I went to Al-anon twenty years ago because I am an adult child. Now I am back because I love an alcoholic. Your story gives me hope to really heal this time around ♥️
Mary this was so valuable to me today. I have been in 2 alcoholic marriages- the 2nd one he found sobriety and we are now friends. Like many others in the comments- now it’s my son who is doing a battle with alcohol and unfortunately I’d slipped out of the program and made comments about his addiction. Now we’re at war - but not for long. A therapist today reconnected me to my AlAnon family even if only via RUclips- this turned my life and my story around. Thank you for your many faceted story . . .
Alanon is NOT about expecting someone else to get better. I've been coming to Alanon since 1990. Back then, there was a primary focus on the 12 steps of recovery to solve MY dilemma. I lacked the Power to make appropriate decisions. I couldn't accept my family just as they were. I withheld love for the alcoholics in my life, believing they were weak. These, and more, dominated my feelings. I needed to exert myself all the more, to get YOU to see where I was right - and YOU were wrong, and NEEDED to be corrected. The 12 steps of recovery, all by themselves, and living the principles therein, was all I needed to begin to recover.
Even though healing through alAnon gave me awareness and boundaries it took me awhile (and 2 more relationships) to finally attract a healthy lasting relationship! just be aware that old habits die hard!
I cried and laughed; heard my problem over and over while my tears were being poured out to my new Hp. Al-Anon came into my heart 6 months ago; I found the whys and hows I’ve been needing for 50 years❤️my heart is growing up, growing beyond circumstance, growing in ways that prove miracles do happen. Alanon 🏡 ❤️gave me back me with a guiding, comforting, creator who gives me 🎁 the gift of serenity, acceptance, courage, and wisdom.❤
When she started talking about her childhood, I had to fight the tears. I knew my childhood was not ideal. I knew my dad abused my mom (verbally and emotionally...I suspect physically but never saw that), but often thought "well, my childhood was much better than a lot of people's so...." or "I had every physical need and more, so..." But, I have since learned that just my dad being so hateful to my mom and to us sometimes really, really took a toll on me. I love my dad, but I finally lost my idealistic thinking about him. I thought for years of how he was doing better and he is calmer now than when I was a child (I'm 54) but even just 4 years ago (right before my mom died) he was still mean to her. He wasn't doing anything that could get him arrested, but just looking at her with pure hate in his eyes ...criticizing the way she held her fork... being frustrated that she couldn't hear that well, etc I finally told my dad some thoughts. I have told him that "unless someone fits in your narrow box of acceptable behavior you want to criticize them." I've put boundaries in place and told him some of them. I no longer care what he thinks of me. I finally set myself free.
Mary- love this talk. Have been in Al Anon for two years but other 12 step for going on 8yrs. Emotional sobriety and paths to recovery are additional resources. Grateful for this share.
I feel like we lose ourselves while taking care of the addict. I was just barely making it out of depression and then my son becomes an alcoholic. I'm so scared it's going to cause me to stop taking care of my own mental health.
I know I'm afraid to have a long term relationship. I never married and have only had 3 relationships. One was 5 years and the two other less than a year. I will ONLY stay in a relationship if I feel safe. I would rather be living under a bridge than with an addict or abuser.
Thank you Mary! I’m hère in Montreal, 21 ans with him...! When i met him, hé was sober! You describe exactly my Life! 🙏🏻😇🤗❤️😘So precise....yes me Beethoven and him rock and roll! 😀🙏🏻🤗😇❤️🌻💫🦋And hé is born here in Montréal, but Irish roots...so similar all. Thank you Mary, i understand more, after listening to you ! 💝
Listen here and get the literature in the meantime. it's been a year, so i hope you're working the steps...EVEN IF SINGLE AGAIN -if we don't recover, we marry another alcoholic...
Anonymity, for the speaker and those in the audience. (Tradition 12: Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our Traditions, ever reminding us to place principles above personalities.) Plus, what does it matter what she looks like? She may be more relatable to more people when we don't know what she looks like, or how she dresses, etc.
We can't choose our family but we can choose how much we let them into our lives. Sometimes the hardest thing is to accept and set boundaries with family. Short answer NO you don't have to allow that.
Thank you for your story. I am a member of the Winter Holiday Convention Committee of Distrust 9, Area 04 Alcoholics Anonymous in Arkansas and would love to talk to you about possibly speaking at our convention in February. How might we contact you?
Try not to beat yourself up -there are some awesome ways children are influenced also. In Al-Anon we learn the character traits (if taken too far)turn into flaws. Flip side to everything -so do your best most of the time and be good to yourself❤
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This video literally changed my life. I cant thank you enough for giving me my life back.
I went to Al-anon twenty years ago because I am an adult child. Now I am back because I love an alcoholic. Your story gives me hope to really heal this time around ♥️
Mary this was so valuable to me today. I have been in 2 alcoholic marriages- the 2nd one he found sobriety and we are now friends. Like many others in the comments- now it’s my son who is doing a battle with alcohol and unfortunately I’d slipped out of the program and made comments about his addiction. Now we’re at war - but not for long. A therapist today reconnected me to my AlAnon family even if only via RUclips- this turned my life and my story around. Thank you for your many faceted story . . .
So I needed this. Thank you. Helping me through a rough night. Slowly finding strength to heal.
Alanon is NOT about expecting someone else to get better. I've been coming to Alanon since 1990. Back then, there was a primary focus on the 12 steps of recovery to solve MY dilemma. I lacked the Power to make appropriate decisions. I couldn't accept my family just as they were. I withheld love for the alcoholics in my life, believing they were weak. These, and more, dominated my feelings. I needed to exert myself all the more, to get YOU to see where I was right - and YOU were wrong, and NEEDED to be corrected.
The 12 steps of recovery, all by themselves, and living the principles therein, was all I needed to begin to recover.
Even though healing through alAnon gave me awareness and boundaries it took me awhile (and 2 more relationships) to finally attract a healthy lasting relationship! just be aware that old habits die hard!
I cried and laughed; heard my problem over and over while my tears were being poured out to my new Hp. Al-Anon came into my heart 6 months ago; I found the whys and hows I’ve been needing for 50 years❤️my heart is growing up, growing beyond circumstance, growing in ways that prove miracles do happen. Alanon 🏡 ❤️gave me back me with a guiding, comforting, creator who gives me 🎁 the gift of serenity, acceptance, courage, and wisdom.❤
When she started talking about her childhood, I had to fight the tears. I knew my childhood was not ideal. I knew my dad abused my mom (verbally and emotionally...I suspect physically but never saw that), but often thought "well, my childhood was much better than a lot of people's so...." or "I had every physical need and more, so..."
But, I have since learned that just my dad being so hateful to my mom and to us sometimes really, really took a toll on me.
I love my dad, but I finally lost my idealistic thinking about him. I thought for years of how he was doing better and he is calmer now than when I was a child (I'm 54) but even just 4 years ago (right before my mom died) he was still mean to her. He wasn't doing anything that could get him arrested, but just looking at her with pure hate in his eyes ...criticizing the way she held her fork... being frustrated that she couldn't hear that well, etc
I finally told my dad some thoughts. I have told him that "unless someone fits in your narrow box of acceptable behavior you want to criticize them."
I've put boundaries in place and told him some of them. I no longer care what he thinks of me. I finally set myself free.
Wow, im so greatful to be able to listen to this from the other side of the world. Thank you for service!
Mary- love this talk. Have been in Al Anon for two years but other 12 step for going on 8yrs. Emotional sobriety and paths to recovery are additional resources. Grateful for this share.
Thank you for sharing your story and for being here when I need to hear the message of recovery. God is so good!
I'm so glad! Thank you for being a part of hope and healing!!!!
Thank you I don’t know how to love myself yet but I’ve just started to go to Al Anon and I’m willing to try.
I feel like we lose ourselves while taking care of the addict. I was just barely making it out of depression and then my son becomes an alcoholic. I'm so scared it's going to cause me to stop taking care of my own mental health.
❤BEWARE ...it happens when we're not careful!❤️
After 35 years, Just beginning to listen to these stories Yours sounds very familiar. Thanks for sharing.
I know I'm afraid to have a long term relationship. I never married and have only had 3 relationships. One was 5 years and the two other less than a year.
I will ONLY stay in a relationship if I feel safe. I would rather be living under a bridge than with an addict or abuser.
Thank you Mary! I’m hère in Montreal, 21 ans with him...! When i met him, hé was sober! You describe exactly my Life! 🙏🏻😇🤗❤️😘So precise....yes me Beethoven and him rock and roll! 😀🙏🏻🤗😇❤️🌻💫🦋And hé is born here in Montréal, but Irish roots...so similar all. Thank you Mary, i understand more, after listening to you ! 💝
Thank you very much. I needed every word. Blessings.
Thank you Truly blessed
What an amazing story! Thanks for sharing
I am a codependent and an alcoholic. Oh, well…
❤..ok..and you are loved!❤
Me too! Over a year sober from alcohol. I started in AA❤
44:00 mark, I get to heal. And rest and heal.
Yes yes yes love it Joy!!!!
I love this… the right to heal for my own self-preservation.
What a beautiful story. I can absolutely relate to
Thank you for sharing your message. I so need this. Need to find a group.
Listen here and get the literature in the meantime. it's been a year, so i hope you're working the steps...EVEN IF SINGLE AGAIN -if we don't recover, we marry another alcoholic...
Why arent these videos showing the person. I dont like just seeing this picture. Much more meaningful when you see the person
Anonymity, for the speaker and those in the audience. (Tradition 12: Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our Traditions, ever reminding us to place principles above personalities.) Plus, what does it matter what she looks like? She may be more relatable to more people when we don't know what she looks like, or how she dresses, etc.
Sending everyone lotsa love, health, wealth, abundance, miracle, safety, security and healing lights💖💖💖
What a great speaker!
Thank you for your truth. I’m new to this again, ..
beautiful and touching
Powerful. Thank you
Thank you Mary 🙏🏽
We put stuff in freezer after sprinkling it...THEN we heated up the iron..😅
Do we have to stay around adult relative's who curse you in your face and yell F word in your face.
We can't choose our family but we can choose how much we let them into our lives. Sometimes the hardest thing is to accept and set boundaries with family. Short answer NO you don't have to allow that.
Make a safe space- set emotional boundaries-you are worth it!! No one has the right to verbally abuse you.
Thank you for your story. I am a member of the Winter Holiday Convention Committee of Distrust 9, Area 04 Alcoholics Anonymous in Arkansas and would love to talk to you about possibly speaking at our convention in February. How might we contact you?
When adults and children mix, little ears listen to big mouths..
Try not to beat yourself up -there are some awesome ways children are influenced also. In Al-Anon we learn the character traits (if taken too far)turn into flaws. Flip side to everything -so do your best most of the time and be good to yourself❤
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Beautiful 😊
This story is about me)))
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Great message but hard to laugh during this difficult time
Blessings everyone GREAT WATCH HERE FOR EVERYONE... "FROM EVOLUTIONIST TO CREATIONIST" BY PROFESSOR WALTER VEITH BEAUTIFUL TRUE AMAZING POWERFUL INSPIRING STORY FROM SOUTH AFRICA YOU TUBE ENJOY BEAUTIFUL WATCH 🙏🏿😄❤️
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Please tell me this isnt another degrading speech to those with a caregiver heart and spirit
Individual perceptions. Free too choose 🪻
Thanks so much for sharing your experience strength and hope.. i am going back to alanon!!🌟