Singaporeans Have Given Up On Dating
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if even Jonathan cant get a girl then im cooked 💀
we are cooked
Same here HAHA
yea no way he's getting a girl u gotha look like Jackson Wang at this point to go on a date
@@ryanphon486 And then it's the matter if she even stays long term or not. It's not like our parents anymore that they just deal and get along with each other. Everything has to be perfect beforehand for both parties or it's a deal breaker.
There are probably girls crushing on him but too scared to make a move.
Bro should start hosting a sg dating show
@@grimmgem for sure, maybe in a Internet Cafe. As most Single people are playing Internet games. Instead of dating and going out and doing things that lovers should do. Might of been one of Sneaky Sushi videos. Or a video on another channel. People who plays Internet games, Gamers, should NOT date other internet gamers. As 1 Gamer people had a child and the parents were to involved with their internet games. That they neglected their child and was arrested for Manslaughter. For not taking care of their child. Forgot which country this was in too.
@@kevinjohnson4605 Oi why you calling me out like that. Man, I need to touch grass.
@@grimmgem Have fun touching grass and socializing. Nice talking to you.
I just find it exhausting to have to be emotionally available for another person when I'm not even emotionally available for myself
Ya bro
ikr same. Like i can barely feel emotionally and financially free on myself, needless to say with another person and further more comes a baby omg.
As they say, if you don’t enjoy your own company, how can you enjoy someone else’s?
There’s no need to rush, so be patient and learn to truly be with yourself. And surprisingly, when you’re so happy and content being alone that you couldn’t care less if you meet someone, you’ll meet someone.
“99% of gamblers give up before reaching the prize “ Ahh😂
Jonathan is a 9.5 out of 10. Just saying. I would be a friend to him
By friend do you mean buddy as in butt buddy
How is he gonna get a gf when you all kept on friendzoning him 😂
@ShawnC07 maybe one of us. Who befriends him. Has a girl who like to date him and plays his sausage. Lol.
I would love to get to know Jonathan haha
@janellelow8742 same here. But as a friend.
Yapping Sushii is the best miss this type of content man
To answer sushi: 25 and 26 for females is abit too early for today’s context. 25-26 we literally just came out from uni not too long ago. Barely enough money to get married.
@@AppleliciousStory agree. i know a lot of women who got married around 27-28, when they themselves have become financially stable
I personally think that the concept of getting married whilst being in your mid-to-late twenties is a bit of a dated sentiment that was an indicator of how things used to be back then for the older generation. There was mutual benefit for the most part when it came to getting married earlier and having children by a set time, but I would certainly say that in today's cultural climate- its different.
Now more than ever, most are allowed the privilege to be able to max out their personality, values, ideals and aspirations in life. Its justifiable if someone feels that they don't think they should be in a relationship, especially if they're already struggling with internal conflict. With the advent of the Internet too, there's a lot more that we have access to in terms of what works for us and what doesn't.
Another thing for me is that, making sure you find someone that resonates with you is key, they of course don't have to be a perfect match but you of course need to be able to communicate and vibe really well and that's something I feel that modern times allows us to do. I personally have heard so many stories of couples (Boyfriend & Girlfriend, Married, Engage, etc) being incompatible because they rushed into what society wanted for them, which is to get hitched early.
Choose wisely, and have a nuanced outlook in life
@@Hirotara if got no gf before and in my late 20s.. is it true you have to pursue a girl to show interest? I only know rejections and that was it and probably some missed opportunities to approach a girl
people used to get married at 13. then, my parents' generation, they'd get married at 16+. (but my parents got married at 24 & 26 because they were poor and the families were looking for suitor's and spouses)
@@MarvellousMorbing Well, yeah. You obviously have to show that you'd like to take it beyond friendship with them in order for them to get the picture right? They can't read your mind. As for the rejections part right, if you've only been facing rejection after rejection then there might be something about yourself you're not addressing. Truly ask yourself, if you're working on your Mental, Physical and Spiritual aspects of your life.
Try to also imagine in a 3rd person perspective and ask yourself, would you date your current self if you were a stranger. If no then you might need to start a bit of soul-searching, its never too late to try. If you do think that you're an eligible enough bachelor, then I'm guessing that you might just be having a string of bad luck when it comes to dating and that you can try to hold it out
Just remember, no one is going to love you if you don't love you. I wish you the best
@@Darkest_matter Yup, as QOL increases, so does the age of marriages it seems. Sushi's explanation in the video sums it all pretty well
the cut off at dewy's "they are" is damn funny i broke HAHAHAH
love this!
wait- is she interracial????
How did no one mention the fact tha NS plays a big part in relationships. It can cause relationships to break and also during the 2 years we dont have much time or money to go out dating people lol.
Also happy new year 🎉🎉
Yeah it's glaring that no one mentions this. Seeing how Heng Chee How reacted when asked that NSFs' salaries should be increased, it should come as no surprise.
@@ashray0611 that’s because you’re not supposed to be in a relationship during NS. The fact that people can’t survive being alone for two years is testament to how pussified you all are, as a generation
Blaming dating is just gaslighting at this point, they just don't want to confront the fact that actual married couples aren't having children because it highlights their policy failures.
So real. Most of the married couples in my family have 0 or 1 child only. Only one couple have 3.
Sadly, to increase the overall population, each couple would have to have at least 3 kids, which I believe not many younger/newer married couples would want now considering housing space, and prices. Not to mention education etc...
Nonetheless, it's better to be single than to date or marry the wrong person.
Jonathan looks like a nice guy for someone in his age range to date. I hope he finds a great partner.
Blud kicked a ball so hard at a kids face
The pressure… yeah, with super strict parents, you’re banned from any romantic relationship throughout your student life.. focus on studies, keep grades up, keep scholarships.. then the second you graduate.. Eh, why you’re single??? 21 so old already!! Later die alone! Then when you actually get a gf/bf; this is wrong with them, that is wrong with them! Funny lah. Cannot win!
as a lesbian girlie in SG, 27-28 is probably around the time i would be open to dating in order to be with someone i can settle down for life, rather than going straight to finding someone with the mentality of wanting to settle down already. in fact as a lesbian my options locally are even more limited BAHAHSHAH, so dating really shouldn't be my priority, i think around that age would be the time where i feel really comfortable with my own company and would be thinking about how to move forward with my future
I feel there is alot of childhood trauma involved as well. Many millenials had bad childhoods at home or in their schools so they don't wish it on the next generation.
👏💯💯💯💯💯💯
10/10 here from a girl with daddy issues
Gen X as well. I know so many Gen Xers who are childless and married.
nice five head coverup sushii gor gor dragon prince
The maplestory bgm brings me back to the days of dating in henesys.
11:03 Me as an unmarried 28 woman watching this: 👁👄👁
we haven't gave up on dating, it is dating gave up on us
I do met my bf through dating app in SG and we're getting married soon ❤
We've been together for 6 years 5 months
@@iSquidQueeN hope U have great life
9:29 legit wonderful advise. Totally agree 🎉 Johnathan seems like a sweet handsome guy. Surprised he’s single actually.
I am 11 so I am not interested in jonathan
girl dont just let strangers know your age 😭 its not very safe online
Yea😭😭😭 don’t go around saying your age 😭
No way... Protect your identity especially from potential p*dos💀
aiyoo girl don't talk about dating focus on PSLE 💀
girl why did you just blurt your age out liddat 😭
audio not synched
bruh i thought i was lagging
miss this type of content sushi pls make more :D also the cut at the end made me laugh
As a Singaporean I agree that no one wants to date😂
Wanna date but don't see anyone interesting.
@@rae-b6r I am hoping that people in Singapore are not to busy playing internet games. That they don't want to date. That would be bad and the gamers should socialize more. Then playing internet games.
@@kevinjohnson4605 sg so small want do what
as a female: 27,28 years is still considered too young to marry to me, i think 30,31 years old would be most ideal
@ personally, i would get married only when im financially ready and will only give birth when im mentally and emotionally ready,, so not much based on age, and i stated >30 years old because that is quite a norm nowadays (at least with ppl around me) and complications are lower if you maintain a healthy lifestyle
I agree! 30-31 or even later is okay to me. I feel like as a woman we shouldn’t be “rush” just because of our biological clock or complications. We can choose our partner but our kids can’t choose their dad/mum. Don’t let society norm tell you what you should or should not do, at the end you are living your life not them 🎉
@@xannicaong7698 so true, hoping that these people do get married and have a child or 2. Just to have a nice family.
@@jeriwonhoho Sounds like never, lol
I just feel exhausting to reintroduce myself and take time to learn about the other person like ... all these efforts take time and I'd rather just do the things I love doing by myself
10:37 speaking as a female but also for myself, the reasons you listed for the guys is also the same for women. Because if we're being real right, i don't think a lot of women considers their "biological clock" in their early-mid 20s since this "biological clock" is usually good until your mid 30s where complications starts to arise. So people who think about this biological clock i feel are people who are planning to conceive past their mid 30s. Otherwise, concerns of having children at a younger age to that are probably related to other factors. But with the current economic state of the country, getting married at 27/28 after securing a stable income, housing, and proper family planning, one child is probably good enough for most people and is attainable within that 2-5 years before hitting 30-32 (and a second child too). I do think the majority of your early and mid 20s should be utilised in planning out your future rather than going straight into settling down, because marriage is a long term commitment and at least for me, I do want to ensure that the person I decide to marry is someone I can trust my future self and my future kid/s with.
bruh Im 32 and still not married and dont have my own kids 😭
How many actually manage to have stable income by late 20s TuT? Those people be winning in life fr but I am detinitely not one of them hence marriage and having children remains a faraway dream.
You can give up now
The stats speaks for itselfm
It actually reached targeted audience. :)
How old are u playing roblox 😭
@@shu_shuhan bro a lot of ppl play roblox even grown adults, but in this case im not so sure this person is grown
@@shu_shuhan yes
It's a video game many ppl play regardless of age so why u hating lol
@@disarcted890 screw my point, baykon gaming is very very mature adult 😍
Well, I think it depends. For some "goal-oriented" people, they would rather not waste their time dating before uni, and focus on exams.
Given the long working hours that Singapore jobs have, it is really too tiring to date bc the partner may demand to meet more than once a week.
For me, I'm not single by choice (aka nobody ask me out), but I don't feel like I'm missing out either. I don't see the appeal of dating, couples argue and fight all the time, and the activities they do is quite boring (to me), just netflix and cuddle? My hobbies are more interesting to do, such as ink painting, baking, learning an instrument.
You can join a hobby group. I know many guys who like baking :) But yeah I totally get why you don't see the appeal of dating.
@ haha in my ABC baking class, the only males are those whose girlfriends drag them along.
It's always the cute sweet guys that says they're single n no girls want them without knowing their darker side... 😏
Honestly one of my fav vids so far!
I only found this channel a week ago, but I love the honesty and sincerity. I 1000% agree that it’s way more important to be comfortable in oneself and secure than conforming to bs societal expectations.
Great job Sushii!
I’m also loving the realistic ghost hunting stories. Super close to subscribing, so thanks! 🙏🏼
Being married 30-31 or even later is okay to me. I feel like as a woman we shouldn’t be “rush” just because of our biological clock or complications. We can choose our partner but our kids can’t choose their dad/mum. Don’t let society norm tell you what you should or should not do, at the end you are living your life not them 🎉 plus there are many other ways to have kids nowadays..
Not to mention MSF decides to nuke SDN and decentralised the dating agencies just because it didn’t meet their KPIs. Which makes it worse for the already less attractive
Yayyyy glad this type of content is back I missed it so much 😭😭
“Meeeeeeeaaalvin?”
That blond guy likely just had something stuck in his teeth, he not so gangster, lah! It’s hilarious, though.
Real gangsta will have more mouth movement trust
Ideally 27 to 28 is good. But sadly, I’m turning 32 and still trying to find a partner. Sometimes it also depends on luck,effort and environment. But yes, 27-28 is ideal
Can try dating app too , i know many successful story , good luck!
For me it's not because i don't want to look for a relationship, but because of my siblings past experience. All but 1 failed their marriage and gotten a divorce 2 or 3 years later and because of that, their debt keeps piling up to the point where i have to help them sometimes.
I always wanted a relationship all the back in Sec school but I just don't want to risk my financial after seeing them failed. Let alone still working part time at age 25..
Jonathan's cute, but I can see why girls his age might not find him alluring
i need advice. my gal don't eat from hawker stall nor will have kids ( even if she wants to, she will do it through surrogate mother), no household chores, celebrate most festivals expecting gifts of certain sorts, travel 2 times a year at least with me paying, she's smart and pretty, I am ugly. I am getting taxed for my look don't I? While she's really beautiful, as a product of one child policy, she's quite self-centered, self-entitled, e.g.: she would make a fuss early in the morning in disney sea when i couldn't take her photo properly,we havn't even stepped into the park yet, or she's also being real anal when i didn't compliment her when she showed me her same pic second time in 10 mins, or when she screamed like a mad man when i didn't express how regretful i was for not wanting to dine with her 1 evening when by default we are already dining together every evening, she would also be angry if i don't reply or send meal pics during working hours though I've already told her my entire evening ( we stay together ) is hers until I asked for break up only the she backed-up a little. For all of these "missteps" she would want "reparations". She wants plan in advance at least by 1 day, so there's no chance for me to have last minute short after-work drinking session. I felt really tired from it, in terms of time, money and psychology. So I've broken up with her eventually. She's perfect when I play by her book, but I am no machine or she's just a normal girlfriend? It was my first dating experience, please advise.
Its not your fault bro. Perhaps you just got unlucky, stay strong 💪
nah bro, i wld be out of that 😂
You already said the answer. She’s beautiful, and you’re not as attractive. She’s probably interested in someone else and might be acting this way intentionally to push you toward breaking up with her.
It sounds like she might've been a rather spoilt person. I'm glad that you got out of there eventually as it does sound like she might be dealing with her own personal issues. In terms of advice, try to be nicer to yourself. You stated that you're "ugly" and "getting taxed for your looks".
Brother, no matter how "ugly" you state you are, every single person is deserving of respect and love, there is no "being taxed" for your looks like.. what? Sounds to me that you might need to start focusing on your own self-esteem before getting into another relationship. I apologize if this is harsh but there might be some underlying issues you might be dealing with and need to start facing.
Other than that, I wish you good luck. Consider the prospect of self-improvement and hopefully you'll get there
so you dated her because she was beautiful right? i have no doubt u suffered as her boyfriend but why not consider dating a more laidback, but plainer girl?
It's really sad to see that commitment and the raising expenses of children worldwide. We really need to bring back communal and family homes back, too much individualism only leads to loneliness.Also, the Maplestory music hits my nostalgia HARD!
Been that done that, i am divorcee but happy being single .. Keeping myself busy so no time to think abt dating. My sanity is important than to be with someone who will affect my mental health
Jonathan's got this! He'll be with the right lady.
Jonathan? Yes, you can!
2025 slogan
4:40
I think with regards to emotional maturity, part of the issue also comes from a lack of experience and/or good social interaction.
While there is a bias perception that age would correlate with increased maturity (I'm guilty of this as well), the lack of experience/interaction plays a big role as well. From secondary school to our early 30s, I've seen both me and my friends turn into illogical, emotional messes when we fall head-over-heels and get into relationships with women who were just nice to us or gave us some attention. I don't think this is necessarily due to 'social types' as well, because I'm the sit-alone-in-the-corner, loner type whereas the others are a lot more normal ~ social butterflies and this sort of 'immature behavior' still happens to all of us, even recently.
I don't think time (age) by itself would just change this sort of irrational behavior/mentality, because maybe the crux of this behavior lies in a feeling of emptiness or lacking something and we hope/believe that our partner will be able to fulfill this need/gap, which is why we either desperately do whatever we can to please them, destroying ourselves in the process or (in my case) become cold and reject them out of fear and cynicism.
I think the level of maturity required to be "ready" requires certain scenarios and mindset for you to grow into that sort of person, which may not be all that available/achievable especially in our society that starts out with "Don't think about relationships first. Study hard and get a good job" then suddenly 180-ing and be like "When are you going to get married? Why don't you have a boyfriend/girlfriend?". All amidst a sea of social media complaining about cost of living, debt, divorces, child support, etc.
Which is why I think it's ok to a certain extent to not be deemed "ready" for it if you have good support from friends & family to help tell you when there are red flags, when you are the asshole or being unreasonable and when you should talk it out with your partner instead of secretly tolerating things you don't like.
Happy new year sushi🎉🎉🎉
21:10 They are💅
SLAAAAAAAAAAY 💅💅
Sushii why ur voice and video not in sync. I also having a hard time seeing ur mouth move differently from the video like the guy gnawing
Jonathan obviously has yet to experience his "canon event", my guy is all sunshine and flowers
Dating app is like a gamble, I have been using that about 2-3 years, only get a few matches , some are scam/not interested/friendzone, i gave up and do it the old way 😢
While one of my friend getting lots of matches in dating app, his 6pack and muscular, not to mention handsome
i think 27/28 is a great age for children, considering my parents had me at 35 and i came out healthy lol
i like jonathan’s haircut
and for kookboon, definitely we’re alike 😂😂
Happy new yearrr great vid as always 😄
I have heard of girls that want to pursue their dreams instead of dating. Not that I oppose that but there will be a time one will consider having a companions before they become another case of kodokushi and it will be serious if it is too late.
Happy new year, is the audio mismatched or is it just me
I DONT WANT TO PAY CHILD SUPPORT
Progress is the greatest contraceptive.
so wholesome seeing the comments section here rooting for Jonathan
The biological clock thing is more complicated than people think though. While fertility rates for most women do start to decline after 35, pregnancies at the mid to late 30s even early 40s aren’t as unlikely as they used to be with all the new advancements we have like IVF and egg freezing. It’s possible to maintain fertility with a good diet and exercise regimen. Of course, genetics help as well. Some women can be fertile a lot longer than others because of their genetics.
Someone introduce a girlfriend for Jonathan bro, Jonathan mah boi, he's obsessed for love, I can deeply understand what he's thinking in his mind every night!! 😭😭😭
I think to me 27-28 is quite reasonable for me. I am currently 20 years old right now. But yes I definitely prioritize making use of my youth, living the live as a student, still being under the care of my parents etc etc. I also think that dating apps are not that reliable because from what I heard from many people, there is more bad stories than good ones. This is heavy for the girls, where guys on those apps just want to take advantage of the girls
Happy New Year bro.
U shld pimp Jonathan more LOL
damn sushii be spitting facts in this vid
Johnathan looks like a schoolkid 😭
P.s.but he's adorable
Bro says don’t get any pervetic thoughts.. immediately makes it more pervetic! Walao! Jia Lat!
Happy new year brother...🎉🎉
Happy new year sushi
4000 views in 51 minutes, bro reached PEAK🙏
as a SG girl, i can see why jonathan cant get a girl least from the video.
Will not further comment cus i don wanna sound like im dunking on him or anything. Best of luck to him.
May I get an explanation? Is it because he looks like a fboy?
50seconds 🤯 love it,😍😳🫦🤑
happy new year sushii
This Generation is DOOM!😮😢
SLAY SLAY SLAY!(btw happy new year yall!)
I LOVE THIS TYPE OF CONTENT!!!
The fact that almost the whole of the P6 category In my primary school last year are dating 🥲
Sneaky Sushi - The master of bringing his audience into life-threatening, scary & uncomfortable places.
is the video and his audio delay?
yea there is a delay
Jonathan kinda cute tho
1930 NA BRO THATS WHAT I'VE BEEN TELLING! this is one thing i wish- i wish to be from two ethnic groups cuz they r fr attractive and so unique and special! and idk, its just my theory, i believe they look attractive than some children from the same race cuz of the same parents are likely to be related without knowing like long distance related and probably have some similar or the same genes... while as interracial they dont...
great video as always, sushii. but could you add de-esser next time on the mic audio? my ears hurt..
Bro I agree with your views so much, 99% of what you said here is exactly what my reactions were when I first watched those playbacks.
Not everyone want to date btw.
Happy New Year guys!!!
JONATHAN!!! Part of being attractive is confidence, bro. Acting like you have nothing good to offer turns people off.
That last part of the video cracked me up!
lee hsien loong sad no future generation of workers have to import more foreign talent lee hsien loong: "hey pls make children"
i think 27/28 would be ideal age for females because we're more mature and more prepared to invest in a relationship to choose the right partner and not to mentioned financial stability. Younger than that I feel it's more towards society's and biological clock pressure to meet certain standards. Also anything that’s rushed never ends well, so take your time, gain experience and maturity that can aid your future marriage and career life because it's for life. So don't rush into a relationship and ruin someone's daughter/son life.
Don't need to watch, bro is fully back.
Jonathan straight up gonna be a problem for the ladies, A MENACE.
Old music back too😢
Sushi please post more, my 2025 is already fucked up ❤
Yes, being single is the best. Haha
Johathan needs to be over 6ft and on a six figure salary and then he might meet the list of demands.
Jonathan looks quite chill ngl
No need to guess, average age at first marriage is 30 and rising for all you short kings. My takeaway from this video is BTO, car and one kid means net worth a million or more liao.
Now v sked to get interviewed on the road in case sushii watches it
Gotta love how almost all of rich East Asia is facing this issue 😐
Bro giving good life options HAHAHAH
Did the singapore government announce it?