Beautifully and intelligently spoken. 7 years sober. I did not “ give up” alcohol. I left it behind as a bad habit. And in leaving it behind I became free…free to grow, free to prosper, free from the poison.
It's like the south park episode. Where stans dad tells him. "well son, pot makes you feel fine with being bored, and it’s when you’re bored that you should be learning some new skill or discovering some new science or being creative. If you smoke pot you may grow up to find out that you aren’t good at anything.” Same with drinking, but more health effects.
18 months into a profound metamorphosis of self (from 20 years of weed and even more in alcohol, made the all in decision to become a new human). The greatest gift has been to be in expansive coherence and in the Earthly presence of a being in clarity :-) gratitude for the illumination you bring !
I can't believe this doesn't have more likes. I want to tell you that you helped me today immensely. I am so grateful. I cannot thank you enough. I understood immediately and have thought this through several times with the same conclusion as you but the validation and clarity that you bring hits me stronger.
Wow! I'm tearing up thinking about everything you said. It makes so much sense that giving up alcohol is what enables you to start to address the underlying issues that have plagued us all our lives. And facing those issues will set you free. Your presentation got right to the heart of the issues I'm facing. I'm looking forward to the rest of this journey.
23:36. I agree with so much of what is being said up to this moment (in particular the neurochemistry discussion). However, I've spent a lifetime hoping to sit down with someone - be it a psychologist, a psychiatrist, or just an intelligent and trusted friend (and I do have those) - and yet this "AHA moment" has never been forthcoming. There is nothing that has ever been said to me which has caught me by surprise or been life-changing or life-healing. I've appreciated people's good intentions and their caring and their smarts, but my depression seems immune to the words of others...it almost laughs at it. Nothing anyone ever says to me on this topic is something I haven't already thought of - repeatedly - myself. So I can't relate at all to what you describe here. I wish I could...
2 months and 20 days here. I have started working out, playing tennis and yoga. Am entertaining the idea of starting my own home health business. I will even reinstate my life and health insurance license.
A welcome addition to the modern approach to just leaving alcohol behind. Having read most of the contemporary literature and watched podcasts by the great and good on the physical and psychological effects of an officially sanctioned addictive carcinogen , this adds a new and urgent factor to the discussion. We, no matter what age we are, are losing valuable time for ourselves. Thank you for your time and effort putting this out there and I will share with my sober buddies in the UK.
I should have started a long time ago......what was i thinking...being cheated on by my narc ex got me on the not drinking path after I healed from the trauma...best thing that ever happened cuz my health would be so bad right now if I had stayed in that toxic space...thank you these videos have helped me so much
Amazing video man! I quit drinking 2 and a half years ago, best descision ive ever made. Videos like this keep me motivated to staying on the right path.Thanks so much brilliant video ❤️
Alcohol was the final easy button I let go of. I have all the tools I need to examine myself as well as a solid lens through which to view the world around me. I don't need something like booze to hold my hand anymore.
Very well said!! Great emphasis on some stress being invevitable in order to evolve. Thanks for this man. I really liked the emphasis on everybody has to go through it. The withdrawals the uneasiness etc. thank you!!
Morning. This is such a truth. I never drank frequently. However... it still holds me back. I am 1 year zero drinks. Do you have any advice for me moving forward. I dont know if ill continue for the long term. However ive learned so much
Great motivation. I had to figure it out by myself and stopped using alcohol for the last time long ago. Although your view of addiction is pure, I do not agree with the senseless "religion" of evolution and the "millions of years" rethoric you mention. God is the author of my life and He will send his Son to come and fetch me at the right time to enjoy everlasting life with Him in heaven. Hope I will meet you there too.
Dawg, Understand what you’re trying to say. But ….. my sister can nurse a glass of wine for 6 hours …. while having dinner and then doing some work. I, on the hand, cannot do that. In which case your talk makes sense. Thanks
I've watched a lot of videos on the subject of alcoholism, this one is one of the more stimulating and deeper ones (example: the influence of alcohol on the production of large amounts of dopamine, personal evolution during the period of sobriety...)
not sure if you're understanding off the world is better at 30 than 10. it's just alot more narrow. you question yourself and those childhood inner feelings or thoughts you have, and most of the time i just wonder why i questioned them. it's just learning that on repeat.
If I need a gallon of milk, but am not willing to take ACTION, I will still need a gallon of milk in an hour, or tonight, or tomorrow, or next week, or next month, etc. THAT, my friends, is about all of the "higher consciousness" needed to achieve sobriety. Whatever your situation, until you are sick and tired of needing a gallon of milk, NOTHING will change! How do I know this?...because that was ME! Until we concede to our innermost selves, that our countless vain attempts to "stop drinking" have been a complete failure, our chances of sobriety are slim to none. Our only options at that point are taking ACTION, insanity, institutions, and or, incarceration, followed by DEATH! (Fact, it happens every minute of everyday.) The biggest obstacle to getting and staying sober, is believing that "stopping drinking" is the solution. It AIN'T! The majority of people fail because they are focused on not drinking, quitting drinking, staying away from drinking, and my favorite..."thinking differently" about drinking. It's a monumental exercise in futility. Now for the solution...equipped with the gift of desperation, look down at your feet, and start moving them differently. This ISN'T about what I think, or how I feel, or how much knowledge I have, etc, etc. It's about what I "DO". In my 29 plus years of continuous sobriety, I've seen hundreds, if not thousands of people arrive on the doorstep of recovery, wanting to know what the solution is, but NOT willing to put forth a fraction of the effort, compared to the effort they put into drinking. If this were not a FATAL condition, it would be totally laughable. NOBODY gets sobriety handed to them! "Get busy living, or get busy dying"! All the best...Mark 5/8/1994
Alcohol really a most dangerous, toxic and addictive drug out there - but people have been taking it since the beginning of time, real can’t live with it can’t live without it paradox, on the one end I despise it like sin but never taking it ever again seems just unrealistic
3:30 that is not a self sacrifice. Choosing to have children is a personal, voluntary decision. You CHOOSE to have kids. A kid isn’t bestowed upon you and you sacrifice your freedom to care for it even though you didn’t ask for it. Not the point of the vid, yes I know.
You stay firm in your decision and just don't drink. It's a personal choice at the end of the day. Your husband should accept that and support you in your growth. Your husband can obviously still have a drink when he feels like it, and it's all good. Just remember it's more of a personal thing and doesn't particularly have to involve anyone else. I also stopped drinking and my family didn't really see the big deal, and they all still drink, I'm the only one in fact who decided to pursue an AF lifestyle. It's all good though because you have to see yourself as your own support system, once you master that you won't really give a shit what others think about it, whether they agree or disagree with your decision to stop.
@morganator4874 the point is we bonded when I was drinking. Now I don't drink, and he will often say "have one" even though he knows I've been a virtual alcoholic for twenty years. He misses me
@Candlewick14 You can bond with him without the alcohol. Do you share similar interests as your husband? If you do, why not get involved in an activity that you can both enjoy together. If you don't share similar interests, you could try and make an effort to get into something he likes and connect that way. It's not the alcohol that's bonding you together. That's the illusion of it, making you perceive that it's bringing you closer together somehow because you have become so accustomed to drinking with him for so many years. There are other ways you can connect on a much deeper level instead of going into a drunken state. I used to be like that and snapped out of it.
@morganator4874 sigh. I think you're underestimating the price of removing alcohol from a 20 year marriage. Inane advice like "do you share interests with your husband " isn't going to do it. When you quit booze you become a different version of yourself. There's a grief in that which is often overlooked. That's my point.
Beautifully and intelligently spoken. 7 years sober. I did not “ give up” alcohol. I left it behind as a bad habit. And in leaving it behind I became free…free to grow, free to prosper, free from the poison.
Love the perspective - thank you!
Agree.. great perspective
It's like the south park episode. Where stans dad tells him.
"well son, pot makes you feel fine with being bored, and it’s when you’re bored that you should be learning some new skill or discovering some new science or being creative. If you smoke pot you may grow up to find out that you aren’t good at anything.”
Same with drinking, but more health effects.
I can’t be surprised that I’m always depressed and anxious after having drank so hard for so long. Time to be accountable ✊
hope youre ok cuz im not
18 months into a profound metamorphosis of self (from 20 years of weed and even more in alcohol, made the all in decision to become a new human). The greatest gift has been to be in expansive coherence and in the Earthly presence of a being in clarity :-) gratitude for the illumination you bring !
Coming up on 30 days clean and sober. Rehab first time at 56
To anyone reading this: You got this, it will be difficult at times, but it will be one of your best life choices ever! Stay strong!☺️
Thank you
This is the best form of AA ! Thank you
I can't believe this doesn't have more likes. I want to tell you that you helped me today immensely. I am so grateful. I cannot thank you enough. I understood immediately and have thought this through several times with the same conclusion as you but the validation and clarity that you bring hits me stronger.
Wow! I'm tearing up thinking about everything you said. It makes so much sense that giving up alcohol is what enables you to start to address the underlying issues that have plagued us all our lives. And facing those issues will set you free. Your presentation got right to the heart of the issues I'm facing. I'm looking forward to the rest of this journey.
23:36. I agree with so much of what is being said up to this moment (in particular the neurochemistry discussion). However, I've spent a lifetime hoping to sit down with someone - be it a psychologist, a psychiatrist, or just an intelligent and trusted friend (and I do have those) - and yet this "AHA moment" has never been forthcoming. There is nothing that has ever been said to me which has caught me by surprise or been life-changing or life-healing. I've appreciated people's good intentions and their caring and their smarts, but my depression seems immune to the words of others...it almost laughs at it. Nothing anyone ever says to me on this topic is something I haven't already thought of - repeatedly - myself. So I can't relate at all to what you describe here. I wish I could...
This is the best video I have listened to on the subject yet
Thanks I appreciate this comment 🙏
Im only 5 min in and wow, real talk. Thank you. Day 8 here 🙏🏻💙
This guy should be as well known as Bill W
He's brilliant! So grateful to have found him!
True lol
This is the most insightful video I’ve seen in years, thank you.
Your vids and podcasts are amazing. You deserve more views.
thank you 🙏 hopefully the channel will continue growing
2 months and 20 days here. I have started working out, playing tennis and yoga. Am entertaining the idea of starting my own home health business. I will even reinstate my life and health insurance license.
95 days of no alcohol for me
Excellent work man keep it up!!
If you are still going strong, after how many days you no longer felt anxiety while socialising?
@@ChristianPaulsen98 40 days and easier each week, I went to a bar and ordered non alcoholic beer, didn't miss anything 😂
A welcome addition to the modern approach to just leaving alcohol behind. Having read most of the contemporary literature and watched podcasts by the great and good on the physical and psychological effects of an officially sanctioned addictive carcinogen , this adds a new and urgent factor to the discussion. We, no matter what age we are, are losing valuable time for ourselves.
Thank you for your time and effort putting this out there and I will share with my sober buddies in the UK.
Marty! Very whole comprehensive presentation!
This is a very helpful and inspiring video... Thank you 😊
i just want to stop, quit and never look back or even watch another video. i just want to be a non drinker and move on with life !!!!
Allen carr is good too ❤
@@Snapsta123 thanks
I'm having a hard time so hard I've been listing to you but I can't stop I feel broken
Wow!
🙏🙌
Thank you so much
💪🏿💪🏿💪🏿💪🏿👑🙏 wisdom.
I should have started a long time ago......what was i thinking...being cheated on by my narc ex got me on the not drinking path after I healed from the trauma...best thing that ever happened cuz my health would be so bad right now if I had stayed in that toxic space...thank you these videos have helped me so much
Wow thank you❤
Amazing video man! I quit drinking 2 and a half years ago, best descision ive ever made. Videos like this keep me motivated to staying on the right path.Thanks so much brilliant video ❤️
Excellent podcast my friend
Excellent points and presentation. You have a new sub ✊
Love this perspective
Alcohol was the final easy button I let go of. I have all the tools I need to examine myself as well as a solid lens through which to view the world around me. I don't need something like booze to hold my hand anymore.
Excellent! Thank you!
Yep... good title.. it hooked me straight in
Very well said!! Great emphasis on some stress being invevitable in order to evolve. Thanks for this man. I really liked the emphasis on everybody has to go through it. The withdrawals the uneasiness etc. thank you!!
Glad you enjoyed it!
Thank you!
Thank you for this video 😌
Great video, thank you brother.
Excellent information. Thank you 🙏🏾
Glad it was helpful!
This was so helpful. Thank you!
You’re welcome!
Morning. This is such a truth. I never drank frequently. However... it still holds me back. I am 1 year zero drinks. Do you have any advice for me moving forward. I dont know if ill continue for the long term. However ive learned so much
So good
Great motivation. I had to figure it out by myself and stopped using alcohol for the last time long ago. Although your view of addiction is pure, I do not agree with the senseless "religion" of evolution and the "millions of years" rethoric you mention. God is the author of my life and He will send his Son to come and fetch me at the right time to enjoy everlasting life with Him in heaven. Hope I will meet you there too.
✅
Dawg, Understand what you’re trying to say. But ….. my sister can nurse a glass of wine for 6 hours …. while having dinner and then doing some work.
I, on the hand, cannot do that. In which case your talk makes sense. Thanks
there's bits in this talk i've heard of other podcasts, e..g mindset mentor.
9 months alcohol free improvement in relationships work health sleep finances
I've watched a lot of videos on the subject of alcoholism, this one is one of the more stimulating and deeper ones (example: the influence of alcohol on the production of large amounts of dopamine, personal evolution during the period of sobriety...)
not sure if you're understanding off the world is better at 30 than 10. it's just alot more narrow. you question yourself and those childhood inner feelings or thoughts you have, and most of the time i just wonder why i questioned them. it's just learning that on repeat.
If I need a gallon of milk, but am not willing to take ACTION, I will still need a gallon of milk in an hour, or tonight, or tomorrow, or next week, or next month, etc. THAT, my friends, is about all of the "higher consciousness" needed to achieve sobriety. Whatever your situation, until you are sick and tired of needing a gallon of milk, NOTHING will change! How do I know this?...because that was ME!
Until we concede to our innermost selves, that our countless vain attempts to "stop drinking" have been a complete failure, our chances of sobriety are slim to none. Our only options at that point are taking ACTION, insanity, institutions, and or, incarceration, followed by DEATH! (Fact, it happens every minute of everyday.)
The biggest obstacle to getting and staying sober, is believing that "stopping drinking" is the solution. It AIN'T! The majority of people fail because they are focused on not drinking, quitting drinking, staying away from drinking, and my favorite..."thinking differently" about drinking. It's a monumental exercise in futility. Now for the solution...equipped with the gift of desperation, look down at your feet, and start moving them differently. This ISN'T about what I think, or how I feel, or how much knowledge I have, etc, etc. It's about what I "DO".
In my 29 plus years of continuous sobriety, I've seen hundreds, if not thousands of people arrive on the doorstep of recovery, wanting to know what the solution is, but NOT willing to put forth a fraction of the effort, compared to the effort they put into drinking. If this were not a FATAL condition, it would be totally laughable. NOBODY gets sobriety handed to them! "Get busy living, or get busy dying"! All the best...Mark 5/8/1994
Thanks for sharing your wisdom from 29 years of sobriety Mark!
Another day, another 'stop drinking coach' on You Tube 😂 Must be a lot of money in this gig ? 😂
Alcohol really a most dangerous, toxic and addictive drug out there - but people have been taking it since the beginning of time, real can’t live with it can’t live without it paradox, on the one end I despise it like sin but never taking it ever again seems just unrealistic
For me sex is 200 and wine only 100, and I am an alcoholic.
3:30 that is not a self sacrifice. Choosing to have children is a personal, voluntary decision. You CHOOSE to have kids. A kid isn’t bestowed upon you and you sacrifice your freedom to care for it even though you didn’t ask for it. Not the point of the vid, yes I know.
Alka hol
so the schizophrenic homeless dude who's drank for 30 years is on the same playing field as a business owner who drinks to much on the weekends? rad!
My husband wishes I would drink. I'm more fun then. Now what
Don't just get an AI to like the comment. FFS answer it.
You stay firm in your decision and just don't drink. It's a personal choice at the end of the day. Your husband should accept that and support you in your growth. Your husband can obviously still have a drink when he feels like it, and it's all good. Just remember it's more of a personal thing and doesn't particularly have to involve anyone else. I also stopped drinking and my family didn't really see the big deal, and they all still drink, I'm the only one in fact who decided to pursue an AF lifestyle. It's all good though because you have to see yourself as your own support system, once you master that you won't really give a shit what others think about it, whether they agree or disagree with your decision to stop.
@morganator4874 the point is we bonded when I was drinking. Now I don't drink, and he will often say "have one" even though he knows I've been a virtual alcoholic for twenty years. He misses me
@Candlewick14 You can bond with him without the alcohol. Do you share similar interests as your husband? If you do, why not get involved in an activity that you can both enjoy together. If you don't share similar interests, you could try and make an effort to get into something he likes and connect that way. It's not the alcohol that's bonding you together. That's the illusion of it, making you perceive that it's bringing you closer together somehow because you have become so accustomed to drinking with him for so many years. There are other ways you can connect on a much deeper level instead of going into a drunken state. I used to be like that and snapped out of it.
@morganator4874 sigh. I think you're underestimating the price of removing alcohol from a 20 year marriage. Inane advice like "do you share interests with your husband " isn't going to do it. When you quit booze you become a different version of yourself. There's a grief in that which is often overlooked. That's my point.