Due to technical difficulties (i.e. being too lazy to shower) it's just audio this time. I will return when I've cleansed my body... and my sins. Well maybe not the sins part ~ Nathan
Only Jesus can do that for ya, Nathan. The sins part, that is. 🤣 ❤️ -ENFP (Yes, good luck understanding us. That's something we spend our entire lives trying to do - Understanding ourselves, and managing the chaos.) Thx for the cool ENFP vid.
I was just being really confused after seeing someone who believed they were INFJ for years get professionally typed as ISFJ. Is it possible I was misgiven my N? I've also thought i was INFP for a while. However, I've heard a lot of other ENFPs say that they also are very good chameleons, which would fit with my confusion I guess. However, I will say the type in mind cognitive functions description site has a very relatable description of ENFP for me so I'm not sure. so to respond to your comment: fair enough.
@@dominoot2652 you're not an enfp if you haven't considered being Infj, infp, entp, enfj or even intp at least once hahaha this constant doubting is just us! We can be introverted, yet extraverts, ve can be logical empaths and we can be selfless yet putting ourselves first. We can get along with everybody and we find ourselves in everyone but nobody can really be us. We're amazing, underrated creatures and everybody sees us only as bubbly individuals.
I find that a lot of the time, my longest conversations are with Enfps. They're always so eager to share their ideas and passion and energy with others that it's hard to resist getting into that high with them. Like a back-and-forth of unrealistic planning and fantasy and imagination. Of course it's sad seeing them go from that state to the lowest of lows, but I hope to be there with them regardless,, I didn't realise this had become full on enfp lovemail oops -infj
As an ENFP I feel the same about INFJs! I feel like we're all similar yet... Yet we're mirror types. It fascinates me. And y'all will just drop these little truths, like hold on I just talked for 10 minutes hours did you distill that into 1 sentence?! 😊
But he is totally right about that. I tend to stay faaar too long to be 100 % sure that there is really no chance, that this person/job/situation is really not a good fit. And this drains my energy I could have spend in the meanwhile for other things. I just like running against the wall to re-check (several times) that there is really no door. ;-) Well, at least I know then that there are no "what ifs" left. - ENFP
My little sister’s an ENFP. And I’m an INFP. She’s my favourite human being in the world.... parents are a close second. 😶 We’re best friends because even though we argue everyday there’s no one that understands me as well as she does. In fact, sometimes she’s so empathetic and analytical with me it’s a little scary. I was watching this video because even though she can understand others so well she doesn’t seem to understand herself. And I’m hoping to understand her just a little better. 😄
ENFP here, dont bother to try and understand us,seriously it will be a big waste of time!Just keep this in mind: The most predictable thing about us is that we're totally unpredictable. That may explain why I'm ending up with other ENFP girls, because we're both chaotic,random and have so much fun in our relationship.
I’m an ENFP and this lockdown has greatly bothered me at times (speaking by someone who travels intensively and claims to love external stimulations). But there are days or certain periods I’m perfectly fine with secluding myself and seeking refugee in adventures in books/ travel shows/ gaming Strategies/ podcasts... Adventure is in the mind, indeed. Now the tricky part is how to balance between the two. These sudden drops and rises in our moods depend on our unpredictable level of aspiration and energy. I honestly feel that my mind is more predisposed to mood swings, depressive tendencies ... and I don’t like it!!! 😭😭😭 Now, improving our inferior function Si has been a great approach, yet doing it over longer period of times is just gosh, so draining and stifling and constricting 😑😑 I honestly don’t know how my ISFJ mom can day-in day-out cook and eat at a regular schedule! My routine is no routine!!!! 😥😭😢
My ENFP sister is literally a sailor. She lives on a sail boat. She and her husband traveled from San Francisco to El Salvador and back to Mexico in the last couple years.
Thank you! You are so well-spoken. I have questioned being an enfp alot because I don’t feel like it’s easy for me to just jump into the new experiences that I often dream of. It feels like getting stuck in that adventure in your mind and being unable to bring it to life in the real world. But you explained that problem so well. Thank you for understanding.
This helps explain a lot to me. My issue is I will start a new "thing" (art, herbalism, planning an elaborate garden, learn a skill to change careers) and I will get so far down the path and then out of no where I just....stop. Dead in the water. It's like I get to a certain undefined point and then just loose all interest. Like it would be physically painful to continue. I used to think it was me be lazy or doubting myself or my abilities but that's not it. I think it's because if I commit to just one thing...I am going to miss out on x,y and z (even if I don't what x,y and z are yet). Then I just overthink everything from there.
I deal with this, too. I am learning that for me, I need to have a few projects I'm working on that are vastly different from each other, without overcommitting. I don't place time limits on them, because then I'm forced into the project's deadline. This way, I can move from one project to another based on my mood. I got this idea on how to structure projects from the way I naturally enjoy entertainment in my free time. I realized that I will binge watch one show for a while or one genre of shows, but then get bored with that genre or show and I jump to something completely different. Then, I will binge that for a while until I get bored and jump to a third genre. By the time I'm bored with the third or fourth genre, I'm missing the first genre and will jump back over there to continue that series. I do the same thing with video games, books I'm reading and even my favorite restaurants and adventuring spots (I'll hike the same trail or kayak the same lake for a time, until I am bored and want to shake things up). So, I learned to do this with creative pursuits (projects), as well. I love creative writing even more than I love reading. However, I know that I can't just sit down and write until the novel is written, to the exclusion of all other pastimes. The quality of my writing diminishes once I am bored. Plus, it feels like torture to continue... even though I know the entire story in my head and I love working on it. So, what I do is write for a few weeks in my free time. As soon as I find myself getting bored with writing, I move on to reading or painting (just for myself because I'm not that good at painting, but I absolutely love the process), or playing a video game. I also find that engaging in the variety of pastimes fuels ideas for my writing. For example, I like to dance in my kitchen late at night when my INTJ husband has gone to bed. While I am dancing, I naturally begin daydreaming about characters from books I have read and this usually leads to me daydreaming about my own book's characters. Then, a scene will begin playing out in my imagination, so I grab a voice recorder and record the scene verbally so that I have it for later when I go to sit down and write once again. I also get more scenes for my book when I'm out kayaking or when I'm hiking or baking or even when I'm reading another book. I'm determined to not give up on myself with the novel I'm writing, so I'm intentional about paying attention to how I'm feeling about it while writing. I give myself those mental breaks from it by exploring my other hobbies until inspiration for the novel returns. The only area I haven't discovered how to apply my need for variety to is my work. My husband and I are entrepreneurs, and certain tasks have deadlines that I have to stick to. Those, I can't do anything about. I just buckle down until it's done. I have discovered that if I make a to do list of all the tasks that don't have deadlines, I can complete the tasks based on what I feel like doing that day... I choose the order they are done in and that somehow helps me not feel so restricted. Anyway, I hope this helps you. Does what I shared make sense? I am kind of all over the place with the explanation, but the bottom line is that I change my projects up regularly and come back to what I worked on several months ago, when it feels fresh and new again. Oh, and one last note... certain projects I have tried, I liked at first, but then genuinely didn't like them after a while. I've had to learn to distinguish between liking the newness of something, simply because it is new, and liking the actual new thing I am doing. For example, I tried baseball as a kid... I liked it at first because it was new and seemed fun. Then, I realized I absolutely hated the process and experience of playing the game. That is something that I never went back to and have no regrets about. Whereas, I also tried track and field and loved it so much that I continued joining the team year in and year out throughout school... I kept doing it even when mid season became tedious. I rejoined every year though, because I genuinely enjoyed running. The hobbies and projects I jump to as an adult are hobbies that I have realized, over the years, I genuinely enjoy. So, even though I gravitate to one hobby or project for a while and then jump to another for a while and then another, I am overall still enjoying the same set of hobbies and thereby making progress on the book I'm writing, the games I'm playing and the books I'm reading. I hope this helps you. -Fellow ENFP 💃🏻
Yes, absolutely characterized and afflicted by duality. I did my master's thesis on paradox :D Speaking for myself here, but: I like the audio-only format -- it enables my multitasking tendencies. Of course, videos with your face are great as well ^^
I agree - I'm quietly working on a sewing project (the cutting stage) while listening. No on-screen distractions to pull me away, but still lots of info and humour filling my brain.
Even though I'm an INTP, that first point is very familiar. I want my life to be very exciting, but the most exciting things always happen in the imagination. Books are awesome.
The last point is absolutely succinct. That is one of my biggest weaknesses as well; sometimes it can feel like all or nothing - when I'm in a rut, I don't have the mental excess for anything whatsoever (as I also feel shame that I don't and therefore do nothing), while when I'm in a good loop I can tend to just delve into everything, without considering if I really have the time and energy for it. Currently a bit happening at university, where I'm trying out as much as possible (also in a weird attempt to "make up for lost time", in the sense that I've had some sabbatical years where I felt that I haven't done enough), and it can be felt a little bit now. Should remember to just take it a bit easy, and not have a bad conscience when I don't follow through on everything.
I felt this so much, as a fellow ENFP! And I feel bad that I can't be proficient in things half of my heart is in. I feel like I can't multitask - either I give a shit or don't, and it shows. Other people around me are scratching their heads in confusion, haha.
nathan STOP READING MY MIND PLEASE. anyway you’re 100% correct, as always. I’m not around in the server much these days but I appreciate your videos so much. 💫
👋🏾This is sooooo very accurate. I LOVE going through RUclips Rabbit holes and learning new things but the whole thing about going out and doing something bold, new, and different, is just way too much work. Trust me, I can tell you stories of what I'd like to do but I perceive too much of what those things will entail so many of those things simply do not get done.🙃
I just finished talking to my mom about how I don't feel like I run from problems. Instead I feel like I try and try again, holding on for too long. So when I do decide to give up, it was a long time coming... This hit home for me because I am currently trying to figure out if I can still put up with my current housemate situation. :/ Thanks!
Just 45 secs in and you're already speaking to my soul! You're spitting facts 100%. So true! I go on so many intellectual explorations that I've actually become super comfortable with staying at home for a week or more
Holy moly, this really spoke to me. I have a chance to change. It has been 8 years pretty much doing the same thing. I have a large degree of flexibility where I am at now. To say it is easy is oversimplifying it - but it is not over demanding in regards to time. If I change this will mean more structure, more people interactions, more opportunities to express ideas, different responsibilities, and new experiences. The “more structure” part is where I feel hesitancy. Thank you for sharing your nuggets of wisdom. This helps quite a lot. I will now continue to binge watch more of your ENFP videos while contemplating this change.
As an Ne user, sometimes I feel bad cause I no longer revisit all my fantasy worlds as a kid I remember maintaining the same kind of work for two years, it honestly feels awful I can’t record any of it
As an INFP, I relate to this one more than the INFP one! But I'm pretty balanced between Fi and Ne, and lacking in the level of insecurity typically associated with INFPs, so that makes sense. The only thing I don't have in common with ENFPs is.... any degree of extroversion.
Classic intro/extro mistake , socially anyone can be introverted or extroverted. Enxps are even the least socially extroverted of the E types reportedly. Cognitive extroversion relies on the functions being used. If you use Ne a lot then you do have a fair amount of extroversion.
I've also heard that E in the sense of ENFP doesn't always mean people, it often manifests as simply collecting external ideas. So if you spend a lot of your day alone, but soaking up all sorts of new ideas and interests and whatnot, that counts as extraversion, as you're bringing in outside ideas to your worldview. For example, I watch youtube, A LOT of youtube. I spend a great deal of my day soaking in new ideas about all sorts of things. I also tend to read as many comments as I can on each video to hear different perspectives on those videos. I also comment and reply a lot. SO anyway the basic idea is that extraversion can also mean "interacting with other ideas" just as much as "interacting with other people", at least in the tendency with ENFPs.
@@az5428 Yes, I'm aware that Ne is a so-called extroverted function and that Ne-doms can be socially introverted. However, I still generally define introversion and extroversion in the normal, broadly accepted sense and not in Carl Jung's terms.
This was spot on to a T! I've thought the grass was greener a few times and it really was AstroTurf. I'm going to sit my booty down, not take on too many projects when I'm feeling good and take myself on a little trip every now and then to reenergize myself from the mundane routine haha! great vid😌💕
i'm in my early 30's now. i noticed that im not the type of enfp that easily jump into adventurous activities like taking a flight to somewhere i've never been before, or changing jobs, or sky diving. mostly because i'm constantly arguing with my self the pros and cons of such actions. often times i will find my self finding more cons than pros until i loose interest and even forget i had the idea, so i move on. i love mind traveling and learning 1st and fore most. i love to watch documentaries. it's my drug. and horror stories too at the same level for some reason. but documentaries has always been my one true source of entertainment. and it is full of pros! like not having to leave the comfort of my home, i can choose any topic i like, i can learn so many new things without going too much into the details, i can stop when ever i want and come back when i want, it's cheap, and i can admire the great amount of information and hard work put into making them... the list goes on!!! so yeah, you see me and you'd think i am an introvert. but then, when you do know me, you'd noticed that i am indeed an enfp. just one that hasn't had much external experience. i'm warry of making mistakes. because i can't be bother to fixing it.
@@strickygeminienfp_1395 i'm not sure what you mean... you mean, i am very similar to you and that is punishable or i stole you for... you? lol it's early... my brain is slow lol
I usually try to commit to the things when my hands are empty. I also try to fulfil commitments as hard as I can, even if I die. That's why I think thrice or more before committing to anything. And I usually procrastinate a lot, even often struggle to startover anything. But whenever I start something, I strongly stick to that until it is completed because I know once I would leave that, it might never be done because any kind of new opportunity might come after that and I have to go after it. So I tend to pause the doors of the opportunities for a limited time and patiently wait for the previous one to be finished, as well as doing the previous one with my full focus, potentiality, dedication, perfection, flawlessness and sincerity. My one and only problem is, I struggle to start and take too much time to finish things because I also get so many things in mind to apply them in whatever things I am doing and I also care about them. I mean, when I start something, I usually treat them like people so that I do not neglect anything about them or abandon them in middle. Whenever the thing is finished, I tend to look for further opportunities beside what I got during doing the previous one, so that I can choose what is more interesting and more likely to click my mind among all of them. - ENFP 5w4w9
:))) some of my closest friends are intps, including my boyfriend. I love the back and forth of the Ne combined with the Fi x Ti dynamic, it creates such interesting conversations!! you guys just _get_ me, sometimes it’s like we can read each other’s minds. anyway thanks for the sweet comment, yall are awesome
Hi! Thanks for a great pack of information regarding my type of personality. I`m impressed by your understanding of the pros and cons of being an ENFP. I laughed so hard when you said you wish good luck to someone to understand our type.
I love to plan vacations. It’s so satisfying. I read about other places and philosophies and personal psychology and art and music, and it’s worth putting in the planning time to experience all of it.
Great vid. Thanks. Wise. Makes me feel I'm not a kid all the time. Besides I disagree with one of your movies about creativity. ENFPs are second best type in creativity after ISFPs. But we're creative in ideas and ISFPs don't understand or like that kind of thinking. But whatever they do, IT is full of art and creativity. There's one thing I'd like YOu to dig in about ENFPs. It's more of a dark side. When I say something, I believe in IT, but that does not make it true - sometimes because of this (and I mostly hate myself for IT) I become a Perfect human manipulator. It's like I engage myself in awkward situations with bad people, who take me for naive and want to use me, but I gain info and when things go very hard, I cut myself from this group, inform the Police, for an example, and use all that bad against these people. And at those time I get almost satanic determination. Most of the time I do something small, some projects, they go genius and no-one believes me I did it. They say I copied this. I am an "easy target" - say there are a hundred people in a line and there is a mission impossible - people make me do that, "knowing" I won't be able to. But when I do this they feel ashamed and I try to explain I just did IT partly, that I just started and I try to engage others into this. It only works if I make a fool of myself and people are able to prove to themselves their part in that started by me project was signifficant and mine was not. When the thing becomes possibile of course - just as I say - "easy target".
".. or someone watching this video to try and understand them, firstly good luck with that..." awesome! :D Male ENFP here, understanding us is truly not an easy matter. Our love is deeply confusing and our brains are realy scattered. Thank you for your videos, it feels good when someone is trying to understand us ENFPs!
Yeah. I have started so many projects this summer.. 😛 But I must finish my diving lessons! They where expensive.. i dont care about the rest anymore. 😂
It's always my dream to roam in the sea. I tell people I wanna be a sailor and tell close friends that I wanna be a pirate shsjdksgjsks and you saying that made me happy
Yeah sounds like enfp. My brother is entp and he is all about the logic and process. He is not as connected with his feelings as I am due to him having Ti, and me Fi.
@@fattysl26 He has some strong Ti as well, but it is always from the pov of Te. He finds loopholes in things that I say. But I have seen that authentic Ti is the one who actually finds the cause, the one who reaches the conclusion. I'm thinking about the difference between Chase Joseph and Michael Knowles. Chase uses his system in a very Te way, while Michael, is using only logic based on the facts. I think that the difference is between conscious Te as in an ENFP and unconscious Te as in an ENTP. Just like for me is conscious Fi and unconscious Ti. A lot of conclusions of Chase are pretty arbitrarily, but he's also different from someone who helps him by the name of Chris. I see more types than just those or combinations.
I think the way you can really tell the difference is by arguing with that friend. If they always take the same point of view and feel hurt if you keep trying to prove them wrong and they say things like "it's my truth" - ENFP. If they tend to be very fluid with their point of view, constantly changing their side of the argument and you can't quite understand where they stand and they are more likely to not care whether or not they are hurting your feelings in an argument - ENTP.
1. Going out or staying in bed? "hmm why not both :D" 2. The grass is greener at the other side "True but, i have yet to see the full potential over here. Then again, I wonder what possibilities i can make on the other side o. O" 3. Take too much "yea basically i want to be everything and anything at the same time"
I miss you face...I just can't handle black videos...sorry....Ans I prefer a bit slower pace of speach...it's sounds too much like reading. So it's basically an audio book not a video of you explaining your thought. And I like the latter more ;)
Due to technical difficulties (i.e. being too lazy to shower) it's just audio this time. I will return when I've cleansed my body... and my sins. Well maybe not the sins part ~ Nathan
An oddly familiar problem 😂
Only Jesus can do that for ya, Nathan. The sins part, that is. 🤣
❤️ -ENFP (Yes, good luck understanding us. That's something we spend our entire lives trying to do - Understanding ourselves, and managing the chaos.) Thx for the cool ENFP vid.
Do you sing ever?
Right, I’m the predictable one. Take a shower and get railed, I really don’t care ❤️
I’m talking to Lindsay, obviously
The fact that he called us sailors and then corrected it to pirates sounds very fitting for some reason and makes me happy on a primal level
primal 0.0
Yes, I smiled at that part
That description suits my ENFP friend perfectly and I got laughing when he said it! 😁
Luffy de monke😌
"I don't think I'm an enfp"
- every enfp ever
really? i never doubted that, maybe i'm not- ... well, you've got me there
I was just being really confused after seeing someone who believed they were INFJ for years get professionally typed as ISFJ. Is it possible I was misgiven my N? I've also thought i was INFP for a while. However, I've heard a lot of other ENFPs say that they also are very good chameleons, which would fit with my confusion I guess.
However, I will say the type in mind cognitive functions description site has a very relatable description of ENFP for me so I'm not sure.
so to respond to your comment: fair enough.
Far too many options: infj, infp, enfj, entp, esfj.. You name it! XD
@@sandeeppurja1451 you want to try every!!
@@dominoot2652 you're not an enfp if you haven't considered being Infj, infp, entp, enfj or even intp at least once hahaha this constant doubting is just us! We can be introverted, yet extraverts, ve can be logical empaths and we can be selfless yet putting ourselves first. We can get along with everybody and we find ourselves in everyone but nobody can really be us. We're amazing, underrated creatures and everybody sees us only as bubbly individuals.
"If you are an enfp or someone that tries to understand them, firstly, good luck with that..." 😂❤
This slayed me 😆
I let out a loud chuckle at that, haha. That was freaking brilliant
@@Twinti213 yep, and it is kinda comforting cause I can't get myself either sometimes 😂 there is just pure chaos
Lol'd there xD
I say ENFPs are the 2nd most hardest personality type to understand. INFPs being first.
I find that a lot of the time, my longest conversations are with Enfps. They're always so eager to share their ideas and passion and energy with others that it's hard to resist getting into that high with them. Like a back-and-forth of unrealistic planning and fantasy and imagination. Of course it's sad seeing them go from that state to the lowest of lows, but I hope to be there with them regardless,,
I didn't realise this had become full on enfp lovemail oops
-infj
:))) this is so sweet. I really appreciate you guys, infjs are so accepting of our chaos and are so good at balancing us out. you guys are great!!
This was adorable I miss having an infj who fully gets me
My bf of 9 years is an infj....we definitely get into some really out there conversations.....I love it...oh and I'm an enfp, btw
As an ENFP I feel the same about INFJs! I feel like we're all similar yet... Yet we're mirror types. It fascinates me. And y'all will just drop these little truths, like hold on I just talked for 10 minutes hours did you distill that into 1 sentence?! 😊
We love you INFJs , thank you 💛
I'm an enfp and this video made me both feel understood and understand myself better
2:43 you exploded my mind with that one. "They should have already gone". ☠ As a Depressed ENFP this hurt
Samesies fren
❤️❤️❤️ -depressed infj
But he is totally right about that. I tend to stay faaar too long to be 100 % sure that there is really no chance, that this person/job/situation is really not a good fit. And this drains my energy I could have spend in the meanwhile for other things.
I just like running against the wall to re-check (several times) that there is really no door. ;-)
Well, at least I know then that there are no "what ifs" left.
- ENFP
@@dande_lion I like your analogy of running into the wall several times to double check there really is no door😂
@@lydiamulfinger6781 Haha, thank you.
My little sister’s an ENFP. And I’m an INFP. She’s my favourite human being in the world.... parents are a close second. 😶 We’re best friends because even though we argue everyday there’s no one that understands me as well as she does. In fact, sometimes she’s so empathetic and analytical with me it’s a little scary. I was watching this video because even though she can understand others so well she doesn’t seem to understand herself. And I’m hoping to understand her just a little better. 😄
Well… this is maybe the most precious comment I’ve ever read on the internet in my life.
Thats adorable❤
What a kind sibling! I know she'll appreciate your efforts 😊
“If we’re asking if we should stay or go, for them, usually means that they should’ve already gone.” FELT THIS
I'm an isfj and my twin sister is an enfp. We don't understand each other sometimes but we get on so well, lol. I love how kind and funny she is.
ENFP here, dont bother to try and understand us,seriously it will be a big waste of time!Just keep this in mind: The most predictable thing about us is that we're totally unpredictable.
That may explain why I'm ending up with other ENFP girls, because we're both chaotic,random and have so much fun in our relationship.
“The most predictable thing about us is that we’re totally unpredictable” FACTS
Never let them know your next move
I’m an ENFP and this lockdown has greatly bothered me at times (speaking by someone who travels intensively and claims to love external stimulations). But there are days or certain periods I’m perfectly fine with secluding myself and seeking refugee in adventures in books/ travel shows/ gaming Strategies/ podcasts... Adventure is in the mind, indeed. Now the tricky part is how to balance between the two.
These sudden drops and rises in our moods depend on our unpredictable level of aspiration and energy. I honestly feel that my mind is more predisposed to mood swings, depressive tendencies ... and I don’t like it!!! 😭😭😭
Now, improving our inferior function Si has been a great approach, yet doing it over longer period of times is just gosh, so draining and stifling and constricting 😑😑 I honestly don’t know how my ISFJ mom can day-in day-out cook and eat at a regular schedule! My routine is no routine!!!! 😥😭😢
“my routine is no routine!”
My ENFP sister is literally a sailor. She lives on a sail boat. She and her husband traveled from San Francisco to El Salvador and back to Mexico in the last couple years.
Amazing!!!
I love the enfps vibes, keep doing you enfps 😎
Thank you sweetheart
Thank you! You are so well-spoken. I have questioned being an enfp alot because I don’t feel like it’s easy for me to just jump into the new experiences that I often dream of. It feels like getting stuck in that adventure in your mind and being unable to bring it to life in the real world.
But you explained that problem so well. Thank you for understanding.
INTJ here who has two close ENFP family members. THIS IS THEM.
This helps explain a lot to me. My issue is I will start a new "thing" (art, herbalism, planning an elaborate garden, learn a skill to change careers) and I will get so far down the path and then out of no where I just....stop. Dead in the water. It's like I get to a certain undefined point and then just loose all interest. Like it would be physically painful to continue. I used to think it was me be lazy or doubting myself or my abilities but that's not it. I think it's because if I commit to just one thing...I am going to miss out on x,y and z (even if I don't what x,y and z are yet). Then I just overthink everything from there.
I deal with this, too. I am learning that for me, I need to have a few projects I'm working on that are vastly different from each other, without overcommitting. I don't place time limits on them, because then I'm forced into the project's deadline. This way, I can move from one project to another based on my mood.
I got this idea on how to structure projects from the way I naturally enjoy entertainment in my free time. I realized that I will binge watch one show for a while or one genre of shows, but then get bored with that genre or show and I jump to something completely different. Then, I will binge that for a while until I get bored and jump to a third genre. By the time I'm bored with the third or fourth genre, I'm missing the first genre and will jump back over there to continue that series.
I do the same thing with video games, books I'm reading and even my favorite restaurants and adventuring spots (I'll hike the same trail or kayak the same lake for a time, until I am bored and want to shake things up).
So, I learned to do this with creative pursuits (projects), as well. I love creative writing even more than I love reading. However, I know that I can't just sit down and write until the novel is written, to the exclusion of all other pastimes. The quality of my writing diminishes once I am bored. Plus, it feels like torture to continue... even though I know the entire story in my head and I love working on it.
So, what I do is write for a few weeks in my free time. As soon as I find myself getting bored with writing, I move on to reading or painting (just for myself because I'm not that good at painting, but I absolutely love the process), or playing a video game.
I also find that engaging in the variety of pastimes fuels ideas for my writing. For example, I like to dance in my kitchen late at night when my INTJ husband has gone to bed. While I am dancing, I naturally begin daydreaming about characters from books I have read and this usually leads to me daydreaming about my own book's characters. Then, a scene will begin playing out in my imagination, so I grab a voice recorder and record the scene verbally so that I have it for later when I go to sit down and write once again.
I also get more scenes for my book when I'm out kayaking or when I'm hiking or baking or even when I'm reading another book.
I'm determined to not give up on myself with the novel I'm writing, so I'm intentional about paying attention to how I'm feeling about it while writing. I give myself those mental breaks from it by exploring my other hobbies until inspiration for the novel returns.
The only area I haven't discovered how to apply my need for variety to is my work. My husband and I are entrepreneurs, and certain tasks have deadlines that I have to stick to. Those, I can't do anything about. I just buckle down until it's done. I have discovered that if I make a to do list of all the tasks that don't have deadlines, I can complete the tasks based on what I feel like doing that day... I choose the order they are done in and that somehow helps me not feel so restricted.
Anyway, I hope this helps you. Does what I shared make sense? I am kind of all over the place with the explanation, but the bottom line is that I change my projects up regularly and come back to what I worked on several months ago, when it feels fresh and new again.
Oh, and one last note... certain projects I have tried, I liked at first, but then genuinely didn't like them after a while. I've had to learn to distinguish between liking the newness of something, simply because it is new, and liking the actual new thing I am doing. For example, I tried baseball as a kid... I liked it at first because it was new and seemed fun. Then, I realized I absolutely hated the process and experience of playing the game. That is something that I never went back to and have no regrets about. Whereas, I also tried track and field and loved it so much that I continued joining the team year in and year out throughout school... I kept doing it even when mid season became tedious. I rejoined every year though, because I genuinely enjoyed running.
The hobbies and projects I jump to as an adult are hobbies that I have realized, over the years, I genuinely enjoy. So, even though I gravitate to one hobby or project for a while and then jump to another for a while and then another, I am overall still enjoying the same set of hobbies and thereby making progress on the book I'm writing, the games I'm playing and the books I'm reading.
I hope this helps you. -Fellow ENFP 💃🏻
Yes, absolutely characterized and afflicted by duality. I did my master's thesis on paradox :D
Speaking for myself here, but: I like the audio-only format -- it enables my multitasking tendencies. Of course, videos with your face are great as well ^^
I agree - I'm quietly working on a sewing project (the cutting stage) while listening. No on-screen distractions to pull me away, but still lots of info and humour filling my brain.
as an enfp i am listening my whole life story from somebody else rn
Even though I'm an INTP, that first point is very familiar. I want my life to be very exciting, but the most exciting things always happen in the imagination. Books are awesome.
The last point is absolutely succinct. That is one of my biggest weaknesses as well; sometimes it can feel like all or nothing - when I'm in a rut, I don't have the mental excess for anything whatsoever (as I also feel shame that I don't and therefore do nothing), while when I'm in a good loop I can tend to just delve into everything, without considering if I really have the time and energy for it. Currently a bit happening at university, where I'm trying out as much as possible (also in a weird attempt to "make up for lost time", in the sense that I've had some sabbatical years where I felt that I haven't done enough), and it can be felt a little bit now. Should remember to just take it a bit easy, and not have a bad conscience when I don't follow through on everything.
... but errh, that last part is easier said than done.
I felt this so much, as a fellow ENFP! And I feel bad that I can't be proficient in things half of my heart is in. I feel like I can't multitask - either I give a shit or don't, and it shows. Other people around me are scratching their heads in confusion, haha.
and it's such an enfp thing to put "feel" into every statement, i just noticed after replying 💀
You got this!
nathan STOP READING MY MIND PLEASE. anyway you’re 100% correct, as always. I’m not around in the server much these days but I appreciate your videos so much. 💫
the quote about grass and astroturf
that is gonna be my life motto until i forget it or give it up
so how well did it go?
One of my closest friends is an ENFP! I think you nailed it, as usual. I can see a lot of this applying to her
👋🏾This is sooooo very accurate. I LOVE going through RUclips Rabbit holes and learning new things but the whole thing about going out and doing something bold, new, and different, is just way too much work. Trust me, I can tell you stories of what I'd like to do but I perceive too much of what those things will entail so many of those things simply do not get done.🙃
I just finished talking to my mom about how I don't feel like I run from problems. Instead I feel like I try and try again, holding on for too long. So when I do decide to give up, it was a long time coming... This hit home for me because I am currently trying to figure out if I can still put up with my current housemate situation. :/
Thanks!
Definitely sharing this with my ENFP partner. These are all constant complaints/issues she has with herself. Especially “taking on too much.” Spot on!
Just 45 secs in and you're already speaking to my soul! You're spitting facts 100%. So true! I go on so many intellectual explorations that I've actually become super comfortable with staying at home for a week or more
Holy moly, this really spoke to me.
I have a chance to change.
It has been 8 years pretty much doing the same thing. I have a large degree of flexibility where I am at now. To say it is easy is oversimplifying it - but it is not over demanding in regards to time.
If I change this will mean more structure, more people interactions, more opportunities to express ideas, different responsibilities, and new experiences.
The “more structure” part is where I feel hesitancy.
Thank you for sharing your nuggets of wisdom. This helps quite a lot. I will now continue to binge watch more of your ENFP videos while contemplating this change.
"Pile up too many things...."
Why would you call me out like that?
As an Ne user, sometimes I feel bad cause I no longer revisit all my fantasy worlds as a kid
I remember maintaining the same kind of work for two years, it honestly feels awful I can’t record any of it
As an INFP, I relate to this one more than the INFP one! But I'm pretty balanced between Fi and Ne, and lacking in the level of insecurity typically associated with INFPs, so that makes sense. The only thing I don't have in common with ENFPs is.... any degree of extroversion.
Classic intro/extro mistake , socially anyone can be introverted or extroverted. Enxps are even the least socially extroverted of the E types reportedly. Cognitive extroversion relies on the functions being used. If you use Ne a lot then you do have a fair amount of extroversion.
I've also heard that E in the sense of ENFP doesn't always mean people, it often manifests as simply collecting external ideas. So if you spend a lot of your day alone, but soaking up all sorts of new ideas and interests and whatnot, that counts as extraversion, as you're bringing in outside ideas to your worldview.
For example, I watch youtube, A LOT of youtube. I spend a great deal of my day soaking in new ideas about all sorts of things. I also tend to read as many comments as I can on each video to hear different perspectives on those videos. I also comment and reply a lot.
SO anyway the basic idea is that extraversion can also mean "interacting with other ideas" just as much as "interacting with other people", at least in the tendency with ENFPs.
@@az5428 Yes, I'm aware that Ne is a so-called extroverted function and that Ne-doms can be socially introverted. However, I still generally define introversion and extroversion in the normal, broadly accepted sense and not in Carl Jung's terms.
@@dominoot2652 that’s an excellent point
This was spot on to a T! I've thought the grass was greener a few times and it really was AstroTurf. I'm going to sit my booty down, not take on too many projects when I'm feeling good and take myself on a little trip every now and then to reenergize myself from the mundane routine haha! great vid😌💕
i'm in my early 30's now. i noticed that im not the type of enfp that easily jump into adventurous activities like taking a flight to somewhere i've never been before, or changing jobs, or sky diving. mostly because i'm constantly arguing with my self the pros and cons of such actions. often times i will find my self finding more cons than pros until i loose interest and even forget i had the idea, so i move on. i love mind traveling and learning 1st and fore most. i love to watch documentaries. it's my drug. and horror stories too at the same level for some reason. but documentaries has always been my one true source of entertainment. and it is full of pros! like not having to leave the comfort of my home, i can choose any topic i like, i can learn so many new things without going too much into the details, i can stop when ever i want and come back when i want, it's cheap, and i can admire the great amount of information and hard work put into making them... the list goes on!!! so yeah, you see me and you'd think i am an introvert. but then, when you do know me, you'd noticed that i am indeed an enfp. just one that hasn't had much external experience. i'm warry of making mistakes. because i can't be bother to fixing it.
You will be punished for stealing the me from me🤣🤣🤣
@@strickygeminienfp_1395 i'm not sure what you mean... you mean, i am very similar to you and that is punishable or i stole you for... you? lol it's early... my brain is slow lol
I usually try to commit to the things when my hands are empty. I also try to fulfil commitments as hard as I can, even if I die. That's why I think thrice or more before committing to anything. And I usually procrastinate a lot, even often struggle to startover anything. But whenever I start something, I strongly stick to that until it is completed because I know once I would leave that, it might never be done because any kind of new opportunity might come after that and I have to go after it. So I tend to pause the doors of the opportunities for a limited time and patiently wait for the previous one to be finished, as well as doing the previous one with my full focus, potentiality, dedication, perfection, flawlessness and sincerity. My one and only problem is, I struggle to start and take too much time to finish things because I also get so many things in mind to apply them in whatever things I am doing and I also care about them. I mean, when I start something, I usually treat them like people so that I do not neglect anything about them or abandon them in middle. Whenever the thing is finished, I tend to look for further opportunities beside what I got during doing the previous one, so that I can choose what is more interesting and more likely to click my mind among all of them.
- ENFP 5w4w9
Yeah, it's precisely like that.
~ ENFP / ⁵1³
Called out in an incredibly complimentary way!
I feel spoken to. 😌 Thank you. As a writer I have like 12 stories going that I need to keep writing rn, and this has helped motivate me.
ENFP is my fav type fr y'all are sooo cool ~INTP
:))) some of my closest friends are intps, including my boyfriend. I love the back and forth of the Ne combined with the Fi x Ti dynamic, it creates such interesting conversations!! you guys just _get_ me, sometimes it’s like we can read each other’s minds. anyway thanks for the sweet comment, yall are awesome
personally cant relate but it would be cool finding a good enfp
I LOVE INTPS! You all listen to all of our crazy thoughts and then still have the energy to give your opinions or ask questions. Bless INTPs 🙏
Aww so sweet. I wish I was surrounded by more Intps.
Omg... I was like "I love the robin hood fox!" Then I saw I suck at something and went...ah. 😔
Hi! Thanks for a great pack of information regarding my type of personality. I`m impressed by your understanding of the pros and cons of being an ENFP. I laughed so hard when you said you wish good luck to someone to understand our type.
yesssss another enfp video xD absolutely nailed it as always too xD
this HIT HOME! happy to hear from u bro. especially about myself.
I have never felt more understood in my entire life
I love to plan vacations. It’s so satisfying. I read about other places and philosophies and personal psychology and art and music, and it’s worth putting in the planning time to experience all of it.
This couldn't have come at a better time
Great vid. Thanks. Wise. Makes me feel I'm not a kid all the time. Besides I disagree with one of your movies about creativity. ENFPs are second best type in creativity after ISFPs. But we're creative in ideas and ISFPs don't understand or like that kind of thinking. But whatever they do, IT is full of art and creativity.
There's one thing I'd like YOu to dig in about ENFPs. It's more of a dark side. When I say something, I believe in IT, but that does not make it true - sometimes because of this (and I mostly hate myself for IT) I become a Perfect human manipulator. It's like I engage myself in awkward situations with bad people, who take me for naive and want to use me, but I gain info and when things go very hard, I cut myself from this group, inform the Police, for an example, and use all that bad against these people. And at those time I get almost satanic determination. Most of the time I do something small, some projects, they go genius and no-one believes me I did it. They say I copied this. I am an "easy target" - say there are a hundred people in a line and there is a mission impossible - people make me do that, "knowing" I won't be able to. But when I do this they feel ashamed and I try to explain I just did IT partly, that I just started and I try to engage others into this. It only works if I make a fool of myself and people are able to prove to themselves their part in that started by me project was signifficant and mine was not. When the thing becomes possibile of course - just as I say - "easy target".
".. or someone watching this video to try and understand them, firstly good luck with that..." awesome! :D
Male ENFP here, understanding us is truly not an easy matter. Our love is deeply confusing and our brains are realy scattered.
Thank you for your videos, it feels good when someone is trying to understand us ENFPs!
Lol it's so me being an ENFP :>>>>> Thank you for this awesome video 🥰🥰🥰
Indeed. So conflicted. Two people at once.
thank you for adding the pirates
Yeah. I have started so many projects this summer.. 😛 But I must finish my diving lessons! They where expensive.. i dont care about the rest anymore. 😂
God damn it so close I was hoping for an entp video :(
This made me feel better ❤️
Thanks Nathan
I'm an INTJ but could relate to some of these points. Not knowing if I'm being productive or lazy is a morale killer. What's wrong with my Te?
Aaah the undeniable relief of arriving in a country in which I don't speak the language.
It's always my dream to roam in the sea. I tell people I wanna be a sailor and tell close friends that I wanna be a pirate shsjdksgjsks and you saying that made me happy
Sometimes I feel like an ENTP rather than an ENFJ. That dreaming rather than doing: huge mood.
ENFP who sucks in timing and having lack of sense of time.. maybe I'm not an ENFP but an ADHD.. nobody knows 🤣
When you said DUALITY and CONFLICT i was likeeeeee AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA MMMMMEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
Love love your videos
"always happy to interact with ENFPs on my discord" ... ok NATHAN. I see what you are trying to do.... ;;;;)
I clicked because of the fox
Good advice.
Spot on!
The ENFP changed so much they were not stable at all. As an INFJ I had such an amusing time watching all this. They are not pirate's just skippers
This is literally how I feel.
I’m here to understand my girlfriend.
Give up now and save yourself the time ~ Nathan
Can you try genre aesthetics to personality preference you know like Cyberpunk,steam punk , Diesel punk n the like
Why do I relate to this so much? Am I an enfp??!😵 I’m so confused lol….
If an ENFP has to ask themself if they should stay or go, they should have already gone.
ENFP here.. Totally agreed 😂
This is 100% Spot on..... 🤪
My ADHD manifesting ENFP while my Bipolar manifests INFP
Enfps self destructing lets goooooo ❤❤❤❤🎉
I couldn't focus on the video, I'm an ENFP, but idk when the video turns in background noises
I'm still not able to distinguish if my friend is really an ENTP or ENFP. Because he seems to have strong Ne but also Te.
sounds like an enfp!! the function stack is Ne, Fi, Te, Si. meaning, the part that they externalize is probably the rational one. :)
Yeah sounds like enfp. My brother is entp and he is all about the logic and process. He is not as connected with his feelings as I am due to him having Ti, and me Fi.
You mean ENFP or ESTJ?
@@fattysl26 He has some strong Ti as well, but it is always from the pov of Te.
He finds loopholes in things that I say. But I have seen that authentic Ti is the one who actually finds the cause, the one who reaches the conclusion.
I'm thinking about the difference between Chase Joseph and Michael Knowles.
Chase uses his system in a very Te way, while Michael, is using only logic based on the facts.
I think that the difference is between conscious Te as in an ENFP and unconscious Te as in an ENTP.
Just like for me is conscious Fi and unconscious Ti.
A lot of conclusions of Chase are pretty arbitrarily, but he's also different from someone who helps him by the name of Chris.
I see more types than just those or combinations.
I think the way you can really tell the difference is by arguing with that friend.
If they always take the same point of view and feel hurt if you keep trying to prove them wrong and they say things like "it's my truth" - ENFP.
If they tend to be very fluid with their point of view, constantly changing their side of the argument and you can't quite understand where they stand and they are more likely to not care whether or not they are hurting your feelings in an argument - ENTP.
😭 this is so accuraaaaate
Yea I start more then I finish....
I only start....
Yea man don't understand myself lmao
Omg my constant problem 😂
1. Going out or staying in bed?
"hmm why not both :D"
2. The grass is greener at the other side
"True but, i have yet to see the full potential over here. Then again, I wonder what possibilities i can make on the other side o. O"
3. Take too much
"yea basically i want to be everything and anything at the same time"
More Enfp vids say I
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Chameleonic rather than dual.
HI LOL
I AM THE FIRST 💓
First to reply
First to reply to the first reply
@@brokeneggshell5041 First reply to the first reply to the first reply.
You're not an enfp ,enfp are never early or on time, they've got their own clocks and set to their own time zone
@@whaikuratuhaka7029 well well well
…being criticized 😂
16 personalities as Avatar´s benders? Bending is not really personality dependent but some personalities work better witch their element.
This is 100% accurate!
If ADHD were a person 👀
Never been so early
Love ENFPs, I just don’t count on them to be punctual
Yeah this video was great but I miss your eyebrows
who are you and how tf do you know me so well
ugh. life would be so much easier as an ENTP. 🙄
I relate to this haha. Am I an ENFP??🧐🤔
If you think you've understood, either you are god either your not an ENFP.
Finally someone gets me lol
You're attractive
Use me as a "I am an INFP and i can relate with ENFPs button"
im fascinate with the link between ENFP & ADHD
I miss you face...I just can't handle black videos...sorry....Ans I prefer a bit slower pace of speach...it's sounds too much like reading. So it's basically an audio book not a video of you explaining your thought. And I like the latter more ;)
I also can't believe people genuinely think the Myers Brigg test is a valid psychological assessment... This is just sad, man.