Therapist Shares Why You're Attracted To People Who Are Wrong For You
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- Опубликовано: 29 сен 2024
- Lori Gottlieb admits to Jay Shetty that she has always been fascinated by people’s stories. This allure first led her to television, but a desire to make an even deeper impact drew her to a career in counseling. There, she focuses on helping people explore their stories and rediscover their self-worth.
Gottlieb, one of the leading therapists in the country, sat down with Shetty to talk about the power of emotions, human connection, and good therapy.
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29:57 is when they start directly getting into what the title says
Thank you
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The GOAT 🙌🏼
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People do want to be open but they also want to feel safe and that's the issue...finding a heart that is kind and pure enough to listen without judgement and give advise that is not self serving.
Eh, judgement might be right sometimes it can be wrong but it can also be right
WOW50plus Pow 💥 this is everything. ‘Ppl do want to open up but finding the heart tht is genuinely for you or gets you is the issue
WOW50plus So true, finding a heart that is compassionate enough to allow you to be vulnerable...
I learned the hard way. I cringe when i remember the way i opened up to the wrong people. I don't do any of that anymore.
T S You’re not alone in doing that and I’m sure you had good reasons eg not having the experience to know red flags , don’t cringe be proud of yourself for growing so you aren’t doing it anymore
“We want people to be honest with us, but we struggle to be honest with them.”
Jay Shetty ♥️
When you don't value yourself, it becomes your identity and you will be drawn to people who confirm that perception.
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I wasn't reading your comment as much as I was connecting the title of this video by finding you in 90% of videos I watched!!😅😂
If you don't believe in yourself, why would or should anyone else. Makes perfect sense.
To whoever is reading this,
I hope you can let go of the people and things that confine you. I hope you can forgive yourself and forgive others, and most importantly I hope you can let go of the past that you think defines you.
Every moment is a chance to Start again. 💫
Vanessa Cervantes thanks for saying this! Needed to remember about the past doesnt define you.
Thank you 🌸🌸🌸
Well said.. Vanessa!!!
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Thank you, it's very hard to find positive people that's why I have few friends. Better to have a few good ones than lots that are rotten 😄🥰
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Thank you very much, I have enjoyed every moment of this youtube video. So inspiring and encouraging. Soothing to the soul. Greetings from the Caribbean.
As a child we weren't allowed to show feelings I can still hear my parent saying " what is wring with you"? Or disregard my feeling like they don't matter to express them was wrong or bad :(
Christina Parker oh I experienced the same thing ...
So true... then as you age it becomes a part of u so therefore u tend to put some feelings under the rug that somehow leads to depression or lack of acknowledgement (of feelings)
Oh no I'm so sorry that happened to you. But I'm glad you recognize it now and can do something about it. You can now deal with that inner voice and change it.
Christina Parker yeah I totally understand you. Growing up I felt like I wasn’t allowed to cry so I didn’t. Till this day it’s something I still struggle with.
It becomes liberating when you realise your parents feared their own feelings and by denying yours they felt safe. Took a long time before I understood this.
Once I dated a therapist and lived together with her for two years. One of the most controlling and fucked up people I've ever been with. She could never stop being a therapist since during a therapy session, a therapist has absolute control. After leaving the office, she couldn't let go of that control and couldn't handle the healthy back and forth communication that is required of a relationship to work. I never felt safe with her to share my feelings,
Ravi Peiris M.D.
Numbness is not having any feelings. Numbness is being overwhelmed by too many feelings.
And your feelings don’t go away just because you push them down. And that’s the problem because our feelings will come out in behaviors, in short temperedness, in anxiety, in too much food or wine, or time in the internet.
I loved this, felt like a mini therapy session simply watching, listening, observing and reflecting. Thank you so much Lori and Jay
Wow. I learned a lot! Thank you. So shocked when Jay provided the example "I'll change for 3 months" - I thought only I thought like that. Thank you.
This was just an absolutely brilliant conversation.
Csilla,you are absolutely gorgeous ❤❤🌹🌹🌹and I will be glad to know you more
@@oscarwilliamson1264 Thank you. :)
@@csillany21 I really want to know you more. Are you on hangout or gmail so we can always talk privately?
@@oscarwilliamson1264 I do not know what is hangout? Is that an App?
@@csillany21 Yes my dearest ❤🌹🌹,that's an app
Confirmation bias is also a reason why we make certain choices.we choose people and circumstances that will confirm what we subconsciously already believe about ourselves,so we continue to believe it and the belief becomes stronger and stronger.your brain wants to prove you right.😊😊😊😊😊😊
Lori's book is amazing, so is her column in The Atlantic. I was just reading one of her older columns in response to a guy who wrote in about potentially divorcing his wife while she is going through a life threatening illness. The key takeaway is this: How flexible are you with the stories you tell yourself, about yourself?
I really appreciate you clarifying about pain and suffering. Suffering means keep creating stories in our heads and re living painful moments wow very insightful thanks 🙏🏻
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Before getting into the juicy stuff, I really appreciate how the interviewer took the time to give a proper introduction to Lori. I'm pumped to hear what she has to say!
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I love this woman, please be my therapist lol
Just makes so much sense. So much wisdom in what you did to follow your dreams and learning others stories. I do that as a matchmaker. Get people to let go of their limited stories and be carful what they tell themselves. Jay, you're fab and come straight from the heart. ♡♡
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Jay is so genuine
Jay is such a great interviewer. His questions are on point
Jay you have no idea how much i love and respect this lady ... I am so grateful for you
@Jay Shetty - this is an amazing interview!!! Thank you for having this talk with Lori Gottlieb. What both of you talk about is so revealing and inspiring! One piece of feedback....I feel that the title of this interview/podcast does not match what the two of you talk about. It’s maybe covered for up to 5 minutes, but I think it would make sense for it to be something like “How to Realize and Change Your Life Story” 🙌😄✨
Love this! Also watched her on Lewis Howes. I am buying her book there is so much wisdom here.
I loved the conversation about personal stories and true compassionate friendships.
Not sure about your conversation about relationships though. I think there's a lot of confusion among 'gurus' about relationships. Especially when it comes to chemistry, connection, and compatibility. To illustrate my point, Jay believes in compatibility rather than chemistry. His example of compatibility was having things in common, common lifestyles and so on. But this lady stirred everything together as in she counted those compatibility items under chemistry and said those are somewhat superficial and Jay said yeah 😂. That's what I mean by confusion about definitions and the data supporting that. Of course there would be overlapping regions even IF (!) those things are somewhat different let's say.
The rest 90% is very beautiful, candid and full of wisdom. I will definitely get and read her book.
54:00 she's exactly describing my single 30's
The Wisest comment section I have ever seen!!
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I give what the best what I can in relationship, but if I don't get anything back as I have give to him that's not my headache, I just believe there is have something what we called karma. I have been struggling in relationship with someone who never can appreciate with anything I have done for him, but I won't blame him, that's my fault because I allow him to do that to me. And I hope now he can found someone who can show to him how much I've been loved in our relationship.
That was amazing!!!! Thank you!!
I swear I just realized yesterday that she is wrong for me and you just uploaded OMG!
Now I'm sure I'll get more information about this thought...
Thx
Mm "chaotic chemistry". Love that. Well said.
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Story of my life...
GOD Bless everyone ❤️🙏
Wow, I love your examples. This is resonates with me so much 😍🌈🙏 Universe brought me to this video and I am grateful. Thank you for expressing your thought.. 🌹
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lovely conversation jay 🙌😊
I need this Podcast... Listening. How about having Amy Morin on your Podcast?
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Incredible!
This has been super insightful
Amazing video! So insightful
Great thoughts! What do you think on this expert opinion on picking the wrong person over and over again? @
I love every videos of you jay.
all i can say is woww, well if this was't powerful, her and I are soo alike damnn, 222 comments when i saw this, angel number - have faith and stand strong in your personal truths xx.
I am the first viewer of this video
Very interesting...thank you
Her skin is sooo beautiful!
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"we struggle to be honest with people "- projection Jay projection, you obviously have a difficult time to be honest with people when you push so many products on people during your show. Jay you are so smart and sharp but all those commercials in between the interview are disturbing .
true,but also, he has to be part of this system of business he's in, that's just how it works; it's sill way more than most people on yt and in the world are doing for the betterment of humanity, after all he's just that, a human, nobody and nothing's perfect
I dont agree. Shearing like sale advert isnt who he is its just something he does possibly funding him so shearing n support like a singer may display a brand in there music vid. But I do agree the adds are annoying.. just at this very point I thort heeeyyyy does he do his own adds? Like you tube interrupts with adds his adds are him?? Lol that's clever actually well as far as I can see I'm only half way thru this vid.🤣I like Jay 👍🏻
What? He’s producing a show, and has commercials to fund it. The equipment, the editing software, hours of paid labor, etc. I just skipped ahead and felt fine. Commercials are an unfortunate reality, but certainly could be worse than something you can easily skip by.
Oh. I have to do something different. What’s my role in making it my own nervous overwhelm....I want to KNOW my own dance steps and more importantly LEARN new dance steps....oh I have to change for ME. Are my choices aligning with who I want to be.
SELF COMPASSION 🙌💓💞💞💞💞💞💓🙌 🤍🤍🤍 ok..I’ll die one day..no anger 🍉🦄
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When you are introducing someone, please dont look and read😇
I can't with the ads tho
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Thank you
I saw a post that said, it’s not about you attracting toxic people. Toxic people attach to everyone they can. The important part is to learn to let go of toxic people. That’s the difference. Some of us don’t know how to let go of anything.
Yes it's not about how you attract its who you choose to entertain
lol, what a way to get rid of the responsiblity and put blame on others.
True @Amber May
@@tricks2564 Some people expect too much...
Na... you attract toxic people bc your ass is toxic too. Toxic people are repulsed by people with healthy emotional boundaries. If you were healthy, you would be attracted to healthy people😂😂😂
*This world is our mirror. Our outer reality is a reflection of our inner reality. It all starts from within. Everything changes the moment you see yourself worthy and beautiful, when you respect yourself*
Thats amazing and well said pal....
well said
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MY NOTES FROM THIS PODCAST:
2:58 the importance of letting people access their feelings.
4:03 instead of getting rid of your feelings, use them in a positive way.
13:52 the difference between secrecy(shame) and privacy(healthy boundary).
20:28 in order to know yourself(the real you), you should first unknow yourself.
23:36 difference between idiot compassion and wise compassion.
28:44 talk less, listen more.
29:59 try something different/something unfamiliar.
32:20 difference between chemistry and compatibility.
36:36 real meaning of chemistry.
42:34 "if I can't do what I am asking people to do then there's a big gap but if I actually do it I think it helps people to say if she can do it I can do it too".
45:06 one of the solutions for chaotic relationships.
45:58 change for yourself and not for others.
47:39 we sometimes are our own jailers.
52:54 difference between pain and suffering.
54:03 don't except from yourself/people to know how to deal with their feelings like grief, breakups etc.
1:05:55 one of the ways to be kind.
Thanks a lot❤
Thank you, Sejal, this is very useful
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"You are grieving for the person who you have not yet met" WOW. That resonates.
"You should know whether you're controlling your thoughts or are your thoughts controlling you."
I know I’m in the light when Im in control of my thoughts. I know Im in the shadow when my thoughts are in control of me.
The unconscious patterns and beliefs you hold deeply about yourself determine who you'll attract. If you carry alot of hurt and pain, you'll attract more of that. If you don't attract the right type of people then you still have work to do on yourself. The good news is we can all change :)
That's so sensitive to our very emotions that hurt us the most all the time we slide into so many difficult times of differentiating what we like and what we love.
well said!
Authentic Self Guide ok
I still have lots of work to do then. Jerks are still flooding my way!
That might be right but at the same time not for everyone. I mean it's right for me, but not for people I know
Human connection is amazing. I personally believe we are attracted to people we can learn from. Be it for a relationship or friendship ❤️
Agreed! 👆🏽🙌🏽❤️
@@JP-ll8iy thanks!
Agreed
Could not agree more! Namaste 🙏 with much love, good health , happiness and prosperity to you !
@다이아나다이아나 indeed! The best part is learning from others
Hey Jay.... as much as I love your content and this Guest is outstanding.. the Interruptions with your Advertising is just too distracting and takes away the concentration of this Very Important discussion.. I know you need to have sponsors but these interruptions are intrusive and a bit too long .. Sorry.. but it really is distracting.. Cheers.
i can only agree with this comment. Is there a way you can not have these block adverts...its WAY to intrusive and distracting. Sadly i won't be signing up., as i feel hijacked!
YT is broken.
The only real way to watch YT anymore is on a desktop.
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The advertisements distract and deminsh the perception of your genuineness. If you will endorse life insurance, or any product, it makes me question your motivation.
Too many sponsors in one video, other content makers have sponsors but don’t mention more than one in a video, too bad for this valuable video :(
Wel all have a habit of rushing into things, especially relationships. Sometimes we don’t even understand ourself and we try to understand the other person. We are not happy ourselves and we decide to make the other person happy.
And sometimes we just get into it because there’s nothing else in life that we can control so we find the relationship to be the only option. That’s why we end up with the wrong person. Or sometimes the right person but for the wrong reasons.
So we should start by discovering ourselves!
You are so right
Thats an important lesson!
darknight Yup exactly. It’s really crucial for us to understand it
Yeah like I'm just a teen but like many others, I'm lost and don't know wtf I'm even doing in life, so I just rush into relationship bc I'm lonely, just a cycle of dating, neglecting, regretting, and dating again. It's honestly so tiresome and now I'm slowly seeking help and valuing myself
789 101112 I understand. Many people go through that. Just keep on working on knowing yourself and finding your passion and then you will be on the right path.
Once I started focusing on my passion, it led me to making videos over here. I just started but hoping to go all the way :)
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Yes compatibility is more important than chemistry ! Well-said
it really is unfortunate how obsessed society has become with love. Promoting the idea that love can compensate for incompatibility.
@@Nabonidus-m7x yes true dear bcz lust is more love is rare
I think the definition has been mangled and cheapened. It's is just as important when understood it's more then just I think you cute...and I want sex.
Chemistry in it's fullest understanding is your history being activated by a very specific person. You don't have chemistry with everyone, but select people.
It's familiar family of origin triggers hormonal, smells,and features, it's unconscious attraction.
It's your parents, and their parents passed down biology, history unfinished parts traumas, and love story matching the others in energy in feeling.....
Your psychology and memories wants fears.....
Spiritual a connection to an unknown, a messenger calling you to heal restore...your lower self chemistry mirrors.
Without chemistry you are just friends. There's no challenge to grow.
But chemistry is to know self,heal, and grow not necessarily to marry. When the chemistry is only sexual often it means greater unhealed parts will be brought up to heal and it won't last. But there is value.
A more stable, confident chemistry is required for a fulfilling forever- progressive but strong.
There's different types of chemistry to pay attention to. How you feel what's the message.
Also chemistry doesn't go away. Just because relationship didn't continue/ends, the chemistry can be triggered again.
Someone very close taught me something extremely valuable in dating: fail fast. Dating is not a game where you try to impress the partner on the other side of the table, dating is about finding out if you are a match together. If you are willing to fail this process quickly your odds of finding a quality and equal partner drasticly increase (based on time invested alone)
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Best dating comment ever! Thanks very much.
Her energy is so fascinating.. She's mindful and speaks from her heart..
Her voice is soothing. Haha
Couldn't agree more, what an absolutely insightful podcast.
You are attracted to the wrong person for one reason it's a subsconscious attempt to finally fix the traumatic relationship u once had With one of your parents as a child
imago.
I really do believe this.
That is the central idea of imago theory.
That's f***ing True ! @Reg
Or the lack there of...
To those struggling: You will overcome your painful patterns in love ❤️❤️❤️
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Anyone else getting a pen and paper and writing some of this down 😅😂
She’s a great listener because she’s so present. She’s has so much passion describing her journey becoming a therapist. A great conversation between two geniuses!
Being vulnerable makes you attractive, interesting and relatable. Really loved so much of the content. Ty
Not as a man, that's the harsh reality.
It depends on the culture, too. In a blaming culture, it can lead to being judged/blame.. it depends on the other person who listens. Open up to the right person is a way to go.
@@minge9 I think we need to distinguish between vulnerable and weak. However, i do think its more femanine character trait, so men have to be more careful with who they're vulnerable with and when they express it..
Can everyone pray for me
Ms.Keegan L 101
You are lifted in Jesus name; whatever your needs are, May God’s all sufficient power meet them.
May the God of all consolation help you. May Jesus be your strength and comfort. Sending you love and light
Nikki E. Not cute.
I will pray for you. I know you asked for prayer a while back. I hope things are going better for you❤️
Sending positive vibes... I hope you are doing well 🌹🌹🌹
Hey Jay. It's so annoying to have your adds again and again breaking up your own videos.
Everyone gotta eat. I appreciate his content and can press ff and skip the ads if you want.
@@Nikolebichon I definitely appreciate his content. I therefore was bothered by the adds. Now on top of that, it's his own add.
😆😆😂😂😂😆😆😄😄😄😅
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This was like a free therapy session, thank you Jay for this podcast
Yes!
The interviewer’s eyes are the most beautiful I’ve ever seen. I honestly can’t focus on anything else. I’ll try again later.
I soooooooooooooooooo agree.What is the actual colour?
I thought l was the only on e his eyes are beautiful he beautiful beyond his looks he is so smart love his energy
😂
@Shoahshana Goldberg-Shekelstein how envious can you be? 🙄
@Shoahshana Goldberg-Shekelstein Get a life girl. You are a girl, right? 😉
"We marry our unfinished business" hit me hard...I used to be in a relationship for 5 years when he passed away and I married his brother. Needless to say the marriage didn't work in spite of him being amazing and me beating myself up for not being able to make it work.
I regret not going to a therapist back then...
Love the honesty
No regrets...lesson learned? Move forward, with grace, self compassion.
Wow. Reminiscent of a Stevie Nicks or Bobby Womack betrayal. Hopefully you find/found what it is you needed then.
His brother ? Wtf
I created a bond with my children at a very young age. I would ask them why they are sad, happy, angry, and so forth...I wanted them to express to me why and we would talk it over. I have told my children never be sorry for how you feel because that is your true feeling about something. My grandmother always told me which I have passed on to my children, friends, nieces and nephews and their friends that never let anyone make you mad, get mad when you want to and don't let no one make you cry, cry when you want to cry. You control your emotions and let no one control them for you.
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This interview has bits for so many situations in your life.. I have watched it multiple times and each time I am able to relate differently to it. This is really a Heart to Heart Conversation and a perfect Virtual Therapy Session.
Loved the way Lori Gottlieb answered all the questions and both Jay and Lori had such deeper insights to the so many of life situations. A conversation which was easy to relate and takes notes from.
We need to see part 2 of this, Do the fellow viewers agree too ?
Jay, please have Alain de Botton on the show to talk about the roots of romanticism! That'd be SO great
The grief of the lack of authenticity surrounding my life.. as I am mostly always rejected for being my true self... It feels like I'm stretching out my hand and no one takes hold of it..... So my sense of community is so lacking.. people say make yourself happy I think that's such a limited existence.... Thank you guys are really enjoyed this interview talk very refreshing 💚
Same here.. No sense of community out here either.. Sis stay strong and be you all day everyday 😊
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When I chose someone who was not familiar he was the most violent man I ever dated. I broke up with him the first time he pushed me. He'd been violent with all his ex's and one died in an scenario where they were arguing. My point is sometimes you meet a psychopath who can fool you and you can't blame a person for being deceived when the other person lies about who they are, lies about so many things to make you think you are choosing 'different'. So there's no fool proof way 100% of the time.
I am with you on this...
True. You may not always catch things at first but your intuition will at some kick in and tell you that something is wrong. At that point, we decide to listen or not. More often than not, we ignore it.
@@blacksongbird100 Even if we are aware enough and listen, you never know the outcome in advance. It is not a calculation that if we do A, B will happen. If you had listened, that this or that wouldn't have happened is a theory. I found that whole conversation interesting and agree with many things. Yet, life and people's behavior are not predictable at all.
Chris Rock uhm.. why are you still there? (Not sure what’s about this email address and phone number)
@@blacksongbird100 It's something once you experience you will see how it's not so black & white, I hope you never have to. The issue is they're incredibly reasonable at explaining any doubts you might have or any questions raised. They are calm, charming and seem harmless because they know exactly the right words to make people self doubt.
Unbelievable amount of ads! And I couldn’t even skip them. Painful!
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Can you please add the minutes when she actually answers the question "Why You're Attracted To People Who Are Wrong For You? " which is the title of this video? This video is way too long.
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Holy heck Jay Shetty!!! Wth? The ads on here are absolutely horrific!!! The worst I've ever encountered on RUclips. Shopping and, life insurance to boot! Wth? You were a monk. Did you sell your soul for a bigger and bigger bank account?? I'm shocked! I thought you were the real deal 🙄
I love this!! I’ve been trying to be honest with myself but it’s extremely hard, one day at time for now.
Incredible. What an amazing interview. I am beyond grateful for all the people who helped to create this moment between Lori and Jay for all of us to witness and learn from. Thank you.
Thank you so much, just listening to Lori was a self-realization process in respect to our emotions. Something I really needed at this point of time. All the best for your book Lori. Truly touched me at present was the loss & grief - how to deal with this & numbness of emotions. God bless you both.
What I really loved was the genuine, honest and easy way the two of you shared with each other about the fears and perhaps unconscious self narratives we as a human race experience ; while simultaneously also desiring to speak up, trusting our vulnerability would be not only safe but relatable enough to perhaps open a common doorway where we can finally feel the release and lightness this genesis of true freedom coming from the acceptance and love we all want, need and share in common. Mutually healing each other and our world.
Wow that was touching! I think it's so interesting that she became a therapist later on in life and I kinda got the chills when she mentioned what her work was before hand because I'm going down a similar road and I've already had people tell me that I should be a social worker or therapist. I wonder if it's my destiny. I'm so grateful to have been able to listen to that very heartfelt and open discussion on feelings and relationships, especially the bit about being a good friend. I think friendship is such an underrated topic. I would love to hear more about that. I hope that everyone involved in the production of this video is doing well and that you all keep doing great work that is so beneficial to people everywhere who understand the English language. ;)
Jay tis is the best interview. It's so useful for me. I love psychology & Im becoming a therapist/counsellor. So tis interview is adding to my knowledge to help me understand & how to deal with ppl better.(I juz dont have a lot of time to listen to the whole interview)Luv 💞
This was beyond romantic relationships - it applies to every human relationship you have in your life. Amazing, loved the talk. So insightful and applicable in so many ways.
I love what she says about making a change that is "in alignment with who you want to be in the world". I agree, but that can be a scary situation for people who get threatened or sabotaged, especially for their "consciousness" activities or attempts at financial independence. I have such toxic family relationships...geez.
A friend once told me 'it is never to late to have a happy childhood'.
Good work
Keep educating people and always be blessed
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Can't wait for someone smart to share a short conclusion from this talk! ;)
mrs meme haha love it
Me too
Me too
Bring to the light what ever we feel in our subsconscious look to our earliest relationships and see if they gave us life safety sense of value and belonging that's where we'll find we need to bring our story of what happened to us to the surface so we can heal oftentimes we can attract the parent who abused us as a child in our adult relationships it's a subsconscious attempt to fix what happened to us as a child
@@reg8297 Well said. I am assuming that you would include a neglectful parent with those who abuse.
It’s common to feel good falling in love with the wrong person 🥴
Cathrine that perfect emoji though. Lol
Fantastic interview.
Lori is such a warm, remarkable woman, with such fabulous insights.
Love this! "I am my own jailer", powerful words.
Feeling and daring to express our feelings! Yes vulnerability!
Yet society is not ready to accept feelings! When you tell people you feel scared, you feel sad they often reject you cause they fear their own fears!
I am sensitive and feel people look at me as being weird!
How many times my feelings (perceived negative feelings) were dismissed by others.
I see it al over, with romantic relationships, friendships, even my percents!
I expressed my sadness to my parents, as they did not now how to react they went to another subject, cause it made the feel sad!
The guy I was connected remained telling me look at the bright side of life - what I do - but still I feel also sadness. He vanished.
Yesterday my son hurt his hand badly, I saw him swallowing his fear and sadness cause he was afraid to be judged by his dad!! His dad told him don't be a sissy! When my son arrived at my place he broke down 😭 I told him it's OK to be sad and cry when you feel hurt, doesn't define who you are!!!
So sad people num their feelings cause they are judged by others 😢
She is perfect to be a therapist. She is so vibrant !
Her book is fantastic!
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@@sadiaabro1801 maybe you should talk to someone is the name of her book.
@@mauiswift6391 thank youuuuuuu :)
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This lady is amazing and incredible while answering those questions. Jay, you are doing a wonderful job.
What you put out, energy and beliefs, you will attract! Start with valuing and loving yourself and you will become a magnet for love. You have the power to change your reality!
Good comet from any we y thanks very much
Ani Wey I totally agree with you on that! It’s very true if you don’t love your self or believe in you no one will.
Cheers to that!
Great coment any we y thank you very much
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Self Compassion is how you grow & change! Love 🥰
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True compassion is holding up a mirror to help someone see clearer - I love that notion because we truly become what we see and if we start seeing ourselves and our lives differently, we can start making changes! 💯🙌🙌
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This is why I tell my guy friends who often come to me for advice when it comes to their relationship to understand where your foundation is in the relationship because it is often important to have that foundation first and understand each other. IF you don't have that foundation that can cause a rift in the relationship as soon as you have kids things will take its turn. Men who have been married for 10 years some who are married for 3 years. I was discussing these things with them. Never expected them to be so open up to me but I do sense there are some things they need to take initiative when it comes to their partner unless that partner or spouse is a complete narcissist you have to understand that you cannot reason with a person who has a personality disorder unless you are willing to completely surrender yourself to that person. Basically sacrificing your needs and wants and nothing is reciprocated. This is why you have to know yourself before you get into these types of relationship. I have seen this multiple times with men who think they know what love is but often end up in a codependent relationship with women who are just wrong for them in the end. They give more and the women just keep on taking from them draining them from actually living their own life not setting healthy boundaries. You have no respect for yourself you end up being a door mat.