Rip istp Kobe Bryant. I love sports and football. But these guys are silence, calm and dangerous predators, they are always in top 1, Jordan, Magnuss carlssen, gsp, nurgamenov, Jon jones, Lionel Messi. They want to be the number one on the field, they want be the star who score and shine when things turn hard. But that’s a weaknesses in team sports. In long term they always try to control the game. i always play/train against one and I as a strategist, I can’t allow, i can’t allow let them play easy. tactics, leadership and hunter mentality beat them always, if you beat them over and over, then the game is yours, it’s about guiding others to stop him, so istps, start to frustrate, miss, anger explode, complain others, his true personality shine. later when I win they start to see me and copy me, they try to figúrate the puzzle xdd for me is a triple victory. Peace.
As an istp female I’ve never been in a relationship and don’t really have a desire to be in one. But it’s annoying when ppl question my sexuality because of it
ISTP female heterosexual here. In the past I’ve had men ask me if I was straight or not. It was always such an odd question to me. I’ve had women hit on me as well. I once took the time to ask someone why they asked if I was straight. Their answer: “Idk. Your vibe is very different.” That didn’t help at all.
You mentioned raging when an ISTP feels trapped. That does happen. However, there is also another side as well: depression. I know when I feel trapped, but cannot justify anger and/or lashing out, it turns inwards and becomes depression. I've gotten better at managing it over the years, but it remains a nagging issue from time to time.
VTdarkangel I couldn’t have said it better myself. I get both depressed and angered whenever I stay at home, alone by myself and it doesn’t help that I try to hide it cause in the end I lash out on others.
As an ISTP, I've had many people say that they wouldn't come to me for emotional support, but they would come to me in a crisis, or if they needed brutal honesty! I've also had the "I thought you was a bitch when I first met you" and now they're my closest friends. There are some major downfalls of being an ISTP, I have to remind myself to maintain friendships because sometimes it can get to the point where if they didn't contact me I'd probably never see them again. Also, as a mum I have to take a step back occasionally and remind myself to try and empathise with certain emotions, for example if my daughter falls out with her friends my instinct is to say "well you'll probably be friends again tomorrow so it doesn't matter" instead of being sympathetic.
Friends come to me in a crisis. So fucking true. My friends know I'm a cold calculated person but they always say if the apocalypse happens they'll be coming to my house because I would know what to do somehow lol.
Big Brain. I just get pissed when people decide things for me without consulting me, like throwing out my favourite clothes because they don't look "nice". Whatever TF that means.
Angry Spaghetti Lolz I’ve had that kind of situation before. Hasn’t happened much recently bc my desire for new clothes has become so small that she actually sometimes *gives me her clothes* now haha (she’s like “girl you need more variety in your closet”) Her tossing my favorite clothes into the “donate” pile used to happen all the time when I was a kid tho lol
♀️ISTP. My family are always telling me to wear nicer clothes. Me: These are nice. They are comfortable, blend in with the local hoodlums and keep me from getting mugged when I walk around the terrible area that we live in. NICE clothes are the ones that make me unattractive and keep me warm. They are baggy, dull in colour and DO NOT AT ANY MOMENT restrict my movements. 😁👍 Family: you could at least wear something that drfines your womanly curves. Me: No thanks. I like to not be noticed by perverts. People are always trying to give me make overs. Looking "pretty" makes me feel unsafe. Social graces seem like a waste of time. Honestly I have more important things to do like do things that will allow me to feed.myself on minimum wage, like being self sufficient. (Y'know, fixing broken stuff, growing my own vegetables, fishing for my own food. All that awesome stuff that will keep me alive if I face a long term life or death situation) 😅 sorry. Mini rant.
Danielle Pendock You seem like a really awesome person, dang. Also the whole thing about wearing clothes that don’t restrict movement is a TOTAL mood. Like, it’s nice to dress up once in a while, but for the most part I’m really only worried about being comfortable or *practically* dressed.
"The more alone time you give them, the more they will want to spen time with you" What it should be: "the more alone time you give them, the less bothersome it feels spending time with you"
how do I know how much time is enough? I’ve had problems with them saying that asking to hang out too much drains them but then I let them be the one to hit me up but they say I don’t make effort in doing stuff with them
@@Moodboard39 as an INFP I would always let them take initiative on following through with our plans to see if they care or really want to do them. If not then I would think they don’t want to hang out so I don’t ask. Then this leaves me with the problem that they expect me after a while to do stuff with them but I can never get around how much is in a while?
Not sure if it applies to many/all ISTP, but I've observed is that they logically deconstruct humans into separate details and shove the pieces into the one single concept/ framework of their mastery field through which they relate to others. Which is in a very special way kind of cute and bizarre! For example, my brilliant, dear ISTP did not aknowledge my existence as a functioning sentient human being until I got my own car, for his field of mastery was auto repairs. Since then I've learnt his language to speak on, which includes things like: • "You've parked so close to that pole, are you sure you didn't scratch the door?" = "Is everything alright? I worry about you." • "Is it time to change your oil and filter already?" = "How is it going, what are you up to?" • "Do you want to refresh your car paint?" = "I want to treat you" • "I've changed your tires and renewed WoF" = "I love you/ I make this birthday gift to you" • "To which petrol station do you go to?" = "Please talk with me for some time, I want to hear your voice" As I said, so cute and so bizarre!
Margo S 😆I love this. My ISTP husband can only relate to my emotional personal life if I make metaphors to his line of work. As long as I connect how my friend being attacked by a bitch we know is like that one time his boss made an illogical hiring decision, he’s totally on board to hear my drama. Otherwise, it’s irrelevant emotion-laden nonsense and has no bearing on the real world. 🙄😒🤣
I can tell why we (or I, at least) do that. Small talk is hard for me. It's hard to relate with someone on that emotional surface level. It's not a disinterest in people or the individual, instead, I truly don't know where to start without feeling painfully awkward, so I resort to the old proverb "better to be silent and be thought a fool than to open your mouth and remove any doubts". However, if the conversation veers into a topic I know something about, especially if I can help the person, I become very talkative. As I've gotten older, I've gotten better at relating to people and pushing through that small talk stage, but it still feels awkward.
VTdarkangel I very much see what you are describing in my husband. He is one of the most intelligent humans I know. But most of my friends would say they’ve barely heard him talk. His friends, on the other hand, buddies who share his interests, would say he NEVER shuts up. 🤣
petaboil I can confirm these translations can definitely be accurate! I know most people don’t like our style, but the way to be valuable to an ISTP is to be a specimen that becomes a part of our framework for something. That’s what feels most personal to us. And the way we give back is doing things like this, that seem very practical and even shallow, but they are done with love. If an ISTP is asking you a question about yourself, no matter how impersonal it may seem, they care about you.
This is a strikingly accurate deconstruction of ISTP type. Yes, yes we do rage very well. Partly due to how well we can "hide" feelings while going to work internally then BLAM! I speak for myself though. It's not something to be proud of but yeah, it's accurate. Never treat an ISTP (or any type) like crap. For this type, Its just an invitation to battle in the very arena which they most likely already have the blueprints for.
Iam also an Istp , but I’ve noticed that I can get quicker annoyed at things than mad ( like being mad and screaming etc) idk Iam a lazy person and don’t really wanna rage that often , cuz it drains my energy. I find it quite pointless tbh , but sometimes I do rage and get mad. And then I can’t stop 😀
Pfft must be because of the way ISTPs typically think (more along the lines of how guys generally logic their way through things than along the lines of how women generally ponder things), also there’s the fact that female ISTPs are just *that* rare
That's because many of the ways that ISTPs present themselves is quite masculine. The typical interests of ISTPs are things associated with men because there are 2-3 times as many male vs female ISTPs. However, this doesn't make female ISTPs trans, but they tend to be tomboys. I knew a few ISTP women growing up, and they would be pissed if you tried to convince them they were trans. They didn't even really like the label tomboy, but they would accept it because they liked sports and being physical. In my experience, female ISTPs have a femininity of their own. Sure, they get a long with the guys well because they have similar interests, but they still have distinctly feminine qualities. Believe me, as a guy, I noticed. 😉
@@1classikai I think female ISTPs are a lot more common than most people realize. In fact, I think even male ISTPs are more prevalent than most people realize as well. It depends on the country in question.
my dad is an istp and me, as an infp have difficulty interacting with him. so whenever i see something about istps i look into it to help me understand my dad better. this helped a lot with knowing that even though my dad seems super shallow and emotionless, he does actually care.
@Gio T. tell me about it, I'm an ISTP and my sister is an INFP and we don't get along at all, I just don't understand her and she always assumes I'm so shallow and emotionless, the way we view the world is very different.
I just had to cut off one of my infp friends, any time she is sad or unhappy she wants to bring me down with her. I would never get angry or offended when she would do that even though that was what she wanted. And then infps I've met... its like they want to feel as sad as possible always posting sad news and stuff but never really doing anything about it. I do care for my other infp friend, and I give her so many gifts and offer to help her cause I love her!! But dang I wonder what they think of istps lol.
@Gio T. Nah. I have an ISTP friend. I'm INFP. Both of us don't like shallow things, value honesty and authenticity, so, it's really easy to get along, I only need to know when to leave her alone, something I'm good at. Also, she has what I don't have, and vise versa, so we can learn from each other. It's opposite attraction.
@@graciesan9058 im an INFP w an ISTP friend. it’s pretty cool to see what ISTP’s think of INFP’s. we are very emotional & seeing ISTP’s be the exact opposite is in a way very frustrating. that’s why i’m watching these ISTP videos to understand them more but it’s still so odd to me to know how different they are when it comes to emotions or in any other thing. i agree w “it’s like they want to feel as sad as possible always posting sad news & stuff but never really doing anything about it”, i do that as well, & ig we just find comfort in being sad . so far what i think of ISTP’s are, mysterious, emotionless, logical, independent & private people.
If you look up the figurative meaning of the word "demons" in the dictionary, I'm pretty sure you'll see a picture of my dad there. He is one dark ISTP who could fix anything -- except his own life. A talented machinist in his youth, he always had little flecks of metal imbedded his skin from the machining & deburring process, which made his hands sparkle when the light caught them. As a little kid I was amused by the idea that maybe his hands had magic in them, and in retrospect, this is very fitting for the ISTP who does indeed seem to have magic hands. He once fixed a slipping belt on my mom's Firebird by improving with a lighter and a box of birthday candles he found in a kitchen drawer, as I held the flashlight in the middle of the night. I've never seen MacGyver but I wonder if he was an ISTP. BTW Never underestimate the power of inferior Fe to motivate those cold logical people to try to "help" you in the best way they know how. Even when you feel their "help" is not helpful, or is outweighed by problems. That's how they'll rationalize it. They did it all for you. Sure, maybe they had to break down your door and get arrested to do it, but it was all for you! Lol. For the ISTP, "I love you" may come in the form of fixing your car, teaching you how to box, or pushing you to get out of the house and go an adventure. Without going into too much detail, my dad could never stay out of trouble. Between booze, drugs, girls, impulsively pursuing every vice with a "fuck you" attitude towards the government and anyone who stood in his way, coupled with that infamous "extroverted Sensing rage," Ti arrogance, and clumsy Fe that inevitably caused him to offend people and get punched when he was drunk, he was always in and out of jail for one reason or another. Suffice it to say I've been in half a dozen different prisons, but never as an inmate. My dad would always say "If you lock human beings in a cage and treat them like animals, pretty soon they start to act like animals." But I think ISTPs sometimes fail to realize just how strong the natural "animal" latent within them is, compared to other people, and how strong its desire for freedom is. My dad would also say things like, "I could tell you not to use drugs because they don't feel good, but I won't, because that would be a lie, and all a man has in this world is his word." In spite of all his mistakes, you gotta admire that respect for the notion of upholding truth at all costs that only dominant Ti vows to uphold so purely. P.S. Interesting note about Ne PoLR is it can create the illusion of strong Si (well, I guess there's a reason why 6th slot is "demonstrative" in socionics). Because ISTPs are so blind to new possibilities and questioning alternative paths, they will often repeat certain behaviors and phrases over and over again. This can make the ISTP seem like they might be ISTJ if you think about Si. But if you stop and think about temperaments and motivation for behavior, the differences become glaring. The ISTJ comes from a place of maintaining safety, homeostasis, and status quo, while the ISTP wants to throw all that out the window and enjoy the moment. James Bond may represent the quintessential ISTP archetype in the movies, but to do Ti justice, the truth is that the real world is generally less hospitable to the ISTP. Most have neither a license to kill nor the government on their side, and so when they go dark and indulge in the unorthodox, they may find themselves in a world of trouble, if they're not careful.
That is a dark ISTP if I ever heard one. Knowing when to value Fe over Ti as a Ti dom is very important and knowing when to value safety and security(Si) over novelty and excitement(Se) is very important for an Se user. I guess you could take solace knowing that he didn't want to hurt people but instead it just came out that way.
Trying to figure out intp vs istp after months of reading and testing. Relating this whole story to well myself as said dad to 3 kids and my actions views and even comments.... Holy fucking accurate and thank you 😉
♀️ISTP That is very interesting. Almost a path that I went down. Except any fights I got into I never got caught on camera... and if I did... I made it look like I was the losing victim so the other party took all the heat when any authorities arrived. My freedom means a lot to me so I am careful to keep it and remind myself of that when I rage. That reminder of lost freedom gives.me a great amount of focus. 😅 so much focus in violent situations, that my school/highschool peers used to refer to me as "The Animal" when they noticed I was angry about something. Usually that alias was uttered before people left the area very quickly.
@@daniellependock2554 haha that's hilarious, I relate to that, the fights I was on, I would always act like the victim. Also I try not doing illegal shit when I'm out and about as I would hate to have my freedom taken away from me, so I am careful!
this definetly made me sure that I am an ISTP rather than ISTP or ISTJ non desided debate. I did Engineering pre classes in 2 years , failed the exam and did it again , failed again . I never listened to people telling me "you better pursue economics" because of my good marks on languistics and communication (plus maths of course) ;but rather I fought thru physics and mechanics even tho i had terrible marks for 98% and top of the class at 1% .I still stupidly held to that 1% and went for the YOLO even tho i was sinking and wasting my time .
YES!!!! I struggle with that. I have a consistent inner calling to go “dark.” Even when competing in jiu jitsu, I struggle whether or not to let myself go there. I LOVE going there, but I usually hurt my opponents when I do, and I either respond with overflowing empathy and crying, or I don’t feel anything about it... it’s just “business” attitude. I’m afraid of becoming a bad person.
It explains a lot, I thought my lack of empathy and sympathy as well as emotionless as the sign of psychopathy but turns out I'm just an ISTP although some of ISTP's characteristics doesn't suit me.
same. my brother calls me “cold” sometimes, and i don’t care. but then sometimes i sit and wonder whether or not this is a personal issue, if it’s a result of some sort of trauma, or something else. for now, i’m just associating it with my personality (type). as i’m typing, i remember a couple days ago, my mom, brother, and i were all speaking, and my mom was saying she’ll always be here for us and all that lovey, heart touching stuff. i remember feeling a little weirded out by her emotion(s), and funny enough, when she opened her arms for us to give her a hug, i just shook one of them and said “thank you for your time.” im quite young, and i definitely have a lot more discoveries to make about myself in my lifetime, but i just think it’s just me being an ISTP. also, some ISTP characteristics don’t suit me as well. for example, the bluntness. i’m not as blunt as i wish to be. day by day, i do become a bit more blunt/meaner, but i hope one day, i don’t have to hold back anymore simply because i fear the reactions of people. however, i don’t think many people, or anyone for that matter, 100% align with their personality types…if that makes sense
I’m an unhealthy INFJ married to a healthy ISTP...oh boy. It’s been a rough marriage, but since discovering he’s an ISTP, and researching the type, I feel closer to him. He’s my calm in the storm. I truly appreciate all he is. But yes, I’ve seen the “dark side” through the years. Thanks for this video!
Love Who I’m a (relatively healthy... I think 🤔) INFJ with ISTP husband. And, man, that Ti is sexy 🔥 We had a massive blow up on Sunday though (if by “massive blow up,” you understand that I got super upset and he just stood there, emotionless, staring at me), because I was trying to get a compassionate reaction from him about friendship drama I was having. After an hour or two of the silent treatment from me (which I’m sure he interpreted as benign and not punishment at all 🙄), he said, “I’m sorry. I didn’t take into account the practical implications of your friend’s bad behavior, given her role as the PTA president. It must really be hard to have someone that unstable leading a group.” Wtf?? No dude, she’s just a bitch and it’s annoying af 🤣🤣🤣
@@maymayrays Damn. I din't think I've ever heard Ti described as sexy, unless you were joking. And yeah there is a strong chance that any silent punishment you do to him goes unnoticed or unrecognized as such.
James Downs Haha - I was certainly not joking 😂. Logic is super sexy. He helps me cut through my tendency to Fe all over everything, finding the solid ground of reason when all I can see is a swirling mass of everyone’s personal feelings and opinions on a subject. And, I know - my silent treatment is definitely less punishment for him than coping mechanism for me, i try to bite my tongue when I’m mad so I don’t pop off and say something shitty I don’t really mean. After 20 years together I’ve learned that it doesn’t work as a punishment 😆 hardly anything does, in fact 😜
Joey Jo Joe Shabadu 😂 my parents told me that they didn’t know how to punish me as a kid. I would just be happy in my room entertaining myself. They resorted to taking away horseback riding lessons and things like that, activities that I liked to do that couldn’t be replaced with reading or whatever solitary hobby I enjoyed at the time. It’s hard to punish an adult that way though. 🙃
I don't like being feel trapped like for example people having expectations of me. So I then create a plan to get rid of that and regain my freedom. I either make them dislike me or continuously fail their expectations but I do it in the most innocent way. I remember making my kind teacher shout at me and angry for the first time by being loud despite telling us to be quiet. I did shut up but I was grinning with satisfaction internally.😂 I'm very afraid of my dark side because I think like when I really lose my rationality,care,and self-control, I could end a life. It scares me.
OMG another ISTP video!! Ok I'm gonna ramble for a minute here... Honestly, I relate to "The more alone time you give them, the more time they'll want to spend time with you" *so hard.* I've never been in a romantic relationship but this does apply to family and friends as well. I hate being constantly checked in on, which is coincidentally a thing my mother especially *loves* to do. She means well, I know, but she would always decide to have a chat or sort of get an update on my life out of me, seemingly always at the *worst* times. I'd be in my room minding my own business, and a closed door didn't mean anything to her. She'd walk in and start asking me questions whenever she deemed it necessary. And wouldn't you know it, I eventually started discreetly trying to avoid her, in an effort to avoid these conversations (that I always thought of as unnecessary, and honestly still do). I'd leave a room right as I heard her walking toward it, I'd spend hours in the basement (where she didn't go very often), and whenever she went out, leaving me with just my sisters, and would tell me she'd be late getting back, I would tell her she need not rush home. It's not that I hated her. I've never hated her. And I didn't just stop talking to her altogether. She and I are just very different people, and I grew tired of her constantly checking in on me, as I do/would with anyone. Now some of it might be a result of the fact that I was (and still am technically) a fledgling adult who was getting ready to go away to college and my mom was suddenly seeing me as a little girl again, but this also applies to friends of mine. For instance: (I'll try to make this example shorter.) I have this guy friend, a total extrovert, who likes to FaceTime me often. I answer about half the time, but it's mostly because I don't want him to hate me. Other times I let it go to voicemail. He's a great person, but it's just that whenever he calls, we just talk about nothing (like whether or not Jedi Master Yoda had a wife), and our conversations keep my mind from focusing on more practical things. Sometimes he runs out of things he wants to talk about and then we just sit there in silence, me waiting and thinking "Was there a specific purpose to you calling me?" Our calls usually end with me breaking the silence by saying "Hey, I'm gonna let you go. I gotta finish this thing I'm working on." and he goes "Ok, bye" and then I hang up. Sometimes he'll call me like 3 days in a row and I'll be like "Ok my guy I'm gonna need you to let me BE for a bit" And so I definitely value the time spent with someone more if it doesn’t happen too often. So anyway, yeah. That was my ramble. All to say that yea this is pretty accurate
My ISTP friend looked so calm and detached doing her tasks (trying to be an arquitect)... UNTIL SB GET IN HER WAY. It could be a dissaproving comment of a teacher that didn't value her work or the woman that treated her badly when she was buying her pencils. Of course she would only explote in front of very very few people that had gained her trust. "Ti" are the worst when they let that "Fe" run free because they were pretending they didn't care for so long that when it finally comes out their feelings are a mortal tsunami (with horrible consequences for them too)
As an ISTP, it had already occurred to me that Fe inferior was the only thing keeping me from becoming antisocial. But I'd also imagined without Fe inferior, becoming something more like Spock.
That last part is so true. I wish people understood that more. I like to do stuff with people, but when you ambush me and force me to spend time with you, I will run away.
Recently I just found out that I am an ISTP (I made the test 4 times) and I just come to this videos to see what people like me say about being an ISTP. Is like doing inner search from within the outer world, if that makes sense. - I love my personal space and loneliness, When people interrumpt me or break my focus I get pissed off and I don't do anything anymore cz I lost it. -I like to discover people by playing chess with them - Everybody said I should be an architect / engineer but because someone else suggested it to me I refuse to accept it, so I studied design and dropped out, now I'm into animation and music - My best friend gets pissed off because I send her messages everytime a new topic comes to mind, like today I asked her about her career and tomorrow I tell her that humanity is a deception. And when I reach more than 10 messages she starts a fight LOL - I only have less than 5 friends - I have never picked a fight in my life, I hate conflict, I don't drink or smoke or use drugs because it is super stupid to do so. - I am a total mistery to people, noone knows my true intentions although they are mostly good unless it's a prank - I don't get mad easily but when I do I shred to pieces other people's arguments and embarass them, that feels so liberating - When someone posts on social media all I can think about is how stupid they look with all those weird filters - I love sarcasm and irony Edit: everyone should listen to classical music, it makes you smarter And last but not least, congrats and thanks if you read up to this point
@@blendering3D even though I understand why said congrats because there was a good info infj was here to say when I say something to someone always get misunderstood and get force to be kind to them
@@blendering3D interesting it's like u were blind to the emotions I spoke about my advice to u is to observe people who speak emotionally that will help u be more aware on ur emotions and how to deal with them before they go out of hand
I cannot believe that you said the I STP prefers an actual roller coaster to an emotional roller coaster. I have seriously said the same thing. If I wanna thrill I will go do some thing I’m not gonna go pick a fight with some weirdo. 🤣🤣🤣
As always it trips me out how much you know about the inside of my mind. But another great video I've enjoyed. Please post more about us ISTP's when available
I remember when I was real young realizing that my brother, and others to a lesser extent, seemed to be vulnerable to emotion. Especially when under stress. I think I was about eight when I decided that if they couldn't perform under stress, do what needed to be done (whether that be simply chores or defending themselves) I would in their stead. So far, it ain't been a bad life. My people make me happy, and I keep them in tact. The internet distracts me well enough, gives me enough to read and learn. Work is cathartic, and maintains my mind and body. I don't need much else.
ISTP male here. I sometimes wonder if I'm broken at times emotionally. I can go from caring too much to literally shutting down and just having a blank callous stare. Sometimes wondering if in mildly psychopathic but then i do have empathy... but not sympathy. I try to fix my animals if they get hurt and i do care. Its just strange. If you catch me in those moods you are going to get extremely cold and probably hurtful responses... but other times i'm engaged and normal. its just weird.
My son took this test at work and is an ISTP. He's an ultra marathon runner and has taken himself to places in the Rocky Mountains where no other human has been. This explanation on this video is a very accurate. We have a good relationship because we give him space and unconditional love. The teenage years were rough.
♀️ISTP. We all have that dark side. Most of us don't let anyone see it. Usually those who do, get terrorised to silence. That dark side is usually slow release, silent and not obvious to others until it is WAY too late. Usually when I'm angry people don't notice until I am at my point of rampaging someone's stupid rear into a pancake. Ironically the people who usially make me most angry are the ones I love most. This is usually the start of an internal conflict of me then trying to calculate if I need that person any more in my life or not, which then leads on to how I plan on punishing them for the rest of my life for pissing me off to that extreme. Having said that, I use that same rage to protect those I love, and the few who have earned my absolute trust I would give my life for theirs to protect them if any extreme situation was to threaten their life. That dark side can be manipulated for good or evil. DON'T PREVOKE THAT DARK SIDE TO WORK AGAINST YOU! Seriously.... people get hurt... stupid people get hurt... Usually physically by ISPT dark side. We have a bad habit of showcasing and proving just how violent we can be when we feel like we need to remind others of that.
Highfunctioning neurodivergent(covert dark) female ISTP here, and I have to say, your videos are INSANELY ACCURATE. Wow. I am like, feeling so amazed at how well you got this. Points to add: ISTPs care the least about words of affirmation. People I'm dating who start getting clingy, terrify me. I need my space. and I know them talking to me, are just wanting those words of affirmation from me. They start talking too much. I would rather acts of service or a practical gift. Not all this mushy texting back and forth for hours which is a waste of my time that I could be doing something such as assembling ikea furniture or something useful. LOL.
Im sure you have lots of stuff you are working on right now but if you need video ideas i think it would be cool to talk about how the types get along with or deal with other types. Like how they see eachother and interact. Like type x gets along with type y because.... but not with type z because... Or however you want to set it up. Just an idea.
I love being an female ISTP we are so rare ......... although the downside is I am not great with attachment and commitment oof ........... that would suck in a relationship ............. but oh well
@@Chloe-tw1yi Yeah, I can understand that ........... I don't know about you but I easily get bored during conversation then I have to force myself to act interested and I have trouble showing compassion....... but we still are unique and have our good traits ..............
@@tillywontspeak Because we are different from the common female types and we are seen as the cool, mysterious, and reasonable among the 16 types .........
Wow. I just dropped my husband off at a treatment center today. This explains SO MUCH! And if this gives you ANY insight as to why he went dark and what played a significant roll in it ...Im an INTJ and female. Which tge mere existence of, TOTALLY destroys his ISTP self confidence and causes him to feel inadequate as a man. Discovering our opposing personality types is probably the best thing that has ever happened for us. At least now we are equipped....its what we do with the knowledge now to make adjustments.
as a young istp bc im only like 19, I struggle with understanding emotions the way other people do, like I can understand how you feel or anyone feels but I will process it in a very logical manner. Moreover it strains the relationship I have with my mother bc she's like you don't understand feelings and shit and she tells me to stuff bc it's the 'rule' and im like just bc everyone follows it doesn't mean that I have to either. It can lead to very frustrating moments and my patience runs even lower when I don't like someone so I can get very angry sometimes if I was actively involved and if I cared. I am not sure why I'm typing all of this but what ticks me off is me being forced to do something simply because society thinks that it should be that way.
Very important, there is always naturally a feature to balance what would otherwise be out of control. Ti is objective, and Ni is visualizating a personal path forward (selfish, basically). And, Se is about giving and sharing/creating experiences with others, with Fe sharing others' values and wanting to make others feel good. These functions are designed to absorb from our external reality that which will balance us. We absorb other ppl's emotions and physical movements as raw data, and know what they value/believe and also what they desire to experience. So, it's the perfect balance of external influence and consideration for others, when not ignored or stifled.
"ISTP-s can do rage... very well." You can say that again :D In my 38 years, so far I managed to rage only a couple of times. But those were quite memorable :D There's no "no"-s or "but"-s accepted in that situation. When I'm pushed that far out of my boundaries that I feel there's no way out but rage to get back things in order... I'll make sure it works at least, usually by any cost, unfortunately. If it has to burn, I'll make it burn. Better not push an ISTP to rage mode.
Me an ENTJ watching vids about ISTPs cuz i need a proof of why he/she are natural partners for ENTJs and yet the only reason I could think of is because they're not too emotional.
(INFP) I relate to the, "The more time alone I'm given, the more I want to spend time with them". People that get all excited about me is flattering but nothing turns me off more than someone who doesn't understand the concept of space. Then again, nothing turns me on more than someone who does... I should work on being less extreme.
sometimes i sense the fear and hesitation in people's eyes and voice when they approach me....especially at work. Some of these traits really show itself at the workplace for me.
I am an ENFP with an ISTP male. These are very informative to me and I appreciate the work you put into them. I've gotten to see the dark side of mine but the enfp in me shut his ass down and taught both him and myself boundaries xD I make sure he has time to be him and in return he's like a big black german sheperd who waits for me to guide him at the same time. I do believe that ISTPs have this patience I've never known though lol Mine is a police officer and does his best to be level headed. It would be nice for you to do one on ISTP parenting.
This is the best video about the I STP I have ever seen. Most types get us wrong and it’s very frustrating to hear about the I STP as filtered through somebody else’s value system and cognitive processes.
My mom is an ISTP. She was often a ruthless, controlling, self centred mother. She did little to conceal the opinion that my brother and I were the reason she could not achieve her goals to her satisfaction. Fun times.
after a long time, this has bringed a smile to my face, an actual smile and yes, we can do rage really well. for the sake of freedom, theres nothing can stop me
As an ISTP, I consider a lot of these parts of my strengths. You need someone to come in and help clean something up, call an ISTP. I've called myself a gunslinger for years.
They all have their problems. Perhaps some have it easier because of the value a culture may have for a particular type but other than that, each type is as great as the next, just at different things.
Emotionless can actually help you think and decide logically. As psychologist Paul Bloom says something like empathy is a weakness and may influence to make bad decisions.
Find a constructive avenue to release it. The only thing bottling it up and denying its existence will do is ensure that it is going come out in a very ugly mess that may hurt others and/or yourself later on. Been there, done that. It was very self-destructive for me. I started training martial arts and bought a heavy bag. It wasn't a fast solution, but it was a very good step for me because it got me out of my head and became an effective way to burn that negative energy. I don't know if it will work for you like it did for me, but I hope that will inspire some ideas that will work.
@@mysticapixi The heavy bag is part of the venting for me. The exercise gives me a place to release that aggression on something other than a person, unless the situation warrants it. Learning martial arts also taught me how to harness and redirect that aggression to more constructive directions. That one was a slower solution, but one that has proven to invaluable. Having some trusted friends to talk to helped me to process some of the more complex emotions. The rage was often the surface of something more complex. Being able to talk it out with someone helped me sort out what was legitimate and what I needed to work on. Hope this helps.
Practice setting boundaries so your needs get met. I find when I get space and time alone, then I return to my peace and I can be more patient and caring with others as a result.
Understand that ignoring conflicts and setting boundaries will cause way more conflicts in the long run. I've seen ISTPs be very outspoken about their boundaries (in their own ways) when it comes to most people. But when it comes to their loved ones, it's like they don't want any conflict. They want to solve it as soon as possible which is usually a good trait but sometimes you need to be heard and hear your loved ones out instead of trying to solve a problem. This ends a lot of resentment and anger that might explode one day. Another one would be, pay close attention to yourself to check if you're feeling stressed. Or you'll realize it too late and be emotionally volatile unlike your usual self. I'm not an ISTP. I've a wonderful ISTP father and I've noticed that these are his downfalls.
When you go into talking about James Bond its interesting especially when you think about Casino Royale and his love interest with Vesper who was INFJ and how she was the one who bought out emotion from him.
So for YEARS I’ve thought that I was an INTP. I’ve been back and forth on it for ages. Thanks to your videos comparing the two I learned, finally, that I’m an ISTP. It’s a bit of a “back to the drawing board” feeling, but that’s kind of exciting as well. Thank you!
I have the same problem here ..i thought that i iam an INTP but i do relate to ISTPs so much..and due to my lack of experience and environment..i cant tell if i have Se or Ne its just too difficult for me to know
Of all the types I've heard Sherlock Holmes called, ESTP is not one of them strangely enough. I think I can see why someone would say that though. He does seem to have a very good eye for the physical world and his drug addiction is a stereotypical vice of sensors. I would argue that he would be at least an introvert considering how focused he is on one thing, solving cases.
@@downsjmmyjones101 SE is nature of estp and when they develope introverted thinking they become very focused on analysis and third slot FE they just used it when they want it to show Thier social skills around people and NI we just don't go that far it's death for us...
Wolverine, han solo, Darth maul, John McClain from die hard, Samus from Super Metroid, Indiana Jones, Agent 47 from hitman, Aragorn from Lord of the rings, Aloy from horizon zero Dawn, the doomslayer.... just to name a few. Also I'll argue solid snake from metal gear mainly because most types are to stupid to take into account not every smart ass crafter is a j type.
i know an istp who definately fits this bill. he works a dead end job so he can take care of his kids. hes completely devpted to caring for them kids even though their momma deserted. we talk a lot and when i see him at work i think of the poem "Panther" by Rilke.
5:16 "ISTPs can do rage... very well." Yes, that. Finally it's phrased the way ISTPs would phrase that as well. Not something like "their emotional discomfort might build up until it blasts out in a remarkable fashion" or things like that
5:40 - Restrictive relationships are difficult :( Especially if they stalk you and find your comments under random videos all the time, then blame you for them :D
I'm an ISTP and I like to think that the world is better with me in it (not in a moral way but more of a pragmatist's definition of "better"). But people may not be enjoying my existence as a person, and that's fine by me.
Love it! Great video!! Seems like a lot of an ISTP's darkness stems from disrespecting/abandoning Fe. But it seems like INTPs are less susceptible to that. Do you agree with that? Any idea as to why that is?
Thank you! I'm not sure why, but INTPs seem much more Fe-cautious whereas ISTPs are more Fe-ignorant. I've often wondered what exactly causes that difference. It might be that INTPs depend on people slightly more and value that Si comfort, both of which lean towards making Fe mistakes something to avoid ~ Nathan
This one time when I was visiting Estonia with my ISFJ partner a random guy came up to us to ask for money. He was clearly under the influence of drugs so I was immediately on my guard. I wanted to leave but my partner started talking to him. When eventually my partner explained that he didn't have any cash on him I saw this guy's expression harden and he put his hand in his pocket. My first thought was that he was about to stab my partner and my immediate instinctual thought process went like this: "This is why I should carry a knife" -> "Well no matter what happens I'll take him down before he can do anything" -> "I can't believe I'm about to end up in an Estonian prison" -> "I'm pretty sure Estonian prisons aren't as comfy as Finnish prisons" -> "Prison life would suck ass" -> "Maybe I should just drag my partner out of here immediately" Luckily I finally managed to haul my oblivious partner's ass out of the situation and nothing ended up happening. After begging him to get himself some self preservation instincts I finally realized what I had been thinking. Let's be clear, I'm a 162cm tall woman, I don't have any self defense skills and I have never used a weapon of any kind. I'm a very easygoing and calm person. I drink tea and wear fluffy cardigans. And yet in that moment in my mind I turned into this vicious, cold version of myself who had no doubt of my destructive capabilities and who was prepared to do anything to eliminate the threat to my partner. It took me a while to even think about running even though that would've been the most logical choice. And even though I was afraid I wasn't really fully aware of it, I was mostly just preparing to act. Honestly in the aftermath I was a bit scared of that side of me because I had no idea it even existed. So, yeah. The dark side of an ISTP can definitely be pretty intense.
I try and never really show emotion. Stoicism helps with that. When I get angry, that tightly bound control I have vanishes and I am literally out of control until I calm down. I now live alone in a country where none of my friends or family live. I only have work colleagues and I've never met any of them in person. I lost my cool today in a Teams call and gave someone a tongue lashing. I was virtually useless for the rest of my shift. Oddly some people messaged me saying it was great that I spoke up and brought the meeting to an abrupt end. But I hate it cos I'm not in control. Its not professional. And I really like the guy I went off at. He has a sweet and gentle soul but is also so fucking stupid and never shuts up :(
I think you should do a video on all the dark indulgences on all types. More indepth than you already have done. Though honestly I don't know much about this science so you might have already. Definitely start with the INTJ because we are awesome (shameless plug of my type) I have one story of an indulgence that got way too far but won't share unless enough people want me too. That will be interesting to watch
Mr Spock and or Yoda are often said to be ISTP characters; but Han Solo and Indiana Jones are quintessential ISTPs, because Spielberg type-cast Harrison Ford (an ISTP) in those roles. Other famous ISTPs include; Clint Eastwood 😉 and Vladimir Putin 😨😑😆😁
I get mad at my parents for pressuring my studies, they're asian, can't be helped. But sometimes we would argue, and they would use the "Im your parent" argument. I don't mind being lectured but atleast make it logical, we have standards too. I get really mad sometimes that I would just cry because I don't want to hurt anyone. Maybe I would've punfhed them if we weren't blood-related.
I've been told I could be a mistyped isfp (I am an infj, in theory) and I've been gathering information about istp lately and what I can say is... I wish. Definitely my favorite type
The only way it's easier is that I think society values the physical work they do. Their mastery of physical systems is valued over an intuitive's mastery of the abstract. Other than that, an INTP and an ISTP have very similar problems.
Can someone please explain to me why istp deactivate? A friend of mine...in the beginning was super friendly, outgoing, interactive...and then all of a sudden, distanced, cold, and non responsive. No explanation either. I don't get it?
*me slowly nodding in agreement* ....wait that ain't right...sadly it's true once I'm in skill or tool mode it can cause me to forget to be "emotional" and just focus on achieving, my competitive "passion" can also blind me which can hurt me or others but it makes me one hell of a leader, the attachment thing was creepy how right it is..
Just go to the gym dude, those trees are just trying to live and you fucked their shit up. At least hack up a dead tree, or clear some brush that needs to be cleared.
I'm an INTP who considers himself quite emotional, yet I completely understand what you mean when saying we often take a completely logical approach to stuff like music or art. I've always judged stuff based off of a loosely defined, yet amazingly concrete sense of logic. It's like a telescope is flashing around in my inner Ti-Si monologue, pointing out tiny, yet somehow major things I precieve as wrong.
Personally, if I were to have to go through life seeing things though an emotional filter, I would be functionally crippled. I could not imagine driving a sports car fast on a twisty road and being thrilled by it. I only get a sense of satisfaction at the end of the drive by a job well done. Emotions get in the way of concentration. On the other hand-- sudden loud noises scare me.... ;)
As an istp I wouldn't call us cold per se more like calculating analyzing there has to be a purpose to be cold to someone or a group of people you would have to feel but we can overturn this and be calculating many people think and or feel that this to be cold.
In my trade school I punched my book bag because the teacher wasn’t assessing my problems with inventor (computer program) and I think that is the most istp moment in my life
As a ISTP I can say that we don’t show emotions for a reason we know that we could hurt people if we do try to show our emotions because of the fact that we don’t really show them then we can’t really control them so then we just don’t show them to begin with like he was saying about emotionless when one of my family members died I sat there and didn’t do anything I was emotionless I didn’t feel sad angry happy nothing just nothing and people may come off and say we’re crazy but really we just like to be emotionless.
Some times I hate being a ISTP. I cant shout up if I know Im right. I know I should be more gentle, but I don't know how to suger coat something that is wrong.. Like I'm not stubborn, I let people prove me wrong, and I change my mind if it's logical, but most people just get angry and never try... I just don't want to hear them out until the end if their argument is wrong from the beginning... So I end up having a bunch of people in my life that either hate me or really like me. Never in between it feels like. And I say I hate that part, but really I don't, not in a i feeling lonely kind of way. More like people try group up to make my arguments seem smaller and untrue. Im ok with people hating me, I don't really like them either. But i want to have facts and logic be the winning argument and not feelings, games and tactics.
But the good part of this is I sometimes end up getting really good friends. They hate me at first for this reason. But some have come to me for help when they know they are right but need help build their case or they just need support. I end up helping them, because somehow I don't hold grudges for most of them.
I am not emotionally detached normally, i mean like with friends, relationships but i certainly do have the capability to detach myself completely from almost anything people related without any hesitation but yeah I don't do that very often, idk if its because of how I think about morality or is it a trauma response lol
I'm an istp this is pretty much me but I'm aloof and dont like much social encounter if it takes up valuable time I get bored easy and get bugged because I'm a girl and no one takes me seriously
Rip istp Kobe Bryant.
I love sports and football. But these guys are silence, calm and dangerous predators, they are always in top 1, Jordan, Magnuss carlssen, gsp, nurgamenov, Jon jones, Lionel Messi. They want to be the number one on the field, they want be the star who score and shine when things turn hard. But that’s a weaknesses in team sports.
In long term they always try to control the game. i always play/train against one and I as a strategist, I can’t allow, i can’t allow let them play easy. tactics, leadership and hunter mentality beat them always, if you beat them over and over, then the game is yours, it’s about guiding others to stop him, so istps, start to frustrate, miss, anger explode, complain others, his true personality shine. later when I win they start to see me and copy me, they try to figúrate the puzzle xdd for me is a triple victory.
Peace.
Kobe dying was so surprisingly impactful. I agree with Magus being ISTP, also yes I can see Jon Jones being one too. ~ Nathan
Kobe was ISFP.
That sounds beautiful and all, but honestly I couldn’t understand half of it because of the poor grammar
@@rustyalloy69 I agree, just like Magic Johnson is one as well.
Hi ISTP here. Despite the weird grammar I actually followed the line of thought really well and kind of agree with the feeling sometimes.
ISTP’s are like cats, if you let them come to you then they can be your best friend, but if you go to them then they could become distant and cold
I did the initiative and now were friends.
If you come to us it's fine, just don't crowd us b4 you let us get used to your presence.
This explains a lot
What a fantastic point! I'm definitely a dog with the mentality of an ISTP cat lol
some cats need people to go to them and show them love as well. it depends on the cat/ person.
The dark side of ISTP: Being an ISTP
Haha! Well yes now that you mention it, that's true ~ Nathan
Agreed. We just know when to let the dark out of our personal Pandora's box.
tbh sometimes i really think we have more Struggles with ourselves (and of course with others!) than any other type
Tru. Istp are edgelords basically
I found out that if I starve myself enough I can trigger dark ISTP mode.
As an istp female I’ve never been in a relationship and don’t really have a desire to be in one. But it’s annoying when ppl question my sexuality because of it
ISTP female heterosexual here.
In the past I’ve had men ask me if I was straight or not. It was always such an odd question to me. I’ve had women hit on me as well. I once took the time to ask someone why they asked if I was straight. Their answer: “Idk. Your vibe is very different.”
That didn’t help at all.
i dont know if im asexual or what but i also dont have desire to be in a relationship. all ppl i know want to have one and i feel odd
same
I’m a female ISTP and I’m asexual/aromantic.
same here
You mentioned raging when an ISTP feels trapped. That does happen. However, there is also another side as well: depression. I know when I feel trapped, but cannot justify anger and/or lashing out, it turns inwards and becomes depression. I've gotten better at managing it over the years, but it remains a nagging issue from time to time.
That's true actually ~ Nathan
This is so true, I’ve had the same sitch two years back.
Wow, same.
VTdarkangel
I couldn’t have said it better myself. I get both depressed and angered whenever I stay at home, alone by myself and it doesn’t help that I try to hide it cause in the end I lash out on others.
completely relate
As an ISTP, I've had many people say that they wouldn't come to me for emotional support, but they would come to me in a crisis, or if they needed brutal honesty! I've also had the "I thought you was a bitch when I first met you" and now they're my closest friends. There are some major downfalls of being an ISTP, I have to remind myself to maintain friendships because sometimes it can get to the point where if they didn't contact me I'd probably never see them again. Also, as a mum I have to take a step back occasionally and remind myself to try and empathise with certain emotions, for example if my daughter falls out with her friends my instinct is to say "well you'll probably be friends again tomorrow so it doesn't matter" instead of being sympathetic.
Thank you for realizing that.
Friends come to me in a crisis. So fucking true. My friends know I'm a cold calculated person but they always say if the apocalypse happens they'll be coming to my house because I would know what to do somehow lol.
@@ashmototherapy Lol, my friends probably think something along the same lines.
I see myself 💯 in your description. Ten times I did the MBTI test and 10 times result show I’m an ISTP.
Shit, Sameee.... 100% accuracy
Big Brain. I just get pissed when people decide things for me without consulting me, like throwing out my favourite clothes because they don't look "nice". Whatever TF that means.
Angry Spaghetti Whoa Who the heck is throwing out your clothes????
@@1classikai My Mum, I'm 18.
Angry Spaghetti Lolz I’ve had that kind of situation before. Hasn’t happened much recently bc my desire for new clothes has become so small that she actually sometimes *gives me her clothes* now haha (she’s like “girl you need more variety in your closet”)
Her tossing my favorite clothes into the “donate” pile used to happen all the time when I was a kid tho lol
♀️ISTP.
My family are always telling me to wear nicer clothes.
Me: These are nice. They are comfortable, blend in with the local hoodlums and keep me from getting mugged when I walk around the terrible area that we live in. NICE clothes are the ones that make me unattractive and keep me warm. They are baggy, dull in colour and DO NOT AT ANY MOMENT restrict my movements. 😁👍
Family: you could at least wear something that drfines your womanly curves.
Me: No thanks. I like to not be noticed by perverts.
People are always trying to give me make overs. Looking "pretty" makes me feel unsafe.
Social graces seem like a waste of time.
Honestly I have more important things to do like do things that will allow me to feed.myself on minimum wage, like being self sufficient. (Y'know, fixing broken stuff, growing my own vegetables, fishing for my own food. All that awesome stuff that will keep me alive if I face a long term life or death situation)
😅 sorry. Mini rant.
Danielle Pendock You seem like a really awesome person, dang.
Also the whole thing about wearing clothes that don’t restrict movement is a TOTAL mood.
Like, it’s nice to dress up once in a while, but for the most part I’m really only worried about being comfortable or *practically* dressed.
As an ISTP, I can say that the ancient philosophy of Stoicism really appeals to me.
ISTPs certainly can be excellent exponents of Stoicism! They are the perfect blend of pragmatism and action ~ Nathan
@@lovewho Thank You Kindly 😉😁
Oh my me too my friend. 👍👍
yes same
You and I as well!
"The more alone time you give them, the more they will want to spen time with you"
What it should be: "the more alone time you give them, the less bothersome it feels spending time with you"
Who's right ? You or him ?? Idk you being sarcastic or what ?
how do I know how much time is enough? I’ve had problems with them saying that asking to hang out too much drains them but then I let them be the one to hit me up but they say I don’t make effort in doing stuff with them
@@alvchristian 🤣🤣 people are like that. I can't stand that . I don't get it .
Balance ?
@@alvchristian people fucking complain for anything . That's why I stay away
@@Moodboard39 as an INFP I would always let them take initiative on following through with our plans to see if they care or really want to do them. If not then I would think they don’t want to hang out so I don’t ask. Then this leaves me with the problem that they expect me after a while to do stuff with them but I can never get around how much is in a while?
Not sure if it applies to many/all ISTP, but I've observed is that they logically deconstruct humans into separate details and shove the pieces into the one single concept/ framework of their mastery field through which they relate to others. Which is in a very special way kind of cute and bizarre!
For example, my brilliant, dear ISTP did not aknowledge my existence as a functioning sentient human being until I got my own car, for his field of mastery was auto repairs.
Since then I've learnt his language to speak on, which includes things like:
• "You've parked so close to that pole, are you sure you didn't scratch the door?" = "Is everything alright? I worry about you."
• "Is it time to change your oil and filter already?" = "How is it going, what are you up to?"
• "Do you want to refresh your car paint?" = "I want to treat you"
• "I've changed your tires and renewed WoF" = "I love you/ I make this birthday gift to you"
• "To which petrol station do you go to?" = "Please talk with me for some time, I want to hear your voice"
As I said, so cute and so bizarre!
Margo S 😆I love this. My ISTP husband can only relate to my emotional personal life if I make metaphors to his line of work. As long as I connect how my friend being attacked by a bitch we know is like that one time his boss made an illogical hiring decision, he’s totally on board to hear my drama. Otherwise, it’s irrelevant emotion-laden nonsense and has no bearing on the real world. 🙄😒🤣
I can tell why we (or I, at least) do that. Small talk is hard for me. It's hard to relate with someone on that emotional surface level. It's not a disinterest in people or the individual, instead, I truly don't know where to start without feeling painfully awkward, so I resort to the old proverb "better to be silent and be thought a fool than to open your mouth and remove any doubts". However, if the conversation veers into a topic I know something about, especially if I can help the person, I become very talkative. As I've gotten older, I've gotten better at relating to people and pushing through that small talk stage, but it still feels awkward.
VTdarkangel I very much see what you are describing in my husband. He is one of the most intelligent humans I know. But most of my friends would say they’ve barely heard him talk. His friends, on the other hand, buddies who share his interests, would say he NEVER shuts up. 🤣
petaboil I can confirm these translations can definitely be accurate! I know most people don’t like our style, but the way to be valuable to an ISTP is to be a specimen that becomes a part of our framework for something. That’s what feels most personal to us. And the way we give back is doing things like this, that seem very practical and even shallow, but they are done with love. If an ISTP is asking you a question about yourself, no matter how impersonal it may seem, they care about you.
@@maymayrays So true. As an ISTP myself, I'm quite around people I don't know but with buddies I can talk and joke all day.
This is a strikingly accurate deconstruction of ISTP type. Yes, yes we do rage very well. Partly due to how well we can "hide" feelings while going to work internally then BLAM! I speak for myself though. It's not something to be proud of but yeah, it's accurate. Never treat an ISTP (or any type) like crap. For this type, Its just an invitation to battle in the very arena which they most likely already have the blueprints for.
Well said! ~ Nathan
I am extremely proud of the fact that I am emotionally 2 sided between my ti and fe
Same and true
Iam also an Istp , but I’ve noticed that I can get quicker annoyed at things than mad ( like being mad and screaming etc) idk Iam a lazy person and don’t really wanna rage that often , cuz it drains my energy. I find it quite pointless tbh , but sometimes I do rage and get mad. And then I can’t stop 😀
“Preferred mode of operating is emotionless” yesssssss this.
I’m a female istp and people think I’m trans for some reason
Pfft must be because of the way ISTPs typically think (more along the lines of how guys generally logic their way through things than along the lines of how women generally ponder things), also there’s the fact that female ISTPs are just *that* rare
I mean, I'm a FtM and it really assures me that female ISTP's are rare so it means I'm more likely to be right.
That's because many of the ways that ISTPs present themselves is quite masculine. The typical interests of ISTPs are things associated with men because there are 2-3 times as many male vs female ISTPs. However, this doesn't make female ISTPs trans, but they tend to be tomboys. I knew a few ISTP women growing up, and they would be pissed if you tried to convince them they were trans. They didn't even really like the label tomboy, but they would accept it because they liked sports and being physical. In my experience, female ISTPs have a femininity of their own. Sure, they get a long with the guys well because they have similar interests, but they still have distinctly feminine qualities. Believe me, as a guy, I noticed. 😉
@@VTdarkangel thank you for noticing!
♀️ISTP
@@1classikai I think female ISTPs are a lot more common than most people realize. In fact, I think even male ISTPs are more prevalent than most people realize as well. It depends on the country in question.
There's a higher chance to become a dark ISTP if you are female and you've spent years in such environments where your Se was suppressed. :^ )
I feel you.
Suppressed how
Yup
could you explain me please how is it to suppress Se function?
@@aidamalikova8518 i think for example living in a small apartment where you can't exercise/dance much. If you have little money to buy much food etc
my dad is an istp and me, as an infp have difficulty interacting with him. so whenever i see something about istps i look into it to help me understand my dad better. this helped a lot with knowing that even though my dad seems super shallow and emotionless, he does actually care.
@Gio T. tell me about it, I'm an ISTP and my sister is an INFP and we don't get along at all, I just don't understand her and she always assumes I'm so shallow and emotionless, the way we view the world is very different.
I just had to cut off one of my infp friends, any time she is sad or unhappy she wants to bring me down with her. I would never get angry or offended when she would do that even though that was what she wanted. And then infps I've met... its like they want to feel as sad as possible always posting sad news and stuff but never really doing anything about it. I do care for my other infp friend, and I give her so many gifts and offer to help her cause I love her!! But dang I wonder what they think of istps lol.
@Gio T. Nah. I have an ISTP friend. I'm INFP. Both of us don't like shallow things, value honesty and authenticity, so, it's really easy to get along, I only need to know when to leave her alone, something I'm good at. Also, she has what I don't have, and vise versa, so we can learn from each other. It's opposite attraction.
@@graciesan9058 im an INFP w an ISTP friend. it’s pretty cool to see what ISTP’s think of INFP’s. we are very emotional & seeing ISTP’s be the exact opposite is in a way very frustrating. that’s why i’m watching these ISTP videos to understand them more but it’s still so odd to me to know how different they are when it comes to emotions or in any other thing. i agree w “it’s like they want to feel as sad as possible always posting sad news & stuff but never really doing anything about it”, i do that as well, & ig we just find comfort in being sad . so far what i think of ISTP’s are, mysterious, emotionless, logical, independent & private people.
Me (INFJ) and my ISTP dad. Sometimes it's really good and other times really bad. Trying to understand him more by studying this type,
There’s no one I’d want by my side more in an emergency. But I also wouldn’t want to cross one. 😬
Exactly! Good friends and bad enemies ~ Nathan
Agreed!
As an ISTP Im thinking other types swing this must be thinking something along the lines of wtf or who are these people
The best compliment
>;)
If you look up the figurative meaning of the word "demons" in the dictionary, I'm pretty sure you'll see a picture of my dad there. He is one dark ISTP who could fix anything -- except his own life.
A talented machinist in his youth, he always had little flecks of metal imbedded his skin from the machining & deburring process, which made his hands sparkle when the light caught them. As a little kid I was amused by the idea that maybe his hands had magic in them, and in retrospect, this is very fitting for the ISTP who does indeed seem to have magic hands. He once fixed a slipping belt on my mom's Firebird by improving with a lighter and a box of birthday candles he found in a kitchen drawer, as I held the flashlight in the middle of the night. I've never seen MacGyver but I wonder if he was an ISTP.
BTW Never underestimate the power of inferior Fe to motivate those cold logical people to try to "help" you in the best way they know how. Even when you feel their "help" is not helpful, or is outweighed by problems. That's how they'll rationalize it. They did it all for you. Sure, maybe they had to break down your door and get arrested to do it, but it was all for you! Lol. For the ISTP, "I love you" may come in the form of fixing your car, teaching you how to box, or pushing you to get out of the house and go an adventure.
Without going into too much detail, my dad could never stay out of trouble. Between booze, drugs, girls, impulsively pursuing every vice with a "fuck you" attitude towards the government and anyone who stood in his way, coupled with that infamous "extroverted Sensing rage," Ti arrogance, and clumsy Fe that inevitably caused him to offend people and get punched when he was drunk, he was always in and out of jail for one reason or another. Suffice it to say I've been in half a dozen different prisons, but never as an inmate.
My dad would always say "If you lock human beings in a cage and treat them like animals, pretty soon they start to act like animals." But I think ISTPs sometimes fail to realize just how strong the natural "animal" latent within them is, compared to other people, and how strong its desire for freedom is. My dad would also say things like, "I could tell you not to use drugs because they don't feel good, but I won't, because that would be a lie, and all a man has in this world is his word." In spite of all his mistakes, you gotta admire that respect for the notion of upholding truth at all costs that only dominant Ti vows to uphold so purely.
P.S. Interesting note about Ne PoLR is it can create the illusion of strong Si (well, I guess there's a reason why 6th slot is "demonstrative" in socionics). Because ISTPs are so blind to new possibilities and questioning alternative paths, they will often repeat certain behaviors and phrases over and over again. This can make the ISTP seem like they might be ISTJ if you think about Si. But if you stop and think about temperaments and motivation for behavior, the differences become glaring. The ISTJ comes from a place of maintaining safety, homeostasis, and status quo, while the ISTP wants to throw all that out the window and enjoy the moment.
James Bond may represent the quintessential ISTP archetype in the movies, but to do Ti justice, the truth is that the real world is generally less hospitable to the ISTP. Most have neither a license to kill nor the government on their side, and so when they go dark and indulge in the unorthodox, they may find themselves in a world of trouble, if they're not careful.
That is a dark ISTP if I ever heard one. Knowing when to value Fe over Ti as a Ti dom is very important and knowing when to value safety and security(Si) over novelty and excitement(Se) is very important for an Se user.
I guess you could take solace knowing that he didn't want to hurt people but instead it just came out that way.
Trying to figure out intp vs istp after months of reading and testing. Relating this whole story to well myself as said dad to 3 kids and my actions views and even comments.... Holy fucking accurate and thank you 😉
♀️ISTP
That is very interesting. Almost a path that I went down. Except any fights I got into I never got caught on camera... and if I did... I made it look like I was the losing victim so the other party took all the heat when any authorities arrived.
My freedom means a lot to me so I am careful to keep it and remind myself of that when I rage. That reminder of lost freedom gives.me a great amount of focus.
😅 so much focus in violent situations, that my school/highschool peers used to refer to me as "The Animal" when they noticed I was angry about something.
Usually that alias was uttered before people left the area very quickly.
@@daniellependock2554 haha that's hilarious, I relate to that, the fights I was on, I would always act like the victim.
Also I try not doing illegal shit when I'm out and about as I would hate to have my freedom taken away from me, so I am careful!
this definetly made me sure that I am an ISTP rather than ISTP or ISTJ non desided debate. I did Engineering pre classes in 2 years , failed the exam and did it again , failed again . I never listened to people telling me "you better pursue economics" because of my good marks on languistics and communication (plus maths of course) ;but rather I fought thru physics and mechanics even tho i had terrible marks for 98% and top of the class at 1% .I still stupidly held to that 1% and went for the YOLO even tho i was sinking and wasting my time .
You say dark, I say me at the top of my game. 😎
Haha! Very ISTP response indeed.
YES!!!! I struggle with that. I have a consistent inner calling to go “dark.” Even when competing in jiu jitsu, I struggle whether or not to let myself go there. I LOVE going there, but I usually hurt my opponents when I do, and I either respond with overflowing empathy and crying, or I don’t feel anything about it... it’s just “business” attitude. I’m afraid of becoming a bad person.
Accuracy = 100
Yes, I agree.
It explains a lot, I thought my lack of empathy and sympathy as well as emotionless as the sign of psychopathy but turns out I'm just an ISTP although some of ISTP's characteristics doesn't suit me.
Yeah almost walk into a true dark side
I think I have lots of empathy on the inside but I lack empathy on the outside and I’m cold on the outside
same, but i can generate ENTP-like traits when im on adrenaline
same. my brother calls me “cold” sometimes, and i don’t care. but then sometimes i sit and wonder whether or not this is a personal issue, if it’s a result of some sort of trauma, or something else. for now, i’m just associating it with my personality (type). as i’m typing, i remember a couple days ago, my mom, brother, and i were all speaking, and my mom was saying she’ll always be here for us and all that lovey, heart touching stuff. i remember feeling a little weirded out by her emotion(s), and funny enough, when she opened her arms for us to give her a hug, i just shook one of them and said “thank you for your time.” im quite young, and i definitely have a lot more discoveries to make about myself in my lifetime, but i just think it’s just me being an ISTP.
also, some ISTP characteristics don’t suit me as well. for example, the bluntness. i’m not as blunt as i wish to be. day by day, i do become a bit more blunt/meaner, but i hope one day, i don’t have to hold back anymore simply because i fear the reactions of people. however, i don’t think many people, or anyone for that matter, 100% align with their personality types…if that makes sense
Yep my mom sometimes tells me I don’t have a heart and I don’t care about things
All my ISTP’s out there come to the dark side Its not so bad.
I’m an unhealthy INFJ married to a healthy ISTP...oh boy. It’s been a rough marriage, but since discovering he’s an ISTP, and researching the type, I feel closer to him. He’s my calm in the storm. I truly appreciate all he is. But yes, I’ve seen the “dark side” through the years. Thanks for this video!
Glad you enjoyed it! That's a really interesting dynamic INFJ/ISTP. ~ Nathan
Love Who I’m a (relatively healthy... I think 🤔) INFJ with ISTP husband. And, man, that Ti is sexy 🔥 We had a massive blow up on Sunday though (if by “massive blow up,” you understand that I got super upset and he just stood there, emotionless, staring at me), because I was trying to get a compassionate reaction from him about friendship drama I was having. After an hour or two of the silent treatment from me (which I’m sure he interpreted as benign and not punishment at all 🙄), he said, “I’m sorry. I didn’t take into account the practical implications of your friend’s bad behavior, given her role as the PTA president. It must really be hard to have someone that unstable leading a group.” Wtf?? No dude, she’s just a bitch and it’s annoying af 🤣🤣🤣
@@maymayrays Damn. I din't think I've ever heard Ti described as sexy, unless you were joking.
And yeah there is a strong chance that any silent punishment you do to him goes unnoticed or unrecognized as such.
James Downs Haha - I was certainly not joking 😂. Logic is super sexy. He helps me cut through my tendency to Fe all over everything, finding the solid ground of reason when all I can see is a swirling mass of everyone’s personal feelings and opinions on a subject. And, I know - my silent treatment is definitely less punishment for him than coping mechanism for me, i try to bite my tongue when I’m mad so I don’t pop off and say something shitty I don’t really mean. After 20 years together I’ve learned that it doesn’t work as a punishment 😆 hardly anything does, in fact 😜
Joey Jo Joe Shabadu 😂 my parents told me that they didn’t know how to punish me as a kid. I would just be happy in my room entertaining myself. They resorted to taking away horseback riding lessons and things like that, activities that I liked to do that couldn’t be replaced with reading or whatever solitary hobby I enjoyed at the time. It’s hard to punish an adult that way though. 🙃
I don't like being feel trapped like for example people having expectations of me. So I then create a plan to get rid of that and regain my freedom. I either make them dislike me or continuously fail their expectations but I do it in the most innocent way.
I remember making my kind teacher shout at me and angry for the first time by being loud despite telling us to be quiet. I did shut up but I was grinning with satisfaction internally.😂
I'm very afraid of my dark side because I think like when I really lose my rationality,care,and self-control, I could end a life. It scares me.
My brother is an istp and he is also a verbaly abusive pice of shit with emotional issues. I fucking hate him some time
OMG another ISTP video!!
Ok I'm gonna ramble for a minute here...
Honestly, I relate to "The more alone time you give them, the more time they'll want to spend time with you" *so hard.* I've never been in a romantic relationship but this does apply to family and friends as well.
I hate being constantly checked in on, which is coincidentally a thing my mother especially *loves* to do. She means well, I know, but she would always decide to have a chat or sort of get an update on my life out of me, seemingly always at the *worst* times.
I'd be in my room minding my own business, and a closed door didn't mean anything to her. She'd walk in and start asking me questions whenever she deemed it necessary.
And wouldn't you know it, I eventually started discreetly trying to avoid her, in an effort to avoid these conversations (that I always thought of as unnecessary, and honestly still do). I'd leave a room right as I heard her walking toward it, I'd spend hours in the basement (where she didn't go very often), and whenever she went out, leaving me with just my sisters, and would tell me she'd be late getting back, I would tell her she need not rush home.
It's not that I hated her. I've never hated her. And I didn't just stop talking to her altogether. She and I are just very different people, and I grew tired of her constantly checking in on me, as I do/would with anyone.
Now some of it might be a result of the fact that I was (and still am technically) a fledgling adult who was getting ready to go away to college and my mom was suddenly seeing me as a little girl again, but this also applies to friends of mine.
For instance:
(I'll try to make this example shorter.)
I have this guy friend, a total extrovert, who likes to FaceTime me often. I answer about half the time, but it's mostly because I don't want him to hate me. Other times I let it go to voicemail. He's a great person, but it's just that whenever he calls, we just talk about nothing (like whether or not Jedi Master Yoda had a wife), and our conversations keep my mind from focusing on more practical things. Sometimes he runs out of things he wants to talk about and then we just sit there in silence, me waiting and thinking "Was there a specific purpose to you calling me?" Our calls usually end with me breaking the silence by saying "Hey, I'm gonna let you go. I gotta finish this thing I'm working on." and he goes "Ok, bye" and then I hang up.
Sometimes he'll call me like 3 days in a row and I'll be like "Ok my guy I'm gonna need you to let me BE for a bit"
And so I definitely value the time spent with someone more if it doesn’t happen too often.
So anyway, yeah. That was my ramble. All to say that yea this is pretty accurate
Brilliant ramble! ~ Nathan
Noah Karger I feel that too my guy
That mom part is very relatable
I relate to this ramble so hard it's a though I wrote it myself!
very relatable
My ISTP friend looked so calm and detached doing her tasks (trying to be an arquitect)... UNTIL SB GET IN HER WAY. It could be a dissaproving comment of a teacher that didn't value her work or the woman that treated her badly when she was buying her pencils. Of course she would only explote in front of very very few people that had gained her trust. "Ti" are the worst when they let that "Fe" run free because they were pretending they didn't care for so long that when it finally comes out their feelings are a mortal tsunami (with horrible consequences for them too)
Fun fact: Half of the people who clicked on this video scrolled through the comments while listening to him talk.
If it's an ISTP audience, so, yes sir.
As an ISTP, it had already occurred to me that Fe inferior was the only thing keeping me from becoming antisocial. But I'd also imagined without Fe inferior, becoming something more like Spock.
Spock - that's a perfect example! ~ Nathan
That last part is so true. I wish people understood that more. I like to do stuff with people, but when you ambush me and force me to spend time with you, I will run away.
Recently I just found out that I am an ISTP (I made the test 4 times) and I just come to this videos to see what people like me say about being an ISTP. Is like doing inner search from within the outer world, if that makes sense.
- I love my personal space and loneliness, When people interrumpt me or break my focus I get pissed off and I don't do anything anymore cz I lost it.
-I like to discover people by playing chess with them
- Everybody said I should be an architect / engineer but because someone else suggested it to me I refuse to accept it, so I studied design and dropped out, now I'm into animation and music
- My best friend gets pissed off because I send her messages everytime a new topic comes to mind, like today I asked her about her career and tomorrow I tell her that humanity is a deception. And when I reach more than 10 messages she starts a fight LOL
- I only have less than 5 friends
- I have never picked a fight in my life, I hate conflict, I don't drink or smoke or use drugs because it is super stupid to do so.
- I am a total mistery to people, noone knows my true intentions although they are mostly good unless it's a prank
- I don't get mad easily but when I do I shred to pieces other people's arguments and embarass them, that feels so liberating
- When someone posts on social media all I can think about is how stupid they look with all those weird filters
- I love sarcasm and irony
Edit: everyone should listen to classical music, it makes you smarter
And last but not least, congrats and thanks if you read up to this point
say thanks not congrats
@@chossenone9508 yeah that makes more sense, thanks for pointing it out
@@blendering3D even though I understand why said congrats
because there was a good info
infj was here to say
when I say something to someone always get misunderstood
and get force to be kind to them
@@blendering3D thank u for the understanding
and congrats to me for meeting u
@@blendering3D interesting it's like u were blind to the emotions I spoke about
my advice to u is to observe people who speak emotionally
that will help u be more aware on ur emotions and how to deal with them before they go out of hand
"Time is being taken away from them pursuing things that they want to" ...... DAMN! That hit the nail on the head... that is literally how I feel!
Hope you enjoyed the video! ~ Nathan
I cannot believe that you said the I STP prefers an actual roller coaster to an emotional roller coaster. I have seriously said the same thing. If I wanna thrill I will go do some thing I’m not gonna go pick a fight with some weirdo. 🤣🤣🤣
As always it trips me out how much you know about the inside of my mind. But another great video I've enjoyed. Please post more about us ISTP's when available
Thank you and yes I certainly will! ~ Nathan
I remember when I was real young realizing that my brother, and others to a lesser extent, seemed to be vulnerable to emotion. Especially when under stress. I think I was about eight when I decided that if they couldn't perform under stress, do what needed to be done (whether that be simply chores or defending themselves) I would in their stead.
So far, it ain't been a bad life. My people make me happy, and I keep them in tact. The internet distracts me well enough, gives me enough to read and learn. Work is cathartic, and maintains my mind and body. I don't need much else.
ISTP male here. I sometimes wonder if I'm broken at times emotionally. I can go from caring too much to literally shutting down and just having a blank callous stare. Sometimes wondering if in mildly psychopathic but then i do have empathy... but not sympathy. I try to fix my animals if they get hurt and i do care. Its just strange. If you catch me in those moods you are going to get extremely cold and probably hurtful responses... but other times i'm engaged and normal. its just weird.
My son took this test at work and is an ISTP. He's an ultra marathon runner and has taken himself to places in the Rocky Mountains where no other human has been. This explanation on this video is a very accurate. We have a good relationship because we give him space and unconditional love. The teenage years were rough.
I think the only reason I didn't go crazy as an ISTP teenager was because both of my parents worked so much that I had an obscene amount of alone time
♀️ISTP.
We all have that dark side.
Most of us don't let anyone see it.
Usually those who do, get terrorised to silence.
That dark side is usually slow release, silent and not obvious to others until it is WAY too late.
Usually when I'm angry people don't notice until I am at my point of rampaging someone's stupid rear into a pancake.
Ironically the people who usially make me most angry are the ones I love most. This is usually the start of an internal conflict of me then trying to calculate if I need that person any more in my life or not, which then leads on to how I plan on punishing them for the rest of my life for pissing me off to that extreme.
Having said that, I use that same rage to protect those I love, and the few who have earned my absolute trust I would give my life for theirs to protect them if any extreme situation was to threaten their life.
That dark side can be manipulated for good or evil.
DON'T PREVOKE THAT DARK SIDE TO WORK AGAINST YOU!
Seriously.... people get hurt... stupid people get hurt... Usually physically by ISPT dark side.
We have a bad habit of showcasing and proving just how violent we can be when we feel like we need to remind others of that.
I feel my ex could have written this...and that is scary and sad
That’s right, I prefer to hide my anger, until they cross the line, then its time to strike
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Highfunctioning neurodivergent(covert dark) female ISTP here, and I have to say, your videos are INSANELY ACCURATE. Wow. I am like, feeling so amazed at how well you got this.
Points to add: ISTPs care the least about words of affirmation. People I'm dating who start getting clingy, terrify me. I need my space. and I know them talking to me, are just wanting those words of affirmation from me. They start talking too much. I would rather acts of service or a practical gift. Not all this mushy texting back and forth for hours which is a waste of my time that I could be doing something such as assembling ikea furniture or something useful. LOL.
All feeling types: Wow they sound so scary and weird!
Me, an INTP: I am salivating.
literally me
INFP- so attracted to ISTP 🤣🤣🤣 it’s a good balance when it is healthy.
Im sure you have lots of stuff you are working on right now but if you need video ideas i think it would be cool to talk about how the types get along with or deal with other types. Like how they see eachother and interact.
Like type x gets along with type y because.... but not with type z because...
Or however you want to set it up.
Just an idea.
I'll definitely add that to the list!! Thank you ~ Nathan
ENFJ here who recently broke up with an ISTP - you're videos are helping me understand what was going on in his head 😅
Did he get sick of being manipulated?
@@RM-ti8nf ouch 😅
I love being an female ISTP we are so rare ......... although the downside is I am not great with attachment and commitment oof ........... that would suck in a relationship ............. but oh well
Not gonna lie, I hate being an ISTP female.
@@Chloe-tw1yi Yeah, I can understand that ........... I don't know about you but I easily get bored during conversation then I have to force myself to act interested and I have trouble showing compassion....... but we still are unique and have our good traits ..............
@@Chloe-tw1yi why?
@@Iden_Elihio_1999 why do you love being an ISTP female?
@@tillywontspeak Because we are different from the common female types and we are seen as the cool, mysterious, and reasonable among the 16 types .........
Wow.
I just dropped my husband off at a treatment center today. This explains SO MUCH!
And if this gives you ANY insight as to why he went dark and what played a significant roll in it ...Im an INTJ and female. Which tge mere existence of, TOTALLY destroys his ISTP self confidence and causes him to feel inadequate as a man.
Discovering our opposing personality types is probably the best thing that has ever happened for us. At least now we are equipped....its what we do with the knowledge now to make adjustments.
as a young istp bc im only like 19, I struggle with understanding emotions the way other people do, like I can understand how you feel or anyone feels but I will process it in a very logical manner. Moreover it strains the relationship I have with my mother bc she's like you don't understand feelings and shit and she tells me to stuff bc it's the 'rule' and im like just bc everyone follows it doesn't mean that I have to either. It can lead to very frustrating moments and my patience runs even lower when I don't like someone so I can get very angry sometimes if I was actively involved and if I cared. I am not sure why I'm typing all of this but what ticks me off is me being forced to do something simply because society thinks that it should be that way.
Very important, there is always naturally a feature to balance what would otherwise be out of control. Ti is objective, and Ni is visualizating a personal path forward (selfish, basically). And, Se is about giving and sharing/creating experiences with others, with Fe sharing others' values and wanting to make others feel good. These functions are designed to absorb from our external reality that which will balance us. We absorb other ppl's emotions and physical movements as raw data, and know what they value/believe and also what they desire to experience.
So, it's the perfect balance of external influence and consideration for others, when not ignored or stifled.
I remembered I requested this video. Thank you for uploading this.
"ISTP-s can do rage... very well."
You can say that again :D In my 38 years, so far I managed to rage only a couple of times. But those were quite memorable :D There's no "no"-s or "but"-s accepted in that situation. When I'm pushed that far out of my boundaries that I feel there's no way out but rage to get back things in order... I'll make sure it works at least, usually by any cost, unfortunately. If it has to burn, I'll make it burn.
Better not push an ISTP to rage mode.
Me an ENTJ watching vids about ISTPs cuz i need a proof of why he/she are natural partners for ENTJs and yet the only reason I could think of is because they're not too emotional.
Having their feeling function as their lowest certainly matches up with ENTJs well! ~ Nathan
And I'm also wondering why an ENTJ is a perfect match for ISTPs
(INFP) I relate to the, "The more time alone I'm given, the more I want to spend time with them". People that get all excited about me is flattering but nothing turns me off more than someone who doesn't understand the concept of space. Then again, nothing turns me on more than someone who does... I should work on being less extreme.
sometimes i sense the fear and hesitation in people's eyes and voice when they approach me....especially at work. Some of these traits really show itself at the workplace for me.
I am an ENFP with an ISTP male. These are very informative to me and I appreciate the work you put into them. I've gotten to see the dark side of mine but the enfp in me shut his ass down and taught both him and myself boundaries xD I make sure he has time to be him and in return he's like a big black german sheperd who waits for me to guide him at the same time. I do believe that ISTPs have this patience I've never known though lol Mine is a police officer and does his best to be level headed. It would be nice for you to do one on ISTP parenting.
This is the best video about the I STP I have ever seen. Most types get us wrong and it’s very frustrating to hear about the I STP as filtered through somebody else’s value system and cognitive processes.
I never understood why people tend to value emotions so high. They mess everything up, wreck your head and destroy you. Life is hard as it is.
My mom is an ISTP. She was often a ruthless, controlling, self centred mother. She did little to conceal the opinion that my brother and I were the reason she could not achieve her goals to her satisfaction. Fun times.
It's never your fault! please don't believe that!! everyoe is responsible for achieving their own goals, blaming the kids is nothing but a sad excuse
ISTPs are often confused with being sociopathic. This video really shows why.
after a long time, this has bringed a smile to my face, an actual smile
and yes, we can do rage really well. for the sake of freedom, theres nothing can stop me
As an ISTP, I consider a lot of these parts of my strengths. You need someone to come in and help clean something up, call an ISTP. I've called myself a gunslinger for years.
Is it just me, or is ISTP the best personality type? I mean, my favorite to be around is INTP and INTJ, but being ISTP sounds awesome.
-INFP
They all have their problems. Perhaps some have it easier because of the value a culture may have for a particular type but other than that, each type is as great as the next, just at different things.
Lmao there is a video from DaveSuperPowers called why ISTP Is the best type and it’s gold
I'm an ISTP and my sister is an INFP and I don't think she would agree with u on that.
I have an INFP friend and he's one of the most accepting persons I know!
No, ISTP are realists to the core, they are good people but very focused in the present.
Good morning everyone!!
And yet again, a very good indepth analysis on the personalities. Cant wait for the ENFP version of this.
Thank you! Yes I'm currently imagining what a dark ENFP looks like ~ Nathan
The Dark ENFP. That’ll be interesting. I honestly didn’t think such a thing existed
Emotionless can actually help you think and decide logically. As psychologist Paul Bloom says something like empathy is a weakness and may influence to make bad decisions.
I'm an istp and I was really tired to watch the whole video but thank you for making it😁🙏
Please tell more about ISTP rage... Advice? I'm resisting the darkness but I feel encroached on lately. Love your videos, keep it up 💜
Find a constructive avenue to release it. The only thing bottling it up and denying its existence will do is ensure that it is going come out in a very ugly mess that may hurt others and/or yourself later on. Been there, done that. It was very self-destructive for me. I started training martial arts and bought a heavy bag. It wasn't a fast solution, but it was a very good step for me because it got me out of my head and became an effective way to burn that negative energy. I don't know if it will work for you like it did for me, but I hope that will inspire some ideas that will work.
@@VTdarkangel thank you. You don't need to vent it out? The bag is enough? If so this is good news
@@mysticapixi The heavy bag is part of the venting for me. The exercise gives me a place to release that aggression on something other than a person, unless the situation warrants it. Learning martial arts also taught me how to harness and redirect that aggression to more constructive directions. That one was a slower solution, but one that has proven to invaluable. Having some trusted friends to talk to helped me to process some of the more complex emotions. The rage was often the surface of something more complex. Being able to talk it out with someone helped me sort out what was legitimate and what I needed to work on. Hope this helps.
Practice setting boundaries so your needs get met. I find when I get space and time alone, then I return to my peace and I can be more patient and caring with others as a result.
Understand that ignoring conflicts and setting boundaries will cause way more conflicts in the long run. I've seen ISTPs be very outspoken about their boundaries (in their own ways) when it comes to most people. But when it comes to their loved ones, it's like they don't want any conflict. They want to solve it as soon as possible which is usually a good trait but sometimes you need to be heard and hear your loved ones out instead of trying to solve a problem. This ends a lot of resentment and anger that might explode one day.
Another one would be, pay close attention to yourself to check if you're feeling stressed. Or you'll realize it too late and be emotionally volatile unlike your usual self.
I'm not an ISTP. I've a wonderful ISTP father and I've noticed that these are his downfalls.
When you go into talking about James Bond its interesting especially when you think about Casino Royale and his love interest with Vesper who was INFJ and how she was the one who bought out emotion from him.
So for YEARS I’ve thought that I was an INTP. I’ve been back and forth on it for ages. Thanks to your videos comparing the two I learned, finally, that I’m an ISTP. It’s a bit of a “back to the drawing board” feeling, but that’s kind of exciting as well. Thank you!
I have the same problem here ..i thought that i iam an INTP but i do relate to ISTPs so much..and due to my lack of experience and environment..i cant tell if i have Se or Ne its just too difficult for me to know
The core of the character James bond=ISTP
The core of the character Sherlock Holmes=ESTP
Ohh I like this idea, picking which character best represents each type ~ Nathan
Of all the types I've heard Sherlock Holmes called, ESTP is not one of them strangely enough.
I think I can see why someone would say that though. He does seem to have a very good eye for the physical world and his drug addiction is a stereotypical vice of sensors.
I would argue that he would be at least an introvert considering how focused he is on one thing, solving cases.
@@downsjmmyjones101 SE is nature of estp and when they develope introverted thinking they become very focused on analysis and third slot FE they just used it when they want it to show Thier social skills around people and NI we just don't go that far it's death for us...
Wolverine, han solo, Darth maul, John McClain from die hard, Samus from Super Metroid, Indiana Jones, Agent 47 from hitman, Aragorn from Lord of the rings, Aloy from horizon zero Dawn, the doomslayer.... just to name a few. Also I'll argue solid snake from metal gear mainly because most types are to stupid to take into account not every smart ass crafter is a j type.
Istp here, I don't rage with feelings but with logic. If I feel bad, and for me to feel anything it has to be real bad (or good), I cry and retreat
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As a istp we view the general public as nothing more than "vertical cadavers" most people simply can't keep up !
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I disagree; we ISTPs are humble more than arrogant.
Nothing wrong with thinking were worm food just dont forget that you too are gonna be a pile of dirt one day.
i know an istp who definately fits this bill. he works a dead end job so he can take care of his kids. hes completely devpted to caring for them kids even though their momma deserted. we talk a lot and when i see him at work i think of the poem "Panther" by Rilke.
5:16 "ISTPs can do rage... very well."
Yes, that. Finally it's phrased the way ISTPs would phrase that as well. Not something like "their emotional discomfort might build up until it blasts out in a remarkable fashion" or things like that
5:40 - Restrictive relationships are difficult :(
Especially if they stalk you and find your comments under random videos all the time, then blame you for them :D
I'm an ISTP and I like to think that the world is better with me in it (not in a moral way but more of a pragmatist's definition of "better"). But people may not be enjoying my existence as a person, and that's fine by me.
Sure it is better
I’m so glad you don’t have kids!
@@kusasiraserajosephine3688 It's a goal for my life to be of positive influence for my community, no matter how minuscule it may be.
@@hirsch4155 There's plenty of people that should not have kids, but they will bound to have them. I'm not sure if you're glad about that.
I have to study for my regents tdy but here i am
nyc!! which one?
@@maylynm1138 algebra
Lack of empathy isn't a sign of ISTP it's a sign for change.
Love it! Great video!! Seems like a lot of an ISTP's darkness stems from disrespecting/abandoning Fe. But it seems like INTPs are less susceptible to that. Do you agree with that? Any idea as to why that is?
INTPs would be just as susceptible.
Seeing as Ti-Fe is their dominant conflict, a lot of their problems would most likely stem from that issue.
Thank you! I'm not sure why, but INTPs seem much more Fe-cautious whereas ISTPs are more Fe-ignorant. I've often wondered what exactly causes that difference. It might be that INTPs depend on people slightly more and value that Si comfort, both of which lean towards making Fe mistakes something to avoid ~ Nathan
This one time when I was visiting Estonia with my ISFJ partner a random guy came up to us to ask for money. He was clearly under the influence of drugs so I was immediately on my guard. I wanted to leave but my partner started talking to him. When eventually my partner explained that he didn't have any cash on him I saw this guy's expression harden and he put his hand in his pocket. My first thought was that he was about to stab my partner and my immediate instinctual thought process went like this:
"This is why I should carry a knife" -> "Well no matter what happens I'll take him down before he can do anything" -> "I can't believe I'm about to end up in an Estonian prison" -> "I'm pretty sure Estonian prisons aren't as comfy as Finnish prisons" -> "Prison life would suck ass" -> "Maybe I should just drag my partner out of here immediately"
Luckily I finally managed to haul my oblivious partner's ass out of the situation and nothing ended up happening. After begging him to get himself some self preservation instincts I finally realized what I had been thinking. Let's be clear, I'm a 162cm tall woman, I don't have any self defense skills and I have never used a weapon of any kind. I'm a very easygoing and calm person. I drink tea and wear fluffy cardigans. And yet in that moment in my mind I turned into this vicious, cold version of myself who had no doubt of my destructive capabilities and who was prepared to do anything to eliminate the threat to my partner. It took me a while to even think about running even though that would've been the most logical choice. And even though I was afraid I wasn't really fully aware of it, I was mostly just preparing to act. Honestly in the aftermath I was a bit scared of that side of me because I had no idea it even existed.
So, yeah. The dark side of an ISTP can definitely be pretty intense.
Yes their dark side is hiding/ignoring their Fe. That way, they can be detached about things.
Very true! hope you enjoyed the video.
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I try and never really show emotion. Stoicism helps with that. When I get angry, that tightly bound control I have vanishes and I am literally out of control until I calm down. I now live alone in a country where none of my friends or family live. I only have work colleagues and I've never met any of them in person. I lost my cool today in a Teams call and gave someone a tongue lashing. I was virtually useless for the rest of my shift. Oddly some people messaged me saying it was great that I spoke up and brought the meeting to an abrupt end. But I hate it cos I'm not in control. Its not professional. And I really like the guy I went off at. He has a sweet and gentle soul but is also so fucking stupid and never shuts up :(
I think you should do a video on all the dark indulgences on all types. More indepth than you already have done. Though honestly I don't know much about this science so you might have already. Definitely start with the INTJ because we are awesome (shameless plug of my type)
I have one story of an indulgence that got way too far but won't share unless enough people want me too. That will be interesting to watch
Instead of an emotional roller coaster they prefer an actual roller coaster. 😂👏👏 well said.
So insightful, thank you! I've never felt more understood. -- Emma
Useful and insightful from an older ISTP. As for roles and their introverted thinking that‘triggered’ my younger self.
Mr Spock and or Yoda are often said to be ISTP characters; but Han Solo and Indiana Jones are quintessential ISTPs, because Spielberg type-cast Harrison Ford (an ISTP) in those roles.
Other famous ISTPs include; Clint Eastwood 😉 and Vladimir Putin 😨😑😆😁
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Good morning! I wish I could be ISTP for like, 10 hours every week. I think I’ll just drift off on that idea.....
Haha!
What type are u?
I'm istp and I mostly try not to hold myself to any beliefs too much
I get mad at my parents for pressuring my studies, they're asian, can't be helped. But sometimes we would argue, and they would use the "Im your parent" argument. I don't mind being lectured but atleast make it logical, we have standards too.
I get really mad sometimes that I would just cry because I don't want to hurt anyone. Maybe I would've punfhed them if we weren't blood-related.
I've been told I could be a mistyped isfp (I am an infj, in theory) and I've been gathering information about istp lately and what I can say is... I wish. Definitely my favorite type
It’s like a version of me that actually has a sense of the physical world.... must be nice....
The only way it's easier is that I think society values the physical work they do. Their mastery of physical systems is valued over an intuitive's mastery of the abstract.
Other than that, an INTP and an ISTP have very similar problems.
Can someone please explain to me why istp deactivate? A friend of mine...in the beginning was super friendly, outgoing, interactive...and then all of a sudden, distanced, cold, and non responsive. No explanation either. I don't get it?
He’s an asshole
I have really learned a lot more about my self after discovering that this is my type
*me slowly nodding in agreement* ....wait that ain't right...sadly it's true once I'm in skill or tool mode it can cause me to forget to be "emotional" and just focus on achieving, my competitive "passion" can also blind me which can hurt me or others but it makes me one hell of a leader, the attachment thing was creepy how right it is..
oh my god the rage. i ran thru the woods with a machete and destroyed a couple small trees the other day just cause i needed to!
LMFAO imagine the random people seeing you ran with the machete thinking theres a killer on the loose
dude really??
I’ve punched holes in my wall before I got a punching bag... but hey I got to fix the drywall a couple times
Just go to the gym dude, those trees are just trying to live and you fucked their shit up. At least hack up a dead tree, or clear some brush that needs to be cleared.
I'm an INTP who considers himself quite emotional, yet I completely understand what you mean when saying we often take a completely logical approach to stuff like music or art. I've always judged stuff based off of a loosely defined, yet amazingly concrete sense of logic. It's like a telescope is flashing around in my inner Ti-Si monologue, pointing out tiny, yet somehow major things I precieve as wrong.
Personally, if I were to have to go through life seeing things though an emotional filter, I would be functionally crippled.
I could not imagine driving a sports car fast on a twisty road and being thrilled by it. I only get a sense of satisfaction at the end of the drive by a job well done. Emotions get in the way of concentration. On the other hand-- sudden loud noises scare me.... ;)
As an istp I wouldn't call us cold per se more like calculating analyzing there has to be a purpose to be cold to someone or a group of people you would have to feel but we can overturn this and be calculating many people think and or feel that this to be cold.
I hate this cuz my ex was SUCH an istp 🙄 you're literally describing him perfectly
Well thank you.. I think ~ Nathan
In my trade school I punched my book bag because the teacher wasn’t assessing my problems with inventor (computer program) and I think that is the most istp moment in my life
As a ISTP I can say that we don’t show emotions for a reason we know that we could hurt people if we do try to show our emotions because of the fact that we don’t really show them then we can’t really control them so then we just don’t show them to begin with like he was saying about emotionless when one of my family members died I sat there and didn’t do anything I was emotionless I didn’t feel sad angry happy nothing just nothing and people may come off and say we’re crazy but really we just like to be emotionless.
Oh, I know all about that dark side, I'm married to one. He's darker than black. 😬 -INFP
INFP + ISTP is a very interesting relationship dynamic indeed! ~ Nathan
Yeah, INFP + ISTP sounds challenging.
haha, from your perspective he must be. I think this is a bias.
Oh boy... You two are the same types as me and my BF. Any words of wisdom for a couple infants?
@@lovewho, "interesting" is a nice, diplomatic way to put it. Thank you. :)
Some times I hate being a ISTP. I cant shout up if I know Im right. I know I should be more gentle, but I don't know how to suger coat something that is wrong.. Like I'm not stubborn, I let people prove me wrong, and I change my mind if it's logical, but most people just get angry and never try... I just don't want to hear them out until the end if their argument is wrong from the beginning... So I end up having a bunch of people in my life that either hate me or really like me. Never in between it feels like. And I say I hate that part, but really I don't, not in a i feeling lonely kind of way. More like people try group up to make my arguments seem smaller and untrue. Im ok with people hating me, I don't really like them either. But i want to have facts and logic be the winning argument and not feelings, games and tactics.
But the good part of this is I sometimes end up getting really good friends. They hate me at first for this reason. But some have come to me for help when they know they are right but need help build their case or they just need support. I end up helping them, because somehow I don't hold grudges for most of them.
I am not emotionally detached normally, i mean like with friends, relationships but i certainly do have the capability to detach myself completely from almost anything people related without any hesitation but yeah I don't do that very often, idk if its because of how I think about morality or is it a trauma response lol
I'm an istp this is pretty much me but I'm aloof and dont like much social encounter if it takes up valuable time I get bored easy and get bugged because I'm a girl and no one takes me seriously