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As an "A - Type" New Yorker who is now battling cancer, one of my goals is to come out of the other side of things kinder, gentler and more compassionate- much less of an "ego driven jerk"...To recover as someone who loves myself better and is therefore better able to love and support others. Thanks for this Ted Talk, Dan Harris.
I have been listening to and following Dan's work for years. Yet another absolutely beautiful, eloquent, light-hearted delivery, Mr. Harris. Thank you for your honesty and wisdom. From a combat-injured veteran and her service dog, namaste.
Hi Dan, That was a really great TED talk. I applaud you for being so transparent. I have been a meditator for a number of years, and it has changed my life. I find myself to be a kinder, more compassionate person due to a Loving Kindness practice. Of course, I still screw up, but I move on and begin again. I'm also a fan of 10% Happier so keep on trucking and doing what you"re doing. My biggest goal is to do a long, silent retreat sometime in the near future! Thank you for this TED talk!
The way he taught us to meditate is a basic meditation type in Buddhism... We learnt that when we are 5,6 years old, coz I'm a buddhist by birth... Eventhough I didn't use it much in my life.. Now I see the whole meaning of it.. I'm grateful to be born as a buddhist to learn them from early ages.
After using TPH app for even a small period of time and watching him give this talk, it almost feels like I'm watching someone I know. And like with anyone you know, when people were laughing applauding it felt like a huge sigh of relief that wow people are really enjoying this and ofcourse they are because he is amazing !! And I felt joy and am proud of this person and so grateful for everything he has done. If you're reading this, you made us feel 10% better and you know that's alot !! Keep going Dan 💚
“Hard pass… Pasadena!” -DH Dan- you have said so much to educate and inspire us, and ‘Pasadena’ is now part of that living opus! 😂👨🏼🍼 I can feel your boy laughing at your dad joke from here! You are a gift 🎁 Thank you 🙏TPH Live kept me alive during the lockdown 🙌🙀🙌 I am forever grateful that you had that on-air panic attack 🫵😇🧘🏻♀️🧘🧘🏽♂️🧘🏻♀️🧘🧘🏽♂️🧘
This is Lord Buddha’s Inner Peace Meditation in reverse. It’s first stars with loving you and the projecting self love to others when we are truly capable of loving ourselves. Because we can’t someone else TRULY if we don’t love ourselves TRULY.
Here’s another great source - Jeffrey Schwartz “internal systems theory” and “no bad parts”. Teaches us how we can befriend and integrate the parts of ourselves we reject and don’t like.
'Self love, properly understood, as having your own back, is not selfish' This is beautiful. Others often asked how I could still be nice even with rude people, and since I can't properly express it I just said 'because I can afford to do it'. And that's why I can afford it: because I have my own back by hugging my own demon, so I could do it to other's demon as well. Brilliant TED talk 👍
As a recovering jerk and type A person, this Talk means so much to me. Meditation and therapy have changed my life. Dans work is accessible, opens the door to options, and allows us to grow in a way that does not feel heavy or overwhelming. Thanks Dan.
Over the past couple of years, Dan Harris has been one of my most positive influences. I started using his Ten Percent Happier app after reading his book of the same title. Some people mastered sourdough bread making: I meditated, listened to podcasts, and applied mindfulness whenever possible. I’ve meditated daily for over two years now, without fail, and it’s the good habit that I acquired that helped me through the pandemic with most of my sanity intact. Glad you’re not a jerk any more, Dan, and thanks for sharing.
I absolutely loved this talk. I became a huge fan after having read your book Ten Percent Happier. You and I share some of the same traits and having someone else put voice to what I myself am guilty of humbles me. But you do it with such great humor, never taking yourself quite too seriously. Thank you so much for this talk. Awesome!!!
Dan’s communication of these concepts has lead me on an incredibly positive and impactful journey over these past few years, making things better… inside and out. Thank you
Dan is right, it is a skill to love oneself. What you have to do is work: face fears, face being uncomfortable, face difficulties you have run away from your whole life. It takes a decision to stop being a jerk to one self. This time not alone.
I have to say that I'm very happy that Mr. Harris has continued on his journey and is sharing it. Years ago I was skeptical and ignored him but hearing this talk makes me feel he is the type of person/people we need to be the new gurus in the 21st. century. Relatable people in and somewhat 'of' the world, for that is where life happens. I agree, love is the only thing that can save the world. Reason without love/compassion is dry and can become cruel and inhuman. Good on you Mr. Harris.
Deep thanks for this funny, clever, real presentation…from a recovering snark monster. I’ve been grateful for the daily support of 10% Happier app as I make-often tiny-inroads.
Amazing job Dan!!!! I’ve been a long subscriber to 10% happier and it has dramatically improved my relationship to myself, my wife, my children and my friends. I appreciate your courageousness and applaud you for letting yourself be vulnerable. Great TED talk and thank you for everything you do!
I hate this selfrighteous artificial funny atitudes to gain support and laughts. Though he is very intelligent, he would upgrade his outlook being spontaneous
I’ve been using your app for several years, and I follow your messaging. Loved the TED talk, though I think the audience may have missed some of your wit. Is it possible to be too eriudite?
Ten Percent Happier and resources like it have helped me navigate some very thorny family health issues - physical and mental - that require as much of my best self as I can produce. Advice like this helps me to be as resilient as possible. And it's inspired me to write songs on the subject. Thanks Dan! Great talk!
Love, love, love this so much. I stopped judging myself for still experiencing downward spirals when I realised I was able to access the upward spiral more often and much faster.
This was a delightful talk. I think while we are taught to be kind to others which is extremely important, we're not taught to be kind to ourselves with the same vigour and passion. Most of us never learn to love ourselves and we're overly critical and outright mean in our self assessments. It's even more true for children who're raised in unhealthy, chaotic and abusive homes. The positivity to be derived from this is that it's always possible to start on your journey of self kindness and to extend the same kindness to others as well.
Doing this 8 min into the talk I almost immediately cried. Alone fighting your own battles doesn't mean alone if you got your own back and are "active in your own rescue." I have been shielded from learning all this sort of stuff and became a horribly self hating person while loving and gentle and understanding BOTH since my youth. Since leaving all my family and friends I am on a solo journey to find everything useful to a happy life. Medicinal herbs for proper self care in the kitchen (ginger for nausea). Repeating the same goals and I am statements at bed time and when I wake up. Ice cold baths. Anything that is useful. Philosophy, Buddhist, and well being positive quotes from notible wise people. Anything and everything. This talk adds to that very well. "Worry not for tomorrow. You will face it with the same tools you have that arm you against today." I hope to eradicate the self hatred in me. I'm hard on myself but like he said... it can be a positive driving inner life coach rather than a spiraling negative flogging.
LOVED IT!! Can't wait for more TED talks. Truly inspirational! Forwarded the link to both my kids (22-yr old son with an absent narcissistic father, 17-yr old daughter currently experiencing panic/anxiety attacks for which everyone is trying to find a "physical" cause -- rather than treating the underlying anxiety of being a 17-yr old senior in high school during this day and age).
Lillie H.- A trained Hypnotherapist and NLP Practicioner can eliminate panic attacks in a session or 2. My wife was cured of clinical depression by just 1 three hour session with a professional in Hypnotherapy and NLP the transformation was Miraculous and it contributed big time to her completely recovering from advanced ovarian cancer in a few months without any hospital treatment. She refused Chemotherapy, surgery and radiation than got the 3 hour Hypnotherapy/NLP session and also teas from an TCM doctor.
Dan Harris, I learned about this Ted Talk via the 10% app. I've loved your work, your humor, and your wisdom since reading your first book and have shared it with lots of others. Thank you for improving my life!
Dan, on retreat sometimes the lyrics from the song by the Beatles "all you need is love," ring through to me. Great talk. In fact have been listening to 10% Nicer course on loving kindness with Sharon Salzberg on 10% Happier App. May we all be safe, happy and peaceful, strong and healthy, and live our lives with ease.
So grateful for this talk and the honesty you bring to all of this work, Dan. I will also say love 10PH app. That and the podcast helped me save myself from a very traumatic and transitional place in my life. Because of it I am in my dream job, growing and learning. Long way to go, but more than ten percent happier.
Notes. May you be happy, safe, healthy, and live with ease. Generate warmth with full sentences. Conjure image and send phrases to: Easy person or pet, yourself, mentor, neutral, difficult, then all beings everywhere. Consciously counter program against inner critic. And when you feel yourself spiraling, but your hand on your heart and speak to yourself like a good friend or supportive coach instead of a sadistic inner tyrant. Amazing talk. Thanks
🙌🙌 Thanks @danharris. Fantastic and important @ted Talk. BTW, your books 10 Percent Happier and Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics have been life changing. Grateful for you and @_jeffwarren.
Thank you for your vulnerability. Great talk. I also enjoyed your book, 10% Happier, very much and recommend it frequently. My inner critic is indeed an AH, and I definitely need to give myself a break. I can see how doing that can also lead to being less critical of others, which I'm expert at. Ultimately, my opinion of another person doesn't actually matter to my life or theirs.
That’s right! It works. And I did it) just by watching my ego (for a month-two) and not trying to put it out. I had been saying to myself “I see my ego” (meaning all destructive feelings and thoughts, fears), not imagining it (that’s important). And it had gone away) of course it’s comes back sometimes. It’s our mind. But when you see it, it goes away. It really helps with relationships and with all your life))
We have to love and appreciate ourselves because if we don't then other people won't do that. It's also utterly significant to value your own efforts. Sometimes, I tend to condemn myself for not studying so badly or underrate my knowledge. Then I realize I am being a jerk to myself. In such cases, I tell myself there is no need to be so strict with your own self. You have not done something today, you will do it tomorrow. Live and soak up your life. Life is not all about studying. You won't miss anything out if you don't study for one day. Those words help me to calm down and not to get myself down.
Dan you are a lovely human being so brave!! We all have these, you are the one who taught me to be more self aware when you said years ago that meditation helped you realize the voice within is a jerk. Me too! You have helped me raise my jerk self awareness radically. You inspire me again!!
Dan - Your books, talks and TPH have changed my life, and help me show up in a way I never could have imagined. I love TED talks, and this is my all-time favorite. Thanks and respect for keeping it real … and for putting so much energy and care into work that benefits others. I cannot wait for the new book and your future projects!
Thank you! I drank the coo-laid a couple of years ago. The 10percent happier meditations not only got me sane through the pandemic but gave me a touch of the loving kindness superpower you speak of. I strive to be less of a jerk and more often can see when I’m stuck. Thank you for your bravery, sharing your vulnerability and knowledge with some humor. ❤
Love this- you’re a brave & tenacious person, Dan. We should all be so brave… I love loving kindness meditations- and do them when I cannot sleep, which helps tremendously. I am still trying to learn this & this talk boosted my resilience. 🙏
I recently started a practice of “noticing”. I set a monastery bell timer to go off every 15 minutes. (I think it’s a plum village app). I stop, inhale and exhale once. Then ask myself “who’s here right now”? Then answer myself: “[angry, depressed, responsible, thinking] Carlos is here”. Then, if “angry me” is here. I respond with: “that’s ok, let him talk. Nobody heard him when he was a small boy and hurting”. It’s amazing this “noticing practice has improved my productivity, decreased my debilitating depression, and anxiety.
Forever grateful to you, Dan. You got me back into meditation when I had given it up for good and never wanted to try it again. You made it accessible and easy to connect with mostly because you spoke so bravely about your own experience. It makes me smile whenever I hear you say: this is something I never wanted to do or I rejected that immediately. Only to open up a bit later and give it a try anyway. That is so helpful. Can’t wait to read your new book.
For all of you who loved the video and what Dan had to offer, you should probably read the Bible. Oh, and before assuming I'm selfish to compare pragmatic experience with Christianity, I'm here to say that the things God and the Bible say about these themes are so profound and life-changing that you should give it a try. And hey, don't think I'm trying to impose anything here; just read it as you would read a book from Dan and find yourself amazed by the beauty of the Book. Matthew 7:7-8 says, "Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened." With this, I say, if you ask questions, they will be answered, regardless of the time between your question and the answer. God bless you all!
Love is a skill that you can train by high-fiving your inner demons. Envisioning a really easy person. (Good friend or pet) say "May you be happy, may you be safe, may you be healthy, may you live with ease." Envisioning myself. say "May you be happy, may you be safe, may you be healthy, may you live with ease." Envisioning your mentor (someone who has helped you). say "May you be happy, may you be safe, may you be healthy, may you live with ease." Envisioning a neutral person (somebody you might overlook). say "May you be happy, may you be safe, may you be healthy, may you live with ease." Envisioning a difficult person. say "May you be happy, may you be safe, may you be healthy, may you live with ease." Envisioning all beings everywhere. say "May you be happy, may you be safe, may you be healthy, may you live with ease."
I heard that the British Prime Minister Goolge CEO came from the background of living in India with a daily living cost of less than two dollars... so knowledge surfers who have experienced living costs of less than two dollars have a chance for everyone but I I also read Tell the story of an American who crossed from the east coast of the United States to the devil's horn in the west without taking a dime...
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As an "A - Type" New Yorker who is now battling cancer, one of my goals is to come out of the other side of things kinder, gentler and more compassionate- much less of an "ego driven jerk"...To recover as someone who loves myself better and is therefore better able to love and support others. Thanks for this Ted Talk, Dan Harris.
I have been listening to and following Dan's work for years. Yet another absolutely beautiful, eloquent, light-hearted delivery, Mr. Harris. Thank you for your honesty and wisdom. From a combat-injured veteran and her service dog, namaste.
Hi Dan, That was a really great TED talk. I applaud you for being so transparent. I have been a meditator for a number of years, and it has changed my life. I find myself to be a kinder, more compassionate person due to a Loving Kindness practice. Of course, I still screw up, but I move on and begin again. I'm also a fan of 10% Happier so keep on trucking and doing what you"re doing.
My biggest goal is to do a long, silent retreat sometime in the near future! Thank you for this TED talk!
The way he taught us to meditate is a basic meditation type in Buddhism... We learnt that when we are 5,6 years old, coz I'm a buddhist by birth... Eventhough I didn't use it much in my life.. Now I see the whole meaning of it.. I'm grateful to be born as a buddhist to learn them from early ages.
Is there a way to learn Buddhist meditation in respectful and non-whitewashed way?
I think many Buddhist monks teach Buddhist meditation ways in RUclips. You just have to search 😇
Thich Naht Hanh is a good teacher.
Brilliant, beautiful, and inspiring. I hope many people watch. We need more of this message! 🌟
At 3:15 I realized how people often think it's weak to open up and work through your emotions, but it is absolutely courageous and honorable.
100%
Thank you for your honesty. Your timing releasing this is superb ☺️
10:46 Super helpful meditation
Narcissism manifests in many forms. I admire his courage.
After using TPH app for even a small period of time and watching him give this talk, it almost feels like I'm watching someone I know. And like with anyone you know, when people were laughing applauding it felt like a huge sigh of relief that wow people are really enjoying this and ofcourse they are because he is amazing !! And I felt joy and am proud of this person and so grateful for everything he has done. If you're reading this, you made us feel 10% better and you know that's alot !! Keep going Dan 💚
Thank you for this. You are very courageous to share this.
I am so grateful, it’s just what I needed to hear today.
A very dedicated 10 percenter.
Excellent last words. So much more was lost in the war.
Great job! So proud and happy for you!
I applaud Dan for having the courage to respond to his demons with altruism and then to publicly tell the story. Bravo!
“Hard pass… Pasadena!” -DH
Dan- you have said so much to educate and inspire us, and ‘Pasadena’ is now part of that living opus! 😂👨🏼🍼 I can feel your boy laughing at your dad joke from here! You are a gift 🎁 Thank you 🙏TPH Live kept me alive during the lockdown 🙌🙀🙌 I am forever grateful that you had that on-air panic attack 🫵😇🧘🏻♀️🧘🧘🏽♂️🧘🏻♀️🧘🧘🏽♂️🧘
I’d like to show this to our inpatient behavioral health unit. Thank you! ….and congrats on taking that journey
Wonderful!!! I am working on ME as well and this was a great help in my forward (and upward) progress. Thank you.
Dan Harris is the absolute best!
Thank you, Mr. Harris- a very important message, no doubt! Thank you!!
Man, this dude knows how to say it (and not use the marketing/"counseling" BS)
Excellent TED, Dan.
Thanks
You are amazing. Please think about reaching a younger audience , school age. I’m a big fan. Very grateful
Beautiful video 🤩
He's dead right. Years ago I heard a talk about Self Compassion by Kristin Neff.
I've realised that self compassion is truly the answer for my life.
Great Ted talk!
Refreshing!
very good
Crowd was a bit sluggish imo. Great stuff.
Thank you🙂
Good job, love!
Love this guy. Really helpful, and funny 😁 x
This is Lord Buddha’s Inner Peace Meditation in reverse. It’s first stars with loving you and the projecting self love to others when we are truly capable of loving ourselves. Because we can’t someone else TRULY if we don’t love ourselves TRULY.
Tom Cardy's "High-Five" song is strangely relevant to this TED. 😆
"I really want a high-five, and if you give me one I will stop ruining your life"
This was so relatable, that it is kind of creepy. But yeah seems like great advice sweetie
But yeah seriously I should stop being a jerk!
But why do I always become evil!
Here’s another great source - Jeffrey Schwartz “internal systems theory” and “no bad parts”. Teaches us how we can befriend and integrate the parts of ourselves we reject and don’t like.
Why did they add a laugh track?
'Self love, properly understood, as having your own back, is not selfish'
This is beautiful. Others often asked how I could still be nice even with rude people, and since I can't properly express it I just said 'because I can afford to do it'. And that's why I can afford it: because I have my own back by hugging my own demon, so I could do it to other's demon as well. Brilliant TED talk 👍
Totally agree on the root of most problems being lack of love.
Luck of money
Agreed. Also would add fear, whether real or imagined, abandonment, insecurity
lack of girth
As a recovering jerk and type A person, this Talk means so much to me. Meditation and therapy have changed my life. Dans work is accessible, opens the door to options, and allows us to grow in a way that does not feel heavy or overwhelming. Thanks Dan.
One of the most refreshing takes on self love. Thank you TED and Dan Harris for this well timed reminder!
That. Last. Line. 😂
Dan Harris is so sweet, funny and relatable. The 10% Happier App has changed my life.
Over the past couple of years, Dan Harris has been one of my most positive influences. I started using his Ten Percent Happier app after reading his book of the same title. Some people mastered sourdough bread making: I meditated, listened to podcasts, and applied mindfulness whenever possible. I’ve meditated daily for over two years now, without fail, and it’s the good habit that I acquired that helped me through the pandemic with most of my sanity intact. Glad you’re not a jerk any more, Dan, and thanks for sharing.
This was how my lockdown started. I share your experience as well.
Dan is my hero. He has made meditation accessible and easy to connect with like no one else had before.
@@LilysEyes24 i could’t agree more with you on that. He is one amazing person.
This is easily one of the most fun talks about arguably THE most important topic for our times!
I absolutely loved this talk. I became a huge fan after having read your book Ten Percent Happier. You and I share some of the same traits and having someone else put voice to what I myself am guilty of humbles me. But you do it with such great humor, never taking yourself quite too seriously. Thank you so much for this talk. Awesome!!!
Why am I geting suggested this after 10 hours of it being uploaded? Does Google know something I don't? LOL
Dan’s communication of these concepts has lead me on an incredibly positive and impactful journey over these past few years, making things better… inside and out. Thank you
Dan is right, it is a skill to love oneself. What you have to do is work: face fears, face being uncomfortable, face difficulties you have run away from your whole life. It takes a decision to stop being a jerk to one self. This time not alone.
"cloven hooves and a retractable jaw" -- LMAO! Dan Harris, I love your sardonic wit.
I have to say that I'm very happy that Mr. Harris has continued on his journey and is sharing it. Years ago I was skeptical and ignored him but hearing this talk makes me feel he is the type of person/people we need to be the new gurus in the 21st. century. Relatable people in and somewhat 'of' the world, for that is where life happens. I agree, love is the only thing that can save the world. Reason without love/compassion is dry and can become cruel and inhuman. Good on you Mr. Harris.
Deep thanks for this funny, clever, real presentation…from a recovering snark monster. I’ve been grateful for the daily support of 10% Happier app as I make-often tiny-inroads.
Amazing job Dan!!!! I’ve been a long subscriber to 10% happier and it has dramatically improved my relationship to myself, my wife, my children and my friends. I appreciate your courageousness and applaud you for letting yourself be vulnerable. Great TED talk and thank you for everything you do!
I hate this selfrighteous artificial funny atitudes to gain support and laughts. Though he is very intelligent, he would upgrade his outlook being spontaneous
I’ve been using your app for several years, and I follow your messaging. Loved the TED talk, though I think the audience may have missed some of your wit. Is it possible to be too eriudite?
Ten Percent Happier and resources like it have helped me navigate some very thorny family health issues - physical and mental - that require as much of my best self as I can produce. Advice like this helps me to be as resilient as possible. And it's inspired me to write songs on the subject. Thanks Dan! Great talk!
Love, love, love this so much. I stopped judging myself for still experiencing downward spirals when I realised I was able to access the upward spiral more often and much faster.
This was a delightful talk. I think while we are taught to be kind to others which is extremely important, we're not taught to be kind to ourselves with the same vigour and passion. Most of us never learn to love ourselves and we're overly critical and outright mean in our self assessments. It's even more true for children who're raised in unhealthy, chaotic and abusive homes. The positivity to be derived from this is that it's always possible to start on your journey of self kindness and to extend the same kindness to others as well.
Much thanks Mr.Harris for this terribly needed message ! Wish you the strength to continue on this path 🙏 !
Doing this 8 min into the talk I almost immediately cried. Alone fighting your own battles doesn't mean alone if you got your own back and are "active in your own rescue." I have been shielded from learning all this sort of stuff and became a horribly self hating person while loving and gentle and understanding BOTH since my youth. Since leaving all my family and friends I am on a solo journey to find everything useful to a happy life. Medicinal herbs for proper self care in the kitchen (ginger for nausea). Repeating the same goals and I am statements at bed time and when I wake up. Ice cold baths. Anything that is useful. Philosophy, Buddhist, and well being positive quotes from notible wise people. Anything and everything. This talk adds to that very well. "Worry not for tomorrow. You will face it with the same tools you have that arm you against today." I hope to eradicate the self hatred in me. I'm hard on myself but like he said... it can be a positive driving inner life coach rather than a spiraling negative flogging.
One of the very best TED talks ever!
LOVED IT!! Can't wait for more TED talks. Truly inspirational! Forwarded the link to both my kids (22-yr old son with an absent narcissistic father, 17-yr old daughter currently experiencing panic/anxiety attacks for which everyone is trying to find a "physical" cause -- rather than treating the underlying anxiety of being a 17-yr old senior in high school during this day and age).
They probably won’t watch it being that young haha
Lillie H.- A trained Hypnotherapist and NLP Practicioner can eliminate panic attacks in a session or 2. My wife was cured of clinical depression by just 1 three hour session with a professional in Hypnotherapy and NLP the transformation was Miraculous and it contributed big time to her completely recovering from advanced ovarian cancer in a few months without any hospital treatment. She refused Chemotherapy, surgery and radiation than got the 3 hour Hypnotherapy/NLP session and also teas from an TCM doctor.
Dan Harris, I learned about this Ted Talk via the 10% app. I've loved your work, your humor, and your wisdom since reading your first book and have shared it with lots of others. Thank you for improving my life!
This was extremely helpful.
Dan, on retreat sometimes the lyrics from the song by the Beatles "all you need is love," ring through to me. Great talk. In fact have been listening to 10% Nicer course on loving kindness with Sharon Salzberg on 10% Happier App.
May we all be safe, happy and peaceful, strong and healthy, and live our lives with ease.
I want learn English language🤠
how many times did the word I or Me or My...... omg... dude its not all about you
So grateful for this talk and the honesty you bring to all of this work, Dan. I will also say love 10PH app. That and the podcast helped me save myself from a very traumatic and transitional place in my life. Because of it I am in my dream job, growing and learning. Long way to go, but more than ten percent happier.
Notes. May you be happy, safe, healthy, and live with ease. Generate warmth with full sentences. Conjure image and send phrases to: Easy person or pet, yourself, mentor, neutral, difficult, then all beings everywhere.
Consciously counter program against inner critic. And when you feel yourself spiraling, but your hand on your heart and speak to yourself like a good friend or supportive coach instead of a sadistic inner tyrant.
Amazing talk. Thanks
🙌🙌 Thanks @danharris. Fantastic and important @ted Talk. BTW, your books 10 Percent Happier and Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics have been life changing. Grateful for you and @_jeffwarren.
Same, my friend. Same.
They are so good together.
TPH- total game changer, very smart and thoughtful guests. Dan Harris, lovely TED talk. Thank you for making this very hard stuff so accessible
Thank you for your vulnerability. Great talk. I also enjoyed your book, 10% Happier, very much and recommend it frequently. My inner critic is indeed an AH, and I definitely need to give myself a break. I can see how doing that can also lead to being less critical of others, which I'm expert at. Ultimately, my opinion of another person doesn't actually matter to my life or theirs.
A good life target is to strive to be boring.
Just what I’ve been needing to figure things out. Yep, lack of love. I just didn’t know why.
That’s right! It works. And I did it) just by watching my ego (for a month-two) and not trying to put it out. I had been saying to myself “I see my ego” (meaning all destructive feelings and thoughts, fears), not imagining it (that’s important). And it had gone away) of course it’s comes back sometimes. It’s our mind. But when you see it, it goes away. It really helps with relationships and with all your life))
Acknowledging your shortcomings is the first step to working on them. All the best to everyone else tackling their inner demons :-)
We have to love and appreciate ourselves because if we don't then other people won't do that. It's also utterly significant to value your own efforts. Sometimes, I tend to condemn myself for not studying so badly or underrate my knowledge. Then I realize I am being a jerk to myself. In such cases, I tell myself there is no need to be so strict with your own self. You have not done something today, you will do it tomorrow. Live and soak up your life. Life is not all about studying. You won't miss anything out if you don't study for one day. Those words help me to calm down and not to get myself down.
I stopped listening after climate crisis 😖
Dan you are a lovely human being so brave!! We all have these, you are the one who taught me to be more self aware when you said years ago that meditation helped you realize the voice within is a jerk. Me too! You have helped me raise my jerk self awareness radically. You inspire me again!!
I just love this guy 💓
You hide? You are exceptional in talking about a favorite topic!
Know your worth my dear. You are a nice person!
Did Nike sponsor you at any stage?
RUclips will have to release love ❤ button for this talk
Dan -
Your books, talks and TPH have changed my life, and help me show up in a way I never could have imagined.
I love TED talks, and this is my all-time favorite. Thanks and respect for keeping it real … and for putting so much energy and care into work that benefits others.
I cannot wait for the new book and your future projects!
What a Beautiful Talk!!! I was laughing and crying! 🤗
Thank you! I drank the coo-laid a couple of years ago. The 10percent happier meditations not only got me sane through the pandemic but gave me a touch of the loving kindness superpower you speak of.
I strive to be less of a jerk and more often can see when I’m stuck. Thank you for your bravery, sharing your vulnerability and knowledge with some humor. ❤
He is really funny
Stay edgy, sweetie. 😏
Dan...I truly love what you are doing. I have found so much wisdom on your podcast. Thank you, sweetie!
Thank you Dan.
ขอให้ปราศจากศัตรู ภยันตราย ทุกข์ทางใจ ทางกาย และทางใจ ขอให้สรรพสัตว์ทั้งที่มองเห็นและมองไม่เห็นในทุกมิติและทุกภพทุกชาติอำนวยพรแก่ท่าน ขอให้สรรพสัตว์ทั้งหลายสัมผัสได้ถึงความสงบและความสุขภายใน สาธุ สาธุ สาธุ
Love this- you’re a brave & tenacious person, Dan. We should all be so brave… I love loving kindness meditations- and do them when I cannot sleep, which helps tremendously. I am still trying to learn this & this talk boosted my resilience. 🙏
I recently started a practice of “noticing”. I set a monastery bell timer to go off every 15 minutes. (I think it’s a plum village app).
I stop, inhale and exhale once. Then ask myself “who’s here right now”? Then answer myself: “[angry, depressed, responsible, thinking] Carlos is here”.
Then, if “angry me” is here. I respond with: “that’s ok, let him talk. Nobody heard him when he was a small boy and hurting”.
It’s amazing this “noticing practice has improved my productivity, decreased my debilitating depression, and anxiety.
Forever grateful to you, Dan. You got me back into meditation when I had given it up for good and never wanted to try it again. You made it accessible and easy to connect with mostly because you spoke so bravely about your own experience. It makes me smile whenever I hear you say: this is something I never wanted to do or I rejected that immediately. Only to open up a bit later and give it a try anyway. That is so helpful. Can’t wait to read your new book.
For all of you who loved the video and what Dan had to offer, you should probably read the Bible. Oh, and before assuming I'm selfish to compare pragmatic experience with Christianity, I'm here to say that the things God and the Bible say about these themes are so profound and life-changing that you should give it a try. And hey, don't think I'm trying to impose anything here; just read it as you would read a book from Dan and find yourself amazed by the beauty of the Book. Matthew 7:7-8 says, "Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened." With this, I say, if you ask questions, they will be answered, regardless of the time between your question and the answer. God bless you all!
Love is a skill that you can train by high-fiving your inner demons.
Envisioning a really easy person. (Good friend or pet)
say "May you be happy, may you be safe, may you be healthy, may you live with ease."
Envisioning myself.
say "May you be happy, may you be safe, may you be healthy, may you live with ease."
Envisioning your mentor (someone who has helped you).
say "May you be happy, may you be safe, may you be healthy, may you live with ease."
Envisioning a neutral person (somebody you might overlook).
say "May you be happy, may you be safe, may you be healthy, may you live with ease."
Envisioning a difficult person.
say "May you be happy, may you be safe, may you be healthy, may you live with ease."
Envisioning all beings everywhere.
say "May you be happy, may you be safe, may you be healthy, may you live with ease."
I heard that the British Prime Minister Goolge CEO came from the background of living in India with a daily living cost of less than two dollars... so knowledge surfers who have experienced living costs of less than two dollars have a chance for everyone but I I also read Tell the story of an American who crossed from the east coast of the United States to the devil's horn in the west without taking a dime...
Here because of Sam Harris's Tweet. I always thought these 2 are brothers.
2022(G) “Respect and dignity.” Furthermore:
learn: try not to please everyone , you got to please yourself
this is what men need. A guy who validates the difficulty men have with being emotional while still encouraging us to give it a try