1. Supporting him 2:00 2. Complimenting him 2:20 3. Letting him have guy time 3:30 4. Taking interest in his hobbies 4:40 5. Dressing up for him 6:25 6. Respecting him 8:05 7. Keeping it positive 10:15 8. Thanking him 11:20 9. Laughing at his joke 13:40 10. Being honest 14:38
That is not enough. She needs to bring contributions to the table and it's not the contributions that matter; it's the fact that she's willing to do it because that means she has character and isn't a deadbeat. It's hard to have intentions to abuse a man and simultaneously spend years preparing to offer a lot to a worthy man, you see?
@@Tntpker dude this is incel bullshit. I've had a couple nice, beautiful girlfriends and I'm skinny and probably a little above average in looks but not insanely good looking. We live in a time of abundance. Just because a good looking man has a cute gf doesn't mean you can't find one as well. If you're genuinely ugly yeah maybe drop your standards lookwise a little but chances are you can find someone you're attracted to who has a nice personality. I've seen some funny looking dudes with average incomes with attractive women. Unless your personality sucks, there's a good chance you'll meet someone if you put yourself out there. Putting a plug in for social dance classes (country swing, salsa, bachata) if you need a good place to meet quality women. It's how I met my ex fiance
My standards: #1: Be a genuine and kind soul. #2: Supportive. #3: Be a helpmate. #4: Be respectful. #5: Take care of yourself. #6: Be considerate of how her actions can affect us both. #7: Having hobbies and interests of her own.
@@daniellehotsky1776 Gotta look at actions all I'm sayin. If someone give me a compliment and their actions align with the compliment than sure I'm all for it. It comes down to consistency
This video made me tear up a little bit because knowing that there are women out there who are willing to do those things and put in the effort makes me hopeful.
I think showing interest in our hobbies is honestly a top pick for most men here. A woman who can genuinely be interested in our hobbies and join us is probably one of the best ways to connect with us since men really love their hobbies.
I'm female and get a ton from your content! This is one of my favorite videos by you. I'm looking forward to one on masculine and feminine energy. I personally enjoy learning about a partner's hobbies and show genuine interest.
My standards include the following: 1. Good hygiene 2. Positive outlooks on life 3. Intelligence 4. Loyalty 5. Honesty 6. Good personality 7. Support 8. Respect
1) Be supportive. 2) Compliment when appropriate. Be honest when a compliment is not warranted. 3) Support time for me and have your own activities we do not do together. 4) Be interested in activities we can do together. Sailing & camping are examples. 4) Have some interest in my hobbies and support my successes as I support yours. 5) Respect each other including boundaries. 6) Work on your health & appearance & encourage me to do so as well. 7) Being honest including do not let small annoyances grow as you assume that I should "just know". 8) Be my partner not my mom. Had one, do not need nor want another one. 9) Laugh at my jokes whenever they are funny. Otherwise it's condescending. 10) Be kind to everyone regardless. Eliminate hate & envy.
To the "show interest in the hobbies of your partner"-thing: Yes. This should be the case. NO matter what hobby he or she has. I used to help my fiance with her horses and she even teached me how to ride. I'm not a horse-fan buy did it for her, we had time together, I've learned something about her life. And she was visiting my football games. This is essential for a healthy relationship in my opinion. It doesn't mean you always have to do it together, but from time to time it's nice.
A woman's view: might never become a major football fan, but, watched football with the last guy I dated. I've come to appreciate the game and hosted Super Bowl party this year--even though I stopped dating that man after a year.
My personal standards: 1) Not be a bar fly or party animal. 2) Takes care of herself (hopefully someone to go running with) 3) Being responsible 4) Being supportive of my hobbies (even better if we share the same interests) 5) Being appreciative 6) Being honest and understanding
Some Green flags I look for 1. Shows reciprocal interest in you as a person (can be as simple as asking "How about you?" after he asks you a question about you) 2. Shows reciprocal and similar effort in the relationship. If she's only trying to take, that's not a relationship... 3. Prioritizes you over keeping her options open after a few dates, I want to be the one, not an option.
All my standards are things I work on myself because it would be hypocritical to ask her to be the person I am not also striving to be. 1. Kind 2. Attractive (physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually) 3. Easy to get along with 4. Forgiving Those 4 things are pretty simple yet seem so hard to find these days. I'm not settling when it comes to these 4. Remember gentlemen, your value in the sexual marketplace increases with age while that of women decreases.
What about “Be able to admit mistakes and apologize.” That’s tough for some people, and it can really be a problem later in the relationship. Also, fixing relationship problems is so much easier when both people are able to say “I’m sorry, I screwed up.”
"Taking interest in his hobbies" is key esp with intimacy. Imagine not being able to run to the person you love with something you are excited to share and they don't want to be happy for you. you need to care about what they care about. You don't need to love the thing but it shows a care
Something extra about #10. If I were dating a girl (I wouldnt know from personal experience though) and she came up to me and said "It really hurt me when you said, can we talk about it", that shows me 2 things 1) she is willing to put effort into bettering our relationship. effort in a time that is not ideal is a huge green flag for me (yea the bar is that low) and 2), this could have been a #11 on the list, saying "can WE talk about it" is vastly different from "Let me tell you what I thought of that". One is JOINT effort, the other is a lecture. Maybe one day I'll experience 1 or 2 of the things in this video. On a related note about the bar being low, it might be an interesting comparison and contrast video about the bar for guys and the bar for girls. guy needs to make 6 figures, girl needs to say thank you.
On the "interest/hobbies" be supportive but be careful about being fake, eventually "fake" will show up in long term relationship and when exposed, hurts trust a lot and plants seed of what else is a lie. This is probably the hardest part of relationship, having compatibilities and commonality so faking it is not a good idea. Try the other persons interests and communicate how you feel about them
After making so many mistakes over the years I can say that listening to experts like Courtney Ryan is important to get another perspective. Also, success with women boils down to (1) Not needing anyone to go out with you and be cool if they reject you. If you can handle rejection you'll become more confident and (2) Confidence. There is nothing more important than confidence and just believing in yourself. This is so important and obvious yet many miss it's significance.
Shockingly, someone I know managed to pass this test regarding these qualities and our dynamic in general. In other words, they have almost all of these, and this video is GREAT for benchmarking for things like this. Good job, Courtney!
Great content as always. LOVE your take on life in general. The part about not getting "complacent " is especially on point. The main driver for impressing a potential mate is EXACTLY the same driver for fixing a stalled relationship. Both speak to necessity of "working" at a relationship. One can never just rest on one's laurels. 😴
@Courtney Ryan Good video and list. I still think you should do a video or two of asking your guy friends questions to answer, just like you do with your girl friends. That would seem more genuine than an article.
Number 5. Dressing up for HIM? Every woman I have ever known has been disgusted with the thought of dressing up and / or looking good FOR THEIR PARTNER! It's actually been lumped in on the same level as "he's creepy", "gaslighting", controlling behaviour, "I don't need a man"...the mere thought is basically hated through "modern day feminism".
Courtney really has those mom vibes going on strong, what a mom! When I see or hear Courtney, it's like wow this lovely lady is definitely some kind of mom! The men's advice mom.
Hahahahahah the mom who would immaturely laugh if her son had a medical condition like micropenis and shame him to mental illness. Great role model hahahahahaha
A really good video. Kind of brings the point home on what men and women have for expectations / requirements. For most men the top 10 items here are ideals - and note that most of these 10 are touchy feely sorts of things men do like (because for the most part we're deprived of them...), Most men aren't looking specifically for a "9-10" in looks, but a much higher score on the personality side. Women on the other hand have unrealist 20-40 point checklists "starting" with a 9-10 in looks, exorbitant wallet size, and what the man can provide for her lifestyle.
I'm not dating at this time, because there are things I need to work on in my situation first, but your videos are helping me prepare for the time when I do start dating. I look forward to putting the knowledge that you're giving us into practice. Also, the interactions you described in this video sound really nice!
I’m in the exact same boat homie. I fell for a girl whilst not even trying to fall in love and I had to be real with myself and I had to cut contact with her so I can focus on myself for however long this is gonna take. I wanna take it out of my mind that I’m “coming back for her” cause I know if she has a man by the time I’m back then ima be heartbroken💀 but I’m just trying to get myself to a point where I’m taking in knowledge from woman themselves to see what I want to look for and what to do in a relationship since I’ve never been in one. Anyways sorry for my rant
@@Sethantoniorodriguez Just work on your looks. Women and people will treat you better in general. You’ll get over the girl your into when other women start to like you.
@@Gustavog74 don’t get me wrong I get what you mean, but it’s hard to get over a girl like that just because others will like me, considering I have extremely high standards(for good reasons) and she checked off every single box and then some more than I didn’t even think of. I didn’t even think a girl like that existed, I accepted that I was gonna be lonely and I was fine with it actually.. until I met her. I didn’t even want kids and marriage, but she changed my mind about all of those things.
1. Feminine. 2. Agreeable. 3. Lighthearted and Fun. 4. Hard Worker. A Proverbs 31 Woman. 1. Emotionally Stable. 2. Discerning. 3. Enthusiastic for life. 4. Loyal and dedicated to her man. 5. Discipline. 6. Alluring and appealing in mind, body, and spirit. 7. Submissive. Able to allow her man to lead. 8. Has a comforting character. 9. Nurturing and caring.
I hold myself to the same standards In this order: 1: Confidence 2: Sincerity 3: Take Pride in Your Appearance 4: Manner's matter I do have others but these are the top 4
My standards: 1. Being a Team player / cooperative 2. Being respectful 3. Be attractive but of course I’m not asking her to look like an IG model 4. Having a sense of humor 5. I prefer a girl who is pretty short (I’m 6 foot) but it is not a requirement
The start of the article reminded me of something I have thought about from comments I have heard people make on social media and in day to day life and that is when a young boy does something for a young girl, such as giving her a flower or opening her door, people will comment that he is being raised right on how to treat a woman when he is older or the young girl is being taught how she should be treated when she is older and that is good, and right but they should also teach the young girl on how to treat a guy when she is older and the young boy should be taught on how he should be treated when he is older.. It should go both ways.
My personal standards are Patience and Kindness. But that goes for both parties. Any GOOD relationship if founded upon those two very simple principles.
That article should have listed honesty #1, but that article overall (excepting the one you commented about--(it implied) a "fake" interest in his hobbies--was excellent. Oddly enough, I've always said and always read (from Barbara DeAngelis, John Grey, Jordan Peterson) that 1) honesty and 2) being willing to talk things through/sharing equally are two prerequisites for a healthy relationship. However, you would be surprised how many males and females have told me that's being too picky. (Go figure.) Dr. Peterson states there must be a near-equal reciprocity in those things to build trust and just to have a **chance** at maintaining the relationship. Enjoyed that it mentioned even the guy has to have his "time" apart if his lady doesn't share that interest. It would be like expecting the guy to accompany her shopping when he knows nothing about it or doesn't have the patience. It has to go both ways. Most of these fall under "common sense," but look around the world today. How much "common sense" do you see and how often? Little and rarely. I love your videos, because they are balanced, factual and truly helpful. Thank you for being so willing to share and to help!
You made a good point that all of us (women as well as men) should keep in mind: things have to go BOTH WAYS. It's so strange to me as a woman, too how much Princess Mentality there is.
Kudos Courtney!! This is timeless ❤. I’m keeping this on my speed dial 🔥🔥🔥. I have many examples concerning Respect, hobbies,expressing gratitude and saying sorry when she’s wrong is top of my list but one that easily comes to mind is I’m a diehard Liverpool FC (England) fan. I’m Canadian by the way. When we were dating my ex was as enthusiastic and bought me tickets to see them. We had shirts and celebrated victories together. After we got married it suddenly became a problem. I got nagged anytime I had to watch a game, the disrespect and guilt trips were unbearable. It started permeating all aspects of my of my life. Well you probably concluded why she’s an ex. Yes, she’s an ex forever. Guys, don’t take crap. Walk away. Life is too short. Cheers and peace ✌🏿
affectionate hard worker has her own convictions/ideals ambitious/purpose driven honest kind but not naive self-aware respectful / humble overall great gal these are the standars the ideal woman would posses enough said , what do you think courtney ? great vid keep up the great work
Thank you for your video. You gave me some good ideas about what to look for in a woman. Yeah, simple human decency. That's what we all need, men and women. It is a MUST
My standards... 1. Show up for yourself 2. Equal effort and trust 3. Respect!! 4. Banter and playfulness 5. Never call me "bro" Dude is fine cause it makes me think of Good Burger 😂 6. Don't gaslight! 7. No smoking 8. Moderation with everything, hobbies, drinking, etc.
Expressing gratitude goes a long way with me and it doesn't take much effort to say Thank you. Not expressing gratitude is a huge red flag because I believe, how you do one think is how you do everything. Small clues are tale telling.
It’s so rare for us guys to get compliments. It feels like only older woman understand this cause they’re the only ones willing to tell me I’m handsome when I’m standing in line at Target 😓
I think taking interest in my hobbies/interests (even if they don't) is important. I always ask some questions about my date's hobbies even if I don't share it. I'm not expecting anyone to join me in the hobby but showing interest is important to show you aren't too self absorbed imo
Men can't set standards for ladies here in VA or you're are seen as a misogynist. I've been called that for having some very basic standards. She has a job more than a 20 hour a week retail position. Can do basic cooking, can manage simple responsibility, has a personality that's not like talking to a door knob, takes her health serious and does everything she can to stay healthy. This is way too much to ask and gets you called a misogynist by most ladies.
A woman fan of your videos here: I'm SHOCKED too, that (I assume, younger) women DON'T say "thank you" !!! If such BASIC courtesy is lacking early on, I'd have to wonder what other "red flags" will pop up. I'm so glad Courtney did this video! For myself, it was really AFFIRMING to how I approach relationships. The main thing I need to work on is being more honest about my feelings--I can be "conflict avoidant". Gotta work on being less afraid when difficulties come up. Nothing gets solved if you dont be honest. THANK YOU, Courtney!
Best qualities a woman can have: 1) She's 20. 2) She loves her dad. 3) She has no tattoos. 4) She is skinny. 5) She hasn't had any plastic surgery. 6) She tends to have boyfriends versus one night stands. 7) She voted for Trump. 8) She likes to dress up. 9) She has a good attitude and is generally pleasant by default. 10) She has a good attention span and can watch old movies with you.
Ladies please pay attention to this video everything she’s saying is so on point if you wanted a healthy relationship same thing goes to us guys too. We should be all thank her for these amazing tips especially for the females side on disrespect ladies. One love ❤️🙏🏼We as men… or I would like to date a woman with all these unique knowledge and understanding of what a woman prospective towards us men. Goes both ways. Trust is the main KEY 🔑 here. The key of success is TEAMWORK.🏆. Thank you Courtney Ryan for making this particular video for all women out there has no idea how much we appreciate them showing love and care but they still treated us like peasants 🤣🤦♂️😂 not in a creepy way lol 😂 y’all know the vibe, same goes to us fellas too I’m also we’ll aware that we as men also got things that we’re lacking in a dating relationship world too but no offense ladies it’s facts some are out there not all women are like that.. some are…learning from experience past relationship’s. Long story short I was dating this one chick beautiful.. gurl.Me at work doing my own thing felts someone’s watching me from the parking lot got to find out it’s her spying on me hiding in her car. That was not normal at all she admitted don’t trust me, from there I knew she still not heal from her past relationship got me little creep out still showing her love n care. She’s an amazing person in n out but I think jealousy and no trust took over. I definitely wanted to work things out with her finding solutions to eliminate the problem but but got to a point enough is enough. I think that’s why most of the relationship won’t last. A lot of people are still not HEAL from a pass relationship why will never work out. Accusing you something that you’re not n starting loosing TRUST. Trust is very important people. Cool!!! Thank you 🙏🏼
5:26 I don't think the suggestion of asking about his interests even if you're not into them is necessarily being fake, it goes back to supporting him and showing interest in him not necessarily his interests. 7:00 I've been married for 21 years with all the intentions of doing this in the beginning, but sometimes life gets in the way and other things take priority like kids and everyday chores. So, sometimes you need to sacrifice dating or getting dressed up to put time and effort into other priorities. It's not always laziness or complacence. We take time out for each other every now and then but it does become less as life piles on. Even you, in the infancy of your relationship, will find things change over the long years whether you intended it or not. It may not be for the worse but things will change so you have to be mindful of it and carve out time for yourselves as a couple.
The "I'm fine" thing is maddening from the male perspective. I ended up marrying the woman who would tell me "give me an hour or two to sort through what I am feeling and then we will talk." What makes it doubly maddening for a man is when we say we are fine, we mean it. Yes once in a while there may be a problem but, we will sort it out in our head and then we are fine. No need to bother her with it. If it is a problem we can't sort out we will just tell her about it.
My abusive husband just shared this with me. I already do everything on this list. He doesn't respect me though. What should I do? He's literally a narcissist. He won't ever let me have emotions. He shared this video with me after I'm going through extreme stress in my life and I wanted to vent to him and cry. He told me to shut the fk up and listen to this and told me I don't keep it positive. It's different when you're married 12 years and your husband can't support any tough times or bad things happening and when you cry over stress he screams at you to shut the fk up? What would you say to him?
Like have you ever broken down crying after working double shifts just to have some unexpected stuff go down and now your bank is hundreds negative and you can't even put gas in your car to work. And all I shared with him is "I'm upset I worked all weekend extra just for the bank to take it" for him to reply "shut the f up, you are stressing me out and taking it out on me" and I'm like "no I just wanted to vent it's not taking it out just telling you that sentence." And then he just keeps screaming over me that this is why I'm a terrible wife. What would you do? I'm a good wife. I moved across country for his job. I let him game hours every night all night long. I cook for him and clean up after him. All he does is work and come home to his gaming room. He ignores me all day every day to play games. I let him. I go do my own thing. I dress up for him. He won't brush his teeth in years for me. He won't bathe. He's a "neckbeard". But he holds me to this high ridiculous standard. He constantly watches channels like yours and is like "see you're not a good wife cause you don't keep it positive" in the middle of me having one of the hardest times in my life. I'm literally a sex doll mom to him. I do literally everything
Thanks so much for this video, Courtney! I actually watch your videos because I am looking for the _male_ perspective. You bring up topics and guys respond in the comments, and I learn a lot about why love is so hard these days. I think we want to be good partners, but we don't know how and we give up and become selfish because "Hey, one of us should be happy." Well, I believe it's our job to make each other happy, but it's hard to know how. You stop being selfish when someone one else is actively taking care of your feelings, so you have to give that to each other, to keep the cycle alive. So yeah, this was really helpful to me. Thank you, Courtney, and thank you guys for expressing yourselves here!
@@TrealTalk187 Well, it's not only women, people are way more selfish today, and they have been taught to be. Where are the shows and books and stories that lift up sacrifice and love? Who actually teaches kids that making your relationship work is important? Guys are easy to please, but they are equally lazy in pleasing their partners. Guys check out, too, when they aren't happy in the relationship, but they often just zone out, where women act up. Guys think that if they are not starting trouble, they are blameless. We need more than "not making waves," You're the captain of the ship, make waves. Maybe that's the whole crux of it. Women act like they want to lead, but they want you to lead. The thing is, you have to _wrest control_ from them to show you have that spirit of leadership, and confidence, and strength. It's hard to find men who act that way any more, and without that, you are just friends who sleep together. That's not the seed of a family, really. A relationship is supposed to be the seed of a family. Sorry if it sounds like I turned it around on the guys, making it your fault again, but I do believe that this struggle for control underpins a lot of what we feel. I also believe that men _want_ to lead, and it's the women who make it difficult. I guess there's a reason we have the stereotypes of women and men. They served a purpose.
Such an amazing video. At this point I really dgaf what people feel about it, I will be sharing this video on my Facebook for anyone else interested or willing to hear. Great insight. Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👌🏽👍🏽👍🏽
I know first hand what it's like to be with a woman who turned out to be possessive and controlling. It was stressful and a nightmare to say the least. I'm glad that I ended that relationship when I did. I felt so much better afterwards and I also take it as a learning experience for what I don't want In a future relationship if I ever do decide to get into another one.
Here's what I look for and dont care about her past. 1. Mutual Respect. 2.Honesty. 3.Supportive and Adding value and that goes both ways. 4.Ability to handle conflicts in a mature way. 5.Loyalty. 6.Taking care of each other physically and emotinally. 7. Having her own life and hobbies.
3 letting him have guy time she should have girl time. I had a relationship and I put effort to see to it she had girl time this way she she could have some space away from me at times. Sadly she never understood it and it becomes toxic.
Finally a video which shows to men that they also should have values and standards for their partner. You constantly hear on the internet what guys should have, and very rarely the opposite. Keep it going Courtney, from a long time listener
I would like to hear your opinions on Gary Chapman's Five Love Languages because the content of this video is mainly directed towards the first one 'Words of Affirmation'. For me, compliments on my outfit or really any compliments don't really resonate with me too much though much appreciated. For me, I'm a No.2 with "Quality Time" resonating highly with me. Thank you for the great content and happy holidays.
Meh... 11. Burning the bridges with feminist friends. 12. Unless she's a virgin or has genuine religious considerations: Having sex on the 2nd or 3rd date. Even if it's not going anywhere. It's just about decency, the dude will have typically wasted over $500 at this point. 13. Accept to be judged on her physique is she's throwing the first stone about physique. 14. Stop friendzoning potential dates. 15. Staying true to her word. i.e. if she bribed a classmate into helping her for a major college project (usually through promising sex in return) then she must "abide her end of the deal"
I like your idea of making a video about masculine/feminine polarity. I read "The Way of the Superior Man" which talks about that. I thought it was pretty interesting.
I need a woman to give me my freedom and give her freedom. She needs to accept me for who I am even with my flawless. Nobody is perfect. I also have to accept her for her flaws as well.
I’m sure it’s been said, but yes please, a video on how your relationship allows you to be feminine would be super valuable Courtney. I think you and Alpha M should start a shaping (or finishing) school for guys and women.
I think it's usually the guy that has trouble with not letting the girl have her own time to do her own thing, but there are a segment of super clingy/obsessive girlfriends that suspect he's cheating if he's not always with her. There is a fine line between pretending to be interested in a hobby you clearly don't like just to fool the person into making them more attracted to you vs. supporting someone's pursuits because you genuinely want them to do well. Don't pretend to be interested in something you're not to fake chemistry, that's a recipe for disaster because the truth always unravels itself eventually.
6. On respecting. You hit it there with how it's such problem today for women to submit to their husbands and respect his stance or opinion. I'll probably get some hate for this but this has been a theme in hollywood tv and movies for over a decade. Make the man/husband to be some jerk loser who doesn't lead the home and the wife is the leader. Any decision he makes she makes fun of him and takes over the decision making. Yeah it's tv and movies but pay attention to the world around you. Couples are doing this to each other in their relationships. Marriage/relationships are for two people to communicate about a decision and come to idea of how to respond as one. I see it so much on social media from women saying no man is going to tell me what to do or anything. As men, we've been told by our fathers that the man leads and protects his home. Not saying women are weak and can't protect themselves but traditionally speaking the man is the one who went off to war or was the only one to work.
Hey, Courtney...how about a video covering your creative process? Always curious how you come up with a new idea and, ultimately, edit and produce an episode. I love learning about the daily routines of people I find highly successful 👍 keep up the great content!
I found “dressing up for him” kind of surprising. Most of the women I’ve been around usually dress up for each other or if they’re going out with a man. My only guess is that women might fear being objectified by men (which is understandable). But at the same time, don’t they want the men in their lives to find them sexy if they put on something nice or to appreciate their outfit? I’m confused.
I often find her advice to be marbled with b.s. For example in one video, she attempts to straddle the fence that no one will find offensive by suggesting that nobody should care about body count. That's garbage. For women, sex is neck up and when they have sex with 100 men and do not get marriage commitment they are onboarding a junkyard of psychological wreckage. If she were faithful to the truth she would say, stop doing it, you are destroying your marriage market value, inviting STDs, and raising your standards for marriage to the heights of delusion because she will expect a potential marriage partner to be an amalgamation of the finest qualities of all the men she slept with. Some of her opinions are OK but really who is she anyway?? Some rando with opinions. She has no data, no peer reviewed studies, etc. and as the saying goes, if you want to learn how to fish, stop asking the fish.
Dear Courtney, What I want me in a real woman: 1. Social smarts, 50% intellectual smarts 50% 2. Genuine generosity of heart. 3. Knows how to receive a compliment and give one. 4. Knows where they are spiritually. 5. Comfortable in their own skin. 6. Sharing together is caring together 7. Owes it to herself to be the best she can be.
Number 4, hobbies, tbh I do like that. I dont think the girl needs to care or absorb the hobby but just putting in effort to understand and get to know the hobby just al ittle makes a world of difference. Its okay if we dont both love the same things, but I do like the idea of explaining something I'm interested in and I would love spend time expaining it to someone I love spending time with. I tie this into your other video of the golden egg. That thing you get that lights people up, its okay for someone to do it towards you to make you feel better. Its actually a really kind gesture tbh, as long as she doesnt try to hard of course
My Standards: 1. Be physically in shape 2. Be honest 3. Be friendly and respectful 4. Dress up and show up everyday 5. Always show gratitude 6. Feminine 7. Conservative leaning 8. Submissive 9. Supportive 10. Must be smart
The biggest issue that I see is that men do not have standards for themselves. As a result, they do not have standards for women, or their standards for women are also very low just as for themselves. If you are a low quality man, you will never ever get a high-quality woman. I know of a divorcee woman who is at most a two or three on the SMV scale, yet she has no issues landing men. Now to be fair, the men that she is landing, are also low quality men as well. So don’t get me wrong, but the reverse would never be true. I believe that too many men who watch these videos, believe that they can get or deserve a high quality woman, but put zero effort into making them selves into a high quality guy. Men, you need to work on yourselves. Get a career going, not a job but a career, have a house, have a nice car, Develop your physique and personality and you will get more women. The reality is though that even if you have all those things, the woman of your dreams may never acknowledge or pick you if you’re not her type. Just speaking truth gents.
What a load of nonsense though. So men basically once they leave high school need to instantly jump into a 6 figure promising career, rather than a shitty job you know working fast food, putting yourself through college etc. These men need to find 300k to have a house, buy a nice car also, you'll need to have a Greek adonis physique, don't forget you better be massively endowed also and born over over 6ft height blah blah blah blah. What effort does a woman need to go too? Ohh she just turns up with her beauty of course lol Jeez men really need to "level up" here, why can't they just grow their height to over 6ft magically over night or grow a massive new penis to satisfy the shallow demands of modern women, who don't view you as a human being unless you are mr 50 shades of grey lol
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1. Supporting him 2:00
2. Complimenting him 2:20
3. Letting him have guy time 3:30
4. Taking interest in his hobbies 4:40
5. Dressing up for him 6:25
6. Respecting him 8:05
7. Keeping it positive 10:15
8. Thanking him 11:20
9. Laughing at his joke 13:40
10. Being honest 14:38
Good shit man. Love when i see comments separating them to segments.
If she cares about you and checks up on you***
Not posting herself online with her "assets" hanging out for the world to see
If he ain’t funny don’t force a laugh.
@@raymondotoole2600 have a drink then mane
My standards.
1. Don’t be a party girl
2. Be attractive (take care of your body/appearance)
3. Be friendly and not obnoxious
Unless you're a Chad, gl in your endeavor lmao
Men are simple, we want women pleasant on the eyes, ears, and soul
That is not enough. She needs to bring contributions to the table and it's not the contributions that matter; it's the fact that she's willing to do it because that means she has character and isn't a deadbeat. It's hard to have intentions to abuse a man and simultaneously spend years preparing to offer a lot to a worthy man, you see?
So, in other words, you do not really have much in the way of standards?
@@Tntpker dude this is incel bullshit. I've had a couple nice, beautiful girlfriends and I'm skinny and probably a little above average in looks but not insanely good looking. We live in a time of abundance. Just because a good looking man has a cute gf doesn't mean you can't find one as well. If you're genuinely ugly yeah maybe drop your standards lookwise a little but chances are you can find someone you're attracted to who has a nice personality. I've seen some funny looking dudes with average incomes with attractive women. Unless your personality sucks, there's a good chance you'll meet someone if you put yourself out there. Putting a plug in for social dance classes (country swing, salsa, bachata) if you need a good place to meet quality women. It's how I met my ex fiance
My standards:
#1: Be a genuine and kind soul.
#2: Supportive.
#3: Be a helpmate.
#4: Be respectful.
#5: Take care of yourself.
#6: Be considerate of how her actions can affect us both.
#7: Having hobbies and interests of her own.
You can't beat an unexpected, genuine compliment. Makes you feel good for the rest of the day.
🙌🏼
I don't trust compliments
@@daniellehotsky1776 You never experience fakeness from someone?
@@daniellehotsky1776 Gotta look at actions all I'm sayin. If someone give me a compliment and their actions align with the compliment than sure I'm all for it. It comes down to consistency
@@ruckin3 you need professional help
This video made me tear up a little bit because knowing that there are women out there who are willing to do those things and put in the effort makes me hopeful.
To be sincere there a good women out there and am one of them am single and searching
lol
I think showing interest in our hobbies is honestly a top pick for most men here. A woman who can genuinely be interested in our hobbies and join us is probably one of the best ways to connect with us since men really love their hobbies.
Vids like this need to be permeating around more
I'm female and get a ton from your content! This is one of my favorite videos by you. I'm looking forward to one on masculine and feminine energy. I personally enjoy learning about a partner's hobbies and show genuine interest.
My standards include the following:
1. Good hygiene
2. Positive outlooks on life
3. Intelligence
4. Loyalty
5. Honesty
6. Good personality
7. Support
8. Respect
1) Be supportive.
2) Compliment when appropriate. Be honest when a compliment is not warranted.
3) Support time for me and have your own activities we do not do together.
4) Be interested in activities we can do together. Sailing & camping are examples.
4) Have some interest in my hobbies and support my successes as I support yours.
5) Respect each other including boundaries.
6) Work on your health & appearance & encourage me to do so as well.
7) Being honest including do not let small annoyances grow as you assume that I should "just know".
8) Be my partner not my mom. Had one, do not need nor want another one.
9) Laugh at my jokes whenever they are funny. Otherwise it's condescending.
10) Be kind to everyone regardless. Eliminate hate & envy.
To the "show interest in the hobbies of your partner"-thing:
Yes. This should be the case. NO matter what hobby he or she has. I used to help my fiance with her horses and she even teached me how to ride. I'm not a horse-fan buy did it for her, we had time together, I've learned something about her life. And she was visiting my football games.
This is essential for a healthy relationship in my opinion. It doesn't mean you always have to do it together, but from time to time it's nice.
Agreed. When you can be there in the differences it’s makes all the difference.
A woman's view: might never become a major football fan, but, watched football with the last guy I dated. I've come to appreciate the game and hosted Super Bowl party this year--even though I stopped dating that man after a year.
"The bar is really low", Courtney giving facts 💖 Men should, MUST love themselves to really find THE ONE.
My personal standards:
1) Not be a bar fly or party animal.
2) Takes care of herself (hopefully someone to go running with)
3) Being responsible
4) Being supportive of my hobbies (even better if we share the same interests)
5) Being appreciative
6) Being honest and understanding
THIS COMMENT IS SO GOOD
Some Green flags I look for
1. Shows reciprocal interest in you as a person (can be as simple as asking "How about you?" after he asks you a question about you)
2. Shows reciprocal and similar effort in the relationship. If she's only trying to take, that's not a relationship...
3. Prioritizes you over keeping her options open after a few dates, I want to be the one, not an option.
All my standards are things I work on myself because it would be hypocritical to ask her to be the person I am not also striving to be.
1. Kind
2. Attractive (physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually)
3. Easy to get along with
4. Forgiving
Those 4 things are pretty simple yet seem so hard to find these days. I'm not settling when it comes to these 4. Remember gentlemen, your value in the sexual marketplace increases with age while that of women decreases.
What about “Be able to admit mistakes and apologize.” That’s tough for some people, and it can really be a problem later in the relationship. Also, fixing relationship problems is so much easier when both people are able to say “I’m sorry, I screwed up.”
"Taking interest in his hobbies" is key esp with intimacy. Imagine not being able to run to the person you love with something you are excited to share and they don't want to be happy for you. you need to care about what they care about. You don't need to love the thing but it shows a care
I try to be supportive, compliment him, and when he goes out his way for me remember to say thank you. I appreciate him.
some things to add 1. Be on Time 2. Don't be on your phone all the time 3. don't post our issues on social media
Great video! As a girl I found it very insightful. Thank you!!
Something extra about #10. If I were dating a girl (I wouldnt know from personal experience though) and she came up to me and said "It really hurt me when you said, can we talk about it", that shows me 2 things 1) she is willing to put effort into bettering our relationship. effort in a time that is not ideal is a huge green flag for me (yea the bar is that low) and 2), this could have been a #11 on the list, saying "can WE talk about it" is vastly different from "Let me tell you what I thought of that". One is JOINT effort, the other is a lecture. Maybe one day I'll experience 1 or 2 of the things in this video.
On a related note about the bar being low, it might be an interesting comparison and contrast video about the bar for guys and the bar for girls. guy needs to make 6 figures, girl needs to say thank you.
On the "interest/hobbies" be supportive but be careful about being fake, eventually "fake" will show up in long term relationship and when exposed, hurts trust a lot and plants seed of what else is a lie. This is probably the hardest part of relationship, having compatibilities and commonality so faking it is not a good idea. Try the other persons interests and communicate how you feel about them
An attitude of gratefulness and mutual respect goes along way.
Wish I could come across a woman like you Courtney. Keep up the good work
After making so many mistakes over the years I can say that listening to experts like Courtney Ryan is important to get another perspective. Also, success with women boils down to (1) Not needing anyone to go out with you and be cool if they reject you. If you can handle rejection you'll become more confident and (2) Confidence. There is nothing more important than confidence and just believing in yourself. This is so important and obvious yet many miss it's significance.
Like the green-flags video, it’s great to hear about things that women should do or what men should look for.
Thank you for the video. 🙏
Shockingly, someone I know managed to pass this test regarding these qualities and our dynamic in general. In other words, they have almost all of these, and this video is GREAT for benchmarking for things like this. Good job, Courtney!
I agree with the Thank you. Unfreatfulness is a trademark of women
Great content as always. LOVE your take on life in general. The part about not getting "complacent " is especially on point. The main driver for impressing a potential mate is EXACTLY the same driver for fixing a stalled relationship. Both speak to necessity of "working" at a relationship. One can never just rest on one's laurels. 😴
@Courtney Ryan Good video and list. I still think you should do a video or two of asking your guy friends questions to answer, just like you do with your girl friends. That would seem more genuine than an article.
Number 5. Dressing up for HIM? Every woman I have ever known has been disgusted with the thought of dressing up and / or looking good FOR THEIR PARTNER! It's actually been lumped in on the same level as "he's creepy", "gaslighting", controlling behaviour, "I don't need a man"...the mere thought is basically hated through "modern day feminism".
Courtney really has those mom vibes going on strong, what a mom! When I see or hear Courtney, it's like wow this lovely lady is definitely some kind of mom! The men's advice mom.
Hahahahahah
the mom who would immaturely laugh if her son had a medical condition like micropenis and shame him to mental illness.
Great role model hahahahahaha
A really good video. Kind of brings the point home on what men and women have for expectations / requirements. For most men the top 10 items here are ideals - and note that most of these 10 are touchy feely sorts of things men do like (because for the most part we're deprived of them...), Most men aren't looking specifically for a "9-10" in looks, but a much higher score on the personality side. Women on the other hand have unrealist 20-40 point checklists "starting" with a 9-10 in looks, exorbitant wallet size, and what the man can provide for her lifestyle.
I'm not dating at this time, because there are things I need to work on in my situation first, but your videos are helping me prepare for the time when I do start dating. I look forward to putting the knowledge that you're giving us into practice. Also, the interactions you described in this video sound really nice!
@@ruckin3 Not simping. Just stating the truth! 😁
@@Spectacular-Spider-Dan Just work on your looks. Women only want to date extremely physically attractive tall men. Nothing else matters.
I’m in the exact same boat homie. I fell for a girl whilst not even trying to fall in love and I had to be real with myself and I had to cut contact with her so I can focus on myself for however long this is gonna take. I wanna take it out of my mind that I’m “coming back for her” cause I know if she has a man by the time I’m back then ima be heartbroken💀 but I’m just trying to get myself to a point where I’m taking in knowledge from woman themselves to see what I want to look for and what to do in a relationship since I’ve never been in one. Anyways sorry for my rant
@@Sethantoniorodriguez Just work on your looks. Women and people will treat you better in general. You’ll get over the girl your into when other women start to like you.
@@Gustavog74 don’t get me wrong I get what you mean, but it’s hard to get over a girl like that just because others will like me, considering I have extremely high standards(for good reasons) and she checked off every single box and then some more than I didn’t even think of. I didn’t even think a girl like that existed, I accepted that I was gonna be lonely and I was fine with it actually.. until I met her. I didn’t even want kids and marriage, but she changed my mind about all of those things.
1. Feminine.
2. Agreeable.
3. Lighthearted and Fun.
4. Hard Worker.
A Proverbs 31 Woman.
1. Emotionally Stable.
2. Discerning.
3. Enthusiastic for life.
4. Loyal and dedicated to her man.
5. Discipline.
6. Alluring and appealing in mind, body, and spirit.
7. Submissive. Able to allow her man to lead.
8. Has a comforting character.
9. Nurturing and caring.
I applaud Courtney for bravery in bringing out this video! I completely agree with what is stated!!
I hold myself to the same standards
In this order:
1: Confidence
2: Sincerity
3: Take Pride in Your Appearance
4: Manner's matter
I do have others but these are the top 4
Absolutely loved the respective comment made. TRUE and tested signs in a healthy relationship.
My standards:
1. Being a Team player / cooperative
2. Being respectful
3. Be attractive but of course I’m not asking her to look like an IG model
4. Having a sense of humor
5. I prefer a girl who is pretty short (I’m 6 foot) but it is not a requirement
The start of the article reminded me of something I have thought about from comments I have heard people make on social media and in day to day life and that is when a young boy does something for a young girl, such as giving her a flower or opening her door, people will comment that he is being raised right on how to treat a woman when he is older or the young girl is being taught how she should be treated when she is older and that is good, and right but they should also teach the young girl on how to treat a guy when she is older and the young boy should be taught on how he should be treated when he is older.. It should go both ways.
My personal standards are Patience and Kindness. But that goes for both parties. Any GOOD relationship if founded upon those two very simple principles.
*Setting standards isn't about being picky or unrealistic - it's about knowing your worth and expecting the same respect and effort from a partner.*
Also, being less judgmental, keeping and open mind and having lowered expectations can lead to pleasant outcomes.
That article should have listed honesty #1, but that article overall (excepting the one you commented about--(it implied) a "fake" interest in his hobbies--was excellent. Oddly enough, I've always said and always read (from Barbara DeAngelis, John Grey, Jordan Peterson) that 1) honesty and 2) being willing to talk things through/sharing equally are two prerequisites for a healthy relationship. However, you would be surprised how many males and females have told me that's being too picky. (Go figure.) Dr. Peterson states there must be a near-equal reciprocity in those things to build trust and just to have a **chance** at maintaining the relationship.
Enjoyed that it mentioned even the guy has to have his "time" apart if his lady doesn't share that interest. It would be like expecting the guy to accompany her shopping when he knows nothing about it or doesn't have the patience. It has to go both ways.
Most of these fall under "common sense," but look around the world today. How much "common sense" do you see and how often? Little and rarely.
I love your videos, because they are balanced, factual and truly helpful. Thank you for being so willing to share and to help!
You made a good point that all of us (women as well as men) should keep in mind: things have to go BOTH WAYS. It's so strange to me as a woman, too how much Princess Mentality there is.
Kudos Courtney!! This is timeless ❤. I’m keeping this on my speed dial 🔥🔥🔥. I have many examples concerning Respect, hobbies,expressing gratitude and saying sorry when she’s wrong is top of my list but one that easily comes to mind is I’m a diehard Liverpool FC (England) fan. I’m Canadian by the way. When we were dating my ex was as enthusiastic and bought me tickets to see them. We had shirts and celebrated victories together. After we got married it suddenly became a problem. I got nagged anytime I had to watch a game, the disrespect and guilt trips were unbearable. It started permeating all aspects of my of my life. Well you probably concluded why she’s an ex. Yes, she’s an ex forever. Guys, don’t take crap. Walk away. Life is too short. Cheers and peace ✌🏿
Hi Courtney. Please, when you talking about pass videos attach links to them somewhere. It would be really helpfull.
The key for hobbies, you need to be interested in them not the hobby, so the questions about their interest in the hobby rather the hobby itself
affectionate
hard worker
has her own convictions/ideals
ambitious/purpose driven
honest
kind but not naive
self-aware
respectful / humble
overall great gal
these are the standars the ideal woman would posses enough said , what do you think courtney ?
great vid keep up the great work
I hope you had a Happy Thanksgiving Courtney thank you for all the great advice you give us men 🌹🌹🌹
Hi Courtney, I am a new listener. I just wanted to wish you a happy holiday season. Be safe and healthy. sincerely, Steven
Thank you for your video. You gave me some good ideas about what to look for in a woman.
Yeah, simple human decency. That's what we all need, men and women. It is a MUST
My standards...
1. Show up for yourself
2. Equal effort and trust
3. Respect!!
4. Banter and playfulness
5. Never call me "bro" Dude is fine cause it makes me think of Good Burger 😂
6. Don't gaslight!
7. No smoking
8. Moderation with everything, hobbies, drinking, etc.
Expressing gratitude goes a long way with me and it doesn't take much effort to say Thank you. Not expressing gratitude is a huge red flag because I believe, how you do one think is how you do everything. Small clues are tale telling.
It’s so rare for us guys to get compliments. It feels like only older woman understand this cause they’re the only ones willing to tell me I’m handsome when I’m standing in line at Target 😓
They just want your pipe.
Always appreciate Courtney's videos
Another great video, Courtney!! Your comments always bring a new perspective on improving myself and relationships with others. Thank you sooo much.
I think taking interest in my hobbies/interests (even if they don't) is important. I always ask some questions about my date's hobbies even if I don't share it. I'm not expecting anyone to join me in the hobby but showing interest is important to show you aren't too self absorbed imo
Men can't set standards for ladies here in VA or you're are seen as a misogynist. I've been called that for having some very basic standards. She has a job more than a 20 hour a week retail position. Can do basic cooking, can manage simple responsibility, has a personality that's not like talking to a door knob, takes her health serious and does everything she can to stay healthy. This is way too much to ask and gets you called a misogynist by most ladies.
A woman fan of your videos here: I'm SHOCKED too, that (I assume, younger) women DON'T say "thank you" !!! If such BASIC courtesy is lacking early on, I'd have to wonder what other "red flags" will pop up. I'm so glad Courtney did this video! For myself, it was really AFFIRMING to how I approach relationships. The main thing I need to work on is being more honest about my feelings--I can be "conflict avoidant". Gotta work on being less afraid when difficulties come up. Nothing gets solved if you dont be honest. THANK YOU, Courtney!
Best qualities a woman can have:
1) She's 20.
2) She loves her dad.
3) She has no tattoos.
4) She is skinny.
5) She hasn't had any plastic surgery.
6) She tends to have boyfriends versus one night stands.
7) She voted for Trump.
8) She likes to dress up.
9) She has a good attitude and is generally pleasant by default.
10) She has a good attention span and can watch old movies with you.
Ladies please pay attention to this video everything she’s saying is so on point if you wanted a healthy relationship same thing goes to us guys too. We should be all thank her for these amazing tips especially for the females side on disrespect ladies. One love ❤️🙏🏼We as men… or I would like to date a woman with all these unique knowledge and understanding of what a woman prospective towards us men. Goes both ways. Trust is the main KEY 🔑 here. The key of success is TEAMWORK.🏆. Thank you Courtney Ryan for making this particular video for all women out there has no idea how much we appreciate them showing love and care but they still treated us like peasants 🤣🤦♂️😂 not in a creepy way lol 😂 y’all know the vibe, same goes to us fellas too I’m also we’ll aware that we as men also got things that we’re lacking in a dating relationship world too but no offense ladies it’s facts some are out there not all women are like that.. some are…learning from experience past relationship’s. Long story short I was dating this one chick beautiful.. gurl.Me at work doing my own thing felts someone’s watching me from the parking lot got to find out it’s her spying on me hiding in her car. That was not normal at all she admitted don’t trust me, from there I knew she still not heal from her past relationship got me little creep out still showing her love n care. She’s an amazing person in n out but I think jealousy and no trust took over. I definitely wanted to work things out with her finding solutions to eliminate the problem but but got to a point enough is enough. I think that’s why most of the relationship won’t last. A lot of people are still not HEAL from a pass relationship why will never work out. Accusing you something that you’re not n starting loosing TRUST. Trust is very important people. Cool!!! Thank you 🙏🏼
5:26 I don't think the suggestion of asking about his interests even if you're not into them is necessarily being fake, it goes back to supporting him and showing interest in him not necessarily his interests.
7:00 I've been married for 21 years with all the intentions of doing this in the beginning, but sometimes life gets in the way and other things take priority like kids and everyday chores. So, sometimes you need to sacrifice dating or getting dressed up to put time and effort into other priorities. It's not always laziness or complacence. We take time out for each other every now and then but it does become less as life piles on. Even you, in the infancy of your relationship, will find things change over the long years whether you intended it or not. It may not be for the worse but things will change so you have to be mindful of it and carve out time for yourselves as a couple.
The "I'm fine" thing is maddening from the male perspective. I ended up marrying the woman who would tell me "give me an hour or two to sort through what I am feeling and then we will talk." What makes it doubly maddening for a man is when we say we are fine, we mean it. Yes once in a while there may be a problem but, we will sort it out in our head and then we are fine. No need to bother her with it. If it is a problem we can't sort out we will just tell her about it.
My abusive husband just shared this with me. I already do everything on this list. He doesn't respect me though. What should I do? He's literally a narcissist. He won't ever let me have emotions. He shared this video with me after I'm going through extreme stress in my life and I wanted to vent to him and cry. He told me to shut the fk up and listen to this and told me I don't keep it positive. It's different when you're married 12 years and your husband can't support any tough times or bad things happening and when you cry over stress he screams at you to shut the fk up? What would you say to him?
Like have you ever broken down crying after working double shifts just to have some unexpected stuff go down and now your bank is hundreds negative and you can't even put gas in your car to work. And all I shared with him is "I'm upset I worked all weekend extra just for the bank to take it" for him to reply "shut the f up, you are stressing me out and taking it out on me" and I'm like "no I just wanted to vent it's not taking it out just telling you that sentence." And then he just keeps screaming over me that this is why I'm a terrible wife. What would you do? I'm a good wife. I moved across country for his job. I let him game hours every night all night long. I cook for him and clean up after him. All he does is work and come home to his gaming room. He ignores me all day every day to play games. I let him. I go do my own thing. I dress up for him. He won't brush his teeth in years for me. He won't bathe. He's a "neckbeard". But he holds me to this high ridiculous standard. He constantly watches channels like yours and is like "see you're not a good wife cause you don't keep it positive" in the middle of me having one of the hardest times in my life. I'm literally a sex doll mom to him. I do literally everything
Thanks so much for this video, Courtney! I actually watch your videos because I am looking for the _male_ perspective. You bring up topics and guys respond in the comments, and I learn a lot about why love is so hard these days. I think we want to be good partners, but we don't know how and we give up and become selfish because "Hey, one of us should be happy." Well, I believe it's our job to make each other happy, but it's hard to know how. You stop being selfish when someone one else is actively taking care of your feelings, so you have to give that to each other, to keep the cycle alive.
So yeah, this was really helpful to me. Thank you, Courtney, and thank you guys for expressing yourselves here!
Men are so simple and easy going and many women dont even do the bare minimum, why is that a big problem today you think?
@@TrealTalk187 Well, it's not only women, people are way more selfish today, and they have been taught to be. Where are the shows and books and stories that lift up sacrifice and love? Who actually teaches kids that making your relationship work is important?
Guys are easy to please, but they are equally lazy in pleasing their partners. Guys check out, too, when they aren't happy in the relationship, but they often just zone out, where women act up. Guys think that if they are not starting trouble, they are blameless. We need more than "not making waves," You're the captain of the ship, make waves.
Maybe that's the whole crux of it. Women act like they want to lead, but they want you to lead. The thing is, you have to _wrest control_ from them to show you have that spirit of leadership, and confidence, and strength. It's hard to find men who act that way any more, and without that, you are just friends who sleep together. That's not the seed of a family, really. A relationship is supposed to be the seed of a family.
Sorry if it sounds like I turned it around on the guys, making it your fault again, but I do believe that this struggle for control underpins a lot of what we feel. I also believe that men _want_ to lead, and it's the women who make it difficult. I guess there's a reason we have the stereotypes of women and men. They served a purpose.
Such an amazing video. At this point I really dgaf what people feel about it, I will be sharing this video on my Facebook for anyone else interested or willing to hear. Great insight. Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👌🏽👍🏽👍🏽
I know first hand what it's like to be with a woman who turned out to be possessive and controlling. It was stressful and a nightmare to say the least. I'm glad that I ended that relationship when I did. I felt so much better afterwards and I also take it as a learning experience for what I don't want In a future relationship if I ever do decide to get into another one.
Possessive and controlling is a NIGHTMARE--whether it's a man or a woman dong it. I RUN once that pops up in a man.
We all appreciate you so much !
Here's what I look for and dont care about her past.
1. Mutual Respect.
2.Honesty.
3.Supportive and Adding value and that goes both ways.
4.Ability to handle conflicts in a mature way.
5.Loyalty.
6.Taking care of each other physically and emotinally.
7. Having her own life and hobbies.
Thank you Courtney. Good video.
Never ever date a woman who twerks... or has ever twerked... for any reason, seriously or for fun. They aren't the marrying type.
Thank you very much for helping us out appreciate you
Hi Courtney. Could you make a video on a man’s favourite hair colour choice on women? ❤️
3 letting him have guy time she should have girl time. I had a relationship and I put effort to see to it she had girl time this way she she could have some space away from me at times. Sadly she never understood it and it becomes toxic.
Finally a video which shows to men that they also should have values and standards for their partner. You constantly hear on the internet what guys should have, and very rarely the opposite. Keep it going Courtney, from a long time listener
I would like to hear your opinions on Gary Chapman's Five Love Languages because the content of this video is mainly directed towards the first one 'Words of Affirmation'. For me, compliments on my outfit or really any compliments don't really resonate with me too much though much appreciated. For me, I'm a No.2 with "Quality Time" resonating highly with me. Thank you for the great content and happy holidays.
Keep it up Courtney 💪🏼
Meh...
11. Burning the bridges with feminist friends.
12. Unless she's a virgin or has genuine religious considerations: Having sex on the 2nd or 3rd date. Even if it's not going anywhere. It's just about decency, the dude will have typically wasted over $500 at this point.
13. Accept to be judged on her physique is she's throwing the first stone about physique.
14. Stop friendzoning potential dates.
15. Staying true to her word. i.e. if she bribed a classmate into helping her for a major college project (usually through promising sex in return) then she must "abide her end of the deal"
I like your idea of making a video about masculine/feminine polarity. I read "The Way of the Superior Man" which talks about that. I thought it was pretty interesting.
Lovely advice! I do most. Maybe lacking the most in dressing up for him. I'm the person with sweatpants. X)
(Doesn't mean I don't work out.)
She’s a real one ❤
Guy time for me is also being left alone sometimes. It's important to me to have solo time and space to think/relax
I'm late. Busy doing keg RDLs and keg squats with more than my bodyweight
I need a woman to give me my freedom and give her freedom. She needs to accept me for who I am even with my flawless. Nobody is perfect. I also have to accept her for her flaws as well.
I’m sure it’s been said, but yes please, a video on how your relationship allows you to be feminine would be super valuable Courtney. I think you and Alpha M should start a shaping (or finishing) school for guys and women.
I love that you acknowledge the “real” label as manipulative. 100% true.
really well said, I wish all women could see this video
I think it's usually the guy that has trouble with not letting the girl have her own time to do her own thing, but there are a segment of super clingy/obsessive girlfriends that suspect he's cheating if he's not always with her.
There is a fine line between pretending to be interested in a hobby you clearly don't like just to fool the person into making them more attracted to you vs. supporting someone's pursuits because you genuinely want them to do well. Don't pretend to be interested in something you're not to fake chemistry, that's a recipe for disaster because the truth always unravels itself eventually.
6. On respecting. You hit it there with how it's such problem today for women to submit to their husbands and respect his stance or opinion. I'll probably get some hate for this but this has been a theme in hollywood tv and movies for over a decade. Make the man/husband to be some jerk loser who doesn't lead the home and the wife is the leader. Any decision he makes she makes fun of him and takes over the decision making. Yeah it's tv and movies but pay attention to the world around you. Couples are doing this to each other in their relationships. Marriage/relationships are for two people to communicate about a decision and come to idea of how to respond as one. I see it so much on social media from women saying no man is going to tell me what to do or anything. As men, we've been told by our fathers that the man leads and protects his home. Not saying women are weak and can't protect themselves but traditionally speaking the man is the one who went off to war or was the only one to work.
Hey, Courtney...how about a video covering your creative process? Always curious how you come up with a new idea and, ultimately, edit and produce an episode. I love learning about the daily routines of people I find highly successful 👍 keep up the great content!
Courtney keeping it real as always. We appreciate you 🤍👏
Thanks for your advice
But there are just to many videos on dating that becomes to much does it work
I found “dressing up for him” kind of surprising. Most of the women I’ve been around usually dress up for each other or if they’re going out with a man. My only guess is that women might fear being objectified by men (which is understandable). But at the same time, don’t they want the men in their lives to find them sexy if they put on something nice or to appreciate their outfit? I’m confused.
Love the advice you give .. you’re so intelligent
I often find her advice to be marbled with b.s. For example in one video, she attempts to straddle the fence that no one will find offensive by suggesting that nobody should care about body count. That's garbage. For women, sex is neck up and when they have sex with 100 men and do not get marriage commitment they are onboarding a junkyard of psychological wreckage. If she were faithful to the truth she would say, stop doing it, you are destroying your marriage market value, inviting STDs, and raising your standards for marriage to the heights of delusion because she will expect a potential marriage partner to be an amalgamation of the finest qualities of all the men she slept with. Some of her opinions are OK but really who is she anyway?? Some rando with opinions. She has no data, no peer reviewed studies, etc. and as the saying goes, if you want to learn how to fish, stop asking the fish.
Dear Courtney,
What I want me in a real woman:
1. Social smarts, 50% intellectual smarts 50%
2. Genuine generosity of heart.
3. Knows how to receive a compliment and give one.
4. Knows where they are spiritually.
5. Comfortable in their own skin.
6. Sharing together is caring together
7. Owes it to herself to be the best she can be.
Number 4, hobbies, tbh I do like that. I dont think the girl needs to care or absorb the hobby but just putting in effort to understand and get to know the hobby just al ittle makes a world of difference. Its okay if we dont both love the same things, but I do like the idea of explaining something I'm interested in and I would love spend time expaining it to someone I love spending time with. I tie this into your other video of the golden egg. That thing you get that lights people up, its okay for someone to do it towards you to make you feel better. Its actually a really kind gesture tbh, as long as she doesnt try to hard of course
Think I might have to move out of State, or at least out of this region to find anyone.
I just love it when she says "the bee's knees".
My Standards:
1. Be physically in shape
2. Be honest
3. Be friendly and respectful
4. Dress up and show up everyday
5. Always show gratitude
6. Feminine
7. Conservative leaning
8. Submissive
9. Supportive
10. Must be smart
Just curious, what does submissive mean to you?
The biggest issue that I see is that men do not have standards for themselves. As a result, they do not have standards for women, or their standards for women are also very low just as for themselves. If you are a low quality man, you will never ever get a high-quality woman. I know of a divorcee woman who is at most a two or three on the SMV scale, yet she has no issues landing men. Now to be fair, the men that she is landing, are also low quality men as well. So don’t get me wrong, but the reverse would never be true.
I believe that too many men who watch these videos, believe that they can get or deserve a high quality woman, but put zero effort into making them selves into a high quality guy. Men, you need to work on yourselves. Get a career going, not a job but a career, have a house, have a nice car, Develop your physique and personality and you will get more women. The reality is though that even if you have all those things, the woman of your dreams may never acknowledge or pick you if you’re not her type. Just speaking truth gents.
Spot-on!
What a load of nonsense though.
So men basically once they leave high school need to instantly jump into a 6 figure promising career, rather than a shitty job you know working fast food, putting yourself through college etc.
These men need to find 300k to have a house, buy a nice car also, you'll need to have a Greek adonis physique, don't forget you better be massively endowed also and born over over 6ft height blah blah blah blah.
What effort does a woman need to go too? Ohh she just turns up with her beauty of course lol
Jeez men really need to "level up" here, why can't they just grow their height to over 6ft magically over night or grow a massive new penis to satisfy the shallow demands of modern women, who don't view you as a human being unless you are mr 50 shades of grey lol