3 days before the wedding I found this video. Couldn’t have had the success I did without this man. Dread and nerves turned into confidence and charisma. Thank you!
Doing one in a couple months and just started writing. I hate all the constant thanking and toasting and copy paste jokes when I go to a wedding, so couldn’t agree more with what you said. Also a great way to cut down on time and keep the audience engaged.
Dude, watched this video 1 week prior to the wedding, still thought I had no chance at getting through it. Ended up completely killing it with a standing ovation 😂 this video is a must for every best man
I used this advice in my best man speech last week - absolutely nailed it, although I tried to make it more heartwarming with one or 2 funny stories/examples (not so much comedy) To add to this video - it does not in any way have to be laugh out loud all the way through and although he is right people don’t wanna hear the same stuff 1000 times, they’re still all there on good vibes so they’ll be smiling and laughing along if you get it right! Defo practice in front of others but bring the speech on cards/paper
1:01 "the best way to write a wedding speech is to make the whole thing a story." - This is the kind of big picture advice I came looking for. I've got a couple months to figure this out... 🤷♂️
@@phasm42I have put off for a year and have 4 weeks to get it done haha absolutely bricking it and don’t think it will be 10 mins more like 5 but yeah a story from being kids to going through teen years and some funky things then tie it all up with where he’s at now and how happy you are for him and his new family ?
I just want to say a big thank you for this video. I did my best man speech this weekend just gone and this advice helped me nail it. What I had written before I saw this video was good, but I focused too much on two stories which just went on for too long. After seeing this I re-wrote it to just flow through as one long story with lots of little jokes and often references back to previous parts to build on them. I didn’t use any cookie cutter jokes and just had some fun with it, using a few untruths to bring it altogether and make it even funnier. It took about 8 minutes and that seemed about spot on. Afterwards I had a lot of people come up to me to say how good it was and I’d got it perfect. I felt like I was on cloud 9 the rest of the night as it was something I’d been terrified of doing for months. If you’re about to do a best man speech follow this advice and you’ll be fine!
Some of this is good but you may be talking to people who are not comedians in any capacity so to just say the whole purpose of a best man speech is to make people laugh I think it bad advice. You need to stay true to yourself and just put the groom in a positive light. The reality is these speech’s are just something you have to get through whether you’re the speaker or the listener. It’s just a part of the wedding so even if it’s not funny as long as the groom is left in a positive light that’s good.
If there was ever a time to tap-in to your inner joker, the times is now. It’s a celebration, jokes brings levels and energy. Lighthearted tales and fantasy is what the guests are craving. Jokes and laughs will help the speech land and last, most ppl just want to get the party started, you’ve got to bring it.
I will also add that 10 minutes is an enormous amount of time for a best man speech. 5 minutes tops. If you’ve got 10 minutes worth of things to talk about then you are doing exactly what this guy told you not to talk about most likely lol
@@jbuz289 Honestly i would love to say that i aced it but i feel like i was a mumbling mess, the groom seemed to like it though but i really feel like i let him down. If you have a speech coming up, just go for it with confidence as i wish i could turn back time and use the confidence this last year has given me. Good luck my friend.
Helpful video. Yes, short chronological story how you met them to present days Top Tip: Exaggerate…..(if it’s funny) Make stuff up (if it’s funny) Embarrass (if it is funny)
I smashed it, despite weeks of pretty much making myself unwell with worry. I could definitely have done better and I’m annoyed that I messed a few bits up but I think that I set a very high bar for myself, so not quite clearing it wasn’t the end of the world. I feel like to most guests, it was probably a solid 7/8 out of 10 but it felt more like a 5/6 to me. I didn’t buy into everything in this video, but one big thing I did take was to cut out a whole load of stuff that was just about me knowing the groom and living with him for years. It wasn’t funny and it wasn’t heartwarming, it was just fluff, so a couple of days before, it all got hacked out of the speech. If you’re writing a speech and anxious about it, if you take one thing from this video and this comment, let it be that. If something isn’t funny, isn’t nice or isn’t an essential part of the set up to something funny or nice, get it out.
Completely disagree :/ The best man isn't there to entertain anyone. Be impactful... Actually talk about your feelings about the groom, and the groom and bride.
Hi, thanks for commenting, because it’s always interesting to discuss. You’re obviously entitled to your opinion and if that works for you, then great. I see you’re in the US. I write for a lot of clients in America and it’s true that in your country the balance between humour and sentiment is much more slewed towards sentiment. However, it should always have some entertainment in there. The humour in a best man speech is there to balance out the more meaningful things that are always an important part of the speech. In the UK we like our speeches to be funny. Never a roast, but funny, and everyone expects that. If you were to stand up and make a best man speech in Britain that was 6 minutes of how much you love the guy, completely devoid of entertainment, then everyone is going to think you’re having some kind of breakdown.
@@Allspeechesgreatandsmallgp Oh 100%, I completely agree with this sentiment. Just not how it was worded in the video necessarily (especially at the beginning). I think a mix is great. I never realized that the culture behind such a speech would be so different in some countries. For me, I'd say a best man's speech CAN and SHOULD have humor. But that the speech is not meant to be entertaining. I separate those things in my mind. If it ends up entertaining, great. If not, then that's fine. It's more of a consequence than a goal. I will say, looking back at it now, a lot of videos of the British, Scottish and Irish bestmans speeches have been way funnier. I have my brothers wedding tomorrow, so just looking for last minute pointers when I found this video.
Guys if you’re not confident about being funny don’t worry about it. NO ONE IS THERE TOO LISTEN TO YOU. Just work on the other aspects and if you want you can throw in simple jokes that weave into the story well
I think the whole idea of the best man speech mainly being funny is also a bit out dated - I'm not the type to crack jokes so trying to make my best man speech funny isn't going to work.
I appreciate your help but the fact you say you have to be funny and entertain everyone doesn't help. Especially for the introverts among us. Making people laugh isn't a guarantee and does nothing but adds pressure...
3 days before the wedding I found this video. Couldn’t have had the success I did without this man. Dread and nerves turned into confidence and charisma. Thank you!
I feel there’s a lot of advice but not enough detail. I’m not over the dread yet.
Watch again and start writing 🙏
Four days for me man, we'll see how this goes!
Doing one in a couple months and just started writing. I hate all the constant thanking and toasting and copy paste jokes when I go to a wedding, so couldn’t agree more with what you said. Also a great way to cut down on time and keep the audience engaged.
Dude, watched this video 1 week prior to the wedding, still thought I had no chance at getting through it. Ended up completely killing it with a standing ovation 😂 this video is a must for every best man
I used this advice in my best man speech last week - absolutely nailed it, although I tried to make it more heartwarming with one or 2 funny stories/examples (not so much comedy)
To add to this video - it does not in any way have to be laugh out loud all the way through and although he is right people don’t wanna hear the same stuff 1000 times, they’re still all there on good vibes so they’ll be smiling and laughing along if you get it right! Defo practice in front of others but bring the speech on cards/paper
1:01 "the best way to write a wedding speech is to make the whole thing a story." - This is the kind of big picture advice I came looking for. I've got a couple months to figure this out... 🤷♂️
How’d you di
@@byronloves7472 I think I did alright, came up with an anecdote from when we were kids that I was able to tie into my conclusion.
@@phasm42I have put off for a year and have 4 weeks to get it done haha absolutely bricking it and don’t think it will be 10 mins more like 5 but yeah a story from being kids to going through teen years and some funky things then tie it all up with where he’s at now and how happy you are for him and his new family ?
I just want to say a big thank you for this video. I did my best man speech this weekend just gone and this advice helped me nail it.
What I had written before I saw this video was good, but I focused too much on two stories which just went on for too long. After seeing this I re-wrote it to just flow through as one long story with lots of little jokes and often references back to previous parts to build on them. I didn’t use any cookie cutter jokes and just had some fun with it, using a few untruths to bring it altogether and make it even funnier. It took about 8 minutes and that seemed about spot on.
Afterwards I had a lot of people come up to me to say how good it was and I’d got it perfect. I felt like I was on cloud 9 the rest of the night as it was something I’d been terrified of doing for months.
If you’re about to do a best man speech follow this advice and you’ll be fine!
Hey Andy, would you mind sharing your speech if you still have it written down? I’ve got mine coming up in a couple of weeks
Writing a speech for the wedding tomorrow. Only problem is I don’t know the guy. This’ll be fun.
how did it go?
@@rhysogrady3755 he's married to the Groom now
My last one i didnt know the bride. She got the most general line at the end but what can you do
Some of this is good but you may be talking to people who are not comedians in any capacity so to just say the whole purpose of a best man speech is to make people laugh I think it bad advice. You need to stay true to yourself and just put the groom in a positive light. The reality is these speech’s are just something you have to get through whether you’re the speaker or the listener. It’s just a part of the wedding so even if it’s not funny as long as the groom is left in a positive light that’s good.
If there was ever a time to tap-in to your inner joker, the times is now. It’s a celebration, jokes brings levels and energy. Lighthearted tales and fantasy is what the guests are craving. Jokes and laughs will help the speech land and last, most ppl just want to get the party started, you’ve got to bring it.
I will also add that 10 minutes is an enormous amount of time for a best man speech. 5 minutes tops. If you’ve got 10 minutes worth of things to talk about then you are doing exactly what this guy told you not to talk about most likely lol
Salute brother.. best advice yet👍and I'm taking it💯
Really solid advice. Much better than the other cookie cutter videos
Now this video i can get on board with, great advice. Though i am still shitting my pants
How did it go?
@@jbuz289 Honestly i would love to say that i aced it but i feel like i was a mumbling mess, the groom seemed to like it though but i really feel like i let him down. If you have a speech coming up, just go for it with confidence as i wish i could turn back time and use the confidence this last year has given me. Good luck my friend.
Solid tips
Helpful video.
Yes, short chronological story how you met them to present days
Top Tip:
Exaggerate…..(if it’s funny)
Make stuff up (if it’s funny)
Embarrass (if it is funny)
Gotta do a best man speech in couple of week. This will help thanks :)
This really helped me thanks 🙏
Have you done the speech? Hope you smashed it pal.
best best man speech tips ive seen yet
Thanks so much absolutely fascinating
I smashed it, despite weeks of pretty much making myself unwell with worry.
I could definitely have done better and I’m annoyed that I messed a few bits up but I think that I set a very high bar for myself, so not quite clearing it wasn’t the end of the world.
I feel like to most guests, it was probably a solid 7/8 out of 10 but it felt more like a 5/6 to me.
I didn’t buy into everything in this video, but one big thing I did take was to cut out a whole load of stuff that was just about me knowing the groom and living with him for years. It wasn’t funny and it wasn’t heartwarming, it was just fluff, so a couple of days before, it all got hacked out of the speech.
If you’re writing a speech and anxious about it, if you take one thing from this video and this comment, let it be that. If something isn’t funny, isn’t nice or isn’t an essential part of the set up to something funny or nice, get it out.
Great
Thanks for the advice, I have 3 weeks to try finish mine. Still not sure how to go about it!
Same. 4-3-22
How did it go? I got mine in 1.5 days.
Great tips, thanks!
This gave me anxiety
Completely disagree :/ The best man isn't there to entertain anyone. Be impactful... Actually talk about your feelings about the groom, and the groom and bride.
Hi, thanks for commenting, because it’s always interesting to discuss. You’re obviously entitled to your opinion and if that works for you, then great. I see you’re in the US. I write for a lot of clients in America and it’s true that in your country the balance between humour and sentiment is much more slewed towards sentiment. However, it should always have some entertainment in there. The humour in a best man speech is there to balance out the more meaningful things that are always an important part of the speech. In the UK we like our speeches to be funny. Never a roast, but funny, and everyone expects that. If you were to stand up and make a best man speech in Britain that was 6 minutes of how much you love the guy, completely devoid of entertainment, then everyone is going to think you’re having some kind of breakdown.
@@Allspeechesgreatandsmallgp Oh 100%, I completely agree with this sentiment. Just not how it was worded in the video necessarily (especially at the beginning). I think a mix is great. I never realized that the culture behind such a speech would be so different in some countries. For me, I'd say a best man's speech CAN and SHOULD have humor. But that the speech is not meant to be entertaining. I separate those things in my mind. If it ends up entertaining, great. If not, then that's fine. It's more of a consequence than a goal. I will say, looking back at it now, a lot of videos of the British, Scottish and Irish bestmans speeches have been way funnier. I have my brothers wedding tomorrow, so just looking for last minute pointers when I found this video.
@@sagestation7831 good luck with your speech! Hope it goes brilliantly
Guys if you’re not confident about being funny don’t worry about it. NO ONE IS THERE TOO LISTEN TO YOU. Just work on the other aspects and if you want you can throw in simple jokes that weave into the story well
How about a 60 second speech
I think the whole idea of the best man speech mainly being funny is also a bit out dated - I'm not the type to crack jokes so trying to make my best man speech funny isn't going to work.
I am 14 and have 2 weeks to write a speech😬
Wow, that's hardcore. Let me know if you need a chat
I appreciate your help but the fact you say you have to be funny and entertain everyone doesn't help. Especially for the introverts among us. Making people laugh isn't a guarantee and does nothing but adds pressure...
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