ENFP here. I totally agree with "Individuality" point. I don't like talking to a group I'd rather prefer to talk to an individual..just so that person can be comfortable and talk about their deepest feelings.
Hey, same here! I want loads of friends but not loads all together at the same time too often. I prefer 1 to 1. I also find too many people conversing distracting and find I can't keep up with the conversation.
Same for me! Im working with plants, and this thing is right for them as well! I prefer caring for individual plants. Whole fields of plants treated as one makes me annoyed, bc the plants wont really feel better or good. :) (ENFP)
I'm an ENFP and I too have ADHD, combined type. Yes, the small tasks are hard for me to find the motivation to complete as well. However, there is a subtle reward in making an area look neat, as on it brings a sense of calmness and completion. But I need a lit match under me to move me to take on the mundane. I'd rather be playing piano or counseling a friend than picking up laundry. Lolz 😆
One thing I hated about my old school was that everyone used to gossip behind each other's backs. In my new school, I became extremely close with an ENFP and one of the things I love about them most is how they say something about a person that they don't like to me (or another friend) and then look them in the eye and say it to their face.
THIS! My acquaintances know I don't engage in gossiping, but when I do open my mouth, everyone is silent. It's like they waited for me to say something bad about someone. What only my (few close) friends know, is that if I do this, it's because I would say it to their faces as well. Even if it sounds quite bad. -ENFP
I think I was in kindergarten at the time; I was one of three friends who would hang out in different pairings. One of these friends would typically engage in gossip about the other and talk shit about how they didn't like certain things about them. The next time I met up with the third friend, I told her what the first friend said. And I never forgot how she responded by saying something along the lines of - 'I don't like to talk about people when they're not around.' That really stuck with me.
This is absolutely what I cannot stand. Those who say and act one way but when it comes down to it, are quiet and fake. Like what happened to all that big talk??? I would respect someone if they truly stood behind what they said. Posers and fake people need to GO. -ENFP
I’m an ENFP and I will admit I’ve gossiped in the past but it doesn’t make me feel better. I feel better when I say something to someone’s face despite the consequences because why lie about it?
I'm screaming at this!! We value honesty so much. I will tell someone to their face if something about their character is lacking or they are offensive to others. I love that about us too, because people are so phony and they fear what people will think if you say bad things about them...well my view is that the truth is the truth, whether you say it to their face or not. I wouldn't say something about a person if I wasn't comfortable saying it to their face.
Ah, NOW I understand why INFJ's and ENFP's get along so well. INFJ's can happily entertain ENFP's with their deep thinking and ENFP's can pull and INFJ 'out of their shell' with their curiosity to explore which an INFJ can easily sponge their enthusiasm and join right along with them. INFJ here, btw, and forever friend of ENFPs. ^-^
@@MichelleAntonia Wow! That's incredible! I bet you two have so much fun together. =] I'm also a twin, lol, but we are both INFJ's so we think pretty similarly. Although I tend to float towards being more forgiving and "feelz" while she leans more toward being stern and rational.
True enfps read the comments while watching the video... Then thwy realize they missed the video and rewatch it, only to be distracted by the comments again.
I am an ENFP. You hit the nail on the head. So so much. Nothing is more intriguing than an authentic person. Makes me want to be closer to them. I'm also currently on my semester abroad XD I also tired learning a language that is purely for novelty for me. And I do like it when a person challenges my beliefs. It make me reflect on myself and my core values and it brings me personal growth and that's amazing.
ENFP male here. I love weird things and people. I love seeing people being free to be themselves. Anyone else enjoy the show Game Changer? The way the contestants use improv to express themselves brings me such joy.
Yesss! I also love Game Changer and Dropout in general. It’s so refreshing getting to see so many talented people shine in their own raw, unfiltered way.
I love how he pointed out that an ENFP can be a challenging debater. The rapid fire thinking with NE pulled with the si is an information connection monster. Couple that with our personal convictions (fi) and our ability to pack that information together in a very logical concise verbal way that makes sense(te). I honestly always win in arguments. Though I never start it.
it’s so true!! i find our stack is also really good at making information easier to process for other people. every ENFP i’ve met is amazing at creating metaphors and teaching :)
I agree with trying to poke someone's soul and I've noticed it's only been the dominant Ni-types who have been willing to open their rich world to me. It felt so good. It's like a mind-stimulation to be guided through their inner world compared to marching your way through reality. Hope to have more soul-feeding conversations with people like this. Thanks again, Nathan - ENFP
@@rachelthehomosapiens i get this so much!! i have an in-person friend (unsure of their type) who i'm much more "chill" with, and i know we both trust each other a lot. conversations are just *easier* with her for some reason, and i dont have to really stay on topic, i guess. she also showers me with affection so that nice lol
I'm an ENFP and I feel soooo understood! The rawness, the authenticity, challenges and, contrary to what people think is typical only for ENTPs, intellectual discussions. I would love to talk with someone as observant as you, Nathan! And yep, your hair is living its own life and I think we all love that, heh 😂
Glad to hear it! It’s nice to be able to dig a little bit deeper with the types and get past some of the more generic descriptions! Thank you for this comment ~ Nathan
Yes, indeed! Honesty n truth...But, I had to realize that some people just can't be true to others. It, hurts like hell..but one learns from it. It's, hard to LET GO....But, necessary if you want to grow n make room for other blessings to come into your life. Thanks for sharing...
ENFP here!! People fascinate me, I love finding out what makes people tick. You are dead on about groups, I feel like a shark in water in groups trying to pick out that one person who I can sense not only with my intuition but my empathy. once I lock on, I'll walk up and try to get that person alone so I can peel away the layers. I love meeting new people, and just vibing with them. Being open and authentic allows for non-judgmental encounters. If I see you dancing in the street, you bet your butt I'm dancing with you!
So so TRUE! I remember one of my friends telling me that they find it intimidating when I ask questions and challenge others thoughts, when really it's what drives me!!
As usual, all the ENFP stuff resonates with my INFP self in a low-key, quiet sort of way. Naturally, I too love authenticity, and I love exploring minds and souls, except I'm less likely to actively prod people and more likely to passively listen and observe, read people's written thoughts, and consume their art and self-expression. The same goes for how I share myself. One commenter said that Ni-doms are the only people who have opened up their inner worlds to them. I'll admit that it is usually difficult for people to gain entry into my inner world in person. Yet the inner worlds of INFPs are available in abundance in books, music, art, and throughout the internet. I have no problem sharing myself with the world in a diffuse sort of way, especially anonymously, but in more vulnerable, on-the-spot in-person contexts, reserve is my default state, and you'll only be able to get to know me if I've actively decided that I'm comfortable letting you in. It's similar with intellectual discourse, where I tend to feel more comfortable and competent in writing, and with time for reflection, than out loud or in real time. I've often found ENFPs to more readily say out loud what I'm thinking, and I've also often found ENFPs to deeply resonate with the written words of INFPs.
Hi! This was so well explained! My best friend is an INFP and this sounds a lot like her. In the first paragraph, you explained how our friendship kind of formed and got stronger. She's a very calm, patient and good listener. She made me comfortable while we conversed. Of course, I was doing the same for her. Letting her know that she's an amazing person and I love her raw authenticity. Always stands by what she says. I also noticed it's harder for INFPs to open their inner worlds to me, because they are more insecure about it. They could finally feel comfortable sharing with me, yet closing off again, because of their own inner thoughts (doubts, trust-issues, maybe feeling scared of rejection or being judged). I actually feel all these things when I'm with her. I can feel her emotion without her sharing them. It's kind of scary, ngl. I'm not an Fi-dom and I think my Te is really developing, so when I'm talking about certain topics, I can FEEL her becoming defensive, or maybe a bit hurt somehow and suspicious of what I'm saying. Personally, I don't put much feeling behind it, because I'm stating facts and her reaction to it actually made me realize that I can't talk to her openly about everything, without having to watch my words. With Ni-doms, I never felt like I had to be scared of what I'm about to say. I also find myself agreeing with a lot they say, which is why, personally, I'm able to share inner worlds with them. Yes!! the "ENFP puts my thoughts into words" haha. We're quite similar in a lot of ways. INFPs are my favorite type of people, actually. Your hearts are in the right places. -ENFP :)
Fellow INFP here, and I agree. My husband is actually the ENFP, and this is quite how our relationship flows too. I really love the dynamic, I'm not really sure I've met a lot of people like him, (or myself) because there aren't nearly enough people I feel this comfortable around.
My teenager is ENFP and she is studying Cartography in her homeschooling curriculum...it's her favorite thing! She loves learning about different places around the world
That focus on individuals, the exploration of places, ideas and souls; and their love for the off-beat and spontaneous are a few of the reasons I as an INFJ really like ENFPs. To be fair, I haven't met one in person (I don't think), but I've seen videos by ENFP creators (LindaPinda, HeartofMichi and MaryVideos) that talk about the compatibility of INFJs and ENFPs, and I've liked what I've heard. As an INFJ I'm pretty good at dealing with and understanding a group, but I also Love one-on-one interactions and explorations of ideas. And Linda said in her video that INFJs understand everyone, but not everyone understands INFJs, but that ENFPs CAN understand INFJs. With them having Ne as their dominant function, ENFPs talk in the way that INFJs think (according to Linda and her anecdotes), and It's always amazing to me when someone can decipher that weird, disjointed, metaphor-ridden way I have of talking. Many people seem to get approximately what I mean - I'm still speaking human language after all - but when I'm opening the gate and giving my unfiltered thoughts, it's kinda rare to find someone who keeps up. (And vice-versa I've heard, we INFJs understand the "jumpy" way ENFPs talk). It can be really refreshing if an INFJ finds an ENFP who has similar interests, because they can go off into this Intuitive Dream Land Bubble together. I think it's important to remember that the types are quite different though, and that there's more to personality and relationships than your MBTI-type, but I think a relationship (friendship or otherwise) between an INFJ and ENFP can be really valuable for both parties involved. :) Edit: moved paragraphs to make it flow better
"because they can go off into this Intuitive Dream Land Bubble together" As an ENFP I feel the need to say that this does not at all sound appealing to me. (But maybe other ENFPs see that differently? Would be great if others shared their views.) Nathan is absolutely right about ENFPs being happy with solely planning, but the intention for creating even the smallest plan is a possible realisation. Edit: my focus is directed to the real world. Real people, real ideas, real adventures, not to the clouds in the sky (even if I watched them regularly going by ;-) ).
@@dande_lion Fair enough, maybe "dream land" wasn't exactly the right word. I mostly meant that the connection between the Types can make it so that the rest of the world "falls away" and you become completely engrossed in the conversation, like a bubble. I think I said "dream land" to indicate that to someone listening in on the conversation, there's a risk it might sound as disjointed and tangent- filled as someone describing their dreams. Does that make sense?
ENFP here. It is lovely that you appreciate the very things that often make us an awkward fit with people in general. Your description matched me just right. I’ve never met an INFJ in real life either but everything I have read makes me so keen to. You sound so deep, interesting, passionate, meaningful, independent. It seems to me that ENFPs would love being seen and appreciated by INFJs and that INFJs would really benefit from the ENFPs warmth, positivity, caring and we could help you to take a break when you need it. It is a shame INFJs are so rare! I love the way you mentioned the jumpy way we talk. We both just think in leaps and bounds 🤗
My best friend is an INFJ and I'm an ENFP. We meet at a later age. We were 23 and 26 respectively. But the very moment we met, we both knew that this was something special ( I know so because we both confirmed it together while reminiscing on the past). It was like our soul fell in love with each other. Anyways... We speak both English and French interchangeably. We often times finishes each others sentences. We knows the exact emotional state the other one is feeling. We even sometime do not need words to communicate. We both have same level of crazy, I'm more overt while she's more covert. But when we're together, there is not bound to our insanity. We laugh, we cry, we'd talk for hoourrrrsssss.... Our inner and outer world seems to mix with each other so well. We can say whatever it is in our mind and the other will ride along with it. Everything is so natural and free with her. Nothing is off limit. My only regret is that I have not found her sooner. She is the absolute BEST!!! My most favourite person on the entire planet! I don't know many INFJs. But if all of you are even a fraction of what she is, wow!! Y'all awesome! I love y'all so very much! Y'all basically the best! Sincerely, An ENFP
@@dande_lion(ENFP here ) yep. My focus is also on a possible vision of the real world. I want to explore what in my opinion is possible to realize. It doesn't have to be in my lifetime, but it has to be imaginable/ thinkable. I also enjoy Sci-Fi Genre Movies a lot.
LOVE your channel. I am an ENFP married to an ENTP and you have each of us nailed. And yes ....we do spar verbally which always sparks new thoughts and ideas. Authenticity and freedom of expression coupled with curiosity is always my go to. YES....I am always going to the soul level in just about everything! DO NOT bother me with fluff. Thank you so much. Such FUN! I LOVE finding out more about myself.
I am an ENFP and I am not sure if I probe people to tell me their darkest secrets or if people naturally seek me out to tell me their darkest secrets. But it happens all the time and I am honored that people trust me that much. And I would never betray their trust.
I've often thought I must have an invisible stamp on my forehead that I can't see. It says "Hello stranger. Take a seat. Tell me about your life and the depth of our soul".
That's...scarily accurate! Poking at people, no matter if it's with a joke or just a comment, to see how they react, really helps me to get an idea on what I can or cannot say while with said person. It's like, an experiment, to get to the bottom of how they feel no matter if the response is them getting angry (although I will quickly apologize). Anyhow, good video Mr.Nathan Glass sir *salutes*.
@@Lizzzi86 yeah, I'm not joking. I know for a fact after reading a whole lot about ENFPs that I am probably one, but I am not sure about my personality at all. It has many shades and levels to it, and I am scared to actually tap into some of it. And being guilt struck by my past doesn't really help me to actually weigh what the fuck I am. So yes, it's hard to know what functions I actually do use when half of the time I am either sure what I am or trying to run away from what I could be. Oh well. Could be, or maybe I truly am all that.
As an ENFP your explanation of us preferring individuals to groups makes so much sense. A lot of my life I’ve been told to embrace things like Critical Theory and Identity Politics and I’ve always hated that and now I know why. Those theories reduce complex and interesting individuals to mere group tags, and that does a disservice to everyone.
As an INFP, your description of ENFP is exactly the one i would love to have in my life. You know we idealize people, so ENFP seems to me that idealized human being who is somewhere there but i never came across one to be honest.
I am INFP and have met an ENFP recently and I have to say that they are quite intoxicating for me. Definitely a case of doing the classic INFP of putting them on a pedestal too. But, we are a very good match I would say.
My vote is it is a good hair day I’m so impressed by each of your videos. You capture the nuances of each type so incredibly well, and boil them down in a way that doesn’t oversimplify. Well done, yet again!
I LOVE THIS. Thank you. I am always looking to better myself, and change and improve the version of myself. You know the ENFP well. Yes we are zany and cute, but the other side is this intellectual side that people are surprised when we are serious.
ahhhhhhhhh the joy of realizing why i think and do and feel and behave the way i think and do and feel and behave (and any other related verbs). thank you nathan!!
Ok it freaks me out a bit how accurate this is. My first blog handle many years ago was "sugar in the raw" because i just wanted to be vulnerable and authentic. I gravitate toward individuals and clam up sometimes in large groups. Love to travel, and enjoy the anticipation and dreaming stage most of all. And I love to spar now and then, did speech competitions and debate for years. I enjoy the boundaries that these formal events made, because I have no desire to hurt people or make them think that I'm being difficult.
Thank you so much, Nathan. I don't understand how you manage to explore the 16 personalities' mind and dreams, but the content you post is always impressive and helps me a lot. Thank you very much! An ENFP.
Man. Where the fuck are all the ENFPs in my life? (...as an INTP, I absolutely cannot fucking stand inauthentic people. It's one of the main motivating factors for why I would rather be a hermit.)
Wow this was really spot on. I definitely prefer individuals to groups (unless I'm the "node" or it's task based). I generally withdraw from artificiality unless I recognize something of substance peering out, or feel the person/issue it's worth "powering through". Last night my partner an ISTJ tried to avoid the neccessary emotional work that may be essential to getting him to a place where he can do the thing he has needed to do for months but keeps evading, and I just confront him in a compassionate way, and he kept trying to deflect and I was like nope, were doing this, it's too important a thing to let some unexpressed emotional issue you can't identify derail your life for years, sorry! He tentatively exposed something kinda faking in a way that communicated he thought he'd be judged.. So I had to give him the reassurance first, in a "show, not tell" way, that I cpuld be trusted not to judge or attack, that the point of my exploration was emotional problem solving. Eventually it all came out, a resentment towards his father he'd been holding for *15 yrs* and had never really identified or expressed to anyone. Once you know what you're working with emotionally it loses alot of its power to sabotage you, and we can work through it enough that you can function.
This is very much accurate. The only part I don't agree with, as an ENFP, is that at least for me I feel extremely frustrated and sad when I don't do the things I imagined I would do. For example, you've said it's awesome even to travel within our minds and that is partially true. But a big part of my sadness (in the rare occasions it occurs) is not getting to do things I really wanted to do. I idealize a lot and there is no question about that, but I don't idealize for the sake of it. Really I just want to experience it, even if it's not as great as I thought would be, getting to live it and being surprised by stuff is even better! Like you said, we like to get deep into people and life in general, never accomplishing what we set our minds to, leads to frustration for me.
Very interesting, I like that you said that. This doesn't resonate with me though, as an ENFP. I find that there are so many things to explore and ideas to flirt with that once I've tasted just enough of an idea, I don't desire much more from it. I actually get distracted from it by a whole other idea. It's subconscious, it's effortless. My husband, an INFP on the other hand feels very regretful when he doesn't accomplish things be desires to do. It's like he takes it personally, like he wasn't true to himself or something. Like he can't pat himself on the back until he does it. That fascinates me! I would much rather see what comes my way, experience it as a concept or as a real thing, whatever I'm presented with and just move on to the next thing that catches my fancy.
@@heritage.home.crochet There are definitely situations where I don't mind experiencing it in my head. But traveling is one of my favorite things to do in life. This difference must be because I'm an enneagram 6w7. 7s are known to want to live life at its fullest and have fear of missing out. I've had a near death experience, so when it comes to trying stuff or doing things I love I want to do it as much as I can. Because almost not surviving must have rewired my brain to enjoy things, with moderation, but I still have a fear of getting to the end of it all and not lived. Thank you for sharing your experience! You seem to be a very cool person. And don't get me wrong, I get bored with most stuff as many ENFPs do. But there's a short list of things I don't get tired of.
I kind of agree, to an extent. Imagination gets me so, so far, and most of the time, it really does sustain me. But if/when I'm living a limited life, and almost none of it comes to pass, over and over, it can be very disappointing. It's not like I need it ALL, no way, but at least a little, sometimes.
@@MichelleAntonia yes . that. I have soo many project ideas, there is no way I can pull them all off in 10 lifetimes. I need(ed) to learn to pick the right ones to follow through, or at least try them out. What makes me a little sad is the biiiig pile of started and unfinished projects. I can create momentum and passion for the start, but if no one is joining the boat, I rarely make it to the end, at least with regards to my creative side-projects.
I’ve been struggling like crazy for years, To explain why I think, The way that I do. And I’ve watched a ridiculous amount of personality profiling/ Brain wiring content. Every single example and why more specifically. Felt like a super happy punch to the gut. Thanks man!😊
Nothing like an idealist creating concepts and explore anything without the concrete. This can be amazing and can be disappointing at the same time. -Fellow ENFP
I love that his videos are short and have good content too...cus as an ENFP...my attention span for the 25 minute long videos is well....we know how bad it is...
I’ve never failed a job interview and there’s been many of them growing up, 40 now so I’m much more stable but we have a unique ability to think on our feet and also gain people’s trust in a short period of time. This would be so dangerous in a broken person because if we had no empathy, morals or values I’m almost positive we could make very good con men.
being an ENFP, i always think how wonderful it would be to have another ENFP for a friend. it would be easy to understand one another and feel the same way and have the same ideas.
Already with the first point is so relatable. My problem with most perceptions of ENFP obviously is this idea that we are extroverted af and are hyperactive party animals. However in reality I find that I don’t have many friends or interact with many people for this exact reason. I also don’t wanna waste my time on someone who I’m not gonna learn from for them to just leave after all my effort of trying to get to know them. I
The first one pretty much explains my fascination with Ni dom types (and perhaps the last one too because this was... a challenge?). They’re known to be the most secretive and most reserved types when it comes to showing their authentic selves. But somehow I’ve managed to break through an INxJ’s walls (twice at that). Their minds are the most beautiful yet the most tragic I’ve seen. I cherish them both.
Oh man, when you said we prefer to deal with one person at a time. You are right. You feel like you can't focus on more than one person at a time and give the attention to them that they deserve. It's also overwhelming when you're in defensive mode and more than one person is ganging up on you, it feels like you need to be doing that one on one.
That example of pondering and imagining to travel being just as good if not better than the actually doing it is crazy because that is truly me. I am always in my head imagining future worlds which sometimes causes my real life experiences to be anti-climactic because i have been imagining it in my head for so long. Like for example, I was waiting on news after an interview and I had spent so much time pondering what it would feel like getting the offer that when it came it was almost a "...oh that's it moment' it's so weird. I feel like I am always living in the future.
ENFP here. Your content is always so amazing and well thought out! I’d love some longer videos, especially advice for and regarding being an ENFP as I could listen to you speak and share your knowledge for ages.
It's true!! It's all so true!! Except, I am out of practice of soul-poking people. It is so disheartening when they turn out to be just like the rest of them...boring and regular. I don't try anymore, I put too much of my heart into it.
Omg as an enfp I thought it wasn't too extroverted of me to prefer small group hangouts instead of big groups but hearing you say that's an enfp trait is cool
(ENFP here). I would call my self an "Idea Explorer" and a "Solution Designer". getting lost in tedious details when trying to execute a project bogs me down and drowns my energy. For that, I need teammates that believe in me and my/our vision and who have the grounding to push together through the boring parts of the execution.
Well said. It's important for ENFPs to have those people in their life, and vice versa. I like those titles you came up with as well. Very fitting indeed! ~ Nathan
Great intuition! Being from the dark, dense forests once inhabited by the brothers Grimm, I have a taste for real people, especially lost children who eat too much candy.
The store I work at is kind of boring and meh, but once every so often, some stranger walks in and gives a fresh perspective of the greater world. I enjoy those moments a lot, even if I haven't seen those people since. Maybe the one-time aspect of the crossover between our stories is the beauty of it.
One of my best friends is ENFP and I totally agree with this video. Also I have another 2 ENFP friends. I'm impressed how you (Nathan) get to the point so well with each personality. I'm ENTP and about being my true self in front of high Fi users it's impossible 😅 Even if ENFPs actualize their values, for them the idea of being in front of someone guided by logic and "situational fairness" instead of personal values and moral applied to every situation, makes them feel like insecure, as if I'm a "bad" person, or as if they can't trust me. And as I like to be friend of Fi users, I acquire the morals of the one that I have in front of me for that moment 🤷♀ So for the ENFPs and Fi users, if you are in front of an ENTP, try to don't judge them for their values as I try to don't judge you by your logic, and enjoy Ne and life together 🤣 Sorry my English, I'm Spanish.
ENFP here. Wow I didn’t realise we made you feel that way. We want the real you not what you think we want to hear. I am happy for everyone to have their own views that may be different from my own. The world would be boring if we all thought the same thing! It is interesting to see how other people come to make the choices they decide and learn from them to make a better future.😊 I hate the idea that ENTPs can’t be themselves around us without feeling judged. I want to you feel comfortable talking ideas with us
This may be a personal thing of mine, but as an ENFP, I prefer people to be true to themselves. Even if I am sensitive to emotions, I am normally pretty resilient and won’t take it personally. As long as we both get to truly express ourselves without judgement, I am satisfied.
@@The_Rusalka ALL ENFPs say that, it's not only you 😅 And it's not about hurting your feelings, as I'm a Fe user after all and I try to keep harmony most of the time. But when I express my true thoughts about the people, the world and my true intentions when I act, they get scared or confused or suspicious about me 🤷♀ I'm Fi blind, so my true self is tryin to do impersonal logic decisions and taking account of the best for the majority if possible. Even if that goes against myself or my friends or family. If something isn't fair, no matter who you are, I will go for fairness.
ENFP here. I love addressing a group, but my goal is to seek out connections with individuals therein. If I'm teaching, for example, I relish questions, discussion, interaction, and I am immediately intrigued by those individuals who contribute something thought-provoking and enlightening to the group. But individuals who simply want to draw attention to themselves, without providing something substantive, totally turn me off.
Hi. I'm ENFP. I used to be INFP and never had many friends but now I live for friends. I do want authenticity and would love to travel if I had enough finances but it is right, I would want rare gems, not popular tourist attractions. I like it when people come to me for help and I want to be as helpful as I can. A friend who I had just met that day recently asked if I would help her get off alcohol since I myself had done it and I said yes. Just going to arrange to go to her house for karaoke because she is a karaoke host at the pub. I had been on BGT 7 years ago. I was very nervous and was INFP at the time. I sang 'Ave Maria' and 'Pie Jesu'.
Oh yes. All of this is true. This is why my Si-dom mother and I seem to be unable to have a mutually beneficial relationship. She refuses to open up to me. Never lets me in. And she hates it when I try to prod her and tells me to stop. Then wonders why I'm 31 and get frustrated while talking to her.
@@LilyGrace1990 My mom's an ISFJ, and she's very warm and receptive to people who don't try to harm her or anyone she cares about. By your words, your mom seems colder than that, and ISTJs are known for coldness and rigid structure more than ISFJs are, and those are the two Si doms.
I relate to most of these as an ENFP, but i had my own approach when it comes to authenticity. It doesn't necessarily places that is a hidden gem or places i've never been there. Even if i go to a famous tourist place for a thousand times, going with different person or people would make it a brand new experience for me. The individuality is also on point. That's why I'm having a hard time remembering people. Unless they've shown their true self or have an unforgettable experience with me, i'd forget about them within days or weeks.
I love the flawed but real, and I love talking to those I have those I have no business talking to. Thank god ENFP is my dark side... and I love the dark side.
"I want to see the real you" _start searching for underrated artist_ _spend time in google discovering new things and learning new things everyday_ The real you or your core excite me a friend of mine talk alot and opened to me telling me their flaws and how bad that is they know but they can't help it.. *Me eye sparkling at the side* I mean I guess so, but if you're not out there intentionally hurting someone or have reason for your behavior I don't see wrong in that. It just mean you're being true to yourself no matter how dark it may be. Also ENFP - collectors of introvert
Glad you enjoyed it! If you haven't already feel free to check out the LoveWho Discord server, it's always cool to see more ENFPs on there to bring the introverts (myself included) out of the shadows! ~ Nathan
Agh, you want us to say INTJs. I have another paradigm shift in this since I’m married to an INFJ and find his inner INTJ hilarious and like a fuzzy asshole teddy bear 😂. So, an INFJ’s inner INTJ is the correct extra credit answer. 😊❤😂.
As an ENFP if the only thing or the only way you ever treat me, is with some kimd of challenge, or some kind of cut down, I will give absolutely no fucks about engaging with you further.
ENFP here.
I totally agree with "Individuality" point. I don't like talking to a group I'd rather prefer to talk to an individual..just so that person can be comfortable and talk about their deepest feelings.
Hey, same here! I want loads of friends but not loads all together at the same time too often. I prefer 1 to 1. I also find too many people conversing distracting and find I can't keep up with the conversation.
sooo true
Me too
Same for me! Im working with plants, and this thing is right for them as well! I prefer caring for individual plants. Whole fields of plants treated as one makes me annoyed, bc the plants wont really feel better or good. :) (ENFP)
Idk, I like small groups. I just don’t like huge amounts of people.
Use me as a "as an ENFP, I feel understood" button
*clicks aggressively*
Wish i could like more than once.
I see I've been here before
I LOVE BEING UNDERSTOOD
@@mufasosends6116LMAO THIS IS SO REAL
I’m an ENFP and I have ADHD, does anyone else procrastinate on small tasks like laundry and cleaning your room? 😂
ENFP trait as well as an ADHD trait. Yes. Small, boring tasks are always procrastinated. And my ability to procrastinate is superlative.
Im also an enfp with adhd and yes i also procrastinate on small tasks
enfp & ADHD and yes
I'm an ENFP and I too have ADHD, combined type. Yes, the small tasks are hard for me to find the motivation to complete as well. However, there is a subtle reward in making an area look neat, as on it brings a sense of calmness and completion. But I need a lit match under me to move me to take on the mundane. I'd rather be playing piano or counseling a friend than picking up laundry. Lolz 😆
I can relate
One thing I hated about my old school was that everyone used to gossip behind each other's backs. In my new school, I became extremely close with an ENFP and one of the things I love about them most is how they say something about a person that they don't like to me (or another friend) and then look them in the eye and say it to their face.
THIS! My acquaintances know I don't engage in gossiping, but when I do open my mouth, everyone is silent. It's like they waited for me to say something bad about someone. What only my (few close) friends know, is that if I do this, it's because I would say it to their faces as well. Even if it sounds quite bad. -ENFP
I think I was in kindergarten at the time; I was one of three friends who would hang out in different pairings. One of these friends would typically engage in gossip about the other and talk shit about how they didn't like certain things about them. The next time I met up with the third friend, I told her what the first friend said. And I never forgot how she responded by saying something along the lines of - 'I don't like to talk about people when they're not around.' That really stuck with me.
This is absolutely what I cannot stand. Those who say and act one way but when it comes down to it, are quiet and fake. Like what happened to all that big talk??? I would respect someone if they truly stood behind what they said. Posers and fake people need to GO. -ENFP
I’m an ENFP and I will admit I’ve gossiped in the past but it doesn’t make me feel better. I feel better when I say something to someone’s face despite the consequences because why lie about it?
I'm screaming at this!! We value honesty so much. I will tell someone to their face if something about their character is lacking or they are offensive to others. I love that about us too, because people are so phony and they fear what people will think if you say bad things about them...well my view is that the truth is the truth, whether you say it to their face or not. I wouldn't say something about a person if I wasn't comfortable saying it to their face.
Ah, NOW I understand why INFJ's and ENFP's get along so well. INFJ's can happily entertain ENFP's with their deep thinking and ENFP's can pull and INFJ 'out of their shell' with their curiosity to explore which an INFJ can easily sponge their enthusiasm and join right along with them.
INFJ here, btw, and forever friend of ENFPs. ^-^
I'm an ENFP and my twin sister is an INFJ. Weird how that happened!
I know two women who are an ENFP and an INFJ, and they are TIGHT friends!
@@MichelleAntonia Wow! That's incredible! I bet you two have so much fun together. =] I'm also a twin, lol, but we are both INFJ's so we think pretty similarly. Although I tend to float towards being more forgiving and "feelz" while she leans more toward being stern and rational.
True enfps read the comments while watching the video...
Then thwy realize they missed the video and rewatch it, only to be distracted by the comments again.
Yep, that's me.
So true. At least for me. I love to hear what others are thinking about what I am watching.
“Imaginative adventures have real effects”
ENFPs hopping realms
I am an ENFP.
You hit the nail on the head. So so much.
Nothing is more intriguing than an authentic person. Makes me want to be closer to them.
I'm also currently on my semester abroad XD I also tired learning a language that is purely for novelty for me.
And I do like it when a person challenges my beliefs. It make me reflect on myself and my core values and it brings me personal growth and that's amazing.
Omg this is so me as well 😂🙆♂️ ENFPs rock 😍🐳✨🎶
ENFP male here.
I love weird things and people. I love seeing people being free to be themselves. Anyone else enjoy the show Game Changer? The way the contestants use improv to express themselves brings me such joy.
Yesss! I also love Game Changer and Dropout in general. It’s so refreshing getting to see so many talented people shine in their own raw, unfiltered way.
I love how he pointed out that an ENFP can be a challenging debater. The rapid fire thinking with NE pulled with the si is an information connection monster. Couple that with our personal convictions (fi) and our ability to pack that information together in a very logical concise verbal way that makes sense(te).
I honestly always win in arguments. Though I never start it.
it’s so true!! i find our stack is also really good at making information easier to process for other people. every ENFP i’ve met is amazing at creating metaphors and teaching :)
Me too.
Saaaaaame.
"I dont start shit but I can tell you how it ends"
@@ciggytwiggy ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I agree with trying to poke someone's soul and I've noticed it's only been the dominant Ni-types who have been willing to open their rich world to me. It felt so good. It's like a mind-stimulation to be guided through their inner world compared to marching your way through reality. Hope to have more soul-feeding conversations with people like this. Thanks again, Nathan - ENFP
My best friend is an ENFP and her closest friends are an INTJ and me(INFJ) so I think I kinda get why ENFPs would like INxJs
This completely makes sense! I relate so badly to everything you said haha :) happy to hear you have such good experiences.
@@rachelthehomosapiens i get this so much!! i have an in-person friend (unsure of their type) who i'm much more "chill" with, and i know we both trust each other a lot. conversations are just *easier* with her for some reason, and i dont have to really stay on topic, i guess. she also showers me with affection so that nice lol
Right!? Love those INxJs
As an ENFP who appreciates the unusual and surprising, I absolutely love your hair in this clip!
I love this raw, authentic hair.
I'm an ENFP and I feel soooo understood! The rawness, the authenticity,
challenges and, contrary to what people think is typical only for ENTPs, intellectual discussions. I would love to talk with someone as observant as you, Nathan!
And yep, your hair is living its own life and I think we all love that, heh 😂
The most insightful and non-cliché MBTI channel by far!
Glad to hear it! It’s nice to be able to dig a little bit deeper with the types and get past some of the more generic descriptions! Thank you for this comment ~ Nathan
Yes, we’re forever searching for that raw authenticity, and like the INFPs, “for a heart of gold.”
Yes, indeed! Honesty n truth...But, I had to realize that some people just can't be true to others. It, hurts like hell..but one learns from it. It's, hard to LET GO....But, necessary if you want to grow n make room for other blessings to come into your life. Thanks for sharing...
ENFP here!! People fascinate me, I love finding out what makes people tick. You are dead on about groups, I feel like a shark in water in groups trying to pick out that one person who I can sense not only with my intuition but my empathy. once I lock on, I'll walk up and try to get that person alone so I can peel away the layers. I love meeting new people, and just vibing with them. Being open and authentic allows for non-judgmental encounters. If I see you dancing in the street, you bet your butt I'm dancing with you!
(ENFP here ) 100 %
So so TRUE! I remember one of my friends telling me that they find it intimidating when I ask questions and challenge others thoughts, when really it's what drives me!!
You get the stamp of approval from this ENFP
Why thank you! ~ Nathan
As usual, all the ENFP stuff resonates with my INFP self in a low-key, quiet sort of way. Naturally, I too love authenticity, and I love exploring minds and souls, except I'm less likely to actively prod people and more likely to passively listen and observe, read people's written thoughts, and consume their art and self-expression. The same goes for how I share myself.
One commenter said that Ni-doms are the only people who have opened up their inner worlds to them. I'll admit that it is usually difficult for people to gain entry into my inner world in person. Yet the inner worlds of INFPs are available in abundance in books, music, art, and throughout the internet. I have no problem sharing myself with the world in a diffuse sort of way, especially anonymously, but in more vulnerable, on-the-spot in-person contexts, reserve is my default state, and you'll only be able to get to know me if I've actively decided that I'm comfortable letting you in.
It's similar with intellectual discourse, where I tend to feel more comfortable and competent in writing, and with time for reflection, than out loud or in real time. I've often found ENFPs to more readily say out loud what I'm thinking, and I've also often found ENFPs to deeply resonate with the written words of INFPs.
Hi! This was so well explained! My best friend is an INFP and this sounds a lot like her. In the first paragraph, you explained how our friendship kind of formed and got stronger. She's a very calm, patient and good listener. She made me comfortable while we conversed. Of course, I was doing the same for her. Letting her know that she's an amazing person and I love her raw authenticity. Always stands by what she says.
I also noticed it's harder for INFPs to open their inner worlds to me, because they are more insecure about it. They could finally feel comfortable sharing with me, yet closing off again, because of their own inner thoughts (doubts, trust-issues, maybe feeling scared of rejection or being judged). I actually feel all these things when I'm with her. I can feel her emotion without her sharing them. It's kind of scary, ngl.
I'm not an Fi-dom and I think my Te is really developing, so when I'm talking about certain topics, I can FEEL her becoming defensive, or maybe a bit hurt somehow and suspicious of what I'm saying. Personally, I don't put much feeling behind it, because I'm stating facts and her reaction to it actually made me realize that I can't talk to her openly about everything, without having to watch my words. With Ni-doms, I never felt like I had to be scared of what I'm about to say. I also find myself agreeing with a lot they say, which is why, personally, I'm able to share inner worlds with them.
Yes!! the "ENFP puts my thoughts into words" haha. We're quite similar in a lot of ways. INFPs are my favorite type of people, actually. Your hearts are in the right places.
-ENFP :)
Fellow INFP here, and I agree. My husband is actually the ENFP, and this is quite how our relationship flows too. I really love the dynamic, I'm not really sure I've met a lot of people like him, (or myself) because there aren't nearly enough people I feel this comfortable around.
My teenager is ENFP and she is studying Cartography in her homeschooling curriculum...it's her favorite thing! She loves learning about different places around the world
Cartography????? AWESOME!!! Wish her all the best! -fellow ENFP
One of my ENFP friends studied geography and he loves it.
@@frisbeecouriers yes her final project will be to construct an artistic map of the world from memory! ❤
As an enfp, this is the most accurate description of us I’ve heard. Everything you said is so true and said in such a good way!
“Flawed but real” sounds delicious to me 😋
That focus on individuals, the exploration of places, ideas and souls; and their love for the off-beat and spontaneous are a few of the reasons I as an INFJ really like ENFPs. To be fair, I haven't met one in person (I don't think), but I've seen videos by ENFP creators (LindaPinda, HeartofMichi and MaryVideos) that talk about the compatibility of INFJs and ENFPs, and I've liked what I've heard.
As an INFJ I'm pretty good at dealing with and understanding a group, but I also Love one-on-one interactions and explorations of ideas. And Linda said in her video that INFJs understand everyone, but not everyone understands INFJs, but that ENFPs CAN understand INFJs. With them having Ne as their dominant function, ENFPs talk in the way that INFJs think (according to Linda and her anecdotes), and It's always amazing to me when someone can decipher that weird, disjointed, metaphor-ridden way I have of talking.
Many people seem to get approximately what I mean - I'm still speaking human language after all - but when I'm opening the gate and giving my unfiltered thoughts, it's kinda rare to find someone who keeps up. (And vice-versa I've heard, we INFJs understand the "jumpy" way ENFPs talk).
It can be really refreshing if an INFJ finds an ENFP who has similar interests, because they can go off into this Intuitive Dream Land Bubble together. I think it's important to remember that the types are quite different though, and that there's more to personality and relationships than your MBTI-type, but I think a relationship (friendship or otherwise) between an INFJ and ENFP can be really valuable for both parties involved. :)
Edit: moved paragraphs to make it flow better
"because they can go off into this Intuitive Dream Land Bubble together"
As an ENFP I feel the need to say that this does not at all sound appealing to me. (But maybe other ENFPs see that differently? Would be great if others shared their views.)
Nathan is absolutely right about ENFPs being happy with solely planning, but the intention for creating even the smallest plan is a possible realisation.
Edit: my focus is directed to the real world. Real people, real ideas, real adventures, not to the clouds in the sky (even if I watched them regularly going by ;-) ).
@@dande_lion
Fair enough, maybe "dream land" wasn't exactly the right word.
I mostly meant that the connection between the Types can make it so that the rest of the world "falls away" and you become completely engrossed in the conversation, like a bubble.
I think I said "dream land" to indicate that to someone listening in on the conversation, there's a risk it might sound as disjointed and tangent- filled as someone describing their dreams.
Does that make sense?
ENFP here. It is lovely that you appreciate the very things that often make us an awkward fit with people in general. Your description matched me just right. I’ve never met an INFJ in real life either but everything I have read makes me so keen to. You sound so deep, interesting, passionate, meaningful, independent. It seems to me that ENFPs would love being seen and appreciated by INFJs and that INFJs would really benefit from the ENFPs warmth, positivity, caring and we could help you to take a break when you need it. It is a shame INFJs are so rare! I love the way you mentioned the jumpy way we talk. We both just think in leaps and bounds 🤗
My best friend is an INFJ and I'm an ENFP. We meet at a later age. We were 23 and 26 respectively. But the very moment we met, we both knew that this was something special ( I know so because we both confirmed it together while reminiscing on the past). It was like our soul fell in love with each other. Anyways... We speak both English and French interchangeably. We often times finishes each others sentences. We knows the exact emotional state the other one is feeling. We even sometime do not need words to communicate. We both have same level of crazy, I'm more overt while she's more covert. But when we're together, there is not bound to our insanity. We laugh, we cry, we'd talk for hoourrrrsssss.... Our inner and outer world seems to mix with each other so well. We can say whatever it is in our mind and the other will ride along with it. Everything is so natural and free with her. Nothing is off limit. My only regret is that I have not found her sooner. She is the absolute BEST!!! My most favourite person on the entire planet! I don't know many INFJs. But if all of you are even a fraction of what she is, wow!! Y'all awesome! I love y'all so very much! Y'all basically the best!
Sincerely,
An ENFP
@@dande_lion(ENFP here ) yep. My focus is also on a possible vision of the real world. I want to explore what in my opinion is possible to realize. It doesn't have to be in my lifetime, but it has to be imaginable/ thinkable. I also enjoy Sci-Fi Genre Movies a lot.
LOVE your channel. I am an ENFP married to an ENTP and you have each of us nailed. And yes ....we do spar verbally which always sparks new thoughts and ideas. Authenticity and freedom of expression coupled with curiosity is always my go to. YES....I am always going to the soul level in just about everything! DO NOT bother me with fluff. Thank you so much. Such FUN! I LOVE finding out more about myself.
Also married to an ENTP and yes, this is all true
Woah this is accurate as hell. Every single one hits harder than the other. I always feel so seen by your videos. Thank you so much :D
Same. It's really fascinating how well Nathan gets the personality types.
I am an ENFP and I am not sure if I probe people to tell me their darkest secrets or if people naturally seek me out to tell me their darkest secrets. But it happens all the time and I am honored that people trust me that much. And I would never betray their trust.
I've often thought I must have an invisible stamp on my forehead that I can't see. It says "Hello stranger. Take a seat. Tell me about your life and the depth of our soul".
@@kimberleelarsen6982 Same here....seems like it doesn't happen to anyone else I know.
Interesting most people don't trust me 💀
@@justsomegirlwithamoustache Considering how gabby i am it's a wonder anyone trusts me.
Your ENFP hair is spot on... as are the observations in this video! You really do know us. It is very much appreciated!
That's...scarily accurate! Poking at people, no matter if it's with a joke or just a comment, to see how they react, really helps me to get an idea on what I can or cannot say while with said person. It's like, an experiment, to get to the bottom of how they feel no matter if the response is them getting angry (although I will quickly apologize). Anyhow, good video Mr.Nathan Glass sir *salutes*.
I do the same as ENTP. I thought that was a Ne-Fe thing. Maybe just a Ne thing? 🤔
@@Lizzzi86 oh. Well shit. Maybe I AM an ENTP. Who knows 🤔?
@@bullymaguire8292 are you joking or really you don't know if you are using Fi or Ti? 😅
@@Lizzzi86 yeah, I'm not joking. I know for a fact after reading a whole lot about ENFPs that I am probably one, but I am not sure about my personality at all. It has many shades and levels to it, and I am scared to actually tap into some of it. And being guilt struck by my past doesn't really help me to actually weigh what the fuck I am. So yes, it's hard to know what functions I actually do use when half of the time I am either sure what I am or trying to run away from what I could be. Oh well. Could be, or maybe I truly am all that.
@@bullymaguire8292 You speak (or rather write) like an enfp
As an ENFP your explanation of us preferring individuals to groups makes so much sense. A lot of my life I’ve been told to embrace things like Critical Theory and Identity Politics and I’ve always hated that and now I know why. Those theories reduce complex and interesting individuals to mere group tags, and that does a disservice to everyone.
Collecting eccentric odd ball friends - one of my favourite ENFP habits.
As an INFP, your description of ENFP is exactly the one i would love to have in my life. You know we idealize people, so ENFP seems to me that idealized human being who is somewhere there but i never came across one to be honest.
Well hopefully you meet some of them soon! ~ Nathan
I am INFP and have met an ENFP recently and I have to say that they are quite intoxicating for me.
Definitely a case of doing the classic INFP of putting them on a pedestal too. But, we are a very good match I would say.
My vote is it is a good hair day
I’m so impressed by each of your videos. You capture the nuances of each type so incredibly well, and boil them down in a way that doesn’t oversimplify. Well done, yet again!
I LOVE THIS. Thank you. I am always looking to better myself, and change and improve the version of myself. You know the ENFP well. Yes we are zany and cute, but the other side is this intellectual side that people are surprised when we are serious.
ahhhhhhhhh the joy of realizing why i think and do and feel and behave the way i think and do and feel and behave (and any other related verbs). thank you nathan!!
Ok it freaks me out a bit how accurate this is. My first blog handle many years ago was "sugar in the raw" because i just wanted to be vulnerable and authentic. I gravitate toward individuals and clam up sometimes in large groups. Love to travel, and enjoy the anticipation and dreaming stage most of all. And I love to spar now and then, did speech competitions and debate for years. I enjoy the boundaries that these formal events made, because I have no desire to hurt people or make them think that I'm being difficult.
Thank you so much, Nathan. I don't understand how you manage to explore the 16 personalities' mind and dreams, but the content you post is always impressive and helps me a lot. Thank you very much! An ENFP.
Man. Where the fuck are all the ENFPs in my life?
(...as an INTP, I absolutely cannot fucking stand inauthentic people. It's one of the main motivating factors for why I would rather be a hermit.)
dude i feel like intp-enfp is such an underrated duo. i always hit it off with intps :)
These videos make me cry because I feel so understood watching them.
Sending ENFP love to you, Nathan, and we love BIG! You get us...you really get us. 🥰🥰🥰
Wow this was really spot on. I definitely prefer individuals to groups (unless I'm the "node" or it's task based). I generally withdraw from artificiality unless I recognize something of substance peering out, or feel the person/issue it's worth "powering through". Last night my partner an ISTJ tried to avoid the neccessary emotional work that may be essential to getting him to a place where he can do the thing he has needed to do for months but keeps evading, and I just confront him in a compassionate way, and he kept trying to deflect and I was like nope, were doing this, it's too important a thing to let some unexpressed emotional issue you can't identify derail your life for years, sorry! He tentatively exposed something kinda faking in a way that communicated he thought he'd be judged.. So I had to give him the reassurance first, in a "show, not tell" way, that I cpuld be trusted not to judge or attack, that the point of my exploration was emotional problem solving. Eventually it all came out, a resentment towards his father he'd been holding for *15 yrs* and had never really identified or expressed to anyone. Once you know what you're working with emotionally it loses alot of its power to sabotage you, and we can work through it enough that you can function.
Thank you for sharing! It's, strange how childhood issues can complicate your adult life.
I’m an ENFP-A, musician, wholesale manager, class clown, the always available for a beer guy, catalyst for fun. It’s a good life
This is very much accurate. The only part I don't agree with, as an ENFP, is that at least for me I feel extremely frustrated and sad when I don't do the things I imagined I would do. For example, you've said it's awesome even to travel within our minds and that is partially true. But a big part of my sadness (in the rare occasions it occurs) is not getting to do things I really wanted to do. I idealize a lot and there is no question about that, but I don't idealize for the sake of it. Really I just want to experience it, even if it's not as great as I thought would be, getting to live it and being surprised by stuff is even better! Like you said, we like to get deep into people and life in general, never accomplishing what we set our minds to, leads to frustration for me.
Very interesting, I like that you said that. This doesn't resonate with me though, as an ENFP. I find that there are so many things to explore and ideas to flirt with that once I've tasted just enough of an idea, I don't desire much more from it. I actually get distracted from it by a whole other idea. It's subconscious, it's effortless. My husband, an INFP on the other hand feels very regretful when he doesn't accomplish things be desires to do. It's like he takes it personally, like he wasn't true to himself or something. Like he can't pat himself on the back until he does it. That fascinates me! I would much rather see what comes my way, experience it as a concept or as a real thing, whatever I'm presented with and just move on to the next thing that catches my fancy.
@@heritage.home.crochet There are definitely situations where I don't mind experiencing it in my head. But traveling is one of my favorite things to do in life. This difference must be because I'm an enneagram 6w7. 7s are known to want to live life at its fullest and have fear of missing out. I've had a near death experience, so when it comes to trying stuff or doing things I love I want to do it as much as I can. Because almost not surviving must have rewired my brain to enjoy things, with moderation, but I still have a fear of getting to the end of it all and not lived. Thank you for sharing your experience! You seem to be a very cool person. And don't get me wrong, I get bored with most stuff as many ENFPs do. But there's a short list of things I don't get tired of.
I kind of agree, to an extent. Imagination gets me so, so far, and most of the time, it really does sustain me. But if/when I'm living a limited life, and almost none of it comes to pass, over and over, it can be very disappointing. It's not like I need it ALL, no way, but at least a little, sometimes.
@@MichelleAntonia yes . that. I have soo many project ideas, there is no way I can pull them all off in 10 lifetimes. I need(ed) to learn to pick the right ones to follow through, or at least try them out. What makes me a little sad is the biiiig pile of started and unfinished projects. I can create momentum and passion for the start, but if no one is joining the boat, I rarely make it to the end, at least with regards to my creative side-projects.
Hitchens. Hilarious. His creativity was a gift from the God he fought against.
I’ve been struggling like crazy for years, To explain why I think, The way that I do. And I’ve watched a ridiculous amount of personality profiling/ Brain wiring content.
Every single example and why more specifically. Felt like a super happy punch to the gut.
Thanks man!😊
Excellent explanation 👌👌
I saw many ENFP and not 2 of them were similar. Sometimes i doubt maybe I'm ENFP as well.
Nothing like an idealist creating concepts and explore anything without the concrete. This can be amazing and can be disappointing at the same time. -Fellow ENFP
Can't Wait to show this to my INTJ Friend :D, Thanks for the accurate Description as always
The first one is like the most true thing ever and one of the things im more proud of, the authenticity and the seeking for it on other people
I love that his videos are short and have good content too...cus as an ENFP...my attention span for the 25 minute long videos is well....we know how bad it is...
I’m very glad to hear that! I like to keep the videos short and sweet whenever possible ~ Nathan
Things i Love as an ENFP - a new goddamn video on Love Who :) Always a pleasure, thank you x
I’ve never failed a job interview and there’s been many of them growing up, 40 now so I’m much more stable but we have a unique ability to think on our feet and also gain people’s trust in a short period of time. This would be so dangerous in a broken person because if we had no empathy, morals or values I’m almost positive we could make very good con men.
being an ENFP, i always think how wonderful it would be to have another ENFP for a friend. it would be easy to understand one another and feel the same way and have the same ideas.
Already with the first point is so relatable. My problem with most perceptions of ENFP obviously is this idea that we are extroverted af and are hyperactive party animals. However in reality I find that I don’t have many friends or interact with many people for this exact reason. I also don’t wanna waste my time on someone who I’m not gonna learn from for them to just leave after all my effort of trying to get to know them. I
I like the tousled look on you
The first one pretty much explains my fascination with Ni dom types (and perhaps the last one too because this was... a challenge?). They’re known to be the most secretive and most reserved types when it comes to showing their authentic selves. But somehow I’ve managed to break through an INxJ’s walls (twice at that). Their minds are the most beautiful yet the most tragic I’ve seen. I cherish them both.
Don't know the difference between a good hair day and a bad hair day. Perfect!
I come back to these videos again and again, I feel understood.
That’s really amazing to hear, it’s a great incentive to make more videos about ENFPs! ~ Nathan
Now I understand why they love us INTJs so much.
we love u
You are our favorite.
Oh man, when you said we prefer to deal with one person at a time. You are right. You feel like you can't focus on more than one person at a time and give the attention to them that they deserve. It's also overwhelming when you're in defensive mode and more than one person is ganging up on you, it feels like you need to be doing that one on one.
That example of pondering and imagining to travel being just as good if not better than the actually doing it is crazy because that is truly me. I am always in my head imagining future worlds which sometimes causes my real life experiences to be anti-climactic because i have been imagining it in my head for so long. Like for example, I was waiting on news after an interview and I had spent so much time pondering what it would feel like getting the offer that when it came it was almost a "...oh that's it moment' it's so weird. I feel like I am always living in the future.
ENFP here. Your content is always so amazing and well thought out! I’d love some longer videos, especially advice for and regarding being an ENFP as I could listen to you speak and share your knowledge for ages.
It's true!! It's all so true!!
Except, I am out of practice of soul-poking people. It is so disheartening when they turn out to be just like the rest of them...boring and regular. I don't try anymore, I put too much of my heart into it.
Noo! Dont let secret out! 😂😂 Enfp- Novelty seeking predator missle. 😂😂😂😂😂
The mental fragility to other bodies is like a flaw, but to the enfp it becomes a gem. haha
You are the first person to get everything right about my ENFP heart. ❤
As an ENFP one of my motto's is ''Real Kind - Be Both'' and my attitude is one of 'Joyful Defiance''
Omg as an enfp I thought it wasn't too extroverted of me to prefer small group hangouts instead of big groups but hearing you say that's an enfp trait is cool
(ENFP here). I would call my self an "Idea Explorer" and a "Solution Designer". getting lost in tedious details when trying to execute a project bogs me down and drowns my energy. For that, I need teammates that believe in me and my/our vision and who have the grounding to push together through the boring parts of the execution.
Well said. It's important for ENFPs to have those people in their life, and vice versa. I like those titles you came up with as well. Very fitting indeed! ~ Nathan
Yes...yes ..yes! I will admit the tedious details zap my creativity. A good team with different strengths are necessary.
Never have I ever been so called out LOL. Thank you, Nathan! Cheers!
And yes, +1 for good hair day, looks like your hair's having fun!
Me ENFP in first few seconds of this video "WOOW this quote is so beautiful" XDD
That's great to hear! Hopefully you'll enjoy the other ENFP videos on this channel as well ~ Nathan
You're brilliant!
This is so me! I am an ENFP, and I feel like you've described me perfectly. Thanks for the video. 🙂❤️
Great intuition! Being from the dark, dense forests once inhabited by the brothers Grimm, I have a taste for real people, especially lost children who eat too much candy.
Wow! This was great. I had still questioned if I was ESFP. This helped me see I really am enfp! Thank you!
I’m an ENTP with ENFP personality (Ti>Fi i can’t stop questioning)
The store I work at is kind of boring and meh, but once every so often, some stranger walks in and gives a fresh perspective of the greater world. I enjoy those moments a lot, even if I haven't seen those people since. Maybe the one-time aspect of the crossover between our stories is the beauty of it.
And this is why I'm an ENFJ; I don't want to know if people are awful. If your soul is truly dark, seeing it will kill me a little bit.
One of my best friends is ENFP and I totally agree with this video. Also I have another 2 ENFP friends. I'm impressed how you (Nathan) get to the point so well with each personality.
I'm ENTP and about being my true self in front of high Fi users it's impossible 😅 Even if ENFPs actualize their values, for them the idea of being in front of someone guided by logic and "situational fairness" instead of personal values and moral applied to every situation, makes them feel like insecure, as if I'm a "bad" person, or as if they can't trust me. And as I like to be friend of Fi users, I acquire the morals of the one that I have in front of me for that moment 🤷♀
So for the ENFPs and Fi users, if you are in front of an ENTP, try to don't judge them for their values as I try to don't judge you by your logic, and enjoy Ne and life together 🤣
Sorry my English, I'm Spanish.
ENFP here. Wow I didn’t realise we made you feel that way. We want the real you not what you think we want to hear. I am happy for everyone to have their own views that may be different from my own. The world would be boring if we all thought the same thing! It is interesting to see how other people come to make the choices they decide and learn from them to make a better future.😊 I hate the idea that ENTPs can’t be themselves around us without feeling judged. I want to you feel comfortable talking ideas with us
This may be a personal thing of mine, but as an ENFP, I prefer people to be true to themselves. Even if I am sensitive to emotions, I am normally pretty resilient and won’t take it personally. As long as we both get to truly express ourselves without judgement, I am satisfied.
@@The_Rusalka ALL ENFPs say that, it's not only you 😅 And it's not about hurting your feelings, as I'm a Fe user after all and I try to keep harmony most of the time. But when I express my true thoughts about the people, the world and my true intentions when I act, they get scared or confused or suspicious about me 🤷♀ I'm Fi blind, so my true self is tryin to do impersonal logic decisions and taking account of the best for the majority if possible. Even if that goes against myself or my friends or family. If something isn't fair, no matter who you are, I will go for fairness.
ENFP here. I love addressing a group, but my goal is to seek out connections with individuals therein. If I'm teaching, for example, I relish questions, discussion, interaction, and I am immediately intrigued by those individuals who contribute something thought-provoking and enlightening to the group. But individuals who simply want to draw attention to themselves, without providing something substantive, totally turn me off.
I am an ENFP in love with a very INFJ!!!
Same, I'm infj I love enfp so much!!! 😍
You are a genius. A genius in flattering people.
Great hair. (ENFP)
Hi. I'm ENFP. I used to be INFP and never had many friends but now I live for friends. I do want authenticity and would love to travel if I had enough finances but it is right, I would want rare gems, not popular tourist attractions. I like it when people come to me for help and I want to be as helpful as I can. A friend who I had just met that day recently asked if I would help her get off alcohol since I myself had done it and I said yes. Just going to arrange to go to her house for karaoke because she is a karaoke host at the pub. I had been on BGT 7 years ago. I was very nervous and was INFP at the time. I sang 'Ave Maria' and 'Pie Jesu'.
Oh yes. All of this is true. This is why my Si-dom mother and I seem to be unable to have a mutually beneficial relationship. She refuses to open up to me. Never lets me in. And she hates it when I try to prod her and tells me to stop. Then wonders why I'm 31 and get frustrated while talking to her.
ISTJ?
@@Chigger I don't know. She won't let me in enough to let me be sure of even that.
@@LilyGrace1990 My mom's an ISFJ, and she's very warm and receptive to people who don't try to harm her or anyone she cares about. By your words, your mom seems colder than that, and ISTJs are known for coldness and rigid structure more than ISFJs are, and those are the two Si doms.
Nathan, you understand us so well. I would love a video about ENFP's best match for romantic relationships 🥰🙏🏼
I relate to most of these as an ENFP, but i had my own approach when it comes to authenticity.
It doesn't necessarily places that is a hidden gem or places i've never been there. Even if i go to a famous tourist place for a thousand times, going with different person or people would make it a brand new experience for me.
The individuality is also on point. That's why I'm having a hard time remembering people. Unless they've shown their true self or have an unforgettable experience with me, i'd forget about them within days or weeks.
I love the flawed but real, and I love talking to those I have those I have no business talking to. Thank god ENFP is my dark side... and I love the dark side.
Yep, I'm an alien. INFP, on testing, fits. ENFP also fits. I'm blending....Lol
"I want to see the real you"
_start searching for underrated artist_
_spend time in google discovering new things and learning new things everyday_
The real you or your core excite me a friend of mine talk alot and opened to me telling me their flaws and how bad that is they know but they can't help it..
*Me eye sparkling at the side* I mean I guess so, but if you're not out there intentionally hurting someone or have reason for your behavior I don't see wrong in that. It just mean you're being true to yourself no matter how dark it may be.
Also
ENFP - collectors of introvert
I'm currently debating if I'm an ENTP or an ENFP. I've been an ENTP for a while now but I'm suddenly relating to ENFPs smmmmm
They're both the Ne doms, so one is the type most similar to the other, but finding your auxiliary function should help.
Love this !
Glad you enjoyed it! If you haven't already feel free to check out the LoveWho Discord server, it's always cool to see more ENFPs on there to bring the introverts (myself included) out of the shadows! ~ Nathan
Agh, you want us to say INTJs. I have another paradigm shift in this since I’m married to an INFJ and find his inner INTJ hilarious and like a fuzzy asshole teddy bear 😂. So, an INFJ’s inner INTJ is the correct extra credit answer. 😊❤😂.
Great insight into my mind - thank you!
I would love to see the ENTJ version of this!
Thank u for the video! I have considered myself an entp for a long time, but I think Im starting to understand my True self better now
C'est tellement vrai, je suis enfp et exactement comme ça c'en est impressionnant !
Hahaha I like you hair in this video... It's a bit more free!
FINALLY!!!!! This day has come!!!!
As an ENFP if the only thing or the only way you ever treat me, is with some kimd of challenge, or some kind of cut down, I will give absolutely no fucks about engaging with you further.