Science with Sue, Episode 1: The Key Defining Factors in a Couple's Relationship

Welcome to Science with Sue! For each video in this series, I’ll introduce a topic and tell you how it shows up in a relationship, share a little research, clarify how this all makes sense, and give you a take-home piece of wisdom to use in your relationship.
In this video, I’ll be talking about emotional responsiveness and how supporting your partner’s or spouse’s emotions can shape and repair your relationship.
In the comments, let me know what you think.
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If you would like to enhance your relationship and connection skills, you might be interested in my Hold Me Tight Online program. You can learn more at holdmetightonline.com.
Let’s reach “Safe and Sound” together.
Thank you for watching!
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In this video, I mention:
- Emotional presence
- Emotional responsiveness
- Hold Me Tight
I refer to these studies in the video:
Ted Huston, et al. “The connubial crucible: Newlywed years as predictors of marital delight, distress and divorce.” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 2001, Vol. 80, 237-252.
Greenman, Paul & Johnson, Sue. “Process research on EFT for couples.” Family Process, 2013, Vol. 52, 46-61. (This is an overview of studies that examine what creates key transforming change events in EFT sessions.)
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ABOUT
Dr. Sue Johnson is a leading innovator in the fields of couple therapy and adult attachment. She is the primary developer of Emotionally Focused Couples and Family Therapy (EFT), which has demonstrated its effectiveness in over 30 years of peer-reviewed clinical research. Sue’s received numerous awards acknowledging her development of EFT, including the APA’s “Family Psychologist of the Year” in 2016 and the Order of Canada in 2017.
Her best-selling book Hold Me Tight (2008) has taught countless couples how to enhance and repair their love relationships. The book since has been developed into an interactive relationship enhancement program, Hold Me Tight Online. Her newest book for clinicians, Attachment Theory in Action (2018), delineates the promise of attachment science for understanding and repairing relationships.
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[@SarahNissen]

The roleplay at 2:40 is great! I realized I could have done a lot better the other day when my partner expressed that he was feeling melancholy and I made it about me. Thanks!

[@deeadams6007]

Dr Sue Johnson never ceases to amaze me. This 6 minute video encapsulates the heart of being "safe and sound" in a couple relationship - emotional responsiveness and emotional presence. What was particularly clarifying of this core concept was the example she gave of the couple upset about one leaving for a trip. Instead of a fight about it, there was understanding and a connection - a real sweetness between the 2 of them!
This brief video gives a quick, yet clear view, of the heart of EFT therapy, as well as Hold Me TIght and Created for Connections workshop core concepts. Bravo Sue, keep them coming! I'm gong to share this here in Louisiana with the couples I see in therapy.

[@VancouverVelocityFan]

Me too she’s such an amazing lady

[@Phoenix-kd1we]

Thank you so much! This is what I've been longing to learn. ❤️

[@kimbailey7140]

Thanks Sue, Great video on emotional responsiveness. I have shared it on my Facebook page with general public. Please keep them coming!

[@suedynamic]

So pleased you are doing this series Sue. A great way for people to gain an understanding of the power of Emotionally Focused Therapy.

[@eftcenteroflosangeles5684]

Wonderful series! Thank you so much for making this available - fantastic resource!

[@Philip_Bialk]

Knowing where you belong plays a vital role in building healthy relationships and maintaining strong bonds.

[@jeshikain]

Thank you xo

[@littlejameshargreaves]

Wow Sue this was amazing 👏 😍
Linda™ approved.

[@karin58wagenaar]

This is great Sue, I shared it on facebook so lots of people can watch it.

[@DrSueJohnson]

Thank you!

[@clairekorte6048]

The bigger the hair the greater the wisdom! Sue has interpersonal intelligence in shedloads!

[@followerofChrist26]

She reminds me of Wendy Nelson!