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  • @gracecrazysong
    @gracecrazysong 9 лет назад +1679

    "What's more important: how you see me, or respecting how I see me?" Wow that's good

  • @UnoMeeh
    @UnoMeeh 9 лет назад +720

    If you look like a female I will address you as such, if you look like a male I will address you as such. BUT if you correct me and say, "I would like to be addressed as..." then I will gladly correct myself. But it is not my responsibility to somehow figure out what you want to be called, especially if I don't know you.
    For example some of the people in this video were clearly male, but were wearing female clothing or lipstick etc. (Items that are worn mostly by women)
    I am now confused on what to address you as and IT IS NOT MY FAULT. You have no right to be angry, just as I have no right to judge. Politely explain to me what you wish to be called and it shall be that way.
    and to the woman at the end with the "actually guilty of sexual harassment".
    fuck off.
    That is the most ass backwards thing I have ever heard.
    "I am not sure what gender you are so I will take my best guess and if I am wrong it is sexual harassment"
    I think not.

    • @killjoy811
      @killjoy811 9 лет назад +57

      UnoMeeh You literally are an example as to why this video was made to begin with.

    • @UnoMeeh
      @UnoMeeh 9 лет назад +137

      RoyalChai YOU ARE LITERALLY TELLING ME THAT IT IS RUDE TO NOT BE A PHYSIC MIND READER WHO KNOWS SOMEONES PREFERENCE JUST BY LOOKING AT THEM
      All I am saying is you cant get mad at me for calling you what you look like.
      If I call you the wrong thing, fucking correct me politely and then we go on with our day.
      If you have a problem with that, there needs to be a video made for you

    • @nashwa7039
      @nashwa7039 9 лет назад +79

      I think they were referring to repeatedly and purposely misusing pronouns in such a way to harass a transgender person

    • @UnoMeeh
      @UnoMeeh 9 лет назад +20

      AISHA V if that is what they were referring to then I agree, but I would't call that sexual harassment, nor do I think that is what they were referring to.

    • @nashwa7039
      @nashwa7039 9 лет назад +36

      +UnoMeeh if you replay the video from 3:09, they are referring specifically to people who "persistently misgender" others. they are not referring to those who do so by accident. sexual harassment may be defined in the way that you did, or simply by "the harassment of a person due to their sex"; in this case, persistently misgendering a transgender person because of their biological sex (or more specifically, because their biological sex does not "match up" with their gender) can fall under this category.

  • @smabrielle
    @smabrielle 9 лет назад +253

    To all the folks getting up in arms about the sexual harassment comment:
    In a workplace environment, if there is a trans employee you haven't met before and you guess their pronouns incorrectly, and then you are informed what their correct pronouns are, and then you start using those pronouns, everything is A-OKAY.
    But if you CONTINUE to use the person's incorrect pronouns (not occasional slip-ups. Persistent use), even after being corrected, you are being careless and disrespectful and yes, it is harassment.

    • @1608Nikolai
      @1608Nikolai 9 лет назад +34

      Gabrielle Smith But not sexual

    • @segamai
      @segamai 9 лет назад +8

      Brian Peppers It's a miracle you managed to type that comment AND press "reply", when you are obviously in the possession of barely more than three brain cells...

    • @1608Nikolai
      @1608Nikolai 9 лет назад +2

      Its a miracle you haven't told me your pronouns yet

    • @segamai
      @segamai 9 лет назад +4

      Brian Peppers Thanks for proving my point :)

    • @1608Nikolai
      @1608Nikolai 9 лет назад +7

      I don't see a point. If you care to add to your comment and tell me why it is sexual harassment, i would happliy explain why you are wrong.

  • @stephanielfagan
    @stephanielfagan 9 лет назад +225

    I'm from the Philippines and the language over there doesn't have gender pronouns. We only have "this person", "that person", etc... I feel like that's how it should be everywhere.

    • @urbanaminoa
      @urbanaminoa 9 лет назад +12

      Stephanie Wong That's lovely. English is a little better than languages that gender everything, but many struggle with the gender-neutral pronoun "they" because it's double-tasked with gender-neutral singular and third-person plural. Oy.
      I would love to see a study on how these things in language influence culture. I've known a disproportionate number of trans women from the Philippines relative to other countries, and I always wondered if there was something behind that or if it was just a coincidence.

    • @mayellee
      @mayellee 9 лет назад +1

      I agree. we just basically use "sya", "Nya" etc and that's like for everybody. "tawagan mo sya" "ano Pangalan nya" I just realized that. wow

    • @mayellee
      @mayellee 9 лет назад +1

      I agree. we just basically use "sya", "Nya" etc and that's like for everybody. "tawagan mo sya" "ano Pangalan nya" I just realized that. wow

    • @ruedelta
      @ruedelta 8 лет назад +3

      +Stephanie Wong Same with Chinese. Written it can be differentiated but the third person pronoun is always pronounced "ta". That includes things as well.

    • @nallekarkki87
      @nallekarkki87 8 лет назад +1

      +Stephanie Wong Same here in Finland. We use "hän".

  • @roofoochoo
    @roofoochoo 9 лет назад +358

    Can you make more videos with trans people please?

    • @TheMCGamer2012
      @TheMCGamer2012 9 лет назад +17

      You appear to have misspelled "less".

    • @StarBunny550
      @StarBunny550 9 лет назад +6

      +TheMCGamer2012 Asking for less still means you're asking for more videos, just not as much. You might as well say you don't want to see any at all. .-.

    • @TheMCGamer2012
      @TheMCGamer2012 9 лет назад +1

      StarBunny550 What if that is what I mean? :)

    • @CptMacaroni
      @CptMacaroni 6 лет назад

      There isn't enough. They off themselves to frequently..

  • @helix1234
    @helix1234 9 лет назад +290

    the last one was extremely ignorant. I think respect goes both ways and you should be understanding of/patient with those who are unaware of your preferences. sexual harassment!? kiss my ass... pronouns are simply pronouns. I understand it's a touchy subject but you don't see anyone outside the trans community suing if they are addressed with the incorrect pronoun.

    • @titusorelius9458
      @titusorelius9458 9 лет назад +36

      bloodyironist
      Why don't you try responding to what Helix1234 actually said instead of responding to the boogeyman in your head?

    • @bloodyironist
      @bloodyironist 9 лет назад +22

      Titus Orelius I did. They said respect goes both ways. But I have no obligation to respect someone who is deliberately staying ignorant.
      However, I am going to backtrack a bit and say, alright, yes, when someone is unaware of a person being trans and accidentally misgenders them or even after learning accidentally misgenders then but is open to correction that's a genuine mistake. But someone who deliberately stays ignorant deserves no mutual respect!

    • @titusorelius9458
      @titusorelius9458 9 лет назад +3

      bloodyironist
      Well at least you responded to him AND your boogeyman this time.
      Thanks for that at least.

    • @DavidJohnson-ww3ko
      @DavidJohnson-ww3ko 9 лет назад +28

      helix1234 "in the workplace, people who persistently misgender you are actually guilty of sexual harassment." Keywords are "workplace" and "persistent". Mistakes happen. Not trying to correct yourself over time is something completely different, especially in a work environment.

    • @Rishro29
      @Rishro29 9 лет назад +6

      David Johnson I don't know if that would be called sexual harassment though. Just harassment in general.

  • @halinaskywalker5242
    @halinaskywalker5242 9 лет назад +153

    so whenever I am unsure all I have to do is ask? but what if someone isn't transgender and I ask them - won't they be offended?

    • @cAkasha
      @cAkasha 9 лет назад +59

      Johnny Skywalker You're supposed to read their minds, obviously. It's not like they should be the ones letting you know if they want to be called in a specific way. :^)

    • @Cuix
      @Cuix 9 лет назад +60

      Johnny Skywalker People who are trans or allies are totally cool with being asked about pronouns. What you really need to worry about is getting thanked half a dozen times for caring lol. As a non-binary person, I really wish I could get this question more often instead of being guessed at.

    • @alanathomson6329
      @alanathomson6329 9 лет назад +59

      People who are Cis and are offended need to get over themselves.I'm a female and identity as a woman and use she/her pronouns and if you asked me what pronouns I use I would just say I use she/her and I shouldn't be offended nor question why you asked me that.

    • @ilovemiffy888
      @ilovemiffy888 9 лет назад +45

      Tell them to calm down because being mistaken for a trans person isn't an insult

    • @halinaskywalker5242
      @halinaskywalker5242 9 лет назад +5

      I hope so, but I guess some people still would be. it's so hard to please everyone and be polite and stuff.
      but I'll keep trying :)

  • @EC-yw5hg
    @EC-yw5hg Год назад +11

    This is a religion. Which, at least in the US, we’re told we have the freedom to practice our own religions (and NOT force them on others). Compelled speech is becoming more and more common; in some countries, it is even a criminally punishable offense to opt out of such. But this is a violation of religious freedom. The existence of gender separate from the physical body is not a proven fact. It is entirely subjective. Thus, it is part of religious belief. No one should be forced to engage in this.

  • @damienscullytoo
    @damienscullytoo 9 лет назад +105

    i don't understand why people don't use the pronouns they wish to be called. Its not like it takes longer or waste more oxygen just to say he instead of a she or vice versa.

    • @TyLee96
      @TyLee96 9 лет назад +6

      True. I find it difficult with bigender / genderfluid persons though. 'They' is confusing as it is gramatically incorrect.

    • @DrumeMoment
      @DrumeMoment 9 лет назад +23

      TyLee96 The majority of people who complain about it being incorrect grammar usage wouldn't know correct grammar usage if it hit them in the skull with a brick.

    • @TyLee96
      @TyLee96 9 лет назад +2

      +octocats 'They' -> multiple persons
      I'm confused :D

    • @mouseshrooms
      @mouseshrooms 9 лет назад +2

      ***** But you're referring to that person as a single object, "they" refers to more than one.
      "They is..." is not correct so it'll be confusing i suppose.
      If i'm wrong please correct me.

    • @s.m7859
      @s.m7859 9 лет назад +4

      TyLee96 And what's about "you"? It has a plural and singular meaning. Do you feel confused when you use "you" pronoun? I don't think so.
      "They" is the same. plural and singular pronoun for the "third person". (instead the "second person" like "you")

  • @colleenbehring9680
    @colleenbehring9680 8 лет назад +66

    the person with the purple hair. omg I loved their hair so much

  • @lordpunriq
    @lordpunriq 9 лет назад +11

    Miss pronouncing someone's gender isn't sexual harassment. Sexual Harassment definition: unwelcome sexual advances made by an employer or superior, especially when compliance is made a condition of continued employment or advancement. That's just someone making a mistake....

  • @mikebrownbassist802
    @mikebrownbassist802 3 года назад +8

    Forcing the majority to use your "preferred" pronouns is a form of thought control. We still live in a free county. You can call yourself whatever you want but I won't be told what I can and can't say.

    • @purpleperson7514
      @purpleperson7514 3 года назад +5

      I could say the same things with names, then. Your username is Mike so say you were my coworker and you said “hi I’m Mike” and then I only call you John for the entire conversation because you “look like a John.” You ask me to stop calling you John and I say it’s thought control. It’s the exact same situation.

    • @SansAppellation
      @SansAppellation 3 года назад

      Not quite in his example he is relieving himself of a cognitive burden that you are trying to place on him.
      In your example you are placing a cognitive burden upon yourself.

    • @purpleperson7514
      @purpleperson7514 3 года назад +4

      @@SansAppellation it’s not a “cognitive burden” it takes two seconds to remember. Say someone has a really unique name. For example my sisters name is Xiomara (have fun pronouncing that one) but people still take the time to learn and remember her name. You could argue her name is a “cognitive burden”. It’s not, just learn to pronounce it and respect her.

    • @professoralpha6239
      @professoralpha6239 3 года назад +1

      @@purpleperson7514 Mate you are such a weirdo.

    • @purpleperson7514
      @purpleperson7514 3 года назад +1

      @@MHS-ql7ee wtf does feeling discriminated against have to do with just respecting someone’s pronouns the same way you’d respect their name

  • @justin_grindley
    @justin_grindley 3 года назад +20

    It is deeply concerning that this dumbass video doesn't have more dislikes.

  • @DrumeMoment
    @DrumeMoment 9 лет назад +33

    The refusal to learn somebody's pronouns is the equivalent of refusing to respect them regardless of how nice they are.

    • @aftrdrk7263
      @aftrdrk7263 6 лет назад +10

      Victoria bullshit..

    • @k.-flynn
      @k.-flynn 6 лет назад

      warren n/a fuck you

    • @aftrdrk7263
      @aftrdrk7263 6 лет назад +8

      K. Flynn Go fuck yourself and your bullshit pronouns.

    • @k.-flynn
      @k.-flynn 6 лет назад

      Lonley Q-tip you ask for the same thing, shitstain

    • @WolfataDoor
      @WolfataDoor 6 лет назад +4

      No it isn’t. How far do I have to be involved in your self identity? Be whatever the hell you want, just don’t expect society to abide by someone calling you “Ze/Zer/Zey.”

  • @Lucky-ei6yh
    @Lucky-ei6yh 4 месяца назад +1

    The 2nd last person (2.47) seemed quite reasonable, saying they have patience explaining to people.
    Then it went straight to the last person (3.04) lol "sexual harassment" are you kidding me 😂

  • @laylasmith168
    @laylasmith168 4 года назад +10

    Notice how none of these people look normal lmao

    • @FemboyLevi
      @FemboyLevi 4 года назад +2

      so what is "normal" for you?

    • @ethanvaneck2971
      @ethanvaneck2971 4 года назад +6

      @@FemboyLevi Not looking like a crossdresser

    • @larsswig912
      @larsswig912 Год назад +1

      @@FemboyLevi not injecting yourself with cross-sex hormones.

  • @mythbusterslover14
    @mythbusterslover14 9 лет назад +2

    i really don't understand why people have a hard time with knowing what to call someone. if i tell you to call me he then call me he, if i tell you to call me she then call me she and if i tell you that it doesn't matter then they can call me he or she or whatever! like it's not that fucking hard.

  • @brakapepo
    @brakapepo 4 года назад +15

    This is what happens when you run out of problems to solve. You create your own.

  • @cameronhoward99
    @cameronhoward99 6 лет назад +2

    This while argument is silly for two reasons. One, no one uses someone's in their presence. Gendered pronouns are only used in the third person, i.e. when you're talking about someone to a third person. Otherwise the word "you" is used, or the person's given name. Two, pronouns are a way for the speaker, and only the speaker, to classify people according to how the appear, either more masculine or feminine. Using he or she isn't a personal insult but rather an expression of how the speaker believes someone appears. Literally no reason to be upset or offended by this.
    Also that last person that said using the wrong pronouns is akin to workplace sexual harrassment, I don't know if people have actually been prosecuted for this or not but it's total BS. Sexual harrassment is when someone makes a repeated sexual "advance" toward another person when it's been told to the harrasser that it's unwanted. "Misgendering" someone is obviously not a sexual advance. In fact it's likely the opposite, i.e. the person would rather jump off a bridge than sleep with you. So clearly not sexual harrassment. Now repeatedly, purposefully, using the wrong pronouns when referring to someone makes you a jerk, but it's nothing more than that. Last time I checked being a jerk isn't illegal.

    • @cameronhoward99
      @cameronhoward99 6 лет назад

      Correction - Someone's pronouns* in their presence...

  • @AlejandroRodriguez-wx4kb
    @AlejandroRodriguez-wx4kb 9 лет назад +5

    what if i just dont give 3 fucks?

    • @cAkasha
      @cAkasha 9 лет назад +1

      Alex Rodriguez Then you'll be called a transphobe or something.

    • @TheMCGamer2012
      @TheMCGamer2012 9 лет назад +1

      That's still 2 too many.

  • @keirorin
    @keirorin 9 лет назад +18

    I have a question for non-binary people, and I hope I don't sound ignorant! I would like to educate myself properly, and I hope you can help.
    If you use a language like Thai, where you end your sentences differently based on your gender ("ka" for women and "krap" for men), how do you speak? Or like in French, where words are spelt differently for men and women (new = "nouveau" for men and "nouvelle" for women)...
    Basically for languages with gender-specific grammar, what do you do?

    • @keirorin
      @keirorin 9 лет назад +2

      Actually this question is for anyone who prefers they-pronouns over he's or she's.

    • @keirorin
      @keirorin 9 лет назад +1

      ***** So if they are saying "They are new" then they would just use "Ils sont nouveaux"? Like in English?

    • @s.m7859
      @s.m7859 9 лет назад +8

      bee syrup Good question.
      In spanish we have the "-a" for females and "-o" for males.
      There are people that use "-e" as a gender neutral option (however it's not "official", huh)

    • @keirorin
      @keirorin 9 лет назад +4

      ***** I as wondering about Spanish too! That should be official, the "-e" sounds like a good option ^^

  • @tylersharp1377
    @tylersharp1377 9 месяцев назад +2

    Can't wait for the INEVITABLE Trans-Racial debate to Start! 😭🤣😁

  • @jasminethomas4734
    @jasminethomas4734 3 года назад +7

    Crazy

  • @evil_regal
    @evil_regal 9 лет назад +24

    We have so much issue with this and we're dealing with English, which hangs much less on gender then the other Western languages. German and French assign gender to EVERYTHING. Folks going through this deserve the same respect as anyone else. People going through this should not believe that everyone they encounter somehow know their very personal story. If they are getting called the "wrong" pronoun in general society, out and about, then they are doing a poor job as presenting as their chosen gender. That is on them. That does not mean those that very well know the person and are purposely using the "wrong" pronoun to make a statement, belittle the person, or in general be an ass. That is a different story altogether. There are parts of everyone that don't fit "polite" society's little box. Some of us have it a bit more out in the open then others. Don't expect every person you pass on the street to know enough about you individually to treat you perfectly. All they know about you is what they see, your preferences can't be seen. So like anyone, take care in how you present yourself, whether you're trans or not. A person's choices in how they present themselves goes a long way.

    • @cAkasha
      @cAkasha 9 лет назад +1

      Chantell Scherer Well said.

    • @killjoy811
      @killjoy811 9 лет назад +6

      Chantell Scherer Give all the people who cant afford feminine or masculine clothing, hormone treatments and surgery money then if you think they need to present themselves a certain way to get the same basic respect you do as a cisgendered individual.

    • @evil_regal
      @evil_regal 9 лет назад +3

      Most transgendered never go for the surgery, or hormone treatment. As far as money for clothes; everyone spends money on clothes, whether you by a dress for $35 or jeans and collared shirt for $35, it still $35, so that's a bad argument. The way a person does their hair costs nothing to very little. And makeup is variable by choice too. These things are choices that every person makes whether they are transgendered or not. Those that are transgendered just need a little more skill and practice to pull off the look they are going for. Most "pass" without medical intervention.

    • @segamai
      @segamai 9 лет назад +4

      Chantell Scherer The fact that you decide if they are worth being called the correct pronouns on wether they pass or not shows how incredibly ignorant you are. Being transgender is not validated on how much you pass for one gender OR the other, that's extremely limiting and erases many other people that are on the spectrum; non-op or pre-op people, hermaphrodites, genderqueer and genderfluid individuals, etc. You clearly didn't care about that when you watched the video either, because they showed more than one person who mentioned using multiple pronouns or "they".

    • @evil_regal
      @evil_regal 9 лет назад

      segamai spend your life looking for ways to hold others accountable for you instead of you living your life and working toward what you want to be. sounds like fun.

  • @SergeantMark
    @SergeantMark 7 лет назад +2

    I will decide myself whatever words I roll of my tongue

  • @KCM1
    @KCM1 8 лет назад +41

    I understand the he/she um they/them pronouns but when people tell me that their pronouns are like xia/plant or some weird tumblr shit. I'm not doing that and I'm not calling those people that.

    • @octopuss1918
      @octopuss1918 7 лет назад +9

      Eeyono
      Oh Shut up!

    • @jude4291
      @jude4291 7 лет назад +4

      Carly Kennedy I can guarantee you that no one seriously identified themselves as an object that isn't a gender.

    • @KCM1
      @KCM1 7 лет назад +1

      Trust me there is, this girl at my school would get mad at everyone because they wouldn't say her pronouns and it was "Xha". And she would start world war if anyone accidentally calls XHA by XHA wrong name or doesn't know

    • @jude4291
      @jude4291 7 лет назад +2

      Carly Kennedy I'm actually curious what she means when she identifies by that. What I'm kind of saying is when someone identifies as a toaster or something that is an obvious joke.

    • @aahpuuh
      @aahpuuh 7 лет назад +1

      Eeyono _the difference is obviously that it confuses ppl _*_sigh_*

  • @HelloThereIAmAlice
    @HelloThereIAmAlice 9 лет назад +11

    Thank you so much for making this video and understanding the importance of making it. My eyes reared up and I got chills. It's so important to listen to people and respect them.

  • @JustCallMeGreg0
    @JustCallMeGreg0 3 года назад +3

    Bill klacks

  • @davidap257
    @davidap257 4 года назад +9

    Mostly men dressing up as women.

  • @julianascimento1644
    @julianascimento1644 7 лет назад +2

    i always try to use the correct pronouns with people but i get really nervous when i dont know the person and i dont know what they identify as, like if they are in the process of transitioning i cant tell which would be the right one to use just by their looks

  • @OfficialJacksonFox
    @OfficialJacksonFox 9 лет назад +10

    Gender roles are a societal concept. They aren't real. Your voice does not change how you see yourself. And that's what makes you yourself, no one on the outside can ever truly know who you are. So if someone, regardless of how they look, speak, walk, or dress, feels to themselves a "he" or "she" or "them" then that's what I am going to refer to them as. It's not my job to dictate who a person is. But it is my job to respect who a person is. As someone who has been bullied and hurt by people who weren't aware of how they were bullying or hurting me, I go out of my way to become aware of how I can not only not hurt someone, but how I can make that person feel more accepted, more comfortable, and more loved.

    • @TheMCGamer2012
      @TheMCGamer2012 9 лет назад

      Great way to look at it.

    • @kevinfox298
      @kevinfox298 9 лет назад +1

      +Jack Montoya Exactly. Just because something is a social concept/construct doesn't mean it has no impact. Just because it's 'social' doesn't mean it's not 'real'. The economy is a social construct, yet it impacts everyone. University and higher education in general is a social construct, yet every day people are judged based on whether they had that opportunity or not. Race is a social construct, but the system of oppression known as racism still cuts people down every single day.
      Gender is a mish-mash of self concept and social concept, but whether you respect it or not has a huge real-life impact.

    • @CocaineDragon
      @CocaineDragon 6 лет назад

      Kevin Fox These social constructs gain power if you give them power.

    • @CocaineDragon
      @CocaineDragon 6 лет назад

      Lonley Q-tip Good. That means society can get around to calling me a girl, bro.

  • @antaresortelli2156
    @antaresortelli2156 7 лет назад +2

    I, as a non-binary trans person, never really get mad at people who mess up my pronouns, especially if they don't really know me. We should all be a little more patient and kind, I feel like one of the reasons why so many people are transphobic it's because they see as a bunch of people who get triggered for the smallest things. And by this I don't mean that you should be okay with people you know calling you with the wrong pronouns on purpose (those people are dicks, you should really let them out of your life), but I think we should all try to be more respectful towards one another.

  • @stormfur19
    @stormfur19 7 лет назад +4

    As a victim of rape, it is insulting that being misgendered at work would be sexual harassment. When I was early in transition I had managers who would misgender me often and I would NEVER call that sexual harassment.

  • @KewlDude123
    @KewlDude123 9 лет назад +1

    People always run towards respecting sexuality but lots of people choose not to respect peoples' faith, beliefs and backgrounds

  • @e.t.291
    @e.t.291 9 лет назад +4

    This is the first time I've had difficulties digesting the message behind these Cut videos.
    I'm not going to start asking every new person I meet about their preferred pronouns. Who knows if it's the 'how do you do' of the future, but right now it's such a new concept that people shouldn't be expected to ask that. Throwing a hissy fit over such 'disrespect' will only hurt the cause of these 'genderfluid' people. And wtf, misusing pronouns is sexual harassment? Really? More like innocent obliviousness or just stupidity at worst.

    • @mushroomking987
      @mushroomking987 9 лет назад

      Keikaku means plan what
      Is like asking someones name
      if you don't know a pronoun, no one is going to beat you or curse at you, but if you continue to use them, is harassment

    • @TheMCGamer2012
      @TheMCGamer2012 9 лет назад

      +Juliana Van Loving all people regardless of gender is a great idea.

    • @mushroomking987
      @mushroomking987 9 лет назад

      TheMCGamer2012 omg
      No it' isn't

    • @Hetaliae
      @Hetaliae 8 лет назад

      +ᛁᚼᛁ Hail Winter-chan ᛁᚼᛁ jw why are you trash?

  • @urbanaminoa
    @urbanaminoa 9 лет назад +1

    0:33 1:31 2:47 ... so much grace in these words.
    I really appreciate 0:51 1:05 and 2:22 pointing out that it's not always so simple. Retraining our brains to use they/them for non-binary gender from its more dominant plural use can cause some language-based hiccups. Thanks for staying patient, non-binaries :)

  • @ravenrazor1130
    @ravenrazor1130 8 лет назад +27

    I find it annoying if someone gets angry because a stranger used the wrong pronouns. The starbucks barista is going to call you he/she depending on how you look, you have no right to get defensive, you know?

    • @k.-flynn
      @k.-flynn 6 лет назад

      Raven Razor they put your name on Starbucks cups

    • @S.M.9
      @S.M.9 6 лет назад

      Raven Razor it’s okay to get upset cause it does hurt , but i agree i mean how are they supposed to know ?

  • @LindaZoheetik
    @LindaZoheetik 9 лет назад +1

    Is Aneesh, the second to last talent, also the producer of this clip? I noticed two Aneeshes in the description.

  • @opctpos.
    @opctpos. 2 года назад +4

    These people are truly self absorbed and ridiculous.

    • @larsswig912
      @larsswig912 Год назад +1

      especially that last idiot comparing "misgendering" to actual sex ual harrassment with that smug ass smile.
      "respect how you see me or how I see myself" lol. you're a man and everyone can tell. it's not "how I see you" it's your very obvious biological sex. and reality always trumps feelings.

  • @Anna-fh8eh
    @Anna-fh8eh 3 года назад +1

    Some support; for anyone The crisis lines are on google. Maybe search up the instructions to. The instructions for Canada: just text the word text or Text or TEXT I'm not sure which one. They are also on Quora (the phone numbers) if you search up something bad mental health related. They show up at the top if you click on the page from the website. Numbers that you can call are on google, as well as su1c1de prevention lines. Make sure it's the right one for your country.

  • @tierracaccitolo
    @tierracaccitolo 9 лет назад +16

    powerful. my favorite quote from this is "I don't stand myself in the leg with testosterone everyday for you to call me a she."

    • @daspiri6523
      @daspiri6523 3 года назад +2

      Until testosterone jabs changes your chromosomes to XY, you are still a she

    • @DeadEndScreamer
      @DeadEndScreamer 3 года назад +2

      So by that logic you're not allowed to call someone with diabetes a diabetic because he would inject himself with insulin every day, do you people ever think about the nonsense you're spouting.

    • @cockoffgewgle4993
      @cockoffgewgle4993 2 года назад

      He could put something else in the needle and then I'd happily call her a he-roin user.

  • @merrimentunderground4381
    @merrimentunderground4381 7 лет назад +3

    The person with the purple head wrap is just too great for me to ever possibly get over.

  • @MyUploadedLifeJD
    @MyUploadedLifeJD 9 лет назад +3

    I'm gonna share the crap out of this video.. The tears in their eyes are the tears in mine.. It's not easy being transgender.. Society can be so mean.. I'm happy that people are educating themselves and helping us feel normal.. We matter, we should all be equal. Thank you to whoever created this video.. I needed it, we needed it.

  • @ricardocastillo5485
    @ricardocastillo5485 4 года назад +1

    I'm not your enemy. I have no intention or desire to be your enemy, nor force you to adapt to my ways. May you live your life in peace your own way. But, I'm not converting to the culture and speech that you order me to. I'm just going to mind my own business and do my thing. So if you try to force me, you're making an enemy of someone who does not want to be enemies, that's on you.

  • @WeddingxPeach97
    @WeddingxPeach97 8 лет назад +1

    I have a question what if u don't know they're trans at all then how would you go about using correct pronouns because you don't just go up to someone and ask are u trans if you don't know right? Like u don't want to disrespect them but what if u just didn't know and don't know how to ask

    • @emerythul4531
      @emerythul4531 7 лет назад

      WeddingxPeach97 It's just like asking someone their name. If you asked me my pronouns, I wouldn't be offended. I generally find when I'm going about asking someone their pronouns, the only people who are offended are cis.

  • @eliaseb4715
    @eliaseb4715 8 лет назад +1

    Maybe it would be an idea to put the pronouns of the people in a videos about gender none conforming issues somewhere on the screen (and if it's just a teensy little note in a corner)

  • @ladyair23
    @ladyair23 9 лет назад +1

    I totally get the woman who said she doesn't like being called a "he" considering she definitely is a woman regardless of if she was born one or not.

  • @lennonshay4619
    @lennonshay4619 6 лет назад +3

    This video touches my soul.

  • @arneanka6777
    @arneanka6777 9 месяцев назад +1

    What i find amazing is how "People who use pronouns" think other people care about them. I can say that most of the people at a normal jobb don´t care about your prefered sex. They want a workday free of drama. Equality in work done. And fare pay. They DON´T want to hear about your sex and how discriminated you feel. All people have their own problems to deal with. I threat everyone the same at work. Whatever sex they have. Just get the job done. At my freetime i´ll just ignore your excistence. Becouse i don´t care.

  • @David-tf2wx
    @David-tf2wx 6 лет назад +6

    @3:04 "Identity, and you better get it right. In the workplace, people who persistently misgender you, are actually guilty of sexual harassment"
    Years ago, you could of called me an ally for the transgender community. But over the past few years, because of statements and ideas like this, I lost all support and care. Are you really going to claim sexual harassment towards someone because they didn't want to use YOUR pronouns? Seriously? People aren't always going to see things your way, the fact that you want to condemn and demonize people who don't use your pronouns and don't agree with you is absolutely appalling.

    • @YCHumanities
      @YCHumanities 3 года назад

      How many people agree with David and think her point is valid? Should she have to care if people misgender her or if she misgenders others? Should her allyship depend on making her not feel uncomfortable? Should she only consider herself an ally if there are no consequences when she chooses NOT to respect the pronouns of her coworkers?

  • @JoseHernandez-hb8vf
    @JoseHernandez-hb8vf 9 лет назад +2

    Its tough, coming from a lens of a straight male, to have the same wiggle room to mess up on pronouns as others. I remember when I was younger I would mess up a lot on pronouns, not intentionally but I just would. As I grew older I fixed the problem. However, I do recall getting my eyes rolled at and people getting super annoyed when I would mess up. I think it's important to understand that everyone is in different levels of grasping these concepts. Patience is key and being tolerant all around can help a ton.

  • @Jamie-ro6sx
    @Jamie-ro6sx 2 года назад

    The TN (Transgender and non binary) alliance corporation would approve of this video. Well done cut.

  • @indigojohnson6506
    @indigojohnson6506 9 лет назад +11

    0:54 Everyone is beautiful on this video, but I kind of have a crush on you the most. Lol

    • @lexa6434
      @lexa6434 6 лет назад

      JVY SLVRWD do u know who that person is?

  • @deanadema1329
    @deanadema1329 9 лет назад +1

    I honestly don't think real constructive discussion for the betterment of society can come out of a RUclips comments section. I mean in the end it seems like nobody is accepting of other points of view, no matter how they feel on the topic being discussed. If I hypothetically thought that taking the usage of pronouns and using that usage to assume what other people thought of your character or personality as a whole was an oversensitive or unrealistic point of view of others, no matter how I posted it in the comments there would be a line of people not just trying to debunk my own opinion but insult my knowledge or view of the world in the process. Even to this relatively unbiased comment I am sure there will be comments that will do the same. That's just my opinion.

    • @TheMCGamer2012
      @TheMCGamer2012 9 лет назад

      How dare you insult the RUclips gods! You should recognize the power of trampling over someone else's opinion and broadcasting your own! Loved the comment btw.

  • @CRatt-go3rv
    @CRatt-go3rv 2 года назад +5

    To hell with pronouns!

    • @terrificpage347
      @terrificpage347 Год назад

      Are we just getting rid of English features now

  • @clariceonline9757
    @clariceonline9757 Год назад

    What's most important is respecting, not honoring, people's reality. If you don't pass muster then you are requiring people to respond to your imaginary world. At work, when encountering sales people, or meeting people focusing on one thing (how they perceive) makes it difficult for everyone. We "honor" people when they have accomplished something, we respect people's boundaries but don't require them to enter into our unreality.

  • @Samuel115s
    @Samuel115s 8 лет назад +2

    if your pronouns are to confusing for me then I will just use your name as a pronoun. trans people are a SUPER minority so I probably won't encounter many anyway.

    • @Eeyono
      @Eeyono 7 лет назад

      A study done by Anne Fausto-Sterling estimated that hermaphrodites constitute 1.7% of the population, about as common as redheads. Obviously Trans people aren't hermaphrodites but with non-binary sex being as common as having red hair, then non-binary gender is probably just as common. Not everyone is out, you might already know someone who is trans/non-binary and it just hasn't come up.

    • @Samuel115s
      @Samuel115s 7 лет назад

      Eeyono I don't believe in none binary. That's a new concept. A few years ago that did not even exist.

    • @FemboyLevi
      @FemboyLevi 5 лет назад +1

      @@Samuel115s Pluto wasn't discovered until 1960, but it existed before
      so did being non binary
      fuck off kiddo

    • @arigrubaugh9172
      @arigrubaugh9172 3 года назад

      @@Samuel115s Actually, there have always been non-binary people. See listverse.com/2015/10/21/10-examples-of-nonbinary-genders-throughout-history/ and sites.psu.edu/evolutionofhumansexuality/2014/02/19/third-genders-new-concept-or-old/

  • @beatrixlivesey-stephens1892
    @beatrixlivesey-stephens1892 6 лет назад

    Where can I find the playlist used in all the one word videos?

  • @n3117n
    @n3117n 8 лет назад +7

    Where do they get all these people from?! Diverse in age, race and culture, wow well done👏

  • @-BananaLollipop-
    @-BananaLollipop- 9 лет назад +1

    Sexual harassment when referring to someone as the "wrong" gender?
    Even if the person does it knowingly it's still not sexual harassment.
    It's plain bullying at most.
    Some people need to get over themselves and stop trying to use big words/terms to label shit, especially when it's just to be in with all the current news/topics.

    • @TheMCGamer2012
      @TheMCGamer2012 9 лет назад

      Excuse me, but you just photosythesized my views with virtual predator assault. That was obviously a direct attack on my person.

  • @sierralvx
    @sierralvx 7 лет назад

    My word is reputation. I am genderfluid and I don't care what you call me, because I'm good with both, and it is honestly a good way to see what people think of you, and how they see you. That is what I want to know the most, what is your impression of me? What about me seems feminine, masculine? I think assigning one pronoun to yourself is limiting too, because you then box yourself in one way.

    • @cubanref9670
      @cubanref9670 Год назад

      When one delusion fails just invent another. 🤣😂

  • @willegard2
    @willegard2 9 лет назад +7

    Beautiful. Keep doing this. I love it, and I share it because of that reason.

  • @rheannamcgorm9003
    @rheannamcgorm9003 5 лет назад +2

    The man at the end is talking utter waffle

  • @claudialeschhorn
    @claudialeschhorn 9 лет назад

    i don't mean to sound rude, but yeah, it's that "simple" in english because it is such a simple language. we do not have "they" pronouns in spanish (also in french and probably many other languages). we don't even have "it" so cars, doors, windows, potatoes, EVERYTHING has a gender. everything is either he or she. so i can't just refer to you as "they" when i don't even have a word for it. we do have a word for "they" that refers to a group of people, also male and female (ellos/ellas). so yeah, it would break my heart if someone i knew identified as they and couldn't be referred to as they.

  • @CocaineDragon
    @CocaineDragon 6 лет назад +1

    I think pronoun... is calling me what I am. (Which is female and that's obvious to me.) On the other hand, it's definitely a little different, when someone calls you man or bro when you're masculine. I like being called she and by my (more standard name) female name. I don't identify as male and I usually don't but that's how people refer to me. It's nice when my brothers are calling me "honey" and referring to me as a woman but not when they use "my" male name right after.

  • @manystar
    @manystar 6 лет назад

    2 min in they say they don't care how they want to be called...at the end they say if u miss-gender them u are "sexually harassing them" evidently some people doesn't know what sexual harassment is...that´s a totally different issue. If anything is gender harassment (in case someone is miss-gendering another on purpose). The trans community seems diverse, but I only can imagine how they come for each others throats among the same community if everyone want a total different thing.

  • @averyjacobs9844
    @averyjacobs9844 9 лет назад +10

    This is strong. Love it

  • @tarynebrady
    @tarynebrady 7 лет назад +2

    1:13 they have amazing eyes

  • @gaslight.mp3
    @gaslight.mp3 7 лет назад

    As someone who doesn't care what pronoun people refer me to, when a person says "oh hello guys... And girl" it really pisses me off, like they're separating me from everyone else. We're all people.

    • @pricesymonej
      @pricesymonej 2 года назад

      girls are people too, if you didn't know

  • @tedpreston4155
    @tedpreston4155 Год назад

    I clicked on this video in an attempt to understand. I'm your natural ally: an open-minded cis-gendered person who has trans friends who want to change their pronouns. I came to youtube today and searched out this video because I want to honor his wishes and "respect his pronouns." But after watching the video, I still don't understand. I understand how important pronouns are, but I still don't understand, practically, how this new approach to our language works.
    Apparently there are rules surrounding this subject that are not obvious to me and likely to many of your other allies. Over the weekend, after going for a hike with a gender-fluid couple, I experienced an enraged tirade from my trans friend, whom I knew for fifteen years as a girl, and I've gladly known for the past three years as a boy, who wants me to use he/him pronouns. He came on that hike with a person he calls his boyfriend, who wishes to use they/them pronouns. I'm onboard, so far.
    I found myself wondering how to structure sentences while talking to them, and apparently I got something so wrong that it drove my friend into a rage. I still don't know what I said wrong, while trying to get it right. After being attacked, venomously, by a friend I was trying to honor, I'm left with mixed emotions. I suddenly don't feel like as big an ally as I was when our hike started. I'm left, sadly, with a better understanding of the hatemongers who refuse to adopt this change to gender pronouns at all.
    Here's a suggestion from an ally: teach us the rules. Create some kind of rules system, so that your allies can understand how to talk to you. If you go forward, trying to promote a system of speech that is different from the language our society has used for thousands of years, you won't succeed unless you can explain to your allies how it works. What you're asking us to do is not obvious. You're asking us to make a wholesale change to language that makes no sense in the context of the language rules we've been using for our entire lives. It's a big ask!
    Step one: think logically about the language system you want us to adopt. Step two: develop some rules you'd like your community to follow. Step three: teach that system of language rules to your allies. Step three: slowly build acceptance in the larger society, with allies on your side who can help you.
    If you insist on skipping any of the early steps, you won't succeed.
    If each individual has their own set of rules that don't follow any larger set of language rules, that individual is going to have a very hard time getting their unique set of rules adopted widely.
    I suggest that seriously, in solidarity and sincerity, and, at least for the moment, in utter confusion.

  • @eaglebreath5
    @eaglebreath5 9 лет назад +1

    I wish there were links so I could follow some of these cool people.

  • @Pickles_the_opossum
    @Pickles_the_opossum 9 лет назад +4

    this is so important

  • @nallekarkki87
    @nallekarkki87 8 лет назад

    We in finland don't have gender specific pronouns, we have one word which covers all human beings and it is "hän".

  • @workinggarlic
    @workinggarlic 3 года назад +4

    Half this comment section: supportive, wonderful, full of compliments and positivity
    The other half: rants that make 0 sense, uneducated people, typos, fun to laugh at

    • @sugonmad2402
      @sugonmad2402 Год назад

      Totally uneducated. Like literally the education about sociology is just lacking with them. And the rants never make sense, if you think about it for just a little bit.

    • @larsswig912
      @larsswig912 Год назад +1

      half of this comments section is braindead blind followers of this gender nonsense, the other half is the sane half which you're covering your eyes and ears and ignoring because you are so scared of your worldview being shaken.

  • @transitiondenial
    @transitiondenial 8 лет назад

    person at 2:14 looks like robert mapplethorpe

  • @emmastausholm
    @emmastausholm 9 лет назад +3

    love that you have gender non conformedive people i am a gnc my self and love to see it

  • @Dannyboyy86
    @Dannyboyy86 7 лет назад +1

    I live in Thailand and have some friends who are transsexuals... but they just dont make a big deal about it. But this is just so over dramatic! Its a hate crime if someone doesnt call you by a pronoun which you just made up?

    • @larsswig912
      @larsswig912 Год назад

      they think it's "literal violence".

  • @wonderlandnise
    @wonderlandnise 9 лет назад +10

    very powerful video :) thank you for making such amazing content!

  • @hannahbibby4
    @hannahbibby4 7 лет назад +4

    I really like the nonbinary person because I deeply relate to them and I see myself in them and it’s just so comforting to see someone like me :•)

  • @alliroma3383
    @alliroma3383 6 лет назад +3

    How is that sexual harassment?? 😂😂

  • @dianaquiroz4965
    @dianaquiroz4965 9 лет назад +7

    I love this! ❤

  • @LittleMissKristie22
    @LittleMissKristie22 9 лет назад

    what if I don't know? some of these trans people seem to give off the wrong vibe like it's your fault for not knowing what someone is going through even if you've never met, we all have slipped up saying the wrong thing and you just laugh and get over it.

  • @januslindgren
    @januslindgren 9 лет назад +31

    It's just too difficult to be a human nowadays...You have to pay attention to every iddy biddy detail ( like pronouns) or you'll be accused of doing/being something you're not. :DD

  • @AiikoRoka
    @AiikoRoka 9 лет назад +1

    imma ask smth far from the topic of the video but can anyone tell me what's the song/music played at the end of the video?

  • @Heritagepostfarms
    @Heritagepostfarms 9 лет назад +17

    These people are over reacting! If you look like a guy, im going to call you sir. Am i supposed to ask every single person "which pronoun do you prefer?" Grow up and stop being so sentitive

    • @oilandwine8
      @oilandwine8 7 лет назад +7

      The point I think they were trying to make: when in doubt, ask, don't assume.

    • @jacobboyett1715
      @jacobboyett1715 6 лет назад +2

      I call it like I see it and if corrected, I'll apologize and correct myself.

  • @juliewie2252
    @juliewie2252 7 лет назад +2

    Yes yes yes!!! Thx watchCUT and more power to you and all your generous and courageous participants. Much respect from Berlin, Germany!

  • @mattysouth1640
    @mattysouth1640 4 года назад +3

    1:25 what’s her instagram she’s really hot

  • @brooklynnmiller4984
    @brooklynnmiller4984 7 лет назад +1

    What if they don't look like the gender they want to be, so I call them the opposite pronoun? Am I really the bad guy?

    • @mateopeltier767
      @mateopeltier767 4 года назад

      You definitely didn’t understand the video

  • @Janine466
    @Janine466 8 лет назад +5

    Your proper pronoun is determined at birth. can't change that end of story.

  • @brominebarium4709
    @brominebarium4709 2 года назад

    0:24 gillian from jessica jones!

  • @nicoforlife7385
    @nicoforlife7385 5 лет назад +1

    Identity thats mine

  • @FemboyLevi
    @FemboyLevi 5 лет назад +3

    these comments are disgusting and of course transphobia won't get deleted ...

  • @lloplop
    @lloplop 9 лет назад

    Ok so I am doing my best to learn and try to be respectful to people. The person at 1:29 really made feel like certain types of people are just crazy. By crazy, I mean irrational, confused, illogical, not really thinking in terms of what makes in reality, etc. Do you hear what this person says?? Perhaps it is bad editing, but I dont see why that is even in this video, which seems like a basic 101 for people who are trying to learn. Then we get someone who says, gender me in a way that resonates in that moment???????? YEAH really helpful. Holy shit that is so profoundly idiotic. if anyone knew a person so well that they could do such a thing, I do think they would need this video, so why is something so confusing even here, just to scare people away? We should be smart about such radical changes, not say hey lets waste time and say impossible things. yea, we will all gender you by what resonates with you in the moment! I am just speechless

  • @BobSmith-un5mw
    @BobSmith-un5mw 3 года назад +1

    The last person is ridiculous.

  • @rorymcgrath4282
    @rorymcgrath4282 7 лет назад +2

    Only 90s kids will remember simpler times when the only time you would question someone's pronouns was on Xbox when a squeaker joined your COD lobby.

  • @anikaturchan5046
    @anikaturchan5046 9 лет назад +1

    they are amazing and beautiful

  • @chrisguraliuc
    @chrisguraliuc 2 года назад +2

    LOL does that mean I can identify as a Xbox or anything or maybe today I'm feeling like a PlayStation or Nintendo switch cuz I love gaming so now I identify as consoles does that make any sense no not really you get my point

    • @sugonmad2402
      @sugonmad2402 Год назад

      Yeah, it doesn't. These are inanimate things not complex social systems through which a lot of your lived experience gets influenced. If you think about it even one bit, you start to notice how lackluster the comparison is.

  • @mckennapipher
    @mckennapipher 9 лет назад +4

    Thank you for the Nonbinary representation.

  • @nonyabiz4138
    @nonyabiz4138 Год назад

    Lol ok so men going in the women’s room isn’t sexual harassment but calling him a man is 💀

  • @Ceedaguy98
    @Ceedaguy98 9 лет назад +38

    Man i cant tell if they are guys or girls... it scares me

    • @thatthingyouseeatthecorner5249
      @thatthingyouseeatthecorner5249 9 лет назад +5

      Try looking for an Adam's apple , big jawline, and body shape for born men and no Adam's apple , curvy shape for born women.

    • @s.m7859
      @s.m7859 9 лет назад +27

      Batman why? I don't understand.
      BTW, not all of them are boys or girls, there're non-binary people too.

    • @Ceedaguy98
      @Ceedaguy98 9 лет назад

      ***** Whats non-binary?

    • @s.m7859
      @s.m7859 9 лет назад +5

      Batman People who don't identify themselves as female or male. For example, there are people that identify as "agender".

    • @thatthingyouseeatthecorner5249
      @thatthingyouseeatthecorner5249 9 лет назад +3

      *****
      I identify as no race , age, or sex.