Yes, one of the biggest changes I’ve noticed during my transition (MTF) is that in conversations, men now tend to ignore what I have to say-or at least heavily discount my opinion. It gets on my nerves at times, as I’m a very smart, hard-working, competent engineer and business owner. #bosslady But I’ll deal with it, as I love being a woman. ☺️
Everything you say, is very true. The heating, hair makeup. For me too everything changed as part of transition. Also I never understood guys even when I was trying to be one. Also your comments about chauvinism really hit home. Thank you for speaking about all of the issues we all face.
I just want to say thank you for making these videos. A close friend is wanting to begin MTF transition but he is terrified. We began watching yours and other peoples videos to gain insight into what will happen and, for me, a better understanding so I can support him as best I can. It's great that you put the time and effort into sharing your experiences - he is already starting to feel more confident about his decision :-) Thanks :-)
It's a scary time, with so much uncertainty - both for you and friend who is about to embark on what has to be one of the greatest adventures of self discovery a person can have. I hope it goes well for your friend,and for you too - having the support of your friends is one of the greatest things and I'm so grateful that people stood by me and stood up for me too at times. It's always nice to hear that my own journey can help someone - wishing you all the best of luck for the future :)
Your rant wasn't about what you don't like about being a woman - It was about what you don't like about men's attitudes! And Rant away!!! You are absolutely right. I like to think I'm more aware of this form of behaviour and wouldn't exhibit it myself and put right other men that did... but its quite possible I've missed some examples. I hope you stick at it though; attitudes won't change until there are more women in your line of work.
I was smiling the whole time you were talking. I could feel the amount of work, patience, courage and effort it took and probably still takes to finally become someone you've wanted to be. Just want to thank you for sharing this and just know that you are amazing. Take pride in how far you've come. Have faith in how far you can go. Stay strong.
Such outright honesty, both amazing and totally refreshing. And, you are a total sweetheart . . . the man whom finally woos you, will be a lucky one indeed.
That all resonates but yes, the safety issue is even more important than the lack of visibility in professional and eve social settings. It's the case of being too visible instead and attracting unwanted attention. I like your clips. All the best to you!
Yeah I knew it this confirms my premonitions about the bad part of transitioning and in a way alleviates some small part of my dysphoria by making me value somewhat the advantages of the false me. Congratulations none the less on your transition and thank you for your video's they are insightful, honest, and are very helpful to people all around the world.
In time, hopefully society will change, and women in careers who have earned respect like you after 5 years of work will receive it. Thanks for your video.
Loved your "rant"! At my house I (allegedly male) am the one who wants to turn up the heat, while my wife keeps the thermostat turned down. In the summer I often wear a jacket indoors at work when the air conditioning gets cold! I personally would much prefer to deal with a woman sales rep or whatever.. (...and it delights me that my mom's plumber is a woman! ♡♡♡ )
You’re very pretty and articulate. I can tell you’re smart. Continue to be confident in yourself. Don’t let those knit wits get to you. Not all guys are like that; but a lot are, okay to get ticked off sometimes too. I like the way you chuckle at yourself too.
I think you're right. I played music in a lot of bands where in the singer was female, and I think 1 reason I got those jobs was I took the singers opinion seriously. To change the subject, you look fab. hugs
I often work in male dominated fields. I totally get this. and of course, I am a military veteran, and I find that many doubt my combat experienced, because of women not being allowed to serve in combat zones back in the day. it's awkward, because I have applicable knowledge and experience, but shouldn't have it as a woman. makes for some creative explain if one wants to stay stealth, and not lie about their past.
Christina appears quite stunning, further adding the rose decorative mantel, and is a gifted person having a gorgeous manner of articulation and style. But the wondrous thing-in-itself in her candor and plainness of words is that she is truly and believably a woman. She has been through an amazing transformation in spite of much pain and uncertainty. Yet she does not give in to the temptation of overplaying criticism but remains gracious to those who at times can act negligently and unkind. I believe her story identifies with ours but remains a greater inspiration to the transgender movement. She is and always remains a model of stylish care and careless beauty.
***** ...it's a paradox for most societies in the world; yet I envision a time where the status in quo eliminates gender roles and we learn to see ourselves benevolent human beings.... Is that overreaching?
Your video, really hits the mark. I'm not in sales and am an engineer, the not taking a woman seriously is the same in my line of work. Thank you for talking about this and how sometimes women are seen as the lower level. Like you I have been on both sides of the fence and its very alarming once you show your change from mtof. Thank you.
Hi I do relate to your story and search for the one person who truly makes your life worth living. It's a pity we two worlds away.. I would like to tell that person who holds the key to your happiness to always love and treasure you for he is truly blesses
You are right about how women get treated at work, I was just having a discussion with a female coworker at my company about this stuff and how women can seem to be a minority and less privileged than men at a male dominated company like mine. My discussion with my co-worker did lead to other things like minorities and pay rates of women doing the same job as men, but, not making as much money. The most privileged type of person out there seems to be Caucasian and male but, what about the women and everybody else? It is hard to believe that someone would be treated differently because of what they are. Ironically this whole discussion was started by me because, I feel that I am being treated differently, and perhaps discriminated against, for being openly trans. I am not physically transitioned, but, I am open about what I am and in a lot of ways I am already being perceived as a woman (And that is good, but, it seems that I am already being passed off as not being capable or competent to do the same job that a man can do, and yet again, it seems like they may not want a deviant of nature like me to be seen in the public eye, while representing the company I work for.). It is to the point were I have to ask....is it a crime to have been born this way, in a fashion that cannot be changed? And why does it seem to be so much easier for everybody else when they want to advance to better jobs at the company, I am going out of my mind with this right now and it does not make any sense to me. I do not see that a physical transition is necessary for me to fit into society, because I do not believe this to be the case ( I believe that all things come in due time, now is not that time.). At the same time, I do absolutely need to move ahead at my job, I work too hard all the time to accept anything less. No matter what foolishness or harsh criticism gets thrown to me at work, I will not give up, because the rewards of success are just too sweet. I lead my life not just to help myself, but, to lend an example for the others to live free or die, and dying is not an option in my world. To you and the rest of the people who read this...........this is real. I ABSOLUTELY CANNOT ACCEPT A LIFE THAT HAS BEEN GRANTED TO ME, WITHOUT THE SAME RIGHTS AND OPPORTUNITIES THAT EVERYBODY ELSE GETS, JUST FOR BEING WHAT I AM.
You and me both hun, I feel exactly the same - the further I move away from ever having been one the less I understand! Hope you're well, looking gorgeous as ever :)
You were talking about make-up and not wanting to put it on all the time. Well, you have such beautiful bone structure that you could get away from make-up every day. I would just suggest that you do your brows and eyes. That is what men will notice first, (besides the obvious feminine bits). You are such a beautiful woman and I am proud of you sharing your journey. Much love....
i came out as trans to my parents last week, i'm gonna tell my friends this week and i am so scared how they will react. but i know its a thing i have to do if i want to take it further. it will be a long and hard journey but after that i will be myself and finally be happy with who i become, (hopefully). i dont have any female friends so i cant get any help from them in my transition but i will watch your video's and maya's video's on tips and support.
I got the being ignored treatment exactly as you described the office sketch but in class at university as a man. They thought that because i have a geordie accent that i must be thick... George Stephenson had the exact same problem... So in over 100 years and regional prejudice remains just as strong as ever. As a woman with a regional accent it is even worse. And yet I am usually better qualified than most people I meet. Male school teachers are the worse when they talk to you like you are one of the children.
You are so right! Your opinions and talents, as a woman, are ignored and devalued by men, I've experienced exactly what you've described in these videos...Much love hun. Love your videos and have sagested for others I know to view you vlogs. :-)
Fascinating videos from a fascinating woman. You're much more interesting than any of t he girls I know.Can't quite imagine why don't get a better job.
It's interesting that on the "male" side of transition we can fixate on how fun it will be to use makeup, do hair, dress and present as a woman and at best intellectualize the possible downsides of all that. Certainly I "understood" it. From conversations with GF's I think putting on makeup is one of the more love hate things done on a daily basis by most working women. Hair has to be a close second, and going crazy because nothing wants to work in clothing is third in my book. I think 2 and 3 have switched now that I'm curly wash and wear and hair is just brushing it out. I've been fortunate on the work chauvinism end. Certainly your experience is more common than mine. But I do work in a place with more female engineers than normal (but still an annoyingly tiny minority). Otherwise I'm quite delighted to happy *and* not depressed on a daily basis. Like a miracle. 19 mo's on HRT, 14 mo's FT
Yes. I agree. I hate the feeling of being cold! And it is almost always, strangely. Agree with the engineering thing and being treated as someone who does not know much. It's both interesting and goofy. Makes men look goofy. Yes, I don't understand them, now. A timeless problem? (Sometime I take advantage of it and act like I am stupid. Just to get away from them.)
Growing up with two sisters and having more women as friends then male i could always see how women got treated differently in a work place then a male. Even where im at now we have a woman who works with us and she gets treated completly different. I think im the only one who treats her more as a individual instead of O shes a woman so she doesnt know how to do this job as well as a man. Cause thats how my other co workers treat her and honestly i dont understand why. When that couldnt be further from the truth cause she is better at her job then most the men.
I'm not looking forward to the whole "make up" experience, although I know I have to go through it. I'm just so used to getting up and having a quick wash with soap and water, and then just getting out there [ obviously getting dressed first!! ]. Most days I can be outside within 10 mins of hearing My alarm and getting up. Now it takes Me that long to decide what top I'm going to wear.......longer even. I know that "that", is going to be the thing I miss most about leaving My old life behind. I am going to hate wasting all that time, picking clothes to wear for the day and applying make up. Maybe, hopefully, that will change as I progress.
Christabella ChiVass It gets easier, and after time (1yr+...) when you know what style of clothes you like to wear and how you like your makeup to look (not just how you think it should look) you do it without thinking to a degree. Sure I see to be similar and when I first went full time every morning was up soooo early and like a military exercise - now i get up early still but that's because I like to take my time, have a nice break and enjoy the peace of the morning before work. So what I'm saying is - it will become part of your life and will feel like a breeze, at some point ;D
I'm very sloow when it comes to getting ready, and I get up fairly early. This is one of the things I'm wondering about in beginning transitioning, that, and how attitudes will change towards me as they will.
First, let me say that you present as very intelligent AND female. No question to this old, stubborn, curmudgeonly male. Because I've worked with kids for over 50 years, I find that your videos informative without being too graphic, insightful, cognizant and (gasp!) entertaining. I've had 4 kids that were probably transgender, three are still alive (I think; one hasn't contacted me for over twenty years and one hasn't been in contact for over a year). Three were/are mtf and one ftm. I had to laugh at the issue of make-up; as an actor in community theater, it was my BIGGEST complaint, not because I didn't want to portray a part, but simply the time it took. Hair wan't much of a problem, though I didn't like the smell of the hairspray. I live in northern New Hampshire, divorced and happily alone, I keep the house at 50 during the winter and hate summer. Obviously, I don't want to transition, hate going fast in a vehicle (I'd rather have a chauffeur!), but I do like skydiving, though I can't do it alone. I find my community is the men and women I meet at the DZ. They are respectful to all, ask questions about each other, find love and enjoy life. Gay, straight, trans, whatever, all are equal. So, Charlie, best to you and all of your friends, tell your "friends" you are pissed off when you are "pissed off". And hoping your driving at Le Mans goes well.
I haven't transitioned yet, but I worked at a pet store with mostly women. So sometimes an older man would come in and ask to see "one of the girls". I could never take that as an answer. I got the sense that these guys just wanted to push the girls around, and that they didn't want to try that with a young skinny guy for whatever reason. Like I didn't know I was trans then, but it still hurt. And It's not like other people wouldn't just be condescending just because I was "new", I mean I worked there for 5 years or whatever. They would ask for "my manager" when there's literally me and one other person working at a time. What do you do anyway? You don't want to lose the sale, even if the person is an asshole.
Take it from a woman. If you’re a woman you stay a woman whether you’ve put on makeup or done your hair. We are not obligated to do these things as we are female whether we do them or not. The cold sensitivity is simply a hormonal issue.
why don't you guys write a book about all of this and I would buy it so i could read about all of it. without watching a rambling on U Tube! yes i am interested
Even though I still live on the bloke side of the fence the casual chauvinism I see still drives me mad. I too work in engineering and some of the unreconstructed 'old school' types can be very annoying.
I initially found it amusing, but the joke has long worn thin and now it just annoys me. I like a joke as much as anyone, but this isn't funny, and it's one of a number of things that make me want to start a new career where people don't just assume I'm there to make the tea and answer the phone in a nice voice... grrr
a Girl for all seasons I'm afraid the joke went flat many years ago for me. It just makes me cringe every time I come across it. In truth it has become less frequent over the years, but in some respects that just makes it even more uncomfortable when it does happen. I wish I could say stay in the engineering world and it will get better, but I suspect it wont happen soon enough, so good luck in finding a new direction
I'm new to your channel and I know this is an older video but I wanted to comment on a couple things you've shared. About makeup: I've always found women with the au naturale look much more appealing and sexy. I never cared for a woman sporting so much makeup that she looks like her father was Max Factor. I think it's appropriate for formal functions, yet should only be lightly applied to enhance a woman's natural beauty. By the way... you look smashing just the way you are. On male chauvinism: Although I wouldn't consider myself a feminist, I've found other men's behavior towards women at times to be abhorrently offensive. Y'all should be treated with dignity and respect and expected to be knowledge in your position no matter what you vocation. Some guys unfortunately can be real dïcks instead of just having one.
Yes it’s sad that girls think they need to use make up. Like they are not good enough like they are🥺. I understand that transgenders maybe feel more feminine with make up, and cis girls as well. But anyway, it’s an unhealthy way to look at yourself, that you need the mascara, and you need to cover your skin with a layer of make up ect. It’s very sad😥🌸My mom have never worn make up and she is soo beautiful . Don’t misunderstand me. I think you look beautiful as well🙏🏻🙏🏻
Hey girlfriend, you made it. We can change ourselves, but we can't change others. They have to come to believe in their time. There will be other things to bitch about. That's what we're here for as Joan Rivers would say, "Can we talk!!!" Find a girlfriend and go shopping. Luv ya! Dawn XOXOXO
Just a friendly suggestion, but I think you could make yourself much more clearly understood, or, at least, easier to listen to, if you could try to minimize your use of "filler" words - like...yeah...you know...like...ummm...so yeah...etc. - I realize, these are reflexive habits of speech that are difficult to even be aware of, let alone to try to avoid. You shouldn't feel uncomfortable to be silent while you organize / formulate your thought(s) (take a deep breath if necessary!), and I'm sure that such a presentation style would be appreciated by your audience, and would convey more of an air of confidence, credibility, and "listen-worthiness", rather than uncertainty, hesitance, muddled thinking. Make your message as easy to listen to as your appearance is to look at, and you'll be the complete package!
Don't worry about your hair love I love it a bit messy like you just got off a horse windblown adventurous it's so hot have a great Easter weekend by the way🌹🌻🌺💖💚❤️💛🌹🌹🌹💋💋💋
I am going to assume you are in a job that is technical, maybe automotive, construction, etc. How many chicks that are not, really care or pay attention to those kinds of things or to their men when they try to share? Don't they blow us off(in a bad way) too?
I absolutely hate guys that I have met that thought less of female. But you just gotta put them in their place lol though fucking annoying and shouldn't even be occurring. I swear If anyone thinks of me less after I transition I'll remind them I'm loud and ferocious ^ฯ^
But it's like T girls that still build and work on Cars, just because we're transitioning doesn't mean we still cannot work on vehicles. Use Chef Ramsey as an example : He cooks, but when I was growing up the ladies of the house cooked only . So what's the difference. There women Truckdrivers all over the world and in Minesites driving Haul pacs monster machines, If they can do it so can we. Here's my video message to a fellow Tgirl ruclips.net/video/SbiHlRduFuU/видео.html Thankyou for Sharing your story 💛💜❤️BRIE💚💖💙
That scares me that it will go wrong and i'll spend 6 months looking a bit scary! I do get my lashes tinted which is well worth it as they look permanently (for 6 weeks) made up, but lips etc I'm not so sure :)
I'm a man who should be born a woman since I was born I ❤ putting on G straight pants and Lingerie and mine skirt and 👗to I would like to be a woman since I was born
Yes, one of the biggest changes I’ve noticed during my transition (MTF) is that in conversations, men now tend to ignore what I have to say-or at least heavily discount my opinion. It gets on my nerves at times, as I’m a very smart, hard-working, competent engineer and business owner. #bosslady But I’ll deal with it, as I love being a woman. ☺️
I Guess you win some and you lose some? Sorry to be so blunt
James Jiang Hai Wang Don't be sorry. You're totally right. 😁
Everything you say, is very true. The heating, hair makeup. For me too everything changed as part of transition. Also I never understood guys even when I was trying to be one. Also your comments about chauvinism really hit home. Thank you for speaking about all of the issues we all face.
I just want to say thank you for making these videos. A close friend is wanting to begin MTF transition but he is terrified. We began watching yours and other peoples videos to gain insight into what will happen and, for me, a better understanding so I can support him as best I can. It's great that you put the time and effort into sharing your experiences - he is already starting to feel more confident about his decision :-)
Thanks :-)
It's a scary time, with so much uncertainty - both for you and friend who is about to embark on what has to be one of the greatest adventures of self discovery a person can have. I hope it goes well for your friend,and for you too - having the support of your friends is one of the greatest things and I'm so grateful that people stood by me and stood up for me too at times. It's always nice to hear that my own journey can help someone - wishing you all the best of luck for the future :)
You are absolutely stunning without makeup. You are naturally beautiful just as you are, even on a bad hair day.
Your rant wasn't about what you don't like about being a woman - It was about what you don't like about men's attitudes! And Rant away!!! You are absolutely right. I like to think I'm more aware of this form of behaviour and wouldn't exhibit it myself and put right other men that did... but its quite possible I've missed some examples. I hope you stick at it though; attitudes won't change until there are more women in your line of work.
I was smiling the whole time you were talking. I could feel the amount of work, patience, courage and effort it took and probably still takes to finally become someone you've wanted to be. Just want to thank you for sharing this and just know that you are amazing. Take pride in how far you've come. Have faith in how far you can go. Stay strong.
Such outright honesty, both amazing and totally refreshing. And, you are a total sweetheart . . . the man whom finally woos you, will be a lucky one indeed.
That all resonates but yes, the safety issue is even more important than the lack of visibility in professional and eve social settings. It's the case of being too visible instead and attracting unwanted attention. I like your clips. All the best to you!
I would just like yo say i think your amazing, i could never be as open as you in these videos, thanks for podting them tho x
Yeah I knew it this confirms my premonitions about the bad part of transitioning and in a way alleviates some small part of my dysphoria by making me value somewhat the advantages of the false me. Congratulations none the less on your transition and thank you for your video's they are insightful, honest, and are very helpful to people all around the world.
In time, hopefully society will change, and women in careers who have earned respect like you after 5 years of work will receive it. Thanks for your video.
Loved your "rant"! At my house I (allegedly male) am the one who wants to turn up the heat, while my wife keeps the thermostat turned down. In the summer I often wear a jacket indoors at work when the air conditioning gets cold! I personally would much prefer to deal with a woman sales rep or whatever.. (...and it delights me that my mom's plumber is a woman! ♡♡♡ )
You’re very pretty and articulate. I can tell you’re smart. Continue to be confident in yourself. Don’t let those knit wits get to you. Not all guys are like that; but a lot are, okay to get ticked off sometimes too. I like the way you chuckle at yourself too.
I think you're right. I played music in a lot of bands where in the singer was female, and I think 1 reason I got those jobs was I took the singers opinion seriously. To change the subject, you look fab. hugs
I often work in male dominated fields. I totally get this. and of course, I am a military veteran, and I find that many doubt my combat experienced, because of women not being allowed to serve in combat zones back in the day. it's awkward, because I have applicable knowledge and experience, but shouldn't have it as a woman. makes for some creative explain if one wants to stay stealth, and not lie about their past.
Christina appears quite stunning, further adding the rose decorative mantel, and is a gifted person having a gorgeous manner of articulation and style. But the wondrous thing-in-itself in her candor and plainness of words is that she is truly and believably a woman. She has been through an amazing transformation in spite of much pain and uncertainty. Yet she does not give in to the temptation of overplaying criticism but remains gracious to those who at times can act negligently and unkind. I believe her story identifies with ours but remains a greater inspiration to the transgender movement. She is and always remains a model of stylish care and careless beauty.
***** ...it's true and courageous... literally putting oneself in a place that could only be imagined but necessary.
***** ...it's a paradox for most societies in the world; yet I envision a time where the status in quo eliminates gender roles and we learn to see ourselves benevolent human beings.... Is that overreaching?
Actually quite an interesting "rant" as you say and insightful. Many guys are in truth quite bigoted and self centered I find.
Your video, really hits the mark. I'm not in sales and am an engineer, the not taking a woman seriously is the same in my line of work. Thank you for talking about this and how sometimes women are seen as the lower level. Like you I have been on both sides of the fence and its very alarming once you show your change from mtof. Thank you.
Hi I do relate to your story and search for the one person who truly makes your life worth living. It's a pity we two worlds away.. I would like to tell that person who holds the key to your happiness to always love and treasure you for he is truly blesses
You are right about how women get treated at work, I was just having a discussion with a female coworker at my company about this stuff and how women can seem to be a minority and less privileged than men at a male dominated company like mine. My discussion with my co-worker did lead to other things like minorities and pay rates of women doing the same job as men, but, not making as much money. The most privileged type of person out there seems to be Caucasian and male but, what about the women and everybody else? It is hard to believe that someone would be treated differently because of what they are. Ironically this whole discussion was started by me because, I feel that I am being treated differently, and perhaps discriminated against, for being openly trans. I am not physically transitioned, but, I am open about what I am and in a lot of ways I am already being perceived as a woman (And that is good, but, it seems that I am already being passed off as not being capable or competent to do the same job that a man can do, and yet again, it seems like they may not want a deviant of nature like me to be seen in the public eye, while representing the company I work for.). It is to the point were I have to ask....is it a crime to have been born this way, in a fashion that cannot be changed? And why does it seem to be so much easier for everybody else when they want to advance to better jobs at the company, I am going out of my mind with this right now and it does not make any sense to me. I do not see that a physical transition is necessary for me to fit into society, because I do not believe this to be the case ( I believe that all things come in due time, now is not that time.). At the same time, I do absolutely need to move ahead at my job, I work too hard all the time to accept anything less. No matter what foolishness or harsh criticism gets thrown to me at work, I will not give up, because the rewards of success are just too sweet. I lead my life not just to help myself, but, to lend an example for the others to live free or die, and dying is not an option in my world. To you and the rest of the people who read this...........this is real. I ABSOLUTELY CANNOT ACCEPT A LIFE THAT HAS BEEN GRANTED TO ME, WITHOUT THE SAME RIGHTS AND OPPORTUNITIES THAT EVERYBODY ELSE GETS, JUST FOR BEING WHAT I AM.
I don't understand men and the further I get into transition the more I realise I have no clue about them :(
You and me both hun, I feel exactly the same - the further I move away from ever having been one the less I understand! Hope you're well, looking gorgeous as ever :)
Perspective is truly everything 🤔👍
Holy crap this is scary about how treatment differs.... and enlightening! Belated thanks for sharing this.
You were talking about make-up and not wanting to put it on all the time. Well, you have such beautiful bone structure that you could get away from make-up every day. I would just suggest that you do your brows and eyes. That is what men will notice first, (besides the obvious feminine bits). You are such a beautiful woman and I am proud of you sharing your journey. Much love....
Thank you, since this video I've found that this is the area I focus on :-)
i came out as trans to my parents last week, i'm gonna tell my friends this week and i am so scared how they will react. but i know its a thing i have to do if i want to take it further. it will be a long and hard journey but after that i will be myself and finally be happy with who i become, (hopefully). i dont have any female friends so i cant get any help from them in my transition but i will watch your video's and maya's video's on tips and support.
TeddyBear312 same boat. Hope it turned out well
I got the being ignored treatment exactly as you described the office sketch but in class at university as a man. They thought that because i have a geordie accent that i must be thick... George Stephenson had the exact same problem... So in over 100 years and regional prejudice remains just as strong as ever. As a woman with a regional accent it is even worse. And yet I am usually better qualified than most people I meet. Male school teachers are the worse when they talk to you like you are one of the children.
You are so right! Your opinions and talents, as a woman, are ignored and devalued by men,
I've experienced exactly what you've described in these videos...Much love hun. Love your videos and have sagested for others I know to view you vlogs. :-)
You are my inspiration.
Fascinating videos from a fascinating woman. You're much more interesting than any of t he girls I know.Can't quite imagine why don't get a better job.
It's interesting that on the "male" side of transition we can fixate on how fun it will be to use makeup, do hair, dress and present as a woman and at best intellectualize the possible downsides of all that. Certainly I "understood" it.
From conversations with GF's I think putting on makeup is one of the more love hate things done on a daily basis by most working women. Hair has to be a close second, and going crazy because nothing wants to work in clothing is third in my book. I think 2 and 3 have switched now that I'm curly wash and wear and hair is just brushing it out.
I've been fortunate on the work chauvinism end. Certainly your experience is more common than mine. But I do work in a place with more female engineers than normal (but still an annoyingly tiny minority).
Otherwise I'm quite delighted to happy *and* not depressed on a daily basis. Like a miracle.
19 mo's on HRT, 14 mo's FT
Yes. I agree. I hate the feeling of being cold! And it is almost always, strangely. Agree with the engineering thing and being treated as someone who does not know much. It's both interesting and goofy. Makes men look goofy. Yes, I don't understand them, now. A timeless problem? (Sometime I take advantage of it and act like I am stupid. Just to get away from them.)
I understand exactly what you're saying.
The cold bothers me the most. The rest is what it is. I love being female but there are things I agree with what you’re saying.
Well said! I see exactly where you are coming from..........Sonia x
Growing up with two sisters and having more women as friends then male i could always see how women got treated differently in a work place then a male. Even where im at now we have a woman who works with us and she gets treated completly different. I think im the only one who treats her more as a individual instead of O shes a woman so she doesnt know how to do this job as well as a man. Cause thats how my other co workers treat her and honestly i dont understand why. When that couldnt be further from the truth cause she is better at her job then most the men.
You are so brave
Being an American I would listen to you I love your British accent and your so beautiful I would take your advice and never make you feel stupid......
Going to see Jane today at 1pm oh the pain! Got some Emla.
I'm not looking forward to the whole "make up" experience, although I know I have to go through it. I'm just so used to getting up and having a quick wash with soap and water, and then just getting out there [ obviously getting dressed first!! ]. Most days I can be outside within 10 mins of hearing My alarm and getting up. Now it takes Me that long to decide what top I'm going to wear.......longer even. I know that "that", is going to be the thing I miss most about leaving My old life behind. I am going to hate wasting all that time, picking clothes to wear for the day and applying make up. Maybe, hopefully, that will change as I progress.
Christabella ChiVass It gets easier, and after time (1yr+...) when you know what style of clothes you like to wear and how you like your makeup to look (not just how you think it should look) you do it without thinking to a degree. Sure I see to be similar and when I first went full time every morning was up soooo early and like a military exercise - now i get up early still but that's because I like to take my time, have a nice break and enjoy the peace of the morning before work. So what I'm saying is - it will become part of your life and will feel like a breeze, at some point ;D
I'm very sloow when it comes to getting ready, and I get up fairly early. This is one of the things I'm wondering about in beginning transitioning, that, and how attitudes will change towards me as they will.
great video. should be required viewing for ... almost everybody, come to think of it.
You look so beautiful , You are awesome and strong . And loved by Many , You are a real sweetheart . God bless you Hun :)
First, let me say that you present as very intelligent AND female. No question to this old, stubborn, curmudgeonly male. Because I've worked with kids for over 50 years, I find that your videos informative without being too graphic, insightful, cognizant and (gasp!) entertaining. I've had 4 kids that were probably transgender, three are still alive (I think; one hasn't contacted me for over twenty years and one hasn't been in contact for over a year). Three were/are mtf and one ftm. I had to laugh at the issue of make-up; as an actor in community theater, it was my BIGGEST complaint, not because I didn't want to portray a part, but simply the time it took. Hair wan't much of a problem, though I didn't like the smell of the hairspray. I live in northern New Hampshire, divorced and happily alone, I keep the house at 50 during the winter and hate summer. Obviously, I don't want to transition, hate going fast in a vehicle (I'd rather have a chauffeur!), but I do like skydiving, though I can't do it alone. I find my community is the men and women I meet at the DZ. They are respectful to all, ask questions about each other, find love and enjoy life. Gay, straight, trans, whatever, all are equal. So, Charlie, best to you and all of your friends, tell your "friends" you are pissed off when you are "pissed off". And hoping your driving at Le Mans goes well.
I haven't transitioned yet, but I worked at a pet store with mostly women. So sometimes an older man would come in and ask to see "one of the girls". I could never take that as an answer. I got the sense that these guys just wanted to push the girls around, and that they didn't want to try that with a young skinny guy for whatever reason. Like I didn't know I was trans then, but it still hurt. And It's not like other people wouldn't just be condescending just because I was "new", I mean I worked there for 5 years or whatever. They would ask for "my manager" when there's literally me and one other person working at a time. What do you do anyway? You don't want to lose the sale, even if the person is an asshole.
Seven years on, how is she doing? Audience wishes her all the best. Cheers!
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Take it from a woman. If you’re a woman you stay a woman whether you’ve put on makeup or done your hair. We are not obligated to do these things as we are female whether we do them or not.
The cold sensitivity is simply a hormonal issue.
Bravo, courageous
Where is part 1 and 2?
Less is more, make up,
I usually just use a day cream
Light dusting of thin Lizzy,
Mascara, eye liner
I'm done !
The thing I fear most about HRT: cold. I'm already cold all the time, and it gets WORSE?
why don't you guys write a book about all of this and I would buy it so i could read about all of it. without watching a rambling on U Tube! yes i am interested
I'm looking forward to feeling the cold. Right now I am always too hot.
Even though I still live on the bloke side of the fence the casual chauvinism I see still drives me mad. I too work in engineering and some of the unreconstructed 'old school' types can be very annoying.
I initially found it amusing, but the joke has long worn thin and now it just annoys me. I like a joke as much as anyone, but this isn't funny, and it's one of a number of things that make me want to start a new career where people don't just assume I'm there to make the tea and answer the phone in a nice voice... grrr
a Girl for all seasons I'm afraid the joke went flat many years ago for me. It just makes me cringe every time I come across it. In truth it has become less frequent over the years, but in some respects that just makes it even more uncomfortable when it does happen.
I wish I could say stay in the engineering world and it will get better, but I suspect it wont happen soon enough, so good luck in finding a new direction
I'm new to your channel and I know this is an older video but I wanted to comment on a couple things you've shared.
About makeup:
I've always found women with the au naturale look much more appealing and sexy. I never cared for a woman sporting so much makeup that she looks like her father was Max Factor. I think it's appropriate for formal functions, yet should only be lightly applied to enhance a woman's natural beauty.
By the way... you look smashing just the way you are.
On male chauvinism:
Although I wouldn't consider myself a feminist, I've found other men's behavior towards women at times to be abhorrently offensive. Y'all should be treated with dignity and respect and expected to be knowledge in your position no matter what you vocation.
Some guys unfortunately can be real
dïcks instead of just having one.
Loved this . U said it sister “it’s alright love can I chat to one of the lads”. I’m a barber it happens to me every day tooo lmao bastards
i do love u charle
Yes it’s sad that girls think they need to use make up. Like they are not good enough like they are🥺. I understand that transgenders maybe feel more feminine with make up, and cis girls as well. But anyway, it’s an unhealthy way to look at yourself, that you need the mascara, and you need to cover your skin with a layer of make up ect. It’s very sad😥🌸My mom have never worn make up and she is soo beautiful . Don’t misunderstand me. I think you look beautiful as well🙏🏻🙏🏻
Hey girlfriend, you made it. We can change ourselves, but we can't change others. They have to come to believe in their time. There will be other things to bitch about. That's what we're here for as Joan Rivers would say, "Can we talk!!!" Find a girlfriend and go shopping. Luv ya!
Dawn
XOXOXO
sooo pretty tho
You just stand up to male in office. Show them you what your doing. You change but you are the same person
Just a friendly suggestion, but I think you could make yourself much more clearly understood, or, at least, easier to listen to, if you could try to minimize your use of "filler" words - like...yeah...you know...like...ummm...so yeah...etc. - I realize, these are reflexive habits of speech that are difficult to even be aware of, let alone to try to avoid. You shouldn't feel uncomfortable to be silent while you organize / formulate your thought(s) (take a deep breath if necessary!), and I'm sure that such a presentation style would be appreciated by your audience, and would convey more of an air of confidence, credibility, and "listen-worthiness", rather than uncertainty, hesitance, muddled thinking. Make your message as easy to listen to as your appearance is to look at, and you'll be the complete package!
Don't worry about your hair love I love it a bit messy like you just got off a horse windblown adventurous it's so hot have a great Easter weekend by the way🌹🌻🌺💖💚❤️💛🌹🌹🌹💋💋💋
I am going to assume you are in a job that is technical, maybe automotive, construction, etc. How many chicks that are not, really care or pay attention to those kinds of things or to their men when they try to share? Don't they blow us off(in a bad way) too?
I absolutely hate guys that I have met that thought less of female. But you just gotta put them in their place lol though fucking annoying and shouldn't even be occurring. I swear If anyone thinks of me less after I transition I'll remind them I'm loud and ferocious ^ฯ^
Wow I think your very beautiful. I must say stand tall things will work out. I would love to meet you.
But it's like T girls that still build and work on Cars, just because we're transitioning doesn't mean we still cannot work on vehicles.
Use Chef Ramsey as an example :
He cooks, but when I was growing up the ladies of the house cooked only .
So what's the difference.
There women Truckdrivers all over the world and in Minesites driving Haul pacs monster machines,
If they can do it so can we.
Here's my video message to a fellow Tgirl
ruclips.net/video/SbiHlRduFuU/видео.html
Thankyou for Sharing your story
💛💜❤️BRIE💚💖💙
Permanent makeup?
That scares me that it will go wrong and i'll spend 6 months looking a bit scary! I do get my lashes tinted which is well worth it as they look permanently (for 6 weeks) made up, but lips etc I'm not so sure :)
I'm a man who should be born a woman since I was born I ❤ putting on G straight pants and Lingerie and mine skirt and 👗to I would like to be a woman since I was born
Oh, don't rant-I don't........
Summed up into shitty dudes treating women poorly. Noted.
What you don’t like ? Sitting while you are peeing ?
Like you need makeup?
GoCharlie, your complaints are noted BUT you must have known this before, now is not the time to start whining.
Ummmm - you're not female - you just present as one.