He probably also tries to understand your approach to all that. We're here with you :33 I put my hopes into your relationship. Try to give it some time.
Also congrats of 7000 subs. Thats huge ^^
Edit: I wrote too much thoughts at once so I probably wrote it too complicated even for myself xd
Edit 2: I forgot to tell that it's stupid that people say you can't fall in love in the young age. It's more about that you look for what you like and always change. I'm also before 18 but that's just my perspective. Love and a need to search for happiness are two different things. Anyway you can still love the person you don't think is your ideal. It's all your decisions
I tell people of all ages the same thing all the time: Relationships are hard. I think you realize that distance makes that even more difficult. Many times it can be good to talk out those issues - what seems like a no win possible situation is not always so. Hang in there - you have a lot of time still at your age. Give each other the space to grow as human being - tough as that can be
16 year old love is as real as any, and it hurts. Romeo was only 16 or so, and Juliet even younger, in the most famous love story ever. Am really feeling for you, Leon.
I think Juliet was like 12 soo
@@DefinitelyNotAutumn... Juliet was 13 years old, and almost 2 weeks shy of her 14th birthday, to be precise.
Romeo and Juliet also killed themselves over a slight hitch in their relationship so I wouldn't be so keen on comparing yourself to them 💀
@@miguelcamacho105 No one is comparing themselves to Romeo and Juliet’s characters, only their youth in order to validate to Leon that young love is real. And a slight hitch in their relationship? Are you serious? Romeo believes that Juliet is dead !!!
Awwwww, I am sorry. I was dumped in a long distance relationship last year and then I saw photos when I contacted him months later to tell him my cat died. Yea, the photos were of him and his new bf whom he met and fell in love with shortly after dumping me. It was a bad day. You didn't do anything wrong. I am sorry. You will be okay and feel better. Be kind to yourself.
I'm so happy you acually ended up posting this video no matter how hurtful it must have been. Because at least you can show other people that they are not alone and possibly also find people who will support you in this situation as well. I mean I would say it's definitely horrible how only one of you is committed, but I think what they said was genuine and maybe giving it some time could work. Since maybe they will learn to love themselves first and get over their fears. I really hope it works out for you! Love your content 😋
Always look forward to seeing your videos. Your feelings are real and just let time pass. ⭐️❤️👋👋
Stay strong my man. Remember, the strongest steel is tempered steel. It gets beat down a lot.
❤ for you Leon, hope it all gets better u deserve the world and more ❤
Don't suffer for long. Keep looking around. You might meet in person in a couple of years anyway. You're lovely.
Take it from me, life is always a struggle and you're doing very well. Never doubt yourself.
I'm so sorry that your going through this. I really hope things workout for you. You take care and look after yourself
Don’t worry he doesn’t truly love you or he would agree with you I love you so much to and you are extremely special and you deserve better then Someone who dose t want to be with you I know you love eatchother but time to move on just remember we love you to
Hello. I’m gay and catholic and go to church every Sunday. The 2 are definitely not contradictory, and it’s not because people don’t understand or because men edict stupid rules that your faith should suffer from it :) you’re amazing, just be yourself :). P.S.: feelings are feelings, love is love :) love is selfless gift of self, it’s a choice, it’s what you build with someone. It is built on feelings true but it is not feelings nor emotions. It’s what you decide to build :)
It’s hard when people are indecisive about a relationship, but I’ve always found that it’s better to back off in that case. Just assume for now that he is not available and be open to other opportunities. You can’t depend on someone who doesn’t know what they want: not that he’s a bad guy, buy it’s not fair to you. Perhaps he will be ready one day, and then you can start over, if you are still free. You can’t make someone ready and willing, they have to get there on their own.
Go with what you feel in your heart❤😊
off topic but I never noticed your eyes, they are so beautiful❤
I feel your pain Leon. They say all good things come to those that wait but that probably won’t ease your hurt. You clearly love this person (a 16 year olds love is every bit as real and valid as a 26 year olds) so any relationship you have together for now is infinitely better than none at all. As always, talk things through with them (not via text or IM) and be as honest as you can be about your feelings. I wish you all the luck and happiness in the world.
I’m not the best at this, I’m younger than you by a few months and I haven’t even been in a relationship yet, but I have experienced my fair share of times I felt lonely and basically broken… usually a friend would help me, or I would listen to music, specifically Tom Petty, something cheerful basically
That is big from somebody so young. I am alone as well, but older, in my sixties.. thing is communication is key to a relationship, to know the person and have a good time, but sometimes when people suffer for love , another part of you wake up and look to turn the negatives into positives. It's all in our minds. I wish you love , but in the meantime, enjoy, no matter what.
@@juanquintana6070 thanks
I know how u feel ,same thing happened with me,all was good with my BF then he said he needed time to think about what he wanted ,and he also said he found it hard to commit to a relationship, in the end we broke up, It might be a good idea to go somewhere quite and tell God everything, his the one person you can tell everything to,its ok to struggle with your religion,just know God will never leave u,and things have a way of sorting themselves out, I will pray for u,it will get better,just know u are not alone🙏
I feel your pain, you are going to be fine just think positive, I did go through something very similar and it takes time to get back on track, if is meant to be you will be together, just don't waste your time go out and enjoy life.
❤I hope that he sees this video,you speak your mind just be you heart of how you feel 😊
Everything is gonna be okay. Love your videos. Hello from Brazil.
Oxente um br aqui 😳, por essa eu não esperava, kkkkk. Estou aqui treinando meu listening de intermediário 1 em inglês 😂
We all appreciate your absolute candor and putting your feelings out there. I gather this person is in the USA. I am glad you have this channel that gives you people to talk to about what is going on in your life.
Some people marry their "first" love , without experimenting (for lack of a better word) and others don't. Both are subjectively justified. Many if not most young individuals, especially with gay guys that just begin testing the waters go through an exploring phase. You seem different (marry their first love). It's difficult but at least now you know what to expect if you continue the relationship.
Previously I commented that I was glad that your courage to let your 'crush' & friend know how you feel, worked out.
I assumed a lot but feel that you would make better long distance friends... and friends don't #, because it ruins friendships.
Like all injuries, wounds heal. Give yourself time and be brave with someone else later when you meet.
🙏🏻 I Have So Much Respect For Both Of You Stay Strong Love Is Love Hug And Hold Each Others Hand Life Is A Roller Coaster Enjoy The Ride 👍🏻👍🏻
It’s valid to feel this way and I know you will get through this I love your content/channel 🩵🩵🩵 you’re amazing
Day trips, visit each other, Long distance relationships are hard, Relationships are hard even when you live in the same town. Skype, stay in touch with him regularly. Long distance relationships can work.
Do not dwell on yesterday, for it has passed. Do not fear the future, it has yet to arrive. Live for the now, for that is where we all live.
I wish you the best.
Real
I feel for you. Long distance relationships are hard and I understand why they want to take a break. You really should meet in person to find out if you have chemistry before making a commitment. Besides, time heals heartbreak and you are a beautiful soul and a handsome man, so get back out there and find someone closer to home. Who knows, maybe it will end up working out with you and your long distance love in the future.
The moments together shared are forevuh and unbreakable on their own, juz alike you Leon. It is all a moment in time and of learning
Stay strong you're a smart nice guy :) 💙
Love at 16 is real! It is just as strong, powerful and as real as it is at any age, possibly more! You are so kind and respectful to all. You deserve all your success in this space. It is heartbreaking to hear you share this event but I am so glad you feel this is a place you can get some support. You will grow from this....peace in your heart!
It gets better. It hurts bad for a while but you will overcome it.
Deine Gefühle sind rein und ... es tut weh.❤🩹
Shame to hear what's going on in your private life Leon and thank goodness you have this outlet to talk personally. Things seem hard right now but keep being oositive and talk to us here Leon. Take care. 🤗
1:12 seen many times before. He has eyes on someone else or a relationship forming elsewhere thats closer to him. It’s usually how ld relationships end. Best make it easier and break up rather than on a break, because that break is never gonna end. He will move on and u will be the one suffering in the end. Postpone is another way of saying i want something/ someone else without actually saying it.
I think you need a big hug!
I believe everything is gonna be okay in the end, but sometimes life feels unfair, but in most cases I find later that the things I was mad didnt work out were compensated by something as good or even better. It just can take several years to gain the retrospective. So stay strong!
Leon, you are lovely, thoughtful caring young guy. Love can hurt like hell. Hang on in there. You have lots of us who love you as a person and want to support you.
Leon, keep your chin up, if it’s meant to be then it’s meant to be, stay positive and keep yourself open to the universe 💙
After a good night's sleep you'll feel much more refreshed, mentally, and if you start from there to focus the whole day on the positive aspects of life, you'll realize that you are more powerful than the emotions that drag you down. You might even realize that you deserve better and do not rely on uncertainties. Finding joy in solitude is mastering life. Of course that doesn't mean we must remain ignorant, but you might discover how much good you can influence around you. We have all been there, trust me, we have all suffered many many times losses, break ups and disappointments but that's what shapes our character.
sorry to hear that Leon
I am so sorry you are experiencing this, Leon. I really don't know what to say, but damn-it, please know there's a ton of people here who admire you, love you, support you, and derive value from your videos. If I were still a teen and lived in your region, there are few other people I would choose to have as a buddy, rather than you. {{hugs}}
Great job to open up about this. Shows both courage and vulnerability. Heartbreak happens within and out of relationships. Physical distance in a relationship creates it's own issues. It gives both partners space to feel and express things that they would possibly subdue if you were face to face. On the other hand, physical closeness creates an electrical/emotional bond that can not be duplicated. You may get a great feeling when your partner calls and you see their name on the phone. Than doesn't even compare to seeing them walking up to you and your energies fold into each other. Even if your a shy type and just smile and bump shoulders, the exchange is as good as if you hugged. ALWAYS REMEMBER it is not the end of the world and this is only a minor bump to get over. Stay cool Leon. You're doing great!
First off, you've done nothing wrong. Through the videos I've seen of you, you seem like such a genuinely caring, loving, and kind person. Also, I personally do not believe you should feel shitty uploading about this. We are here for YOU. But anyways, I'm so sorry to hear this is happening to you. I hope both you and your other person are able to take care of yourselves in this moment.
(PS, I also overthink and overstress every single action of mine. Literally just started my new job earlier this week and I'm already off training and having to work overnight alone for a few days so AHHGHGH.)
I’m so sincerely sorry to hear you’re going through so much difficulty at the moment. Trust me, I’ve had so much go wrong for me throughout my life too, so I know how it feels (especially when you’re a teen). I don’t really have any experience with relationships, sadly. But, for the mental health side of things, I will say that, no matter how hard it feels, try not to lose hope that things will get better. Things have such a remarkable way of turning around within the space of a day. I’ve been at absolute rock bottom before now and nearly ended things. But, I’m glad I didn’t because I’ve not only had some great experiences myself but I’ve been able to make a difference in other people’s lives too. As you yourself said, you’ve got this channel and you’re making a difference in other people’s lives. Take comfort and reassurance from that and from reaching so many subscribers. I mean it when I say I think you’re a really good guy who is probably going to do well in life. Whether your current relationship gets fixed or you find someone else, they’ll be very lucky to know you and have you in their lives. I sincerely wish you the best of luck with everything in your life. You’ve got my support anytime.🤝🙂
I’m so sorry that happened to you. I hope your partner learns to love themself.
To be able to capture your love and attention? They deserve it.
Based on your messages, they seem really remorseful for their emotions and feelings.
I’m sure they love you just as much as you love them. Speaking of which, it’s incredible to just know that you’re truly in love at such an age.
I have a feeling that they’re just as in love as you are. They probably just don’t know how to handle their feelings and emotions. They might just feel an emotion that’s overwhelming and assume that it’s… wrong or off.
I’m sure once everything calms down for the both of you, your relationship will be stable again.
I wish a lifetime of happiness for you both. Sending love and support from Indiana!
You are a very wise person but realise this, relationships are extremely emotionally intense when you’re a young man. Nobody can take these intense emotions away, it is normal. I think feeling isolated with nobody to talk to exacerbates these feelings. This won’t be the first or last time you will experience that love often hurts. Find someone you can talk to it often helps sharing problems. And finally keep communication open with them and support each other moving forward whatever they want at this time.
I hope today is a better day. Life and love will never be easy. Things happen for reasons we may not understand at the time. I do hope things get brighter for you. Congrats on 7K, ive been watching your vids but havent been subbed, but i am now. And, as you can see from the comments, you do have lots of people you can talk to so dont ever feel alone.
aww sorry to hear. You're such a sweet guy, his loss dude. Anyone would be lucky to have you.
Sometimes the hardest thing to do is to let the one you love go. Long distance relationships can work, but special circumstances must be in place. You have to know for sure as well as the other person. At this stage in your life, you are still searching in yourself as well as finding what you want. Another key ingredient is patience and accepting the other person for who they are and that person for you. You may feel that this person is special, but if that other person does not truly feel that way, then this person may not be the one for you. You will come to terms with this situation and keep moving forward. Life has its ups and downs, but I believe in you and you can succeed. (I know it can work as I have been in a long distance relationship and it is still going strong. Like I said, very special circumstances.) Do not give up and be patient which is a very hard thing to do, but you can do it.
My goodness.. I feel this so much. Im typing this with teary eyes
I just found out about your channel and its literally so relatable. I hope you're doing okay, but holy me are you my carbon copy?
I dont have anything helpful to say.. The longer I watch the harder it is to think 😭 Just don't lose hope 🤍
Things will get better for you soon Leon, don't give up. I know how you feel, I'm currently in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend. He's in India and I'm in the US. It's really hard and takes a lot of work, we've had talks similar to what you had with your boyfriend. We actually broke up for months because the timing was wrong but we still loved each other dearly. We stayed really close friends and finally got back together in July. Anyway, i hope you and this person you love work things out. Sending you love, from a fellow teenager with anxiety who overthinks everything 😭
I agree thing will get better soon for him it is a matter of time
What you described, is literally almost exactly what I went thru with my ex except we weren't long distance. She had to "work on herself" and couldn't see herself being in a relationship, period. We wanted to "postpone" it like you said and just remain close friends. I had to try and convince myself why I thought that it would be better as just friends even tho I didn't want that at all. Plus we were each other's first at everything so that gave it another level of sadness (or a closer bond, depending on how you see it)...eventually some stuff came up between us and I was able to realize that her breaking up with me was actually a blessing in disguise because she turned out to be slightly crazy. I hope that doesn't happen to you but that's how mine ended. I'm in a much better place now than when I was in that relationship, I can tell you that.
Also after finishing the video, the commitment issues, the "not loving themself" issue, and the mental health issues are WORD FOR WORD what I got told when my ex broke up with me. So I can tell you, sadly, I know how it feels.
Oof no the friend zone.Yes, It hurts.Uncle can listen,been through its a few times.
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I think you are right about a lot of things. Remember that love is founded on respect. As you say, though, this starts with the lover. So, you already have adorable under the belt. I would ask Venus for advice. Don't let the chaos drive you to distraction. Remember that your fans see your worth. God, too ...
taking a break can be tough I ended up taking a break from my long distance relationship due to similar issues with Jason being in NY it was tough but we remained talking friends and when he got his home life in order (mental health issues as well) he finally got the courage to take a drive down to meet me, wish they had a caring emjoi instead of just like because I truely was in your same situation but older than you so its tough but you both weil get thru it
I understand you're unhappy but remember you will always hit brick walls in your life but you will find a solution to get through the wall. Maybe try have some time alone with your favourite song and think about why you love him and what youd be feeling if you didn't know him. How would you feel and who is the best person in your life who you can talk to and discuss what your feelings are and how you actually feel about this. You have a great comfort group and they'll help you with ways to cope.
Hi Leon!
Firstly, take a deep breath and pause for a moment!
Love can smack you in the face, so to speak, at any age! Of course, you can be in love at 16 - the problem is, no one can really define what love really is or is not! You can only really go on what and how you as an individual think and feel.
Long distance relationships can and do work, as you say, if you put the work in - that's the same with any relationship, even if the person is in the same location as you!
Follow your head and heart in what's best for you and the other person, and try to find a solution through compromise - the key to all things in life is communication!
Don't give ultimatums but offer suggestions.
TLC = Talk; Listen; Confirm.
And, no matter how things turn out, you'll get through it and will be stronger for it!
In regards to college, contact them by phone or email and let them know your concerns and anxiety, especially as the college term has started already and don't wish to fall too far behind that you'll need to do a lot of catch up!
And congrats 🎉on your increase in subscribers!
Until next time, my YT friend, take care and all the best!
I agree with you that its a lose lose. As well as you being in love at 16. I was in love when I was a bit younger of 13. When you do get around responding back to your BF just tell them that you are sorry for taking long to respond and you just needed time to think. Its good that you are reaching out to talk about this stuff then keeping it all to yourself. What would work better even if its harder is talk to your closest friend(s) you can trust. As they can acually be there just to lission.
You are on the right track here for sure. You can't love somebody until you have love for yourself. Years of experience have taught me that and more importantly, It took me a long time to figure out that I can't change other people. They are either on your wave length or they aren't. Do you, find something you are passionate about and focus on that, the rest will fall in to place... Sorry to hear that college hasn't called, I know that's what you had in mind, but explore other opportunities as well, make a plan B, C and then D and keep pressing... Things WILL get better.
The great thing is your ability to connect to someone and fall in love. Im glad you focus on your faith to get through. That really is the answer. Yeah it hurts when it doesn’t work out. I don’t think It’s about you doing something wrong, it’s just either the wrong time or wrong person. There is someone out there looking for you but they just don’t know it yet.
Only the person who is feeling it can say if it is love or not. Just be careful. It is always possible to love and not be loved. Hoping it all works out.
Leon my heart goes out to you. Relationships can and do suck. Always remember to have faith in yourself. You are so worthy of being loved and this may not have been a healthy relationship for you. Hopefully college will work itself out soon.
I've had similar times to what you seem to be explaining. I've had times when it seemed nothing good was happing for me. I couldn't make money, Couldn't find love, no car, and my prayers were not be answered. But I just keep hoping because that's all I have.
I'm so so sorry and heartbroken seeing you in this situation 😞 My thoughts are with you ❤
This is good bro. You vent when it hurts and put it out there for your bf to see.
This is the way you have told them how you feel.
It hurts now and may hurt for a while but honestly as cliche as it sounds, it does get better.
There may well be a myriad of reasons for why they feel the way they feel to be fair, mostly I feel it is the importance of physical presence which they may require, something which cannot be given at this time due to the nature of a long distance relationship.
This is a hurdle you are either willing to jump over to get through or never get past it.
Long distance is difficult even for those who have already been in a established relationship, which had originally started when being in close proximity prior.
Having started as one from the get go, it is tough to even develop as you are in the same stasis as you were from the start.
Realistically the seed of doubt has been sown and will always be there.