We’re taking mom in law to lunch there tomorrow…calling it a retirement community because it’s just around the corner from us….literally 3 minutes away and we’d be able to both see her every day unlike now….but we are not leaving her. We have to supply her furniture so we don’t want to do that to her..Just introducing her to the idea for now of staying there while they hold our place for 30 days while we figure this out and get a Neuro cognitive assessment (full) at her home. If she CAN stay home we want her to but we don’t think she can any more, realistically.
People are trying to bring them help and comfort while also trying not to loose their own mind. They will accept that the doctor wants them there for tests and monitoring to Help them get better.
Compassionate LIES! The best way! We went with EMERGENCY EVACUATION DUE TO GAS LEAK... That got them there. Now they are PISSED! But that's ok. They can't leave. And now will be supervised 24 hrs. by professionals.
you can share accurate information...without lying...my family had a house fire due to their memory problems...I'd rather be lied to than dead if I have severe documented memory challenges...I can't even be upset if I'm dead...very hard choices to keep adults alive who don't understand since they can't remember they left pot on stove/woodstove open etc.
@@lilyjazel5258It's a sin to torment people with information they can no longer comprehend, or even remember the next day. It's cowardice to not make the hard decisions for their welfare because you'd rather protect your own image of yourself as a "good person".
When I go on a walk with my dad I tell him it's because I feel like going on a walk too, I do not say "Because you'll get lost and the police will have to find you if you go alone" or "Because you'll leave your dog somewhere". He doesn't remember that he gets lost or that when he still used to walk alone that he started coming home without the dog. I'd argue that honesty is often the worst policy when it comes to folks with dementia.
I needed to see this today…. 🙏
We’re taking mom in law to lunch there tomorrow…calling it a retirement community because it’s just around the corner from us….literally 3 minutes away and we’d be able to both see her every day unlike now….but we are not leaving her. We have to supply her furniture so we don’t want to do that to her..Just introducing her to the idea for now of staying there while they hold our place for 30 days while we figure this out and get a Neuro cognitive assessment (full) at her home. If she CAN stay home we want her to but we don’t think she can any more, realistically.
People are trying to bring them help and comfort while also trying not to loose their own mind. They will accept that the doctor wants them there for tests and monitoring to Help them get better.
Once they make friends, it helps.
Compassionate LIES! The best way! We went with EMERGENCY EVACUATION DUE TO GAS LEAK... That got them there. Now they are PISSED! But that's ok. They can't leave. And now will be supervised 24 hrs. by professionals.
Horrible to lie to them ! It’s a sin to lie !
you can share accurate information...without lying...my family had a house fire due to their memory problems...I'd rather be lied to than dead if I have severe documented memory challenges...I can't even be upset if I'm dead...very hard choices to keep adults alive who don't understand since they can't remember they left pot on stove/woodstove open etc.
@@lilyjazel5258It's a sin to torment people with information they can no longer comprehend, or even remember the next day. It's cowardice to not make the hard decisions for their welfare because you'd rather protect your own image of yourself as a "good person".
Nope. Tell them their arthritis is being monitored.
Honesty is the best policy
They'll soon forget
Honestly got a GIANT F$@K ALL OF YOU from Mom. A compassionate LIE was much better. Got them in the facility now!
not always, if traumatic to the patient and there is no other alternatives for them, why upset them like that?
This isn't always true with dementia patients. Their psychological comfort is the best policy, and honesty sometimes doesn't lead to that end.
When I go on a walk with my dad I tell him it's because I feel like going on a walk too, I do not say "Because you'll get lost and the police will have to find you if you go alone" or "Because you'll leave your dog somewhere". He doesn't remember that he gets lost or that when he still used to walk alone that he started coming home without the dog. I'd argue that honesty is often the worst policy when it comes to folks with dementia.
Shame on you- lying to older people!
You seem smart. (Might be lying)
If they aren’t persuaded that it’s a good place that will help them, they will resist and may even become violent.
I can only hope for your sake that you believe that because you haven't had to deal with a loved one with dementia yet.