This book has been a blessing I didn't know I needed so badly. It has made me understand many aspects of my life, my shortcomings and how to show up better in the world. I take responsobility of what's on me and handle people around me healthily.
Summary/ Overview: Key ideas in Set Boundaries, Find Peace 00:00 Introduction 01:27 1 Healthy relationships need healthy boundaries. 02:31 1 Healthy relationships need healthy boundaries. Boundaries, 6st -Physical - body and personal space. -Sexual - limiting inappropriate conversation topics, sexually charged jokes. -Intellectural - opinions -Emotional - feelings -Material - -Time - 04:37 2 Most relationship problems are caused by boundaries that are either too porous or too rigid. Porous - people pleasing, codependence, enmeshment. Reclaim your autonomy insteed. Rigid - inability vulnerability. 07:47 3 Setting healthy boundaries requires clear communication and consistent action. Assertive, forego with/ be 'modelling'. 10:49 4 Dealing with boundary violations means issuing a consequence. 13:44 5 Healthy boundaries are also about having a good relationship with yourself. Ex: how you spend your money and eat. Self-care, authenticity. Say no when you dont have time, and things you dont like so you have more time to say yes to things you 'like'. 16:44 6 Setting boundaries with family is part of the process of becoming an adult. Distance, how often you see and phone eachother, emotional distance, distance intimate details and personal life. Practice asserting your will, solve your own problems, make own decisions, express your opinion, self-autonomy. Both ways. 19:43 7 Setting boundaries in the office is essential for enjoying your work and doing a good job. 22:31 8 Setting romantic boundaries means clearly communicating your needs and your expectations for the future. 25:50 Summary, steps: 1 identify the areas in your relationsships where you feel you need clearer boundaries 2 assert your needs to the person as confidently and straightforwardly as possible 3 deal maturely with whatever discomfort ensues from setting your boundary. it will only be awkward if you make it awkward. 4 back up your boundary if necessary by restating it or issues a consequence. -plan what you want to say in advance. 27:12 Exercise: 3 columns, 3x1 1st boundaries you want to implement 2nd polite but assertive statements expressing your boundary 3rd consequences that you could realistically enact if your boundary isnt honored www.blinkist.com/en/books/set-boundaries-find-peace-en
This book has been a blessing I didn't know I needed so badly. It has made me understand many aspects of my life, my shortcomings and how to show up better in the world. I take responsobility of what's on me and handle people around me healthily.
Summary/ Overview:
Key ideas in Set Boundaries, Find Peace
00:00 Introduction
01:27 1 Healthy relationships need healthy boundaries.
02:31 1 Healthy relationships need healthy boundaries.
Boundaries, 6st
-Physical - body and personal space.
-Sexual - limiting inappropriate conversation topics, sexually charged jokes.
-Intellectural - opinions
-Emotional - feelings
-Material -
-Time -
04:37 2 Most relationship problems are caused by boundaries that are either too porous or too rigid.
Porous - people pleasing, codependence, enmeshment. Reclaim your autonomy insteed.
Rigid - inability vulnerability.
07:47 3 Setting healthy boundaries requires clear communication and consistent action.
Assertive, forego with/ be 'modelling'.
10:49 4 Dealing with boundary violations means issuing a consequence.
13:44 5 Healthy boundaries are also about having a good relationship with yourself.
Ex: how you spend your money and eat. Self-care, authenticity. Say no when you dont have time, and things you dont like so you have more time to say yes to things you 'like'.
16:44 6 Setting boundaries with family is part of the process of becoming an adult.
Distance, how often you see and phone eachother, emotional distance, distance intimate details and personal life.
Practice asserting your will, solve your own problems, make own decisions, express your opinion, self-autonomy. Both ways.
19:43 7 Setting boundaries in the office is essential for enjoying your work and doing a good job.
22:31 8 Setting romantic boundaries means clearly communicating your needs and your expectations for the future.
25:50 Summary, steps:
1 identify the areas in your relationsships where you feel you need clearer boundaries
2 assert your needs to the person as confidently and straightforwardly as possible
3 deal maturely with whatever discomfort ensues from setting your boundary. it will only be awkward if you make it awkward.
4 back up your boundary if necessary by restating it or issues a consequence.
-plan what you want to say in advance.
27:12 Exercise:
3 columns, 3x1
1st boundaries you want to implement
2nd polite but assertive statements expressing your boundary
3rd consequences that you could realistically enact if your boundary isnt honored
www.blinkist.com/en/books/set-boundaries-find-peace-en
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