Toxic Marriages, Right Time To Marry & Red Flags In Relationships - Shefali Shah | FO205 Raj Shamani

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  • Опубликовано: 20 ноя 2024

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  • @minazkhan1440
    @minazkhan1440 6 месяцев назад +706

    Lack of Financial Freedom is the biggest reason woman stay in bad marriage...its very important to give Financial support like a business setup or rental property to daughters instead of grand weddings..she don't have to compromise with her dignity

    • @ritika80
      @ritika80 6 месяцев назад +17

      Well said 👍

    • @ZoldicsDiaries
      @ZoldicsDiaries 6 месяцев назад +12

      its becoming a trend for some podcasters and youtubers to only talk about negative of marraige as if all marraiges are bad. Such a shame. They never talk about it positives. They are also propagating that marraiges are bad but live in is good😂. What a shame.

    • @AshishKumar-qj6oi
      @AshishKumar-qj6oi 6 месяцев назад +5

      You live in dream.. wake up kid this is not world works

    • @ashwinimanwatkar4359
      @ashwinimanwatkar4359 6 месяцев назад +17

      Nah ..even with financial freedom ladies are not being able to move out of marriage

    • @aminaik3404
      @aminaik3404 6 месяцев назад +1

      If u are earning less than your husband then that could be a card towards u as well.

  • @anupamashrivastav4361
    @anupamashrivastav4361 6 месяцев назад +206

    I had a toxic marriage pulled it for 24 yrs and communicated with the kids and left. I could do this because I was financially stable but believe me I am very happy now and same with the kids. So be strong ladies

    • @sa11h_1
      @sa11h_1 5 месяцев назад +4

      Happy to know that your kids are happy.

    • @tmk-y9p
      @tmk-y9p 3 месяца назад +3

      I'm in toxic marriage becoz of my children n I'm happy as kids love their father n getting a healthy environment to grow ,I'm satisfied with dis .

    • @sundusakhtar3516
      @sundusakhtar3516 Месяц назад

      So did he return

  • @akshadachougaonkar5134
    @akshadachougaonkar5134 6 месяцев назад +84

    I think you should have called someone who has seen the bright side of marriage too along with this guest who saw the dark side. Or maybe make another podcast with Riteish and Genelia and ask the same questions and ask them how they both maintained and had a so beautiful marriage. Please note this.

    • @vivoviva7880
      @vivoviva7880 5 месяцев назад +2

      Very good suggestion!!

    • @vidyaasvideos
      @vidyaasvideos 4 месяца назад +4

      To be very honest, marriages in Bharat are very typical. In arranged marriages especially in certain states it's girls skin color and looks v/s boy's education and salary. Girl brings her looks to the table and boy brings his earning capability for a great lifestyle. I particularly say looks of a girl in an arranged marriage because many educated, smart, intelligent, financially independent and well read girls who are talented are rejected only because of skin color and this happens everyone in the North, Telangana and Andhra. Genelia and Riteish's marriage is a love marriage so they knew each other. again the equation of looks and money does come in. But Genelia herself was an actress so she did have enough money. In my entire group the pretty girls got men who treated them decently and loved them. The girls are well educated, and good looking and their's was also love marriage. but you need to look a certain way to get a man to really Love you in India

    • @random_person_on_internet
      @random_person_on_internet 3 месяца назад +2

      ​@@vidyaasvideos trust me it is The same everywhere in the world
      Only pretty women are treated well by men

    • @vidyaasvideos
      @vidyaasvideos 3 месяца назад

      @@random_person_on_internet then it is a good thing. Girls at a young age especially in school are told the same. Movies say the same. Everything say the same. Girls who don't fit that mould get better opportunities at work and in Business. Pretty girls get the men but no education. That way it would be justified. Let men marry or date only pretty girls and not other women. Please spare the rest of them with the bad treatment.

    • @Fauna205
      @Fauna205 3 месяца назад

      @@vidyaasvideos are yu South Indian??

  • @najumehra1966
    @najumehra1966 6 месяцев назад +139

    Omg her brain is exactly like mine!!! So so true !! Love her for coming and being so vocal about what the reality is! Salute!

    • @ZoldicsDiaries
      @ZoldicsDiaries 6 месяцев назад +3

      its becoming a trend for some podcasters and youtubers to only talk about negative of marraige as if all marraiges are bad. Such a shame. They never talk about it positives. They are also propagating that marraiges are bad but live in is good😂. What a shame.

  • @gitasrimandal4477
    @gitasrimandal4477 6 месяцев назад +132

    Shefali is so true and honest in this conversation .. lots of love for her… no high funda thought.. just day to day problems of specially Indian families….Bring one more episode on relationship with her.. pls

    • @ZoldicsDiaries
      @ZoldicsDiaries 6 месяцев назад +1

      its becoming a trend for some podcasters and youtubers to only talk about negative of marraige as if all marraiges are bad. Such a shame. They never talk about it positives. They are also propagating that marraiges are bad but live in is good😂. What a shame.

    • @jackryan2709
      @jackryan2709 5 месяцев назад

      Shefali Shah is a wonderful actress and she is doing really good acting in podcast also.

    • @shuchitamahindru1843
      @shuchitamahindru1843 5 месяцев назад +1

      I second that... another episode is a must...

  • @Namrata_Singh_Raghuvanshi
    @Namrata_Singh_Raghuvanshi 5 месяцев назад +93

    Hi Raj!
    An honest opinion here.. If you're bringing psychologists, lawyers, or someone who has actually some experience like people who have studied relationships, marriages or breakups then related questions are valid. A person from media should be asked media related, movies related or fashion related questions.. it increases credibility for us as audience..

    • @jackryan2709
      @jackryan2709 5 месяцев назад +3

      Agree… she is just doing acting in front of camera now in this podcast.

    • @akshansh6471
      @akshansh6471 5 месяцев назад +1

      Absolutely agreed!

    • @kamalp2242
      @kamalp2242 5 месяцев назад +8

      Don’t agree here, anyone who’s been in a relationship good or bad can share their experiences provided they are honest about it n here she was quite forthcoming, love her for that. But being a public figure you can’t say it all on a national platform . We should understand that.

    • @Kathakathan11
      @Kathakathan11 4 месяца назад

      Agreed..

    • @meghamalajana6471
      @meghamalajana6471 4 месяца назад +2

      Professionals are to some extent biased and bound to talk in a certain way. I think non professionals are less biased

  • @nandinisharma2577
    @nandinisharma2577 6 месяцев назад +174

    Though I agree that everyone should have the right to speak up their minds but brother please don't call the film industry people for relationships related advice bcoz:
    1)They comes from world where there is no line between professional & personal life, therefore we have very different perspectives towards life.
    2)Because of the kind of work they are in, the people they are surrounded with and the society they live in, is literally poles apart from ours.
    3) Most of their opinions on marriage and relationships are bizzare and irrational. These people have damaged the sacredness of marriage as an institution and have ruined the societies.
    4) You can't just go and take relationship advices from people who are okay to attach their names with any person just for the sake of publicity.
    5)They are literally marrying for the brand values how can anybody ask them for personal life or relationships related advices???
    * Nothing against Shefali Shah, I love her work and she just best at it.😊
    My thoughts are in general as I follow your channel regularly and lately, I have been observing that your questions to the film celebrities are much about relationships and less about their work.
    Mind it, they might be experts at acting(बहुत से तो उसमे भी नही है) but that doesn't mean they are experts at relationships as well.
    Their opinions and thoughts on relationships are only as important as any other common person if not less.

    • @AJ-vz4os
      @AJ-vz4os 6 месяцев назад +5

      I’m 100% agree with your opinion.

    • @Shubham45-j7k
      @Shubham45-j7k 6 месяцев назад +8

      Yes sister i completely agree with you if you want real relationship advise just look around middle class Indians.In love sacrifice is needed but these movie stars don't want to sacrifice and even most of them marries just for money and fame they don't love each other truly.

    • @screensafari17
      @screensafari17 6 месяцев назад +16

      No one is expert in relationship. Criticize the points not the person. Common people are also not saint. It is just that they don't have many options like celebrities. In multi national companies, affairs are quite common. How many men would remain loyal if they are approached by beautiful women who are out of their league?

    • @Shubham45-j7k
      @Shubham45-j7k 6 месяцев назад +3

      @@screensafari17 bro which mnc are you talking about, I interned at Microsoft and haven't seen much cases and why you are getting offended it's true that most marriages are just for money and fame and in reality also such marriages exist but I have witnessed how my parents truly loved each other sacrificed many things and I am sorry if you didn't like any of my words.

    • @prachijain9351
      @prachijain9351 6 месяцев назад +4

      Yeah. Everyone has a unique and very different journey. We can relate to a few incidents, but it's up to the individual how does he/she deals with the situation. Not an appropriate person to give general opinion on this issue for sure. She is great on her craft, but in terms of relationships, she can share only her experiences and uni directional perspective.

  • @TangledHues
    @TangledHues 28 дней назад +5

    5th and most important C in the marriage is "communication". It is most important aspect. And misconception is that communication is all about talking. It's not. If it's only about talking then people who can't speak would never be able to communicate. Communication doesn't need to be verbal, no language mandatory. Most important is to understand how your partner and you can communicate better, verbally and non-verbally both ways. It takes time to understand eachother. Take time, try different ways to find your connection. Most marriages can easily work if you have your communication right...

  • @716Sbbmsmiia-hx3kf
    @716Sbbmsmiia-hx3kf 6 месяцев назад +41

    The way she is sitting - it's more like how comfortable cool she makes the environment

  • @sumitatulkar7384
    @sumitatulkar7384 6 месяцев назад +531

    Brother Please put thumbnail like "Dark reality of Indian Marriages" your are making people mindset to see negatives of indian Marriages even before the start of the videos, instead of making people to see what good and what is bad of marriages. Click bait is ok but don't make your audiences pre conception that indian Marriages are bad.

    • @sandeep283
      @sandeep283 6 месяцев назад +6

      Bro thumbnail says toxic marriage and red flag which itself interprets negativity

    • @vivekalexander1217
      @vivekalexander1217 6 месяцев назад +8

      Most of his thumbnails are like that… even an Adani one…raj knows negativity sells and he is cashing in on that

    • @sandeep283
      @sandeep283 6 месяцев назад +3

      @@vivekalexander1217 yeah all you tubers r behind dis tactic to garner viewership

    • @T3Rmin4LCuRi0siTy
      @T3Rmin4LCuRi0siTy 6 месяцев назад +1

      He can't do anything about it. He is just a pawn and he has to follow the orders given to him. Just use your own mind. People who can't judge with their own mind are doomed.

    • @anurag1175
      @anurag1175 6 месяцев назад +6

      Then you are fool if you are making your mind with half information, without watching whole video.

  • @SaarthiCounselling
    @SaarthiCounselling 5 месяцев назад +17

    In order to build awareness and psychoeducating people about mental health and healthy relationships, these people are invited and not Psychologist/Marriage Counsellors like us. They may have experience but we definitely have education, expertise, and experience.

    • @thenaturallstore
      @thenaturallstore 3 месяца назад +1

      So you think reading books and doing cases is more valuable rather than going through all this?

    • @tigerbunny6328
      @tigerbunny6328 Месяц назад

      ​@@thenaturallstore going through all this is what makes a case study so I don't know what you're trying to prove. Counsellors also have clients of all types and are less likely to be biased when talking about some emotionally charged topic like relationships.

  • @SriramaMurthy-y5x
    @SriramaMurthy-y5x 2 месяца назад +4

    REAL LIFE = ACCEPTANCE +FORGIVENESS +LOVE +REPENTANCE +SERVICE

  • @ChildFirst
    @ChildFirst 6 месяцев назад +128

    Not all points she mentioned are having logical reasoning. She haven't get into the depth of issues & experiences in her own marriage. Her body language is highly impatient. This podcast is just a conversation and not any such to take away.
    12:28... Interesting

    • @Tourdarshan
      @Tourdarshan 6 месяцев назад +11

      Do you know about personalities?? People have various of personalities. It just hers

    • @daborasingh3826
      @daborasingh3826 6 месяцев назад +1

      True

    • @ChildFirst
      @ChildFirst 6 месяцев назад +3

      ​@@Tourdarshan
      Yes Dear! I myself is a Marital Relationship Counsellor. 🙏

    • @sujanithtottempudi2991
      @sujanithtottempudi2991 6 месяцев назад +5

      She speaks mostly woman POV only

    • @sivakumargoru3678
      @sivakumargoru3678 6 месяцев назад +1

      Absolutely true

  • @rishisharma8311
    @rishisharma8311 6 месяцев назад +203

    I dont know how credible this information is. Shefali Shah is neither a psychiatrist nor a marriage counsellor and being an actress i will think twice before agreeing with her because bollywood is just famous for presenting distorted realities.

    • @maryamhinatahir3782
      @maryamhinatahir3782 6 месяцев назад +15

      Unfortunately we always label mindful people. On the other side most of psychiatrist just have degree so they allowed to whatever they want. Right?

    • @rishisharma8311
      @rishisharma8311 6 месяцев назад +21

      @@maryamhinatahir3782 "degree" is backed by some research atleast, specially in psychology. And what Shefali Shah did here was that she shared her own experience (which is just one experience). If a marriage consellor would have come in, he/she would have shared the experiences of multiple couples (multiple experiences) and the different paths they took to resolved their couple issues. There are much more ways to resolve things apart from a divorce. Wouldn't that have been a much better learning for us?

    • @rohitbelani4500
      @rohitbelani4500 6 месяцев назад +7

      Totally agreed. The most irritating podcast in my opinion

    • @sandhyaslittleworld5913
      @sandhyaslittleworld5913 6 месяцев назад +1

      Agree totally i thought she ll talk abt her career

    • @swatikurtkoti1534
      @swatikurtkoti1534 5 месяцев назад +9

      It's not information he already mentioned in first few minutes, it's her wisdom she is sharing.

  • @mainumedhi406
    @mainumedhi406 6 месяцев назад +31

    Jab tak shaadi mein naaptol chalega tab tab esa hi ghisipiti jhagre honge..
    Marriage is totally a bond between two souls who are different from each other but still likes to be together with the differences and equally enjoys each other's company.. I got married at 25 and i got a partner who is immensely fond of me and i am fond of him.. We both have different personality though.. Not all who are on screen are perfect to give judgements.. Sometimes you should also bring normal common people on podcast too.. So that we all feel related

    • @therakeshkumarrathore
      @therakeshkumarrathore 6 месяцев назад +4

      Ye sb family or society ne suru Kiya h
      Sirf need dekhi jati h ladka ladki hot h sex mil jayega ladke ki job h to sukh milega
      Baki iske alawa to koi kuch dekhta nhi ki love sbse pehle hona chahiye

    • @ZoldicsDiaries
      @ZoldicsDiaries 6 месяцев назад +1

      100%

    • @ZoldicsDiaries
      @ZoldicsDiaries 6 месяцев назад +2

      its becoming a trend for some podcasters and youtubers to only talk about negative of marraige as if all marraiges are bad. Such a shame. They never talk about it positives. They are also propagating that marraiges are bad but live in is good😂. What a shame.

    • @tanyayadav8815
      @tanyayadav8815 6 месяцев назад +1

      Behen tum lucky aur highly understanding ho...in most of the cases aisa nhi hota hai...just 2 different opinions (you and shefali) stating facts...()

    • @Swadheenta06
      @Swadheenta06 4 месяца назад

      Normal common people ho ya celebrity a marriage based on money and flash is a transaction. Marriage without love and willingness is a worst thing a person can be in.

  • @anandp3065
    @anandp3065 6 месяцев назад +9

    Her views are based on her experiences. I think while taking decisions one needs to consider their own situations, feelings etc.

  • @anitha7500
    @anitha7500 6 месяцев назад +7

    Nice message " chose to be alone, rather being with wrong partner"

    • @48038
      @48038 5 месяцев назад +1

      सृष्टि का सारा सौंदर्य सारा संगीत सारी संवेदनाए साथ जीने साथ रहने से साथ जुड़ने से जागता है अपनी गरिमा अपनी जिद अपनी जीवनशैली अपनी धारणाओ अपने अन्तर्विरोधो के चलते अकेले रहना एक चुनाव है समाधान नही ....

  • @gulabi.jazbaat
    @gulabi.jazbaat 5 месяцев назад +10

    I have been absolutely in awe of Shefali Shah for the last few years. I can't put into words how much adoration my heart holds for her. Thank you @rajshamani for having her on Figuring Out. I am so thankful.

  • @SehYoga
    @SehYoga 3 месяца назад +3

    i dont think age has anything to do with marriage, its about wisdom and also where your heart is. we cant change the fate but every relationship is a gamble

  • @Arsalan_Ayaz
    @Arsalan_Ayaz 6 месяцев назад +21

    bro please try to communicate in hindi because the community to whom you want to teach/target , unable to understand english.

  • @TataSky-jr7td
    @TataSky-jr7td 6 месяцев назад +51

    Add one more C- Communication. Nowadays couples have stopped or minimized communicating. They r busy in their own world.. rather just talk anything n everything. Just pick up some topic n talk . Tell entire day stories. Go out with frnz n then come n tell ur person how your day went etc..

    • @sonasandhuji
      @sonasandhuji 6 месяцев назад +1

      Life is not like that... In marriage..it's not possible to pick a topic n talk ..plus if one is not interested in talking then it's just enraged both of them... So eventually they or one have to become quite .. other wise. .. what would u eat or wear or buy or do is big discussion for a couple

    • @screensafari17
      @screensafari17 6 месяцев назад +1

      Jab criteria hi beauty aur money hai partner select karne ka to communication kaise hoga.

    • @TataSky-jr7td
      @TataSky-jr7td 6 месяцев назад +1

      @@sonasandhujiyes thr will be times wherein either one is tired or just wanna be alone n don't wanna talk, but to make a relationship work, someone needs to create that habit of sharing, talking, maybe gossiping sometimes. It's ok. Start with what the other person likes to hear n then say what u wanna say

    • @simrandakni7725
      @simrandakni7725 6 месяцев назад

      They are busy tagging on IG😂😂 indirect taunts... I feel bad for such partner

    • @ZoldicsDiaries
      @ZoldicsDiaries 6 месяцев назад

      its becoming a trend for some podcasters and youtubers to only talk about negative of marraige as if all marraiges are bad. Such a shame. They never talk about it positives. They are also propagating that marraiges are bad but live in is good😂. What a shame.

  • @KavitaSingh-xj9mv
    @KavitaSingh-xj9mv Месяц назад +2

    I got married at 23and I am in my 50’s , I am so happy to be married and it was my best decision .

  • @shreyas5696_YT
    @shreyas5696_YT 6 месяцев назад +69

    Answer to last discussion: it's easy to spread negative ideas than positive. As per human psychology, bad habits are easier to form.
    For example: getting addicted to smoking is easier than a book

    • @aakashsingh1188
      @aakashsingh1188 6 месяцев назад +1

      Yea I was thinking the same, he completely changed her perception. But they both have their reasons, they're both right, but its just what you said.

    • @therakeshkumarrathore
      @therakeshkumarrathore 6 месяцев назад

      And i think all the negativity in u tube becoming reason for depression. Real life is very simple.

    • @ZoldicsDiaries
      @ZoldicsDiaries 6 месяцев назад

      its becoming a trend for some podcasters and youtubers to only talk about negative of marraige as if all marraiges are bad. Such a shame. They never talk about it positives. They are also propagating that marraiges are bad but live in is good😂. What a shame.

    • @ZoldicsDiaries
      @ZoldicsDiaries 6 месяцев назад

      100%- this person only talks negatively about everything becausr he knows negativity sells😂. He is telling and making this as if all marraiges are bad😂. Such a shameful person.

    • @therakeshkumarrathore
      @therakeshkumarrathore 6 месяцев назад

      @@ZoldicsDiaries you r right
      These influencers are f#cked up totally

  • @20dainty
    @20dainty 5 месяцев назад +8

    This podcast is so relatable. The discussion on flawed marriages and kids growing up to believe that marriages are a flawed concept and then being pushed by the same parents into marriage saying sab marriages ek jaisi nahi hoti...and then pressurizing them to ignore red flags saying sabki aisi hi hoti hain. Hypocrisy at its peak.

  • @jayameera19
    @jayameera19 6 месяцев назад +13

    Best podcast everyone must watch this 😊 many many tiny things to learn from this podcast
    Continuity is not breaking that's good 👍🏻

  • @alka935
    @alka935 5 месяцев назад +16

    I just love this lady. How she speaks, how she react, how she understand the thnigs is incredible

    • @rashidarupani9519
      @rashidarupani9519 4 месяца назад

      She. Also cm out from. Bad. Marriage ,and now. Happy with 2nd hsbnd vipul. Shah r

  • @ShreyasKa92
    @ShreyasKa92 5 месяцев назад +28

    If you started dating in early 30s and want to date for 4-5 years, one might have problems conceiving a child.
    What if one or both of the partners are not open to adoption.
    You’re in a trap & this is only one of the reasons why you shouldn’t listen to these people blindly.
    Marry early, learn to grown and correct your mistakes together.
    Live a little spiritually.
    God bless!

    • @pg0425
      @pg0425 4 месяца назад +2

      you can always freeze the eggs !

    • @palakkumari112
      @palakkumari112 4 месяца назад +2

      First Listen properly what they said then comment on them
      She never said to date in early 30s ......
      She said don't rush to marry take your time dating in early 20s( 21-27) and marry in late 20s ( 29-30)
      She suggested to focus on your carrer and your individual self and enjoy your early 20s Don't rush into marring just anyone bc you are in your early 20s (24-25)
      She also said to not rush untill you find the RIGHT PERSON just take your time finding that one person and meet people EXPLORE the world in your early 20s ........If you have found the right person and you are ready then marry anytime you want
      Just Don't marry anyone just bc you are in your early or mid 20s ......It's a very good advice ....Almost every person who has a carrer or a goal marries in late 20s ( doctors , govt jobs , teachers(phd) so on ) .....She didn't say anything uncommon

    • @preethachandy5113
      @preethachandy5113 3 месяца назад

      But giving birth should be before 25, if you need two kids, when after 25 it is hard to deliver, there will be changes in your hormones, your body, and complications when giving birth.

    • @devsmithadas
      @devsmithadas 3 месяца назад +5

      @@preethachandy5113 you need more education and exposure

    • @SR-mv2mf
      @SR-mv2mf 3 месяца назад +1

      You make your mistakes but please don’t make a new innocent child suffer along with you. It causes irreversible damage to the child.

  • @shreyasingh606
    @shreyasingh606 6 месяцев назад +11

    Seriously, I've never watched anyone's podcast all the way through until the end. But Raj, you and your content are so good.
    You gain a subscriber.

    • @rajshamani
      @rajshamani  6 месяцев назад

      Thankyou🙌 Let me know what you want to see next on our podcast💯

  • @riyatalksgenderequality
    @riyatalksgenderequality 6 месяцев назад +17

    Oh what a podcast! WHAT A PODCAST!!! ❤👏 Kudos and huge thanks to you both for bringing up such content and highlighting the unsaid details. More than loved it ❤

    • @rajshamani
      @rajshamani  6 месяцев назад +2

      Thankyou🙌🙌

    • @ZoldicsDiaries
      @ZoldicsDiaries 6 месяцев назад +1

      its becoming a trend for some podcasters and youtubers to only talk about negative of marraige as if all marraiges are bad. Such a shame. They never talk about it positives. They are also propagating that marraiges are bad but live in is good😂. What a shame.

    • @engineerofemotions1183
      @engineerofemotions1183 5 месяцев назад

      @@rajshamani Raaj you used to replied for one's who make a sheer positive comment only, please read constructive criticism as well. It will help you to grow fast and real....
      And genuine I am a regular viewer and admirer as well

  • @gillianchanga-nj4lm
    @gillianchanga-nj4lm 5 месяцев назад +2

    Very realistic conversation on marriage. It’s ups and downs, 80/20 some days, but you push through. And the part of celebrating is so true. You have to put the work in.

  • @ramyapidugu1027
    @ramyapidugu1027 6 месяцев назад +22

    Very informative.. much needed... and the flow of the podcast was awesome - Natural & On-point

  • @gitanjalipuri6866
    @gitanjalipuri6866 5 месяцев назад +2

    So relatable
    Feeling normal as I am 51.
    Good to know my marriage is okay.

  • @imanmalik5631
    @imanmalik5631 6 месяцев назад +54

    Her advice on late marriage is not practical especially where women are concerned. Women who decide to have children in mid thirties are at higher risks of having babies with deformities.

    • @carrad123456
      @carrad123456 6 месяцев назад +16

      Mid thirties is ok, mid forties is problem.

    • @Hassan-fd6yn
      @Hassan-fd6yn 6 месяцев назад +26

      children are not only reason for marriage.

    • @Hassan-fd6yn
      @Hassan-fd6yn 6 месяцев назад

      who cares about fooking babies...first manage each other

    • @carrad123456
      @carrad123456 6 месяцев назад +4

      @@_Avinash_singh_solanki_ not necessary, it can go on till 50-55

    • @therakeshkumarrathore
      @therakeshkumarrathore 6 месяцев назад +14

      Pehle khud ki Khushi dekh lo fir bcche peda Krna
      Bcche to God bhi le skte h
      Aya smj?

  • @srudeville007
    @srudeville007 5 месяцев назад +2

    Empathize with your partner. It's not always about you. It's a marriage, balance is imp.

  • @tejaswininepali9557
    @tejaswininepali9557 6 месяцев назад +5

    Hey Raj Shamani ! this is the first podcast I have heart( watched) completely....its like a deep conversation...going to watch all others now....lots of love from Nepal!

  • @sonumonu5553
    @sonumonu5553 6 месяцев назад +4

    It is two people sharing their personal opinions... not a nail in the thumb....it all deoends and varies person to person and good luck

  • @amitamittalgupta7893
    @amitamittalgupta7893 6 месяцев назад +19

    A very nice , real conversation on relationships , marriages.......

  • @Rr77184
    @Rr77184 2 месяца назад +1

    Wonderful red flags called out... best talk on marriage

  • @aminaik3404
    @aminaik3404 6 месяцев назад +6

    Very nice episode. great questions and Shefali did wonderfull job answering them.

  • @srilata2070
    @srilata2070 6 месяцев назад +1

    Absolutely, Shefali makes a valid point. It's crucial for both parents to ensure they're raising their sons to respect women.

  • @baratbushan8230
    @baratbushan8230 6 месяцев назад +19

    Majority Indian marriages are all full of sacrifice type of life for for future of their children etc

    • @jessaabraham
      @jessaabraham 6 месяцев назад +1

      Maybe when they reincarnate the hope is a better life. If we thought this is the life we may think differently.

  • @rajanip.n5275
    @rajanip.n5275 16 дней назад

    Great talk...I am going to share this to my children who are in their early twenties ❤

  • @wilmanoronha5988
    @wilmanoronha5988 6 месяцев назад +5

    Wonderful podcast! Huge fan of Shefali Shah
    This could have been a lengthier episode..I feel like many portions were just cut off abruptly

  • @lizakazi2217
    @lizakazi2217 5 месяцев назад +2

    Excellent talk show. Loved the topic. Loved the conversation & Shefali was pointing every single point, loved how she explained so beautifully. Thank you for bringing my all time favorite actress Shefali Shah. I have been seeing her from Hasrate drama from TV.

  • @diyasirvya7951
    @diyasirvya7951 5 месяцев назад +7

    This podcast was like realllllyyyy amazing i sat down to watch it with very diff expectation, but till the end i just got a very amazing perspective about relationships and like every relationship in & around us!!!! just wow!!!!!

  • @AerleenKaur
    @AerleenKaur 5 месяцев назад +5

    She is soo soo intelligent and aware about what women and men feel in their marriage and relationship's etc. And every single individual should watch this episode if ur struggling with your relationship and marriage.
    I know that there is somethings are wrong with my relationship but I don't want to or I don't know how to address things to my partner after watching this episode in so many topics it just open my eyes for both of us, I will share this podcast with my partner, family and friends!!!
    Such a great podcast Raj sir keep rocking!!! Love your every podcast!!! ❤❤❤

  • @sushmabhalla243
    @sushmabhalla243 5 месяцев назад +3

    Thank you so much to you both ❤very real and inspiring podcast. Respect is main in Good relationship. Stay blessed all.

  • @nimitberry5257
    @nimitberry5257 6 месяцев назад +2

    This was a great podcast and a great conversation. Shefali Shah is a gem 💎. I felt there there were multiple cuts here which stopped the natural flow of conversation, I’d prefer if it was a free flowing conversation. I want my podcast to be uncut and unedited, but that’s just me

  • @bee3944
    @bee3944 5 месяцев назад +2

    Same old relationship stuff.
    YOU MISSED THIS AMAZING CHANCE TO ASK SO MANY GREAT QUESTIONS ABOUT HER LIFE, HER CAREER.. ACTING SKILLS ETC..

  • @Naruto12.v
    @Naruto12.v 6 месяцев назад +25

    This is called real content

  • @IOSALive
    @IOSALive 6 месяцев назад +16

    Raj Shamani, You're the best! I subscribed because I love your content!

    • @rajshamani
      @rajshamani  6 месяцев назад +2

      Thankyou so much! your support and love is something that motivates me to bring the best content that might add value to my audience!!!

    • @karanchawla950
      @karanchawla950 6 месяцев назад +2

      Yes but don’t let people spread negativity. Thumbs down 👎🏽

  • @mywealthfountain
    @mywealthfountain Месяц назад

    Such a relatable as well as a open hearted conversation. Absolutely love her as a woman & an actor. Raj you asked brilliant questions, overall a great podcast to watch on relationships. Keep up the good work !!

  • @KrishNa-zg2jp
    @KrishNa-zg2jp 6 месяцев назад +7

    Thankyou so much for this podcast ❤ Raj Shamani

  • @nk694
    @nk694 5 месяцев назад

    One of the finest actors I have seen. Her journey from Monsoon Wedding to Darlings, needless to mention her performance in OTT has been fabulous, fabulous being understatement.
    Her eyes itself is whole lot of dialogue and statement.
    Always look forward for her next fold of performance.
    My wish, just want to meet her for a minute and tell her how accomplished people like us to have a talent like her.
    Shefali the beauty of your performance is just mesmerising. Keep working

  • @ashwiniratnaparkhi146
    @ashwiniratnaparkhi146 6 месяцев назад +9

    👏🏻❤ Raj, bring more & more podcasts on relationship

    • @rajshamani
      @rajshamani  6 месяцев назад +3

      Stay tuned! Many more to come💯💯

    • @therakeshkumarrathore
      @therakeshkumarrathore 6 месяцев назад +2

      Find a guy who can be with you for a year without sex
      Marry him
      That's all don't watch stupid podcasts

  • @deeptimohla8672
    @deeptimohla8672 5 месяцев назад +1

    Many a times Raj's questions were offtrack for which there can be no definite answer. I however loved the way Shefali fielded all of them. Honest and from the heart. Have always loved her.

  • @geetasharma1207
    @geetasharma1207 5 месяцев назад +3

    I don't agree with the point that ambitious person should marry to a non-ambitious one. Because, then the other person won't ever be able to understand your point of view and to acknowledge your efforts towards your ambitions. To succeed in a relationship being an ambitious individual is to align your partner with your goal or other way too. Make his ambition your own and then patiently wait for your turn. Example: Its been 4 years of my marriage and for first three years I worked everything possible to support my husband to achieve his dreams and now he is doing same for me. Now, I am in Germany pursuing my research career and he is at home taking care of my son, his family and of couse his job.

  • @siddhirawat6021
    @siddhirawat6021 6 месяцев назад +2

    Ye wala podcast Hindi mai hona chahiye tha sir.. so we can show it to our elders too... Hindi mai wo jaada smoothly smjh paate... btw it's a good podcast 👍

  • @hardikbpandya
    @hardikbpandya 6 месяцев назад +29

    Unfortunately her own marriage failed and she making her personal experience as universal truth..

    • @AartiSharma-vu6qe
      @AartiSharma-vu6qe 3 месяца назад +5

      Ofcourse she'll talk with experience she had.. she's not any relationship expert. U learn from ur surroundings and ur own home

    • @sudhirchandra9790
      @sudhirchandra9790 День назад

      I haven't seen even one successful marriage around me, thought they all put up happy couple pics on FB and Instagram

  • @lavanyakushwaha2367
    @lavanyakushwaha2367 4 месяца назад

    loved this one with all my heart. this woman has so much wisdom!

  • @UKKH01
    @UKKH01 6 месяцев назад +6

    Love listening to her. Lovely podcast, please Invite her again, Thank you.

  • @farhaanafarhaana
    @farhaanafarhaana Месяц назад +1

    @rajshamani pls get Sushmita Sen for this discussion, confidence, women freedom, empowerment n equality

    • @Bliss-cg3wx
      @Bliss-cg3wx 7 дней назад

      Yess 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

  • @HARISHKUMARYADAV-jm1oq
    @HARISHKUMARYADAV-jm1oq 6 месяцев назад +8

    हिंदी में समझ में ज्यादा आता है मुझे 😊

  • @hinahaswari2765
    @hinahaswari2765 5 месяцев назад +1

    You have asked very good questions from shifali and she has answered all those questions very openly n with utmost honesty. It was a quality conversation. I was glued to the podcast from beginning till end .

  • @shwetali333
    @shwetali333 5 месяцев назад +3

    Mine was an arranged marriage, I am carrier oriented person, so I thought of marring a job person, who has limited time of working, and has good holiday too, so dat he can atleast look after house or kids in my absence. But as days went , he started feeling jealous of my earnings, and he started dominating me to not work so much . But I had my loans going on, for which I had to work. He started comparing me for not doing household chores on time. It was really terrible. And exhausting. And we ended up in divorce. Daughter being with me. So I don't think dat one partner being family oriented and other being carrier oriented is not the real solution.

  • @ninamishra3725
    @ninamishra3725 9 дней назад +1

    She is absolutely right early marriage is a disaster. And also right in many things

    • @moinshaik794
      @moinshaik794 6 дней назад

      Marriage is for men and women.. not for childrens...if ur mature enough then u can do it at the early age...if ur not marture till age 30 or 35 then ur 😂

  • @renukabisht9706
    @renukabisht9706 6 месяцев назад +8

    Thanks Raj and I really appreciate it the kind of question you ask. Your podcasts are very informative.

    • @rajshamani
      @rajshamani  6 месяцев назад +1

      Thankyou🙌🙌

  • @seemapagare9031
    @seemapagare9031 5 месяцев назад

    Shefali Shah is amazing....her vibe is so cool...thanks for calling her on the podcast

  • @ameya7723
    @ameya7723 6 месяцев назад +5

    Just ask her how much her husband makes. Then you will find the answer for why and what she ' loved more'.

  • @satyafoundationkamalabharadwaj
    @satyafoundationkamalabharadwaj 4 месяца назад +1

    am thoroughly enjoying every bit of this conversation. so relatable n so true.....kudos..... i fully disagree with ppl who say , academic qualification is needed to talk abt relationships....really/? my mother doesnt run an event management company but i know how well she designs and orchastrates the whole show.... pls grow up guys, she isnt overacting, she is being herself thoroughly... she is radiating freedom of expression. so , cut d crap n stop saying negative things.... u like it great...dont like it , move on n watch what u like......

  • @preetkaursethi
    @preetkaursethi 6 месяцев назад +3

    OMG HAS TO BE MY MOST FAV PODCASTS TILL NOW , love the way she spoke and the points she kept is so on point 🙌

  • @MIXSTIX
    @MIXSTIX 6 месяцев назад +1

    if you were really reading Raj , These Type of PODCAST Must be a 2hr , Inner Healing as Docs say will OCCUR , but IMPLEMETATION can only be Manifest at when INDIVIDUAL is at FINANCIALLY well.

  • @kayjc0975
    @kayjc0975 6 месяцев назад +5

    She's living on another planet kya ,yaar raj kya hogaya aaisey guest kyon ?! Shes a great actress no doubt.

    • @maryamhinatahir3782
      @maryamhinatahir3782 6 месяцев назад

      Whats wrong she spoke on this topic?

    • @kayjc0975
      @kayjc0975 6 месяцев назад

      @@maryamhinatahir3782 nothing to say I have unsubscribed , n it won't make a difference.

  • @jyothiaravindan
    @jyothiaravindan 6 месяцев назад +2

    Love Shefali Shah 💖💖, must say. Sapne mein milti hai kudi mere sapne mein milti hai🎶🎶

  • @premangshunaskar1491
    @premangshunaskar1491 6 месяцев назад +7

    First time I have seen something which is very practical in today's time.

  • @vishalgambhir5271
    @vishalgambhir5271 28 дней назад +1

    human minds are not made for living with anyone..real thing is this..there is nothing bad or good person....all relation need only adjustment

  • @ritubajaj93
    @ritubajaj93 5 месяцев назад +3

    I am speechless because it was a mind-blowing podcast. I just loved it. Keep up the good work.

  • @PesGaming-fd3ft
    @PesGaming-fd3ft 27 дней назад

    She is right. A great actor and a good human being.

  • @shreyas5696_YT
    @shreyas5696_YT 6 месяцев назад +51

    Marriage is a complicated thing and giving generic tips like "early marriage is bad" will help no one, because there are studies showing people who marry outside 22-28 range tend to get divorced soon....This lady doesn't know the reality of marriages in these times... my family has been searching for a bride since 2 years and haven't found a match even though I'm handsome guy with good salary and background.....some of my friends have been rejected by girls because they crossed age 30...

    • @jessaabraham
      @jessaabraham 6 месяцев назад

      And do you know the reason why? It’s because people are able to recognize right from wrong. Earlier people married at 10 to 13. Is that okay? Wait for forebrain to develop. Get financial ability. Ok now why you want to marry and stay married for 60 years. Marriage only works 45per or so. It’s natural. Marriage is a man made conscious decision. It’s not natural.

    • @homegardeningandfishes1510
      @homegardeningandfishes1510 6 месяцев назад +1

      That's fuckin truth

    • @homegardeningandfishes1510
      @homegardeningandfishes1510 6 месяцев назад +6

      But some suedo feminist will not agree with it because of their illogical mindset

    • @nandinisharma2577
      @nandinisharma2577 6 месяцев назад

      She has literally compared a life partner with work, like if a person is a workaholic then she/he may not need a life partner....!
      I wonder if she's aware of WTH is coming out of her mouth!

    • @ToughCookie100
      @ToughCookie100 6 месяцев назад

      She said there are people who are completely involved with work. Such workaholics many not prefer to have a partner because they want to devote all their time to work..for example people like Dr. APJ Abdul Kalam who dedicated their whole life to their profession.
      Such people also exist..​@@nandinisharma2577

  • @jasleenasingh8021
    @jasleenasingh8021 5 месяцев назад

    I just love Shefali . She was so honest in this interview, often teary eyed . So good to hear her out, I guess it’s my story too 😊 So many times I thought I was talking . Sometimes we all want to hear some honest life experiences. For me this story was all needed 👍

  • @Naruto12.v
    @Naruto12.v 6 месяцев назад +7

    I allways learn new things from your podcast thanks for that

    • @rajshamani
      @rajshamani  6 месяцев назад

      Many more to come💯

  • @sw1033
    @sw1033 2 месяца назад +1

    I respectfully disagree with Shefali on one particular point regarding the example of Narayan and Sudha Moorthy. I have great respect for both of them. It brings immense joy to help someone achieve their dreams and make it a shared goal. I believe Sudha madam has done just that by adopting Narayan sir's ambitions as her own. Together, they have fulfilled their aspirations. Success isn’t achieved in isolation; it requires teamwork and support. When that support comes from a partner, it’s even more meaningful. Often, the challenges we see in relationships from individuals focusing on "I," "me," and "myself." "I need to be happy," "You need to understand me," "I need time," "I’m ambitious," and "I want to fulfill my dreams" . If we shift our mindset to focus on "we," then it will change your relationship. Many people today struggle because they find it difficult to adopt this perspective.

  • @lovesharma4883
    @lovesharma4883 6 месяцев назад +8

    No disrespect, but how does an actor become an expert on relationships?
    What's the qualification?
    Again, no disrespect intended to anyone..

  • @Ana-n3p
    @Ana-n3p 2 месяца назад +1

    Marriage is utmost important thing for old age and getting married at right age is imp cause woman has body clock that starts ticking by 35...no matter at what age you marry or how educated you are or how wealthy you been.. everybody has to adjust ,compromise, be faithful n respect your partner..

  • @thebabar786
    @thebabar786 6 месяцев назад +17

    6:15 she said that she is earning and she is independent. If man says he is earning and independent then women go to court and files false case of 498

    • @alankritakaushal
      @alankritakaushal 6 месяцев назад +4

      Listen to her further. She is saying that men too have terrible marriages.

    • @thebabar786
      @thebabar786 5 месяцев назад

      @@alankritakaushalyup

    • @Cinnamoroll-u7v
      @Cinnamoroll-u7v 4 месяца назад +1

      Stop victimizing yourselves unnecessarily..
      Both genders have terrible marriages from their pov and experiences

    • @thebabar786
      @thebabar786 4 месяца назад

      @@alankritakaushal men's terrible marriage don't have solution.. they can't give divorce they have to pay money.
      But women don't have to pay to men

  • @Chetna24.
    @Chetna24. 5 месяцев назад +2

    Beautiful podcast ❤…….thoroughly enjoyed it ✨

  • @shreyaguptoo
    @shreyaguptoo 6 месяцев назад +17

    I really like your podcast but with great actors like Vidya Balan and shifali shah why are we stuck on with marriage & relationship? They are ACTORS not a couple therapist . Yes they are humans like all of us with opinions and relationships. But I wish we could have known more about her journey. What is the right time to marry ? Asking shifali shah won't influence us . Idk . It's disappointing ya !

    • @mrudangdalal
      @mrudangdalal 6 месяцев назад +1

      Exactly.. this is non-sense.

    • @meeta4397
      @meeta4397 6 месяцев назад +4

      True.. there is too much talk about marriage. Raj, there are NO formulas.. what will work is very subjective. Maybe you could talk about how middle aged women can become actors!

    • @kaveeshaweerasinghe6803
      @kaveeshaweerasinghe6803 5 месяцев назад +1

      I agree.

    • @krunalthakker588
      @krunalthakker588 5 месяцев назад

      Ek dum! I was like... .. bawadi ho gayi ke? 😂 They are having convo like night out with friends 😅

  • @nancysokhey5129
    @nancysokhey5129 5 месяцев назад

    Did NOT KNOW SHIFALI Shah Ws So Sensitive & So Open Minded In Relationships & Taking About Them. More Respect For HER After Listening To HER in THIS PODCAST👍🏼

  • @JatinChhabra95
    @JatinChhabra95 6 месяцев назад +6

    loved this particular one

  • @bonhomieme538
    @bonhomieme538 5 месяцев назад +1

    This was an amazing podcast 🎉❤❤❤

  • @ikiraw21
    @ikiraw21 6 месяцев назад +6

    Marriage in early or late thirties is really bad. Genetically Caucasian women have large egg reserves and longer maternal windows. Modern Asian / Indian women have low egg reserves and low maternal window. Above 30 , women are considered advanced maternal age and complications of food allergies, Down syndrome, autism for the fetus increases exponentially! Also you down want to be too old too take care of your kids and experience the joy of your grandkids! Your kids want to be there for them!

    • @quizudita
      @quizudita 6 месяцев назад +1

      Your comment made sense till Talking about your next gen...
      You want to alive to look after your Grand kids.... is TOO MUCH to Expect from Life...
      Does "LIVING FOR OWN, SELF IMPROVEMENT, PRIVATE TIME, PERSONALITY DEVELOPMENT " comes to your Radar or ... no personal goals/upliftment... just Family Planning 😅

    • @ikiraw21
      @ikiraw21 5 месяцев назад

      @quizudita I am living my best life and stating facts about human biology! Quoting everything in cap .. you seem very frustrated!

  • @nafiskhan9281
    @nafiskhan9281 5 месяцев назад +1

    Thankyou for this program,its an eye opener.I shared it with my grand children

  • @rajsparsh4
    @rajsparsh4 6 месяцев назад +4

    Yeh sikhayegi ab hume jiski khud ke marriage ka pata nhi. Like others she might be faking too

    • @soumit123
      @soumit123 6 месяцев назад +1

      exactly :v

  • @prachijain6934
    @prachijain6934 5 месяцев назад

    I didn't expect this to be that greatt.. but I loved listening to every single conversation in this podcast.. awesome

  • @sonalpriyadarsani6466
    @sonalpriyadarsani6466 5 месяцев назад +4

    At 10:00 they are talking a girl getting married at the age of 25 years. Shefali maam is against it. She saying teach her and all. Thats completely correct. But actually it is true that after certain age people are not getting suitable prospects as their life partner. Its difficult. I am 26. My parents started searching guys. But i am not getting it. I was also stubborn that i don't want get married and all not at the age of 25. When i realised its time to get married. I am not getting guys. So its true.. age matters. I am not against anybody's opinion.i respect each and everyone's opinion. People say that i can live life alone. Why to get married and all. But you know what after certain age you will realise that we need someone to share that how was your day? Somebody should be their to takecare if you are not well. Parents are their, friend, family everybody will be their. But few things you can't share with parents family friends. Its only life partner with whom i can share.

    • @PrinceyV-pt1d
      @PrinceyV-pt1d 5 месяцев назад

      Ye country bas Indian boys ke wives,gf,lovers ke hai...baaki....desh chod de....Bas Indian boys ke wives/gf reh sakte hai yaha...

    • @random_person_on_internet
      @random_person_on_internet 3 месяца назад

      Not trying to be mean but girl you are not finding guys because you are extremely obese :) you don't look 26 but actually look in your 30's
      Try to follow a good diet,do exercises and try to maintain a good bmi as it also matters when a woman wants to be pregnant 😊
      I am a woman so please don't think I am bashing you
      But it is The truth that Men like younger and fit women

    • @random_person_on_internet
      @random_person_on_internet 3 месяца назад

      26 is not too old actually
      You just need to do some self-care 😊

    • @renukaindia654
      @renukaindia654 2 месяца назад

      😂 partner hain ..radio fm nahi

  • @aswinipemmaraju2783
    @aswinipemmaraju2783 5 месяцев назад

    Its a very nice conversation,shefali spoke without any filters which probably many are not ready to digest as well, but keep doing more such podcasts

  • @Sanjitmisra_069
    @Sanjitmisra_069 6 месяцев назад +3

    This conversation starts with a tinge of feminism. But slowly ran towards something deeper.
    🙏❤

  • @deepoobhat
    @deepoobhat 4 месяца назад

    Loved everything of what Shefali said..women of today can resonate to it..

  • @thequestforknowledge9252
    @thequestforknowledge9252 6 месяцев назад +22

    Like who Addicted of Raj shamani podcast❤

    • @av9703
      @av9703 6 месяцев назад +1

      😂😂
      🤫

  • @prakharpathak8d227
    @prakharpathak8d227 5 месяцев назад

    I used to watch your shorts
    Tiday saw two long videos and immediately subscribed it
    Your thoughts are very reliable