In sex ed class, the teacher said "But sex could be different for trans sexual people." I went "Transgender." the teacher looked at me and asked "What?" I repeated myself and told them the term transsexual wasn't proper. I started fighting with my teacher over it. My best friends joined in with the verbal fight and we all got sent to the office. My father let me get away with it bc he thought the teacher was being an idiot.
+Ashlee Botkin what an awful teacher, my sex ed in highschool didnt even cover gender, they barely even talking about sexualities other than gay and straight
Kudos to you for holding your ground and educating the educator. Your teacher should have done just a lil bit of research before touching on the subject.
+C3P0-is-bae sooo trueee. My hifh school diddint even talk about diffrent sexuality. They said "we know you arnt going to listen to us, and youre gonna have sex anyway, but, were fonna teach you how to be safe and what happens if you get preggo and about sti's"
This series as a whole is very interesting.. as a straight female I'm a bit clueless of the Trans community and you answer a lot of questions that a lot of people are curious about but would maybe make other people uncomfortable to answer. Thanks! :)
+Creative Pet Keeping Yo! It's so awesome that you're trying to educate yourself, and that you're taking an interest in our community! Just wanna give you a heads up in terms of language: like Stef was saying in the video, sexuality and gender identity are two totally different things. So saying "as a straight female" doesn't mean "as someone who isn't trans," because like Stef was saying, she is a straight female too. The words I think you were looking for are "as a cisgender female" which just means a woman who isn't trans.
+dollar store coffee Gonna reply to your comment with a thank you! I see little mistakes like that happen often but instead of approaching them as kind as you did, people get so hostile! It's great to see such a caring and helpful response, just shows how great of a community us little buns have ☺️
+Misty Haight No yeah, totally! I feel like attacking someone is just completely the wrong way to go about it-obviously, being angry is justified, but if you attack, the other person's instinct is going to be to shut down and defend, rather than open up and listen. Especially in cases like this where it's a tiny tiny slip up and the intentions of the person are so good, I feel like hostility would 100% inappropriate, and solve nothing.
I am in the same boat. These videos are so helpful because I wouldn't know who to ask or how and I wouldn't want to insult anyone in the process. I am learning so much, thank you for the videos!
Straight cis-gendered female here, originally subscribed because of your fashion/makeup videos lol. Initially, I was really confused by the concept of transgender individuals. I just didn't quite understand how, biologically and psychologically, someone could feel that way. Honestly, you've really opened my eyes and watching you transition has really helped me understand the trans community. I feel like I've more open minded and understanding. Thank you for educating me and helping me understand. I really appreciate your channel Stef!
Stef, I love you and all of your videos!! I'm cisgender, bisexual woman, and I I watch your videos not only because I love your personality, but because you teach me sooo much!!! I've always been accepting of people of all backgrounds and experiences, but I feel like the more I'm educated the more I can be 100% accepting and all that because I actually know and understand what people are going through. Thank you for everything and keep up the amazing work and stay golden! (:
I love you bread mom ♡ your channel has really helped me understand the LGBT community etc much more than I did, and you're so refreshing and fun to watch!
I saw you talking to Blaire White on twitter so I decided to look up your channel. This video was extremely informative and I love that you're being 100% real about your transition experience. This kind of information is so hard to find because it's so taboo to talk about. I'm a cisgender, straight female and I am truly fascinated by trans people and the community and I do vast research on it. I will definitely use your channel for my research. Thank you.
You're totally awesome. A lot of this advice is good for any relationship. Thank you for being you, and talking openly. I've learned so much from you!!!
wen I came out as pansexual to my mom,I explained it to her,and wen I told her about transexual/transgender people,she was like what is that,so then I had to explain that to her too!XD and she got very confused bc she thought that trans girls and guys couldnt have another sexual orientation and it was very hard for me to explain it to her ,so I showed her this video,and it really helped her :)
Oh my goodness, that haircolor just makes your eyes POP♡ And I LOOOVE the tongue click thingy you do. And also this video. Also you. Goodness, Stef, you're so great. Keep on educating the masses♡
sex should start with a fun game of "Paper, Rock, Sisors"..Best 2 out of 3. then listening to the sound track of the lion king to see who the aggressor/male role ahould be played by. then when done......... Iced cream and snuggling.
My youngest son (who will be two this month) gets so excited when I watch your videos. As soon as he hears your voice, he runs over with a huge smile. Your voice is just so lovely and pleasant. 💜
Dear Stef, Thank you for sharing this. I never comment on YT videos I watch, I rarely subscribe to any channel. But you always appear in my feed because I've been watching a few previous videos that I really enjoyed a lot. I don't know anyone in my entourage who is transgender, and I am cisgender myself. Everything I learn from you is really precious!! Now I know that if I meet a transgender person in the future, I have now the keys to understand what they've been going through and what they are going through. I don't have the fear anymore to ask stupid/rude question. This is really precious how well you raise awareness ! Plus, watching this video with you saying to your mom "please stop listening to this" ahaha this makes me realize the courage you have to expose to the world your own experience. It might be super awkward to show this to the world sometimes I imagine... but that's for the benefit of thousands of people! I am really grateful ! Thank you Stef ! Love from Europe!
Yes, this is true and I should have mentioned it. I guess I figured only people experiencing sexual attraction or feelings like that would seek this out - that's my bad.
I just want to say thank you. I know for me, a cis gendered bisexual woman, I have wanted to learn more about the trans experience(I apologize for my poor wording), but have been extremely cautious to ask too many questions. Your videos have really educated me on a variety of topics, and I have a much better appreciation for what you women deal with. Plus you are a darling personality and I could never get enough of your videos. Again I just want to say thank you for all that you do. You are so amazingly inspirational.
Stef you are an icon. From time to time your videos just pop up on my suggestions and I check up on you sometimes, and seriously you have come a long way but you have walked brave and kept your head up high! You are so amazing and you make educating videos. I personally love listening to your voice it has some calming affect on me. ALSO THE WAY YOU SAY THANKSSS
I actually have a funny story about myself. I am transgender and I have a friend who is also transgender. The funny thing is, is that we have had sex. We are both transmale. I love explaining to people that I've had sex with another guy but we both had female genitalia because their reaction is priceless. 😂
These educational videos are so helpful! Thank you! My girlfriend is going to start her transition soon so I've been looking everywhere to find helpful information on how to continue supporting her. She means the world to me and I want to do everything I can to be the best partner I can be for her.
I've always been so curious and now I'm really happy to get all this information without bothering someone by asking questions. Thank you Stef, I love your videos!
With all of the news articles and mainstream media I've seen, I have never learned more about transgender people than I have watching four or five of these videos. I'm not transgender, and I know I can never understand the struggles of the transgender community, but I really think these videos are helpful educational tools to clear up some widely held misconceptions. A lot of these topics are either not discussed at all in mainstream media or ARE discussed but completely inaccurately. I really, really appreciate you posting these videos. You don't HAVE to give people a look into your day to day life and you don't have to discuss these topics to hundreds of thousands of people, but you do and that's great. I can't imagine how it must feel to be such a pioneer in navigating this educational communication. Go you!
+PornHub Hey I'm a transguy too and I'm attracted to females AND males. If you want to be a guy and you're attracted to guys then so be it. People might try to invalidate you for it but honesty forget what they say. I'm valid, you're valid, we're both valid no matter who we are and who we like. Don't rush to come out if you don't feel comfortable about it yet. Take your time. Figure out how you're going to come out, what you're going to say, etc. just don't force yourself to do it without mentally preparing yourself. Make sure you learn how to validate yourself because you may or may not have to deal with lots of invalidation from the people around you in the beginning. Try to find people who will accept you for who you are. Just be you (and don't apologize about it)
I'm not sure if you've trained it into your voice or its something thats naturally there but the flow and confidence in your words is astounding. You sound like a leader.
You should be a professional speaker for transgender women. You're so informative and although I personally am not transgender I feel like there are lots of people (both transgender and cisgender) that could benefit from you doing professional and public talks. Just a thought :)
I just recently came out as a trans man. I had already come out as bisexual years ago. I really enjoy watching your videos and learning little bits and pieces from your videos. I also enjoy your personality. Keep doing what you're doing and inspiring people like me to be who we are. Love you!
You're just awesome. I love the fact that you're able to give informational, educational videos, but still with that right amount of humour. Little plus : You're gorgeous, and I'm in love with your hair. Hope to see your channel growing and growing !
Your videos on transgenders have helped me learn so much. I'm writing a story and the main characters best friend is a transgender female. With the help I got from watching your videos I feel like I'm able to make the character more believeable. I don't know everything and my description sucks but by watching your videos and learning I'm able to do better with helping the character come alive. So thank you so much for making videos I love your work and I can't wait to see and learn more!
+DarkSilentBeauty Hey if you need inspiration the secret life of Luke Livingstone by Charity Norman is an excellent book featuring a trans main character. Also it's 'transgender people' not 'transgenders' but that's a common mistake. Good luck with your story. 💋
+Lilly Dragon As with many other "minority" groups, trans people get sexualized as some kind of.. Achievement. As if there is something different in sleeping with them than sleeping with someone who is not trans. Many porn sites have a separate grouping for videos of people who don't have the "traditional" set of sexual characteristics (like have breasts and a penis, for example), and it's good business since apparently a lot of people get off on that. It's not so much that "they aren't people", but in the sense of pornography they become an object which performs for the viewers pleasure, no different than other fetishized groups (certain nationalities, sexualities, weights, for example). So while I don't know how much of this actually translates into real life encounters (people who'd be seeking specifically transfolk for sexual reasons, only because they are trans), in the world of online adult entertainment it's not much different than, say, a japanese woman being the object of the viewers pleasure.
+Temple Of Azure Flame well for one thing, asexual people exist and don't want to hear about that. And to me all that futa is, is a gross perverse sexualuzation of mine and others identities. It makes trans people look like some "sex freaks" or "best of both worlds" as you said, which frankly is disgusting and uncalled for.
You are so brave and I applaud your videos with these explanations. I'm so glad that you are doing this series with such plain spoken language. I am a 62 year old widowed mother of a 27 year old happily married daughter and while I am quite happy with myself the way I've always been I know some young people struggling with their identity. I do forward your videos to them because I like the directness of your answers to questions. Thank you so much even tho I'm old enough to be your grandmother!!!
I don't id as trans (i want to mention it so i don't overstep my boundaries), but i just wanted to put it out there that while a lot of trans people are sexual beings, there are asexual and/or sex repulsed trans sisters out there, and if that's you reading this right now, you're totally ok and valid and have all my love
Stef🌹💕, thanks for explaining this in such a way, a person could understand it easily. I am a straight married female and have a friend that is Transgender. I researched and studied so much and have a good understanding about body dysmorphia. I follow a few Trans folks and just wanted to say I love and respect all. You all go through so much mentally and physically, and I admire your bravery. I wish you all the best on your surgery. You are drop dead gorgeous and your hair colors are so beautiful. Enjoy you amazing journey. I have been on your channel for awhile now and can see many changes. Having to go so far away from home for surgery seems not so good, but I have heard from others that those Drs are amazing at what they do for a cheaper price. A Trans friend had top and bottom done out of country and it is remarkable how well the surgery went🌹💕I'm in Alberta Canada, sending you tons of love and positive vibes in eastern Canada😎
I never really realized trans sexual could be considered offensive until I saw this. To me I looked at is as a person's sex, like how some legal files ask for sex meaning gender, and now I realize that over the years how ignorant I probably sounded so thank you for enlightening me
stef, i love that you're able to talk about what's going on with your transition when you shouldn't have to explain this stuff to people. that's truly amazing. i love you.
do you have or know of (or could you make) any videos about what transgender really means and how it's not just "a girl wanting to be a boy"/"a boy wanting to be a girl"? because my mom refuses to believe me and thinks i'm insane for thinking this and i'd like to send her a video about it so maybe she'll believe me if someone else (perhaps someone going through transitioning) explains it better than i can, if that makes sense.
I love your videos, Stef. I just came out to my mum yesterday and she was so supportive! I just wanted to thank you: Because of you and some other youtubers I finally had the courage to tell her. Love, Ben
Perhaps this question is too TMI or personal, but I've been wondering: so a trans woman after bottom surgery wouldn't have a uterus (though uterus transplants are becoming a thing, i think?), so where would the vagina... go? Would it just end at where the cervix would be? This is probably the weirdest youtube comment I've ever written. Sorry if it's too personal or something, I'm just curious.
Stef, you are so articulate and eloquent. A lot of your videos do not directly relate to me as I am not transgender, but they are very informative, helping me to become more understanding, open-minded and respectful of those who are. I support you and your channel whole-heartedly.
Bread Mom, I feel like you're mistaking sex and sexuality. Sex itself, in biology, refers to the sexual organs we differentiate different sexes by. Sexuality deals with orientation and procreation and all that behaviour, as you said. I also feel like there's general confusion about the difference of sex and gender in this world. I think "sex" is used in a weird/confusing way in modern language, because we now also refer to the sexual act/intercourse by the term "sex". Because I see the merely biological standpoint, I don't feel like I misunderstand the term 'transsexual', which thus literally means "beyond (the) sex(es)", which I actually find quite fitting when you think of the first people looking for a word for it. I see what you mean though. :)
Im lowkey so happy for you stef! You have so many people here that support you and watch you and most of us are transgender (like me). But I'm so very happy for you! Your doing something some of us wont get to do or have the capability too and in my case it brings me (and most likely other trans women and men) down that i most likely wont get to do this but seeing you do it makes me so happy! It gives me hope that i, one day i could do that too!! So basically thank you!!!!
Love you Stef! This is kind of crazy because I just had to explain this on facebook, i just told everyone recently that I am trans->Female. I got some weird comments like "oh i didnt know you were gay" and "are you going to leave your wife now that you're a girl" and crazy stuff like that. I explained being Transgender IS NOT nor will it EVER BE anything sexual. But its people like you educating everyone that drives this community to the horizon so everyone can understand. By the way, I then had to explain what Pan-sexuality is, which is why my wife and I are perfectly happy, even after I told her! Yay!
Honestly, I don't care what you're talking about but the gentle comedy in all of your videos and just the general vibe make them so enjoyable that I actually watched pretty much every single one and I'm not even trans
I love how casual you are about this topic, because it's usually so hushed about and I think it's important that people dare speaking about it :) Thank you, Stef!
I'm not transgender, and I don't really know anybody going through that, but I found this video very interesting, and very important to trans people, thank you for doing this!
I love this series Stef! I feel like it's really opening my mind and helping me see and understand things I never could before. You have such a way with words, I really have learned so much from you. :)
I am a straight cis woman (not that it matters) and I just binge watched like all of your videos. I just adore you. Thank you for educating so many of us, and being patient when we fuck up. You are incredible, had to subscribe! :)
i'm super nonbinary (genderless? still figuring out what i am) but since i don't have much dysphoria and don't feel the need to transition in any way, your videos are super educational for me! i don't experience many struggles that some trans people might, so thanks very much for making this content. i'm interested in learning as much as i can to help my other trans friends feel comfortable and just be a knowledgeable person. again, thank you and i hope you have a wonderful day!!
I think the basis here still comes from the basic understanding that rather than focusing on a body type, pursue people you like sexually, but understand how to deal with people's feelings compassionately. Understand sexuality and what role you need to play to satisfy and enjoy your partnerships as what they are. You can draw anyone into sexuality, it's just sometimes harder with some rather than others.
stef love your videos. i had my 6 month check up on hrt. i had a set back. my prolactin level was alittle bit too high. so they are backed me down to 3 mg of estradiol. hopefully things go better at my 9 month. keep up the good work. :)
Stef thank you again so much for doing these educational videos! it's so kind of you since you really don't have to. I know it can be tiresome answering the same questions over and over. much love! x
I love your videos, I love you as a person, you seem so sweet and so genuine. It's fantastic how comfortable you are talking openly about everything I'm sure you've educated a lot of people through your videos. I am cisgender and pansexual, so it's intrigued me to find out more about everyone's own journeys, and how to communicate with people better. I will continue to watch your videos, and I wish you the absolute best in your future. I admire transgenger people because they are just so brave, such courageous people, and to see others happy with themselves makes me happy. Seeing people hate who they are is terrible and no one deserves that, everyone deserves to feel beautiful no matter the gender, sexual preference, size, height, etc. In this day and age it disgusts me that some people are so against transgenger people, or anyone that isn't straight, in this day and age we should all be accepting of each other, love and support each other. I definitely think your videos are making a huge dent in changing people's perceptions for the better. You're an amazing, and beautiful woman Stef. And thank you for being you!
Yo, Stef, you're fantastic. I'm a cis-gender woman, and while I do consider myself educated and part of the LGBT+ community, I find I constantly learn new things from you. Thank you for spreading your love, warmth and education to everyone. I know there must be trans individuals out there who might feel unprepared to transition or even come out to others, so it's great that they can find support here.
First thing is first, is .. your eye's are just so bam captivating , WOW😉AND I real appreciate your transparency and putting IT, in a little bit of a simpler planning explaining the whole giant ball of yarn. The way other people have to explain it. Thank you
i can't believe you're only about half a year on E! that's so amazing! you're mega adorable, breadmom and i'm happy you have the time and patience to bring awareness about trans* ..... everything pretty much lol
These videos are absolutely amazing. As a cis girl you cover things I'd be too afraid to ask about and it's made me feel like a much more informed person which is great! You are so brave to be so honest and down to earth, honestly thank you so much for sharing this part of your life with us and for helping to educate people like me. I wish you all the best 💖
My friend Donna went to him in 1999/2000 and I can tell you the surgery went perfectly and when he was Doug he was married to a woman, but after his surgery to become Donna, she liked women even more, and felt at home in her body. I think of Donna as a second mom and I've known her since 2001, so post surgery. I can tell you that Donna after surgery her sex drive was doubled even tripled at times and she is now remarried to a woman and has been with her for 10 years and they are very happy together and huge in the LGBT community. Donna gives talks all over the U.S. and loves to educate people. I am glad to see that you made this video. One thing you didn't touch on was if a before surgery trans person is with a woman, and then after surgery is with a woman does that make them a lesbian or straight? I have a friend I sent you a twitter message about yesterday and I would like to see you make a video explaining that if you could. I love watching your video's I have sent my friend the link to your channel. I hope she watches them as she is newly trans.
@catkisskiss actually no my mom Donna decided that she would rather be a woman. It wasn't about her feeling that she needed to be a woman. She had had a midlife crisis and had been a U.S. postal worker for 35 years and decided she wanted to change. So that was it she flew to Thailand with her wife and had the surgery on a spur the moment thing and came back a whole new person. Her wife was very upset because 10 years earlier she had married a man named Douglas and didn't know that that was why they were going over there she thought they were celebrating their 10th anniversary and it was supposed to be a second honeymoon for them. At least that is what Bonnie thought she was getting, not a wife. They divorced about 3 years after Donna's surgery because Bonnie was a retired nun and it was against the Catholic religion to do what Donna did. Donna also got fired from USPS over her surgery and she went to school and worked as a substitute high school teacher for a while until she got on teaching a few classes at a very well known state college. Now Donna does pagan festivals all of the United States and she teaches lectures at LGBT conventions also all of the United States. So don't correct me when I know what I'm talking. I found your comment rude. Also, if you ask Donna if she felt like a woman before her surgery she will flat out tell you no! It was a midlife crisis that she went through and she wanted a change and that was it end of story. If you would like to ask ask me more information about Donna then send me an inbox message on RUclips and I will be more than happy to explain the story to you and how I met her and all the details instead of you making an ASSumption about something that I said I don't really appreciate that. Donna liked women before her surgery then after missing that part of herself she turned to bdsm and other things. Btw she still teaches as a substitute high school teacher but no longer teaches at the college due to her travel schedule.
Hello beautiful! Did you know that RUclips opened the first RUclips Toronto space at 230 Richmond the GBC School of Design??!!! IT's my school! And you have been such an inspiration and important Toronto youtuber that I've been following for a while now and respect beyond belief. I so hope you come to use the space at somepoint this summer, it's open to anyone with over 10 000 subscribers and girl you slaying it with the subs! There's of course way more information on the news and things about it but when I found out from the launch party my first thought was OMG WOULD STEF COME?! I'll be working there this summer and I so hope I can meet the bread mama!
If anybody is interested in the surgery process, Julie Vu is another trans youtuber who vlogged her entire surgery process! She also did updates, and continues to do them today. She just celebrated her 2 year anniversary :) she tells it straight up, no sugar coating.
I love the fact that you're educating people. It helps for sure many trans people - that is a wonderful thing. I learned so much from you about being trans - I did always accept trans people before, but I never understood what it all meant to a person. Thank you.
I just want to thank you for making these videos. I myself an a cisgender female but I love understanding more about those who are transitioning. Ignorance is what breeds hatred, and I have quite a few friends who want to transition. I enjoy having some slight knowledge on the subject so I can be supportive without having to ask them a thousand questions. :)
I'm so glad you're using your platform to speak on important issues within the community : ) If I could give one piece of unsolicited, off-topic advice? My eyes tend to really strain when watching your videos because of how over-exposed it is, making it difficult to watch at all -- is there any way you could lower the brightness or exposure? If not its totally ok especially since its only a request from one person! I'll always be listening regardless :)
Stef; You are very informative and it is great to see that there is someone who is outgoing that is finally educating the ignorance of people in society. Keep up the great work. Also want to say that you are very beautiful and photogenic. Best of luck in future endeavors. Respectfully, John
This was really awesome, I'm not super educated when it comes to transitioning and I've really been trying to learn more and more about the topic and this has really helped me understand more about people transitioning and the transgender community. Thank you for making this video. :)
I adore you....This is a VERY important video and I think of all those kids that are terrified to imagine they may be trans and are terrified and thank god for the internet today to help share actual medical information. You did a great job. I think the more you stick to medical terms the safer you are for a younger audience. I wonder if your sex drive is what most females' have always had? What a unique perspective!
Well done Stef! I know there's ALWAYS going to be those who mis- -hear -understand -represent, but you did an excellent job. Keep going, I'm sure you are an inspiration to many, and a connection to a very human experience for me!!
This was an amazing and honest informative video! As a young passing transguy I find sex tricky and hate speaking up but this video has encouraged me communication is ok and key!
You are such a brave person! You are a very talented speaker and I think it is great how you tell ppl about your life so openly and genuinely. This world needs more people like you! - fan from Finland
Omg this applies to people in general, how crazy! Of course people should be treated as individuals and respected always! Thank you for the insight, the world needs this!
I respect your courage and openness. I happen to be a cis gender woman but have had the privilege of knowing a couple of trans women. I always asked about their mental and emotional journey because I wanted understand and connect with them as people and both blessed me with openness.
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In sex ed class, the teacher said "But sex could be different for trans sexual people." I went "Transgender." the teacher looked at me and asked "What?" I repeated myself and told them the term transsexual wasn't proper. I started fighting with my teacher over it. My best friends joined in with the verbal fight and we all got sent to the office. My father let me get away with it bc he thought the teacher was being an idiot.
+Ashlee Botkin what an awful teacher, my sex ed in highschool didnt even cover gender, they barely even talking about sexualities other than gay and straight
+C3P0-is-bae my highschool doesnt even have a sex ed class. the closest we get is the programs once a year about abstinence and how bad stds are
Kudos to you for holding your ground and educating the educator. Your teacher should have done just a lil bit of research before touching on the subject.
Katherine Powell WTF its PROOVEN that abstinence lessons dont work
+C3P0-is-bae sooo trueee. My hifh school diddint even talk about diffrent sexuality. They said "we know you arnt going to listen to us, and youre gonna have sex anyway, but, were fonna teach you how to be safe and what happens if you get preggo and about sti's"
This series as a whole is very interesting.. as a straight female I'm a bit clueless of the Trans community and you answer a lot of questions that a lot of people are curious about but would maybe make other people uncomfortable to answer. Thanks! :)
+Creative Pet Keeping Yo! It's so awesome that you're trying to educate yourself, and that you're taking an interest in our community! Just wanna give you a heads up in terms of language: like Stef was saying in the video, sexuality and gender identity are two totally different things. So saying "as a straight female" doesn't mean "as someone who isn't trans," because like Stef was saying, she is a straight female too. The words I think you were looking for are "as a cisgender female" which just means a woman who isn't trans.
+dollar store coffee Gonna reply to your comment with a thank you! I see little mistakes like that happen often but instead of approaching them as kind as you did, people get so hostile! It's great to see such a caring and helpful response, just shows how great of a community us little buns have ☺️
+Misty Haight No yeah, totally! I feel like attacking someone is just completely the wrong way to go about it-obviously, being angry is justified, but if you attack, the other person's instinct is going to be to shut down and defend, rather than open up and listen. Especially in cases like this where it's a tiny tiny slip up and the intentions of the person are so good, I feel like hostility would 100% inappropriate, and solve nothing.
I am in the same boat. These videos are so helpful because I wouldn't know who to ask or how and I wouldn't want to insult anyone in the process. I am learning so much, thank you for the videos!
same same :D
Straight cis-gendered female here, originally subscribed because of your fashion/makeup videos lol. Initially, I was really confused by the concept of transgender individuals. I just didn't quite understand how, biologically and psychologically, someone could feel that way. Honestly, you've really opened my eyes and watching you transition has really helped me understand the trans community. I feel like I've more open minded and understanding. Thank you for educating me and helping me understand. I really appreciate your channel Stef!
*become more open minded (sorry for the typo)
That's great! It makes me so happy that cisgendered people are watching Stefs educational videos about the transgender community.
Im not trans but this is really informative and educational!
im the same way and it really was informative
Same opinion!
I'm so glad that people out there are looking at this that are not trans and are learning. Bless you! #TransLove
+TheonlyHoneyBadger same, and I think people should look up to video like this. In the end were all human
Stef, I love you and all of your videos!! I'm cisgender, bisexual woman, and I I watch your videos not only because I love your personality, but because you teach me sooo much!!! I've always been accepting of people of all backgrounds and experiences, but I feel like the more I'm educated the more I can be 100% accepting and all that because I actually know and understand what people are going through.
Thank you for everything and keep up the amazing work and stay golden! (:
I love you bread mom ♡ your channel has really helped me understand the LGBT community etc much more than I did, and you're so refreshing and fun to watch!
"a lot like church and state are supposed to be" OOOHHHHHHHHHHH
Thank you for putting subtitles in the video :) English is not my first language, so it helps a lot.
+Gloria Lins Same =)
chasingCandice that's nice :)
I saw you talking to Blaire White on twitter so I decided to look up your channel. This video was extremely informative and I love that you're being 100% real about your transition experience. This kind of information is so hard to find because it's so taboo to talk about. I'm a cisgender, straight female and I am truly fascinated by trans people and the community and I do vast research on it. I will definitely use your channel for my research. Thank you.
I know this is off topic, but I love your necklace.
Me too. I've got a similar one :) And a bunch of other Zelda-stuff😍
+Stina Abrahamsen Same! Even two tattoos
+Cirice I have 4/ half sleeve zelda tattoo. I am about to get another one and build along😁
***** omg I'd love to see it, amazing!
+Cirice I have a video on my channel about my tattoos, check it out if you like😁
There's just something about your voice which calms me to no end. It's like a proper infomercial voice *_*.
You're totally awesome. A lot of this advice is good for any relationship. Thank you for being you, and talking openly. I've learned so much from you!!!
wen I came out as pansexual to my mom,I explained it to her,and wen I told her about transexual/transgender people,she was like what is that,so then I had to explain that to her too!XD and she got very confused bc she thought that trans girls and guys couldnt have another sexual orientation and it was very hard for me to explain it to her ,so I showed her this video,and it really helped her :)
Oh my goodness, that haircolor just makes your eyes POP♡
And I LOOOVE the tongue click thingy you do. And also this video. Also you. Goodness, Stef, you're so great.
Keep on educating the masses♡
Everybody should communicate before sex. Cis (me included), take notes!! Great video.
Everyone should! 100%!
sex should start with a fun game of "Paper, Rock, Sisors"..Best 2 out of 3. then listening to the sound track of the lion king to see who the aggressor/male role ahould be played by. then when done......... Iced cream and snuggling.
Ok, I love your voice so much💗💗💗💗
Same!
+Amaya TheOtaku Gaad I thought it was just me, isn't it wonderful **3**
It's so calming :)
omg true it is sooo soothing 💕
My youngest son (who will be two this month) gets so excited when I watch your videos. As soon as he hears your voice, he runs over with a huge smile. Your voice is just so lovely and pleasant. 💜
Dear Stef, Thank you for sharing this.
I never comment on YT videos I watch, I rarely subscribe to any channel. But you always appear in my feed because I've been watching a few previous videos that I really enjoyed a lot. I don't know anyone in my entourage who is transgender, and I am cisgender myself. Everything I learn from you is really precious!! Now I know that if I meet a transgender person in the future, I have now the keys to understand what they've been going through and what they are going through. I don't have the fear anymore to ask stupid/rude question. This is really precious how well you raise awareness !
Plus, watching this video with you saying to your mom "please stop listening to this" ahaha this makes me realize the courage you have to expose to the world your own experience. It might be super awkward to show this to the world sometimes I imagine... but that's for the benefit of thousands of people! I am really grateful ! Thank you Stef ! Love from Europe!
I would just like to point out that not everyone is sexually attracted to people and not everyone wants to have/has sex, cis and trans people alike.
Yes, this is true and I should have mentioned it. I guess I figured only people experiencing sexual attraction or feelings like that would seek this out - that's my bad.
I just want to say thank you. I know for me, a cis gendered bisexual woman, I have wanted to learn more about the trans experience(I apologize for my poor wording), but have been extremely cautious to ask too many questions. Your videos have really educated me on a variety of topics, and I have a much better appreciation for what you women deal with. Plus you are a darling personality and I could never get enough of your videos. Again I just want to say thank you for all that you do. You are so amazingly inspirational.
Omg you are really GLOWING in this video💕
Stef you are an icon. From time to time your videos just pop up on my suggestions and I check up on you sometimes, and seriously you have come a long way but you have walked brave and kept your head up high! You are so amazing and you make educating videos. I personally love listening to your voice it has some calming affect on me. ALSO THE WAY YOU SAY THANKSSS
I actually have a funny story about myself. I am transgender and I have a friend who is also transgender. The funny thing is, is that we have had sex. We are both transmale. I love explaining to people that I've had sex with another guy but we both had female genitalia because their reaction is priceless. 😂
These educational videos are so helpful! Thank you! My girlfriend is going to start her transition soon so I've been looking everywhere to find helpful information on how to continue supporting her. She means the world to me and I want to do everything I can to be the best partner I can be for her.
i never realized how much I didn't understand until this.
thank you.
1:42 "alot like church and state, are supposed to be." glacial burn, i love it. XD
stef is my sexuality
ello richard
I've always been so curious and now I'm really happy to get all this information without bothering someone by asking questions. Thank you Stef, I love your videos!
Omg, breadmama, your eyelashes are just out of this world
With all of the news articles and mainstream media I've seen, I have never learned more about transgender people than I have watching four or five of these videos. I'm not transgender, and I know I can never understand the struggles of the transgender community, but I really think these videos are helpful educational tools to clear up some widely held misconceptions. A lot of these topics are either not discussed at all in mainstream media or ARE discussed but completely inaccurately.
I really, really appreciate you posting these videos. You don't HAVE to give people a look into your day to day life and you don't have to discuss these topics to hundreds of thousands of people, but you do and that's great. I can't imagine how it must feel to be such a pioneer in navigating this educational communication. Go you!
Everytime I watch one of your vids in the first moment im always just taken aback of how pretty you are
*Sorry for shitty grammar*
she is queen okay
I love the fact that you put subtitles as an option on your videos! ♡
+Naomi Valerie Well she is partially deaf herself heh.
I'm not deaf but I appreciate it too, I have trouble with some words.
I want to be a guy, but I'm afraid to come out about. I told my friend and she was confused after I said I would still like guys.
Look for some trans support resources hon and good luck :)
I feel you..
Thx :)
Good luck ❤
+PornHub Hey I'm a transguy too and I'm attracted to females AND males. If you want to be a guy and you're attracted to guys then so be it. People might try to invalidate you for it but honesty forget what they say. I'm valid, you're valid, we're both valid no matter who we are and who we like.
Don't rush to come out if you don't feel comfortable about it yet. Take your time. Figure out how you're going to come out, what you're going to say, etc. just don't force yourself to do it without mentally preparing yourself. Make sure you learn how to validate yourself because you may or may not have to deal with lots of invalidation from the people around you in the beginning. Try to find people who will accept you for who you are. Just be you (and don't apologize about it)
I'm not sure if you've trained it into your voice or its something thats naturally there but the flow and confidence in your words is astounding. You sound like a leader.
You should be a professional speaker for transgender women. You're so informative and although I personally am not transgender I feel like there are lots of people (both transgender and cisgender) that could benefit from you doing professional and public talks. Just a thought :)
I just recently came out as a trans man. I had already come out as bisexual years ago. I really enjoy watching your videos and learning little bits and pieces from your videos. I also enjoy your personality. Keep doing what you're doing and inspiring people like me to be who we are. Love you!
Off topic, but omg I have that same necklace :D
You're just awesome. I love the fact that you're able to give informational, educational videos, but still with that right amount of humour.
Little plus : You're gorgeous, and I'm in love with your hair.
Hope to see your channel growing and growing !
I'm legit confused as to why there are any dislikes on this video ???
ignorance
Ah perhaps!!
+Sarah T maybe transphobic people dislike this :/
They probably didn't watch. Haters probably found the channel page and disliked every video
It's...pretty obvious why tbh.
Your videos on transgenders have helped me learn so much. I'm writing a story and the main characters best friend is a transgender female. With the help I got from watching your videos I feel like I'm able to make the character more believeable. I don't know everything and my description sucks but by watching your videos and learning I'm able to do better with helping the character come alive. So thank you so much for making videos I love your work and I can't wait to see and learn more!
+DarkSilentBeauty Hey if you need inspiration the secret life of Luke Livingstone by Charity Norman is an excellent book featuring a trans main character. Also it's 'transgender people' not 'transgenders' but that's a common mistake. Good luck with your story. 💋
Allie Doak Thanks for the suggestion! I will definatly check it out soon. And I'm sorry for the mistake lol
I would be interested in a vid about chasers.
I've always been confused about how sexualized "T girls" are. They're people too.
+Lilly Dragon As with many other "minority" groups, trans people get sexualized as some kind of.. Achievement. As if there is something different in sleeping with them than sleeping with someone who is not trans. Many porn sites have a separate grouping for videos of people who don't have the "traditional" set of sexual characteristics (like have breasts and a penis, for example), and it's good business since apparently a lot of people get off on that. It's not so much that "they aren't people", but in the sense of pornography they become an object which performs for the viewers pleasure, no different than other fetishized groups (certain nationalities, sexualities, weights, for example).
So while I don't know how much of this actually translates into real life encounters (people who'd be seeking specifically transfolk for sexual reasons, only because they are trans), in the world of online adult entertainment it's not much different than, say, a japanese woman being the object of the viewers pleasure.
***** uhm no thanks.
A good loss.
+Temple Of Azure Flame well for one thing, asexual people exist and don't want to hear about that. And to me all that futa is, is a gross perverse sexualuzation of mine and others identities. It makes trans people look like some "sex freaks" or "best of both worlds" as you said, which frankly is disgusting and uncalled for.
+Temple Of Azure Flame transgender people*
You are so brave and I applaud your videos with these explanations. I'm so glad that you are doing this series with such plain spoken language. I am a 62 year old widowed mother of a 27 year old happily married daughter and while I am quite happy with myself the way I've always been I know some young people struggling with their identity. I do forward your videos to them because I like the directness of your answers to questions. Thank you so much even tho I'm old enough to be your grandmother!!!
I don't id as trans (i want to mention it so i don't overstep my boundaries), but i just wanted to put it out there that while a lot of trans people are sexual beings, there are asexual and/or sex repulsed trans sisters out there, and if that's you reading this right now, you're totally ok and valid and have all my love
Stef🌹💕, thanks for explaining this in such a way, a person could understand it easily. I am a straight married female and have a friend that is Transgender. I researched and studied so much and have a good understanding about body dysmorphia. I follow a few Trans folks and just wanted to say I love and respect all. You all go through so much mentally and physically, and I admire your bravery. I wish you all the best on your surgery. You are drop dead gorgeous and your hair colors are so beautiful. Enjoy you amazing journey. I have been on your channel for awhile now and can see many changes. Having to go so far away from home for surgery seems not so good, but I have heard from others that those Drs are amazing at what they do for a cheaper price. A Trans friend had top and bottom done out of country and it is remarkable how well the surgery went🌹💕I'm in Alberta Canada, sending you tons of love and positive vibes in eastern Canada😎
I love your eyes. The colour looks so bright and saturated. :)
Your necklace too! Legend of Zelda is awesome!
I never really realized trans sexual could be considered offensive until I saw this. To me I looked at is as a person's sex, like how some legal files ask for sex meaning gender, and now I realize that over the years how ignorant I probably sounded so thank you for enlightening me
You know shit's going down when a youtuber asks their parents to skip part of the video
Her "thanks" are so cute oh my god I love you steph! educating me but also making me laugh
god your hair is fantastic in this video 😱
I love how real you are♡ I've been following your transition updates and they are very interesting!
thumbs up for a room/apartment touuuur
stef, i love that you're able to talk about what's going on with your transition when you shouldn't have to explain this stuff to people. that's truly amazing. i love you.
do you have or know of (or could you make) any videos about what transgender really means and how it's not just "a girl wanting to be a boy"/"a boy wanting to be a girl"? because my mom refuses to believe me and thinks i'm insane for thinking this and i'd like to send her a video about it so maybe she'll believe me if someone else (perhaps someone going through transitioning) explains it better than i can, if that makes sense.
me to me to
I love your videos, Stef. I just came out to my mum yesterday and she was so supportive! I just wanted to thank you: Because of you and some other youtubers I finally had the courage to tell her.
Love, Ben
Perhaps this question is too TMI or personal, but I've been wondering: so a trans woman after bottom surgery wouldn't have a uterus (though uterus transplants are becoming a thing, i think?), so where would the vagina... go? Would it just end at where the cervix would be? This is probably the weirdest youtube comment I've ever written. Sorry if it's too personal or something, I'm just curious.
+Zoe M Cis vagina basically just ends tho too. The hole in the cervix is tiny except for during child birth.
Stef, you are so articulate and eloquent.
A lot of your videos do not directly relate to me as I am not transgender, but they are very informative, helping me to become more understanding, open-minded and respectful of those who are. I support you and your channel whole-heartedly.
Bread Mom, I feel like you're mistaking sex and sexuality. Sex itself, in biology, refers to the sexual organs we differentiate different sexes by. Sexuality deals with orientation and procreation and all that behaviour, as you said. I also feel like there's general confusion about the difference of sex and gender in this world. I think "sex" is used in a weird/confusing way in modern language, because we now also refer to the sexual act/intercourse by the term "sex". Because I see the merely biological standpoint, I don't feel like I misunderstand the term 'transsexual', which thus literally means "beyond (the) sex(es)", which I actually find quite fitting when you think of the first people looking for a word for it. I see what you mean though. :)
Thank you for making these videos
What lashes are you wearing? They're gorgeous!
Im lowkey so happy for you stef! You have so many people here that support you and watch you and most of us are transgender (like me). But I'm so very happy for you! Your doing something some of us wont get to do or have the capability too and in my case it brings me (and most likely other trans women and men) down that i most likely wont get to do this but seeing you do it makes me so happy! It gives me hope that i, one day i could do that too!! So basically thank you!!!!
I appreciate you a lot and your voice is so super nice and you are very beautiful
Love you Stef! This is kind of crazy because I just had to explain this on facebook, i just told everyone recently that I am trans->Female. I got some weird comments like "oh i didnt know you were gay" and "are you going to leave your wife now that you're a girl" and crazy stuff like that. I explained being Transgender IS NOT nor will it EVER BE anything sexual. But its people like you educating everyone that drives this community to the horizon so everyone can understand. By the way, I then had to explain what Pan-sexuality is, which is why my wife and I are perfectly happy, even after I told her! Yay!
Honestly, I don't care what you're talking about but the gentle comedy in all of your videos and just the general vibe make them so enjoyable that I actually watched pretty much every single one and I'm not even trans
I love how casual you are about this topic, because it's usually so hushed about and I think it's important that people dare speaking about it :) Thank you, Stef!
I'm not trans, but you are a great person to look up to Stef. Very articulate, smart and real.
I'm not transgender, and I don't really know anybody going through that, but I found this video very interesting, and very important to trans people, thank you for doing this!
I love this series Stef! I feel like it's really opening my mind and helping me see and understand things I never could before. You have such a way with words, I really have learned so much from you. :)
I am a straight cis woman (not that it matters) and I just binge watched like all of your videos. I just adore you. Thank you for educating so many of us, and being patient when we fuck up. You are incredible, had to subscribe! :)
I looked up the doctor, and I have to say I'm really impressed with his work.
i'm super nonbinary (genderless? still figuring out what i am) but since i don't have much dysphoria and don't feel the need to transition in any way, your videos are super educational for me! i don't experience many struggles that some trans people might, so thanks very much for making this content. i'm interested in learning as much as i can to help my other trans friends feel comfortable and just be a knowledgeable person. again, thank you and i hope you have a wonderful day!!
I think the basis here still comes from the basic understanding that rather than focusing on a body type, pursue people you like sexually, but understand how to deal with people's feelings compassionately. Understand sexuality and what role you need to play to satisfy and enjoy your partnerships as what they are.
You can draw anyone into sexuality, it's just sometimes harder with some rather than others.
stef love your videos. i had my 6 month check up on hrt. i had a set back. my prolactin level was alittle bit too high. so they are backed me down to 3 mg of estradiol. hopefully things go better at my 9 month. keep up the good work. :)
Stef thank you again so much for doing these educational videos! it's so kind of you since you really don't have to. I know it can be tiresome answering the same questions over and over. much love! x
I love your videos, I love you as a person, you seem so sweet and so genuine. It's fantastic how comfortable you are talking openly about everything I'm sure you've educated a lot of people through your videos.
I am cisgender and pansexual, so it's intrigued me to find out more about everyone's own journeys, and how to communicate with people better. I will continue to watch your videos, and I wish you the absolute best in your future.
I admire transgenger people because they are just so brave, such courageous people, and to see others happy with themselves makes me happy. Seeing people hate who they are is terrible and no one deserves that, everyone deserves to feel beautiful no matter the gender, sexual preference, size, height, etc. In this day and age it disgusts me that some people are so against transgenger people, or anyone that isn't straight, in this day and age we should all be accepting of each other, love and support each other.
I definitely think your videos are making a huge dent in changing people's perceptions for the better. You're an amazing, and beautiful woman Stef.
And thank you for being you!
Total support in all. I just need to point out that I love hearing the "abuut" for about. Love it lol. Love the channel, keep courageous sister.
Yo, Stef, you're fantastic. I'm a cis-gender woman, and while I do consider myself educated and part of the LGBT+ community, I find I constantly learn new things from you. Thank you for spreading your love, warmth and education to everyone. I know there must be trans individuals out there who might feel unprepared to transition or even come out to others, so it's great that they can find support here.
First thing is first, is .. your eye's are just so bam captivating , WOW😉AND I real appreciate your transparency and putting IT, in a little bit of a simpler planning explaining the whole giant ball of yarn. The way other people have to explain it. Thank you
i can't believe you're only about half a year on E! that's so amazing! you're mega adorable, breadmom and i'm happy you have the time and patience to bring awareness about trans* ..... everything pretty much lol
These videos are absolutely amazing. As a cis girl you cover things I'd be too afraid to ask about and it's made me feel like a much more informed person which is great! You are so brave to be so honest and down to earth, honestly thank you so much for sharing this part of your life with us and for helping to educate people like me. I wish you all the best 💖
My friend Donna went to him in 1999/2000 and I can tell you the surgery went perfectly and when he was Doug he was married to a woman, but after his surgery to become Donna, she liked women even more, and felt at home in her body. I think of Donna as a second mom and I've known her since 2001, so post surgery. I can tell you that Donna after surgery her sex drive was doubled even tripled at times and she is now remarried to a woman and has been with her for 10 years and they are very happy together and huge in the LGBT community. Donna gives talks all over the U.S. and loves to educate people. I am glad to see that you made this video. One thing you didn't touch on was if a before surgery trans person is with a woman, and then after surgery is with a woman does that make them a lesbian or straight? I have a friend I sent you a twitter message about yesterday and I would like to see you make a video explaining that if you could. I love watching your video's I have sent my friend the link to your channel. I hope she watches them as she is newly trans.
@catkisskiss actually no my mom Donna decided that she would rather be a woman. It wasn't about her feeling that she needed to be a woman. She had had a midlife crisis and had been a U.S. postal worker for 35 years and decided she wanted to change. So that was it she flew to Thailand with her wife and had the surgery on a spur the moment thing and came back a whole new person. Her wife was very upset because 10 years earlier she had married a man named Douglas and didn't know that that was why they were going over there she thought they were celebrating their 10th anniversary and it was supposed to be a second honeymoon for them. At least that is what Bonnie thought she was getting, not a wife. They divorced about 3 years after Donna's surgery because Bonnie was a retired nun and it was against the Catholic religion to do what Donna did. Donna also got fired from USPS over her surgery and she went to school and worked as a substitute high school teacher for a while until she got on teaching a few classes at a very well known state college.
Now Donna does pagan festivals all of the United States and she teaches lectures at LGBT conventions also all of the United States. So don't correct me when I know what I'm talking. I found your comment rude. Also, if you ask Donna if she felt like a woman before her surgery she will flat out tell you no! It was a midlife crisis that she went through and she wanted a change and that was it end of story. If you would like to ask ask me more information about Donna then send me an inbox message on RUclips and I will be more than happy to explain the story to you and how I met her and all the details instead of you making an ASSumption about something that I said I don't really appreciate that.
Donna liked women before her surgery then after missing that part of herself she turned to bdsm and other things. Btw she still teaches as a substitute high school teacher but no longer teaches at the college due to her travel schedule.
Hello beautiful! Did you know that RUclips opened the first RUclips Toronto space at 230 Richmond the GBC School of Design??!!! IT's my school! And you have been such an inspiration and important Toronto youtuber that I've been following for a while now and respect beyond belief. I so hope you come to use the space at somepoint this summer, it's open to anyone with over 10 000 subscribers and girl you slaying it with the subs! There's of course way more information on the news and things about it but when I found out from the launch party my first thought was OMG WOULD STEF COME?! I'll be working there this summer and I so hope I can meet the bread mama!
If anybody is interested in the surgery process, Julie Vu is another trans youtuber who vlogged her entire surgery process! She also did updates, and continues to do them today. She just celebrated her 2 year anniversary :) she tells it straight up, no sugar coating.
I love the fact that you're educating people. It helps for sure many trans people - that is a wonderful thing. I learned so much from you about being trans - I did always accept trans people before, but I never understood what it all meant to a person. Thank you.
I just want to thank you for making these videos. I myself an a cisgender female but I love understanding more about those who are transitioning. Ignorance is what breeds hatred, and I have quite a few friends who want to transition. I enjoy having some slight knowledge on the subject so I can be supportive without having to ask them a thousand questions. :)
Thank you for always being so open about this kind of discussion Steph! The way you educate removes stigmas society places upon topics like this. :D
Thank you for always being yourself and not afraid to tackle the hard topics . Love watching your videos . 😀
I'm so glad you're using your platform to speak on important issues within the community : ) If I could give one piece of unsolicited, off-topic advice? My eyes tend to really strain when watching your videos because of how over-exposed it is, making it difficult to watch at all -- is there any way you could lower the brightness or exposure? If not its totally ok especially since its only a request from one person! I'll always be listening regardless :)
omg you absolute queen. I died at the church and state comment. love everything about you
Stef;
You are very informative and it is great to see that there is someone who is outgoing that is finally educating the ignorance of people in society. Keep up the great work. Also want to say that you are very beautiful and photogenic. Best of luck in future endeavors. Respectfully, John
I love that part.."mon, skip this part..skip a minute ahead" lol 😄
Thank you so much. I love you BreadMom. One of my friends just stated dating a trans woman and this will so helpful for him. Thank you.
This was really awesome, I'm not super educated when it comes to transitioning and I've really been trying to learn more and more about the topic and this has really helped me understand more about people transitioning and the transgender community. Thank you for making this video. :)
I adore you....This is a VERY important video and I think of all those kids that are terrified to imagine they may be trans and are terrified and thank god for the internet today to help share actual medical information. You did a great job. I think the more you stick to medical terms the safer you are for a younger audience. I wonder if your sex drive is what most females' have always had? What a unique perspective!
Well done Stef! I know there's ALWAYS going to be those who mis- -hear -understand -represent, but you did an excellent job. Keep going, I'm sure you are an inspiration to many, and a connection to a very human experience for me!!
This was an amazing and honest informative video! As a young passing transguy I find sex tricky and hate speaking up but this video has encouraged me communication is ok and key!
You are such a brave person! You are a very talented speaker and I think it is great how you tell ppl about your life so openly and genuinely. This world needs more people like you! - fan from Finland
The shrek reference as well as the entire video were perfect!!!!!
Omg this applies to people in general, how crazy!
Of course people should be treated as individuals and respected always! Thank you for the insight, the world needs this!
I started watching your videos before you fully started your transition and you look so stinkin' fabulous. I'm so happy for you!
I respect your courage and openness. I happen to be a cis gender woman but have had the privilege of knowing a couple of trans women. I always asked about their mental and emotional journey because I wanted understand and connect with them as people and both blessed me with openness.