''you sure you knew nothing about this?!'' the main question floating around at the wedding, every family member just gossiping about her crazy mother and her distant sister, nobody truly paying attention to her at all, this is just the start of the downfall of her shitty life
I damn sure would have posted the restraining order of the sister if I was op and explain why she has one along with all the things she said about the child (her nephew) because if she is like this to her own nephew, imagine how she's like to other children born in her future in laws family.
LOOOOL “my mother told an adoption agency that my husband and I were addicts and attempted to put my child up for adoption because she wanted all the attention on my sister. AITA for pressing charges?” Op YTA for even asking this. There is absolutely ZERO chance any sane person thinks they would be the bad guy here😂
She's not asking if she's the asshole for wanting charges to come against her mother. Charges came for her regardless. What she was asking is if she was the asshole for filing her OWN lawsuit on TOP of the charges being levied against her by law enforcement and the adoption agency. Which, is valid tbh.
I would have also posted the restraining order of the sister on her post and why she has it, and possible ask the cops for a copy of the recording of the things she said that led to the restraining order. I know that would get her posts taken down as well and in laws the really think if they want a crazy bich DIL.
Familial guilt and gaslighting are powerful things that can plant all sorts of doubts in your brain, especially with such an emotionally abusive situation. I don't blame OP for wanting a second opinion on this matter just to make things absolutely clear outside of her mom's influence. /assuming any of this is real
I’m sorry that promise has to be thrown out the window. Your dad would not get upset with you if you leave her alone. She’s causing pain and suffering for no reason. Do not let anyone emotionally manipulate you. I lose my mother to cancer. I did not make a promise to take care of my dad but honestly. I have been slightly avoiding my dad because he’s being insufferable. My brothers are too because he’s just bad. So much is happening but there’s nothing we can do. We tried to have him see reason but he’s stubborn.
Tbh I don't think this breaks the promise, especially when you consider that "taking care of ____” has multiple meanings, including assassination, and breaking multiple bones
It drives me mad when people refuse to control the narrative and let the wrong-doers and their supporters talk to everyone and get their warped version of the story out first. When you find out shit has happened, you NEED to ensure that people know the truth. Do NOT let the wrong-doers go around behind your back telling people only what they want them to know.
i mean at the end of the day it seems like only op's sister and uncle were playing that game, op knew it would only fuel to the fire if she tried to defend herself, let her win the lawnsuit and her mother getting convicted speak for themselves
Seriously! I get so frustrated sometimes with these stories and people deciding that defending themselves isn't the priority and then are surprised when they backfires.
Mother really said “I’m fine with never seeing my grandchild again or watching them grow up all so that my other (grown ass) daughter can have a full 24 hours to herself” BE SO FFR WOMAN 🤯
With decision making skills and forward analytical capabilities like these on display, the results of a just-passed momentous event are really not all that mysterious anymore.
I have a cousin whos mom tried to get rid of her baby. The cousin's brother who is a pos did not want to be an uncle. While she was under the influence of the med the hospital gave her . the mother showed up with papers and tried to make her sign away the baby. Lucky My cousin's Husband was close by and stopped that from happening.
@@smokinggnu6584 thank you but don’t look what Twat means bc I got that out of Harry Potter and then there is Arty-e(a semi well known artist, author and animator on RUclips and tumblr). She has been rubbing off me(despite me being American 🇺🇸 clearly while she is from the UK 🇬🇧/British)… Edit- I did hear a young man say it a loudly around me and my mom at one point! Another woman(I think his mom) smacked him for saying “Twat” in front of me…I later looked it up! But like I said before don’t look it up if you under 18!
I know morality has degraded for decades now. But please explain to me how anyone can justify someone trying to GIVE YOUR FREAKING KID AWAY OVER FAVORITISM
Morality is the same as it's always been.. actually probably better considering we used to force women to stay in abusive marriages and like. Burn people for being "witches", and lynch people of different skin colour's, and hide pedo priests crimes, and harass people who are gay, and.. I mean. I could go on, the past is full of humanitys crimes You just didn't see it as much cause social media didn't put the crazy stories of the world in front of your face in a convenient youtube video to listen to
How exactly has morality been 'degrading for decades'? If this had happened in the middle ages, the mum would've probably accused her daughter of being a witch, and had her burnt at the steak.
SHE. TRIED. TO. TAKE. YOUR. CHILD. if this is real is2g - do your relatives know she tried to steal your actual child so you sister wouldn't feel like hwr wedding YEAR was overshadowed?
OP's sister finally cut off their toxic mom to save her own skin, so in a way, OP managed to keep her promise to her father and got her to be independent!
Usually people are excited to be grandparents. OP should have told her mother that if she had tried this while her father was alive he would have called the police himself on her. And the uncle needs to learn the difference between a little mistake and a huge mistake.
@@memeking7273 Trust me, there doesn't even need to be a Golden Child for that... Speaking from experience : for decades my sister and I thought the other was our birth-giver's favorite, because she'd always compare us... Turns out she was trying all along to put us in a competition and some sort of sibling rivalry. We only realized it when we both cut her off and cross-checked everything that had happened, we get along pretty well now, my sister and I, and we came to the conclusion that our "mother"'s favorite was herself all along 🤣
Narcissistic parents always have a golden child and a scapegoat, sometimes there’s more than one golden child or scapegoat or other children might simply get neglected. I’m the product of a very toxic relationship, my parents hate each other, and as their oldest it’s my fault they’re stuck together, I’m their scapegoat, and it’s obvious they regret having me. Oh and don’t forget parentification, oldest children, especially daughters, sometimes have to give up their childhoods to be the caregiver of their siblings, doing the parenting the parents don’t want to do and some are punished if they don’t do it or do it “the wrong way”. It can cause borderline personality disorder, severe anxiety and depression, cptsd, and many other mental health problems. Some people aren’t supposed to be parents.
OP, there is no way your father would want you to look past what your mother did. Keep her away from your baby. Let her face the consequences of her actions.
Y’know, a part of me thinks that the sister intentionally planned her wedding to happen shortly after OP gives birth as a way of “taking the spotlight off of her” since she clearly seems spoiled enough to do that
I don't know how anyone could think planning to kidnap a baby to put up for adoption, all so your favorite child can avoid possibly sharing attention, isn't a big deal... Wtaf. If the adoption papers went through was she just going to show up and steal the baby?
My mother's youngest sister and the older of my two stepsisters both gave birth to a girl one month before I got married I got to hold my baby neice for the first time at my wedding reception. The wedding photographer took a picture. That moment made my wedding even more special and the picture is one of my favorites in my wedding album.
When OP's father asked OP to promise to care for her mother he could never have thought that her mother would try and put their grandchild up for adoption!
For the family members that are supporting mom's actions publicly as them if they were getting a cut from the sale of your child. That will shut them up
How can it be legal to work at home during maternity leave ? If an employer tried that over here he’d be sued at lightning speed and would have to pay a hefty fine + compensation to OP for blackmail .
OMG OP!! Why are people so ridiculous in thinking they are wrong for protecting themselves or in this case their children from evil and increasingly toxic people! Even your own parents aren't allowed to hurt you and ruin your life! Stop
TBF op's last words to her father were a promise to look out for mother, so it was both her loyalty and money that was taken for granted. Plus, I doubt he would've asked such to her if he'd known that his wife would've dismissed their grandson.
I’m sorry, this woman tried to put her less than a month old grandson up for adoption behind her daughter and son-in-law’s backs and now that she’s understandably in deep legal sh!t, she *really* thinks that they’re going to take pity and HELP her?? Absolutely screw that vile woman
I genuinely feel like if OP's late father was alive during this, he would have divorced OP's mother for her unhinged actions, and changed his will so that the mother got absolutely nothing. So OP shouldn't worry about whether or not she kept her promise to him in his late life, she had done so to the best of her ability until all this occurred.
9:01 yah she took care of op as a baby as that was needed by law and it she wasn't and only mom iether so it wasn't only her why does that family have 0 braincells 🤦♀️
So…. OP , your father would not be pleased with the way you weren’t looking after your mother??? 1 - if your father was there, your mother wouldn’t have done it! and 2 - if she had done it while your father was still alive, he’d have chucked her out, fast!!!! You did the right thing, girl and don’t let anyone else tell you otherwise.
Honestly I would've just replied with "rip lmao" and left it at that cause that's outrageously ludicrous. She made her own bed so now she has to sleep in it
Who are these people ? where do they come from ? she got away easily just like that ? this must be happening in America because if this happened in my country she would be convicted. What she did was dangerous and disgusting. Do people get away from crimes just by saying they are suffering from mental conditions?
7:02 yep. Fake or not, making a promise on someone's deathbed is heavy. I lost my dad to cancer and I also made a promise to him. A promise I almost broke instantly, at my dad's funeral.
Personally and practically speaking, it really doesn't matter if you live up to a promise you made to a then-dying person because you know.... the person is dead now.
Pre-updates: NTA, and it infuriates me that the mother thinks the promise to the late father equates to a hall pass to get away with something horrific. Mind you, imagine just giving birth to your child, and then magically, the child had been adopted by another family thanks to the intervention of a so-called family member, all the while you had no say in the matter. Plus, the reason for that was simply to let the golden child have the spotlight, so imagine thinking THAT is a justifiable excuse to cause irreparable harm to one child. Post-updates: Thank goodness OP's husband and in-laws have her back in this case, cause I have a hunch the mother lied or twisted the narrative as a manipulation tactic, and I already smell BS when she pulled all the usual emotional stunts during the mediation sessions. For that, I have no sympathy for her plight, especially since the golden child daughter also cut her off to appease her own in-laws. As for OP, I'm glad she is putting physical distance from all that drama, but I also advise to set up security, cause knowing how entitled people behave, sometimes a personal protection order may not be enough. One of those two will try and return to get that petty "I win" middle finger moment over OP, so prevention is better than cure.
You are taking care of her to the best of your ability. Your father couldn’t have foreseen your mother’s behavior and if he had I am sure he would not expect you to coddle her in such a situation.
So, her actions cost her 2 daughters Only grandchild A comfortable life True freedom A reputation Favoured daughters marriage More money And any family that can help her out
Eh, typing it out is a way to vent about some crazy circus shàt and gets you some feeling of vindication when a bunch of strangers chime in saying you lucked out in the genetic lottery...cause the OPs could be just as messed up.
@draconiclady0610 no i understand the reason they do it just wow "could me protecting my baby make a ok person " like why ask at this point read it out loud
Just say it. Your mother almost got my baby stolen from me. She tried stealing the most precious thing in my life from me, and I won't forgive her for it.
Honestly this was not well thought out. Even if her fraudulent paperwork did go through what next? She hadn't even met the baby how was she even expecting to hand over the baby? Have a "reconciliation" in order to get close and take the first opportunity to snatch the baby or something like that likely. Also she's an idiot to think that she'd help her. Like if someone tried to put her golden child up for adoption without her consent she'd go scorched earth on their butts even if they were family. What made her think her daughter wouldn't? She really thought that she'd be all "okay I'll definitely help you get out of the legal trouble you got yourself into by trying to PUT MY CHILD UP FOR ADOPTION WITHOUT MY KNOWLEDGE OR PERMISSION BECAUSE YOU DIDN’T WANT A BABY TO TAKE ATTENTION FROM YOUR GOLDEN CHILD'S WEDDING!" Also what about after the wedding? Was she just going to be like, "Okay now that your sister is married you can just have another baby." Cause she sure as heck can't take back a baby she adopted out.
nah, it would be a slippery slop, first the baby thing then the ''you cannot have kids before your sister'' ''you cannot have children UNTIL your sister has them'' ''don't you dare steal the spotlight from your sister's kids! wait more'' ''isn't it bad how you were the first to marry?'' just random bs that would at the end ruin op's life
The conspiracies were closely accurate from the comments with the sister and mother being involved planning to get rid of the child for her golden child moment, and her sister being mentally ill sounds about right.
That's not right and she should pay for her actions and go to hell for what she has done to her and if you guys can't see that then you guys are delusional and she doesn't deserve anything for secretly putting her own son up for adoption and she started blaming her for the lawsuit and you don't have to apologize for anything it's your mom's fault not yours.
What is with people and the figurative thunder stealing? I mean millions of people get married and have kids and there are only 365 birthdays available for the whole humanity. Get over it. People do not care if some attention is given to someone else on your occasion. It’s okay.
I've heard a lot of 'death bed promises' but I think those that ask wouldn't make the promiser to keep the promise if it's harming them mentally or physically.
,,But I don't know if you guys have ever lost a parent" Girl, I also lost my dad, because of illnes and in my opinion the promise in this whole mess is bullsh*t. And I think OP's dad would agree with me there are some exceptions.
When my father died I promised that I would look after my little sister the only problem is that my little sister has a drug problem and you can't help somebody that doesn't want to help she has used that promise against me many times so when my mother passed away in 2023 she made me promise I would watch out for my little sister too but I told her straight up I said mama if she comes to me for help I'll try to help her but I can't make her stop doing drugs she understood exactly what I was saying
Deathbed promises are selfish emotional manipulation. You're dipping out and not dealing with what's to come. Set your family up as best you can and don't burden your family, especially your children, to the point they set themselves on fire to keep others warm.
Real life is becoming a telenovela from the unhinged insanity of everyone infected world. OP's mom, sister, and uncle are going to cause even more drama in the future.
Read the title and straight away I'm going like wtf insanity is this? The mother needs a psych evaluation. Let her take her karma on the chin because she earnt it. These should br criminal not just civil
??? so to poorly fraud paperwork requires researching what papers are needed, and how they're arranged and how to duplicate them, then how to make fakes that "look legitimate, but to make passable fakes requires bribing officials and the people authorized to legalize the works,.
Go no contact, get a permanent restraining order. Your dad will understand that your first duty is to your children, and not your insane narcisdistic golddigger of an eggdonor.
![Digital Circus Episode 4 [TRAILER]](http://i.ytimg.com/vi/abZtsmMUbJo/mqdefault.jpg)
Mom wanted op giving birth to not be the highlight of the year, so now her getting arrested is gotta be the highlight 😂😂😂 mom for the win 👻
''you sure you knew nothing about this?!'' the main question floating around at the wedding, every family member just gossiping about her crazy mother and her distant sister, nobody truly paying attention to her at all, this is just the start of the downfall of her shitty life
Lmao, seriously! She definitely didn’t want to be overshadowed by the birth, but now she’s the one trending. Classic mom move!
At least the mom did do her end of the deal and the childbirth is not the highlight of the year, instead she is the highlight. 😆
I damn sure would have posted the restraining order of the sister if I was op and explain why she has one along with all the things she said about the child (her nephew) because if she is like this to her own nephew, imagine how she's like to other children born in her future in laws family.
@@zerofate9669 tbh the brother not pulling away after all this bs is stupid, bro might be edp because he married a womanchild
Funny how the mom wanted the sister wedding to be the highlight of the year and made it all about OP's pregnancy
Egg donor: "GIVE AWAY YOUR BABY!!! DO IT FOR DAN-- I MEAN, [SISTER'S NAME]!!!"
I feel there will be 2 reddit stories we will never forget, "Do It Dan" and "u/jasoninhell"
The do it for dan reference is great.
I saw a comment similar to this. This is funny 😂
😂😂😂
Do it for Dan and the story with Ryan and his twin brother will always be stories I will remember
LOOOOL
“my mother told an adoption agency that my husband and I were addicts and attempted to put my child up for adoption because she wanted all the attention on my sister. AITA for pressing charges?”
Op YTA for even asking this. There is absolutely ZERO chance any sane person thinks they would be the bad guy here😂
I think the question was more for should she hold back on the charges she was making Becuz she already in trouble for falsifying legal documents
On top of that, if OP's dad was still alive, he would have divorced the mom and pushed for her to go to prison. And disowned the sister.
She's not asking if she's the asshole for wanting charges to come against her mother. Charges came for her regardless. What she was asking is if she was the asshole for filing her OWN lawsuit on TOP of the charges being levied against her by law enforcement and the adoption agency. Which, is valid tbh.
I would have also posted the restraining order of the sister on her post and why she has it, and possible ask the cops for a copy of the recording of the things she said that led to the restraining order. I know that would get her posts taken down as well and in laws the really think if they want a crazy bich DIL.
Familial guilt and gaslighting are powerful things that can plant all sorts of doubts in your brain, especially with such an emotionally abusive situation. I don't blame OP for wanting a second opinion on this matter just to make things absolutely clear outside of her mom's influence.
/assuming any of this is real
I’m sorry that promise has to be thrown out the window. Your dad would not get upset with you if you leave her alone. She’s causing pain and suffering for no reason. Do not let anyone emotionally manipulate you. I lose my mother to cancer. I did not make a promise to take care of my dad but honestly. I have been slightly avoiding my dad because he’s being insufferable. My brothers are too because he’s just bad. So much is happening but there’s nothing we can do. We tried to have him see reason but he’s stubborn.
Tbh I don't think this breaks the promise, especially when you consider that "taking care of ____” has multiple meanings, including assassination, and breaking multiple bones
Are you SERIOUS? . PRESS CHARGES ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING. What is more important, your defenseless baby or a PSYCHO PARENT?
It drives me mad when people refuse to control the narrative and let the wrong-doers and their supporters talk to everyone and get their warped version of the story out first. When you find out shit has happened, you NEED to ensure that people know the truth. Do NOT let the wrong-doers go around behind your back telling people only what they want them to know.
i mean at the end of the day it seems like only op's sister and uncle were playing that game, op knew it would only fuel to the fire if she tried to defend herself, let her win the lawnsuit and her mother getting convicted speak for themselves
It seemed like only the sister and uncle were siding with the mom. Everyone else who weren't on OP's side were just observing for entertainment.
💯👍🏿
Seriously! I get so frustrated sometimes with these stories and people deciding that defending themselves isn't the priority and then are surprised when they backfires.
I done this before and people didn't believe me.
Even if you do so, they think you're a liar because someone creates a more convincing story.
Mother really said “I’m fine with never seeing my grandchild again or watching them grow up all so that my other (grown ass) daughter can have a full 24 hours to herself” BE SO FFR WOMAN 🤯
With decision making skills and forward analytical capabilities like these on display, the results of a just-passed momentous event are really not all that mysterious anymore.
God, I love having an entire soap opera condensed into 20min - really saves me the time wasted watching people look shocked for ten minutes at a time
I have a cousin whos mom tried to get rid of her baby. The cousin's brother who is a pos did not want to be an uncle. While she was under the influence of the med the hospital gave her . the mother showed up with papers and tried to make her sign away the baby. Lucky My cousin's Husband was close by and stopped that from happening.
Wow that is messed up! I hope your cousin disowned her mother and brother for what they did…those twats!
Edit- sorry for the vulgar language…
@@Louise-b5o I think the language is entirely justified in situations like this.
Why does this not surprise me at all... like, i think redit has desensitized me to shit like this
@@smokinggnu6584 thank you but don’t look what Twat means bc I got that out of Harry Potter and then there is Arty-e(a semi well known artist, author and animator on RUclips and tumblr). She has been rubbing off me(despite me being American 🇺🇸 clearly while she is from the UK 🇬🇧/British)…
Edit- I did hear a young man say it a loudly around me and my mom at one point! Another woman(I think his mom) smacked him for saying “Twat” in front of me…I later looked it up! But like I said before don’t look it up if you under 18!
Who puts their grandchildren up for adoption that’s a law suit and disownment to the face.
I know morality has degraded for decades now. But please explain to me how anyone can justify someone trying to GIVE YOUR FREAKING KID AWAY OVER FAVORITISM
Morality is the same as it's always been.. actually probably better considering we used to force women to stay in abusive marriages and like. Burn people for being "witches", and lynch people of different skin colour's, and hide pedo priests crimes, and harass people who are gay, and.. I mean. I could go on, the past is full of humanitys crimes
You just didn't see it as much cause social media didn't put the crazy stories of the world in front of your face in a convenient youtube video to listen to
Everyone infected world be weird.
Though it is for the best that evil people are so unhinged they expose themselves.
How exactly has morality been 'degrading for decades'? If this had happened in the middle ages, the mum would've probably accused her daughter of being a witch, and had her burnt at the steak.
IS COMMON SENSE THIS RARE!!!!???
Edit: why do i feel like this whole adoption thing was part of the sister's idea
Siuu🇵🇹
It’s not common sense. It’s repaying evil with evil.
No. Common Sense is doing what the Mother asked OP to do.
Uncommon sense is doing what OP is doing /s
@memeking7273 Ragebaiting isn't your strong suit huh
Bro, your edit makes some sense tbh
SHE. TRIED. TO. TAKE. YOUR. CHILD. if this is real is2g - do your relatives know she tried to steal your actual child so you sister wouldn't feel like hwr wedding YEAR was overshadowed?
OP's sister finally cut off their toxic mom to save her own skin, so in a way, OP managed to keep her promise to her father and got her to be independent!
Usually people are excited to be grandparents. OP should have told her mother that if she had tried this while her father was alive he would have called the police himself on her. And the uncle needs to learn the difference between a little mistake and a huge mistake.
OP is taking care of mom by making her be responsible for her decisions
Are people parents THIS messed up in real life?
If their life revolves are a Golden Child. Yes
@@memeking7273 Trust me, there doesn't even need to be a Golden Child for that... Speaking from experience : for decades my sister and I thought the other was our birth-giver's favorite, because she'd always compare us... Turns out she was trying all along to put us in a competition and some sort of sibling rivalry. We only realized it when we both cut her off and cross-checked everything that had happened, we get along pretty well now, my sister and I, and we came to the conclusion that our "mother"'s favorite was herself all along 🤣
Well it's not impossible, I mean some have even killed or done worse to their children throughout history.
U be surprised
Narcissistic parents always have a golden child and a scapegoat, sometimes there’s more than one golden child or scapegoat or other children might simply get neglected. I’m the product of a very toxic relationship, my parents hate each other, and as their oldest it’s my fault they’re stuck together, I’m their scapegoat, and it’s obvious they regret having me. Oh and don’t forget parentification, oldest children, especially daughters, sometimes have to give up their childhoods to be the caregiver of their siblings, doing the parenting the parents don’t want to do and some are punished if they don’t do it or do it “the wrong way”. It can cause borderline personality disorder, severe anxiety and depression, cptsd, and many other mental health problems. Some people aren’t supposed to be parents.
OP, there is no way your father would want you to look past what your mother did. Keep her away from your baby. Let her face the consequences of her actions.
A settlement, no matter how generous, and community service can't make up for ATTEMPTED KIDNAPPING.
Y’know, a part of me thinks that the sister intentionally planned her wedding to happen shortly after OP gives birth as a way of “taking the spotlight off of her” since she clearly seems spoiled enough to do that
I don't know how anyone could think planning to kidnap a baby to put up for adoption, all so your favorite child can avoid possibly sharing attention, isn't a big deal... Wtaf. If the adoption papers went through was she just going to show up and steal the baby?
If a man did what op's mom did he'd be in prison for life right away!!
Taking care of someone doesn’t mean doing everything they want. It can mean bringing attention to mental issues so they can be addressed.
My mother's youngest sister and the older of my two stepsisters both gave birth to a girl one month before I got married I got to hold my baby neice for the first time at my wedding reception. The wedding photographer took a picture. That moment made my wedding even more special and the picture is one of my favorites in my wedding album.
My mother sacrificed twenty children in a blood ritual to obtain immortality and is now crying because I went low contact AiTA?
That is one of the most fucked histories I heard in a while.
When OP's father asked OP to promise to care for her mother he could never have thought that her mother would try and put their grandchild up for adoption!
For the family members that are supporting mom's actions publicly as them if they were getting a cut from the sale of your child. That will shut them up
How can it be legal to work at home during maternity leave ? If an employer tried that over here he’d be sued at lightning speed and would have to pay a hefty fine + compensation to OP for blackmail .
OMG OP!! Why are people so ridiculous in thinking they are wrong for protecting themselves or in this case their children from evil and increasingly toxic people! Even your own parents aren't allowed to hurt you and ruin your life! Stop
TBF op's last words to her father were a promise to look out for mother, so it was both her loyalty and money that was taken for granted. Plus, I doubt he would've asked such to her if he'd known that his wife would've dismissed their grandson.
This is absolute madness!
I’m sorry, this woman tried to put her less than a month old grandson up for adoption behind her daughter and son-in-law’s backs and now that she’s understandably in deep legal sh!t, she *really* thinks that they’re going to take pity and HELP her?? Absolutely screw that vile woman
The most amazing part about this story is that people actually believe it is not fiction.
I genuinely feel like if OP's late father was alive during this, he would have divorced OP's mother for her unhinged actions, and changed his will so that the mother got absolutely nothing. So OP shouldn't worry about whether or not she kept her promise to him in his late life, she had done so to the best of her ability until all this occurred.
Don't blame yourself. Your dad probably never saw his wife in this light. She wouldn't go that far and ruin her marriage.
9:01 yah she took care of op as a baby as that was needed by law and it she wasn't and only mom iether so it wasn't only her why does that family have 0 braincells 🤦♀️
So…. OP , your father would not be pleased with the way you weren’t looking after your mother??? 1 - if your father was there, your mother wouldn’t have done it! and 2 - if she had done it while your father was still alive, he’d have chucked her out, fast!!!! You did the right thing, girl and don’t let anyone else tell you otherwise.
Honestly I would've just replied with "rip lmao" and left it at that cause that's outrageously ludicrous. She made her own bed so now she has to sleep in it
YTA for saying AITA, because Op shouldn't even have second thoughts about the lawsuits
Who are these people ? where do they come from ? she got away easily just like that ? this must be happening in America because if this happened in my country she would be convicted. What she did was dangerous and disgusting. Do people get away from crimes just by saying they are suffering from mental conditions?
All of the time
7:02 yep. Fake or not, making a promise on someone's deathbed is heavy. I lost my dad to cancer and I also made a promise to him. A promise I almost broke instantly, at my dad's funeral.
Personally and practically speaking, it really doesn't matter if you live up to a promise you made to a then-dying person because you know.... the person is dead now.
I wonder what situation the loser uncle is in.
Pre-updates: NTA, and it infuriates me that the mother thinks the promise to the late father equates to a hall pass to get away with something horrific. Mind you, imagine just giving birth to your child, and then magically, the child had been adopted by another family thanks to the intervention of a so-called family member, all the while you had no say in the matter. Plus, the reason for that was simply to let the golden child have the spotlight, so imagine thinking THAT is a justifiable excuse to cause irreparable harm to one child.
Post-updates: Thank goodness OP's husband and in-laws have her back in this case, cause I have a hunch the mother lied or twisted the narrative as a manipulation tactic, and I already smell BS when she pulled all the usual emotional stunts during the mediation sessions. For that, I have no sympathy for her plight, especially since the golden child daughter also cut her off to appease her own in-laws. As for OP, I'm glad she is putting physical distance from all that drama, but I also advise to set up security, cause knowing how entitled people behave, sometimes a personal protection order may not be enough. One of those two will try and return to get that petty "I win" middle finger moment over OP, so prevention is better than cure.
I did lose a parent...and she didn't ask me to keep up some ridiculous promises know how I felt about my sister
Lol these stories are so funny 😅 im a bad for doing the right thing? 😅😅
😂😂 oh wow , look whos taken the limelight now
I like the ones where the bad guys get their just desserts
This is a rare kind of unhinged...
You are taking care of her to the best of your ability. Your father couldn’t have foreseen your mother’s behavior and if he had I am sure he would not expect you to coddle her in such a situation.
So, her actions cost her
2 daughters
Only grandchild
A comfortable life
True freedom
A reputation
Favoured daughters marriage
More money
And any family that can help her out
The spoiled favorite daughter is really acting out the ending scene of Ever After. Crazy weirdo.
Justice served! 👶⚖
I hate it when the op always ask dum question like these no you aren't a asshole for suing the person who endangered your child
Eh, typing it out is a way to vent about some crazy circus shàt and gets you some feeling of vindication when a bunch of strangers chime in saying you lucked out in the genetic lottery...cause the OPs could be just as messed up.
@draconiclady0610 no i understand the reason they do it just wow "could me protecting my baby make a ok person " like why ask at this point read it out loud
Omfg that title is CRAZY
"I don't want anybody stealing your sisters spotlight"
Proceeds to steal her daughters spotlight by getting arrested
How can you say you didn’t want to bring this up cause it’s private? You wrote this story!
Just say it. Your mother almost got my baby stolen from me. She tried stealing the most precious thing in my life from me, and I won't forgive her for it.
Ops dad would understand
You help the mum but not at the expense of yourself or your family 😊
maybe the Father ment take care of her as in old school mobster "take care of her"
My siblings and I were all really young when we lost our dad to cancer too but pls I would have let that promise go with a women like that
I supose you can only be grateful she didn't try to poison you wile you were pregnant or falling that harn the baby but no your not the a hole.
Honestly this was not well thought out. Even if her fraudulent paperwork did go through what next? She hadn't even met the baby how was she even expecting to hand over the baby? Have a "reconciliation" in order to get close and take the first opportunity to snatch the baby or something like that likely. Also she's an idiot to think that she'd help her. Like if someone tried to put her golden child up for adoption without her consent she'd go scorched earth on their butts even if they were family. What made her think her daughter wouldn't? She really thought that she'd be all "okay I'll definitely help you get out of the legal trouble you got yourself into by trying to PUT MY CHILD UP FOR ADOPTION WITHOUT MY KNOWLEDGE OR PERMISSION BECAUSE YOU DIDN’T WANT A BABY TO TAKE ATTENTION FROM YOUR GOLDEN CHILD'S WEDDING!" Also what about after the wedding? Was she just going to be like, "Okay now that your sister is married you can just have another baby." Cause she sure as heck can't take back a baby she adopted out.
nah, it would be a slippery slop, first the baby thing then the ''you cannot have kids before your sister'' ''you cannot have children UNTIL your sister has them'' ''don't you dare steal the spotlight from your sister's kids! wait more'' ''isn't it bad how you were the first to marry?'' just random bs that would at the end ruin op's life
@cototototorra7106 you have a point. If her and her sister got pregnant at roughly the same time it would be the same story.
"I know it was a messed up thing to do and im sorry" Oh ok, so she understands exactly why she's in trouble and why she isn't getting any help
The conspiracies were closely accurate from the comments with the sister and mother being involved planning to get rid of the child for her golden child moment, and her sister being mentally ill sounds about right.
I'll take things that never happened for $400 please Alex
That's not right and she should pay for her actions and go to hell for what she has done to her and if you guys can't see that then you guys are delusional and she doesn't deserve anything for secretly putting her own son up for adoption and she started blaming her for the lawsuit and you don't have to apologize for anything it's your mom's fault not yours.
What is with people and the figurative thunder stealing? I mean millions of people get married and have kids and there are only 365 birthdays available for the whole humanity. Get over it. People do not care if some attention is given to someone else on your occasion. It’s okay.
I've heard a lot of 'death bed promises' but I think those that ask wouldn't make the promiser to keep the promise if it's harming them mentally or physically.
56 seconds is crazy
Add emotional blackmail to the charges
Mom alone and miserable wondering why nobody wants to be with her
,,But I don't know if you guys have ever lost a parent" Girl, I also lost my dad, because of illnes and in my opinion the promise in this whole mess is bullsh*t. And I think OP's dad would agree with me there are some exceptions.
That mom is insane
When my father died I promised that I would look after my little sister the only problem is that my little sister has a drug problem and you can't help somebody that doesn't want to help she has used that promise against me many times so when my mother passed away in 2023 she made me promise I would watch out for my little sister too but I told her straight up I said mama if she comes to me for help I'll try to help her but I can't make her stop doing drugs she understood exactly what I was saying
Deathbed promises are selfish emotional manipulation. You're dipping out and not dealing with what's to come. Set your family up as best you can and don't burden your family, especially your children, to the point they set themselves on fire to keep others warm.
Real life is becoming a telenovela from the unhinged insanity of everyone infected world.
OP's mom, sister, and uncle are going to cause even more drama in the future.
Read the title and straight away I'm going like wtf insanity is this? The mother needs a psych evaluation. Let her take her karma on the chin because she earnt it. These should br criminal not just civil
WOULD YOU KEEP A DANM PROMISE OVER YOUR NEWBORN BABY? THE ONE YOU BROUGHT TO THIS WORLD??? ARE YOU STUPID
Making sure Mom faces the consequences of her bullshit IS taking care of her.
Wasn't there a protection order by default???? Why was she still in contact with OP
WHAT THE HELLL????
Im concerned by just reading the title.
This woman should be in a psych ward.
Implausible plot line. Try a little harder.
This can’t be real
Mom and sister are both crazy
THIS is emotional manipulation at its finest? OOP is a literal joke.
You can tell the stories fake cause the cops showed up within minutes of being called and not half an hour later after she already left
??? so to poorly fraud paperwork requires researching what papers are needed, and how they're arranged and how to duplicate them, then how to make fakes that "look legitimate, but to make passable fakes requires bribing officials and the people authorized to legalize the works,.
happy thanksgiving 😊
Go no contact, get a permanent restraining order. Your dad will understand that your first duty is to your children, and not your insane narcisdistic golddigger of an eggdonor.
MOMMY dearest is a psycho.
Psycho Egg Donor
Das crazy 💀💀💀
Genuine question here, whats the point of this game? How do you win? Or you just run forever
there is no way this is true story
don't make promises to parunts
Like I really question this story lol is this real, because who is this insane
This story seems sooo fake 😂😂😂