Ann Marie R. - Family Recovery Speaker - "Learning to detach with love"
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- Опубликовано: 15 июл 2014
- If you have ever dealt with someone you love being in the grips of alcoholism, then you know what a tremendous and often daunting challenge it can be. In this very inspirational share, Ann Marie R. tells her story, and most importantly, emphasizes the hope and healing that can come from the twelve steps!
It is important to note there are several ways for one to address his or her alcohol abuse treatment. Substance abuse is a very serious condition and has become an epidemic in today's world. Many people suffering with substance abuse need treatment, such as inpatient stays, rehab, or counseling. The importance and purpose of this video, and all our other videos, is to show that recovery IS possible and to give hope to those who are struggling with alcohol and drug addiction issues. Help IS out there!
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What an awesome message! I've been sober for 37 years now and glad to be still growing and teachable! Thank you for your beautiful message!
Hello Jeff, Awww Thanks for the compliment and for listening. We are all growing, happy we are doing it together. Congratulations on 37 years and to "keep coming back" Grateful for the Long timers and those who have walked before us. What A Blessing! Big Hug!
I am 38 in a month. I’ll be 1.5 years sober then too. God bless the rooms and all who share.
I've been in recovery for almost 4 years now and I have not experienced things "from the other side", until recently. At this point, I know myself well enough to know this won't be the first or last Alanon video I listen to. Addicts, and people in addictive relationships, can unfortunately withstand extreme amounts of pain for extended periods of time before they hit the breaking point. Thanks for the words of comfort.
Your so very welcome Sarah, Congratulations on 4 years! Keep Coming Back!
Sarah Ventura yup. Our strength is our weakness. And our weakness will become our strength.
I went to an Al-anon meeting in a church to explain what is addiction and to confirm my theory that liars fool liars. Liars reject the truth. Victimism runs in families. Partners of addicts act out the role of martyr, believe the addict is a victim and want others to believe the same. The tragedy of addiction is children who revenge a childhood hurt, or trauma, against their parents becoming victims of themselves so as to conceal the hatred to hurt others. The attendees didn’t even show any interest or reaction after saying that i am a recovering addict and i claim i can prove i have discovered the cure to addiction. It is convenient to not accept responsibility for the upbringing of your own children who revenge an unhappy, hurtful childhood believing the absurdity that addiction is a disease of the brain. Even when the truth would save their children parents of addicts persist lying.
Why does listening to you, make me cry?!!! My life has been affected by alcoholism! I love my fiancé so much. He gave me my children. But damn....... I’m so hurt! And I’m not happy anymore. Nor do I think I’m in love
Thank you for your tears of empathy Krysta, how beautiful that we can relate to one other . . . What A Blessing! I've found the more I got busy in my own life and focused on taking care of myself. The things around me started to change, because my attitude and my thinking was changing and growing little by little each day. The most important thing I learned in Al-anon was how to Love Myself! Staying in the "Do's & Don't" Getting hobbies, recreation, doing fun things. Remember it's One Day At A Time. Big Hug!
I went to an Al-anon meeting in a church to explain what is addiction and to confirm my theory that liars fool liars. Liars reject the truth. Victimism runs in families. Partners of addicts act out the role of martyr, believe the addict is a victim and want others to believe the same. The tragedy of addiction is children who revenge a childhood hurt, or trauma, against their parents becoming victims of themselves so as to conceal the hatred to hurt others. The attendees didn’t even show any interest or reaction after saying that i am a recovering addict and i claim i can prove i have discovered the cure to addiction. It is convenient to not accept responsibility for the upbringing of your own children who revenge an unhappy, hurtful childhood believing the absurdity that addiction is a disease of the brain. Even when the truth would save their children parents of addicts persist lying.
Leave. Narcissism is the real issue. Not alcohol and drugs.
Ann Marie, my deepest thanks. WHAT A BLESSING! A 12 step sister.
Your so very welcome Anjie, mmy dear 12 Sista !
Thank you Sista! Right back at you Anjie! Create a beautiful day!
I went to an Al-anon meeting in a church to explain what is addiction and to confirm my theory that liars fool liars. Liars reject the truth. Victimism runs in families. Partners of addicts act out the role of martyr, believe the addict is a victim and want others to believe the same. The tragedy of addiction is children who revenge a childhood hurt, or trauma, against their parents becoming victims of themselves so as to conceal the hatred to hurt others. The attendees didn’t even show any interest or reaction after saying that i am a recovering addict and i claim i can prove i have discovered the cure to addiction. It is convenient to not accept responsibility for the upbringing of your own children who revenge an unhappy, hurtful childhood believing the absurdity that addiction is a disease of the brain. Even when the truth would save their children parents of addicts persist lying.
I really wish I knew how Ann Marie R is doing. I would love to tell her she’s been a true blessing. I’ve listened this several time 🙏🏽 Thank you!
Hello Ann Reyna, What A Blessing YOU are! So happy to be on this journey with you. By the way I'm doing just fine. Have my own place, life is good Staying safe during this uncertain times and going to zoom meetings Truly a grateful heart. Be well & Take Care of yourself. BIG Hug!
Ann Marie Ravens I’m so happy to hear that your doing good. Congratulations on your own place. That’s so exciting!
Want to share that I’ve attended my first NarAnon zoom meeting tonight. I know, I know we NarAnon people don’t follow the rules....😂😂 you had me laughing and crying the whole time.
Thank you for being real it’s helped me so much to make the change for myself.
Much love and be safe spreading the love.
@annmarieravens3071 Your talk impacted so much as a newcomer. I've now been in program five years and the words, "What a blessing" came to me through my husband of 28 years losing his sanity, divorcing me, selling my home of 20 years, having my son move out on his own, and now living with an Al-Anon friend for a sort time. God only knows what's next. Thank you for showing me how to work my program and keeping my sanity. ❤ What a blessing!
Thank you for your truth.
Thank you to YOU Noreen, Much Appreciated BIG Hug!
Marvelous...
humbling...
I needed it.
So happy to hear it! Keep Coming Back!
I've listened to this recording a few times this past month. Thank you for sending hope in me. What a blessing
Your so very welcome, much appreciated. Blessings to you!
Been in al-anon 27years and what a wonderful and exciting journey loved every minute and I thank God
Thank you to YOU! Congratulations on 27 yrs What A Blessings!
Thank you so so much Ann Marie, and everyone 💖 this was the best first allanon meeting I could have ever attended. My atmosphere was perfect and your story and personality was amazing! 👏 💜 I see now I have been missing this all along. 😇 No wonder why my mother never told me to attended one of these meetings, hahaha. 😉😄😁 anyway I have been tripping over going to visit her on the 27th with my three young adhd and autistic children.man did I relate to ao much hearing your recording play again as I write this, how amazing I even was raised by Italian alcoholics, and a Texan alcoholic and I am apparently of strong Irish alcoholic origins and my dad adopted me at birth due to my alcoholic mother having an affair with her alcoholic college professor, yes I can call them all these things because they are all in aa now too and identify.. well except for my adopted family... either way, I am sharing with you that I am finding the nearest and soonest local allanon meeting to attend tomorrow morning. 🤗🤗🤗 and messaging my aa sponsor to share the exciting news of my recent self discovery and discovery of your audio. Thank you again so much, thank you for giving me the motivation to get I to a real allanon meeting stat.
Katherine, Welcome to Al-anon and the first day of the rest of your life you never have to be alone! You are so so welcome! Thank you for your kind words I really appreciate it. What A Blessing! Know you are not alone you've got a huge family here in Al-anon. We will love you until you can love yourself! Thank you for sharing Big Hug to you! Keep Coming Back!
Im going to get out, get up, and help people like us. Thanks so much to whoever recorded this and put it up, bless you
Blessing to you Yabba Dabble! Have a wonderful day.
Ann Marie! I’d love to invite you to speak at Louisiana’s 50th annual Virtual convention. It is being held on Saturday, October 28, 2023. I first heard your talk at the beginning of my recovery journey 7 years ago. I love it even more now. So…I can share my contact information if you’d like to talk more about the possibility. Our theme is “Living, Laughing, and Loving in Louisiana.”
Hello Denise, Just getting this now, my apologies. I'd loved to be of service and speak in Louisiana. I'm humbled and grateful to be asked, Thank you! Let try again. Hope all went well at the convention. Big Hug Thanks for thinking of me.
What a blessing! I will take that for me
What an example of working a program with self and others I loved every word you said the level of acceptance of reality was profound and very spiritual be sure I’ll use your talk to work with self and others thank you for your life.❤🦋 I hope I could meet in a conference sometime soon.
This is amazing! Ty! Hope your still doing well! Would love to hear your 5 year update! Stay amazing
Hey Dawn Your Welcome! Up Date... I'm doing well, Life is good. Staying in gratitude everyday and counting my blessing. God is good. Attending Zoom meetings Just celebrated 31 years in program. And continuing to be of service. Keep coming back & Thanks for listening! Stay Safe and Be Well BIG Hug
@@annmarieravens3071 Solo por hoy....
What a blessing ! I turned this om just as I felt like I was going to fall off the edge of the abyss. It is a wonderful thing to know that you ate not alone.
You are definitely not alone Robin! Happy to be walking this journey with you! What A Blessing!
Me too
Sometimes the cape gets heavy. WE got this ❤🦸♀️
I went to an Al-anon meeting in a church to explain what is addiction and to confirm my theory that liars fool liars. Liars reject the truth. Victimism runs in families. Partners of addicts act out the role of martyr, believe the addict is a victim and want others to believe the same. The tragedy of addiction is children who revenge a childhood hurt, or trauma, against their parents becoming victims of themselves so as to conceal the hatred to hurt others. The attendees didn’t even show any interest or reaction after saying that i am a recovering addict and i claim i can prove i have discovered the cure to addiction. It is convenient to not accept responsibility for the upbringing of your own children who revenge an unhappy, hurtful childhood believing the absurdity that addiction is a disease of the brain. Even when the truth would save their children parents of addicts persist lying.
Thank you Annnn Marieee Raaaaaven! I have listened to this several times over the past few years of my recovery. I continue to return to it (and suggest to others) to find new nuggets: what a blessing/the he-hes/walking with grace and dignity/MY alcoholic/suit up and show up... Thank you for sharing your journey with humor and sincerity to better light the path for those who follow. I would love to hear you speak again if ever there is the opportunity. Love and light, sis
Thank you to YOU Katheryn, What A Blessing! Happy to be on this journey with you. Best Wishes BIG Hug!
@@annmarieravens3071 I came in desperation looking for some recovery on RUclips, it was quicker than finding a meeting online, I have worked 4 years for an alcoholic boss who just like that quicked me out, it felt so painful, I had him as a friend and his place was my family. Now I cannot believe that I too can be blessed and that not knowing where to live is not my biggest problem. I am so touched. Where is your meeting? Because I want to have what you have!
Oh my Goodness i havent laughed so hard in a long time, there were moments where you sounded just like Nanny Fran off the Nanny lol !!! Thank you Ann Marie for your beautiful message and the way you shared your journey thru Al Anon. Love in Al Anon ❤
Glad you enjoyed it!
Love right back to YOU! Big Hug and Keep Coming back!
I can’t thank you enough for taking the time to share your story. I listened twice and could hear you over and over. ❤️
Awww Danielle Bless your heart, How sweet are you. Your so very welcome. I'm truly grateful! Hope you are doing well and taking care of yourself! BIG Hug!
I have been thoroughly blessed listening to you Ann Marie, I have laughed, I have cried and I have learned and oh what a blessing that is. Thank you if you ever need a place to stay let me up I’m in Louisiana
What a wonderful invitation, Valynda, If ever I'm in Louisiana I'll definitely look you up Sista. Also for your kind words, you've touched my heart. Feeling Very Blessed Thank You !!!
Now that I have healed from codependency after four years of working hard at it i am now working on not having expectations its getting alot easier and not getting my feelings hurt by my sister in law and trying not to hurt her feelings either and I believe accepting her as she is not as I would like her to be will go along way in that for me.
Creston, I Love to DETACH - "Don't Even Think About Changing Him/Her" and keep the focus on myself, it keeps me out of trouble (LOL) and I just turn "Them" over to God "Let Go & Let God" Remember just like me, they are a child of God. Stay safe & Be Well and Keep Coming Back
Wonderful message. Thank you! "I don't know what the future holds, but I know who holds the future." / "There is a positive in every negative." what a blessing!
Thank you to you Ada, Life is a Blessing, so much to be grateful for appreciate your kind words!
@@annmarieravens3071loved it thank you
Wow!!! Thank you for sharing this Anne Marie! I listened to story a few times and will pass it on to my friends with love1 I love your wit, your sincerity, and your attitude ,What a blessing!
Thanks Susan You are a Blessing! And Thank you for passing the program along to others. I appreciate your sweet words, definitely will take that in, thank you. Stay Positive! And Keep Counting Your Blessings Big Hug!
It takes more than talent to convey such a powerful message of wisdom, hope and strength with humor and grace. Your speech struck a chord that still resonates with me like a Tibetan bell. Although I’m only three months in, you gave me the courage to release my emotional grip on my young adult children. I will be fine alone with my husband because I have my Al-Anon family. I don’t have to do this alone, EVER again! This is a HUGE blessing. You have my heart felt gratitude and I will spread your message and pay it forward. God love you! ♥️
God love YOU too Lily! Thank you for your kind words, I feel it in my heart. We are not alone, what a joy to be walking this journey with you and to be a part of this wonderful world wide fellowship . . . . What A Blessing! Create & Have a lovely day BIG Hug!
Awesome message😊
Thank you Sugarpie1608 Big Hug!
I need this so badly. From New Zealand
Hello Lizzi From New Zealand, What A Blessing to be walking this journey with you all the way on the other side. Big Hug!
I'm SOOOO LAUGHING😃😂😃😂 thanks for a Great meeting - 😂😂😂
Hey Angie, Your sooo welcome. Happy you had a good laugh, that makes me happy. Stay safe & Be Well and Keep Coming Back! BIG Hug
Gahhh! So happy I stumbled upon this speaker this morning. Ann Marie thank you for all of your wisdom, humor and validation. I loved the “don’t yuck on my yum” analogy because I can do relate!
Cass H Your so very welcome.Thank you to you! Have a Blessed Day! Yummo!
"what a blessing" 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
In every negative there is a positive
Love this! Especially the part about working the program at home. Learning so much and loving the process of trusting my Higher Power
So wonderful to hear the good news! God is good all the time. All the time God is good. Big Hug Jessica!
Boy I needed every little word of that! Thank you
Your sooo very welcome Coco! Big hug to you! Keep coming back!
THIS.
Thank you for sharing your story. I started my recovery this week.
Enjoyed it dearly! "Don't yuck on my yum."
Awww, Thank you Sandra! Much Appreciated! Create a Beautiful Day
I come back to this every time I get the "He Hes" 🥰
Hey Justine, Keeping the focus on myself & Taking care of my business really helps me out of the "He Hes" Thanks for sharing, Keep Coming Back!
It’s hard for me to sit and just listen. Done it all my life. I’ve learned a lot with God over the years. I have to throw it all away? I’ve done that BEFORE and paid a big price for it.
Listen with your heart . . . I have found that is the place where God dwells the most . . . In my heart, not my mind.
Thankyou so much it has helped me move forward in my growth need it so much thankyou
Your so welcome Kaye, Much Joy & Happiness on your Journey! BIG Hug!
I'm so needed to hear this. Thank you.
Your so very welcome Michael! Keep coming back!
Yay for alanon stories!!
Yes! I hear ya! I'm Truly Grateful!
The Hehe’s I can relate, the insanity is real! My first youtube watch thank you Ann Marie.
Yes Beverly yes it is, Congrats on your first youtube speaker. Thanks for listening, much appreciated! BIG Hug
What a blessing! Thanks for sharing.
YOU are SUCH a blessing 💓
Thank You for the reminders....Thank You for the laughs and most of all Thank You for the tears when it came to telling your sponsees parents loving truth and giving her that gift 🎁 on her way out/home.
And I understand what you mean about learning from her...all great teachers or mentors learn from their pupils.
And Especially the tears about breaking the news to your Mom .....have you ever not cried in so long that you feel it's time for a tear jerker movie???
I JUST said that earlier today but now I DON'T......THANK YOU.
What I love most about your story is all the moving around.
I moved 31 times by times I was 12 and never thought it was a problem except that I missed some friends and then after my parents divorced, I got moved around alot in and out of foster homes when my mom shipped me out a few weeks after I turned 13....I was Scared to death but I ALWAYS found the beauty and even when it was tough, it was always better then where I was tossed out of and It opened me up and expanded me versus having to always be contracted and make myself small or invisible at her house....You've reminded me of all this just now and How I used to ALWAYS see the silver lining like you and you have made me realize REAL EYES 👀 how I need to reconnect with her and do it minute to minute like I used to....any less than that isn't good enough for me and I have slipped away.....THANK YOU SO SO VERY MUCH.
You are most welcome Treeva, Sounds like you've had a crazy ride as well but YOU have survived! Congratulations! Good to laugh and cry, hopefully we get to laugh more then we cry. Don't forget your a child of GOD! Best Wishes to you, Keep coming back. BIG Hug!
It works! Grateful to have found serenity.
Me too A. Anfaani so very grateful, So blessed don't have time to be stressed! Have a peaceful and serene day!
Powerful share!
Thank you Kimberly! What A Blessing!
your words & experience inspired me greatly!
So happy they did . . . Thank you for letting me share and Thanks for listening!
"He, he, he, he, he, he..." 😁👈me
Wow,Thank you!
Your so very welcome! Thank-you for listening!
Beautiful message!!!
Very sweet of you to say Pamela, Thank you
Thank you
Your welcome Coco, Keep Coming Back
Don't yuk on my yum. So good. Thanks.
Your so welcome Jane. We've got to laugh and learn to keep it light & polite. Have a wonderful & blessed day.
As crestons wife I am a coda child of deaf adults that has enough codpendency issues try adding alcoholic father and a codependent mother thats a real trip. My parents are passed away. I look at my dads family tree my moms lots of control issues on my dads side and my grandpa widener was an alcoholic never got to know him he died shortly after I was born. My parents being deaf I had to interpret and I always felt I had to be there for him he didnt accept getting his own interpreter he tried and said no my mom same thing. My dads people act like they have it all together but they dont and keep it in the family never get outside help no wonder they are sick inside and out with food addiction etc. They have to much pride german pride. I never really had time to know myself with a controlling deaf alcholic father not to mention his people even more controlling and they dont even drink. My dad expected me to drop everything and do for him at times my dad was very independent except he expected me to interpret all the time. It wasnt till I got married that my husband you dont know yourself you need to know yourself too. I was a caretaker 4 years it took four years to stop being a care taker. Im thankful to Jesus and my husband for that healing.
Hello Creston Wife, What Courage! God Bless You! That's wonderful to hear that you stopped being a care taker. Hope you are celebrating YOU! Remember you are a child of God. Continue to keep moving forward . . . One step at a time & One Day at a Time. What A Blessing!
What’s YOUR name? Imagine identifying yourself as your name or a child of God not through who was your parent or spouse.
Omg my first !!! That had such power to me thank you.
This is wonderful 👍👍
Thank you!
That's makes me so happy, glad you enjoying it and got something out of it! Keep Coming Back!
It works if you work it!
I've been going to meetings for almost 2 years now ... not sure where I'd be .
Congratulations Brandon! Keep coming back!
She's great
Thank you Chloe, Much Appreciated! Hope you are well and Keeping safe during these times. BIG Hug
Thank's to NA my mom she's clean 12years ...
Congratulations to your Mom, That takes a lot of Courage. Also to YOU for walking into the room of Al-anon Wow! Courage! Lots of Courage, Keep Coming Back! Big Hug!
“The sign of someone working a good program is that your books are worn and you are not!”
Yes, indeed Amy. My books are falling apart but I'm Good! Hope your doing well and in good spirits!
that's a good statement! Maybe I should get me a book :)
@@MCConfuz Definitely would suggest getting a book, I started with One Day At A Time. Best Wishes! Keep Coming Back! Hugs!
Beauty at it's finest.
Awww, Thank you Master Andrew, What A Blessing! Very Much Appreciated!
There's a lot of thugged out rehabs in Cali too :)
Yes, I'm sure there are Curtis, happy that there's a place for people to find recovery . . . What A Blessing!
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Darn! Put the volume all the way up and I can't hear this😔
I only went to one conference several years ago , miss meetings Yes there is zoom and phone meetings but I just dont like them!!! Arrghh
Just keep coming back . . . This too shall pass . . . . It's part of history . . . Imagine in the future when you can share with a newcomer about this experience. Never ever did I think after 31 years in program that this is where I would be . . . On Zoom, How lucky are we! I've attended meetings all over . . . What A Blessing! Big Hug to You!
So were you an alcoholic? You mentioned that Edith said to you that staying at some house was not good for your recovery.
Hello Lenie, No, I'm Not in AA, Edith meant my Al-anon recovery. Protecting myself from the active drinker. Hope you are doing well during these uncertain times, Stay Safe and Be Well BIG Hug
Yeah but the prayer of the priest sent the other two.
What’s so FUNNY. About being in the position of being GRATEFUL for a shower? Never been there I guess.
Hello Kathy, I was recovering from a major car accident and had bandages all over so . . . I wasn't quite sure how I was going to shower . . . The Blessing . . . Liquid soap w/ a pump . . . It's the little things in life . . . What A Blessing
Thank you