Colin Powell: Kids need structure | TED
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- Опубликовано: 22 янв 2013
- How can you help kids get a good start? In this heartfelt and personal talk, Colin Powell, the former U.S. Secretary of State, asks parents, friends and relatives to support children from before they even get to primary school, through community and a strong sense of responsibility. (Filmed at TEDxMidAtlantic.)
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Rest in peace, General. Thank you, thank you very much.
This guy was a monster
Hey didn't do anything wrong! He said a few times he was playing a game with kids. Not a monster Stop your judging your perfect. He has 3 grown kids who adore him. I believe also kids need structure. In daycare over 27 yrs kids need parents who got involved in their education. He makes a lot of sense.
Not perfect
"It's not where you start in life, its what you do with life, that determines where you end up in life" - Colin Powell
Great quote indeed.
Some can never quite overcome their dysfunctional childhoods. So sad. But so wonderful and inspiring to see those who take a dysfunctional childhood and are able to overcome and even use it to heal others.
came back to watch this again as I learned of his passing, Legends never die.
You need some better heros
@@nayrtnartsipacify REALLY??
@@edmondparkins1861 yes, his speech killed millions of people.
@@chestierre8785 Which he regretted for the rest of his life! If you all have nothing good to say don't say Anything😤💢 Colin Powell was a profile of good character. Donald trump is a profile of evil and cowardice!
@@edmondparkins1861 yup
I love his message. We all excel with structure. Even creative types. If kids don't learn it while they are young it's harder for them to learn how to create their own structure. The goal isn't structure to join the military. The goal is to teach them structure while they are young so that they can create their own structure to help them accomplish their goals whatever they me. Artist. Engineer. Cook. Farmer. Scientist. Writer. Structure takes what we want to the next level.
kids need structure when their younger however when they get older,they need guidence ,they need encouragement ,they need someone to believe in them
Thank you
They don't have to be the same, but that is a need for structure in all of them. That structure is what provides us with a functioning society. All drivers are not the same. but they all adhere to basic traffic rules. We all wear clothes when we go out, etc. Nothing wrong with structure.
I like he says of Quotes " Always be looking for that what you do well and which you love doing and when you find those two things together"...man , you got it.
(cont.) I’m now a high school senior and have earned perfect 800s on the Reading and Writing sections of the SAT. I consider writing to be my foremost skill, and I am not ashamed to say that I grew up with minimal structure. I had to make my own structure, and this instilled in me an independence and sense of responsibility that Powell’s prescribed program discourages. I would argue for less structure - treat children like “little adults” - not less.
There are “times” ... There are “moments” that my 8 years old daughter cries and say that I am tough. But, before the end of the day, on “that” day, she always end up coming (out of the blue) to me, giving me a real Daddy love hug, and saying, “Daddy I love you” … I can publicly say that I have never given, and I will never give my daughter what she wants. But I can also say: that I have always given, and I (only) will always give to her what she needs. jar
Structure is important for developing leaders. Good leaders are such because they know how to follow. Someone who knows how to follow will not go on power trips or make unreasonable demands.
From the time l knew that great, Nobel man l adored his wisdom with everything he did. Admired him so much that I have a son with his name. RIP.
kids need BOTH. At the right TIME and CONCENTRATION.
It's not one or the other, it's both.
I think a lot of people are focusing on the militaristic aspect of the speech seeing as a way to indirectly encourage service, but I think its appropriate that he used this example due to his life experience. It seemed to me to only be an analogy for the bigger picture of structure for children. I grew up in a household of 50/50. The most important things were handled in a structured manner academia, behavioral problems etc. but we had freedom when it came to fostering our interests and hobbies.
I agree entirely I had a very disciplined childhood and its proved invaluable.
I'm glad my parents gave me the gift.
The Main message is that the good education & development of children starts at home. That kids need structure. There is no disputing this, this is fact.
Great talk.
I agree with this. Kids can't grow up in chaos.
They can’t develop healthiest in chaos. I was raised in chaos, and it took me decades to undo much of that. I’m still working on developing my confidence. I managed to earn a Bachelor s degree , but it didn’t fix my low self confidence.
Children need more than 1 parent. They need both the mother and the father.
I'll forever be grateful to you for this Ted Talk. May the lord have mercy on your soul. Rest in peace, General Colin Powell 😭😭😭
He said all the right things! May he rest in peace
@@denigroz he lived a life trying to be true to those beliefs that's even harder to do. RIP
Do you know anything about him? Do you know about my lai? Were you alive in the early 2000s?
Oh no he died
He belonged on a war crimes tribunal
Yes, I agree totally with your assessment. Unfortunately, these things seems to be applied on a continuous pendulum, and right now we are waaaay too far over onto the nurture without structure side. It's all touchy feely and kid's rights, without worrying about society's rights to have socially well adapted kids in it, who do not have a massive sense of entitlement.
Encouragement, structure, good teaching, equal opportunity, all help. God illuminate our darkness in Jesus Name . Amen.
Kids do need structure and discipline and to feel they have a place in the world, but should not be brought up to accept authority blindly. They need to learn to think for themselves. Your self-confidence comes from your knowledge of your own ability. Not from wrongly believing you can be anything you want to be, but from knowing what you can achieve, what your limits are and how you can improve.
May his soul rest in peace... You are in our hearts. ㅠ.ㅠ
1. Structure means support and kids need that.
2. He's not an intellectual but his heart knows.
Respect his intentions, Be proud to be in America.
Love from India.
passion is not simply enjoyment but rather the goal of that persons character, kids need empowerment nothing else.
The general mix together three things: structure, rhythm and uniformity. The two first things are good and create excellence. The last one is bad and create aggression.
Colin Powell is attributing the benefits of showing a child love with giving them structure.
He is linking the emotions felt as a consequence of love and compassion claiming its because of structure. If you read to your kids it's because of feelings of compassion in how they develop. Structures themselves will arise naturally in this case but as of themselves structures have no underlying positive or negative implications. It can be used for love or oppression
A well spoken and well structured response. I also do agree with what you have said.
I don't need to agree with everything a person has ever done to recognize the truth in what they say. Also, what they say does not have to (rather, can't) be the whole truth.
So I am against the wars, and I believe that kids need a lot more than structure- and I also thought this was a very good talk.
I agree with just about everything that General Powell says in this video, however I don't think it's an easy sell for people who have not been in the military. Those of us who have know that he's spot-on with his observations.
Like everything else in life, its a balance. Chaos and order
The military is not for everyone. That's okay.
This guy just loves power.
How?
You clearly know very little about this man.
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"It aint where you start in life, its what you do in life that determines where you end up in life."
-Colin Powell
This is great. I have the same gut reactions as some others I think - but accept that war is his culture and hear THROUGH his military jargon and slants. Here there be pearls.
Insightful. I have to agree. Colin Powell id say has overall been a force for good.. However he is clearly skewed to his own perspective (as most of us are).
Thank you 🙏🏾 General Colin Powell! Your memory is Blessed 😇
"When you have great power you have great responsibility". Yeah I have seen spider man also.
Just excellent. Stopping the draft of young men cost a great deal more than keeping it. We continue to pray a terrible price.
I love how he explains when learning begins. So important, but people tend to dismiss children as dumb lumps of poop. Yes, they poop...just like you. But they are doing the most intelligent thing a human can do: learn. Such a simple concept is hard for most people to realize, and it saddens me.
No matter how old we get we still keep Elements of Childhood with us.
This means we ought to be humble and learn from our Environment.
Computers will not solve all of our Problems even in Ghana and other parts of the World.
It accounts for the low grades within our system.
Agree with your point about Japan, and even to an extent about kids' freedom to express themselves, but there is no doubt that kids thrive under reasonable boundaries and in a structured environment, just as adults do.
how do you differentiate "structure" from "rhythm"?
Thank you for your contribution Gen
the best structure you can give to your child is nutritional, spiritual and physical exercise.
Real nice guy. I wrote him a letter and he wrote back.
soldiers need structure. Kids need rhythm, love and to be allowed the space to become themselves.
Empowerment to me is giving someone the ability to make decisions that may benefit them or hurt them, not necessarily to the point of complete freedom, but rather so that they are not just an attachment of their parents.
My "Boss" when I Commanded a Battalion in V Corps USAREUR. A great Leader, individual and American. " RIP Sir"
His message to kids is the same as the message Mewtwo gives in the first Pokemon Movie
"This is not a feeling. I'm a lawyer, I don't believe in feelings. This is not a philosophy. I'm an American, I don't believe in philosophy. This is the FACT, or as they say in my hometown, Washington D.C., a true fact." Ingenious.
Jamaican heritage and we respect colin Powell down here.
I believe in structure they will be responsible respectful adults
But for kids to have structure the adults need to have it first..
They need both structure and rhythm!
Only lesser students need this. Kids need to be able to express themselves. Scaring kids into submission can guarantee early anxiety, depression, and rebellion. I grew up with a strict navy father. I hate him for it. Some kids need structure. Some need to be free.
Even though how unpopular this talk is, I really do think he's right. This is not "instilling a sense of shame" or "fear" for that matter. This is given kids the safety of getting told what to do. We have gone too far down the road of "do whatever you like" effectively making kids get their own ideas of what to do, which they cannot not do at that age. The millitary protocal may be too hard, I dont know, but alot more sturcture is needed.
I think highly of most people .I don't want to see you work hard like this,General, Let's call it a day.
Real beauty lies not in the physical appearance , but in the heart.Real treasure lies not in what that can be sean but what that cannot be seen.Real love lies not in what is done and known,but in what that is done but not know.🧤☮️
I agree with you completely we have to hear everyone, even if we don't agree with everything they say.
If this kind of words come from a mouth of this kind of men, they won't make any sense, so I will pass this one
What is structure? Who is responsible for teaching or instructing structure? Why is structure necessary? What if one does not have structure? Can one teach structure with guaranteed desired results? When is structured best taught and learned?
The world outside the comfort of home and school.
Remember when he talks about finding ROTC? That is an example of self actualization. He encourages children to find what they enjoy and what they are doing and explore it. The statement he makes 'None of that self actualization' is meant more as an example of the state of mind his parents had, not necessarily his own.
I think that was a slip up where he meant to mention that they came from less-than ideal backgrounds or areas. Additionally, he did say "almost", and did clear it up by saying that most came from one-parent homes.
God bless you Colin, Sir
All within a structure, so when they do become themselves they become all they can be.
I don't necessarily agree with everything he said but I do definitely believe that kids need some structure.
Excelente charla
that's a healthy place to grow up.. kids need a basic structure.. they also need to expand their interest
Very, very interesting how he mentions children falling behind, and acting it out. It's really how it all begins. Again, I disagree with the rigidity, and the specific aspect of what he's saying, but the message behind it is 100% what this generation needs. (I'm posting comments as i watch it. they rarely fit into one comment box.)
Most of us favor likability over ability.
Kids need the polar opposite of what was talked about in this video.
I was in the Australian Air Force Cadets for a year when I was 14. The purpose of drill was to learn self discipline, and I actually quite enjoyed it. You do actually get a lot out of cadets: teamwork, self discipline, maturity, leadership skills. They help build your confidence and also teach you to suck it up when necessary.
When I went to school back in about year 2000, I had a single teacher who made each and every one of his students stand at their seats and say "god day" before we were allowed to sit down. One teacher in twelve years of education. His was the only class where even the committed troublemakers behaved in. Today, I continuesly experience that the avarage student lack impulse control and respect for others, and I would guess that they lack these because noone asked them to do the opposite.
You keep enforcing it... you keep kick'n their ass (not literally). You make it hard for them when they're kids to make the rest of their life easily. You create the idea of fulfillment from hard work and the want to become fulfilled. You show them the path through the structure... even if they hate it.
I don't agree with his training methodology, but I believe in his values
The reason i thought it was good was because i am someone who has had no structure in my life. I didnt have the best start in life as i was a tantrum child. I didnt learn to talk until i was 4. All my life i've been above average intelligence and done well in school but i had little respect for my parents and my teachers. Now i have dropped out of my degree because i couldn't be bothered with it and don't have a job so now i'm preparing to join the army to get the sense kicked in to me. im 20
Another word for "structure" is "limits", and no one has any right to impose those on anyone else. Humans are limitless beings. The kindest way to teach is not through shame or guilt but by example.
good for you. different material to different ears. i come from a place where every mom is sort of an amy chua. these kinda speech doesn't surprise me. what surprises me is speeches like this get a TED approval chop on it.
This guy is just a living hero, he has lived threw power.
He's war criminal
Nice to see that Sir Ken Robinson is just in reach to the right side (on RUclips that is)
Great talk
This TEDTalk has a very good point. The US does need more structure. In Switzerland, most men are mandated to go to military for a short period after the age of 18. It is very clear that in general they are more educated, have more character and are more civilized in society.
Exactly. If we only listened to our idols and people who we agree with we could never move forward as a society and as individuals. It is so easy nowadays, especially on the internet, to filter out everything that does not fit your opinions and worldview, so it's great that TED doesn't "choose sides" but rather stays in the middle and makes people question their own opinions and beliefs.
The most inspirational part of this youtube video are the comments about how much of a terrible talk it is.
In my experience I have gained huge amounts of inspiration from every TED talk I have seen, Colin Powell proves being the exception to the rule.
I might add, that it's precisely this kind of military intellectual deconstruction that makes troops unable to think for themselves when they see horrific abuses of power by their peers and leaders in war zones. They're chosen from the low end of the intellectual spectrum, then they're emotionally broken by the training process, then blamed when they react inhumanely under daily threats against their lives.
General Powell… your message is timeless.
And his crime is timeless, too. Because of his lies, Iraq was devastated. You're admiring a monster and war criminal.
Great talk.
(punishment is part of structure... for any action in life there is a reaction.)
Very good talk. He´s a good speaker and statesmen.
Hierarchy isn't the lack of equality, It is a system of chain of command, which exists in all aspects of life. Rebellion doesn't allow freethinking to occur, it clouds your judgment in angst towards society and causes people to make choices simply to rebel, rather than what is actually best for themselves or their country. Freethinking only occurs in times of peace and prosperity, rebellion upsets the balance, starts wars, and rarely ends well for either side.
He's addressing kids who grow up in chaos, and many times, there's no one to tell them to do their homework, be organized, disciplined, etc., so they develop really bad habits. If they aren't reached early enough, the chances that they'd ever become "productive citizens" are pretty slim....there's a high probability that they wouldn't develop the necessary skills to hold down a "regular" job, because their education comes from the streets.
.........amazed he's on TED
Oh, I very much agree. I am eternally grateful for the wonderful teachers who showed me how to read. But that is minimal structure. They showed me how to decipher the alphabet, but they never told me what to read or when to read. I imagine Powell thinks they probably should have, and I think he is wrong.
That's the thing - I didn't know what to pick. I made mistakes. I read Animal Farm when I was 8, The Catcher in the Rye when I was 7. There are picture books that I missed as a kid that I wish I could enjoy now. Those were mistakes, but I wouldn't exchange those mistakes for what he describes. He seems so think highly of uniform and routine, and my life experiences have taught me that stumbling independently - while having adults around who encourage curiosity - is much more rewarding.
You have experience with structure; I have experience with both. One parent had orders which could not be questioned. The other had orders which were always explained, but mostly it was advice (not mandatory obedience). I was always determined to defy the athoritative parent, but never did I defy the other. Then there were times when they said the same thing, which tore me apart inside. This tells me that structure means nothing, its logic. Makes sense to me because kids are always asking "why?"
Yea, but who are you?
@@eche1492 It sounds like you're asking if I am an authority on the subject, which requires having the answer to use to trust the answer. That's circular reasoning.
Like/Dislike ratio is a good indicator for the accuracy of this information. Yes, kids need structure, but 160 years of educational and behavioral psychology say they also need to have opportunities to play and explore freely. He does say that his thesis, "kids need structure," comes from his time in the military, not his time as an educational professional or psychologist. This needs to be taken with a grain of salt as well as a healthy dose of peer reviewed info on childhood development.
when I was at school in the UK some 36 years ago, *eek I`m getting old* I once found a way into my dorm room attic. I fell through it and made a terrible mess. The resulting punishment was 6 of the best. Six very painful blows with a bamboo cane that hurt like hell and left marks. I never did anything wrong again. This was normal in my day, but today it would be child abuse. It was better in my day IMHO...
The training we receive in the military is to prepare us to deal with the type of structure that is the military community. It trains and teaches compliance without question, and as adults we can understand how and when to apply it in our own lives, but children can't do this. As a society we should NEVER want our people to be raised to think questioning authority is bad or that there aren't nuances to problems instead of the black and white he's proposing.
I think What colin said was correct. Kids do in fact need structure. Without it they become self concious and insecure, because they never really know where they stand. If you lay out the boundaries clearly, from any age 1 and up, children are capable of fantastic development. Parenting is something that has to be observed to be understood. If hollywood spent half their time making movies illustrating good parenting, even as a back story, humanity would benefit greatly.
The war ciminal talks about how to raise kids and people clap before he starts....fucking brilliant.
I watched this last night was very good..kids are not what they use to be. ..there should be many likes.
Children should all be dressed up in uniforms and crew cuts and told what to do is the essence of this speech, disagreeing with that doesn't mean "you think children should be allowed to do whatever they want without limits"
If you ask me, thoughtless opposition to structure/authority is no better than thoughtless adherence to it.
I think too many people are forgetting that it's the structure provided by our centuries old insitutionz that's keeping us from going back to the dark ages again. They should perhaps not be "idolized", but they deserve recognition and respect for what they are, and for not being the many worse things that they could very easily have been, not to be one-sidedly demonized as the default.