Supposedly the CIA was involved from the early days. Deep state was annoyed you could only tax half the population and it would drop labor costs, plus they wanted the kids to look at the state as the parents. Women championed it and supported it, but the deep state wanted it.
@@bplayerr1 a lie men sold and bought too. Thats why an equal amount of men participate in hook up culture and r supportive of children being ripped apart in the womb and want their wives on birth control which causes abortions too. Men have been poisoned and weakened, this needs to be addressed.
Women lied to women, not society. They aren’t inert objects that things happen to they have agency. They supported the movements and ideologies that lead society, and women, to this place. The lack of accountability is wild.
old single women, lied to young women. Women are womens worst enemies. Even at work, no one complains or b1tches about other women more than women... they will do anything to ruin women they don't like. Men generally don't care and accept reality.
Exactly… society didn’t lie to women.. us fellas have been shouting from rooftops that we don’t like promiscuity… women lied to each other and just blame us all…
"Mature faster" is only in SEXUAL ATTRIBUTES Mentally & psychologically, women for the most part stay stuck at age 14 to 18...even in their 40s and 60s Men continue maturing mentally & physically past that age range.
@jasono2139 Are you incapable of receiving generalized statements? Also, it isn't "some", but the overwhelming majority of women. As for the men portion, it is still large majority of men.
Spoke to a woman I thought was a friend once and learned that not only is she going through a divorce but the friend she is closest with is also and it just feels like they are perfectly content raising sons wout their fathers and practically bonding over those facts😢💔🙏🏼
DOB 1946 and allegedly world population was about 2.5 billion, now it’s estimated at over 8 billion. I’m not too worried about population decline, but the fact is western style countries births are slowing down and people are being shipped to these countries from overpopulated areas that are not compatible with our culture.
Numbers and statistics are often regard as absolute truth and facts, but honestly who really knows. City life, busy roads, crowded malls, bustling airports and apartment living makes us feel the world is much more crowded than it actually is.
@@splashmoby That’s true. There are still wide open areas that are habitable around the world, but the junk that we accumulate and discard I think is a bigger problem for our rivers and waters that we depend on than alleged climate change.
@@lyndabrown3402 as long as we recycle that is not going to be a problem, waste disposal is not that big of a deal, it becomes a problem when we make stupid decisions.
@@michele2330 But most junk doesn’t get recycled. Do you have an overflowing closet of fast fashion clothes ? Donating is a big business. They ship it to poor countries and pollute their land and waters. Some plastic gets recycled but not much.
Loved this conversation. Interesting. My husband is 9 years older than me , we've been married for almost 48 years now. That age difference has been perfect for us.
Women do NOT mature faster than men in ANY aspect. Men and women look for DIFFERENT things in their spouse. Women look for men with resources (and usually that's men older than them), and men look for youth and beauty, which is found in younger women.
Many experiments have demonstrated that 20 year old men have the same impulse control as a 13 year old girl. Look it up. Women do mature faster psychologically due to the limited window to have children. Men’s brains don’t fully develop until they’re 26 years old. Another fact that you need to look up.
9:35 You would be hard-pressed to find a man over the age of 25 who does not know multiple men who have been utterly destroyed by divorce. Add in that the divorce may never end, you might end up in an endless situation where you have to pay the other side and never get to move on with your life. I have 2 children with a girlfriend of 12 years who did not understand why I refused to marry. I simply showed her the alimony and child support calculation spreadsheet our state uses. She understands now how I would be unable to exist had we gotten married early on and were now divorced, and what I am being asked to agree to.
I am not even from this country, immigrated legally less than a decade ago… I myself know double digit numbers of men that got taken to the cleaners… it’s ridiculous tbh…
@@djaeger-k5m Yup, I know lots of guys who got destroyed, and even a decade later are still paying and unable to move on and rebuild. While a couple of guys did screw up and deserve some punishment, I know many others who's only crime was their wives got bored and wanted to see what else was out there.
by not marrying, about the only things you dodged is alimony, her not being able to take your retirement. if u think your dodging child support, think again.
@@thmphll There's also another risk that's far more frightening than alimony or child support: parental alienation. Your children are likely to stay with their mother, someone who may not have a positive view of you anymore. Even if she does, your kids will still be raised primarily by her, not you. And eventually, a stepfather might come into the picture.
Great conversation. I agree with everything you both said. Our kids are getting older and are about 5 years from moving out to begin their adult journey. The things you talked about and other things is what I have been thinking about the last couple years. The uncertainty is scary but we believe that our kids can model their lives based on our family values that we have tried to impart to them over the childhood.
Brett's point at around 3:45 is so powerful. The longer you spend being single building your own life apart from a spouse, the more difficult it becomes to join that life with someone else that has done the same. You're trying to mix two very independent people at that point, both of whom will be much less willing to change to become a new person in this new situation. I got married at 25 and have been married for 23 years. I am not even close to being the same person I was back then. Just about the only things about me that have stayed are my faith and my sense of humor. So much of what I want out of life, what I do in my life, has been defined by the life my wife and I have built together. That's how it should be.
@@JasonFischer absolutely which is why at 28 with no success in that realm I’m kinda done people should focus on relationships early which I tried but I didn’t do the hook up culture or lax dating so just didn’t have much luck.
Yup. My nuclear family isn't big but extended on my moms (1 of 11) side is now 200+ and in my early 20s I wanted a big family. Now in my late 30s looking at women my own age is a logistical nightmare and the drive to find a younger women that can fit into my life is not there.
@@JasonFischer sure I’ll definitely be aiming younger though that’s the challenge if you want the traditional route way to many single moms past 24 from what I see
@@fxphzznpjfdl5bpuqjxo504 It's harder, but not impossible. I would encourage you to examine what's behind the statement of trying to find a woman "that can fit into my life". That's not the goal. It's never the goal, regardless of your age. The goal is to build a new life together. That doesn't mean you completely abandon who you are, but it will necessitate some deep introspection to identify what parts of you are core to your identity and what parts are just preferences you've built up over time. Be prepared to leave those preferences behind, and expect her to be willing to do the same. If your core is a match for her core, then the life you build together will very likely be so much more rewarding and fulfilling that what you can build completely on your own.
i feel like a lot of people are very worried about getting in a marriage that you basically force just to get the ball rolling. the pressure to start a family with a person that you arent totally inline with and then it becomes a disaster
I'm not hating, but a word of advice from a slightly older guy. Younger people should be weary when talking about marriage as though they've cracked the code, like this lady talking about her older partner and how they're building a life together. I wish nothing but the best and hope that you do, but come back to me when you're 80, you know what I mean? Life is long and shit happens. Marriage is amazing, but it's also hard work.
Usually in life, the things that are most beneficial come with high risk. That doesn’t mean we shouldn’t do them. Two good examples are: getting married, and having children. Both of those come with high risk. Both of those are worth the risk.
I’m 35. Been single for about a year now. I can’t fathom now sharing my stuff with someone. I broke off my last relationship because she was financially irresponsible.
True regarding the taxes I am so pissed of that i have to pay more because i am single I work more hours but because you decided to have a family and i dont want kids i have to pay for you Work more hours then The money i make i want to keep and spend it on muself
Marriage was always supposed to be a religious institution... divorce is not. ...and as always, the government has usurped power over things they shouldn't be involved in.
The feeling of commitment that is sensed by the children you have. If you never have any children, then marriage is practically irrelevant (could help with taxes in some cases, though it hurts in other cases).
“Women mature faster than men”…define “mature”. This is the most non-sensical claim that continues to spread. I’ll define mature in the following way: the more future-oriented a person’s approach to life is, the more mature the person is. The most mature individuals you will ever encounter (at any age: 20, 25, 30, 40, etc) are entrepreneurial men who are in relationships and are focused on leading themselves and their wife/girlfriend to long-term Eudaimonia. This is an inherently masculine quality. Not all males are like this (only the most mature), but no females are like this.
"mature" means whatever women are at the moment. If women want to sleep around and chase jocks while guys want to play games? Then sleeping around is more "Mature". But when men reach that same mindset and women are now looking for a retirement plan its no longer mature to sleep around. Its just gaslighting and thats it.
A lot of that saying is sort of like an under the breath comment on how women's bodies mature quicker, and they are exposed to things like Wolf whistling or being treated like a sexualized woman, years before men get that kind of reaction to their bodies ... I had a friend who had large assets, and when we were walking down the street as middle schoolers, we will get people whistling at us, and pulling over and asking us what are plans were for the weekend, they thought we middle schoolers were college kids I guess? Or they were just super perverts.. Another thing is a lot of girls ages 14 to 17, they are convinced that their first boyfriend will settle down with them, and that they will get married... And when that guy will inevitably break up with her, because that was his first gf, people just comfort girls by telling them that the "guy isn't mature yet." When in reality they just don't tell the girls it was silly to think that there first boyfriend with them
And also you said yourself it was Entreprenelar men, that's a small percentage of men... And nowadays a lot of those men, are just going at it alone, because they just can't be bothered to find a good woman because of how hard they are to find, or people just keep looking in the wrong places.. Of course guys who are able to support themselves and have a business are the most, but there aren't a lot of guys like that nowadays. And there are a group of them, who thinks they are the smartest in the room, so they end up sabotaging themselves. But yeah they go out on it alone, because finding a good woman is hard, &, the consequences of finding the wrong one are way too high for people in business A good woman isn't ever going to be going out club..
@@claudeyaz I’m really asking for an alternative definition that is better than the one I mentioned. By the definition I provided, men not only mature faster, but the only truly mature people in society are men.
@@user-hn9qw7ou8d That's why I explained to you how the word is used in vernacular, it's used to comfort women.. And mature doesn't mean in this case, better at supporting oneself, but I think the way they use the word mature, it's self realization of how other people see you physically.. So women mature quicker, because they become self aware of how they are seen in the eyes of others, and are able to use that to their advantage..while men Make easy marks until they are older, because they mature slower in that way.. Like that story that went viral recently, about a guy who agreed to impregnate an older woman, and somehow he is surprised that she tried to ruin his life... large majority of women would see those red flags, because they are exposed to those types of schemes at a much younger age than men are... So instead of Using the word mature, it would be preferable if they used a word like Self-realization, or, That they learn to harness that? It's really hard to put it into words you're right. Do you see what I'm saying here, I'm not disagreeing with your point, I'm just trying to explore exactly what it is that makes people say women mature quicker.. A lot of it does come with many girls having friends that are dating much older men, and they just get exposed to a lot of realities through those immature friends who are getting exploited by an older man.. But many guys, in high school, are very goofy, and when you compare that goofiness, to what a lot of girls act like in school, it's again not surprising... So maybe it just has to do with numbers, and generalizations.. Yes young men who are entrepreneurial seem like are the most mature, but since those guys aren't in very large numbers.. the largest group of people who seem mature on the outside, especially when compared to their peers, would be women. But just like all generalization, they don't tell the full story
Counterpoint to men getting married at a young age- Most men aren't nearly as secure or confident in their 20s as they are in the 30s or older. It's going to be really hard for most men to have successful marriages in their 20s nowadays. Biblical marriage isn't really about 2 people meshing their lives. It's about a man taking a woman to be his wife, and her deciding to submit to him. He agrees to protect and provide for her, and she agrees to get on his program. Their roles in the relationship are very different. That's why a 10-20 year age gap works best for most men now. They've had more time to get established, and the woman has had less time to become a pain in the ass. Unfortunately modern western society teaches women from a very young age that they don't need men, and shouldn't submit to them.
A 10 to 20 year age gap hardly "works best". 🤦 The only reason those "relationships" stay together is because the woman is clearly looking for someone who can handle everything for her and the guy isn't looking for a woman who provides him anything except for bedroom fun. I'm not even sure I'd call that a relationship.
@@kristianmolina1742 Almost surely Pearl has a man too. The woke & the feminists despise Pearl. She gets enough hate. Why would she want to expose a loved one, or herself to that? Her significant other would be put under the microscope & harassed mercilessly. One day we’re gonna look up, & she’ll announce being engaged/married
@@TheDeadlyKnight I’m sure she doesn’t lol It’s amazing that ppl believe all the dumb shit she spews. She’s not based like Brett. She’s just another grifter who tells lonely incels exactly what they want to hear🙄 she started off making sense but she realized she can really make a lot money saying the most outrageous stuff to appease the red pill audience
@TheDeadlyKnight I don't think she does but that's not really the issue pearls biggest problem to me is that she very clearly wants a man of a certain caliber that unfortunately won't want her, and while she gets that intellectually she still goes for them and is telling other women the same stuff that she should probably Listen to herself
Marriage Is Not a Child,s play both boy and Girl must Understand EachOther , especially Their Weaknesses and Behaviors and Accept And Love Wholeheartedly before Marriage with God,s help only. Amen
You need to talk about the birth rates only as the number of women and daughters (half the birth rate). Women are the limiting factor here as long as enough men exist for genetic diversity. So in South Korea, 100 women will have 35 daughters, those 35 will grow up to have 12 daughters, who will then have only 4. Three generations and basically South Korea is empty.
Religious people really struggle with the fact secular people can make common sense choices or not without needing religion to guide them. They're the same risk assessment choices based on the same factors. I don't need to be told marriage is a special promise and bond two people make with each other. It doesn't need to be explained through theology to understand the concept and benefits. ...ask the billions of people in Asia..
@EnterHacker yeah, agreed. My parents are like this, and they don't understand that the God argument won't work on secular people. It's like "you have to find another way to talk to people who don't share your views"
I think the demographic of women that Brett is focusing on here, are the women who de-prioritize men. But she's not talking about the women who prioritize men. She speaks as if all women deprioritize men, when that's not the case.
2:12 If women should be dating men a lot older than them, wouldn’t it make sense then for women in college to not be dating and getting married to the man they meet in college?
Sorry but even religion isn't a good enough incentive to marry because A). Divorce incentives don't go away because you believe in a sky daddy and B). She can decide she's no longer religious at any moment, thus removing any barrier. No matter what, there's no way to marry a woman where she doesn't have all the leverage in the relationship.
11:10 this is the females perspective at all. A lot and imo at least 50 who have babies know they will be taken care more financially and benefit from a divorce in some way. It’s much easier for them bc deep down they now this income now earned wasnt really earned. It’s an easy way to make some money and have a roof over my head so the cost analysis to them is okay and they love their children. Not know the children are most affected bc we’re seeing after a few generations of this we have more masculine women and more feminine men. Bring back the days where if you had a child your life was no longer about you. It’s about the kids. All this well even tho I have kids I can still have a life non sense needs to go. Sorry that life is over. People take advantage of what, especially in America, made it great. It was through hard work and sacrifice. Most don’t even know exactly what all went into this and the people in power who do know won’t stop the ignorance of people either. America is now in a much faster decline and so many people don’t understand the family dynamic and natural order of things plays a huge part in it, if not the biggest part. Politics of one side being our downfall is dumb bc both sides are to blame. Like I’ve said in other places this shift and decline has been coming for the last 60 years. There’s plenty of mistakes on both sides that opened up Pandora’s box and its can’t be closed now bc it would be considered illegal. Imo they better just makes things legal to do and adjust or it will only get worse. Certain huge laws need to be overturned and new ones regarding peoples freedoms need to be taken away. One of the biggest lies in society is that freedom means you can do whatever you want. That needs to start including the top percent and people in power
I think Brett is great and on point with almost everything but what frustrates me is that she is always talking about young people getting together and dating/marrying, but then turns around and marries a guy 7 years older in her low twenties. As a 24 year old guy, what are we supposed to do in the meantime? Just wait until we are 28 to find spouses? It’s rough out here for us young men.
@@Hokies2022 Yes, men should be building themselves and their life for a few years and then somewhere between 28-35 or so should be looking for someone younger to start a family with. It's worked since before recorded history, it works pretty much everywhere in the world today. It's pretty much only areas overrun by delusional feminists who claim it doesn't work despite all of the evidence to the contrary that don't do it that way... The areas where marital satisfaction and marriage in general are failing miserably.
.....yes actually, build yourself up take care of yourself and learn who u are before even trying to date and then choose a younger girl to date and then marry , if ur worried about "game " then work on that and date casually but ignore any relationship until ur ready
Don’t listen to modern day bullshit advice. Start looking for your future wife NOW. You need to build your life TOGETHER. I was 21 when I married my wife. She was 20. Best decision ever. Were we “ready”? Hell no. But we made it work TOGETHER. How do I know she was the one? Because she didn’t give a DAMN that we weren’t ready. 20 years later, we’re still going strong with two teenage boys and financially better off than most. Most people these days don’t know what the hell they’re talking about.
It sounds like Brett has a good situation, but if you're a young woman dating, be cautious of older men. Many of them who would try to marry you want to be your daddy with benefits instead of your husband and partner.
Is that surprising? If you're a much older guy who isn't married, it's probably because you were never looking for a partner when you were younger to begin with.
I've read that the most common thought process behind the tanking birth rate is actually women saying "I want to have kids, but not yet....... oops, now it's too late."
Stop reading feminist texts… the real reason is economic to a lot and men not wifing up promiscuous women to an extent… the scenario you stated is actually less than 10%
Other way around. Secularism hijacked marriage. Now it means nothing, just a social media post and a big party, with an impending divorce when she gets bored. If you're non-religion getting married is r3t@rded.... (if you're a man)
Western marriage literally came from religion. The early Christians codified the marriage rule very early and the idea of him loving the wife and her submitting to him, for life, and creating children and raising them, was extremely integral in literally re-building the demographics of the Roman Empire. The idea that religion has nothing to do with marriage is plain nonsense. Every marriage, in every culture, is intrinsically connected to that culture and its religion.
I literally cannot understand a lot of what this woman says. Purely linguistically. She talks for a living. She should look into modulating her speed of speech and her sound/volume. Too many fluctuations in speed and pitch; nor does she enunciate enough. I've worked with people with speech impediments and can understand pretty much everyone and speak 5 different languages fluently. But somehow i understand only about half of what she says. Or perhaps I'm just getting old. In my thirties now. Amazing...
A woman should NOT know herself. She should be conditioned to follow her husband lead and learn to choose a man worthy of her faith in him. No, the word partner should be stricken from the language when it comes to relationships. There is no match. It is an insult to a man. He's has to be physically stronger, emotionally more stable, more intelligent and wiser than his wife. Her recognizing this is how she honors and respects him. She should be selfless. Her interests take a back seat to his, her focus should be on him, not the kids, not her job, her world should revolve around his needs.
A lie WOMEN sold... A lie WOMEN bought...
Supposedly the CIA was involved from the early days. Deep state was annoyed you could only tax half the population and it would drop labor costs, plus they wanted the kids to look at the state as the parents. Women championed it and supported it, but the deep state wanted it.
@@bplayerr1 a lie men sold and bought too. Thats why an equal amount of men participate in hook up culture and r supportive of children being ripped apart in the womb and want their wives on birth control which causes abortions too. Men have been poisoned and weakened, this needs to be addressed.
Women lied to women, not society. They aren’t inert objects that things happen to they have agency. They supported the movements and ideologies that lead society, and women, to this place. The lack of accountability is wild.
old single women, lied to young women. Women are womens worst enemies. Even at work, no one complains or b1tches about other women more than women... they will do anything to ruin women they don't like. Men generally don't care and accept reality.
@@SecretMarsupial 💯🎯💯🎯💯🎯
Exactly… society didn’t lie to women.. us fellas have been shouting from rooftops that we don’t like promiscuity… women lied to each other and just blame us all…
@@SecretMarsupial women are womens worst enemies, they fight each other the most and constantly drag themselves down
They're a bucket of crabs, fellas. A bucket of crabs.
Take it from one who knows. ♋️ 🦀
"Mature faster" is only in SEXUAL ATTRIBUTES
Mentally & psychologically, women for the most part stay stuck at age 14 to 18...even in their 40s and 60s
Men continue maturing mentally & physically past that age range.
They are 10 year olds trapped in adult bodies. and they can technically have babies at 10.
@@EriPages 😂 what a mature comment. Total nonsense.
...only some... of both.
This "one size fits all" argument is nonsensical.
Agreed.
@jasono2139
Are you incapable of receiving generalized statements?
Also, it isn't "some", but the overwhelming majority of women.
As for the men portion, it is still large majority of men.
Spoke to a woman I thought was a friend once and learned that not only is she going through a divorce but the friend she is closest with is also and it just feels like they are perfectly content raising sons wout their fathers and practically bonding over those facts😢💔🙏🏼
poor kids
My thoughts and prayers are with those kids.
they strive to see other women, just as miserable/hateful, as they are.
NOT society, women!
they want the wedding but cant stay out the marriage
A man's obligations in marriage are enforceable by law , woman's aren't . How is that a fair deal??!!!
@perpetualprocrastinator It's not really not at all. That's why men are walking away from marriage and modern women are freaking out about this.
DOB 1946 and allegedly world population was about 2.5 billion, now it’s estimated at over 8 billion. I’m not too worried about population decline, but the fact is western style countries births are slowing down and people are being shipped to these countries from overpopulated areas that are not compatible with our culture.
Numbers and statistics are often regard as absolute truth and facts, but honestly who really knows. City life, busy roads, crowded malls, bustling airports and apartment living makes us feel the world is much more crowded than it actually is.
@@splashmoby That’s true. There are still wide open areas that are habitable around the world, but the junk that we accumulate and discard I think is a bigger problem for our rivers and waters that we depend on than alleged climate change.
@@lyndabrown3402 as long as we recycle that is not going to be a problem, waste disposal is not that big of a deal, it becomes a problem when we make stupid decisions.
Our culture is corrupt and unsustainable. Acting like we don’t all see our culture as a problem is part of the problem.
@@michele2330 But most junk doesn’t get recycled. Do you have an overflowing closet of fast fashion clothes ? Donating is a big business. They ship it to poor countries and pollute their land and waters. Some plastic gets recycled but not much.
Loved this conversation. Interesting. My husband is 9 years older than me , we've been married for almost 48 years now. That age difference has been perfect for us.
Women do NOT mature faster than men in ANY aspect. Men and women look for DIFFERENT things in their spouse. Women look for men with resources (and usually that's men older than them), and men look for youth and beauty, which is found in younger women.
Correct
Many experiments have demonstrated that 20 year old men have the same impulse control as a 13 year old girl. Look it up. Women do mature faster psychologically due to the limited window to have children. Men’s brains don’t fully develop until they’re 26 years old. Another fact that you need to look up.
9:35 You would be hard-pressed to find a man over the age of 25 who does not know multiple men who have been utterly destroyed by divorce. Add in that the divorce may never end, you might end up in an endless situation where you have to pay the other side and never get to move on with your life. I have 2 children with a girlfriend of 12 years who did not understand why I refused to marry. I simply showed her the alimony and child support calculation spreadsheet our state uses. She understands now how I would be unable to exist had we gotten married early on and were now divorced, and what I am being asked to agree to.
I am not even from this country, immigrated legally less than a decade ago… I myself know double digit numbers of men that got taken to the cleaners… it’s ridiculous tbh…
@@djaeger-k5m Yup, I know lots of guys who got destroyed, and even a decade later are still paying and unable to move on and rebuild. While a couple of guys did screw up and deserve some punishment, I know many others who's only crime was their wives got bored and wanted to see what else was out there.
by not marrying, about the only things you dodged is alimony, her not being able to take your retirement. if u think your dodging child support, think again.
@@lilfairycupcake I can accept that, it will be a lot, but not destructive. I just view it as day care costs.
@@thmphll There's also another risk that's far more frightening than alimony or child support: parental alienation. Your children are likely to stay with their mother, someone who may not have a positive view of you anymore. Even if she does, your kids will still be raised primarily by her, not you. And eventually, a stepfather might come into the picture.
Great conversation. I agree with everything you both said. Our kids are getting older and are about 5 years from moving out to begin their adult journey. The things you talked about and other things is what I have been thinking about the last couple years. The uncertainty is scary but we believe that our kids can model their lives based on our family values that we have tried to impart to them over the childhood.
Brett's point at around 3:45 is so powerful. The longer you spend being single building your own life apart from a spouse, the more difficult it becomes to join that life with someone else that has done the same. You're trying to mix two very independent people at that point, both of whom will be much less willing to change to become a new person in this new situation.
I got married at 25 and have been married for 23 years. I am not even close to being the same person I was back then. Just about the only things about me that have stayed are my faith and my sense of humor. So much of what I want out of life, what I do in my life, has been defined by the life my wife and I have built together. That's how it should be.
@@JasonFischer absolutely which is why at 28 with no success in that realm I’m kinda done people should focus on relationships early which I tried but I didn’t do the hook up culture or lax dating so just didn’t have much luck.
Yup. My nuclear family isn't big but extended on my moms (1 of 11) side is now 200+ and in my early 20s I wanted a big family. Now in my late 30s looking at women my own age is a logistical nightmare and the drive to find a younger women that can fit into my life is not there.
@@reanschwarzer2187 28 doesn't mean you've missed your window, bud. Brett is a great example here. Her husband is several years older than she is.
@@JasonFischer sure I’ll definitely be aiming younger though that’s the challenge if you want the traditional route way to many single moms past 24 from what I see
@@fxphzznpjfdl5bpuqjxo504 It's harder, but not impossible. I would encourage you to examine what's behind the statement of trying to find a woman "that can fit into my life". That's not the goal. It's never the goal, regardless of your age. The goal is to build a new life together.
That doesn't mean you completely abandon who you are, but it will necessitate some deep introspection to identify what parts of you are core to your identity and what parts are just preferences you've built up over time. Be prepared to leave those preferences behind, and expect her to be willing to do the same. If your core is a match for her core, then the life you build together will very likely be so much more rewarding and fulfilling that what you can build completely on your own.
i feel like a lot of people are very worried about getting in a marriage that you basically force just to get the ball rolling. the pressure to start a family with a person that you arent totally inline with and then it becomes a disaster
I'm not hating, but a word of advice from a slightly older guy. Younger people should be weary when talking about marriage as though they've cracked the code, like this lady talking about her older partner and how they're building a life together. I wish nothing but the best and hope that you do, but come back to me when you're 80, you know what I mean? Life is long and shit happens. Marriage is amazing, but it's also hard work.
Facts. People think marriage is a Netflix subscription..
Usually in life, the things that are most beneficial come with high risk. That doesn’t mean we shouldn’t do them. Two good examples are: getting married, and having children. Both of those come with high risk. Both of those are worth the risk.
I’m
35. Been single for about a year now. I can’t fathom now sharing my stuff with someone. I broke off my last relationship because she was financially irresponsible.
What is unique to marriage that you cannot get outside of marriage? The only thing I can think of is divorce.
Certain tax benefits.
@@mudblood9699 which ones?
True regarding the taxes
I am so pissed of that i have to pay more because i am single
I work more hours but because you decided to have a family and i dont want kids i have to pay for you
Work more hours then
The money i make i want to keep and spend it on muself
Marriage was always supposed to be a religious institution... divorce is not.
...and as always, the government has usurped power over things they shouldn't be involved in.
The feeling of commitment that is sensed by the children you have.
If you never have any children, then marriage is practically irrelevant (could help with taxes in some cases, though it hurts in other cases).
Enjoy your discussions and perspective. Thanks again!
“Women mature faster than men”…define “mature”. This is the most non-sensical claim that continues to spread. I’ll define mature in the following way: the more future-oriented a person’s approach to life is, the more mature the person is. The most mature individuals you will ever encounter (at any age: 20, 25, 30, 40, etc) are entrepreneurial men who are in relationships and are focused on leading themselves and their wife/girlfriend to long-term Eudaimonia. This is an inherently masculine quality. Not all males are like this (only the most mature), but no females are like this.
"mature" means whatever women are at the moment. If women want to sleep around and chase jocks while guys want to play games? Then sleeping around is more "Mature". But when men reach that same mindset and women are now looking for a retirement plan its no longer mature to sleep around. Its just gaslighting and thats it.
A lot of that saying is sort of like an under the breath comment on how women's bodies mature quicker, and they are exposed to things like Wolf whistling or being treated like a sexualized woman, years before men get that kind of reaction to their bodies ...
I had a friend who had large assets, and when we were walking down the street as middle schoolers, we will get people whistling at us, and pulling over and asking us what are plans were for the weekend, they thought we middle schoolers were college kids I guess? Or they were just super perverts..
Another thing is a lot of girls ages 14 to 17, they are convinced that their first boyfriend will settle down with them, and that they will get married... And when that guy will inevitably break up with her, because that was his first gf, people just comfort girls by telling them that the "guy isn't mature yet."
When in reality they just don't tell the girls it was silly to think that there first boyfriend with them
And also you said yourself it was Entreprenelar men, that's a small percentage of men...
And nowadays a lot of those men, are just going at it alone, because they just can't be bothered to find a good woman because of how hard they are to find, or people just keep looking in the wrong places..
Of course guys who are able to support themselves and have a business are the most, but there aren't a lot of guys like that nowadays.
And there are a group of them, who thinks they are the smartest in the room, so they end up sabotaging themselves.
But yeah they go out on it alone, because finding a good woman is hard, &, the consequences of finding the wrong one are way too high for people in business
A good woman isn't ever going to be going out club..
@@claudeyaz I’m really asking for an alternative definition that is better than the one I mentioned. By the definition I provided, men not only mature faster, but the only truly mature people in society are men.
@@user-hn9qw7ou8d That's why I explained to you how the word is used in vernacular, it's used to comfort women.. And mature doesn't mean in this case, better at supporting oneself, but I think the way they use the word mature, it's self realization of how other people see you physically..
So women mature quicker, because they become self aware of how they are seen in the eyes of others, and are able to use that to their advantage..while men Make easy marks until they are older, because they mature slower in that way..
Like that story that went viral recently, about a guy who agreed to impregnate an older woman, and somehow he is surprised that she tried to ruin his life...
large majority of women would see those red flags, because they are exposed to those types of schemes at a much younger age than men are...
So instead of Using the word mature, it would be preferable if they used a word like Self-realization, or, That they learn to harness that?
It's really hard to put it into words you're right.
Do you see what I'm saying here, I'm not disagreeing with your point, I'm just trying to explore exactly what it is that makes people say women mature quicker..
A lot of it does come with many girls having friends that are dating much older men, and they just get exposed to a lot of realities through those immature friends who are getting exploited by an older man..
But many guys, in high school, are very goofy, and when you compare that goofiness, to what a lot of girls act like in school, it's again not surprising...
So maybe it just has to do with numbers, and generalizations.. Yes young men who are entrepreneurial seem like are the most mature, but since those guys aren't in very large numbers.. the largest group of people who seem mature on the outside, especially when compared to their peers, would be women.
But just like all generalization, they don't tell the full story
Counterpoint to men getting married at a young age- Most men aren't nearly as secure or confident in their 20s as they are in the 30s or older. It's going to be really hard for most men to have successful marriages in their 20s nowadays. Biblical marriage isn't really about 2 people meshing their lives. It's about a man taking a woman to be his wife, and her deciding to submit to him. He agrees to protect and provide for her, and she agrees to get on his program. Their roles in the relationship are very different. That's why a 10-20 year age gap works best for most men now. They've had more time to get established, and the woman has had less time to become a pain in the ass.
Unfortunately modern western society teaches women from a very young age that they don't need men, and shouldn't submit to them.
A 10 to 20 year age gap hardly "works best". 🤦
The only reason those "relationships" stay together is because the woman is clearly looking for someone who can handle everything for her and the guy isn't looking for a woman who provides him anything except for bedroom fun.
I'm not even sure I'd call that a relationship.
@@jasono2139 All relationships are transactional. These types of relationships are the most honest about it.
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I like her, but like pearl… these high earning women will have a hard time finding a partner. Women do not date down
@@kristianmolina1742 she's married.
@@kristianmolina1742 Almost surely Pearl has a man too. The woke & the feminists despise Pearl. She gets enough hate. Why would she want to expose a loved one, or herself to that? Her significant other would be put under the microscope & harassed mercilessly. One day we’re gonna look up, & she’ll announce being engaged/married
@@TheDeadlyKnight I’m sure she doesn’t lol It’s amazing that ppl believe all the dumb shit she spews. She’s not based like Brett. She’s just another grifter who tells lonely incels exactly what they want to hear🙄 she started off making sense but she realized she can really make a lot money saying the most outrageous stuff to appease the red pill audience
@TheDeadlyKnight I don't think she does but that's not really the issue pearls biggest problem to me is that she very clearly wants a man of a certain caliber that unfortunately won't want her, and while she gets that intellectually she still goes for them and is telling other women the same stuff that she should probably
Listen to herself
I've got an headache 3 mins in
Marriage Is Not a Child,s play both boy and Girl must Understand EachOther , especially Their Weaknesses and Behaviors and Accept And Love Wholeheartedly before Marriage with God,s help only. Amen
The family that prays together stays together
@@WhoDarez Yet... The church is one of the worst places to find a long term partner.
I love the recent guests
Very informative 👍
Choices have consequences. Society has to ride this s-show out.
Men are wired to provide and protect. Women are wired to nurture.
LOL, no! Women are wired to extract resources and go shopping. If women were wired to 'nurture' there would not have been millions of abortions.
Men are wired to provide and protect given their incentives are met.
@@Alma-ej5kz women are wired to care about themselves.
Good talk!!!
I know it's not the topic of this video, but the truth is I like this woman so much.
People post yachts to the state. The state provides security. This decoupling reduces the need for a family.
With Brett it will probably work,she's likely anti divorce
But 95% it will still fail horribly
If women mature faster why are we not supposed to lead?
Because women do NOT mature faster.
It'll work out...
That's my favorite conspiracy theory.
You need to talk about the birth rates only as the number of women and daughters (half the birth rate). Women are the limiting factor here as long as enough men exist for genetic diversity. So in South Korea, 100 women will have 35 daughters, those 35 will grow up to have 12 daughters, who will then have only 4. Three generations and basically South Korea is empty.
Why Vanderbilt?
We need to incentivize pro natal policies in every facet of life.
I was a newlywed once too. 😂
Elons robots will replace the bodies needed to maintain society!🤷🏾♂️💙
He has spoken about nihilist consequences of robots/AI doing all jobs.
Human spirit, motivation and meaning will cease to exist for majority.
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Where is Connor and a t1000 that's muscle bound, when you need a pair...🤦🏻♂️ Y'all a bunch that need to grow sum...
@@AtheistfanGuava that's already happened to most men
@@AtheistfanGuava agreed, but that’s the price we will pay for all this chaos. There is no going back!
Religious people really struggle with the fact secular people can make common sense choices or not without needing religion to guide them.
They're the same risk assessment choices based on the same factors. I don't need to be told marriage is a special promise and bond two people make with each other. It doesn't need to be explained through theology to understand the concept and benefits. ...ask the billions of people in Asia..
@EnterHacker yeah, agreed. My parents are like this, and they don't understand that the God argument won't work on secular people. It's like "you have to find another way to talk to people who don't share your views"
How’s that been working out for society so far? Looks to me like society is pretty f*cked right now.
Okay, but some of us prefer peace and quiet and to be left alone. Marriage isn't for everyone...
I think the demographic of women that Brett is focusing on here, are the women who de-prioritize men. But she's not talking about the women who prioritize men.
She speaks as if all women deprioritize men, when that's not the case.
Knowing yourself before marriage, is also garbage advice. The only people who bring that up, are the ones who wanna get married but aren't wifes.
2:12 If women should be dating men a lot older than them, wouldn’t it make sense then for women in college to not be dating and getting married to the man they meet in college?
Why does she talk so fast? I thought I had put the vid on x2 speed.
Sorry but even religion isn't a good enough incentive to marry because A). Divorce incentives don't go away because you believe in a sky daddy and B). She can decide she's no longer religious at any moment, thus removing any barrier.
No matter what, there's no way to marry a woman where she doesn't have all the leverage in the relationship.
Brett Cooper is just so unlikable.
The only time i found her unlikable about her is that she wasn't into spongebob
I really don't understand why she's so popular with conservatives.
11:10 this is the females perspective at all. A lot and imo at least 50 who have babies know they will be taken care more financially and benefit from a divorce in some way. It’s much easier for them bc deep down they now this income now earned wasnt really earned. It’s an easy way to make some money and have a roof over my head so the cost analysis to them is okay and they love their children. Not know the children are most affected bc we’re seeing after a few generations of this we have more masculine women and more feminine men.
Bring back the days where if you had a child your life was no longer about you. It’s about the kids. All this well even tho I have kids I can still have a life non sense needs to go. Sorry that life is over. People take advantage of what, especially in America, made it great. It was through hard work and sacrifice. Most don’t even know exactly what all went into this and the people in power who do know won’t stop the ignorance of people either. America is now in a much faster decline and so many people don’t understand the family dynamic and natural order of things plays a huge part in it, if not the biggest part. Politics of one side being our downfall is dumb bc both sides are to blame. Like I’ve said in other places this shift and decline has been coming for the last 60 years. There’s plenty of mistakes on both sides that opened up Pandora’s box and its can’t be closed now bc it would be considered illegal. Imo they better just makes things legal to do and adjust or it will only get worse. Certain huge laws need to be overturned and new ones regarding peoples freedoms need to be taken away. One of the biggest lies in society is that freedom means you can do whatever you want. That needs to start including the top percent and people in power
I think Brett is great and on point with almost everything but what frustrates me is that she is always talking about young people getting together and dating/marrying, but then turns around and marries a guy 7 years older in her low twenties.
As a 24 year old guy, what are we supposed to do in the meantime? Just wait until we are 28 to find spouses? It’s rough out here for us young men.
@@Hokies2022 Yes, men should be building themselves and their life for a few years and then somewhere between 28-35 or so should be looking for someone younger to start a family with. It's worked since before recorded history, it works pretty much everywhere in the world today. It's pretty much only areas overrun by delusional feminists who claim it doesn't work despite all of the evidence to the contrary that don't do it that way... The areas where marital satisfaction and marriage in general are failing miserably.
.....yes actually, build yourself up take care of yourself and learn who u are before even trying to date and then choose a younger girl to date and then marry , if ur worried about "game " then work on that and date casually but ignore any relationship until ur ready
Don’t listen to modern day bullshit advice. Start looking for your future wife NOW. You need to build your life TOGETHER.
I was 21 when I married my wife. She was 20. Best decision ever. Were we “ready”? Hell no. But we made it work TOGETHER. How do I know she was the one? Because she didn’t give a DAMN that we weren’t ready.
20 years later, we’re still going strong with two teenage boys and financially better off than most.
Most people these days don’t know what the hell they’re talking about.
This lady made so much sense. Zuby hurry up & live what you just preached mate.
It sounds like Brett has a good situation, but if you're a young woman dating, be cautious of older men. Many of them who would try to marry you want to be your daddy with benefits instead of your husband and partner.
Awww
Is that surprising? If you're a much older guy who isn't married, it's probably because you were never looking for a partner when you were younger to begin with.
Yes women should trap simps and cucks and exploit those suckers dry.
I've read that the most common thought process behind the tanking birth rate is actually women saying "I want to have kids, but not yet....... oops, now it's too late."
Stop reading feminist texts… the real reason is economic to a lot and men not wifing up promiscuous women to an extent… the scenario you stated is actually less than 10%
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Whoops.
Whoopsie!
Stay single...Marriage has nothing to do with religion, religion highjacked marriage
You know knothing. Chump
Other way around.
Secularism hijacked marriage.
Now it means nothing, just a social media post and a big party, with an impending divorce when she gets bored.
If you're non-religion getting married is r3t@rded.... (if you're a man)
The Pill destroyed marriage.
@@Raymond-d2l7nin many regards yes
Western marriage literally came from religion.
The early Christians codified the marriage rule very early and the idea of him loving the wife and her submitting to him, for life, and creating children and raising them, was extremely integral in literally re-building the demographics of the Roman Empire.
The idea that religion has nothing to do with marriage is plain nonsense.
Every marriage, in every culture, is intrinsically connected to that culture and its religion.
Where's Sneako?
I literally cannot understand a lot of what this woman says. Purely linguistically. She talks for a living. She should look into modulating her speed of speech and her sound/volume. Too many fluctuations in speed and pitch; nor does she enunciate enough. I've worked with people with speech impediments and can understand pretty much everyone and speak 5 different languages fluently.
But somehow i understand only about half of what she says. Or perhaps I'm just getting old. In my thirties now. Amazing...
A woman should NOT know herself. She should be conditioned to follow her husband lead and learn to choose a man worthy of her faith in him. No, the word partner should be stricken from the language when it comes to relationships. There is no match. It is an insult to a man. He's has to be physically stronger, emotionally more stable, more intelligent and wiser than his wife. Her recognizing this is how she honors and respects him. She should be selfless. Her interests take a back seat to his, her focus should be on him, not the kids, not her job, her world should revolve around his needs.
Not sure how you would ever find a wife
Cool story bro
@@triforcelink As long as there are simps and cucks , women have the leverage.
Ah, the wife appliance
😂😂Nice... Best of luck with finding a non-existent slave ...oops wife for yourself 🤣🤣
So for men the advice is to get married between 27-30? And before then just sleep around? Or be celebate?