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For anyone wondering, we are on break
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Are you postponing the relationship or just breaking up 'til you both don't care anymore?
@@Noe_ currently: post poned/on break
Hey man. It really sucks that this has happened, but we're here for you. We're all your biggest fans, you're supported 100% all the way till the end mate.
Hi leon, I'm sorry to hear about your BF situation. You said its long distance relationship, so I presume outside the UK unless I'm wrong. Do you have the means to go and visit him ?
People say "He shares too much." But i actually find comfort in this channel and i feel its bc of how "open" he is with his suscribers. I watch every video bc i feel less alone, hearing u talk about yk matters like this, as a teenager myself helps me feel like im not the only one yk?
Yeah, that's what my videos aim to achieve, knowing that I'm not alone makes me feel happy as well, and I share a lot so people can learn from my mistakes and hopefully take something away from it and evolve
OH MY GOD. You have heterochromia??? THATS SO COOL!!
Saying that a 16 year old can't fall in love, just think of Romeo and Juliet. You actually fall in deeper love when you are young, because you don't have the experience to put on the brakes. Most older 20th somethings, are quite cautious about getting hurt... again.
Don't let anyone tell you that you are too young to love someone sweetheart. I had my first boyfriend at 14. We were together for 4 years until him and his family relocated for work, and I lost him. He was my first love, and it broke my heart. I still think of him often and those are some of my fondest memories. Thanh you for sharing and good luck.
Remember you have your real close friends and family who stands by you. You're not alone why don't you talk to your mom she'll give you the best solution. An idea why don't you call him and have a friends chat and try give him support he's possibly not getting anywhere else.
Leon, if I were there I would give you a huge hug! You need it! Know that you are loved by us all, bro!
Teach yourself psychology and you will understand why religion is a societal control mechanism. Psychology is your best defense and offense in the world right now.
I had a pastor for a father. I am a bi sexual male. It's been rough at times not gonna lie. But I found my way through the fog of uncertainty. You will too if you just put in the effort. Vote blue!
The love at 16 is the most intense love of all. It hurts but we all go through this. You will find the perfect person for you. It takes time to come to know yourself and relationships. Sharing your feeling is the best way to get through stuff. You are doing good and you will get through it. You have purpose, just sharing your experiences are helping others. Thanks for that.
I hate to relate to you. I'm also 16. I'm gay and it's so confusing, long distance really puts the relationship up to a challange. I hope things get eventually better but I'm very thankful that you made this video. I've just found your channel and I feel very seen watching your video. Your feelings are so valid. You seem like a lovely person, I think we could have really deep conversations, watching your videos is just like watching my friends pouring their heart out to me but I don't have any queer friends so (I'm tearing up as I write this) it's great to see someone struggling with the same problems that I have. Thanks for being vulnerable, I appriciate it. Have a wonderful day! :)
You asked whether you could be in love at sixteen. The answer is YES! Your love for him is evident - the pain in your voice made me almost cry. Hang in there, and take life one day at a time. This subscriber is rooting for you.
Don’t worry he doesn’t truly love you or he would agree with you I love you so much to and you are extremely special and you deserve better then Someone who dose t want to be with you I know you love eatchother but time to move on just remember we love you to
I’m gay and when I got into my first boyfriend we dated for one hour and then he went back to his ex boyfriend 😢 so I know how it is
I always struggle to understand that other people also have their minds and somehow think. It's caused because of my feeling that I have a totally different behavior than they have, especially with my non-talking about what I have on my mind and more talk about just my experiences. I found just a few people who I feel that have something similar, and yesterday I found you, who I also feel are a person like it. When I watched your videos I always had thoughts that I weirdly understand what you mean, becasue of my previous thoughts etc.
To the point, I want to tell you that I really - weirdly - (feel like I) understand what you feel. Both of you have your own feelings and want to go through it differently, and I think you know it. On your place, I would try to clear my mind out of the break-up thoughts and let my partner love theirselves first. In this time I would try to understand all the reasons why they could feel this way and maybe try to be a part of their self-understanding. That's just my way, because I overthink things a lot in a way of thinking about every single possibility of something happening and people's thoughts, but in this case I think it would finally get a use? Just a guess tho.
I think there might be a lot more people who feel about you in a similar way, and your partner might also be one of them. He probably also tries to understand your approach to all that. We're here with you :33 I put my hopes into your relationship. Try to give it some time.
Also congrats of 7000 subs. Thats huge ^^
Edit: I wrote too much thoughts at once so I probably wrote it too complicated even for myself xd
Edit 2: I forgot to tell that it's stupid that people say you can't fall in love in the young age. It's more about that you look for what you like and always change. I'm also before 18 but that's just my perspective. Love and a need to search for happiness are two different things. Anyway you can still love the person you don't think is your ideal. It's all your decisions
first of all a 16 year old can experience love, so trust your instincts. your concept or relationship to love may evolve with experience and age. one thing ive learned is that you need to respect your partner's boundaries. also PLEASE look up the notion of attachment styles - every human falls into 1 of 4 attachment styles - and that will reveal a lot about yourself, your partner and your dynamic together. sounds like he could be avoidant - who are very protective of their independence. you seem like your attachment style may be secure or anxious or somewhere in between. but what do I know. best to see for yourself. hang in there, keep loving yourself.
Ultimately, it takes two to tango, and I hope you both can find a solution that works for everyone. If they don't want to continue the relationship, try to be grateful for the time you shared and move on. Personally, I wouldn't want to be "downgraded" to a friend. The past relationship would always be there, casting a shadow over the friendship - at least that's what I learned from my own experience. Remember, self-love is crucial. Don't sacrifice your own happiness for someone else. Your needs are just as valid and important.
Wishing you all the best! You matter, don't forget that.
Communication is key. Don't suppress your feelings but be open. And continue to give each other respect. And from there, you'll know that you did your best. Take care ❤
Congrats on 7k man that's awesome.. Be strong and hold on. We love and r praying 4 u. Don't give up on god he never gives u to much than u can handle. Love ya bro!
You are totally normal, and this is normal. 'Calm seas do not make good sailors.' I have my last cancer treatment tomorrow. I'm excited. Hurrah! And you will smile again soon. Obviously :-) Hang in there... You have understanding friends, even at a distance. Take heart. You have a big one!
Do you have heterochromia?
I've only just noticed, could be the lighting.
Noticed it too 😅
Unrelated but do you have heterochromatic eyes?? If so that’s cool as fuck. Could also just be the sunlight or whatever. Anyway, keep hanging in there
If it's true love it will endure. You have to trust yourself. Don't make any rash decisions.
I'm going to be treating you like you're my little brother here:
You have so much to give the world, and that includes to a future partner. You deserve great things. I am not lying when I say that the world would have sustained a huge loss without you in it. Not saying that you're thinking of hurting yourself, but you do matter a hell of a lot. I love watching your videos.
Sometimes, the most perfect love requires patience. Not saying you can't love someone at 16. You definitely can. I'm just saying a break might be the best thing for you guys at the moment. Maybe you both need to grow spiritually, mentally, and physically before you can seriously date. Maybe you should just be friends for now. Can you do that? Love is a wave we ride that's stronger and weaker from season to season. Now, I'm not saying anything is for certain, but what do you think about the possibility that God is trying to tell you this isn't the right season to be in love?
The following is said as a fellow Christian who happens to be pan: God loves you just the way you are, and don't let anyone tell you differently. If you're wondering if this hiccup is God's sign that you aren't supposed to be bent, I urge you to stop. That is a lie from the enemy and a belief instilled in you by well-meaning Christians that you are not good enough. You are.
About college: Follow up with them. Sometimes, those places suck at communication, and I know that it sounds ironic, but it's true. Hate to be a nagging parent, but you have to be assertive in life if you want to accomplish anything.
Love you, man. Hope you figure everything out.
Hello. I’m gay and catholic and go to church every Sunday. The 2 are definitely not contradictory, and it’s not because people don’t understand or because men edict stupid rules that your faith should suffer from it :) you’re amazing, just be yourself :). P.S.: feelings are feelings, love is love :) love is selfless gift of self, it’s a choice, it’s what you build with someone. It is built on feelings true but it is not feelings nor emotions. It’s what you decide to build :)
Life is hard...im 67..gay...its still hard...
Lol, i am 15 and gay and its hard to figure out life 😊
13 and I think im gay I'm so scared 😭
فعلا الحياة صعبة، والاصعب ان تكون في مجتمع لا يتقبلك. وكذلك العيش متخفي والخوف من ان يعرف الناس هويتك.
I'm not going to lie. This made me cry, and I really just wanna give you a big hug rn 😭(I'm still crying typing this). I am also a Christian, and I'm 16 yrs old too. I truly believe that this is just a test, and I know its hard but this should be the time where your faith in God increases because he CAN bring you through this tough time. I'm praying that he will, and I KNOW he will if you continue believing. Lastly, I know what I'm about to say might sound weird but you can talk to God, I also sometimes feel as though there's no one to talk to but I speak to God and most times it makes me feel better.
I really hope you see this, but anyways, even if you dont I still wish you all the best
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Awwwww, I am sorry. I was dumped in a long distance relationship last year and then I saw photos when I contacted him months later to tell him my cat died. Yea, the photos were of him and his new bf whom he met and fell in love with shortly after dumping me. It was a bad day. You didn't do anything wrong. I am sorry. You will be okay and feel better. Be kind to yourself.
You look like Eddie Furlong from Terminator 2.
Leon your feelings are legit and you may feel this heartache for the rest of your life. I still recall my first love and the pain I felt when it wasn't to be. This is life! Freaking out is normal too, especially when stuff adds up. Life is weird that way bad shit often comes in threes. At 16 your brain is sometimes firing like a box of fireworks thrown onto a fire. Add all the dopamine rushes and over stimulation from youtube - it has it's own addictions - and you're bound to be overwhelmed. Chillax. What you are feeling is normal. Go run, ride, scream at the moon like a werewolf. And remember, the gravity of this moment will recede in time, to the point you might just look at it as a good life lesson.
I think you need a big hug!
Some people marry their "first" love , without experimenting (for lack of a better word) and others don't. Both are subjectively justified. Many if not most young individuals, especially with gay guys that just begin testing the waters go through an exploring phase. You seem different (marry their first love). It's difficult but at least now you know what to expect if you continue the relationship.
Previously I commented that I was glad that your courage to let your 'crush' & friend know how you feel, worked out.
I assumed a lot but feel that you would make better long distance friends... and friends don't #, because it ruins friendships.
Like all injuries, wounds heal. Give yourself time and be brave with someone else later when you meet.
Hi Leon!
Firstly, take a deep breath and pause for a moment!
Love can smack you in the face, so to speak, at any age! Of course, you can be in love at 16 - the problem is, no one can really define what love really is or is not! You can only really go on what and how you as an individual think and feel.
Long distance relationships can and do work, as you say, if you put the work in - that's the same with any relationship, even if the person is in the same location as you!
Follow your head and heart in what's best for you and the other person, and try to find a solution through compromise - the key to all things in life is communication!
Don't give ultimatums but offer suggestions.
TLC = Talk; Listen; Confirm.
And, no matter how things turn out, you'll get through it and will be stronger for it!
In regards to college, contact them by phone or email and let them know your concerns and anxiety, especially as the college term has started already and don't wish to fall too far behind that you'll need to do a lot of catch up!
And congrats 🎉on your increase in subscribers!
Until next time, my YT friend, take care and all the best!
My advice is to be honest, open, and compassionate. Let him know that you don't agree, that's its not what you want, but you understand that is what he needs. You can't change his feelings, but you can acknowledge your own and accept that its not wrong to feel the way you do. Be kind to him and to yourself. There is no life where everything is good and exactly the way some one wants it. We're all in the same situation, which is why compassion is so important.
Do you have heterochromia??
Dont give up to be what you are.
Everything is gonna be okay. Love your videos. Hello from Brazil.
Oxente um br aqui 😳, por essa eu não esperava, kkkkk. Estou aqui treinando meu listening de intermediário 1 em inglês 😂
Leon,..... YES it hurts, but, for now, nothing is written in stone..... relax, you have a place to live, food to eat, and Thousands of PEOPLE Love you,..... start with this,.... your friend, send him LOVE in prayers, for the good time you had ,.... and let GO for now,.... The Earth is round, and the future in unknown... DO NOT BEAT YOURSELF FOR THAT, .... Your Love is good, and you help people a LOT !!!!, One day at a TIME..... 36 years ago, i was dying of cacaine abise, now i'm good, feel YOUNG, quit all this s**t , so easy on yourself, you are important in people's LIVES including ME..... Breathe we are 8 BILLION Beings... Love to You ... from Canada
I noticed your eyes. They look like 2 different colors. I just love that. You keep doing what you're doing. Let it all out. Don't hold anything in. We are all here for you.
Am feeling for you, Leon, and I pray for you!
Shame to hear what's going on in your private life Leon and thank goodness you have this outlet to talk personally. Things seem hard right now but keep being oositive and talk to us here Leon. Take care. 🤗
16 year old love is as real as any, and it hurts. Romeo was only 16 or so, and Juliet even younger, in the most famous love story ever. Am really feeling for you, Leon.
I think Juliet was like 12 soo
@@DefinitelyNotAutumn... Juliet was 13 years old, and almost 2 weeks shy of her 14th birthday, to be precise.
Romeo and Juliet also killed themselves over a slight hitch in their relationship so I wouldn't be so keen on comparing yourself to them 💀
@@miguelcamacho105 No one is comparing themselves to Romeo and Juliet’s characters, only their youth in order to validate to Leon that young love is real. And a slight hitch in their relationship? Are you serious? Romeo believes that Juliet is dead !!!
I'm going to comment here, mostly to say obvious things.
Firstly, I'm sorry you are going through a bad time, and emotions suck at times like these. New emotions are particularly difficult, when you first find them, as a teenager. This video brought back some painful memories for me - but real memories and felt feelings are also good. .
The main thing you are feeling here is rejection, from a relationship you maybe thought was going OK.
It also sounds like the relationship was already complicated, partly by gender and sexuality issues, but mostly by distance.
You are now talking to us, the weird collection of your RUclips viewers - and note that we are equally distant, and almost not real here, like in a TV drama. .
Solution one is to give yourself a break - as your partner suggested. But also give yourself time off from self-imposed drama and emotional stress. Go climb a mountain, or something, as a new diversion. The internet is not a place to live your whole life.
Similarly, the problem with long distance relationships, is the physical distance and lack of real human connectivity.
Solution two, is to accept that these things happen, and that you too are moving along a new path, with who knows what around the corner. Maybe you will go to college soon or start a new job? That change of routine alone will shift your life in another direction... Just go with that process.
Point three here, is you seem like a genuine guy, and intelligent enough to sort things out for yourself, in the long term.
Big hug from me - even though that too is not actually real. Find someone nearby, and who will give you the same advice and support, but face to face. In the meantime, keep being you, and I think it will work out fine.
I think you should talk to your partner about this. Some advice for both of you is that relationships are hard and take work. Small things don’t have to mean the relationship is over or that it’s over forever but you have to take the ups with the downs. It’s completely normal for things to not be perfect or how you imagined them to be. You both are still so young so just know that relationships come with a lot of big feelings some good some bad but there all overwhelming at first. Just be as honest and understanding with each other as you can. I hope you feel better and everything works out!!
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I think you are right about a lot of things. Remember that love is founded on respect. As you say, though, this starts with the lover. So, you already have adorable under the belt. I would ask Venus for advice. Don't let the chaos drive you to distraction. Remember that your fans see your worth. God, too ...
Day trips, visit each other, Long distance relationships are hard, Relationships are hard even when you live in the same town. Skype, stay in touch with him regularly. Long distance relationships can work.
If you allow yourself to stay on as their friend or having your relationship in a pause (in limbo) you will be in limbo aswell. As you are still in love with them you will yourself unaccessible to receive the love you want and deserve from someone else.
Breaking up hurts. Healing from it takes time. But you do, eventually. Staying on as "something" will just make it hurt for longer. Like poking on an infected wound.
And I promise you, when you have let them go and allowed yourself to heal, you will be ready for a new love. A love that matches you when and where you are at that time.
Don't give up! Be kind and loving, kind and understanding towards yourself. If you love yourself you can receive love also. As within so without.
Massive hug from Stockholm, Sweden! 🤗 Sixteen is a vulnerable and emotionally tumultous time in a persons life. But it gets easier. Trust me. I was sixteen myself when you were born (I'm 32 now) so I have had all of your lifetime so far to see that that statement actually is true. Something I didn't believe when I was your age. Life gets easier when you have lived it for a while. So stay in the game 🐒😊👍
My goodness.. I feel this so much. Im typing this with teary eyes
I just found out about your channel and its literally so relatable. I hope you're doing okay, but holy me are you my carbon copy?
I dont have anything helpful to say.. The longer I watch the harder it is to think 😭 Just don't lose hope 🤍
I'm sorry to hear about that. And also hi, I'm new to this channel.
Hello. There's so much to say about this but a lot is based on assumptions because I don't know you. First, I absolutely believe you're able to love at your age. I have seen many examples of it. But just like everything else, it takes practice. At your age, you and your boyfriend are going on journey of discovery and learning. You're two different people so you two may focus on different things. While your love may be strong, you may love differently. Someone may be happy just knowing in their heart they love someone and another person wants to be that couple that others look at and wish they had what you have. Neither one of you have done anything wrong, just different. There nothing wrong with that, but you both have to do what's you each feels is best for yourselves. Not to scare you but if your boyfriend has mentioned this break, maybe it is a little more than just a thought. It may be a good idea though. At the moment, your minds are in two different places. You can't force yourselves to just accept something you're not comfortable accepting. It will cause problems later. If you two can't come up with a solution you're both happy with, then maybe taking a break from each other is the right thing to do. In the end you have to do what's best for you.
Things will get better for you soon Leon, don't give up. I know how you feel, I'm currently in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend. He's in India and I'm in the US. It's really hard and takes a lot of work, we've had talks similar to what you had with your boyfriend. We actually broke up for months because the timing was wrong but we still loved each other dearly. We stayed really close friends and finally got back together in July. Anyway, i hope you and this person you love work things out. Sending you love, from a fellow teenager with anxiety who overthinks everything 😭
I agree thing will get better soon for him it is a matter of time
You are a very wise person but realise this, relationships are extremely emotionally intense when you’re a young man. Nobody can take these intense emotions away, it is normal. I think feeling isolated with nobody to talk to exacerbates these feelings. This won’t be the first or last time you will experience that love often hurts. Find someone you can talk to it often helps sharing problems. And finally keep communication open with them and support each other moving forward whatever they want at this time.
I'm so happy you acually ended up posting this video no matter how hurtful it must have been. Because at least you can show other people that they are not alone and possibly also find people who will support you in this situation as well. I mean I would say it's definitely horrible how only one of you is committed, but I think what they said was genuine and maybe giving it some time could work. Since maybe they will learn to love themselves first and get over their fears. I really hope it works out for you! Love your content 😋
Loving someone who has trouble loving themselves and as such cannot be fully receptive to love is a really painful experience. I'm in the middle of something similar myself. Stay strong and I wish you the best of luck. You're a kind soul and deserve to be happy.
I want to hug u ❤
You know exactly what love is, hun. I am so sorry to hear that you're going through this. I know it's hard but you both are valid in expressing your feelings. Hang in there! ♥
Unbreakable Stud❌
Unbreakable John Connor✅
Yes I think he also looks like John Connor in Terminator 2, he should grow his hair like in the movie. Alcohol and drugs don't help, after using Edward FURLONG as an object at 14, it was a disaster for him. He had no one to take him in hand and show him the right path but they only took advantage of him. Imposing a behavioral study to be a parent like for nannies in France wouldn't hurt. I notice a lot of abused children who end up leaving the parental home around 18 and become prey for society.
As long as he doesn't age like him. Have you seen Edward Furlong lateley? 😳
@@jimmywait74 No i haven't heard about him from long time ago
@@terminator2judgmentday30th4 You're name is termitator2judgementday and you don't know about Edward Furlong?
@@jimmywait74 I didn't say i don't know who is Edward Furlong i said i didn't heard about him from long time ago. Of course i know who is Edward Furlong John Connor in Terminator 2 as we all know. After Terminator In 1992 he played in Pet Sematary 2 and Edward Norton's brother Danny Vinyard in American History X (1998)
I know how u feel ,same thing happened with me,all was good with my BF then he said he needed time to think about what he wanted ,and he also said he found it hard to commit to a relationship, in the end we broke up, It might be a good idea to go somewhere quite and tell God everything, his the one person you can tell everything to,its ok to struggle with your religion,just know God will never leave u,and things have a way of sorting themselves out, I will pray for u,it will get better,just know u are not alone🙏
Life is a series of tests. When you set someone free time, tell a lot. If they come back, it's usually for a lifetime. If they stay gone, then it's for the best .
If it’s love, it will endure the test of time
I’m not the best at this, I’m younger than you by a few months and I haven’t even been in a relationship yet, but I have experienced my fair share of times I felt lonely and basically broken… usually a friend would help me, or I would listen to music, specifically Tom Petty, something cheerful basically
That is big from somebody so young. I am alone as well, but older, in my sixties.. thing is communication is key to a relationship, to know the person and have a good time, but sometimes when people suffer for love , another part of you wake up and look to turn the negatives into positives. It's all in our minds. I wish you love , but in the meantime, enjoy, no matter what.
@@juanquintana6070 thanks
Play the song hold on. It'll be all right
Oooohhhh darling🥺.
I almost cried, because this is sooo recognizable to me.
Remember, even though your only 16 and alottttttt can and will still happen… It’s better to have loved once than to have never loved at all❤️❤️❤️.
Long distance relationships are hard to maintain. Getting this off your chest is the best thing . Hopefully youre NOT TOO far apart. Ive been in a similar situations. The best thing you can do is to stay in touch with each other snd and keep communicating. Youll get through this. AND dont give up on GOD. I hope the best for you two .
off topic but I never noticed your eyes, they are so beautiful❤
I understand you're unhappy but remember you will always hit brick walls in your life but you will find a solution to get through the wall. Maybe try have some time alone with your favourite song and think about why you love him and what youd be feeling if you didn't know him. How would you feel and who is the best person in your life who you can talk to and discuss what your feelings are and how you actually feel about this. You have a great comfort group and they'll help you with ways to cope.
1:12 seen many times before. He has eyes on someone else or a relationship forming elsewhere thats closer to him. It’s usually how ld relationships end. Best make it easier and break up rather than on a break, because that break is never gonna end. He will move on and u will be the one suffering in the end. Postpone is another way of saying i want something/ someone else without actually saying it.
Very hard to do, However let me suggest take the pause yet be there as a friend that cares. It sounds like this person may be going through some struggles and needs a friend they can trust and talk too more then a partner. Ignore those whom say with your age you don't understand love. I have seen youth young as 9 understand love better then an older adult. As far as your walk with religion. As a minister I can say in time if it is meant to be you will connect with god. Not having a connection with god does not make you less of a person. I have a very strong relationship with the youth I work with for three simple reasons. 1)I'm not a preacher. I am a listener. 2)When asked for advise I give both spiritual advice as well as my personal advice. Then I stand by them as they find the right path for themselves.3)Regardless of a youths religions beliefs I am there without judgement. You are an awesome one in a million youth with a great talent to think with your head and your heart. Trust me you will make mistakes and bad chooses from time, However your intelligent enough to admit and correct it. Thank you again for what you do for your fellow peers and at times us adults.
🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗 you need a biiiiiiiiig hug and a virtual hot chocolate...your feelings are pure and it hurts...sometime you just need a at least virtual hug...
you are so fucking GOOD, really ! this how life goes could say alot but......blah blah blah I`m sure you`ll get lots advice, sometimes life just sucks.
hang in there big guy things will get better.
I’m so sorry that happened to you. I hope your partner learns to love themself.
To be able to capture your love and attention? They deserve it.
Based on your messages, they seem really remorseful for their emotions and feelings.
I’m sure they love you just as much as you love them. Speaking of which, it’s incredible to just know that you’re truly in love at such an age.
I have a feeling that they’re just as in love as you are. They probably just don’t know how to handle their feelings and emotions. They might just feel an emotion that’s overwhelming and assume that it’s… wrong or off.
I’m sure once everything calms down for the both of you, your relationship will be stable again.
I wish a lifetime of happiness for you both. Sending love and support from Indiana!
Amazon, used cheap book. Grab that, nobody gets educated in love relationships. We just wing it. If we think we have it figured out. We are wrong. Keep making same bads. Quick little read. I thoght wow if only we got this explained proor to relationships we would benefit much. For myself this read changed up to feel confident to go for another relationship. Though can certainly work to staying successfully in current one. " How Relationships End, and How To Live Through the Ending" simple shit that as well gives awareness to current love relationship.
So sorry for the pain you are experiencing bro, you are the only one that will work out what to do. Your channel is going to be really successful as their is nothing fake about you. Your pure and thats what people love. Stay strong, keep being raw. Wish you every possible success with everything you do. Good luck. 🙏 ❤
Some unsolicited advice, please don't read on if you don't want this strangers advice. One of the most important, if not the most important, things in a relationship is honesty. I believe you need to be honest with him about how you feel while acknowledging that how he feels is just as important and legitimate, neither of you are simply wrong or right you just have different views. Agreeing with him so as not to hurt him but by doing so hurting yourself may, in the long term, lead to you holding some deep down resentment towards him for your hurt and that is not healthy for either of you. Being honest up front may hurt in the near term but the honesty, vulnerability and understanding of each others feelings will lead to both of you being stronger in the end whether it is together or not.
Don't be too hard on yourself, Leon. Plenty of people overthink things, not for a few hours, but for their entire lives!
Sorry you had a rough day. If this relationship doesn’t work out then someone even better will come along. You are very attractive inside and out. Also I am a bi Christian so I know what a challenge it is. I pray things get better for you !
Don't suffer for long. Keep looking around. You might meet in person in a couple of years anyway. You're lovely.
Deine Gefühle sind rein und ... es tut weh.❤🩹
Just move on mate. I know it's hard but it's manageable.
I would say to this person: “Look, before we actually agreed to be together we both knew it was going to be hard being in a long distance relationship. Are we going to give up now? Already? Just a few days later? Let’s prove to ourselves and to each other that our love is strong and beautiful and can withstand the difficulty of being long distance. If our love is pure and genuine then we need to be strong and continue. Let’s not be half-hearted or weak. Love between two people even if they live together or nearby to each other can be difficult. These are tests to see how much love you feel for each other”. We all have our own difficulties in a love relationship. Yours is the fact that it is long distance. Others might have work or health problems or addictions. But these obstacles don’t mean they have the power to end or postpone the relationship. Both of you, work at it. Be determined and strong. You will gain rewards from the investment you put into the relationship. It will be worthwhile in the end.
Relationships are hard bro, take your time
It s hard to find someone that deserve us, people just want to live and have fun, empty lives... what could we do? Keep true to ourselves
@@GuilhermeOliveira-ii1ojYou are right but that is SO hard to accept!
@@johnryan3913 it is but get us free. Never accept less than u deserve. Mutch better alone than in a weak relationship. Protect your mental health, it realy easy to lost ourselves into pain because off a broken hart. I know believe me.🫡
I've been in ur shoes before im 16 and not to long ago my bf broke up with me cuz of the distance I would say youre lucky cuz its just postpone and It does hurt all the time and Its much harder being a seventh day Adventist Christian
First off, you've done nothing wrong. Through the videos I've seen of you, you seem like such a genuinely caring, loving, and kind person. Also, I personally do not believe you should feel shitty uploading about this. We are here for YOU. But anyways, I'm so sorry to hear this is happening to you. I hope both you and your other person are able to take care of yourselves in this moment.
(PS, I also overthink and overstress every single action of mine. Literally just started my new job earlier this week and I'm already off training and having to work overnight alone for a few days so AHHGHGH.)
Leon I just want to say youre an amazing person and Im experiencing the same sort of thing bc I'm in a relationship I dont wanna be in anymore
I would tell this person that you wish to remain friends. That way you will still be in his life as a friend. Good luck
Leon my Friend. My heart goes out to you. As a person of almost 70 who remembers the torment of 16, I will say this. God is faithful even when we are not. God is patient beyond belief. God answers prayer even when the answer may not be what we want to hear. For now just accept that He has moved in the hearts of countless people watching you here. I am praying He comforts you and helps you to focus on how much of life lies ahead. I pray He brings people into your path that have helpful ideas you can see the truth of. If God did not Love you deeply He would not have moved my heart as He has. When I speak of Love, it is what is described in 1 Corinthians 13. You are a diamond in the rough my Friend being cut and polished to your ultimate brilliance. It sucks, it hurts, it's the worst thing you've ever felt, but you will persevere and emerge stronger and wiser. You're not alone, Leon, 1 Corinthians 13, you are Loved. Take care of yourself.
I would pose a couple observations. Take them with a grain of salt but think about them. Your relationship is still very new and for you to love someone this much over such a short period of time isn't necessarily bad, however, love needs time to develop. When I was growing up, we called it puppy love when it was so intense right away.
I ask this - is it love or the idea of love? Believe me, I'm not criticizing. I have been there. Humans have an inherent desire to be with another. We want our soul mate. I realized I have had a couple relationships where I was with them because I wanted to help them be more and help them with their internal demons. In the end it actually harmed me. lesson learned.
Secondly, you are struggling with your belief in God. You should ask yourself what it is you expect from God. Do you want Him to fix everything and make everything great for you and others or do you want to follow His word as best you can and go to heaven? It is a difficult introspection that many of us need to face. God isn't there to make everything right in the world, at least not right now. Our belief in God has to be much deeper than our own mortal desires.
I love ya, Leon. I'm not going to pick at you for what you're feeling because your feelings are relevant. I just wanted to give some outside perspective from ones own experiences and maybe give you some things to think about
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I feel your pain Leon. They say all good things come to those that wait but that probably won’t ease your hurt. You clearly love this person (a 16 year olds love is every bit as real and valid as a 26 year olds) so any relationship you have together for now is infinitely better than none at all. As always, talk things through with them (not via text or IM) and be as honest as you can be about your feelings. I wish you all the luck and happiness in the world.
Do not dwell on yesterday, for it has passed. Do not fear the future, it has yet to arrive. Live for the now, for that is where we all live.
I wish you the best.
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Damn that F'N Sucks, Luv You Leon Your Awesome , My Friend 😊❤🎉
You will go through times when you don't know what to do with yourself. Religion is a lie. Do your research. Science is your so called savior. Love all humans! You got this! 🎉🎉
I am so sorry :( Long distance relationships are just so difficult. Don't feel bad for making the vid, I think it helps to get things out and not keep them bottled up inside, plus you can hear different viewpoints. From my viewpoint, I would stay friends with them since you both definitely care about each other. And then maybe at some point down the road you can both give it another try, or just remain friends and be there for each other when you both need somebody to turn to. As for religion, don't beat yourself up about having trouble believing in God at times, that is completely understandable. My little brain has so much trouble wrapping my head around the idea of how the world was created, lol. I want to believe in God but some days it is more difficult than others. You are an amazing person, I hope you realize that.
I tell people of all ages the same thing all the time: Relationships are hard. I think you realize that distance makes that even more difficult. Many times it can be good to talk out those issues - what seems like a no win possible situation is not always so. Hang in there - you have a lot of time still at your age. Give each other the space to grow as human being - tough as that can be
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I love how vulnerable you're being on here. It takes a kind soul and a genuine heart to be so open. You seem like a really amazing person. ❤❤♥️ I subscribed yesterday after your touching story. I fear I'll never end up regretting it.
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Everyone has been there. I know about the over thinking etc. I can say with total certainty that on several occasions in similar circumstances I would have ended up way better off if I had just moved on. At the time, I was not capable of it, and I kept trying to figure out how to fix it or fix me or whatever. But all that was wrong. The truth is that the younger you are the more likely others your age are going to be incapable of being true friends. A true friend is loyal, and I found that to be an incredibly rare thing. So what is the best thing? Find other folks and consistently expose yourself to them, and see what shakes out. Over time, two things will happen. One is you will find friends and they will likely turn out to have been right under your nose. And two you will learn that life is a lot of alone time, and you will find more and more satisfaction in that as well.
You’re both very young you need more time more understanding to translate your feelings more clearer and understand each other because love is compromise on both sides love is also a choice you give and take as much as you took if they don’t match any of this then this person is probably not into you or they’re weighting their options with someone else on the side besides you. You should talk it out further ask the actual reasons why is this happening and when did it start and how did it get to this because you were both very much beyond ok about this not so long ago….
Leon, you are lovely, thoughtful caring young guy. Love can hurt like hell. Hang on in there. You have lots of us who love you as a person and want to support you.
You ALWAYS have us to talk to. ALWAYS.
It’s hard when people are indecisive about a relationship, but I’ve always found that it’s better to back off in that case. Just assume for now that he is not available and be open to other opportunities. You can’t depend on someone who doesn’t know what they want: not that he’s a bad guy, buy it’s not fair to you. Perhaps he will be ready one day, and then you can start over, if you are still free. You can’t make someone ready and willing, they have to get there on their own.
It sounds like they've put you in an impossible spot. You should just tell them how you feel starting exactly at 2:11 and ending at 2:39 "From what you suggest, the emotions I am experiencing ... it hurts to read it and I feel this is just a lose / lose situation no matter if I agree or don't. So let's not put this on hold." If they love you they'll agree. If they end it, then you can move on. No matter what I suggest don't be their prisoner in love.
Wise words, and sound advice.