My mom is a very enlightened and wise person. Whenever we got sick or had some upheaval in our lives, she was neutral. Nothing was bad, nothing was good. It just was. This made us so mad, but this message confirms that we keep illness, poverty, and unhappiness alive when we react to it. Thanks
It sounds like you were looking for validation of your feelings from her. As a child it can be difficult to know if our feelings are appropriate without someone giving us feedback. I now have learned to validate my feelings for where they come from. Then, I can decide the best response. With practice, I am building my new library of responses to similar situations. With each experience, I get better at responding appropriately.
I come across a lot of people who are irritated if you are ‘oh well’ instead of ‘oh no!’. It took me a while to realise that I often fake a little panic to appease them, and most importantly that this seeps into my reality so that I AM a little panicked physically. I was born a chill and jovial dude and I think pretending otherwise has taken a toll. I’ve also realised that isn’t really what people want. They want you to understand their concerns and if appropriate, offer some reassurance.
So true!! I tend towards anxious, myself, but I find certain things just don't bother me that bothers others. For example, a friend of mine ordered a couch, waited for a long time to get it delivered, but then it was a slightly different couch then what was in the site. He kept giving me this rage-filled texts about how God awful the color is, etc etc. Saw him and another friend that night and he was being funny about it, but still clearly panicked and angry about the couch and going on and on, practically yelling, about how horrible it was. I tried to be level headed, but I knew he wanted to engage me in this "epic drama"... meanwhile, all I'm thinking is "dear God, it's just a couch!" It made me nervous just hearing how upset he was and how much he needed us on board in his anger at the company and how hideous the couch is, etc. You're right, it is quite hard to say "oh well" to someone who is deeply invested in their panic. It almost reads as a lack of support, when really I read it as trying to offer a calming perspective.
@@jamlawI’m generally the person freaking out about the couch. 😂I understand it’s not a healthy response to life’s little stressors but some people are wired to freak out about almost everything- I am working on this but would find it helpful to have someone first validate my feelings instead of “oh well it’s just a couch” because that just makes me feel more alienated since deep down those of us freaking out about a couch generally know we’re way too stressed but after quickly affirming those emotions then say “I know it feels very stressful to you but try to look at it how you will see it a year from now. It is actually ok, it’s going to be perfectly okay.” Something along those lines. ❤
Don’t forget that neuroplasticity is a thing! If you can accidentally train yourself to act differently, imagine how impactful mindfully training your brain could be 🩷
@@NEChristo You'll hopefully get to a point where you don't need that other person for reassurance/validation. This will sound stupid, but it took me a long time (I'm 50 now) to realise that there is absolutely no situation in life that is helped by not staying calm. I used to freak out about everything too, but you can rewire yourself. My grandad used to say "just pause, breathe and count to 10 in your head" before reacting. Most of the best advice and techniques I think are basically a variation of this. It's a great feeling when "the couch thing" happens and you genuinely react like, "oh well".
Oh I needed to hear this. Childhood trauma. I was scapegoated. Didn’t “see” the abuse because I developed mpd. I couldn’t remember the abuse and now that all the memories are coming through I’ve been sitting in the pain in the body and burning it out. Lol. But this is much easier. We’re already safe. The battle was fought and yeah I lost for a while. Forgot who I am. But it’s done. I’m safe in the here and now. No one is attacking me now. I’ve cut off the entire family. I’m safe. I already fought for this. I fought them my entire life forgetting what I’m even fighting for. But it’s coming back to our own inner goodness. I’m good. I was born good. And here I spent a life time in pain that I didn’t create but must process for the whole of humanity lol. You do this work and it clears it out for others here. We’re pl mirrors for this one pain. It was handed down for generations. Someone has to die to it. Be that person.
@@michaelpaul721I hope things get easier for all of us. If you’re going through what I am it’s elating and relieving to finally see why I drank why I did the things I did like a robot. It was bad programming from birth from my dad. He wanted me dead. lol. They even tried to at 17. I’m 47 now. Had a spiritual awakening to even get the healing in the brain to “see” that this had been going on since I was born. Scapegoating starts at birth for us not later on.
@SB-fk8fm and it has NOTHING to do with you. You were born to be something they tried to squash. It's hard to realize that and harder to live a new way. But it's worth it
The bird you heard is the lovely Red-bellied Woodpecker. Not a very good descriptive name because it has a large red patch at the back of its head but only a light blush of red on the males belly. One of my favorite birds.
I'm sorry but it will never stop annoying me when people say the Red-bellied Woodpecker is "poorly named" because it has a red hed. The majority of woodpecker species on earth have red on their head. There are 22 species in North America; there are only 2 (the three-toed woodpeckers) that don't have red on their head in any plumage. Meanwhile, Red-bellied is the only North American species with a red belly other than Lewis's, which had not been discovered yet when Red-bellied was named. Also for what it's worth, both sexes have red bellies, not just the males.
@@mattzx003 Well that may be but when you have to look with very concentrated vision to see the slight blush on the belly and you have a LARGE blazing red patch on the back of the head as opposed to the slight strip on a downy or hairy then it seems to me any naming protocols referring to anatomical red patches are questionable. Personally, I would vote for the name of Elegant Woodpecker.😄 Gorgeous bird
I thought I heard a Flicker! Similar to red belly but different wings. Also I think he was on the bike path, looks like the people I meet out there in winter, peaceful people.
thank you so much for being here, im a teenager and i have a lot of fear inside me since i had a breakdown years ago, im starting to find comfort on myself.
Sending you well wishes and positive energy on your healing journey. I came out the "other side" from a similar situation when I was a few years older than you (early 20s). Just wanted to let you know there is hope and it's possible to get to a better state of equilibrium for yourself
You are absolutely correct. My response to my triggers makes all the difference in the world. I once had a somewhat elevated blood pressure reading of 150 and within 10 minutes it went to 180 just out of a panic/fear response. Every reading it went up. I realized that the blood pressure machine itself was causing an automatic fear/panic reaction. Our fear/anger reaction is extremely powerful. Once the mind reacts with fear, the body then responds with more adrenaline, more hormones, and more tension. I almost think TMS is testing our fear. Our ego/mind feeds off of fear/emotion. It challenges us with triggers to see us react, like a puppet. And we generally fall in line like the puppets we are. That whole cycle strengthens the ego's control. The lesson to learn here is to observe our automatic fear/panic/anger reaction so it is no longer 100% automatic. Rise above the automatic reaction with more awareness of the whole ridiculous scheme as it plays out. Stop letting TMS/fear play games with us. I am fairly certain that TMS is not a protection mechanism, but an ego mechanism to maintain fear/anger, which keeps the ego alive and in control of something. We are not our egos. The ego is a false version of us that only has the control we give it. This is where TMS starts to move into the realm of spirituality, but it is important regardless to know there is a fear mechanism going on in our minds that needs to be stopped if we want to ever be at peace.
I wish I could heal you. I'm embarrassed that my only "problems" are money. Currently need a crown. What if I don't pay rent though? I'm like a dog chasing his tail. I need to breathe.
Me telling myself that ‘I’m ok’ doesn’t get the job done unfortunately. I have to really ask myself why I feel anxious and get down to it even if it’s something as ‘silly’ as me being anxious of going outside. Of course it’s not silly but understanding why helps tremendously
Think the bird you were listening to could be a red bellied woodpecker as so many different types in US. Good to take a pause and just listen to nature it's relaxing 😌
I recently experienced feeling safe after talking to myself listing how I am safe in the moment while experiencing chronic fatigue syndrome. I know panic attacks. I know life long anxiety from childhood. I was not safe growing up. I suffered abuse. So to experience a safe moment was freedom. I came up with a 4 F Mantra in that moment. Fine Fit Focused Free. I write poems to express my feelings, the alternative to suppressing that I used all my life. I found rhythm to my words non triggering than straight journaling. Every one is free to find what heals the pain of trauma. There is no set playbook. Feeling safe on a cellular level is the goal. Fine fit focused free helps create safety within me🎉🎉🎉 Great podcast to resonate to everyone where you are in your life story. May you all find your safe place to peace and calm.
My therapist taught me that how you respond is entirely a choice. also she taught me whenever you just react to something without thinking about it's likely a trauma response.
Hi Dan yes so true .. I find breathing, relaxing and 10 mins of meditation so good. How we respond is the key.. ‘it’s not what happens to us it’s how we respond’ that can we difficult 😣 as I know only too well. Our perception is our reality’ it has taken me 5 years to implement and believe that. Thanks Dan for all your helpful videos, don’t just listen folks implement. ❤ Wishing all a healing day. It’s chilly and sunny in Dublin ❄️ 🌞
@@Inge508 thank you dear Inge. I still have some challenging days, especially if I overdo it or don’t sleep well. I think it’s just the brains natural response. You can do it too Inge.. sending you healing 🤗 hugs and wishing you lots of strength and courage.. yes you can. Enjoy your day. 🌺🥰❤️
@@LilyOscar333yes don’t fear it, embrace it.. and celebrate the new Lily.. I’m on my path, not looking back just marching into a new bright future ❤🎉🎉🎉
@@gerridalton1345 Hi Gerri another Irish ☘️ lady.. Vancouver is on my bucket list. Two wonderful speakers and authors live there, Gabor Mate and Eckart Tolle. ❤
Good morning Dan, I absolutely love the way you start off the video with the breath and a few moments of what's going on around you and your surroundings, it's very comforting and like a little friendly chat,I think it is very special and you are so too. I am extremely grateful I have found you, I love your gentle calming voice,it in itself is so calming. What you saying is so helpful,NEED YOU. Thank you Dan, much love Karen 💜🌈 X😊X
I've been trying Oh Well for a couple of days.... Especially in work which is stressful and I have a few unpleasant colleagues... It's really having a positive effect on me ❤❤
Was just thinking 🤔 With this worldwide audience that follows your videos, the perception of people might be there is a American Dan, a Canadien Dan, a European Dan, a English Dan, a Asian Dan, a Indian Dan .. wow so many Dan’s😀( maybe I forgot countries as well). If all those people would subscribe and like, that would be amazing and give back for working 24/7 in this community ! Thank you European Dan for bringing daily safety❤
@@wednesdayschild3627 that’s great news! When you can calm yourself down after you wake up, eventually you will be able to calm down the digestive issues 👍
Due to the direct anxiety and panic caused by long Covid, I’ve had to train my body and mind to calm down 1000 times a day for the last four years. It has really paid off.
Really needed this. I'm 12 years into debilitating chronic pain, and for the first 8 or so years I really managed to take each attack calmly and respond instead of react. In the last 4 years however I really had that sense of safety damaged, and I'm still really struggling to get it back. Working away, little by little.
Love “Oh Well!!” Prayer didn’t work for me because it concludes that there is something wrong that I need help with. That just perpetuates and manifests more continued dis-ease. I also like the ACIM Lesson that says, “I choose to see things differently, and “Above all else, I want the peace.”
That's because your praying your menu of "I want". It isn't about what you want. It's what God wants from you. Do you think God doesn't already know what's good for you?
Great video. Even in the worst of the torturous HELL I experienced, I KNEW that if I were put in a cage and my basic needs were met ( food. Water. Air), I’d be ok. I understood that the world was still beautiful but the lenses through which I experienced that world were damaged. I learned to lay back and let the fire of emotions and thoughts wash over me and past me… and I’d not get burned. It’s a skill so powerful …. To react to absolute hostility with peace … it’s difficult to explain. We’re programmed to want to scream or act out … but the best response is to observe and not get attached to the parasitic, dark thoughts that are trying to invoke chaos in our lives. Stop thinking. Stop judging. Stop FEARING. If you understand that the end result can only be love and beauty…. And that this experience is dynamically temporary and fleeting, ( unless you give your attention to and, therefore, power to these exogenous ideas/ thoughts…and you get stuck in this cyclical fear loop)… respond to your symptoms as if you are the person you desire to be and you will become that person. I’m writing this half asleep so forgive the run ons and fragmented thoughts. Fear is the enemy but he’s also a great teacher. You deserve to love and laugh and live. Chronic misery and pain is unnatural so claim your joy back. Laugh at the chaos. Ground yourself every morning. Get morning sunlight in your eyes and on your face. Walk. Walk more. Sing. Hum. Laugh out loud. Stretch. Hydrate. Tap. Shake. Walk. Sleep. ❤
Thx Dan. Thank you for the daily videos. ❤❤ the dedication and efforts truly commendable sir. Thank you for allowing me to lend your confidence and beliefs a few months ago in some of your videos. I didn't believe in myself. Now I am going places and doing stuff. For those who read the comments. I did this with the free videos alone. When the whole world doesn't believe us and even ourselves , Dan believes we can heal. So thx Dan ❤❤ going to put this here on more of Dan's videos. This stuff works. Consume the content and IMPLEMENT. ❤
It's the first time the algorithm has suggested your videos. This is really helpful. I'm trying to learn to be as kind and patient with myself as I am with others but it's not easy to translate that response to myself.
I'm working on this since forever, I'm getting better, right now I'm on the train, usually I was suffering severe anxiety in this situation, just straight hell, but now I'm more calm and collected, we can get better and each case is unique but never lose hope, it's like we are addict in recovery, it's not an easy task so be patient and give yourself grace❤
The problem here is that these responses happen “pre-thought” and thus we don’t always have much control over our responses. Just telling me “respond differently” doesn’t help, you need to tell me how to actually respond differently. My brain knows if I’m trying to lie to it and just pretend I’m not afraid when I’m actually afraid.
There is an instantaneous "OUCH" that we respond to. We cannot stop the "ouch". It's what we do AFTER that which matters most. We can think catastrophically, fuel the fear with our thinking, or we can reassure ourselves that even though we are afraid, we will be fine. This is all built on the foundation that we understand the cause of pain and symptoms, we have done the assessments and know mindbody pain is what is going on with us and that there's a proven solution that we are capable of implementing. My fast start playlist videos will walk you through all of this. DansFastStart.com
Thank you for your reply and clarification. Just a suggestion, but I think you should speak more explicitly to this e.g. "what do I do if I feel like a can't control my catastrophic thinking?" "I know I'm supposed to respond with calm but I don't know how to" etc. etc. Maybe it's just me but when those sorts of questions aren't addressed I start to feel anxious about the fact that I'm not responding correctly to the symptoms, which creates a vicious cycle of "I know I need signal safety to my brain, but I don't know how to because I don't feel safe." Thank you. @@PainFreeYou
This question is really legit. I understand what Dan says and strongly agree to it. But I have seen many many people who cannot directly said, "Oh well," because at the heat of the moment the grip of anxiety or fear or other negative emotions were so strong, this phrase wasn't anywhere in their mind. Or since they've fallen back into strong fear, they believe that that phrase is probably for other situation, but not for this one. This one situation is too scary. They compromise. So I think the difference between those who can force themselves to say, "Oh well" and actually believe that, and those who cannot, is those who cannot have stronger amygdala response than those who can. Amygdala, the fear center of the brain, needs to be calmed down first in order for the conscious mind to have a chance to remember the planned reaction to that particular situation, and not fall into fear and agree with the subconscious mind (led by amygdala), and compromise. One effective way I've found to calm amygdala and strengthen conscious mind to be in control is daily focused-breathing meditation. Doing it daily for 2 weeks has shown quite significant change to improve ability to handle fear consciously.
This is a great question. I’m currently learning Neuro-somatic tools that connect straight to the nervous system and helps to relax your system (brain & body) so you can have different reactions like he is talking about in the video. I really enjoy a podcast called Trauma Rewired (and they have an episode or more on pain) by the folks that teach neuro-somatic tools. That episode mentions that pain is an “output” of your nervous system being “activated” (or feeling under threat), rather than pain being the things that causes the “activation.” So it’s another way of coming at it in addition to what he’s saying. It’s cool to hear all these different approaches.
You get to the time when you conscious part of your brain actually follows your commands by repetition of introducing new different thoughts right in the middle of your unbeneficial thoughts are happening. Humans learn new staff and skills with 2 things - Association and Repetition. It's probably the hardest job you will ever do in your life, harder than anything you ever done - learn new responsibilities. This goes against the way Humans are designed ( homeostasis- keep the sameness). That's what keeps your body intact and functioning. However it's what make it so so difficult to change thought, patterns, responsibilities, behavior. Difficult but not impossible. It just requires commitment, patience, discipline, persistence and finding the right tools to assist you. Good luck! ❤❤
I AM grateful for learning how to do whatever I must do to rid of said energies, ie... Talk softly... "I AM ok, all is well!" Sing... "My body has that healthy feeling, ohhh O ohh, that loving feeling and it's feeling strrrong, uh huh, uh huh huuuuH, uh huh hu huh!" Continue singing this all day long! What a difference! ❤
Love the calm starts to the videos with breath focus...being outside surrounded by nature equally calming & soothing (love the birdie & all the other critters that join the talk)...and you, ever reassuring, healing & providing the comforting guidance for us all to create a safer feeling & more peaceful life for ourselves. I honestly wouldn't be where I am today without you being who you are & your consistent daily truisms.💜
I love that this applies to so much not just physical pain. This applies to people with anxiety amd other mental health difficulties, digestive issues, a lot of different things. The message is the same for everything. Gotta stop fearing to start hearing what's right for you
@trojan403 200mg a day (2 💊 once in the morning and once in the afternoon). It's a usual dose, you'll want to discern on your own feelings once started.
Yes, I just started 3 days ago. Each tablet is 100 mg, so I started with half but became quite sleepy. The last couple mornings, I have 1/4 so 25 mg and it's wonderful! Lemon balm tea in the AM as well. I want to add that the other advice here on anxiety is proving to be very helpful too!
@trojan403 Awesome! Going from someone who had panic/anxiety attacks randomly to not even getting a tingle when a thought came about whether or not to "freak out" 😆 lol. It is wonderful 😊 I hope you're having success in your journey as well. Xoxo
I have taken your pain test and read your download. I have been convinced for some time that stress is at the root of my autoimmune diseases and being housebound with M.E for 20 years I am happy to try anything. I have ordered John Sarno’s book and look forward to your e book when it comes out .
Hi! Dan! I actually slow down your video speed so I can absorb more❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤Every time I listen to you this is the act of sending my brain message of safety. Thank you so much!
you've been on my Home Screen a ton, looks like it's time I stop walking around you and realize there's a reason and it might do me good! and I absolutely need this wisdom, working on it. thank you sir!
this was so helpful for me, thank you so much. i’ve been on this mind-body journey for 8 years now (!) and i still totally lose sight of this. i’ve made it through so many different symptoms over the years, and the way they always left was by me not focusing on them and just trusting they’d leave in their own time. right now i’m struggling with some rough sleep issues and am exhausted and have been panicking about it all day. this was just the message i needed - “oh well.” i will be okay. i am safe. 💜 thank you, you are a gift!
I appreciate the sharing of point of view. Great reminder to keep responding even if thoughts can be overly annoying sometimes. I chose patience and compassion as well to replace reacting. Thanks
Notice about my self when I feel pain from my jaw I would freak out with stress and panic with emergency like I need to go to the hospital but Dan this does not help me at all listening to you I now now when I feel physical pain I just relax I'm OK because stressing makes way worst and Dan has the experience and his gone through it
You are god sent , your like if bob Ross became my therapist. My name is Joe sireno. And I thank you for you beautiful content. & your insightful wisdom
Hey Dan, thanks for all these videos, really appreciate you! ❤ I was hoping you could shed your light on and perhaps do a video on starting a family and the fear behind that. My husband and I really want a family and to start that process but have doubt and fear around it and whether we should ‘wait’ until I’m better, healed or in remission etc
Hi Dan, this is exactly what my son was telling me the other day. My challenge is that I've has on two separate occasions, woken up in the early hours of the morning with severe dizziness to the point where I was unable to move from my bed without inducing the intensity of the dizziness. The dizziness lasts hours not just a few minutes. On both occasions I've been extremely fearful as I live by myself and have nobody to help calm me down and so I have ended up calling for an ambulance and taken to the hospital. I know what you are saying is right but the sheer intensity of the debilitating dizziness evokes a deep response of fear and panick in me despite my knowing that this very fear and panic is feeding the beast.
Intermittent dizziness is disturbing. If everything medical has been ruled out, then you can breath and relax. You know that the episodes have passed after a few hours and so you can tell yourself that will happen again. I get suddenly dizzy every so often but I know it will be gone by the next day. If all I can do is breath, then I pay attention to my breath instead of the dizziness and that's the best thing one can do.
@@cforat thank you. Waiting for it to pass for hours is difficult especially when I need to use the bathroom but can't move. I know it does eventually pass but it literally is debilitating and scary.
@@cforat yes, you're absolutely right. All my tests are always coming back fine. I'm waiting on my MRI results but already know that they will come back fine as well. I know that I am well and healthy. My subconscious just hasn't got the memo yet but by keeping on with getting on with my life, regardless of what my subconscious mind is throwing at me via symptoms, I will no longer experience the dizziness and related problems. Indifference and a determination to get on living my life will eventually teach my subconscious mind to no longer throw out symptoms based on panic, fear and misinformation.
Thanks for this video, it is the first time i have listened to you, and I am now going to seek more! I found your words and calm soft voice very reassuring. With warmest wishes from the UK.
This is so very helpful. This is my second viewing and I’m going to revisit this until I fully absorb and integrate this into my daily life. I’ve given it a try lately and it’s so freeing. Grateful! 🙏
Thank you very much for your work on this channel. I am learning more everyday about my chronic pain and MCAS like symptoms/flares. My question is this: it’s our response to the stress, I agree. BUT do you not agree how living on earth has amplified this stress? I do my best to tune it out, I don’t watch news etc. It is my conclusion that just life on earth is “stressful” more so than I believe it was meant to be. There are the “tigers” of the modern world chasing people everyday. Being a highly sensitive human doesn’t help me, it adds to it. I often think that only a small simple cabin in the woods and about two years of quality “downtime” would help me react less and parasympathetic more. But here I am, trying to secure a job, work full time, etc. Many days now I find it all just too much. I’m working on my thinking, and brain rewiring but needed to vent this out for some proper, objective insight. I truly do not want to be this “Debbie downer”. I just currently feel very overwhelmed and find it very difficult to do this work with the current tigers in my life.
Welcome. This is the way to begin: DansFastStart.com - watch all the videos, take notes, implement, repeat until well. The playlist videos map it all out.
I needed to be reminded this..I already knew this but I have been dealing with a lot of anxiety about my health and it sucks because I know the anxiety is making it worse. I’m 24 and I have periods of time where I really think my body is shutting down and I’m really scared. It’s really hard to convince the brain that I’m okay 😕 but I will try this more..
Don't do it to fix anything or have an expectation of an outcome. Just relax your body and allow your body to breathe naturally. Smile. KNOW you are okay.
You probably already know this but make sure you are breathing with your diaphragm, not your chest. Pull the air down into your lungs with your belly muscles.
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Wow. The best comment ❤ "We're not healing anything, we're teaching the brain that we're ok."
Yeah, I like that too 👍🤗
Love this. I just recently realized this idea and have been looking at this in myself. Then came upon this video. Very cool.
absolutely LOVE that perspective; it resonates with me deeply
Absolutely wonderful!!
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4:07 I’m noticing all the flowers and birds lately. That’s when we know we are present.
My mom is a very enlightened and wise person. Whenever we got sick or had some upheaval in our lives, she was neutral. Nothing was bad, nothing was good. It just was. This made us so mad, but this message confirms that we keep illness, poverty, and unhappiness alive when we react to it. Thanks
That is very philosophical! My Mom was also. The doctrine of "either/or" comes to mind. That either outcome of a situation is beneficial.
Exactly
It sounds like you were looking for validation of your feelings from her. As a child it can be difficult to know if our feelings are appropriate without someone giving us feedback. I now have learned to validate my feelings for where they come from. Then, I can decide the best response. With practice, I am building my new library of responses to similar situations. With each experience, I get better at responding appropriately.
@@joannhowell582 I agree. Excellent comment.
Smart mom!
I come across a lot of people who are irritated if you are ‘oh well’ instead of ‘oh no!’. It took me a while to realise that I often fake a little panic to appease them, and most importantly that this seeps into my reality so that I AM a little panicked physically. I was born a chill and jovial dude and I think pretending otherwise has taken a toll. I’ve also realised that isn’t really what people want. They want you to understand their concerns and if appropriate, offer some reassurance.
So true!! I tend towards anxious, myself, but I find certain things just don't bother me that bothers others. For example, a friend of mine ordered a couch, waited for a long time to get it delivered, but then it was a slightly different couch then what was in the site. He kept giving me this rage-filled texts about how God awful the color is, etc etc. Saw him and another friend that night and he was being funny about it, but still clearly panicked and angry about the couch and going on and on, practically yelling, about how horrible it was. I tried to be level headed, but I knew he wanted to engage me in this "epic drama"... meanwhile, all I'm thinking is "dear God, it's just a couch!" It made me nervous just hearing how upset he was and how much he needed us on board in his anger at the company and how hideous the couch is, etc. You're right, it is quite hard to say "oh well" to someone who is deeply invested in their panic. It almost reads as a lack of support, when really I read it as trying to offer a calming perspective.
@@jamlawI’m generally the person freaking out about the couch. 😂I understand it’s not a healthy response to life’s little stressors but some people are wired to freak out about almost everything- I am working on this but would find it helpful to have someone first validate my feelings instead of “oh well it’s just a couch” because that just makes me feel more alienated since deep down those of us freaking out about a couch generally know we’re way too stressed but after quickly affirming those emotions then say “I know it feels very stressful to you but try to look at it how you will see it a year from now. It is actually ok, it’s going to be perfectly okay.” Something along those lines. ❤
Don’t forget that neuroplasticity is a thing! If you can accidentally train yourself to act differently, imagine how impactful mindfully training your brain could be 🩷
@@NEChristo You'll hopefully get to a point where you don't need that other person for reassurance/validation. This will sound stupid, but it took me a long time (I'm 50 now) to realise that there is absolutely no situation in life that is helped by not staying calm. I used to freak out about everything too, but you can rewire yourself. My grandad used to say "just pause, breathe and count to 10 in your head" before reacting. Most of the best advice and techniques I think are basically a variation of this. It's a great feeling when "the couch thing" happens and you genuinely react like, "oh well".
Brilliant comment
Oh I needed to hear this. Childhood trauma. I was scapegoated. Didn’t “see” the abuse because I developed mpd. I couldn’t remember the abuse and now that all the memories are coming through I’ve been sitting in the pain in the body and burning it out. Lol. But this is much easier. We’re already safe. The battle was fought and yeah I lost for a while. Forgot who I am. But it’s done. I’m safe in the here and now. No one is attacking me now. I’ve cut off the entire family. I’m safe. I already fought for this. I fought them my entire life forgetting what I’m even fighting for. But it’s coming back to our own inner goodness. I’m good. I was born good. And here I spent a life time in pain that I didn’t create but must process for the whole of humanity lol. You do this work and it clears it out for others here. We’re pl mirrors for this one pain. It was handed down for generations. Someone has to die to it. Be that person.
Oh my friend. I thought I had written this comment. Exactly what I dealt with. And are dealing with. Thank you
FSG here too ❤
I thought I wrote those comments for a sec
@@michaelpaul721I hope things get easier for all of us. If you’re going through what I am it’s elating and relieving to finally see why I drank why I did the things I did like a robot. It was bad programming from birth from my dad. He wanted me dead. lol. They even tried to at 17. I’m 47 now. Had a spiritual awakening to even get the healing in the brain to “see” that this had been going on since I was born. Scapegoating starts at birth for us not later on.
@SB-fk8fm and it has NOTHING to do with you. You were born to be something they tried to squash. It's hard to realize that and harder to live a new way. But it's worth it
Dan had done more for improving my mental state than any psychologist or pill. Nature is an awesome healer.
Couldn't agree with you more!💖
Walking outside everyday has helped me tremendously. The places you'll mind will take you.
Gardening... it's much cheaper than therapy. And you get to enjoy the "fruit" you have sown.
Yes!!!, 🐦😃
If thats the case then you weren't mentally ill. Stop encouraging people to throw money at charlatans selling snake oil.
Feeling safe is really an issue for me and listening to your video has helped me to understand more about how to heal myself.
The bird you heard is the lovely Red-bellied Woodpecker. Not a very good descriptive name because it has a large red patch at the back of its head but only a light blush of red on the males belly. One of my favorite birds.
Very nice.
I'm sorry but it will never stop annoying me when people say the Red-bellied Woodpecker is "poorly named" because it has a red hed. The majority of woodpecker species on earth have red on their head. There are 22 species in North America; there are only 2 (the three-toed woodpeckers) that don't have red on their head in any plumage. Meanwhile, Red-bellied is the only North American species with a red belly other than Lewis's, which had not been discovered yet when Red-bellied was named. Also for what it's worth, both sexes have red bellies, not just the males.
@@mattzx003 Well that may be but when you have to look with very concentrated vision to see the slight blush on the belly and you have a LARGE blazing red patch on the back of the head as opposed to the slight strip on a downy or hairy then it seems to me any naming protocols referring to anatomical red patches are questionable. Personally, I would vote for the name of Elegant Woodpecker.😄 Gorgeous bird
So, it was not an argumentative chicken then. 😮
I thought I heard a Flicker! Similar to red belly but different wings. Also I think he was on the bike path, looks like the people I meet out there in winter, peaceful people.
thank you so much for being here, im a teenager and i have a lot of fear inside me since i had a breakdown years ago, im starting to find comfort on myself.
Sending you well wishes and positive energy on your healing journey. I came out the "other side" from a similar situation when I was a few years older than you (early 20s). Just wanted to let you know there is hope and it's possible to get to a better state of equilibrium for yourself
@@tgeh448 i appreciate your support brother, thank you.
👏👏👏
Sending hugs! 💕 Sending good wishes. 💕
Actually, the breathing moments in the beginning of your videos are my favorite part! Such a good daily reminder to relax your body and breath slowly.
Glad you like.
You are absolutely correct. My response to my triggers makes all the difference in the world. I once had a somewhat elevated blood pressure reading of 150 and within 10 minutes it went to 180 just out of a panic/fear response. Every reading it went up. I realized that the blood pressure machine itself was causing an automatic fear/panic reaction. Our fear/anger reaction is extremely powerful. Once the mind reacts with fear, the body then responds with more adrenaline, more hormones, and more tension. I almost think TMS is testing our fear. Our ego/mind feeds off of fear/emotion. It challenges us with triggers to see us react, like a puppet. And we generally fall in line like the puppets we are. That whole cycle strengthens the ego's control. The lesson to learn here is to observe our automatic fear/panic/anger reaction so it is no longer 100% automatic. Rise above the automatic reaction with more awareness of the whole ridiculous scheme as it plays out. Stop letting TMS/fear play games with us. I am fairly certain that TMS is not a protection mechanism, but an ego mechanism to maintain fear/anger, which keeps the ego alive and in control of something. We are not our egos. The ego is a false version of us that only has the control we give it. This is where TMS starts to move into the realm of spirituality, but it is important regardless to know there is a fear mechanism going on in our minds that needs to be stopped if we want to ever be at peace.
I’m a USAF Vet dealing with CPTSD and injuries. Working on healing all🙏🏻❣️
Great, we need more people with CPTSD healed. Wish you success on your healing journey, bro❤❤❤
Thank you for your service, and God bless you on your journey to wholeness.
I wish I could heal you. I'm embarrassed that my only "problems" are money. Currently need a crown. What if I don't pay rent though? I'm like a dog chasing his tail. I need to breathe.
@@wdgbirmingham2 blessings to you❤
@@lesleymcmillan1893 Awe! Thank you Miss Lesley. That just made my day ❤️
Me telling myself that ‘I’m ok’ doesn’t get the job done unfortunately. I have to really ask myself why I feel anxious and get down to it even if it’s something as ‘silly’ as me being anxious of going outside. Of course it’s not silly but understanding why helps tremendously
What you do after you you found out the why?
Think the bird you were listening to could be a red bellied woodpecker as so many different types in US.
Good to take a pause and just listen to nature it's relaxing 😌
I love the breathing in the beginning. That’s what drew me into your videos
Love it. Thank you Bronx.
I recently experienced feeling safe after talking to myself listing how I am safe in the moment while experiencing chronic fatigue syndrome. I know panic attacks. I know life long anxiety from childhood. I was not safe growing up. I suffered abuse. So to experience a safe moment was freedom. I came up with a 4 F Mantra in that moment. Fine Fit Focused Free. I write poems to express my feelings, the alternative to suppressing that I used all my life. I found rhythm to my words non triggering than straight journaling. Every one is free to find what heals the pain of trauma. There is no set playbook. Feeling safe on a cellular level is the goal. Fine fit focused free helps create safety within me🎉🎉🎉 Great podcast to resonate to everyone where you are in your life story. May you all find your safe place to peace and calm.
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Check out Gabor Mate on childhood trauma and illness.
@@melodyebuskin5490 thank you for taking the time to contact me. I listen to many of his insightful talks.
Thank you for this; you're right on the mark. The cool-sounding bird is a red-bellied woodpecker. 😊
I love that there are people out there that can tell what something is just by the noise it makes.
My therapist taught me that how you respond is entirely a choice. also she taught me whenever you just react to something without thinking about it's likely a trauma response.
Emotional reaction=memory recall
"Oh no!" or "Oh well." SO GOOD!!! This is how I've been shifting my responses, but have never heard it so simply put. Thank you!
Wonderful!
Hi Dan yes so true .. I find breathing, relaxing and 10 mins of meditation so good. How we respond is the key.. ‘it’s not what happens to us it’s how we respond’ that can we difficult 😣 as I know only too well. Our perception is our reality’ it has taken me 5 years to implement and believe that. Thanks Dan for all your helpful videos, don’t just listen folks implement. ❤ Wishing all a healing day. It’s chilly and sunny in Dublin ❄️ 🌞
You did a great job Lily!
Wishing you a wonderful day!
Cold in France but it finally stopped raining ❤
@@Inge508 thank you dear Inge. I still have some challenging days, especially if I overdo it or don’t sleep well. I think it’s just the brains natural response. You can do it too Inge.. sending you healing 🤗 hugs and wishing you lots of strength and courage.. yes you can. Enjoy your day. 🌺🥰❤️
@@LilyOscar333yes don’t fear it, embrace it.. and celebrate the new Lily..
I’m on my path, not looking back just marching into a new bright future ❤🎉🎉🎉
Hello Lily .
A Roscommon woman here on Vancouver Island..
Enjoy your day.Gerri ☘️☕️
@@gerridalton1345 Hi Gerri another Irish ☘️ lady.. Vancouver is on my bucket list. Two wonderful speakers and authors live there, Gabor Mate and Eckart Tolle. ❤
Good morning Dan, I absolutely love the way you start off the video with the breath and a few moments of what's going on around you and your surroundings, it's very comforting and like a little friendly chat,I think it is very special and you are so too. I am extremely grateful I have found you, I love your gentle calming voice,it in itself is so calming. What you saying is so helpful,NEED YOU. Thank you Dan, much love Karen 💜🌈 X😊X
I've been trying Oh Well for a couple of days.... Especially in work which is stressful and I have a few unpleasant colleagues... It's really having a positive effect on me ❤❤
Love it.
Hmmmm, danger…. People, social situations… hmmmm. Love that bird… never heard such a beautiful song.
Its a practice to teach our brain !!, " you're safe" 😊❤
Was just thinking 🤔
With this worldwide audience that follows your videos, the perception of people might be there is a American Dan, a Canadien Dan, a European Dan, a English Dan, a Asian Dan, a Indian Dan .. wow so many Dan’s😀( maybe I forgot countries as well).
If all those people would subscribe and like, that would be amazing and give back for working 24/7 in this community !
Thank you European Dan for bringing daily safety❤
I see now I wake up, feel stress, panic, then gastro symptoms start.
@@wednesdayschild3627 that’s great news! When you can calm yourself down after you wake up, eventually you will be able to calm down the digestive issues 👍
“Oh look a bird!” I love how you pause and enjoy the little things in nature around you! 🦜
Due to the direct anxiety and panic caused by long Covid, I’ve had to train my body and mind to calm down 1000 times a day for the last four years. It has really paid off.
How u did that?
Really needed this.
I'm 12 years into debilitating chronic pain, and for the first 8 or so years I really managed to take each attack calmly and respond instead of react. In the last 4 years however I really had that sense of safety damaged, and I'm still really struggling to get it back.
Working away, little by little.
Love “Oh Well!!” Prayer didn’t work for me because it concludes that there is something wrong that I need help with. That just perpetuates and manifests more continued dis-ease. I also like the ACIM Lesson that says, “I choose to see things differently, and “Above all else, I want the peace.”
Prayer can also be an offering of gratitude for the strength you're bestowed with.
That's because your praying your menu of "I want".
It isn't about what you want.
It's what God wants from you.
Do you think God doesn't already know what's good for you?
@@Kitiwake That is not my prayer, but thank you anyway
@@Kitiwake listening to God instead of speaking is what is known as meditation.
Great video. Even in the worst of the torturous HELL I experienced, I KNEW that if I were put in a cage and my basic needs were met ( food. Water. Air), I’d be ok. I understood that the world was still beautiful but the lenses through which I experienced that world were damaged. I learned to lay back and let the fire of emotions and thoughts wash over me and past me… and I’d not get burned. It’s a skill so powerful …. To react to absolute hostility with peace … it’s difficult to explain. We’re programmed to want to scream or act out … but the best response is to observe and not get attached to the parasitic, dark thoughts that are trying to invoke chaos in our lives. Stop thinking. Stop judging. Stop FEARING. If you understand that the end result can only be love and beauty…. And that this experience is dynamically temporary and fleeting, ( unless you give your attention to and, therefore, power to these exogenous ideas/ thoughts…and you get stuck in this cyclical fear loop)… respond to your symptoms as if you are the person you desire to be and you will become that person. I’m writing this half asleep so forgive the run ons and fragmented thoughts. Fear is the enemy but he’s also a great teacher. You deserve to love and laugh and live. Chronic misery and pain is unnatural so claim your joy back. Laugh at the chaos. Ground yourself every morning. Get morning sunlight in your eyes and on your face. Walk. Walk more. Sing. Hum. Laugh out loud. Stretch. Hydrate. Tap. Shake. Walk. Sleep. ❤
I love what you say about the brain recognizing the authenticity in your calmness- such a great way to put it.
Thx Dan. Thank you for the daily videos. ❤❤ the dedication and efforts truly commendable sir. Thank you for allowing me to lend your confidence and beliefs a few months ago in some of your videos. I didn't believe in myself. Now I am going places and doing stuff. For those who read the comments. I did this with the free videos alone. When the whole world doesn't believe us and even ourselves , Dan believes we can heal. So thx Dan ❤❤ going to put this here on more of Dan's videos. This stuff works. Consume the content and IMPLEMENT. ❤
Same here exactly ❤❤❤
Oh well or oh no are 4 pivotal words that is awesome advice!!! Thanks Dan! The way you react is the platform of the response
I love the " im experiencing anxiety", it does lesson the fear & heart race. 🎉🎉🎉😃✅️
It's the first time the algorithm has suggested your videos. This is really helpful. I'm trying to learn to be as kind and patient with myself as I am with others but it's not easy to translate that response to myself.
Check out my fast start playlist for a great intro into what's going on and what to do about it. DansFastStart.com
I'm working on this since forever, I'm getting better, right now I'm on the train, usually I was suffering severe anxiety in this situation, just straight hell, but now I'm more calm and collected, we can get better and each case is unique but never lose hope, it's like we are addict in recovery, it's not an easy task so be patient and give yourself grace❤
First time on your channel, what a beautifully reassuring and soothing voice you have, thank you ❤
Thank you so much!
Thank you for all that you do Dan! You are out here saving lives! 🙏🏻💕✨
The problem here is that these responses happen “pre-thought” and thus we don’t always have much control over our responses. Just telling me “respond differently” doesn’t help, you need to tell me how to actually respond differently. My brain knows if I’m trying to lie to it and just pretend I’m not afraid when I’m actually afraid.
There is an instantaneous "OUCH" that we respond to. We cannot stop the "ouch". It's what we do AFTER that which matters most. We can think catastrophically, fuel the fear with our thinking, or we can reassure ourselves that even though we are afraid, we will be fine.
This is all built on the foundation that we understand the cause of pain and symptoms, we have done the assessments and know mindbody pain is what is going on with us and that there's a proven solution that we are capable of implementing. My fast start playlist videos will walk you through all of this. DansFastStart.com
Thank you for your reply and clarification. Just a suggestion, but I think you should speak more explicitly to this e.g. "what do I do if I feel like a can't control my catastrophic thinking?" "I know I'm supposed to respond with calm but I don't know how to" etc. etc. Maybe it's just me but when those sorts of questions aren't addressed I start to feel anxious about the fact that I'm not responding correctly to the symptoms, which creates a vicious cycle of "I know I need signal safety to my brain, but I don't know how to because I don't feel safe." Thank you. @@PainFreeYou
This question is really legit.
I understand what Dan says and strongly agree to it.
But I have seen many many people who cannot directly said, "Oh well," because at the heat of the moment the grip of anxiety or fear or other negative emotions were so strong, this phrase wasn't anywhere in their mind. Or since they've fallen back into strong fear, they believe that that phrase is probably for other situation, but not for this one. This one situation is too scary. They compromise.
So I think the difference between those who can force themselves to say, "Oh well" and actually believe that, and those who cannot,
is those who cannot have stronger amygdala response than those who can.
Amygdala, the fear center of the brain, needs to be calmed down first in order for the conscious mind to have a chance to remember the planned reaction to that particular situation, and not fall into fear and agree with the subconscious mind (led by amygdala), and compromise.
One effective way I've found to calm amygdala and strengthen conscious mind to be in control is daily focused-breathing meditation.
Doing it daily for 2 weeks has shown quite significant change to improve ability to handle fear consciously.
This is a great question. I’m currently learning Neuro-somatic tools that connect straight to the nervous system and helps to relax your system (brain & body) so you can have different reactions like he is talking about in the video. I really enjoy a podcast called Trauma Rewired (and they have an episode or more on pain) by the folks that teach neuro-somatic tools. That episode mentions that pain is an “output” of your nervous system being “activated” (or feeling under threat), rather than pain being the things that causes the “activation.” So it’s another way of coming at it in addition to what he’s saying. It’s cool to hear all these different approaches.
You get to the time when you conscious part of your brain actually follows your commands by repetition of introducing new different thoughts right in the middle of your unbeneficial thoughts are happening. Humans learn new staff and skills with 2 things - Association and Repetition. It's probably the hardest job you will ever do in your life, harder than anything you ever done - learn new responsibilities. This goes against the way Humans are designed ( homeostasis- keep the sameness). That's what keeps your body intact and functioning. However it's what make it so so difficult to change thought, patterns, responsibilities, behavior. Difficult but not impossible. It just requires commitment, patience, discipline, persistence and finding the right tools to assist you. Good luck! ❤❤
I had my first coffee of the day listening to you, and it was such calm and pleasant time. Thank you for the "Oh well"😊❤
You're brilliant. I am learning so much from you. And you present the information so well and so clearly!
The woodpecker literally cushions itself against shock in its anatomy - good symbol for this talk
OMG The response. My response is almost always anger, which is only one drop above fear...I can choose differently. Thank you so much. ❤❤❤
You are so welcome
love you baba ji, never fail to improve my mood when I see you 🙏❤
I AM grateful for learning how to do whatever I must do to rid of said energies, ie...
Talk softly...
"I AM ok, all is well!"
Sing...
"My body has that healthy feeling, ohhh O ohh, that loving feeling and it's feeling strrrong, uh huh, uh huh huuuuH, uh huh hu huh!"
Continue singing this all day long!
What a difference! ❤
Love the calm starts to the videos with breath focus...being outside surrounded by nature equally calming & soothing (love the birdie & all the other critters that join the talk)...and you, ever reassuring, healing & providing the comforting guidance for us all to create a safer feeling & more peaceful life for ourselves. I honestly wouldn't be where I am today without you being who you are & your consistent daily truisms.💜
Wow!!!! You are so right on! We gotta do the work folks. Consistency, repetitions, belief, and positivity.
I love that this applies to so much not just physical pain. This applies to people with anxiety amd other mental health difficulties, digestive issues, a lot of different things. The message is the same for everything. Gotta stop fearing to start hearing what's right for you
This guy has Lebowski level chill. Very calming to watch
Never seen your channel until it popped up, but I really need this today 🙏
L-theanine helps a lot with anxiety. Just started taking them and can feel a definite difference already
What dosage do you take? I've never heard of it
@trojan403 200mg a day (2 💊 once in the morning and once in the afternoon). It's a usual dose, you'll want to discern on your own feelings once started.
@@ReignOne11 thanks! I bought some just now :)
Yes, I just started 3 days ago. Each tablet is 100 mg, so I started with half but became quite sleepy. The last couple mornings, I have 1/4 so 25 mg and it's wonderful!
Lemon balm tea in the AM as well.
I want to add that the other advice here on anxiety is proving to be very helpful too!
@trojan403 Awesome! Going from someone who had panic/anxiety attacks randomly to not even getting a tingle when a thought came about whether or not to "freak out" 😆 lol. It is wonderful 😊 I hope you're having success in your journey as well. Xoxo
Love to you and woodpecker 💌
I have taken your pain test and read your download. I have been convinced for some time that stress is at the root of my autoimmune diseases and being housebound with M.E for 20 years I am happy to try anything. I have ordered John Sarno’s book and look forward to your e book when it comes out .
Also, from d.b. t. We only control our response , not our environment. " 🎉🎉
Hi! Dan! I actually slow down your video speed so I can absorb more❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤Every time I listen to you this is the act of sending my brain message of safety. Thank you so much!
Very nice. Glad you find them helpful.
I didn’t realize you could change the playback speed, I love it, now I don’t have to keep rewinding 😂
Good point about skipping over the breathing part
My response is praying about it. Or responding with love. Im also responding by nit using medications
Hi everyone ! Glad to find the channel & community. Wishing everyone the very best ♥️
Love the Flicker!
you've been on my Home Screen a ton, looks like it's time I stop walking around you and realize there's a reason and it might do me good! and I absolutely need this wisdom, working on it. thank you sir!
Beautiful depth and clarity. In gratitude.
this was so helpful for me, thank you so much. i’ve been on this mind-body journey for 8 years now (!) and i still totally lose sight of this. i’ve made it through so many different symptoms over the years, and the way they always left was by me not focusing on them and just trusting they’d leave in their own time. right now i’m struggling with some rough sleep issues and am exhausted and have been panicking about it all day. this was just the message i needed - “oh well.” i will be okay. i am safe. 💜 thank you, you are a gift!
Intentional chosen response. 🙌🙌
I appreciate the sharing of point of view. Great reminder to keep responding even if thoughts can be overly annoying sometimes. I chose patience and compassion as well to replace reacting. Thanks
Notice about my self when I feel pain from my jaw I would freak out with stress and panic with emergency like I need to go to the hospital but Dan this does not help me at all listening to you I now now when I feel physical pain I just relax I'm OK because stressing makes way worst and Dan has the experience and his gone through it
You are god sent , your like if bob Ross became my therapist. My name is Joe sireno. And I thank you for you beautiful content. & your insightful wisdom
Brilliant advice. Blessings
Hey Dan, thanks for all these videos, really appreciate you! ❤ I was hoping you could shed your light on and perhaps do a video on starting a family and the fear behind that.
My husband and I really want a family and to start that process but have doubt and fear around it and whether we should ‘wait’ until I’m better, healed or in remission etc
Great suggestion! I'll add that to my list.
Thankyou so much! Can't wait for your take on it. Have a wonderful day Dan :) @@PainFreeYou
I get distracted by cool sounding birds too!
Never knew you before, first video of you I see. I needed to hear this. Thank you
Hi Dan, this is exactly what my son was telling me the other day. My challenge is that I've has on two separate occasions, woken up in the early hours of the morning with severe dizziness to the point where I was unable to move from my bed without inducing the intensity of the dizziness. The dizziness lasts hours not just a few minutes. On both occasions I've been extremely fearful as I live by myself and have nobody to help calm me down and so I have ended up calling for an ambulance and taken to the hospital. I know what you are saying is right but the sheer intensity of the debilitating dizziness evokes a deep response of fear and panick in me despite my knowing that this very fear and panic is feeding the beast.
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@@barbarada6308 thank you. Xx
Intermittent dizziness is disturbing. If everything medical has been ruled out, then you can breath and relax. You know that the episodes have passed after a few hours and so you can tell yourself that will happen again. I get suddenly dizzy every so often but I know it will be gone by the next day. If all I can do is breath, then I pay attention to my breath instead of the dizziness and that's the best thing one can do.
@@cforat thank you. Waiting for it to pass for hours is difficult especially when I need to use the bathroom but can't move. I know it does eventually pass but it literally is debilitating and scary.
@@cforat yes, you're absolutely right. All my tests are always coming back fine. I'm waiting on my MRI results but already know that they will come back fine as well. I know that I am well and healthy. My subconscious just hasn't got the memo yet but by keeping on with getting on with my life, regardless of what my subconscious mind is throwing at me via symptoms, I will no longer experience the dizziness and related problems. Indifference and a determination to get on living my life will eventually teach my subconscious mind to no longer throw out symptoms based on panic, fear and misinformation.
I always feel despair 😳🙄 thank you for your wisdom! ❤️
The breathing exercise is like love notes to your body. An internal massage for your organs! 🫶🏽🕯️✨
I appreciate you Dan ❤
“My emotions cause my symptoms to flair” 100%
Me too
Thank you!
You bet!
Thank you, Dan. Your video made me feel better. Safer.
Thanks for this video, it is the first time i have listened to you, and I am now going to seek more! I found your words and calm soft voice very reassuring. With warmest wishes from the UK.
Check out my fast start playlist for a great intro into what's going on and what to do about it. DansFastStart.com
@@PainFreeYou Thanks. I have also gone to the painfreeyou/start page, and I have a question: what does TMS stand for? Thanks.
Very good video thank you
The brain is fascinating, I will watch this everyday
This is so very helpful. This is my second viewing and I’m going to revisit this until I fully absorb and integrate this into my daily life. I’ve given it a try lately and it’s so freeing. Grateful! 🙏
Thank you for the kind words.
I needed to hear this today. Thank you!
Glad it was helpful!
Thank you very much for your work on this channel. I am learning more everyday about my chronic pain and MCAS like symptoms/flares. My question is this: it’s our response to the stress, I agree. BUT do you not agree how living on earth has amplified this stress? I do my best to tune it out, I don’t watch news etc. It is my conclusion that just life on earth is “stressful” more so than I believe it was meant to be. There are the “tigers” of the modern world chasing people everyday. Being a highly sensitive human doesn’t help me, it adds to it. I often think that only a small simple cabin in the woods and about two years of quality “downtime” would help me react less and parasympathetic more. But here I am, trying to secure a job, work full time, etc. Many days now I find it all just too much. I’m working on my thinking, and brain rewiring but needed to vent this out for some proper, objective insight.
I truly do not want to be this “Debbie downer”. I just currently feel very overwhelmed and find it very difficult to do this work with the current tigers in my life.
New here. Thanks for the message. I needed it today.
Welcome. This is the way to begin: DansFastStart.com - watch all the videos, take notes, implement, repeat until well. The playlist videos map it all out.
Great wisdom you shared mate! Taking it all on board, thanks 👍
What a great video
Thank you. Glad you liked it.
Thank you for taking the time to share your energy and wisdom. Finding your channel was a blessing this morning.
Thank you for sharing 🙏🏼✝️❤️
Thanks I needed to hear this
thank you very much!
Birdie Sanders Moment! Love❤❤❤❤
I really like the point of the video brought out beginning at 7:08, thank you
Yes - that is actually the answer.
Surprisingly helpful
I needed to be reminded this..I already knew this but I have been dealing with a lot of anxiety about my health and it sucks because I know the anxiety is making it worse. I’m 24 and I have periods of time where I really think my body is shutting down and I’m really scared. It’s really hard to convince the brain that I’m okay 😕 but I will try this more..
Thank you for teaching!💘
Any time!
I really liked this messagw. Thank you!
This made me feel better but when im relaxing take deep breathes the symptoms seem to be worse but im still taking deep breathes and relaxing.
Don't do it to fix anything or have an expectation of an outcome. Just relax your body and allow your body to breathe naturally. Smile. KNOW you are okay.
You probably already know this but make sure you are breathing with your diaphragm, not your chest. Pull the air down into your lungs with your belly muscles.
Oh no or oh well i loved thar . New subscriber i need that!!
Love the bird 😅 I kept wondering what bird it was then you mentioned it
Great video Dan, thank you.. listened to it twice..👍🏼
Thank you sir, for sharing this video. Bless you.
You are very welcome
So I searched for this title on Google. Dan is the first hit. Now that may be because I watch his videos every day. But I think it's interesting.
Google owns RUclips, prioritizes RUclips videos in its results and you googled the video title.
Thank You 🙏🫶