Colin Powell: Kids need structure | TED

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  • @DavidGitongawriter
    @DavidGitongawriter 11 лет назад +88

    "It's not where you start in life, its what you do with life, that determines where you end up in life" - Colin Powell

    • @mordecaiben-gurion1199
      @mordecaiben-gurion1199 Год назад

      Great quote indeed.

    • @veeherreraJanecka
      @veeherreraJanecka Год назад +2

      Some can never quite overcome their dysfunctional childhoods. So sad. But so wonderful and inspiring to see those who take a dysfunctional childhood and are able to overcome and even use it to heal others.

  • @ScarboroughFair68
    @ScarboroughFair68 11 лет назад +13

    I love his message. We all excel with structure. Even creative types. If kids don't learn it while they are young it's harder for them to learn how to create their own structure. The goal isn't structure to join the military. The goal is to teach them structure while they are young so that they can create their own structure to help them accomplish their goals whatever they me. Artist. Engineer. Cook. Farmer. Scientist. Writer. Structure takes what we want to the next level.

  • @fodaykamara7566
    @fodaykamara7566 3 года назад +31

    I'll forever be grateful to you for this Ted Talk. May the lord have mercy on your soul. Rest in peace, General Colin Powell 😭😭😭

    • @denigroz
      @denigroz 3 года назад +4

      He said all the right things! May he rest in peace

    • @808INFantry11X
      @808INFantry11X 3 года назад +3

      @@denigroz he lived a life trying to be true to those beliefs that's even harder to do. RIP

    • @nayrtnartsipacify
      @nayrtnartsipacify 3 года назад +1

      Do you know anything about him? Do you know about my lai? Were you alive in the early 2000s?

    • @hectorrivero2173
      @hectorrivero2173 2 года назад +1

      Oh no he died

    • @smokepurp5614
      @smokepurp5614 Год назад

      He belonged on a war crimes tribunal

  • @astutikfitri
    @astutikfitri 11 лет назад +3

    I like he says of Quotes " Always be looking for that what you do well and which you love doing and when you find those two things together"...man , you got it.

  • @tchuwe
    @tchuwe 3 года назад +16

    came back to watch this again as I learned of his passing, Legends never die.

    • @nayrtnartsipacify
      @nayrtnartsipacify 3 года назад +10

      You need some better heros

    • @edmondparkins1861
      @edmondparkins1861 2 года назад

      @@nayrtnartsipacify REALLY??

    • @chestierre8785
      @chestierre8785 2 года назад

      @@edmondparkins1861 yes, his speech killed millions of people.

    • @edmondparkins1861
      @edmondparkins1861 2 года назад

      @@chestierre8785 Which he regretted for the rest of his life! If you all have nothing good to say don't say Anything😤💢 Colin Powell was a profile of good character. Donald trump is a profile of evil and cowardice!

    • @intello8953
      @intello8953 Год назад

      @@edmondparkins1861 yup

  • @Bracchus100
    @Bracchus100 11 лет назад +9

    They don't have to be the same, but that is a need for structure in all of them. That structure is what provides us with a functioning society. All drivers are not the same. but they all adhere to basic traffic rules. We all wear clothes when we go out, etc. Nothing wrong with structure.

  • @andy4an
    @andy4an 11 лет назад +1

    Structure is important for developing leaders. Good leaders are such because they know how to follow. Someone who knows how to follow will not go on power trips or make unreasonable demands.

  • @8888stealth
    @8888stealth 11 лет назад +1

    I wonder if people would still dislike this video if Colin Powell didn't be the spokes person, but someone else did with the exact same wording. The video is about giving kids guidance in there life so they can set their future straight. Not about fucking war, if we educated our kids the right way and gave them what they needed to be successful. I'll bet a million bucks this world wouldn't be in the shit whole it currently inhabits. Education is where it all starts to change that.

  • @lilliangraham9850
    @lilliangraham9850 6 лет назад +18

    kids need structure when their younger however when they get older,they need guidence ,they need encouragement ,they need someone to believe in them

  • @aximute
    @aximute Месяц назад

    You will not be forgotten for obscure reason.

  • @saadasim
    @saadasim 11 лет назад

    Children need more than 1 parent. They need both the mother and the father.

  • @thebermudaI
    @thebermudaI 11 лет назад +4

    (cont.) I’m now a high school senior and have earned perfect 800s on the Reading and Writing sections of the SAT. I consider writing to be my foremost skill, and I am not ashamed to say that I grew up with minimal structure. I had to make my own structure, and this instilled in me an independence and sense of responsibility that Powell’s prescribed program discourages. I would argue for less structure - treat children like “little adults” - not less.

  • @JovannyARodriguez
    @JovannyARodriguez 11 лет назад +4

    There are “times” ... There are “moments” that my 8 years old daughter cries and say that I am tough. But, before the end of the day, on “that” day, she always end up coming (out of the blue) to me, giving me a real Daddy love hug, and saying, “Daddy I love you” … I can publicly say that I have never given, and I will never give my daughter what she wants. But I can also say: that I have always given, and I (only) will always give to her what she needs. jar

  • @jamesmamadi9407
    @jamesmamadi9407 3 года назад +2

    From the time l knew that great, Nobel man l adored his wisdom with everything he did. Admired him so much that I have a son with his name. RIP.

  • @misterx008
    @misterx008 11 лет назад +9

    The Main message is that the good education & development of children starts at home. That kids need structure. There is no disputing this, this is fact.
    Great talk.

  • @DeboraBang
    @DeboraBang 11 лет назад

    "This is not a feeling. I'm a lawyer, I don't believe in feelings. This is not a philosophy. I'm an American, I don't believe in philosophy. This is the FACT, or as they say in my hometown, Washington D.C., a true fact." Ingenious.

  • @RobinNandi
    @RobinNandi 11 лет назад +1

    Kids do need structure and discipline and to feel they have a place in the world, but should not be brought up to accept authority blindly. They need to learn to think for themselves. Your self-confidence comes from your knowledge of your own ability. Not from wrongly believing you can be anything you want to be, but from knowing what you can achieve, what your limits are and how you can improve.

  • @2014kaydee
    @2014kaydee 11 лет назад +2

    I think a lot of people are focusing on the militaristic aspect of the speech seeing as a way to indirectly encourage service, but I think its appropriate that he used this example due to his life experience. It seemed to me to only be an analogy for the bigger picture of structure for children. I grew up in a household of 50/50. The most important things were handled in a structured manner academia, behavioral problems etc. but we had freedom when it came to fostering our interests and hobbies.

  • @evillizard007007
    @evillizard007007 11 лет назад

    This TEDTalk has a very good point. The US does need more structure. In Switzerland, most men are mandated to go to military for a short period after the age of 18. It is very clear that in general they are more educated, have more character and are more civilized in society.

  • @teflondon9654
    @teflondon9654 Год назад +1

    This man has so much blood on his hands.

  • @sanketponia9570
    @sanketponia9570 11 лет назад +1

    1. Structure means support and kids need that.
    2. He's not an intellectual but his heart knows.
    Respect his intentions, Be proud to be in America.
    Love from India.

  • @DuracellvsUrMom
    @DuracellvsUrMom 11 лет назад

    passion is not simply enjoyment but rather the goal of that persons character, kids need empowerment nothing else.

  • @MoPoppins
    @MoPoppins 11 лет назад

    He's addressing kids who grow up in chaos, and many times, there's no one to tell them to do their homework, be organized, disciplined, etc., so they develop really bad habits. If they aren't reached early enough, the chances that they'd ever become "productive citizens" are pretty slim....there's a high probability that they wouldn't develop the necessary skills to hold down a "regular" job, because their education comes from the streets.

  • @dominickukla
    @dominickukla 7 лет назад +2

    I don't need to agree with everything a person has ever done to recognize the truth in what they say. Also, what they say does not have to (rather, can't) be the whole truth.
    So I am against the wars, and I believe that kids need a lot more than structure- and I also thought this was a very good talk.

  • @kyoodonglee9189
    @kyoodonglee9189 3 года назад +1

    May his soul rest in peace... You are in our hearts. ㅠ.ㅠ

  • @x_july_o
    @x_july_o 11 лет назад +3

    "It aint where you start in life, its what you do in life that determines where you end up in life."
    -Colin Powell

  • @Martial-Mat
    @Martial-Mat 11 лет назад +4

    Yes, I agree totally with your assessment. Unfortunately, these things seems to be applied on a continuous pendulum, and right now we are waaaay too far over onto the nurture without structure side. It's all touchy feely and kid's rights, without worrying about society's rights to have socially well adapted kids in it, who do not have a massive sense of entitlement.

  • @veeherreraJanecka
    @veeherreraJanecka Год назад +1

    God bless you Colin, Sir

  • @TybaltKaine
    @TybaltKaine 11 лет назад

    Remember when he talks about finding ROTC? That is an example of self actualization. He encourages children to find what they enjoy and what they are doing and explore it. The statement he makes 'None of that self actualization' is meant more as an example of the state of mind his parents had, not necessarily his own.

  • @โมบายโมบาย-ฐ8ผ

    Real beauty lies not in the physical appearance , but in the heart.Real treasure lies not in what that can be sean but what that cannot be seen.Real love lies not in what is done and known,but in what that is done but not know.🧤☮️

  • @DuracellvsUrMom
    @DuracellvsUrMom 11 лет назад

    Empowerment to me is giving someone the ability to make decisions that may benefit them or hurt them, not necessarily to the point of complete freedom, but rather so that they are not just an attachment of their parents.

  • @carlmonson1450
    @carlmonson1450 2 года назад

    Just excellent. Stopping the draft of young men cost a great deal more than keeping it. We continue to pray a terrible price.

  • @aarongrooves
    @aarongrooves 11 лет назад +7

    Colin Powell: "Kids need structure. Let's turn them into robots."
    Me: "Adults who lie to international communities to initiate wars that lead to mass destruction and loss of life need to be punished. And kids need to learn how to think, not follow orders blindly."

  • @lsynno
    @lsynno 11 лет назад +3

    I agree entirely I had a very disciplined childhood and its proved invaluable.

  • @1xDRCx
    @1xDRCx 11 лет назад

    Hierarchy isn't the lack of equality, It is a system of chain of command, which exists in all aspects of life. Rebellion doesn't allow freethinking to occur, it clouds your judgment in angst towards society and causes people to make choices simply to rebel, rather than what is actually best for themselves or their country. Freethinking only occurs in times of peace and prosperity, rebellion upsets the balance, starts wars, and rarely ends well for either side.

  • @kjzkitchen7001
    @kjzkitchen7001 3 года назад +1

    Thank you 🙏🏾 General Colin Powell! Your memory is Blessed 😇

  • @WarynAbi
    @WarynAbi 3 года назад +1

    Thank you for your contribution Gen

  • @gardbjj24
    @gardbjj24 3 года назад

    My "Boss" when I Commanded a Battalion in V Corps USAREUR. A great Leader, individual and American. " RIP Sir"

  • @arngorf
    @arngorf 11 лет назад +1

    Even though how unpopular this talk is, I really do think he's right. This is not "instilling a sense of shame" or "fear" for that matter. This is given kids the safety of getting told what to do. We have gone too far down the road of "do whatever you like" effectively making kids get their own ideas of what to do, which they cannot not do at that age. The millitary protocal may be too hard, I dont know, but alot more sturcture is needed.

  • @Seg1nus
    @Seg1nus 11 лет назад

    Like/Dislike ratio is a good indicator for the accuracy of this information. Yes, kids need structure, but 160 years of educational and behavioral psychology say they also need to have opportunities to play and explore freely. He does say that his thesis, "kids need structure," comes from his time in the military, not his time as an educational professional or psychologist. This needs to be taken with a grain of salt as well as a healthy dose of peer reviewed info on childhood development.

  • @elenachistyakova1913
    @elenachistyakova1913 6 месяцев назад

    The general mix together three things: structure, rhythm and uniformity. The two first things are good and create excellence. The last one is bad and create aggression.

  • @Raziel_Knight
    @Raziel_Knight 11 лет назад

    The training we receive in the military is to prepare us to deal with the type of structure that is the military community. It trains and teaches compliance without question, and as adults we can understand how and when to apply it in our own lives, but children can't do this. As a society we should NEVER want our people to be raised to think questioning authority is bad or that there aren't nuances to problems instead of the black and white he's proposing.

  • @octavoch
    @octavoch 11 лет назад

    I agree with you completely we have to hear everyone, even if we don't agree with everything they say.

  • @slugfly
    @slugfly 11 лет назад +5

    This is great. I have the same gut reactions as some others I think - but accept that war is his culture and hear THROUGH his military jargon and slants. Here there be pearls.

    • @PlaceboPlease
      @PlaceboPlease 4 года назад

      Insightful. I have to agree. Colin Powell id say has overall been a force for good.. However he is clearly skewed to his own perspective (as most of us are).

  • @3lit3gn0m3
    @3lit3gn0m3 11 лет назад

    Very, very interesting how he mentions children falling behind, and acting it out. It's really how it all begins. Again, I disagree with the rigidity, and the specific aspect of what he's saying, but the message behind it is 100% what this generation needs. (I'm posting comments as i watch it. they rarely fit into one comment box.)

  • @3lit3gn0m3
    @3lit3gn0m3 11 лет назад +9

    I love how he explains when learning begins. So important, but people tend to dismiss children as dumb lumps of poop. Yes, they poop...just like you. But they are doing the most intelligent thing a human can do: learn. Such a simple concept is hard for most people to realize, and it saddens me.

    • @jamesbedukodjograham5508
      @jamesbedukodjograham5508 3 года назад

      No matter how old we get we still keep Elements of Childhood with us.
      This means we ought to be humble and learn from our Environment.
      Computers will not solve all of our Problems even in Ghana and other parts of the World.

    • @jamesbedukodjograham5508
      @jamesbedukodjograham5508 3 года назад

      It accounts for the low grades within our system.

  • @GigaBoost
    @GigaBoost 11 лет назад

    Children should all be dressed up in uniforms and crew cuts and told what to do is the essence of this speech, disagreeing with that doesn't mean "you think children should be allowed to do whatever they want without limits"

  • @wes2469
    @wes2469 11 лет назад

    "The freed human mind" is what led to our defficit. Colin Powell may be taking his point to the extreme, but his principles are solid. Kids need strong structure in their life in order to be successful. Thats why so many of our kids today are getting fatter and lazier than ever playing all the video games and eating all the crap they want, Because their parents just want them to be "free". Its all about balance.

  • @jetpaq
    @jetpaq 11 лет назад

    I think What colin said was correct. Kids do in fact need structure. Without it they become self concious and insecure, because they never really know where they stand. If you lay out the boundaries clearly, from any age 1 and up, children are capable of fantastic development. Parenting is something that has to be observed to be understood. If hollywood spent half their time making movies illustrating good parenting, even as a back story, humanity would benefit greatly.

  • @OdeMelody
    @OdeMelody 11 лет назад

    You keep enforcing it... you keep kick'n their ass (not literally). You make it hard for them when they're kids to make the rest of their life easily. You create the idea of fulfillment from hard work and the want to become fulfilled. You show them the path through the structure... even if they hate it.

  • @shafaa1
    @shafaa1 3 года назад +5

    General Powell… your message is timeless.

    • @bouchtaab8281
      @bouchtaab8281 2 года назад +4

      And his crime is timeless, too. Because of his lies, Iraq was devastated. You're admiring a monster and war criminal.

  • @Outermainstream
    @Outermainstream 11 лет назад

    What he is saying here makes perfect sense. So what if he had to make difficult, and very wrong decisions? It doesn't matter and it has nothing to do with the lecture.
    Children, especially boys need structure. I see so many teens and children acting crazy and often I wanted to kick their ass for being stupid. Children need parents and schools to properly train and teach them for the real world. BOTH are needed to get maximum results. You guys need to chill the fuck out and learn something.

  • @MrCattlehunter
    @MrCattlehunter 11 лет назад

    If you ask me, thoughtless opposition to structure/authority is no better than thoughtless adherence to it.
    I think too many people are forgetting that it's the structure provided by our centuries old insitutionz that's keeping us from going back to the dark ages again. They should perhaps not be "idolized", but they deserve recognition and respect for what they are, and for not being the many worse things that they could very easily have been, not to be one-sidedly demonized as the default.

  • @infodwheels623
    @infodwheels623 3 года назад

    Jamaican heritage and we respect colin Powell down here.

  • @swirlcrop
    @swirlcrop 3 года назад

    Very good talk. He´s a good speaker and statesmen.

  • @SoloSalinas
    @SoloSalinas 11 лет назад +5

    This guy just loves power.

    • @razorfox3968
      @razorfox3968 4 года назад +1

      How?

    • @denno3124
      @denno3124 3 года назад

      You clearly know very little about this man.

    • @cgreen2984
      @cgreen2984 5 месяцев назад

      ⁉️⁉️

  • @Mikehoffmanart
    @Mikehoffmanart 11 лет назад

    Another word for "structure" is "limits", and no one has any right to impose those on anyone else. Humans are limitless beings. The kindest way to teach is not through shame or guilt but by example.

  • @SunYunJason
    @SunYunJason 11 лет назад

    the best structure you can give to your child is nutritional, spiritual and physical exercise.

  • @averygirl8350
    @averygirl8350 8 лет назад +16

    Encouragement, structure, good teaching, equal opportunity, all help. God illuminate our darkness in Jesus Name . Amen.

  • @33adamsharpe
    @33adamsharpe 11 лет назад

    I don't agree with his training methodology, but I believe in his values

  • @guyneo
    @guyneo 11 лет назад

    There is NO such thing as 100 % error free. He is a great man with some major mistakes. But he has so much to offer. He has gone through many years of hardship and has done excellent well. To me, he is still a HERO. Yes, I am very angry for his role in the Iraq War. But, please don't allow the angry to prevent us from learning from his impressive man. That's my two cents worth of opinion.

  • @ToddLeVeck
    @ToddLeVeck 7 лет назад +6

    I agree with just about everything that General Powell says in this video, however I don't think it's an easy sell for people who have not been in the military. Those of us who have know that he's spot-on with his observations.

    • @PlaceboPlease
      @PlaceboPlease 4 года назад

      Like everything else in life, its a balance. Chaos and order

    • @robynhogle2435
      @robynhogle2435 3 года назад +1

      The military is not for everyone. That's okay.

  • @BrookeWeers
    @BrookeWeers 11 лет назад +1

    Most of us favor likability over ability.

  • @ZDA88
    @ZDA88 11 лет назад +1

    I'm glad my parents gave me the gift.

  • @TudorWines
    @TudorWines 11 лет назад

    Dalai Lama -
    "We have to think and see how we can fundamentally change our education system so that we can train people to develop warm-heartedness early on in order to create a healthier society. I don’t mean we need to change the whole system, just improve it. We need to encourage an understanding that inner peace comes from relying on human values like, love, compassion, tolerance and honesty, and that peace in the world relies on individuals finding inner peace."

  • @SamWise050
    @SamWise050 11 лет назад

    I don't understand either. Sure not everyone sees eye to eye with Powell, but he does have a lot of experience and a lot to say that people might find insightful. I do like the idea of giving kids more structure in school. Teaching them to learn for themselves and be more independent rather than riding their parent's coat tails, which is alright to an extent. Just my thoughts

  • @HandballNinja
    @HandballNinja 11 лет назад

    Kids need the polar opposite of what was talked about in this video.

  • @flokat300
    @flokat300 11 лет назад

    I watched this last night was very good..kids are not what they use to be. ..there should be many likes.

  • @robinhansen8105
    @robinhansen8105 10 лет назад +4

    I agree with this. Kids can't grow up in chaos.

    • @veeherreraJanecka
      @veeherreraJanecka Год назад

      They can’t develop healthiest in chaos. I was raised in chaos, and it took me decades to undo much of that. I’m still working on developing my confidence. I managed to earn a Bachelor s degree , but it didn’t fix my low self confidence.

  • @pukasmom
    @pukasmom 11 лет назад

    But he is RIGHT,KIDS NEED STRUCTURE,our first priority in this country should be OUR KIDS! They are the future of the USA

  • @rt36crazyfists
    @rt36crazyfists 11 лет назад

    Ideas for better TED talks: 1) kids need less structure 2) kids need room for creativity, 3) why you shouldn't eat hot dogs

  • @KemaTheAtheist
    @KemaTheAtheist 11 лет назад

    Structure does not require a drill Sargent. For me, it was not playing with friends until homework was done, regular bed time, have to participate in 2 seasons of sports per year, daily chores, encouraged school above sports, etc...
    Of the 5 kids in my family, 3 have Master's, 2 have Bachelor's. We all have successful careers, and we're all free thinkers. The level of structure for kids is only fit for turning them into sheep.

  • @Martial-Mat
    @Martial-Mat 11 лет назад +1

    Agree with your point about Japan, and even to an extent about kids' freedom to express themselves, but there is no doubt that kids thrive under reasonable boundaries and in a structured environment, just as adults do.

  • @jaketheultimate
    @jaketheultimate 11 лет назад

    I think that was a slip up where he meant to mention that they came from less-than ideal backgrounds or areas. Additionally, he did say "almost", and did clear it up by saying that most came from one-parent homes.

  • @hectorrivero2173
    @hectorrivero2173 2 года назад

    This is one of the best Ted talks

  • @RollingHousesUK
    @RollingHousesUK 11 лет назад +1

    soldiers need structure. Kids need rhythm, love and to be allowed the space to become themselves.

  • @MarkusErnstenProfile
    @MarkusErnstenProfile 11 лет назад

    That's the truth of a lifelong military person. In case you don't want kids finding their own ways in life, to line them up strictly behind a certain belief or person you must put them in structure right from their birth. BUT if you want curious people, questioning what's happening in this world, being adventurous and developing their own ideas and opinions then PLEASE reduce the level of structure to what is necessary to be a GOOD HUMAN BEING.

  • @amunneheh
    @amunneheh 11 лет назад +3

    The most inspirational part of this youtube video are the comments about how much of a terrible talk it is.
    In my experience I have gained huge amounts of inspiration from every TED talk I have seen, Colin Powell proves being the exception to the rule.

  • @3lit3gn0m3
    @3lit3gn0m3 11 лет назад

    Finally finished. Good message overall...perhaps he is a tiny bit self important, but if you can get behind what he's actually saying, it was a very good speech.
    With how the internet community is nowadays, I'm not surprised so many people dislike this. There are parts I didn't like, but as I said, the overall message rang pretty clear.
    Spend more time with your children. Be their leader, because that's what children need. not a dictator or a master, but a parent and a mentor.

  • @metalbirdie
    @metalbirdie 11 лет назад

    The war ciminal talks about how to raise kids and people clap before he starts....fucking brilliant.

  • @ทิพวรรณ์รุจิรดาธนนันท์

    I think highly of most people .I don't want to see you work hard like this,General, Let's call it a day.

  • @Betterliving24
    @Betterliving24 11 лет назад

    I don't necessarily agree with everything he said but I do definitely believe that kids need some structure.

  • @YianniGaliatsatos
    @YianniGaliatsatos 11 лет назад

    His message to kids is the same as the message Mewtwo gives in the first Pokemon Movie

  • @robertpinto9217
    @robertpinto9217 4 года назад +1

    Colin Powell would have made a great president.

  • @UrbanSipfly
    @UrbanSipfly 8 лет назад +1

    What is structure? Who is responsible for teaching or instructing structure? Why is structure necessary? What if one does not have structure? Can one teach structure with guaranteed desired results? When is structured best taught and learned?

  • @1xDRCx
    @1xDRCx 11 лет назад

    Kids should have structure, that's not propaganda. So from your comment I can infer that you think children should be allowed to do whatever they want without limits. Don't let your opinion of another person cloud your judgement. He has made decisions you don't agree with, but he was the secretary of state, and had a complete knowledge of what was going on when he made those decisions. For all you know, you would have made the same choices if you knew what he did.

  • @kakashi76767
    @kakashi76767 11 лет назад +13

    "When you have great power you have great responsibility". Yeah I have seen spider man also.

  • @Outermainstream
    @Outermainstream 11 лет назад

    The world outside the comfort of home and school.

  • @ricksalt6860
    @ricksalt6860 11 лет назад

    Should be end of discussion . well put.
    I agree .

  • @vuanitahaslam5406
    @vuanitahaslam5406 7 лет назад +2

    I believe in structure they will be responsible respectful adults

    • @PlaceboPlease
      @PlaceboPlease 4 года назад

      But for kids to have structure the adults need to have it first..

  • @cohan000
    @cohan000 11 лет назад

    TED stands for Technology, Entertainment and Design. So no, it's not mainly presented by people of science, as you say.

  • @kevinhealey6540
    @kevinhealey6540 2 года назад +1

    Real nice guy. I wrote him a letter and he wrote back.

  • @MissMuffinToYou
    @MissMuffinToYou 10 лет назад +13

    You can dislike this all you want, but every kid i know with pushover, "new parenting" parents is a druggie with no motivation or respect, and every kid with tough parents is smart, happy, and respectful

    • @wolfeye3667
      @wolfeye3667 10 лет назад +4

      Wrong, missmuffintoyou. No two parenting situation are precisely the same, no two kids are precisely the same. There is no one-size-fits-all about how parenting should be like, "tough" or "soft". Tough love can work well on some kids, but will backfire and make kids worse in other cases. Tough parents can produce a great kid in one case, but can produce rebels and gangster in other case. Only the foolish think otherwise.

    • @forty_onkick
      @forty_onkick 6 лет назад

      Kristen lmao.

  • @downeybill
    @downeybill 11 лет назад

    This does NOT disagree with Ken Robinson, creativity and structure: the one cannot exist without the other!

  • @TheWiseoldchild
    @TheWiseoldchild 11 лет назад

    He is not advocating that you should shout at you children like a drill sergeant. Colin Powell is saying kids need structure and a good start. Kids need to be taught how to read at an early age. He not saying that all children should join the army. He talking structure like making sure your kids read after school, do their homework, and don't get mixed in with the wrong crowd.
    I don't know why so many people gave thumbs down.

  • @georgecataloni4720
    @georgecataloni4720 11 лет назад +1

    You have experience with structure; I have experience with both. One parent had orders which could not be questioned. The other had orders which were always explained, but mostly it was advice (not mandatory obedience). I was always determined to defy the athoritative parent, but never did I defy the other. Then there were times when they said the same thing, which tore me apart inside. This tells me that structure means nothing, its logic. Makes sense to me because kids are always asking "why?"

    • @eche1492
      @eche1492 Год назад

      Yea, but who are you?

    • @georgecataloni4720
      @georgecataloni4720 Год назад

      @@eche1492 It sounds like you're asking if I am an authority on the subject, which requires having the answer to use to trust the answer. That's circular reasoning.

  • @angelfreakz
    @angelfreakz 11 лет назад

    We already have structure. Human, instinctive, organic structure that doesn't need to be trampled by ex-military men.

  • @mildlyacidic
    @mildlyacidic 11 лет назад

    From personal experience of being a valedictorian, I can say that this man is right. It saddens me to read the comments because most of your are basing your arguments on a fallacious ad homonym basis.

  • @tigonridge
    @tigonridge 11 лет назад

    I definitely agree with you that a reasonably structured environment benefits the person. However, when we allow structure to become too rigid and domineering, we arrive at an authoritarian environment. "Structure," the masculine principle, has to be balanced with "nurture," the feminine principle. Without this balance, a society either becomes cold and robotic (structure w/o nurture), or lazy and vain (nurture w/o structure).

  • @puupipo
    @puupipo 11 лет назад

    Exactly. If we only listened to our idols and people who we agree with we could never move forward as a society and as individuals. It is so easy nowadays, especially on the internet, to filter out everything that does not fit your opinions and worldview, so it's great that TED doesn't "choose sides" but rather stays in the middle and makes people question their own opinions and beliefs.