I think you should do a video on gay men and their mental age. By that I mean how some can be chronologically above 30 years old but act like they're in high school and how it affects their lives and relationships with others. Great video. The pressure to look a certain way is real!
Thanks Freddy! I also appreciate the idea to talk about emotional maturity in gay men as I can easily talk about this and it's a very worthwhile topic. I'll produce it this week. Thanks again for your kind words.
I fully agree and I'm sorry you've gone through that experience. I think it's really awful how many of us project our body insecurities on eachother and create such divisiveness when we're only perpetuating the pain we experienced growing up. Regardless, it doesn't excuse what's happening. I'm sorry you've been through this.
@@KenReidCo I still trying to get through this …but why every gay man must be like barbie Ken?!? Cause we have a immense of different people that are gay men!! Why we have to project ourselves and be on eachother to be accepted in the circle? Is very appalling and devastating for who have to get around with this situation. Thank you for listening and be here to help me/us. 🌈🙏😘
@@theeclecticone4902 I think it's mostly because we struggle to accept how we look and even if we look pretty, we find it easy to criticise ourselves and that makes it easier to criticise others. And you're welcome, I'm happy to listen to you.
No one is really "different from everyone else". Human beings are pretty much all fragile egos encased in blood and water. I so wish we would dump this divisive and ineffectual CAPS thing and get back to being a genuine community. Almost all of the legal rights you younger people enjoy now were gained by the courageous work of past activists yet your generation is too busy seeking attention on social media or YT to care about community.
This happens on all ends of the spectrum. Gay chubs and Bears are arguably some of the most discriminatory groups to date. Not just about physique (if you're not overweight with body hair, you're practically invisible. Not only that, you have to be the right kind of fat, which baffles me still), but also heavily judged on race and perceived masculinity. The twinks and muscle gays aren't the only ones guilty of body shaming. Bottom line is that everyone is going to have something to say, regardless of what you look like.
During the peak of pandemic, my body put on weight/size. Not grossly, by any means. But I had never had a gut in my entire life. So recently I started working out at home with weights and exercise... yet my damned gut still won't start going away. I'm in my fifties now, so like others in my age group, we have ridiculous hurdles to overcome if we will ever meet someone and take it to the next level. Trying to get a date, or just a connection with someone, is not an easy feat... most guys seem to only be interested in the unattainable. Anyway, I think one needs to learn to accept themselves, first and foremost, before they can readily connect with someone else. Good luck!!
I'm a 60-year blind man and I have embraced my age and don't give a toss what others may think of my body. I'm happy in my skin and that's all that matters. True friends don't care what I look like, they love me regardless.
It's so sad that exists on all sides. Even those who are physically fit face rejection and isolation if they are a heart-based individual who values emotional intimacy
Men are groomed from birth to be suspicious of or avoid "emotional intimacy" as it is a sign of "weakness". Gay men were men before they knew or recognized they were gay.
Very interesting video. I've been dealing with great amounts of stress in relation with how my body looks since i was a teenager. I'm 35 now, I do feel better and more confident about how I look but muscled guys cause me weird feeling of anxiety and shame to be around. I feel like I've failed and that I should look like them. I'm gay btw I think gay porn has something to do with it too
I dont date any gym guys. Im 51 and Im stocky. I date other men that look like myself. Theyre still good looking, just a little overweight. Most guys my age want younger muscle guys. Ive had great sex and great relationships with regular guys that don't go to the gym.
most men that live in gyms never feel genuinely good about their bodies. Some of them over-do it to extreme and cartoonish levels. Gym culture is marketed as essential to gay men but honey, at the end of the day it's still all about character, personality, integrity, kindness, etc. Just finding some muscular gym bunny will not solve all your problems if he is just a narcissist or vain queen.
We really need to stop calling it the gay community. There is no communal integration whatsoever. We’re simply a group of cliques, each thinking they’re superior to the others.
I gave up on worrying about what other people think unless they are thinking about killing me I don't care what they think their are a lot fish in the sea if you don't care what others think you can find some one if you care to much you look needy and clinging this is just my opinion
Total relative positioning via object 'body' relations ... But surely if people judge another on thier weight, ugly, etc it is a projection, which is of course easier, than assimilation. Rejection is simply a form of projection coming from insecurity. Are almost all things find Thier osmosis in insecurity. What about humour, authenticity, inner beauty, charisma and emotional intelligence not vanity and physicality. Sex we are homosexuals, so sex and body makes sense, but I think most guy are secretly, deeply sensualists. Maybe we could be called homosensuals :) Thankyou Ken.
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Gym rats should date gym rats . They get each other . Imagine living with someone who eats, sleeps and drinks the gym and you’re not into that. It just would not work. My partner and I are both into the gym . Been together 26 years. If either one of us was not into the gym, our relationship might have died out.
I disagree, i think gym guys should stop judging people who dont go to the gym as fat, lazy, worthless 🤷♂️. Your comment suggest whats known as segregation.@monk3yboy69
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For a group of people who scream for equality we discriminate each other so badly when it comes to one's body.
I think you should do a video on gay men and their mental age. By that I mean how some can be chronologically above 30 years old but act like they're in high school and how it affects their lives and relationships with others. Great video. The pressure to look a certain way is real!
Thanks Freddy! I also appreciate the idea to talk about emotional maturity in gay men as I can easily talk about this and it's a very worthwhile topic. I'll produce it this week. Thanks again for your kind words.
I deal through body issues daily basis. It’s a constant struggle of not being good enough or fitting in.
I hear you on this, I can sympathise as it can feel like we're constantly battling ourselves and our own expectations we have too.
I’m gay big chubby bear 🐻 guy (Portuguese Asian mix) and I have a lot with this issues; the gay stereotype is devastating for the most of us - Gays!!
I fully agree and I'm sorry you've gone through that experience. I think it's really awful how many of us project our body insecurities on eachother and create such divisiveness when we're only perpetuating the pain we experienced growing up. Regardless, it doesn't excuse what's happening. I'm sorry you've been through this.
@@KenReidCo I still trying to get through this …but why every gay man must be like barbie Ken?!? Cause we have a immense of different people that are gay men!! Why we have to project ourselves and be on eachother to be accepted in the circle? Is very appalling and devastating for who have to get around with this situation. Thank you for listening and be here to help me/us. 🌈🙏😘
@@theeclecticone4902 I think it's mostly because we struggle to accept how we look and even if we look pretty, we find it easy to criticise ourselves and that makes it easier to criticise others. And you're welcome, I'm happy to listen to you.
The journey of fitting in suck but my only advice is not to loose yourself that makes you different from everyone else. 🤫‼️
No one is really "different from everyone else". Human beings are pretty much all fragile egos encased in blood and water. I so wish we would dump this divisive and ineffectual CAPS thing and get back to being a genuine community. Almost all of the legal rights you younger people enjoy now were gained by the courageous work of past activists yet your generation is too busy seeking attention on social media or YT to care about community.
@@FriendofDorothy I wish that was true but not everyone likes to swallow.
This happens on all ends of the spectrum. Gay chubs and Bears are arguably some of the most discriminatory groups to date. Not just about physique (if you're not overweight with body hair, you're practically invisible. Not only that, you have to be the right kind of fat, which baffles me still), but also heavily judged on race and perceived masculinity. The twinks and muscle gays aren't the only ones guilty of body shaming. Bottom line is that everyone is going to have something to say, regardless of what you look like.
Is that a joke?
i deal with body image issues and have met a someone who loves me for the way I am.
ever noticed how positive comments like this rarely get many thumbs ups on YT? It's most telling.
During the peak of pandemic, my body put on weight/size. Not grossly, by any means. But I had never had a gut in my entire life. So recently I started working out at home with weights and exercise... yet my damned gut still won't start going away. I'm in my fifties now, so like others in my age group, we have ridiculous hurdles to overcome if we will ever meet someone and take it to the next level. Trying to get a date, or just a connection with someone, is not an easy feat... most guys seem to only be interested in the unattainable. Anyway, I think one needs to learn to accept themselves, first and foremost, before they can readily connect with someone else. Good luck!!
I'm a 60-year blind man and I have embraced my age and don't give a toss what others may think of my body. I'm happy in my skin and that's all that matters. True friends don't care what I look like, they love me regardless.
It's so sad that exists on all sides. Even those who are physically fit face rejection and isolation if they are a heart-based individual who values emotional intimacy
And being shamed if you want something monogamous and long term.
Men are groomed from birth to be suspicious of or avoid "emotional intimacy" as it is a sign of "weakness". Gay men were men before they knew or recognized they were gay.
Very true! Beautiful doesn't equate to happy. Being lonely is a nail in that coffin
Currently dealing with an ED and honestly this video was helpful and not helpful at the same time.
Very interesting video. I've been dealing with great amounts of stress in relation with how my body looks since i was a teenager. I'm 35 now, I do feel better and more confident about how I look but muscled guys cause me weird feeling of anxiety and shame to be around. I feel like I've failed and that I should look like them. I'm gay btw
I think gay porn has something to do with it too
I dont date any gym guys. Im 51 and Im stocky. I date other men that look like myself. Theyre still good looking, just a little overweight. Most guys my age want younger muscle guys. Ive had great sex and great relationships with regular guys that don't go to the gym.
most men that live in gyms never feel genuinely good about their bodies. Some of them over-do it to extreme and cartoonish levels. Gym culture is marketed as essential to gay men but honey, at the end of the day it's still all about character, personality, integrity, kindness, etc. Just finding some muscular gym bunny will not solve all your problems if he is just a narcissist or vain queen.
We really need to stop calling it the gay community. There is no communal integration whatsoever. We’re simply a group of cliques, each thinking they’re superior to the others.
Very good content. Thanks!
Glad it helped!
I gave up on worrying about what other people think unless they are thinking about killing me I don't care what they think their are a lot fish in the sea if you don't care what others think you can find some one if you care to much you look needy and clinging this is just my opinion
Total relative positioning via object 'body' relations ... But surely if people judge another on thier weight, ugly, etc it is a projection, which is of course easier, than assimilation. Rejection is simply a form of projection coming from insecurity. Are almost all things find Thier osmosis in insecurity. What about humour, authenticity, inner beauty, charisma and emotional intelligence not vanity and physicality. Sex we are homosexuals, so sex and body makes sense, but I think most guy are secretly, deeply sensualists. Maybe we could be called homosensuals :)
Thankyou Ken.
Love is love, love is gay, gay is fantastic 🥰 This I believe 🥰 l love the Rainbow Family 🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈 Joy and Freedom 🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈 The Freedom Flag 🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈 W Gay Marriage ❤️ Wonderful Wonderful!!!🦅🐉🦋♂️
I wont date a gym rat, too labor intensive
Lmao right
Gym rats should date gym rats .
They get each other .
Imagine living with someone who eats, sleeps and drinks the gym and you’re not into that.
It just would not work.
My partner and I are both into the gym . Been together 26 years.
If either one of us was not into the gym, our relationship might have died out.
I disagree, i think gym guys should stop judging people who dont go to the gym as fat, lazy, worthless 🤷♂️. Your comment suggest whats known as segregation.@monk3yboy69
Can you make a video on transmen in the gay community?