Learning Patience in Hawai'i
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- Опубликовано: 22 окт 2024
- Those of us who live in Hawai'i enjoy the slower pace of life, a relaxed atmosphere when standing in line, providing opportunities to talk story with other people and practicing Aloha and PATIENCE so we show respect to others around us. In this video, we talk about why learning patience as a new resident OR a visitor is important and necessary if you wish to have a great experience on the island.
If you are considering a move to Hawaii, please check out our website at www.MoveToHawaii365.com - lots of resources and info to help you take the uncertainty out of your move!
Here is the post that started the idea for this video:
Patience is needed to live here as it pertains to some "not so fast" service on the island.
The wisdom from those of us who have been here for awhile is true. Believe me. I had my own incident when I first moved here and the buyers agent didn't put in the contract to notify the tenant to leave so we could move in. We thought it was the sellers agents fault and tried to go after her. I was stomping mad that we had to live in a hot box of a rental condo as a consolation experience while we waited a month to move into our new condo in Keauhou. During that month (and this was before online forums, so I had to fret alone) I was raging on my keyboard about incompetence, lack of help to resolve my issue, and how I was going to get legal help, etc.
You know what I heard? Relax. Enjoy the island, breathe, take two steps back and contemplate, "How bad is this really?"
As a Californian, and it has only gotten worse over there, we have this "Snap Snap" thing going on and oh, the "Someone is going to pay for this, so help me GOD!" attitude. THAT DOES NOT WORK IN HAWAII.
In fact, and take my word for this..if you want to actually have a "energetic shun" going on to peace and community, you will carry that attitude forward.
There is something in Hawaii that does not encourage dramatic lapses of patience, decency, courtesy and aloha.
“Ahonui,” meaning patience in Hawaiian, is to be expressed with perseverance. These are traits of character that express the charm, warmth and sincerity of Hawaii's people. It was the working philosophy of Native Hawaiians and was presented as a gift to the people of Hawaii.
If you believe it or not, if you use the attitude that everyone is doing the best they can in the amount of time they can to do it, and as a local friend of mine says, "Bring a book" while waiting, you will find that a lap around the hibiscus garden is better than standing with steam coming out of your ears at the county or on the phone berating a worker to find out why you aren't getting what you need sooner.
(and seriously, when I was in Maui and they were cancelling my flight back to Kona, which would have meant stranding my two kids alone for the night) I took a long walk around the air field and looked at the flowers and sky while they were trying to sort it out. I found out while I was on the leg from Hana to the main airport that the head lady went out of her way to get me on the next flight that left ten minutes after I landed to get me back to Kona. If I had gone ballistic on her, I can tell you, I would have been scrambling to find a hotel room in Maui that night.
Some of my local friends are saying they are seeing more acts of impatience on the roads right now and in standing in line. It starts here folks, with new residents. You will find a more peaceful existence than you found on the mainland when everyone accepts the code of patience.
#AlohainHawaii #MovetoHawaii #Patience
I grew up with a few channels of bunny-ear TV, things from the mainland taking 8 to 10 weeks to arrive, one phone in the kitchen and if you were really sophisticated you might have "Touch Tone" instead of a dial. Our idea of a good time was hours at the beach or hiking or something simple like that. Good times.
So looking forward to "Talk Story" when we finally make the move.
Living with patience and kindness on the Big Island. I’ve lived on Maui and Oahu as well and the Big Island is a lot more extra chill. Love and Aloha Always.🌺🌈🌋♥️
We have visited the islands 2 times, as soon as the world smooths out again, we will be back, thanks for the tips and tricks of your beautiful home.
Also we often talk about how the drivers are very courteous, Busy traffic lines and you pull up, thinking oh no, we will never merge in, nope people always stop and let you in!!! We were very impressed with the locals, we try to be kind an polite, after all we are visiting their island. Thanks again. Hope to visit soon.
Good advice. Thank you.
Love this video! So when something goes wrong, I’ll start to lose it for 10-15 seconds. Then my Southern will kick in and I’ll be sweet and make a new friend. LOL. I can see where my husband is going to have to work on his driving “attitude” after living in L.A. for 55 years. We actually chatted the other day about him hopefully having the ability to decompress after so many years of stressful living. Thinking wine and those gorgeous ocean views will help dramatically!
I have learned to just open the window, look around outside, let other people into the lane with a shaka and turn up the music..;-)
@@365Hawaii Exactly!!! I had to remind my husband on Christmas that going 90 in the HOV lane wasn't necessary. LOL He then realized he had fallen back into his habit for his commute to work and slowed down. The slower pace is why people in HI live longer.
Things run on Island time.. just go with it...
Enjoy your surroundings, breathe, be in the moment and enjoy Island Time, loved living in Kona 2007 & 2008 (Waikoloa and Alii Cove). Thanks for this video!
Fortunately, I love talking to people, so when we're there we embrace the Aloha spirit with a lotta love. I figure this: you're on an island... everyone knows everyone... if you lose it towards someone and make a scene, EVERYONE will soon know you are the angry guy. No one wants to be "that guy"! haha! (I do admit it takes me a few days to get used to driving backwards...I mean "slower" than here in SoCal. :)
I love your videos! I moved to a Hawaii from the mainland for a few years just to experience the aloha lifestyle and absolutely loved it! When I moved back to the mainland, it was hard to adjust back to the rat race haha I now live in Thailand and it's a very similar culture. Honestly, I've just learned to try to laugh when things go wrong or takes too long or processes that don't make any sense 😂 Although things can be frustrating at times, it's kinda refreshing to adopt the "aloha" (or in Thailand the "no worries") mentality 😁 That being said, I'm moving back to the US next month and I'm excited that Hawaii will be my new home again 😍 Can't think of a better place to be 🌈 (in the US anyway 😂) Thanks for all your videos!
I love island time.
We live in Oregon and have traveled all over the world and all Hawaiian islands many times - and no matter where we are in the world, we can always pick out Americans ( mainland). Why? because most have zero patience for anything. We are the most entitled people in the world who refuse to embrace a different culture, different customs, and different ways of life even as a guest traveling someplace different. How many times have I seen Americans light up servers - to the point of yelling at them because they have to wait, or their drink hasn't come in 2 minutes, or they haven't got their check. Most countries don't operate on the urgency that we do. Most actually take time to enjoy life, slow down, enjoy the company of others - its not all about me me me, what are you going to do for me.. The best advice I can give anyone traveling not just to Hawaii, but anywhere in the world - is to relax, be kind, take in and embrace the culture, try to learn some of the basic language, and be respectful. People will respond back with kindness. Who knows you might actually make some friends !
So right on. There should be basic classes in High School about showing up in a different culture with your eyes open, mouth shut and patience.
Hawaiian time!! 💙🤙🏽
Funny & sad , for hear you try teach. About ower ina...
do them a favor and teach them it's not pronounced Ha "Y" 'E ... its Ha Vai E - get it right or stand out from being ignorant.... and to leave their mainland attitude off island or
you 're taken to the airport and asked if you like go fishing or go fly cuz if you stay you gonna die, going fishing refers to being used as bait, Kona is a bright place for shady people that don't deal with 'tude. Malama da A'ina,
Aloha Spirit is kindness not weakness and taking advantage of kindness is detrimental to your life. Tell it like it is, no act. No act means dont pretend to be anything other than real. IF can, can, if no can, no can. Dont promise and then flake or you become leper. Just because you get lots of money doesn't mean you get to tell others how to act or behave, keep your moral values to yourself, no push them on others or your wont last. Fly low avoid the radar and chill and all is well., no make waves onto others having fun, especially you tourists, come, shop, leave money and go... Nobody is the boss of anyone or has any authority over anybody else. Don't interfere with locals domestic fights, remember we know where you live or stay, it's an island, there's no where to hide. It's up to you, if you do good we remember the good, if you do bad we remember the bad. how you gonna act?