When I was 33 I had a girlfriend who was 29, I made it clear from the outset, no marriage and no children, she agreed with both, she told me she was a career girl not a mother. About 2 weeks before her 30th birthday we went to visit her younger sister, who had just given birth to her first child. I watched her demeaner change almost as soon as she held her niece in her arms. Within about 15 minutes of her holding her niece for the first time, I knew she wanted a baby, her career no longer held any importance for her. Seeing that change in her, made me understand what I'd always thought was an old wife's tale was true: babies can make women broody. We didn't discuss it after we left, but I knew it was coming and I knew that discussion would end our relationship. I spend the next 4 weeks slowly taking my stuff back to my apartment and bringing her stuff back to her house. As soon as she said she wanted to talk to me about children, I told her I hadn't changed my mind, and wouldn't, I was not interested in marriage or children, so there was nothing to discuss. We spend a couple of nights together after that, but we both knew it was over. I bumped into her mother and sister about 5 years after we split up, they told me she had gone from outgoing, optimistic and carefree to miserable and moody, because the older she got the more desperate she was to be a mother. She had even considered getting a legal document drawn up so I would have no legal or financial responsibility towards the child, and asking me to get her pregnant. I thought they were joking, but I could see when I laughed they weren't. Which is why it really doesn't matter what we believe, if we think these women are lying or telling the truth, it's irrelevant, but I hope for their sakes that they're all as content being single and childfree as they claim to be. As long as they understand that there's a huge difference between being single, not having kids and never having had a serious relationship at 29 and being single, not having kids and never having had a serious relationship at 59. Significant numbers of men are deciding they don't see interaction with women as beneficial, dating, relationships and marriage is so unimaginable to many men, that unless these women can find a guy before he decides to withdraw from the dating game, they are never going to find one. Which is why they need to be as content being single as they claim to be. There are no "do-overs", no "pause, rewind and replay" in life, you get one shot at it and that's your lot. For a lot of men now, the only reason to be in a relationship with a woman is to have kids, unfortunately for women they have a a short period of time when they are capable of providing those men with what they want. A women in her late 30s who squandered her youth on a career or having "fun" won't ever get that youth back, she is never going to be a family minded man's first choice, she's unlikely to be his 10th choice. Career, friends, family, hobbies are all great things that keep women positive and fills their time, but when her biology screams at her to have children, she is going to have to find a way to deal with that, and dealing with it isn't always easy.
For every woman who misses the opportunity to be a mother and become everything this life has to offer, there is a man who misses the same opportunity to be a father. Those guys who turn bald before having kids because they keep postponing for that time they'll have their s*** together, have children in their 50s....they have no idea how they screw up their kids and how pathetic they look when ppl can't tell if the guy standing next to the kid, is the father or grandad. I have a friend who is 18 and his dad had him when he was 54 - there are such different generations that my friend feels ashamed and apologizes on behalf of his dad everytime his old man joins the conversation.
@@Ai0n men and women do not view children the same way. There are a lot of men who are indifferent about having kids, until they have them, but they're not driven to have kids. A small number of women aren't biologically wired to want kids. If I was to put numbers 40-50% of men are indifferent until they become fathers (I'm being conservative it might be a lot more), 5-10% of women don't want kids. But yes some men are denied the opportunity to have kids and they regret it. But here's a male truth for you: we can deal with the regret of not having children a lot better than having them taken away from us, used as a weapon against us and turned against us. I'm trying to understand how your personal feelings about older men having children has any relevance to my comment. But here's the reality, your opinion doesn't matter to anyone but you. Ask your 18 year old friend what he'd prefer an older dad who was there for him, or to be raised by a single mum? I'm sure there are some screwed up kids because their father was old when they were conceived, but as finding ways to criticize men is so "en vogue" where are the stats? If they're not readily available it is almost certainly so small a % it's not worthy of recording/reporting. But there is very well documented evidence that the worst possible thing for a child is to be raised by a single mother, in almost every measurable metric kids raised by single mums are more likely to be violent, end up in prison, be less educated, unemployed, etc. It's far better to be raised by a single father, in fact stats show after a couple, kids are far better off being with a single dad. So if you want to talk about screwing kids up why not start with the group most proven to screw their kids up? I don't know how old you are, but if you still concern yourself with other peoples opinions, you're either young, or still have a lot of growing up to do. People criticize black couples for adopting white kids, they criticize white people for adopting black kids. People criticize Palestinians for killing Israelis, and Israelis for killing Palestinians, in most circumstances peoples personal opinions are bigoted, illogical and not worth considering. And the same as before, which is the better reason for people to make a judgement when they don't know the situation: a kid having an old father or no father?
Marriage makes sense people like me, who marry to basically have sex as a virgin finding another virgin and spending their life together and committing to each other. I don't get why people who have SEX already gets married. It makes 0 sense to me. Women are basically programmed to have children, they go with their emotions, not logic. They can't control what they feel and when motherhood kicks in, it's hard to ignore.
As someone who just had a very frustrating series of "dating" women, i just feel like nobody wants to commit themselves into something serious. Maybe it´s because they are scared to get hurt or having completely unrealistic standards. With one girl for example i was texting for a few days, and everything was fine. When i asked about meeting she declined because she couln´t feel "the vibe between us already from texting", what that actually means she coulnd´t explain, besides the fact that from texting you don´t really get to know someone. And that is one of my "better" cases, as i usually get ghosted even though they tell me they want to meet. I know its rude to have such an attitude, but all i wish for these people is to stay alone without any love in their entire life, and with their behaviour that´s bascially a self fulfilling prophecy.
Nobody owes you a date and they don't need an explanation for why they don't like you. Wishing someone a loveless life because you don't get your way just makes you a hateful, butt hurt incel. Just work on yourself and stop wanting so much, then when you are the best version of yourself you might just stumble upon love when you least expect it.
@@MrVinceMunro Completely misunderstood my comment, buddy. And no, i have nothing to do with incels. "Nobody owes you a date" -Never wrote that. "they don't need an explanation for why they don't like you" -Yes they do, and it doesn´t have to be much. Ignoring me after telling me to continure meeting is ok for you? Very interesting... "Wishing someone a loveless life because you don't get your way" -Wrong. This is not about "my way", it is about treating others with decency and respect. I have told women that were into me and i wasn´t interested that i don´t want to date them in a respectful way. Ghosting is not respectful, texting 3 days and then randomly cutting of contact is not respectful. I don´t mind staying single, i just want to be treated with respect when i get rejected. "stop wanting so much" -As i wrote above, all i want is others to treat me like they would like to be treated. This isn´t too much to ask for is it?
I normally wouldn't respond to someone with 3 brain cells but this poster literally did nothing but create a compilation of TikToks with no edits. It's the women telling on themselves, you mouth breather.
When I was 33 I had a girlfriend who was 29, I made it clear from the outset, no marriage and no children, she agreed with both, she told me she was a career girl not a mother. About 2 weeks before her 30th birthday we went to visit her younger sister, who had just given birth to her first child. I watched her demeaner change almost as soon as she held her niece in her arms. Within about 15 minutes of her holding her niece for the first time, I knew she wanted a baby, her career no longer held any importance for her. Seeing that change in her, made me understand what I'd always thought was an old wife's tale was true: babies can make women broody.
We didn't discuss it after we left, but I knew it was coming and I knew that discussion would end our relationship. I spend the next 4 weeks slowly taking my stuff back to my apartment and bringing her stuff back to her house. As soon as she said she wanted to talk to me about children, I told her I hadn't changed my mind, and wouldn't, I was not interested in marriage or children, so there was nothing to discuss. We spend a couple of nights together after that, but we both knew it was over.
I bumped into her mother and sister about 5 years after we split up, they told me she had gone from outgoing, optimistic and carefree to miserable and moody, because the older she got the more desperate she was to be a mother. She had even considered getting a legal document drawn up so I would have no legal or financial responsibility towards the child, and asking me to get her pregnant. I thought they were joking, but I could see when I laughed they weren't.
Which is why it really doesn't matter what we believe, if we think these women are lying or telling the truth, it's irrelevant, but I hope for their sakes that they're all as content being single and childfree as they claim to be. As long as they understand that there's a huge difference between being single, not having kids and never having had a serious relationship at 29 and being single, not having kids and never having had a serious relationship at 59.
Significant numbers of men are deciding they don't see interaction with women as beneficial, dating, relationships and marriage is so unimaginable to many men, that unless these women can find a guy before he decides to withdraw from the dating game, they are never going to find one. Which is why they need to be as content being single as they claim to be. There are no "do-overs", no "pause, rewind and replay" in life, you get one shot at it and that's your lot.
For a lot of men now, the only reason to be in a relationship with a woman is to have kids, unfortunately for women they have a a short period of time when they are capable of providing those men with what they want. A women in her late 30s who squandered her youth on a career or having "fun" won't ever get that youth back, she is never going to be a family minded man's first choice, she's unlikely to be his 10th choice. Career, friends, family, hobbies are all great things that keep women positive and fills their time, but when her biology screams at her to have children, she is going to have to find a way to deal with that, and dealing with it isn't always easy.
wow thank you for this!
For every woman who misses the opportunity to be a mother and become everything this life has to offer, there is a man who misses the same opportunity to be a father. Those guys who turn bald before having kids because they keep postponing for that time they'll have their s*** together, have children in their 50s....they have no idea how they screw up their kids and how pathetic they look when ppl can't tell if the guy standing next to the kid, is the father or grandad. I have a friend who is 18 and his dad had him when he was 54 - there are such different generations that my friend feels ashamed and apologizes on behalf of his dad everytime his old man joins the conversation.
@@Ai0n men and women do not view children the same way. There are a lot of men who are indifferent about having kids, until they have them, but they're not driven to have kids. A small number of women aren't biologically wired to want kids. If I was to put numbers 40-50% of men are indifferent until they become fathers (I'm being conservative it might be a lot more), 5-10% of women don't want kids.
But yes some men are denied the opportunity to have kids and they regret it.
But here's a male truth for you: we can deal with the regret of not having children a lot better than having them taken away from us, used as a weapon against us and turned against us.
I'm trying to understand how your personal feelings about older men having children has any relevance to my comment.
But here's the reality, your opinion doesn't matter to anyone but you.
Ask your 18 year old friend what he'd prefer an older dad who was there for him, or to be raised by a single mum? I'm sure there are some screwed up kids because their father was old when they were conceived, but as finding ways to criticize men is so "en vogue" where are the stats? If they're not readily available it is almost certainly so small a % it's not worthy of recording/reporting.
But there is very well documented evidence that the worst possible thing for a child is to be raised by a single mother, in almost every measurable metric kids raised by single mums are more likely to be violent, end up in prison, be less educated, unemployed, etc. It's far better to be raised by a single father, in fact stats show after a couple, kids are far better off being with a single dad. So if you want to talk about screwing kids up why not start with the group most proven to screw their kids up?
I don't know how old you are, but if you still concern yourself with other peoples opinions, you're either young, or still have a lot of growing up to do. People criticize black couples for adopting white kids, they criticize white people for adopting black kids. People criticize Palestinians for killing Israelis, and Israelis for killing Palestinians, in most circumstances peoples personal opinions are bigoted, illogical and not worth considering. And the same as before, which is the better reason for people to make a judgement when they don't know the situation: a kid having an old father or no father?
Marriage makes sense people like me, who marry to basically have sex as a virgin finding another virgin and spending their life together and committing to each other. I don't get why people who have SEX already gets married. It makes 0 sense to me. Women are basically programmed to have children, they go with their emotions, not logic. They can't control what they feel and when motherhood kicks in, it's hard to ignore.
@@jaidee9570absolutely correct
These women refuse to change, and they wonder why those younger men won't date them and gave up on them.
Now, not all of them are childless. Plenty of single moms out there.
Tell their eggs.
@@boethius1812 what you mean "tell their eggs", they're mothers already, they already used THIER eggs
They waste our time in our 20s and then want us to take them seriously when they realize their window is closing.
Truly happy people don't have to tell you all the time
As someone who just had a very frustrating series of "dating" women, i just feel like nobody wants to commit themselves into something serious. Maybe it´s because they are scared to get hurt or having completely unrealistic standards. With one girl for example i was texting for a few days, and everything was fine. When i asked about meeting she declined because she couln´t feel "the vibe between us already from texting", what that actually means she coulnd´t explain, besides the fact that from texting you don´t really get to know someone.
And that is one of my "better" cases, as i usually get ghosted even though they tell me they want to meet.
I know its rude to have such an attitude, but all i wish for these people is to stay alone without any love in their entire life, and with their behaviour that´s bascially a self fulfilling prophecy.
Nobody owes you a date and they don't need an explanation for why they don't like you. Wishing someone a loveless life because you don't get your way just makes you a hateful, butt hurt incel. Just work on yourself and stop wanting so much, then when you are the best version of yourself you might just stumble upon love when you least expect it.
@@MrVinceMunro Completely misunderstood my comment, buddy. And no, i have nothing to do with incels.
"Nobody owes you a date" -Never wrote that.
"they don't need an explanation for why they don't like you" -Yes they do, and it doesn´t have to be much. Ignoring me after telling me to continure meeting is ok for you? Very interesting...
"Wishing someone a loveless life because you don't get your way" -Wrong. This is not about "my way", it is about treating others with decency and respect. I have told women that were into me and i wasn´t interested that i don´t want to date them in a respectful way. Ghosting is not respectful, texting 3 days and then randomly cutting of contact is not respectful. I don´t mind staying single, i just want to be treated with respect when i get rejected.
"stop wanting so much" -As i wrote above, all i want is others to treat me like they would like to be treated. This isn´t too much to ask for is it?
These women are all still young! They still have so much time.
lol 😂
4 or 5 years max for the late 20's ones
Green nails, banging nails to accentuate every word… run.
First one is so broke can't afford a box of tissues!
Oh no, an incel channel
I normally wouldn't respond to someone with 3 brain cells but this poster literally did nothing but create a compilation of TikToks with no edits. It's the women telling on themselves, you mouth breather.