10 Reasons Why Intelligent People Have Fewer Friends
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- Опубликовано: 9 июл 2024
- Families and friends are necessary for our individual journey through life. We need them for emotional support to pass through difficult times. We also need them to learn some valuable lessons and skills, and to give us a sense of worth. However, it turns out that highly intelligent people have few friends, even though we know how important it is to have them around us. Why?
Could it be because people feel intimidated by them and will rather stay away from them? Or could it be because they choose to stay away from so many people so that they don't get carried away in other activities that do not concern education? Well, we are about to find out.
In this video, we’ll be sharing with you 10 reasons why intelligent people have fewer friends. If you’re new here, consider subscribing so that you won’t miss other interesting videos like this.
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does intelligent = introvert?
cause this video described me perfectly
@@Justin.Martyr Sorry, Justin. Not buying it.
No, sry! I already have 2 friends.
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Apparently lieing makes you money. Intelligent people are not always satisfied with their number of friends because it's hard for them to socialize.
I don't feel alone when I'm alone. I can feel alone in the company of others.
Sound familiar...
Forever lonely together...
I would rather live in hell than rubbing shoulders with ass-lickers who galore at my workplace.
Me the same
I feel the same way, when I'm by myself I enjoy my life so much more, but around others I just feel sad, lonely, irritable and not in the mood to deal with their presence
One reason why intelligent people have fewer friends: quality over quantity.
Do you think it's ok to have a funny but dumb friend, to remind yourself not to be like them?
Sledge Table well i have a friend like that and i hang out with him because is good to have a laugh sometimes
@@sledgetable172 its better to have a funny and dumb friend so you can enjoy there company but not a dumb asshole friend. So yes but the good ones
Ok cool, he isn't the type to stereotype everything and not apologize so no worries
Willive21 If you see them as dumb assholes then you wouldn't really see them as friends really, but if they matter to you they're more like burdens than friends
“Be civil to all; sociable to many; familiar with few; friend to one; enemy to none.”
― Benjamin Franklin
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Love those Bennies, he was one helluva scientist and business guru.
That last one's tricky though. Because no matter how hard you try, you'll eventually become the villain in someone else's narrative.
Ideally correct
Ben Franklin use to say all this shit making it seem like he was some lone bookworm at the library with no friends, but at the end of the day he was an alpha male, partying it up with the French nobility on behalf of America and bedding dozens of women throughout his life. He was a bit different than what textbooks lead on.
"Be careful who you call your friends. I'd rather have four quarters than one hundred pennies."
Wise words indeed =)
Good one😃
@@vltruane exactly
100 pennies...put them in a sock...
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Its better to live alone rather then living with toxic people.
leonardo tomrenner ...what if you are toxic?
A valid statement. People are unpredictably predictable. Like they sometimes lie, cheat, steal, or get annoying or violent for some odd reason. It is perfectly logical to want to create a safe space away from all that.
But then again, you miss out on some of the good qualities as well.
Some of those qualities improve and enrich your life.
Balance is key.
Me too, I hate non sense and drama people.
leonardo tomrenner AMEN
2410 73691 He didn't say he wasn't...
"The smaller your bubble, the smaller your trouble." -SL
Real Truth there
Very true.
Infinitely small bubbles are the best.
With troubles, if you get through them. Does it make you stronger and build your integrity. If true, then troubles is an opportunity
@@reyreyperez It depends. I would not want to open my home to the whole world right now. That is nothing but trouble.
I had a girlfriend once who was most comfortable in crowds and was constantly dragging us to parties and other social gatherings. While I like people and socialization, I found this exhausting. We were both around 20 at the time and going to the same university. Sometime later in the semester, my girlfriend and I and several other friends had the opportunity to participate in some cognitive tests to help out the psychology department. It was interesting that the most extroverted among us assumed going in that they would score very high; I remember my girlfriend telling me not to be too upset when she "kicked my ass". She did after all, have a better GPA.
Well, as you could probably tell, that is not what happened! I scored the highest of the group, just ahead of another person who was an introvert like me. My girlfriend scored towards the bottom...and this actually caused a huge rift in our relationship. This was such an eye-opening experience for me, as I was always in awe of the extroverted and assumed that their confidence came from high ability. Sometimes that is the case, but often it is simply because they live in a kind of delusional bubble! P.S. I eventually found a major I really enjoyed and got that GPA up. To this day, I only have a few close friends, and don't really enjoy parties.
Many extroverts are full of huff and puff and no substance. They like to make out they know when they don't. So boring to be around yet some love their company.
That didn’t happen
@@hihigh101 Extroverts gang up and make it seem like it's a good thing to be, especially with their confidence, so lots of people shoot for being a smart extrovert.
But in fact, the actually smart introverts hide among the shadows, making it seem like they aren't that smart and all.
Thanks for the insight Sledge Table. Hadn't thought of it like that before. Cheers
Did you dump that bitch?
Most friends will use you, screw you over, or turn toxic and jealous. Best to have only a few
I don't even hang out except for business meetings. My wife is my friend. At this point in my life I don't need fake friends but business associates.
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I'm at a similar point in my life and business where I've had to cut deadweight family and friends. If you are not bringing anything to the table, there's no point in talking with each other.
You will soon get past it and understand the real meaning of friendship. Friends are extended families and families dont treat each other as business partners.
I’m having problems in this area lately. I really only had 1 or 2 friends and now I have none. They stopped calling and texting so I stopped calling or texting. I’m bored of them. Need to make new ones.
@@realitybites629 the part of the world am from is easier to make more enemies than friends. Your friends suddenly turn to your enemies because you got a promotion in life. True friends are difficult to come by in these day and time.
It’s wise to have a few friends than a crowd but it is also wise not to be alone either
Socializing is very energizing and beautiful when it is with the right people, not with the toxic and narcissist ones.
Intelligent people have a low tolerance to BS. We like to engage in meaningful conversation. Most people just like to beat their gums simply to hear themselves talk.
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So that’s why I’m like the list of the 10 things
Intelligence people do huh I don’t believe I’m intelligent but what ever something for you to write about and get reactions from
@@onlyjesusisoursaviorgscast2800 you sound very intelligent and introspective to me
True
I get bored out of my mind when I socialize. Rather be at home. Being your own best friend is the best!
I like having people at mine so we can dance and enjoy good music and good conversation xxx
@@bridgetmenham5103 I don't like dancing or conversation. Welp
I used to call that Cocktail Chat............zzzzzzzzzzzzzz ;@)
As dark as I am going to say, I agree with you. In life we all need friends and individuals who can back us up when we are going through hard times however when situations get unpredictable, we need to be our own friend sometimes.
Remember that key word: Sometimes
I enjoy occasional meet ups. I find that talking with certain group dynamics great and I enjoy some work banter. My favourite talk is probably about working on projects... But most of the people in my life aren't interested. However, I am definitely an introvert. I don't enjoy rating people by intelligence, it feels like stripping people of their humanity. Intelligence definitely doesn't equal happiness.
I'm never alone as long as I have a library of books to read.
#11 Intelligent people know they can’t fix stupid and don’t waste their time on such activities with the masses.
😂🤣😂 so true. It's impossible to win an argument with stupid ppl.
Charisma is based on image, and charisma is influential. So, yes. If you want to fix people smile a lot and appear to agree even when you disagree. Don't hurt their feelings with the truth. Tell lies, but make them good and tricky. Buy people to publicly agree. Ina word, be a politician.
You forgot the biggest reason: intelligent people who become experts, have a tough time finding other people who can keep up with them intellectually.
Joshua Adams spot on bro
big facts
nah, you still can be friend of someone just average, its not a competition, its not complicated, actually i think having other intellectual friends can be sometimes a trouble
What to say about hanging out with a girl, I prefer a truly nice and smart one who can enjoy the same things like me, but most the time they feel overwhelmed because I'm the perfect combo (fun, smart, kind, handsome, gentleman, I love pets, and so on) so they try very hard to fit in with me and at the end that behavior make them feel tired to being someone who they are not, even when I never have asked them to be someone else.
@@jraulcis better to no describle yourself…. is fine when others do but is just arrogant when you do it yourself
I treasure my solitude and I never feel like I'm missing out.
Same with me.
People outside are missing out on me😌
Same!
Same
Same.
I find that the more friends someone has, the most insecure they are. They need constant affirmation/validation. I feel I know myself and am really happy with myself and love my own company, I don't need anyone to confirm this.
AMEN.
I'm friendly and open to more friendships, but often people can't understand my personality (INTP). They feel that I need to change to suit their expectations, or at the least, demand an explanation from me why I said or did something they don't understand. That is not honoring me or respecting me for the genuine, unique person that I am. Those same people look askance at everything I do and say, as if I'm suspicious and need to be watched. It is down right insulting! I cannot accept a person as a friend unless they accept me and honor me as the good and trustworthy friend that I am. Often I'm lied to. Others will not keep their promises. i.e. They never do what, or show up when, they say they will. It is extremely tiring when you expend energy and time on others and they don't appreciate you and often abuse your good will. Then treat you poorly if you point out their bad behavior. It has been hard to find a genuine friend. Only found loose acquaintances where you can't trust them any farther than you can throw them. That seems shallow to me. It's so much less than what I expect and hope for in other people.
Eh. I am a little insecure, but I don't need validation 24/7. I do think I have a few more friends than the average person, but my friend group is just amazing.
I don't have all these people around me to validate myself, I have all these people around me, because I genuinely love them and appreciate their existence.
My grandmother used to say if you have one true friend in your life you are lucky
The point here is not to "dislike" people. The point here is to recognize that they have goals to meet and can't relate to nonsense. If you meet a person in your travels, speak, be kind, and keep it moving. Don't put people down, don't make them feel less than you, that's not the behavior of a wise person.
Life us actually simple..as one could make it be♀🤷🏽
Not making someone feel less than you is a lot of work actually. You need to go out of your way to act dumb, give a lot of your time listening to stuff that is downright silly, pretend you don't know stuff that you already know, gasp at childish stuff that people assume you cannot know. This video is right. If you are an intelligent person, you will most likely not have many friends. Wise men have said centuries ago that it is lonely at the top
@@doncorleone3901 wtf are you talking about? To say hello is going out of your way? To speak to someone by acknowledging their existence is burdensome? You missed the point. Sadly, you have no understanding of mankind or yourself. Your issues are deeper than being an introvert if saying "good morning" or "good day" is burdensome.
Yeah, I agree. My dad is intelligent but puts people down. Being intelligent doenst necessarily mean you are a good person, it just makes you aware of stuff outside but inside you as well, but they could still not give a fuck. But if you are a naturally good person (doesnt matter your iq, you could be an average joe but still kind) then you will act like this. I can speak from personal experience, i dont want to be like my dad.
Also, every person is different and they have their own concept of friendship. The problem here is the definitiion which is subjective to every individual just like "happiness". There can be people who genuinely like drama, gossip, or they consider a friendship as something lighter like having people to have fun, go out to parties, etc
Edit: I think we are NOT right in the way we are. Its not like we are better than everybody, we just are different because of our intelligence so its normal that we are going to perceive things differently and want things differently to our lifes. But the next person who can be just an average joe can be happy the way he is and can be happy around a lot of people and doing a lot of chit chat without saying anything because to THEM is different.
There are still a lot of fucked up people who are plain evil etc but you shoudnt knock everybody because we are different and there may be some genuinely good people out there so its good to meet them.
These they are my two cents
Sry formy english, its my second language.
Thank you Shans bo! I try to be polite and kind to everyone I meet, occasionally I find one that has the same interests as I do (Currently my best friend). I used to get frustrated by people who could not see things that seemed so simple to me. When I happen upon someone who is gifted in another area, all of a sudden I'm the dumb one. I realise my gift had nothing to do with anything that I did so, I try and use it to help others without making them feel like less. Although it can be frustrating sometimes and, I do get targeted occasionally, I feel so much better about myself. Try and avoid those that you just cannot stomach and, enjoy everything you can about everyone else because we are all a little screwed up. When I need to regenerate and nerd out a bit, how blessed I am to be able to enjoy being alone.
PS It would be nice to be able to drop some IQ points for a little while just to experience what normal is like.
This is how I am. Being alone is the best
Same here
Better be alone than having fake ppl around so called friends
I feel you.
As the saying goes in my country: 'better alone than in bad company !"
Same here
You've essentially just described Introverts. They have many of the same traits as detailed in this video.
Or people who have Asperger Syndrome.
Introverts are statistically more intelligent.
Too many people think with their emotions and not their intellect.
@F a People are emotional beings and susceptible to fear. Fear (and other emotions) retard the ability to think rationally. Fear is invoked by people who want to manipulate other people. It is a tactic utilized for centuries.
We live in a reactive based society/world. Fear is the main emotion that's projected. Going out with confidence is courageous and bold. Own the world it's our playground!
Intelligent people don’t like being around folks whom are always talking but never saying anything!
I think this is actually the #1 reason.
I totally agree with you...!!
It's the mindlessness, of what people say, do, eat, laugh about, cry about, what bothers them, and what doesn't bother them at all, even the way they walk on the streets these days, they always have an opinion on everything, but can't tell you why - in short, and honestly, I look down on a lot of people, yep.
Facts sounds like ME
who
I don't like dealing with other people's drama and bullshit. I've got far too much I'm interested in doing than dealing with nonsense and every moment of my time is valuable. This video is accurate.
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"Always make now the most precious time. Now will never come again." - Patrick Stewart
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This comment section is full of narcissic.... I'll tell you why people don't talk to you: because you are freaking insufferable.
In short: Being a introvert has it's perks.
Yes it does
Yes it does. I am a introvert too. I personally find it Hilarious that millions of extroverts are now breaking down and loosing their minds by staying at home. Its Very Entertaining seeing extroverted individuals be reduced To Nothing during this 2020 COVID-19 Pandemic. I personally have Technically self quarantined myself Long Before this Pandemic happened. Its nothing new to me. Those extroverts have so much to learn.
Indeed it does.
Do you mean that being an introvert has its perks?
@@Cryonito Amen to that. Staying at home in self quarantine IS NOTHING compared to being locked up in Prison in Solitary Confinement. I've seen a couple of RUclips Videos where Ex-Convicts told people to Stop Whining because staying at home is Beyond Better than being behind bars.
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@@larsswig912 ye-nah it feels like I'm being shouted at
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People don't want to hear your opinion.
They want to hear their opinion from your mouth.
Number one reason intelligent ppl stay alone.
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@ Zeeshan Parvez I couldn't agree with you more !
There's nothing worse than discussing something and knowing the other person is not really listening to you but rather planning what they'll say next.
Most people are shit listeners anyway. If you are a good listener you'll probably find few people listen back.
yes...
"I like people - in small doses" - George Carlin - RIP
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nayanmalig those are smileys. You see squares if your phone you are using doesn’t has that update.
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What most people call friends I would term “close acquaintances.” I only have 2 true friends - my wife and my brother. I guess that makes me real intelligent. Or real toxic. Or maybe just real lucky since true friends are rare.
True friends is no more. Maybe in 90's at the best... Nowadays social media ruined people... they all want big gropus and good status. They want to show off their friends, spending money on stuff they don't need, to impress people they don't like on Fakebook. It was my best decision to leave rat race. Later I left social media not just walking, but running from it.
I’m a very intelligent person.. when I was younger I would downplay that and I had a lot of friends.. as I got older and started thinking for myself my amount of friends decreased for various reasons.. ppl don’t like ppl they can’t control mentally.. they also don’t like ppl who outshine them naturally.. I’ve learned to keep to myself minus a few like minded ppl
If you are truly committed to being an intellectual then don't use shorthand. Using abbreviations undermines all of us. ppl means you are just like them.
Christine Wade I’m one of them
You should take an IQ test. You may be a perfect example of the dunning-kruger effect.
tavspop that’s cute
@@rawbrenaissance1305 Not cute. Deadly serious. You could be a danger to yourself and others.
As I get older I'm starting to realize I don't need any friends my husband and 2 kids is all I need, I find myself when I go out with a friend to a party I'm saying what the hell am I doing here, I like staying home in my own personal space. I'm not missing a dam thing.after work I stay home and read, watch TV, RUclips, and browse my internet. That's a wrap.
It's good to be real as I read in your comment. I never had a high blood pressure because I love being alone with Jesus to study the Bible & keep few peace loving friends. So many troubled people are ready to give us bitterness for free. 😀
unfortunately I lost the husband and he took my kids because he's evil. How do I make new friends when I can't even trust my own children? I wasn't working so I don't even have co-workers that I could have talked to.
Who needs to go out to those packed places when there are a lot of opportunities to spend time at home at this time and age. Why there is still some embarrassment in this, I don't understand.
@@classicalretroback Amen.
@@recoveringsoul755 hope all is well with you. Its ok life will get better we have our downs in life you will be OK again.
Loners are very misunderstood.
True
It doesn't matter if you are misunderstood or not, from experience I've learned most people live in their heads and can't see past their own noses. Others are serial haters filled with envy, jealous & insecurities that you are happy & content in your own skin and don't need anything from them. That's why the few friends that "get you" will be similarly intelligent, have similar qualities & values and on the same path as you.
To me, it doesn't make a difference if I'm misunderstood or not. If somebody has an issue with who I am and what I do, that's there problem. PERIOD! 😊
Karari Njuguna -this is very true all that you say. All it takes is a couple of people to see an judge and very human for others to see that too. Even though they don't know you.
@@kararinjuguna2189 exactly.
By who.
I would rather be alone and do my own thing than going with the herd. I don’t derive my worth from other people.
You get a like sir
I have three friends and I'm really proud: Me, Myself & I
That's only two ! You started with me !
I know that's right
3 Faces of Eve. lol.
Work with that truth
Wife, Kids ?
Yah! I have selected friends only..stay away from negative people's....
Life must be both negative n positive in order to be balance. Too much positive leads to stupidity. Same for negative. That's how one increase in intelligence.
Troy Tanw True 👍👍👍
@@troylollysaf9311 the negative is our control group always there to compare and avoid.
Negative people are the ones that live for drama, misunderstanding others and have no self confidence.
Positive people are the opposite. I can’t se how the first kind can make balance in ones life.
I will be sociable but find most socialising meaningless, a lot of empty pointless chatter with people who don't really care about each other and are just lonely. Being alone is just better.
People do not care about each others is the problem. Most people just care about themselves, the spouse and their kids.
"Hell is other people."
Jean-Paul Sartre knew a thing or two.
Your best friend is yourself......you know you better than anyone else ever will and you will always be there for you 🙏🏼
Being alone is way bette than being in fake and show off crowd
You are soooo right cuz I've seen crowd of ppl just either showing off, being sooo over dramatic, talking about someone behind there back or talking about someone else's personal life. It's just annoying and so disrespectful just listening/see that...!!
Shallow. So much talk is shallow and meaningless. More about bragging and ego boosting. Foolishness. I don't have time for it.
I have no friends I must be a genius!
Damien Brander yes dude you really are.
I think there is a class of people who dont have many friends not because they are that intelligent but were rejected for reasons beyond their control and have learned to live with it and in the end, were comforted by it.
Not necessarily healthy but peaceful at least.
That sad
Your face tells that genius
Yes yes yes! 🤣😁😎
Anyone else that person that talks to others in class and finds it quite easy to get along with a good amount of people, yet you only have like 2-3 people you actually chill with outside school and regularly talk to?
I really believe some ppl find us intimidating, because we're always thinking way farther than they are but they just do know it, plus we're soooo chill, silent & mysterious..!!
Most of the " FRIENDS " are simply acquainted people ....they do not deserve to be called as " FRIENDS " .
It took me until I was in my forties to finally accept this. Yes, so-called friends are really just acquaintances or if on the job, "work friends". "Work friends" is BS --- you're either a friend or you're not.
This became clear to me now. I hate quiet people, they have the loudest mind.,though not all quiet people are bad. It's better to have a male best friend but i cringe at the thought of it. I feel awkward around men sometimes especially if i like them.😂
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I have thought this many times. Been confused by it as well.
"Loneliness is Peacefulness"
"Peacefulness is happiness"
"Happiness increases brain energy"
Oversimplifying is certainly a way to achieve happiness.
And then it is wasted by drugs and alcohol because of the social isolation.
I think you misunderstand the concept of solitude mentioned in the video....there is a massive difference between solitude and loneliness
I always felt that “friends” were distractions.
Don't be dramatic.. Friends are necessary, it doesn't mean you live for acceptance tho
They are.
@@Adrian-wb7kf they are not necessary
This was an eye opener because I have all the characteristics of an intelligent person. I love being alone or with my beloved wife & feel out of place socializing and/or networking. Period. Thanks for the clarification.
I see my best friend everyday in the mirror😎
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Thts just
I hear mine every morning when he barks at the postman.
Best response ever
Yes absolutely 😄
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#5 Intelligent people have visions for the future and they want to work towards it is spot on.
Living alone is living FREE !
The more people you surround yourself with, the more you have to listen to other people's problems !
First of all I'm addicted on being alone and secondly I just tired of looking just friend
When you know all about lies about this world it is hard to go outside and make friends..
Humanity limits itself to simply what society wants then to.
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Justin Martyr ppl dont like hearing the truth. my fam think im crazy for speaking the truth lol.
Justin Martyr I lost a few people by telling the truth.
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Simplicity of an intelligent people is misinterpreted as their weakness. Initially people underestimate them. As s/he lives ahead of time, s/he can easily find strength / weakness of the present. People start taunting, bullying , treat like a cartoon. This is a painful period which gradually builds a strong shell around. When her/his work attracts genuine people, cynics become angry . Gradually the intelligent gains the power to quickly distinguish between good and bad - the strength to live with the essential only.
Zero friends here, literally. I better do everything alone than be a toy to use... People are ALWAYS around you with a reason.
Or a PROBLEM...
@@dianematlock7922 Exactly, good add.
@@erakkovaatainen148 Thank You.
Needy people are DANGEROUS...
Feed off your energy...as they have none of their own. They try to impose their misery onto you, and have the gall to get mad cause you AIN'T HAVING IT... TELLS YOU WHAT THEY'RE ALL ABOUT, HOKEY POKEY...LOL
@@dianematlock7922 Thanks for your time. I agree. I had two friendships with guys which turned really fast into relationships. At first they were nice, but eventually they mask started to drop, and I had a clue they both were Borderline (personality). Second one was even officially diagnosed and acted like first one... That personality drained me to the point I was tired not only because I've lost money especially for the second one, but my time, efforts for fake relationship... They were both abused in childhood, and tried to put their misery on me. It tells exactly what they're all about. They want our time and our supply... we feed them... Good friends may be available today, but right now I am fine on my own. I hope you are doing great, you can do much alone. You can grow big. Alone. I can't see how it could benefit me "playing" with friends, when you can do alone just as well if not better. I am working on my weight right now.
So basically these 10 reason describe most introverts.
Few friends eliminates too many people in your business and less folks to ask you for anything!!
Not like me or my friends have anything to ask from eachother than our time and to comfort eachother. We really can't take advantage of one another if we can't really give anything of substance.
This is why, if you have a good idea for a product or service to sell (meaning you are probably have at least somewhat above average intelligence) you hire people who are more outgoing to help you *market* that product.
Division of labor works wonders!
I dont do crowdy friends,i find it difficult to be myself around people who are always talking and doing nothing contructive.
They try to validate themselves that way.
Agreed!
I always relied to have one friend. Do not like the crowd. I am more happy on being alone as more friends create more problems. I am truly solatire person and love it.
I have a limited number of friends too, but that does not make me superior or anything like this. If people prefer large group, then that is fine;your people seem to desperatly try to convince yourself, so you don't have to feel bad about it.
I had no idea I was this intelligent, but every point described me perfectly, No friends, no need for friends. My vision, my play, no drama needed, I build my own sand castle and watch the rain destroy it, because I just planned it, built it, for my own challenge. No approval needed. I even recorded an instrumental album and waited 25 years to share it on youtube.
My wife sings "Don't Fall in Love with a Dreamer"... but she gets it. My father was the exact same way. Obsessive Compulsive in a good way.
Everyone in these comments:
"I am insufferable to be around...I must be a genius!"
pls stop
"Intelligent people are not very active on social media. They would rather listen and observe everyone there." Yet a lot of people feel like commenting on how they are so much smarter than everyone else. "#9: Intelligent people don't try to prove their worth to anyone"
@@VaniljeAlfen THANK YOU... freaking THANK you. I swear the number of EDGELORDS in this comment section is both depressing and cringe inducing.
This video should just be titled "Intelligent people are anti social too"
This is just a bunch of generalized bs interpreted by a bunch of social psychologists with too much time on their hands.
It's actually funny to see so many here acting like they're so intelligent because they hate people and/or have a terrible personality.
If intelligent people are so skeptical why aren't they here calling this out as junk science?
And yet here you are...you must always talk about yourself and intellectuals walk away. Stop being so hurt, move on.
@@mirsaes Edgy as hell bruh, ow that edge.
If you are the smartest person in the room, It is time to leave the room.
But the remaining group will probably have one person smarter than the others. This person would leave, and the whole thing would repeat itself until nobody is there anymore. I'm not sure it's smart.
Moreover, it implies that nothing is interesting besides intelligence. I don't see how that's supposed to be smart.
@@dekneint9 he's clearly the last one to leave the room
@@brinckau Right! In the right mood, I get a giant kick out of dumb people, theyre so entertaining, especially if theyre the super-outgoing kind with endless stories of their insane lives!
That's why I never attend a Trump Rally and a Kid Rock concert.
Even dumb people can teach you something.
You should learn to value a lesson when you get it.
I have realized that the friends I've chosen, regardless of their intellect, have qualities that I myself lack and they bring forth out of me. Witt, Perspective, Comradery, Letting things happen in the moment. Letting go of the vicious analytical, quantifying monster that's in my noodle.
Though uncomfortable and sometimes displeasing, a dose of society is needed to add perspective to the world.
Finally. Someone who gets that this whole, "intellectuals don't hang with 'simpletons'" concept is bullshit.
This comment section can be summed up with one simple concept:
Dunning-Kruger Effect
1. Intelligent people enjoy being alone.
2. ..do not need as much social interaction as the average person.
3. Their thoughts and actions are often contrary to others’.
4. … talk less and listen more.
5. … have visions for the future and want to work towards it.
6. … don’t like to get involved in drama.
7. They don’t have time for fake hang-outs.
8. They are satisfied with the number of real friends they have. They don’t want any more.
9. … don’t try to prove their worth to anyone.
10. People see them as proud because they keep to themselves.
I am happy being single and alone. I have peace, calmness, and enjoy doing things just my way. I have children to hung out with.
"Everybody's talking at me
I don't hear a word they're saying
Only the echoes of my mind
People stopping, staring
I can't see their faces
Only the shadows of their eyes..."
Harry Nilsson
It's nice to know that I relate to all of these. I don't consider myself intelligent as such but more open minded than most which helps. I only have one close friend and that's because I haven't met many people who wouldn't stab me in the back given half a chance. I have no interest in hanging out with people who are not good for me. When I think back, most of my friends were just using me for one thing or another (I had a holiday home for example) and they weren't real friends. I'm quite happy to be picky about who I hang around with as it's kept me alive for all these years.
For anyone who doesn't have friends and feels bad about it - Don't! It's better to be alone than to be with anyone toxic. Don't change who you are and continue to be a great person. Love and light all.
Happiness comes from within not from other people. That is why intelligent people would rather be alone living their own world staying happy and productive.
Intelligent people don't want to waste their time and they want to work on goals for their future.
Tomorrow is not promised, enjoy today
@@johncronin7481 what if tomorrow finds you unprepared,the foundations of tomorrow are laid today.
True, tomorrow could find you uprepared
You wouldn't have to work your whole life if you invest in good dividend paying stocks and real estate.
Constantly ♀🙅🏽
So true! I hit 9 out of 10. Being around too many people wears me out - I have to go home and enjoy he solitude to recharge my batteries! Uninformed people tend to annoy me.
SonshineLady wow you hit 9 out of 10- that’s questionable
It more likely means you're an anti social introvert rather than highly intelligent.
@C that thing about stupid people being passionate about notions sounds alot like my adhd friend. He gets good grades, but he's just stupid when it comes to anything else. Litterally, if you have a good memory but are extremely dumb, you still pass. I used to be a great student.
I used to pass straight 90s.
I used to listen.
Guess that depressive mood swing everybody gets around 5th grade doesn't always leave you.
How did I go from that to this?
Why am I still typing?
Why can't I stop?
Help me please?
No?
Okay.
Very few people have actual friends, most will never learn this truth till they find themself broke and homeless. Whoever (if any) is left when that happens are real friends.
I normally feel alone when there are too many people.
I drop people who add no value to me. I have important projects that need alot of time. I feel more fulfilled busy at them than wasting time with people who laugh at great ideas only to ask you for money when you succeed
Absolutely. Good for you bro!!!
Michael Mwaura I agree
@@Justin.Martyr you serious?
@@melmelon3393 *I HATE YOU!!! & I am Serious!!!!*
I guess that is why! Never thought to be too smart but I fit comfortably with the ten reasons for my lack of friendships
I can't stand people in general but I have the ability to wear the social mask when needed. With that said, I do have friends, but most of my closets childhood friends don't live near me anymore and I don't have the need to see them. I know a lot of people who I consider acquaintances that I see rarely. Everyone that knows me knows that me being such a sporadic presence in their lives is not a personal thing. I much prefer my own company and that of my daughter and my wife, which are the only two people I can see everyday without feeling tired of their presence and I actually enjoy spending time with. Even so, I truly appreciate my time alone at night when I get to be by myself working, enjoying my pastimes, etc.
Fact, you just explained my lifestyle.
" I have two friends.
GOD and ME !!!
TRUST NO MAN.!!!
ISAIAH 2:22.
True !
So damn right,buddy
I have no FRIEND s except when I hold my own hand.
I think you have been badly hurt in relationships, but dont let it put you off others, there are some genuinely amazing people out there
Exactly! Well said!
At work I deal with some of the laziest people who barely do the minimum amount of work and they all have the same things in common. They spend more time lolly gagging about nonsense and constantly distracting each other from their work. And yet, they claim they are all friends. I'm friends with the people that are focused on their jobs and can still carry a meaningful exchange of laughter and intelligence. We aren't fake with each other or act pretentiously.
Honestly it has nothing to do with intelligence, I just find being around lots of people absolutely exhausting.
Since past 10 years I have been alone and now just enjoy of loneliness. I have written 3 books and thousands of article.
Rumi has a great poetry about benefits of lonesome.
Do you have facebook account? I'd love to see some of your poets. I really love poetry I do also want to be a writer.. I don't know where to start from.....
@@paultembo1477 hi, dismally, my poems are not in English. On the other hand, We are a few group of people that follow the RUMI teaching and Sufism.
I don't like social media for many reasons. e.g, lie, hared, crook, much cheap people, bunch of inferiority complex, fake news and so on.
I wish you health and wealth whenever and wherever you are.
And also they keep their plans to themselves only
Exactly only my girl knows my plans not even my family knows my plans they can become toxic too
I always suspected I was intelligent but now I'm almost convinced that I am. I got 9 out of the 10 reasons.
I have never had friends because I like my own company best.
Don’t like to waste our time with constant liars,
It’s all due to trust
My friends are my wealth. I am rich.
I don’t know if I don’t have a lot of friends because I’m intelligent or because I’m too lazy to go out and find more 🤷🏻♂️
Tiz a fool to trust everybody and a fool to trust no one, confusos says
Confucius also says a man with hole in pocket feel cocky.
Gosh, this describes my charector. 9 out of 10 of these enlisted points are within me. The only problem I have is to discuss my opinions, and i always feel rejected or undermined, but when i try to figure out why, i will realise that I am a threat to soo many. Im not even on social media bcos it takes too much ofmy time. I get condemned for this everyday. But when i try to fit in to this culture of spending too much time on social media, nope it is not my cuppa. I just feel as if i am being diverted and getting lost. My social media is very limited, just for me to have an access to some info. I am not selfish nor proud, i just dont like drama, i dont like delays and social media and too many friends may bring chaos into your space if not controlled. I am a very happy single adult, i really enjoy myself but I had day when i was asking myself why am i not acting like everybody. But now i hv got my answers. 100 per cent through. And when im alone, my life moves forward faster than when i am with the group. Im not saying it is wrong to have too many friends or company, im just saying i am different.
I have zero friends. I would not call myself intelligent, just thoughtful. My plan is to be constructive and continue to treat others well. Perhaps one day, I will meet other people.
Thank you for this presentation, I do love people but am happiest alone. I’m 73yr old and have always been this way. Not presuming I’m intelligent by default mind you, but very interesting.
A good friend comes in when the whole world is gone out... but it's too tough to find.??... so books are my best friends..!!!
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Intelligent people usually can fix lots of things or figure out how to do expert work easily. I've done lots of free work for 50 or so called friends, like replacing a transmission in a motor home, replacing car A\C systems, swapping an engine, body repair to a rear quarter panel, replacing an entire front end because of bushing failures, replacing a run capacitor in a home A\C system, pulling network cable and setting up a home network, setting up a 240V circuit from a fuse box to a free standing garage for a charging point, repairing and upgrading computers, repairing a flat panel TV and I am a professional software developer that sits behind a desk all day. How many of these so called friends have done something for me.... None of them. Some of them have offered money, but I didn't take it as I enjoyed doing what ever was asked and probably would not have done it in the first place if they told me they were going to pay me up front. So, my friends list has dwindled to *none.*
This is a very good video. I'm 84 now and have had almost no friends through primary school, high school and university. I have had no friend even after finishing my education. That means I have never hanged-outs with friends and spend much time in vain. In stead, I have studied and worked very very hard as I was young. I have studied American English of reading, writing and speaking very very hard. In the result of that, I could become an assistant to an American photojournalist who lived in Japan. I worked with him more than four years, during that time I have learned more English and journalism and photography. After I left him, I became a free-lancing photojournalist and travelled around the world visiting 40 countries and also I have lived in New York City for nearly 18 years. Although I have had no friends in my life, I have never felt lonely. Furthermore, I have had very exciting and happy life. I don't think I have had such an exciting life if I had many friends and have hanged-outs with them and spent the much of the precious time in vain with them.
Hehehehee then my family just be super intelligent. I've never had a friend and I'm 55 yes old. My husband and two grown up children samecase. We are ALL each other's friends.
Amina same here. 55 and never in my life had a best friend. I hate socialising because I don't want to engage in meaningless chit-chat. I work alone, eat alone, sing alone. I love staying at home and read as much as could.
I can't call myself intelligent though lol.
@@aalot6744 i'm sure you're in your own way.
lady you must be having very peaceful life..
I'm 45.. weekends I spend with my wife & boy rest of the time I busy with my task.. I don't care people call me proudly, arrogant or intelligent.. what I know it's very peaceful..
Stepped. Sorry autocorrector takes over at times.
You are 55 years old and still looking in this kind of videos. Can't believe this.I thought only young people curious to know about the world but it seems even old people also haven't got enough of experience about life.
Wow, I listened to this 3 times. Thank you for the video. Now, I understand who I am and why I am this way. 😊
Exactly,I used to feel bad about myself but now I know!
I luv ur comment
Me too
Same here
PeaceB WithU why? How do you know this guy is right? He didn't show any evidence to support his claims.
I'm a person with an exceptionally high IQ. Something I never tell people, because they always try to find ways to disprove it. In stupid silly ways. I know I'm good at making the correct conclusions. But I also know that my understanding of things are always flawed by my lack of knowledge. Even though my knowledge tends to be superior, I do make mistakes in judgements (Not often, but it's painful to be beaten by those less fortunate).
The persons I envy the most are driven people that achieve wonders despite a lack of IQ.
I'd say that this video is mostly spot on. I do see the profit in having more friends, but I hate the drama that comes with. Also having to explain every step of a train of thought is exasperating. (MOSTLY THIS!)
Well, it shows that they themselves are Losers if they must disprove WHAT ALREADY EXISTS. Never be bothered with Failures...they Dislike themselves & have nothing to offer others👊
@So Who's the Dummy Now? I saw a man with a 80 IQ who was a successful self made multi millionaire. He knew he didn't have the smarts so he just hired people who did. He could judge peoples character for loyalty, honesty and hard working.
@So Who's the Dummy Now? 💯☜(ﾟヮﾟ☜)
Something you never tell people? You just told everyone on the RUclips comment section. Dunning-kruger effect in action.
@So Who's the Dummy Now? wtf are you talking about? Name is on top of post.
A lot of these reasons apply to me but I do feel lonely when I’m alone, I like spending time with quiet people and I usually avoid drama
If you have these 3 professional friends, you’re lucky:
1. A lawyer
2. A doctor
3. A Mechanic
Brilliant !!!!!!
I am a doctor, a mechanic, and a lawyer for myself.
Chef, farmer?
Do it yourself
You mean useful friends?
There is no such thing as friends the world is full of users.
frank muller I think your might be right
frank muller I would say your perspective is both cynical and wrong. Seems you've made friends with the wrong people in the past. Don't discount the value of friendship, and the capacity of people to genuinely care about you, and vice versa.
Exactly.
I completly agree with you frank"your best friend is your greatest enemy"
frank muller you’re right
Some intelligent people have depression too, so that changes a lot when it comes to how being alone feels. In a very bad way.
#11: Intelligent people don't need elaboration on every point once it's made
I have few friends because people irritate me with their stupidity and laziness. I'd rather be alone.
I'm fine with having stupid friends. They're loyal. If you gauge friends by intelligence rather than seeing whether or not they are loyal, get ready to die alone.
@JRRnotTolkien you sound like an astrologist trying to sell crap services
@@somenbwithabadhistoryteach5872 sounding like a very manipulative person tbh
@@lil_weasel219 not stupid in the social sense, but hey, if you think that's what I meant. My friends can tell when you're spouting bullshit and trying to use them. Or I'd at least hope they are.