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Hey Rebecca is it possible my wife is for 15 years I just realized that she was involved in doing some things with her kids she knows I know she knows that I had cameras in the house at that time when that was happening and she knows I have video what now I haven't told her I had it but she knows I have
This is an excellent compilation. I have two narcissistic brothers and a narcissistic step father who casts a shadow everything having to do with my family of origin. I want to maintain a relationship with mother and nephews and nieces which means no contact won’t work to those ends. These strategies and tactics hit the spot.
Demestic advocates deal with all women not with men there is no support when the man is married to a narcissist woman and she is using the demestic advocate and all the resources using them to make the man look bad that woman using the system ( Rebecca you said that yes there are resources for the women yes ) but none for the man being the victim of the woman narc that goes and uses the system to use as her flying monkeys and courts and lawyers Where is that support for that man ?
@@ericbelcher2452 The Professor in Psychology Sam Vaknin, who's diagnosed Malignant Narcissist, told that serial killers and child molesters are Narcissists. JazzyT.
@@adib.72 some people are stuck with family members that are narcissistic, I hope they can someday get out of their situation though. I guess I meant relationships or friendships with a narcissist can be avoided.
Right, but this woman here stressed so much to encourage people to try hard to earn narcissists respect, is it worth it from such people? Definitely not, best way is to walk away from them.
@@BinZiegler I agree. Their respect is of no value. Once you mark their homework without blinkers, they fail to meet any of their expected targets. I would seek the respect of a cheeseburger before one of these defective units.
I was with my narcissist wife and always wanted to please her but now I understand that she can’t be satisfied so I run go no contact and never look back. Happy 5 months now
@@Pyrrhic537 . I have no idea if she is sad I go no contact 100% . She is embarrassed and exposed to the world now. She finds a new church searching for a new victim. But I know she not giving me my divorce if I file it so am waiting on her to file so I can sign . A Christian narcissist is worse than anything on this earth
When you take your power back they run like the cowards that they are and start the trash campaign against you. At this point who cares they can say whatever they want you are FREE.
I did that. I took partial control on my financials, stopped being manipulated by sex and he affection. She lost all control over me. Affection money and sex. She filed for divorce a month later after 18 years of marriage. That was her last weapon and I feel free.
@@jmieles1983 I feel your frustration, I am going through the same. I have never had a relationship with narcissist until last year. Sex, affection and financial dependence. He blind me with affection, sex to have financially dependents.
@@stevensgirl85 This isn't often explained well, but the reason people are narcs is because their reality is their identity. Typically, people create their identity by relating their ego to their perception of reality, or vise versa. Without this relation by separation, ego and reality merge to form identity. This is why they seek to control their reality, including other people, because they need reality to align with their idealized image. When everything goes well, they attribute it to their power over reality. When it goes wrong, it's an external force. This is why mistakes and failures are always someone else's fault.
NARCISSIST DON'T RESPECT!! They admire but that admiration turns into jealousy, competitiveness and hate. They may back down from all she is sharing but they dont respect.
My ex husband's mother was an ugly, bully narcissist. She ruined him and his older brother. Now they hate and humiliate women that they love and abandon. They have split personalities. Mother in law was so jealous, she sabotaged their wives and phony loved them at breakups so they forgot how the witch abused & manipulated their whole lives. She probably didn't go to Heaven.
@kathrynknopf140 my ex mother inlaw did same to me, ruined our relationship, then after see how my ex was covert narcissist too just like her mom, so I guess it worked out lol then shes going back to her ex husband of whom she said raped her and beat her, her whole marriage, and said he raped her for her last 3 out of 4 kids, which he is worst narcissist ever met,and stalks me, harasses me,calls and threatens from spoof numbers, etc.... they made for each other if she chooses that over me(hes 400 lb loser that brags about making over 100k, yet is in much debt and cant even pay bills)
Sorry but it's not respect, it's fear insecurity, submission for someone who is more narcissistic and powerful than them.. fear of being shamed and exposed
I’m taking back my power. I’m independent, no longer emotionally controlled, or financially. I’m claiming my freedom, going to start going to the gym, taking care of myself, I have my own bank account. Fearlessly moving forward.
That's amazing 👏 I've been married to one for 15yrs he didn't show the real him till 3 years later, after I married him! He is something That I've NEVER dealt with the domestic and mental abuse is insane!!😢 Then he wanted me to stay home take care of him and the house never ended up having children, he hasn't even tried to touch me in 13yrs 😢 so financially I'm stuck or lose everything and go to a shelter. I'm a only child/ sibling so have NO FAMILY how did you do it? How did you just move on I'm seriously asking please help me out and tell me? 😢Thank you and Bless you 🙏
@@shannonbrowe3870Because you didn't put God first here you are! We All must go through the Storms to get to the other side .you have to step out with Faith and Believe God you going to be Alright.. because you will with God.myou have to know and Believe..Leave immediately! Go to the Shelter..Go there are people that will help you with jobs..housing and such....Leave..go through the Storm..on the other side is Calm..and Peace..this is how many had to do .don't be dependent on material things..God will bless you 10xs more than you ever had with the Narcissist aka Demon..I hope you know that! Prayers to you🙏....Do!
@@shannonbrowe3870 I chose a woman's shelter that was hell but I am glad I left that abusive piece of shit Not easy on disability & no family support but in that shelter I realised i am not the only one I would rather be alone & be with my dog than be abused
I am a superempath . I remain an unsolved mistery to the narcissists. I just wait in patience for them to self-destruct. They are fragile inside but still they can course a lot of chaos and damages if you let them under your skin. Don't you ever let them under your skin. You and only you, belong under your own skin. This place is already taken by you. Keep up your spirit. Be the unsolved mistery to the narcissists 🙏❤
Carmen, I know Empaths. And a super Empath. And you sound like the real thing to me. And the power of girls like you feels like a gentle stream in a rainforest. But from experience I know that it is more powerful than the storm like power of the girl that says she’s a super Empath.
@@CarmenPerez-kz6rw They self-destruct in frustration of not getting power over certain people. Which is not ideal, but prefferable to them destryoing others.
Don't Ever give them the idea that you are intimidated by them. Stand Up to them! They will abuse you even more if you cave to their abuse. That would be the worst you should do. It will shock them to see someone confronting them. But watch out, they may start raging and losing their mind.
Why would you want to keep them? I'm the daughter of a raging, abusive alcoholic. And the younger sister of his perfect Golden Child. For those of us who grew up with people who are highly narcissistic, we struggle every single day. We aren't allowed to say, "No." We have endured a lifetime of rages and abuse. Our lives are an emotional roller-coaster. We have HAD to endure them. But, if they just come in to your life... Get away from them. If you marry one, you will destroy your life and your children's lives. You will cease to exist. Your children will most likely grow up to be narcissistic or codependent. Get out. They can be super fun. They are very dramatic. They will fool you in to thinking that they are great people. But, get close and they will eat you up and spit you out, then eat you up again and spit you out...over and over and over.
@@hopefaithandlove6236 exactly. Seeking respect from a narcissist is counterproductive. It heals what? Narcissist typically can't relate to respect including self-respect. Best to complete accept what was was and what is is. I rather count my blessings that I am no longer in that relationship...with or without their respect...and I stand on the pedestal of MY self-respect and dignity. WOW a true celebration
Hi. Thank you for this. It was one of the few vids that I found helpful. My husband recently abandoned me after caring for him for the past year (4 back surgeries). It's been the most peaceful time I have had in 10 years. I am focusing on myself and my walk with the Lord. I am scared but I am facing it head on. Yes, he has left a trail of destruction in his life.
Rebecca: You are a fierce warrior against narcissist bullies. I would hate to be a narcissist who crosses your path. No grey rock here, it's full on, full scale physiological warfare. (I'm beginning to believe that's the only thing that works with some narcissists...some times it feels like I'm dealing with the devil.)
They are demons 👿👿👿👿 I had so many in my life. Just recently blocked ( walked away) the last of them. Listening to videos like these had definitely helped me understand them. Thank you for everyone's comments.😘😘😘 Thank you for this channel 🙏🙏❤
Jesus Christ told me that Lucifer was the first narcissist, I ask Jesus how's that? He said Because he wants Father's throne. Jesus said that the key is don't feel sorry for them because that's how they devour your Sacred Heart. Jesus is the Way the Truth and the Life Amen 💝
Exactly. Narc ecomes aware of a boundary? They will run, drive, step right over it. And chance is, cops and court will have no issues. Never met a boundary they respected.
Insecure, Envy, Hate blind them forever. They never satisfy, respect noone, & never feel true love. Don't waste time to hate. Be happy you found back self-love
It LITERALLY does NOT matter that we get ANYONE'S "RESPECT." RESPECTING OURSELVES IS ALLLLLLLL THAT MATTERS. Narcissists & EVERYONE 'S "opinions" ON THE PLANET MEANS NOTHING. "GET YOUR POWER-BACK" & LEAVE the REST IN THE DUST. Think about ANYONE in your past...who were negative, hurtful...WHERE ARE THEIR "OPINIONS" NOWWWWWWWW???🤔🤔🤔NO WHERE. They literally are IN THE PAST. EXACTLY WHERE THEY BELONG. AMENNNN🙏❣
I have to share that after 10 years being completely kidnapped by a sadistic, evil power and control junkie, you have helped me immensely. I have listened for the past year of NC and used your techniques. You are one of the best. Thank you
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Everything you said absolutely works!! I stumbled across all of these "laws" by accident and started to notice a dynamic shift. It took me 10 months and there were some very difficult times during my journey but now that I'm on the other side I feel so empowered. Not in a narcissistic way but just a feeling of unstoppable confidence and peace of mind.
Just love your content rebecca. I love the fact that we have the power to take back Our independence. My boyfriend is a narcissist. The closer I get to him. The more he runs away. However, He chases back when I ignore him. Sometimes it's like dealing with a fifteen year old
Left them far behind, brushed their dust from my feet. I stayed 32 years. Now 76, never feel more free. They are deceased, left me with a forged home equity loan in my name. A real Christian piece of cake!
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The best way is not to have any relationship with a narcissist person. But once in, make sure you don’t kill your self trying to please them, set a boundary; your No must be No, yes must be yes, no compromise. Never be shy, afraid of them.
But what if they are super abusive I'm waiting for a room at the shelter for abused women. I'm a only sibling have no family, came up to N.Y. From Florida to be with him 😢been together 15yrs he's so abusive but the mental is worst of all and the control over me 😢in every way! It's just been financially that I stayed I Was really hurt for the past 6yrs my Uber driver got me in a major car accident 😪 but now I'm better just looking for a job. But I'm terrified of him!
My son is my narcissist, and he is vile. He's stolen thousands from me. I seriously hate him. The gaslighting is the worst. I don't see him anymore, thank the Lord.
I understand the anger you feel. Hate is a strong feeling towards your child is sad. No matter what I will never hate my children. They came from you and were once your precious baby. Can you both go to therapy? Money and items are nothing important. Your son should be a priority. Prayers for forgiveness 🙏 please both of you need help to find the love again!
@virginiabraden6849 don't hate the seed that was planted in your garden..Js...Pray....And as a parent..Reflect on self in his early upbringing etc...Not saying you are to blame....Or whomever....Pray and love from a distance if you have too...I know you hurt...
@@jimicahayes9032 Actually I don't hurt at all but I do fear for my life and have also wasted my life by trying to believe in someone I thought I knew only to discover I was just playing a dangerous game with a total stranger for 25 years. I repeat, be careful. Blame is a moot point when your life is on the line.
It does. My wife is extremely narcissistic and I have learned the silent treatment brings on love bombing that I NO LONGER FALL FOR. I don't return the "I love you" either. I just listen and in my head say " same shit, different day. These videos helped me navigate through the waters. Thank God I work 54 hrs and my commute is 35 minutes each way.
The Narcissist cannot respect the family member or colleague for a reason. Narcissists do not have empathy, they need attention, be served the way they want it, have people around to follow their commands, follow their own rules and they need people around having some status ( work, power, money) or be somehow useful for them. These are criterias you need to fulfil to be accepted by the narcissist. It applies to any sexual supply or any worker.Once you are used, abused and no more needed to gain something from you, you will be discarded.
ALLLLLLL of those people out there who ARE currently struggling over what OTHERS think & say...I hope you learn YOUR strength as well on YOUR path FOR YOU IN YOUR journey of self-discovery❣Each & EVERY ONE of us WILL find our strength...just KEEP ON YOUR PATH & YOU WILL DEFINITELY FIND THE BEST OF WHO YOU ARE!!!❣❣❣I'm in my 50's. It literally has taken me over 10 years of VERY SLOW, TEADOUS & TREACHEROUS "WORK" of LEARNING "WHY I DO, WHAT I DO." I NEVER thought there was hope for me. I had NO "guidance"... & my "journey", like yours, has JUST BEGUN❣❣AMEN TO ALLLLL OF OF HIGHER-POWERS🙏❣
Omg I went to the doctor yesterday my blood pressure was up to 210/100 they wanted me to go to the emergency room said I was at stroke stage when I told him he brushed it off like he did not Care
I had that happen on Wednesday. I had to go to the hospital as well, told him and he said nothing, then proceeded to start a huge fight.. im learning more and everyday. I hope you are doing better now. Stay 💪
I give them a smile that shows my inner peace and happiness yet fix my unwavering gaze on their pupils with narrowed eyes gradually widening my glare with an expression in my eyes that says, "I know who you are because I am just like you only TEN TIMES WORSE. Makes her look down and away every time.
Yes, fake being kind and naiv but my eyes and actions tell the opposite. It works to confuse them. No narcissist ever reads me and my genuine thoughts again. That makes them feel very uncomfortable and cowards as they are they step back and look for others who are easier to read.
Are those things in quotations? What us non narcissist should be saying to ourselves. Or is that what the narcissist says? And you're saying run away l o l that came off is confusing
For 28 years married with this guy I’m sure he’s narcissistic. But I’m ready to be in control for my self.my 3 boys they are grown up right now I’m ready to start thinking about my own future.
Surely there will be scenarios wherein if we are in a good place, as an individual, we won't need to concern ourselves with winning or maintaining respect from a narcissist !!
I am bullied now because I say no and mean it 😢 I used to be a doormat but now i don't let people use me for their own gain now I'm bullied .. ❤from Australia 🇦🇺
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Just walk away is the best thing I ever done. I lost everything, my business, my truck, my home, my clothes, furniture, it all. It’s not easy, but I get stronger every day. I have me and my new life ahead of me.
I never knew anything about this Narc tendencies or Narc personality. I left my ex for 15 years and in 2022 he hoovered me back. This time i put firm boundaries and closed my legs tight and decided to date him (collect data about him). Like a light bulb moment it clicked that the reason it never worked 15 years ago is because the devil is actually a Narc. Only when i closed my legs and observed him did they show who they were and this time the rose colored glasses were off and i was objectively observing them. After dating platonically for a year i had collected enough data and i WALKED AWAY. Two magical words that are like crytonite to a Narc.
I hate to admit it but my brain is still spinning from having just discovered I was allowing her to treat me like crap , tear me down, doubt my sanity, I don't understand why I'm in pain when I should be glad,,,?
I'm in control!! 6 months ago the relationship ended with my kids mom. How nasty she's been. Thank you for all the information you put out there it's been helpful
Wow! This video was DIAMOND Level! This is why I come here to your videos Rebecca! You've got it and you know how to deliver! Your information is easy to understand and digest and see the path forward.
I got this information on file, and will replay when I need be encoraged I'm doing the "okay" things or decisions I need to do on my own! ..growing in confidence !
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YOU GUYS ARE BEAUTIFUL!!! THANK YOU!!! AWESOME!! I LOVE THIS!! I HAVE TAKEN BACK MY POWER AND I DO NOT WANT ANY WEEDS IN MY GARDEN ANY MORE, I LOVE THIS !!!!!!!!
I'm feeling more in control (we've separated months ago) but he knows I need money to take care of our disabled son... he refuses to pay me. He says "I've paid for everything for 20 years) So he makes really good money and pays very little out living in a long term stay hotel. He left me wth a 3/2 new condo and a hefty monthly payment. But.... I've stopped asking him for anything! He tries to bring us food & meals all the time but I politely tell him "that looks wonderful, but we're fine thank you" I depend on him for nothing and I take care of all OUR bills and child care and I do not work yet but I refuse to beg him. I'll figure it out but I'm the meantime I feel SO GREAT!!!
That’s the best thing Live your own life, don’t speak to them unless it’s really important Have your. Own life, if you get a divorce your life will be really hard and they will meet someone else in a minute, most women who get divorced are in a worst situation
I don't hate her. I pray that she lives a normal life.. never satisfied.. I had to face problem but that's fine.. I can take care of myself.. she has no good friends to sit with and talk to feel better. I find her family members dumb, they can never figure out the issue..
The women narcissist I was dating wanted me to sell my house and move to Santa Rosa, CA. That is what gave me control until she realized it wasn't going to happen. In the beginning, I didn't know she was that way.
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I noticed after i told a few of them at work you must be real insecure to be worried about another man plus im not intimidated by any of you. I noticed that caused a shift of them to back off a little bit more at work. They still bully but i smile and laugh at them when they do. I also started bumping into them when they would crowd me at work and they stopped crowding me after doing that a few times.v
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As I awake this morning exhausted from dealing with an in law I work with 1.5 hours away but who messes with my job...and psyche....I'm thonking of you. Rebbecca the Narcissist Wrestler.
Surprisingly, now when I am having tough time at work, my confidence has increased tremendously! I love my boundaries! Oh boy that I love them - and I created them finally in this place because otherwise, I’d be beaten down to the bottom.
You have to add, only if you want to keep them around. That involves changing yourself to keep them around. Just knòw your value and keep it moving. A narc can Respect the dust that kicks up when you walk away.
My adoptive mother is a narcissist, and I'm disabled. I still have to live with her. AND I'm working on being actively in control more often. I feel powerful in this process.
Rebecca love the channel. To make a long story short. We started out great. I made a few mistakes apologized for it. Weve moved past that. But ive discovered by your teaching im in a relationship with a covert narcissist. Ive been with this woman for 5 years and now im kinda stuck financially.
I dated a female narcissist for nine months and it really is like dating a toddler with the tantrums Which sets it in motion is that you’re attracted to this individual so you have to loose the attraction to them and let them go. Run for the nearest exit and don’t look back
I’m in control. It’s been 1 year 1 month now away from him. He did manage to take down my business to nothing. I lost it all. But, I’m alive now, challenging myself to over come a narcissist.
My ex narc friend has an interesting personality in that she likes to try make me squirm when she gets annoyed at me over something and then acts like she's the mature adult. I don't remember the argument anymore but I remember that instead of letting me have a say in it, she would end the conversation for a few days and then shows up acting like an adult parent with, "did you calm down now?" And I'm just thinking there like, shes the one who had a tantrum and wouldn't even let me have a say! I wasn't really interested in arguing so I just moved on from that argument. Or, I told her how uncomfortable I was about my previous close friend just inviting another person to her place on the days I was going to visit her because then they would constantly interact with each other while I'm sitting there quietly questioning myself why did I took the time and spend all that money to even go there to visit her? And then she would do the same after the tickets were already bought! Was this situation any better? Maybe, if you are okay being the only person unable talking in other foreign language like they kept doing for example... I didn't even have any connection with her friend. I did eventually forced myself to cut all contact with her because she tried to triangulate me with her new friend that she was spending all her time with for a year while hardly having any normal conversation with me. I just felt more miserable after having a one sided chat with this bread crumbling very aware leach and when I decided that I would distance myself away from her to detox, because her behavior was making a mental mess out of me, she went around telling people that I am jealous of her having a better life now than me and that shes popular with her new fans...... she did not even think of that I was helping her to get noticed and successful and that I was always supporting her in having more friends though. I would often feel like I'm dealing with a child that has silently constant tantrums and wants to act like an adult parent while smirking when she thinks she has the upper hand or god forbid, control over situations. And when she thinks she got me squirming, knows shes doing something wrong, she then even double downs on that behavior to try get a reaction out of me. But unlike her, I gave her a chance to do better, I saw how it only was going worse and that she wasn't willing to do better, so I simply respected that this is what she is and that I don't want that in my life... Cutting all contact with her was the best decision I have made
Thank you Rebecca! All you said has been very helpful for me! Above all I appreciate your advise about preserving the freedom! I was very lucky to be financially independent and able to say NO to my narcissist. When I discovered that he took my Mooney based on a power of attorney I just trace him out of my house! All what you are saying is very acceptable under the condition to be financially independent. I am now IN CONTROL!!! I helped myself with your support! Thank you very much!! 11:19
YES! Whenever co-workers try to bait me with juicy gossip I just say hmm 🤔 Or say, "oook..." in kind of a sarcastic tone. It just shows them that the gossip is meaningless, especially if it's about you and they are trying to get a rise out of you.
Sadly, didn't realize this is what I've been going through for many. It was hard. It took me the last 3 years to tell myself I've had enough. I totally agree with all of this. I have been standing on my ish!
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You know you are living with a narcissist when you dread the time they come home from work, that weekends are stressfull.because they are home, that if there is a way something could be taken negatively to create a scene they will take it negatively so they can be the victim of abuse. That if they find out you have any money they will have a greater need and will manipulate you by guilt into giving them money. They will tell you how smart they are, then say they want to just talk to you, meanwhile they will lecture you about how they are right. Good luck
I have an older narcissistic sister who was a VP for a large company at one time. I have a job that is not as prestigious, but I know my job inside and out and have to have a lot of knowledge of medical terminology and other strict guidelines for coding procedures. I always feel like my sister feels like I am beneath her.
I see what you're talking about with your older sister it's sad when you have siblings I think they're better than you are because of their jobs or because of their positions most of all stand true to yourself
@@sylviaduncan6663I could & should write a book about older siblings, this subject is not covered enough, don't you think? Usually the narcissist topics covers a husband & wife, boss or friend situation. How much older is your sister, and at what age did she start? It's probably been a behavior from the start? I'm 70 and my siblings are 78 & 80, it truly never ends, just gets worse with age.
@@johnpaulsawan1990 if someone truly loves you they will adore you...I love a guy that doesn't love me back....I adore him....he prob thinks like you do ..he is missing out on an amazing woman who adores him.....I love his feet, hair, eyes, body, hands, breathe, every part of him...because that is what true love Does...
Rebecca....your knowledge and delivery is soooo clear and helpful, you are a blessing to me and I'm sure to many others. Bless you and may universal light continue to shine on you and inspire you to continue your pathway. Nanaste...
god help any person which has this going on I have been in a marriage for over 35 years and am only figuring this out now as I have always worked out of house to provide my four daughters that I love so much, They have all left home and My wife has turned this on me full time. its almost unbearable to be alive. thanks so much for your help and know I require help from a professional to ave what time I have left thankyou. and Hope people would listen more when women or men cry out for help.
I have learned how to do this finally after8 years. I see clearly what he can and can’t give, and it has worked out very well. Nothing deep. Not sure how long I will stay, but life with him right now I’d doable because of all these things Rebecca has said,
I thought leaving him it would be over but . But it takes years to heal Finding out about why I am attracted yet I had so much self clearing from programming
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Hey Rebecca is it possible my wife is for 15 years I just realized that she was involved in doing some things with her kids she knows I know she knows that I had cameras in the house at that time when that was happening and she knows I have video what now I haven't told her I had it but she knows I have
This is an excellent compilation. I have two narcissistic brothers and a narcissistic step father who casts a shadow everything having to do with my family of origin. I want to maintain a relationship with mother and nephews and nieces which means no contact won’t work to those ends. These strategies and tactics hit the spot.
Demestic advocates deal with all women not with men there is no support when the man is married to a narcissist woman and she is using the demestic advocate and all the resources using them to make the man look bad that woman using the system ( Rebecca you said that yes there are resources for the women yes ) but none for the man being the victim of the woman narc that goes and uses the system to use as her flying monkeys and courts and lawyers
Where is that support for that man ?
@@ericbelcher2452 The Professor in Psychology Sam Vaknin, who's diagnosed Malignant Narcissist, told that serial killers and child molesters are Narcissists. JazzyT.
The only way to make a narcissist feel respect you, is to get them out of your life and find someone else who is healthy and will respect you.
yes!
That still doesn't work...
At least not for everyone
@@adib.72 some people are stuck with family members that are narcissistic, I hope they can someday get out of their situation though. I guess I meant relationships or friendships with a narcissist can be avoided.
The best revenge on a Narcissist,is to live your best life without them. JazzyT.
A narcissist doesn’t respect themselves so they will never respect others period.
Respect me. I am a mother of a narcissist.
@@lori7828 That's a narcissistic comment.
She means fear you
@@lori7828 me too? He is 56 and I finally called him out. He blocked me. Oh well. God is in control
Thank you 💯
Walking away is the only way any toxic individual will respect you 💯
Thank you! DONE!!!
Right, but this woman here stressed so much to encourage people to try hard to earn narcissists respect, is it worth it from such people? Definitely not, best way is to walk away from them.
@@BinZiegler Yes walk away and earn their respect from a distance 💯
@@BinZiegler I agree. Their respect is of no value. Once you mark their homework without blinkers, they fail to meet any of their expected targets. I would seek the respect of a cheeseburger before one of these defective units.
@@vladig7006 SPOT ON 💯 no need to indulge with them with any type of action or form, till they change their behavior with you or Leave immediately‼️
I was with my narcissist wife and always wanted to please her but now I understand that she can’t be satisfied so I run go no contact and never look back. Happy 5 months now
1 year 6 months no contact! keep going 💪🏼
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Just had my eyes wide opened from childhood to now narcissist trauma is cruel and as if unstoppable when you are blinded by them😢
@@olyabrenner3590 blinded no more ❤️
@@Pyrrhic537 . I have no idea if she is sad I go no contact 100% . She is embarrassed and exposed to the world now. She finds a new church searching for a new victim. But I know she not giving me my divorce if I file it so am waiting on her to file so I can sign . A Christian narcissist is worse than anything on this earth
When you take your power back that also forces them to respect you.
When you take your power back they run like the cowards that they are and start the trash campaign against you. At this point who cares they can say whatever they want you are FREE.
I stopped putting up with his nonsense, that was when he respected me.
I'm dealing with this. I have taken control.
I did that. I took partial control on my financials, stopped being manipulated by sex and he affection. She lost all control over me. Affection money and sex. She filed for divorce a month later after 18 years of marriage. That was her last weapon and I feel free.
@@jmieles1983 I feel your frustration, I am going through the same. I have never had a relationship with narcissist until last year. Sex, affection and financial dependence. He blind me with affection, sex to have financially dependents.
I don't require a narcissists respect. They need to get over themselves!
Yep
They won't get over themselves.
@@FullCircleTravis even if they trip over. It's always some eles fault ..
@@stevensgirl85
This isn't often explained well, but the reason people are narcs is because their reality is their identity.
Typically, people create their identity by relating their ego to their perception of reality, or vise versa. Without this relation by separation, ego and reality merge to form identity.
This is why they seek to control their reality, including other people, because they need reality to align with their idealized image. When everything goes well, they attribute it to their power over reality. When it goes wrong, it's an external force. This is why mistakes and failures are always someone else's fault.
@@FullCircleTravis nope
NARCISSIST DON'T RESPECT!! They admire but that admiration turns into jealousy, competitiveness and hate. They may back down from all she is sharing but they dont respect.
Spot On!
True
So true
I totally agree with this comment 🙏🏾😇💖
@@luvonewillis1622 Thank you xoxo
They “respect” those they are afraid of, like bosses or their toxic parents who molded them to be who they are
My ex husband's mother was an ugly, bully narcissist. She ruined him and his older brother. Now they hate and humiliate women that they love and abandon. They have split personalities. Mother in law was so jealous, she sabotaged their wives and phony loved them at breakups so they forgot how the witch abused & manipulated their whole lives. She probably didn't go to Heaven.
@kathrynknopf140 my ex mother inlaw did same to me, ruined our relationship, then after see how my ex was covert narcissist too just like her mom, so I guess it worked out lol then shes going back to her ex husband of whom she said raped her and beat her, her whole marriage, and said he raped her for her last 3 out of 4 kids, which he is worst narcissist ever met,and stalks me, harasses me,calls and threatens from spoof numbers, etc.... they made for each other if she chooses that over me(hes 400 lb loser that brags about making over 100k, yet is in much debt and cant even pay bills)
Sorry but it's not respect, it's fear insecurity, submission for someone who is more narcissistic and powerful than them.. fear of being shamed and exposed
My ex respects his mother. She molded him to be her husband that is why he is my ex husband after 29 years. How sick is that?
@@kathrynknopf140I would not think so I believe God has a place for them and it’s not with him.
I’m taking back my power. I’m independent, no longer emotionally controlled, or financially. I’m claiming my freedom, going to start going to the gym, taking care of myself, I have my own bank account. Fearlessly moving forward.
Good for you!
That's amazing 👏 I've been married to one for 15yrs he didn't show the real him till 3 years later, after I married him! He is something That I've NEVER dealt with the domestic and mental abuse is insane!!😢 Then he wanted me to stay home take care of him and the house never ended up having children, he hasn't even tried to touch me in 13yrs 😢 so financially I'm stuck or lose everything and go to a shelter. I'm a only child/ sibling so have NO FAMILY how did you do it? How did you just move on I'm seriously asking please help me out and tell me? 😢Thank you and Bless you 🙏
@@shannonbrowe3870Because you didn't put God first here you are! We All must go through the Storms to get to the other side .you have to step out with Faith and Believe God you going to be Alright.. because you will with God.myou have to know and Believe..Leave immediately! Go to the Shelter..Go there are people that will help you with jobs..housing and such....Leave..go through the Storm..on the other side is Calm..and Peace..this is how many had to do .don't be dependent on material things..God will bless you 10xs more than you ever had with the Narcissist aka Demon..I hope you know that! Prayers to you🙏....Do!
I want to become like u
@@shannonbrowe3870
I chose a woman's shelter that was hell but I am glad I left that abusive piece of shit
Not easy on disability & no family support but in that shelter I realised i am not the only one
I would rather be alone & be with my dog than be abused
I am a superempath . I remain an unsolved mistery to the narcissists. I just wait in patience for them to self-destruct. They are fragile inside but still they can course a lot of chaos and damages if you let them under your skin. Don't you ever let them under your skin. You and only you, belong under your own skin. This place is already taken by you. Keep up your spirit. Be the unsolved mistery to the narcissists 🙏❤
Wow! That was a powerful and almost hypnotically true comment! 💪🏼”🫡”
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A true empath doesn’t want to see anyone self destruct. Please stop throwing that word around. People like you make it meaningless.
Carmen, I know Empaths. And a super Empath. And you sound like the real thing to me.
And the power of girls like you feels like a gentle stream in a rainforest.
But from experience I know that it is more powerful than the storm like power of the girl that says she’s a super Empath.
@@CarmenPerez-kz6rw They self-destruct in frustration of not getting power over certain people. Which is not ideal, but prefferable to them destryoing others.
Don't Ever give them the idea that you are intimidated by them. Stand Up to them! They will abuse you even more if you cave to their abuse. That would be the worst you should do. It will shock them to see someone confronting them. But watch out, they may start raging and losing their mind.
I do she knows I'm not afraid of her she's evil
Bruh she raged 🤣😂🤣
I agree very true
Why would you want to keep them?
I'm the daughter of a raging, abusive alcoholic. And the younger sister of his perfect Golden Child.
For those of us who grew up with people who are highly narcissistic, we struggle every single day. We aren't allowed to say, "No." We have endured a lifetime of rages and abuse. Our lives are an emotional roller-coaster.
We have HAD to endure them.
But, if they just come in to your life...
Get away from them.
If you marry one, you will destroy your life and your children's lives.
You will cease to exist.
Your children will most likely grow up to be narcissistic or codependent.
Get out.
They can be super fun. They are very dramatic. They will fool you in to thinking that they are great people.
But, get close and they will eat you up and spit you out, then eat you up again and spit you out...over and over and over.
Two words “no contact”
Exactly
Grey rock 🪨
Jay Reid has good videos about the Scapegoat child! JazzyT, Scapegoat of two Narc's.
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I am not interested in the narcissist's respect! I don't need it!
Amen!!
Me either because I'll get respect other places...You cannot break me..
@@hopefaithandlove6236 exactly. Seeking respect from a narcissist is counterproductive. It heals what? Narcissist typically can't relate to respect including self-respect. Best to complete accept what was was and what is is. I rather count my blessings that I am no longer in that relationship...with or without their respect...and I stand on the pedestal of MY self-respect and dignity. WOW a true celebration
@@francesrodriguez4140 🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯
Right, I don’t care whether they respect me or not. Their respect isn’t long lasting anyway.
Hi. Thank you for this. It was one of the few vids that I found helpful. My husband recently abandoned me after caring for him for the past year (4 back surgeries). It's been the most peaceful time I have had in 10 years. I am focusing on myself and my walk with the Lord. I am scared but I am facing it head on. Yes, he has left a trail of destruction in his life.
I single got my RV back on the road and preparing to travel in it. I am looking forward to my Self again.
Rebecca: You are a fierce warrior against narcissist bullies. I would hate to be a narcissist who crosses your path. No grey rock here, it's full on, full scale physiological warfare. (I'm beginning to believe that's the only thing that works with some narcissists...some times it feels like I'm dealing with the devil.)
Exactly. And they are devils
They are demons 👿👿👿👿 I had so many in my life. Just recently blocked ( walked away) the last of them.
Listening to videos like these had definitely helped me understand them. Thank you for everyone's comments.😘😘😘
Thank you for this channel 🙏🙏❤
Here it is respect me
Jesus Christ told me that Lucifer was the first narcissist, I ask Jesus how's that? He said Because he wants Father's throne. Jesus said that the key is don't feel sorry for them because that's how they devour your Sacred Heart. Jesus is the Way the Truth and the Life Amen 💝
I don't understand number 2: do you have to continue to adulate them?
A narcissist's respect? Don't waste a second of your life on that.
Fr
Exactly u can’t do anything to cause any pain they have no empathy’s it’s best to go no contact and act like they don’t exist
Exactly...they will never allow their victim to be in control. Just get the hec out of the insanity..playing their game is exhaustive.
Exactly. Narc ecomes aware of a boundary? They will run, drive, step right over it. And chance is, cops and court will have no issues. Never met a boundary they respected.
@@cathycoryell2351 they ghost you & pretend that’s their boundary💀super childish
Insecure, Envy, Hate blind them forever. They never satisfy, respect noone, & never feel true love. Don't waste time to hate. Be happy you found back self-love
It LITERALLY does NOT matter that we get ANYONE'S "RESPECT." RESPECTING OURSELVES IS ALLLLLLLL THAT MATTERS. Narcissists & EVERYONE 'S "opinions" ON THE PLANET MEANS NOTHING. "GET YOUR POWER-BACK" & LEAVE the REST IN THE DUST. Think about ANYONE in your past...who were negative, hurtful...WHERE ARE THEIR "OPINIONS" NOWWWWWWWW???🤔🤔🤔NO WHERE. They literally are IN THE PAST. EXACTLY WHERE THEY BELONG. AMENNNN🙏❣
Better to forget about them , don't talk about them, forget, forget....😊
If it’s not done their way, it’s the wrong way. Exhausting!!!
The only respect I need is for them to just leave me alone. 💯
I have to share that after 10 years being completely kidnapped by a sadistic, evil power and control junkie, you have helped me immensely. I have listened for the past year of NC and used your techniques. You are one of the best. Thank you
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@@KimmyK-rz9cw what are you talking about
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Life is hard enough, without the added suffering caused by narcs.
After many,many years of training myself to be involved but emotionally detached I am finally HAPPILY,confidently in control.
Thank you life🙏
The only way to deal with a narcissist is to discard them before they betray or belittle or discard you
I'm still gonna do my thing without there respect
Can’t make someone respect you… but I refuse to tolerate disrespect.
Everything you said absolutely works!!
I stumbled across all of these "laws" by accident and started to notice a dynamic shift. It took me 10 months and there were some very difficult times during my journey but now that I'm on the other side I feel so empowered. Not in a narcissistic way but just a feeling of unstoppable confidence and peace of mind.
Just love your content rebecca. I love the fact that we have the power to take back Our independence. My boyfriend is a narcissist. The closer I get to him. The more he runs away. However, He chases back when I ignore him. Sometimes it's like dealing with a fifteen year old
Left them far behind, brushed their dust from my feet. I stayed 32 years. Now 76, never feel more free. They are deceased, left me with a forged home equity loan in my name. A real Christian piece of cake!
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The best way is not to have any relationship with a narcissist person. But once in, make sure you don’t kill your self trying to please them, set a boundary; your No must be No, yes must be yes, no compromise. Never be shy, afraid of them.
But what if they are super abusive I'm waiting for a room at the shelter for abused women. I'm a only sibling have no family, came up to N.Y. From Florida to be with him 😢been together 15yrs he's so abusive but the mental is worst of all and the control over me 😢in every way! It's just been financially that I stayed I Was really hurt for the past 6yrs my Uber driver got me in a major car accident 😪 but now I'm better just looking for a job. But I'm terrified of him!
My son is my narcissist, and he is vile. He's stolen thousands from me. I seriously hate him. The gaslighting is the worst. I don't see him anymore, thank the Lord.
Be careful.
I understand the anger you feel. Hate is a strong feeling towards your child is sad. No matter what I will never hate my children. They came from you and were once your precious baby. Can you both go to therapy? Money and items are nothing important. Your son should be a priority. Prayers for forgiveness 🙏 please both of you need help to find the love again!
@virginiabraden6849 don't hate the seed that was planted in your garden..Js...Pray....And as a parent..Reflect on self in his early upbringing etc...Not saying you are to blame....Or whomever....Pray and love from a distance if you have too...I know you hurt...
@@jimicahayes9032 Actually I don't hurt at all but I do fear for my life and have also wasted my life by trying to believe in someone I thought I knew only to discover I was just playing a dangerous game with a total stranger for 25 years. I repeat, be careful. Blame is a moot point when your life is on the line.
Everything dealing with narcissistic people is like casting out demons
That’s accurate.
It sure is…😆💕
Absolutely 💯 🙏🏾
I have just learnt my mother is a narcissist! I have learned that the silent treatment works wonderfully.
How to do it
It does. My wife is extremely narcissistic and I have learned the silent treatment brings on love bombing that I NO LONGER FALL FOR. I don't return the "I love you" either. I just listen and in my head say " same shit, different day. These videos helped me navigate through the waters. Thank God I work 54 hrs and my commute is 35 minutes each way.
I am now in control of myself after 6year relationship, and taking control of our relationship. I am more than worthy of respect
The Narcissist cannot respect the family member or colleague for a reason. Narcissists do not have empathy, they need attention, be served the way they want it, have people around to follow their commands, follow their own rules and they need people around having some status ( work, power, money) or be somehow useful for them. These are criterias you need to fulfil to be accepted by the narcissist. It applies to any sexual supply or any worker.Once you are used, abused and no more needed to gain something from you, you will be discarded.
exactly.....
ALLLLLLL of those people out there who ARE currently struggling over what OTHERS think & say...I hope you learn YOUR strength as well on YOUR path FOR YOU IN YOUR journey of self-discovery❣Each & EVERY ONE of us WILL find our strength...just KEEP ON YOUR PATH & YOU WILL DEFINITELY FIND THE BEST OF WHO YOU ARE!!!❣❣❣I'm in my 50's. It literally has taken me over 10 years of VERY SLOW, TEADOUS & TREACHEROUS "WORK" of LEARNING "WHY I DO, WHAT I DO." I NEVER thought there was hope for me. I had NO "guidance"... & my "journey", like yours, has JUST BEGUN❣❣AMEN TO ALLLLL OF OF HIGHER-POWERS🙏❣
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I am in control of myself and will not let my sister have power over myself and my parents.
Not interested in their respect and power plays , my power is simply being myself, and if that's not good enough ...kick rocks!
Omg I went to the doctor yesterday my blood pressure was up to 210/100 they wanted me to go to the emergency room said I was at stroke stage when I told him he brushed it off like he did not Care
you must practice intense self care and at same time stay at disengaged level with that narky
I had that happen on Wednesday. I had to go to the hospital as well, told him and he said nothing, then proceeded to start a huge fight.. im learning more and everyday. I hope you are doing better now. Stay 💪
How you dealing with it?
I fully understand
Sadly, they really don't care. Demons doesn't have the ability to empathize.
Just walked away. Glad I did.
I give them a smile that shows my inner peace and happiness yet fix my unwavering gaze on their pupils with narrowed eyes gradually widening my glare with an expression in my eyes that says, "I know who you are because I am just like you only TEN TIMES WORSE. Makes her look down and away every time.
Yes, fake being kind and naiv but my eyes and actions tell the opposite. It works to confuse them. No narcissist ever reads me and my genuine thoughts again. That makes them feel very uncomfortable and cowards as they are they step back and look for others who are easier to read.
"Respect me" "I'm in control" "Just walk away" "Yes"
Are those things in quotations? What us non narcissist should be saying to ourselves. Or is that what the narcissist says? And you're saying run away l o l that came off is confusing
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Did 11 yrs hard time!! I left, he rephrased that one. I found that funny. What a plastic ppl.
Just walk away!!
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1:10:40 My mother, the narcissist. Im done!!... this is finally over, Im taking back my control....thank you for this video 🙏🏽
" JUST BE TRUE TO YOU & STAND UP FOR YOURSELF WHEN NEED BE " , IT'S JUST THAT SIMPLE IN MY BOOK😐😐😃😃
For 28 years married with this guy I’m sure he’s narcissistic. But I’m ready to be in control for my self.my 3 boys they are grown up right now I’m ready to start thinking about my own future.
Thxs 4 your AUTHENTIC INFO ... JUST WALKED AWAY AFTER 9 MONTHS OF SITUATIONSHIP, TOXICITY & DEMONIC SPIRITS ... I KNOW THAT I WON 👍🏽
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I WANT TO BE RESPECTED AND VALUED!
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Surely there will be scenarios wherein if we are in a good place, as an individual, we won't need to concern ourselves with winning or maintaining respect from a narcissist !!
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I am bullied now because I say no and mean it 😢 I used to be a doormat but now i don't let people use me for their own gain now I'm bullied .. ❤from Australia 🇦🇺
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Just walk away is the best thing I ever done. I lost everything, my business, my truck, my home, my clothes, furniture, it all. It’s not easy, but I get stronger every day. I have me and my new life ahead of me.
I just walked away! No weapons formed against me from a narcissist we never prosper ❤
Amen. Thk ❤️ u...Jesus almighty name amen 🙏
I never knew anything about this Narc tendencies or Narc personality. I left my ex for 15 years and in 2022 he hoovered me back. This time i put firm boundaries and closed my legs tight and decided to date him (collect data about him). Like a light bulb moment it clicked that the reason it never worked 15 years ago is because the devil is actually a Narc. Only when i closed my legs and observed him did they show who they were and this time the rose colored glasses were off and i was objectively observing them. After dating platonically for a year i had collected enough data and i WALKED AWAY. Two magical words that are like crytonite to a Narc.
I hate to admit it but my brain is still spinning from having just discovered I was allowing her to treat me like crap , tear me down, doubt my sanity, I don't understand why I'm in pain when I should be glad,,,?
I'm in control!! 6 months ago the relationship ended with my kids mom. How nasty she's been. Thank you for all the information you put out there it's been helpful
A narcissist will never respect you. Thats an integral part of narcissism. Study up.
Wow! This video was DIAMOND Level! This is why I come here to your videos Rebecca! You've got it and you know how to deliver! Your information is easy to understand and digest and see the path forward.
I got this information on file, and will replay when I need be encoraged I'm doing the "okay" things or decisions I need to do on my own! ..growing in confidence !
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YOU GUYS ARE BEAUTIFUL!!! THANK YOU!!! AWESOME!! I LOVE THIS!! I HAVE TAKEN BACK MY POWER AND I DO NOT WANT ANY WEEDS IN MY GARDEN ANY MORE, I LOVE THIS !!!!!!!!
Kate nailed it. My core has been ripped right from my chest through my broken heart.I need my core back.
I'm feeling more in control (we've separated months ago) but he knows I need money to take care of our disabled son... he refuses to pay me. He says "I've paid for everything for 20 years) So he makes really good money and pays very little out living in a long term stay hotel. He left me wth a 3/2 new condo and a hefty monthly payment. But.... I've stopped asking him for anything! He tries to bring us food & meals all the time but I politely tell him "that looks wonderful, but we're fine thank you" I depend on him for nothing and I take care of all OUR bills and child care and I do not work yet but I refuse to beg him. I'll figure it out but I'm the meantime I feel SO GREAT!!!
Respect me, I am in control and just give up trying. I walk away.
That’s the best thing
Live your own life, don’t speak to them unless it’s really important
Have your. Own life, if you get a divorce your life will be really hard and they will meet someone else in a minute, most women who get divorced are in a worst situation
Yes, this is right. 👍
They will be forced to respect you by saying NO.
Pray for them they sick 🙏🙌
I don't hate her. I pray that she lives a normal life.. never satisfied.. I had to face problem but that's fine.. I can take care of myself.. she has no good friends to sit with and talk to feel better. I find her family members dumb, they can never figure out the issue..
The women narcissist I was dating wanted me to sell my house and move to Santa Rosa, CA. That is what gave me control until she realized it wasn't going to happen. In the beginning, I didn't know she was that way.
The power is in my hands and cannot be taken away. 💯
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i HAVE LIVED WITH THIS PERSON MY WHOLE LIFE, SHE IS MY MOTHER ! THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR IMPORTANT INFORMATION.
The fact is that they will never respect anyone. Respect is that word they don't like and carefully avoid feeling respect toward anyone
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I'm in control..you ROCK GIRL🎉
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I noticed after i told a few of them at work you must be real insecure to be worried about another man plus im not intimidated by any of you. I noticed that caused a shift of them to back off a little bit more at work. They still bully but i smile and laugh at them when they do. I also started bumping into them when they would crowd me at work and they stopped crowding me after doing that a few times.v
❤❤❤ I’m in control, walked away ..and I feel so relieved. Thank you
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As I awake this morning exhausted from dealing with an in law I work with 1.5 hours away but who messes with my job...and psyche....I'm thonking of you. Rebbecca the Narcissist Wrestler.
Surprisingly, now when I am having tough time at work, my confidence has increased tremendously! I love my boundaries! Oh boy that I love them - and I created them finally in this place because otherwise, I’d be beaten down to the bottom.
You have to add, only if you want to keep them around. That involves changing yourself to keep them around. Just knòw your value and keep it moving. A narc can Respect the dust that kicks up when you walk away.
God created us to be an individual. Not a narc pleaser.
My adoptive mother is a narcissist, and I'm disabled. I still have to live with her. AND I'm working on being actively in control more often. I feel powerful in this process.
God bless your soul and give you strength
Respect me, I am in control. I am not afraid of narcissists.
Same here
Rebecca love the channel. To make a long story short. We started out great. I made a few mistakes apologized for it. Weve moved past that. But ive discovered by your teaching im in a relationship with a covert narcissist. Ive been with this woman for 5 years and now im kinda stuck financially.
I dated a female narcissist for nine months and it really is like dating a toddler with the tantrums
Which sets it in motion is that you’re attracted to this individual so you have to loose the attraction to them and let them go. Run for the nearest exit and don’t look back
I’m in control. It’s been 1 year 1 month now away from him. He did manage to take down my business to nothing. I lost it all. But, I’m alive now, challenging myself to over come a narcissist.
My ex narc friend has an interesting personality in that she likes to try make me squirm when she gets annoyed at me over something and then acts like she's the mature adult.
I don't remember the argument anymore but I remember that instead of letting me have a say in it, she would end the conversation for a few days and then shows up acting like an adult parent with, "did you calm down now?" And I'm just thinking there like, shes the one who had a tantrum and wouldn't even let me have a say! I wasn't really interested in arguing so I just moved on from that argument.
Or, I told her how uncomfortable I was about my previous close friend just inviting another person to her place on the days I was going to visit her because then they would constantly interact with each other while I'm sitting there quietly questioning myself why did I took the time and spend all that money to even go there to visit her? And then she would do the same after the tickets were already bought! Was this situation any better? Maybe, if you are okay being the only person unable talking in other foreign language like they kept doing for example... I didn't even have any connection with her friend.
I did eventually forced myself to cut all contact with her because she tried to triangulate me with her new friend that she was spending all her time with for a year while hardly having any normal conversation with me. I just felt more miserable after having a one sided chat with this bread crumbling very aware leach and when I decided that I would distance myself away from her to detox, because her behavior was making a mental mess out of me, she went around telling people that I am jealous of her having a better life now than me and that shes popular with her new fans...... she did not even think of that I was helping her to get noticed and successful and that I was always supporting her in having more friends though.
I would often feel like I'm dealing with a child that has silently constant tantrums and wants to act like an adult parent while smirking when she thinks she has the upper hand or god forbid, control over situations.
And when she thinks she got me squirming, knows shes doing something wrong, she then even double downs on that behavior to try get a reaction out of me.
But unlike her, I gave her a chance to do better, I saw how it only was going worse and that she wasn't willing to do better, so I simply respected that this is what she is and that I don't want that in my life...
Cutting all contact with her was the best decision I have made
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If I was financially independent, I would leave the narcissist!
You can do it! There’s 50 ways to leave your narcissist 😊
Thank you Rebecca!
All you said has been very helpful for me!
Above all I appreciate your advise about preserving the freedom!
I was very lucky to be financially independent and able to say NO to my narcissist. When I discovered that he took my Mooney based on a power of attorney I just trace him out of my house!
All what you are saying is very acceptable under the condition to be financially independent.
I am now IN CONTROL!!!
I helped myself with your support!
Thank you very much!!
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YES!
Whenever co-workers try to bait me with juicy gossip I just say hmm 🤔
Or say, "oook..." in kind of a sarcastic tone. It just shows them that the gossip is meaningless, especially if it's about you and they are trying to get a rise out of you.
Sadly, didn't realize this is what I've been going through for many. It was hard. It took me the last 3 years to tell myself I've had enough. I totally agree with all of this. I have been standing on my ish!
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They want you totally dependent. Total control.
Excellent and uplifting! Thank you and God bless you!!!
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I'm in control now and working on 100% thank you for your help
You know you are living with a narcissist when you dread the time they come home from work, that weekends are stressfull.because they are home, that if there is a way something could be taken negatively to create a scene they will take it negatively so they can be the victim of abuse. That if they find out you have any money they will have a greater need and will manipulate you by guilt into giving them money. They will tell you how smart they are, then say they want to just talk to you, meanwhile they will lecture you about how they are right. Good luck
Taking notes. Thank you so much! Super true.,..I AM IN CONTROL
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Distance yourself from their madness.. period
I have an older narcissistic sister who was a VP for a large company at one time. I have a job that is not as prestigious, but I know my job inside and out and have to have a lot of knowledge of medical terminology and other strict guidelines for coding procedures. I always feel like my sister feels like I am beneath her.
So what. Who cares what SHE feels?
I see what you're talking about with your older sister it's sad when you have siblings I think they're better than you are because of their jobs or because of their positions most of all stand true to yourself
If you where the Scapegoat child,Dr Jay Reid has good videos about it. JazzyT, Scapegoat of two Narc's.
@@sylviaduncan6663I could & should write a book about older siblings, this subject is not covered enough, don't you think? Usually the narcissist topics covers a husband & wife, boss or friend situation. How much older is your sister, and at what age did she start? It's probably been a behavior from the start? I'm 70 and my siblings are 78 & 80, it truly never ends, just gets worse with age.
Distance is the only way to be with a narc, this one will rough shot me in a new York minute!
If someone your dating isn't your biggest fan run away!!! 😊
lol! I used to love that kind of attention but it surely is a red flag. Who the fuck am I to be adored for no reason?
@@johnpaulsawan1990 if someone truly loves you they will adore you...I love a guy that doesn't love me back....I adore him....he prob thinks like you do ..he is missing out on an amazing woman who adores him.....I love his feet, hair, eyes, body, hands, breathe, every part of him...because that is what true love Does...
Rebecca....your knowledge and delivery is soooo clear and helpful, you are a blessing to me and I'm sure to many others.
Bless you and may universal light continue to shine on you and inspire you to continue your pathway.
Nanaste...
Narcissist never really respect you.
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god help any person which has this going on I have been in a marriage for over 35 years and am only figuring this out now as I have always worked out of house to provide my four daughters that I love so much, They have all left home and My wife has turned this on me full time. its almost unbearable to be alive. thanks so much for your help and know I require help from a professional to ave what time I have left thankyou. and Hope people would listen more when women or men cry out for help.
Your kids are grown and gone. It's not too late to leave and get some enjoyment out of the rest of your life. I did it!
I have learned how to do this finally after8 years. I see clearly what he can and can’t give, and it has worked out very well. Nothing deep. Not sure how long I will stay, but life with him right now I’d doable because of all these things Rebecca has said,
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I thought leaving him it would be over but . But it takes years to heal
Finding out about why I am attracted yet I had so much self clearing from programming