Lack of Financial Freedom is the biggest reason woman stay in bad marriage...its very important to give Financial support like a business setup or rental property to daughters instead of grand weddings..she don't have to compromise with her dignity
its becoming a trend for some podcasters and youtubers to only talk about negative of marraige as if all marraiges are bad. Such a shame. They never talk about it positives. They are also propagating that marraiges are bad but live in is good😂. What a shame.
its becoming a trend for some podcasters and youtubers to only talk about negative of marraige as if all marraiges are bad. Such a shame. They never talk about it positives. They are also propagating that marraiges are bad but live in is good😂. What a shame.
I think you should have called someone who has seen the bright side of marriage too along with this guest who saw the dark side. Or maybe make another podcast with Riteish and Genelia and ask the same questions and ask them how they both maintained and had a so beautiful marriage. Please note this.
To be very honest, marriages in Bharat are very typical. In arranged marriages especially in certain states it's girls skin color and looks v/s boy's education and salary. Girl brings her looks to the table and boy brings his earning capability for a great lifestyle. I particularly say looks of a girl in an arranged marriage because many educated, smart, intelligent, financially independent and well read girls who are talented are rejected only because of skin color and this happens everyone in the North, Telangana and Andhra. Genelia and Riteish's marriage is a love marriage so they knew each other. again the equation of looks and money does come in. But Genelia herself was an actress so she did have enough money. In my entire group the pretty girls got men who treated them decently and loved them. The girls are well educated, and good looking and their's was also love marriage. but you need to look a certain way to get a man to really Love you in India
@@random_person_on_internet then it is a good thing. Girls at a young age especially in school are told the same. Movies say the same. Everything say the same. Girls who don't fit that mould get better opportunities at work and in Business. Pretty girls get the men but no education. That way it would be justified. Let men marry or date only pretty girls and not other women. Please spare the rest of them with the bad treatment.
I had a toxic marriage pulled it for 24 yrs and communicated with the kids and left. I could do this because I was financially stable but believe me I am very happy now and same with the kids. So be strong ladies
Exactly my mom was in toxic relationship for 20 yrs , my brother and i really encourage my mom not to tolerate, despite she is financially strong she literally accepted it as a fate..... I am glad now
Shefali is so true and honest in this conversation .. lots of love for her… no high funda thought.. just day to day problems of specially Indian families….Bring one more episode on relationship with her.. pls
its becoming a trend for some podcasters and youtubers to only talk about negative of marraige as if all marraiges are bad. Such a shame. They never talk about it positives. They are also propagating that marraiges are bad but live in is good😂. What a shame.
सृष्टि का सारा सौंदर्य सारा संगीत सारी संवेदनाए साथ जीने साथ रहने से साथ जुड़ने से जागता है अपनी गरिमा अपनी जिद अपनी जीवनशैली अपनी धारणाओ अपने अन्तर्विरोधो के चलते अकेले रहना एक चुनाव है समाधान नही ....
5th and most important C in the marriage is "communication". It is most important aspect. And misconception is that communication is all about talking. It's not. If it's only about talking then people who can't speak would never be able to communicate. Communication doesn't need to be verbal, no language mandatory. Most important is to understand how your partner and you can communicate better, verbally and non-verbally both ways. It takes time to understand eachother. Take time, try different ways to find your connection. Most marriages can easily work if you have your communication right...
Though I agree that everyone should have the right to speak up their minds but brother please don't call the film industry people for relationships related advice bcoz: 1)They comes from world where there is no line between professional & personal life, therefore we have very different perspectives towards life. 2)Because of the kind of work they are in, the people they are surrounded with and the society they live in, is literally poles apart from ours. 3) Most of their opinions on marriage and relationships are bizzare and irrational. These people have damaged the sacredness of marriage as an institution and have ruined the societies. 4) You can't just go and take relationship advices from people who are okay to attach their names with any person just for the sake of publicity. 5)They are literally marrying for the brand values how can anybody ask them for personal life or relationships related advices??? * Nothing against Shefali Shah, I love her work and she just best at it.😊 My thoughts are in general as I follow your channel regularly and lately, I have been observing that your questions to the film celebrities are much about relationships and less about their work. Mind it, they might be experts at acting(बहुत से तो उसमे भी नही है) but that doesn't mean they are experts at relationships as well. Their opinions and thoughts on relationships are only as important as any other common person if not less.
Yes sister i completely agree with you if you want real relationship advise just look around middle class Indians.In love sacrifice is needed but these movie stars don't want to sacrifice and even most of them marries just for money and fame they don't love each other truly.
No one is expert in relationship. Criticize the points not the person. Common people are also not saint. It is just that they don't have many options like celebrities. In multi national companies, affairs are quite common. How many men would remain loyal if they are approached by beautiful women who are out of their league?
@@screensafari17 bro which mnc are you talking about, I interned at Microsoft and haven't seen much cases and why you are getting offended it's true that most marriages are just for money and fame and in reality also such marriages exist but I have witnessed how my parents truly loved each other sacrificed many things and I am sorry if you didn't like any of my words.
Yeah. Everyone has a unique and very different journey. We can relate to a few incidents, but it's up to the individual how does he/she deals with the situation. Not an appropriate person to give general opinion on this issue for sure. She is great on her craft, but in terms of relationships, she can share only her experiences and uni directional perspective.
Hi Raj! An honest opinion here.. If you're bringing psychologists, lawyers, or someone who has actually some experience like people who have studied relationships, marriages or breakups then related questions are valid. A person from media should be asked media related, movies related or fashion related questions.. it increases credibility for us as audience..
Don’t agree here, anyone who’s been in a relationship good or bad can share their experiences provided they are honest about it n here she was quite forthcoming, love her for that. But being a public figure you can’t say it all on a national platform . We should understand that.
Not all points she mentioned are having logical reasoning. She haven't get into the depth of issues & experiences in her own marriage. Her body language is highly impatient. This podcast is just a conversation and not any such to take away. 12:28... Interesting
Very realistic conversation on marriage. It’s ups and downs, 80/20 some days, but you push through. And the part of celebrating is so true. You have to put the work in.
Brother Please put thumbnail like "Dark reality of Indian Marriages" your are making people mindset to see negatives of indian Marriages even before the start of the videos, instead of making people to see what good and what is bad of marriages. Click bait is ok but don't make your audiences pre conception that indian Marriages are bad.
He can't do anything about it. He is just a pawn and he has to follow the orders given to him. Just use your own mind. People who can't judge with their own mind are doomed.
In order to build awareness and psychoeducating people about mental health and healthy relationships, these people are invited and not Psychologist/Marriage Counsellors like us. They may have experience but we definitely have education, expertise, and experience.
@@thenaturallstore going through all this is what makes a case study so I don't know what you're trying to prove. Counsellors also have clients of all types and are less likely to be biased when talking about some emotionally charged topic like relationships.
I have been absolutely in awe of Shefali Shah for the last few years. I can't put into words how much adoration my heart holds for her. Thank you @rajshamani for having her on Figuring Out. I am so thankful.
Jab tak shaadi mein naaptol chalega tab tab esa hi ghisipiti jhagre honge.. Marriage is totally a bond between two souls who are different from each other but still likes to be together with the differences and equally enjoys each other's company.. I got married at 25 and i got a partner who is immensely fond of me and i am fond of him.. We both have different personality though.. Not all who are on screen are perfect to give judgements.. Sometimes you should also bring normal common people on podcast too.. So that we all feel related
Ye sb family or society ne suru Kiya h Sirf need dekhi jati h ladka ladki hot h sex mil jayega ladke ki job h to sukh milega Baki iske alawa to koi kuch dekhta nhi ki love sbse pehle hona chahiye
its becoming a trend for some podcasters and youtubers to only talk about negative of marraige as if all marraiges are bad. Such a shame. They never talk about it positives. They are also propagating that marraiges are bad but live in is good😂. What a shame.
Normal common people ho ya celebrity a marriage based on money and flash is a transaction. Marriage without love and willingness is a worst thing a person can be in.
I dont know how credible this information is. Shefali Shah is neither a psychiatrist nor a marriage counsellor and being an actress i will think twice before agreeing with her because bollywood is just famous for presenting distorted realities.
@@maryamhinatahir3782 "degree" is backed by some research atleast, specially in psychology. And what Shefali Shah did here was that she shared her own experience (which is just one experience). If a marriage consellor would have come in, he/she would have shared the experiences of multiple couples (multiple experiences) and the different paths they took to resolved their couple issues. There are much more ways to resolve things apart from a divorce. Wouldn't that have been a much better learning for us?
If you started dating in early 30s and want to date for 4-5 years, one might have problems conceiving a child. What if one or both of the partners are not open to adoption. You’re in a trap & this is only one of the reasons why you shouldn’t listen to these people blindly. Marry early, learn to grown and correct your mistakes together. Live a little spiritually. God bless!
First Listen properly what they said then comment on them She never said to date in early 30s ...... She said don't rush to marry take your time dating in early 20s( 21-27) and marry in late 20s ( 29-30) She suggested to focus on your carrer and your individual self and enjoy your early 20s Don't rush into marring just anyone bc you are in your early 20s (24-25) She also said to not rush untill you find the RIGHT PERSON just take your time finding that one person and meet people EXPLORE the world in your early 20s ........If you have found the right person and you are ready then marry anytime you want Just Don't marry anyone just bc you are in your early or mid 20s ......It's a very good advice ....Almost every person who has a carrer or a goal marries in late 20s ( doctors , govt jobs , teachers(phd) so on ) .....She didn't say anything uncommon
But giving birth should be before 25, if you need two kids, when after 25 it is hard to deliver, there will be changes in your hormones, your body, and complications when giving birth.
Her advice on late marriage is not practical especially where women are concerned. Women who decide to have children in mid thirties are at higher risks of having babies with deformities.
Oh what a podcast! WHAT A PODCAST!!! ❤👏 Kudos and huge thanks to you both for bringing up such content and highlighting the unsaid details. More than loved it ❤
its becoming a trend for some podcasters and youtubers to only talk about negative of marraige as if all marraiges are bad. Such a shame. They never talk about it positives. They are also propagating that marraiges are bad but live in is good😂. What a shame.
@@rajshamani Raaj you used to replied for one's who make a sheer positive comment only, please read constructive criticism as well. It will help you to grow fast and real.... And genuine I am a regular viewer and admirer as well
This podcast is so relatable. The discussion on flawed marriages and kids growing up to believe that marriages are a flawed concept and then being pushed by the same parents into marriage saying sab marriages ek jaisi nahi hoti...and then pressurizing them to ignore red flags saying sabki aisi hi hoti hain. Hypocrisy at its peak.
🎯 Key points for quick navigation: - Signs of toxicity in relationships, - Differences in personal values can lead to relationship dissatisfaction, 00:52 *🎯 Right Time to Marry* - Discussing the ideal age for marriage, - Challenges faced by individuals marrying too young or too late, 01:33 *💡 Building Healthy Relationships* - Prioritizing self-awareness and understanding triggers, - Importance of mutual respect and communication in relationships, 03:51 *🚸 Understanding the Impact of Toxic Marriages* - Toxic relationships are detrimental, especially when children are involved. - Pretending to have a good marriage for the sake of children can lead to long-term emotional harm. 04:19 *💔 Realities of Parenting in Difficult Marriages* - Continuing a marriage for the sake of children often results in personal sacrifices and emotional strain. - Children are profoundly affected by parental discord, impacting their emotional development. 05:27 *🤱 Challenges Faced by Mothers in Toxic Relationships* - Many women in India endure difficult marriages due to societal pressures and lack of options. - Mothers often prioritize their children's well-being over their own happiness. 06:12 *🙅♀️ Independence and Support in Challenging Marriages* - Women may feel trapped without viable options in such situations. - Support from family and understanding the situation are crucial for making decisions. 07:15 *💬 Cultural and Personal Impact on Relationships* - Balancing traditional family values with personal happiness can be challenging. - Personal fulfillment often takes a backseat to familial expectations in Indian culture. 08:13 *🕰️ Perspectives on Marriage and Happiness* - Individuals should not rush into marriage due to societal pressure or age constraints. - Modern generations prioritize personal fulfillment and independence over traditional marital expectations. 09:22 *🎓 Education, Career, and Relationship Choices* - Many young adults prioritize education, career success, and personal achievements over starting families early. - Society's expectations regarding marriage and children are evolving as individuals seek more fulfilling and balanced lives. 10:12 *💑 Societal Pressures and Marital Expectations* - Marriages should not be rushed due to societal alarms or age-related anxieties. - People are increasingly valuing personal compatibility, emotional readiness, and mutual respect over traditional marital pressures. 11:12 *🌍 Cultural Influences on Marital Choices* - Cultural and familial expectations play a significant role in shaping attitudes towards marriage and family planning. - There's a growing trend towards prioritizing personal fulfillment and individual happiness over conforming to traditional societal expectations. 12:16 *🏕️ Early Marriage and Career Focus* - Individuals in double-income, no-kids (DINK) partnerships often prioritize career over starting a family. 12:31 *🤝 Compatibility and Early Marriage* - Some people opt for early marriage to build a life together without the complications of children. 13:09 *🧠 Mental Health and Communication in Marriage* - Many individuals suppress their thoughts and emotions, leading to overthinking and mental health issues. 13:47 *🌍 Societal Expectations and Individual Identity* - Societal norms often pressure individuals to conform, affecting their sense of identity and individuality. 14:56 *🚫 Suppression of Thoughts and Impact on Mental Health* - Suppressing thoughts can lead to major depression, affecting individuals' overall well-being. 15:49 *📅 Long-term Relationships and Parenting* - Parenting becomes a pivotal factor that holds couples together through the years. 16:03 *🧠 Understanding roles and responsibilities in marriage* - Discussion revolves around the roles of men and women in traditional marriages. 17:12 *🏠 Balancing personal aspirations with family expectations* - Exploring the challenges of balancing personal desires and family responsibilities. 18:30 *🚪 Navigating social expectations and personal boundaries* - Addressing the impact of social expectations on personal freedom. 19:51 *💬 Communication and understanding in relationships* - Discusses the differences in how men and women approach problem-solving in relationships. 20:46 *🎙️ Personal Insights and Relationship Dynamics* - Participants discuss personal habits and relationship dynamics. 21:43 *🗣️ Responsibility and Relationship Expectations* - The discussion shifts to responsibilities in relationships and expectations. 22:51 *🌟 Love and Parental Responsibilities* - Insights are shared on balancing love and responsibilities towards children. 25:04 *🤔 Challenges in Marriage* - Theodore reflects on the biggest struggles in his marriage and wonders if the relationship was even real. 25:32 *💔 Emotional Disconnect* - Theodore discusses how he feels his partner doesn't give him attention and often ignores him, which causes significant emotional distress. 26:02 *📺 Communication Issues* - Theodore talks about the challenges of communication with his partner, noting how he often feels ignored or dismissed. 26:28 *❤️ Seeking Compatibility* - Theodore expresses the importance of compatibility in relationships and emphasizes the need for mutual adjustment and understanding. 27:08 *🎉 Celebrating Relationships* - Theodore shares his perspective on celebrating relationships and the significance of appreciating small gestures. 28:44 *🎯 Realizations about relationships* - Reflects on personal growth through past relationships, 29:24 *🎁 Thoughtful gestures in relationships* - Talks about the importance of meaningful gestures, 30:17 *🌟 Maintaining relationship effort* - Emphasizes the effort required to sustain a relationship, 31:10 *💐 Personal celebrations and surprises* 32:18 *🍷 Creating memorable moments* - Talks about preparing for a special evening, 33:07 *💔 Timing and readiness for marriage* - Discusses the right time for marriage, 33:19 *🤔 Marriage and Relationship Adjustments* - Adjustments are necessary for maintaining a living relationship. 34:01 *🕰️ Timing of Marriage* - The right time for marriage varies significantly depending on personal and relationship maturity. 35:08 *💑 Importance of Marriage Today* - Marriage remains significant as it provides companionship and support in a world where individual happiness is valued. 37:23 *🧠 Assessing Readiness for Relationships* - Assessing readiness for a relationship depends on factors like age and inherent personal traits. 38:03 *🎭 Social Life and Personal Choices* - Social life choices vary greatly among individuals; some prefer staying at home while others enjoy going out and networking. 38:30 *💔 Extremes in Love and Relationships* - Extreme social lives and constant changes may not lead to lasting satisfaction in a relationship. 39:11 *🌟 The Complexities of Dating and Relationships* - Dating multiple people versus settling with one person involves understanding personal values and compatibility. 40:40 *🏡 Personal and Social Priorities* - Preferences in socializing and staying at home vary widely among individuals. 41:17 *🎯 Balancing Ambitions in Relationships* - Balancing ambitions with a partner involves compromise and understanding. 42:26 *💡 Challenges of Ambitious Partners* - Having partners with significantly different ambitions can lead to relationship challenges. 43:06 *🌟 Partner's Perspective on Ambition* - Partners may have contrasting views on ambition and career priorities. 45:37 *🌟 Ambition and Relationships* - Ambition can work if both are ambitious or if one supports the other's ambition. 46:20 *🌹 Value System in Relationships* 47:18 *💔 Red Flags in Relationships* - Recognizing red flags is crucial for determining the viability of a relationship. 48:05 *💡 Self-Discovery and Change* - Self-discovery involves changing oneself according to personal standards and growth. 49:01 *🙌 Respect in Relationships* - Respect is fundamental in every relationship, whether it's between parents and children or partners. 50:21 *📌 Communication Challenges in Relationships* - Effective communication is crucial but challenging in relationships. 51:01 *📑 Impact of Roles and Responsibilities in Films* - Roles in films often reflect societal norms and expectations. 52:23 *🎬 Artistic Expression and Film Realism* - Films are avenues for creative and democratic expression. 53:41 *🎥 Critique and Choice in Film Viewing* - Individuals have the choice to critique and interpret films as they see fit. 54:37 *🎬 Impact of Movies on Perception* - Movies can significantly influence how people perceive certain incidents or situations. 55:24 *🌍 Cultural Differences in Media Representation* - Cultural contexts heavily influence how movies depict and represent various societal issues. 56:21 *🤔 Questioning Media Impact and Responsibility* - The responsibility of media in portraying sensitive topics and its impact on society. 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Hey Raj Shamani ! this is the first podcast I have heart( watched) completely....its like a deep conversation...going to watch all others now....lots of love from Nepal!
Answer to last discussion: it's easy to spread negative ideas than positive. As per human psychology, bad habits are easier to form. For example: getting addicted to smoking is easier than a book
its becoming a trend for some podcasters and youtubers to only talk about negative of marraige as if all marraiges are bad. Such a shame. They never talk about it positives. They are also propagating that marraiges are bad but live in is good😂. What a shame.
100%- this person only talks negatively about everything becausr he knows negativity sells😂. He is telling and making this as if all marraiges are bad😂. Such a shameful person.
I am simply loving your shows ,your genuine questions and the replies ....such insightful..and yess I did share this with my friends ,keep up with your good work .. Kudos to you and team ❤❤
Add one more C- Communication. Nowadays couples have stopped or minimized communicating. They r busy in their own world.. rather just talk anything n everything. Just pick up some topic n talk . Tell entire day stories. Go out with frnz n then come n tell ur person how your day went etc..
Life is not like that... In marriage..it's not possible to pick a topic n talk ..plus if one is not interested in talking then it's just enraged both of them... So eventually they or one have to become quite .. other wise. .. what would u eat or wear or buy or do is big discussion for a couple
@@sonasandhujiyes thr will be times wherein either one is tired or just wanna be alone n don't wanna talk, but to make a relationship work, someone needs to create that habit of sharing, talking, maybe gossiping sometimes. It's ok. Start with what the other person likes to hear n then say what u wanna say
its becoming a trend for some podcasters and youtubers to only talk about negative of marraige as if all marraiges are bad. Such a shame. They never talk about it positives. They are also propagating that marraiges are bad but live in is good😂. What a shame.
Raj bhai, I really enjoyed this podcast. It was amazing that you invited Shefali Madam to your show. She was so expressive, frank & honest in her opinions. Also Raj bhai its amazing that you share anecdotes , research findings to support your arguments in all your podcasts. Your podcasts serves deeper insights that makes me rethink. There is one thing that I would disagree that you conveyed about optimizers/over optimizers. I think people who are optimizers are doing good rather bad. It because its easier for optimizers to ignore or overlook any shortcomings, but they still choose to probe so that the other person can do better and become good at it. Its wrong when an optimizer is not appreciating the good work and only probes when there are there are shortcomings only.
One of the best podcast I have listened to of late. Very interesting and informative topics were discussed, specially for the younger generation to know and understand what marriage and relationship and togetherness is all about.
This podcast was like realllllyyyy amazing i sat down to watch it with very diff expectation, but till the end i just got a very amazing perspective about relationships and like every relationship in & around us!!!! just wow!!!!!
your content is very helpful for peoples how are suffering from these kind of things but as I see in my family , friends and relatives there are very less peoples how understand English .SO I think if you do podcast in hindi you should cover broad range of listeners . aap bahut accha kar rahe ho I always pray you grow like that and achieve what ever you want ☺
Mine was an arranged marriage, I am carrier oriented person, so I thought of marring a job person, who has limited time of working, and has good holiday too, so dat he can atleast look after house or kids in my absence. But as days went , he started feeling jealous of my earnings, and he started dominating me to not work so much . But I had my loans going on, for which I had to work. He started comparing me for not doing household chores on time. It was really terrible. And exhausting. And we ended up in divorce. Daughter being with me. So I don't think dat one partner being family oriented and other being carrier oriented is not the real solution.
Such a relatable as well as a open hearted conversation. Absolutely love her as a woman & an actor. Raj you asked brilliant questions, overall a great podcast to watch on relationships. Keep up the good work !!
This was a great podcast and a great conversation. Shefali Shah is a gem 💎. I felt there there were multiple cuts here which stopped the natural flow of conversation, I’d prefer if it was a free flowing conversation. I want my podcast to be uncut and unedited, but that’s just me
I just love Shefali . She was so honest in this interview, often teary eyed . So good to hear her out, I guess it’s my story too 😊 So many times I thought I was talking . Sometimes we all want to hear some honest life experiences. For me this story was all needed 👍
Marriage is a complicated thing and giving generic tips like "early marriage is bad" will help no one, because there are studies showing people who marry outside 22-28 range tend to get divorced soon....This lady doesn't know the reality of marriages in these times... my family has been searching for a bride since 2 years and haven't found a match even though I'm handsome guy with good salary and background.....some of my friends have been rejected by girls because they crossed age 30...
And do you know the reason why? It’s because people are able to recognize right from wrong. Earlier people married at 10 to 13. Is that okay? Wait for forebrain to develop. Get financial ability. Ok now why you want to marry and stay married for 60 years. Marriage only works 45per or so. It’s natural. Marriage is a man made conscious decision. It’s not natural.
She has literally compared a life partner with work, like if a person is a workaholic then she/he may not need a life partner....! I wonder if she's aware of WTH is coming out of her mouth!
She said there are people who are completely involved with work. Such workaholics many not prefer to have a partner because they want to devote all their time to work..for example people like Dr. APJ Abdul Kalam who dedicated their whole life to their profession. Such people also exist..@@nandinisharma2577
Excellent talk show. Loved the topic. Loved the conversation & Shefali was pointing every single point, loved how she explained so beautifully. Thank you for bringing my all time favorite actress Shefali Shah. I have been seeing her from Hasrate drama from TV.
am thoroughly enjoying every bit of this conversation. so relatable n so true.....kudos..... i fully disagree with ppl who say , academic qualification is needed to talk abt relationships....really/? my mother doesnt run an event management company but i know how well she designs and orchastrates the whole show.... pls grow up guys, she isnt overacting, she is being herself thoroughly... she is radiating freedom of expression. so , cut d crap n stop saying negative things.... u like it great...dont like it , move on n watch what u like......
She is soo soo intelligent and aware about what women and men feel in their marriage and relationship's etc. And every single individual should watch this episode if ur struggling with your relationship and marriage. I know that there is somethings are wrong with my relationship but I don't want to or I don't know how to address things to my partner after watching this episode in so many topics it just open my eyes for both of us, I will share this podcast with my partner, family and friends!!! Such a great podcast Raj sir keep rocking!!! Love your every podcast!!! ❤❤❤
One of the finest actors I have seen. Her journey from Monsoon Wedding to Darlings, needless to mention her performance in OTT has been fabulous, fabulous being understatement. Her eyes itself is whole lot of dialogue and statement. Always look forward for her next fold of performance. My wish, just want to meet her for a minute and tell her how accomplished people like us to have a talent like her. Shefali the beauty of your performance is just mesmerising. Keep working
You have asked very good questions from shifali and she has answered all those questions very openly n with utmost honesty. It was a quality conversation. I was glued to the podcast from beginning till end .
Many a times Raj's questions were offtrack for which there can be no definite answer. I however loved the way Shefali fielded all of them. Honest and from the heart. Have always loved her.
यह वार्ता मैंने सुनी मुझे कुछ समझ नहीं आया मैं मानती हूँ कि ज़िन्दगी अकेले के लिए भी परिस्थितियों से तालमेल का नाम है क्या हम अपने सपनों का राजा ढूँढ सकते हैं एक ही घर में परिवार के चार लोग अलग-अलग होते हैं फिर भी हम एक दूसरे का सम्मान करते हुए हम एक ही परिवार में रहते हैं आज जो परिस्थितियाँ हैं वो कल नहीं रहेगी उसके लिए हम दुनियाँ तों नहीं छोड़ देते हम उस परिस्थिति का समाधान ढूँढते हैं मतलब तालमेल बिठाना 🙏🏽 58:05
I don't agree with the point that ambitious person should marry to a non-ambitious one. Because, then the other person won't ever be able to understand your point of view and to acknowledge your efforts towards your ambitions. To succeed in a relationship being an ambitious individual is to align your partner with your goal or other way too. Make his ambition your own and then patiently wait for your turn. Example: Its been 4 years of my marriage and for first three years I worked everything possible to support my husband to achieve his dreams and now he is doing same for me. Now, I am in Germany pursuing my research career and he is at home taking care of my son, his family and of couse his job.
Marriage in early or late thirties is really bad. Genetically Caucasian women have large egg reserves and longer maternal windows. Modern Asian / Indian women have low egg reserves and low maternal window. Above 30 , women are considered advanced maternal age and complications of food allergies, Down syndrome, autism for the fetus increases exponentially! Also you down want to be too old too take care of your kids and experience the joy of your grandkids! Your kids want to be there for them!
Your comment made sense till Talking about your next gen... You want to alive to look after your Grand kids.... is TOO MUCH to Expect from Life... Does "LIVING FOR OWN, SELF IMPROVEMENT, PRIVATE TIME, PERSONALITY DEVELOPMENT " comes to your Radar or ... no personal goals/upliftment... just Family Planning 😅
I really liked this episode. Shefali Shah is my favorite. And you were asking all the right questions. Also, you seemed to be a very sensitive person in all the conversations. So, watching this was a really good experience for me. Thank you both for a candid conversation on all that is so relevant and relatable!!😊
I really like your podcast but with great actors like Vidya Balan and shifali shah why are we stuck on with marriage & relationship? They are ACTORS not a couple therapist . Yes they are humans like all of us with opinions and relationships. But I wish we could have known more about her journey. What is the right time to marry ? Asking shifali shah won't influence us . Idk . It's disappointing ya !
True.. there is too much talk about marriage. Raj, there are NO formulas.. what will work is very subjective. Maybe you could talk about how middle aged women can become actors!
i dont think age has anything to do with marriage, its about wisdom and also where your heart is. we cant change the fate but every relationship is a gamble
Overall, I found this piece a great watch; time well spent on food for thought! Shefali Shah has shared thoughts which I found eminently sensible, very pragmatic and in sync with the times. Like me she also finds marrying earlier than age 25 whether boy or girl, quite ridiculous! Also, I really like the bit where you'll discuss how women need to ensure their own self-worth/financial independence/me time/individual interests/ instead of glorifying the traditional Indian perspective of being the " त्याग की मूर्ति" THERE'S NOTHING THAT DRIVES ME UP THE WALL THAN THIS DOES !!! 😊
I think this was one of best podcast i have seen the redflags are really upto the mark relatable to my life as well the advice or the suggestion given by both of you are incredible i will optimize them in my personal life too thanks for this
At 10:00 they are talking a girl getting married at the age of 25 years. Shefali maam is against it. She saying teach her and all. Thats completely correct. But actually it is true that after certain age people are not getting suitable prospects as their life partner. Its difficult. I am 26. My parents started searching guys. But i am not getting it. I was also stubborn that i don't want get married and all not at the age of 25. When i realised its time to get married. I am not getting guys. So its true.. age matters. I am not against anybody's opinion.i respect each and everyone's opinion. People say that i can live life alone. Why to get married and all. But you know what after certain age you will realise that we need someone to share that how was your day? Somebody should be their to takecare if you are not well. Parents are their, friend, family everybody will be their. But few things you can't share with parents family friends. Its only life partner with whom i can share.
Not trying to be mean but girl you are not finding guys because you are extremely obese :) you don't look 26 but actually look in your 30's Try to follow a good diet,do exercises and try to maintain a good bmi as it also matters when a woman wants to be pregnant 😊 I am a woman so please don't think I am bashing you But it is The truth that Men like younger and fit women
Marriage is utmost important thing for old age and getting married at right age is imp cause woman has body clock that starts ticking by 35...no matter at what age you marry or how educated you are or how wealthy you been.. everybody has to adjust ,compromise, be faithful n respect your partner..
I genuinely loved Her ❤❤❤ she's so outspoken, straightforward, so expressive and full of life ❤ She had gone really through a lot in her life to share such piece of Wisdom, knowledge & experiences ❤
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Lack of Financial Freedom is the biggest reason woman stay in bad marriage...its very important to give Financial support like a business setup or rental property to daughters instead of grand weddings..she don't have to compromise with her dignity
Well said 👍
its becoming a trend for some podcasters and youtubers to only talk about negative of marraige as if all marraiges are bad. Such a shame. They never talk about it positives. They are also propagating that marraiges are bad but live in is good😂. What a shame.
You live in dream.. wake up kid this is not world works
Nah ..even with financial freedom ladies are not being able to move out of marriage
If u are earning less than your husband then that could be a card towards u as well.
Omg her brain is exactly like mine!!! So so true !! Love her for coming and being so vocal about what the reality is! Salute!
its becoming a trend for some podcasters and youtubers to only talk about negative of marraige as if all marraiges are bad. Such a shame. They never talk about it positives. They are also propagating that marraiges are bad but live in is good😂. What a shame.
I think you should have called someone who has seen the bright side of marriage too along with this guest who saw the dark side. Or maybe make another podcast with Riteish and Genelia and ask the same questions and ask them how they both maintained and had a so beautiful marriage. Please note this.
Very good suggestion!!
To be very honest, marriages in Bharat are very typical. In arranged marriages especially in certain states it's girls skin color and looks v/s boy's education and salary. Girl brings her looks to the table and boy brings his earning capability for a great lifestyle. I particularly say looks of a girl in an arranged marriage because many educated, smart, intelligent, financially independent and well read girls who are talented are rejected only because of skin color and this happens everyone in the North, Telangana and Andhra. Genelia and Riteish's marriage is a love marriage so they knew each other. again the equation of looks and money does come in. But Genelia herself was an actress so she did have enough money. In my entire group the pretty girls got men who treated them decently and loved them. The girls are well educated, and good looking and their's was also love marriage. but you need to look a certain way to get a man to really Love you in India
@@vidyaasvideos trust me it is The same everywhere in the world
Only pretty women are treated well by men
@@random_person_on_internet then it is a good thing. Girls at a young age especially in school are told the same. Movies say the same. Everything say the same. Girls who don't fit that mould get better opportunities at work and in Business. Pretty girls get the men but no education. That way it would be justified. Let men marry or date only pretty girls and not other women. Please spare the rest of them with the bad treatment.
@@vidyaasvideos are yu South Indian??
I had a toxic marriage pulled it for 24 yrs and communicated with the kids and left. I could do this because I was financially stable but believe me I am very happy now and same with the kids. So be strong ladies
Happy to know that your kids are happy.
I'm in toxic marriage becoz of my children n I'm happy as kids love their father n getting a healthy environment to grow ,I'm satisfied with dis .
So did he return
Exactly my mom was in toxic relationship for 20 yrs , my brother and i really encourage my mom not to tolerate, despite she is financially strong she literally accepted it as a fate.....
I am glad now
Shefali is so true and honest in this conversation .. lots of love for her… no high funda thought.. just day to day problems of specially Indian families….Bring one more episode on relationship with her.. pls
its becoming a trend for some podcasters and youtubers to only talk about negative of marraige as if all marraiges are bad. Such a shame. They never talk about it positives. They are also propagating that marraiges are bad but live in is good😂. What a shame.
Shefali Shah is a wonderful actress and she is doing really good acting in podcast also.
I second that... another episode is a must...
Nice message " chose to be alone, rather being with wrong partner"
सृष्टि का सारा सौंदर्य सारा संगीत सारी संवेदनाए साथ जीने साथ रहने से साथ जुड़ने से जागता है अपनी गरिमा अपनी जिद अपनी जीवनशैली अपनी धारणाओ अपने अन्तर्विरोधो के चलते अकेले रहना एक चुनाव है समाधान नही ....
5th and most important C in the marriage is "communication". It is most important aspect. And misconception is that communication is all about talking. It's not. If it's only about talking then people who can't speak would never be able to communicate. Communication doesn't need to be verbal, no language mandatory. Most important is to understand how your partner and you can communicate better, verbally and non-verbally both ways. It takes time to understand eachother. Take time, try different ways to find your connection. Most marriages can easily work if you have your communication right...
Her views are based on her experiences. I think while taking decisions one needs to consider their own situations, feelings etc.
Though I agree that everyone should have the right to speak up their minds but brother please don't call the film industry people for relationships related advice bcoz:
1)They comes from world where there is no line between professional & personal life, therefore we have very different perspectives towards life.
2)Because of the kind of work they are in, the people they are surrounded with and the society they live in, is literally poles apart from ours.
3) Most of their opinions on marriage and relationships are bizzare and irrational. These people have damaged the sacredness of marriage as an institution and have ruined the societies.
4) You can't just go and take relationship advices from people who are okay to attach their names with any person just for the sake of publicity.
5)They are literally marrying for the brand values how can anybody ask them for personal life or relationships related advices???
* Nothing against Shefali Shah, I love her work and she just best at it.😊
My thoughts are in general as I follow your channel regularly and lately, I have been observing that your questions to the film celebrities are much about relationships and less about their work.
Mind it, they might be experts at acting(बहुत से तो उसमे भी नही है) but that doesn't mean they are experts at relationships as well.
Their opinions and thoughts on relationships are only as important as any other common person if not less.
I’m 100% agree with your opinion.
Yes sister i completely agree with you if you want real relationship advise just look around middle class Indians.In love sacrifice is needed but these movie stars don't want to sacrifice and even most of them marries just for money and fame they don't love each other truly.
No one is expert in relationship. Criticize the points not the person. Common people are also not saint. It is just that they don't have many options like celebrities. In multi national companies, affairs are quite common. How many men would remain loyal if they are approached by beautiful women who are out of their league?
@@screensafari17 bro which mnc are you talking about, I interned at Microsoft and haven't seen much cases and why you are getting offended it's true that most marriages are just for money and fame and in reality also such marriages exist but I have witnessed how my parents truly loved each other sacrificed many things and I am sorry if you didn't like any of my words.
Yeah. Everyone has a unique and very different journey. We can relate to a few incidents, but it's up to the individual how does he/she deals with the situation. Not an appropriate person to give general opinion on this issue for sure. She is great on her craft, but in terms of relationships, she can share only her experiences and uni directional perspective.
Hi Raj!
An honest opinion here.. If you're bringing psychologists, lawyers, or someone who has actually some experience like people who have studied relationships, marriages or breakups then related questions are valid. A person from media should be asked media related, movies related or fashion related questions.. it increases credibility for us as audience..
Agree… she is just doing acting in front of camera now in this podcast.
Absolutely agreed!
Don’t agree here, anyone who’s been in a relationship good or bad can share their experiences provided they are honest about it n here she was quite forthcoming, love her for that. But being a public figure you can’t say it all on a national platform . We should understand that.
Agreed..
Professionals are to some extent biased and bound to talk in a certain way. I think non professionals are less biased
The way she is sitting - it's more like how comfortable cool she makes the environment
Not all points she mentioned are having logical reasoning. She haven't get into the depth of issues & experiences in her own marriage. Her body language is highly impatient. This podcast is just a conversation and not any such to take away.
12:28... Interesting
Do you know about personalities?? People have various of personalities. It just hers
True
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Yes Dear! I myself is a Marital Relationship Counsellor. 🙏
She speaks mostly woman POV only
Absolutely true
Very realistic conversation on marriage. It’s ups and downs, 80/20 some days, but you push through. And the part of celebrating is so true. You have to put the work in.
Brother Please put thumbnail like "Dark reality of Indian Marriages" your are making people mindset to see negatives of indian Marriages even before the start of the videos, instead of making people to see what good and what is bad of marriages. Click bait is ok but don't make your audiences pre conception that indian Marriages are bad.
Bro thumbnail says toxic marriage and red flag which itself interprets negativity
Most of his thumbnails are like that… even an Adani one…raj knows negativity sells and he is cashing in on that
@@vivekalexander1217 yeah all you tubers r behind dis tactic to garner viewership
He can't do anything about it. He is just a pawn and he has to follow the orders given to him. Just use your own mind. People who can't judge with their own mind are doomed.
Then you are fool if you are making your mind with half information, without watching whole video.
In order to build awareness and psychoeducating people about mental health and healthy relationships, these people are invited and not Psychologist/Marriage Counsellors like us. They may have experience but we definitely have education, expertise, and experience.
So you think reading books and doing cases is more valuable rather than going through all this?
@@thenaturallstore going through all this is what makes a case study so I don't know what you're trying to prove. Counsellors also have clients of all types and are less likely to be biased when talking about some emotionally charged topic like relationships.
I have been absolutely in awe of Shefali Shah for the last few years. I can't put into words how much adoration my heart holds for her. Thank you @rajshamani for having her on Figuring Out. I am so thankful.
Jab tak shaadi mein naaptol chalega tab tab esa hi ghisipiti jhagre honge..
Marriage is totally a bond between two souls who are different from each other but still likes to be together with the differences and equally enjoys each other's company.. I got married at 25 and i got a partner who is immensely fond of me and i am fond of him.. We both have different personality though.. Not all who are on screen are perfect to give judgements.. Sometimes you should also bring normal common people on podcast too.. So that we all feel related
Ye sb family or society ne suru Kiya h
Sirf need dekhi jati h ladka ladki hot h sex mil jayega ladke ki job h to sukh milega
Baki iske alawa to koi kuch dekhta nhi ki love sbse pehle hona chahiye
100%
its becoming a trend for some podcasters and youtubers to only talk about negative of marraige as if all marraiges are bad. Such a shame. They never talk about it positives. They are also propagating that marraiges are bad but live in is good😂. What a shame.
Behen tum lucky aur highly understanding ho...in most of the cases aisa nhi hota hai...just 2 different opinions (you and shefali) stating facts...()
Normal common people ho ya celebrity a marriage based on money and flash is a transaction. Marriage without love and willingness is a worst thing a person can be in.
I got married at 23and I am in my 50’s , I am so happy to be married and it was my best decision .
I just love this lady. How she speaks, how she react, how she understand the thnigs is incredible
She. Also cm out from. Bad. Marriage ,and now. Happy with 2nd hsbnd vipul. Shah r
REAL LIFE = ACCEPTANCE +FORGIVENESS +LOVE +REPENTANCE +SERVICE
I dont know how credible this information is. Shefali Shah is neither a psychiatrist nor a marriage counsellor and being an actress i will think twice before agreeing with her because bollywood is just famous for presenting distorted realities.
Unfortunately we always label mindful people. On the other side most of psychiatrist just have degree so they allowed to whatever they want. Right?
@@maryamhinatahir3782 "degree" is backed by some research atleast, specially in psychology. And what Shefali Shah did here was that she shared her own experience (which is just one experience). If a marriage consellor would have come in, he/she would have shared the experiences of multiple couples (multiple experiences) and the different paths they took to resolved their couple issues. There are much more ways to resolve things apart from a divorce. Wouldn't that have been a much better learning for us?
Totally agreed. The most irritating podcast in my opinion
Agree totally i thought she ll talk abt her career
It's not information he already mentioned in first few minutes, it's her wisdom she is sharing.
So relatable
Feeling normal as I am 51.
Good to know my marriage is okay.
bro please try to communicate in hindi because the community to whom you want to teach/target , unable to understand english.
If you started dating in early 30s and want to date for 4-5 years, one might have problems conceiving a child.
What if one or both of the partners are not open to adoption.
You’re in a trap & this is only one of the reasons why you shouldn’t listen to these people blindly.
Marry early, learn to grown and correct your mistakes together.
Live a little spiritually.
God bless!
you can always freeze the eggs !
First Listen properly what they said then comment on them
She never said to date in early 30s ......
She said don't rush to marry take your time dating in early 20s( 21-27) and marry in late 20s ( 29-30)
She suggested to focus on your carrer and your individual self and enjoy your early 20s Don't rush into marring just anyone bc you are in your early 20s (24-25)
She also said to not rush untill you find the RIGHT PERSON just take your time finding that one person and meet people EXPLORE the world in your early 20s ........If you have found the right person and you are ready then marry anytime you want
Just Don't marry anyone just bc you are in your early or mid 20s ......It's a very good advice ....Almost every person who has a carrer or a goal marries in late 20s ( doctors , govt jobs , teachers(phd) so on ) .....She didn't say anything uncommon
But giving birth should be before 25, if you need two kids, when after 25 it is hard to deliver, there will be changes in your hormones, your body, and complications when giving birth.
@@preethachandy5113 you need more education and exposure
You make your mistakes but please don’t make a new innocent child suffer along with you. It causes irreversible damage to the child.
Seriously, I've never watched anyone's podcast all the way through until the end. But Raj, you and your content are so good.
You gain a subscriber.
Thankyou🙌 Let me know what you want to see next on our podcast💯
Her advice on late marriage is not practical especially where women are concerned. Women who decide to have children in mid thirties are at higher risks of having babies with deformities.
Mid thirties is ok, mid forties is problem.
children are not only reason for marriage.
who cares about fooking babies...first manage each other
@@_Avinash_singh_solanki_ not necessary, it can go on till 50-55
Pehle khud ki Khushi dekh lo fir bcche peda Krna
Bcche to God bhi le skte h
Aya smj?
Best podcast everyone must watch this 😊 many many tiny things to learn from this podcast
Continuity is not breaking that's good 👍🏻
Oh what a podcast! WHAT A PODCAST!!! ❤👏 Kudos and huge thanks to you both for bringing up such content and highlighting the unsaid details. More than loved it ❤
Thankyou🙌🙌
its becoming a trend for some podcasters and youtubers to only talk about negative of marraige as if all marraiges are bad. Such a shame. They never talk about it positives. They are also propagating that marraiges are bad but live in is good😂. What a shame.
@@rajshamani Raaj you used to replied for one's who make a sheer positive comment only, please read constructive criticism as well. It will help you to grow fast and real....
And genuine I am a regular viewer and admirer as well
This podcast is so relatable. The discussion on flawed marriages and kids growing up to believe that marriages are a flawed concept and then being pushed by the same parents into marriage saying sab marriages ek jaisi nahi hoti...and then pressurizing them to ignore red flags saying sabki aisi hi hoti hain. Hypocrisy at its peak.
Same old relationship stuff.
YOU MISSED THIS AMAZING CHANCE TO ASK SO MANY GREAT QUESTIONS ABOUT HER LIFE, HER CAREER.. ACTING SKILLS ETC..
Very informative.. much needed... and the flow of the podcast was awesome - Natural & On-point
Thankyou🙌🙌
🎯 Key points for quick navigation:
- Signs of toxicity in relationships,
- Differences in personal values can lead to relationship dissatisfaction,
00:52 *🎯 Right Time to Marry*
- Discussing the ideal age for marriage,
- Challenges faced by individuals marrying too young or too late,
01:33 *💡 Building Healthy Relationships*
- Prioritizing self-awareness and understanding triggers,
- Importance of mutual respect and communication in relationships,
03:51 *🚸 Understanding the Impact of Toxic Marriages*
- Toxic relationships are detrimental, especially when children are involved.
- Pretending to have a good marriage for the sake of children can lead to long-term emotional harm.
04:19 *💔 Realities of Parenting in Difficult Marriages*
- Continuing a marriage for the sake of children often results in personal sacrifices and emotional strain.
- Children are profoundly affected by parental discord, impacting their emotional development.
05:27 *🤱 Challenges Faced by Mothers in Toxic Relationships*
- Many women in India endure difficult marriages due to societal pressures and lack of options.
- Mothers often prioritize their children's well-being over their own happiness.
06:12 *🙅♀️ Independence and Support in Challenging Marriages*
- Women may feel trapped without viable options in such situations.
- Support from family and understanding the situation are crucial for making decisions.
07:15 *💬 Cultural and Personal Impact on Relationships*
- Balancing traditional family values with personal happiness can be challenging.
- Personal fulfillment often takes a backseat to familial expectations in Indian culture.
08:13 *🕰️ Perspectives on Marriage and Happiness*
- Individuals should not rush into marriage due to societal pressure or age constraints.
- Modern generations prioritize personal fulfillment and independence over traditional marital expectations.
09:22 *🎓 Education, Career, and Relationship Choices*
- Many young adults prioritize education, career success, and personal achievements over starting families early.
- Society's expectations regarding marriage and children are evolving as individuals seek more fulfilling and balanced lives.
10:12 *💑 Societal Pressures and Marital Expectations*
- Marriages should not be rushed due to societal alarms or age-related anxieties.
- People are increasingly valuing personal compatibility, emotional readiness, and mutual respect over traditional marital pressures.
11:12 *🌍 Cultural Influences on Marital Choices*
- Cultural and familial expectations play a significant role in shaping attitudes towards marriage and family planning.
- There's a growing trend towards prioritizing personal fulfillment and individual happiness over conforming to traditional societal expectations.
12:16 *🏕️ Early Marriage and Career Focus*
- Individuals in double-income, no-kids (DINK) partnerships often prioritize career over starting a family.
12:31 *🤝 Compatibility and Early Marriage*
- Some people opt for early marriage to build a life together without the complications of children.
13:09 *🧠 Mental Health and Communication in Marriage*
- Many individuals suppress their thoughts and emotions, leading to overthinking and mental health issues.
13:47 *🌍 Societal Expectations and Individual Identity*
- Societal norms often pressure individuals to conform, affecting their sense of identity and individuality.
14:56 *🚫 Suppression of Thoughts and Impact on Mental Health*
- Suppressing thoughts can lead to major depression, affecting individuals' overall well-being.
15:49 *📅 Long-term Relationships and Parenting*
- Parenting becomes a pivotal factor that holds couples together through the years.
16:03 *🧠 Understanding roles and responsibilities in marriage*
- Discussion revolves around the roles of men and women in traditional marriages.
17:12 *🏠 Balancing personal aspirations with family expectations*
- Exploring the challenges of balancing personal desires and family responsibilities.
18:30 *🚪 Navigating social expectations and personal boundaries*
- Addressing the impact of social expectations on personal freedom.
19:51 *💬 Communication and understanding in relationships*
- Discusses the differences in how men and women approach problem-solving in relationships.
20:46 *🎙️ Personal Insights and Relationship Dynamics*
- Participants discuss personal habits and relationship dynamics.
21:43 *🗣️ Responsibility and Relationship Expectations*
- The discussion shifts to responsibilities in relationships and expectations.
22:51 *🌟 Love and Parental Responsibilities*
- Insights are shared on balancing love and responsibilities towards children.
25:04 *🤔 Challenges in Marriage*
- Theodore reflects on the biggest struggles in his marriage and wonders if the relationship was even real.
25:32 *💔 Emotional Disconnect*
- Theodore discusses how he feels his partner doesn't give him attention and often ignores him, which causes significant emotional distress.
26:02 *📺 Communication Issues*
- Theodore talks about the challenges of communication with his partner, noting how he often feels ignored or dismissed.
26:28 *❤️ Seeking Compatibility*
- Theodore expresses the importance of compatibility in relationships and emphasizes the need for mutual adjustment and understanding.
27:08 *🎉 Celebrating Relationships*
- Theodore shares his perspective on celebrating relationships and the significance of appreciating small gestures.
28:44 *🎯 Realizations about relationships*
- Reflects on personal growth through past relationships,
29:24 *🎁 Thoughtful gestures in relationships*
- Talks about the importance of meaningful gestures,
30:17 *🌟 Maintaining relationship effort*
- Emphasizes the effort required to sustain a relationship,
31:10 *💐 Personal celebrations and surprises*
32:18 *🍷 Creating memorable moments*
- Talks about preparing for a special evening,
33:07 *💔 Timing and readiness for marriage*
- Discusses the right time for marriage,
33:19 *🤔 Marriage and Relationship Adjustments*
- Adjustments are necessary for maintaining a living relationship.
34:01 *🕰️ Timing of Marriage*
- The right time for marriage varies significantly depending on personal and relationship maturity.
35:08 *💑 Importance of Marriage Today*
- Marriage remains significant as it provides companionship and support in a world where individual happiness is valued.
37:23 *🧠 Assessing Readiness for Relationships*
- Assessing readiness for a relationship depends on factors like age and inherent personal traits.
38:03 *🎭 Social Life and Personal Choices*
- Social life choices vary greatly among individuals; some prefer staying at home while others enjoy going out and networking.
38:30 *💔 Extremes in Love and Relationships*
- Extreme social lives and constant changes may not lead to lasting satisfaction in a relationship.
39:11 *🌟 The Complexities of Dating and Relationships*
- Dating multiple people versus settling with one person involves understanding personal values and compatibility.
40:40 *🏡 Personal and Social Priorities*
- Preferences in socializing and staying at home vary widely among individuals.
41:17 *🎯 Balancing Ambitions in Relationships*
- Balancing ambitions with a partner involves compromise and understanding.
42:26 *💡 Challenges of Ambitious Partners*
- Having partners with significantly different ambitions can lead to relationship challenges.
43:06 *🌟 Partner's Perspective on Ambition*
- Partners may have contrasting views on ambition and career priorities.
45:37 *🌟 Ambition and Relationships*
- Ambition can work if both are ambitious or if one supports the other's ambition.
46:20 *🌹 Value System in Relationships*
47:18 *💔 Red Flags in Relationships*
- Recognizing red flags is crucial for determining the viability of a relationship.
48:05 *💡 Self-Discovery and Change*
- Self-discovery involves changing oneself according to personal standards and growth.
49:01 *🙌 Respect in Relationships*
- Respect is fundamental in every relationship, whether it's between parents and children or partners.
50:21 *📌 Communication Challenges in Relationships*
- Effective communication is crucial but challenging in relationships.
51:01 *📑 Impact of Roles and Responsibilities in Films*
- Roles in films often reflect societal norms and expectations.
52:23 *🎬 Artistic Expression and Film Realism*
- Films are avenues for creative and democratic expression.
53:41 *🎥 Critique and Choice in Film Viewing*
- Individuals have the choice to critique and interpret films as they see fit.
54:37 *🎬 Impact of Movies on Perception*
- Movies can significantly influence how people perceive certain incidents or situations.
55:24 *🌍 Cultural Differences in Media Representation*
- Cultural contexts heavily influence how movies depict and represent various societal issues.
56:21 *🤔 Questioning Media Impact and Responsibility*
- The responsibility of media in portraying sensitive topics and its impact on society.
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Hey Raj Shamani ! this is the first podcast I have heart( watched) completely....its like a deep conversation...going to watch all others now....lots of love from Nepal!
Absolutely, Shefali makes a valid point. It's crucial for both parents to ensure they're raising their sons to respect women.
Answer to last discussion: it's easy to spread negative ideas than positive. As per human psychology, bad habits are easier to form.
For example: getting addicted to smoking is easier than a book
Yea I was thinking the same, he completely changed her perception. But they both have their reasons, they're both right, but its just what you said.
And i think all the negativity in u tube becoming reason for depression. Real life is very simple.
its becoming a trend for some podcasters and youtubers to only talk about negative of marraige as if all marraiges are bad. Such a shame. They never talk about it positives. They are also propagating that marraiges are bad but live in is good😂. What a shame.
100%- this person only talks negatively about everything becausr he knows negativity sells😂. He is telling and making this as if all marraiges are bad😂. Such a shameful person.
@@ZoldicsDiaries you r right
These influencers are f#cked up totally
I am simply loving your shows ,your genuine questions and the replies ....such insightful..and yess I did share this with my friends ,keep up with your good work .. Kudos to you and team ❤❤
Add one more C- Communication. Nowadays couples have stopped or minimized communicating. They r busy in their own world.. rather just talk anything n everything. Just pick up some topic n talk . Tell entire day stories. Go out with frnz n then come n tell ur person how your day went etc..
Life is not like that... In marriage..it's not possible to pick a topic n talk ..plus if one is not interested in talking then it's just enraged both of them... So eventually they or one have to become quite .. other wise. .. what would u eat or wear or buy or do is big discussion for a couple
Jab criteria hi beauty aur money hai partner select karne ka to communication kaise hoga.
@@sonasandhujiyes thr will be times wherein either one is tired or just wanna be alone n don't wanna talk, but to make a relationship work, someone needs to create that habit of sharing, talking, maybe gossiping sometimes. It's ok. Start with what the other person likes to hear n then say what u wanna say
They are busy tagging on IG😂😂 indirect taunts... I feel bad for such partner
its becoming a trend for some podcasters and youtubers to only talk about negative of marraige as if all marraiges are bad. Such a shame. They never talk about it positives. They are also propagating that marraiges are bad but live in is good😂. What a shame.
Empathize with your partner. It's not always about you. It's a marriage, balance is imp.
It is two people sharing their personal opinions... not a nail in the thumb....it all deoends and varies person to person and good luck
Wonderful red flags called out... best talk on marriage
A very nice , real conversation on relationships , marriages.......
Raj bhai, I really enjoyed this podcast. It was amazing that you invited Shefali Madam to your show. She was so expressive, frank & honest in her opinions. Also Raj bhai its amazing that you share anecdotes , research findings to support your arguments in all your podcasts. Your podcasts serves deeper insights that makes me rethink. There is one thing that I would disagree that you conveyed about optimizers/over optimizers. I think people who are optimizers are doing good rather bad. It because its easier for optimizers to ignore or overlook any shortcomings, but they still choose to probe so that the other person can do better and become good at it. Its wrong when an optimizer is not appreciating the good work and only probes when there are there are shortcomings only.
Raj Shamani, You're the best! I subscribed because I love your content!
Thankyou so much! your support and love is something that motivates me to bring the best content that might add value to my audience!!!
Yes but don’t let people spread negativity. Thumbs down 👎🏽
One of the best podcast I have listened to of late. Very interesting and informative topics were discussed, specially for the younger generation to know and understand what marriage and relationship and togetherness is all about.
Very nice episode. great questions and Shefali did wonderfull job answering them.
I love the way how raj gets so involved in a conversation with full of curiosity & good question. 👍🏻
This podcast was like realllllyyyy amazing i sat down to watch it with very diff expectation, but till the end i just got a very amazing perspective about relationships and like every relationship in & around us!!!! just wow!!!!!
your content is very helpful for peoples how are suffering from these kind of things but as I see in my family , friends and relatives there are very less peoples how understand English .SO I think if you do podcast in hindi you should cover broad range of listeners . aap bahut accha kar rahe ho I always pray you grow like that and achieve what ever you want ☺
👏🏻❤ Raj, bring more & more podcasts on relationship
Stay tuned! Many more to come💯💯
Find a guy who can be with you for a year without sex
Marry him
That's all don't watch stupid podcasts
Great talk...I am going to share this to my children who are in their early twenties ❤
Mine was an arranged marriage, I am carrier oriented person, so I thought of marring a job person, who has limited time of working, and has good holiday too, so dat he can atleast look after house or kids in my absence. But as days went , he started feeling jealous of my earnings, and he started dominating me to not work so much . But I had my loans going on, for which I had to work. He started comparing me for not doing household chores on time. It was really terrible. And exhausting. And we ended up in divorce. Daughter being with me. So I don't think dat one partner being family oriented and other being carrier oriented is not the real solution.
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Such a relatable as well as a open hearted conversation. Absolutely love her as a woman & an actor. Raj you asked brilliant questions, overall a great podcast to watch on relationships. Keep up the good work !!
Thankyou so much for this podcast ❤ Raj Shamani
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This was an amazing podcast 🎉❤❤❤
Wonderful podcast! Huge fan of Shefali Shah
This could have been a lengthier episode..I feel like many portions were just cut off abruptly
This was a great podcast and a great conversation. Shefali Shah is a gem 💎. I felt there there were multiple cuts here which stopped the natural flow of conversation, I’d prefer if it was a free flowing conversation. I want my podcast to be uncut and unedited, but that’s just me
6:15 she said that she is earning and she is independent. If man says he is earning and independent then women go to court and files false case of 498
Listen to her further. She is saying that men too have terrible marriages.
@@alankritakaushalyup
Stop victimizing yourselves unnecessarily..
Both genders have terrible marriages from their pov and experiences
@@alankritakaushal men's terrible marriage don't have solution.. they can't give divorce they have to pay money.
But women don't have to pay to men
I just love Shefali . She was so honest in this interview, often teary eyed . So good to hear her out, I guess it’s my story too 😊 So many times I thought I was talking . Sometimes we all want to hear some honest life experiences. For me this story was all needed 👍
Marriage is a complicated thing and giving generic tips like "early marriage is bad" will help no one, because there are studies showing people who marry outside 22-28 range tend to get divorced soon....This lady doesn't know the reality of marriages in these times... my family has been searching for a bride since 2 years and haven't found a match even though I'm handsome guy with good salary and background.....some of my friends have been rejected by girls because they crossed age 30...
And do you know the reason why? It’s because people are able to recognize right from wrong. Earlier people married at 10 to 13. Is that okay? Wait for forebrain to develop. Get financial ability. Ok now why you want to marry and stay married for 60 years. Marriage only works 45per or so. It’s natural. Marriage is a man made conscious decision. It’s not natural.
That's fuckin truth
But some suedo feminist will not agree with it because of their illogical mindset
She has literally compared a life partner with work, like if a person is a workaholic then she/he may not need a life partner....!
I wonder if she's aware of WTH is coming out of her mouth!
She said there are people who are completely involved with work. Such workaholics many not prefer to have a partner because they want to devote all their time to work..for example people like Dr. APJ Abdul Kalam who dedicated their whole life to their profession.
Such people also exist..@@nandinisharma2577
Excellent talk show. Loved the topic. Loved the conversation & Shefali was pointing every single point, loved how she explained so beautifully. Thank you for bringing my all time favorite actress Shefali Shah. I have been seeing her from Hasrate drama from TV.
Thank you so much to you both ❤very real and inspiring podcast. Respect is main in Good relationship. Stay blessed all.
am thoroughly enjoying every bit of this conversation. so relatable n so true.....kudos..... i fully disagree with ppl who say , academic qualification is needed to talk abt relationships....really/? my mother doesnt run an event management company but i know how well she designs and orchastrates the whole show.... pls grow up guys, she isnt overacting, she is being herself thoroughly... she is radiating freedom of expression. so , cut d crap n stop saying negative things.... u like it great...dont like it , move on n watch what u like......
She is soo soo intelligent and aware about what women and men feel in their marriage and relationship's etc. And every single individual should watch this episode if ur struggling with your relationship and marriage.
I know that there is somethings are wrong with my relationship but I don't want to or I don't know how to address things to my partner after watching this episode in so many topics it just open my eyes for both of us, I will share this podcast with my partner, family and friends!!!
Such a great podcast Raj sir keep rocking!!! Love your every podcast!!! ❤❤❤
One of the finest actors I have seen. Her journey from Monsoon Wedding to Darlings, needless to mention her performance in OTT has been fabulous, fabulous being understatement.
Her eyes itself is whole lot of dialogue and statement.
Always look forward for her next fold of performance.
My wish, just want to meet her for a minute and tell her how accomplished people like us to have a talent like her.
Shefali the beauty of your performance is just mesmerising. Keep working
This is called real content
Fabulous episode ❤👏👏loved your questions and her answerss
Majority Indian marriages are all full of sacrifice type of life for for future of their children etc
Maybe when they reincarnate the hope is a better life. If we thought this is the life we may think differently.
You have asked very good questions from shifali and she has answered all those questions very openly n with utmost honesty. It was a quality conversation. I was glued to the podcast from beginning till end .
हिंदी में समझ में ज्यादा आता है मुझे 😊
She is right. A great actor and a good human being.
Thanks Raj and I really appreciate it the kind of question you ask. Your podcasts are very informative.
Thankyou🙌🙌
Many a times Raj's questions were offtrack for which there can be no definite answer. I however loved the way Shefali fielded all of them. Honest and from the heart. Have always loved her.
Love listening to her. Lovely podcast, please Invite her again, Thank you.
यह वार्ता मैंने सुनी मुझे कुछ समझ नहीं आया मैं मानती हूँ कि ज़िन्दगी अकेले के लिए भी परिस्थितियों से तालमेल का नाम है क्या हम अपने सपनों का राजा ढूँढ सकते हैं एक ही घर में परिवार के चार लोग अलग-अलग होते हैं फिर भी हम एक दूसरे का सम्मान करते हुए हम एक ही परिवार में रहते हैं आज जो परिस्थितियाँ हैं वो कल नहीं रहेगी उसके लिए हम दुनियाँ तों नहीं छोड़ देते हम उस परिस्थिति का समाधान ढूँढते हैं मतलब तालमेल बिठाना 🙏🏽 58:05
I don't agree with the point that ambitious person should marry to a non-ambitious one. Because, then the other person won't ever be able to understand your point of view and to acknowledge your efforts towards your ambitions. To succeed in a relationship being an ambitious individual is to align your partner with your goal or other way too. Make his ambition your own and then patiently wait for your turn. Example: Its been 4 years of my marriage and for first three years I worked everything possible to support my husband to achieve his dreams and now he is doing same for me. Now, I am in Germany pursuing my research career and he is at home taking care of my son, his family and of couse his job.
I love the way mam is discussing things....i love her....she is an amazing actress...tysm raj bhaiya for such a wonderful podcast❤
Marriage in early or late thirties is really bad. Genetically Caucasian women have large egg reserves and longer maternal windows. Modern Asian / Indian women have low egg reserves and low maternal window. Above 30 , women are considered advanced maternal age and complications of food allergies, Down syndrome, autism for the fetus increases exponentially! Also you down want to be too old too take care of your kids and experience the joy of your grandkids! Your kids want to be there for them!
Your comment made sense till Talking about your next gen...
You want to alive to look after your Grand kids.... is TOO MUCH to Expect from Life...
Does "LIVING FOR OWN, SELF IMPROVEMENT, PRIVATE TIME, PERSONALITY DEVELOPMENT " comes to your Radar or ... no personal goals/upliftment... just Family Planning 😅
@quizudita I am living my best life and stating facts about human biology! Quoting everything in cap .. you seem very frustrated!
@shefali shah…. Eye opening movie …once again ❤❤❤
I am speechless because it was a mind-blowing podcast. I just loved it. Keep up the good work.
Shefali Shah is amazing....her vibe is so cool...thanks for calling her on the podcast
Just ask her how much her husband makes. Then you will find the answer for why and what she ' loved more'.
I really liked this episode. Shefali Shah is my favorite. And you were asking all the right questions. Also, you seemed to be a very sensitive person in all the conversations. So, watching this was a really good experience for me. Thank you both for a candid conversation on all that is so relevant and relatable!!😊
I allways learn new things from your podcast thanks for that
Many more to come💯
Lovely podcast I like Shefali Mam...she is a fantastic actor...and a very nice human being ❤❤❤😊😇
I really like your podcast but with great actors like Vidya Balan and shifali shah why are we stuck on with marriage & relationship? They are ACTORS not a couple therapist . Yes they are humans like all of us with opinions and relationships. But I wish we could have known more about her journey. What is the right time to marry ? Asking shifali shah won't influence us . Idk . It's disappointing ya !
Exactly.. this is non-sense.
True.. there is too much talk about marriage. Raj, there are NO formulas.. what will work is very subjective. Maybe you could talk about how middle aged women can become actors!
I agree.
Ek dum! I was like... .. bawadi ho gayi ke? 😂 They are having convo like night out with friends 😅
Which part exactly
Beautiful podcast ❤…….thoroughly enjoyed it ✨
i dont think age has anything to do with marriage, its about wisdom and also where your heart is. we cant change the fate but every relationship is a gamble
She’s just telling inside my feelings nd experience, I can see transparency ❤: Thank you Shefali jii ✨
First time I have seen something which is very practical in today's time.
Overall, I found this piece a great watch; time well spent on food for thought!
Shefali Shah has shared thoughts which I found eminently sensible, very pragmatic and in sync with the times.
Like me she also finds marrying earlier than age 25 whether boy or girl, quite ridiculous!
Also, I really like the bit where you'll discuss how women need to ensure their own self-worth/financial independence/me time/individual interests/ instead of glorifying the traditional Indian perspective of being the " त्याग की मूर्ति" THERE'S NOTHING THAT DRIVES ME UP THE WALL THAN THIS DOES !!!
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No disrespect, but how does an actor become an expert on relationships?
What's the qualification?
Again, no disrespect intended to anyone..
I think this was one of best podcast i have seen the redflags are really upto the mark relatable to my life as well the advice or the suggestion given by both of you are incredible i will optimize them in my personal life too thanks for this
Unfortunately her own marriage failed and she making her personal experience as universal truth..
Ofcourse she'll talk with experience she had.. she's not any relationship expert. U learn from ur surroundings and ur own home
I haven't seen even one successful marriage around me, thought they all put up happy couple pics on FB and Instagram
loved this one with all my heart. this woman has so much wisdom!
At 10:00 they are talking a girl getting married at the age of 25 years. Shefali maam is against it. She saying teach her and all. Thats completely correct. But actually it is true that after certain age people are not getting suitable prospects as their life partner. Its difficult. I am 26. My parents started searching guys. But i am not getting it. I was also stubborn that i don't want get married and all not at the age of 25. When i realised its time to get married. I am not getting guys. So its true.. age matters. I am not against anybody's opinion.i respect each and everyone's opinion. People say that i can live life alone. Why to get married and all. But you know what after certain age you will realise that we need someone to share that how was your day? Somebody should be their to takecare if you are not well. Parents are their, friend, family everybody will be their. But few things you can't share with parents family friends. Its only life partner with whom i can share.
Ye country bas Indian boys ke wives,gf,lovers ke hai...baaki....desh chod de....Bas Indian boys ke wives/gf reh sakte hai yaha...
Not trying to be mean but girl you are not finding guys because you are extremely obese :) you don't look 26 but actually look in your 30's
Try to follow a good diet,do exercises and try to maintain a good bmi as it also matters when a woman wants to be pregnant 😊
I am a woman so please don't think I am bashing you
But it is The truth that Men like younger and fit women
26 is not too old actually
You just need to do some self-care 😊
😂 partner hain ..radio fm nahi
Love Shefali Shah 💖💖, must say. Sapne mein milti hai kudi mere sapne mein milti hai🎶🎶
OMG HAS TO BE MY MOST FAV PODCASTS TILL NOW , love the way she spoke and the points she kept is so on point 🙌
Marriage is utmost important thing for old age and getting married at right age is imp cause woman has body clock that starts ticking by 35...no matter at what age you marry or how educated you are or how wealthy you been.. everybody has to adjust ,compromise, be faithful n respect your partner..
loved this particular one
I genuinely loved Her ❤❤❤ she's so outspoken, straightforward, so expressive and full of life ❤ She had gone really through a lot in her life to share such piece of Wisdom, knowledge & experiences ❤