6 Do's and Don't's of your FIRST RELATIONSHIP (High School Relationship Advice)

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  • Опубликовано: 5 фев 2025

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  • @AbbiWinslow
    @AbbiWinslow  4 года назад +22

    What questions do you have about a first relationship? LEAVE IT BELOW!

    • @BobVisMo
      @BobVisMo 3 года назад +6

      Your first one is so true.. i really hate that about me but it happens when girls go head over heels too fast..
      Yes, im a guy watching this.. it thought its also for guys but i just got hooked and curious on the girl perspective..

    • @matthewcampbell1766
      @matthewcampbell1766 3 года назад +1

      Okay Ms Abbi Winslow what world do be interested Relationship with @ 21 BiancaAndreeocu Canadian Tennis Championship by @ 40 MJCampbell by now

    • @olgakoklioti4886
      @olgakoklioti4886 3 года назад

      I am just searching cause i want help what to do on the first week of you dating?

    • @mridula7119
      @mridula7119 Год назад

      I just got into a relationship and he keeps asking me to ask him questions to know him well .. I know him like 2-3 years and I don’t know Wat he means

  • @shayla9894
    @shayla9894 3 года назад +270

    I'm 17, but I really think I found a good guy. I just need to stop over thinking everything he does and says lol

  • @existens6173
    @existens6173 3 года назад +99

    I'm 17 got into my first relationship it is also her first relationship so we both are kind of inexperienced, so far everything is good I want to keep the relationship for a long time but I don't know what the odds are to keep it for my life time but I will try haha

    • @AbbiWinslow
      @AbbiWinslow  3 года назад +35

      I’m glad to hear your relationship is going well. At 17, you shouldn’t be worried about making this relationship last forever. That puts too much pressure on you and the relationship. It’s better to think “we will be together for as long as we are supposed to be.” If that’s a year great, if that’s a week great. If that’s a long time great.

  • @axelmcavinue6723
    @axelmcavinue6723 Год назад +8

    I know this is meant for younger people. But I'm 22 and just got into my first relationship and this was really helpful for me! Thank you so much for this!

  • @FirstLast-ut2bk
    @FirstLast-ut2bk 2 года назад +80

    1: keep it light
    2: have a conversation about your relationship
    3: hang out with lots of friends
    4:don’t rush it
    5: don’t get too physical too fast
    6: do not put up with crap (take notes of red flags)

  • @crishelleanne7824
    @crishelleanne7824 3 года назад +105

    Tbh I'm 18 yrs old and this is my first relationship ever. I really didn't know what to do because it's my first time. Thank you for your advice it helps a lot to me 😊

    • @AbbiWinslow
      @AbbiWinslow  3 года назад +6

      You're so welcome!

    • @KhushiArora-mu1ei
      @KhushiArora-mu1ei Год назад

      It's my first relationship and I really don't know what to talk about with him i don't want him to think that I don't like to talk to him...i really do wanna talk to him but I just don't know what to talk abt

  • @renaruseva3800
    @renaruseva3800 3 года назад +88

    I rlly like this boy and he likes me back but I’m too shy about my body, body hair, odour, discharge or not having good underwear and bras. I’ve also never kissed a boy before or done anything with boys before. How do I overcome all these insecurities and mental blocks

    • @fuzzyo_
      @fuzzyo_ 3 года назад +18

      Sorry if I am to late, but there is a few ways to get over it. One way is to drop subtle hints and see how they take them. Then after a while, if you think that he’s the one, just go for it and say “will you go out with me.” It was hard for me to do it, but it just comes down to bravery and stepping out of your comfort zone

    • @sweatingfrommyeyes767
      @sweatingfrommyeyes767 3 года назад +15

      Hey Jesus is with ya. Honestly don't force stuff. I do think waiting til marriage is good as then it's not a big heartbreak.

  • @maayandanino8952
    @maayandanino8952 2 года назад +12

    I'm 18 and I'm almost 3 years into my first relationship , it's also my partners first relationship.
    going really well

  • @Aimee_Esther
    @Aimee_Esther 4 года назад +59

    My favorite is "dont put up with crap!" I needed you with all my past relationships! So happy I found Josh but oh my goodness I put up with way too much crap because I was "in love". Such a good video! :)

  • @rachaelrojas6689
    @rachaelrojas6689 3 года назад +35

    I’m so glad I found this video I just got my first boyfriend and I’d probably have made a lot of these mistakes

    • @AbbiWinslow
      @AbbiWinslow  3 года назад +1

      Welcome to the tribe! 💕

    • @Alastor_Moody19090
      @Alastor_Moody19090 2 года назад

      Feels bad for your bf he gets hit wth “set limits” and “Dont start off with physical too fast” F in chat lmao

  • @hollowlavender_
    @hollowlavender_ Год назад +6

    I just got my very first boyfriend and I'm soo nervous. I'm like 15 and NEVER even had like a situationship so I'm excited but have NO IDEA what to think lol

  • @sasb3675
    @sasb3675 2 года назад +18

    I know this is aimed at the younger ladies, but I'm 27 and dealing with a potential relationship for the first time and found this really helpful, so thanks haha

    • @AbbiWinslow
      @AbbiWinslow  2 года назад +1

      Yay! That makes me so happy!

    • @ΜολονΛαβε100
      @ΜολονΛαβε100 2 года назад +2

      Girl, don’t be scared. Im 35 and was never taught any of this stuff and Im learning about relationships each day. Yeah, i was never taught or shown how this shit goes. But hey, you never stop learning in life.

  • @kennedycall5120
    @kennedycall5120 4 года назад +35

    Yes! Thanks for this video! I just turned 16 and we all know what that means in the church! 😂 You are amazing! I love your videos and I know they are helping me be a better version of myself!

    • @somyatomar8486
      @somyatomar8486 3 года назад +5

      What does that mean?

    • @elizatoponce9375
      @elizatoponce9375 3 года назад

      Lol in Massachusetts it’s harder to get dates that fit my standards, and I only JUST got my first date at almost 18

  • @cheesobogo3199
    @cheesobogo3199 3 года назад +24

    I love how you shared your experience with us. Thank you!

  • @randomdude6719
    @randomdude6719 3 года назад +57

    I don’t know if there’s one of these for dudes but I’m gonna watch so I can catch on

    • @AbbiWinslow
      @AbbiWinslow  3 года назад +14

      I think that’s great! These tips help both guys and girls!

    • @Friday_The_Thirteenth
      @Friday_The_Thirteenth 3 года назад +7

      And non binary folks too!

    • @deathcian7903
      @deathcian7903 3 года назад +2

      @@Friday_The_Thirteenth shurup ye alien

    • @calebfirebug4931
      @calebfirebug4931 Год назад

      U still mentally challenged 2 years later?

    • @TBTboston
      @TBTboston 6 месяцев назад

      And gay people

  • @drewvoski
    @drewvoski Год назад

    Hi, this really helped my Chinese friend Alex Chen who is currently going through a rough time with his girlfriend. Hopefully you can upload so we can continue to help him learn

  • @Artisticallyy
    @Artisticallyy 3 года назад +8

    These tips were really helpful! I just made things official with my girlfriend earlier this week! Thank you for this!

  • @mackenziecaughlan1752
    @mackenziecaughlan1752 2 года назад +3

    thank you im a sophomore in high school and i just got my first bf and this rly helped me

  • @nubbsstumpremoval2024
    @nubbsstumpremoval2024 4 года назад +18

    What would be a good example of keeping it light Abbi?

    • @AbbiWinslow
      @AbbiWinslow  4 года назад +10

      Dating lots of people, group dates, not hanging out every single day, or not being exclusive

  • @ambersummer2685
    @ambersummer2685 2 года назад +2

    I’m in a developing relationship right now. I’ll admit we kinda rushed things physically. Not sex but it was very intimate. Afterwards we decided to slow down. Our relationship started off as platonic so it’s not a big deal. Knew each other for about a year so it was kinda easy to be comfortable enough to get physically. We’re not strangers.
    I’ll be ok with hand holding first.

  • @lenagolgol
    @lenagolgol 3 года назад +12

    I'm reading an amazing memoir "My Awful Luck With Men" by roya shynz. She dated in Iran and in USA. Problems are universal and no one set of advice works for everyone. The only definite advice would be to respect your heart and yourself and others will follow

    • @LoveLife-ry5mm
      @LoveLife-ry5mm 3 года назад

      I got help from someone, he was the one only one who was able to help me bring back my ex husband to me and he seve and solve my relationship problem

    • @LoveLife-ry5mm
      @LoveLife-ry5mm 3 года назад

      Text him on WhatsApp..

    • @LoveLife-ry5mm
      @LoveLife-ry5mm 3 года назад

      ±1.(204)=808=22-34
      I'm from USA

    • @Hunter-yn4ug
      @Hunter-yn4ug 3 года назад

      Watch Kevin Samuels on YT (not just him insulting actually watch a full show)

  • @lillia.rae07
    @lillia.rae07 3 года назад +25

    Hi,I’m a freshman in highschool and me and my crush both found out we like each other over text. We are both to awkward to do anything about it tho. He is really nice to me he holds the door open for me at school and he is a Christian like me! Any advice? (Btw my parents know)

    • @AbbiWinslow
      @AbbiWinslow  3 года назад +6

      This is awesome! I’d just keep playing off of each other and make sure that your relationship is mostly in person and less over text-meaning sometimes you will ignore each other at school and then text how mush you like each other over the phone, this is okay to start with but you want to translate your relationship from just digital to hanging out in person and taking it slow 💕 hope that helps!

    • @lillia.rae07
      @lillia.rae07 3 года назад +3

      @@AbbiWinslow Thank you 💕

  • @Trinitysflicks767
    @Trinitysflicks767 2 года назад +2

    I literally overthink SO MUCH

  • @styx_alt
    @styx_alt 2 года назад +1

    As a girl with a girlfriend, I’m unsure how to express my affection without doing too much and making her uncomfortable.

  • @hazielop
    @hazielop 3 года назад +13

    Here I am, looking at advice for High School relationships on my second year of college, haven't even been close to a relationship ever in my life, feels bad lol

    • @AbbiWinslow
      @AbbiWinslow  3 года назад +2

      You got this! This advice works at any age, and there is no “being behind” there is just where you are 💕

  • @N0TB3K09
    @N0TB3K09 Год назад +1

    4:12 i wouldn’t bolt if my girl was to serious 😂😅

  • @marywahba5301
    @marywahba5301 3 года назад +6

    Does this advice go for those who are in their first relationship but are in their early 20’s? This is my first relationship and I’m in college right now

    • @AbbiWinslow
      @AbbiWinslow  3 года назад +3

      Absolutely! But you have the advantage that you can progress your relationship because you are an adult and have options instead of being stuck in high school

  • @kairo75xd13
    @kairo75xd13 3 года назад +5

    im in hs, i have NO other friends besides him cause ppl dont rlly talk to me, and when they do they always stop a couple days later, what do i do?? :((

    • @AbbiWinslow
      @AbbiWinslow  3 года назад

      check out some of my other videos on being more social and making friends. Remember, making friends takes time and we have to put in the effort to talk to people too. YOu got this!

  • @richardpalmer4242
    @richardpalmer4242 4 года назад +12

    Ma'am, I'm not the kind of person who bolts if my significant other goes in too deep... I wish I could find someone like dat😂

    • @AbbiWinslow
      @AbbiWinslow  4 года назад +3

      SAME!!! But in high school and early relationships that loyalty didn't always serve me. So that is why I tell people to keep it light now so that when you are older and ready to find the one, you have the skills to do so!

  • @rhinadan2432
    @rhinadan2432 3 года назад +5

    Hi, theres a girl who I really like, like really like. She is so kind and sweet and i want to ask her out... The issue is though is that I think she likes me back but she also just broke up with my friend. What do I do?

    • @seankelly378
      @seankelly378 3 года назад +2

      With that profile picture I'd advise not to pursue her lmao

  • @coco-belle7790
    @coco-belle7790 2 года назад +1

    Thank you for the tips I’m a pre teen and this will really help it is my first relationship with a guy a like

  • @everykoala2302
    @everykoala2302 3 года назад +4

    Thank you, I think these were really helpful tips!

  • @meiyaoli2258
    @meiyaoli2258 3 года назад +9

    How can i get my bf to hang out with my other friends? I fear it seems like showing off and also that would be awkward bc they are not in the same friend group. I haven’t hang out with his friends as well, i am nervous about that because I’m afraid of his friends judging or criticizing me, and plus I’m people-phobic

    • @Hunter-yn4ug
      @Hunter-yn4ug 3 года назад +1

      Idk if y’all dating but I guarantee you your bf thinks your friends are so annoying

    • @Hunter-yn4ug
      @Hunter-yn4ug 3 года назад +1

      His friends won’t really judge u as long as you aren’t ugly (lol your not) . It’s just his friends can’t talk the same and say the same things when you are around most of the time so you may feel Akwardness. You don’t have to worry about his friends, but don’t try to get him to like your friends because 99.99% of boyfriends despise their GFs friends, they are just so annoying and nosy and ANNOYING

    • @Hunter-yn4ug
      @Hunter-yn4ug 3 года назад +4

      Trust me on this, I have never liked any of my GF friends and my friends have never liked their GFs friends either

    • @MassHystarix
      @MassHystarix 3 года назад

      @@Hunter-yn4ug spot on man

  • @caxzrockz
    @caxzrockz 3 года назад +13

    When you are nearly 30 and still havent had a relationship

  • @AGNTWolf
    @AGNTWolf 2 года назад +1

    Im 16 both of us our in our first relationship. I literally can't stop thinking about him most of the time and Its hard to not text him. I don't want to make him uncomfortable. How do I deal with this?

  • @ExplainyourselfEli
    @ExplainyourselfEli Год назад +2

    Listen to me. Don't even start dating people in highschool. Worst mistake I've ever made was trying to date people in highschool let alone date people at all. Stay single. Cause when you date and breakup you'll be alone again but worst you'll be totally heartbroken or embarrassed if they cheat on you etc. You don't want the humiliation, it's not worth the butterflies.

  • @kindnessandgracestaysmilin5990
    @kindnessandgracestaysmilin5990 2 года назад

    This video is super helpful. I’m 15 and me and this guy have been on 3 dates and I made sure to let him know I like to go slow. So he’s respecting that completely. He’s the dream guy in so many ways but I also know that if guys like you, they’ll show you and chase you. And you’re not gonna have to be the one doing the chasing. Which is exactly how this has been. So I’m finally getting into my first real relationship and all these tips are great thank you

  • @cristal9841
    @cristal9841 2 года назад +4

    Almost everyone's 17 when they get into their first relationship huh.
    Yea, I was planing to keep it light. It's my first and her second. She's one year younger. But yea. Imma keep it real chill.

    • @caitlingill
      @caitlingill Год назад +1

      I’m 19 and I’ve kissed (had my first kiss two weeks ago) but no relationship yet, me and the guy aren’t rushing into relationship status

    • @cristal9841
      @cristal9841 Год назад

      @@caitlingill ayyy. But I had mine with her and it's going pretty alright

  • @sophiemarie8489
    @sophiemarie8489 2 года назад +1

    i asked someone out just before i watched this video

  • @lilypotter2617
    @lilypotter2617 2 года назад

    Thank youu! RUclips is amazing, it doesn't wonder why A 11 year old had a boyfriend!

  • @mehakverma7043
    @mehakverma7043 2 года назад

    I'm 17, and I'm getting into my first relationship...

  • @justadude274
    @justadude274 3 года назад +8

    I'm 23 I'm still virgin and I didn't talk to a girl (I mean flirt and shit)

  • @mr.prestige9798
    @mr.prestige9798 3 года назад

    I like my friend but she likes someone else but I don’t think I should say anything as I don’t want a friendship ruined

  • @PriyankaSharma-ny4qe
    @PriyankaSharma-ny4qe 2 года назад

    I'm in 8th grade and a guy from 10th grade is like crazy about me. I don't even know him that well and he said "since the day i saw you, i was in love" and that was just 2days ago before he asked me out. My best friend who i trust with all my heart also says he's a nice guy and i didn't want to hurt anyone so i said yes. But he's just SO crazy about me. It's like he's attached to me or something cause everywhere I go, he's there. I don't know if i like him or not. Also i might even be too young for a relationship. Idk. Any advice?

  • @onvly8672
    @onvly8672 3 года назад

    I’m 13 and in my first actual relationship but I have no clue what to do.

  • @sharonwilliams275
    @sharonwilliams275 4 года назад +3

    Spot on‼️

  • @AgDidIt
    @AgDidIt 3 года назад +11

    Bestie please tell me when i can say ily

    • @naiguerrero9467
      @naiguerrero9467 3 года назад +5

      Whenever you love that person

    • @Olivia-em3pd
      @Olivia-em3pd 3 года назад +2

      When it feels right. For me it was about 2-3 months into the relationship I think. It probably could have been a bit later because we were still in the honeymoon phase. Now its normal for me to say it and I say it genuinely and meaningfully. Loving someone isn't 100% feelings either, its also a decision.

  • @CramcrumBrewbringer
    @CramcrumBrewbringer 3 года назад +5

    What if you’re a junior in college and have never been in a relationship? How do I start? I don’t even know what’s socially correct and feel I’m too far behind.

    • @AbbiWinslow
      @AbbiWinslow  3 года назад +2

      First of all you aren’t behind at all! Just go slow and have fun! Relationships that are right will be natural and feel good

  • @ProbusMihraban
    @ProbusMihraban 2 года назад

    Love is various so you cannot simply tell people to love others in this way not that and hate in this particular wae if u get what i mean

  • @abigailsaunders5759
    @abigailsaunders5759 3 года назад

    Thank you!

  • @elliemay9119
    @elliemay9119 3 года назад +5

    So I told this guy I'm ready for a relationship,which I am but I've been thinking (this could just be my anxiety) but im getting really nervous just thinking about hanging out with him and there's thus other guy I really like so im not really sure what to do cause me and the guy I told I was ready for a relationship im really good friends with him we just haven't talked to eachother but we told eachither we weren't gonna be in one until we talked in person and im not really sure what to do

    • @AbbiWinslow
      @AbbiWinslow  3 года назад +1

      You are in the best spot Because you have so many options! You should never feel forced into a relationship and you have the option to change your mind at any time. Especially if you like multiple guys you shouldn’t probably be in a relationship with just one

  • @simp7591
    @simp7591 2 года назад

    Me watching this who’s not serious at all and the guy is low key kind of clingy

  • @EbiiDaDarkSkinBeauty
    @EbiiDaDarkSkinBeauty 3 года назад

    Whats your zodiac sign?

  • @nimatmehmi6459
    @nimatmehmi6459 2 года назад

    butterflies 🤣😂😂

  • @JohnChant0045
    @JohnChant0045 3 года назад +1

    How do I get my 1st relationship being a 33 year old?

    • @yoihenbath
      @yoihenbath 2 года назад +2

      Bhai tutse nahi ho payega😭

  • @tornadogamer7534
    @tornadogamer7534 2 года назад +1

    3 days ago I had my first kiss with my best friend who I’ve known for 4 years, we both have a large group of the same friends. It wasn’t his first kiss. Yesterday I turned 16 and we sneaked off twice for a bit more kissing. A) I’m scared that I’m gonna wake up since I’ve been waiting for something like this for over a year and Ive never actually thought someone would ever like me back. B) Its not his first kiss and its not his first relationship, he’s had 2 other girlfriends and I’m his first boy he’s kissed since he recently came out as bi to me. C) I think I’m very bad at kissing and I think he’s gonna move on from me.

  • @mohamudomar8577
    @mohamudomar8577 3 года назад

    Hi

  • @Geesearebad
    @Geesearebad 3 года назад +1

    Dude we don't bult if a girl likes us

  • @Ben-nc7jt
    @Ben-nc7jt 2 года назад

    Personally I want my girlfriend to be VERY lovey with me early

  • @lovemusic119
    @lovemusic119 2 года назад

    I can't believe she just assumed my gender with the first sentence 😂😭 jk lmao she assumed correct 💯🤣

  • @Sihle._eeee
    @Sihle._eeee 3 года назад

    So that's why he's ignoring me 🙃

  • @tiffanie554
    @tiffanie554 3 года назад

    why am i here

  • @siddhijain9895
    @siddhijain9895 2 года назад

    wo

  • @brandonmc3483
    @brandonmc3483 4 года назад +3

    What if your girlfriend wants to keep it secret

    • @maidgun
      @maidgun 4 года назад +11

      that means she thinks your ugly or unpopular and she doesn’t want people to judge her. sorry bro, but it means you have a dope personality !!

    • @yourlocalsussinicle9932
      @yourlocalsussinicle9932 4 года назад +20

      @@maidgun or they're not ready for attention from people or criticism..

    • @cheesobogo3199
      @cheesobogo3199 3 года назад +19

      She might be too shy or maybe she is afraid of being judged by people since it is kind of a lot of pressure knowing everyone knows about your relationship. Her wanting to keep it private isnt necessarily a bad thing, dont worry

    • @blossomrockruff
      @blossomrockruff 3 года назад +8

      It depends how old you are, some parents dont let there kids date till there out of the house or something like that, me and my gf are 14 and 15 and we keep our relationship secret irl because our parents wont approve of it and my dad thinks LGBTQ is against religion since were both girls I know that has nothing to do with the comment but that's another reason someone would keep a relationship a secret.

    • @renaruseva3800
      @renaruseva3800 3 года назад +6

      It could mean her parents don’t let her, or she just wanted to keep your relationship lowkey so people don’t give you guys too much attention. Don’t worry about it. Maybe speak to her about it.

  • @FghtClb28
    @FghtClb28 3 года назад +1

    Anyone else got some tips for a lesbian? Suki's in her first relationship right now, and she really doesn't know what the f*ck she's doing. :')

    • @AbbiWinslow
      @AbbiWinslow  3 года назад +3

      The majority of these tips can apply to any situation so try them out!

    • @FghtClb28
      @FghtClb28 3 года назад

      @@AbbiWinslow tysm for the quick reply, dude. You do NOT know how nervous Suki's been lately 😅

  • @recetasdeliciosasyfacilesc1795
    @recetasdeliciosasyfacilesc1795 2 года назад

    Like like like

  • @ricksanchez69yearsago91
    @ricksanchez69yearsago91 2 года назад

    I personally like the last one

  • @USPatriot2328
    @USPatriot2328 3 года назад

    I am a boy my girl don't reply me