thank you for sharing your life with us. I too suffered abuse at the hands of my dad. I was age 13-20. I am now 56 years old and still have flashbacks. I have sought help my whole life and became whole at age 50 when my dad died. I was raised in church also and we were also the perfect family. I thank God for me being a Christian today and staying with God not the church.
When she said, "God made our bodies to respond to touch- it did what it was supposed to do- it wasn't my body betraying me, it was my stepfather who betrayed me." PRAISE GOD! Dear sister, God bless you!!
She s EXACTLY correct,,,when she said ''talk about it, LET IT OUT, tell someone. I was sexually abuse in foster care, and back in the 70,s no one told. I was 6 years old. I carried it with me, for many years. Til i met JESUS,,,,now i tell everyone, what happen to me. And i tell others to talk to someone, and ''LET IT OUT''.
That's horrible, Jordan! My neighbor started molesting me when I was three...he died and his son took over, so I know how it feels. My heart goes out to you and all the other victims out there who have suffered throught these tragic acts.
What do you mean people need to speak up about this and that you are going to speak up? If you are aware of any abuse happening are you saying it took you to watch this video to realise that people need to speak up
Wayne Sidler there are different ways to speak up. Why are you accusing someone of negligence? I was just cruising RUclips and watched this video and read your comment a year later.
@@waynesidler4582 we have our knowledge, we know our threshholds, we need understanding, compassion and the solid system that gives security, the parents not abusing, speaking can mean talk your classmaid, get her parents before they MUST disappear by traffic...
Nicole, you are loved. You are brave. It is So hard to admit the true feelings of abuse. So many think they are alone. Stay strong and know that 1 in 3 girls need your strength.
I found out recently that I had been sexually abused at 4 by the 18 year old pastors son. I'm in the midst of healing....the truth IS setting me free. now so much makes sense. God spoke to my heart three years ago that in three years I would be healed. He spoke this in a dream and also through scripture that He would give me back the years that the locusts have eaten.
Truth Teller I found out through EMDR therapy. I has no recollection at all but I always knew something was different about me. I was afraid to be upside down, afraid of water, was hyperviligent had anxiety later on. he did not penetrate but did other things. I did have a memory of this person and him holding me often
James Earl Cash, you should not spread such hate and disgracefulness on this comment section because there are a lot of victims of sexual abuse here. If you are pro-rape, keep that to yourself. No child, man or woman should ever go through something so horrendous and for you to blame the victim, a 4 year old victim makes you so despicable. And if you're trolling, please fuck off. I just want to add to you (Yvette), I wish you a life full of true happiness and grace. I hope that you will someday heal.
One of my earliest memories is my parents changing my diaper (I slept in diapers till I was like 3) and they made a point to tell me that no one could ever touch me there unless I asked them to. I am so grateful that they told me that from such a young age.
Very strong young woman. It so terrible how someone that you depend on and trust to protect you could do this. People like this man that would abuse a child in this way should be locked away from society for the rest of their lives.
Dominick Brock - "...better that a large millstone be put around their necks and they be drowned in the depths of the sea", as Jesus said - Matthew 18:6. They will understand the consequences of what they have done on their death beds.
As an educator I have been trying to read & watch as much as I can about this incredibly heartbreaking issue to understand it’s prevention more ..along with so many other horrific crimes that our worlds children are falling victim to. We are offered minimal training in these issues yet I know as a parent and a teacher, that it is my responsibility to become versed and educated of these atrocities. Beyond that I need to share more knowledge of this sort with fellow educators, my community and my students themselves. A huge part of me wants to keep our children innocent and not expose them to too much early on, but realize that predators are not extending them that same kind of grace! They are not taking into consideration our children’s innocence- quite the contrary, they are taking advantage of it! I think educators as a whole need to take into consideration that there are families that are not teaching children of such dangers nor are they stressing to their children that NO ONE should be touching them inappropriately. Mandated reporters need to gracefully and age appropriately incorporate facts such as these into conversations and lessons. I do teach about self respect, kindness and how loving oneself and protecting ones self from negative words or actions from others (or to oneself) is so important. Really embracing that kind of self love lends to them feeling connected to their own spirit for their lifetime. The author here spoke to the idea of ‘how we treat and present ourselves is how we will be perceived and treated by others’ and that really resonated with me. I think it’s so important we arm children with as much self love and self knowledge (what they are worth and that they are in charge of what happens to their bodies)! that we can! This author speaks so eloquently about how important it is to be supported and have opportunities to talk openly about this very relevant issue. I am inspired to find someone in my area to speak to our kids at school about this! I know it will help make a difference! Knowledge is empowering! Thank you for sharing this!🙏🏽❤️🙌🏽
What an articulate young woman! I wasn't sexually abused but I can hear a lot of parallels to what I believe happened in my up bringing that was unaddressed.
Wow thank you Nicole for your bravery but especially when you talked about the "feeling" and how God made our bodies to respond to touch...and that its okay and that we did NOT ask for it... It set me free
When I was abused pornography was involved - bondage porn. A younger girl who was being abused at the same time as I was also exposed to the same porn. After the abuse stopped toward myself, this girl and I played out the bondage towards each other to punish each other for what we had been a part of. Bondage was also used during the abuse.
Nicole offers many insights I hope she is able to get the word out so that more people can learn from this devastating experience! Sorry you had to go through this, Nicole!
So thankful to see this. I pray for more churches to support anyone who has suffered from childhood sexual abuse. My church had two guests from NAMI About mental health conditions. I felt bless after church my pastor allowed two women to share childhood sexual abuse stories. But for me, hurts because that was the last time I felt support. I told some women by phone about abusers in my childhood. I feel blessed they trusted to talk about it But we have no groups to help each other. We have other groups Some collect money for out church. Also some who lived through domestic violence. I got help outside my church. Some churches may never address childhood sexual abuse. I glad RUclips does. Helps me know again I was never alone. To know that some seek spiritual healing. Not just what the world offers To keep healing and know God loves me. That God will be with me in my healing Jesus too. Never alone. Pray for all those who need to heal lifelong.. God is good.🙏🏾
Wow! Such an elegant young woman. Thank you for sharing your story. I had a similar 10 year experience. You really have helped me listening to this. It has never gone away from me and I'm 53. It doesn't consume me daily, it just pops up. Best wishes to you
You are an author Nicole and speak so relaxed now and as if you have it all together, way beyond your years. You talk like you had a lot of mental health therapy and you fully comprehend what others, even adults, need to know more fully.
I was sexually abused from the age of 4 to the age of 12 by an older half brother. He is 10 years older than me and used threats of worse abuse to keep me from telling my mother. I never told my mom until I was in my late thirties and when I did finally tell her she really didn’t believe me and said that I shouldn’t hold a grudge against my brother because it was all “water under the bridge”. The only one in my family that really knew was my younger brother because he sometimes witnessed the abuse and was also threatened not to tell. I’m 56 now and I still think about what happened to me every day. I did tell my husband about the abuse before we got married and he’s always been very supportive. My brother was never criminally prosecuted but he is a homeless alcoholic and I have seen him twice in the last 35 years while attending funerals. Child sexual abuse changes who the child being abused was supposed to be. It changes their life forever and I often wonder how different my life would have been had this not happened to me. Would I have had more friends? Would I be more confident? Would I be less insecure? Lastly, I feel that there were so many clues that my mother could have picked up on or that my family doctor could have picked up on but they were either never noticed or just ignored. My mother was so busy with the dysfunctional relationship between her and my father that she didn’t ask why I didn’t want my brother to babysit me all the time and neither she nor my family doctor ever questioned the repeated urinary tract infections I had all the time for years. Instead she was always telling my brother and every one else how great he was for always being willing to take care of his little brother and sister. So, I’m just gonna say that if you have any older teenage child (especially a boy) that is always anxiously and eagerly volunteering to take care of a younger sibling......That’s not normal, it’s just not! I’m not saying that you couldn’t possibly have a super helpful and compassionate kid on your hands but since I’ve gotten older I’ve met a few girls who were in similar situations as children.
A friend told me a better story when he was a kid he told his father that the priest wanted to touch him. His father was a boxer ,he went to the church and punched the priest in the face,he fall down in the floor
I love the part about explaining the touch of the body and forcing kids to kiss, sit on laps. I wish parents were more informed because the have a big role in it. If they end up helping or not makes the biggest difference.
I feel the interviewer missed an important point! Nicole had already spoken about her body reacting in a "natural" way, and that she'd been threatened, so the question "what happened when you tried to pull away?", is extremely presumptuous and avoiding some difficult truths. This kind of abuse within families is often not perceived as an attack by the child, as the manipulation is intertwined with the illusion of normal parental love, causing all sorts of confusion and self doubt.
Your an amazing strong young lady. Thank you for sharing your story. Remain close to GOD, HE helps us to overcome any obstacles. Love and hugs to you from across the miles.
I realize SO many men don’t have that fatherly love for their own children,they don’t feel it the way the mom feels it. Which sucks by the way but I guess I can’t deny that. But I’ll never ever understand being arroused by a small child. Being able to stay arroused by the fear and unwillingness of a little child. It’s one sick thing to have an unnatural thought enter their mind as if that wasn’t disgusting enough but then to have the depravity to act out on it?? There are just SO many sick & depraved levels that these sickos go to...how can crying turn you on? How can pain turn you on? How can someone who is SO innocent and unsexual turn you on??? They’re babies! I can’t fathom.😔😔😞😞😞😞
I’m so disappointed in teachers like hrs that totally missed the opportunity to help her!!! I worked with foster children for years, I would have them in my care and find out what happened to them within a week, without prodding!!!! The worst part is previous placements they had NEVER caught it! I think allot of times, they just don’t really care .... horrible!
If your going to be negative why comment at all this is her story you can't trivialize her experience it is not just sex its mental and physical abuse on an innocent child if ur on here screaming there is no God I see it as you just being bitter and wanting to spew your negativity on others he's real please keep the comments clean of anger towards the victim and interviewer its ridiculous
Im struggling with repressed memories of abuse before I was 6 years old. I have no one to verify or disqualify these memories. They are scattered and at times I can feel something very distinct come over me. Its been almost 30 years.
As a nine year old l was refused entry to the cubs when my friends were at the same time, reason was when l gave my name the master realised who my farther was and he did not like him,,at the time it hurt me,,l am now 70 and pleased l was not accecpted when l hear about some of the nastie bent scout masters,, ps, thanks to my farther l did not go to church so did not get in contact with vickers and priests,
I’m 27 year old, I was sexually abused at the age of 7 till I was 12 year old then I was sexually abused by my adopted dad at the age of 15. I am currently writing a book about my life and what I’ve been through. I want to publish my book once I’m done. Don’t ever be afraid to reach out to someone who could help you find away out of bad situations. It is never alright for anyone to be abused at a young age. Your childhood gets ruined and your life changes forever. You should never accept being sexually abused. At the age of seven these incidents happened to me. It left me feeling stuck under the roof. Sexual abuse and verbal abuse can lead to feeling traumatized as you get older. Often it leaves its victims to be less confident, confused, have a lack of social skills and untrusting of a lot of people. Please allow yourself to open up to other people who has your best needs at heart. Do not allow it to hold you back from relationships in your future. No matter what your experience of childhood abuse was, you must always remember that the future can be a lot brighter. Stay optimistic, focused and purposeful. Please remember with the right support system you can never be alone.
Where is god whilst these children are being abused...if i saw someone abusing a child...i would at least attempt to stop them...that's how god and i differ i guess!!..
I dont believe the mum didnt have doubts or concerns..bullshit! She just felt she had the will power and realizing that her daughter was growing up into a woman and the secrets will be coming to light...and that is the reason for her made up story about going back to college and BAM! Ask if he did anything bad to her? Makes no sense.
I was servely beaten, verbally, mentally abused and sexually abused during what was supposed to be a childhood. There where 10 children in my family. My oldest brother was the sexual abuser. 13 year age difference between him and me. I was 3 or 4 when that started. I hated everything that was happening to me and didn't understand why. There was no talk of Jesus at our house. But God sent a preacher to see if we could go to church I was 5 at this time. I was surprised they let us go. We got to go no where but school and straight back. The moment I heard about this man who could save and heal me, I believed. It was when I was 6 that Jesus spoke to me for the first time. My brother was calling me again. I was frozen in fear I didn't want to go then Jesus said RUN. Jesus has helped me with many things. Shortly after this all the other abuses stopped also. I've stuggled with everything that happened to me but Jesus has helped me along the way. Jesus hears your soul crying out and help you. Most people don't even recognize that it was him. There are no coincidences it's all designed by our 1 true Father. For those who don't know that is God who is in heaven with his son Jesus. Trust in Jesus he will help you. Jesus will be here soon. Do not follow Francis sunday law it is the mark of the beast. Beast is a nation, state or country. Like the vatican is state and church at the same time. Francis is the man of perdition, the no 1 antichrist. Rev. 17 gives you a description of the antichrist. Most churches have been infiltrated by satan. No man can change the ten commandments. The Vatican changed Saturday to sunday. Constantine made it a law. Everything repeats sunday law is coming. Satan wants to be like God so he wants worship like God. He will take anyway he can get it. Some people are praying to satan and don't know it. If you pray for material things to get wealthy and appear above others. I'm not talking about what you need to survive. This is all in your bible. Pray for decernment and Gods truth before you read it. One more thing some might not know satan is god of this earth and prince of the air. Until Jesus return. Satan controls a lot of what you watch and listen to.
I have two friends teachers and they tell me that this is a crazy two sided street they often walk down and both sides happen to be very shaded. That's why I steered my kids, as they grew up, away from a teaching role as a life choice.
Im so proud of the women speaking the truth of how they where abused. Step parents/siblings MOST of the time dangerous to have around. I hope men start speaking out more one day!
Thank you for sharing may God give you healing, as a child I lived in a boarding private school and a high school educator whose wife was an elementary teacher of this school took part in molesting the little girls (oral copulation) and he had intercourse with a 12yr. old in front of us, while his wife was at church singing classes. The molestor threatened a girl if she told he'd pop her cherry. It was kept secret.
In 4th grade they showed us a video about molestation & sexual abuse and I remember frantically crying & telling my best friend at the time "I didn't know, I didn't know I didn't know" but I still don't remember who it was.
Forgiveness is a process NOT AN EVENT. She is fortunate to have a support system. Even other incest victims that I was in recovery with were not supportive at all. That was very disappointing.
When someone is being abused by a controlling narcissistic demon, they become hyper vigilant towards the abuser. Is he ok? Is he mad? Sad? Did I say something wrong? Will he be mad at me for ____, ______, or ______? You become so groomed to be their mom, their caretaker that you disregard yourself (and your children). I'm not saying it's right but it happens. It happened to me. I had no kids with that jerk but I completely neglected myself to make sure he was happy because it was a living HELL when he wasn't...and nothing I did helped. Anything I said, did, didn't say, didn't do was wrong to him and set him OFF. I pray for her mom...that she can heal from her own abuse and forgive herself for not seeing her daughters pain and abuse. I'd rather be dead than know my spouse was abusing my child and I was so abused myself and focused on my abuser that I didn't see it. People have an amazing capacity to act like everything is OK. This young woman here did it while she was being abused, her mom probably did too while SHE was abused. See the rub here? Daughter being abused in secret is acting fine in front of everyone while stuffing down her pain. Mom is suffering in HER own pain and is stuffing it down and acting. Mother and daughter see each other acting like all is well which perpetuates the secrets and hides the pain and abuse...keeps the cycle for both of them going and going. This is horrific 😞😞💔💔 Praise God I got out and I'm healing. Praise God for healing this young woman and her mom!
What now?! Can you please tell me the details about this? In Germany they had pamphlets about fathers teaching daughters about "pleasuring themselves" in kindergartens. I didn't know they're doing this in the UK.
We need to protect our little ones. We need better men that support and protect little girls/boys and not destroy them!!! Psychopaths, Sociopaths, Narcissists are destroying our precious innocent young angels😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Forgiveness is something that people have to be ready to do , NOT BECAUSE PEOPLE TELL THEM TO , BECAUSE THEY'RE THE ONE HURTING AND GOD UNDERSTAND THAT ,
I was sexually abused as a little girl. I am 53 now and I have told my counsellor (therapist) for the past few years that I cannot forgive. The man who did that to me does not deserve my forgiveness. What he did to me has shaped my whole life. People say "you need to forgive". Says who? At this stage of my life to me it seems like giving him a "pass" for the abuse.
yes, like it invalidates the torment of the victim and the way life goes off course, the illnesses, yes, it diminishes the victim, which is so demoralizing@@shahwilloughby4603 -- do love her interview though
The vital component in all these instances of child sexual abuse is narcissism. Men who habitually control others, beit their wives, animals, employees anyone are suspect in society. These monsters are actors and use every trick in the book to throw others off the scent. Formal religon is shot full of evil meglamaniacs who are prime suspects in this sort of scenario. The catholic church has lost every vestige of respctability because of the multitudes of abhorrent priests who use their so say "authority" to manipulate the vulnerable. This frenzied attraction to pre pubescense is an abomination and really these peadophiles are irredeemable. You cannot give back a childhood blighted by abuse.. It is forever sullied and that poor person carries with them that stigma. I am not religous and I don't believe individuals can be expected to forgive.
Wow this is exactly how it happens this is so sad and it’s so confusing as a child you know it’s wrong but they convince you it’s ok and the flip of being good at times wow poor girl.
I'm so sorry you had to speak about this with her she seemed to want to down size things for your step dad. It's like she wanted to make excuses for him doing this to you. It's like she wanted you to tell her horrible details. God bless you and your so brave and you have took back your power by speaking out. You are so point on about knowing how you felt about things. Everything you said was very well spoken. You dealt with her great also because I was getting so angry with her when she asked some of the questions she asked and the remarks she made. You might bruise easily but you bounced back beautifully ❤💜💙💛💚
Your stepdad sounds like a Narcissist also: controlling of your mom. People NEED to educate themselves on Narcissism. The fact he flipped that onto your mom and blamed her? Classic Narc trait/red flag!!!
The minute my abuser touched me I spoke up .... Speak up loud and clear He is touching me .Do not wait for years to go by Speak up !!!!!!! It's very important to know it's Not yr fault if you have to bring it into the light. No matter if it's your family .Because most usually it is a family member ..... And it does start at a very young age ... Also watch for signs .. I feel S o So bad I had no idea the little girl I babysitter was being abused by her mom's boyfriend .. thank God he went to jail...
You remind me of the beautiful young girl Brooklynn who told me about her step dad that bought her things .. She felt she was able to take care of her little sister w all his buying her stuff w the hush hush hush ... When she told her mom .. her mom did not listen..
She says she received comfort by turning to God to heal after her abuse. But if God is so wonderful, why didn't He prevent the abuse in the first place?
I respect what the guest is saying and agree with most of her conjectures, but blaming pedophilia on pornography is ludicrous. Yes, a lot of pedophiles may be addicted to porn, but porn-addiction is likely a symptom of the problem, and not a cause.
Porn doesn’t have to be he beginning of it, but it is the same as everything else. A person always needs more to meet their need whether it be drugs or alcohol or sexual need. The human body gets desensitized to stimulants always needing more to get the same effect. It’s no different with porn. With everything else it has the potential to lead to some terrible places.
I have watched a number of these harrowing stories and it would appear to me that the whole stepdad/stepsibling scene needs to be regulated (for want of a better word) because the partner (usually the mother) seems to be, on average, 3 to 4 years in the dark about the abuse of their child. So...to be greater than 4 years in the dark¿¿ maybe I'm being too harsh here.
The world is not fallen, people choose (consciously or unconsciously) to act good or bad. It is a free choice world, and it all depends on us. We make choices and face the consequences.
Sue Cass "Helping her survive it?" So that's the kind of help you applaud? OK. So if I see you being brutalized, I won't help you. I'll just hang back, watch and cheer you on. "Hang in there Sue! Don't black out from the pain! You can do it Sue!" Uhmmm...I think I'd want swift and early intervention but that's just me. And...what about all the women and children who are raped AND killed? Was He helping them too?
I understand your anger, Mary. I am one of those who survived 18 years of being brutalized, plus gang raped, so when I say the Lord helped me survive I know what I'm talking about. I felt the same way you do about God "helping" for years but I am who I am today because of God helping me to survive that and much more and then heal from it and be able to help others overcome their pain.
I agree that sick people are the problem and also will add, that, porn (all kinds, not just "kiddy" porn) worsens their sick condition. There is no place for porn in the lives of well adjusted (not arrested development) people (both men and women). It serves no purpose but to objectify the person in the picture. C'mon parts are parts. They're not that different. How many times does one have to look at the same thing, hence arrested development (yes, I realize there's college graduates, lawyers, professional people who engage in porn but their overall personality and behavior is still arrested). Child pornography is an escalated, sociopathic level of perversion. Porn is to the brain as toxins are to the body.
No mother connected to her children could not see that there was emotional trauma in her daughter .. the mother is to blame .. ten years of abuse went on and nobody noticed? .. WHERE WAS THE MOTHER .. this is absurd .. plug in mom.. plug in.. the mother was oblivious.. and that is a crime itself .. stepfathers are 10 times more likely to sexually abuse a child .. get with it ,..
Kelly..... Yep for ten yrs in her own home & she had no idea as to what was happening. We have to teach our kids from a young age 4 - 5 yrs old (keep it age appropriate) that no one else is allowed to touch their private parts or anything that makes them feel uncomfortable to get away from & tell someone they can trust and don't stop until someone believes them b/c the offender needs help its no child's fault - that person might or could be doing it to other children, this is what my mum taught me & my sisters all the time growing up, she said even if her or dad become the offender to tell anyone b/c even they need help.. If we teach kids young they are more then likely not to abuse children, when they are adults too.
Dont blame the mother. You have no idea what was going on. Most of the time, like this woman explains, predators and molesters are so manipulative that they can get away with it. Which is not the mothers fault.
Kelly Scott WRONG. It's the abusers fault. If you had ANY idea of just how many people suffer in the same way - any idea just how abusers manipulate and scheme - you'd apologise for the stupidity of your remark.
It’s not the mothers fault..at least she believed her daughter when she first came to her. Some abusers are so good at manipulating the child that the child acts as if nothing is happening.
The mothers all know. Whether she wants to believe that or not . I’m a survivor of this myself . My mother said she didn’t know but she lied. These mothers are complicit.
I agree. I believe that her mom knew. Particularly, after the confronting him about good night kissing. If he had not gone off on her about going to college, she would not have been concerned, it is all about her, now she asks, has he acted strange to you? B. S. She knew!!!!
thank you for sharing your life with us. I too suffered abuse at the hands of my dad. I was age 13-20. I am now 56 years old and still have flashbacks. I have sought help my whole life and became whole at age 50 when my dad died. I was raised in church also and we were also the perfect family. I thank God for me being a Christian today and staying with God not the church.
When she said, "God made our bodies to respond to touch- it did what it was supposed to do- it wasn't my body betraying me, it was my stepfather who betrayed me." PRAISE GOD! Dear sister, God bless you!!
So so true💔
She s EXACTLY correct,,,when she said ''talk about it, LET IT OUT, tell someone. I was sexually abuse in foster care, and back in the 70,s no one told. I was 6 years old. I carried it with me, for many years. Til i met JESUS,,,,now i tell everyone, what happen to me. And i tell others to talk to someone, and ''LET IT OUT''.
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Yes, these demonic people need to be exposed...
That's horrible, Jordan! My neighbor started molesting me when I was three...he died and his son took over, so I know how it feels. My heart goes out to you and all the other victims out there who have suffered throught these tragic acts.
Why did you not talk to your mom
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People need to speak up about this!!!! I'm going to be one of those people
What do you mean people need to speak up about this and that you are going to speak up? If you are aware of any abuse happening are you saying it took you to watch this video to realise that people need to speak up
@@waynesidler4582 Maybe she was abused herself.
Wayne Sidler there are different ways to speak up. Why are you accusing someone of negligence? I was just cruising RUclips and watched this video and read your comment a year later.
@Kari Horton Hi,....
@@waynesidler4582 we have our knowledge, we know our threshholds, we need understanding, compassion and the solid system that gives security, the parents not abusing, speaking can mean talk your classmaid, get her parents before they MUST disappear by traffic...
Nicole, you are loved. You are brave. It is So hard to admit the true feelings of abuse. So many think they are alone. Stay strong and know that 1 in 3 girls need your strength.
What a beautiful young woman. I'm proud of her mom for listening and acting. I pray for all good things for her life. 🙏
I found out recently that I had been sexually abused at 4 by the 18 year old pastors son. I'm in the midst of healing....the truth IS setting me free. now so much makes sense. God spoke to my heart three years ago that in three years I would be healed. He spoke this in a dream and also through scripture that He would give me back the years that the locusts have eaten.
Truth Teller I found out through EMDR therapy. I has no recollection at all but I always knew something was different about me. I was afraid to be upside down, afraid of water, was hyperviligent had anxiety later on. he did not penetrate but did other things. I did have a memory of this person and him holding me often
James Earl Cash, you should not spread such hate and disgracefulness on this comment section because there are a lot of victims of sexual abuse here. If you are pro-rape, keep that to yourself. No child, man or woman should ever go through something so horrendous and for you to blame the victim, a 4 year old victim makes you so despicable.
And if you're trolling, please fuck off.
I just want to add to you (Yvette), I wish you a life full of true happiness and grace. I hope that you will someday heal.
I beleive you. it says in the bible that poeple will be contacted by God either through dreams or visions.I m happy for you.
One of my earliest memories is my parents changing my diaper (I slept in diapers till I was like 3) and they made a point to tell me that no one could ever touch me there unless I asked them to. I am so grateful that they told me that from such a young age.
Very strong young woman. It so terrible how someone that you depend on and trust to protect you could do this. People like this man that would abuse a child in this way should be locked away from society for the rest of their lives.
Dominick Brock - "...better that a large millstone be put around their necks and they be drowned in the depths of the sea", as Jesus said - Matthew 18:6.
They will understand the consequences of what they have done on their death beds.
A man that sexually abuses a child needs to be flat out killed!
As an educator I have been trying to read & watch as much as I can about this incredibly heartbreaking issue to understand it’s prevention more ..along with so many other horrific crimes that our worlds children are falling victim to. We are offered minimal training in these issues yet I know as a parent and a teacher, that it is my responsibility to become versed and educated of these atrocities. Beyond that I need to share more knowledge of this sort with fellow educators, my community and my students themselves. A huge part of me wants to keep our children innocent and not expose them to too much early on, but realize that predators are not extending them that same kind of grace! They are not taking into consideration our children’s innocence- quite the contrary, they are taking advantage of it! I think educators as a whole need to take into consideration that there are families that are not teaching children of such dangers nor are they stressing to their children that NO ONE should be touching them inappropriately. Mandated reporters need to gracefully and age appropriately incorporate facts such as these into conversations and lessons. I do teach about self respect, kindness and how loving oneself and protecting ones self from negative words or actions from others (or to oneself) is so important. Really embracing that kind of self love lends to them feeling connected to their own spirit for their lifetime. The author here spoke to the idea of ‘how we treat and present ourselves is how we will be perceived and treated by others’ and that really resonated with me. I think it’s so important we arm children with as much self love and self knowledge (what they are worth and that they are in charge of what happens to their bodies)! that we can! This author speaks so eloquently about how important it is to be supported and have opportunities
to talk openly about this very relevant issue. I am inspired to find someone in my area to speak to our kids at school about this! I know it will help make a difference! Knowledge is empowering! Thank you for sharing this!🙏🏽❤️🙌🏽
What an articulate young woman! I wasn't sexually abused but I can hear a lot of parallels to what I believe happened in my up bringing that was unaddressed.
There is still abuse of control that does not involve personal touch, but the control still leaves people living in fear.
I told ,no one listened. Your mother is a good woman!
Wow thank you Nicole for your bravery but especially when you talked about the "feeling" and how God made our bodies to respond to touch...and that its okay and that we did NOT ask for it... It set me free
She is very level headed despite her abuse story. So lovely that her mother supported her. Love from U.K. 💜💜💜
When I was abused pornography was involved - bondage porn. A younger girl who was being abused at the same time as I was also exposed to the same porn. After the abuse stopped toward myself, this girl and I played out the bondage towards each other to punish each other for what we had been a part of. Bondage was also used during the abuse.
She is so wise and poised to be so young. God bless her.
Nicole offers many insights I hope she is able to get the word out so that more people can learn from this devastating experience! Sorry you had to go through this, Nicole!
Telling someone to shhhh after being abused is just as bad as being the abuser
So thankful to see this. I pray for more churches to support anyone who has suffered from childhood sexual abuse. My church had two guests from NAMI
About mental health conditions. I felt bless after church my pastor allowed two women to share childhood sexual abuse stories. But for me, hurts because that was the last time I felt support. I told some women by phone about abusers in my childhood. I feel blessed they trusted to talk about it
But we have no groups to help each other. We have other groups
Some collect money for out church. Also some who lived through domestic violence. I got help outside my church. Some churches may never address childhood sexual abuse. I glad RUclips does. Helps me know again I was never alone. To know that some seek spiritual healing. Not just what the world offers
To keep healing and know God loves me. That God will be with me in my healing
Jesus too. Never alone. Pray for all those who need to heal lifelong.. God is good.🙏🏾
i belive that the girl in this video is strong and is making a big difference to thoese who were abused also. thank u for making this video i love it
you are amazing, the truth is so powerful. keep the truth alive xxx
Wow! Such an elegant young woman. Thank you for sharing your story. I had a similar 10 year experience. You really have helped me listening to this. It has never gone away from me and I'm 53. It doesn't consume me daily, it just pops up. Best wishes to you
Talking about abuse is not healing for everyone. For me it just brings up the pain over & over again.
If you don't mind my asking, what are, or has been your coping mechanisms?
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Abusers are very clever. Good job Nicole opening up. From another Braddock from NZ
I relate to a lot of her story. My childhood sexual abuser also committed suicide. May we both find peace and healing.
Bravo!!!!! Just, BRAVO!!!! I wish peace upon you, this plant needs more people like you......
You are an author Nicole and speak so relaxed now and as if you have it all together, way beyond your years. You talk like you had a lot of mental health therapy and you fully comprehend what others, even adults, need to know more fully.
I was sexually abused from the age of 4 to the age of 12 by an older half brother. He is 10 years older than me and used threats of worse abuse to keep me from telling my mother. I never told my mom until I was in my late thirties and when I did finally tell her she really didn’t believe me and said that I shouldn’t hold a grudge against my brother because it was all “water under the bridge”. The only one in my family that really knew was my younger brother because he sometimes witnessed the abuse and was also threatened not to tell. I’m 56 now and I still think about what happened to me every day. I did tell my husband about the abuse before we got married and he’s always been very supportive. My brother was never criminally prosecuted but he is a homeless alcoholic and I have seen him twice in the last 35 years while attending funerals. Child sexual abuse changes who the child being abused was supposed to be. It changes their life forever and I often wonder how different my life would have been had this not happened to me. Would I have had more friends? Would I be more confident? Would I be less insecure?
Lastly, I feel that there were so many clues that my mother could have picked up on or that my family doctor could have picked up on but they were either never noticed or just ignored. My mother was so busy with the dysfunctional relationship between her and my father that she didn’t ask why I didn’t want my brother to babysit me all the time and neither she nor my family doctor ever questioned the repeated urinary tract infections I had all the time for years. Instead she was always telling my brother and every one else how great he was for always being willing to take care of his little brother and sister. So, I’m just gonna say that if you have any older teenage child (especially a boy) that is always anxiously and eagerly volunteering to take care of a younger sibling......That’s not normal, it’s just not! I’m not saying that you couldn’t possibly have a super helpful and compassionate kid on your hands but since I’ve gotten older I’ve met a few girls who were in similar situations as children.
Horrible you were not protected
Her mother is a great person
What a beautiful speaker. Educational, thorough, and told in such a caring way. Such a kind healing testimony.
You have a fan in me Nicole, I agree this needs to be spoke about in our every day lives.
Sometimes people talk and nobody believes them. Remember that boy who told his mother that a priest sexual abused him and got slapped by his mother.
A friend told me a better story when he was a kid he told his father that the priest wanted to touch him. His father was a boxer ,he went to the church and punched the priest in the face,he fall down in the floor
I love the part about explaining the touch of the body and forcing kids to kiss, sit on laps. I wish parents were more informed because the have a big role in it. If they end up helping or not makes the biggest difference.
Blessed Bythebest100 growing up in a Hispanic household and being abused myself I felt that
Forgiveness is NOT FOR THEM.
Forgiveness is for you, to be able to grow forward.
It should never be asked for, expected, demanded, or guilted into-
I feel the interviewer missed an important point! Nicole had already spoken about her body reacting in a "natural" way, and that she'd been threatened, so the question "what happened when you tried to pull away?", is extremely presumptuous and avoiding some difficult truths. This kind of abuse within families is often not perceived as an attack by the child, as the manipulation is intertwined with the illusion of normal parental love, causing all sorts of confusion and self doubt.
Wonderful healing journey! God bless you
Your an amazing strong young lady. Thank you for sharing your story. Remain close to GOD, HE helps us to overcome any obstacles. Love and hugs to you from across the miles.
I realize SO many men don’t have that fatherly love for their own children,they don’t feel it the way the mom feels it. Which sucks by the way but I guess I can’t deny that. But I’ll never ever understand being arroused by a small child. Being able to stay arroused by the fear and unwillingness of a little child. It’s one sick thing to have an unnatural thought enter their mind as if that wasn’t disgusting enough but then to have the depravity to act out on it?? There are just SO many sick & depraved levels that these sickos go to...how can crying turn you on? How can pain turn you on? How can someone who is SO innocent and unsexual turn you on??? They’re babies! I can’t fathom.😔😔😞😞😞😞
Not all child sexual abuse is about pain and crying. A Really clever abuser Will make the child «vilunteer»
I am so grateful for your courage. This is an amazing video. Everyone needs to watch this. Bless you both!
He made his wife get on her knees and apologize? Monsters roam this earth.
I’m so disappointed in teachers like hrs that totally missed the opportunity to help her!!!
I worked with foster children for years, I would have them in my care and find out what happened to them within a week, without prodding!!!! The worst part is previous placements they had NEVER caught it! I think allot of times, they just don’t really care .... horrible!
An amazing young woman.
If your going to be negative why comment at all this is her story you can't trivialize her experience it is not just sex its mental and physical abuse on an innocent child if ur on here screaming there is no God I see it as you just being bitter and wanting to spew your negativity on others he's real please keep the comments clean of anger towards the victim and interviewer its ridiculous
Amen, dear sister
Im struggling with repressed memories of abuse before I was 6 years old. I have no one to verify or disqualify these memories. They are scattered and at times I can feel something very distinct come over me. Its been almost 30 years.
This sounds like the beginning of the remembering process. I hope you're well, love and light to you.
As a nine year old l was refused entry to the cubs when my friends were at the same time, reason was when l gave my name the master realised who my farther was and he did not like him,,at the time it hurt me,,l am now 70 and pleased l was not accecpted when l hear about some of the nastie bent scout masters,, ps, thanks to my farther l did not go to church so did not get in contact with vickers and priests,
I’m 27 year old, I was sexually abused at the age of 7 till I was 12 year old then I was sexually abused by my adopted dad at the age of 15. I am currently writing a book about my life and what I’ve been through. I want to publish my book once I’m done. Don’t ever be afraid to reach out to someone who could help you find away out of bad situations. It is never alright for anyone to be abused at a young age. Your childhood gets ruined and your life changes forever. You should never accept being sexually abused. At the age of seven these incidents happened to me. It left me feeling stuck under the roof. Sexual abuse and verbal abuse can lead to feeling traumatized as you get older. Often it leaves its victims to be less confident, confused, have a lack of social skills and untrusting of a lot of people. Please allow yourself to open up to other people who has your best needs at heart. Do not allow it to hold you back from relationships in your future. No matter what your experience of childhood abuse was, you must always remember that the future can be a lot brighter. Stay optimistic, focused and purposeful. Please remember with the right support system you can never be alone.
Nicol you,re so lovely!May God bless all survivors.Jesus Christ is king!
Where is god whilst these children are being abused...if i saw someone abusing a child...i would at least attempt to stop them...that's how god and i differ i guess!!..
I dont believe the mum didnt have doubts or concerns..bullshit! She just felt she had the will power and realizing that her daughter was growing up into a woman and the secrets will be coming to light...and that is the reason for her made up story about going back to college and BAM! Ask if he did anything bad to her? Makes no sense.
I was servely beaten, verbally, mentally abused and sexually abused during what was supposed to be a childhood. There where 10 children in my family. My oldest brother was the sexual abuser. 13 year age difference between him and me. I was 3 or 4 when that started. I hated everything that was happening to me and didn't understand why. There was no talk of Jesus at our house. But God sent a preacher to see if we could go to church I was 5 at this time. I was surprised they let us go. We got to go no where but school and straight back. The moment I heard about this man who could save and heal me, I believed. It was when I was 6 that Jesus spoke to me for the first time. My brother was calling me again. I was frozen in fear I didn't want to go then Jesus said RUN. Jesus has helped me with many things. Shortly after this all the other abuses stopped also. I've stuggled with everything that happened to me but Jesus has helped me along the way. Jesus hears your soul crying out and help you. Most people don't even recognize that it was him. There are no coincidences it's all designed by our 1 true Father. For those who don't know that is God who is in heaven with his son Jesus. Trust in Jesus he will help you. Jesus will be here soon. Do not follow Francis sunday law it is the mark of the beast. Beast is a nation, state or country. Like the vatican is state and church at the same time. Francis is the man of perdition, the no 1 antichrist. Rev. 17 gives you a description of the antichrist. Most churches have been infiltrated by satan. No man can change the ten commandments. The Vatican changed Saturday to sunday. Constantine made it a law. Everything repeats sunday law is coming. Satan wants to be like God so he wants worship like God. He will take anyway he can get it. Some people are praying to satan and don't know it. If you pray for material things to get wealthy and appear above others. I'm not talking about what you need to survive. This is all in your bible. Pray for decernment and Gods truth before you read it. One more thing some might not know satan is god of this earth and prince of the air. Until Jesus return. Satan controls a lot of what you watch and listen to.
This is the reason I’m currently in an unhappy marriage. I refuse to allow my 2 beautiful daughters to be raised by anyone other then myself.
So often it's the mothers boyfriend or step dad that molests a woman's child. Nicole, you are so beautiful and thanks for speaking out.
Unfortunately if you tell a teacher the child would be taken into Foster care and a life of sexual assault
I have two friends teachers and they tell me that this is a crazy two sided street they often walk down and both sides happen to be very shaded. That's why I steered my kids, as they grew up, away from a teaching role as a life choice.
Im so proud of the women speaking the truth of how they where abused. Step parents/siblings MOST of the time dangerous to have around. I hope men start speaking out more one day!
Thank you for sharing may God give you healing, as a child I lived in a boarding private school and a high school educator whose wife was an elementary teacher of this school took part in molesting the little girls (oral copulation) and he had intercourse with a 12yr. old in front of us, while his wife was at church singing classes. The molestor threatened a girl if she told he'd pop her cherry. It was kept secret.
In 4th grade they showed us a video about molestation & sexual abuse and I remember frantically crying & telling my best friend at the time "I didn't know, I didn't know I didn't know" but I still don't remember who it was.
Forgiveness is a process NOT AN EVENT. She is fortunate to have a support system. Even other incest victims that I was in recovery with were not supportive at all. That was very disappointing.
When someone is being abused by a controlling narcissistic demon, they become hyper vigilant towards the abuser. Is he ok? Is he mad? Sad? Did I say something wrong? Will he be mad at me for ____, ______, or ______? You become so groomed to be their mom, their caretaker that you disregard yourself (and your children). I'm not saying it's right but it happens. It happened to me. I had no kids with that jerk but I completely neglected myself to make sure he was happy because it was a living HELL when he wasn't...and nothing I did helped. Anything I said, did, didn't say, didn't do was wrong to him and set him OFF. I pray for her mom...that she can heal from her own abuse and forgive herself for not seeing her daughters pain and abuse. I'd rather be dead than know my spouse was abusing my child and I was so abused myself and focused on my abuser that I didn't see it.
People have an amazing capacity to act like everything is OK. This young woman here did it while she was being abused, her mom probably did too while SHE was abused. See the rub here? Daughter being abused in secret is acting fine in front of everyone while stuffing down her pain. Mom is suffering in HER own pain and is stuffing it down and acting. Mother and daughter see each other acting like all is well which perpetuates the secrets and hides the pain and abuse...keeps the cycle for both of them going and going.
This is horrific 😞😞💔💔
Praise God I got out and I'm healing. Praise God for healing this young woman and her mom!
Mom never had to bring a man in. She could have stayed single. Moms are the ones that bring these snakes into the children's lives.
Schools in UK teach 5 years old about "pleasures of touching themselves" how sick is that?
What now?! Can you please tell me the details about this? In Germany they had pamphlets about fathers teaching daughters about "pleasuring themselves" in kindergartens. I didn't know they're doing this in the UK.
Nvr Mnd I live in London Uk
I have twins boy and a girl at school age I have never heard of this .
Thank you for sharing your story. Your brave
God bless her soul
Talking about abuse is vital!
i was sexually abused in my childhood by my first cousin it was hell on earth
Thank you so much.🤍
We need to protect our little ones. We need better men that support and protect little girls/boys and not destroy them!!! Psychopaths, Sociopaths, Narcissists are destroying our precious innocent young angels😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Daisy it’s not only men who sexually abuse children unfortunately some women so also.
Bless her mother❤️.
*BELIEVE YOUR KIDS DAMNIT!*
My uncle started grooming me in 5th grade, and he started molesting me when i was in 6th grade.
+Jordan Neumann I hope that you're away from this situation now. I"m sorry he did that, you deserved better.
No, I can't share emails online. It's important you do this in 3D.
You're not alone. This happened to me too.
+The Explorer no one should ever have to go through that
Forgiveness is something that people have to be ready to do ,
NOT BECAUSE PEOPLE TELL THEM TO , BECAUSE THEY'RE THE ONE HURTING AND GOD UNDERSTAND THAT ,
I was sexually abused as a little girl. I am 53 now and I have told my counsellor (therapist) for the past few years that I cannot forgive. The man who did that to me does not deserve my forgiveness. What he did to me has shaped my whole life.
People say "you need to forgive". Says who? At this stage of my life to me it seems like giving him a "pass" for the abuse.
yes, like it invalidates the torment of the victim and the way life goes off course, the illnesses, yes, it diminishes the victim, which is so demoralizing@@shahwilloughby4603 -- do love her interview though
A BRILLIANT WOMAN! 👏🏾
Good acting and well written.
I love hearing about God.
What an amazing lady you are wise beyond your years
The vital component in all these instances of child sexual abuse is narcissism.
Men who habitually control others, beit their wives, animals, employees anyone are suspect in society.
These monsters are actors and use every trick in the book to throw others off the scent.
Formal religon is shot full of evil meglamaniacs who are prime suspects in this sort of scenario. The catholic church has lost every vestige of respctability because of the multitudes of abhorrent priests who use their so say "authority" to manipulate the vulnerable.
This frenzied attraction to pre pubescense is an abomination and really these peadophiles are irredeemable.
You cannot give back a childhood blighted by abuse.. It is forever sullied and that poor person carries with them that stigma.
I am not religous and I don't believe individuals can be expected to forgive.
Grooming can occur at any age. The older the child...even adolescents, the more sophisticated the grooming techniques.
Wow this is exactly how it happens this is so sad and it’s so confusing as a child you know it’s wrong but they convince you it’s ok and the flip of being good at times wow poor girl.
My friends daughter was molested by her stepfather and her mom didn’t believe her and in fact she kicked her child out
Happened to me
Doesn't deserve to be called a Mother!
I'm so sorry you had to speak about this with her she seemed to want to down size things for your step dad. It's like she wanted to make excuses for him doing this to you. It's like she wanted you to tell her horrible details. God bless you and your so brave and you have took back your power by speaking out. You are so point on about knowing how you felt about things. Everything you said was very well spoken. You dealt with her great also because I was getting so angry with her when she asked some of the questions she asked and the remarks she made. You might bruise easily but you bounced back beautifully ❤💜💙💛💚
Wowsers! Out the gate yet absolutely true! 💯💟
there is more secrets than just child abuse way more darker and sinister
God bless you Nicole xx❤️🕊xx
Your stepdad sounds like a Narcissist also: controlling of your mom. People NEED to educate themselves on Narcissism. The fact he flipped that onto your mom and blamed her? Classic Narc trait/red flag!!!
The minute my abuser touched me I spoke up .... Speak up loud and clear He is touching me .Do not wait for years to go by Speak up !!!!!!! It's very important to know it's Not yr fault if you have to bring it into the light. No matter if it's your family .Because most usually it is a family member ..... And it does start at a very young age ... Also watch for signs .. I feel S o So bad I had no idea the little girl I babysitter was being abused by her mom's boyfriend .. thank God he went to jail...
@13:35 mins Nicole hits the target. Listen to her.
You remind me of the beautiful young girl Brooklynn who told me about her step dad that bought her things .. She felt she was able to take care of her little sister w all his buying her stuff w the hush hush hush ... When she told her mom .. her mom did not listen..
The stats are higher than what you quote.
She says she received comfort by turning to God to heal after her abuse. But if God is so wonderful, why didn't He prevent the abuse in the first place?
If her helped her heal, what's the fucking problem? Prat.
Free will. Many don't understand this....
I respect what the guest is saying and agree with most of her conjectures, but blaming pedophilia on pornography is ludicrous. Yes, a lot of pedophiles may be addicted to porn, but porn-addiction is likely a symptom of the problem, and not a cause.
Porn doesn’t have to be he beginning of it, but it is the same as everything else. A person always needs more to meet their need whether it be drugs or alcohol or sexual need. The human body gets desensitized to stimulants always needing more to get the same effect. It’s no different with porn. With everything else it has the potential to lead to some terrible places.
The schools are not who should be talking to kids about this! Parents should be doing this. It is the parents job not the school!
Lord heal us all!!
I have watched a number of these harrowing stories and it would appear to me that the whole stepdad/stepsibling scene needs to be regulated (for want of a better word) because the partner (usually the mother) seems to be, on average, 3 to 4 years in the dark about the abuse of their child. So...to be greater than 4 years in the dark¿¿ maybe I'm being too harsh here.
The world is not fallen, people choose (consciously or unconsciously) to act good or bad. It is a free choice world, and it all depends on us. We make choices and face the consequences.
It is according to the bible !
Is her second book out and what is the name of it.?
Why do these victims never show these monsters picture ? Show his face ! They seem to still protect them.
It's actually 1/5 males and that's only what's reported. It could be more than 1/3 females and more than 1/5 males.
نادر الی رyes
Where was God while she was being abused? I'm not being negative this is a real question.
+Mary Williams Where is "God" when *priests* abuse children?!
+manoftheworld1000 Same place he was when this girl was abused. Duh!
Helping her to survive it.
Sue Cass "Helping her survive it?" So that's the kind of help you applaud? OK. So if I see you being brutalized, I won't help you. I'll just hang back, watch and cheer you on. "Hang in there Sue! Don't black out from the pain! You can do it Sue!" Uhmmm...I think I'd want swift and early intervention but that's just me. And...what about all the women and children who are raped AND killed? Was He helping them too?
I understand your anger, Mary. I am one of those who survived 18 years of being brutalized, plus gang raped, so when I say the Lord helped me survive I know what I'm talking about. I felt the same way you do about God "helping" for years but I am who I am today because of God helping me to survive that and much more and then heal from it and be able to help others overcome their pain.
People have been sexually abusing children long before porn was around. Porn isn’t the problem, sick people are the problem.
I agree that sick people are the problem and also will add, that, porn (all kinds, not just "kiddy" porn) worsens their sick condition. There is no place for porn in the lives of well adjusted (not arrested development) people (both men and women). It serves no purpose but to objectify the person in the picture. C'mon parts are parts. They're not that different. How many times does one have to look at the same thing, hence arrested development (yes, I realize there's college graduates, lawyers, professional people who engage in porn but their overall personality and behavior is still arrested). Child pornography is an escalated, sociopathic level of perversion. Porn is to the brain as toxins are to the body.
this grooming is going on in the Canadian education system, early grade sex education is a front
That is a lie. Stop being stupid.
Pushing the Gay agenda no doubt.
No mother connected to her children could not see that there was emotional trauma in her daughter .. the mother is to blame .. ten years of abuse went on and nobody noticed? .. WHERE WAS THE MOTHER .. this is absurd .. plug in mom.. plug in.. the mother was oblivious.. and that is a crime itself .. stepfathers are 10 times more likely to sexually abuse a child .. get with it ,..
Kelly..... Yep for ten yrs in her own home & she had no idea as to what was happening.
We have to teach our kids from a young age 4 - 5 yrs old (keep it age appropriate) that no one else is allowed to touch their private parts or anything that makes them feel uncomfortable to get away from & tell someone they can trust and don't stop until someone believes them b/c the offender needs help its no child's fault - that person might or could be doing it to other children, this is what my mum taught me & my sisters all the time growing up, she said even if her or dad become the offender to tell anyone b/c even they need help..
If we teach kids young they are more then likely not to abuse children, when they are adults too.
Dont blame the mother. You have no idea what was going on. Most of the time, like this woman explains, predators and molesters are so manipulative that they can get away with it. Which is not the mothers fault.
Even if the mother walked right in on it im sure he would be able to manipulate himself out of it.
Kelly Scott WRONG. It's the abusers fault. If you had ANY idea of just how many people suffer in the same way - any idea just how abusers manipulate and scheme - you'd apologise for the stupidity of your remark.
It’s not the mothers fault..at least she believed her daughter when she first came to her. Some abusers are so good at manipulating the child that the child acts as if nothing is happening.
Honestly, noone really cares what is happening to kids. Especially the ones they don't want to look at.
good for you
The mothers all know. Whether she wants to believe that or not . I’m a survivor of this myself . My mother said she didn’t know but she lied. These mothers are complicit.
I agree. I believe that her mom knew. Particularly, after the confronting him about good night kissing. If he had not gone off on her about going to college, she would not have been concerned, it is all about her, now she asks, has he acted strange to you? B. S. She knew!!!!
Yes, these moms are the ones who bring the monsters into the home. I just flat out don't date. If I don't, why should any other single mom?