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  • Опубликовано: 24 авг 2024
  • Interracial couples trigger others who are often unaware of their own biases. Sekou Lewis and Mattie Steger are no strangers to judgmental stares by onlookers. As they approach their wedding date, June 25, 2022, they transparently share their love story. It will truly challenge viewers on, “The Color of Love.”
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Комментарии • 504

  • @menaj2954
    @menaj2954 2 года назад +411

    Dear black men- when you date outside your race, do so with love and without insulting and degrading black women. I think this is a lovely couple and I'm happy that he has the foresight and self love to find a woman that works for him without being disrespectful to the women who look like his mother. I wish this couple all the happiness, and love in the world.

    • @DearFutureWifey
      @DearFutureWifey  2 года назад +26

      Beautifully stated.

    • @menaj2954
      @menaj2954 2 года назад +11

      @@DearFutureWifey Thank you Laterras for sharing your journey and thoughts. Love your podcast ☺️

    • @chantelwilson-ings8402
      @chantelwilson-ings8402 2 года назад +22

      Women as well.

    • @MicahLWebb
      @MicahLWebb 2 года назад +6

      Absolutely agreed very lovely put

    • @menaj2954
      @menaj2954 2 года назад +1

      @@MicahLWebb Thank you ☺️

  • @tasheema
    @tasheema 2 года назад +134

    When I first seen who was apart of this interview I was triggered. They really seem like a lovely couple and I'm happy they have found love as that is something I dream of having one day. With that said I was triggered because I'm an educated successful black woman most likely in similar social circles as Sekou yet I don't have access to men like Sekou. Its also triggering because as a black woman I am expected to provide child rearing support when the men in my life that partner with non black women realize the cultural gaps that impact their children. If I decline I am seen as bitter so I must smile and teach their wives how to cook, comb hair, and reinforce the beauty of their children when the white community rejects them...Its a lot which makes it very hard for me not to be triggered when I see couples like this.

    • @DearFutureWifey
      @DearFutureWifey  2 года назад +16

      Totally understand

    • @menaj2954
      @menaj2954 2 года назад +20

      I can totally empathize by how you could be triggered however in your statement you said you do not have access to men like Sekou. That is not true what you speak into the world will be reflected back at you. So speak the man you want into the universe your spirit and God and he will definitely show up. Manifest this man and call him into your life. Positivity is the key, focus on your great thoughts about beautiful you. A guy with the great attributes of a Sekou can and will be yours!!

    • @jessicahenry2934
      @jessicahenry2934 2 года назад +34

      This couple seems genuine so I wish them nothing but the best. However, I agree with this statement and appreciate your transparency. I am an accomplished woman myself and I too was triggered . Black men of this caliber typically don’t date within their race, and there’s a number of reasons why. The “stares” aren’t from jealously or bitterness, it’s a feeling of resentment and betrayal. Black women have been in the front lines supporting our men, even when they’ve turned their back on us it seems. We are the reason justice was served for George Floyd, and laws were passed for Breonna Taylor. Our “attitude” , strength and perseverance plays an integral role in the legacy of a black man. You’re right, black women will be the ones coaching her on how to care for her black child's hair, and how to cook for her man, but will reap no reward from it. We are tired of being used and left with nothing. Black women deserve more access to happy and healthy relationships.

    • @ninaoffthegrid
      @ninaoffthegrid 2 года назад +20

      Wow very well said I agree and empathize with you. A lot of healing needs to be done in the black community, I had to check myself because immediately when I saw the picture I was triggered.

    • @gracea2893
      @gracea2893 2 года назад +19

      I emphatize in the fact that maybe you are not aware of who God is. So, I can understand why you speak that. Whether this man or woman was white, black, Hispanic etc, they explained that they did the work it required for them to meet. He explained that he loves her dearly because of her love for Christ. Don't try to validate yourself by your success, or what you have acquired because to have a successful marriage, God has to be the one leading you.

  • @cherwallace6026
    @cherwallace6026 2 года назад +94

    First thing: I rock with them. Their relationship is built on a foundation of mutual love, respect, transparency, and honesty with themselves, one another, and God. It doesn’t get much better than that. I LOVE that they decided to have hard conversations early. It has set a precedent in their relationship. From now on it will be their “ normal “.
    Second thing: I have ALWAYS wanted a Black man, but in my forties I opened my mind to men of other ethnicities.
    I told God: I really want a Black man, but if You have a man of another color for me, I’m open, and I would never want to block my blessing. That’s been a few years ago. Still single.😆😆😆😆. But I’m open to the Husband God has for me regardless of his ethnicity.

  • @ninaoffthegrid
    @ninaoffthegrid 2 года назад +58

    I love how transparent Laterras is because I was triggered when I saw the couple but because I am open minded and don’t judge I decided to watch and so far so good. Although I do love to see black families being built up. I can appreciate how he talked about his nieces and him not tearing one race of woman down to build another up.
    Congratulations to them and may God bless their union 💕

  • @eutropiarhodes1666
    @eutropiarhodes1666 2 года назад +72

    The question is.. "How does his marriage effect your life?"
    I think black women get upset because they feel rejected. But that man or any man's choice has absolutely nothing to do with you or your worth as a woman, especially as a black woman

  • @cherithompson1
    @cherithompson1 2 года назад +37

    Thank you for acknowledging and affirming your nieces, because their tender hearts must be protected. We sisters are good with your choice because we are learning to make the best choice for us as well.

  • @kavettemclaren3013
    @kavettemclaren3013 2 года назад +21

    With these relationships, I tend to find the black Men especially, not liking who they are or thinking white is better, or wanting to go through the white door of opportunity (yes I have a lot of men friends and I'm married to a confident Black Man). My major concern is seeing the wealth transferred back into the white community. My professional soccer player friends told me, once they are traveling all that is presented to them are white women, other ethnicity and no black women, because these basketball , football industry, work with agencies that send these women to events, before they even reached their hotel or even know were they are staying. The Lord showed me my Nephew was dating a mix lady, before he even told me, bwoy the Lord warned me in that dream, so I had to hold a compassionate heart towards this situation. However these things are deeper than us. Once you have money, these women will hardly leave, lets be honest.

  • @eutropiarhodes1666
    @eutropiarhodes1666 2 года назад +24

    I will say, it is easier for a white woman to bring that peace and quietness when she has never experienced or understands the many challenges and the environment many black women and men have to endure. Unfortunately, we as women and a race are not given that luxury or privilege.

    • @DearFutureWifey
      @DearFutureWifey  2 года назад +8

      That's an assumption. We have no idea what people have gone through in their past.

    • @eutropiarhodes1666
      @eutropiarhodes1666 2 года назад +1

      @@DearFutureWifey I can only base it on my experience throughout my own life. ..as well as conversations I've had. At this time in my life, I don't have those conversations anymore. People love who they love and it doesn't have anything to do with my life. It's all about love.

    • @oyanamoorer7877
      @oyanamoorer7877 2 года назад +2

      Wholeness brings peace ☮️, that’s something all women can possess.

    • @meagain9514
      @meagain9514 2 года назад +19

      @Dear Future Wifey
      Her walking around as a pretty blond white woman affords her an experience black women will never have. If you’re going to open this conversation we have to have it genuinely. White privilege is a thing and black women generally have more challenges and obstacles as white women that shapes most of us differently. Heck seeing “our” men often choosing someone like her over someone like us is something we have to process and work through. If nothing else I know she has and will never deal with that…

    • @tiad.9142
      @tiad.9142 2 года назад +2

      But there are a lot of black women who haven’t gone through any struggle and they still have terrible attitudes. I’m speaking from personal experience but God has shown me where my attitude needs huge overhaul/areas I NEED TO TAKE PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY FOR instead of pinning the blame on how “we’ve gone through a struggle no one else has” bc personally (and thankfully) I haven’t gone through any struggle🙏🏾

  • @livelaughlove1259
    @livelaughlove1259 2 года назад +32

    Unpopular opinion: it literally hurts heart when black men say, “she brings me peace” when dating/marrying non-black women. Of course she brings you peace.
    She’s not a black woman whom was raped by a slave master and bare his offspring; worked 2-3 jobs to feed her kids because the deadbeat dad left her; called ugly because of the color of her skin(too dark); whom life doesn’t matter in white America; have to pray everyday that your black son/daughter don’t get shoot by a cop; and looked down own by a black men. So of course a non-white woman bring black men peace. They use black women up until they become successful then go give it to a WHITE soul cyclist instructor🤦🏾‍♀️ I could careless that a black man chase non-black women. But let’s be honest! Those same women wouldn’t dare want you if you didn’t have a penny to offer. I’m just thankful that my husband’s parents taught him to love on black women. Cherish them because the world hates them. I’m thankful because I have a black husband that supports and believe in black love. Oh! And he definitely finds peace in me as I find peace in him…

    • @simplychriste9453
      @simplychriste9453 2 года назад +5

      Your opinion is not unpopular at all…quite the opposite. Thank you for sharing it.

    • @ReesesCupsPieces
      @ReesesCupsPieces Год назад +5

      Thank you for your beautiful comment… Cause babbyyyy… I’m laughing so hard at the soul cyclist… 😂😂😂

  • @brittanymillner
    @brittanymillner 2 года назад +15

    I just really appreciate how Sekou sat in the feelings & questions of how his nieces may one day think & feel. That was incredibly beautiful to me & brought tears to my eyes. There is a way to honor your past, respect who you now are, and to move forward into what life brings and I sense that they have done that. The emotional depth & connection of this couple resonated with me. I wish them both complete joy 🙏🏽

  • @Taytimethursday
    @Taytimethursday 2 года назад +10

    I’ve discovered that Blk men who pursue white woman are not appealing to me at all. I can be friends with them but nothing beyond that. I’ve tried to build a relationship with a few blk men with white women preferences and there’s always a disconnect. We’re just too different! So I’m happy those type of blk men can find love within their preference. I just wish they wouldn’t experiment with trying to date blk women and wasting our time.

    • @Thatbul
      @Thatbul Год назад +2

      Lol as a black college athlete. A lot of my teammates are into white women. I think a lot of it has to do with the environment they was raised in. I was raised in a predominately black and Hispanic environment so my dating preference always were a women that look like me. My teammates grew up in white areas and they like white girls. There is a big cultural difference between the two. I think that’s why I struggle to get along with them because we have different interest.

    • @candacedawn357
      @candacedawn357 Год назад

      Just curious, what were your experiences like dating these men?

  • @tiffmat9475
    @tiffmat9475 2 года назад +11

    She's very likeable. Without even talking of colour, their story just reminds you that there's hope. That there are singles out there working on themselves and who one day will be ready to be met by another who is also working on themselves to make something beautiful together. Yes Lord!

  • @hunn1580
    @hunn1580 2 года назад +29

    I knew Mattie in college. We were in the same sorority and I didnt fit the typical mold and was rly weird. She was always a very sweet and kind person. Congrats to you both. Sending so much love to you both. AOT.

    • @DearFutureWifey
      @DearFutureWifey  2 года назад +10

      Wow! Small world. That's amazing. There's a saying that we may never remember someone's name but we'll always remember how they treat us.

  • @gailkennedy5727
    @gailkennedy5727 2 года назад +20

    Thank you for this episode! I went from being triggered to being delivered…Seeing black men with non-black women almost always feels like rejection mostly because of the narrative that usually comes along with it. I also feel that the rejection is felt deeper because some black women only see themselves with black men. If a black woman is herself open to diversity in dating, the sting of the rejection may be reduced. With all that said, I felt so cared for by Sekou when he spoke of his concern over how his nieces and the other women in his family would interpret his relationship. I felt so much love in this episode and am hopeful that I too will find love like Sekou and Mattie! Praying for you both and I will let love light the way🙏🏾💜…

    • @NicciNoodle3
      @NicciNoodle3 Год назад +1

      This is beautiful insight. ❤

  • @tikerachisley6028
    @tikerachisley6028 2 года назад +14

    Honestly, I had to examine myself when my notification came up. I was not as enthused to tune into this podcast. But I was wrong. The sincerity and conviction of this couple is apparent. Thank you for sharing your journey and opening my eyes to the reality that love and pride in an interracial relationship can co-exist. The way she grabbed her heart at the mere utterance of his words is so endearing. L- I saw your spark come back. Keep on hoping, she will come.

    • @DearFutureWifey
      @DearFutureWifey  2 года назад +2

      I totally understand. We're all on this journey together.

  • @wanjirujane_
    @wanjirujane_ 2 года назад +29

    This was a good episode & great gems were dropped:
    Find someone who meets you whole.
    Wait for the person who accepts you for who you are.
    Don’t deny yourself the blessing.

  • @diaryofaselfmademillionaire
    @diaryofaselfmademillionaire 2 года назад +9

    I have absolutely no problem with black men choosing other races of women. I don’t think they owe black women anything nor vice versa ( ie black women should reconsider their loyalty). But I do have a problem with them being disingenuous with black women. I would have been fine if he said he chose a white woman and saw no issue with doing so - the implications never crossed his mind. But to acknowledge that he knew full well that his decision would, unfortunately, have an impact and contribute to one of the problems plaguing the black community, yet he chose her anyway perturbs me. That means he either deliberately foresaked black women for her (based him admitting that he understood the impact), or the story of his nieces and aunts and such is just something he made up after the fact to avoid being labeled. This is why black women stay on the hook. I wish black men would just come out and say whom they prefer so that black women can move on and stop looking crazy out here. He chose that white woman because that’s what he prefers. He should just say that (if anything) and keep that story about and the black women in his life who he apparently didn’t admire enough to want to build a family with someone like them. Sistas are out here devoting their lives to finding a “good black man” who for all her loyalty will fight his inner turmoil to the death to be with a white woman over a black woman. And, I think the only way black women will feel released from what they think is their assignment is if black men stop dangling the carrot if you have no intent to feed a black woman.

    • @meagain9514
      @meagain9514 2 года назад +3

      Yes!

    • @tbcreloaded7529
      @tbcreloaded7529 2 года назад +1

      You don't know him

    • @dstreet43
      @dstreet43 2 года назад

      My question is this, has he ever dated a black women?

    • @tbcreloaded7529
      @tbcreloaded7529 2 года назад +1

      @@dstreet43 Why does it matter, the other video with a black woman and a white man got a completely different reaction. Why is that?

    • @diaryofaselfmademillionaire
      @diaryofaselfmademillionaire 2 года назад +3

      @@tbcreloaded7529 I don’t need to know him. I know what he said and I reacted to that. In any case, my comment is less about him and more about this behavior and how I believe black women need to take heed and move accordingly. I don’t know what you mean about reactions on another video. But to be clear about my reaction, I don’t care about who bm choose. What I care about is black women’s image. My problem is that the world sees that bm have no devotion to black women (evident by their actions) but bw fail to accept that truth because some bm string bw along. Bw are out here looking like we’re desperate and have no standards. That’s partially our fault for not loving ourselves more (I’m not in that category but I am a bw I’ll lump myself in). But it’s also bm fault for taking advantage. If bm prefer white and Hispanic women, great. Stop using bw for sex, stop making them single mothers, stop giving them stds, stop using them for a come up then dumping them when you make it. Stop pretending. Unfortunately, I know it’s not going to stop. People are going to get over if they can. So, I want black women to really listen when men like this speak. I want bw to get some standards and require reciprocity. I don’t think bw should give bm the time of day unless and until bm desire and devotion to loving (not just sleeping with) bw is strong enough for them to resist pretty blonds.

  • @jimpodolski7871
    @jimpodolski7871 2 года назад +6

    Christians shouldn’t live together before marriage. We Christians have no conviction anymore :(

  • @SauLifestyle
    @SauLifestyle 2 года назад +12

    Her voice! Before she mentioned about the podcast I was just thinking about how unique and soothing her voice was. I would listen to her podcast. Rooting for them as a couple and pray I get to experience such a love that has peace and not turmoil 🙏🙏xx

  • @lamis5348
    @lamis5348 2 года назад +16

    She’s absolutely stunning, but it gets better when you see her sweet spirit. Love what they stand for, wish more black men were this self aware and respectful 🙌🏾

    • @goldenopportunitytospeak6293
      @goldenopportunitytospeak6293 Год назад

      Why is she stunning? Because you subscribe to the white standard of beauty? Nothing European is attractive to me.

  • @curzy3
    @curzy3 2 года назад +8

    I felt it in my spirit when he said “she brings me peace”.

  • @carolynravenell4427
    @carolynravenell4427 2 года назад +21

    Love this one Latteras!!! Sooooo good. I am one that has given "The Look" because I was raised to feel some type a way about interracial relationships. But this is very different from what I was raised to see. I see it differently now! Thanks for this!

    • @DearFutureWifey
      @DearFutureWifey  2 года назад +5

      Love that! Me too. I'm a student learning.

  • @shareenladd1048
    @shareenladd1048 2 года назад +23

    I truly enjoyed this episode. God gave me a thought. He has children of all races. When He put 2 of His children together, who cares if no one else accepts it. This episode helped me. I matured from this episode. Thank you 🙏🏾

  • @monicasaffold9405
    @monicasaffold9405 2 года назад +36

    First off she’s absolutely beautiful( can’t skate pass that ), secondly before I watched this episode for whatever reason I was having thoughts of dating outside my race . And I wondered how would I be perceived by everyone else bc to know me is know that I love black ✊🏿 ! I also don’t want to miss out on the love of my life bc of skin color . So it was interesting to see this episode, makes me wonder now if God is opening me up to something new , bc I literally was having some random thoughts about dating outside my race & then this episode pops up in my feed . As usual great host & guest,
    & I wish them much success in their journey together 🙏🏽

    • @DearFutureWifey
      @DearFutureWifey  2 года назад +2

      I love providing perspective.

    • @vickyespo1448
      @vickyespo1448 2 года назад

      @@DearFutureWifey creative;)

    • @teresaroquemore670
      @teresaroquemore670 2 года назад

      Well I think people keep a lot of their good stuff in relationships private cause people out here will want the good stuff u have and will go after it so I think u need discernment about how much of the good stuff in ur relationship u should share and with who but the glow of love is soo visible

    • @shareenladd1048
      @shareenladd1048 2 года назад

      Sis I promise you, I had those same thoughts and then it popped up! I was like Lord! 😂😂🙌🏾🙌🏾💜💜

  • @laneyjackson5916
    @laneyjackson5916 2 года назад +37

    Latteras!!!! I went back and watched your podcasts of all the beautiful, successful, intelligent single black women and cried! I'm not looking for marriage because I'm 60 , but I do hurt for the young beautiful black women who have so much going for themselves, but are not chosen to be wives, especially by wealthy Black men! Black men are making black women baby mamma's and not wives. This is devastating our community. This podcast just demonstrate the lack of unavailable black men. In this podcast we see you Latteras,( single)and a black man with a white woman...two unavailable men! I'm not just venting to you but I'm asking God what he has against black women? Why so much hatred and disrespect from black men? What's going to happen to my beautiful successful, educated niece's? Will they be alone for the rest of their life?
    I need to unpack one more thing! You said your white assembly of God church family gave you their second hand clothes and shoes. How many of your white Christian friends marched in the street when George Floyd was murder? You know who was marching in protest....the women who are the least in the eyes of black men...black women!

    • @DearFutureWifey
      @DearFutureWifey  2 года назад +16

      Why would you say I'm unavailable? I'm very much available.

    • @loveneisha
      @loveneisha 2 года назад +33

      I know you asked this question of Latteras but I wanted to chime in. As a young childless, educated, unmarried black women I had to be real with myself about a lot of black men. A lot of them aren't equipped to be husbands, providers and shouldn't have the access to be fathers. The harsh reality for women like your nieces and myself is that we have to move away from being loyal to one group of men. Date who you want and don't ever let a man know he has your loyalty without giving anything in return. I feel like that's why some black men treat some black women so horribly because they know they'll be there marching for them and no other race of woman will. I've dated black men with various backgrounds and they all have the same mindset; what do you bring to the table, no gold diggers etc. I see all these channels on RUclips telling black women how to get a "high value man" or nobody likes black women; not much on teaching these men much of anything. Except for how to sleep with a lot of women. I figured why that is. There are always droves of black women ready to show their undying loyalty to men who could care less. They going to date outside their race anyway because black women are too strong, aggressive and combative. And any other word they can think of to attack with. Are there available black men who are ready to be husbands, protectors, providers etc, I'm sure. But I hope black women don't sit around waiting for one. I hope black women stop being bothered or upset when they see black men dating other women. I use to be disappointed in the past, but for what! To any single black women that might read this do what's best for YOU.

    • @brittanymillner
      @brittanymillner 2 года назад +5

      Laney, sis, I totally understand your comment & perspective until 😵‍💫 the, “I’m not venting…” You are venting & that is OK! I do think you should look for the heart and sincerity in their exchange with one another, us as the audience, and Laterras as the host. You’ve got to process your hurt & anger with God and in a professional setting.

    • @loveneisha
      @loveneisha 2 года назад +13

      @@brittanymillner I feel like you gave good advice but you didn't understand her perspective. The original comment had 10% out of 100% to do with the couple in the video. The other 90% I feel was disappointment and frustration with the majority of the black community. She didn't say she wasn't venting; she said I'm not only venting to Latteras but God as well. Unfortunately I see a lot of black women express the same grievances all over RUclips and Instagram due to interracial couples and them holding onto the idea of not getting their black love fairytale.

    • @tbcreloaded7529
      @tbcreloaded7529 2 года назад +2

      @@loveneisha black men aren't stopping other men from marrying black women, and you mentioned black men bashing black women. If anything, I see a lot more black women bashing black men, seriously even your comment is an example of this.

  • @fdoctor79
    @fdoctor79 2 года назад +4

    "Let Love Light The Way!" What I like about this couple is not only do they love one another, they respect, they see, seek understanding, and they hear each other. Great interview!

  • @brittanyfigaro
    @brittanyfigaro 2 года назад +13

    Its the LOVE for me! I love how God aligns your connections. Great episode as always!

  • @isabelgcastillo
    @isabelgcastillo 2 года назад +4

    God didn’t look at skin color when He chose us..He looks at the heart!♥️♥️♥️🙌🏽😭😭😭

  • @sky-sd3km
    @sky-sd3km 2 года назад +10

    It's all about true love, God made us all. Best wishes to the couple as they continue their journey. Enjoyed the podcast!

  • @SHOTTAeastcoast
    @SHOTTAeastcoast 2 года назад +25

    Look at the way she looks at him, you can see the love in her eyes. Fellas be with who that gives you peace, no matter the race

  • @SheSharpNotFlat
    @SheSharpNotFlat 2 года назад +13

    Really enjoyed this podcast!! Be with who helps you to maintain peace, regardless of their outer appearance. That’s called, Kingdom mindset. God created us all fearfully and wonderfully. Society + culture will have to catch up!! Y’all are a beautiful couple & it’s evident that you two are meant to be. God bless your union.

    • @shannn7812
      @shannn7812 2 года назад

      👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

  • @serenityp2872
    @serenityp2872 2 года назад +5

    This conversation was so good, resonated in many ways! When I look at them, I don't see color, I see the beauty of love, bravery and hope. Their story is already shining bright, leading the way to a beautiful destiny. I pray God's continued covering over them as they begin to flourish as one🎉

  • @vineconnected5761
    @vineconnected5761 2 года назад +4

    Their relationship is built on no pretense by accepting one another's experience. It's what you could hope for in any relationship. Blessing to them both!

  • @Thrivegrl24
    @Thrivegrl24 2 года назад +7

    I enjoyed these two ! In my parent’s language Sekou means relief . Wish you two nothing less than the absolute best!

  • @feliciaf.4971
    @feliciaf.4971 2 года назад +2

    This episode was so amazing. So many good nuggets for everyone like being vulnerable, being comfortable in your skin, having difficult conversations, knowing who you are. So good. ❤️❤️

  • @laverne1027
    @laverne1027 2 года назад +5

    There were some good nuggets shared. I did not hear a lot about prayer and seeking God's face in making the decision. God surely would not have said to move in together before marriage.

  • @alishia4433
    @alishia4433 2 года назад +6

    “Let love light the way” I receive that! In this single season I want to be open to love even if it comes in a package that I wasn’t expecting.

  • @nyanisamajavu4508
    @nyanisamajavu4508 2 года назад +3

    Wow I have so much to say about the authenticity of this podcast. The guests were so articulate and clear about their journey and love. The interviewer was ministering both to them and me! There is something about a man with vision and direction in life - just as there is about a woman who is comfortable in their own skin🙏🏿🤲🏿🙌🏿

  • @sxyteesa0890
    @sxyteesa0890 Год назад +3

    As a black woman when we say date who you want but don’t drag black women down while doing it this is what we mean just beautiful 😻

    • @Thatbul
      @Thatbul Год назад +1

      As a black young man that doesn’t date outside his race; even when black men and black women date outside their race and don’t talk down on their own, they still get shamed.

  • @ayannakamkin
    @ayannakamkin 2 года назад +5

    This is a beautiful episode. Not that you don't come across other instances with sessions like this, but there was intentionality, you could see but most of all here the genuine commitment they have with one another. I pray God's blessings upon this couple and their union. And for your show God bless you.

    • @DearFutureWifey
      @DearFutureWifey  2 года назад

      Totally. Thank you

    • @ayannakamkin
      @ayannakamkin 2 года назад +2

      @@DearFutureWifey keep up the good work and Ministry. It has a God assigned purpose to the show. And those who have ears to hear let them hear. Have a blessed day 🙏

  • @karldunlap4861
    @karldunlap4861 Год назад +2

    It’s 2022 almost 2023, why are we still having discussions about who someone falls in love with. Aren’t we all human beings?

  • @delilah9464
    @delilah9464 2 года назад +3

    Another great podcast interview!!!! When he said ‘the world has a way of being consistently inconsistent, & she didn’t run!!! I knew’ that’s paraphrased not quoted lol 😆! That is what stuck out to me & the solidness of understanding one another regardless of race. That’s a beautiful thing.
    Thank you again!

  • @aishamills5629
    @aishamills5629 2 года назад +8

    Another great podcast congratulations 🎊 I think I watched this whole podcast with a smile on my face, what a beautiful couple, I love how he water's her with his words of affirmation ❤

  • @tashiatownsend1993
    @tashiatownsend1993 Год назад +3

    I sent this to my son who had the same feelings and questions as Sekou and I felt that this would speak to him on a soul deep level. I wanted him to see that he wasn’t alone.

  • @eutropiarhodes1666
    @eutropiarhodes1666 2 года назад +4

    I'm part of the...MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS CLUB.
    It's not my life to live. If they are happy...sad....in love or miserable how does that effect my life? It doesn't.

  • @melissas_heart
    @melissas_heart 2 года назад +20

    Thank you for this episode! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 I cannot imagine what would have happened if my great grandparents (on both sides) had not met, married (or not), and conceived my grandparents as mixed races. I don't look at my white aunt, uncles, or cousins any differently than my Native American, or African American family members. Nor my mixed race niece and nephews because my brother loved and supported their mothers. My family means so much to me. This helped me to see love as my great grandparents saw each other. What a marvelous heritage. ❤💜 Truly love has no color. Blessings to this couple and their union.

  • @domoniquechatman1845
    @domoniquechatman1845 2 года назад +9

    Congratulations to the both of them in their love journey ❤️. LaTerras thanks for another great segment!

  • @dropDeadLoveli
    @dropDeadLoveli 2 года назад +2

    This is powerful. Kudos to her, for her honesty about her reactions within those tough conversations. I think in this day and age, we feel as if we have to pretend and process tough and difficult unprecedented situations immediately. Respond perfectly immediately. I love the fact that she allowed herself to be honest in not knowing, and that he was patient as she figured out her response as well. She wasn’t posing, and he gave so much grace as she navigated such a huge life reality for him. I appreciated their honesty and transparency!

  • @monicajackson686
    @monicajackson686 2 года назад +2

    This resonates with me. I Love the Color of Love Episode. This Couple has a Beautiful Love Story. They are Seriously about the each other. I love how they had Deep,Serious Conversations Early in their Relationship. They way She Looks at him, and how he looks at her Just Beautiful. Congratulations and Blessings to both of you on Your Love and Marriage.💕🙏🏾

  • @melaniereid7958
    @melaniereid7958 2 года назад +2

    Just like God, love is transparent and shows no boundaries of colors, it just loves.

  • @sfreeman417
    @sfreeman417 2 года назад +2

    Beautiful love story! Have faith in what God presented to you!!! I love it. Many blessings of forever to this beautiful couple on their upcoming marriage union.

  • @beesknees213
    @beesknees213 2 года назад +5

    Oohhh, this was a "plot twist"...... and the folks were not expecting THIS experience. Cover this couple Lord and establish them in You! As I watch this their wedding is 4 days away. Peace and blessings....

  • @tweetyb512
    @tweetyb512 2 года назад +5

    I enjoyed this interview. Beautiful couple!! Best wishes to them.

  • @patriciapatricia3586
    @patriciapatricia3586 2 года назад +3

    I liked that Mattie brought up peace for women as well. I mostly hear men say they want peace and yet they don't ask themselves if they bring peace as well.
    I think because they chose each other when they had peace in their own lives, they were able to choose well. Cute couple.

  • @d.rodriguez179
    @d.rodriguez179 2 года назад +2

    That's what love should look like...Honest and True, irrespective of race or culture. God Bless their union.

  • @shemireyahlilly5521
    @shemireyahlilly5521 2 года назад +12

    I'll admit as a Black woman and a Christian this triggerd me as well. If there wasn't a lack of available Black men I wouldn't care. I know sooo many single ,successful Black women who desire a Black man, but we outnumber our men. The stats are true. When I see an interracial couple I think oh well there goes another one, and I think to myself with tons of single Black women why did you choose her? I do like how he explained how he feels about his nieces. I just feel like in an interracial relationship they will never understand "the struggle" ya'll know what I mean?They appear to be happy with each other.
    However, as a Christian I do believe you love who you love regardless of race. God made us all in his image. Who God has for us, is for us! Let's encourage each other my beautiful Black queens! We are more than enough!
    Blessings to this couple .
    So, at the end of the day love wins❤

    • @banita1134
      @banita1134 2 года назад +3

      Yes, I agree, seeing interracial couples, is tough for me too. Sometimes it does feel like black men just don't desire black women anymore, less face it. The stats prove that this is the case. I happy for this couple, but it does make you wonder why he couldn't have found someone as wonderful as she is, but a sista.

    • @tbcreloaded7529
      @tbcreloaded7529 2 года назад +2

      @@banita1134 My question for you is, would you feel the same way if you saw a black woman and a white man (or a man who is not black)?
      And also black men get married to black women over 80% of the time

    • @icomeinpeace3756
      @icomeinpeace3756 2 года назад +2

      Yall need to stop obsessing over these men they don't want you

    • @ha1908
      @ha1908 Год назад

      @@tbcreloaded7529 the numbers are that bw outnumber bm so obviously its different when bw date out...we have to

  • @FabsHipp
    @FabsHipp 2 года назад +2

    You did it again King! You are healing the world one podcast episode at a time ♥️

  • @ruthseri9346
    @ruthseri9346 Год назад

    The pressure that comes from both communities, I love the transparency from both parties. God bless and May he continue to be at the center of your love. 🙏🏽

  • @nicoleprice354
    @nicoleprice354 2 года назад +1

    Throughout this interview I heard words like vulnerability, transparency, brave, risk, truth, within my self, affirmation, and confirmation....and as they spoke, the volume of their love for one another got higher and higher.
    When you are blessed to experience love God's way, it supercedes color and expresses the beauty God designed it to be.
    Such a beautiful, refreshing couple, congratulations!!!!

  • @precious1416-
    @precious1416- 2 года назад +4

    ▪︎ You have to be BRAVE in LOVE........ 💪🏽❤️
    ▪︎ THE Biggest risk - is not taking the RISK.. 😑
    ▪︎ ONE of the biggest compliments- when ppl love u w/ words--> when you aren't in the room...
    ▪︎ ♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡▪︎

  • @susanakaan810
    @susanakaan810 Месяц назад

    Beautiful couple: "when people come against you for no reason it simply shows that there is something wrong with them."

  • @anonymousprivet1227
    @anonymousprivet1227 Год назад +8

    If Sekou wasn't leading with an NBA contract I could believe she is genuine. I'm sure that was the selling point with her dad and friends. Beyond that they all are genuine until the money is gone.

  • @Yukia76
    @Yukia76 2 года назад +5

    Great episode, I tell my kids you can marry who ever you want as long as they love and respect you .

  • @Joyful-gu5bj
    @Joyful-gu5bj 2 года назад +6

    Enjoyed watching, different topic about ❤. I believe most of the time relationships start with attraction, respect, honesty n admiration for the other but when you embrace your own spiritual nature n your partner is willing as well, you both experience spiritual worship.. I also believe when you love,, physical, human n divine, it can truly be amazing. Great conversation n thank you for sharing your journey of love. God bless your parents n entire family members who have contributed in natruing you both. Both colours are beautiful, love has no colour. We are all God's creation..I like the words, Don't let doubt take away your blessings. Thank you n wish you well in life.

  • @nadinewise4744
    @nadinewise4744 2 года назад +1

    "Let love light the way"... Beautiful!

  • @memesworld7480
    @memesworld7480 Год назад +1

    I loved their story!
    Lead with Love!❤

  • @OneMellMell
    @OneMellMell 2 года назад +1

    Oh noooooo! Why are you in my business! Mr Whitfield. My Apostle just challenged me on this topic🙆🏾‍♀️🙆🏾‍♀️🙆🏾‍♀️

  • @p31ChicaLove
    @p31ChicaLove 2 года назад +3

    The notes above state today, 6/25, is their wedding day! Congrats on your marriage Sekou and Mattie! 🥰

  • @kaliha55
    @kaliha55 2 года назад +3

    I appreciate and respect the love of a black man and a black women. I hope they are happy!

  • @pamk1967
    @pamk1967 2 года назад +4

    Great convo with Sekou and Mattie, Laterras! I love that he meets ppl in their eyes. I do that just as a Black woman when ppl of any race stare at me like I'm something out of the ordinary, and I don't blink, they look away or walk away 1st, I WIN 🤣😂🤣 God is Love and Love has no Color to me, so once you have it protect and nurture it under God! Peace and Love to All❣️✌🏾

  • @Renrens-LionessofJudah
    @Renrens-LionessofJudah Год назад +2

    The man is lying, he is trying to soften the blow on black woman but he will have never dated or marry a black women. They are in an environment which do dont promote this. If she wasn't a man with monet she would have not been with him. As much as he wants to affirm his nieces, he needs to understand it will be in his actions. Saying and doing is something different.

  • @zakila2cute
    @zakila2cute 2 года назад +1

    There were so many great nuggets guys! Thanks a million for sharing!
    Love their magnificent genuine love 💕

  • @alexj1897
    @alexj1897 8 месяцев назад

    1. Dope.
    2. Laterras is so REAL. haha

  • @spaxdlamini6254
    @spaxdlamini6254 2 года назад +2

    I love this couple and their story. I pray that God keeps them.

  • @melissas_heart
    @melissas_heart 2 года назад +3

    The song, "Withholding Nothing" is William McDowell not William Murphy. Both are great artists so I can see how that could have been confused. I often mix up their names as well.

  • @420terrence
    @420terrence 2 года назад +2

    Be with someone who makes you happy
    Great episode

  • @motherlessflower3081
    @motherlessflower3081 2 года назад +2

    This Podcast gives me life/hope

  • @MsLi-ef1xp
    @MsLi-ef1xp 2 года назад +2

    Best of luck you two!! Prayers for God's direction and covering as you move into the next phase of Love!

  • @shaywatts6338
    @shaywatts6338 2 года назад +6

    Sekou & Mattie’s love seems so pure!!! I love love so this made my heart smile! Congrats to you two! 💞

  • @ba091579
    @ba091579 2 года назад +3

    I actually pray for my future husband to be another race . I have experienced the look in past relationships and I will not stop what my heart desires to make others comfortable. They don’t pay my bills ! Love conquers all 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼❤️❤️

  • @cheriedeparis5000
    @cheriedeparis5000 2 года назад +2

    Lovely couple. May they walk in obedience of all of God's laws and be blessed for doing so.

  • @CaliforniaAllStars
    @CaliforniaAllStars 2 года назад +2

    The problem with this young man in the opening is that he said he was worried about what other people think in regards to who he is in love with based on the color of his skin? I would call this racism. Is she an Alien? Is she from Pluto? How does she not look like you? She is made by God and a human being. It is 2022 and people are still insecure and fixated on the color of someone's skin. He said he was worried that his niece would say what is wrong with me? That would be a teaching moment for your niece, and to tell her it is just a shade, a color, a complexion of skin color and she is still a human being. This liberalism was taught by single family mothers who were insecure about themselves and have projected their feelings on these men out here now aka Son Husbands. You now have men being shamed for dating a person that isn't dark skin or brown skin or being shamed for dating someone with blonde hair? This is a shame and sad, you should not have to explain anything to anyone about who you love and you owe nobody an explanation.

  • @tommyd1059
    @tommyd1059 2 года назад +1

    May healing, comfort and understanding flow through the comment section.

  • @annco9801
    @annco9801 8 месяцев назад +1

    You choose who you date, who you build a connection with. Everyone has that choice. I think black men CHOOSE this. Its unfortunate because im not into hood, rough neck blk men and his type of blk man tend to date out. Nothing i can do if a blk man doesnt want blk women. No matter how good of a woman i am or other blk women maybe

  • @nosiphopakamile8972
    @nosiphopakamile8972 2 года назад +1

    You see why we needed you Sir. I for one have not seen this. Wow! This was real. Mostly we hear she married him for money or he married her to feel important. This couple just changed it. Thank you for showing us Mr Host! He really loves her and she's smitten.
    #Love has no colour. Clearly.
    I was not even dating this friend of mine. We just went everywhere together and we would sit in restaurants and not get waited on. Because he was with a black girl. So it's really hard what you guys have to overcome. All the best🙏🏾💖

  • @sonyahopkins1839
    @sonyahopkins1839 2 года назад +1

    This was a great podcast. This has open my eyes to love and communication

  • @kscourt21
    @kscourt21 2 года назад +1

    This was soooo beautifully, authentically, special!!! Two Beautiful humbled individuals, secure, happy, aware, and Lovingly strong in who God purposed them to be!! Thank you Laterras for sharing this peaceful, healthy couple!! I Rock with them!! I touch and agree regarding your prayer over them!! Thanks to them for pouring out and allowing others to glean from their ❤️ Love!! So amazing 👏 😍 🙌 🙋‍♀️🙏❤️ Awesome episode.......

  • @chrisparker6249
    @chrisparker6249 2 года назад +2

    Beautiful couple. God sees the purpose and Love us without condition. A purpose partner sees the mission and chooses to walk in love no matter what the skin tone reveals...what does the heart say in the end. Powerful!

  • @jessicamusila5526
    @jessicamusila5526 2 года назад +1

    Lead with love not your ego. Let love light the way. Deep! Taking notes from Nairobi!!

  • @mischelldavis7617
    @mischelldavis7617 Год назад

    Thank you both for sharing your truth in respect, trust, love, understanding, and grace! Much Love to you

  • @TheBodyFirmATL
    @TheBodyFirmATL Год назад

    I can see the eyes rolling from here...

  • @trifree
    @trifree 2 года назад +1

    When a person marries outside of their race because self hate, I'm not discouraged or angry. I'm saddened for then and their spouse.

  • @BigCrossVita
    @BigCrossVita 4 месяца назад

    I used to cringe at interracial relationships until I saw a beautiful one and heard their story and realized my original problem with interracial relationships. I was so used to hearing people express that their desires to date outside of their race was for the aesthetics of their children. It really bothered me and I went on thinking that was the reason for every interracial relationship. I'm proud to say, I no longer care either way. Love is Love.

  • @sylvietapos807
    @sylvietapos807 2 года назад +3

    Oh WOW!!! Thank you for the new episode, Laterras! This is so early, it is currently 5:38 am in CA. Who am I kidding? I have been checking for the new episode since 1 am, PST. This is the earliest you have ever dropped a new episode, I think, and we greatly appreciate it.
    Thank you for your consistency, and for your continued hard work 🙏🏾👏🏾🙌🏾 Now, on to watching the episode. Have an awesome day everyone! 🙂

  • @jonathanrichardsonwundreamteam
    @jonathanrichardsonwundreamteam Год назад +1

    If you can open your heart to that person feeling comfortable enough to do so, than it's hard not to love that person regardless of there ethnicity. I've always wondered to myself "Would I betraying my own by dating outside of my ethnicity and culture?" and I wouldn't want women that look like me to feel bad or that feel less than because of my choice, I just simply made a choice but not out of spite. This is a nice couple wish them the the best and great interview

  • @aishawf
    @aishawf 2 года назад

    I just love the transparency in these discussions...Some great moments to ponder...Hard questions asked and no dodging the answers...Good luck to this lovely couple- what matters is the foundations their union is built on and it appears solid.

  • @debbiee.d1117
    @debbiee.d1117 2 года назад +3

    Let love light the way!!!! 🎤 drop

  • @ramgood2457
    @ramgood2457 2 года назад +1

    SHE COMES FROM A UNSTABLE BACK GROUND. N PEOPLE WITH ISSUES ARE ALWAYS OPEN TO OTHERS WITH ISSUES BECAUSE THEY DONT LIKE TO BE JUDGED.
    IT JUST SEEMS LIKE THEY BOTH HAD ISSUES THEN THEY MET AND ACCEPT EACH OTHER.
    ITS LIKE ADDICTS MEETING IN REHAB. ONCE THEY GET CLEAN/FIX THEMSELVES THATS WHEN THE RELATIONSHIP TAKES A TURN.

  • @maggieedwards3951
    @maggieedwards3951 2 года назад +1

    Will make my donation.to contribute to Kingdom Royale which is what we as a race should do support our brothers doing great works no matter how small bless

  • @oatmealbrownie09
    @oatmealbrownie09 4 месяца назад

    I'm glad she spoke on white fragility. Im glad he was transparent about his thought process, and all this came out of love and not disrespect toward black women.