I've discovered my addiction is people, I guess it would be categorized into relationship addiction? possibly love addiction too? but I think it's because of unmet needs in childhood and low self esteem that drives it, I can't stand being on my own and I'm always lonely. I don't know what to do at this point, I don't want to live, I'm tired of myself and that I always live for other ppl n don't make decisions for myself, I can't even enjoy things by myself, it's just gotten so bad. I literally have no life of my own or sense of identity either. I've always had anxiety disorders, then depression came along later n in between that is the addictive/compulsive behaviors. It's all too overwhelming, I can't see any way to passed it all. Yeah, check all of that, mistrust/lack of early bonding, credit goes to my dad. Now that I'm older, recent years since late high school I've been learning more about mental health and discovered narcissistic parenting... wow, makes so much sense now.
At the end, I think u mean doing things that give pleasure because happiness and pleasure aren't the same thing and addictions are to obtain pleasure, but I doubt people would say they're happy from their addictions.
Addictions aren't even to always obtain pleasure, but to escape from, avoid, mitigate pain. It is seeking a poor short term solution for ongoing, unresolved pain. Pain which that person feels incapable of dealing with.
Im married to a horse addict who is intent on financially ruining the family. Those god dam horses eat better than our kids and i. And here is the kicker she doesn't even work to pay for them and lies about how much they actually cost. Help me.
Sounds like you have a toxic relationship....and that she's not the only cause. Your communication and blaming here, shows profound unawareness and that you likely don't have the conflict resolution skills, interpersonal skills, ability to clearly and calmly communicate boundaries and needs AND hear another person's. I'm willing to bet there's been massive invalidation that she's felt and is acting out... not that it should cause problems within the whole household, but it's much bigger and you are just as responsible for this as she is.
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I've discovered my addiction is people, I guess it would be categorized into relationship addiction? possibly love addiction too? but I think it's because of unmet needs in childhood and low self esteem that drives it, I can't stand being on my own and I'm always lonely. I don't know what to do at this point, I don't want to live, I'm tired of myself and that I always live for other ppl n don't make decisions for myself, I can't even enjoy things by myself, it's just gotten so bad. I literally have no life of my own or sense of identity either.
I've always had anxiety disorders, then depression came along later n in between that is the addictive/compulsive behaviors. It's all too overwhelming, I can't see any way to passed it all.
Yeah, check all of that, mistrust/lack of early bonding, credit goes to my dad. Now that I'm older, recent years since late high school I've been learning more about mental health and discovered narcissistic parenting... wow, makes so much sense now.
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Very helpful and I do appreciate your help.
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At the end, I think u mean doing things that give pleasure because happiness and pleasure aren't the same thing and addictions are to obtain pleasure, but I doubt people would say they're happy from their addictions.
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Addictions aren't even to always obtain pleasure, but to escape from, avoid, mitigate pain.
It is seeking a poor short term solution for ongoing, unresolved pain. Pain which that person feels incapable of dealing with.
Bingo!
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That's good but where's the behaviour part?
Very very good.
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Oh dear
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@@DocSnipes i found theories on root cause of addiction interesting
Im married to a horse addict who is intent on financially ruining the family. Those god dam horses eat better than our kids and i. And here is the kicker she doesn't even work to pay for them and lies about how much they actually cost. Help me.
Make an app. It's like uber but you get picked up on a horse. Call it Pegasus.
Sounds like you have a toxic relationship....and that she's not the only cause.
Your communication and blaming here, shows profound unawareness and that you likely don't have the conflict resolution skills, interpersonal skills, ability to clearly and calmly communicate boundaries and needs AND hear another person's.
I'm willing to bet there's been massive invalidation that she's felt and is acting out... not that it should cause problems within the whole household, but it's much bigger and you are just as responsible for this as she is.
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