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  • Опубликовано: 16 ноя 2024

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  • @TheShinyHaxorus3D
    @TheShinyHaxorus3D 5 месяцев назад +74

    Brother I’m ngl that story sounded like a setup for a robbery

    • @aron.gortman
      @aron.gortman 3 месяца назад

      lmao

    • @CjwEvolved
      @CjwEvolved 2 месяца назад +2

      I was thinking the same thing.😅

  • @sadjoy2979
    @sadjoy2979 7 месяцев назад +15

    My two cents:
    Online dating is a major area affected by the broader issue of poor leadership. Like you said bro, there aren't many positive influencers on socials that will challenge and hold better standards... and most people will use dating apps looking for the same cheap and quick satisfaction, but it'll deepen the hollow feeling. Hope we can all find solid ass friends who can 'lead' one another in this way and grow in challenging this low value culture

  • @grandpacereal1549
    @grandpacereal1549 8 месяцев назад +33

    The dating market had me questioning my morals and values. Do I need to engage in these types of behaviors just to get by and get social proof? Isn't there a better way?

    • @RD24LFG
      @RD24LFG 6 месяцев назад +3

      Orthodox Christanity. I'm considering it.

    • @Nathan-Higgers_13
      @Nathan-Higgers_13 Месяц назад

      @@RD24LFGbros turning orthodox because of no bitches😂

  • @djeeeeeee
    @djeeeeeee 7 месяцев назад +32

    Tbh this sounds so fucking exhausting. This looks like too much work, I'll just enjoy my night off by myself

    • @Dereksilver0
      @Dereksilver0  7 месяцев назад +6

      lol it really is; but ive always been the kid that had to touch the stove 💀

  • @herbalsoups
    @herbalsoups 29 дней назад +1

    Woman in her forties here. I just want to say how awesome of a person you are! Stop calling yourself average! And yes, you are right. People who are into hookup culture are socio or psychopathic. It’s not good time management and it’s not good for development.

  • @urbanscavengers
    @urbanscavengers 8 месяцев назад +18

    0:48 *_"LITERALLY PSYCHOPATHIC BEHAVIOUR"_* *Thank you dear* @Dereksilver0 that's 100% accurate analysis. We are entering the age of psychopathy and narcissism.
    I'm genuinely impressed by your insight. I pay my respect. Regards, Rekko

    • @tommyX.808
      @tommyX.808 8 месяцев назад +1

      Guter Mann 👍@Dereksilver0 you have a videotitle _"why you will never figure it out"_ - but you have figured out quite a lot already in a young age my friend!

    • @tyronenur2373
      @tyronenur2373 4 месяца назад

      Yeah I agree about society entering the age of narcissism and psychopathy

  • @ChrisSwitzenberg
    @ChrisSwitzenberg 18 дней назад +1

    Just found your channel and you earned a subscriber. You’re speaking straights facts! This is the message all men need to hear. Boycott the hookup culture 💯

  • @massimiliano_bartolini
    @massimiliano_bartolini 7 месяцев назад +6

    Man you should be a politician your points are just flawless !

  • @dna8269
    @dna8269 8 месяцев назад +33

    Interesting video and a good perspective in terms of morality i think. I say this as someone actively in the casual dating scene for years now because i got tired of relationships. But with that said, I think hookup culture will only get worse because of how many guys are without sex right now. Most guys cant even choose to take the moral high ground because they cant get laid period..so youre basically advising a starving man to be content without food. In terms of a moral society i think it's good advice, but in practice, its likely not going to pan out that way due to peoples pain

    • @Dereksilver0
      @Dereksilver0  8 месяцев назад +5

      youre actually right, thats a good ass point. I guess the "right" answer would be to seek love but like you said its hard with the current dating scene

    • @tommyX.808
      @tommyX.808 8 месяцев назад +2

      thank you brother💯. I cant live without food. I'm a bit older and can afford to pay for my "food" (se# work is legal here), so I won't complain too much.
      But young men these days often have no ressources to afford "food", or feminists have abolished h0_kers to keep the pressure on the se_ual market place.

    • @urbanscavengers
      @urbanscavengers 8 месяцев назад +1

      yes @Dereksilver0 you're idealistic and that's cool but what about getting ones needs met. The videotitle is accurate though _chasing_ sx _without obtaining it_ doesn't make happy. And although many might prefer a happy and healthy relationship - it's a bilogical fact that men regularly have to "reset" the counter and doing it alone doesn't cut it on the longrun

    • @RD24LFG
      @RD24LFG 6 месяцев назад

      We need to restore the patriarchy. When left to their own devices women self-destruct and destroy everything around them (families, culture, etc). You'll think I'm crazy at first but if you actually look at the evidence and facts and evaluate them you'll see.

    • @Chaley1104
      @Chaley1104 5 месяцев назад

      Oh really?? I just figured that everyone was running around and fucking whatever walked. It's hard for a guy to actually get laid??

  • @LookingLuke
    @LookingLuke 8 месяцев назад +17

    Hey man, I just found out your channel. Youre a gem man. Keep grinding.

  • @GTrain1984
    @GTrain1984 2 месяца назад +3

    I was dating a girl once and eventually told me how she had a "Call list" basically whenever she just wanted some, she'd call them, get them to come around, then she'd make them leave straight after. Also that if they didn't meet certain "performance" criteria, she also ghost them. Never had I been more mortified or felt suddenly so self conscious.

  • @pupak3000
    @pupak3000 8 месяцев назад +14

    i'm 17 and i just started the whole dating thing this year so these videos are extremely helpful. a couple weeks ago i met a girl at a pub and asked for her contact.. i'm so clumsy that it took me almost a month to get a date with her even tho i met her and some of her friends last week. it's kinda difficult to find that sweet spot where you are flirty enough to show your interest but you don't come off as a weirdo :D anyway we're going on a date next week so wish me luck

    • @Dereksilver0
      @Dereksilver0  8 месяцев назад +5

      yoo excited for you haha best of luck my guy

    • @pupak3000
      @pupak3000 8 месяцев назад

      ​@@Dereksilver0 tysm!!

    • @urbanscavengers
      @urbanscavengers 8 месяцев назад

      In case you are interested in dating-psychology: Orion Taraban @psychacks is your man, about intergender dynamics: @hoe_math is currently _nailing it._ big time. Grüße aus Berlin

    • @dariuschambliss1221
      @dariuschambliss1221 7 месяцев назад +1

      You were at a bar when you were 17? Which country on Earth do you live in?

    • @MidnightRider1034
      @MidnightRider1034 6 месяцев назад

      @@dariuschambliss1221 Drinking is legal in germany at 16

  • @felipebrognoli
    @felipebrognoli 4 месяца назад +3

    I was never the hook up mentality guy and i'm proud of it. One time a girl tried to make me her hook up when she wanted, but i refused after the second date. In her defense, she was pretty chill and honest about it, and we just got to our separate ways.
    I'm also proud to say that in 6 dates, i had a total of 6 years in relationships. All though Tinder.

  • @xiaorishu
    @xiaorishu 8 месяцев назад +6

    😂 I have a strict rule for myself which is why my body count is low but it's also pushed a lot of guys away lol.

  • @danielquach5783
    @danielquach5783 8 месяцев назад +5

    Big respect for this brother

  • @vinaymulukutla358
    @vinaymulukutla358 6 месяцев назад +5

    The song Wasting Love by Iron Maiden is about this kind of hooking up and the sadness and emptiness that comes with it.

  • @kevinsanchez1419
    @kevinsanchez1419 Месяц назад +1

    Danggg just seeing this and the dating app vid got me to delete all my dating apps and just focus on me ! Right person will come around I’m sure.

  • @blindlizard
    @blindlizard 23 часа назад

    I'm 30 from New Zealand. It's so small here dating is extremely unpredictable.

  • @juicedoutthewazoo7921
    @juicedoutthewazoo7921 7 месяцев назад +5

    really good vid bro

  • @luegi25
    @luegi25 7 месяцев назад +2

    i was with a girl casually for years. She would hit me up sometimes after bad dates late nights. Was on dating apps for years. Found my girl on bumble but i knew something was different because the conversation wasn't like all the rest. She was in a long term relationship which is now a good thing

  • @aaronkirkland5211
    @aaronkirkland5211 4 месяца назад +4

    Had a side chick for over a decade…no feelings, jus sex damn near anytime we met up. As a guy it’s pretty damn cool having sex anytime ya want but in reality I’m more lonely now than I’ve ever been compared to when I was in a actual relationship.

  • @Mii4210
    @Mii4210 2 месяца назад +1

    I’m 28f. I had a phase like that girl back when I was 19. This has been flipped on it’s head for a very long time lol

  • @Texasno420
    @Texasno420 6 месяцев назад +4

    What’s sad is that you can’t pick up women in a bar or organically but on a dating app it’s not a problem. Lol

  • @w1reframe732
    @w1reframe732 3 месяца назад +2

    I'm a very liberal person but seeing the way people act in regards to sex has made me very conservative on that topic. The fact people just have sex because they're sad is insane, that a gateway to addiction and not to mention STIs. Idk what happened from Gen X to now but we're in deep deep shit.

  • @cykablyat3680
    @cykablyat3680 8 месяцев назад +4

    aw hell nah bro , i never take girls to dinner on the first date , for me its drinks or a walk in the park all the time , and if she insists on having a dinner imma look at her funny and move on to the next one

  • @jammingwithpommo3871
    @jammingwithpommo3871 2 месяца назад

    This guy is hilarious I subbed on the first video

  • @guitarherofan-hy9jr
    @guitarherofan-hy9jr 2 месяца назад

    thanks for the heads up before i even started😂😅

  • @JadedeaJade
    @JadedeaJade 7 месяцев назад +2

    Well said sir!

  • @HolyFacts
    @HolyFacts 3 месяца назад +2

    It sounded like you were going to get robbed,
    or your kidneys stolen, Glad your ok lol.
    Thanks for sharing, " that whole getting d!cked down ",
    that is a big red flag and fear of mines nowadays.
    Maybe i would suggest a video about how girls just give it up easy,
    and then they look for the " guy to take home ".
    That is a shit show, we should touch on.
    At least that shit is on my mind.

  • @wuldntuliktonoptb6861
    @wuldntuliktonoptb6861 7 месяцев назад +3

    Nobody resist till marriage now. You end up waiting for 70 years then die having never even had a girlfriend. And no woman’s holding out for life. Some do keep it low and wait for a man to commit, but it’s just to easy to get some and it’s clout for a woman.

  • @helloDobson3259
    @helloDobson3259 7 месяцев назад +1

    So well stated.

  • @urbanscavengers
    @urbanscavengers 7 месяцев назад

    if you're not on TikTok you should do it, RUclips is dying out. Grüße aus Berlin, Your Host Rekko

  • @troy8093
    @troy8093 6 месяцев назад +1

    Love love love your videos and I think you send out the right message. I don’t think this is going to get any better and I also have a vision of what my future wife will look like and how we will get along. I look forward to that so much! But I was never personally into the hookup culture although I’ve fallen for it a few times for sure. I’m really looking for the one right now despite how many challenges I face in doing so

    • @Chaley1104
      @Chaley1104 5 месяцев назад

      I love this, thank you. Gives me some hope in the fact that there are still some ppl actually looking for something real.

  • @hassantraore1542
    @hassantraore1542 8 месяцев назад +6

    Bro this happen to me too lol when started dating it was so confusing 😂 im like ghosting me after sex is crazy

    • @Dereksilver0
      @Dereksilver0  8 месяцев назад +2

      😂 still a bit wild to me

    • @hassantraore1542
      @hassantraore1542 8 месяцев назад +1

      @Si1verwolf10 I concur

    • @dna8269
      @dna8269 8 месяцев назад +5

      In my experience, a girl ghosting a dude after sex means the sex wasn't good. They'll stay hooked for some good D because it's rare, even if you just end up being the booty call guy, they'll still hang around. I'd take it as feedback to try and improve that aspect of your game. A potential exception here would be if the girl is cheating on her dude, then she may outright vanish regardless. Theres plenty of that on dating apps

    • @hassantraore1542
      @hassantraore1542 8 месяцев назад +2

      @@dna8269Maybe you are right

    • @Itslewieo
      @Itslewieo 4 месяца назад

      @@dna8269not 100% true , women now want to have power like a man and they will ghost a guy just because its boost their ego , you gotta understand it’s easy for women to get 🍆, dudes handing it out left and right ,

  • @hustensaftvernichter3785
    @hustensaftvernichter3785 7 месяцев назад +9

    I think if you actively chase sex just for the sake of having sex, you've got too much free time. I know too many guys way too concerned about getting laid and their lives more or less revolve around it. Considering many of those are in their mid 20's and older, I cannot help but assume there is something wrong with that prioritization.
    I do understand where they are coming from, but wouldn't it instead be more helpful to understand where they are going?

    • @Dereksilver0
      @Dereksilver0  7 месяцев назад +3

      youre right; i kinda touched on this in my video about chasing girls; alot of guys that spend alot of time chasing girls is because theyre missing somthing in their life, i realized real quick after feeling like i just wasted 3-4 hours with a girl that its pretty pointless

    • @hustensaftvernichter3785
      @hustensaftvernichter3785 7 месяцев назад

      @@Dereksilver0 Most people are not worth your time, which is more often not linked to the way they are but to the way they act. Assuming that women are somehow exempt from that rule does not make any sense, as people seem to miss the point that a woman is just as much a person as a man and vice versa. They also have got too many issues of their own to go out of their way to fix yours. Too many people choose their partners simply because they do not want to be alone, but then wish they were alone because that someone only reinforces the issues you already had when you were alone.
      People don't want to admit all that, though, and instead resort to Kindergarten mentality of "girls/guys are all dumb!" all the while going for the next bit of "dumb" that comes around and looks appealing until he/she opens their mouth.

    • @hustensaftvernichter3785
      @hustensaftvernichter3785 7 месяцев назад +1

      @@Dereksilver0 Most people will not be worth your time. Not because of the way they are, but because of the way they act.
      That rule does not exempt anyone based on their sex, age, or origin.

  • @AlexAlex-zq5wz
    @AlexAlex-zq5wz 4 месяца назад

    depends from the person, that is completely subjective

  • @howy3333
    @howy3333 3 месяца назад

    I believe I know the girl in your story! Shes afghani?

  • @kimkai_ren4968
    @kimkai_ren4968 5 месяцев назад

    I’m divorced. I had what you said in the end and it’s not the end all be all. I see hook up culture as needed for biology sake. People need sex. But u can still have a full life after that.

  • @Annoitedpastorlewiswalkin
    @Annoitedpastorlewiswalkin 4 месяца назад +1

    Praise Yahusha amen halleluYah amen praise Yahuah amen halleluYah amen haleluYah amen praise Yahuah amen halleuYah amen

  • @ugaladigala
    @ugaladigala 22 дня назад

    can you tell me the name of the girl, so i make sure i dont accidentally end up marrying her

  • @batman-g1t2j
    @batman-g1t2j Месяц назад

    Bangstar is the best

  • @Cookiekeks
    @Cookiekeks 8 дней назад

    This is just entry-level incel content.

  • @alexscholebo3112
    @alexscholebo3112 8 месяцев назад +16

    If you want to follow The Bible more, you need to stop giving yourself excuses. I watch this video and you seem to acknowledge that your current actions and behavior is harmful for you, however you make excuses to continue engaging with it.
    If you want a good Christian girl, you need to stop giving excuses for your sin. You have to become a guy worthy of a great girl. The culture is focused a lot on looksmaxxing, but what we as Christians should be doing is virtuemaxxing. Stop dating for a bit, focus on yourself and your relationship with Christ, you need to do everything in your power to prove to God that you are willing to do everything in your power to obtain it.
    Stop having sex before marriage, even for women you're in a relationship with. Sex as an act is designed by God specifically and exclusively under the context of a lifelong commitment to that person. You don't have to wait years to get married, find the right girl and settle down, ask and rely on God for her and God will provide, not because you asked, but because God is loving and wants to see us enjoy the fruits he designed for us under the right context.
    I would consult The Bible, talk with pastors, work on improving yourself. It will be difficult, so keep in mind that if you persue a life free from sin, you have the literal creator of the entire universe on your side. I understand, the temptation is too strong and you can't handle it. You're right, you can't, but God can. Turn to him, rely on him, and you will find that your situation will greatly improve.
    I hope this helps you in your journey to finding a spouse. I wish you the best, man. God bless!

    • @cykablyat3680
      @cykablyat3680 8 месяцев назад

      this is crazy bruh , why do people bring religion into everything , my guy here is talking about how having casual sex isnt great and your take is "sex before marriage is bad" , maybe youve met a devout christian and it worket well for you , but waiting for sex til marriage is incredibly stupid for 2 reasons : 1) both people in the relationship are going to be tempted by sex and marry too early without knowing each other very well and end up hating themselves and their choice (ive seen 5 cases of this happening) but stay togher and are abusive because divorce isnt an option for them , you do have to wait and find a good life partner ,you cant just meet a woman/man and marry them in 2-6 months just because you want to fuck them with a clean concience , 2) most people who arent insanelly religious wont listen to your bullshit , because if you are in a normal relationship and say to your partner(that isnt in the same religions or isnt insanelly devout) that youll wait for marriage for you 2 to have intercourse ,they will either a) leave you , b) cheat on you c) go to prostitutes , intercourse isnt everything in a relationship but its an important part of it. Like sry but this type of advice can actually ruin people`s lives

    • @dzllz
      @dzllz Месяц назад

      virtuemaxxing, that made me laugh! Good post

  • @KyngD469
    @KyngD469 6 месяцев назад

    Based video

  • @Itstherealspill
    @Itstherealspill Месяц назад

    Emotionless sex gets old after awhile you want a real connection.

  • @Jbscddnz
    @Jbscddnz 7 месяцев назад +2

    At this rate human race will be extinct, as a 19 year old most my friends (18-24) are single.

  • @Keno313
    @Keno313 4 месяца назад

    Body count matters, more than 2 is ran through

  • @ItzChrxnic
    @ItzChrxnic 2 месяца назад

    Better get an std test broski 😭

  • @IslaZigi-yh3wh
    @IslaZigi-yh3wh 7 месяцев назад +1

    Well i am virgin and been no date and i have trouble find the one man but i am not pretty and but good personatie

    • @Chaley1104
      @Chaley1104 5 месяцев назад

      You have got to remove this thinking from your brain my dear. Do the neccessary work to heal your heart, get all of words and those low-life, sad as fuck people in your life up until now have put there. Fuck them, they are wrong and don't deserve anymore of your energy ever again. Also, please don't relate having sex with being "pretty" and "wanted" bcs there is absolutely no correlation there, I promise. You are going to have MORE value if you save yourself until you are 💯 percent ready and you meet someone that you want to share that experience with. You are MORE valuable than the people that are running around and sleeping with anything and everything that moves, I PROMISE!! And you are gorgeous, you are a God dam queen!!! 👑👑👑 Please pick up your crown, dust it off, and place it back on your beautiful head where it so rightfully belongs. Then every time that you look in the mirror I want you to hear thar random chick from RUclips reminding you that you ARE beautiful, you ARE worthy, and you always have been, always will be, and currently are GOOD ENOUGH. 🌻❣️❣️👑🌠 @islazigi-yh3wh.

  • @hulkrogan8045
    @hulkrogan8045 7 месяцев назад

    What’s her name, lol?

  • @wuldntuliktonoptb6861
    @wuldntuliktonoptb6861 7 месяцев назад

    Don’t you dare ever get married without that prenup brother. It’s a requirement for that ring these days. If she won’t sign it that’s a deal breaker. I’ll do a 40 year ltr shit I’ll even have a kid if we’ve been good for multiple years. There is no marriage now tho. Gotta make sure a baby momma will be good enough if you 2 break she’ll realize a child needs 2 parents.

  • @Lanainvestor
    @Lanainvestor 4 месяца назад +1

    do u get STD test before sex ?

  • @Ssstellamellaaa
    @Ssstellamellaaa 2 месяца назад

    Dude I’m sorry but that also makes you a phsyco. You just met a girl version of yourself and you’re blaming her as the only psychopath here. Well well well now Are you really sure it’s just her who’s the psycho ? Lmao . Btw love your videos . I don’t care about the dating ones but this was funny for sure :).

  • @Dazza15686
    @Dazza15686 6 месяцев назад

    Great guys now days are not accepting ran through 304s

  • @freshappleseed6966
    @freshappleseed6966 29 дней назад

    How r u gonna talk about hook up culture like its psychopathic and then talk abt ur hokup experience and then say "if another baddie comes along what do you want me to do". R u saying your psychopathic then? If so then how r u gonna jusge others for being the same way

    • @Dereksilver0
      @Dereksilver0  29 дней назад

      im bein facetious lol, celibate now

  • @sunwukong6917
    @sunwukong6917 6 месяцев назад

    It won't because your average as ain't getting anything of quality or none at all...
    Leo DiCaprio must be the happiest man on earth no doubt in my mind.

  • @juliozavala5865
    @juliozavala5865 7 месяцев назад

    How the fuck am I gonna fight sleeping

    • @Dereksilver0
      @Dereksilver0  7 месяцев назад +1

      lol if you dont have sex nothing happens, if you dont sleep your perception of reality becomes drastically distorted and experience psychosis, and eventually your brain will put you to sleep

    • @juliozavala5865
      @juliozavala5865 7 месяцев назад

      @Dereksilver0 I'm pretty sure if you don't sleep you get agitated

  • @Chonstantin
    @Chonstantin 7 месяцев назад

    The scary thing is that this will snowball towards kids. The sexualization of kids will happen.

  • @kimkai_ren4968
    @kimkai_ren4968 5 месяцев назад +2

    How is a girl who hooked up 2 nights ago nasty?

    • @dthromia
      @dthromia 4 месяца назад +4

      it’s nasty to him bcuz of how he views his dream girl and she wouldn’t be doing that

    • @gregkareem9824
      @gregkareem9824 3 месяца назад

      Of course it's nasty you asking a dumb question

  • @MJfromdaO
    @MJfromdaO 7 месяцев назад

    tyga goes hard for this too

  • @EricNjuguna-h9m
    @EricNjuguna-h9m 2 месяца назад

    Hello bro,, your content is so amazing. Do you tweet this on x if you do what are your handles?

  • @MDOTURFAVORITE
    @MDOTURFAVORITE 7 месяцев назад +1

    Yeah I went on a date with this girl they guy she was talking she was told to was killed in a motorcycle accident the month before then she hit me up and withing 3 days i was at her house now this woman is in her 40s as I am also but i just felt uncomfortable because she was super aggressive and I had condoms I she didn't want me to wear one I bolted didn't even have sex with her but after that she hit me up asking to be friends even though she had another date lined up within 3 days absolutely sad

    • @Dereksilver0
      @Dereksilver0  7 месяцев назад +5

      .. send the asteroid

    • @Chaley1104
      @Chaley1104 5 месяцев назад

      😳😳😳😳😳😳😳

  • @MJfromdaO
    @MJfromdaO 7 месяцев назад +1

    I can confirm am turning 24 in a few days have slept with 22 women does not translate to happiness

    • @Dereksilver0
      @Dereksilver0  7 месяцев назад +2

      it really doesnt, afterwards i always feel like i just wasted 3-4 hours

    • @Silencerof
      @Silencerof 7 месяцев назад +1

      Whats the alternative? I am 37, traditional, had sex when I was 17, she ghosted me, than had sex when I had a relationship with 25. Now I am single, so I had two sexual encounters one casual and one long term committed.
      And people where laughing at me of beeing traditional, beeing prude, or having sexual restrictions (you will clearly have if you don´t sleep around). Even if you are confident they sent it and categorize you as whatever. And a lot of people will categorize you for marriage material, the safe zone for later parenting but they will clearly play the hook up bdsm playing field. You are then their pension love. There is an old saying: girls like to play with funny dudes and they tend to marry serious ones.
      I even had a psychological scan where my counsalor told me that I have a 10/12 secure attatchment and 6/12 anxiety attachment style with 0/12 avoidand attachment. And so what? It want help you, when people around you girls or boys act like psychopaths. I don´t know where the society goes, it will get worse.

    • @MJfromdaO
      @MJfromdaO 7 месяцев назад +1

      main thing you need to do is change your minset and stop caring what other people think about you, do what you want to do because you want too life too short, doesn't matter what other people say@@Silencerof