The best way to tell if someone is jealous is to watch their facial expressions if you have good news or something good happens and they look irritated or disappointed. It's best to keep your news or don't tell everyone just tell people you know who cares about your emotions. And will be happy for you.
That’s very true! I have no doubt about that! I’ve seen that happen before. I’ve met some people who’ve become very jealous of me later after they’ve found out about the things I have or get, and some of them have gotten jealousy because of the like and attention I’ve gotten from other people more than then. Not trying to brag by the way. But it’s happened to me before and I’ve been bullied by those ppl out of jealousy! But thankfully I had my friends still who supported me and that always gave me piece of mind.
Another one is when they are trying to keep up with you. I change my hair a lot to make sure it’s fresh and one time I had a friend almost complain “ you got your hair done AGAIN?!” Lol like it was her head and it was bothering her
I was always complimented and because my face skin is beautiful and smooth. So this friend had to tell me she wanted to scratch my face or cut my face with a knife. She just blurted that out while someone was complimenting me. It was weird and scary and there was an awkward of silence when she said that.
After 20 years of not going to the dentist, I came out of an appt with a small filling and freshy cleaned teeth. One friend said she wanted to punch me in the face.
I had a friend that always wanted to try meeting & soon he'd try giving me an insult. I always acted like his insults was a compliment & I'd smile saying "thanks for the compliment". He would look surprised & he eventually stopped his insults for awhile. I stopped answering his calls & blocked his number. It took me years to finally make this decision. When someone is always giving insults, avoid those people if possible.
What about people who try to make you feel jealous on purpose, because they are insecure? I don't feel happy for people who brag but not because im jealous. It's because I usually don't like the person because they have a "one-up" personality and I can see through them.
its just we are all fragile in one way or another. best way to deal with it is just say "wow u must be proud. congratz! hope that makes u feel better about urself!" 😂🤣💔
@@AlbumLeViola it would be nice to understand the why they do that and what they’re looking for though. It’s not suffice to just “one up them” based on what someone says anymore.
They are jealous, they want to one-up you because they feel inferior to you in one way or another. Don't humor it, respond as you normally would with any friend/maybe even respond not as enthusiastically as you know they're just doing it to bother you/incite jealousy. People like that LOVE negative reactions because then it validates their hidden hatred/jealousy/dislike for you.
I have had this problem my whole life. I get this all the time. You do not have to be gorgeous or successful to get this treatment. Just do something, rearrange furniture or plant flowers or cook a meal and the knives come out. It is ridiculous. I can be green eyed myself but I know it and would never betray myself the way some people do. I will even tell the person that I am jealous of, that I am jealous. As a compliment. Because whatever it is you are jealous of, it does not last. But these people who stick the sugar knife in you are immature and sad and can't be happy for other people.
@@mariedubuque It's a southern term, Marie. It's where someone puts a dig into you like a backward compliment only meaner and more pointed. I know you figured it out. Anyway keep up the good work. I am older than you and I know you have a young audience. I just want them to know it never lets up. You just learn to snap back and avoid certain people, just like you said. I just had this talk with a 10 year old. I told her some adults do not act very well. Anyway sorry for the long reply I really am a fan and you do help.
Sara N its nothing to do with the seemingly silly and trivial things in themselves that set them off those are just triggers for them to have a go as there's always something else going on under the surface and when you look at it they are very angry and unhappy people who should be pitied.
I've never worked hard for anything to impress people. I do it because I enjoy my work and like to challenge myself and like to achieve my goals. The amount of jealousy I get from some family and acquaintances is sort of disgusting.
My father is like that. He's always over exaggerated any of his own achievements in life yet he's always sort of subtly even if not directly undermined mine. Yes that's my dad I'm talking about sad but true
My father has always been critical or non responsive to any of my successes in life. On the contrary, I'm ecstatic for any of my sons success or achievements. My father will like and comment on anything in my Facebook page except my personal photography and art. It's a sad thing but ....I continue on.
And what they do is make you feel you are the one who is following them. Good analysis Marie. When they try to redicule your choices, your ideas, always make sure you notice that they opt for others' ideas rather than yours. If you show that you are annoyed by what they are doing, you lose. They will make you think that you are the one who is following them/ the one who is bad and jealous. The worst that can happen is that your ever best friend does this. I advise you to keep motivating them about what they have done or what they will do. Make them feel they are their own leaders too!
Yeah... you can sense it. I am trying to stay away from them.. but one is my neighbor: we live very close and share the patio. I have been nice and friendly, and she keep acting like an envious person, copying, competing, talking bad behind my back.. I mind my business, and keep imagining them relocate! 😉😄😄😄
I agree! I shrug those people off and laugh or counterblock the attack. Like if a friend says I only got an A because the Professor likes me I say it's because I'm a good student. It's to the point where I can't deal with people anymore because it happens almost every time I hang out with people or get a new friend.
I have seen this many times with my family and some friends. The family has negated any accomplishments by completely ignoring me whenever they are around. I have had them actually ask about my life, I would tell them and they would act disinterested while moving on to talk about their own things without any response to what I had just said. They did these things on a regular basis so I stopped visiting or inviting them over. I have no interest in causing people to feel jealous so I don't go around them. I have always acted happy for them and commenting on what they tell me about myself, but they will never do it toward me. So I have to assume they have no interest in me as a person, making it senseless to continue in relationships like this. By the way, people who are not jealous never act this way, they are always happy and engaging. The people I know who do this, do it every time we are together. Also if we remain with these people we run the risk of becoming like them.
I stopped being a doormat towards the end of one of these friendships and suddenly I had a "God Complex" to them and "took things too seriously". I did not take kindly to being insulted anymore, being the punching bag of the group is horrible and when you finally stand up for yourself they hate you for it and try to spin it on you. I'm so glad I chose to be more confrontational than let the disrespect slide. They loved seeing me beat down and rolling with the punches.
I had socalled friends act supportive at first then turn on me when i got accepted into an art gallery and got a new partner. They decided to block me and used to leave me out of outings because i apparently was trying to outdo them. I dont need their crap. They burnt bridges with many people when they are no longer any use .
Gonna be honest, everyone has probably felt jealous of someone before. That’s just how it is because we are human’s. I’ve been jealous a lot of times but I try to handle it well. For example if I feel jealous about something someone has or had done I would just compliment them and tell them like “aww I wish I had that too!” Or something l8e that instead of being negative. If I rlly can’t handle it I’ll probably just walk away before I say anything and calm myself down. it’s not a easy thing to do, Jealously is a very strong thing. But try to not hurt anyone and if u do apologizing before it’s too late is probably the best.
My family acts like this about everything. I have gone no contact with them because it is not enjoyable to be with them. There doesn't seem to be any purpose in hanging out with those who cannot be a decent friend. These people always gossip against us to destroy our other relationships. It's better that they don't know anything about our lives. It has been a lifelong pattern for them, nothing has improved in all my 67 years. I don't share anything with jealous people. They often boast of their own things but never listen when you share yours. They even ask what I have been doing and then act strangely when I share it.
Its difficult when this person is your own dad. 🤦♀️ I feel like i just can't trust him or ask him life advice or be honest to him because he will just use it against me.
Same with my mother. Witholding was her weapon. Witholding praise, compliments, and even "thank you's". I became a people pleaser in my younger years bcuz i was always striving for praise and never felt what i did was good enough and it bothered me if ppl were not pleased with me. She really screwed my syblings and I up and we're still chasing validation in our own adult lives simply because our identities were not defined, nutured, or secured by the people responsible for shaping us! So Glad God had delivered me from that abuse! Now I ONLY need his acceptance.
Hi Marie, excellent video. You made a few points that really hit home. I have been married for 4 years now and have been noticing this with my mother in law. In the early days of my marriage I lived with her for a couple of months. She would buy the exact same clothes, shoes, etc. as me and even started wearing makeup because I do( I am in my mid thirties now and she in her mid fifties). This behavior continues even now. but what made me realize her spiteful jealousy against me was a remark she made when I was being careful with my diet( I had recently lost 25 pounds and had told her). She remarked with an angry look, 'Just wait and watch, you WILL become fat again, my son loves his food.' Even during my pregnancy she would make snarky comments, asking if I should buy larger clothes, just in case I put on weight later. But I did not, and that has really infuriated her, I believe. She is overweight and does not exercise or watch her diet like I do. We visit them only once or twice a year, as my husband works away from our country. Although I try to maintain a cordial surface relationship with her, I am not able to look past these incidents and completely forgive her. Am I overreacting?
No. Have limited contact with her and keep your child away. She will make snarky comments to your kid too. She is not a nice person. Sorry I am not Marie but I went thru the same thing.
I agree with Sara, in that you should have limited contact with her, but it sounds like you already have an ideal situation. You only have to visit once or twice a year. I get it...those visits can be excruciating. And yes, she is obviously jealous that you have been able to lose weight and keep it off, and she cannot. Still, I would act cordial toward her, only because she is your child's grandmother. If there is any way to limit your visits to only once a year, or once every other year, I would. You could send your husband and child there and find an excuse as to why you can't make it. You could say you are busy volunteering at a nursing home over the holidays (and really do it!) And when you do have to visit, just smile and nod, smile and nod, and say as little as possible. And if the visit gets to be unbearable, find a way out. Plan ahead with an excuse to leave early, so that you don't say something you might regret. Remember, take the high road. Always be polite (even a little bit cold is OK) and never stoop to her level. She is not able to achieve your taste or style as hard as she tries and it is eating at her....no excuse for that behavior, but at least you know where it is coming from.
I have a lot of jealousy around me family and people I work with I don't know anyone where I work with so I don't understand I try to get along with other people but they always copy me or celebrate my downfalls. I know I am confident who I am and I know that I can achieve a lot without anyone being on my side.
I have been experienced lots of "friends" like this. Jealously is a red flag for me now. I notice even on social media that people there can pretend not to see the success, they are pretend to be blind, i never understood these types
A few of my friends said to me independently of each other when I said about getting put down when I say about things I want to do that its nothing to do with the things in themselves that brings this on its envy and jealousy at the end of it all that motivates them to behave that way. At a previous job I had been on the receiving end of petty nitpicking by management over silly things and a colleague couldn't understand why they did it as in her view I didn't go round bothering anyone and my friends had said how the nitpicking was nothing to do with the trivial things themselves and what was behind it was envy and jealousy like they had done to another colleague there nit pick behind closed doors who had ended up sacked for being off sick for ages after they had bullied her ad infinitum.
I don’t know... I have no issues with people wearing the same thing as me... I still don’t get why they would but I don’t mind but I hate it when they make fun of me about me wearing something but then they literally go out and get it months later thinking I forgot 🤦🏻♀️
Thanks for all your videos! I love your hair both ways, straight or curly. You are very pretty! But now to the point I want to share from my experience. I have had alot of jealous fake friends throughout my life and youare right that they copy you. My ex sister in law copied absolutely everything, my clothes, my furniture, my nails, etc. Yet she always had subtle digs for me. My fake friends were fine until we would go out and men would hit on me and not them... the very next hour or day I would either lose that friend or they would start with the digs. I find our society pits women against each other and that is so sad because God loves variety and created beauty in all ages, sizes, shapes, colors, etc. I wish women would stop being so hateful to each other. I am mostly a loner now because I just spot this garbage much faster and I have been so hurt that I have great difficulty trusting. Anyhow thanks again for all your videos, much appreciated and God bless!
If they're jealous of you, they will divert any credit away from you and avoid genuine compliments. "Where did you get that shirt?" "Oh, I really liked it when you wore it the other day/week." (compliment) "I got it before you, I just haven't worn it." (jealousy)
My Mom came over to stay with me the next morning woke up and the shirt she had on I had one just liked it and showed her.. We just Laugh because we do have the same style of clothes 😊
Everything that you said here is so true but I still think that some envious people AR so good at being envious and so into Envy and jealousy towards a person that wants that person realize this is how they are it sometimes could reflect on the other person who's been receiving the jealousy and envy as if they are the person of that nature and I say this because I understand perfectly fine when dealing with these type of people but I say to you all whoever reads this if you know you are not an envious and jealous person but you are dealing with someone like that don't allow their hate to rub off on you even if you have to call them out!!
I get that . Not sure why , I dont think of myself as God's gift in the looks department or looks privileged. I'm just a guy. Marie your awesome thank for your advice. Happy holidays and stay safe.
I actually find it funny when someone is jealous of me. You can see they wish they had what you do. They are miserable not me. I know a girl who has known me for years. Everything I do is because I am lucky. In reality she made different life choices than me. Completely opposite and probably regrets them. However I am happy.
Theres this " friend" that copies me a lot...the last one was when I bought a smartwatch today and sent him a picture...2 hours later he bought one too
Took me some time to realize my own sister is jealous of me. What a shame! She is an active hater in my life. Funny cause she thinks I'm the jealous one. lol let her think that meanwhile I'm blocking her and moving the fuck on. She will not be a oattbu
when someone copys me ı just stop doing things ı used to do ı used to wear ı used to act and it makes me be less me maybe ı have a trauma of it ı dont know
I have a friend who is seeing a married man...her boss. I hate that she is doing this and have told her on numerous occasions to dump him but she won't. I care about her but hate what she is doing as I was once the wife of a man who had a mistress. What to do?
We are in our 50's. Me and my cousin. I had a really bad insult from her, but shes got an illness of fibermeymania, can that change a person's personality?! Anyway, she zoomed in to a photo she took of me, then zoomed in and she was was highlighting my age my faults and in a nasty tone She said. Yes see yeh!! See. I stared at her like a shock eyes opened widely, then I looked away and carry on laughing and having fun with people in the venue we didn't know I like to be friendly she was very hard and hostile, never know what version we get? 🥰 she's happy when shes ok, then shes can be happy taking the piss, its like she trying to drag me down. Never ruin my peace within I now know. Its taken me this long to realise!! 😂😝🤪🙉 I have never ever insulted her, and another time months apart, I thought I was looking great that evening! It's always our evenings she like this? She Didn't praise on what I wore, I don't expect it, but its nice, I said first Aw you look amazing, thats all I said. but she had to bring up my hair, Oh you got your hair down, looks better down, then said Oh don't wear it up It makes you look ooooold!! I had to ignore that as well, I just smiled nodded my head and looked away and enjoyed my self I didn't let her get to me, I know now not to raise to it now I laugh, she doesn't know me. She even gave me a firm talk about, she said, "I thought you wear the pants in the relationship"!! I said calmly, laughed, no why would you say that, its like interrogation? But its nice to let my partner know what I do so he knows!! She should know me??? I'm not that person?? 🤔 thats my cousin family. But I laugh it off now. Known her for years and she has done it to me in the past in our 20s!! Shes got worse?? Why??
Hi Marie, The first biggest giveaway is copying your clothing - very “single white female”! Another subtle one is one upping you. “Oh. You got selected out of 50 people, I got selected out of 100”. You can’t share much about your life with this person. They have an inferior complex and need to work out their own identity!
stay away from jealous people. they'll always have something negative to say about you..
Paris Cortez
Very true. They’re the reasons why humanity will never _evolve._
They can ruin your job or some there aspect of your life, too.
True
Jealous people also like to gossip about others behind their backs.
Story of my life right now, so sad 😢😢
The best way to tell if someone is jealous is to watch their facial expressions if you have good news or something good happens and they look irritated or disappointed. It's best to keep your news or don't tell everyone just tell people you know who cares about your emotions. And will be happy for you.
I love to smear my happiness in their face and watch them get angry
The EYES Never Lie👍🏾
That’s very true! I have no doubt about that! I’ve seen that happen before. I’ve met some people who’ve become very jealous of me later after they’ve found out about the things I have or get, and some of them have gotten jealousy because of the like and attention I’ve gotten from other people more than then. Not trying to brag by the way. But it’s happened to me before and I’ve been bullied by those ppl out of jealousy! But thankfully I had my friends still who supported me and that always gave me piece of mind.
@Hunky Funkster Sorry you had to experience this from your parent.
@Craig Salt Oh no. Narcissist alert.
People who never acknowledge stuff on social media , but stay on your page
So true, you know they see it!
Yes! I ended a friendship after this went on for a long time, but she was all over someone else’s page when they had stuff to celebrate.
Another one is when they are trying to keep up with you. I change my hair a lot to make sure it’s fresh and one time I had a friend almost complain “ you got your hair done AGAIN?!” Lol like it was her head and it was bothering her
That is a good one!
clearly her problem. if shes jealous about ur hairstyle then maybe she can do the same to her hair instead of making jealous remark 🤷🏿♀️
Omg! I had this but with clothes. My friend lit gave me the side eye and was like ‘is that ANOTHER new dress??’ And looked so pissed off lol
I was always complimented and because my face skin is beautiful and smooth. So this friend had to tell me she wanted to scratch my face or cut my face with a knife. She just blurted that out while someone was complimenting me. It was weird and scary and there was an awkward of silence when she said that.
Stay Away from hee
I hope you don't interact with her anymore. That's awfully violent in response to a compliment directed at you.
After 20 years of not going to the dentist, I came out of an appt with a small filling and freshy cleaned teeth. One friend said she wanted to punch me in the face.
im extremely jealous of marie's compassionate personality, voice and demeanor 💔💔💔💔
@@ShannonDWaltrip yes 🥰🥰😍
And her fascinating, expressive mouth - one in a million! I love how expressive she is with just her mouth.
@@karenmartin5647 I also love when she sighs a lot 🤣🤣🤣😂
o.k ..we'll allow you THAT one!!
They are not only jealous, but selfish.
Tropical Goddess jealous and selfish are cousins!
Tropical Goddess or sociopaths. My sis.
When God exposes them, just be careful and keep your distance from them.
I had a friend that always wanted to try meeting & soon he'd try giving me an insult. I always acted like his insults was a compliment & I'd smile saying "thanks for the compliment". He would look surprised & he eventually stopped his insults for awhile. I stopped answering his calls & blocked his number. It took me years to finally make this decision. When someone is always giving insults, avoid those people if possible.
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What about people who try to make you feel jealous on purpose, because they are insecure? I don't feel happy for people who brag but not because im jealous. It's because I usually don't like the person because they have a "one-up" personality and I can see through them.
its just we are all fragile in one way or another.
best way to deal with it is just say "wow u must be proud. congratz! hope that makes u feel better about urself!"
😂🤣💔
@@AlbumLeViola it would be nice to understand the why they do that and what they’re looking for though. It’s not suffice to just “one up them” based on what someone says anymore.
@@estelasanchez. they want attention. human nature. simple as that
Omg! I had this same question and couldn’t really articulate it and felt like maybe I was tripping but this is totally confirmation!
They are jealous, they want to one-up you because they feel inferior to you in one way or another. Don't humor it, respond as you normally would with any friend/maybe even respond not as enthusiastically as you know they're just doing it to bother you/incite jealousy. People like that LOVE negative reactions because then it validates their hidden hatred/jealousy/dislike for you.
I have had this problem my whole life. I get this all the time. You do not have to be gorgeous or successful to get this treatment. Just do something, rearrange furniture or plant flowers or cook a meal and the knives come out. It is ridiculous. I can be green eyed myself but I know it and would never betray myself the way some people do. I will even tell the person that I am jealous of, that I am jealous. As a compliment. Because whatever it is you are jealous of, it does not last. But these people who stick the sugar knife in you are immature and sad and can't be happy for other people.
I agree. Love that term sugar knife!
@@mariedubuque It's a southern term, Marie. It's where someone puts a dig into you like a backward compliment only meaner and more pointed. I know you figured it out. Anyway keep up the good work. I am older than you and I know you have a young audience. I just want them to know it never lets up. You just learn to snap back and avoid certain people, just like you said. I just had this talk with a 10 year old. I told her some adults do not act very well. Anyway sorry for the long reply I really am a fan and you do help.
Sara N its nothing to do with the seemingly silly and trivial things in themselves that set them off those are just triggers for them to have a go as there's always something else going on under the surface and when you look at it they are very angry and unhappy people who should be pitied.
@@joannesaltfleet2071 I agree.
What do you get jealous of??
this woman got me through high school
I really like this angle of your home. So relaxing and beautiful! 😍
They’re weird! Run!
I’m so glad I subscribed to your channel. Your wisdom is so helpful.
So appreciate your kind words.
I've never worked hard for anything to impress people. I do it because I enjoy my work and like to challenge myself and like to achieve my goals. The amount of jealousy I get from some family and acquaintances is sort of disgusting.
My father is like that. He's always over exaggerated any of his own achievements in life yet he's always sort of subtly even if not directly undermined mine. Yes that's my dad I'm talking about sad but true
Me too we should be friends. Haha
My father has always been critical or non responsive to any of my successes in life. On the contrary, I'm ecstatic for any of my sons success or achievements. My father will like and comment on anything in my Facebook page except my personal photography and art. It's a sad thing but ....I continue on.
@@JT-gm4fk You go boy!!!!
I love this hair color & style on you, Marie! 💗
And what they do is make you feel you are the one who is following them. Good analysis Marie. When they try to redicule your choices, your ideas, always make sure you notice that they opt for others' ideas rather than yours. If you show that you are annoyed by what they are doing, you lose. They will make you think that you are the one who is following them/ the one who is bad and jealous. The worst that can happen is that your ever best friend does this. I advise you to keep motivating them about what they have done or what they will do. Make them feel they are their own leaders too!
Yeah... you can sense it.
I am trying to stay away from them.. but one is my neighbor: we live very close and share the patio.
I have been nice and friendly, and she keep acting like an envious person, copying, competing, talking bad behind my back..
I mind my business, and keep imagining them relocate! 😉😄😄😄
I agree! I shrug those people off and laugh or counterblock the attack. Like if a friend says I only got an A because the Professor likes me I say it's because I'm a good student. It's to the point where I can't deal with people anymore because it happens almost every time I hang out with people or get a new friend.
That is another example of the type of friend I move I on from and cease to consider a friend,
I have seen this many times with my family and some friends. The family has negated any accomplishments by completely ignoring me whenever they are around. I have had them actually ask about my life, I would tell them and they would act disinterested while moving on to talk about their own things without any response to what I had just said. They did these things on a regular basis so I stopped visiting or inviting them over. I have no interest in causing people to feel jealous so I don't go around them. I have always acted happy for them and commenting on what they tell me about myself, but they will never do it toward me. So I have to assume they have no interest in me as a person, making it senseless to continue in relationships like this. By the way, people who are not jealous never act this way, they are always happy and engaging. The people I know who do this, do it every time we are together. Also if we remain with these people we run the risk of becoming like them.
Copying someones outfit doesn't automatically mean someone's jealous. They could just like the outfit.
Any slick remarks call them out on IT.
better to be looked at as "crazy" than a doormat.😫🤧
I stopped being a doormat towards the end of one of these friendships and suddenly I had a "God Complex" to them and "took things too seriously". I did not take kindly to being insulted anymore, being the punching bag of the group is horrible and when you finally stand up for yourself they hate you for it and try to spin it on you. I'm so glad I chose to be more confrontational than let the disrespect slide. They loved seeing me beat down and rolling with the punches.
I get this stuff from people all the time.....now I just move forward from the jealous folks
I had socalled friends act supportive at first then turn on me when i got accepted into an art gallery and got a new partner. They decided to block me and used to leave me out of outings because i apparently was trying to outdo them. I dont need their crap. They burnt bridges with many people when they are no longer any use .
I dealt with people like this in work and school it's hell to deal with but the best thing to do is stay away from them
Once a coworker tell me, “You look pretty today. I am trying to figure out what’s different.”
Always posting helpful advice.Congratulations
Thank you so much.
Gonna be honest, everyone has probably felt jealous of someone before. That’s just how it is because we are human’s. I’ve been jealous a lot of times but I try to handle it well. For example if I feel jealous about something someone has or had done I would just compliment them and tell them like “aww I wish I had that too!” Or something l8e that instead of being negative. If I rlly can’t handle it I’ll probably just walk away before I say anything and calm myself down. it’s not a easy thing to do, Jealously is a very strong thing. But try to not hurt anyone and if u do apologizing before it’s too late is probably the best.
I just want to let you know that you’re such a sweet soul for uploading these type of videos.. you really do help us ❤️
You are so welcome!
Don’t listen to nothing they say, just do you
My family acts like this about everything. I have gone no contact with them because it is not enjoyable to be with them. There doesn't seem to be any purpose in hanging out with those who cannot be a decent friend. These people always gossip against us to destroy our other relationships. It's better that they don't know anything about our lives. It has been a lifelong pattern for them, nothing has improved in all my 67 years. I don't share anything with jealous people. They often boast of their own things but never listen when you share yours. They even ask what I have been doing and then act strangely when I share it.
Its difficult when this person is your own dad. 🤦♀️ I feel like i just can't trust him or ask him life advice or be honest to him because he will just use it against me.
Same with my mother. Witholding was her weapon. Witholding praise, compliments, and even "thank you's".
I became a people pleaser in my younger years bcuz i was always striving for praise and never felt what i did was good enough and it bothered me if ppl were not pleased with me.
She really screwed my syblings and I up and we're still chasing validation in our own adult lives simply because our identities were not defined, nutured, or secured by the people responsible for shaping us!
So Glad God had delivered me from that abuse! Now I ONLY need his acceptance.
@@sagenosnibor9173 aww you'll be okay! ❤
Same, do not give narcissists information
Hi Marie, excellent video. You made a few points that really hit home. I have been married for 4 years now and have been noticing this with my mother in law. In the early days of my marriage I lived with her for a couple of months. She would buy the exact same clothes, shoes, etc. as me and even started wearing makeup because I do( I am in my mid thirties now and she in her mid fifties). This behavior continues even now. but what made me realize her spiteful jealousy against me was a remark she made when I was being careful with my diet( I had recently lost 25 pounds and had told her). She remarked with an angry look, 'Just wait and watch, you WILL become fat again, my son loves his food.' Even during my pregnancy she would make snarky comments, asking if I should buy larger clothes, just in case I put on weight later. But I did not, and that has really infuriated her, I believe. She is overweight and does not exercise or watch her diet like I do.
We visit them only once or twice a year, as my husband works away from our country. Although I try to maintain a cordial surface relationship with her, I am not able to look past these incidents and completely forgive her. Am I overreacting?
No. Have limited contact with her and keep your child away. She will make snarky comments to your kid too. She is not a nice person. Sorry I am not Marie but I went thru the same thing.
@@saran3214 thanks for your response..
I agree with Sara, in that you should have limited contact with her, but it sounds like you already have an ideal situation. You only have to visit once or twice a year. I get it...those visits can be excruciating. And yes, she is obviously jealous that you have been able to lose weight and keep it off, and she cannot. Still, I would act cordial toward her, only because she is your child's grandmother. If there is any way to limit your visits to only once a year, or once every other year, I would. You could send your husband and child there and find an excuse as to why you can't make it. You could say you are busy volunteering at a nursing home over the holidays (and really do it!) And when you do have to visit, just smile and nod, smile and nod, and say as little as possible. And if the visit gets to be unbearable, find a way out. Plan ahead with an excuse to leave early, so that you don't say something you might regret. Remember, take the high road. Always be polite (even a little bit cold is OK) and never stoop to her level. She is not able to achieve your taste or style as hard as she tries and it is eating at her....no excuse for that behavior, but at least you know where it is coming from.
@@mariedubuque thanks for your kind words Marie!
Its nothing to do with weight in itself its just how the envy manifests and weight always is a target as they know it will upset you.
Marie is the cutest.
With her there’s this unspoken competition is 😬 I can’t believe how fast she copy’s my sh#!T
She’s always curious asking asking me in details .
I have a lot of jealousy around me family and people I work with I don't know anyone where I work with so I don't understand
I try to get along with other people but they always copy me or celebrate my downfalls.
I know I am confident who I am and I know that I can achieve a lot without anyone being on my side.
I have been experienced lots of "friends" like this. Jealously is a red flag for me now. I notice even on social media that people there can pretend not to see the success, they are pretend to be blind, i never understood these types
A few of my friends said to me independently of each other when I said about getting put down when I say about things I want to do that its nothing to do with the things in themselves that brings this on its envy and jealousy at the end of it all that motivates them to behave that way.
At a previous job I had been on the receiving end of petty nitpicking by management over silly things and a colleague couldn't understand why they did it as in her view I didn't go round bothering anyone and my friends had said how the nitpicking was nothing to do with the trivial things themselves and what was behind it was envy and jealousy like they had done to another colleague there nit pick behind closed doors who had ended up sacked for being off sick for ages after they had bullied her ad infinitum.
My co-worker bought the same car as I did. Is she jealous?
Sounds like it. Don't be surprised if he/she copies something else of yours.
I envy your living room.
I don’t know... I have no issues with people wearing the same thing as me... I still don’t get why they would but I don’t mind but I hate it when they make fun of me about me wearing something but then they literally go out and get it months later thinking I forgot 🤦🏻♀️
I always feel like if someone is jealous of me like they really are not it's my fault for some reason
Absolutely true !!
Thanks for all your videos! I love your hair both ways, straight or curly. You are very pretty! But now to the point I want to share from my experience. I have had alot of jealous fake friends throughout my life and youare right that they copy you. My ex sister in law copied absolutely everything, my clothes, my furniture, my nails, etc. Yet she always had subtle digs for me. My fake friends were fine until we would go out and men would hit on me and not them... the very next hour or day I would either lose that friend or they would start with the digs. I find our society pits women against each other and that is so sad because God loves variety and created beauty in all ages, sizes, shapes, colors, etc. I wish women would stop being so hateful to each other. I am mostly a loner now because I just spot this garbage much faster and I have been so hurt that I have great difficulty trusting. Anyhow thanks again for all your videos, much appreciated and God bless!
Thank you
Idk! Friends always like to dress alike and inspire each other with fashion! Not sure that’s jealousy or a just a compliment on your style!
Oh - trust me, you can TELL the difference when it is jealousy vs a complement.
If they're jealous of you, they will divert any credit away from you and avoid genuine compliments.
"Where did you get that shirt?"
"Oh, I really liked it when you wore it the other day/week." (compliment)
"I got it before you, I just haven't worn it." (jealousy)
My Mom came over to stay with me the next morning woke up and the shirt she had on I had one just liked it and showed her.. We just Laugh because we do have the same style of clothes 😊
Everything that you said here is so true but I still think that some envious people AR so good at being envious and so into Envy and jealousy towards a person that wants that person realize this is how they are it sometimes could reflect on the other person who's been receiving the jealousy and envy as if they are the person of that nature and I say this because I understand perfectly fine when dealing with these type of people but I say to you all whoever reads this if you know you are not an envious and jealous person but you are dealing with someone like that don't allow their hate to rub off on you even if you have to call them out!!
I get that . Not sure why , I dont think of myself as God's gift in the looks department or looks privileged. I'm just a guy. Marie your awesome thank for your advice. Happy holidays and stay safe.
They demean youand devalue you. the make you feel like you are less than
When it's family members 😩 very sad
I actually find it funny when someone is jealous of me. You can see they wish they had what you do. They are miserable not me. I know a girl who has known me for years. Everything I do is because I am lucky. In reality she made different life choices than me. Completely opposite and probably regrets them. However I am happy.
My boss is jealous of me I know it.
Theres this " friend" that copies me a lot...the last one was when I bought a smartwatch today and sent him a picture...2 hours later he bought one too
Took me some time to realize my own sister is jealous of me. What a shame! She is an active hater in my life. Funny cause she thinks I'm the jealous one. lol let her think that meanwhile I'm blocking her and moving the fuck on. She will not be a oattbu
What Do you do when the person is your mother...so hurtful...
I was asked where I got my jeans, I’ll tell them, “Victorias Secret”…lol
Sounds like my sisters
Don’t say anything ppl don’t owe you a congratulations. Move on to others with the same aspersions as you .
The imposter syndrome compare your life to theirs. True awesome stuff
Hi Marie,
Do you still have an email? I have a question but I don’t want to make it public.
Sure, it is a2dvoices@gmail.com
when someone copys me ı just stop doing things ı used to do ı used to wear ı used to act and it makes me be less me maybe ı have a trauma of it ı dont know
I have a friend who is seeing a married man...her boss. I hate that she is doing this and have told her on numerous occasions to dump him but she won't. I care about her but hate what she is doing as I was once the wife of a man who had a mistress. What to do?
We are in our 50's. Me and my cousin.
I had a really bad insult from her, but shes got an illness of fibermeymania, can that change a person's personality?! Anyway, she zoomed in to a photo she took of me, then zoomed in and she was was highlighting my age my faults and in a nasty tone She said. Yes see yeh!! See.
I stared at her like a shock eyes opened widely, then I looked away and carry on laughing and having fun with people in the venue we didn't know I like to be friendly she was very hard and hostile, never know what version we get? 🥰 she's happy when shes ok, then shes can be happy taking the piss, its like she trying to drag me down. Never ruin my peace within I now know. Its taken me this long to realise!! 😂😝🤪🙉
I have never ever insulted her, and another time months apart, I thought I was looking great that evening! It's always our evenings she like this? She Didn't praise on what I wore, I don't expect it, but its nice, I said first Aw you look amazing, thats all I said. but she had to bring up my hair, Oh you got your hair down, looks better down, then said Oh don't wear it up It makes you look ooooold!! I had to ignore that as well, I just smiled nodded my head and looked away and enjoyed my self I didn't let her get to me, I know now not to raise to it now I laugh, she doesn't know me. She even gave me a firm talk about, she said, "I thought you wear the pants in the relationship"!! I said calmly, laughed, no why would you say that, its like interrogation? But its nice to let my partner know what I do so he knows!! She should know me??? I'm not that person?? 🤔 thats my cousin family. But I laugh it off now. Known her for years and she has done it to me in the past in our 20s!! Shes got worse?? Why??
best not to brag anything that makes everyone jealous
Some people will be jealous of the smallest thing to you.
Butterfly Queen yes ! I don't get it
@She-Ra Princess of Power Same here with me.
@She-Ra Princess of Power just be silent and speak when spoken to... 😞
But when they do it, it's okay. I brag, and I won't stop on account of some insecure jerks. If they don't like it, they can leave.
Hi Marie,
The first biggest giveaway is copying your clothing - very “single white female”!
Another subtle one is one upping you. “Oh. You got selected out of 50 people, I got selected out of 100”.
You can’t share much about your life with this person. They have an inferior complex and need to work out their own identity!
Yes! And I remember that movie well.
I don’t really know or pay attention who jealous of me hard to know
Does she have pupils or not-