I am a man. My first sexual encounter was when I was 5. Another man molested & sodimised me. I didn't know at the time that what he was doing was wrong since I was just a kid. Later on in life, during my teen years, I'd have flash backs and eventually became aware that what I went through was despicably wrong. I began to hate myself & my body. Doubting my manhood as I felt like it had been robbed. Thankfully, I came to know the Lord. But even as a believer I never really dealt with it for so many years, causing me to spew out the poison and toxicity to those I loved the most. Someone eventually encouraged me to go for Christian-centred therapy, where the Lord went on to expose and deal with so much baggage & burdens I carried secretly for so many years. Although the memory never really goes away, THE LORD HEALS gradually and slowly. For anyone, women & even MEN who went through a traumatic sexual experience, please tell someone, get help. It's ok not to be ok, but it's not ok to stay not ok.
I was also molested by my cousin when i was 7/8. I didn't understand what he was doing at that time.😭😭(he was ten years older than me)in our times when an elderly person gives you instructions!out of respect we were not allowed to question or deny anything. Otherwise you can be beaten up and be labeled as an unruly and a bad child. 😭😭(And no one wants to be a bad child).😞i only discovered what he did to me when i was in my teen years.💔when i opened up to my other cousin that i was close to,💏i discovered that he also did the same thing to her.🙆we just left it like that because we were scared that the family will not believe us (since we were close,maybe they will say that we just fabricated the story and. also blame us)and that obviously he will deny it😾🖐.sometimes i feel that i have forgiven him but sometimes i feel angry by just looking at him.(i sometimes wonder how his mind works!🤔or if he thinks that i don't remember what he did to me🤔) i just don't understand how someone can find a sexual pleasure in a 7/8 year old girl who has not yet even developed breasts and have no idea of what is going on! I am now in my late 30's blessed with a girl and a boy.sometimes i am scared to leave my kids at home with my parents for school holidays if i am not around, because of him and other friends and relatives that might think and behave like him.(me and siblings we don't stay at home with our parents and our parents are in their early 70's.so,they send him to run some their errands and he is faithful.)🙄 i feel like i will just lead my daighter into the den of a hungry lion.😁
She just saved me from making the hugest mistake of a lifetime 😢am so great full. .I'm 16 years old and I really wanted this talk before I made a wrong move in my life. .so thank u😢
I am a 21 year old guy and I’m grateful for this lesson today. These stories are not only for women to hear but also for boys/men to understand the depth of their actions when luring a girl/woman into having sex with them, and to also understand how sensitive gilrs/women are. Thank you 🙏🏽
I ran away from this video for as long as I could because I didn't want to face my own story... You're not only warning young girls with your story, but you are helping a lot of us heal. Thank you Mpoomy❤
It should start at grade 4 or 5, 8 is too late. The only way it will work is also by schools including the parents. Parents should know what is part of the curriculum so that children are free to discuss this with parents. The biggest problems amongst most black family and those other races who are so heavily indoctrinated with religion is the lack of talking about sex in family.
When I was 13/14. It was my first year of high school. I never really dated. And I was excited to have a boyfriend for the first time. I was a firm believer of Sex after marriage and I remember told him this. So I assumed we were on the same page. On October 2012 he called me to his place to come over for the first time and he said he had a gift for me. He invited his friend to chill with us and he did then he left. He told me that my gift that was on his bedroom and I followed him. Being naive. He began to undress me and insulting me whilst doing that. He began forcing himself on top of him. I remember being in so much pain and being confused that I felt numb. Then after, I was so depressed, I began cutting myself, my wrist and I never told anyone for 3/2 years. And only told my mom after my sweet sixteen, she saw a normality to it. I quote " that's what boyfriend and girlfriend do". I felt like I lost my mother that day and I was never close to her since that day to this day we do not have a good relationship all. I started therapy at 18 because of suicidal attempts and It helped me temporary and I went back to depression after being in another abusive relationship at 20 which yielded an abortion. I was far away from God and from myself. Fast forward to today, I got redeemed and went to being in good relations with God and forgiving myself and the ones that hurt me without an apology. I am still in therapy and I have a life coach now. I am still healing...I am 22, single, I never really deeply spoke about this. I thank you for this platform. Thank you for sharing.❤
Thank you for sharing this.......I'm sorry that happened to you......I just hope you still believe you are special...someone once told me that a wrinkled 100 dollar bill is still a 100 dollar bill and in like manner, just because you lost virginity in such a way and you made mistakes, doesn't mean you aren't worth much....God bless
I am a 20 year old, and I decided to dedicate my life to God when I was 14 years, and I made a promise to God that I will abstain until I get married. There are temptations but with God's power and the Holy Spirit I try not to satisfy my flesh. We are spiritual well-beings so we should ask God to help us not to gratify our flesh.
True dear just keep at that and the only way not to fulfil the lusts of the flesh is to walk in the spirit. Study the word of God and it will be a lamp unto your feet and u will be a Victor in Jesus name
I am a girl aged 19 and i was almost sexually harrassed when i was 9 years old and i have never told my family about this because i have decided to treat it as a bad dream. It has been affecting my relationships because i dont trust men and seeing other people being strong has actually given me the courage to speak up. This is my first time talking about this story. I thank God for making me strong
This was the first video I watched of yours and I always come back here. I hope you know how much of an impact this has made even up to today. I appreciate you so much ❤️
I am a therapist based in uk listening to this brought me to tears because I am working with a lot PTSD clients who’s trauma is affecting their relationship both personal and work. Thank you for sharing
@@dostrolifestyle6912 hmm, and then wena? Do you know what trauma is? She is going through a healing journey, just because it's a testimony doesn't mean a traumatic event didn't occur
Wow, am over 45 years, been through all that, felt ashamed of talking about it, actually I've never opened up to anyone, i only speak partially about it, but not the whole story, i was molested as a child by people i trusted, my Aunty, brother, cousin then raped at 14,i hated myself, so i didn't care at all, i slept with any man that came by in my life, i didn't see sex as anything, it was like giving water to a thirsty person, no big deal 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭, I've done abortion, I've even slept with women, ooohh God, can't believe that in writing this, I've master bated, I've done so much evil to my body, but i thank God, he found me, he forgave me and cleansed me, im now his child, thank you Jesus for taking my shame and nailing it on the cross, thank you girl, im healing im healing 😭😭😭😭, thank you Jesus, Thank you Jesus, I've been set free, growing up without a mother, with no one to trust, no one to talk to, it was terrible, but God was there for me.
"Rape won't always be forceful" Your story is the story of so many women out there, wow. Thank you so much for having the courage to share it with us 💕
This topic is very closely related to playing house as toddlers. We laugh about it as a nation but there's a lot of sexual trauma attached to the things "mama and "baba" did.
I lost my sister the same way, last year Jan... Due to depression.. She was only twenty en my heart breaks a little more each passing day.. En am not strong mentally. Pray 4 me,anyone.
Lord I pray I pray that You would heal this beautiful soul. Holy Spirit I pray that You would comfort and strengthen her on her journey. May You give her peace in Jesus’ Name
I relate. still grieving, still hate myself for it and haven't let go. To a girl reading this : it is not your fault. and you will get through it. i hope i remind myself that too.
I'm a teenager and i hate how every relationship these days isn't termed as a relationship WITHOUT SEX. I mean who said so? Sex isnt sth you just wake up and do and i'm grateful for the weight and depth of understanding this video brings out. God bless you❤
Hey Mpoomy, We would like to commend you for your bravery and courage to talk about your experience. God certainly calls us to share our testimonies in the hope of helping other people and ultimately showcasing His mercy and grace. 🙏🏽 Childhood traumas are such a real thing and what most people don’t understand is that if left alone and not dealt with, it will certainly impact and influence your life for years to come and you may not even realize it (black swans). 🥺 We must take authority in Jesus’ name and break these generational curses! We agree 100 percent that before marriage, one needs to go to therapy to deal with those issues, firstly for self and secondly for the health of your marriage because it will certainly affect your spouse. A key takeaway message is when you mentioned that you need to forgive those that hurt you in order to free yourself. That’s the heart of Jesus. ♥️ Also the importance of teaching our sons / daughters consent is so important! As (future) parents we have so much responsibility of how our children will behave and treat others. “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” - Proverbs 22:6 (KJV) Thank you once again for your vulnerability.🙏🏽 May God continue to bless you! 💐 #RegoDise
You are free, from that childhood trauma and it was wise that your sort council. I applaud you for your bravery, Allow God to continue to use you. God bless you and your family 🎉 🎉 🎉 🎉
Thank you for this comment 🤍I love you guys ♥️watched you for the first time on Defining love and I just cried while watching you guys 🤍More love and Grace 🙌🏾
I am a 24 year old lady and i got abused when i was 17 by an older boyfriend.The experience was terrible and a great fear of men grew in me.I avoided relationships and i promised myself i will never have sex! But three years down the line it happened to me again,not once, but three times.I was raped by a friend, a boyfriend and our family's doctor.Writing this is not easy.I hated myself , i attempted suicide but God saved me and i learnt of forgiveness.I hated sex and i still hate sex, i don't see myself getting married and i promised myself from my redemption through Christ Jesus i just want to serve Him.Thank you for sharing your story you are an intelligent woman from your choice of words backed up with the word of God, it's not common with these other youtubers around.
I'm 17 yrs and heartbreak almost led me to depression at only 14 yrs, that's when I personally made a decision to stay away from dating until I'm 21 yrs..... Thank you so much Mrs Mom for the motivation❤
Just to add. Some girls/women think and feel like just because they've lost there virginity or given birth, they have no right to say No to sex in elationships. The truth is they don't owe anyone, anything. Sex and love is not the same thing. My son pasaed away, but i always teach my nephews and nieces about life and growing up. That they shouldn't rush, the is nothing wrong by being a late bloomer, Life is hard but Great thiings come to those who wait and Im gonna show them this video.
What I love is that she is a Christian and she's showing that God can never change his mind about you based on what you do. Triggered deeply but bless up for speaking up!
Hey i am 14 years old my mom always tells me to stay away from dating lyf and i realize that she's right i actually push them away my friends are dating and they will always ask me why dont u have boyfriends i just tel them that single lyf is better. Because i have seen a lot of my friends been played by boys but still they did not learn the lesson. U know how gurls are they will always say u are jealous ka mo u are helping them. Being in high school can bring challenges which is scary and confusing but all i do is put my main focus on what i am going to school for thank u for sharing it really made me open a mind that was closed for no reason thank you God bless🙏
Hey baby, you are doing great. Keep praying to God and keep enduring. You'll be proud of yourself and remember the most important thing is, God is appreciative of you.
Keep going nana , your mom is sooo right. I never dated anyone in high school and people often laughed at me because of that but now I'm going to achieve my dream of being a doctor because I made my education a priority . Do you boo boo then after high School you can date but still be careful. Always put yourself first because there is you before him and there will always be you after him. I wish you all the best. Keep growing and glowing girl.❤️
I'm in university now and I still haven't dated because I feel that most people my age are just not ready for the real thing! I went on an instagram live and shared this but I was bashed by both males and females and told that men will ruin me and that I'm living in a bubble. I refuse to fall for this, and I would prefer living in a bubble then living a life that I personally wouldn't be proud of living!!
I'm also one of those people that advocate for no sex before marriage not because I've been abstaining but because I know the consequences of it PERSONALLY! I'm still on my journey of healing but one thing I'm sure of is that God is a REDEEMER! thank you for sharing your story. I pray God continues to bring healing to you and other people that have went through similar situations.
"Guard your heart, guard you mind, guard your soul, guard your body, guard who you listen to, guard what you listen to and protect yourself!" Don’t carry that guilt! Don’t carry that shame! God is still in the business of healing. The minute you come to God, and confess your sins, He begins to newly heal you. Worship God in Spirit and Truth. Thank You sharing your testimony Mpoomy.
We as people need to kill this mindset of "She is just playing hard to get..." I think most men who rapped unaware, will tell you,"I thought she was just playing hard to get..." Unlearning these old doctrines, will help the upcoming men and teenage boys. Thank you for sharing this mpoomy
This was so encouraging to watch Mpoomy. I have two teenage step-daughters who are both dating and one is in conflict with us about sex before marriage (she's dating an older boy) I will share this with both the girls and my teenage son
The biggest lie in pop culture today is that promiscuity and engaging in relationships with imbalanced power relations is an expression of sexual freedom. Those who’ve been though this know that there is nothing freeing about it, in fact it is bondage. Thank you for swimming against the tide and speaking truth even when it brings out your own hurt ❤️ One day we will all have the courage to speak.
@@thuliendlovu719 and its the same reason men are'nt willing to commit because they get sex just like that, and the irony ,,,the quicker you give them sex the quicker you loose them or you could be trapped in wrong relationship for years then after you he goes and get married. i hope women can know that your vagina is valuable is not something you just give like an open buffet
Wow. This is so true and so profound. Thank you for sharing this comment. Reading this makes me want to re evaluate myself and the decisions I am making/ want to make. ✨
How do you allow yourself to not feel like you are less of a woman just because you still a virgin/want a connection first before sex and also this whole thing of learning your sexual needs and experience with different partners?
I have spoken about this at a couple of high schools... Childhood trauma may also be a massive hindrance to career growth... Amazing how childhood trauma directs who you are and how you do things.
I personally dropped from college after a failed relationship. From being an excelling student to becoming a failure for the first time in my academic life. The Lord helped me to eventually complete my degree. By then a lot had been affected. I still thank the Lord for picking me up. I am still on the recovery road
Your story is an amazing story and it has truly touched my heart, because I relate so much to what happened to you. When I lost my virginity I had just turned 15. I lost my virginity to a guy who kept pestering me for 2 years and I finally agreed to meet up with him so I can look him in the eye and be able to tell what his intentions were. After he had told me how much he wants to be with me, I rejected him and he got mad and took advantage of me. That day my parents were out of town so we met up estradin and walked to a very quiet neighbourhood alongside was a bush and thats where he pulled me in and took away my everything. I kept quiet for 3 years and only told my parents about it when I was in matric. We were watching tv and out of nowhere I just started crying, because I couldn't take the heat anymore. After being taken advantage of, I got involved in a lot of sexual relationships because I would tell myself ' there is no point in keeping something that you've lost '. For now I'm still finding my feet and trying my best to open up to God and allow him to take charge in my life. This video encourages me to seek therapy so I can heal completely. You are such a brave women and may God bless you and your family ♡♡♡♡
Must have been hard sharing this. Thank you for giving other women the courage to do the same. We are grateful for you Mpoomy. Also thank you for going against the flow and telling the truth that sex is NOT just sex. We needs more of you.
Shuuu, I'm sitting here 18years later and it's like you're telling my story 😭😭😭thanks for allowing God to use you. This simply shows me that the devil is a liar and he doesn't like any of us. It was not my choice, I was so young and why would he do this to me. I'm a single mom to a beautiful daughter, I think it's time we sit and talk about these things little by little. I don't want my daughter to go through what I went through. I'm grateful for her but I cannot relate to the opposite sex, I'm broken. I've been lost for so long and asking myself where did I go wrong? but it's like you've helped me find the missing piece of my very big puzzle. May God heal me , I am making a point to confess to my maker
I want to watch this again with my teenage daughter and have a discussion around this topic. Thanks for sharing and highlighting a very important issue ❤️
I hope, I’m not too late. I love content such as these. The truth, because people are so broken. We subscribe to these channels because people are broken and we may want to laugh now and again but we need to relate to these truths. Thank you so much for your courage and boldness ❤️
I can't even imagine what this is like. I remember being alone with this guy that I liked, he kept pressuring me to kiss him... My mom had recently passed a week before and I felt vulnerable. When he kissed me he tried to stick his tongue in my mouth. I remember pulling back and feeling so used. Now even though I'm 24 I'm staying single, I'm actually afraid of relationships because I feel like real love doesn't exist anymore. Those that have it though are truly blessed. I'd rather be alone than feel that shame and pain again.
It's not over for you. At the right time, God will bring you your rightful spouse... You're loved dear, may you find rest in God too, may He bring you loving and supportive people
hey honey ... That's fear you are inviting in your relationship life . As believers we all know that God is Love.Love is very beautiful with the right person( a godly relationship). I urge you not to be afraid but rather pray more about your future partner in due time God will bring you a very godly man who will love you dearly.
I cried listening to this, I’m so sorry to hear that 14years old you went through this,it’s so sad what young girls go through. This reminded me of a matriculatant I dated when I was in grade10 he tried pushing me to lose my virginity several times and finally dumped me for a girl who was willing to be sexually active,he bragged about it and said I left you because you think your virginity is special,I had actually invited him at home too thinking we would just chill,thankfully my parents were coming home soon so he had to leave on that particular day. My mom had scared me so much about sex that thank God I was able to fight off and thankfully he didn’t force ahead, I’m really so sorry and only now realising I could have gotten raped by what I thought was my boyfriend😭 too. God bless you for sharing this Mrsmom.
"......but God redeems" I like the way you said this because everyone watching this who is under some form of abuse or control by any habit must know that they're story and life is not too broken for God to fix.
My english teacher in grade 7 used to emphasize that's the age gap between a 14 and 17 year old is way bigger than an 23 and 26 because of majority levels. I appreciate this testimonial bc a lot of girls have experienced this and still dont know its sexual harassment. God bless you 🙏🏽✨ you talking about it on a public platform is signs of healing.
Ay Mpumi😭.. It's scary that at our teen stage we don't want to hear any advice against dating. We just want butterflies in our tummies with boys that just want to test their manhood with us. Most of us are really messed up from childhood traumas. Some Men and women who have experienced rape at a young age have tried to sort of forget that it ever happened. They grow up thinking it'll disappear from their memories at some point. It doesn't, instead it finds a way to creep out even at a later stage when they think they're ready for marriage. Yoh it's important to deal with such issues before we enter into marriage as Mrs mom says 🤞
Thank you for providing this space to talk about sensitive things like this. When I clicked on your video I never expected to gain so much insight and be able to relate. Once again, thank you!
We are huge advocates for “Psychology” and self awareness. Our upbringing really has a huge impact on us! And yes THERAPY is imperative before you get married because so much is revealed la . Even for individual development , so you do not become toxic to those around you. Psychology is vital 🤞🏿. You have preached another school which people hardly want to hear about. Look here Mrs mom we are ready for a collab with you😉.
Thank you for sharing, how I wish most of us had someone to have such candid conversations with us when we were growing up. I also pray that young people can take heed of this message
This is not an easy topic for anyone to speak on but big up for being courageous. So many need to hear this because so many have experienced it. God bless you for this.
As a girl when you hear stories like these you become less burdened and haunted by your past and the things that happens to you because you see that you are not alone and that you are not crazy and it's not all in your head... That gent did really take advantage of me!. And it's not my fault Thanks Mrs mom and I'm happy you are receiving all the help and support you deserve.
Watching this while pregnant with a baby boy😔 may God help me and my partner raise him well, I will do my best to help him becoming a better man. Thank you for sharing Mpoomy
I remember I always said jokingly that I pray God doesn't give me a son, but I soon realized I wasn't really joking, I had an underlying fear due to my own past. Instead, I need to pray more for boys, that the Lord may protect them and that they grow to be God fearing, God honoring Men, to understand consent and respect women. To lead and protect them. I will indeed pray more for boys.
@@kelemohutsioa16 it was my fear also when we found out it's a baby boy I was excited and at the same time scared but being a believer that parents play a huge role on how children are raised and I wish we as a society gets to give them the same teachings we give to girls we need to teach them that they are the ones who are responsible for taking care of women and let go of all that old culture about how men don't cry or show emotions.
Statutory Rape is so overlooked 💔 thank you for sharing such a sensitive part of your life , this conveys great courage & bravery . I'm grateful you're not only raising awareness , but you're also informing the youth on how important it is to be vocal about such things . & I'm truly sorry for your experience sis , heal however you need to ! 💌 😪 💎 💕
I used to watch Nigerian movies (gender violence) the movies saved me -of course God. I remember when I was in high school at the age of 18 a class mate who seduced me and I rejected played my mind coz he pretended it’s ok and we can be casual friends. To cut a long story short he deceived me that he found a good math teacher and we have to meet him in his house not knowing that wasn’t a family home but a lodge he organised with lodge worker and he opened the back door for us so I wouldn’t see the front reception and realise it’s a lodge(my intuition now tells me this). I was naive...... only to find I was in a locked lodge room & the key was with him. Gosh I couldn’t breath & I knew I was going to be raped so I remembered a movie when a woman saved herself from the rapist by lying she is HIV positive 😭😭 He was already on top of me I said in a terrifying voice I’m HIV positive so are you ready to die with me.? Thank you God he was shocked and opened the door for me/us to leave. I will forever be grateful to God he saved me from that Psychological trauma I was about to embrace. So many girls loose their virginity in a gloom
You dont know , how many lives you touch by sharing this, i started following you in 2018, when i was so depressed. God knew why He led me to your page. Thank you so much for sharing🙏
Shuuu Mpoomy I can hear cracks in your voice😭and the sad reality is how so many young women have actually been through similar situations .My God thank you for allowing yourself to share .
Thanks so much for opening up speaking so well ❤️❤️ being young and naive is tough people take advantage of the fact you still not aware of so much. Thanks for giving advice to young adults
Dating is hard at 30 imagine dealing with all those emotions in your teen years. Raising daughters we must educate ourselves with this sensitive topic.Thanks for sharing Mpoomy
@@Boitumelo984 True, boys need mentors who will speak on such issues. Most often, they do things in the name of fitting in/ street cred..There needs to be a "new cool"
Even though I started dating at 19, it shattered me. I wish I hadn’t even started, infact I’m scared of relationships and fear marriage too. I don’t know if love really exists or if people create the concept in their minds and find someone they can tolerate.
Hey Mpoomy, I'm so sorry you went through this as a kid well I was 18 and I have a beautiful daughter from the whole situation I love her whole heartedly and I've been hiding and blaming myself as well. thank you so much for this and I feel I'm ready to deal with it.
Beautiful. Going to show this to my future kids when they're in their teens because this is relevant for both girls and guys for them to understand the roles each one plays in dating and the dangers of dating young. Also therapy is everything if you can see a therapist to help you heal
Thank you for this Mpoomy. Your story is very similar to mine. Sometimes I'm filled with deep regret about losing my virginity so young and generally my past relationships with men but broken crayons still color. Despite your past you still have purpose and value. Lots of love from Kenya!
Hearing your voice makes me feel like this was hard for you to talk about. Most of us have a story. Thank you for sharing yours. A lot of young girls (and boys) need to understand the depth of their decisions. That what happens in your life really sticks with you for years. Seek guidance at all times, and be patient with life. ❤️
Listening to this got me so emotional. Thank you for sharing and helping a sister out there. I think what us as girls don’t realize is that when we allow such an experience to happened without fully comprehending and then dealing with it, we convince ourselves that’s it’s okay and becomes normal. It becomes a cycle that every guy we get into a relationship with will expect sex and you will be continue to offer it as part of the relationship even if your not ready or you’ve not dealt with past traumatic experiences.🙌🏾😭💔 God intervene 🙏🏾
Thank you love for sharing, almost in my 50s and listening to your story I kinda healing the young girl in me.your story serves as a healing remedy to ladies who had been in your position. Thank you love may the Lord continues to heal and restore you and may this turn into a greator soul harvest ministry,I got saved at 12,and my decision of becoming born again didn't go down well with my mom,so I ended up slidding back and that is how i became vulnerable at the age 14😭😭 and at age 16 I went through why aspired with you and feld pregnant, and my daughter is now 30.
I can tell that this was hard but you did it and so so well.Look at all these ppl who you’ve liberated by telling your story. Thank you and may God continue to heal you❤️
I think my 13 years old daughter would see this because she thinks I'm controlling her by monitoring her behavior but it's only because I've been there and I know the pain of being forced by someone you see as a boyfriend, someone you trust....... I don't know if I should tell her about what happened to me so that she can probably understand because ever since my "sexual assault" I started thinking it's okay for boys to touch me inappropriately and for me to have a boyfriend after the other...... It hurts.... Thank you @Mpoomy Ledwaba for sharing your story
A friend of mine introduced me to your channel. The first video I watched was about soul-ties where you featured your husband. I immediately shared the link with my boyfriend and he enjoyed watching the video. Our relationship is beautifully growing out of love. We are in no rush. Your video inspired us deeply and I appreciate the shared wisdom. I am growing spiritually and I hope to help my boyfriend into the same transition as well. Every video of yours is absolutely inspiring! I thank you for that.
This is so beautiful...you are doing an amazing job ..you are sending the biggest wave of positivity and chastity I hope it finds every receiver with the highest vibration 💯😁
To the teenager reading this
"what you see is not all there is"
... Guard your hearts, guard your body, guard your soul❤️
Thank You Joy❤
Thanks so much 🌸🌸
Thann you ❤
@@basetsanaphoka you're welcome❤️
@@chrissiemakwiti9473 you're welcome ❤️
I am a man. My first sexual encounter was when I was 5. Another man molested & sodimised me. I didn't know at the time that what he was doing was wrong since I was just a kid. Later on in life, during my teen years, I'd have flash backs and eventually became aware that what I went through was despicably wrong. I began to hate myself & my body. Doubting my manhood as I felt like it had been robbed. Thankfully, I came to know the Lord. But even as a believer I never really dealt with it for so many years, causing me to spew out the poison and toxicity to those I loved the most. Someone eventually encouraged me to go for Christian-centred therapy, where the Lord went on to expose and deal with so much baggage & burdens I carried secretly for so many years. Although the memory never really goes away, THE LORD HEALS gradually and slowly. For anyone, women & even MEN who went through a traumatic sexual experience, please tell someone, get help. It's ok not to be ok, but it's not ok to stay not ok.
You are doing so well. I am so proud of you. You are loved❤️
@@MologadiMakhafola Thank you
I was also molested by my cousin when i was 7/8. I didn't understand what he was doing at that time.😭😭(he was ten years older than me)in our times when an elderly person gives you instructions!out of respect we were not allowed to question or deny anything. Otherwise you can be beaten up and be labeled as an unruly and a bad child. 😭😭(And no one wants to be a bad child).😞i only discovered what he did to me when i was in my teen years.💔when i opened up to my other cousin that i was close to,💏i discovered that he also did the same thing to her.🙆we just left it like that because we were scared that the family will not believe us (since we were close,maybe they will say that we just fabricated the story and. also blame us)and that obviously he will deny it😾🖐.sometimes i feel that i have forgiven him but sometimes i feel angry by just looking at him.(i sometimes wonder how his mind works!🤔or if he thinks that i don't remember what he did to me🤔) i just don't understand how someone can find a sexual pleasure in a 7/8 year old girl who has not yet even developed breasts and have no idea of what is going on! I am now in my late 30's blessed with a girl and a boy.sometimes i am scared to leave my kids at home with my parents for school holidays if i am not around, because of him and other friends and relatives that might think and behave like him.(me and siblings we don't stay at home with our parents and our parents are in their early 70's.so,they send him to run some their errands and he is faithful.)🙄 i feel like i will just lead my daighter into the den of a hungry lion.😁
@@Blackberries729 trust your gut. Protect your kids by all means!
Thank you for sharing. Reading this felt like I was reading my own story. May God continue to heal and make you whole.
She just saved me from making the hugest mistake of a lifetime 😢am so great full. .I'm 16 years old and I really wanted this talk before I made a wrong move in my life. .so thank u😢
Me too
I am a 21 year old guy and I’m grateful for this lesson today. These stories are not only for women to hear but also for boys/men to understand the depth of their actions when luring a girl/woman into having sex with them, and to also understand how sensitive gilrs/women are. Thank you 🙏🏽
Indeed
Finally a sensible comment from a man, yes its not only the girls that should be educated but also the men too😕😕
Great
Well spoken💯💯
Letlotlo, that is so true
I ran away from this video for as long as I could because I didn't want to face my own story...
You're not only warning young girls with your story, but you are helping a lot of us heal.
Thank you Mpoomy❤
Her story is exactly like mine
I can relate. I've been been running away from it until I decided to view it now.
This makes me cry so much because I went through the exact same thing
I hope you're fine
I relate to this 😔
This video should be included as part of the grade 8 curriculum.
i couldn't agree more
It should start at grade 4 or 5, 8 is too late. The only way it will work is also by schools including the parents. Parents should know what is part of the curriculum so that children are free to discuss this with parents. The biggest problems amongst most black family and those other races who are so heavily indoctrinated with religion is the lack of talking about sex in family.
I think even earlier than grade 8.
When I was 13/14. It was my first year of high school. I never really dated. And I was excited to have a boyfriend for the first time. I was a firm believer of Sex after marriage and I remember told him this. So I assumed we were on the same page. On October 2012 he called me to his place to come over for the first time and he said he had a gift for me. He invited his friend to chill with us and he did then he left. He told me that my gift that was on his bedroom and I followed him. Being naive. He began to undress me and insulting me whilst doing that. He began forcing himself on top of him. I remember being in so much pain and being confused that I felt numb. Then after, I was so depressed, I began cutting myself, my wrist and I never told anyone for 3/2 years. And only told my mom after my sweet sixteen, she saw a normality to it. I quote " that's what boyfriend and girlfriend do". I felt like I lost my mother that day and I was never close to her since that day to this day we do not have a good relationship all. I started therapy at 18 because of suicidal attempts and It helped me temporary and I went back to depression after being in another abusive relationship at 20 which yielded an abortion. I was far away from God and from myself. Fast forward to today, I got redeemed and went to being in good relations with God and forgiving myself and the ones that hurt me without an apology. I am still in therapy and I have a life coach now. I am still healing...I am 22, single, I never really deeply spoke about this. I thank you for this platform. Thank you for sharing.❤
Thank you for sharing this.......I'm sorry that happened to you......I just hope you still believe you are special...someone once told me that a wrinkled 100 dollar bill is still a 100 dollar bill and in like manner, just because you lost virginity in such a way and you made mistakes, doesn't mean you aren't worth much....God bless
i thank you for having the courage to tell your story,i hope i too will have courage to tell my stories..love you from Tanzania
U will fully heal one day.. take it one day at a time
Keep fighting champ❤️❤️
Thank you for opening up people like you save lives 😭😭😭🙌🙌
I'm 19 years old, thank you for encouraging me to continue abstaining from relationships ❤
Hi dear,checkout a video on our channel on dating,it may help you further .
Same here, darling 💕
Wow so even at 20 u will keep turning down relationship?
NWOBODO MIRACLE IJEOMA she should
@@Bee-dp3st if u ask me a 20 years is no longer a teenager... 20 years get married
"You're 15 years old wat do you think a 20 year old wants from you ?"
Word !!!
True!!❤
Teenagers tend to think they know it all.
@@15thstrata it's not all of them......
We are also very naive as teenagers.
So is it bad to date whilst young
One minute in and I already know this is what I needed to hear.... "God can't heal what you are hiding from him"
I am a 20 year old, and I decided to dedicate my life to God when I was 14 years, and I made a promise to God that I will abstain until I get married. There are temptations but with God's power and the Holy Spirit I try not to satisfy my flesh. We are spiritual well-beings so we should ask God to help us not to gratify our flesh.
True dear just keep at that and the only way not to fulfil the lusts of the flesh is to walk in the spirit. Study the word of God and it will be a lamp unto your feet and u will be a Victor in Jesus name
Philile Mkhize dy
Congrats 😊
I am a girl aged 19 and i was almost sexually harrassed when i was 9 years old and i have never told my family about this because i have decided to treat it as a bad dream. It has been affecting my relationships because i dont trust men and seeing other people being strong has actually given me the courage to speak up. This is my first time talking about this story. I thank God for making me strong
May the Lord keep you safe, give you more courage and strength to abstain.
This was the first video I watched of yours and I always come back here. I hope you know how much of an impact this has made even up to today. I appreciate you so much ❤️
I'm 14 and I didn't know I needed this, thank you❤️
I pray you stick to this for the rest of your teenage years
Please don't date till you are 18
me too, thank you mrs mom for this💘
Nombulelo B Mini-Matsio so 18 is best right
Just don't date until you're mentally and spiritually prepared.
I am a therapist based in uk listening to this brought me to tears because I am working with a lot PTSD clients who’s trauma is affecting their relationship both personal and work. Thank you for sharing
Oh my gosh... Ur doing my dream career ❤️❤️❤️
Pls your email
This is nowhere near trauma. Stop lying.
@@dostrolifestyle6912 hmm, and then wena?
Do you know what trauma is?
She is going through a healing journey, just because it's a testimony doesn't mean a traumatic event didn't occur
Wow, am over 45 years, been through all that, felt ashamed of talking about it, actually I've never opened up to anyone, i only speak partially about it, but not the whole story, i was molested as a child by people i trusted, my Aunty, brother, cousin then raped at 14,i hated myself, so i didn't care at all, i slept with any man that came by in my life, i didn't see sex as anything, it was like giving water to a thirsty person, no big deal 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭, I've done abortion, I've even slept with women, ooohh God, can't believe that in writing this, I've master bated, I've done so much evil to my body, but i thank God, he found me, he forgave me and cleansed me, im now his child, thank you Jesus for taking my shame and nailing it on the cross, thank you girl, im healing im healing 😭😭😭😭, thank you Jesus, Thank you Jesus, I've been set free, growing up without a mother, with no one to trust, no one to talk to, it was terrible, but God was there for me.
I wish you healing sis🌿💛💛💛💛💛💛💛
I'm reading the comments.
I pray for everyone affected. uNkulunkulu ukhona futhi uyasithanda❤
"Rape won't always be forceful"
Your story is the story of so many women out there, wow. Thank you so much for having the courage to share it with us 💕
And no doesn't always mean no...
You guys must stop with this nonsense, Mpumi wasn't raped, that's nowhere near rape
This topic is very closely related to playing house as toddlers. We laugh about it as a nation but there's a lot of sexual trauma attached to the things "mama and "baba" did.
😭😭😭
Yup, child on child molestation. I experienced this and it had devastating consequences.
@@withlesego very true
This is important.
Very true!!😢😢
I lost my sister the same way, last year Jan... Due to depression.. She was only twenty en my heart breaks a little more each passing day.. En am not strong mentally. Pray 4 me,anyone.
Definitely praying for you Sharon
You are strong my love. Don't give up. I'll pray for you
Lord I pray I pray that You would heal this beautiful soul. Holy Spirit I pray that You would comfort and strengthen her on her journey. May You give her peace in Jesus’ Name
Lord Jesus put your loving arms around our sister and heal her and deliver her.In Jesus's name.Amen
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I relate. still grieving, still hate myself for it and haven't let go.
To a girl reading this : it is not your fault. and you will get through it.
i hope i remind myself that too.
You will heal. Trust me you are doing great
You're not alone
Praying for your healing
Maturity is Mpumi and her husband taking a decision to have such conversations with us ❤️
Some of us cant even tell our moms because they don't listen. This is beautiful ♥️ You're amazing!
most of our mothers will blame you for this instead of comforting you
Eish this is hitting home for someone who doesn’t have a mother completely. I wish my other moms can be supportive while thy still alive 😢
Bro tell me about it, and it breaks my heart you know especially when your mom is all you got
Coz u didn’t listen in the first place
Some of them are so judgemental that's why we look for help from outside
I’m crying 😭 💔 these conversations should be normalized
They should
I'm a teenager and i hate how every relationship these days isn't termed as a relationship WITHOUT SEX. I mean who said so? Sex isnt sth you just wake up and do and i'm grateful for the weight and depth of understanding this video brings out. God bless you❤
Hey Mpoomy,
We would like to commend you for your bravery and courage to talk about your experience. God certainly calls us to share our testimonies in the hope of helping other people and ultimately showcasing His mercy and grace. 🙏🏽
Childhood traumas are such a real thing and what most people don’t understand is that if left alone and not dealt with, it will certainly impact and influence your life for years to come and you may not even realize it (black swans). 🥺
We must take authority in Jesus’ name and break these generational curses! We agree 100 percent that before marriage, one needs to go to therapy to deal with those issues, firstly for self and secondly for the health of your marriage because it will certainly affect your spouse.
A key takeaway message is when you mentioned that you need to forgive those that hurt you in order to free yourself. That’s the heart of Jesus. ♥️
Also the importance of teaching our sons / daughters consent is so important! As (future) parents we have so much responsibility of how our children will behave and treat others. “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” - Proverbs 22:6 (KJV)
Thank you once again for your vulnerability.🙏🏽 May God continue to bless you! 💐
#RegoDise
You are free, from that childhood trauma and it was wise that your sort council.
I applaud you for your bravery, Allow God to continue to use you.
God bless you and your family 🎉 🎉 🎉 🎉
Thank you. Period
Word Fambam💓🥰
RegoDise you have said it all 🙏
Thank you for this comment 🤍I love you guys ♥️watched you for the first time on Defining love and I just cried while watching you guys 🤍More love and Grace 🙌🏾
"DATE RAPE" imagine how many of us have gone through this.. 😭😭😭
Your Channel really has an audience sisi.
Bless you!
Ghuurrl 😭😭😭😭😭😭. I so sad. How they would treat us after date raping us. Wow.
😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭💔💔💔💔
I am a 24 year old lady and i got abused when i was 17 by an older boyfriend.The experience was terrible and a great fear of men grew in me.I avoided relationships and i promised myself i will never have sex! But three years down the line it happened to me again,not once, but three times.I was raped by a friend, a boyfriend and our family's doctor.Writing this is not easy.I hated myself , i attempted suicide but God saved me and i learnt of forgiveness.I hated sex and i still hate sex, i don't see myself getting married and i promised myself from my redemption through Christ Jesus i just want to serve Him.Thank you for sharing your story you are an intelligent woman from your choice of words backed up with the word of God, it's not common with these other youtubers around.
I'm 17 yrs and heartbreak almost led me to depression at only 14 yrs, that's when I personally made a decision to stay away from dating until I'm 21 yrs..... Thank you so much Mrs Mom for the motivation❤
All the best.. I pray God gives you the strength and courage. Are you a Christian ?
One day I will have the courage to share my story, that day isn't today 😥
👏💛only time will tell our stories.
That’s exactly what I said. That i either not strong enough to share or I haven’t healed yet
I hope you heal and you're able to share your story to help others heal❤️
Same here I'm not ready to share not even one but many stories 😭😭😭and I doubt if I will ever be ready.
I hope God heals the pain you can't share
❤️If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins, and cleanse us from all unrighteousness❤️
Erica Mwabulambo 🙌🏽🙏🏽
Just to add. Some girls/women think and feel like just because they've lost there virginity or given birth, they have no right to say No to sex in elationships.
The truth is they don't owe anyone, anything. Sex and love is not the same thing.
My son pasaed away, but i always teach my nephews and nieces about life and growing up. That they shouldn't rush, the is nothing wrong by being a late bloomer, Life is hard but Great thiings come to those who wait and Im gonna show them this video.
True many need to hear this ❤️
Louder for the people in the back pls! So many women beat themselves up over this😭
Good nice 1
This is amazing I will show my daughter she don't listen she loves boys and now she's pregnant at age 16
Ntando Ntingane you have said it all. Some men think because a woman is not a virgin then she is free to sex
Women experience this in relationships. Everyday. Its shattering. 9/10 of us has probably experienced this. Thank God for your healing.
What I love is that she is a Christian and she's showing that God can never change his mind about you based on what you do. Triggered deeply but bless up for speaking up!
❤❤
So true He doesn't 😍✨
Amen. He gives us a gazillion chances. He's truly a loving father.
Do you think that was rape, honestly?
I’m in tears... A lot of us have been through the same 💔😭
May you find healing. my darling speak to someone you trust in the family is not easy but try hun 💔💔
We have! 😭
🥺😣
I am literally crying right now
Hey i am 14 years old my mom always tells me to stay away from dating lyf and i realize that she's right i actually push them away my friends are dating and they will always ask me why dont u have boyfriends i just tel them that single lyf is better. Because i have seen a lot of my friends been played by boys but still they did not learn the lesson. U know how gurls are they will always say u are jealous ka mo u are helping them. Being in high school can bring challenges which is scary and confusing but all i do is put my main focus on what i am going to school for thank u for sharing it really made me open a mind that was closed for no reason thank you God bless🙏
Hi dear,checkout a video on our channel on dating,it may help you as well.Your mom is right!
Hey baby, you are doing great. Keep praying to God and keep enduring. You'll be proud of yourself and remember the most important thing is, God is appreciative of you.
Keep going nana , your mom is sooo right. I never dated anyone in high school and people often laughed at me because of that but now I'm going to achieve my dream of being a doctor because I made my education a priority . Do you boo boo then after high School you can date but still be careful. Always put yourself first because there is you before him and there will always be you after him. I wish you all the best. Keep growing and glowing girl.❤️
I'm in university now and I still haven't dated because I feel that most people my age are just not ready for the real thing! I went on an instagram live and shared this but I was bashed by both males and females and told that men will ruin me and that I'm living in a bubble. I refuse to fall for this, and I would prefer living in a bubble then living a life that I personally wouldn't be proud of living!!
Keep focusing on school and appreciating being young Kefiloe. Don’t rush into being an adult and taking part in adult things.
I ran away from this video😭but am finally here🙏am glad someone was strong enough to talk about this
I'm also one of those people that advocate for no sex before marriage not because I've been abstaining but because I know the consequences of it PERSONALLY! I'm still on my journey of healing but one thing I'm sure of is that God is a REDEEMER! thank you for sharing your story. I pray God continues to bring healing to you and other people that have went through similar situations.
nattienoko this is encouraging cause I am going through the exact same changes in my life ❤️
You will heal ❤❤❤
me too, and indeed our God is A LIVING REDEEMER
"Guard your heart, guard you mind, guard your soul, guard your body, guard who you listen to, guard what you listen to and protect yourself!" Don’t carry that guilt! Don’t carry that shame! God is still in the business of healing. The minute you come to God, and confess your sins, He begins to newly heal you. Worship God in Spirit and Truth. Thank You sharing your testimony Mpoomy.
I love how our sisters are comforting each other in the comments no hate just love ..I can't 😍😢
I literally cried watching this,, I hope that one day I'll heal and finally speak out about it😢😭😭..
Thanks a lot Mrs Mom🙏❤
This video is trigerring emotions in me and reminding me of things I don't like to think about 💔.
Makes two of us
I'm so sorry, Lerato. May you eventually find healing. It may not be easy but it's possible.
I'm sorry ladies. May you heal ❤
I pray you heal from it❤
Can relate hey
Your story just woke me up into facing my past. Most of us has passed through this without even realizing it. Thank you Mpoomy
Very true
So true
So True 💯
So true
Very true 😥😥😥😥
I'm here for the first time and thinking ohh,she's so young.
Then hearing her say my husband.
And I'm like,okkkkkkkk
I am a man, I listened to this and found this extremely relevant. Thank you for this.
So proud of you , there's a quote that says "if you able to talk about it and you do not cry just know you've healed".💕
We as people need to kill this mindset of "She is just playing hard to get..."
I think most men who rapped unaware, will tell you,"I thought she was just playing hard to get..."
Unlearning these old doctrines, will help the upcoming men and teenage boys.
Thank you for sharing this mpoomy
I think that's why men don't know or don't take 'no' as serious as they should because to them... 'She is juts playing hard to get'
Teddy Mkhari this is so true
Wow! Food for thought!
This was so encouraging to watch Mpoomy. I have two teenage step-daughters who are both dating and one is in conflict with us about sex before marriage (she's dating an older boy) I will share this with both the girls and my teenage son
I've been running away from this video since it was uploaded😢😢
Thank you for sharing this is very much eye opening.
Me 2 😂😅
The biggest lie in pop culture today is that promiscuity and engaging in relationships with imbalanced power relations is an expression of sexual freedom. Those who’ve been though this know that there is nothing freeing about it, in fact it is bondage. Thank you for swimming against the tide and speaking truth even when it brings out your own hurt ❤️ One day we will all have the courage to speak.
Mabotse Choshane This is so profound. I will have to read it again for self examination. Thank you
@@thuliendlovu719 and its the same reason men are'nt willing to commit because they get sex just like that, and the irony ,,,the quicker you give them sex the quicker you loose them or you could be trapped in wrong relationship for years then after you he goes and get married. i hope women can know that your vagina is valuable is not something you just give like an open buffet
Wow. This is so true and so profound. Thank you for sharing this comment. Reading this makes me want to re evaluate myself and the decisions I am making/ want to make. ✨
👏👏👏👏 THIS IS EVERYTHING
How do you allow yourself to not feel like you are less of a woman just because you still a virgin/want a connection first before sex and also this whole thing of learning your sexual needs and experience with different partners?
I have spoken about this at a couple of high schools... Childhood trauma may also be a massive hindrance to career growth... Amazing how childhood trauma directs who you are and how you do things.
NEO BILLA...I know this...I am going through it and hope one day I’ll triumph over it.
I personally dropped from college after a failed relationship. From being an excelling student to becoming a failure for the first time in my academic life. The Lord helped me to eventually complete my degree. By then a lot had been affected. I still thank the Lord for picking me up. I am still on the recovery road
My heart 😭 many of us have been violated and we don’t know 💔 we are broken..
Your story is an amazing story and it has truly touched my heart, because I relate so much to what happened to you. When I lost my virginity I had just turned 15. I lost my virginity to a guy who kept pestering me for 2 years and I finally agreed to meet up with him so I can look him in the eye and be able to tell what his intentions were. After he had told me how much he wants to be with me, I rejected him and he got mad and took advantage of me. That day my parents were out of town so we met up estradin and walked to a very quiet neighbourhood alongside was a bush and thats where he pulled me in and took away my everything. I kept quiet for 3 years and only told my parents about it when I was in matric. We were watching tv and out of nowhere I just started crying, because I couldn't take the heat anymore.
After being taken advantage of, I got involved in a lot of sexual relationships because I would tell myself ' there is no point in keeping something that you've lost '.
For now I'm still finding my feet and trying my best to open up to God and allow him to take charge in my life. This video encourages me to seek therapy so I can heal completely. You are such a brave women and may God bless you and your family ♡♡♡♡
I pray God heals you!!
God's grace , God's favour
I pray God’s healing over you. Just know your response was normal for what happened to you. I hope you heal
Must have been hard sharing this. Thank you for giving other women the courage to do the same. We are grateful for you Mpoomy. Also thank you for going against the flow and telling the truth that sex is NOT just sex. We needs more of you.
These are the conversations we need to have.
Shuuu, I'm sitting here 18years later and it's like you're telling my story 😭😭😭thanks for allowing God to use you. This simply shows me that the devil is a liar and he doesn't like any of us. It was not my choice, I was so young and why would he do this to me. I'm a single mom to a beautiful daughter, I think it's time we sit and talk about these things little by little. I don't want my daughter to go through what I went through. I'm grateful for her but I cannot relate to the opposite sex, I'm broken. I've been lost for so long and asking myself where did I go wrong? but it's like you've helped me find the missing piece of my very big puzzle. May God heal me , I am making a point to confess to my maker
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I want to watch this again with my teenage daughter and have a discussion around this topic. Thanks for sharing and highlighting a very important issue ❤️
I hope, I’m not too late. I love content such as these. The truth, because people are so broken. We subscribe to these channels because people are broken and we may want to laugh now and again but we need to relate to these truths. Thank you so much for your courage and boldness ❤️
Me too😍😍🥂🥂... I just subscribed to ur channel. I would appreciate if u supported me too.
*Its important to Break those generational curses for the sake of our children..Trust Prayer*
Thanks For this MaNurî.❤🙏🙌
Amen🥰
You're more than a conqueror beautiful lady, God bless you.
I can't even imagine what this is like. I remember being alone with this guy that I liked, he kept pressuring me to kiss him... My mom had recently passed a week before and I felt vulnerable. When he kissed me he tried to stick his tongue in my mouth. I remember pulling back and feeling so used. Now even though I'm 24 I'm staying single, I'm actually afraid of relationships because I feel like real love doesn't exist anymore. Those that have it though are truly blessed. I'd rather be alone than feel that shame and pain again.
It's not over for you. At the right time, God will bring you your rightful spouse... You're loved dear, may you find rest in God too, may He bring you loving and supportive people
hey honey ... That's fear you are inviting in your relationship life . As believers we all know that God is Love.Love is very beautiful with the right person( a godly relationship). I urge you not to be afraid but rather pray more about your future partner in due time God will bring you a very godly man who will love you dearly.
Don't loose hope on relationship God's time is the best...
I strongly advise that you go for Christian therapy. It's helped me a lot.
I cried listening to this, I’m so sorry to hear that 14years old you went through this,it’s so sad what young girls go through. This reminded me of a matriculatant I dated when I was in grade10 he tried pushing me to lose my virginity several times and finally dumped me for a girl who was willing to be sexually active,he bragged about it and said I left you because you think your virginity is special,I had actually invited him at home too thinking we would just chill,thankfully my parents were coming home soon so he had to leave on that particular day. My mom had scared me so much about sex that thank God I was able to fight off and thankfully he didn’t force ahead, I’m really so sorry and only now realising I could have gotten raped by what I thought was my boyfriend😭 too. God bless you for sharing this Mrsmom.
Thankful that it didn't happen to you sis
After this, I feel like sharing My story Too😭😭😭💔💔
Jeridah Mamatlepa me too 😭😭😭
Whenever you’re ready sis
Me too.
@@catherineduna3718 love what you said Sis 💜👏
Me too😭💔
"......but God redeems" I like the way you said this because everyone watching this who is under some form of abuse or control by any habit must know that they're story and life is not too broken for God to fix.
This story is one that most of us women and girls relate to very well. You're brave for telling the story
My english teacher in grade 7 used to emphasize that's the age gap between a 14 and 17 year old is way bigger than an 23 and 26 because of majority levels.
I appreciate this testimonial bc a lot of girls have experienced this and still dont know its sexual harassment.
God bless you 🙏🏽✨ you talking about it on a public platform is signs of healing.
The age gap thing....I feel that
That's not sexual harrassment.
Mpumi was used by the devil in this video, she must remove it. It doesn't make her look good at all.
#Stopthelies
Ay Mpumi😭.. It's scary that at our teen stage we don't want to hear any advice against dating. We just want butterflies in our tummies with boys that just want to test their manhood with us. Most of us are really messed up from childhood traumas. Some Men and women who have experienced rape at a young age have tried to sort of forget that it ever happened. They grow up thinking it'll disappear from their memories at some point. It doesn't, instead it finds a way to creep out even at a later stage when they think they're ready for marriage. Yoh it's important to deal with such issues before we enter into marriage as Mrs mom says 🤞
Thank you for opening up, Just made me realize my own childhood scars that haven't healed from
Thank you for providing this space to talk about sensitive things like this. When I clicked on your video I never expected to gain so much insight and be able to relate. Once again, thank you!
Your honesty is not going to be in vein, it’s going to save someone. Thank you so much for this.
We are huge advocates for “Psychology” and self awareness. Our upbringing really has a huge impact on us! And yes THERAPY is imperative before you get married because so much is revealed la . Even for individual development , so you do not become toxic to those around you. Psychology is vital 🤞🏿. You have preached another school which people hardly want to hear about. Look here Mrs mom we are ready for a collab with you😉.
Lol ba re therapy keya makgowa. It's just too sad shem. We really need to be educated about these things in our communities.....As I go to your page 😊
Therapy is very important, but how does one find a Therapist.
Thank you for sharing, how I wish most of us had someone to have such candid conversations with us when we were growing up. I also pray that young people can take heed of this message
This is not an easy topic for anyone to speak on but big up for being courageous. So many need to hear this because so many have experienced it. God bless you for this.
As a girl when you hear stories like these you become less burdened and haunted by your past and the things that happens to you because you see that you are not alone and that you are not crazy and it's not all in your head... That gent did really take advantage of me!. And it's not my fault Thanks Mrs mom and I'm happy you are receiving all the help and support you deserve.
Watching this while pregnant with a baby boy😔 may God help me and my partner raise him well, I will do my best to help him becoming a better man. Thank you for sharing Mpoomy
I remember I always said jokingly that I pray God doesn't give me a son, but I soon realized I wasn't really joking, I had an underlying fear due to my own past. Instead, I need to pray more for boys, that the Lord may protect them and that they grow to be God fearing, God honoring Men, to understand consent and respect women. To lead and protect them. I will indeed pray more for boys.
@@kelemohutsioa16 it was my fear also when we found out it's a baby boy I was excited and at the same time scared but being a believer that parents play a huge role on how children are raised and I wish we as a society gets to give them the same teachings we give to girls we need to teach them that they are the ones who are responsible for taking care of women and let go of all that old culture about how men don't cry or show emotions.
Statutory Rape is so overlooked 💔 thank you for sharing such a sensitive part of your life , this conveys great courage & bravery . I'm grateful you're not only raising awareness , but you're also informing the youth on how important it is to be vocal about such things . & I'm truly sorry for your experience sis , heal however you need to ! 💌
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I used to watch Nigerian movies (gender violence) the movies saved me -of course God. I remember when I was in high school at the age of 18 a class mate who seduced me and I rejected played my mind coz he pretended it’s ok and we can be casual friends. To cut a long story short he deceived me that he found a good math teacher and we have to meet him in his house not knowing that wasn’t a family home but a lodge he organised with lodge worker and he opened the back door for us so I wouldn’t see the front reception and realise it’s a lodge(my intuition now tells me this). I was naive...... only to find I was in a locked lodge room & the key was with him. Gosh I couldn’t breath & I knew I was going to be raped so I remembered a movie when a woman saved herself from the rapist by lying she is HIV positive 😭😭 He was already on top of me I said in a terrifying voice I’m HIV positive so are you ready to die with me.? Thank you God he was shocked and opened the door for me/us to leave.
I will forever be grateful to God he saved me from that Psychological trauma I was about to embrace. So many girls loose their virginity in a gloom
Why is there people disliking this video , this video is so profound and helpful to say many people.
Indeed... Soo love you Mpoomy
I'm a great fan... Please subscribe to my channel for support ❤️
Ikr
It's the witches disliking
Ifigenia Amweero abi ooo😌😌😌
Maybe the message got to them so deep and they refuse to acknowledge it😣
You dont know , how many lives you touch by sharing this, i started following you in 2018, when i was so depressed. God knew why He led me to your page. Thank you so much for sharing🙏
This is shows the importance of talking to someone you trust about issues. Thank you so much for this ❤️
Wow . It's so sad . I'm happy that you've finally spoken out . It can really help others
Shuuu Mpoomy I can hear cracks in your voice😭and the sad reality is how so many young women have actually been through similar situations .My God thank you for allowing yourself to share .
Now this is CONTENT, many channels speak about sex, but don't touch on the spiritual aspect of it.
Looking forward to more of this
Thank you 🙏♥️
That's why Mpoomy channel is special it's not just nje to be a youtuber
Thanks so much for opening up speaking so well ❤️❤️ being young and naive is tough people take advantage of the fact you still not aware of so much.
Thanks for giving advice to young adults
This was so eye-opening & beautiful, thank you so much for sharing your story 🙏🏽
Dating is hard at 30 imagine dealing with all those emotions in your teen years. Raising daughters we must educate ourselves with this sensitive topic.Thanks for sharing Mpoomy
ntokozo zulu the narrative needs to be changed. We need to educate boys to be sensitive to so many things.
@@Boitumelo984 True, boys need mentors who will speak on such issues. Most often, they do things in the name of fitting in/ street cred..There needs to be a "new cool"
Thiss!!!! Ngase uphinde futhi for those at the back❤
So true 💕
Sooo amazing...
I'm a great fan and had subscribed... Please subscribe to my channel and support 🙏❤️
Even though I started dating at 19, it shattered me. I wish I hadn’t even started, infact I’m scared of relationships and fear marriage too. I don’t know if love really exists or if people create the concept in their minds and find someone they can tolerate.
Hey Mpoomy, I'm so sorry you went through this as a kid well I was 18 and I have a beautiful daughter from the whole situation I love her whole heartedly and I've been hiding and blaming myself as well.
thank you so much for this and I feel I'm ready to deal with it.
Beautiful. Going to show this to my future kids when they're in their teens because this is relevant for both girls and guys for them to understand the roles each one plays in dating and the dangers of dating young. Also therapy is everything if you can see a therapist to help you heal
Thank you for this Mpoomy. Your story is very similar to mine. Sometimes I'm filled with deep regret about losing my virginity so young and generally my past relationships with men but broken crayons still color. Despite your past you still have purpose and value. Lots of love from Kenya!
Hearing your voice makes me feel like this was hard for you to talk about. Most of us have a story. Thank you for sharing yours. A lot of young girls (and boys) need to understand the depth of their decisions. That what happens in your life really sticks with you for years. Seek guidance at all times, and be patient with life. ❤️
Finally watched after postponing for such a long time.. But maaan I commend God who is just always at work.. This was the right time for me to tune in
Listening to this got me so emotional. Thank you for sharing and helping a sister out there.
I think what us as girls don’t realize is that when we allow such an experience to happened without fully comprehending and then dealing with it, we convince ourselves that’s it’s okay and becomes normal. It becomes a cycle that every guy we get into a relationship with will expect sex and you will be continue to offer it as part of the relationship even if your not ready or you’ve not dealt with past traumatic experiences.🙌🏾😭💔
God intervene 🙏🏾
Sis, we thank God for your bravery. Thank you for being vulnerable and for pouring your heart out to us ♥️
Sis!!! Where are you hiding?!
Your story is going to heal so many people, myself included. Thank you for sharing!
Thank you love for sharing, almost in my 50s and listening to your story I kinda healing the young girl in me.your story serves as a healing remedy to ladies who had been in your position. Thank you love may the Lord continues to heal and restore you and may this turn into a greator soul harvest ministry,I got saved at 12,and my decision of becoming born again didn't go down well with my mom,so I ended up slidding back and that is how i became vulnerable at the age 14😭😭 and at age 16 I went through why aspired with you and feld pregnant, and my daughter is now 30.
I can tell that this was hard but you did it and so so well.Look at all these ppl who you’ve liberated by telling your story. Thank you and may God continue to heal you❤️
You just made me tap into my innermost feelings that i never even thought existed...thank you
I wish my 17 year old lil brother could listen to this because he thinks am depriving him freedom and fun because am miserable lol
Show him this video please
I'll show him sis.
I think my 13 years old daughter would see this because she thinks I'm controlling her by monitoring her behavior but it's only because I've been there and I know the pain of being forced by someone you see as a boyfriend, someone you trust....... I don't know if I should tell her about what happened to me so that she can probably understand because ever since my "sexual assault" I started thinking it's okay for boys to touch me inappropriately and for me to have a boyfriend after the other...... It hurts.... Thank you @Mpoomy Ledwaba for sharing your story
@@SharonMogapi they will never understand, and we live in full of deseases
Hi dear,checkout a video on our channel on dating,you may share it with him.
A friend of mine introduced me to your channel. The first video I watched was about soul-ties where you featured your husband. I immediately shared the link with my boyfriend and he enjoyed watching the video. Our relationship is beautifully growing out of love. We are in no rush. Your video inspired us deeply and I appreciate the shared wisdom. I am growing spiritually and I hope to help my boyfriend into the same transition as well. Every video of yours is absolutely inspiring! I thank you for that.
This is so beautiful...you are doing an amazing job ..you are sending the biggest wave of positivity and chastity I hope it finds every receiver with the highest vibration 💯😁