The Mechanism Of Neediness: How To Stop Being Needy & How To Let Go Of Desire

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  • Опубликовано: 27 ноя 2024

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  • @JulienHimself
    @JulienHimself  3 года назад +5

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  • @simongraham2516
    @simongraham2516 3 года назад +37

    Julien has this identity / self-concept stuff really figured out. The man has confronted his shadow and won.

  • @kaktus_tv867
    @kaktus_tv867 3 года назад +14

    Thank you Julien. It appears in the right moment. Thank you universe for helping me. I love you all

  • @jarredondo1222
    @jarredondo1222 3 года назад +6

    But also digging into psychology, We need to understand how the issue began. For most, Neediness is from our childhood. Situations and dynamics, which we feel as our comfort zone.
    If we don’t resolve the early issues from our childhood, we will simply repeat them, like a drug addict. I think you’re guided meditation attacks those core issues and helps letting go, which has been extremely helpful! But I think it’ll only help those who are vulnerable and ready to let go.

    • @JulienHimself
      @JulienHimself  3 года назад +4

      Yes, revisiting and letting go of childhood trauma and negative childhood programming is crucial!

    • @SirGregg
      @SirGregg 3 года назад +1

      Its a painful step back into the feelings we had when neglected as children. It takes some mental gymnastics to comprehend how a parent or grandparent can seek to implant self-destructive subconscious programming into its own offspring. Being hoodwinked out of having a childhood is one thing but finding out the brain has been rewired from continual gaslighting is a real gut punch.

  • @daynemin
    @daynemin 2 года назад +1

    Wow, the intricate ways the mind plays out this comfort zone, the thoughts, feeling, emotions and actions of this shadow. Not as bad as I was before but fooled myself as the mask had just shifted. The weight that's lifting is amazing. Loving myself but being honest with myself.
    Love and light Julien! 😎

  • @rlsdanny5782
    @rlsdanny5782 3 года назад +2

    INSANE , the way you interpret concepts is beyond common knowledge !

  • @DontSleepOn_Jesus
    @DontSleepOn_Jesus Год назад +5

    This is the best video to describe the effects of neediness

  • @kenzoquiambao
    @kenzoquiambao 3 года назад +32

    Thank you, Julien for making such a big impact on my life. I will forever admire your work!👊🐓

  • @Sofia-bl9cb
    @Sofia-bl9cb 3 года назад +1

    you change lives with a couple videos man i can't thank you enough

  • @brightnesslight542
    @brightnesslight542 Месяц назад

    Thank you from Iraq 💕 I'm proud to watch your video and effect me

  • @yungprodigybeast1047
    @yungprodigybeast1047 6 месяцев назад

    This answered my question so simply yet so profoundly

  • @eegleweege
    @eegleweege 2 месяца назад

    I like the energy of this

  • @fortuneeeeeeeeeee5220
    @fortuneeeeeeeeeee5220 3 года назад +2

    Ju your on another level with these ..keep it up been watching you for a decade.. love every piece of content

  • @Poppinthepagne
    @Poppinthepagne 2 года назад

    Needing something = lacking something

  • @lilachodan4941
    @lilachodan4941 Год назад

    5:55 Yes I am doing it. Thank you for explaining it

  • @lilachodan4941
    @lilachodan4941 Год назад

    12:12 this is so accurate. That is literally what I have

  • @AD-hh6dd
    @AD-hh6dd 7 месяцев назад +1

    You can’t give companionship to yourself. I get so irritated when people say to be your own companion. It’s dismissive. By definition, you have to have another person to have companionship

  • @lilpeezy222
    @lilpeezy222 3 года назад +1

    Julian is the Man 🙏🏽

  • @mohamedfahim5017
    @mohamedfahim5017 3 года назад +3

    But what about basic human needs like connection? We're wired for that. I don't think you can necessarily bypass your own biology. Of course, there's a lot of value in what Julien's saying, but we can't forget our own human-ness in the process.

    • @JulienHimself
      @JulienHimself  3 года назад +12

      What you'll find is that you'll still be INSPIRED to connect with people... But it will be coming from an authentic place VS the "connection will complete me" desperate chase.

  • @Note.O
    @Note.O 3 года назад +2

    "But what would happen to my emo nights"? I laughed out loud at that. Cool content. New subbie!

  • @ErnestoJSalazar
    @ErnestoJSalazar 3 года назад +5

    "Self love happens when you let go of self hate" big OOF

  • @lilachodan4941
    @lilachodan4941 Год назад

    This is really unlightning.

  • @_IFTI
    @_IFTI 3 года назад +1

    This was so amazing!!

  • @grevil1
    @grevil1 3 года назад

    Julien, your videos helped me a lot, thanks from Brazil \o/

  • @conormccabe4200
    @conormccabe4200 3 года назад

    Thanks Julien!! Always offering up tons of value. Checking out your new program now.

    • @JulienHimself
      @JulienHimself  3 года назад

      Amazing! If you resonate with this, you're going to love and get SO MUCH VALUE out of the program!

  • @RazeDee
    @RazeDee 2 года назад +1

    I heard when you let yourself get too needy, you start to eventually look like Gollum

  • @LittleBrudda
    @LittleBrudda 3 года назад

    Thank you Julien!

  • @muks83
    @muks83 2 года назад

    Love this brother😎

  • @zaakirketwaroo4288
    @zaakirketwaroo4288 3 года назад

    Watched the whole stream already.. Big up

  • @axOnith
    @axOnith 3 года назад

    Huge indeed

  • @lilachodan4941
    @lilachodan4941 Год назад

    4:39 tbis is me. Really me

  • @sofiakarimi7853
    @sofiakarimi7853 3 года назад

    Loves the new content its amazing

  • @leonarddd
    @leonarddd Год назад

    great video!

  • @sammy-iv5rb
    @sammy-iv5rb 3 года назад

    Makes sense

  • @californiacombativesclub202
    @californiacombativesclub202 3 года назад

    Wow I really needed this today

  • @julienatlas2313
    @julienatlas2313 3 года назад

    I got ur digital product
    Things I liked
    -it was whole new concept didn't knew about that , didn't expected
    -most part was of telling us about the benefits of what will happen if we apply
    -it was short not like most program which are lengthy but with little value scattered
    -
    The things I did not like
    -there was 2 guided releases (apart from 6 month course)which were only 10 min
    And was very bad like I needed a good letting go meditation but it was not in there.
    -should have given more practical steps in infield footage

  • @renegadezen7841
    @renegadezen7841 11 месяцев назад

    Just a question: isn't getting married inherently needy? Why does one NEED the lifelong government contract binding you to a woman with massive early termination penalties and fees

  • @NOTMuzzaFuzza
    @NOTMuzzaFuzza 3 года назад

    What's up mate? I want to ask you, what time/day do you usually stream? I always seem to miss the live stream and I would love to participate from time to time ;)

  • @waypharer995
    @waypharer995 3 года назад

    How to let go off goals and at the same time even work like crazy for it to happen ?

  • @tuledro8008
    @tuledro8008 3 года назад +4

    I'm not needy by default, generally I'm good by myself, but when some external stimulus happens I suddenly become needy in short term, e.g. someone gives me attention, I give them attention back and they don't responed I get triggered... even though 10 minutes ago I was completely fine... dunno if that makes sense :/

    • @SirGregg
      @SirGregg 3 года назад

      It makes sense.

    • @j-efaw
      @j-efaw 3 года назад

      I feel the same way. I am getting better though. The big mindset change is not having expectations

    • @kayligo
      @kayligo 3 года назад

      Relatable

    • @KnucklesYFE
      @KnucklesYFE 3 года назад

      Yep same here.

  • @ajayparmar245
    @ajayparmar245 3 года назад +1

    I JUST SINGED UP TM!!!!! LETS GO BITCHES

    • @JulienHimself
      @JulienHimself  3 года назад +2

      Amazing! See you on the inside!! 👊

  • @meekrodriguez6438
    @meekrodriguez6438 3 года назад

    Amazing video

  • @ashwini8751
    @ashwini8751 2 года назад +1

    4:20

  • @aaron.social
    @aaron.social 2 года назад

    I am suffering cause im needy and feel alone.
    I need help.

  • @maximermolin
    @maximermolin 3 года назад +1

    can I stop smoking with that approach? Still trying to do that for a years)))

    • @MihailoDjurovicVideos
      @MihailoDjurovicVideos 3 года назад

      Read Easy Way To Top Smoking by Alan Carr, an amazing book, helped thousands quit smoking including a number of friends and family members :)

  • @meekrodriguez6438
    @meekrodriguez6438 3 года назад

    I love your videos

    • @JulienHimself
      @JulienHimself  3 года назад

      Thank you! Glad you're getting so much value out of them!

  • @mariluciaferreira360
    @mariluciaferreira360 3 года назад

    Meu nome é Igor tenho 24 anos e tenho medo de agir por conta própria!

  • @ralphpichler1517
    @ralphpichler1517 2 года назад

    Joker should also let go of neediness in the dark kngiht when he said to Batman: You complete me haha :)

  • @coureehoward1068
    @coureehoward1068 3 года назад

    Could this be linked to not being able to communicate freely with women I’m attracted too

    • @bassacoustic1549
      @bassacoustic1549 3 года назад

      Probably. Try not to seek external validation.... What you deem ‘cool’ is what’s cool. Be more invested in your opinion of yourself, than in the world’s opinion of you. You’ll feel the neediness lessen until it’s irrelevant. Julien is a good person to listen to.
      Embrace the discomfort. It means you’re pushing yourself rather than rotting in the ‘comfort zone’.

  • @ZombiePanda501
    @ZombiePanda501 2 года назад

    the hands 😁

  • @lilachodan4941
    @lilachodan4941 Год назад

    10:00 I don't get it

  • @anthonydinino2321
    @anthonydinino2321 3 года назад

    Think and grow rich doesn't work?

  • @davidtolle9533
    @davidtolle9533 3 года назад

    I have 100 box tops. Can i trade that in for a coaching call?

    • @darkbuddha3307
      @darkbuddha3307 3 года назад +1

      yes make sure to put them in a zip lock baggy so you don't lose them on your way to school

  • @drewp4401
    @drewp4401 3 года назад +1

    Hmm Im reading a book called shyness, really good older book. One exercise is drawing yourself. After I was done the first question was, is anything missing? Well to my amazement I never drew my hands! Its not that I didn't have time bc I drew weird feet to finish it off, but it only went down to my elbow and upper forearm. My problems include more than neediness and clinginess; porn, acceptance and validation to name a few I liked to tickle a lot, the ways Ive gotten others to tickle with me I am less than proud of.

  • @erictruong457
    @erictruong457 3 года назад

    amazing! so nice seeing you at the summit Julien :)

    • @JulienHimself
      @JulienHimself  3 года назад +1

      Nice seeing you at summit! Thanks for making it out!

  • @Yolo-man-26
    @Yolo-man-26 13 дней назад

    Is this amazing book think and grow rich 😅😂

  • @sirsmart3698
    @sirsmart3698 3 года назад

    This could help with fat people w eating disorders too

  • @philjose5869
    @philjose5869 3 года назад

    Te te te.. When a boy likess a girll nd the boy needs the girl.. Te te te

  • @Goldchunks4
    @Goldchunks4 3 года назад

    Lmao nice

  • @meekrodriguez6438
    @meekrodriguez6438 3 года назад

    I like I'm a buddy