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That's really so sad man you deserve a lot more exposure, me and my girlfriend LOVE your content. Also u seem to have a great personality. Recently we've both started getting decent online income streams and are planning to start a world travel. Hope that we'll run in to each other at some point somewhere! Massive respect for what you do & keep doing it!
Nathaniel Drew Very beautiful Nathaniel, very moving 💛 I think there is nothing more beautiful to say to your child then that they are "a gift". I feel exactly the same way about my own children. They inspire me to become the best version of myself every day. Wish your mom lived closer so we could have a coffee/tea together some day. (I live in The Netherlands🇳🇱). Thank you fir sharing.
People are so lucky to have good parents. Take it from a 24 year old damaged, abused, bullied, tragic victim of all the bad. If you're able to sit down with and have conversations with your family in this way and if you have employed parents who have raised you well , please please please thank God and be truly grateful. You will never know how lucky you are until you go through what I've gone through. Those of you with good family and friends, hug them, love them, thank them. Goodbye Xx
thank you for this message, pple rlly do take that for granted, i know i do unfortunately but i try to remind myself to take advantage of the fact that i still have my family here on earth and that we have a decent relationship. 🤍 :) i hope you’re healing
Are you Free of it Now ? How did You Escape ? I'm 26 and still stuck. if you did escape please Let me know how. Because if I don't get financial support from certain family members, I'm basically screwed because the other toxic family members don't do jack for me, bully me so much, control me with money, and sadly I can't go live with grandparents, who knows what's going in the family cult established, which has paralyzed me and made me lose my authentic identity. Sober as of recent with a little bumps due to holiday triggers, being stuck with this family during covid obviously who PLAYS GOD , and disrespects women and live in EGO, I' fucking desperate to Move out but have no plan, that's how well they play with my life, and even forebode the to install Home internet so I can't find people to help me, deliberately locks the kitchen when they leave sometimes, to trigger me on purpose. I don't mind being a hermit in life, but it's important to have emotionally intelligent people to help you grow and reach your potential, instead of break you down and change you into a by product of a narcissistic cult. I hope everyday going to bed I wake up one day in a better place or just not at all. I really Don't want to be here anymore, I'd literally if I had the money, pack my stuff and leave but like I said I have no proper plan, and don't know how to get out safely without them interfering and trying to control my life any further.
your mom broke generational trauma and that's amazing! It's so important! And I'm really happy to say that I'm also doing that right now as I finally see the trauma that my parents gave me and I work on it and heal from it so my children will not suffer as I did :') I really hope everyone can do this so we can have healthy humans in this world
@@freshliving4199 her past generation passed on emotional and physical abuse to their children as she talked about in this conversation, but when she left her family and home to go find her own way, she realized that she needed to become a happier, and emotionally healthy person so that her child could be raised in the best environment possible.
@@freshliving4199 since generational trauma is trauma that is passed down from parent to child, she, by definition, did not follow the cycle. Instead of passing the trauma down to her kid, she raised him healthily. That is what breaking generational trauma is.
Dina Danuri Parenting is a huge part of who you become. A toxic home and abusive parents (emotionally or physically) really makes life much more difficult according to many studies.
Daniel to have a mother who says that your birth turned on the lights for her in life is such a blessing. Don’t ever take the power of that love that she has for you for granted. She is the epitome of breaking the cycle of abuse.
Yes he is truly lucky to have a mom like that. My mom said “ when she gave birth to me, she didn’t want to hold me and she hated me. And shoved me into the doctor hands 🥺. And my dad left after I was born cuz I wasn’t a boy & he never came back
@@Sasha5555 you’re def not alone. My mother reminds me often that I was her toughest pregnancy, and that she had no idea what to do with me - until my younger brother and sister came along. I grew up watching her course correct with them… and now spending my adulthood in recovery
I don't think it's cheesy at all to say a child lights up the life of a mother. Hearing that from your mother made me see what a healthy mother would say when referring to birth. Mine always linked it to stress, trauma, depression, and all the things that transform her into a martyr. How heartwarming to hear something so beautiful and drama-free from you momma.
Nhi Hay Đi don’t feel bad. Not all relationships are good. Sometimes we have different perspective to our parents. “Sometimes we don’t understand them and they don’t understand us” but do we sit to talk with them to be more understanding to their personalities and viceversa? See what you can learn from this and go from there.
Mom is right, there is a difference between happiness and joy. Happiness is a high emotion and all that high is bound to come down. Whereas joy is state of mind, peace and contentment within. A lot of introspection is needed to figure out the world. Slow down, ponder and not get sucked into stresses of modern living.
Looking at the definition of happiness ('being happy') I'd rather say happiness is contentment with what is and how life's going in general, while on the other hand, joy is being content with what you are doing (hence the term 'enjoying' things).
The more afraid you are of something, the more control it has over you. Rather than being afraid of it, I personally feel it's better to accept that it's inevitable for us to have some traits that our parents have, and that it doesn't always have to be negative. My mom is extremely stubborn and doesn't accept other perspectives, which was passed on to me, but I make a positive twist on it. I use my stubbornness in a more productive way, or at least I try. I use it to keep studying a language that no one thought I would actually master. I use it to do things that perhaps no one thinks I could actually do. You can be like your parents, but you can strive to be a better version of them, which will lead to the best result.
That kind of thinking got myself in a lot of trouble. Self-denial, Nihilism and a hedonic life. Since I rediscovered God, I let go of my fears. So the real question is not, what if i will be like my parents, but what kind of parent do I want to be, do I want do to the same mistakes, or do I want to be better. I choose to be better. Good luck with your journey!
Work through the trauma and learn to love yourself and your scars enough to not do that to your kids. I completely sympathize, but understand that for myself and others, that, that is precisely why I feel that. Because I and others are still hurting from past things. People who experience a rough childhood are capable of being amazing understanding empathetic parents. Good luck to you :)
Your mum is the bomb. So inspiring to see a woman from an older generation who has worked on herself. I did not get this inspiration from my mum. Thank you.
To Nathaniel's mom: Thank you for showing that sometimes separating from a toxic family is a step towards a beautiful life. The loving family you created when it was your time to parent is so moving to me. Brava for recognizing your inner wisdom, taking a bold step to honor it, and for being such a loving, supportive mom! ❤❤❤
I wish for every human on earth to have parents that are just 1/10 as self-reflective as your mom is. Amazing! Imagine how great humanity would be. You're lucky af and I see where you're getting it from. All the best to both of you 💛
Her feeling that frustration and hurt from growing up in a family lacking emotional intelligence probably made her aware, as she said, to not do the things she didn’t admire (the things she experienced during her formative years which she didn’t wish to repeat with her own kids). Pride and many other things sadly comes in the way for many parents and to have self-awareness some parents don’t see the need of because hey they are the parents and they always know what is right and their kids should always obey, but a healthy family doesn’t come out of that mindset, instead it will have the opposite effect and create hurt and distance.
Its awkward for me, because my mom is the reason I have to deal with emotions. EDIT: Surprised and glad to hear I'm not the only like this. Good luck to all of us with our emotional health moving forward!
Same. My mom lacks emotional intelligence, so she doesn't even know to deal with her own emotions. Because of that, I have trouble with my own emotions and knowing another person's.
@@bordyponte7219 Said it all, same stuff here. The Boomer's Generation (mostly born 60-80s) it was the one who generally thought that emotional subjects are rubbish, and now with their depleted emotional mental health, put on us a unecessary weight on our backs with complains, fights and lacks of understandings of their and our generation problems.
25 minutes and 35 seconds and I still feel like it was a short conversation. I didn’t want it to end. What a wonderful relationship you have with your mom Nathaniel. 🙏🏻👌🏻
I think a lot of us feel a twinge of relationship envy while watching this, as well as a profound gratitude that people like your mom who "get it" are out there and having healthy relationships like yours. She's so right about developing one's emotional intelligence. That's what I am still working on. I've realized that without it I can't truly ever live for myself in a way that allows joy and creativity to flow through me, and without that I feel I've only been living half a life. Thank you for sharing this inspiring video🤗
I think this is one of most wanted episode ever ,really nobody talks about emotional intelligence , that's really necessary in today's world when we are lacking in it ,I wish I would have a mom like you who really knows you so well
You're so lucky to have a mom that listens to you. My mom is the complete opposite. Just as your mom said, " I don't want to be like my mom." This motivates me everyday actually and it's nice to hear someone else say that for a change.
I am older than your mother. Seeing how young she looks reminds me of my own mother. I had a girlfriend break up with me because her friend saw me letting "some chick" wear my jacket. That chick was my mother. She always looked young, up into her early 60s. Your mom is also very smart, just like mine. It is such a gift to have an intelligent and loving mother like this. You are fortunate, as am I.
This is a joy to watch, I really miss my Mother, but I did not have this kind of relationship with her. Therefore what I'm watching feels so incredibly valuable. Something I could never experience, but something I could definitely appreciate viewing... Thank you for sharing x
I wish my parents were as open to conversations like this. They've always swept issues under the rug and don't like it when I bring things up that hurt me in the past. Your mom is so lovely. You guys have such a beautiful relationship!
These conversations are so important. When I was much younger, feeling whatever was wrong with the world had to be my fault. If you know where to look on the internet, it can be a very useful tool for the better. Even though I wish I had the internet back then, it’s still helpful now. I have noticed such an honesty between you and your parents. It’s so refreshing to see.
You literally uploaded this RIGHT after I had one of those emotional floods from emotion control. RUclips knows what's up haha. I am really glad you uploaded this, it really helped. Thank you.
As a mother, I can totally relate to what your mom was saying. Becoming a parent made me realize that I wanted to raise my kids completely different from my upbringing. I was very intentional about breaking cycles no matter if that made me the black sheep of the family. I was determined to raise emotionally healthy boys and fill them with love. Our children are our biggest teachers. 🤗
This gives me hope. I am a mother committing to break the cycle of emotional abuse I experienced as a child and in my life. Your mother clearly has. You both are so inspiring. Thank you for sharing💕
This is so touching. I'm a newly single mom that just got out of a relationship with a narcissist and when she said, you were her light and the love you have never felt before but then mid-way balancing it out with not being overprotective as a Mom, I'm resonating with that. There is no other option really, I have to make myself a better person at all cost because you have no other stronger desire than not to mess up the kid. Thank you for choosing to do this with your Mom. She is so beautiful.
This conversation definitely evoked an emotional response from me. Your mother’s story and ideas are awe inspiring and I could only wish to have a relationship like you do with her in my life right now, but she is definitely right in saying that it is so amazing you’re able to share this with us through RUclips and that we can share and be surrounded by these constructive ideas regardless of our personal situations. Thank you so much for sharing this conversation with us :)
Your mum had inner strengths that was always there. She felt it and did not realize it then. She is so right about listening to our inner self that a lot of us tend to ignore
You are such an old soul! I can’t believe you are only 22! Keep up the great work! Your mom is amazing She’s about my age but my kids are much younger than you. I still feel like I’m 22 and traveling. I’ve also lived in several countries in my 20s and 30s. That wanderlust hasn’t left me yet!
Your mom is the most wonderful mom I have ever seen! And my heart goes out to her because I also came from an abusive family. I strive to get to her level of emotional intelligence and grace 💛💛💛
I think that you got no idea how this video resume entire childhoods around the globe and how lucky you are to have a so wise mom. Congrats for both of you and i'll do the same with my own mom. Tks
You really have to know yourself🖤 Staying with yourself. Clarity with yourself. What makes you feel solid and grounded.🖤I love this chat. Your Mom is so wise. Thank you for sharing
I connected with everything your mother went through. I am literally going through that right now. 21 years living with my folks while studying. I literally feel like a caged bird. She however didn't really get deeper with how she got through before she had you.
Hey, me too! I was able to leave my home because I got married. It's been a realllly hard year even when I have a great support system. But, you will feel so amazing afterwards. I know it's so hard right now... but don't compromise. You deserve everything you want, and more.
Your mom is so amazing. I never felt safe with my family and also left when I was 18 and moved to the opposite side of the planet. At 23, I couldn't let go of wanting acceptance from my family. Thinking I could repair our relationships as an adult, I moved back home. I realized I just let myself back into a negative, abusive situation where I got criticized, gaslighted, and belittled every day. I spiraled into a deep depression for years. Now at 26, I started a new life again in UK. Still lots of inner-work and healing ahead, but I know I'm moving toward joy and peace. I am very thankful that you used your platform to share her story and wisdom.
You just put the RUclips videos at a higher level. That's incredible and so good to see. Thank you for these beautiful 25 minutes of pure love, honesty and transparency 🙏
Tu madre tiene una alma hermosa. Es gratificante saber que existen personas como ella, personas que quieren mejorarse a si mismos. Gracias por compartir Nathaniel!
wow. your mom has such a radiant soul. i identify with almost everything she said and watching the two of you interact so purely brought a little more love to this day. thank you for sharing this. this ones gonna stick with me for a while
So much useful wisdom in this lovely conversation! "You gotta listen to the feelings. Feelings will always tell you." Feelings are not good or bad, they are information. - Mentors don't have to be your family. It's important to feed yourself with good information (youtube and books). - Take time for introspection. ❤
You're honestly so blessed and lucky to have these two women as your mother and grandmother. I stumbled across your channel yesterday and was struck by how wise and mature you are especially for your age. I'm much older at 39 and currently struggling with CPTSD due to my family. I feel extremely alone in life and wondering what to do really. It sounds like I'm where your mother was when she left home at 18. I wish I'd woken up to the dysfunction in my family earlier. I haven't had children because I've never had long-term stability from depression or found a non abusive compatible partner. I'm envious of you but also glad you're sharing your gift with the world. If everyone had parents like yours we'd all be in a much better place.
I would love to hear more about these kinds of conversations with your mom, I feel like she's overcome a lot and seeing you guys have such a healthy conversation it's inspiring! Hope you'll do a part 2 soon!
Your mom is a wonderful person! And we can all see now where you get your good looks and wisdom. I loved how this video was a conversation and it felt really natural. You would be a great podcaster. 😊
You are indeed so very blessed to have loving supporting parents. Those of us who did not, feel like we spend our whole lives healing from the limitations caused by that wound.
Dude, you've got an amazing mom!!! Thank you both for sharing this conversation, and giving us all glimpse of how positive a deep healthy relationship with a parent can be :)
I saw this like two months ago and it came again today and I just noticed that a lot of what she said stocked in my mind, I have, we can say, applied it all the way possible, and it surprising but well, it was truly useful, i mean it, really useful, I appreciate your work.
Love this style! It’s a different level of honesty that I find super refreshing. Keep up the great work Nathaniel. You have truly been an inspiration for my own creativity
What an incredibly intelligent mom you have Nathaniel! Hence, you are a most introspective son! She explained my path…I grew up in a family who did not value an intuitive, deep exploration of life and the world around you…thus I made it mean something was wrong with me! A life quest for sure. I came alive at the birth of my first born son…that spark of love when I first held him I will never forget! Your moms wisdom is immense! Thank you both!
a few points: 1. i really njoyed tis video so much 2. y isn't it atleast 55 mins? 3. tis shud be like a weekly/monthly series 4. Ur mom is gorgeous inside & out☺
It really should be a weekly/monthly series although it could be really hard for him to be able to present this weekly with us expecting videos on other topics. I loved it though.
I don't like being an asshole and It is clear English is not your first language but a correction to your #4. "Your mom is gorgeous inside *AND* out." I understand that you meant the figure of speech, but what you said means that she looks gorgeous when her inside intestines and guts are turned outside of her mutilated body. Just trying to help future confusion. :)
Afroze Afreen I would listen to a weekly series of this, she is very intelligent. Now I know why he is a well balanced man. His mom did a great job raising him. Such a lovely relationship they have.
Michael It means she is pretty on the inside. Inside = personality. If English is your first language than I am baffled that you have never heard this expression that has been around for millennia. See, you learned something today. Peace and love Michael.
@17:50- 18:45 that one minute talk was so relatable and also have loved how your lovely mother gave a distinction between being difficult and challenging and i absolutely loveeed that !!
As a mother of three very young kids I get everything your mom says. The day I became a mother changed me for the better and each and every day I have to work deeper on myself to be able to do better for them as I also don't want to be like my parents. Motherhood is definitely the most challenging thing I have ever done but so worth every second.
I’m so late to this video but wow it blew my mind. I relate 💯 to your mum. All her accounts about her desperately seeking her mum’s love - I’ve been through all of that. I can’t simplify it all - but I had so much emotional abuse & neglect. I’m now a mother to two girls and I knew from day 1 to never ever be like my mother. To anyone else struggling with similar issues, you can break the generational trauma.
I am literally tearing up because as a first gen seeing that emotion less sense and emotional intuitive thought barely there when talking or simply having conversations with family is hard and feeling that and also learning about yourself and your mental state is so important. Honestly I just got to say everything she was saying was literally everything I’ve been contemplating and worried of bringing up to family or friends about as I feel no one understands that sense of being aware of your emotions and breaking down the intent and source of emotions that leads to our actions. I just really love your mom and her brilliant spirt and wisdom she gave!!! Thanks so much, love your videos!!
Your mom is lovely, this video made me appreciate my relationship with my parents and the way they raised me even more. I think my struggle was always to find like-minded peers that want more from life, introspective, and striving to learn on a consistent basis. All my life I have been around people lacking emotional intelligence and it was really hard to keep friendships and relationships going. It always felt one-sided to me since they didn't really share the same values as me. I am really hoping to find people like you in my life :) Glad I found your channel!
I just love your mother! She is pretty, intelligent and has such a great warm personality. She should have her own youtube channel. I really enjoyed this conversation of the two of you... especially the "cheesy parts" 😉.
I was moved to tears at the end. I hope someday I can be worthy of the respect and admiration from my children that you have for your mother. It is beautiful.
This is such a lovely conversation to have with your mum. I'm so glad that we live in a time when talking about emotional growth is acceptable and listening to others' feelings is encouraged. My parents would not be able to open up like this. It would be talking in another language. Thank you so much for sharing.
Oh man! What a treasure of mom you have! It’s always great to have and listen to these deep conversations, but it’s even better when it’s with your relatives! Take care of her ;)
Tomas Francisco, I know right! I was the same with my 2 sons, but they're total jerks and couldn't accept me. Nathaniel have an open heart and mind to receive and accept his mother's love. Great Mom and Son team💯.
I searched for something random about emotions on youtube and came across this, I enjoyed listening to this conversation and admire your mom's positive mindset. thank you for sending out some the uplifting messages :)
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Thanks man for extending so much positivity on the internet :)
That's really so sad man you deserve a lot more exposure, me and my girlfriend LOVE your content. Also u seem to have a great personality. Recently we've both started getting decent online income streams and are planning to start a world travel. Hope that we'll run in to each other at some point somewhere! Massive respect for what you do & keep doing it!
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Very beautiful Nathaniel, very moving 💛 I think there is nothing more beautiful to say to your child then that they are "a gift". I feel exactly the same way about my own children. They inspire me to become the best version of myself every day.
Wish your mom lived closer so we could have a coffee/tea together some day. (I live in The Netherlands🇳🇱).
Thank you fir sharing.
Amazing video! Glad to see that at least some people share thoughtful and valuable stuff on social media, keep it up!👏
don't take this the wrong way but your mom is really pretty
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Yeah she looks like shes in her 20s!
I was gonna reply this but I see you have already done so :D
Yes, absolutely ❤
ikr she looks so young, too!
SHE LOOKS SO YOUNG
She has good skin
I wanna know her skin care routine!
Its called having latino genes🥰
@@k7hope24 wow what a dumb comment
@@HoloScope i think you didnt get the comment!! He/she said that she looks young and yes its known that latino people dont age slowly.
@@k7hope24 yeah I know what you mean haha, we are happy people and that shows in our skin
People are so lucky to have good parents. Take it from a 24 year old damaged, abused, bullied, tragic victim of all the bad. If you're able to sit down with and have conversations with your family in this way and if you have employed parents who have raised you well , please please please thank God and be truly grateful. You will never know how lucky you are until you go through what I've gone through. Those of you with good family and friends, hug them, love them, thank them. Goodbye Xx
Thank you! & I hope this encourages you to break the cycle by the time you're starting a family of your own x
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thank you for this message, pple rlly do take that for granted, i know i do unfortunately but i try to remind myself to take advantage of the fact that i still have my family here on earth and that we have a decent relationship. 🤍 :) i hope you’re healing
Hello ZV, I just wanted to wish you a happy holiday... I hope you're well. Love ya.
Are you Free of it Now ? How did You Escape ? I'm 26 and still stuck. if you did escape please Let me know how. Because if I don't get financial support from certain family members, I'm basically screwed because the other toxic family members don't do jack for me, bully me so much, control me with money, and sadly I can't go live with grandparents, who knows what's going in the family cult established, which has paralyzed me and made me lose my authentic identity. Sober as of recent with a little bumps due to holiday triggers, being stuck with this family during covid obviously who PLAYS GOD , and disrespects women and live in EGO, I' fucking desperate to Move out but have no plan, that's how well they play with my life, and even forebode the to install Home internet so I can't find people to help me, deliberately locks the kitchen when they leave sometimes, to trigger me on purpose. I don't mind being a hermit in life, but it's important to have emotionally intelligent people to help you grow and reach your potential, instead of break you down and change you into a by product of a narcissistic cult. I hope everyday going to bed I wake up one day in a better place or just not at all. I really Don't want to be here anymore, I'd literally if I had the money, pack my stuff and leave but like I said I have no proper plan, and don't know how to get out safely without them interfering and trying to control my life any further.
your mom broke generational trauma and that's amazing! It's so important! And I'm really happy to say that I'm also doing that right now as I finally see the trauma that my parents gave me and I work on it and heal from it so my children will not suffer as I did :')
I really hope everyone can do this so we can have healthy humans in this world
How did this mother break generational trauma?
@@freshliving4199 her past generation passed on emotional and physical abuse to their children as she talked about in this conversation, but when she left her family and home to go find her own way, she realized that she needed to become a happier, and emotionally healthy person so that her child could be raised in the best environment possible.
@@scromly1169 I agree that something was handed down from the parents.
But how did this mother break generational trauma?
@@freshliving4199 since generational trauma is trauma that is passed down from parent to child, she, by definition, did not follow the cycle. Instead of passing the trauma down to her kid, she raised him healthily. That is what breaking generational trauma is.
same!
Everytime I see/meet a great man, I always wonder who is the person that make him, 'him'.
And here's the answer about you. Your mom is amazing!
This comment is way too cute
hhhaha, i was about to comment this.
Dina Danuri Parenting is a huge part of who you become. A toxic home and abusive parents (emotionally or physically) really makes life much more difficult according to many studies.
@@alexk3763 yeah it makes it more challenging, but like her mom everyone can eventually overcome it!
My thought too!
Daniel to have a mother who says that your birth turned on the lights for her in life is such a blessing. Don’t ever take the power of that love that she has for you for granted. She is the epitome of breaking the cycle of abuse.
Yes he is truly lucky to have a mom like that.
My mom said “ when she gave birth to me, she didn’t want to hold me and she hated me. And shoved me into the doctor hands 🥺. And my dad left after I was born cuz I wasn’t a boy & he never came back
@@Sasha5555 you’re def not alone. My mother reminds me often that I was her toughest pregnancy, and that she had no idea what to do with me - until my younger brother and sister came along. I grew up watching her course correct with them… and now spending my adulthood in recovery
Your mom should have her podcast and be the mentor to young people that may relate to her younger self.
Such a beautiful mind ❤️
Absolutely!
I agree! I would love to listen to her podcast or at least know what books she likes to read
I don't think it's cheesy at all to say a child lights up the life of a mother. Hearing that from your mother made me see what a healthy mother would say when referring to birth. Mine always linked it to stress, trauma, depression, and all the things that transform her into a martyr. How heartwarming to hear something so beautiful and drama-free from you momma.
Same
I wish i have this kind of relationship with my mom
Nhi Hay Đi don’t feel bad. Not all relationships are good. Sometimes we have different perspective to our parents. “Sometimes we don’t understand them and they don’t understand us” but do we sit to talk with them to be more understanding to their personalities and viceversa? See what you can learn from this and go from there.
I feel you as a fellow Vietnamese
We're Vietnamese, and this kinda relationship is so rare to see in our country...
@@ehmo8706 Thank you for this comment. :)
Me too.........
Mom is right, there is a difference between happiness and joy.
Happiness is a high emotion and all that high is bound to come down. Whereas joy is state of mind, peace and contentment within.
A lot of introspection is needed to figure out the world. Slow down, ponder and not get sucked into stresses of modern living.
O'SSEIN, sho'you right!
I bump into you everywhere
O'ssein likes to comment to almost every positivity-videos here on youtube.
Looking at the definition of happiness ('being happy') I'd rather say happiness is contentment with what is and how life's going in general, while on the other hand, joy is being content with what you are doing (hence the term 'enjoying' things).
O'SSÉIN - Master Your Mind With Me. I think it’s the other way around. Joy is momentary
Such a beautiful conversation. Loved every part of it!
“Then I held you and lights went bright” I am in tears🥺❤️❤️❤️
“Difficult is negative” I love that. Use challenging from now on
Me too me too!
Ngl I actually cried just watching how beautiful, open and relaxed your love for one another is. It's palpable on the screen.
When you cry it's mostly not about something happening, but thinking of something that was missing.
In Arabic we said "ذاك الشبل من ذاك الأسد", it means "that cub from that lion", your mom has a powerful mindset. 💙💙
Yea she is so knowledged
"I did not want to screw you up... I didn't want to be like my mother" I am afraid of having kids one day because I don't want to be like my parents.
The more afraid you are of something, the more control it has over you. Rather than being afraid of it, I personally feel it's better to accept that it's inevitable for us to have some traits that our parents have, and that it doesn't always have to be negative. My mom is extremely stubborn and doesn't accept other perspectives, which was passed on to me, but I make a positive twist on it. I use my stubbornness in a more productive way, or at least I try. I use it to keep studying a language that no one thought I would actually master. I use it to do things that perhaps no one thinks I could actually do.
You can be like your parents, but you can strive to be a better version of them, which will lead to the best result.
Gregor Zimmermann You have choice....monitor your thoughts & choose the way that is happiest...watch yourself & choose what to change...🌏
@@annaployglotgirl123 wow, that's actually a really good advice, thank you soo much!
That kind of thinking got myself in a lot of trouble. Self-denial, Nihilism and a hedonic life. Since I rediscovered God, I let go of my fears. So the real question is not, what if i will be like my parents, but what kind of parent do I want to be, do I want do to the same mistakes, or do I want to be better. I choose to be better.
Good luck with your journey!
Work through the trauma and learn to love yourself and your scars enough to not do that to your kids. I completely sympathize, but understand that for myself and others, that, that is precisely why I feel that. Because I and others are still hurting from past things. People who experience a rough childhood are capable of being amazing understanding empathetic parents. Good luck to you :)
Your mum is the bomb. So inspiring to see a woman from an older generation who has worked on herself. I did not get this inspiration from my mum. Thank you.
To Nathaniel's mom: Thank you for showing that sometimes separating from a toxic family is a step towards a beautiful life. The loving family you created when it was your time to parent is so moving to me. Brava for recognizing your inner wisdom, taking a bold step to honor it, and for being such a loving, supportive mom! ❤❤❤
She seems to embody this beautiful combination of youthfulness and old-soul wisdom
“You have been a gift” - Beautiful words from your Mom 👍
I wish for every human on earth to have parents that are just 1/10 as self-reflective as your mom is. Amazing! Imagine how great humanity would be. You're lucky af and I see where you're getting it from. All the best to both of you 💛
The Life Created,it's great to finally see a fairy tale come true isn't it? He and his Mom are a beautiful team ❤️.
Her feeling that frustration and hurt from growing up in a family lacking emotional intelligence probably made her aware, as she said, to not do the things she didn’t admire (the things she experienced during her formative years which she didn’t wish to repeat with her own kids). Pride and many other things sadly comes in the way for many parents and to have self-awareness some parents don’t see the need of because hey they are the parents and they always know what is right and their kids should always obey, but a healthy family doesn’t come out of that mindset, instead it will have the opposite effect and create hurt and distance.
Your mom has the mindset that I aspire to have when I’m older
"We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are." -- Anais Nin
Its awkward for me, because my mom is the reason I have to deal with emotions.
EDIT: Surprised and glad to hear I'm not the only like this. Good luck to all of us with our emotional health moving forward!
Tell me about it!
U and us all
Same. My mom lacks emotional intelligence, so she doesn't even know to deal with her own emotions. Because of that, I have trouble with my own emotions and knowing another person's.
@@bordyponte7219 Said it all, same stuff here. The Boomer's Generation (mostly born 60-80s) it was the one who generally thought that emotional subjects are rubbish, and now with their depleted emotional mental health, put on us a unecessary weight on our backs with complains, fights and lacks of understandings of their and our generation problems.
@@bordyponte7219 you're not alone! I feel ya 💯.
Your mom looks so young and it's also amazing how you can have that kind of conversation with your parents not being awkward. I'm awkward.
"The energy of life pushes you to grow", very well said.
Agree ❤
I'm glad that we're discussing 'cheesy' things like this. I feel like this is a good community.
Jose Enrique Lopez a very good community
Why do you say cheesy?
Your mom is so gorgeous, god bless you both!
Nathaniel is literally the best son that every parent could dream off. I am 26 now but when I am 40 that's the kind of son I wanna have.
I consider you both my mind mentors. Thank you for existing and showing me that calm family conversations are a thing.
25 minutes and 35 seconds and I still feel like it was a short conversation. I didn’t want it to end. What a wonderful relationship you have with your mom Nathaniel. 🙏🏻👌🏻
I think a lot of us feel a twinge of relationship envy while watching this, as well as a profound gratitude that people like your mom who "get it" are out there and having healthy relationships like yours. She's so right about developing one's emotional intelligence. That's what I am still working on. I've realized that without it I can't truly ever live for myself in a way that allows joy and creativity to flow through me, and without that I feel I've only been living half a life. Thank you for sharing this inspiring video🤗
I think this is one of most wanted episode ever ,really nobody talks about emotional intelligence , that's really necessary in today's world when we are lacking in it ,I wish I would have a mom like you who really knows you so well
You're so lucky to have a mom that listens to you. My mom is the complete opposite. Just as your mom said, " I don't want to be like my mom." This motivates me everyday actually and it's nice to hear someone else say that for a change.
His mother made me feel so less alone in regards to my upbringing. We’re doing all the emotional work in 2020
I am older than your mother. Seeing how young she looks reminds me of my own mother. I had a girlfriend break up with me because her friend saw me letting "some chick" wear my jacket. That chick was my mother. She always looked young, up into her early 60s. Your mom is also very smart, just like mine. It is such a gift to have an intelligent and loving mother like this. You are fortunate, as am I.
This is a joy to watch, I really miss my Mother, but I did not have this kind of relationship with her. Therefore what I'm watching feels so incredibly valuable. Something I could never experience, but something I could definitely appreciate viewing... Thank you for sharing x
I wish my parents were as open to conversations like this. They've always swept issues under the rug and don't like it when I bring things up that hurt me in the past. Your mom is so lovely. You guys have such a beautiful relationship!
These conversations are so important. When I was much younger, feeling whatever was wrong with the world had to be my fault. If you know where to look on the internet, it can be a very useful tool for the better. Even though I wish I had the internet back then, it’s still helpful now.
I have noticed such an honesty between you and your parents. It’s so refreshing to see.
The energy of life is meant to push you to grow, we are a creature that need to grow. 🙂
You literally uploaded this RIGHT after I had one of those emotional floods from emotion control. RUclips knows what's up haha. I am really glad you uploaded this, it really helped. Thank you.
As a mother, I can totally relate to what your mom was saying. Becoming a parent made me realize that I wanted to raise my kids completely different from my upbringing. I was very intentional about breaking cycles no matter if that made me the black sheep of the family. I was determined to raise emotionally healthy boys and fill them with love. Our children are our biggest teachers. 🤗
This gives me hope. I am a mother committing to break the cycle of emotional abuse I experienced as a child and in my life. Your mother clearly has. You both are so inspiring. Thank you for sharing💕
damn bro i couldnt talk to my mum on this level. I recently figured out thats where most of my issues with women/opposite sex comes from. props.
first born Knowing is half the battle my dear. Wishing you all the best.
Glad you found out something about yourself. : ) Now you can work with that.
This was the most precious thing I've ever seen. Having someone to be able to talk about these kinda "deep" stuff is just priceless. I adore you guys.
I am glad you realise how lucky you are dude because you are abundantly blessed. Keep up the good work!
Being the one to break that abuse is so hard. We are doing that too. It's certainly lonely at times. Thanks for taking the time to share.
This is so touching. I'm a newly single mom that just got out of a relationship with a narcissist and when she said, you were her light and the love you have never felt before but then mid-way balancing it out with not being overprotective as a Mom, I'm resonating with that. There is no other option really, I have to make myself a better person at all cost because you have no other stronger desire than not to mess up the kid.
Thank you for choosing to do this with your Mom. She is so beautiful.
This conversation definitely evoked an emotional response from me. Your mother’s story and ideas are awe inspiring and I could only wish to have a relationship like you do with her in my life right now, but she is definitely right in saying that it is so amazing you’re able to share this with us through RUclips and that we can share and be surrounded by these constructive ideas regardless of our personal situations. Thank you so much for sharing this conversation with us :)
Your mum had inner strengths that was always there. She felt it and did not realize it then. She is so right about listening to our inner self that a lot of us tend to ignore
You are such an old soul! I can’t believe you are only 22! Keep up the great work! Your mom is amazing She’s about my age but my kids are much younger than you. I still feel like I’m 22 and traveling. I’ve also lived in several countries in my 20s and 30s. That wanderlust hasn’t left me yet!
Wow, your mum is incredible. So intelligent. You're so lucky dude.
Best son and mother conversation I have seen in my life.
Your mom is the most wonderful mom I have ever seen! And my heart goes out to her because I also came from an abusive family. I strive to get to her level of emotional intelligence and grace 💛💛💛
I think that you got no idea how this video resume entire childhoods around the globe and how lucky you are to have a so wise mom. Congrats for both of you and i'll do the same with my own mom. Tks
You really have to know yourself🖤
Staying with yourself. Clarity with yourself. What makes you feel solid and grounded.🖤I love this chat. Your Mom is so wise. Thank you for sharing
I connected with everything your mother went through. I am literally going through that right now. 21 years living with my folks while studying. I literally feel like a caged bird. She however didn't really get deeper with how she got through before she had you.
Hey, me too! I was able to leave my home because I got married. It's been a realllly hard year even when I have a great support system. But, you will feel so amazing afterwards. I know it's so hard right now... but don't compromise. You deserve everything you want, and more.
I love these deep conversations. I have no one to talk like this with. Most people, at least the ones I know, don't want to go there.
I agree. Same here.
Your mom is so amazing. I never felt safe with my family and also left when I was 18 and moved to the opposite side of the planet. At 23, I couldn't let go of wanting acceptance from my family. Thinking I could repair our relationships as an adult, I moved back home. I realized I just let myself back into a negative, abusive situation where I got criticized, gaslighted, and belittled every day. I spiraled into a deep depression for years. Now at 26, I started a new life again in UK. Still lots of inner-work and healing ahead, but I know I'm moving toward joy and peace. I am very thankful that you used your platform to share her story and wisdom.
You just put the RUclips videos at a higher level. That's incredible and so good to see. Thank you for these beautiful 25 minutes of pure love, honesty and transparency 🙏
Tu madre tiene una alma hermosa. Es gratificante saber que existen personas como ella, personas que quieren mejorarse a si mismos. Gracias por compartir Nathaniel!
7:32 "The energy of Life is meant to push you to grow." YES!
It’s an awakening purpose and challenge when your first child is born! I felt you when you expressed your feelings about having Nathan.
wow. your mom has such a radiant soul. i identify with almost everything she said and watching the two of you interact so purely brought a little more love to this day. thank you for sharing this. this ones gonna stick with me for a while
Emotions are crazy important. Learning to manage them can be a big plus on your quest for freedom
So much useful wisdom in this lovely conversation! "You gotta listen to the feelings. Feelings will always tell you." Feelings are not good or bad, they are information. - Mentors don't have to be your family. It's important to feed yourself with good information (youtube and books). - Take time for introspection. ❤
You're honestly so blessed and lucky to have these two women as your mother and grandmother. I stumbled across your channel yesterday and was struck by how wise and mature you are especially for your age. I'm much older at 39 and currently struggling with CPTSD due to my family. I feel extremely alone in life and wondering what to do really. It sounds like I'm where your mother was when she left home at 18. I wish I'd woken up to the dysfunction in my family earlier. I haven't had children because I've never had long-term stability from depression or found a non abusive compatible partner. I'm envious of you but also glad you're sharing your gift with the world. If everyone had parents like yours we'd all be in a much better place.
I would love to hear more about these kinds of conversations with your mom, I feel like she's overcome a lot and seeing you guys have such a healthy conversation it's inspiring! Hope you'll do a part 2 soon!
Your mom is a wonderful person! And we can all see now where you get your good looks and wisdom. I loved how this video was a conversation and it felt really natural. You would be a great podcaster. 😊
You are indeed so very blessed to have loving supporting parents. Those of us who did not, feel like we spend our whole lives healing from the limitations caused by that wound.
I would subscribe to a podcast with his mom in a heartbeat
Thanks for giving us your time! Keep it up bro
Dude, you've got an amazing mom!!! Thank you both for sharing this conversation, and giving us all glimpse of how positive a deep healthy relationship with a parent can be :)
I saw this like two months ago and it came again today and I just noticed that a lot of what she said stocked in my mind, I have, we can say, applied it all the way possible, and it surprising but well, it was truly useful, i mean it, really useful, I appreciate your work.
"you have to know yourself" You have a great mother. So beautiful. Wish I had one. I have subbed
Love this style! It’s a different level of honesty that I find super refreshing. Keep up the great work Nathaniel. You have truly been an inspiration for my own creativity
Someone give this lady an award for being the coolest mom ever
I deeply relate to both you and your mother. So many parallels here. I couldn't love this video more.
I’m 47 and I wish I had a mom like that. Great job mom 💕
I'm incredibly jealous of your relationship with your mom. I've NEVER had a conversation like this with any of my parents.
@@amremorse Lonely, but not lonely.
It amazed me the resemblances in both of you, the way you look and smile and etc. Such a lovely and wise mom too!
Beautiful conversation by beautiful people. I love how you two sit mirrored to each other, legs crossed, phones on the upper lap, etc. Adorable!
What an incredibly intelligent mom you have Nathaniel! Hence, you are a most introspective son! She explained my path…I grew up in a family who did not value an intuitive, deep exploration of life and the world around you…thus I made it mean something was wrong with me! A life quest for sure. I came alive at the birth of my first born son…that spark of love when I first held him I will never forget! Your moms wisdom is immense! Thank you both!
a few points:
1. i really njoyed tis video so much
2. y isn't it atleast 55 mins?
3. tis shud be like a weekly/monthly series
4. Ur mom is gorgeous inside & out☺
It really should be a weekly/monthly series although it could be really hard for him to be able to present this weekly with us expecting videos on other topics. I loved it though.
I don't like being an asshole and It is clear English is not your first language but a correction to your #4.
"Your mom is gorgeous inside *AND* out."
I understand that you meant the figure of speech, but what you said means that she looks gorgeous when her inside intestines and guts are turned outside of her mutilated body. Just trying to help future confusion. :)
Afroze Afreen I would listen to a weekly series of this, she is very intelligent. Now I know why he is a well balanced man. His mom did a great job raising him. Such a lovely relationship they have.
Michael It means she is pretty on the inside. Inside = personality. If English is your first language than I am baffled that you have never heard this expression that has been around for millennia. See, you learned something today. Peace and love Michael.
@17:50- 18:45 that one minute talk was so relatable and also have loved how your lovely mother gave a distinction between being difficult and challenging and i absolutely loveeed that !!
Fatima Zahra Blogs, those two are paired and Blessed 💘 with each other. Most kids nowadays are difficult as HELL. I'm just being REAL 👌.
"I had to not screw you up" Thank god parents like this exist.
As a mother of three very young kids I get everything your mom says. The day I became a mother changed me for the better and each and every day I have to work deeper on myself to be able to do better for them as I also don't want to be like my parents. Motherhood is definitely the most challenging thing I have ever done but so worth every second.
You really are your mother’s son. I can see where the introspection comes from! Really well done, love the relationship you two have!:)
Wow, your mom is incredible and have a real spirituality. You too are so touching
I’m so late to this video but wow it blew my mind. I relate 💯 to your mum. All her accounts about her desperately seeking her mum’s love - I’ve been through all of that. I can’t simplify it all - but I had so much emotional abuse & neglect.
I’m now a mother to two girls and I knew from day 1 to never ever be like my mother.
To anyone else struggling with similar issues, you can break the generational trauma.
I am literally tearing up because as a first gen seeing that emotion less sense and emotional intuitive thought barely there when talking or simply having conversations with family is hard and feeling that and also learning about yourself and your mental state is so important. Honestly I just got to say everything she was saying was literally everything I’ve been contemplating and worried of bringing up to family or friends about as I feel no one understands that sense of being aware of your emotions and breaking down the intent and source of emotions that leads to our actions. I just really love your mom and her brilliant spirt and wisdom she gave!!! Thanks so much, love your videos!!
Your mom is lovely, this video made me appreciate my relationship with my parents and the way they raised me even more.
I think my struggle was always to find like-minded peers that want more from life, introspective, and striving to learn on a consistent basis. All my life I have been around people lacking emotional intelligence and it was really hard to keep friendships and relationships going. It always felt one-sided to me since they didn't really share the same values as me. I am really hoping to find people like you in my life :) Glad I found your channel!
I just love your mother! She is pretty, intelligent and has such a great warm personality. She should have her own youtube channel. I really enjoyed this conversation of the two of you... especially the "cheesy parts" 😉.
I was moved to tears at the end. I hope someday I can be worthy of the respect and admiration from my children that you have for your mother. It is beautiful.
So pure. How every realtionship should be between parent and child.
This is such a lovely conversation to have with your mum. I'm so glad that we live in a time when talking about emotional growth is acceptable and listening to others' feelings is encouraged. My parents would not be able to open up like this. It would be talking in another language. Thank you so much for sharing.
Oh man! What a treasure of mom you have! It’s always great to have and listen to these deep conversations, but it’s even better when it’s with your relatives! Take care of her ;)
Tomas Francisco, I know right! I was the same with my 2 sons, but they're total jerks and couldn't accept me. Nathaniel have an open heart and mind to receive and accept his mother's love. Great Mom and Son team💯.
I searched for something random about emotions on youtube and came across this, I enjoyed listening to this conversation and admire your mom's positive mindset. thank you for sending out some the uplifting messages :)
Holy shit your mom is the most beautiful person I’ve ever seen. Inside and out. A true gift of a spirit