What if I'm Not Actually Gay?- Late Life Coming Out
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- Опубликовано: 8 сен 2024
- Hello! My name is Emily and on my channel I share my late life lesbian journey of getting divorced from a man after being married for over 10 years and coming out as a lesbian at the age of 33.
A question I get a lot from other women in my situation is "what if I'm not actually gay?"
So I share a few thoughts and ideas on that in this video 😊
If you want to know more about my story, check out my 3 part series on meeting my husband, getting married, realizing my interest in women, and coming out!
• Realizing I was Gay- 3...
Connect with me on Instagram at / thelatelifelesbian
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When I was thinking, "Hmmmm... I think I actually AM gay," but wasn't sure, a good (very straight) friend said, "Straight women don't sit around wondering if they're straight or not." So whether that means you're bi (or pan) or gay, that's the part of the spectrum to explore... but you're probably not straight if you're wondering about. That helped a lot!
Ooooh that's really good!!!! Thank you for sharing that!!!
Good one!!
True. And some hate lgbtq so u can definately see a difference. Plus it was confirmed for me. Romantically speaking with women but even me dreamin bout eatin punani😂 i was like damn once i decided to stop hiding it , was no holding me back. But then my mom react how she did horribly, im bi so it easiee for me just go with dudes. But im always thinkin bout a woman honestly.
I'm married with a son. When I got married I thought I could just keep my attraction to women contained. I thought I could just live my life without ever acknowledging it or pursuing it. All I've ended up doing is trapping myself and inducing despair and chaos. Just months ago I thought I could just exist this way for the sake of my son but I dont think its possible. I'm terrified of the absolute hurricane I would cause if I came out.
Just saw this comment was made 5 months ago. Hope things turned out for you!
Selfish bish
Thinking of you! Hope everything is ok 💖
Update?
Update! whatever you decided its ok
It took me a long time to be honest with myself that I did actually want to kiss/ be intimate with a woman. What was easier to admit was that I felt nothing being intimate with a man and it was never something I would genuinely seek out and crave/ want. It turns out that straight women do genuinely desire to be intimate with a man!
Yes! Exactly!
I never thought about it like that 🤔
It took me sooo long to figure out my sexuality, because I don't feel sexually attracted to any gender and so I thought I go with the default: straight. Now I'm 28 and know that I'm asexual, but still want to have a relationship with a woman. We need to talk more about stuff like this when growing up!
Aw yes definitely agree!
My issue is I have chronic depression and don't feel much toward anything or about anything
So when it comes to dating I have no idea how I feel, nothing or noone excites me (men so far)
Thank you for also bringing up the same questions about men. People often skip that part. Sometimes it’s easier to find out what your orientation leans towards, by realizing what you DON’T like.
I’ve known I was bi since I was 16, but am trying to decide between heavily woman-leaning bi or late bloomer lesbian at 30. I’m constantly demoralized by friends and family members “oh, you just haven’t met the RIGHT man, all your relationships have been assholes.” I’d like to find community support on that topic.
Yes, I know there are better men out there, I haven’t lost hope on that but I don’t want to pursue a sexual relationship with a man and am highly skeptical of trying out another hetero romantic relationship. People just won’t take that at face value and it’s so frustrating. I just have zero desire to get cozy with a man again.
I can definitely relate to that!! I think a lot of "late lifers" relate to that! If you're interested, I just launched an online community for late lifers or women questioning their sexuality to connect! You can check it out here if you want! Just know, you're not alone in your feelings with all that!!
the-late-life-lesbian.mn.co/plans/196176?bundle_token=4e848744e6dc255a1b999443a5d220b7
I hope you found some peace and love. Remember, you don't have to keep your family in your life if they do not love and support you, no matter what 'tradition' dictates. You only have one life to live. Live it on your own terms.
I feel sometimes like my orientation almost changes on the daily, it’s like a rollercoaster of attraction 🤪 geez, everyone looks good
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Pansexual?
This 💯, I feel like a nutter.
@@pink994 I think a better label would be abrosexual, it is explicitly explained as having changing sexualities whether it be hours, days, weeks, months at a time in one identity, IF she’s not suffering from heteronormative expectations.
@@elking8373 the term for that is called sexual fluidy it is prevalent especially in women
I needed this video, you have no idea how hard the last 2 weeks have been after separation but you have just settled everything in 5 minutes. Thank you so much x
Awwww you're welcome and I'm glad I've been able to help!
Megan
I went through this process in 1997. It was a struggle, however, I am living my true identity. I have a great male partner and my friends and family are totally cool with it. Keep your head high.
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How are you coping now? I just broke it off with him last night and it's been a very tearful day
Awww I'm sorry
Is it fair to say though that someone who was questioning their sexuality might find the idea of intimacy with a woman scary, or even gross? But then realise when they have that experience that they do actually love it? Just a thought because someone thinking that certain parts of sex with a woman might be gross, may not necessarily indicate that’s not what they’d be into?
I think this could be a fair point as well. I think a lot of woman after scared about their first time with a woman out of fear of not knowing what to do or how it will go out yes even if they'll like it, but I do still think the desire and the want to experience it is there along with maybe some fear.
I’ve had this fear myself. That even if in my head it’s great, I’ll not like the real thing. However, asexuality is totally valid too.
I’ve been bi-sexual since grade school. Had a few petting experiences during that time. Only have had sex with one woman over the past 40 years ( our last escapade 3 months ago). Not that I didn’t want to but you know how society is/was. I’ve been married for 27 years. He knows Ive had interest but not to the extent I feel within myself. I truly think if I’d have met the right woman...I just never put myself out there. Now at 61...I think of women all the time.
Jim, I remind you that this isn't everyone's experience including mine with my ex husband. He and I are good friends and co parent very well for our son and it's all a very good dynamic. If you're going to spread negativity to my followers, I will remove you.
I can definitely understand and is all a lot to think about but in my opinion never too late to do what's right for you whatever that may be
@jim maDDEN the way things are worded just come across as attacking and very negative at times so would be helpful to choose your words carefully. I'm all for people having good conversation and asking questions here to help gain clarity, but in a kind, inquisitive, respectful way.
@@jimmadden6406 thank you
For me, the s**ual stuff was never the issue...I just thought I was bi. It wasn't until I had a female roommate that I realized the life-ing with a woman is what is most appealing to me. I would date men then freak out and break up with them but knowing why or thinking they were the problem but it just kept happening until I realized that I want a whole life with a woman. My view of happily ever after totally changed! ❤️🥰
Awww love it!
Same for me with men, I'm a guy who had gfs growing up, but I felt something was always wrong or missing, I then meet a guy and the next thing I know we go out for fun, just to hang out, and we've been dating since, people just think were friends only, were too embarrassed to tell anyone that were gay. I think some have figured it out tho. A lot of people seem to give us gay guys a tougher time
I do think it can be harder for men sometimes but the same definitely happens for men as women with finding out later in life
@@TheLateLifeLesbian i feel alive again when I'm with him. Like I found myself.
I was in my mid-30's before I finally came to grips with the fact that I was gay. I had fooled around with other men a few times throughout my life and just figured I was bi, but only dated and pursued women due to social pressures/concerns. I've dated several women but all of those relationships only lasted a few months. I never enjoyed having sex with women because it just felt dull and unexciting (no offense ladies!), yet if I had sex with another man, it was exhilarating and satisfying. One felt right, the other didn't. Hey, I can't say I didn't try! lmao
Lol I think a lot of lesbian women feel the same way!! So interesting to hear it from a guy too!
Hi there, what you wrote sounds like me, as all the girlfriends that iv'e had in the past has only ever lasted a few months also. And i new that there was things happing to me from the age of 23, but didn't try ie do stuff like sex etc with another man untill i was 29 yrs of age, and although going down on men was nice as i totaly enjoyed doing it having sex with men at first put me off guy's untill i tryed it again with the same guy. So i no that i'm gay and iv'e knowned it for a few years now. As yes don't get me wrong ladies your good looking but it's not at all for me no more sadly... I'm now 38 yrs old and to this day there's only a few of my family that thinks i'm bisexual and about 3 people know that i'm infact gay. So i'm a late bloomer to and i'm really ready to come out now to everyone as it's eating me up in side me. Thank's for ready x
Thank's for reading that should have said there lol not thanks for ready lol haha x
Thank's Emily! Just wish i could be happy, just i'm living at home as my dads not well, and my parents thinks it's weird me liking men, as i told them that i was bisexual in this first Covid 19 lockdown that we had, but i'm not bisexual, i'm 100% gay but couldn't tell them as my mum has already called me all the names under the sun, witch upset me, so i know that i can't be ever happy, as all i want is to be happy in love like you are but i can't see that happening any time soon 😔 Also one brother knows about me but the other don't nor does my sister no about me at all as they think that i'm straight, witch i'm not, and they ask me things like so are you getting back witch your ex partner witch was a women, and i'm like no i'm not as i'm not interested in her that's Leigh or any women!! But i can't tell them that i'm actually gay because i feel as if i will be judged and that's by my own family Emily, so i don't know what to do? X
I think everything happens in it's own time and when it's meant to. Things often just take time
This is something I definitely needed to hear, was engaged at 20 left at 22, dated 2 other men after and each time I kept thinking of WOMEN or wishing they were women, came out at 28 and now at 30 I'm with a women and its a whole new world and it feels normal. I identify as Pan but women are gorgeous 😍. It was very hard to fully accept myself after I fully came out due to having INTERNALIZED HOMOPHOBIA due to how our SOCIETY IS BUILT. BUT I Am TRUELY HAPPY 😊
Awww I'm so happy to hear that for you!! I can relate in a lot of ways
@@TheLateLifeLesbian did you ever have to cope with feeling GUILTY when leaving your partner to go and figure your self out? What did u do to not feel that guilty feeling, i still feel like im "doing a bad thing" or being seriously judged, even though I feel pride in knowing who I am that feeling does creep up on me when I get looks or the topic comes up with people who feel negative about the LGBTQ+ community
Oh I have definitely felt guilty and felt bad and wishes that things could be different but they aren't and I'm ok with that and I choose to accept and be proud of who I am because I'm the one and only me!!
@@TheLateLifeLesbian thank-you it really helps to know I'm not alone.
@@817chaparra you're definitely not alone!
I came out in my 20s, as bi, had no issues with family or friends accepting me. I have dated men & women openly since coming out, but ultimately married a man, that knows that I am sexually attracted to women. In my heart I know that I am a lesbian, but struggled with accepting that myself, which is why I would date men. I holding out hope that I can convince my husband, one day, to let me have a girlfriend 🤞🏾But he can't 😜
Aww well I can say that while having a girlfriend while married sounds like the best of both worlds, it often doesn't end well. But I hope you find what's right for you!
Wow this was eye opening. My sexuality is fluid and I’ve never been with a woman. But I am attracted to a particular woman and if it feels right I’m going after it. There shouldn’t be any labels, I just want to feel and give my next partner all the best of me. It’s a process.... 😘😘😘
I can definitely understand this too!! 🤗
I’m finding the idea of fluid sexuality Fascinating 🧐 I’m seeing more and more middle aged adults coming out as gay or bi. It’s an interesting subject. 😁
@@claytonloringnhti it really is!! I think there's both fluidity and suppression of feelings personally
I absolutely love your direct approach to ask yourself if you truly are gay, but I have a slightly different view on that though. If you do find yourself questioning your sexuality after the fact then most likely this is more proof/a sign that you are not straight. This is exactly why I hate putting labels on anything especially sexuality (& even gender orientation). Plus being bi/gay still falls under the amazing rainbow (no pun intended) spectrum of the cliche label of LGBTQ+.
Ohh I'm definitely on the lesbian end of the spectrum personally. But I agree we shouldn't have to always have a label for things
Also, you should listen to your body. When you are thinking about different things, you're body's reactions will help you explore.
Emily,
Great stuff...
Seven years amicably divorced from my late-life Lesbian wife epiphany... and we have two kiddos.
Although I’ve kinda figured this all out over the past seven years. Enjoy your perspective!
Clay
Thanks clay!😊
Great video. I know 💯 % I am gay. As nothing freaks me about about being with a women. Even the things my straight friends think is icky 😂 And I have felt this way since I was a kid, when I didn’t know what it was exactly. When you know you just know.
Thanks! And yes!😊
I dated a married woman, I think she’s bi because now she has a boyfriend, so that is also possible and it’s ok! I think the important is to be happy ❤️
Yes absolutely! I address that a little later in the video 😊
Im so gay!!!
Haha same 😜
Omg! I so needed this! 🌈👭
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Thank you so much for posting this! I have been having this question. I know for a fact that I am Lesbian. It is hard and scary for me. Thank you!
You're very welcome!! 🤗
Ha! When I was 14 years old, I had a conversation with my best friend:
Me: Hey, what does 'lesbian' mean?
A: It's a girl who loves girl.
Me: ...
Me: So, what if I am a lesbian?
A: Pff.. You are not.
I thought: How can you know that, when even I am questioning?
We have known each other for 12 years. Now I know, I definitely was in deep love with her.
I've been thinking a lot about it, but always racionalized. And here I am, 22 yo and all my "there is something wrong with me" clicked, when I started educating myself about all "not-straight" possibilities.
Oh amazing I’ve been thinking this all week!
Totally love this and i needed this
I’m Pan/Bi and sometimes I catch myself questioning if I just like being with woman 🤷🏻♀️
My GF came to me to explore her sapphic side. 30 minutes with me started a chain of events for her to file for divorce. Like she cracked the seal on her attraction to a women and the flood gates opened. How she feels about me she never thought was possible. Her soon to be ex husband drops comments about when the honeymoon period is over, she will want to go back to him. I feel bad for him, not understanding the magnetism when the right person comes along. I hope he finds it one day too.
I don't want to do any of that to male/female yet i have questioned my sexuality since my early teens (i'm 41!)
I have had sex with one guy, and thought it was wrong, but i don't want to do that with a woman either! :/ , I rarely fancy anyone, and if i do its usually guys, but occasionally woman.
I've found out about Asexuality, and i think is what i am, its makes allot of sense!.
Yes I definitely think that's a true sexuality for some people and nothing wrong with that. We are who we are!
@@TheLateLifeLesbian Thankyou!🙂
Has anyone you know left their male partners to be with a woman, but discovered they’re in fact Bi, not gay? Thanks for talking to me via Instagram btw :)
Not that I know of but I'm sure that happens to!
But that’s Ok Jo. The Male partner wasn’t right for you after all
Great video and no I have no problem pursuing a relationship with a woman always have fantasized the idea so hopefully sooner than latter will find that special woman keep on keeping on stay safe and healthy 👍👍👍👍🌈🌈
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Emily, I appreciate your candor and the thoughtful perspective you brought to a delicate topic, but here is my question: nowhere in your analysis did you bring up the subject of love. Is it really all about sexual, physical preferences? Do individuals not fall in love with other individuals, and sex is then the vehicle by which it is expressed? Is the attraction not to the person?
Oh I definitely think that is a possibility too and that people can sometimes fall in love with others just based on who they are. I think that's called being pansexual- loving someone for who they are regardless of gender. But I think for a lot of people, love starts with attraction and some people are more attracted to and drawn to women or men. Just my 2 cents 🤷🏼♀️
@@TheLateLifeLesbian Thanks for the response. I agree!
Your question is a perfect intro to spreading awareness of multi spectrum attraction: there are asexuals with no sexual desire, just romantic. Or vice versa, aromantic and only having sexual attraction. For a long time I considered myself a heteroromantic bisexual because of societal and financial pressures to be in a relationship with a man. But through experience and deep soul searching I find myself coming into both a homoromantic and a homosexual identity.
I’ve been gay long before I realized it.
Some of my confusion comes from thinking I’m only carnally attracted to women but not emotionally. I know that aromantic lesbian is a title I could use, but I don’t know if Ide want to pursue a relationship with a woman that isn’t romantic. 🤷🏻♀️ so confusing
That's understandable. There is always a spectrum of sexuality and maybe you just find women attractive but like you said don't actually want a long-term relationship with one 🤷🏼♀️
So grateful for your channel. ❤️🌈
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@@bubba283 why can't you?
@@TheLateLifeLesbian it's just embarrassing being a fa.
@@TheLateLifeLesbian I'm embarrassed because I'm a fa.
It's embarrassing being a fa.
I'm a 44 year old married father with 2 kids. I've been married to my wife for 15 years. I told her I was bi last year but I'm sure I'm 90% gay and she now knows that. This has been the worst time of my life the emotional rollercoaster and the flip flopping on what I think my orientation is, is completely unbearable. I don't even want to be alive anymore I can't imagine my life without my wife and kids all together with me. It's going to happen because my wife wants to " make me happy" but I don't want to be gay. I'm too late for this change. I just hope I don't wake up one morning.
I'm really sorry to hear this but it doesn't have to be that way. It's a very emotional time and process and there's help you can get to work through it. Your kids would be crushed to not have a father. Sometimes we have to be strong for them. It's one of the reasons I came out- to set the example for my son that he can be brave and strong to be whoever he is when he grows up.
@@TheLateLifeLesbian Thank you for your encouraging words. I was really at a low place when writing my comment. Lots of crazy feelings I'm not used to. I do have support and am trying to get through this but my lows are extreme and the guilt I have for putting my wife through this is immense. I hope there is a light at the end of the tunnel soon
You're welcome! I'm glad to see your response. Things to get better. Everything just takes time. Guilt is a hard one but with time and effort, that fades too. 🤗
Hi Colin, that just sucks! Mate... But you are what you are alright, look know one's born that way meaning no one is born gay ok, you just like who you like then try it out, and if you don't like what you try then ya know that your straight, but if you like it but also like women then you are infact just bi ie bisexual okay!! But if you really like it like me myself then your deffo gay. But don't say i wish one day then i don't wake up as that's just silly talk, as iv'e been there like that i can relate to that, and iv'e had to break downs over it, and also got anxiety from it all as i coudn't cope with it, untill i accepted it that i was gay, and now i don't get anxiety much no more haven't had any anxiety for months now, and by telling myself that iam gay iv'e had no more break-downs either. And iam very happy to say that i'm gay, so yes i'm a happy gay man, who is now trying to find love with a nice bloke 😉☺😎 Good Luck to you Colin alright Pal !!
I never really had girlfriend or had there experience ect
i was looking around your room cause it looked nice and our doors look the exact same
Like in this lady story. She came out and a late in life. And her husband should’ve looked at her and said go for it. And tell her to be happy. But what did he gain he got to meet somebody new probably younger more attractive. It’s like he got his cake and eat it to look at it that way. Because newer is better than an older any day. It was no big loss for him or anybody going through it. once they say that that’s what they want. Let them go it’s really not a big loss.
I am 26 and am coming to terms with being gay BUT the idea of having sex with a woman scares the daylights out of me, in the same way that I felt before I had sex with a man, but like times 10.
I think I am scared that at my age no one will want to date me because I'm inexperienced and because I have been with men, that I will be shit in bed and no one will want to take the time to like teach me, should I teach myself.
I don't watch porn of any kind its just never appealed to me, so I don't know if I should watch lesbian porn for tips or if I should just wait for a patient partner, if Ishould be straight forward with my concerns, I am definitely way over thinking it but I feel weird for not being excited by the prospect of having sex with a woman.
Is that something you struggled with when coming to terms with your sexuality or am I just not sexually attracted to women or men haha.
Awww well I honestly wouldn't worry. There will definitely be people who want to date you and will be ok that you don't have the experience. I actually wasn't worried about it. I feel when you get in the moment, your body and desire just like take over 🤷🏼♀️
I agree with this video in general but I think not all lesbians do every possible sexual activity. So that's a consideration as well.
True same as some straight people don't do every sexual activity involved with that 🤷🏼♀️😉
I wish I could be this open about being a gay guy it's embarrassing, being a quee.
That was really helpful. 🙏
Thank you! I'm 25, still in the closet to my family (and most people) and very unhappy :/ I need support
🤗 there are quite a few website and such
Is there a community chat or something for people who have been in this situation? I'm just worried about being judged because I was married for 9 years, and I'm trying to figure out if I'm gay or fluid bi
Hey brandy,
I'm actually working on creating a website for there to be a private community just for this!
Yes, look at late blooming lesbians on Reddit. Also Aubreys friends on Facebook.
how do you feel about lesbians that turn bisexual?
👍🏻👍🏻🌈🌈🌈🌻🌻🌻💖💖 I know it's confusing but I think either you are or you're not eventually that's the answer I agree with you 100%
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I am newbe lesbians
How do no I am lesbians
what's funny is your test at 1:30 is also applicable to men as well. Just replace woman with man and you're asking the same questions. Idk if you've ever had guy friends come out to you but the lame line of questions applies too if you ever need to ask those questions lol
Haha I can totally see that!
@@TheLateLifeLesbian Well I mean I took the test and just replaced "woman" with "man" and I said yes to everything in the context who might have those feelings of Am I gay? spoiler alert: The answer was yes to everything btw lol
Sometimes the grass is greener... I could imagine if a woman who met a woman when they were young hit it off and had a great marriage with her wife might at some point find a man she finds attractive and have an "itch" that if she suppresses could come out in an unhealthy manner. If the relationship faltered (which all relationships have conflict) she might say to herself "wait am I straight? is this part of the problem in my marriage?" She then starts dating men, and gets into a relationship with one and it is good but one day walking down the street she spots a woman... :)
This doesn't mean you should act on all your itches but you shouldn't suppress them.
Also we like who we like, if your a lesbian it doesn't mean you are attracted to all women,
True
Bisexuality is thing you know.
Hiya Emily yes i do ive relized iam bi i love fantasies about men as well as women, trans too x 💕
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I’m 53 and feel it is too late to come out.
Never too late!
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Im a Lesbian woman
I dated someone that came out and then went back running to the hubby. Initially, she was excited until she realized what it meant to be “gay” in society. Never spoke to her again.
Yeah I think fear overtakes a lot of woman, not actually being straight but fear and comfort
okay so you know how you asked that question? My mind immediately drifted and I had trouble following the rest of the video. I THINK I MIGHT BE GAY AND IN DENIAL AF BECAUSE I'M STILL SAYING "MIGHT BE" FOR WHATEVER FUCKING REASON.
A lot of women go through that in discovering that they really are gay
Wait but how did you realized? How did you felt having s*x with your husband or being touched by him? Sorry for the questions, is just I feel uncomfortable by being intimate with a man and I have to force myself to imagine it/ do it.
For me and with my ex, this wasn't an issue. It's just that after having experiences with women, I realized that's my preference and that I have no desire to ever be with a man again.
What do you mean by missing the safety and security?
I'd have to go back and rewatch what I said 😬
Im a Lesbian
my family
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Im gay I
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Lesbian
I watch Lesbian movies
I have a Lesbian fantasy
How do you know if your bisexual or lesbian??
I think if you experience sexual desire for both men and women, then you'd be bi. But if you only feel sexual desire for women, even if you've been with men before, then I think you'd likely just be lesbian.
If you're questioning your sexuality after primarily only being with men, I just launched an exclusive online community for women going through this. You can join here if you'd like!
the-late-life-lesbian.mn.co/plans/196176?bundle_token=4e848744e6dc255a1b999443a5d220b7
@@TheLateLifeLesbian forsure I felt like i had the desire or wanting for a female but do talk to a guy currently and I would want experience with a guy to see if im bisexual or straight but i never really crush big on a guy ,just a girl (s) what are your words?
Im a homosexual
hello nice video
Lesbians should
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Hello hey cool
Don't feel like I can marry a girl anymore, lol. After 10 years you just checked out on your husband with whom you had children? Love was fake? Seriously?
No. Definitely not that simple
@@TheLateLifeLesbian As a lesbian you couldn't have loved your husband or enjoyed sex without thinking you were perhaps being slightly, even if consensually, raped. Unless he was abusive throughout those ten years and you just decided to call it quits and explore your "other side." But abandoning a happy relationship with children to "find yourself," that is one of the shallowest reasons to leave such such a relationship. What is this stupid need to "explore?" This, "I want to know how the other side is?" As if there was any need. So you either did not love him, ever, and never loved any man, or he was abusive. If you were a lesbian then, you were dishonest and deceitful, if BI, you didn't need to go and "explore." For what reason? So if you left because you were lesbian, you lied to him a long time about how you felt for him. Not trying to disrespect you, one of my best friends is a lesbian, and part of this comes from her own input. It happens to lesbians too when a partner "wants to explore" the other side, too. At least with them they couldn't have children--at least not the normal way. But when there is a family....
You are bi. Straight persons do not need to try all variants.
Emily what famous women do you think are hot that you would love to hook up with as a fantasy?
Of couse a women gay if she likes women into women
Good Question!!!!