I'm glad I came across your channel, you have such a relaxing way of talking. I do have a question: I feel like I constantly help people with their problems. what ends up happening is that they become reliant on me to the point where they will basically be on standby mode and not do anything with their Lifes and rely on me to provide solutions. Do I keep helping them with their issues and just be grateful that I can help or allow them to stay or go through a low vibrational phase with the hopes that they become self-sufficient / be ok with them failing and me eventually moving on from them? Long question, I know but guidance would be appreciated. Thank you
Hi :) thanks for sharing your question. Before we go into this, I have very limited info about you and your life so I can only work with what I've got. If you need specific support please book a session to talk about this. Otherwise here are some ideas: Do you enjoy helping people? Do you maybe feel a calling in it or does it exhaust you? If so, I would recommend thinking about if this would be interesting work for you? Maybe look into programs that would help you with some professional qualifications in any direction that feel right for you (go with your intuition and what excites you). If this doesn't resonate at all and you feel drained: It would be important to check in with your relationship to drawing (mental/emotional/physical) boundaries. What's your relationship to saying no, drawing your boundaries, etc.? Boundaries don't need to be harsh but can be communicated in a kind way... e.g.: "I'm happy to support you as a friend but this overtakes my capacity so you may want to think about seeking professional advice." Or if you decide to support people professionally, you can communicate the difference between friendship and a coaching/healing/therapy session and that you're happy for them to book a session with you if they'd like to. The boundaries topic may have a deeper root and often when we're drawn to taking more responsibility than feels right for us, we either haven't learned to say no or that we're allowed to have boundaries or we get some kind of validation or benefit out of being the eternal helper (no judgement, just a general option). If this is the case ask yourself what the benefit is and if it would be more supportive for you to have friends where there is mutual balanced support for each-other. In connection to this, what feels good for you in relationship? Because if these are friendships, do they fulfil you? You're worthy of equal relationships and I'm sure you have more qualities than project managing others lives. And if this is your calling - make it your job but. not your all day every day. You deserve to receive as well. :)
Hi Vanessa 👋 I Like hanging out with you Beautiful 😍 ❤🙏 I Love listening to your Soothing and Lovely Voice 😍 👌 👍 You Give very Good Advice and Guidance 🥲 Sending you much Love and Blessings Sweetheart ❤ 🙏
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In dem du den Gedanken annimmst, dass du nichts bist, öffnest du dich für ein Leben, in dem du alles sein kannst.
You’ve manifested in my reality in perfect timing 👌 thank you teacher ❤
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I'm glad I came across your channel, you have such a relaxing way of talking. I do have a question: I feel like I constantly help people with their problems. what ends up happening is that they become reliant on me to the point where they will basically be on standby mode and not do anything with their Lifes and rely on me to provide solutions. Do I keep helping them with their issues and just be grateful that I can help or allow them to stay or go through a low vibrational phase with the hopes that they become self-sufficient / be ok with them failing and me eventually moving on from them? Long question, I know but guidance would be appreciated. Thank you
Hi :) thanks for sharing your question. Before we go into this, I have very limited info about you and your life so I can only work with what I've got. If you need specific support please book a session to talk about this. Otherwise here are some ideas:
Do you enjoy helping people? Do you maybe feel a calling in it or does it exhaust you? If so, I would recommend thinking about if this would be interesting work for you? Maybe look into programs that would help you with some professional qualifications in any direction that feel right for you (go with your intuition and what excites you).
If this doesn't resonate at all and you feel drained:
It would be important to check in with your relationship to drawing (mental/emotional/physical) boundaries.
What's your relationship to saying no, drawing your boundaries, etc.? Boundaries don't need to be harsh but can be communicated in a kind way... e.g.: "I'm happy to support you as a friend but this overtakes my capacity so you may want to think about seeking professional advice." Or if you decide to support people professionally, you can communicate the difference between friendship and a coaching/healing/therapy session and that you're happy for them to book a session with you if they'd like to.
The boundaries topic may have a deeper root and often when we're drawn to taking more responsibility than feels right for us, we either haven't learned to say no or that we're allowed to have boundaries or we get some kind of validation or benefit out of being the eternal helper (no judgement, just a general option). If this is the case ask yourself what the benefit is and if it would be more supportive for you to have friends where there is mutual balanced support for each-other.
In connection to this, what feels good for you in relationship? Because if these are friendships, do they fulfil you? You're worthy of equal relationships and I'm sure you have more qualities than project managing others lives. And if this is your calling - make it your job but. not your all day every day. You deserve to receive as well. :)
Hi Vanessa 👋 I Like hanging out with you Beautiful 😍 ❤🙏 I Love listening to your Soothing and Lovely Voice 😍 👌 👍 You Give very Good Advice and Guidance 🥲 Sending you much Love and Blessings Sweetheart ❤ 🙏