I had a friend that pretended to be my friend just to see my study schedule and copy it, she lied to my classmates and told them that we were in a relationship (I'm straight and I don't date girls), she sits always next to me and only says ' oh lesson X is hard, lesson Y is out of reach ' etc and at that time I didn't know why I was moody when I came home and couldn't study, which resulted in an extreme GPA drop. When the 2nd term started, I ignored her completely and started sitting alone and studying for about 4.5hrs daily to keep up with old and new lessons, now I'm predicted to be the 1st or 2nd student in my class, and she sat next to another girl who is the same as her. BTW, even teachers reached out to me and told me to get away from her, I cannot describe how much I am breathing now, it's like putting away a heavy boulder off my shoulder. Keep shining girlies, and when you see the smallest sign of toxicity, LEAVE
Be careful of these type of women bcz most women hide themselves and come into your life to find your ways and how you talk and deal with things and if you are beautiful especially they are asking for male attention by being with u 💙 stay blessed dear💙
My female 'friends' are the only supposed reason that I was trauma bonded with my ex,and realising everyone is toxic and no one cares,I set boundaries and now I am at peace.
We complain about our jealous friends but we're probably the jealous friend. We just lack self-awareness awareness. We're probably really horrible people.
Which of your friends are you jealous of? Which of your friends do you belittle, backstab or sabotage? If you can’t answer then you’re likely not the jealous friend.
@@marie..k101 well i can answer i don't like her at all but i just pretend tht i like her or smth becuz i hv no friends and i dont't wnana look on dw she also doesn't care abt me she leaves me alone all the time with her other friends or smth she knows i don't have anyone else and damn she uses it well
I know I'm not. I had this really toxic friend in the past who loves to compare herself to me. Even in school she would ask me about my test scores and not tell me hers. She would constantly tell me how many guys are interested or looking at her. When I told her good things about me, she didn't react and just kept really quiet. And she even said something sarcastic when I did better than her in a major exam. That's when I knew she was never my friend. Glad I dropped her and never looked back.
@@clarissaywythe thing about guys being interested and looking at her is so true ! My ex best friend would also brag about how high her standards are whenever I talk about my crush.
Ikr even though i am not going with something like that i have cousins who are hell of jealous of me (i dont know why) and some stupid situations happened right now and then this video appeared, yt algorithm is so accurate sometimes
I noticed that my ex wife's circle consisted mainly of her sisters and cousins. Any friends not blood related were few and many did not last. She would talk shit on them one minute and plan potlucks for the next weekend. I noticed that it was the entire family talked shit about each other like that but the women excelled at it. She and her sister constantly disrespected their mother and still expected her love and support, they even bragged about teasing her to the point of tears. She passed away last spring. The entire female population of her family were also frenemies and later it made it's way to me..she was always competitive but in a very unsportsmanlike way; the only way she could succeed is if she was always on top while I looked at success as something to share with the one you love, not to lord over them. Everything you mentioned was right on target. I love the 48 laws of power. I had a copy for 15 years before I had to get a new copy because my first one was falling apart. I'm in the process of collecting every Robert Greene book.
And the way they basically knew nothing of each others or barely talked in the school environment??😂 I think Serena was afraid of blair's judgment,it doesn't sound like a deep relationship/bestfriendship at all
Well,my mother act in this wat towards me,I'd like her to make a video about HOW we can manage these toxic people,especially when we are forced to live with them : coworkers,your boss and family
This is so accurate. Some of your stuff I’m like eh… in some situations… but this video is so accurate. Trust me, you’ll have a few serious friends who truly love and support you, but most people are just jealous and want to be better than you and will fight to get there, and will put you down and manipulate you in order to not have to actually better themselves. And the attacher? Been they done that, and wish I would have seen this earlier in my life. I’m surrounded by them and if they knew how I really felt… they wouldn’t want what I have.
This is actually true but not all friends are like this there is a friend from my childhood when I was insecure about my weight and that time she knew it she always talk about weight how skinny she is(she still do sometimes but I ignore) and sometimes she also called me fat and when I told her that stop talking about it I'm very sad about my weight she still didn't stopped and there was another friend she always tried to make me not depressed about my weight so not all friends are like this
ALL literally ALL of my female riends are treasure , they helped me whenever i need , they always say out wha they feel , they really push me to my limits to do better . Thank god , but i feel we are overlooking the fact that it completely depends upon what type person u choose to be 'friends' with
You have described my mother,every time they have hired me in some place,she thinks it's just because of luck and not because maybe they have appreciated my : replies,my social skills,my appearance,the way I market myself. Ugh, I hate her .
I have a fake friend who likes to talk behind my back. I really don’t know why she wants to make me look bad to my other friends. I’m like in a different country already, and I’m not even doing well for myself. I don’t have a career, and she knows that’s my biggest insecurity. She would tell all my old friends of my biggest insecurities knowing it would make me feel bad. I only knew this because those old friends would message me with all the things I shared to that fake friend. That’s the moment I knew I don’t have a real friend.
I'm such idiotic person, yesterday I delivered my "self compassionate" poem on highschool and invited sharks by telling I'm HSP(highly sensitive person)😅...
The first friend was my gay friend literaly. He would told me that i'm not pretty in a joky way but he was serious. But luckily i know that i'm actually pretty.
Every friendship with girls turned into a mess. In elementary. In highschool. In uni. I was "too much" and I was drawn to leeches because I liked doing stuff for my "friends", was too shy to be friends with the good people, and sort of settled with the girls that were often more alone too, and I would always find out the hard way why most shied away from them.
I had a friend for 8 years and she randomly left me because i was talking bad about her ??? When i wasnt and she had no evidence. And she just blocked me. We never spoke again.
Similar stuff happened to me and when i asked her to show me the proof she insulted me infront of everyone lol and that moment i just remove her from my friends list she doesn't deserve that place
I was that friend. I blocked a friend who I knew for over 10 years and we were best friends. I realized we weren't. She would constantly try to one up me and wouldn't be happy when I did better than her. She would also constantly keep me small so that she felt good about herself. Whenever I brought something up that I wasn't happy about, she would get extremely defensive and say something that I did wrong in the past, that wasn't related to what I brought up. That's when I knew I'm dealing with a narcissist and I blocked her without an explanation. I don't need to give a narcissist more ammunition to attack and gaslight me.
ugh I've been experiencing this and subconsciously thought about what this video mentioned/laws of human nature. except I was in denial and just giving people the benefit of the doubt hoping that they were just having a bad day. but I see now I have to honor what I feel and that some people unfortunately are low vibrations. even if I love them dearly (friends:even some family members)
Can you one day make a video about HOW we can manage these toxic people,especially when we are forced to live with them : coworkers,your boss and family? I'm literally not able to not care, I have anger issues
I can relate to this. Back when I was in College, there's a fake friend of Mine that is NOT happy for my major glow up. Instead of complimenting Me, she insults Me backhandedly. She throws up major blows that I don't see it coming. She's humiliating Me Infront of others. She's saying that I'm copying her. But in fact, I don't copy her style. I have My own Style that surpasses her old, weird style. She's a poor imitation of Rock Chic. She dresses herself like a funny clown in 70's era. I don't like everything she has and I don't like everything she wants. She got NO TASTE! She's undermining Me. She's devaluating My Achievements. She wants to prove that She's the most "popular" girl in the school. Even though she's NOT that really pretty. She got NO Facecard to prove. She don't realize on herself that in reality, She's a Bipolar with mild schizophrenia and Self- Delusional Psychopath. She's NOT happy for anyone's glow up. She's resentful of everyone's achievements. She don't clap for anyone's success. She's a MISERABLE PSYCHOPATH that needs to be imprisonment in a Mental Asylum for the rest of her life.
I remember when I was in 9th grade I used to have these kinds of friends who constantly made me feel left out and later at the end of the day they used to talk bad abt me to other people and one day I got humiliated by these people .
Just don't hang out with people like that. I had a couple toxic "friends" when I was younger. One was overly competitive and clingy and the other would constantly make nasty comments about my weight. They'd do the same things to their other friends... I was still a kid at the time and desperate for acceptance (school is brutal lol), so I kept hanging out with them. I cut off contact with them after hs and I don't regret it.
2:45 ...does people saying "Oh if i studied as much as you did i coul also have scored A+ " when you tell them about your grades or your study routine also counts ? (If they didn't study )
Helloooo, lovee thisss!!! Please give us more video’s about jealousy and envious girls!!!! Please use the 48 laws of power and other Robert Greene books!!
Interesting video but I will say it is a bit biased to see Blair as the jealous envious one towards Serena and Jenny a bit. In the beginning of the series, it was more true but as Blair aged and evolved in terms of her involvement in fashion Serena became the more jealous one because she wasn’t evolving and in the same place she was in high school (the same boy/men issues, don’t know where she is trying to go in terms of career, etc. even chuck in one episode pointed it out and said that you guys aren’t in high school anymore.
Holy shoot. Just 5 years ago I would have been like “yo this is my life” and now I’m like “this is anti-thetical to what I view as friends”, while of course still feeling like it’s also true at the same time bc it’s been true for so long 🥲.
I'm glad none of my female friendships are like these because this sounds exhausting omg
Totally agree !
Good for you
Because they share similar personality , values and mindset.
@@user-dv9xx3yy8v thank you
@@DearBill yeah honestly I think that's probably it!
I had a friend that pretended to be my friend just to see my study schedule and copy it, she lied to my classmates and told them that we were in a relationship (I'm straight and I don't date girls), she sits always next to me and only says ' oh lesson X is hard, lesson Y is out of reach ' etc and at that time I didn't know why I was moody when I came home and couldn't study, which resulted in an extreme GPA drop. When the 2nd term started, I ignored her completely and started sitting alone and studying for about 4.5hrs daily to keep up with old and new lessons, now I'm predicted to be the 1st or 2nd student in my class, and she sat next to another girl who is the same as her. BTW, even teachers reached out to me and told me to get away from her, I cannot describe how much I am breathing now, it's like putting away a heavy boulder off my shoulder. Keep shining girlies, and when you see the smallest sign of toxicity, LEAVE
Good to hear, stay blessed and well ~ !
Be careful of these type of women bcz most women hide themselves and come into your life to find your ways and how you talk and deal with things and if you are beautiful especially they are asking for male attention by being with u 💙 stay blessed dear💙
She was in love with you
she sounds crazy to tell evryone you were a couple
My female 'friends' are the only supposed reason that I was trauma bonded with my ex,and realising everyone is toxic and no one cares,I set boundaries and now I am at peace.
We complain about our jealous friends but we're probably the jealous friend. We just lack self-awareness awareness. We're probably really horrible people.
Which of your friends are you jealous of? Which of your friends do you belittle, backstab or sabotage? If you can’t answer then you’re likely not the jealous friend.
wow true true thats wht i thought abt
@@marie..k101 well i can answer i don't like her at all but i just pretend tht i like her or smth becuz i hv no friends and i dont't wnana look on dw she also doesn't care abt me she leaves me alone all the time with her other friends or smth she knows i don't have anyone else and damn she uses it well
I know I'm not. I had this really toxic friend in the past who loves to compare herself to me. Even in school she would ask me about my test scores and not tell me hers. She would constantly tell me how many guys are interested or looking at her. When I told her good things about me, she didn't react and just kept really quiet. And she even said something sarcastic when I did better than her in a major exam. That's when I knew she was never my friend. Glad I dropped her and never looked back.
@@clarissaywythe thing about guys being interested and looking at her is so true ! My ex best friend would also brag about how high her standards are whenever I talk about my crush.
oh my god , i found this video at the perfect timing going through a rough patch with female friendships
Ikr even though i am not going with something like that i have cousins who are hell of jealous of me (i dont know why) and some stupid situations happened right now and then this video appeared, yt algorithm is so accurate sometimes
I noticed that my ex wife's circle consisted mainly of her sisters and cousins. Any friends not blood related were few and many did not last. She would talk shit on them one minute and plan potlucks for the next weekend.
I noticed that it was the entire family talked shit about each other like that but the women excelled at it. She and her sister constantly disrespected their mother and still expected her love and support, they even bragged about teasing her to the point of tears. She passed away last spring.
The entire female population of her family were also frenemies and later it made it's way to me..she was always competitive but in a very unsportsmanlike way; the only way she could succeed is if she was always on top while I looked at success as something to share with the one you love, not to lord over them. Everything you mentioned was right on target. I love the 48 laws of power. I had a copy for 15 years before I had to get a new copy because my first one was falling apart. I'm in the process of collecting every Robert Greene book.
In my opinion Blair and Serena were not supposed to stay friends. Their friendship was so toxic and bad
And the way they basically knew nothing of each others or barely talked in the school environment??😂 I think Serena was afraid of blair's judgment,it doesn't sound like a deep relationship/bestfriendship at all
Generalizing is never ok...
Female friendships are deep and meaningful.
Maybe you didnt find good friends. That dosent make it bad
Yeah right my friend such an angel.
Lmao
Well,my mother act in this wat towards me,I'd like her to make a video about HOW we can manage these toxic people,especially when we are forced to live with them : coworkers,your boss and family
This is so accurate. Some of your stuff I’m like eh… in some situations… but this video is so accurate.
Trust me, you’ll have a few serious friends who truly love and support you, but most people are just jealous and want to be better than you and will fight to get there, and will put you down and manipulate you in order to not have to actually better themselves.
And the attacher? Been they done that, and wish I would have seen this earlier in my life. I’m surrounded by them and if they knew how I really felt… they wouldn’t want what I have.
This relationship is not a friendship let's start with that
This is actually true but not all friends are like this there is a friend from my childhood when I was insecure about my weight and that time she knew it she always talk about weight how skinny she is(she still do sometimes but I ignore) and sometimes she also called me fat and when I told her that stop talking about it I'm very sad about my weight she still didn't stopped and there was another friend she always tried to make me not depressed about my weight so not all friends are like this
I'm glad I have no friends, I'm not interested in making friends, I'm happy on my own.
That is not healthy humans are supposed to relate to each other and be in groups
I hope u r close with your family atleast
Even the biggest introvert wants a true friend. You can lie to others, but at least don’t lie to yourself.
Same ! I’m so glad i turned lonely.
@@Borb_3no. I promise you many lonely people enjoying and embracing to stay alone without any friend.
ALL literally ALL of my female riends are treasure , they helped me whenever i need , they always say out wha they feel , they really push me to my limits to do better . Thank god , but i feel we are overlooking the fact that it completely depends upon what type person u choose to be 'friends' with
You have described my mother,every time they have hired me in some place,she thinks it's just because of luck and not because maybe they have appreciated my : replies,my social skills,my appearance,the way I market myself. Ugh, I hate her .
I have a fake friend who likes to talk behind my back. I really don’t know why she wants to make me look bad to my other friends. I’m like in a different country already, and I’m not even doing well for myself. I don’t have a career, and she knows that’s my biggest insecurity. She would tell all my old friends of my biggest insecurities knowing it would make me feel bad. I only knew this because those old friends would message me with all the things I shared to that fake friend. That’s the moment I knew I don’t have a real friend.
the fact that i could see faces of different friends for each category ,is so heartbreaking ToT
I'm such idiotic person, yesterday I delivered my "self compassionate" poem on highschool and invited sharks by telling I'm HSP(highly sensitive person)😅...
This was awesome and validating.
Envy explained like no one could.
Great video, facts!
i want to cry so many social rules my autistic self cant keep up i really need to rewind to understand each point😭😭😭
Valuable information. Thanks for sharing ♥
The first friend was my gay friend literaly. He would told me that i'm not pretty in a joky way but he was serious. But luckily i know that i'm actually pretty.
Every friendship with girls turned into a mess. In elementary. In highschool. In uni. I was "too much" and I was drawn to leeches because I liked doing stuff for my "friends", was too shy to be friends with the good people, and sort of settled with the girls that were often more alone too, and I would always find out the hard way why most shied away from them.
I had a friend for 8 years and she randomly left me because i was talking bad about her ??? When i wasnt and she had no evidence. And she just blocked me. We never spoke again.
Similar stuff happened to me and when i asked her to show me the proof she insulted me infront of everyone lol and that moment i just remove her from my friends list she doesn't deserve that place
I was that friend. I blocked a friend who I knew for over 10 years and we were best friends. I realized we weren't. She would constantly try to one up me and wouldn't be happy when I did better than her. She would also constantly keep me small so that she felt good about herself. Whenever I brought something up that I wasn't happy about, she would get extremely defensive and say something that I did wrong in the past, that wasn't related to what I brought up. That's when I knew I'm dealing with a narcissist and I blocked her without an explanation. I don't need to give a narcissist more ammunition to attack and gaslight me.
i have a girlfiend tho. so there is true female friendship and unconditional love and honest companionship
ugh I've been experiencing this and subconsciously thought about what this video mentioned/laws of human nature. except I was in denial and just giving people the benefit of the doubt hoping that they were just having a bad day. but I see now I have to honor what I feel and that some people unfortunately are low vibrations. even if I love them dearly (friends:even some family members)
When you realise all your female friendships are like this.
Sad but true.
Can you one day make a video about HOW we can manage these toxic people,especially when we are forced to live with them : coworkers,your boss and family? I'm literally not able to not care, I have anger issues
Great video thanks ❤
I can relate to this. Back when I was in College, there's a fake friend of Mine that is NOT happy for my major glow up. Instead of complimenting Me, she insults Me backhandedly. She throws up major blows that I don't see it coming. She's humiliating Me Infront of others. She's saying that I'm copying her. But in fact, I don't copy her style. I have My own Style that surpasses her old, weird style. She's a poor imitation of Rock Chic. She dresses herself like a funny clown in 70's era. I don't like everything she has and I don't like everything she wants. She got NO TASTE! She's undermining Me. She's devaluating My Achievements. She wants to prove that She's the most "popular" girl in the school. Even though she's NOT that really pretty. She got NO Facecard to prove. She don't realize on herself that in reality, She's a Bipolar with mild schizophrenia and Self- Delusional Psychopath. She's NOT happy for anyone's glow up. She's resentful of everyone's achievements. She don't clap for anyone's success. She's a MISERABLE PSYCHOPATH that needs to be imprisonment in a Mental Asylum for the rest of her life.
When it comes to toxic friendships, you should really work on your self-awareness
I hope you're good now
I remember when I was in 9th grade I used to have these kinds of friends who constantly made me feel left out and later at the end of the day they used to talk bad abt me to other people and one day I got humiliated by these people .
Just don't hang out with people like that.
I had a couple toxic "friends" when I was younger. One was overly competitive and clingy and the other would constantly make nasty comments about my weight. They'd do the same things to their other friends... I was still a kid at the time and desperate for acceptance (school is brutal lol), so I kept hanging out with them. I cut off contact with them after hs and I don't regret it.
2:45 ...does people saying
"Oh if i studied as much as you did i coul also have scored A+ " when you tell them about your grades or your study routine also counts ? (If they didn't study )
Helloooo, lovee thisss!!! Please give us more video’s about jealousy and envious girls!!!! Please use the 48 laws of power and other Robert Greene books!!
I had have my closed friend for 20 years
Interesting video but I will say it is a bit biased to see Blair as the jealous envious one towards Serena and Jenny a bit. In the beginning of the series, it was more true but as Blair aged and evolved in terms of her involvement in fashion Serena became the more jealous one because she wasn’t evolving and in the same place she was in high school (the same boy/men issues, don’t know where she is trying to go in terms of career, etc. even chuck in one episode pointed it out and said that you guys aren’t in high school anymore.
Thanks
What if you are the bad one !??? How to change!!! Im aware im the bad one here but i want to change idk how..i can't control myself
How about interracial or interreligious friendships ?
and old best friend
I need a friend 😥
I'm from india, middle class, i look average..
my roommate
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Holy shoot. Just 5 years ago I would have been like “yo this is my life” and now I’m like “this is anti-thetical to what I view as friends”, while of course still feeling like it’s also true at the same time bc it’s been true for so long 🥲.