I just mended my relation with my wife. I am not thinking of second one now. Remember the perfect marriage is the one in which to imperfect spouses refuse to giveup on each other. Sometimes she is just waiting for you to take the step....
Alhamdulillah, my husband don't want 2nd wife and promise me that I'm the only 1. May Allah grant my husband Jannatul firdaws and give all his wishes in Jannah Inshallah
1. Khadijah bint Khuwaylid • Status before marriage to the Prophet: Widow (twice married) • Previous children: Six children from previous marriages. • With her first husband, Abu Halah, she had two children: Hind and Halah. • With her second husband, Atiq ibn ‘A’idh, she had one daughter, Hind. 2. Sawda bint Zam’a • Status before marriage to the Prophet: Widow • Previous children: She had a son, Abdur Rahman, from her previous marriage to Sakran ibn Amr. 3. Aisha bint Abi Bakr • Status before marriage to the Prophet: Single (never married) • Previous children: None 4. Hafsa bint Umar • Status before marriage to the Prophet: Widow • Previous children: None (from her previous marriage to Khunais ibn Hudhafa) 5. Zaynab bint Khuzayma • Status before marriage to the Prophet: Widow (twice married) • Previous children: None 6. Umm Salama (Hind bint Abi Umayya) • Status before marriage to the Prophet: Widow • Previous children: Four children from her previous marriage to Abu Salama: Salama, Umar, Zaynab, and Durra. 7. Zaynab bint Jahsh • Status before marriage to the Prophet: Divorced • Previous children: None 8. Juwayriya bint al-Harith • Status before marriage to the Prophet: Widow • Previous children: None 9. Umm Habiba (Ramlah bint Abi Sufyan) • Status before marriage to the Prophet: Widow • Previous children: One daughter, Habiba, from her previous marriage to Ubayd Allah ibn Jahsh. 10. Safiyya bint Huyayy • Status before marriage to the Prophet: Widow • Previous children: None 11. Maymunah bint al-Harith • Status before marriage to the Prophet: Widow (twice married) • Previous children: None Prophet Muhammad SAW only had children with Khadijah RA. Prophet Muhammad SAW was very wealthy before he married Khadijah RA and he was married only to her until she passed away. While the exact amount of the Prophet’s dowry to Khadijah is not definitively recorded, estimates place it at a modest sum equivalent to $30,000 USD or a little less in today’s value, reflecting the simplicity and mutual understanding that characterized their marriage. The topic of polygamy in Islam and why it is not broadly recommended today, despite its permissibility, requires understanding its historical context, the Prophet Muhammad’s (peace be upon him) specific circumstances, and Islamic principles of justice and fairness. 1. The Context of Polygamy in the Time of the Prophet Polygamy existed in Arabia long before Islam. Pre-Islamic Arabs practiced polygamy without limitation, often leading to injustice and the neglect of wives and children. Islam reformed and regulated this practice, setting strict guidelines to ensure fairness and justice: • Limiting the Number of Wives: Islam restricted polygamy to a maximum of four wives, provided the husband could treat them all equally in terms of material and emotional support. • Surah An-Nisa (4:3): “If you fear that you will not be just, then marry only one.” • Justice as a Condition: The Qur’an emphasizes justice as a prerequisite for polygamy, warning that perfect justice, particularly in emotional matters, is difficult to achieve: • Surah An-Nisa (4:129): “You will never be able to be just between wives, even if you strive to do so.” Polygamy was allowed in the context of specific social needs, such as supporting widows, orphans, and ensuring the stability of the community during a time when wars left many women without protection. 2. The Prophet’s Specific Case The marriages of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) were exceptional and primarily aimed at fulfilling specific social, political, and humanitarian objectives, rather than personal desire. Here’s why his case was unique: A. Humanitarian and Protective Reasons Many of the Prophet’s marriages were to widows or divorced women who were vulnerable and needed protection: • Sawda bint Zam’a: A widow who needed support after her husband passed away. • Umm Salama: A widow with young children who needed care after her husband’s death. B. Strengthening Community Ties Some marriages were conducted to unite tribes, strengthen alliances, and diffuse hostilities: • Juwayriya bint al-Harith: Her marriage brought her entire tribe closer to Islam. • Safiyya bint Huyayy: This marriage reduced enmity between her tribe and the Muslims. C. Conveying Islamic Teachings Through his various marriages, the Prophet established a practical example for how to manage different marital situations justly. His wives became scholars and teachers, preserving and conveying knowledge about the Prophet’s private life and personal conduct to future generations. D. Living Modestly Despite Wealth While the Prophet Muhammad had access to wealth, he lived extremely modestly, often giving away his wealth to those in need. His lifestyle and treatment of his wives demonstrated his commitment to justice and humility, not luxury or excess. 3. Why Polygamy Is Not Recommended for Most People Today A. Challenges in Meeting the Conditions of Justice The strict conditions for polygamy outlined in the Qur’an make it difficult for most men to practice it without committing injustice: • Financial responsibility: A man must provide equally for all wives, including housing, food, and clothing. • Emotional and time management: Equal time, attention, and care must be given to each wife, which is challenging in today’s fast-paced world. • Emotional justice: While material fairness is achievable, emotional equality is nearly impossible, as the Qur’an acknowledges. B. Economic and Social Realities Today In today’s world, maintaining multiple households is often financially and socially impractical: • Economic strain: Many men lack the financial resources to adequately support multiple families. • Social complications: Polygamy may lead to discord within families and communities, particularly in societies that value monogamy. C. Changed Social Context The historical circumstances that made polygamy necessary during the Prophet’s time, such as caring for war widows and uniting tribes, are less prevalent today. Modern social systems and laws often provide alternative solutions for supporting vulnerable individuals. D. Risk of Harm to Women and Families Without the Prophet’s unique qualities of justice, patience, and wisdom, polygamy can lead to: • Neglect and unfair treatment of wives. • Emotional distress for women and children. • Jealousy and rivalry among co-wives, leading to family instability. 4. Islam Prioritizes Monogamy When Justice Cannot Be Ensured Islam’s default recommendation is monogamy for most people: • Surah An-Nisa (4:3): The verse itself advises marrying one wife if there is fear of injustice. • Sunnah of the Prophet: The Prophet himself was monogamous for 25 years during his marriage to Khadijah, highlighting the ideal of a strong, singular marital bond. 5. Conclusion Polygamy in Islam is permissible but heavily regulated and is not generally recommended unless specific conditions are met. The Prophet Muhammad’s polygamy was a unique case rooted in social and humanitarian objectives, not personal desire or wealth. Today, given the difficulties in ensuring justice, economic pressures, and changing social conditions, monogamy remains the most suitable and recommended marital arrangement for most Muslims.
This is so annoying especially right now I can feel the shift and tension in this regard there are so many abusive toxic marriages and people aren’t even committed to fixing the first one but so ready to hop on a second one the way some men speak about it sexually is so disgusting and awful SubhanAllah
What if the first wife is unfixable? the ruling is clear bro. Man can have multiple wives if he can justice among them and he doesnt need any permission from any of his wife.
@@badolgiringya5035Marry the women of your choice 2, 3 or 4. But if you are afraid you'll fail to maintain justice then content yourself with one or those boundwomen in your possession, this way you are less likely to commit injustice (4:3) You will never be able to maintain emotional justice between your wives no matter how keen you are (4:129)
Iblis places his throne upon water and sends his groups (helpers) to do evil deeds. The closest to him are those who tempt people to commit the most grievous of sins (fitnah). They come to him to tell him about what they did. One of them says, ‘I have done such-and-such.’ However, Iblis tells him, ‘You have done nothing.’ Another one comes and says, ‘I did not leave a man until I caused him to leave his wife and divorce her.’ Iblis becomes very pleased and calls him close to his throne and says to him, ‘How good you are!’” (Muslim, Munafiqun 67; Musnad, 3/314).... Allah said: (2:256) famously declares "There is no compulsion (forcing) in religion... You take about sunnah, start with your fard also Muslim brothers ignore the sunnah of fasting on mondays and Thursdays, they ignore the sunnah of praying 2 Rakats before fair, they forget that Tahajjud is a sunnah. The only sunnah they remember is to marry 4 wives... as Muslims we must fear Allah swt and not change the deen to suit our needs, unless we want Allah punishment to come upon us, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then one [marry only] from Quran... And you will never be able to be equal just between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. From quran from Quran... Allah said Verily, Allah orders justice and good conduct and giving to relatives and he forbids immorality and bad conduct and transgression. He admonishes you that perhaps you will be reminded. Surat An-Nahl 16:90 And Allah says O you who believe, be persistently standing firm for Allah as witnesses in justice, and do not let the hatred of a people prevent you from being just. Be just, for that is nearer to righteousness. Fear Allah, for Allah is aware of what you do. Surat Al-Ma’idah 5:8 “A man who has two wives and who is completely inclined to one and who ignores the other emerges with one side of his body paralysed in the Day of Judgment.” (Hadith; Ibn Majah, Nikah, 47; Mishkat al-masabih, 2/196) A woman does not consent to share her husband with another woman under normal circumstances, and no woman would like to marry a married man unless she has to. It is a necessity of belief that polygamy is right. However, to believe it does not necessarily mean for a woman to consent to the second wife and approve it. No believer father would like his son-in-law to marry a second, third or fourth woman along with his daughter. The jealous nature of the woman and the affection of the father for his daughter disapproves this. As a matter of fact, the daughter of our beloved Prophet, Sayyidah Fatima, objected to her husband, Ali’s marrying of a second woman. If it weren’t permissible to object, Sayyidah Fatima, who was brought up by our Prophet, would not have objected. The Messenger of Allah would have warned her and ordered her to consent to her husband’s wish. However, it did not take place like that. On the contrary, the Messenger of Allah, who saw that his daughter was worried, asked Ali to give up his wish and told him that if he did not give it up, he could marry another woman after divorcing Sayyidah Fatima. He did not consent to Ali’s second marriage to depress his daughter. By considering that act of the Messenger of Allah, it can be stated that Muslim daughters and fathers may object to the second marriage of their husband or son-in-law.
I believe that GOD FEARING MEN would never ATTEMPT that sunnah because in the QURAN!!! it says it’s BEST for men to have one. in cases of poverty where women are in need of men and there are not enough men, this is where polygamy comes into play… However we see men in perfectly fine areas engaging in polygamy for their own selfish needs and they will answer to that on judgement day. Playing with women as if they are concubines. Muslim women are to be respected. My husband is a god fearing man, he is loyal to me and I am loyal to him. Respect goes both ways
SubhanAllah how ignorant you are of Allahs religion Where in the quran does it say its best to marry one ? Rather Allah says to marry 2 3 or 4 THEN If Justice cant be dont then to marry one Was the prophet and the sahaaba not god fearing men?
@@ramlawarsame2952 the prophet ﷺ wasnt sent except as an example to his nation, that which he says and does within the religion automatically becomes sunnah,
there are more women than men it has always been like this if we went your way many muslim sisters would never experience marriage and a family. Polygamy in fact is beneficial to women. Also I say this as a married man who has no interest in 2nd wife.(too much pressure)
Upset my husband left me and 3 kids 3 years ago and thinks it's acceptable to lie daily how is this Sunnah is lying daily permissible I have rights too I should be informed so I can leave
Islam : the first univesity was made by a muslim woman!, islam is great for women. Thirsty men who want to abuse women, are always angry to see them wear hijab. you can f off. and leave this woman alone. she knows her ex husband doesnt follow sunna.
I’m a Christian but my maternal grandfather was . He was such a good man! When my mum converted to Christianity he initially didn’t like it and threatened to disown her but he eventually came around when he got to see us(his grandchildren) He had a total of 6wives in his lifetime Never more than 4 living wives, he married another when he lost some of his wives All except the last one were widows with children! He had several houses so the first building was for my grandmother who was the first and his second wife Another house was given to the third and only the last stayed with him. And he took care of them and their children! In fact all the female children bride price were paid to him. It was much later when I was older and i was talking to one of my cousins and I said do you know all grandpa’s wives except the last one were widows and had children before he married them? My cousin said that he did it to take care of them and their children. That it is a form of “dawr” not sure if I spelled it correctly. I think generosity is one of the things I learnt from him
SubhanaLah, very supercial understanding and didn't expect Menk not to go deep into the real matter. When men speak about 2nd wife, it's because they find it necessity when are surrounded by haram, so they don't think it is just sunnah to exchaust, but as a necessity and halal way to protect themselves from haram. It's not a game or for fun, it's more than that. I wish he spoke about the real issue decent men, and decent women, are facing nowadays and the solutions.
If I would be in that culture and my husband would got married a second wife I sure would find a lover and cheat back on him! And making sure he finds out!!!
Not to say widows and single mums don't get single proposals because they still do elhamdulillah but can be more difficult for them if they have more than 1 child.
İn countries such as the UK it is illegal to have 2 wives. Only 1 can be registered so its important people know that too before they get into trouble with the law trying to register 2 lol
وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تُقْسِطُوا۟ فِى ٱلْيَتَـٰمَىٰ فَٱنكِحُوا۟ مَا طَابَ لَكُم مِّنَ ٱلنِّسَآءِ مَثْنَىٰ وَثُلَـٰثَ وَرُبَـٰعَ ۖ فَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تَعْدِلُوا۟ فَوَٰحِدَةً أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَـٰنُكُمْ ۚ ذَٰلِكَ أَدْنَىٰٓ أَلَّا تَعُولُوا۟ ٣ If you fear you might fail to give orphan women their ˹due˺ rights ˹if you were to marry them˺, then marry other women of your choice-two, three, or four. But if you are afraid you will fail to maintain justice, then ˹content yourselves with˺ one or those ˹bondwomen˺ in your possession. This way you are less likely to commit injustice. The Quran starts off with mentioning two then three and four and if you cannot treat them justly then only one, so what is mufti Menk even saying about sunnah, May Allah guide him
Lol bless you. The religion allows it to be in the marriage contract if the wife does not allow more than 1 wife during her lifetime. If the husband agrees, she can continue with the marriage. If he does not agree, he can go marry someone else. Because having more than 1 wife is optional not compulsory the woman has a right to refuse it and get it written in her marriage contract if she does not want that to happen at any point.
@@heavenzbreeze7763 and allah alows polygamy also. We talk like allah made a mistake with this rule. I accept and submit to everything allah says not just some of what he allows.
Dont know what religion you follow but Islam is the only religion on the face of Earth that limit the number to 4 that too says if you cant do justice marry only one. but there are no limitations in other religions. Just google how many wives Solomon had? and Krishna? lol
@@ArchyP You strawmaned my argument. Incase you are not aware of the hadith. ‘Amr ibn ‘Awf reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Know that whoever revives a tradition from my Sunnah if it has died out after me, he will have a reward like those who act upon it without diminishing any of their rewards..." Weaknesses towards women is something Allah created in men. He gave us halal avenues we are allowed to take to ease the trial.
@@ArchyP No one is saying Rasulullah (saws) married out of lust. But where is the evidence for it being haram or even makrooh to do so. In fact it could be said to the contrary because if a man fulfilled his lust in a haram way he is sinful and if he does it in a halal way he is rewarded (Abu Darr (ra) reported Rasulullah (saws) said "Having intercourse (with one’s wife) is a charity.” They said, “O Messenger of Allaah, if one of us fulfils his desire, is there reward in that?” He said, “Do you not see that if he does it in a haraam way he will have the burden of sin? So if he does it in a halaal way, he will have a reward for that.”). Also the verse was indicating if you are unable to be just with marrying orphan women, then marry others non orphan: 2, 3 or 4, if you can't be just, then 1. Some scholars even go to say that the fact that Allah starts with Polygyny instead of monogomy is also indicating something. Allah knows best.
@@ArchyP To be fair and open this would be an option for the women if she chooses not to be in a polygyny. A better option than forcing a meaning into the Quran. ruclips.net/video/U_jpHKWzThk/видео.html
Men can take 2nd, 3rd upto 4th wife at the same time but they have to maintain justice among the wives. Any sister disagree with the ruling means disagree with the words of ALLAH SWT Audubillah. If any sister dislikes its okay but know this if you havent stipulated in your marriage contract about only one wife then dont complain when brother gets multiple wives. because he can do it. its his right.
Men should only marry those woman now who gave permission of second marriage in their marriage contract which was default some 100 years ago. That would lead to more happy marriages.
Number of Males The number of males in the world in 2024 is estimated to be 4.10 billion, which represents 50.28% of the global population Number of Females The number of females in the world in 2024 is estimated to be 4.06 billion, accounting for 49.72% of the global population
So, if a man do 1+2+3 It is OK to have a second wife? When did Allah and prophet Muhammad said these conditions Pls.. Stop fighting what God allowed for his creations God who made men know their needs You will never born in a man body to admit that God know what he is doing Alhmdulelah ❤️❤️ Polygamy is a test for men and women
Elhamdulillah brother if you can treat them all equally and are not unjust with them, then you won't need to worry about punishment on yawmul qiyamah that is given to those who do not treat wives fairly.
@@imamolamidebashir3566 I think it's safe to say that lust and betrayal is infact filthy? And I think God is a pure and a holy God, who condones such things. It's natural for women to feel that hurt when you give loyalty from your side. Also, i would like to believe that the prophet was a noble and upright person and married for noble causes (to bring his enemies together, to help widows) Not for lust. Infact he was committed towards one woman his whole life until her death. So to me, he made this permissible to give women security. When you marry women to help them, the dynamic is different. It's like you owning a cattle that u have to look after. But when you give commitment and loyalty in a marriage, thats a totally different dynamic. It's where you view that women, not as a cattle, but as a person like you are. You treat her like you want to be treated or....loved. So if u think God made lust halal then you yourself are building a bad image of him. I think he's a holy God and made it permissible for holy reasons.
@@rosealvs lust means to have very stong sexual desires for someone. So if you're husband had strong sexual desires towards you thats would be wrong lol. I disagree. As long as you're sexual desires are committed towards your spouse whom you married with is halal then its fine. Its when you used your lust and desires towards fornication and un wed sex that it becomes haram and wrong. Other than that have strong sexual desires or lust with your married spouse is permitted and halal
I just got off one and very afraid of one let alone 2! My experience if you put Allah first and treat women with dignity, compassion and respect they may see that as a sign of weakness instead of faith in Allah! May Allah forgive us and guide us to Jannah
Brothers DONT BE SHAMED for the interest in polygyny that's mentioned in Surah (An Nisa 4:3) Remember there's no monogamy in Jannah. Sadly we see more backlash about Halal polygyny than Haram relationships (same sex marriage included) SMH
Soul doesn’t have physical body and life in physical body is something completely different than when we’re in paradise. Marrying more than 1 wife is disobeying the command of Allah. Allah says it clearly. In Quran it’s written black on white than man can have only 1 wife. But it’s split into two parts and people are lazy to connect it. It’s written that man can have 1,2,3,4 wives given that he’ll be just to all of them. But in the second part is written that a man is unable to be just, that this attribute belongs only to Allah. Therefore a man is unable to have more than 1 wife. Men took from Quran what was benefiting their animal nature and disobeyed Allah. Man who cannot control himself should not marry, because he’d destroy the poor woman’s life. None of my friends living with these kind of men are happy. They’re full of rage, their kids raised not even seeing their father more than once/twice a week, because he’s busy with his other wives who hate each other, they all hate him for cheating on them and not having time for their kids, he has no place to call true home. Allah is wise and he knew it.
@@dawahtothepeople1510 lamao. Read Quran you'll know much more than just getting more wives .. it comes with alot of responsibility and justice is imposible these days .. so im happy men like this will wake up paralyzed .. i mean in todays economy 😁🤣 working like a 🫏 will only give enough money to take care of one wife ( broke men wishing alot of wives is funniest thing ever ) .. may be keep ur brain out of ur pants and think about the consequences . 😌 yall leave fard prayers and other faraiz and sunna but o ly this is what stay in ur heads
No one told It's haram! Just scholars says it's a huge responsibility! Even though you are rich can you treat them equally and don't make favorites? So it'a just advice no one tells men don't take 4 wife
Saying "Men are Polygamous by Nature" is against Islam..? Why do almost all Scholars claim that men are polygamous by nature with no Islamic claim? This makes men think it's okay to open doors and feel for multiple women, when in the west, where everyone is treated "equally" women are equally polygamous, cheating on their husbands, for "fun" not for "love or emotional" reasons as many put it. This means that both sexes are vulnerable in the same way. I think the society allows men to behave this way or think this way, because it's a male dominated world, and they supressed women since the beginning of time, when in the end, both men and women are the same, committing the same sins. However, the world makes it okay for men to be this way, claiming its their nature. Ever wonder why Muslim parents will abandon their daughters forever if they caught them speaking to a guy but will not do anything if their son goes out and sleeps around with women? Why is that? In the Shariah, both is a sin, both are haram! True women may be of more fitnah towards men, because women have more awrah to cover, yet they fail to, but most men are naturally in hijab, hence the reason for lesser fitnah for women. The Polygamy allowed also speaks about helping widows or orphans, anyone who can clearly study the Quran can understand that. The Sahabah and Prophets mostly married older women who had children from other men who had died. If men want to follow the example of the Prophet, they should follow it in the way he practiced it. Wars were common, many women were left without homes or men to take care of them. Had Allah disapproved, we would suffer social issues. There are many many many men who are happy with one wife, who dare not think about other women. Even having a thought of a non-mahram while married is a huge sin, how can one approach the thought of Polygamy knowing this is wrong? We see here the clear reasons for Polygamy. Some claim their wife is too fat or too old so they want to get another wife? It's because women are too busy with children they don't have time to even think of getting another man. Though the arab world makes it look like women have no physical desires or feelings. The fact that society has suppressed this, is proof why they claim "Men are Polygamous by nature" I would like to see any type of proof from Islam that this is true? Men were more free to do whatever they pleased, this is the real reason, before Islam and after Islam. It's not a religious view, its a social view. We Muslims are taught to follow the Quran and refer to sunnah and hadeeth, if men want to remarry, then why dont they read the verse on polygamy and refer to the sunnah and hadeeth? There are clear hadeeths that our Prophet pbuh the sahabah remarried older women to help them and be noble men for the sake of allah subhanwaltala, not for sexual reasons as Scholars put it these days. Also when Hazrat Ali wanted to take a second wife for the reasons I put above, it made Hzt Fatima upset and Prophet pbuh forbade Hazrat Ali remarrying a second wife. So if anyone can show a claim from ISLAM that men are polygamous, I would like to see. Please don't bring sciencists' claims into this, because even they claim things that go against Islam.
Many Muslim ladies come up to me for consultation their facing discrimination or indifferent behaviour from their husband when their husband are having more than two wives, they are not happy themselves and feel so much jealousy among themselves so I would suggest that people should be very clear before hand whether they will be able to face such situation or not. I am not being discriminatory but I tell them what do you expect like a lady come up to me yesterday she said that his husband get married to another lady now this first wife feel so jealous I just told her don't get so much offended, because even his cards were coming positive so his husband really loved her as well but she was so jealous and she was overthinking kept overthinking all the time because of this.
@@heavenzbreeze7763Nobody is misusing the option.Polygamy is the future to solve single mother crisis created by feminists.Allah knows what's in your heart.You can't deceive Allah.If you hate polygamy you will be punished for itm
@@deathmarch8354 What do u mean nobody is misusing it? You are telling me who deals with divorce cases? 💀 You can speak for yourself but do not speak for others out there who use and abuse women. Go to London Fatwa council to see how many abuse this option. It is illegal in the UK 2 have a 2nd but I am not against Allah's ruling if it is used for noble purposes but at the same time a woman has a right to not want her man to habe more than 1. She can put that in her marriage contract and she can also change her mind later if she wishes. It is not haram to have this condition as Ibrahim alayhi salaam asked Sara for permission before marrying 2nd wife and also rasulAllah s.a.w didn't want his son in law marrying a 2nd. It is an optional option not fard, yet a woman has a right to not want it if she feels she cannot be patient with it. A man who can't treat more than 1 equally will come on the day of judgement disfigured. So dnt forget that part either! Have a good day brother.
Saying "Men are Polygamous by Nature" is against Islam..? Why do almost all Scholars claim that men are polygamous by nature with no Islamic claim? This makes men think it's okay to open doors and feel for multiple women, when in the west, where everyone is treated "equally" women are equally polygamous, cheating on their husbands, for "fun" not for "love or emotional" reasons as many put it. This means that both sexes are vulnerable in the same way. I think the society allows men to behave this way or think this way, because it's a male dominated world, and they supressed women since the beginning of time, when in the end, both men and women are the same, committing the same sins. However, the world makes it okay for men to be this way, claiming its their nature. Ever wonder why Muslim parents will abandon their daughters forever if they caught them speaking to a guy but will not do anything if their son goes out and sleeps around with women? Why is that? In the Shariah, both is a sin, both are haram! True women may be of more fitnah towards men, because women have more awrah to cover, yet they fail to, but most men are naturally in hijab, hence the reason for lesser fitnah for women. The Polygamy allowed also speaks about helping widows or orphans, anyone who can clearly study the Quran can understand that. The Sahabah and Prophets mostly married older women who had children from other men who had died. If men want to follow the example of the Prophet, they should follow it in the way he practiced it. Wars were common, many women were left without homes or men to take care of them. Had Allah disapproved, we would suffer social issues. There are many many many men who are happy with one wife, who dare not think about other women. Even having a thought of a non-mahram while married is a huge sin, how can one approach the thought of Polygamy knowing this is wrong? We see here the clear reasons for Polygamy. Some claim their wife is too fat or too old so they want to get another wife? It's because women are too busy with children they don't have time to even think of getting another man. Though the arab world makes it look like women have no physical desires or feelings. The fact that society has suppressed this, is proof why they claim "Men are Polygamous by nature" I would like to see any type of proof from Islam that this is true? Men were more free to do whatever they pleased, this is the real reason, before Islam and after Islam. It's not a religious view, its a social view. We Muslims are taught to follow the Quran and refer to sunnah and hadeeth, if men want to remarry, then why dont they read the verse on polygamy and refer to the sunnah and hadeeth? There are clear hadeeths that our Prophet pbuh the sahabah remarried older women to help them and be noble men for the sake of allah subhanwaltala, not for sexual reasons as Scholars put it these days. Also when Hazrat Ali wanted to take a second wife for the reasons I put above, it made Hzt Fatima upset and Prophet pbuh forbade Hazrat Ali remarrying a second wife. So if anyone can show a claim from ISLAM that men are polygamous, I would like to see. Please don't bring sciencists' claims into this, because even they claim things that go against Islam.
Therapy and counsel is an important factor in the strength of any relationship, having said that mastering the "other Sunnahs" is a lifetime - shouldn't look down, frown upon nor disregard Polygyny, but most men wouldn't be able to handle it, only a very few are able and in this day and age man's biggest problem is financing two, three or four families
Im a practing muslim teen and its always been my dream to get more than 1 wife. And i understand that going to this path will be hard but you have to understand chasing dreams will not be easy so i will work hard and inshallah i will get my wives.
If you can afford more than 1 and u can treat more than 1 JUST then that is your right. Yes and rasulAllah s.a.w was only married to one when he was married to Khadijah radiyallahu anha. After she passed away he married mostly elderly women radiyallahu anhum apart from Aisha radiyallahu anha. He did so for noble reasons. If any of your wife has in her marriage contract that she doesn't want that, then if u breach that she has a right to leave you. RasulAllah s.a.w never wanted it for his daughter Fatima radiyallahu anha and Ali radiyallahu anhu agreed. This is why it's not haram to habe it in the contract if a wife thinks she can't handle it. However there will be women out there who will also agree. May Allah keep u on the right path and may u marry more than 1 if u can treat them equally, Be JUST and for noble reasons ameen. Sincerely wish u the best
@rasulkahramonov6307 I strongly agree with you brother inshallah. But remember there are a lot of false prophet dress as sheep but underneath they are wolf. Don't listen to no woman or man and don't tell no one your goal because they will fill it with hate and jealousy. Carry it only in your heart that Allah see your desire and goal, he will fulfill your wants. Don't be fearful that many woman will say you can't because of money. Remember that money is man's made and if you can feed one mouth then is no different to feed 2 or 3. Wealth comes from growth and as you see your family growth so does your wealth because you will gain a desire to become more and earn more. Keep your goal a secret that only Allah see and hear it. No human muslim can tell you what to do as they are not God and they are no prophets. Love you brother ❤️
That's nonsense. That's not the ONLY sunnah ANYBODY talks about. What circles is this guy hanging around with? The 2nd wife is not just a "Sunnah". It's also mentioned directly in the Quran. You trying to diminish it shows your heart.
Im english i moved to Egypt married have 3 kids now my husband married his cousin it was planned withoit me knowing he married her and then divorced her , i fear he will or is with another woman now because he is distant he works away and always says hes returning but never does for 2 or 3 or 5 days and he never calls or messgaes me unless i keep calling , he never stayed with me while i was pregnant and in labour with my third baby , i gave birth in my nighbours car a complete stranger , he wasnt interested in being around. I was in love with him but the love has faded he showed me his side, he always stayed away from me and left me to live with his family in beginning and they hated and mistreated me , i cannot leave him or return to my homeland because he wont divorce me obviously because we have kids together.
your suffering is Allah's blessing .He had given permission to man to marry 4 women as long as he treat all of them equally .Didn't he treat all of you equally?Why are you complaining then?
If a man is financially well off and is practising the religion. I personally think he should do istikarah properly and the night prayer as well as talking to a scholar who specializing in this field. Their are million more women than men in uk. Their are so many sisters who die alone and the numbers are increasing in the uk. scholars need to address this situation
But that doesn't mean the females would feel okay sharing their husband. Some females would rather choose to be single than share their husband. Females have feelings too and are just as possessive for their husband as any man would be over his wife.
@@op_chop2341 iam a man. If i wanna justify only my urge i wouldn't get married and take on all that responsibility ect to justify 10 mins if urge. I would do what most men do who only wanna justify a urge. Do it and leave. Not get married lol
@@razamughal9095 Children are categorized by the order they were born what are you saying? “This is our first children, this is our second child, etc..”
Let the brothers treat one justly first. They can't marry more than one unless they treat the first good otherwise they will be punished on yawmul qiyamah. Plus if they do marry more than one should be for noble reasons
@@heavenzbreeze7763 what’s your concept of justice? Even Sawda (RA) gave up one of her nights so that the Prophet SAW could spend more time with Aisha RA. Not everything has to be exactly equal, just meaningful. For example housing one wife in a house might be equally meaningful to another wife who’s happy living in an apartment. Furthermore, just as women can make conditions on marriage, in Shariah, a man is also allowed to stipulate conditions and a woman can remove some of her rights. Sometimes this suits a woman’s lifestyle too. And they 100% can marry another wife even up to 4 with arrangements with each of their wives. Furthermore, it doesn’t have to be for noble reasons, it can just be for their desire which is also 100% allowed in Islam. It is also permitted for them to get married to virgin women and not just divorced / widowed women although the majority will probably take the latter as a multiple wife anyway. I get the feeling you were married once but husband wanted to take a second wife or did take hence your bitter?
@@yourfamilydoctor172 If you are a man of honour then please do not assume or potentially slander your sisters in islam. My teacher is Shaykh Yazdani so does that mean he is bitter as a man? He knows how many men misuse this option and abuse women and so do I as I deal with divorce cases. Yes I was married and I left my husband and no he did not cheat but did not want our child. Next time please think before you assume before you feel ashamed.
@@heavenzbreeze7763tbh I don’t really care who your teacher is, I’m referring to you. Women also abuse their husbands and quickly want to get a divorce over trivial things, in fact, most divorces are initiated by women, you can check the stats yourself. In Islam It’s probably why men have been given the authority to divorce and not women. You can also ask your teacher about what I referred to earlier and see who is right.
@@yourfamilydoctor172 This not a competition between men and women and who is better. I am a JUST person. My teacher is a male that's my point so don't make this into an issue about making me look like a bitter person because I am a female or assume negative things about me. You habe no right to do that. I don't entertain negativity/slander so please stay in your lane. Thank you. Salam
Assalam U Alaykum And what if you are a pure Muslim Alhamdolillah, you never do Zinnah , never commit sin, never look at women, never do alcohol , fulfil all Islamic duties , and you are married since last 19 years and you are still young at age 39 and HAVE NO KIDS?
@@heavenzbreeze7763 yeah She is always insisting me to get marry and have kids but to be honest it is so hard to find a pure soul I mean I want totally Islamic Lady for me , I have even seen dreams and Quran Pak verses in which it is mentioned there are pious women for pious men Pray for me May Allah Kareem help me Aameen
@@shabanamushtaq4935 I would must give her an opportunity to either leave me or stay with me as this is the right/rule set by Islam not by someone individual We follow islam as a religion so everything which relates to the Religion We must need to obey it and follow it It is not that We use the Religion as we want it like , no that’s not the way of life
yes it is and also your wife is not supposed to wash your clothes and work for you as it is not her work too..her sole purpose is to takecare of children.she is not obliged to takecare of you old parents too
@@iqra786ful yup but men should know about women rights in islam if they are going to have a 2nd or 3rd one.Also a woman can also leave a man if he does not satisfy her sexually...so it goes both ways.
men know only one sunnah.. what women knows .. backbiting( geebat ) ,i,, envy hasad ,blaming husbands, husbands faults (shohar ki na shukri...) Greedy of money . Greedy of property. Greediness of duniya
@@shimmer4771 all women doing the things I mentioned.. More specially 99.99 women not accepting second wife of hubby and kill hubby even he is doing justice
@@shimmer4771may allah bless u sister and if ur husband marry another wife just tell ur husband to satisfy ur sexual needs in time and to emotionally love u ❤
Don't expect to be authority figures like our fathers who treat us like princesses. You have to earn your respect....you just want free cleaner, free cook , free lover, free child bearer show us actual respect & true love not just using her body as meat shop😠
If she has put it in her marriage contract that she does not want him to have another wife whilst he is married to her, then yes he must tell her. If he still proceeds to marry the 2nd despite this then he has breached the condition and she has a right to leave if she wishes.
@@heavenzbreeze7763 I am a man and I understand thr need for capable men to marry a 2nd wife. It is much better to tell the wife. Because you have nothing to lose because if it isn't in thr contract she can't divorce you for it, and also because it will be easier to be just. If she is patient, her faith increases, Allah will reward her and the marriage will be better because of the jealousy. Advice to women, if you don't like it, please let them know before you are even married.
@@ttllz3537 Salam, I just wanted to know a man's perspective as a woman about having a second wife. Would you want a second wife under any circumstances like already having kids with your first one or not satisfied in bed with your first wife?
@@ttllz3537 sorry I didn't really get that, would or woudn't you? U can also explain longer if you want, my English isn't that strong excuse me for that..
The only ayah and hadith I see my mother and women in my house talk about is ayah in regards to obedience to parents and jannah being under the foot of the mother. Wonder why no shaikh ever mention of this ayah and hadith the same way in regards to women as they do with this matter.
All the ayah are of the same value in Quran my dear brother because all are words of ALLAH SWT. Just because your women talk about ayah which they like doesnt mean other ayah doesnt exist. Men can practice polygamy given he do justice among all his wives. The shaikhs talk about this ayah more because many sisters straight deny this or even disagree with the ruling of ALLAH SWT. for example just ask your women folk what do they think about polygamy in Islam and youll get my point.
@@badolgiringya5035 this is problematic. A wise person accepts the decree of Allah. Many Muslims aren't taught Islam properly. However, though a woman is required to accept polygamy, it is her nature to be jealous. That's part of her creation.
Yeah that true btw but thats also true they should not oppose polygamy if the man is financially and physically fit, here physically refers to satisfy the sexual needs as more wives means more demands😅@@shimmer4771
Of course if she is unjust he has that right. But also if he mistreat her she has a right to get khula from him and re-marry someone else. It works both ways!
@@mahanooralvi2403 I know exactly the haqq of a man and woman. Allah is very fair elhamdulillah. My teacher is an Islamic jurist from London Fatwa council. His name is Shaykh Yazdani. This is a sunnah option NOT a fard. The same way a woman can have in her nikah contract if she does not want her husband having more than 1 wife whilst married to her and if he breaches that trust breaches that contract, she has a right to divorce him if she cannot be patient. AND if he does marry more than 1 and doesn't treat them equally he will have to face a severe punishment on Judgement day!
@@heavenzbreeze7763 I thought you are only here to destroy hubby wife relationship...you got divorce by your husband doesn't mean you destroy others relationship also.. And for you information.. Polygamy is fard if one has fear of adultery zina .. And it is happening with 90% men.. So I don't think you should make any negativity about POLYGAMous marriage..
I feel so happy to see B r O k e men su ffer .. bcz they can only dream about mutltiple wives .. but can't afford even one wife 😇 they work hard like 🫏 to provide for her and children but keep dreaming about 4 lol 😇
@@hamzamehboobawan im so happy how majority of men will wake up paralized on the day of judgement for being unjust 😇bcz they misuse deen for their benefits .. im so happy that broke men (majority can't even afford one wife but dream about it to suffer ) and when the work day and night to provide for their wife and children they look like a Hardworking = 🫏 bcz todays economy is expensive .. 😁 (its His duty to take care of expenses anyway so seeing them in this state heal me I've seen few in this miserable state 🤤 ) i mean go ahead get more wives and work like a 🫏 to take care of them how peaceful in todays world :)
Brother im in s big dilemma i converted to islam for my partner he was my life his family was not happy with his decision to marry a convert they thought im not good addition to their family and pressureed him to marry his cousin. Now after his marriage he still feels the same for me and cry everyday. I want to be there for him ss he showed me the true path of Allah . Can i get married to him. I really love him
Assalamu alaykum sister, I'm so sorry to know of this. Yes but he should inform the 1st wife and if law in the country u are living in it permits a 2nd marriage, then u can. If it does not permit it then people can only do nikah not English legal registry. (As that can only be done for 1 spouse) It will be sad if he marries u and loses the 1st wife too. It is not fair on her if he does it inprivate so make sure he informs her. A man must be JUST must treat both wives equally. Sincerely wishing u the best
Men who have 2nd wifes are the real men. Taking on more responsibilities. May Allah reward them for being unselfish and taking care of my Muslim sisters.
@@ramlawarsame2952 Yeah that's how it should be not marrying a virgin for 2nd wife like the companions of the prophet PBUH. May Allah bless you take care sister.
My husband wants second wife I feel bad about jt.He said that it is not in my mind now I do not have time but that I have nothing against practicing it in future.It will take him some years but I think he will marry second wife really. There ongoing problems
What do you suggest we do concerning the enormous amount of unmarried women who are having difficulty getting married and the number is only increasing? (Particularly the women older than 35-40, infertile women, women who are widowed with kids or divorced) our culture is making it increasingly difficult for these older, divorced women, with kids to get a man. do they not deserve love and protection, or are they simply meant to die without companionship or intimacy? People who say polygamy is not meant for today’s time, please take a look closer at the spinsterhood rate not only in the west but even developing countries and you will be horrified. I’m pretty sure most reasonable women would prefer to be a co- wife than to remain single and unmarried but both sisters and brothers are making it difficult for them. There are more eligible Muslim women than men. So advise to me what are we to do with the spinsters. They’re just supposed to continue remaining single? Very selfish mindset.
@@frejaja942 I don't understand why they think that to help a woman they have to marry her and sleep with her? Why can't just help the single mother or the widow without expecting he to be part of his harem
@@sau2949 i even have more question than you,and I'm a moslem.here in my country ,the polygamy getting more popular after the widespread of salafi/wahabism.
Aslkm Whether we like it or not it's increasing n we got to get use to it. We have to educate ourselves about polygyny n especially educate our young girls n boys. It's inevitable. There are many benefits to it. i respect Mufti but when it comes to this topic even our Respected Learned Scholars tend to have a lack of understanding n knowledge with regards to this topic. Nore am i in NO way lambasting or saying anything to desrespect The Scholars in any way. It has to be understood from many angles. A good lecture by a Very Righteous Scholar Ml Dawood Seedat explains it well.
Maybe you should go to my tiktok and see all my videos and comments before assuming wrong about me. I NEVER said it was not halal. Only limited men can handle the heat
As for counselling I offer this service so married brothers don't think they can offload their problems to me about their wife. I only give permission if they have their wife in a group chat so I can see both sides
If it was a command then rasulAllah s.a.w would have allowed his son in law Ali r.anha to have more than 1 wife other than his daughter. We cannot make something which is halal into haram and vice versa. It is an option and hence why a woman does not need to agree to this condition in her contract if she thinks she cannot handle it. All women are different and Allah SWT knows that hence why Islam thinks about both genders and doesn't disregard the trauma of a woman if she can't handle it.
@@aliavci07 shut it. All the worlds illiterate people have come on this page. Go and teach your pathetic hindu mother that she has done a bad job raising you, probably spending all day on facebook chatting with other men.
Assalamu alaikum I would like counseling for my relationship,He wants to marry me and Im not ready, I was ready once but now Im so traumatized I need help, inshallah 😢 We've been in a haraam relationship for 9 years,but we never been intimate just live together, now we lived apart for two years and I feel we need counseling first 😢 Astaugfirallah May Allah forgive and guide us
Why do you want more kids.. kids and wealth are of same category. The more you have, the more you demand. If she doesn't want, you should respect her choice.. You will not understand the risk women takes to birth a child. If you have one, alhamdulillah and both of you are satisfied, i think it's enough. May allah grant you to right path
this video is messed up if religion allows u cant be putting own rules tht whats compulsory and whats not just let them be men and u focus on ur part as woman if both sides doing their part the marriage is good u dont hav to be insecure or controlling on ur husband
I don’t understand why people are against poligamy unfortunately we are living in a society that is promoting zina and mocking marriage on a whole.poligamy should be made easy , its already difficult in the Uk if there laws were pro poligamy a lot of the men who say they don’t want to marry again would.if we lived in a Muslim country that followed the shariah there would be no 50/50 after divorce.there would be justice with children going to the parents after divorce.more men would be happy to marry again.but either way men who uphold the sunnah and are strong will marry again and what is best.
Sister you are no one to offer in the rule of Islam . If a man doing something wrong with his first wife then allah subhanava tallah going to decide about that person but you are no one to give any offer for husband and wife 2nd marriage it only has to be according islam that's it..
Also they seem to forget the Widows, divorceesnand single parents, many rush for youtj,vor the elders when they are rich with the intention to use and abuse . Very shameful and Haram
I only fear he will love her more because in marriage he will love surely one person more always. I feel like because we have conflicts love faded from my side. He showed love already to some other woman but she seemed to not be the one he wants so he is just
Sunnah ? Its.more of a fitra than sunnah. Because it was and is pravtise by non muslims as well . May Allah guide us alla dn give us hikmah to understand things.
@@user-ef5nd3ho3n hey, I'm so sorry. I thought you meant to say to me. Love isn't Lust just said you are talking to the person whoever me the the comment. Sincerest apologies 🤲🏼🤲🏼🤲🏼
@@heavenzbreeze7763 actually I misunderstood, I thought he was talking about you but whatever. you don't have to apologise. I'm sorry for that. may allah bless you. ❤️
what qualifications do you have? are you married yourself? that you can give counselling advice. have you done in-depth studying about how the prophet saw dealt with his wives with a proper scholar
In islam second marriage only require one condition which is give both wives equal rights or the rights they commited in marriage contract. Why you need multiple woman? Why second wife is virgin and not divorced? All these are lame excuses poses by woman men marry multiple woman for same reason they marry first. Man can love multiple woman at a time and Allah knows that and thats why He made it halal but woman cant be polygamous its not in her nature and woman judge men based on their nature which is actually opposite to men.
I'm so sorry sis. How is he abusive? If he is physically abusive plz do not tolerate that as he will only get worse if he doesn't sort himself out. It usually is better if both get it otherwise he will keep doing the same rubbish. İn my prayers ❤
I only fear he will love her more because in marriage he will love surely one person more always. I feel like because we have conflicts love faded from my side. He showed love already to some other woman but she seemed to not be the one he wants they are having ongoing words and problems I see his messaging I can check it whenever I want hhhh
calling her self muslim but can't follow the Quran. How can you say I obey my husband but you questioning him. Don't you see that a man get full fulfil when he sees his kingdom with many many kids. The reason this men's now a day don't want more than 3-4 kids is because of fear. Because the devil tells him "what you don't have TV at home." Don't you see those are words of the devil. Don't you see that a man from 100 years ago and from now are the same but the only thing that change was screen. To make fun of masculine. Men's stand up brothers , stop been fearful and be proud of your family. Be proud that you have multiple wife, be proud that you can have more than 10 children, be proud that some people make fun of you because of hate. Only hate comes and try to make you feel bad. Don't you see that love is accepting but hate is jealous in which is evil.
Yes I am a Muslim and who the hell are you to try and takfeer me? Funny thing is I didn't even speak 💀💀💀 Read all my comments to stop your ignorance before you think you can try assume anything about me
If ur wife is abusive allah will severely punish her and if u think u can't stay with her then give her talak simple women are going out of hands because of weak mans who are slave of their feminists mothers@@mah9455
I only fear he will love her more because in marriage he will love surely one person more always. I feel like because we have conflicts love faded from my side. He showed love already to some other woman but she seemed to not be the one he wants so he is just pl
Its true i have married gour wives, and its tough for most man but not for me as i satisfy their sexual needs in time,,, i help them in house chores and they help me in giving me comfort love support and pleasure and none the least my children ❤❤❤❤❤ yeah but i done it no divorces
Plz HeLp and Guide! Salam sister I am quite upset that my husband want me to do job and when I go to work he brings his second wife on my bed …. It’s a 2 bed accommodation only (we have 2 kids ma sha Allah) and exposes all my personal stuff in-front…. Secondly he shouts and humiliates me on street and keeps doing it publicly …… I am all shattered but I have no where to go and hide …..my parents have passed away and brothers don’t talk to me. I am in uk what can I do about it to feel safe and not humiliated?😢😢😢😢
I think you should once tell him ,that how you feel about. without sharing your feelings no one will feel you , as you share here you can also share this message to your husband , and tell him about its his responsibility to justice both of his wife with emotionally, mentally and financially
Then why Mohamed (SAw) married 11 wife. That is problem now all the man wants 2 wife. Even non Muslims also asking me first question you know wht. You Muslim can married 2 to 4 wife. It like same you know. How to answers tell me.
@@heavenzbreeze7763😂😂😂😂sounds funny Why your religion is allowing multiple wives😂😂😂😂😂 So funny😝😜 You woman are so stupid and idiot Intend rising a voice Behaveing like idiots and talking rubbish😂
Guess what guys?? Even Mufti menk has 3 Wives!!! Clearly shows that polygyny is for people like prophets,sahabas and people like Mufti menk, Assim al hakeem etc
Asalamualaikum brother here who was multiple wives, Injust want to say never consider a second wife if you are unhappy before the second wife, or your wife is unhappy and always consider the first wifes emotions, does it really benefit her as well? In my case I got the second wife because the benefit for my first wife was my motivator ans when the inquiring begun we realized the second wife benefitted far more in terms of family gain and also she had more benefits for all of us then we realized, I believe Allah lined it up so well for us because my intention to find the second wife was full of prayer and focus on my first wife, but also because I went so far to invite my first wife into the inquiring. My wives became fast friends and were texting and calling eachother "my sister" before I even knew what was going on and hamdulillah the one time I committed the sin of complaining about one wife to the other she told me "I will lsiten to you and be here for you, but if you are going to soeak about my sister when you are upset then I cannot share any words with you." Mashallah this all came because the intention was good and clear.
Whatever your reasons were and how you got to that point is a blessing in the end. Good for you brother. I only have one wife, but I think a man who has kept his first marriage well and has kept his first wife well, is a great candidate to marry again. If he can manage one, then he can manage a second. This is what a lot of people are missing I think. Usually, we are seeing cases of a guy who has a train wreck of a marriage with his first and then decides to get a second wife. What makes him think the second marriage will be any better? More successful men who have managed a successful marriage should be the ones to go and marry a second time. We will start to see a better example of polygamy.
If I marry a virgin who didn’t sleep with anyone before then one wife is enough for me but if she committed zina before our marriage then Insha Allah I will get 2nd wife no matter however she feels...
You are entitled to your own opinion but I hope that u know that scholars advise people to hide their past. That being said u will never know if she is a virgin or not as according to science u will never be able to tell. (Unless she tells you which she is not obliged to tell you) RasulAllah SAW married non virgins apart from 1
@@heavenzbreeze7763zina is different from married women who were once married before so please don’t compare them I will never marry a zani woman. It’s an insult to compare the two
@@Muhammed-Dee Yes they are different for sure but İslam does not discriminate on the zani provided he or she sincerely makes tawbah. If tawbah is sincere their Mountain full of bad gets converted into a Mountain full of good. Plus u will only know if she or he is zaani if they tell u but islamically they don't have an obligation to tell us as that was their past.
@@Muhammed-Dee we can add condition in marriage simply pls don't look for women who don't commit Zina look for women who are loyal but Muslim women who commit Zina are not loyal take turkey for example they have many times more infediltly cases then west because through the life they are having secret relationship from their parents person they knows . When they do after marriage it's not big deal for a woman. in west she may have multiple boyfriend . But going on someone back to affair is very big thing for them as they have not done it in past
@@unknown-or7fi I’ll only seek to marry a virgin. That’s my opinion and I’ll stick to it. A divorcee is also good, I can marry a divorcee but not a zani
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I just mended my relation with my wife. I am not thinking of second one now.
Remember the perfect marriage is the one in which to imperfect spouses refuse to giveup on each other.
Sometimes she is just waiting for you to take the step....
Alhamdulillah, my husband don't want 2nd wife and promise me that I'm the only 1. May Allah grant my husband Jannatul firdaws and give all his wishes in Jannah Inshallah
Ameen thumma ameen and may Allah grant you jannat al fordaus too sister. Many thanks for sharing. Ramadan Mubarak to you and your family 🥰🤲🏼💞🤲🏼
@@heavenzbreeze7763 Ramadan Kareem 😇
@@marujafajardo3287 Thank you so much 🤲🏼😇🤲🏼
And may he grant jennah to all the the men who the men who are polygamous. Because they also are following what all has allowed.
@@papasul29 Inshallah, polygamous in the right way
1. Khadijah bint Khuwaylid
• Status before marriage to the Prophet: Widow (twice married)
• Previous children: Six children from previous marriages.
• With her first husband, Abu Halah, she had two children: Hind and Halah.
• With her second husband, Atiq ibn ‘A’idh, she had one daughter, Hind.
2. Sawda bint Zam’a
• Status before marriage to the Prophet: Widow
• Previous children: She had a son, Abdur Rahman, from her previous marriage to Sakran ibn Amr.
3. Aisha bint Abi Bakr
• Status before marriage to the Prophet: Single (never married)
• Previous children: None
4. Hafsa bint Umar
• Status before marriage to the Prophet: Widow
• Previous children: None (from her previous marriage to Khunais ibn Hudhafa)
5. Zaynab bint Khuzayma
• Status before marriage to the Prophet: Widow (twice married)
• Previous children: None
6. Umm Salama (Hind bint Abi Umayya)
• Status before marriage to the Prophet: Widow
• Previous children: Four children from her previous marriage to Abu Salama: Salama, Umar, Zaynab, and Durra.
7. Zaynab bint Jahsh
• Status before marriage to the Prophet: Divorced
• Previous children: None
8. Juwayriya bint al-Harith
• Status before marriage to the Prophet: Widow
• Previous children: None
9. Umm Habiba (Ramlah bint Abi Sufyan)
• Status before marriage to the Prophet: Widow
• Previous children: One daughter, Habiba, from her previous marriage to Ubayd Allah ibn Jahsh.
10. Safiyya bint Huyayy
• Status before marriage to the Prophet: Widow
• Previous children: None
11. Maymunah bint al-Harith
• Status before marriage to the Prophet: Widow (twice married)
• Previous children: None
Prophet Muhammad SAW only had children with Khadijah RA.
Prophet Muhammad SAW was very wealthy before he married Khadijah RA and he was married only to her until she passed away.
While the exact amount of the Prophet’s dowry to Khadijah is not definitively recorded, estimates place it at a modest sum equivalent to $30,000 USD or a little less in today’s value, reflecting the simplicity and mutual understanding that characterized their marriage.
The topic of polygamy in Islam and why it is not broadly recommended today, despite its permissibility, requires understanding its historical context, the Prophet Muhammad’s (peace be upon him) specific circumstances, and Islamic principles of justice and fairness.
1. The Context of Polygamy in the Time of the Prophet
Polygamy existed in Arabia long before Islam. Pre-Islamic Arabs practiced polygamy without limitation, often leading to injustice and the neglect of wives and children. Islam reformed and regulated this practice, setting strict guidelines to ensure fairness and justice:
• Limiting the Number of Wives: Islam restricted polygamy to a maximum of four wives, provided the husband could treat them all equally in terms of material and emotional support.
• Surah An-Nisa (4:3): “If you fear that you will not be just, then marry only one.”
• Justice as a Condition: The Qur’an emphasizes justice as a prerequisite for polygamy, warning that perfect justice, particularly in emotional matters, is difficult to achieve:
• Surah An-Nisa (4:129): “You will never be able to be just between wives, even if you strive to do so.”
Polygamy was allowed in the context of specific social needs, such as supporting widows, orphans, and ensuring the stability of the community during a time when wars left many women without protection.
2. The Prophet’s Specific Case
The marriages of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) were exceptional and primarily aimed at fulfilling specific social, political, and humanitarian objectives, rather than personal desire. Here’s why his case was unique:
A. Humanitarian and Protective Reasons
Many of the Prophet’s marriages were to widows or divorced women who were vulnerable and needed protection:
• Sawda bint Zam’a: A widow who needed support after her husband passed away.
• Umm Salama: A widow with young children who needed care after her husband’s death.
B. Strengthening Community Ties
Some marriages were conducted to unite tribes, strengthen alliances, and diffuse hostilities:
• Juwayriya bint al-Harith: Her marriage brought her entire tribe closer to Islam.
• Safiyya bint Huyayy: This marriage reduced enmity between her tribe and the Muslims.
C. Conveying Islamic Teachings
Through his various marriages, the Prophet established a practical example for how to manage different marital situations justly. His wives became scholars and teachers, preserving and conveying knowledge about the Prophet’s private life and personal conduct to future generations.
D. Living Modestly Despite Wealth
While the Prophet Muhammad had access to wealth, he lived extremely modestly, often giving away his wealth to those in need. His lifestyle and treatment of his wives demonstrated his commitment to justice and humility, not luxury or excess.
3. Why Polygamy Is Not Recommended for Most People Today
A. Challenges in Meeting the Conditions of Justice
The strict conditions for polygamy outlined in the Qur’an make it difficult for most men to practice it without committing injustice:
• Financial responsibility: A man must provide equally for all wives, including housing, food, and clothing.
• Emotional and time management: Equal time, attention, and care must be given to each wife, which is challenging in today’s fast-paced world.
• Emotional justice: While material fairness is achievable, emotional equality is nearly impossible, as the Qur’an acknowledges.
B. Economic and Social Realities Today
In today’s world, maintaining multiple households is often financially and socially impractical:
• Economic strain: Many men lack the financial resources to adequately support multiple families.
• Social complications: Polygamy may lead to discord within families and communities, particularly in societies that value monogamy.
C. Changed Social Context
The historical circumstances that made polygamy necessary during the Prophet’s time, such as caring for war widows and uniting tribes, are less prevalent today. Modern social systems and laws often provide alternative solutions for supporting vulnerable individuals.
D. Risk of Harm to Women and Families
Without the Prophet’s unique qualities of justice, patience, and wisdom, polygamy can lead to:
• Neglect and unfair treatment of wives.
• Emotional distress for women and children.
• Jealousy and rivalry among co-wives, leading to family instability.
4. Islam Prioritizes Monogamy When Justice Cannot Be Ensured
Islam’s default recommendation is monogamy for most people:
• Surah An-Nisa (4:3): The verse itself advises marrying one wife if there is fear of injustice.
• Sunnah of the Prophet: The Prophet himself was monogamous for 25 years during his marriage to Khadijah, highlighting the ideal of a strong, singular marital bond.
5. Conclusion
Polygamy in Islam is permissible but heavily regulated and is not generally recommended unless specific conditions are met. The Prophet Muhammad’s polygamy was a unique case rooted in social and humanitarian objectives, not personal desire or wealth. Today, given the difficulties in ensuring justice, economic pressures, and changing social conditions, monogamy remains the most suitable and recommended marital arrangement for most Muslims.
This is so annoying especially right now I can feel the shift and tension in this regard there are so many abusive toxic marriages and people aren’t even committed to fixing the first one but so ready to hop on a second one the way some men speak about it sexually is so disgusting and awful SubhanAllah
No men want 4 wives but they dont know the rate of divorce in pur communisty is getting extremely high .
I agree with you… Men are foul creatures who only have one thing in mind
What if the first wife is unfixable? the ruling is clear bro. Man can have multiple wives if he can justice among them and he doesnt need any permission from any of his wife.
@@badolgiringya5035Marry the women of your choice 2, 3 or 4. But if you are afraid you'll fail to maintain justice then content yourself with one or those boundwomen in your possession, this way you are less likely to commit injustice (4:3) You will never be able to maintain emotional justice between your wives no matter how keen you are (4:129)
Iblis places his throne upon water and sends his groups (helpers) to do evil deeds. The closest to him are those who tempt people to commit the most grievous of sins (fitnah). They come to him to tell him about what they did. One of them says, ‘I have done such-and-such.’ However, Iblis tells him, ‘You have done nothing.’ Another one comes and says, ‘I did not leave a man until I caused him to leave his wife and divorce her.’ Iblis becomes very pleased and calls him close to his throne and says to him, ‘How good you are!’” (Muslim, Munafiqun 67; Musnad, 3/314).... Allah said: (2:256) famously declares "There is no compulsion (forcing) in religion... You take about sunnah, start with your fard also Muslim brothers ignore the sunnah of fasting on mondays and Thursdays, they ignore the sunnah of praying 2 Rakats before fair, they forget that Tahajjud is a sunnah. The only sunnah they remember is to marry 4 wives... as Muslims we must fear Allah swt and not change the deen to suit our needs, unless we want Allah punishment to come upon us,
two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then one [marry only] from Quran...
And you will never be able to be equal just between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. From quran from Quran...
Allah said
Verily, Allah orders justice and good conduct and giving to relatives and he forbids immorality and bad conduct and transgression. He admonishes you that perhaps you will be reminded.
Surat An-Nahl 16:90
And Allah says
O you who believe, be persistently standing firm for Allah as witnesses in justice, and do not let the hatred of a people prevent you from being just. Be just, for that is nearer to righteousness. Fear Allah, for Allah is aware of what you do.
Surat Al-Ma’idah 5:8
“A man who has two wives and who is completely inclined to one and who ignores the other emerges with one side of his body paralysed in the Day of Judgment.” (Hadith; Ibn Majah, Nikah, 47; Mishkat al-masabih, 2/196)
A woman does not consent to share her husband with another woman under normal circumstances, and no woman would like to marry a married man unless she has to.
It is a necessity of belief that polygamy is right. However, to believe it does not necessarily mean for a woman to consent to the second wife and approve it.
No believer father would like his son-in-law to marry a second, third or fourth woman along with his daughter. The jealous nature of the woman and the affection of the father for his daughter disapproves this. As a matter of fact, the daughter of our beloved Prophet, Sayyidah Fatima, objected to her husband, Ali’s marrying of a second woman. If it weren’t permissible to object, Sayyidah Fatima, who was brought up by our Prophet, would not have objected. The Messenger of Allah would have warned her and ordered her to consent to her husband’s wish. However, it did not take place like that. On the contrary, the Messenger of Allah, who saw that his daughter was worried, asked Ali to give up his wish and told him that if he did not give it up, he could marry another woman after divorcing Sayyidah Fatima. He did not consent to Ali’s second marriage to depress his daughter.
By considering that act of the Messenger of Allah, it can be stated that Muslim daughters and fathers may object to the second marriage of their husband or son-in-law.
I believe that GOD FEARING MEN would never ATTEMPT that sunnah because in the QURAN!!! it says it’s BEST for men to have one. in cases of poverty where women are in need of men and there are not enough men, this is where polygamy comes into play… However we see men in perfectly fine areas engaging in polygamy for their own selfish needs and they will answer to that on judgement day. Playing with women as if they are concubines. Muslim women are to be respected. My husband is a god fearing man, he is loyal to me and I am loyal to him. Respect goes both ways
You are a woman who needs to stidy the Deen and not put your own emotions to deny what Allah has made Halal
SubhanAllah how ignorant you are of Allahs religion
Where in the quran does it say its best to marry one ?
Rather Allah says to marry 2 3 or 4 THEN If Justice cant be dont then to marry one
Was the prophet and the sahaaba not god fearing men?
@@mohammedalamin9118 do you see prophet and other men the same to you 🤔
@@ramlawarsame2952 the prophet ﷺ wasnt sent except as an example to his nation, that which he says and does within the religion automatically becomes sunnah,
there are more women than men it has always been like this if we went your way many muslim sisters would never experience marriage and a family. Polygamy in fact is beneficial to women. Also I say this as a married man who has no interest in 2nd wife.(too much pressure)
Upset my husband left me and 3 kids 3 years ago and thinks it's acceptable to lie daily how is this Sunnah is lying daily permissible I have rights too I should be informed so I can leave
Sadly that is Islam. Do you want your daughters to go through the same harm that Islam puts women through?
It’s not Islam. It’s irresponsible men.
In Islam women are just slaves.
@@shabs2134 you are ^pathetic. trying to persuade a good woman .
Islam : the first univesity was made by a muslim woman!, islam is great for women. Thirsty men who want to abuse women, are always angry to see them wear hijab. you can f off. and leave this woman alone. she knows her ex husband doesnt follow sunna.
I’m a Christian but my maternal grandfather was .
He was such a good man! When my mum converted to Christianity he initially didn’t like it and threatened to disown her but he eventually came around when he got to see us(his grandchildren)
He had a total of 6wives in his lifetime
Never more than 4 living wives, he married another when he lost some of his wives
All except the last one were widows with children! He had several houses so the first building was for my grandmother who was the first and his second wife
Another house was given to the third and only the last stayed with him.
And he took care of them and their children! In fact all the female children bride price were paid to him.
It was much later when I was older and i was talking to one of my cousins and I said do you know all grandpa’s wives except the last one were widows and had children before he married them? My cousin said that he did it to take care of them and their children. That it is a form of “dawr” not sure if I spelled it correctly.
I think generosity is one of the things I learnt from him
Oh my...Lost for words. Thank u soo soo mch for sharing that. He married for noble reasons. What a legend! 🤲🏼💞💞💞🤲🏼
A Christian from whom Muslim women can learn.
SubhanaLah, very supercial understanding and didn't expect Menk not to go deep into the real matter. When men speak about 2nd wife, it's because they find it necessity when are surrounded by haram, so they don't think it is just sunnah to exchaust, but as a necessity and halal way to protect themselves from haram. It's not a game or for fun, it's more than that. I wish he spoke about the real issue decent men, and decent women, are facing nowadays and the solutions.
If I would be in that culture and my husband would got married a second wife I sure would find a lover and cheat back on him! And making sure he finds out!!!
Why women can't have second husband?!
But anyhow Polygamy must be encouraged nowadays, so that We can create a chaste ummah..Justice is it's important aspect here
Yes it has its perks for noble reasons e.g if a man is JUST he can help widows, divorces etc out. It's just not every woman be able to handle it.
Not to say widows and single mums don't get single proposals because they still do elhamdulillah but can be more difficult for them if they have more than 1 child.
İn countries such as the UK it is illegal to have 2 wives. Only 1 can be registered so its important people know that too before they get into trouble with the law trying to register 2 lol
That's why I'm married to a Jinn hes more loyal than these human men!!!
@@JahannamIsReal lol
i am only saving my heart for one i decided who its gonna be
Awww my little brother..May Allah protect your heart and grant u all the success in this life and the next ameeeen 🤲
@@heavenzbreeze7763 ameen jazaki Allahu khairun
@@suliman6155 Ameen wa iyyakum. I just realised it was u now lolll
@Love isn't Lust ameen jazakhallah khair
وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تُقْسِطُوا۟ فِى ٱلْيَتَـٰمَىٰ فَٱنكِحُوا۟ مَا طَابَ لَكُم مِّنَ ٱلنِّسَآءِ مَثْنَىٰ وَثُلَـٰثَ وَرُبَـٰعَ ۖ فَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تَعْدِلُوا۟ فَوَٰحِدَةً أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَـٰنُكُمْ ۚ ذَٰلِكَ أَدْنَىٰٓ أَلَّا تَعُولُوا۟ ٣
If you fear you might fail to give orphan women their ˹due˺ rights ˹if you were to marry them˺, then marry other women of your choice-two, three, or four. But if you are afraid you will fail to maintain justice, then ˹content yourselves with˺ one or those ˹bondwomen˺ in your possession. This way you are less likely to commit injustice.
The Quran starts off with mentioning two then three and four and if you cannot treat them justly then only one, so what is mufti Menk even saying about sunnah, May Allah guide him
Thank god I m not born in such a religion where more than one wife is allowed otherwise I had to live my whole life in anxiety
Lol bless you. The religion allows it to be in the marriage contract if the wife does not allow more than 1 wife during her lifetime. If the husband agrees, she can continue with the marriage. If he does not agree, he can go marry someone else. Because having more than 1 wife is optional not compulsory the woman has a right to refuse it and get it written in her marriage contract if she does not want that to happen at any point.
@@heavenzbreeze7763 and allah alows polygamy also. We talk like allah made a mistake with this rule. I accept and submit to everything allah says not just some of what he allows.
If a woman doesn't want polygamy thats fine. But its also fine if polygamy is done
@@papasul29 I know Allah allows it.
Dont know what religion you follow but Islam is the only religion on the face of Earth that limit the number to 4 that too says if you cant do justice marry only one. but there are no limitations in other religions. Just google how many wives Solomon had? and Krishna? lol
Alhamdulillah there's a reward for reviving lost sunnahs. But Allah knows best what is the consequence of crushing a sunnah. The sunnah of polygyny.
@@ArchyP
You strawmaned my argument. Incase you are not aware of the hadith.
‘Amr ibn ‘Awf reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Know that whoever revives a tradition from my Sunnah if it has died out after me, he will have a reward like those who act upon it without diminishing any of their rewards..."
Weaknesses towards women is something Allah created in men. He gave us halal avenues we are allowed to take to ease the trial.
@@ArchyP No one is saying Rasulullah (saws) married out of lust. But where is the evidence for it being haram or even makrooh to do so. In fact it could be said to the contrary because if a man fulfilled his lust in a haram way he is sinful and if he does it in a halal way he is rewarded (Abu Darr (ra) reported Rasulullah (saws) said "Having intercourse (with one’s wife) is a charity.” They said, “O Messenger of Allaah, if one of us fulfils his desire, is there reward in that?” He said, “Do you not see that if he does it in a haraam way he will have the burden of sin? So if he does it in a halaal way, he will have a reward for that.”). Also the verse was indicating if you are unable to be just with marrying orphan women, then marry others non orphan: 2, 3 or 4, if you can't be just, then 1. Some scholars even go to say that the fact that Allah starts with Polygyny instead of monogomy is also indicating something. Allah knows best.
I divorced my husband because of polygamy marriages Allhumduillah, I'm free and happy now!. Polygamy marriages are evil.
@@ArchyP @Jahannam or Jannah? ruclips.net/video/q_MjRSZn3ZE/видео.html&ab_channel=Na%E2%80%99imaB.Robert
@@ArchyP To be fair and open this would be an option for the women if she chooses not to be in a polygyny. A better option than forcing a meaning into the Quran.
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Didn’t Allah say marry 2, 3 or 4 and if you could not be just marry 1 and that would be best.. Allah didn’t start saying marry 1,2,3 or 4
Remember SISTERS - one of your biggest problems is taking advice from other women and #Simps
Men can take 2nd, 3rd upto 4th wife at the same time but they have to maintain justice among the wives. Any sister disagree with the ruling means disagree with the words of ALLAH SWT Audubillah. If any sister dislikes its okay but know this if you havent stipulated in your marriage contract about only one wife then dont complain when brother gets multiple wives. because he can do it. its his right.
What kind of fuck are you talking😂😂😂😂😂
What justice ?? Is he a judge
Simply he need to gives equal fuck to😂
Men should only marry those woman now who gave permission of second marriage in their marriage contract which was default some 100 years ago. That would lead to more happy marriages.
This is a better option for sure as will lead to less broken homes.
Number of Males
The number of males in the world in 2024 is estimated to be 4.10 billion, which represents 50.28% of the global population
Number of Females
The number of females in the world in 2024 is estimated to be 4.06 billion, accounting for 49.72% of the global population
So, if a man do 1+2+3
It is OK to have a second wife?
When did Allah and prophet Muhammad said these conditions
Pls.. Stop fighting what God allowed for his creations
God who made men know their needs
You will never born in a man body to admit that God know what he is doing
Alhmdulelah ❤️❤️
Polygamy is a test for men and women
Ya Allah hamein bhi apni naik bandiyoon mein se biwi ata farma jo hamri zindgi aur akhirat dono ko sanwary,
Alhamdullilah married to 4th.Women shout too much before marriage but they adjust more rapidly.
Elhamdulillah brother if you can treat them all equally and are not unjust with them, then you won't need to worry about punishment on yawmul qiyamah that is given to those who do not treat wives fairly.
@@rosealvs if it was filthy Allah would not make it halal would he?? Watch your words
@@imamolamidebashir3566 I think it's safe to say that lust and betrayal is infact filthy? And I think God is a pure and a holy God, who condones such things. It's natural for women to feel that hurt when you give loyalty from your side. Also, i would like to believe that the prophet was a noble and upright person and married for noble causes (to bring his enemies together, to help widows) Not for lust. Infact he was committed towards one woman his whole life until her death. So to me, he made this permissible to give women security. When you marry women to help them, the dynamic is different. It's like you owning a cattle that u have to look after. But when you give commitment and loyalty in a marriage, thats a totally different dynamic. It's where you view that women, not as a cattle, but as a person like you are. You treat her like you want to be treated or....loved. So if u think God made lust halal then you yourself are building a bad image of him. I think he's a holy God and made it permissible for holy reasons.
@@imamolamidebashir3566 totally agree with you
@@rosealvs lust means to have very stong sexual desires for someone. So if you're husband had strong sexual desires towards you thats would be wrong lol. I disagree. As long as you're sexual desires are committed towards your spouse whom you married with is halal then its fine. Its when you used your lust and desires towards fornication and un wed sex that it becomes haram and wrong. Other than that have strong sexual desires or lust with your married spouse is permitted and halal
I just got off one and very afraid of one let alone 2! My experience if you put Allah first and treat women with dignity, compassion and respect they may see that as a sign of weakness instead of faith in Allah! May Allah forgive us and guide us to Jannah
I am a single mother and I am thinking about this option
Most welcome 🤗
You’re a dumbass
Girl don't do it I'm a single mom and I did this😂 it's one of those hard lessons
@@ReinaAfricana All the glitter are not Gold
Go for it . Be a spare part.
Brothers DONT BE SHAMED for the interest in polygyny that's mentioned in Surah (An Nisa 4:3) Remember there's no monogamy in Jannah. Sadly we see more backlash about Halal polygyny than Haram relationships (same sex marriage included) SMH
Soul doesn’t have physical body and life in physical body is something completely different than when we’re in paradise. Marrying more than 1 wife is disobeying the command of Allah. Allah says it clearly. In Quran it’s written black on white than man can have only 1 wife. But it’s split into two parts and people are lazy to connect it. It’s written that man can have 1,2,3,4 wives given that he’ll be just to all of them. But in the second part is written that a man is unable to be just, that this attribute belongs only to Allah. Therefore a man is unable to have more than 1 wife. Men took from Quran what was benefiting their animal nature and disobeyed Allah. Man who cannot control himself should not marry, because he’d destroy the poor woman’s life. None of my friends living with these kind of men are happy. They’re full of rage, their kids raised not even seeing their father more than once/twice a week, because he’s busy with his other wives who hate each other, they all hate him for cheating on them and not having time for their kids, he has no place to call true home. Allah is wise and he knew it.
@@LyraPleia Audubillah where are you getting this tafseer from? please contact a scholar asap.
@@LyraPleia didn't you ever go to school, or are you JUST PLAIN DUMB???
@@dawahtothepeople1510 lamao. Read Quran you'll know much more than just getting more wives .. it comes with alot of responsibility and justice is imposible these days .. so im happy men like this will wake up paralyzed .. i mean in todays economy 😁🤣 working like a 🫏 will only give enough money to take care of one wife ( broke men wishing alot of wives is funniest thing ever ) .. may be keep ur brain out of ur pants and think about the consequences . 😌 yall leave fard prayers and other faraiz and sunna but o ly this is what stay in ur heads
Polygamy is halal. A man can marry up to 4 wives of meets the requirements.
No one told It's haram!
Just scholars says it's a huge responsibility! Even though you are rich can you treat them equally and don't make favorites? So it'a just advice no one tells men don't take 4 wife
Why do they need 2 nd wife ??
Wives don’t even get enough of one husband who goes on getting married and remarried, how horrible.
Second wife its not bad and wrong,,if you married with good way and follow Allahs commands and follow Islamic requirements
@@aishalazrak3864 and you are a muslim women yourself?
@@fuzailsid8453 Lmao what a simp.
Saying "Men are Polygamous by Nature" is against Islam..?
Why do almost all Scholars claim that men are polygamous by nature with no Islamic claim? This makes men think it's okay to open doors and feel for multiple women, when in the west, where everyone is treated "equally" women are equally polygamous, cheating on their husbands, for "fun" not for "love or emotional" reasons as many put it.
This means that both sexes are vulnerable in the same way.
I think the society allows men to behave this way or think this way, because it's a male dominated world, and they supressed women since the beginning of time, when in the end, both men and women are the same, committing the same sins. However, the world makes it okay for men to be this way, claiming its their nature. Ever wonder why Muslim parents will abandon their daughters forever if they caught them speaking to a guy but will not do anything if their son goes out and sleeps around with women? Why is that? In the Shariah, both is a sin, both are haram!
True women may be of more fitnah towards men, because women have more awrah to cover, yet they fail to, but most men are naturally in hijab, hence the reason for lesser fitnah for women.
The Polygamy allowed also speaks about helping widows or orphans, anyone who can clearly study the Quran can understand that. The Sahabah and Prophets mostly married older women who had children from other men who had died. If men want to follow the example of the Prophet, they should follow it in the way he practiced it. Wars were common, many women were left without homes or men to take care of them. Had Allah disapproved, we would suffer social issues.
There are many many many men who are happy with one wife, who dare not think about other women. Even having a thought of a non-mahram while married is a huge sin, how can one approach the thought of Polygamy knowing this is wrong? We see here the clear reasons for Polygamy. Some claim their wife is too fat or too old so they want to get another wife? It's because women are too busy with children they don't have time to even think of getting another man. Though the arab world makes it look like women have no physical desires or feelings.
The fact that society has suppressed this, is proof why they claim "Men are Polygamous by nature" I would like to see any type of proof from Islam that this is true? Men were more free to do whatever they pleased, this is the real reason, before Islam and after Islam. It's not a religious view, its a social view.
We Muslims are taught to follow the Quran and refer to sunnah and hadeeth, if men want to remarry, then why dont they read the verse on polygamy and refer to the sunnah and hadeeth? There are clear hadeeths that our Prophet pbuh the sahabah remarried older women to help them and be noble men for the sake of allah subhanwaltala, not for sexual reasons as Scholars put it these days.
Also when Hazrat Ali wanted to take a second wife for the reasons I put above, it made Hzt Fatima upset and Prophet pbuh forbade Hazrat Ali remarrying a second wife.
So if anyone can show a claim from ISLAM that men are polygamous, I would like to see. Please don't bring sciencists' claims into this, because even they claim things that go against Islam.
@@fuzailsid8453 Islam will never change for you or me. If you want to leave go ahead but it will never change. I pray you are guided.
@@Jamaljj indeed I’m guided I have understood I was wrong
Many Muslim ladies come up to me for consultation their facing discrimination or indifferent behaviour from their husband when their husband are having more than two wives, they are not happy themselves and feel so much jealousy among themselves so I would suggest that people should be very clear before hand whether they will be able to face such situation or not. I am not being discriminatory but I tell them what do you expect like a lady come up to me yesterday she said that his husband get married to another lady now this first wife feel so jealous I just told her don't get so much offended, because even his cards were coming positive so his husband really loved her as well but she was so jealous and she was overthinking kept overthinking all the time because of this.
In ongoing times of Fitnah , it is recommended to marry multiple times rather than having extra Marital affairs , Don't make this an issue
I am not making this an issue. This is NOT allowed for those who misuse the option!
@@heavenzbreeze7763Nobody is misusing the option.Polygamy is the future to solve single mother crisis created by feminists.Allah knows what's in your heart.You can't deceive Allah.If you hate polygamy you will be punished for itm
@@deathmarch8354 What do u mean nobody is misusing it? You are telling me who deals with divorce cases? 💀 You can speak for yourself but do not speak for others out there who use and abuse women. Go to London Fatwa council to see how many abuse this option. It is illegal in the UK 2 have a 2nd but I am not against Allah's ruling if it is used for noble purposes but at the same time a woman has a right to not want her man to habe more than 1. She can put that in her marriage contract and she can also change her mind later if she wishes. It is not haram to have this condition as Ibrahim alayhi salaam asked Sara for permission before marrying 2nd wife and also rasulAllah s.a.w didn't want his son in law marrying a 2nd. It is an optional option not fard, yet a woman has a right to not want it if she feels she cannot be patient with it. A man who can't treat more than 1 equally will come on the day of judgement disfigured. So dnt forget that part either! Have a good day brother.
@@heavenzbreeze7763 stupid hazrat ali didn't marry bcz that' was abu jahl extremist daughter...
Saying "Men are Polygamous by Nature" is against Islam..?
Why do almost all Scholars claim that men are polygamous by nature with no Islamic claim? This makes men think it's okay to open doors and feel for multiple women, when in the west, where everyone is treated "equally" women are equally polygamous, cheating on their husbands, for "fun" not for "love or emotional" reasons as many put it.
This means that both sexes are vulnerable in the same way.
I think the society allows men to behave this way or think this way, because it's a male dominated world, and they supressed women since the beginning of time, when in the end, both men and women are the same, committing the same sins. However, the world makes it okay for men to be this way, claiming its their nature. Ever wonder why Muslim parents will abandon their daughters forever if they caught them speaking to a guy but will not do anything if their son goes out and sleeps around with women? Why is that? In the Shariah, both is a sin, both are haram!
True women may be of more fitnah towards men, because women have more awrah to cover, yet they fail to, but most men are naturally in hijab, hence the reason for lesser fitnah for women.
The Polygamy allowed also speaks about helping widows or orphans, anyone who can clearly study the Quran can understand that. The Sahabah and Prophets mostly married older women who had children from other men who had died. If men want to follow the example of the Prophet, they should follow it in the way he practiced it. Wars were common, many women were left without homes or men to take care of them. Had Allah disapproved, we would suffer social issues.
There are many many many men who are happy with one wife, who dare not think about other women. Even having a thought of a non-mahram while married is a huge sin, how can one approach the thought of Polygamy knowing this is wrong? We see here the clear reasons for Polygamy. Some claim their wife is too fat or too old so they want to get another wife? It's because women are too busy with children they don't have time to even think of getting another man. Though the arab world makes it look like women have no physical desires or feelings.
The fact that society has suppressed this, is proof why they claim "Men are Polygamous by nature" I would like to see any type of proof from Islam that this is true? Men were more free to do whatever they pleased, this is the real reason, before Islam and after Islam. It's not a religious view, its a social view.
We Muslims are taught to follow the Quran and refer to sunnah and hadeeth, if men want to remarry, then why dont they read the verse on polygamy and refer to the sunnah and hadeeth? There are clear hadeeths that our Prophet pbuh the sahabah remarried older women to help them and be noble men for the sake of allah subhanwaltala, not for sexual reasons as Scholars put it these days.
Also when Hazrat Ali wanted to take a second wife for the reasons I put above, it made Hzt Fatima upset and Prophet pbuh forbade Hazrat Ali remarrying a second wife.
So if anyone can show a claim from ISLAM that men are polygamous, I would like to see. Please don't bring sciencists' claims into this, because even they claim things that go against Islam.
Therapy and counsel is an important factor in the strength of any relationship, having said that mastering the "other Sunnahs" is a lifetime - shouldn't look down, frown upon nor disregard Polygyny, but most men wouldn't be able to handle it, only a very few are able and in this day and age man's biggest problem is financing two, three or four families
Im a practing muslim teen and its always been my dream to get more than 1 wife. And i understand that going to this path will be hard but you have to understand chasing dreams will not be easy so i will work hard and inshallah i will get my wives.
And I will not let any women or man tell me not to follow the way of the prophet
And I also know many women won't like this message
If you can afford more than 1 and u can treat more than 1 JUST then that is your right. Yes and rasulAllah s.a.w was only married to one when he was married to Khadijah radiyallahu anha. After she passed away he married mostly elderly women radiyallahu anhum apart from Aisha radiyallahu anha. He did so for noble reasons.
If any of your wife has in her marriage contract that she doesn't want that, then if u breach that she has a right to leave you. RasulAllah s.a.w never wanted it for his daughter Fatima radiyallahu anha and Ali radiyallahu anhu agreed. This is why it's not haram to habe it in the contract if a wife thinks she can't handle it. However there will be women out there who will also agree. May Allah keep u on the right path and may u marry more than 1 if u can treat them equally, Be JUST and for noble reasons ameen. Sincerely wish u the best
@rasulkahramonov6307 I strongly agree with you brother inshallah.
But remember there are a lot of false prophet dress as sheep but underneath they are wolf. Don't listen to no woman or man and don't tell no one your goal because they will fill it with hate and jealousy. Carry it only in your heart that Allah see your desire and goal, he will fulfill your wants. Don't be fearful that many woman will say you can't because of money. Remember that money is man's made and if you can feed one mouth then is no different to feed 2 or 3. Wealth comes from growth and as you see your family growth so does your wealth because you will gain a desire to become more and earn more.
Keep your goal a secret that only Allah see and hear it. No human muslim can tell you what to do as they are not God and they are no prophets. Love you brother ❤️
@@heavenzbreeze7763well said ❤
No such thing as treating two people the same (unless they are identical twins raised by teh same mum, and even then probs not)
We have a lot of sunnah to practice
Choosing this one is a start of and a blessing though
2 minutes later:- she entered into her phone😂😂😂
That's nonsense. That's not the ONLY sunnah ANYBODY talks about. What circles is this guy hanging around with? The 2nd wife is not just a "Sunnah". It's also mentioned directly in the Quran. You trying to diminish it shows your heart.
Im english i moved to Egypt married have 3 kids now my husband married his cousin it was planned withoit me knowing he married her and then divorced her , i fear he will or is with another woman now because he is distant he works away and always says hes returning but never does for 2 or 3 or 5 days and he never calls or messgaes me unless i keep calling , he never stayed with me while i was pregnant and in labour with my third baby , i gave birth in my nighbours car a complete stranger , he wasnt interested in being around.
I was in love with him but the love has faded he showed me his side, he always stayed away from me and left me to live with his family in beginning and they hated and mistreated me , i cannot leave him or return to my homeland because he wont divorce me obviously because we have kids together.
May Allah may it easy for you sis. I feel how hard it is
@@georginawalters9979 don't worry he hell awaits him .. he misuse deen. And unjust men will wake up paralyzed
your suffering is Allah's blessing .He had given permission to man to marry 4 women as long as he treat all of them equally .Didn't he treat all of you equally?Why are you complaining then?
If a man is financially well off and is practising the religion. I personally think he should do istikarah properly and the night prayer as well as talking to a scholar who specializing in this field. Their are million more women than men in uk. Their are so many sisters who die alone and the numbers are increasing in the uk. scholars need to address this situation
I think more men are lonely in the UK. More men are single by far. Where did you get your numbers from?
@@blockpart2184 he didn’t , he just wanted to justify his urges….
Yes they just have to get their point justified 🧐
But that doesn't mean the females would feel okay sharing their husband. Some females would rather choose to be single than share their husband. Females have feelings too and are just as possessive for their husband as any man would be over his wife.
@@op_chop2341 iam a man. If i wanna justify only my urge i wouldn't get married and take on all that responsibility ect to justify 10 mins if urge. I would do what most men do who only wanna justify a urge. Do it and leave. Not get married lol
I’m just going to marry 4 wives at once, that way neither of them have a number attributed.
Inshallah this is the way to ardent fairness.
You can’t brother
@@kevindurant6064 Where does it say a man can’t marry more than one at the same time?
what a dumb statement. numbers has nothing to do with this, just like children are not categorised by the order they are born.
@@razamughal9095 Children are categorized by the order they were born what are you saying? “This is our first children, this is our second child, etc..”
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Proud to be Ex-muslim ❤
nice paragraph of waffle, please dont try and defend Islam if you cant do it without making things up@@Wtakerman
@@uzzy_787he didn't say much
Lol. Have fun near to the end before the sun goes down.
@@Blaze0071 and yet so much incorrect info
ex-muslim??????????????????????
Brothers aim to get married to 4, don’t stick to just one wife
Let the brothers treat one justly first. They can't marry more than one unless they treat the first good otherwise they will be punished on yawmul qiyamah. Plus if they do marry more than one should be for noble reasons
@@heavenzbreeze7763 what’s your concept of justice? Even Sawda (RA) gave up one of her nights so that the Prophet SAW could spend more time with Aisha RA. Not everything has to be exactly equal, just meaningful. For example housing one wife in a house might be equally meaningful to another wife who’s happy living in an apartment. Furthermore, just as women can make conditions on marriage, in Shariah, a man is also allowed to stipulate conditions and a woman can remove some of her rights. Sometimes this suits a woman’s lifestyle too. And they 100% can marry another wife even up to 4 with arrangements with each of their wives. Furthermore, it doesn’t have to be for noble reasons, it can just be for their desire which is also 100% allowed in Islam. It is also permitted for them to get married to virgin women and not just divorced / widowed women although the majority will probably take the latter as a multiple wife anyway.
I get the feeling you were married once but husband wanted to take a second wife or did take hence your bitter?
@@yourfamilydoctor172 If you are a man of honour then please do not assume or potentially slander your sisters in islam. My teacher is Shaykh Yazdani so does that mean he is bitter as a man? He knows how many men misuse this option and abuse women and so do I as I deal with divorce cases. Yes I was married and I left my husband and no he did not cheat but did not want our child. Next time please think before you assume before you feel ashamed.
@@heavenzbreeze7763tbh I don’t really care who your teacher is, I’m referring to you. Women also abuse their husbands and quickly want to get a divorce over trivial things, in fact, most divorces are initiated by women, you can check the stats yourself. In Islam It’s probably why men have been given the authority to divorce and not women. You can also ask your teacher about what I referred to earlier and see who is right.
@@yourfamilydoctor172 This not a competition between men and women and who is better. I am a JUST person. My teacher is a male that's my point so don't make this into an issue about making me look like a bitter person because I am a female or assume negative things about me. You habe no right to do that. I don't entertain negativity/slander so please stay in your lane. Thank you. Salam
Assalam U Alaykum
And what if you are a pure Muslim Alhamdolillah, you never do Zinnah , never commit sin, never look at women, never do alcohol , fulfil all Islamic duties , and you are married since last 19 years and you are still young at age 39 and HAVE NO KIDS?
Wa alaykum assalam, of course that is valid reason. Speak to the wife kindly and get her to agree so u don't end up losing her either.
@@heavenzbreeze7763 yeah She is always insisting me to get marry and have kids but to be honest it is so hard to find a pure soul I mean I want totally Islamic Lady for me , I have even seen dreams and Quran Pak verses in which it is mentioned there are pious women for pious men
Pray for me May Allah Kareem help me Aameen
@@heavenzbreeze7763and if she don't agree thene What?
Would u b happy if the infertility problem was with u and ur wife left u to marry someone else?
@@shabanamushtaq4935 I would must give her an opportunity to either leave me or stay with me as this is the right/rule set by Islam not by someone individual
We follow islam as a religion so everything which relates to the Religion We must need to obey it and follow it
It is not that We use the Religion as we want it like , no that’s not the way of life
It’s sunnah to have 4 wife’s nothings wrong with it 👍
yes it is and also your wife is not supposed to wash your clothes and work for you as it is not her work too..her sole purpose is to takecare of children.she is not obliged to takecare of you old parents too
Yes that’s good but the topic is about having 4 wives not washing clothes and looking after inlaws
@@iqra786ful yup but men should know about women rights in islam if they are going to have a 2nd or 3rd one.Also a woman can also leave a man if he does not satisfy her sexually...so it goes both ways.
Men do know about women’s rights it’s just in this day and age our Muslim women have become more westernised that’s the problem 👍
Follow the footsteps of the prophet (PBUH). His wisdom guides the way.
I am content with what Allah has ordained alhamdillah thankfully I’m not shaming men for their right to get married a second tim3
men know only one sunnah..
what women knows ..
backbiting( geebat ) ,i,, envy hasad ,blaming husbands, husbands faults (shohar ki na shukri...)
Greedy of money .
Greedy of property.
Greediness of duniya
@@usamasohail3294 how about you not slander all women. Plenty of us follow Islam properly and try to be good Muslims.
@@shimmer4771 all women doing the things I mentioned..
More specially 99.99 women not accepting second wife of hubby and kill hubby even he is doing justice
@@shimmer4771 bcz all are like that .
100% women does sins what I mentioned and pretend that they are most innocent women in the world..
Go to hell
@@shimmer4771may allah bless u sister and if ur husband marry another wife just tell ur husband to satisfy ur sexual needs in time and to emotionally love u ❤
Don't expect to be authority figures like our fathers who treat us like princesses. You have to earn your respect....you just want free cleaner, free cook , free lover, free child bearer show us actual respect & true love not just using her body as meat shop😠
Is the permission of 1st wife required to marry the 2nd wife?
If she has put it in her marriage contract that she does not want him to have another wife whilst he is married to her, then yes he must tell her. If he still proceeds to marry the 2nd despite this then he has breached the condition and she has a right to leave if she wishes.
@@heavenzbreeze7763 I am a man and I understand thr need for capable men to marry a 2nd wife. It is much better to tell the wife. Because you have nothing to lose because if it isn't in thr contract she can't divorce you for it, and also because it will be easier to be just.
If she is patient, her faith increases, Allah will reward her and the marriage will be better because of the jealousy.
Advice to women, if you don't like it, please let them know before you are even married.
@@ttllz3537 Salam, I just wanted to know a man's perspective as a woman about having a second wife. Would you want a second wife under any circumstances like already having kids with your first one or not satisfied in bed with your first wife?
@@a.3106 I mean it's about variety mainly. Men want a variety of women. A non sexual reason is having more children.
@@ttllz3537 sorry I didn't really get that, would or woudn't you? U can also explain longer if you want, my English isn't that strong excuse me for that..
The only ayah and hadith I see my mother and women in my house talk about is ayah in regards to obedience to parents and jannah being under the foot of the mother. Wonder why no shaikh ever mention of this ayah and hadith the same way in regards to women as they do with this matter.
All the ayah are of the same value in Quran my dear brother because all are words of ALLAH SWT. Just because your women talk about ayah which they like doesnt mean other ayah doesnt exist. Men can practice polygamy given he do justice among all his wives. The shaikhs talk about this ayah more because many sisters straight deny this or even disagree with the ruling of ALLAH SWT. for example just ask your women folk what do they think about polygamy in Islam and youll get my point.
@@badolgiringya5035 this is problematic. A wise person accepts the decree of Allah. Many Muslims aren't taught Islam properly. However, though a woman is required to accept polygamy, it is her nature to be jealous. That's part of her creation.
Yeah that true btw but thats also true they should not oppose polygamy if the man is financially and physically fit, here physically refers to satisfy the sexual needs as more wives means more demands😅@@shimmer4771
Polygamy is not just sunnah, it is a solution.
Lot of men do not want second wife...it seems is this true😊
If you mistreat him , it's his right to get love from 2nd , Don't be mad , you don't want your son to be treated the way you are treating your husband
Of course if she is unjust he has that right. But also if he mistreat her she has a right to get khula from him and re-marry someone else. It works both ways!
@@heavenzbreeze7763 still you can't do anything about this Haq of Man , sorry
@@mahanooralvi2403 I know exactly the haqq of a man and woman. Allah is very fair elhamdulillah. My teacher is an Islamic jurist from London Fatwa council. His name is Shaykh Yazdani. This is a sunnah option NOT a fard. The same way a woman can have in her nikah contract if she does not want her husband having more than 1 wife whilst married to her and if he breaches that trust breaches that contract, she has a right to divorce him if she cannot be patient. AND if he does marry more than 1 and doesn't treat them equally he will have to face a severe punishment on Judgement day!
@@heavenzbreeze7763 everyone knows that
@@heavenzbreeze7763 I thought you are only here to destroy hubby wife relationship...you got divorce by your husband doesn't mean you destroy others relationship also..
And for you information..
Polygamy is fard if one has fear of adultery zina ..
And it is happening with 90% men..
So I don't think you should make any negativity about POLYGAMous marriage..
You talk about the second wife
And showing your beauty of your eyes
Astgfurallah!
Calm down. Please stop making masculinity in Islam look insecure and weak. Please.
Her husband is going to marry and she can't do anything about it .. sorry
That’s why aisha ra said in an authentic hadith that the woman that are most unhappy in life are Muslim women
I feel so happy to see B r O k e men su ffer .. bcz they can only dream about mutltiple wives .. but can't afford even one wife 😇 they work hard like 🫏 to provide for her and children but keep dreaming about 4 lol 😇
@@hamzamehboobawan im so happy how majority of men will wake up paralized on the day of judgement for being unjust 😇bcz they misuse deen for their benefits .. im so happy that broke men (majority can't even afford one wife but dream about it to suffer ) and when the work day and night to provide for their wife and children they look like a Hardworking = 🫏 bcz todays economy is expensive .. 😁 (its His duty to take care of expenses anyway so seeing them in this state heal me I've seen few in this miserable state 🤤 ) i mean go ahead get more wives and work like a 🫏 to take care of them how peaceful in todays world :)
She can leave so yes she can do something about it. She has free will and autonomy to decide for herself.
@@hamzamehboobawan yeah she can leave him 😂 his loss.
Brother im in s big dilemma i converted to islam for my partner he was my life his family was not happy with his decision to marry a convert they thought im not good addition to their family and pressureed him to marry his cousin. Now after his marriage he still feels the same for me and cry everyday. I want to be there for him ss he showed me the true path of Allah . Can i get married to him. I really love him
Assalamu alaykum sister,
I'm so sorry to know of this. Yes but he should inform the 1st wife and if law in the country u are living in it permits a 2nd marriage, then u can. If it does not permit it then people can only do nikah not English legal registry. (As that can only be done for 1 spouse)
It will be sad if he marries u and loses the 1st wife too. It is not fair on her if he does it inprivate so make sure he informs her.
A man must be JUST must treat both wives equally.
Sincerely wishing u the best
Men who have 2nd wifes are the real men. Taking on more responsibilities. May Allah reward them for being unselfish and taking care of my Muslim sisters.
They are selfish 😂😂😂
Bro they had second wife for lustfull reasons
@@ramlawarsame2952 Would you say that if your husband married a widow as a 2nd wife? or a divorced women with kids that need support?
@@Jamaljj i would not 🙏 . If they marry to help women i am okay with it 💕❤️
@@ramlawarsame2952 Yeah that's how it should be not marrying a virgin for 2nd wife like the companions of the prophet PBUH. May Allah bless you take care sister.
@@Jamaljjhe can support them by helping them financially.. why should he marry??
My husband wants second wife I feel bad about jt.He said that it is not in my mind now I do not have time but that I have nothing against practicing it in future.It will take him some years but I think he will marry second wife really. There ongoing problems
What do you suggest we do concerning the enormous amount of unmarried women who are having difficulty getting married and the number is only increasing? (Particularly the women older than 35-40, infertile women, women who are widowed with kids or divorced) our culture is making it increasingly difficult for these older, divorced women, with kids to get a man. do they not deserve love and protection, or are they simply meant to die without companionship or intimacy? People who say polygamy is not meant for today’s time, please take a look closer at the spinsterhood rate not only in the west but even developing countries and you will be horrified. I’m pretty sure most reasonable women would prefer to be a co- wife than to remain single and unmarried but both sisters and brothers are making it difficult for them. There are more eligible Muslim women than men. So advise to me what are we to do with the spinsters. They’re just supposed to continue remaining single? Very selfish mindset.
The man won't marry them,they only marry the virgin for the 2nd,etc,the old woman they 'll die lonely......
@@frejaja942 I don't understand why they think that to help a woman they have to marry her and sleep with her? Why can't just help the single mother or the widow without expecting he to be part of his harem
@@sau2949 i even have more question than you,and I'm a moslem.here in my country ,the polygamy getting more popular after the widespread of salafi/wahabism.
Aslkm
Whether we like it or not it's increasing n we got to get use to it.
We have to educate ourselves about polygyny n especially educate our young girls n boys.
It's inevitable.
There are many benefits to it.
i respect Mufti but when it comes to this topic even our Respected Learned Scholars tend to have a lack of understanding n knowledge with regards to this topic.
Nore am i in NO way lambasting or saying anything to desrespect The Scholars in any way.
It has to be understood from many angles.
A good lecture by a Very Righteous Scholar Ml Dawood Seedat explains it well.
Don’t represent this as if it is something bad. Marrying the second wife is halal and has nothing to do with counseling with the first wife
Maybe you should go to my tiktok and see all my videos and comments before assuming wrong about me. I NEVER said it was not halal. Only limited men can handle the heat
As for counselling I offer this service so married brothers don't think they can offload their problems to me about their wife. I only give permission if they have their wife in a group chat so I can see both sides
@@MarwanAlley77 Yes that is the most honourable thing to do. JazaakAllah khair bro Marwan
@@MarwanAlley77 but if you let her (1st wife)know you'll probably marry a hoor in heaven 😉🤣🤣
Yes some scholars represent this as something which is impossible to be done, but it's all about the fear and respect of Allah one has
Can I ask something? Please answer without negativity!
What if Country laws don't allow polygamy? Should men still take multiple wives?
Who takes Mufti Menk seriously anyways lol. Just because you do one sunnah doesn't mean you have to do them all or do them in order lmao
MUSLIMS take him seriously.If you are Murtad you can move on.Nobody cares
get OUT of your hindumothers upbringing.
It's not sunnah it's a commandment to marry 2 3 or 4 and if fear you can't be just then just 1 Surah Nisa 4:3
If it was a command then rasulAllah s.a.w would have allowed his son in law Ali r.anha to have more than 1 wife other than his daughter. We cannot make something which is halal into haram and vice versa. It is an option and hence why a woman does not need to agree to this condition in her contract if she thinks she cannot handle it. All women are different and Allah SWT knows that hence why Islam thinks about both genders and doesn't disregard the trauma of a woman if she can't handle it.
However if you still disagree, you can go to my Shaykh, London Fatwa council, Shaykh Yazdani. He is an islamic jurist.
@@heavenzbreeze7763 you are EXTREMELY THICK. how embarrssing. ALLAH IS COMMANDING MEN TO HAVE A MINIMUM OF TWO WIVES. tell that to your hindu mother.
@@razamughal9095It is a lie.
@@aliavci07 shut it. All the worlds illiterate people have come on this page. Go and teach your pathetic hindu mother that she has done a bad job raising you, probably spending all day on facebook chatting with other men.
Mashallah sister.
Assalamu alaikum I would like counseling for my relationship,He wants to marry me and Im not ready, I was ready once but now Im so traumatized I need help, inshallah 😢 We've been in a haraam relationship for 9 years,but we never been intimate just live together, now we lived apart for two years and I feel we need counseling first 😢 Astaugfirallah May Allah forgive and guide us
I love my wife, I want more kids but my wife won't
Shud I go for the second one,
Tell your wife about this, im sure she'll change her mind
@@noorain I told her but the Ego of " You are only Mine" damaging the whole Islamic psychology
Maybe bcs of labour pain... She just afraid bcz of labour pain...thoda wait kr lo NXT kids ke lea
Why do you want more kids.. kids and wealth are of same category. The more you have, the more you demand. If she doesn't want, you should respect her choice.. You will not understand the risk women takes to birth a child. If you have one, alhamdulillah and both of you are satisfied, i think it's enough. May allah grant you to right path
@@gadgetmomma what about the Purpose of nikah ?
That's y Deen Islam gave us choice to marry more than one women
this video is messed up if religion allows u cant be putting own rules tht whats compulsory and whats not just let them be men and u focus on ur part as woman if both sides doing their part the marriage is good u dont hav to be insecure or controlling on ur husband
May allah save us from such half baked scholars !
Say you grew up in a dysfunctional home where women were abused and spiritual abuse was the norm. That is your culture. Leave Islam out of it.
I don’t understand why people are against poligamy unfortunately we are living in a society that is promoting zina and mocking marriage on a whole.poligamy should be made easy , its already difficult in the Uk if there laws were pro poligamy a lot of the men who say they don’t want to marry again would.if we lived in a Muslim country that followed the shariah there would be no 50/50 after divorce.there would be justice with children going to the parents after divorce.more men would be happy to marry again.but either way men who uphold the sunnah and are strong will marry again and what is best.
What if your first wife don't like the idea of you marrying again 🤔
Sister you are no one to offer in the rule of Islam . If a man doing something wrong with his first wife then allah subhanava tallah going to decide about that person but you are no one to give any offer for husband and wife 2nd marriage it only has to be according islam that's it..
No offense but you clearly did not understand my message then my brother.
Also they seem to forget the Widows, divorceesnand single parents, many rush for youtj,vor the elders when they are rich with the intention to use and abuse . Very shameful and Haram
This is excuse of polygamy
I only fear he will love her more because in marriage he will love surely one person more always. I feel like because we have conflicts love faded from my side. He showed love already to some other woman but she seemed to not be the one he wants so he is just
Mufti menk thinks anything he says is right.. most of the time he blabber.. May Allah guide him on this matter
Sunnah ? Its.more of a fitra than sunnah. Because it was and is pravtise by non muslims as well . May Allah guide us alla dn give us hikmah to understand things.
Cover eyebrows
No thanks. There is no obligatiom to cover my eyebrows so please don't tell me what to do.
hello sir, you aren't allowed to see and talk to na mehram. cover your eyes pls or see somewhere else.
@Love isn't Lust hey love isn't lust thanks so much. I was so confused. I will msg that person
@@user-ef5nd3ho3n hey, I'm so sorry. I thought you meant to say to me. Love isn't Lust just said you are talking to the person whoever me the the comment. Sincerest apologies 🤲🏼🤲🏼🤲🏼
@@heavenzbreeze7763 actually I misunderstood, I thought he was talking about you but whatever. you don't have to apologise. I'm sorry for that. may allah bless you. ❤️
what qualifications do you have? are you married yourself? that you can give counselling advice. have you done in-depth studying about how the prophet saw dealt with his wives with a proper scholar
She is a feminist devorsed aher husband even if he was good to her look at her 😂😂Pakistani clowns
In islam second marriage only require one condition which is give both wives equal rights or the rights they commited in marriage contract. Why you need multiple woman? Why second wife is virgin and not divorced? All these are lame excuses poses by woman men marry multiple woman for same reason they marry first. Man can love multiple woman at a time and Allah knows that and thats why He made it halal but woman cant be polygamous its not in her nature and woman judge men based on their nature which is actually opposite to men.
I’m from Gambia. My name is Mustapha Sillah . I’m 30 years old. I’m searching for a wife !
I want to take councelling,but my husband don't want. Will it work if one start working but the other one is still abusive?
I'm so sorry sis. How is he abusive? If he is physically abusive plz do not tolerate that as he will only get worse if he doesn't sort himself out. It usually is better if both get it otherwise he will keep doing the same rubbish. İn my prayers ❤
yall saying 'we agreed im the only one ' then u add '''alhamdulillah'' if only u knew the amount of rizq that comes from that particular sunnah
Subhan'Allah.... MaaShaa'Allah....
I only fear he will love her more because in marriage he will love surely one person more always. I feel like because we have conflicts love faded from my side. He showed love already to some other woman but she seemed to not be the one he wants they are having ongoing words and problems I see his messaging I can check it whenever I want hhhh
calling her self muslim but can't follow the Quran. How can you say I obey my husband but you questioning him. Don't you see that a man get full fulfil when he sees his kingdom with many many kids. The reason this men's now a day don't want more than 3-4 kids is because of fear. Because the devil tells him "what you don't have TV at home." Don't you see those are words of the devil. Don't you see that a man from 100 years ago and from now are the same but the only thing that change was screen. To make fun of masculine.
Men's stand up brothers , stop been fearful and be proud of your family. Be proud that you have multiple wife, be proud that you can have more than 10 children, be proud that some people make fun of you because of hate. Only hate comes and try to make you feel bad. Don't you see that love is accepting but hate is jealous in which is evil.
Yes I am a Muslim and who the hell are you to try and takfeer me? Funny thing is I didn't even speak 💀💀💀 Read all my comments to stop your ignorance before you think you can try assume anything about me
One woman can birth more than 10 kids 😐
There are so many aspects in islam that Allah made in a way to trigger monafiqs when they are shy away from accepting Allahs commands.
Polygamy is already making a strong comeback🎉
If the wife doesn't treat husband the right way, can we blame the husband if he say so?
They should work on it not the husband bails and escapes into anothers arms
@@Strawberry143x oh, so u r saying like man should suffer and will treat her like a queen even if she treats her dump.
@@mah9455 Divorce exists. Stop acting dumb.
@@leveticus1461 what did I say? R u blind or what?
If ur wife is abusive allah will severely punish her and if u think u can't stay with her then give her talak simple women are going out of hands because of weak mans who are slave of their feminists mothers@@mah9455
I only fear he will love her more because in marriage he will love surely one person more always. I feel like because we have conflicts love faded from my side. He showed love already to some other woman but she seemed to not be the one he wants so he is just pl
Its true i have married gour wives, and its tough for most man but not for me as i satisfy their sexual needs in time,,, i help them in house chores and they help me in giving me comfort love support and pleasure and none the least my children ❤❤❤❤❤ yeah but i done it no divorces
I'll marry 4💪💪💪💪💪💪💪💪💪🍁🍁🍁🍁🍁🍁
@@se1ies will you?
@@Mirtalha84 to whom ?
No one would want to marry you
Plz HeLp and Guide! Salam sister I am quite upset that my husband want me to do job and when I go to work he brings his second wife on my bed …. It’s a 2 bed accommodation only (we have 2 kids ma sha Allah) and exposes all my personal stuff in-front…. Secondly he shouts and humiliates me on street and keeps doing it publicly …… I am all shattered but I have no where to go and hide …..my parents have passed away and brothers don’t talk to me. I am in uk what can I do about it to feel safe and not humiliated?😢😢😢😢
At work I feel upset and can’t socialise at all
Just feel worthless and waste of space
I think you should once tell him ,that how you feel about. without sharing your feelings no one will feel you , as you share here you can also share this message to your husband , and tell him about its his responsibility to justice both of his wife with emotionally, mentally and financially
Tell him to fear Allah , explain everything about right of women in a marriage if still he is doing same thing they last option is divorce
You have work you don't you move on
How you can offer counseling
Recite ayatul kursi after the 5 fard prayers to attain jannah -> Source: al-Mu’jam al-Kabīr 7406
Ladies are liberal to do 2nd marriage.
Then why Mohamed (SAw) married 11 wife. That is problem now all the man wants 2 wife. Even non Muslims also asking me first question you know wht. You Muslim can married 2 to 4 wife. It like same you know. How to answers tell me.
Does that mean this religion is so bad and doesn't consider women's emotions? Allah's rules are baseless and against the laws of humanity??
Doesn't mean that at all. Women have a right to have it in their marriage contract if they don't want their husband having more than 1 wife.
@@heavenzbreeze7763😂😂😂😂sounds funny
Why your religion is allowing multiple wives😂😂😂😂😂
So funny😝😜
You woman are so stupid and idiot
Intend rising a voice Behaveing like idiots and talking rubbish😂
@@heavenzbreeze7763in your religion woman has no choice no right
Penguin
Guess what guys?? Even Mufti menk has 3 Wives!!! Clearly shows that polygyny is for people like prophets,sahabas and people like Mufti menk, Assim al hakeem etc
Asalamualaikum brother here who was multiple wives, Injust want to say never consider a second wife if you are unhappy before the second wife, or your wife is unhappy and always consider the first wifes emotions, does it really benefit her as well? In my case I got the second wife because the benefit for my first wife was my motivator ans when the inquiring begun we realized the second wife benefitted far more in terms of family gain and also she had more benefits for all of us then we realized, I believe Allah lined it up so well for us because my intention to find the second wife was full of prayer and focus on my first wife, but also because I went so far to invite my first wife into the inquiring. My wives became fast friends and were texting and calling eachother "my sister" before I even knew what was going on and hamdulillah the one time I committed the sin of complaining about one wife to the other she told me "I will lsiten to you and be here for you, but if you are going to soeak about my sister when you are upset then I cannot share any words with you." Mashallah this all came because the intention was good and clear.
Whatever your reasons were and how you got to that point is a blessing in the end. Good for you brother.
I only have one wife, but I think a man who has kept his first marriage well and has kept his first wife well, is a great candidate to marry again. If he can manage one, then he can manage a second. This is what a lot of people are missing I think.
Usually, we are seeing cases of a guy who has a train wreck of a marriage with his first and then decides to get a second wife. What makes him think the second marriage will be any better?
More successful men who have managed a successful marriage should be the ones to go and marry a second time. We will start to see a better example of polygamy.
If I marry a virgin who didn’t sleep with anyone before then one wife is enough for me but if she committed zina before our marriage then Insha Allah I will get 2nd wife no matter however she feels...
You are entitled to your own opinion but I hope that u know that scholars advise people to hide their past. That being said u will never know if she is a virgin or not as according to science u will never be able to tell. (Unless she tells you which she is not obliged to tell you) RasulAllah SAW married non virgins apart from 1
@@heavenzbreeze7763zina is different from married women who were once married before so please don’t compare them
I will never marry a zani woman. It’s an insult to compare the two
@@Muhammed-Dee Yes they are different for sure but İslam does not discriminate on the zani provided he or she sincerely makes tawbah. If tawbah is sincere their Mountain full of bad gets converted into a Mountain full of good. Plus u will only know if she or he is zaani if they tell u but islamically they don't have an obligation to tell us as that was their past.
@@Muhammed-Dee we can add condition in marriage simply pls don't look for women who don't commit Zina look for women who are loyal but Muslim women who commit Zina are not loyal take turkey for example they have many times more infediltly cases then west because through the life they are having secret relationship from their parents person they knows . When they do after marriage it's not big deal for a woman. in west she may have multiple boyfriend . But going on someone back to affair is very big thing for them as they have not done it in past
@@unknown-or7fi I’ll only seek to marry a virgin. That’s my opinion and I’ll stick to it. A divorcee is also good, I can marry a divorcee but not a zani
And women only talk about Nafkah and Mahar and never about their duties :)
I must find the FIRST WIFE❤
why 🤔 you won't remind 5 farz when a man marry only one ??
5 fardh is only for POLYGAMY person according to you ??
Guys if you can handle and equally just Then marry 2 3 or 4.
it is sunna no matter how you see it.